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Intro/Outro by David Groulx
Why does he Look like he belongs in the chainsmokers
His hair
Because The Chainsmokers are all FTMs! 😂
So I'm not the only one!
cause he's handsome
Also one tip that really helped me is doing some internal exploration of your gender identity. Imagine yourself in the future or situations you've never been in and really be in tune to the version of you that your mind automatically creates instinctually and how that version of you feels. you might find that it feels like it's leaning to a specific gender and that might be a clue to where you should start. Imagine yourself as an old person do you see yourself successfully growing old in your current gender or is it kind of a blank slate is it easier to picture yourself growing old as a different gender? even if you don't want kids imagine yourself as a parent do you want to be a mother or a father or some other parental unit. which one just happens right away when you think or feels more natural.
Used to think I was just an extreme tomboy, I never thought the version of myself as a guy in my head that I kept seeing and feeling was anything more than a weird day dream because I'm a masculine person. I thought it was just some sort of escape because my life wasn't that great at the time. but now I'm actually getting to be that strong confident badass man I always dreamed of and it's absolutely amazing!
"There's no need to rush."
One answer: Trump.
heyitssjace twenty one pilots everywhere
øde to jøshler looool
Oh gosh, I think you just predicted the future
First guy for a thumbs down..have a nice day..only people who stick needles In them selves are diabetic or drug addicts.. so fuck you all.
@@benjaminspencer5704 you should really educate yourself
Everyone is different, so my thoughts on this may be different to someone else;
I think if you have an online presence pretending to be a guy and asking people to call you 'he/him', whilst hating to wear dresses or acting feminine, loving short hair and think of yourself in a masculine way, then theres a strong possibility you're trans ftm.
I always say I'm a guy online X3
And yes, I'm ftm, but ore-transitioned
You just described me and yet I'm still questioning myself hardcore.
I have this thought that really screws with me. What if I only want to be a boy because of the abuse I've gone through?
If that's the case, it's not like I'm going to get surgery or go on T or anything right now so might as well do what makes me happy now and if that changes in the future, then that's okay. Got plenty of time to explore what I want.
Right?
Kai Alive you kinda described me but I like kind of revealing clothes at the same time?I like skirts but not dresses yet when I see guys with their short hair wearing their clothes I get all jealous
you literally just described me.for some reason i feel like im faking it. i have no idea why i would be because my family is transphobic. i dont know, im pretty sure im trans but i feel like i wont really ever know until i move out in 4 years
this is great. i am glad someone came out with a video like this. Your amazing!
I'm rushing to hormone therapy.
5 more years to go
Or is it 7...?
ferretterrier how old are you + are your parents supportive?
why
If you're a minor and your parents are supportive, they can sign for you to see a gender therapist and give them the okay that you can start hrt. If you're not yet a teen, you can go on hormone blockers, but they'd have to be approved by your parents as well.
My mother is supportive but I don't think she wants to put me on any hormones because she is afraid of the health affects, although I may be wrong but I call bullshit on that because she was willing to put me on growth hormones but not puberty blockers. As for my father, he doesn't know yet but here's some things he's said. I'm going to have no friends because I dress like a boy, I absolutely need to go back to gymnastics because I love it oh so very much, and he won't stop about me cutting my hair although I did it like 8 months ago. I'm luckily one of the youngest in my grade, when I graduate I'll turn 18 like the day after.
Even though you're trans, there are plenty of girls that dress like guys. There are guys that dress like girls. There are guys with long hair. There are girls with short hair. There are androgynous folks. It's whatever. It's hair. It'll grow back. Your hair is on your body. Your body, your choice.
I don't really know the effects of growth hormones or the harmful effects of puberty blockers, but for testosterone, it can mess with your liver... And other things, depending on your family's medical history.
Thank you for making this video! This is exactly what I have been needing, especially lately. I have felt this pressure since these thoughts started to come through more and be more persistent in my daily life. It feels like I need to go and go as fast as I could without stopping until I got to the end. This is the reminder I needed to slow down and take in the journey.
Thanks for this video!
You are a big inspiration to me since im at a really confusing time in my life and your videos had helped me a lot !
Taking my time on my ride hoo ho ho hoo
Just cutting my hair masculine made me happy but i keep seeing these boulders on my shoulder and i keep just crying because theyre there
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I know im too late but i really have the need to say, thank you, i really needed this video, today i had a bit of an argue with my mother about my gender identity, and i was really just confused, i dont feel male nor female, i feel both, and this video helped me to think more about myself and my feelings, so thank you, and have a very nice day.😊
I really really want to change my self too😥 it's just came out this way. I am much comfortable of being like this. Than acting a person I am not
"How you feel is how you are" is a key sentence.
I am not trans but not totally happy being female and yet dont seek to look or seem male.i have a low voice and feel better with males becausenof issues with females.
Just thinking not everyone has tobturn male and it is expensive and painful to undergo surgery .There are other ways to be hsppy. Sport.exploring your odentity spiritually.
Identity doesnt have to involve surgery IMHO
Has anyone tried the My Gender Workbook? If so please let me know how it was helpful
I’m 11 and my parents don’t support stuff like that and I’m in a band with all guys other than me I think but I don’t know if I’m a boy or girl
I am pretty sure I’m not trans but at the same time I am still struggling with my gender. I identify as female but some female things I don’t like and make me uncomfortable and I don’t like the term or the label Tom boy it just doesn’t fit. I hate dressing up, make up, long hair, pink, and girly stuff the thought of dressing up scares me. Can anyone give me tips?
agree with most but I don't think that it is a choice
Hahah he has the sacred diamond!!!
I came out to my close circle of friends as non binary a couple of years ago but in the past few months I’ve been pretty sure that I’m ftm
I’m confused as hell 😐the majority of the time I want to be a male and then there are times when I’m proud to be female and then there are times when I feel like both and then there are times when I feel like I’m neither😞I need advice
Kind of same with me, I wanted to be a male since I was young and I remember the first time I was deeply offended by a woman telling me that I shouldn't be trans and saying ill always be a girl and stuff but now I'm coming to terms. I want bottom surgery but I'm scared.
You are so handsome
Okay. just going to say it. I DON'T WANT TO DRESS FEMINE, BECAUSE I AM AFRAID THAT I WOULD LIKE IT.
(I'm born girl by the way)
What will happen if you will like it? Life is easier if you are a cis woman and you don't have to wear female clothes every day because you can switch between masculine and feminine clothes.
Nani VT you are absolutely right
"Queer events in your town"
Ha
Haha
Hahahahahaaaa
You thought, my town is so religious and conservative church is full half an hour before service, every day of the week. There's four churches, all full.
EJ Robert keep looking there might be something..... my area is like that too and I found an underground brotherhood.... and remember we are here too.... Sir!
There's 11 churches in my very small town
It's genuinely frightening
Better yet, I'm 13 i can't drive and I'm not asking my ma to drive me cuz that's a no
B R O there are churches every two blocks where i live in deep alabama which isn’t a problem by itself but the people in the churches are really homophobic and all of the churches besides one preach anti gay stuff
Our mayor banned pride because it was "gross"
I’m exploring first by cutting all my hair off
Same! though i am not telling anybody why or anything about it! 😁
Love Asterdrian lmao me too fam, rock on with the rad short hair
Me too!! That's like one of the first steps for me, I'm starting with chest binding
Darth Scil SAME
Love Asterdrian same
I'm so confused, I need help. I like my feminine body and long hair but I'd also like to have a deep voice, beard and masculine body. I wish there was a way to be fully bigender, so I could choose when I want to look like a man and when I want to look like a woman.
Unknown Vampire maybe mix really feminin and very masculine things together, like grow a beard (if you can) and wear a nice dress or a suit and bold make up? If you're amab you could maybe wear a bra and put something in it to fill it out, our if you're afam stuff a sock down your pants and see if you like the look of it! I hope you figure something out that makes you feel comfortable, good luck!
Unknown Vampire -I hope you find a strong love soon. It's amazing when you meet the right person who loves you for who you. Hang in there now!
Serene Jaamac
So you might be genderfluid
There is no way to keep a feminine body and still have male traits. You'll have one or the other. If you truly are trans, you'll be mostly dysphoric about your primary sex characteristics (chest, curves, genitalia). If so, then you most likely suffer from gender dysphoria, which means your trans. If your not dysphoric about those characteristics, then you're most likely not.
Thank you for putting into words what I've been feeling. Best of luck to you
it took me 6 months to even accept the fact that i 'might' be trans but after 2 years i know i am
Nice! I’ve been thinking for about 5-6 months and I think I am. I’m going for the name Everett :) Avengers fans assemble!
im in 10th grade and have been thinking seriously ab it since 5th 😭 im getting closer to thinking i am
It took me 3 years to accept I might be trans heh
Took me 4 years yikes
It took me a year to accept it lol
I realized I am trans ftm because since I was 7 I thought it's cooler and easier to be a boy.
At 10 I realized I don't want to be a girl.
Now at 12 I realize I am trans
Assassin's Creed Real life pranks hey man I’m here if you need me. Totally up for being a big bro to all my rad young trans dudes. (I’m 15 lmao don’t worry)
Assassin's Creed Real life pranks we are bout the same age so if you see this please message I would like to talk with youu:)
Me too bro i just called my older brother (gay) and told him tomorrow im gonna tell my friends and meet up with my brother things are going good even though I've only been openly trans for 6 minutes now
Assassin's Creed Real life pranks were the same age and oof my parents just outed me and told me i'm too young and its a phase... now i'm watching this stuff and doubting myself
Assassin's Creed Real life pranks same
This is so perfect for me right now! I have had a rough day, I had panic earlier about my trans identity. I worry that I'm making it all up and this is a life changing decision that i might regret. When you said "try out pronouns, it's a feeling" I really realised that my identity is true, I am ok. I want to be known as he/him. She/her feels very uncomfortable. Thank you for your words on time. The waiting list is 15 months here in the uk for your first gender identity clinic appointment, and I am ready to wait and feel completely sure.
Alec Brady I totally relate. Most days I think to myself "what if I'm making it up? What if it IS a phase?" But then I'm like "James. You're clearly a boy. You realised this years ago. Come on."
Honestly same. Like I think it's a normal thing tho, I go by colin he/him and I start Testosterone soon and I'm nervous cause I don't wanna regret it years from now but when I look in the future I see myself as a male
I feel trans but I don’t feel comfortable with being called he/him
@@inesmatine9722 Maybe you can try other pronouns out?
I can relate so much to this
I'm 33 and I'm going through the experiment phase right now. I bought a few feminine things off Amazon the other day just to try it out. Makeup a skirt and a cute wig.
Justagirl proud of you fam. Be you and stay rad!
I see by your pfp and name you've figured it out? Well done!
You go girl! Theres never too late to discover your gender identity
So proud of u
I see that you've figured your self out and I so proud of you remember that it's never to early or late to find yourself
I live in the South with an extremely homophobic/transphobic family, and honestly, for me I want to transition and come out as fast as possible.
If your family is homophobic/transphobic I wouldn't come out until you move out
Same. What the other commentator said though. Try to come out as late as you can, perhaps after you’ve moved out. If I’m correct at 18 you can already get trans stuff like HRT and surgery without anyone else’s signature. Good luck to you mate.
I know this is completely off topic, but I love your profile picture. You a bmc fan?
Same, I have to push my dysphoria episodes to like 3 am but it builds up to fast and I have to take like 4 showers in very dim light to be able to be calm. I have just now started to hate showering because of dysphoria I used to love them but I can’t seem to bring myself to tell my parents why I’m so depressed and why I’m not as feminine as they want me to be. It’s not fair that they are Christian and Ginny the Bible and it says something like you must love all or something but they are always transphobic and homophobic so I’m always scared about coming out and getting kicked out, but the depression is getting to hard
When I figured out I'm trans it felt right, I would look in the mirror and my reflection finally felt real, like it was me for once. Then I think about transitioning socially (which is terrifying and something only a few people can know) and I get scared shitless and it makes me was to kinda just stop and never transition.
When I get like that tho I either just think how badly I want and how great I feel when I think of myself with a low voice and a flat chest and a dick and I'm just like, really reassured like "well shit yeah i really am trans"
Thanks for this video!!!!! It's really reassuring
Dane You have to know you want to transition for YOU and no one else. You can't worry what family and friends will think or how they will react. You will need to come to terms with the inevitable truth that you may lose friends, you may be cast aside or disregarded by some family... These people do not understand or weren't brought up to accept people no matter what physical form you take. Once you can overcome that, the next step is to overcome the teasing and comments. Strangers may say things. Jerks may joke on you or even give you a hard time. These folks are immature or, again, uninformed. Do not be mad at these people... It isn't their fault that they are close minded. You do YOU and all the bad will melt away.
Thank you for this video! I am a german Trans male.
Since 3 years I know I'm Transgender.
My parents did not understand first.
I went a year ago to a therapy
I thought It doesn't help.
But now I know it helps very much and now, now I'm allowed to tell my class that I'm Trans and my sister tries to call me by my boy name.
On Thursday I'm gonna tell my new teacher (I'm in a new/next school)
I'm sooo nervous about that because I know my class and my teacher since that week...not so long...
Servus! Komme auch aus Deutschland und hatte n ähnliches Problem. Weiss es seit ca. 2 Jahren und bin seit 1,5 bei einem Psych... werd hoffentlich noch dieses Jahr mit T anfangen. Wird nur etwas schwierig auf der Arbeir und (da ich mein Abi nachhole) auch noch in der Schule. Ich hab absolut keine Ahnung wie ich das ganze machen soll. Hahaha.
lobo delsol heyo from Germany too! Do have a teacher you can trust? Maybe they could do it for you if you yourself don't want to tell anybody? I experienced that the teachers really don't seem to care a lot you just have to tell them. 👌🏼my teachers are really chill and hopefully yours will be too! 😊
Kann man von den großen Binder marken/ Firmen auch nach Deutschland bestellen?? Hat da jemand Erfahrung?
Dumbledores Army klar, habe von gc2b auch nach deutschland bestellt :) Kosten sind abhängig wie schnell du ihn haben willst aber die versandkosten sind natürlich höher
Hi! I hope everything is well! You are so very brave! 💓💓💓💘💘💘💘
Does testosterone change the jawline?
My friend is trans mtf and now TH-cam keeps suggesting these videos :). I feel like Google might be listening to my phone calls
It doesn't change the bone structure but it redistributes the fat so it changes your facial shape a bit
Edit: damn my phone thought "vibe structure" was so much more fitting than "bone structure". It's stupid.
I’m an 11 year old girl and I just tried putting my hair in a ponytail and hiding it in a hoodie and I looked in a mirror and loved it
hell yeah
That doesn't mean anything 😂 you might be a tomboy you never know 😹😹
thats great to hear look all of you are beautiful in your own way i support the you’re gender and always smile 😀
that doesn’t necessarily mean you’re trans, a lot of cis women love having short hair. but if you feel happier and more like urself when people refer to you as a boy then you probably are.
You might just love short hair, only that doesn't mean you're trans. It takes time, but you will figure it out :P 💖
Thanks for the advice. I'm struggling with a lot in my head at moment.
Skyler Lynn Me too 😞
struggling as well.. Hope thing are better for you now (a year later)
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I'm non-binary but desperately want top surgery and I don't know how to feel about that honestly.
That's totally okay. I'm ftm trans and still debate myself on wether or not i should medically transition, I want to but I don't? Like i know the only reason why I feel dysphoric is because the beliefs embedded into society about who and what a man is supposed to be like. I dunno, everyone is different. If you believe you'll feel more comfortable in YOUR skin than that's all that matters.
I'm assuming youve worn a binder and have felt like it fit (if not, try binders out!!) so maybe just get a reduction first if thats an option
Plenty of non bianary people get top surgery! If it's what you want, then do it!
Yeah no worries fam. Boobs are overrated. I hate boobs too. I’ll get rid of them if loosing some weight doesn’t help. xx
SAMEEEEEEE
you kissing a cat is the purest thing I've seen today
Did you mean the _purrest_ thing?
Thanks ! I'm actually mtf and started transitioning at the age of 17! Love your videos keep it up !
Ohmygod ur profile pic is so pretty! Is that u?
Alisa R proud of you fam! Keep being you! ❤️Percy
I'm currently 24, suffer from major depression, anxiety, and agoraphobia so my issue is putting myself OUT THERE to get what I need. I've known for several years that I am trans, but leaving the house or making those important phone calls are a huge challenge. I'm always feeling like I'm wasting my life the way I am. getting on T seems like the first step to STARTING my life. anyway, I don't mean to toss out my life story here or rant lmao but I just wanna say, I've been following u since I started questioning my gender and you've certainly helped me over the years come to terms with certain things. I appreciate u so much, aydian. thank you!
c. upton omg ur cat looks like my cat aspend but he cross eyed
I identified as genderfluid for a while and slowly realized "Hey, ummm I'm more comfortable and confident as a man" and really as I thought about it had noticed I wasn't exactly ummm comfortable with my girlish body and whatnot ( however I know how it sounds written down I am just reeeeeaaalllly bad at explaining things) anyways, I identify as trans now but have small problems with that as I'm not sure if it's okay for me to like being pretty on occasion or wear makeup even though I see plenty of dudes like that. I also have slight issues with the fact that I look like a 13 year old boy half the time when I'm 19.... due to my small figure and facial features. I've also noticed that ever since I've changed my labels and name around my friends I am a lot more confident and happy? And even my dysphoria isn't AS bad as it was. I'm trying not to rush things as I realize I'm young and have plenty of time. I'm also still in the closet with most people... so I try not to let my old name and pronouns bother me. And it usually works that I can ignore it
Same but I'm 13 and I came out like a month or so ago, everyone is pretty accepting except for my grandmother. I use to identify as gender fluid but I realized that in fact, I'm a boy and feel more comfortable as a boy. I recently got my hair cut and I love it so much that it nearly brought me to tears, I was so happy, but sometimes I accidentally cross my legs and stuff since I'm not use to boy posture and sometimes I think about jokingly wearing dresses but I get nervous about it since I think it'll make people say "YOU AREN'T A GUY!! *FAKER* " and I just get so scared. Also, I hate how even tho I cut my hair and did all these things that I still look like a girl, I keep feeling bad about it cuz I see all these trans guys who look like actual guys even with a simple haircut while I don't.
Government Spy you are who you are and I’m really sorry that you don’t feel comfortable wearing dresses because of those comments. I’m struggling a lot too with everything honestly but I haven’t come out yet that’s really brave of you. But it’s going to be okay. I think a lot of trans people do the gender fluid or nonbinary thing first and then realize they might actually just be the other gender. That’s what I did and it really helped. I switched from she/her pronouns to she/her/they/them to any pronouns to they/them/he/him to just he/him and it’s great. It’s a long process but I know we’ll all get through this
i'm exactly the same. but i'm 15
@@courtjester6375 testosterone helps with you not looking like a girl, though it's a HUGE step. maybe try wearing like darker makeup in some places on your face because boy facial structure is a lot different. study pictures of guys. promise you'll get there
You can still be a trans man and feel pretty, wear makeup, and dresses. Makeup and clothing shouldn’t have an assigned gender, it’s just a piece of clothing. Do what makes you happy :>
I feel the rush for trans women is super valid, however. The rush to get puberty blockers or E before your voice breaks and bone structure changes can be important as testosterone is super powerful! I’m eternally fascinated to learn of the trans masc community to get a better idea of our community ❤️🌹
There's women with deep voices, it's just that pueburty is important in brain development and maturing bodies.
That's the same for ftm's I think if you have suspicious you're trans puberty blockers are really good, there are also irreversible changes in afabs, wide hips etc
Mine seemed like such a sudden rushed thing because I spent years contemplating by myself. I didn't involve anyone because I thought I couldn't tell anyone until I was sure. I also lived in a space that was questionable on how friendly people could be. I knew my parents didn't agree with trans rights so I was planning to live in secret. But eventually I broke down in my shower one day as I realised I'd rather die than keep living as the gender I was put as for birth. I started therapy and after 7 months of therapy I came out to my parents and 2 months after that was starting hormone therapy. 4 months after starting hormone therapy, I legally changed my name. It seems fast especially since it's only been 1 year and 3 months since I started therapy, but I've never been happier. I'm not disagreeing with your take on "time is needed" as I agree. Just more to give a story that you can explore still even if you don't have friends or family that you feel comfortable exploring with.
Being "trans" is a lie from masons, search about them, be not deceived by them.
none are "trans", all are victims of masonry depopulation agenda.
My primary fear is that, at 31, my window of opportunity has passed. It just doesn't seem feasible anymore, socially or biologically.
I'm almost 33 and I'm only a year and four months on T, it's completely possible if it's what you really want ✌️💙
I'm 42 and started T last month. I only came out publicly last Dec! So it's NEVER too late 😁
It's never too late to do something that you feel will improve your quality of life. I had to work through that same fear and ended up starting T the day after turning 33. I've spoken to folks who didn't start until their 50s! Ultimately you'll make the decision that is best for you when it is best for you, but just know it is never too late! Good luck on your journey, my friend!
I'm 47 at the end of the month and starting T!
I'm 32 I started t at 30 it's never to late to be yourself
I've been currently exploring my gender and its been so confusing and scary. For awhile I haven't been feeling very confident in general. I remember looking at clothes for females and not feeling very good about them. The thought of wearing them made me uncomfortable in almost a dysphoric sense. My girlfriend picked up on this fear of femininity. I always brushed it off and it was already so hard to come out as gay to my Christian family, i cant imagine coming out as trans. But I've been noticing little behaviors I have such as my dysphoria about my big breasts and how much better i feel with a sports bra that at least hides them a bit. My hips are always concerning me. The idea of femininity makes me uncomfortable and my feminine features cause me lots of distress. I embrace when my voice is a bit deeper as well. Lately I've been browsing the men's section clothes on websites and it feels right to me. Im going shopping next week to see how I feel but I hope to understand more and more each day because its been troubling me for a very long time and the more I look back, the more I realize how much I wanted to live as a man even as a young teenager.
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I cycled through some different gender expressions and labels in my teens. I used to describe myself as genderqueer (later nonbinary) genderfluid. It wasn't until moving out of my house for university and more fully realizing my own perception of self beyond that of my home area and family. That's when I came more firmly into myself as a nonbinary trans man - where I had the space to do so in the fall term at my uni's lbgtq center and then just before the winter term in residence. I put off hrt until my second year (because of family acceptance issues and some preparing myself for change - which was needed but still intimidating). It's a unique process coming to a good understanding and acceptance of one's gender. The suggestions you give are definitley good for anyone questioning gender! We all take different paths at different paces!
I'm at that stage where im nearing 25, and questioning if it's worth it to lose all my loved ones over this. At first it was just my parents (and job) but now its also the man i love.
I've already been on hrt for 6 months into my transition + I stand firm in my identity, but I still watched to hear what you had to say.
heyitssjace |-/
I guess I'll ask here since I don't feel comfortable asking anywhere else:
I don't feel uncomfortable in my body per-se, but I envy pretty much everything about a guy. I'm not really girly (I don't like make-up and I don't MIND girly clothes, but I guess I'll wear them), but some of the music and just things I do are (like running outside and having plushes). It's not like I wake up each day and hate myself because I'm a girl. My brain keeps going back and forth like a tug of war between "I'm fine being a girl," and "I wish I was a guy. I envy guys and want to be one." It hurts me to be this confused. Everything is so complicated and I just want to figure out what will make me happier. What should I do?
Sadly you are right when you say everything is complicated, and I can't tell you exactly what your gender is, that is your job, but it sounds like you are experiencing "gender encongruence" which is when you feel disconnected from the gender you were assigned to at birth, even if you don't fully resent existing as said gender, and that typically is a sign of being transgender, my advice (this will sound silly but it's always worth trying out) for if your still struggling, but you don't want to come out to you friends/family, is getting a bunch of free dating sims where you can pick pronouns and names, and just try different pronouns, and try to think how being called those different names and pronouns feel to you.
My advice is to take one step at a time.
My dad recently came out as trans and I’ve always wanted to be a guy, but my family absolutely hated the idea of my dad doing that and they’re very religious. I’m terrified to explore that part of me. One year, for Halloween, I dressed up like a man and changed my name temporarily and I liked it. I felt free, I just don’t know how to gain the courage to explore that side of me.
I love your cat so cute I feel like I'm trans but I can't really afford to transition
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You are a great role model for the community - thanks for being so public and supportive. I have a question; I'm just about to start my transition and wondering for down the road, if you run into old acquaintances, who didn't know you were trans and if they realize you are the girl they knew many years ago, how have you handled that? Anyone have any advice.
I have this lingering feeling that my brother's wedding or Dad's funeral is going to be incredibly awkward and I'd just rather that those days remain about them.
Can I do it online because on the games I play their like chatrooms and you can make you avatar male or female, plus I don't feel comfortable experimenting around my parents or siblings and I share a room with my little sister. So would that help me?
Painted Roses Of course it would. If you are cis male for example, make a female avatar and try to act and speak feminine in your game. Think about how it feels for you and think about how it feels when other players treat you as female. Does it feel good/right? Then go from there. :)
Vendicia okay thank you.
What a handsome man
You're such an inspiration
I've been experimenting since i entered highschool and figured it out this year as a junior. Im trans ftm and the one thing thats remotely girly i feel comfy wearing is a hair bow. YOU CAN FEEL LIKE WHICHEVER AND LIKE TO WEAR WHATEVER THE FUCK YOU LIKE TO WEAR! DONT LET THE HATERS BRING YOU DOWN! SHOW THEM WHO YOU ARE!!! AND HAVE A NICE DAY YOU BEAUTIFUL HUMAN YOU!
Hi, my middle name is Lucky! I heard you say your cat's name. I thought it was cool.
I didn’t think i was trans or anything at all until 14 (i still am) when all these feelings started coming up on me and i was like... “i really do not want to be a girl, it doesnt not feel right to me at all and it makes me unhappy :[”
I really like using he/they pronouns and I'm my parents will probably NEVER accept my real self, but I'm worried something will happen if I take testosterone and if I get the surgeries and something happens that could change my life for a worse state but at the same time I'm insanely wanting to considered as passing as a sort of guy/androgynous being , but then ik that trans people like myself can be killed , Im only a teenager I do have lots of time of course but as soon as I can I'm gonna move out and this will be soon I'm it will ( but on the other note this felt very helpful god knows I need this kind of positivity around )
Please I am male, 11 yo (I know I am young). I am scared everyone will hate me for being trans, I see myself as female. Will I get hated, bullied or will my family hate me.. I am desperate and need help! ⚥
If I I'm also 11 So I guess we just hang in here
Aww u cat so cute
These are great tips! I pretty much did everything you're mentioning and 9 months later I know I'm ready to start transitioning. The not rushing is so hard, but so important.
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My binder is supposed to arrive tomorrow!
The title sounds as if it's one of Captain America's PSA's. I live for it.
I am 13 and I am trying to tell my friends and family that I am transgender and gay but I can't I am just worried how were you able too tell your family that you are transgender
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I like your smile it's so kind (if that makes sense)
I’m very confused. I think I am trans, but I keep seeing all of these detransition videos saying that teens can’t know their identity and that I will regret transitioning. I really want to transition but I have weird doubts.
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Just want to say thank you!!!
"There is no need to rush" this remain me to stay claim and don't be too frustrate if I can't start hormone right now.
It's weird when people talk about gender pronouns and how important they are in these things..I feel like i'm kinda missing something because in finnish we don't really have she or he..it's just they..I suppose.
I wish the English language were the same
I've been having trouble with my gender a lot lately.
I like they/them and he/him pronouns but I hate she/her.
The odd thing is that I still like a feminine clothing sometimes. I like to wear skirts or dress shirts some times and it's really bothering me. Currently I do identify as trans and demifluid, I'm not sure if it's right though.
I do the same, i only wear female clothes cus that all i have in my closet
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I found out recently that i am intersex i got the female sugery as a baby ive always felt like i was brought up wrong and that i wasnt a girl i asked my mom and she was like 'oh the doctors said this might happen' i was confused because i thought i was just a really butch lesbian i dont feel like a girl i dont feel like a boy i feel in between and it makes sence since i was born in that inbetween ive been going by a inbetween name and stuff but honestly im so uncomfortable with how i look
I don't know you/your situation 100%, but from what you said, you sound non-binary, I'd recommend going to a gender therapist if you feel uncomfortable in your body (as they would give 1000% better advice for how to medically precede), and I know of non-binary people using they/them pronouns instead of he/him she/her, so I suppose you could try out different pronouns, just to see if they makes you more comfortable, there's no harm in experimentation!
@@gamzee3610 thank you calvin i was actually looking into one today it was kinda odd i was telling my friends about it today and ome of my trans friends said he always felt like i was and the rest of them wernt surprized at all so i guess i will thank you very much ill look into going to a gender thrapist
I’m still absolutely fucking confused but I rly appreciate u trying dude
I think your hair looks good now, but I also think it would look good if it was all the length of your sides.
I was in self denial for so long. I know I’m trans and I’m out to people and my dad ended up leaving me because of it but it’s better off that way
What if I’ve tried all this stuff,tried all the different pronouns, but nothing feels right? What does that mean?
What if you’re not that upset about your birth pronouns but want to be known as he/him?
What if I'm from Mexico?
The most homophobic and anti LGBT community country...
I already came out, it didn't go well at all, and I hate my life right now. I got no one to help me or support me, and I'm really struggling.
Oh no that's horrible! I really hope you're doing better now, that's so rotten you have to deal with that.
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Ohhhhhh shit. I think my egg just cracked.
*Big time rush*
I'm afab. I have bottom dysphoria most of the time, top dysphoria some of the time, but never face dysphoria and rarely hair dysphoira (if that makes sense). Socially, I wish I were a boy, and hate being referred to or classified as a girl, but at the same time I don't mind she/her pronouns (though maybe that's just because I'm used to them). I have no idea how to identify, and I'm kind of afraid to be trans. No shame to anyone who is, but I feel like I don't want to go through the struggle and the transition and the hormones, surgeries, discrimination, binding, packing, etc. If I could go back in time and choose my gender at birth, I'd rather be male, and yet, because I've live my whole life as a female, I've learned to be somewhat comfortable with my sex, and I've even taken to liking certain aspects of my female identity.
Does anyone have any clarification or advice?
Hmmm, it sounds to me, that you want to identify as male, but you don't want to medically transition, and that is perfectly valid! Being trans is not just about changing your body to fit your true gender, it's about existing in a way that makes you happiest, and the only requirement to being a real "guy" is existing as male. Of course it is possible that you could be non-binary, which is a totally fine thing to be, but ultimately you are what makes you happiest.
“There’s no rush” I appreciate you saying this, I’ve gone back and forth on this topic for the past ten years. Every time I’ve comfortably talked myself into being cis, something happens and I fall down the rabbit hole again. I may get there this year. I may get there next year. I may never get there. We’ll see.
Thank you so much I found this so helpful I have been so confused lately about me gender identity
I've been struggling for the last 17 years about my identity. And I gotta say, this video really made me feel so much better. I am a 22yr old ftm, and only just came out a couple days ago. I'm still nervous about a few things, but you definitely put my concerns at ease. Thanks so much man!
Also, I would like to introduce myself. Mathew L. Drake. But you can call me Matt. It's a pleasure to meet you.
Not even 20 secs I think you're such a cute guy😍
Thanks so much. I will be going to a pay Dr on Fri about my feelings of transgender issues.
Ok I loved this tip because it helped me to reaffirm my feelings that I'm trans. I've been questioning and exploring for two years and male pronouns definitely just feel so much better. So it just makes me so happy that I can feel like I have confirmation about my feelings. So thank you
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Great video bro. This is good for all the people that recently found out that maybe they fit this category.
Welcome to Islam bro , do you know that God created us for worship .Your mission is bigger ,life is a test !
That's kinda what I'm doing now. I chose a name and I'm having my gf and her family call me by that for now, and when I'm able I go out dressed masculinely, (I live in a veeeery conservative household and town), and it feels...right. It's taking some time to get used to calling myself by masculine pronouns but to hear other people use them is great.
can someone be trans male, but doesnt want transition? like just having short hair and male cloth is ok?
MORGYUK Yes that's absolutely okay ! You don't have to have any surgeries or go on HRT if that doesn't seem like something that would help you/right for you but if that's what will help you & seems right to you then go for it.Some Trans people are fine with just social transitioning (changing what they wear clothing & hair wise,people using the correct pro nouns etc),some people go on HRT & get surgeries etc.Every Trans persons experience is different and there isn't one set way to be Trans.Hope this helped !
you're probably just gender non conforming . if you have no dysphoria or no desire to change your body and are 100% comfortable with your female body and pronouns, but you want shorter hair and male clothing, seems like you just are gnc. transgender is a lot more complex than simply wanting shorter hair and male clothing.
tinybbh dude, social dysphoria is a thing, and i mostly have only that, cause how people percieve you in society and treat you differently cause of your gender can be very stressful if you're not comfortable w your gender
You do require at least some gender dysphoria to be transgender just being a masculine person with masculine interests or style won't necessarily mean you are a guy. But what most people forget is gender dysphoria can be any discomfort with your current gender not just physically related to your body. If you want to use different pronouns and be treated like a different gender because it makes you uncomfortable to keep using your current gender then that is all it takes to be transgender. There is no need to hate your physical body or feel any need to change it.
there are no rules for how to express yourself just do whatever makes you happy and if it turns out you're not transgender that's okay too you can still not conform to gender norms without having to switch to a different gender completely. Gender expression is a spectrum you can have feminine men and masculine women and everything in between or outside this. There's many different combinations so again just do whatever works for you and don't overthink.
theduke ofweasels yup, what i said but in more words
Hey you I'm talking to you reading this comment... WHY ARE YOU IN SUCH A BIG TIME RUSH OH OH OHHH OH (but seriously if your exploring your gender wait a hot minute to explore Im here for you ❤️😸😹❤️
All FTM TH-camrs have a really cute pet, usually a cat. Though Sam Collins has a cute pet snake, for some reason.
I was scared about Making the whole transgender thing up because before puberty i was relatively alright with being a girl physically. Puberty made me hate my everything. My curves, my chest, my lower body, my legs,… and when i was 5 i used to think about thé fact i might Not be a girl before i even knew what transgender meant. I was also really jealous of boys and their d!cks.
Maybe you can help. I just need help with this question. Im not GOD, so I can't judge. I won't. But when a person transition does that mean GOD made a mistake. As far as being born a girl or boy. Does GOD make mistakes.
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Okay, so if anyone would like to read what I have to say and maybe give me some advice that would be amazing, but if you don't then feel free to scroll past.
So right now I'm female, I guess. I have a female body, I'm 5'1" and 167lb (I know I'm overweight, I'm working on it). Ever since I was little though, I always wanted to be a boy, I'd try to pee standing up, never wear shirts, and love spending time with boys. I had a very rough childhood, mostly neglect and I had to overcome depression and I still struggle with anxiety. I started living with my dad, who isn't too friendly with the LGBTQ+ community. I pushed all my thoughts about being a boy away and kept them locked up for years. I hated my reflection and thought I was ugly.
But at the age of 16 the thoughts returned, stronger this time. Maybe because I was in an abusive relationship at the time or maybe I was super stressed, but all I could think about was being a boy. I'm 18 now and soon I'll be moving out, but the thoughts won't leave. I get dysphoria off and on, sometimes I have it strongly, other times not so much. Just two days ago I was sitting in class, and I looked down seeing how far out my chest goes out and I felt like crying right there. My dysphoria is back and I really want to be a man, but I'm scared.
I'm scared of how my family, friends, strangers and society will feel about it, if I'm actually not trans and its all in my head, if I'll offend trans people, or if I do transition and regret it later in life. Or how hard it will be to transition. I don't know, but thinking about all of it makes me want to die. I wish I could've been born a male, it would've been so much easier. My school counselor said to wait a few years before doing anything serious, and I think I'll listen, but I've already bought a binder, and it makes me feel so much better, but then I realize I'm not what I want to be, a boy.
Thanks for reading, if you have advice or a personal story I'd love to hear it. If you're gonna say something transphobic, I cant stop you, but please don't. I can guarantee I've already insulted myself enough.
I feel like I haven't done a lot of exploring but at the same time, I feel in the pit of my stomach that me being a girl is wrong. I absolutely hate my girl body, hate my curves, boobs, everything with a passion hotter than a thousand burning suns. I hate being referred to as she, and hate being called by my birth name. I kinda just want to come out and get it over with. I've looked this up so many times but I still have a vague feeling in the back of my mind that there could be a possibility that I'm just making all of this up, or I'm doing it for attention, or that it could just be a phase. Like, somehow, maybe I just jumped to conclusions. It's been like this for over a year now, me contradicting myself, and/or retracting all that I said. As much as I want to be in a male body, I also feel confused because it seems like almost every trans person I've seen/met says that they always wanted to be the opposite gender, even during childhood, but for me, I was literally the girliest child. I liked playing with barbies, doing ballet, and liked skirts and dresses; hell, I was excited to go into female puberty as much as any other girl wanted to. But for some odd reason, my dysphoria popped up so suddenly when I went into puberty, it was like it hit me with focken train. Suddenly, I stopped wanting to play with barbies, I didn't like ballet anymore, and became more boyish. I was like an entirely different person!! I don't have a single clue as to why this is happening like this. Could somebody please explain, and dumb it down for me? cuz I'm stupid af.
I don't know if I'm trans or not. I think I might just be uncomfortable with myself. I've been suffering severe depression lately, so I'm just going to wait a bit.
I fully identify with male, but I also like makeup and “feminine” clothing. I desperately want to go on Testosterone and maybe later on get top surgery. But the thing is I get so much shit about not feeling dysphoric.. down there. I’m only dysphoric about my hips/curves, and my chest, so a lot of people have told me I’m not really trans because of that. But I hate female pronouns and being called my birth name. I’ve also experimented with my gender identity so many times that now when I come out as a trans man, I think people are going to think I’m lying or doing it for attention :( any advice?
I rushed... then I stopped because It wasn't the right time and I was doubting myself because I love feminine things and my family pressured me to stop if I was questioning, but I know I'm a male. I have gender dysphoria. I hate myself for it now because if I come out again my family will be mad/won't believe me.
I'm honestly just going to transition without telling anyone in my family. It was none of their business before, and now that I'm an adult it's even more none of their business.
I really want to come out but I know that everyone will hate me for it and I'd probably get kicked out or something. My hair is short but so is my mothers so my family aren't suspicious, my name is neutral and my preferred pronouns are he and him, but I cant tell anyone that. People just call me a fat lesbian even though I haven't liked anyone yet so I dont even know my sexuality.