The 3 Worst Reasons A Narcissist Wants You Back: Don't Fall For It!

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  • Are you being pushed to come back? What are the reasons a narcissist wants you back, especially when it's failed to work before? In this live, Dr. Kerry will discuss the psychology behind "hoovering." Learn why narcissists want their victims to return after discarding them. Learn the top 3 WORST reasons for this confusing exploitative tactics.
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  • @user-qt4wt1om6d
    @user-qt4wt1om6d 3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    This video helped. I felt sad why he was making himself sick. That was a way to get me to fall for it and to allow him back. Thank you god for my Angels and not letting it happen.

  • @marieldavison5121
    @marieldavison5121 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Oooops Kerry I only caught this live at the back end so I'm listening to it now.
    I've been hoovered
    it can be really confusing when a guy acts like they are addicted to you the first time they meet you.
    It's unnatural attention & affection 💋that one does not get from anyone normally. (except maybe the dog) It's all agenda driven.
    They want something : SEX? MONEY? PLACE TO STAY? LIFESTYLE?
    Then they ask themselves how do I have to act & what do I have to do to get at that??
    When you give it up to them ~ your fake value tanks rapidly!
    It gets painful to now experience what they actually thought of you.....
    You look the fool ~ being such a willing victim.
    The innocence lost🤕 ~ not coming back anytime soon.
    The REBIRTH into awareness and self preservation & self love
    will pave the road to redemption.
    💖Cheers Kerry💞 my valued friend & teacher.
    Ps I love your book title :
    👁"Love you More"👁
    and the graphic of the knowing
    watching
    perceptive
    tender eye
    unmasking
    the Svengali 🧛
    Mercifully the lulled eye has been awakened
    it feels a resurgence of quick sharp whit & energy
    and with well honed judgement
    recalibrates
    corrects
    and protects
    the earnest but road weary bearer of the
    resolute enlightened eye.👁

  • @destiny691966
    @destiny691966 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much. Mine was about the money too. I'm a nurse and he is a very broke so called mechanic who has never been good at it. Mine was, he said I love you and I would say I hate you more...

    • @KerryMcAvoyPhD
      @KerryMcAvoyPhD  ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh I love the I hate you more part. Sad to hear this is too familiar to you.

  • @richardlew5316
    @richardlew5316 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Got hoover because the new supply dumped the Narc she sounded remorseful from deprivation of fuel. She did me dirty so closed the door to final discard

  • @GeraldaZainalvand
    @GeraldaZainalvand 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I appreciate you using your own experiences, it is,powerful. Thank for your teachings.

  • @tinamay6431
    @tinamay6431 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My husband and I had the same "I LOVE YOU MORE" game....for 17 years until right before he did what he did to get a restraining order against him in March.... I said to him " Don't say I love you more anymore when you do the horrible things you do to me.... That's not even loving me much less loving me more"..... Needless to say I received some psychological punishments for that one.

  • @destiny691966
    @destiny691966 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This was perfect for today. He came back hoovering this evening. It's our daughter's birthday so he had an excuse to message me. Sending me quotes telling me he still loved me and stuff. Then the real reason came out. He wanted me to be his taxi...😂. I told him he would never get back in my house or my car and he flipped that switch and started with deflecting and blaming. I just laughed and said "ok". I feel so impowered now...😁

  • @bluefanbluefan7578
    @bluefanbluefan7578 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    2 years after

  • @Nidhi_Maheshwari
    @Nidhi_Maheshwari ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Go Ahead with the Companion Book, Dr McAvoy.
    🐾🐈

  • @ninanightnurse
    @ninanightnurse ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm over a month now no contact and actually can't wait for the hoover cos this time it's not on! So glad I've wised up at last😊

  • @stealthwarrior5768
    @stealthwarrior5768 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your podcast is awesome. You and Tara are great together. 👍 Learning to spot exploutation would be great because I have become very untrusting and stuck

    • @KerryMcAvoyPhD
      @KerryMcAvoyPhD  ปีที่แล้ว

      That makes sense. It’s challenging b

  • @teresitaekim2565
    @teresitaekim2565 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Don't be stupid. Don't fall to the narcissist again. He's coming back to get his previous supply. He probably can't find the next supply outside.

  • @destiny691966
    @destiny691966 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I can't block mine. He has an app that gives you different numbers to call from so he always has a way to get to me. And if I keep blocking him, he will go to our daughter or have his friends contact me. He ALWAYS finds a way.

    • @katnaps2393
      @katnaps2393 ปีที่แล้ว

      Omg you too?!? I can’t block mine either I’ve tried to in the past and it just makes it worse… He has I’m assuming the same app as yours does because I get called and texted from all these different numbers every time I’ve blocked him

    • @destiny691966
      @destiny691966 ปีที่แล้ว

      @katnaps2393 yep. Not just phones either. all social media but mostly FB. I had to block all ways for people to find me but he still stalks me.

    • @katnaps2393
      @katnaps2393 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@destiny691966 Ugh the worst 😫

    • @KerryMcAvoyPhD
      @KerryMcAvoyPhD  ปีที่แล้ว

      How upsetting!

    • @KerryMcAvoyPhD
      @KerryMcAvoyPhD  ปีที่แล้ว

      That’s very disturbing

  • @tinamay6431
    @tinamay6431 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was great!!! Thank you!

    • @KerryMcAvoyPhD
      @KerryMcAvoyPhD  ปีที่แล้ว

      Glad you enjoyed it! That means a lot.

  • @bluefanbluefan7578
    @bluefanbluefan7578 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    ❤❤

  • @my.pure.reality
    @my.pure.reality ปีที่แล้ว