Why Living Close to your Children in Old Age Could Be the Biggest Mistake of Your Life | Buddhism.

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  • @Tarantella1924
    @Tarantella1924 หลายเดือนก่อน +597

    My parents lived with me and died whilst I was with them as I refused to send them to a ‘home’. . I am so grateful for the time I had with them and value it above going and chasing my happiness, like chasing is something to aspire to. They didn’t stop me from having a career and family or friends. I am blessed.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@Tarantella1924 Have pleasure always and Thanks for watching

    • @thomascheruvil6812
      @thomascheruvil6812 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It’s really commendable because in this current generation rarely any kids do that, so you are very very exceptional, hope this will motivate someone else and thank you for sharing your story .
      My dad passed away early in my life and as I was working far away from home in India and my brother and family were living less than 50 feet away, my mother chose to live alone. Then we all siblings with our family migrated to USA and we were forced to leave our mother behind and though we made arrangements for taking care of her, during every phone conversation the question she asked was when are you taking me over there? As it was only few months since we came here and we were still struggling to make a foothold in USA, being new immigrants with families and menial jobs, A family meeting was called by our oldest Sister who brought us to USA, and well settled. In the meeting she told us she will move the papers to bring our mother to USA, provided anyone of the rest of the siblings give assurances that he/ she will take care of her because she’s not willing to do that. Nobody responded, within a couple of minutes and I even without consulting with my wife volunteered to take care of her, and my sister told me Thomas you just came here and struggling to make it and you don’t know how challenging is it to take care of a 83 year old mother here in this situation and I answered, Sister I have wife and three kids going to school and no matter what is my situation I have no option but need to take care of them and our mother raised seven children and l think I have the moral responsibility to take of her so no matter what, I will take care of her as I ami am taking care of my wife and children. And she came to USA few months later, lived rest of her life happily with my family and died at the age of 93 peacefully. I consider those 10 years as a blessing, and felt very happy being able to give back something in return for the unconditional love and challenges she faced while raising me.

    • @Serendipity-gj2me
      @Serendipity-gj2me หลายเดือนก่อน +43

      @Tarantella1924 Exactly and that's how it should be. Not abandoning them when they are old.

    • @SathiNair-k7p
      @SathiNair-k7p หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      You are sn exception.

    • @Tarantella1924
      @Tarantella1924 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@SathiNair-k7p I hope not.

  • @TheWisdomGarden1
    @TheWisdomGarden1 หลายเดือนก่อน +220

    My mother is over 70 years old and lives alone in a poor, rural area. When she's sick or in pain, she often hides it from her children and grandchildren, afraid to worry us. One time, she fell and couldn't get up; she couldn't even reach her phone to call for help. Luckily, my older sister happened to visit her that day. After that incident, I decided to leave my city job and move my family back to live closer to her. Since my little family moved back, I've noticed a significant improvement in her mental health. She's happier, especially when she plays with my young son. She tells stories from the old days, and there's the sound of children's laughter, small joys... things you can't buy with a phone, no matter how expensive it is.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@TheWisdomGarden1 Thanks for watching

    • @SriShridhar
      @SriShridhar หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Blessed are you. Blessed will you always be. Never hurt her. Always keep her happy. It will bring immense happiness and prosperity to you.
      In

    • @TheWisdomGarden1
      @TheWisdomGarden1 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@SriShridhar Thank you for your encouraging words !

    • @mashamasha3315
      @mashamasha3315 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      God bless you for the right decision! I can intellectually understand the message from this video. However, it gives the feeling of such a loneliness and lack of gratitude - the best quality we have in our lives closely connected, if not to actually means it - LOVE. Gratitude. That is what God is waiting from us in exchange of most precious gift of all - life itself.

    • @KimmcAdory
      @KimmcAdory 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      I have very similar issues and feelings as the old man. I have come to the conclusion that I have to create a new life for myself without closeness to my married daughter although I help care for my two granddaughters often,I know they will grow up also. I must have my own life independent them.

  • @j.johnson2270
    @j.johnson2270 หลายเดือนก่อน +140

    This is right on. If we depend on our children or anyone else for our happiness, we will suffer. We need to make our own happiness!

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@j.johnson2270 very true Thanks so much for watching

    • @freedom4life123
      @freedom4life123 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Happiness is also temporary, it's a journey and not a destination. Life is fleeting and you must live in the moment to enjoy it, let go of attachment as it only leads to disappointment

    • @Anosha116
      @Anosha116 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      It is not just a question of happiness, your parents when they get old cannot manage physically what they once did. So do you just abandon them? No, for goodness sake they gave you life so show compassion and kindness and take care of them in return with loving kindness

    • @suedeundara8766
      @suedeundara8766 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Plan to go to a nursing home now itself

    • @decenuvrempace
      @decenuvrempace 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Sure! If you are rich enough.

  • @FatMatters
    @FatMatters หลายเดือนก่อน +213

    The point is don’t do something out of expectation or obligation. But if something is done out of love, embrace it.

  • @TheInnerSecrets-p8o
    @TheInnerSecrets-p8o หลายเดือนก่อน +61

    My parents lived with me until they passed away, and I stayed by their side because I couldn’t bring myself to send them to a care home. I’m incredibly grateful for the time we shared, and I treasure it far more than the idea of chasing after 'happiness' as if it were something to catch. They never held me back from pursuing my career, building a family, or maintaining friendships. I truly feel blessed

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@TheInnerSecrets-p8o good work, Thanks so much for watching.

    • @ChagitMalichy-lg5cq
      @ChagitMalichy-lg5cq 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You are in 👑👸.❤

  • @kimberlybegonia2869
    @kimberlybegonia2869 หลายเดือนก่อน +95

    Solitude is my new normal since my sick husband died. I did think my adult sons would fill the ‘void’ doing the manly things but now I understand that expectation is causing suffering. Now I realize I’m on my own and will now practice un attachment. Full Circle here I am ready to do the work. 💜

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@kimberlybegonia2869 good job and have pleasure always and Thanks for watching

    • @tinaj8649
      @tinaj8649 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I'm so sorry for your loss x

    • @annabelcavendish8938
      @annabelcavendish8938 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    • @enaid54
      @enaid54 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      It seems like daughters will stay around and be helpful but not the sons. They follow their wife and her family.

    • @emiliaescobar7652
      @emiliaescobar7652 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I wish my selfish mother-n-law would understand this.

  • @SherieRodrigues
    @SherieRodrigues หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    I live in my own hut,on my son and daughter- in-laws property, I am there if they need me, I would never interfere with their lives and journeys, and they give me the same respect. It is not the ideal answer, but for now it’s working. I wish everyone in my position find happiness and security. Love to all from Australia ❤❤

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Wow that is great have pleasure always and Thanks for watching

  • @nandinisinha6117
    @nandinisinha6117 หลายเดือนก่อน +63

    Thanks for this video. I am a 66 year old retired teacher, widowed and living with my son who is divorced. I have some issues with my legs which makes it difficult to walk out on my own without a stick. At home I happily complete all my daily chores, like cooking, cleaning, feeding the pets , and set apart time for my daily Puja and meditation. I also take online classes via zoom so that I don't have to go out and work . I am provided by government pension,so I feel i have a fulfilled life, mornings spend in quiet meditation, sipping tea alone, watching spiritual videos. I have my own room, and although,by all perspectives I may not be dancing and socializing and gossiping ,I find a quiet peace and contentment within. I do sometimes long to go out for vacations, but since that is not to be, i have" let go" that desire too. I live in gratitude and acceptance for what life has given me. My adult children still need me as my daughter,too, is recently widowed and seeks advice. And I am keeping house for my son. I feel fulfilled. I strongly resonate with this video , and thanks for sharing. It is as if The good Lord is talking to me via the video.My life has completed one cycle , I am once again single ,free, joyous, without a worry in the world, letting to of all desires, and having not much possessions to call my own and consequently not really bothered of what will happen to them when I pass away. I have a roof over my head and and meals on my table and bills are paid. What more would I want.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@nandinisinha6117 Thanks so much for watching have pleasure always share the video to others so that they can learn also

    • @nandinisinha6117
      @nandinisinha6117 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@ZenPhilosophy1723 yes

    • @patthompson8591
      @patthompson8591 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Perfectly said. 👌👍🏻.

  • @mjbreitmeyer2666
    @mjbreitmeyer2666 หลายเดือนก่อน +106

    In an ideal world we would all love and support one another. In healthy families this is perfeclty possible - regular visits, shared activities, phone calls etc. But not in dysfuntional families where on eor both parents or their children are toxic, bitter and manipulative. In that case, living in close proximity with one another would be deeply traumatising.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@mjbreitmeyer2666 Have pleasure always and Thanks for watching

    • @JLTravels
      @JLTravels หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Yes, toxic aging parents do not deserve their children’s attention!

    • @Paula-pr1bo
      @Paula-pr1bo หลายเดือนก่อน

      Absolutely ❤

  • @stephenridley1153
    @stephenridley1153 หลายเดือนก่อน +89

    I'm 73, single and have no children....but the lessons are still valid ❤🙏

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@stephenridley1153 Thanks so much for watching and take care wherever you are.

  • @Oceanlady
    @Oceanlady หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I am at that place which you talked about in this video. It came at just the right time, and made me see the truth. Thank you so much.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much for watching the support of watching have pleasure always.

  • @luckydesilva6733
    @luckydesilva6733 หลายเดือนก่อน +93

    Non attachment & non expectation leads to freedom & joy . Love and blessings .

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@luckydesilva6733 much love thanks for watching

    • @dantechersi6056
      @dantechersi6056 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ftreedom of what? Take response and help others is better no one iven Buda can escape from dukka sufering .. in old age pain of body is natural and Buda have this eny one and pain itself is sufering if some one love make childe he atract or atach for women and desire sexual mast be there otherwise no childe camming so we need become real not bola bola dreaming abut free from atachment imposibile..

  • @KunjanChauhan
    @KunjanChauhan หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    Looking after your parents is an act of selflessness, humility, love, duty. You can do all the meditation u want but inflicting pain by ignoring parents means you have only learnt attachment to a selfish desire for a practice of yoga. Subtle difference!

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@KunjanChauhan Thanks for watching

    • @micahdordolle4154
      @micahdordolle4154 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks, you said that beautifully! I think humans have the tendency to go from one extreme to the next.

    • @Arete37
      @Arete37 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      But that's the children's problem, not the parent's. The video is about the parent's expectations causing sadness. The children's duties are a separate issue.

    • @michellesimpson4093
      @michellesimpson4093 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      My parents passed when I was young so I never had to care for them live in the now, the present not what might have been no regrets what could

  • @eamestv
    @eamestv หลายเดือนก่อน +56

    Speaking for myself, there is no greater joy for parents or children when we care for them in old age. My Mom was my best friend. They took care of you when you were a baby. When we care for our parents, we will have great blessings, peace, and gratitude.
    Nothing will bring you more joy. As difficult as it can be sometimes. I spent the last week with my mom, she was in a bad way
    healthwise, but nothing will ever make either of us happier. We got to say goodbye. She was 89 in 2011 when she passed.
    Don't cry because it's over, but smile because it happened.
    PS. Not everybody is cut out for this journey.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for that and have pleasure always in watching my videos

    • @irenesepion4774
      @irenesepion4774 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Very helpful advice. Most grateful.

    • @zorkabiljecki7408
      @zorkabiljecki7408 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes!!! Lovely!!!

  • @ListeningtotheSoul
    @ListeningtotheSoul หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    It's amazing how a change in perspective, as Buddhism teaches, can make such a difference. Focusing on gratitude and compassion shifts my energy in a positive way

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ListeningtotheSoul Thanks so much for watching

  • @freedom4life123
    @freedom4life123 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    Im 60 next birthday and i dont put any pressure on my kids, i will do anything for them as long as i am capable. I brought them here, they didnt ask to be here.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@freedom4life123 That is great

    • @CarolMartin-p1m
      @CarolMartin-p1m หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      My father expressed the same to me. This made relating to him a joy.

    • @kentmccoy592
      @kentmccoy592 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      We all asked to be here or we wouldn't

    • @Bearwithme560
      @Bearwithme560 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@kentmccoy592 l don't recall asking, in utero. My mother resented my existence in the first place, so she didn't even ask.

    • @valleyoftears7741
      @valleyoftears7741 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      ​@@kentmccoy592How did we ask to be here? I don't remember asking my parents that I wanted to be born.

  • @meerasinghkakan7900
    @meerasinghkakan7900 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    The great Buddha well said- Attachment is the suffering

  • @casard5235
    @casard5235 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I've been missing my son for a couple of months as he's trying to sort things out for himself. I'm feeling lonely and, at times, bitter. Thank you for this video that helps me to 'sort things out', to regain new perspectives.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@casard5235 Thanks so much for watching

  • @hille3142
    @hille3142 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    Attachment is a mental state. I can live very close to my daughter and still be internally distant, without needs and without expectations and still enjoy my grandchildren. Supporting each other is only possible if I don't live too far away. ..

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      That is good and Thanks so much for watching

    • @bluewaters3100
      @bluewaters3100 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This was my story for awhile. My son-in-law's parents live far away and he is often angry with them. He has only seen them 3 times in 15 years. I have had to endure his anger that with them that was directed at me. My daughter wanted to make him happy so I had to stay away way more than I wanted. I always was there to help out whenever they needed some help. I live 60 miles away so my visits involved me packing for a week stay. Now that I am 72 it is not an easy trip anymore. All three babies were born at home and my daughter had issues which left her in bed for while. I actually lived there each time for three months each time. My help has eneabled them to have a successful business and save money. They have a home that is half paid for and much more time to spend with their kids. I am grateful that they trust me and that we can have difficult conversations without it affecting anyone's relationship. My daughter will say to me..Mom, I think it is time for you to go home. This is so nice to know that we can all have our lives and not feel the need to hurt feelings when it is time to resume our seperate lives. I also know that they are planning for the day when I may need them more. We all take good care of our health so I expect that to not happen any time soon. The granddaughters I have absolutely adore and trust me with their little secrets. It is funny though because if there are any little secrets they always tell their parents anyhow. It has beena wild trip for me. I never expected to lose a child , a husband, and live only on social security but I am very content and happy.

  • @BC-rq5jl
    @BC-rq5jl หลายเดือนก่อน +76

    It is absolutely normal for parents to be attached to their children, and for children to be attached to their parents. That is family: unconditional love, trust and support.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks so much for watching

    • @VirgilioSarmac
      @VirgilioSarmac หลายเดือนก่อน

      You mentioned parents and children.
      How about the grandparents?

    • @benlewis55
      @benlewis55 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Thats not the point of the story.

    • @rebeccamiller1741
      @rebeccamiller1741 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Bullshit ..
      Dependency is an illness , all wild animals weaning their off spring ..forever it is a biological design ..we are not so different

    • @garydavis7405
      @garydavis7405 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      It’s very “normal”. This video is about whether it makes people happy. Many “normal” behaviors cause unnecessary suffering.

  • @teresarocha599
    @teresarocha599 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    The ideal will be something in the middle: In old age one should be to a point independent, have one’s own interests and hobbies, activities and distractions, so as to live one’s own life and let the children live theirs, and not be a bit to them, but, at the same time, the old person can meet once in a while with his/her children and grandchildren and spend pleasant time with them.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Have pleasure always and Thanks so much for watching

  • @sleepyhollowgirl1294
    @sleepyhollowgirl1294 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    There is so much self reflection in this thread. It’s nice to see that TH-cam has places that explore the human condition with respect and care for each other.
    Every family is different, but I see so much love and consideration for family situations and each other in the comment section.
    Glad to share this world with many of you.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  29 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@sleepyhollowgirl1294 Thanks for watching.

  • @kiransinghrawat5018
    @kiransinghrawat5018 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    Live with children by all means . Or they with you but neither be a burden to another . Have your own
    Life , your own income and it could be great . There is no one formula fits all

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kiransinghrawat5018 Have pleasure always and Thanks for watching

    • @teresatrigiani7838
      @teresatrigiani7838 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      good point

  • @satyamevjayatev1969
    @satyamevjayatev1969 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Asians love to take care of their parents. They still live with their parents. Their bonding is very strong. I am 43 and stay with my 73 years old mother. I am so happy that we stay together. My life will be empty without my mother. In this fake world, where you are not sure whether your wife will be loyal to you or your friends will stay beside you in your bad times. Your parents are someone who will always be your side. Take care of them, is the mantra and you will be Happy.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      That is very good and Thanks for watching.

  • @merita47
    @merita47 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    My parents lived with me until the end of their life and it was the best decision for them and myself. I feel so in peace now they are gone . It was hard at times but their life was extended by the decision I took to take them home.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@merita47 Thanks so much for watching

  • @kandndad3527
    @kandndad3527 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Honor thy father and mother. Being close but honoring their own lifes is a blessing for all.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kandndad3527 Thanks so much for watching

  • @BuddhismWisdom-vd
    @BuddhismWisdom-vd หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    ❤❤❤My parents lived with me and died whilst I was with them as I refused to send them to a ‘home’. . I am so grateful for the time I had with them and value it above going and chasing my happiness, like chasing is something to aspire to. They didn’t stop me from having a career and family or friends. I am blessed.💛💛💛

  • @MindfulAwakening11
    @MindfulAwakening11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for sharing such enlightening teachings. They bring peace and clarity to my daily life. Truly inspiring!

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@MindfulAwakening11 much welcomed share to others so that they can learn.

  • @BECOMEASALITTLECHILD
    @BECOMEASALITTLECHILD หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for this video 🙏 I have found it helpful, for looking towards letting go of attachments to my expectations of my adult children visiting me, which is a source of deep emotional pain as these expectations go unfulfilled. Thanks also for the idea expressed/suggested that as an ageing parent that I focus upon parenting my inner-child, I feel joy writing this 🙏
    The Lord grant you eternal and eternally Peace and all Good 🙏

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@BECOMEASALITTLECHILD Thanks so much for watching Share it to others so that they can learn.

  • @rdhawke
    @rdhawke 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I took care of my mother as she deteriorated from dementia. We had a contentious relationship all my life but I guess it was our karma to be together at the end. We had a positive closure before she died…so It was an honor for me and important that we had that experience. I have peace in my heart, mind and soul. It’s all good.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@rdhawke Well done, Thanks for watching

  • @Aussiedreamer-pz5uw
    @Aussiedreamer-pz5uw หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    I don’t want to live with my children, I live in a retirement home. I wouldn’t want to complicate both my life or indeed my childrens .

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Take care wherever you are and Thanks so much for watching

    • @Aussiedreamer-pz5uw
      @Aussiedreamer-pz5uw 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@decenuvrempace I rent , here in Australia we get rental assistance , it’s only a small studio but it’s enough for me and my cat 😊

  • @kasko8550
    @kasko8550 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I feel that the elderly should live in a household with the younger generation as regular family members or in a adjuncted unit nearby - depending on needs and preferences. At least there should be regular visits and hanging out together - helping each other. My grandmother lived with us. It was nice for her and for us - she just belonged with us. In the same house, two stories up lived her sister, my great aunt. She was a wonderful influence and a great support for our family. We learned a lot from her. She was there before and after my grandma's passing - an important anker in our social network. I am grateful for both of these women's care and influence, their legacy. The younger ones can learn from the life experience and skills of the older ones. Young and old should be together and have each other. All these huge costs of old people's homes - crazy. As a young adult in a foreign country I attended a young adults' ward on Sundays for a while. It was awkward. I missed the senior generation as well as young kids and families swirling around. We need each other. And how much do grandchildren and parents also need grandparents! We should all be envolved with all stages of life to not lose perspective. The circle of life - let's be in it. I do not like it how the elderlies are shoved away into isolation in old people's homes.
    They say, it needs a village to raise a child. The more so it also needs the older generation!

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kasko8550 Thanks for that take have pleasure always in watching my videos.

    • @susanvanaken
      @susanvanaken หลายเดือนก่อน

      so true

    • @ChristelSilvers
      @ChristelSilvers หลายเดือนก่อน

      I am familiar with Buddhist teachings and I disagree with your advice . 🙏👲🧑‍✈️🧑‍💻🙏. 🌳🧓🏠🌳.

  • @robertharrelson5024
    @robertharrelson5024 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    It is better to understand than be understood, better to comfort than be comforted, better to love than be loved. It is by self forgetting that one finds. It is by dying in mind that one awakens to eternal life.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@robertharrelson5024 Thanks so much for watching and have pleasure always.

    • @teresarocha599
      @teresarocha599 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      As Jesus said: It’s giving that we receive.

    • @susanvanaken
      @susanvanaken หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      many people live close to their children and grandchildren to support and help them, not with expectation to get help and support, love and giving is a natural mutual and reciprocal energy field. Religion often frames people through archetypal ideologies which do not reflect contemporary life.

    • @rinadutoit1580
      @rinadutoit1580 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@susanvanaken

  • @AlphagirlMae
    @AlphagirlMae 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    My heart and mind feels freer after listening to this. It also helped me to see what i never wanted- dependency. I do not want to burden my kids.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  25 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@AlphagirlMae am glad you liked the video Thanks so much for watching.

  • @BuddhasTeachings24
    @BuddhasTeachings24 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Every word in this video is like a soothing balm for the soul. Keep up the amazing work!

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@BuddhasTeachings24 Thanks so much for watching

  • @suedeundara8766
    @suedeundara8766 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I am a Buddhist. I did not hear this concept in my Buddhist philosophy. But Buddha said children should help parents who are invalid. That's the bottom line.
    My children are emphasizing that I should live close to them now that I am getting older even though I am going strong and enjoy my independence.
    All these depends on the attitude of the children

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks just watch the video to the end you will understand the message well.

  • @danele48
    @danele48 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    What a beautiful story from a very wise Buddhist master. Was this the one who spent his whole life in the monastery, with no family of his own, and didn’t raise children? Let me think… Yes, that’s the one! "No attachment," he said? That makes total sense… for him.
    But what about you? You, who spend your life living, loving, raising, and creating attachments… Why can’t you count on the children you raised when you’re older? And who decided that the purpose of life is to be happy, proud, autonomous, self-sufficient, and like a lone wolf? Maybe there are other lessons to learn in your later years, beyond non-attachment. What about humility, acceptance, and gratitude for your children who now take care of you when you’re clumsy and grumpy? Could it be about reconciliation… about making amends?
    And what about your grown kids? What lessons could they learn by caring for their aging parents? Maybe gratitude for those who gave them the best they could. Maybe forgiveness. The understanding that life is short, so don’t waste it. So many possibilities.
    What about the wisdom you can offer them now, when your body is weak, but your spirit is stronger than ever? What about the unconditional love you can offer your grandkids? Why rob them of this incredible experience of creating an unbreakable bond with their grandparents?
    These are the thoughts of a not-so-wise girl who chose the world of feelings and attachments. But you think for yourself.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thanks for watching Share to others so that they can learn.

    • @Arete37
      @Arete37 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      So are your children going to meet your every expectation? I have children and I assure you they fall short very often, and I'm sure I don't meet their expectations all the time. I could get bitter and think, "They owe me" and they could think the same. Or we can be happy because we find our own peace. I have grandchildren, too. Should they devote their lives to my happiness?

  • @lynnharper4422
    @lynnharper4422 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    a lovely piece of Zen wisdom at the perfect moment for me to receive it - thank you

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  25 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Much welcome and Thanks for watching 🙏

  • @ThePowerWithin363
    @ThePowerWithin363 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Such a thoughtful perspective! Wishing everyone here health, happiness, and the wisdom to make choices that bring peace in their later years. 🙏 May we all find strength and clarity on our paths.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ThePowerWithin363 Thanks so much for watching

    • @David-x2c8l
      @David-x2c8l หลายเดือนก่อน

      do not have any feeling for anyone or anything , do not need to feel good or feel bad. nothing will affect u. live in peace

  • @beverleybailey3161
    @beverleybailey3161 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I also had my mother living with us for 20 plus years. I feel I did the right thing and helped her in her years of need. She died in her own bed here with us in attendance. It was the right thing to do and I don't have any remorse or regrets

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@beverleybailey3161 Thanks for watching and have pleasure always

  • @VB-cw1iy
    @VB-cw1iy 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    That was fabulous! It resonated so much for me. Wise old man and fortunately for him this brought his family closer

  • @krupavatiprabhu1798
    @krupavatiprabhu1798 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Iam going through this period. You have showed me the way. 🙏

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thanks so much for watching Share to others so that they can learn.

  • @petewebb6952
    @petewebb6952 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Sila, samadhi and prajñā - the cultivation of ethical behaviour, meditation and wisdom is the best path for all. 🙏

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@petewebb6952 Thanks for watching and have pleasure always

  • @neenaobhrai273
    @neenaobhrai273 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    What a wonderful explanation of how to live life with happiness ❤ time and lives are changing with choices.. no one wants to abandon their parents but sometimes with responsibilities of jobs children and their activities sometimes life becomes stressful and difficult… so children can’t give quality time to their parents… I now 70, don’t want to burden on my children… live on my own ,I have my hobbies my friends my volunteer time with community.. and close to my children and grandchildren …love to explore the world 🌎

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Wow that is amazing, Thanks so much for watching

    • @handycaddy
      @handycaddy หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I’m 70 too. I’m doing well, so I am not a burden to my children. I enjoy them, when I can, but we are all very busy having active lives. I enjoy them living fulfilling lives.
      In contrast, My 92 year old mother is critical and unpleasant expecting all of us to cater to her. She causes problems between us complaining about us, so no one wants her around anymore. If she was even a little more humble and grateful, maybe we would welcome her presence.

  • @srimawarusawithana5648
    @srimawarusawithana5648 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Good lessons I learned in my own old age. All what is said here is like my own story as I and my husband of 57 years are seeing these all over again. We are together -which is a blessing for sure. Thanks & much merit for the wisdom & insights here. Anumodana!

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Have pleasure always and share to your family and friends to learn more.

    • @David-x2c8l
      @David-x2c8l หลายเดือนก่อน

      do not have any feeling for anyone or anything , do not need to feel good or feel bad. nothing will affect u. live in peace

  • @janicetelfer6211
    @janicetelfer6211 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

    I take care of my mom and I wouldn't change it.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@janicetelfer6211 That is good and Thanks so much for watching

    • @AutumnleafMind
      @AutumnleafMind หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Super!! This is a load of nonsense

    • @jimosborne2
      @jimosborne2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      For over 2000 years, the young cared for their elderly parents - but now in the USA they shove their parents into a nursing home where immigrants ( who are a despised minority) take care of them while the billion dollar nursing industry rakes in the profits all the while reducing costs and care. Is this what this channel is suggesting is an improvement?

    • @janicetelfer6211
      @janicetelfer6211 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @jimosborne2 right!

  • @leeladesaidesai8645
    @leeladesaidesai8645 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Excellent advice / teaching for one and all. A real key to happiness. One's sufferings due to attachments well explained that I understood with realisation. Thanks.

  • @sabinefrisch1693
    @sabinefrisch1693 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Danke!

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  24 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thanks so much for the support 🙏

  • @sharonpearce8463
    @sharonpearce8463 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for this exploration of thoughts about older ages. It is hard to know our purpose when we gain an older age. I appreciate these thoughts.

  • @dodoraptor8387
    @dodoraptor8387 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    It is true that attachment is a source of suffering because if that thing or person you're attached to goes, then you will indeed suffer...However if we avoid any form of attachment then nobody should ever marry. Nobody should ever have children...Idk, I think that as humans attachment is a natural feeling...Can you really love without attachment? Is it not normal to be attached to those you consider close like your family or your pet? You may try to avoid suffering but one way or another suffering will find you..It's part of life...A natural process

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@dodoraptor8387 am glad you liked the video have pleasure always

    • @David-x2c8l
      @David-x2c8l หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      do not have any feeling for anyone or anything , do not need to feel good or feel bad. nothing will affect u. live in peace

    • @dodoraptor8387
      @dodoraptor8387 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      @David-x2c8l Easier said than done...Isn't this the equivalent of being a zombie? How can humans not feel emotions? That would be a very dull life.

    • @noeminoemi1350
      @noeminoemi1350 หลายเดือนก่อน

      yes agree. They are your family anyway ,children , it's natural to be attached to your family.

    • @David-x2c8l
      @David-x2c8l หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@dodoraptor8387 - to reach enlightenment , that is the true way

  • @karenmcgady7637
    @karenmcgady7637 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Good asvice. On the other hand, sometimes people need help coping with disability and illness, and moving closer to where one's children live might enable mutual support and kindness without cloying control and demands.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  29 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@karenmcgady7637 Thanks for that Thanks for watching.

    • @Arete37
      @Arete37 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You being up such a good point. There can be a very fine line between "caring" and "controlling."

  • @debbiedanilow3202
    @debbiedanilow3202 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Absolutely beautiful! This wisdom is a great gift. Thank you so much. ❤🙏🙏🙏

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  21 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@debbiedanilow3202 much welcomed and Thanks for watching

  • @spinnettdesigns
    @spinnettdesigns หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Human attachment is fundamental to all humans and not having it leads to the greatest suffering of all: emptiness and disconnection.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@spinnettdesigns Thanks for watching

    • @Arete37
      @Arete37 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Human connection is vital. Attachment to ideas and expectations about those connections will bring suffering. I love my cat and when she bites me I'm hurt and disappointed. Then I remember, she's a cat by nature. The bite can mean or not mean anything I want it to. She would say, "That's your problem!" I love her.

    • @spinnettdesigns
      @spinnettdesigns 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @ It’s true that we need to manage our expectations of ourselves and others. Emptiness and disconnection can arise from many different places, not having authentic closeness and connection is only one of them.

  • @savitrisingh4548
    @savitrisingh4548 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Life is a choice. It’s also a vicious circle. What goes around comes around. I consider it my sacred duty to be present whenever my parents need me. It’s not about attachment but my love for them. It’s a joy and a blessing to make sure they are happier as they age. Many of us believe that a retirement home is best for our parents. But best for who. What our parents did is their karma, how we respond will be our karma ❤

  • @rebeccaelle135
    @rebeccaelle135 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Excellent timing to hear this S it applies to a variety of relationships of attachment as growing old becomes more clear.
    Suffering is clinging…
    Thank you

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@rebeccaelle135 much welcomed and Thanks for watching.

  • @angelapage4927
    @angelapage4927 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    If you haven't had any of your children young adults or a child transition from this world before you count yourself truly blessed ❤️ a few old age pains is nothing to complain about believe me .
    Let your children feel free to live their time here bringing up their family just as you have.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      True 👍Thanks so much for watching.

  • @michelewills6350
    @michelewills6350 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Life is filled with soooo many emotions,attachments some we have been told what we could,and should expect. But another Buddhist teachings telling me to follow our OWN destiny. Amaste

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@michelewills6350 Thanks for watching

  • @Donna-cc1kt
    @Donna-cc1kt หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Emotional,dependence is never a good way to live. My mother, grandmother, and mother all lived together for a few years. It is one of my best memories and the experience shaped me. We were not dependent. We were strong individuals. Being an individual made it beautiful.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for watching that is Agood enlightenment

    • @lupejoy7671
      @lupejoy7671 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      The experience if aging differs from person to person, and it is the experience you lived with your children, what determines your expectations.
      When your children had it easy growing up, transitioning into a life of respect and independence just flows. Having a partner helps, but even when you don't, it's easier to settle into your own and involve yourself in their lives from afar.
      When kids grow through difficulties and your own life, was interrupted, redirected, and sometimes even uprooted in order to provide them with the support you felt was needed, the story changes, and expectations are easily created.
      When it's your turn to need and you don't get the response you feel you deserve, other issues must be looked at.

    • @Eirene628
      @Eirene628 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Yes..interdependence. We were designed as social beings.

  • @Luv-evedear
    @Luv-evedear หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    In an ideal world, seniors would be taken care of so that they don’t have to resort to living in a tent in a city park or on a riverbank. Many seniors didn’t have jobs with pensions or 401k’s. So, these same people don’t have many options. We must teach new generations the importance of taking care of their elders.. they could hear history that they would never learn about, otherwise.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for this note, Thanks so much for watching.

  • @dipalibiswas8873
    @dipalibiswas8873 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Attachment is the biggest self-curse one can inflict upon themselves unknowingly. This story is an eye-opener for those who share this view. Thanks very much for the dessiimination of such wisdom
    🙏🙏🙏💐❤️

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Am glad you liked the video have pleasure always 🙏

    • @Eirene628
      @Eirene628 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Nothing wrong with being attached...overattachment and overly dependence is the problem.

  • @hamc861
    @hamc861 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Children should take care of their parents. Even living with parents is beautiful

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much for watching and have pleasure always.

  • @beadas1108
    @beadas1108 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I looked after my mother and maiden aunt untill they went to their permanent resident. I would never send them to a home . I lost my dad when I was very young.
    Yes it’s not easy care… but today I have so much peace inside my heart because of tge choices I made for them and let them live with me untill the end. I think there is not just one path but others to .. one has to work out which gives most peace to both sides

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@beadas1108 Thanks so much for watching.

  • @rafiquekhan320
    @rafiquekhan320 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    In short "Do not give responsibility of managing your life to your children for as long as you can manage on your own". Your children will likely appreciate it, and will likely be glad to help as needed. And keep the Doors of Life open as long as you can.🌈🌞‼

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@rafiquekhan320 Am glad you liked the video have pleasure always and Thanks for watching

  • @jasminenassar6481
    @jasminenassar6481 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you this message has to be shared..it came when I need it most

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much for watching Share the message to your family and friends.

  • @HareKrishnaHareRama101
    @HareKrishnaHareRama101 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    It is every children’s duty to take care of their parents during their old age .. when parents do really took care of them by giving good health education good relative and ensure settled life with good wife and family and financial support sometimes ..

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      True, am glad you liked the video have pleasure always

    • @angelapage4927
      @angelapage4927 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@HareKrishnaHareRama101 real love is expecting nothing back .

    • @Tarantella1924
      @Tarantella1924 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@HareKrishnaHareRama101 well said!

  • @marijkevissers8023
    @marijkevissers8023 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Wise words, we can feel free, let go and love whatever comes and enjoy life 😂❤

  • @PhotoAmbrosia
    @PhotoAmbrosia หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Friends are the family you chose. Chose wisely!

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Very True, Take care and Thanks so much for watching

    • @theresaheyer537
      @theresaheyer537 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      choose

    • @SculptExpress-gv8jp
      @SculptExpress-gv8jp หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hmmmm…. What if your friends have complicated and busy lives with lovely and caring families? Would you expect them to include you in their family circle?

    • @Eirene628
      @Eirene628 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@SculptExpress-gv8jpa true friend would include you if you are alone.

  • @kayl674
    @kayl674 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Just the right topic at my perfect time. I will seek this direction 😊

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kayl674 Thanks for watching and have pleasure always in watching my videos.

  • @Arete37
    @Arete37 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Boy did this hit home, very timely for me.

  • @ThePathtoBuddhistWisdom
    @ThePathtoBuddhistWisdom หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    "Your video was truly inspiring and insightful; you did an incredible job bringing the topic to life!"

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much and have pleasure always

  • @Loupdelou-ly1ve
    @Loupdelou-ly1ve หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    My dad loved his newfound friends and life in his village. If he’d stayed with me and my husband, he’d have been isolated and on his home from 7-6 five days a week. That’s no life. I’m so glad he had four great years of all-day laughter and friends ❤

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      That is very good, am glad you watched the video have pleasure always

    • @Eirene628
      @Eirene628 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      And you were unburdened.

  • @BuddhaMeditationPath
    @BuddhaMeditationPath 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    2:40 The background music enhances the spiritual vibe.

  • @LianaMarvel
    @LianaMarvel หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I am a Christian and I fully agree with the message of non attachment to people or things at any age.
    Thanks for the video much appreciated 🙏🏻

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Much welcomed Thanks for understanding the message

  • @howellwong11
    @howellwong11 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    One size does not fit all. We all have different characters and lives. I am an introvert and 92 years old.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Much love and Thanks so much for watching

    • @AdalbertPtak
      @AdalbertPtak หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I too am 92 years old.
      I live in Canada, while my children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren live in Europe.
      Many years ago, when I decided it was time, for me to return to Canada, my children decided to remain in Europe.
      I let go of their daily presence and the seeming need of other attachments.
      As a result, as my life continued and, as one by one, my friends died, I learned to relish the freedom of my old age.
      From now, until my death, I am as happy as I allow myself to be.

  • @FuchsiaFire444
    @FuchsiaFire444 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This video prioritizing detachment applies to a family without real love and with interest only in themsleves and their own lives. Families with love as the attachment connection do just fine. And people who place themselves and their spirituality first are beacons of light and love and wisdom for others. What it comes down to is alignment with real self which is love and light, and what is called here attachment is really joy and enjoyment of people aligned within themselves and heart, in love confidence self love and people aligned with others in the same state. Love binds in a natural divine connection and is not called attachment. Attachment stems from neediness not love.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@FuchsiaFire444 Thank you for watching

  • @ArupKumarChoudhury-zq9sz
    @ArupKumarChoudhury-zq9sz หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A real thanks of gratitude for making this video❤

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much for watching have pleasure always and Thanks for watching Share to others so that they can learn also.

  • @ksjames1859
    @ksjames1859 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    great video. Wouldn’t it be better to be an animal. No attachment. Just raise the kids to be adults and let them live their life.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ksjames1859 great love thanks for watching have pleasure always.

  • @glindarhodes1285
    @glindarhodes1285 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    We can live close to our children, receive help from our children, and still cultivate detachment. Gratitude is every bit as powerful as detachment.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  20 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@glindarhodes1285 Thanks for watching

  • @kalinasofia
    @kalinasofia หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you. Very helpful to me as a new Grandmother. 🙏🏼❤

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kalinasofia much welcomed have pleasure always

  • @WisdomoftheBuddha84
    @WisdomoftheBuddha84 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    These videos are my go-to for positivity. Even on the toughest days, they help me find something good. So happy to be part of this community! 💛✨

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Have pleasure always much love for the support

    • @David-x2c8l
      @David-x2c8l หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      do not have any feeling for anyone or anything , do not need to feel good or feel bad. nothing will affect u. live in peace

  • @jennyto9163
    @jennyto9163 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Very useful contained true meaning of life journey of relationships Not only with children as well the others.Thanks

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jennyto9163 Have pleasure always for watching much love for the support.

  • @Buddhism-and-Life-vn
    @Buddhism-and-Life-vn หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Buddhism is not just a religion but also a meaningful philosophy of life. Thank you for the profound insights in this video!

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Have pleasure always by watching and Thanks for the support.

  • @AnnelisedeWet
    @AnnelisedeWet หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Love this. Thank you.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@AnnelisedeWet Thanks so much for watching

  • @sundarsrinivasan8327
    @sundarsrinivasan8327 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    it is a folly to live alone in old age It is possible to live with children withoutinterfering with them Not expect warmth but give the warmth They also need love

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@sundarsrinivasan8327 Have pleasure always and Thanks for watching

  • @Susileedean
    @Susileedean 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you. That was wonderful, so true.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  27 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thanks for watching Share to others so that they can learn also

  • @bobiel9048
    @bobiel9048 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is what true love is about.
    Doing everything to help loved person to live free life.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for watching and understanding the message

  • @afriendlyone
    @afriendlyone หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hey friend, the topic aside, I want to say the images are amazing, how did you make them? It was a delight just watching them.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@afriendlyone Thanks so much for watching and have pleasure always

    • @afriendlyone
      @afriendlyone หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ZenPhilosophy1723 Please tell me how do you create such impressive imagework?

  • @vasanthasrikantha6512
    @vasanthasrikantha6512 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yes You dont have to stay physically away from them and keep your mind away from attachments like many of us do in my couldture in India at the same time you help the young generation growand thrive help them with detached attachment

  • @CandleOfWisdom
    @CandleOfWisdom หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you for sharing these timeless lessons from Buddhism and Zen wisdom

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@CandleOfWisdom Have pleasure always in watching my videos

  • @krishnagiridhar3692
    @krishnagiridhar3692 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    How profound. Just the spiritual medicine i need

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Have pleasure always and Thanks for watching

  • @sumanpai9473
    @sumanpai9473 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    One hundred percent correct..❤

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Am glad you liked the video have pleasure always

  • @SailajaMandapati
    @SailajaMandapati 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Excellent
    Thank you

  • @Soumi-dc2ri
    @Soumi-dc2ri หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    In India we live with our children ❤

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Soumi-dc2ri it's good and thanks so much for watching.

    • @bornwin-sx9oz
      @bornwin-sx9oz หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Stay in India. In the USA the family breaks apart.

    • @rohitdownload
      @rohitdownload หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      In India we live with our children....... and fight together 😂

  • @monasalim7986
    @monasalim7986 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I wished the video added one word "your living children", I am a bereaved parent. I lost my son 3 and half years ago. Detachment applies only to living children, never to the ones who passed. I am struggling with grief. I will appreciate if you talked about grief and loss of a child. Thanks much.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      There is a video that I made about grief just check my videos, Thanks so much for watching.

  • @kava2021
    @kava2021 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My mother came to live with me when she developed dementia. It was the right thing to do. But while she was fully capable before dementia she lead her full life in her own place. In the video it was pointed out that expecting our grown children to take care of us and to be their center of attention becomes a burden to them. As older people, we are coming in full cycle of our lives. We still have things to do in our last stage of life. Taking care of our children when they were young was part of that cycle but we have come in full circle and we need to continue growing and learning.

  • @mackay6417
    @mackay6417 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Wow, it opened my my heart i fully understand now.

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@mackay6417 Have pleasure always and Thanks so much for watching.

  • @pauljohnson7770
    @pauljohnson7770 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Give what you can take what you can. Enjoy your life

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Much love and Thanks so much for watching

  • @muniraqamri1778
    @muniraqamri1778 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Just what I needed to read today ❤❤❤ thank you 😀

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Have pleasure always and Thanks for watching

  • @judithmura495
    @judithmura495 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I'm so grateful for this video as we approach 2025 in America

    • @ZenPhilosophy1723
      @ZenPhilosophy1723  26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thanks so much for watching happy new year in advance.

  • @rebeccalankford9810
    @rebeccalankford9810 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    We are social creatures that seek connection.