" When you have reflection, and you have relationships that are caring and connecting, you actually stimulate the growth of the integrative fibres in the brain. And these are the fibres that allow you to have resilience. ' That is Awesome - :)x
I think saying that if you want to be happier think about someone else can be a dangerous thing to say for some people.For some people they have been thinking about everyone else but themselves quite a lot.For some people thinking about themselves is what they really need to be doing and not being made to feel guilty or selfish for doing so.
I endorse that, coz that is where I am refocussing on and struggling with it. Old injunctions of how as a wife and mother, others needs are more important than mine. if I am not there for myself who else will be. But that in no way takes away the usefulness and awesomeness of the content of this wonderful and informative video. Thanks
3 things A- i like to know how resilience curves with age starting from infancy . B- in 3rd world country , a child is brought up by village of people ,so lots of interaction but we have Autism too . Why i wonder. C- finally Mom who can , stay home and raise your children plz.
Thank you for saying the Fight , Flight , Freeze as so many people don't understand the freeze response that I suffer , which can be crippling . This is such a great talk , Thank you and bless you.
+hope in freedom You should look up the neuroscientist "Rick Hanson" wich talks alot about this and links it up to meditation, evolution and how everyday life effects the brain and its responses, and more importantly, how to change this.
So many people don't understand the Fight or Flight response is used for mass mind control, either. For instnce...人の右の扁桃体を、電極を用いて人工的に刺激してみると、その人はだんだんに恐怖や怒りを感じはじめ、やがてその気持ちは隠しておけなくなるほど大きく膨らむ。感情のダムが決壊すると、ふつうは外の刺激に攻撃の矛先を向ける。・・・電極をはずしたあとにも感情は残り、多くの場合は驚くほど長く続く。(p.116) Swain, F., & Nishida, M. (2015). Zonbi no kagaku: Yomigaeri to maindo kontorōru no tankyū.(How to Make a Zombie: The Real Life (and Death) Science of Reanimation and Mind Control) Tōkyō: Intāshifuto.
Hmmmmn suddenly Japanese but okay. I'll translate. Through artificial stimulation via an electrode inserted into the right hemisphere of the human brain, the subject will begin to feel emotions such as fear and anger. Eventually, the emotions felt will reach a point where it will be no longer possible to suppress (read: hide) them. (untranslated sentence). Even after the electrode is removed the emotions will remain and continue for an astoundingly long time. 翻訳してみましたけど、”感情のダムが決壊すると、ふつうは外の刺激に攻撃の矛先を向ける”という部分だけはちょっとイマイチよくわかりません。どういう意味ですか？教えてください。
hope in freedom Also check out the work of Diane Poole Heller on Attachment Theory and Peter Levine on Somatic Experiencing. There are ways to get out of freeze. I am working on this, too. You are not alone!
Loving all of this. With a reflection on the comment about the mom carrying her 1 1/2 year old while texting for 2 1/2 blocks. You can’t know why she was doing what she was doing. Perhaps she’s exhausted from lack of sleep, has no support at home, managed to get her fussy toddler out the door and soothed and what you saw was her only moment to be texting her therapist or a suicide helpline because she’s at her limit and reaching out for support? Maybe she was just tuned out and missed that moment, but it’s not knowable unless you asked her. We all have to watch the stories we tell ourselves about others, and then judge those people based on our own stories.
It wasn't that deep. Just a surface value perception as an example, because of the interruption in the class, in relation to the topic it had interrupted, which was relationships. You're projecting. It is more often best to assume the best case scenario, rather that the worst. Shalom
Brilliant work made understandable. I use this w/ Kinders on up. Hand Model of the Brain. Emotional articulation & understanding more important than ever. Neurons that fire together, wire together. Science🤟 Dr. Dan Siegel, a wise perspective for a Sustainable society.
I heard that the heart has neural cells...? We need to get back to being human (humane) by weening ourselves from the hate and fear constantly promoted in the propaganda of the international media and entertainment industry. (Including professional sports) Spreading this can help by giving back control over our own lives and our humanity. What a wonderful gift to our children?
+G. Zinberg U just got the basis of meditation..thats what we are taught as kids here in India to practice meditation daily for atleast 10 minutes.. to develop the third eye(The prefrontal cortex).. Which makes u decisive intuitive and emotionally inelligent..
@@walkingweapon just think, tell your thoughts where to go, then let go of that thought. Noone cat truly tell how. We can't read your mind. But figuring that out yourself, is part of the organizational process of meditation. 😊
1) This guy's "toastmaster skills" are off-the-charts good. SUPERB, CALM, and "MINDFUL" SPEAKER. Kudos to Siegel! -- now for something you might not quite expect -- 2) Within the physical space-time matrix illusion (where the neural processes of the physical brain have central focus in study) - this guy is doing his very best.. presenting a very left-brained, analytical paradigm with scientific cachet (so parents in the matrix will believe him) to encourage people to engage in more appropriate and empowering social (vs. technological) behaviors. This is a compliment. Basically, he's MAXING THINGS OUT WITHIN THE MATRIX.. in the sense he has a good message, tremendous presentation, and people ASLEEP in the matrix will be inclined to buy in and grow. 3) However, there's a new breed of kids (indigos, crystals, etc) being born now ,along with activated/awakened Indigo adults, who think in a NEW, powerful, heart-based, right-brained, timeless, and intuitive fashion. AND THESE PEOPLE ARE GOING TO THE CHANGE THE WORLD! Psychic abilities, oddly deep wisdom and maturity, past-life memory, and/or astral_projection tendencies are some of their most common traits and (varying) abilities. Here's how these teens think! (ignore they are celebrities) They are not crazy.. they are Indigo children. ;) gawker.com/every-single-thing-about-this-jaden-and-willow-smith-in-1659778012
This is fabulous, from my perspective and I am going to include it at Lumigrate (light/integrate amalgam word), my health education website from a functional medicine/ integrative medicine perspective, including how to reverse complex chronic illnesses. And how fabulous the unplanned / serendipitous cellular phone interruption happened to bring in education about techno's impact on us and our relationships. Particularly considering the topic at hand. Pun intended! (Love the "handy brain model"
Awesome subject matter and think his books are great, but imo, not the best presentation. I suggest finding a different one to learn/review subject; the 'tools' (talking to kid) and stories he uses here are distracting rather than illuminating.
It's not this kind of reflection he is talking about. He means thought reflection, the ability to be "over" your thoughts and live in the present moment.
Neurosience has tremendously contributed to developing mass mindcontrol technology with E.L.F. Are you controling the technology or the other way around? Is your brain OK, Dude?Takahashi, S. (1995). Zukai sennō gekitai manyuaru. [超低周波を利用したマインドコントロールの仕組み]まずAという人物が恐怖を感じるときに出す脳波を記録する。これを超低周波ELF帯に乗せ、Bという人物に投射する。するとBは、そのときどんな状況であるかに関わらず、突然、恐怖を感じてしまう・・・(p.154)
Translation: The mechanics of mind-control via utilisation of ultra-low frequency waves: Begin by taking person A and record the brainwaves that are emitted while that person is in a state of fear. Take these brainwaves and load them into ELF and fire them at person B. At that point, regardless of the situation or circumstance, person B will suddenly begin to feel afraid...(p.154) するとBは、そのときどんな状況であるかに関わらず、突然、恐怖を感じてしまう・・・(p.154) これはなぜ、”しまう”を使ったんですか？
Hmm regarding the relationships with others - it's only a predictor I think though, and doesn't really have a causal link. It's more the other way around, with things like wisdom and mindfulness leading to better relationships with other people. I mean, look at the hermits in the mountains in China. They practice zen and taoism all day. They tend to be quite content and quite wise too, but still they live a mostly secluded life with a few limited relationships to a few other teachers and maybe a student every so often.
So...lets hope that the positive relationship a introverted person has with themselves will in fact help let them tick all the boxes of longevity health etc. After all, many of the people espousing such philosophy's as Fred Rogers, by dint of his personality type, must try to instill an extroverts set of values on every child, because it makes sense to the extrovert. The tangled web of need, support, assurance, acceptance, belonging, accommodating, among many other NEEDS that extrovert psyche requires, drives so much of social and/or socialisation discourse. When do we know an extrovert 'A' type personality is doing self reflection? When they are talking to other people.
I love this content. I read a book in the same vein that really made me think differently. "A Life Unplugged: Reclaiming Reality in a Digital Age" by Theodore Blaze
love this talk..but just because youre on your phone for five minutes doesnt mean youre not connected to your baby dammit. People are still humans! We cant be "connected fully" to our kids every second of every day.
Sam G I actually had this issue. The only negative part of his presentation, for me. 24/7 mothers have other things that need to be done besides talking and connecting with their babies. And judging someone based on one moment of their lives without knowing the context is very flawed. She very possibly was in a situation where she was communicating to someone about a need for the baby but wanted to give the baby fresh air. The fact that she was also carrying him/her shows that she either wanted to be close to her baby or needs something for him. Maybe she needed a ride, a stroller etc. I also do understand that he may just be using this as an example to proof his point and is assuming the worst about the mother, but that's very alienating. Bad choice of an example for sure.
This knowledge of brain is used in mass mind control -- especially on people who have antisocial personality disorder, in order to keep them stalking and harassing innocent victims of COINTELPRO. 反社会性パーソナリティ障害者は欲望の充足に向かう衝動への抑制は弱く、その閾値は低い。・・・彼らの求めるものは、すべてが所有欲や性欲など、非常に原始的な欲望でしかないことがほとんどである。・・・彼らが駆り立てられるように欲望を追求するのは、獲得したものによって、不快満足感を感じることができないからである。・・・自分が獲得したものの価値をどんどん切りさげてしまうので、略奪したものにも、たちまち魅力を感じなくなってしまうのである。 このため、彼らの内面は空っぽで、きわめて虚ろなものになる。・・内的な深みのある満足感を感じることができないからこそ、[性的、物質的な満足を外部に求めるが]それもきわめて刹那的なものにとどまるため、飽くことなく、欲望対象の獲得を求めつづけなくてはならないのである。Yahata, Y. (2006). Heiki de hito no kokoro o fuminijiru hitobito: Han shakaisei jinkaku shōgai towa nanika. Tōkyō: Shunjūsha
I feel like I have a Cassandra complex. Everyone is saying how good mindfulness is and no one seems to see it for the scam that it is. 'You just don't get it' is the usual response I hear; it's amazing how unmindful and judgmental these people become when I raise any criticism. The biggest promoters of mindfulness make the most money from it. Like Yoga is just stretching, mindfulness is just resting. That's all it is.
@ You are soul The promotion of mindfulness is going gangbusters on TH-cam and probably on other social media sites with exaggerated claims of how it’s backed up by neuroscience etc. University research on the brain/mind science has become implicit in spreading conclusions from looking at brain wave images of deep meditators like Tibetan monks without really understanding what the images actually reveal. So all sorts of positive determinations are suggested about how everyone can cash in on the mindset of the monks and become loving and compassionate by practicing mindfulness meditation. Think again about following the mindfulness trend unless you want to live a lifestyle of monks secluded away from mainstream society, spending huge chunks of daily time chanting and mumbling repeatedly strange words given to you by an abbot and handing over your known life to engage in something totally foreign to the culture that you have grown up in. Ask these visiting monks (experts) if the same benefits are able to be achieved by a watered down version of meditation as currently sweeping through the western world consisting of 15 or 20 minutes sessions per day etc and its fairly likely that they would break into sustained laughter. However, the imitative proponents of western style mindfulness meditation will assure us that amazing things are capable if you follow the practices that they espouse usually for a fee. Tertiary research should not be too quick to reach positive conclusions about phenomena that cannot be genuinely proven beyond reasonable doubt.
It's a egg head tactic to grab your full attention befor a talk. Kind of like SLAMING A BOOK Hard on a desk , ( befor a Speech),I hate it and think he should be "taken care of" for it ,, lol sorry, > I just watched the Sopranos :p .
Yes. Give away money to be happy and end up homeless and hungry. When you're homeless and hungry, others can give their money to you, so that they can be happy. Boy, this is crap. You have to take care of yourself first, before you can help others. Giving money away to feel happy is what gets mentally ill/people with personality disorders into financial trouble and a self-destructive circle. And using an unknown mother carrying her child (not in a stroller, but carrying her child in her arms), as an example of a mother not connecting with her child, is unethical, at least. He talks about relationships and empathy but trashes this mom in public without even knowing her or the reason for texting. Expecting from parents to connect with children all the time, 24/7 is just not human. This guy is manipulating people like no one I've seen before. Be critical to what he is saying and how he is presenting himself. He practically asumes people at TED don't know fundamental things about brain anatomy. And he uses his hand to teach you about it. Because it's too difficult for you to understand from real model of the brain. I think he is talking about brain anatomy to make himself look like a highly educated person so that he could sell you bs later. He is a salesman, not a scientist.
@Maja, I can see how angry you are. Your first two points are valid, he should be more balanced in his opinions. We should have a great deal of self love in our selflessness and also, people can have times they have pressing needs and it doesn't mean they aren't the mindful parent. However, his teaching on the brain anatomy is great. Ted talks are made up of experts in different fields and some of them may not know Jack about the brain. This would definitely help. Also, I don't see it being salesy, I think you were being sad about the first two points that you threw away the baby with the bath water.
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" When you have reflection, and you have relationships that are caring and connecting, you actually stimulate the growth of the integrative fibres in the brain. And these are the fibres that allow you to have resilience. ' That is Awesome - :)x
ROB HASENWINKLE thanks bro helping me on my assignment
Reflection, relationship, and resilience
There is so much beauty in your words! I am humbled by your wisdom. Tank You!
Gawwwd I love this guy...what a beautiful human being... one of the best Ted talks ever!
Dr. Siegel, you possess such wisdom and beauty! 🤟🏽
He does. He communicates that wisdom clearly too.
I love this 'No Prefrontal Cortex Left Behind'-policy! :-)
Wonderful video. It is incredible how he can simplify difficult concepts and explain easily. Outstanding
Great explanation of the foundation of neuro-relationships.
thanks so much Dr. Siegel for this succinct explanation of how the brain works!
I think saying that if you want to be happier think about someone else can be a dangerous thing to say for some people.For some people they have been thinking about everyone else but themselves quite a lot.For some people thinking about themselves is what they really need to be doing and not being made to feel guilty or selfish for doing so.
I endorse that, coz that is where I am refocussing on and struggling with it. Old injunctions of how as a wife and mother, others needs are more important than mine. if I am not there for myself who else will be. But that in no way takes away the usefulness and awesomeness of the content of this wonderful and informative video. Thanks
Aka depression!
3 things
A- i like to know how resilience curves with age starting from infancy .
B- in 3rd world country , a child is brought up by village of people ,so lots of interaction
but we have Autism too . Why i wonder.
C- finally Mom who can , stay home and raise your children plz.
Thank you for saying the Fight , Flight , Freeze as so many people don't understand the freeze response that I suffer , which can be crippling . This is such a great talk , Thank you and bless you.
+hope in freedom You should look up the neuroscientist "Rick Hanson" wich talks alot about this and links it up to meditation, evolution and how everyday life effects the brain and its responses, and more importantly, how to change this.
+Angloth thank you for posting info, i will look it up.
So many people don't understand the Fight or Flight response is used for mass mind control, either. For instnce...人の右の扁桃体を、電極を用いて人工的に刺激してみると、その人はだんだんに恐怖や怒りを感じはじめ、やがてその気持ちは隠しておけなくなるほど大きく膨らむ。感情のダムが決壊すると、ふつうは外の刺激に攻撃の矛先を向ける。・・・電極をはずしたあとにも感情は残り、多くの場合は驚くほど長く続く。(p.116)
Swain, F., & Nishida, M. (2015). Zonbi no kagaku: Yomigaeri to maindo kontorōru no tankyū.(How to Make a Zombie: The Real Life (and Death) Science of Reanimation and Mind Control) Tōkyō: Intāshifuto.
Hmmmmn suddenly Japanese but okay. I'll translate.
Through artificial stimulation via an electrode inserted into the right hemisphere of the human brain, the subject will begin to feel emotions such as fear and anger. Eventually, the emotions felt will reach a point where it will be no longer possible to suppress (read: hide) them. (untranslated sentence). Even after the electrode is removed the emotions will remain and continue for an astoundingly long time.
翻訳してみましたけど、”感情のダムが決壊すると、ふつうは外の刺激に攻撃の矛先を向ける”という部分だけはちょっとイマイチよくわかりません。どういう意味ですか？教えてください。
hope in freedom Also check out the work of Diane Poole Heller on Attachment Theory and Peter Levine on Somatic Experiencing. There are ways to get out of freeze. I am working on this, too. You are not alone!
Loving all of this. With a reflection on the comment about the mom carrying her 1 1/2 year old while texting for 2 1/2 blocks. You can’t know why she was doing what she was doing. Perhaps she’s exhausted from lack of sleep, has no support at home, managed to get her fussy toddler out the door and soothed and what you saw was her only moment to be texting her therapist or a suicide helpline because she’s at her limit and reaching out for support? Maybe she was just tuned out and missed that moment, but it’s not knowable unless you asked her. We all have to watch the stories we tell ourselves about others, and then judge those people based on our own stories.
It wasn't that deep. Just a surface value perception as an example, because of the interruption in the class, in relation to the topic it had interrupted, which was relationships. You're projecting. It is more often best to assume the best case scenario, rather that the worst. Shalom
Great video, I wonder why I'm just seeing it. I also wonder why it doesn't have millions of views having stayed for 9 years.
Brilliant work made understandable. I use this w/ Kinders on up. Hand Model of the Brain. Emotional articulation & understanding more important than ever. Neurons that fire together, wire together. Science🤟
Dr. Dan Siegel, a wise perspective for a Sustainable society.
Wow, what a way to explain things! Bravo!
Spirit of the soul .
Best TedTalk I've seen
This was a most enjoyable teaching segment about a very important subject that can help everyone.
Fantastic presentation! Thank you
I heard that the heart has neural cells...?
We need to get back to being human (humane) by weening ourselves from the hate and fear constantly promoted in the propaganda of the international media and entertainment industry. (Including professional sports)
Spreading this can help by giving back control over our own lives and our humanity.
What a wonderful gift to our children?
I'm in awe, this was a delight to watch :)
Moral of the story is, engage and talk to your kids and use positive instead of negative terms. Doesn't take a degree to work that out.
absolutely love this
awesomeness in action.
Great! That makes me think of power of the third eye.
+G. Zinberg U just got the basis of meditation..thats what we are taught as kids here in India to practice meditation daily for atleast 10 minutes.. to develop the third eye(The prefrontal cortex).. Which makes u decisive intuitive and emotionally inelligent..
+AJKILLER3057 Is it a certain style of meditation they teach you?
Same
@@walkingweapon just think, tell your thoughts where to go, then let go of that thought. Noone cat truly tell how. We can't read your mind. But figuring that out yourself, is part of the organizational process of meditation. 😊
This was absolutely Awesome.
Apollos1824 I agree. Dr Siegel is an amazing source of energy, information, and knowledge.
Lot of new information I seen here, thank you, thumb up.
1) This guy's "toastmaster skills" are off-the-charts good. SUPERB, CALM, and "MINDFUL" SPEAKER. Kudos to Siegel!
-- now for something you might not quite expect --
2) Within the physical space-time matrix illusion (where the neural processes of the physical brain have central focus in study) - this guy is doing his very best.. presenting a very left-brained, analytical paradigm with scientific cachet (so parents in the matrix will believe him) to encourage people to engage in more appropriate and empowering social (vs. technological) behaviors. This is a compliment. Basically, he's MAXING THINGS OUT WITHIN THE MATRIX.. in the sense he has a good message, tremendous presentation, and people ASLEEP in the matrix will be inclined to buy in and grow.
3) However, there's a new breed of kids (indigos, crystals, etc) being born now ,along with activated/awakened Indigo adults, who think in a NEW, powerful, heart-based, right-brained, timeless, and intuitive fashion. AND THESE PEOPLE ARE GOING TO THE CHANGE THE WORLD! Psychic abilities, oddly deep wisdom and maturity, past-life memory, and/or astral_projection tendencies are some of their most common traits and (varying) abilities.
Here's how these teens think! (ignore they are celebrities) They are not crazy.. they are Indigo children. ;)
gawker.com/every-single-thing-about-this-jaden-and-willow-smith-in-1659778012
thatsINpossible Yes I hear that these indigo children are being taken in by a guy on a wheel chair named Xavier into his school for the gifted.
TheSololobo This would be correct. X-Men are HERE.. and developing now. Life is incredibly magical.
thatsINpossible Yes, I think I might be one of them, because I have the uncanny ability to detect bullshit.
Nicely said!
chris mcaulay (just an FYI - since I noticed your anti-aging interest ) I am immortal. PEACE ;)
This is fabulous, from my perspective and I am going to include it at Lumigrate (light/integrate amalgam word), my health education website from a functional medicine/ integrative medicine perspective, including how to reverse complex chronic illnesses. And how fabulous the unplanned / serendipitous cellular phone interruption happened to bring in education about techno's impact on us and our relationships. Particularly considering the topic at hand. Pun intended! (Love the "handy brain model"
So brilliant, I can't wait to share this with my students.
Awesome subject matter and think his books are great, but imo, not the best presentation. I suggest finding a different one to learn/review subject; the 'tools' (talking to kid) and stories he uses here are distracting rather than illuminating.
simply great, i want to make an animation out of this!!!
Inma Carpe Awesome! please send to me if you do!
@@Apollos1824 and one for me plz
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The sharing of energy was an interesting point. Not only can you control your own emotions but the emotions of others.
You can't control the emotions of others.
so.... If giving in the service of others, makes you happier, does it then make it a selfless act?
chicolby4288 Interesting abstract question ... doesn’t the will or decision of giving come first, then the dopamine is released?
@@flyingphotography5770I guess it the truly depends on the intention. Perhaps, this is where the heart brain comes in to play.
It's not this kind of reflection he is talking about. He means thought reflection, the ability to be "over" your thoughts and live in the present moment.
This Dude Is Stoned 😂. Love The Talk Though! Very Educational And Enlightening
Neurosience has tremendously contributed to developing mass mindcontrol technology with E.L.F. Are you controling the technology or the other way around? Is your brain OK, Dude?Takahashi, S. (1995). Zukai sennō gekitai manyuaru.
[超低周波を利用したマインドコントロールの仕組み]まずAという人物が恐怖を感じるときに出す脳波を記録する。これを超低周波ELF帯に乗せ、Bという人物に投射する。するとBは、そのときどんな状況であるかに関わらず、突然、恐怖を感じてしまう・・・(p.154)
Translation:
The mechanics of mind-control via utilisation of ultra-low frequency waves: Begin by taking person A and record the brainwaves that are emitted while that person is in a state of fear. Take these brainwaves and load them into ELF and fire them at person B. At that point, regardless of the situation or circumstance, person B will suddenly begin to feel afraid...(p.154)
するとBは、そのときどんな状況であるかに関わらず、突然、恐怖を感じてしまう・・・(p.154)
これはなぜ、”しまう”を使ったんですか？
Very good video, very positive.
SUPERB!
Reflection Relationships Resilience
The mind and the brain are NOT the same
Hmm regarding the relationships with others - it's only a predictor I think though, and doesn't really have a causal link. It's more the other way around, with things like wisdom and mindfulness leading to better relationships with other people. I mean, look at the hermits in the mountains in China. They practice zen and taoism all day. They tend to be quite content and quite wise too, but still they live a mostly secluded life with a few limited relationships to a few other teachers and maybe a student every so often.
It doesn't have to be a physical, or present interaction, in order to be relative.❤
That's the part when memories come in to play.
neurofeedback at 40hz uptrain over left prefrontal cortex gets u 7 days of mindfulness in 30 minutes
Watching this video along with handling other 2-3 apps alongside. Technology doesn't support mindfulness.
So...lets hope that the positive relationship a introverted person has with themselves will in fact help let them tick all the boxes of longevity health etc. After all, many of the people espousing such philosophy's as Fred Rogers, by dint of his personality type, must try to instill an extroverts set of values on every child, because it makes sense to the extrovert. The tangled web of need, support, assurance, acceptance, belonging, accommodating, among many other NEEDS that extrovert psyche requires, drives so much of social and/or socialisation discourse. When do we know an extrovert 'A' type personality is doing self reflection? When they are talking to other people.
That is an excellent question! I do not know.
I love this content. I read a book in the same vein that really made me think differently. "A Life Unplugged: Reclaiming Reality in a Digital Age" by Theodore Blaze
Reflection, Relationship, Resilience ... wondering where is the communication registered in the brain for connection?
Fabulous
Imange making a video like this...
love this talk..but just because youre on your phone for five minutes doesnt mean youre not connected to your baby dammit. People are still humans! We cant be "connected fully" to our kids every second of every day.
Sam G
I actually had this issue. The only negative part of his presentation, for me. 24/7 mothers have other things that need to be done besides talking and connecting with their babies. And judging someone based on one moment of their lives without knowing the context is very flawed. She very possibly was in a situation where she was communicating to someone about a need for the baby but wanted to give the baby fresh air. The fact that she was also carrying him/her shows that she either wanted to be close to her baby or needs something for him. Maybe she needed a ride, a stroller etc.
I also do understand that he may just be using this as an example to proof his point and is assuming the worst about the mother, but that's very alienating. Bad choice of an example for sure.
Sam G you did not understand Dr Seigel that why many kids has problems with their parents
I also struggled finishing this video after he said that.
very nice and clear presentation
This knowledge of brain is used in mass mind control -- especially on people who have antisocial personality disorder, in order to keep them stalking and harassing innocent victims of COINTELPRO. 反社会性パーソナリティ障害者は欲望の充足に向かう衝動への抑制は弱く、その閾値は低い。・・・彼らの求めるものは、すべてが所有欲や性欲など、非常に原始的な欲望でしかないことがほとんどである。・・・彼らが駆り立てられるように欲望を追求するのは、獲得したものによって、不快満足感を感じることができないからである。・・・自分が獲得したものの価値をどんどん切りさげてしまうので、略奪したものにも、たちまち魅力を感じなくなってしまうのである。 このため、彼らの内面は空っぽで、きわめて虚ろなものになる。・・内的な深みのある満足感を感じることができないからこそ、[性的、物質的な満足を外部に求めるが]それもきわめて刹那的なものにとどまるため、飽くことなく、欲望対象の獲得を求めつづけなくてはならないのである。Yahata, Y. (2006). Heiki de hito no kokoro o fuminijiru hitobito: Han shakaisei jinkaku shōgai towa nanika. Tōkyō: Shunjūsha
I like ted
More than tedx
I feel like I have a Cassandra complex.
Everyone is saying how good mindfulness is and no one seems to see it for the scam that it is. 'You just don't get it' is the usual response I hear; it's amazing how unmindful and judgmental these people become when I raise any criticism.
The biggest promoters of mindfulness make the most money from it.
Like Yoga is just stretching, mindfulness is just resting. That's all it is.
@ You are soul
The promotion of mindfulness is going gangbusters on TH-cam and probably on other social media sites with exaggerated claims of how it’s backed up by neuroscience etc. University research on the brain/mind science has become implicit in spreading conclusions from looking at brain wave images of deep meditators like Tibetan monks without really understanding what the images actually reveal. So all sorts of positive determinations are suggested about how everyone can cash in on the mindset of the monks and become loving and compassionate by practicing mindfulness meditation.
Think again about following the mindfulness trend unless you want to live a lifestyle of monks secluded away from mainstream society, spending huge chunks of daily time chanting and mumbling repeatedly strange words given to you by an abbot and handing over your known life to engage in something totally foreign to the culture that you have grown up in. Ask these visiting monks (experts) if the same benefits are able to be achieved by a watered down version of meditation as currently sweeping through the western world consisting of 15 or 20 minutes sessions per day etc and its fairly likely that they would break into sustained laughter. However, the imitative proponents of western style mindfulness meditation will assure us that amazing things are capable if you follow the practices that they espouse usually for a fee.
Tertiary research should not be too quick to reach positive conclusions about phenomena that cannot be genuinely proven beyond reasonable doubt.
Who is this Mr Rogers he talks about?
You sort of missed the "relationship" part of the whole thing, didn't you?
*I don't like tech-NO-logical life.*
He's Making things too complicated...
Can you make it simpler? I'm waiting for your reply in the comments.
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what the hell's with that loud intro?!!
It's a egg head tactic to grab your full attention befor a talk.
Kind of like SLAMING A BOOK Hard on a desk , ( befor a Speech),I hate it and think he should be "taken care of" for it ,, lol sorry, > I just watched the Sopranos :p .
What, he said that we should control technology, isent he right on that one?, its not the car who kills, its the driver.
Yes. Give away money to be happy and end up homeless and hungry. When you're homeless and hungry, others can give their money to you, so that they can be happy. Boy, this is crap. You have to take care of yourself first, before you can help others. Giving money away to feel happy is what gets mentally ill/people with personality disorders into financial trouble and a self-destructive circle.
And using an unknown mother carrying her child (not in a stroller, but carrying her child in her arms), as an example of a mother not connecting with her child, is unethical, at least. He talks about relationships and empathy but trashes this mom in public without even knowing her or the reason for texting. Expecting from parents to connect with children all the time, 24/7 is just not human. This guy is manipulating people like no one I've seen before. Be critical to what he is saying and how he is presenting himself. He practically asumes people at TED don't know fundamental things about brain anatomy. And he uses his hand to teach you about it. Because it's too difficult for you to understand from real model of the brain. I think he is talking about brain anatomy to make himself look like a highly educated person so that he could sell you bs later. He is a salesman, not a scientist.
@Maja, I can see how angry you are. Your first two points are valid, he should be more balanced in his opinions. We should have a great deal of self love in our selflessness and also, people can have times they have pressing needs and it doesn't mean they aren't the mindful parent.
However, his teaching on the brain anatomy is great. Ted talks are made up of experts in different fields and some of them may not know Jack about the brain. This would definitely help. Also, I don't see it being salesy, I think you were being sad about the first two points that you threw away the baby with the bath water.
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Another 3x Rs: He Rambles Relentlessly with a Rough voice...
stopped after 1m as far too slow in presenting