"YOUR PARENT'S DECISION CAN BE WRONG BUT THEIR INTENTIONS ARE NEVER WRONG" my grandfather used to say that when I was a little kid and I now understand it
Indian parents are not really strict. They are strict but in a different way. They motivate you indirectly using your ego. If you get a bit less Marks they will ask for the other 5 percent from 100 percent only if you are capable. If they know that you are not good at studies even if you are striving for good marks, they won't let you feel broken. They will say otherwise positive things. I always used to get 95 percent kinda marks and my mom sometimes used to ask me where the rest are. Cause she knew that am good at studies. My sister is not good at studies and they force her to study only before the exams for betterment. They are super happy that she atleast passed and not just 75 percent and got 80 percent. There's no bias here, they just know how to behave with their each of the kids according to their capabilities. You see, my mom is best.
@@bjenks To be honest 70 percent indian parents behave in this way. Only few force their children too much beyond their capabilities. After all they're just doing this for our better future. We are proud of them an in debt too. We won't leave them forever ❤
I absolutely agree with you. Our son is very smart but prone to procrastination, so he needs a bit of push because his capabilities are around mid 90s, on the other hand our daughter is super hard-working but her capabilities are around 60%. We as a parents encourage her and never ask her to achieve results in 90s. So idea is for your child to achieve their maximum potential.
My parents were never strict with my Marks ever. Every time I graduated a class my father would congratulate me and bought me sweets to celebrate my success. Even though I was always an average student they never really forced me to study. Indian Parents are strict only during the teen years of your life since that's the foundation of who you will become in the future. In later years they let you make your own decisions.
I think supportive parents is the main reason. I have never seen or heard any kid is being told to leave the house in India no matter what they did unlike other countries.
+@@gingergranttech True... I guess that is why even beggars in India who are unable to feed themselves produce children; because they care soooooo much for their kids, that they make the kids beg along with them.
@@yevodee4024 Do you know reason behind this?? The reason is that they don't have any other means of entertainment! I read it once and was shocked... But it is very logical ... That they lack means of entertainment due to poverty and. Thus ... It is the only means of entertainment!!!!
When I completed my Engineering I got accepted in a German University but when it came to leave my hometown, I dropped it and even rejected Job offer, started developing family business and now I'm happy that I did that.
1. Middle class indians have everything to lose if they don't succeed. When you are put between the rock and hard place your drive for success is very high. 2. Supportive family - When I was in 12th grade mom and also my aunt would wake me up by 5 am so that I could prepare for my exams. My mom would prepare tea and sit with me just for company. 3. High importance on education But I think the most important factor is that indians are very social and adjusting. They don't mind going the extra mile to help someone if they are in need.
True...ive seen my own parents go that extra mile for me while being strict at the same time .. I try to do that for my kids .. My brother lives with his family in US and i see them do the same.. While they may seem strict/restrictive ...family is there for them..its a big plus that you realise much later in life
People tend to overlook how important it is to have strong bonds with elders and you are never too old to discuss and understand their perspective. We Indians are unknowingly much receptive to and actively seek out advice from anyone older or even receptive sometimes to the ever present unsolicited advices. Asking parents' advice even in our own career situations is not so strange in Indian households.
Supportive family is the most important factor in anybody's success. The belief in having somebody to fall back in case of difficult situations make one to take risks and succeed.
When I was in my 17 I liked a girl who was studying in my class (11th standard). I told my mom I love that girl and want to marry her. After few seconds of silence she answered: whenever you can take care of a family you are free to marry anyone. I kept quiet and studied to get a job.
@@vedantmishra5773 I did the opposite of what Krishnakumar K A did. same scenario. I did not wait for the right moment. It did not turn out well for me.
I love your admiration for India. I am Indian living in US, I would say working hard is wired into us and Prioritize family, work before anything else.
Yes, my son graduated from northwestern university and I told him no dating because it’s waste of time and emotions 😂. My kids are USA born but they know that no one can think better than parents for their kids ❤️
@Alec Alberti yes Exactly it is ... INDIAN parents allows and even choose your partner i know it doesn't go with yours country but its just as goes as i quote ....
Its a fairly sucessful system ... In the old days.... marriage was completely under the parents control ...today its more permissive ..but parents still have a say ..but i see more stability in the family system because of it ..and more stability means better environment for the next generation
Also I consider arranged marriages a boon. Because then you van solely focus on your career without distractions and heartbreaks. There's no burden on you to get married by yourself and find a partner or you'll be alone. Also if you believe in love marriages(more acceptable nowadays) there's always an option of arranged marriage if you couldn't find a partner.
@Rohan Roy Quite a good amount of doctors in the US are Indians Those celebrities go to the US probably so that they can benefit from the latest facilities and treatments
You've nailed all points correctly. Add one more: It doesn't start from when a child is of certain age, it starts from the day we are born. The Indian parents reject the notion of separate rooms. The most important, a baby sleeps with the parent and not in a separate room where he cries and eventually falls a sleep alone. This, being with the parents at night creates a bond from the very first day so even if parents are strict or whatever, kids don't want to leave them. The bond is so strong it seems a hydrogen bond love affairs hahaha. On a serious note, psychologically it develops in a child a sense of security, it strengthen the feeling of belongingness and confidence. May be that's why they succeed better in later life.
I am 28 and single. We live like a penguin because we have to make career and wealth for our family. The ingredients are love, emotions, passion, dream, culture, nationalism and last some drama.
My grandfather, who in c.1900 started the first school in our village, and insisted that every caste student study there together, used to say, "cheshtha" (efforts) are not enough for achieving anything, one needs to have "pracheshtha" (dedication) as well. In my family, it's an ethos that's been drilled into all of us, since childhood.
It was always like that and based on deeds to reach brain not like during invasions and coIoniaIs that manipulated and enforced it into law and it’s in EngIish. Even Japan was but continuously and proudly incorporate native Shinto into modern anime…etc. A lot of compIex issues. Don’t spread such words. The greatest strength and weakness here is believing all are gurus.
Indian parents are strict and supportive too ❤️...It was their dream to make me a doctor....I wasn't really interested at that time...But now I really love my profession... completed my undergraduate degree and now trying for PG entrance😂(24 year old and single)
You are the best broad minded TH-camr I have come across in my 14 years of watching YouTub. Genuine content, take positive things, and wonderful analysis of everything. Good work keep up the good work buddy. Just one suggestion your videos a long and it will reach far more people if they were short. Cheers🤘🏻
One more point, India doesn`t has a credit culture, unlike in US where credit cards are the way to go, people like spending what they already have. Taking debt is considered very risky and isn`t used unless very important! One of my close relatives(cousin brother) had to start his own agriculture business, he wanted to buy a combine harvester to harvest crops(Its a very profitable business here in agriculture rich states), so his own parents with other relatives raised money, my family also put significant share in it and rest he took some debt from agriculture bank(they provide cheap loans specially for agriculture activities). All this money will be returned as it is after first harvest season.
The cultural values also play a very important role. We have been taught to adjust, not have ego, not humiliate others, not harm anyone. This is why we thrive usually amidst anyone.
Haha only for those who stay with parents . Well in my state most of college students who rent apartments stay in a living relationship and party a lot
The 1st generation expats to USA are mainly the ones who are very good in studies and are ambitious Hence they are successful, in whatever field they choose. Great insightful video👌
yes i have noticed this....its usually the first generation that are successfully and earns the fortune while their kids usually just loaf spending all on American riches
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Hi Benjamin happy to see your subscription and views increasing here is a list of topics your viewers will like 1. list of indophiles examples Annie Besant, Mark Twain, Sati kazanova , Martin Luther King,. etc you can add their quotes also Annie Besant said " I love the Indian people like no other i consider myself an Indian but i did not have the privilege to be born in India' Martin Luther King said " For other foreigners come to India as tourists but i come to India as a pilgrim to a sacred land, Mark Twain said (please search the internet) 2. After the lockdown go to Tirupati and cover the temple and go to trivandrum and cover Anandapadmanabha temple the two richest temples in India 3 your views on Upanishads and Vedas though it will need a lot of research hope to see you as a Star on TH-cam
Indian culture has a significant role to play I think, over and above all the points that you mentioned. Our approach to success is a form of detached attachment (or attached detachment) that I have found lacking in other cultures. It lets us focus more on what needs to be done for success, rather than on brooding over the result (i.e the success itself). Also, we do not get disheartened if what we achieve is sub-optimal from what we expected. We simply persevere, because we have a latent belief that what's happened is karma, and that that is what was supposed to be in any event. We therefore think we just have to keep doing our job, and we do it, and do it. Usually it's a recipe through which success becomes inevitable after a point.
I read the bhagwat gita very late in life .. But realised its a part of our culture of detached attachment..so its how we were raised ...do your duty and karma will do its ......never euphoric with success and never depressed with failure ( but nowadays i feel that metro families are losing that in becoming western )
I am 29 and I was slapped by mother just because I talked to her in high voice 😬 That's Indian parenting. They will not allow to deviate from ur cultural aspects at any cost😊😬
100% true . Age is not important. We always child to our mom. Even my mom also never allow to raise a voice against any elders. But I am always love my mom.
In India we can our parents won't ask us to move out of their house when we cross 18 years, instead they support us till we are financially stable. Even after that(after getting married also) most of us prefer staying with parents unless we have to move to other cities. This helps us to be more composed on our goals. This also helps kids as they learn a lot from their grandparents and their experience and not only on their parents.
Yo, Edward Norton! Just discovered your channel again. I had watched the other video from you last year (Why Indians are so successful in US) and gotta tell you, man; You're one of the few western people who genuinely love India. Not just for food but for the soul of the culture itself. I'm glad I discovered you again. I wish I could've met you but that is not possible because of the hell I'm going through these days. I wish you all the happiness, blessings and peace in the world, for you and your family and friends. You're a good man. Good luck on the journey of life, brother.
The financial facts are on point! I'm 16, I'm using an 8 year old laptop and am totally fine with it! I never demand anything from my parents and usually avoid things which are expensive. A normal teen in the US would be exactly opposite.
Interesting fact :- From One side -> Indian parent are strict. From Another side -> Indian parent are the most Emotional parent toward his children , didn't let her children alone anytime and anywhere ( except school and coaching institution) In fact Indian parents sacrifice her whole life in forming her child's life making him a good person .
I am from IIT Kharagpur and the acceptance rate of IITs depends on the branch of engineering and the university. The top 4 IITs have acceptance rate of less than 0.2% in the top branches. At worst Computer Science at IIT Bombay and Delhi has acceptance rate less than of 0.01%. Now let that sink in. Some people calculate it wrong because they consider all IITs as one institute, and the admission process is very different; you can't send application to one institute instead there's a joint entrance exam (IIT JEE Advanced) that you can take only if you qualify in another exam called JEE Mains.
The reason that IITs are ranked lower because these ranking parameters are biased towards Western Institutions. They give a lot of significance to international students and faculty that the IITs don't have enough because there's already so much competition and the foreigners find it extremely difficult to qualify the entrance exams. Even after that QS world ranking has ranked IIT Bombay, Delhi and IISC Bangalore in the 170-200 range.
Yes you're right about Indian parents being strict... my parents were very strict when I was a little kid. I used to be so fearful to confess to my mom that I lost a pencil or an eraser at school. I was not allowed to hang out even with my friends till completing school education. I was not allowed to travel with friends till I got married 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Strictly No dating allowed. Had an arranged marriage but was allowed to choose the groom under "their arrangement" 🤣🤣🤣🤣 indian parents are more advanced than all dating apps put together because their background verification process is very robust 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 But I thank them for how they raised me. I have a great life 👍👍👍
My kids used to tremble when they got less grades. I used to teach them, sit with them everyday for homework and ask question before exams. Education is a basic need even before food in our household . If you do well you treated royally if not God help you. Now my kids are doing very well. I chose my son’s wife and my daughter’s husband. All are very happy, including me😀 They are loving and caring and respectful towards us.
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Hey Benjamin, Hope you’re doing good. I see you are quite interested in our Indian culture, traditions and values. If you would like to get a day spend in a traditional Indian village and experience Hinduism heritage along with our village practices, I can get that arranged for you. Let me know if you’re interested in hinduism recreational activities for your vlog!
You are right, family environment has big impact in stable life, regardless of how much money you make. Our parents and in laws are always there for us and they discipline our kids and support them emotionally. Because of which, we can go out and do good at our jobs and business not thinking much about home. You can trust your family with your kids than any daycare or nanny. You are sure that they will pass the same values to your kids that you grew up with. I also think culture plays biggest role. There is social pressure to do better in life as we grow older. If we are not constantly climbing up the ladder, (unless you are already at the top like Sundar Pichai) people assume that something is wrong with us.
Two more reasons I will mention here from my personal experience: 1. Fear of failing: More than drive to succeed, I personally feel many of us are much afraid of failing. This leads to push ourselves more and eventually succeed. I have so many friends who were not serious during 1st and 2nd year but worked so hard during placement years that they were top scorers. I was like that in some way also. Most of us are in good positions now. 2. Jugaad: I find this quality of us very intriguing. I believe that all of our country folks have atleast bits-n-pieces of this quality and make their way out. I have seen so many off-the-shelf ideas or solutions during my life in so many fields. Jugaad leads to curiosity, innovation and provides flexibility also. Many of us Indians are lazy and procrastinate a lot like me. But still somehow always able to finish before the deadline. I am not saying this is a good thing and I myself wants to improve myself as the pressure during deadlines is quite high. But I think this Jugaad helps in thriving in big companies in technical roles. Bill Gates - 'I choose a lazy person to do a hard job. Because a lazy person will find an easy way to do it.'
Coal passes though Intense Heat and Pressure to become Diamond, similarly if you wanted to become Successful in life you also have to passes from intence challenge, problem and etc etc That heat and pressure to become diamond (or successful) in life is provided by our Parents and society.
I agree with you...a family is like the basic ingredient a child needs to grow and be what he's been designed to be and hence strong values are hardwired and once you're on your own you know what to do...you don't need to look around
My mom allows me to date in college but I don't think I would be until I make a career for myself. While our family values are great and all, there are some problems too. In our culture, we are taught to idolize our parents, and always respect our elders, even if they are wrong. Our opinions are sometimes not listened to or respected. Also parents sometimes mentally torment their kid and even if they know that, they are unwilling to change. Our family system is really nice but I feel that communication and mutual respect should be promoted more. Luckily times are changing, more parents are willing to listen to their kids and developing healthier relationships.
Indians is huge diverse group and few things I think are: 1) best minds from India study in USA and later get jobs. (Access to money is also one factor here) 2) Others move directly via work visas and they may not be best minds but yes good ones. 3) Indians are bound by Hinduism not just as religion but as philosophy and so values from Hinduism are part of families. Values like respect towards everything on earth guide Indians, so you will see Indians praying to multiple life forms or non life forms like books, animals, humans etc as respect for others keeps them grounded. Another value is Karma that means action, so keep on doing action and for student action is studying and so on. Another value is family life and high importance to same. Spend wisely, dress wisely. And many other values like hygiene, cleaniless , home cooked fresh food, majorly vegetarian food. etc etc. Even most non vegetarian Indians may not eat all four meals and all 7 days non veg, that keeps anger and laziness little less. Exceptions are always there but majorly these are like guidelines for life and many follow it and one way or other they impact other areas of life.
family always be the mojor factor influencing you and your perspective for things. One can say indian parents are strict, but they also give you mental and psychological support and most importantly they give you reality check from time to time about your limits.
When we go to other countries we donot always have our families there.....most of times we go alone....so family influence is not major factor in successful Indians. It is ....no matter what.... we have to give our best....its attitude, ownership and dedication towards work.....it is teached to us that work is worship. So you see religious aspects in our work also.
Good point about the religious aspects! I wonder if family would influence them before they went, getting their education and preparing to go and wouldn't family also influence your habits, even if you are alone? I am alone here but I know my family influenced me.
@@bjenks I second that.... It is the upbringing that influences a person and cumulative effect of family during childhood and formative rather than family 's presence during a particular point in time esp when u are working .... The effect stays on....
@@bjenks yes....agreed.....for indians family is the first support to shape our life....then our teachers and gurus....then friends and relatives including neighbors. Our social and religious fabric is very strong which shapes our life to success and happiness. Be patient and tolerate people and conditions, do hard and smart work. Have long term goals in mind as we live 70 ...80 yrs....and be successful is mantra.
Nice video. Sound tech could be better. You are a gentle soul. No wonder you can appreciate the Indian point of view. Have to say the comments are exhaustive. So my two bits is...keep them coming (sorry, three bits😅😅).
Just because a couple is married and is in a joint family it does not mean that they are in a stable family. Some of these joint families are extremely toxic.
Thank you. Toxic, overbearing attitude and generational trauma - all repressed for whatever reason. This sort of parenting isn’t healthy. What is the point of having the tag of being successful when you are miserable.
Learning about indian culture where everything is engineered to make sense like cleaning after themselves that most cultures don't do. Also india is one of the oldest countries in the world where they know how things work
For all your points the one that was missed is Sanatana Dharama, the one that is the fountain head for all the points you mentioned. Its a way of life that our forefathers thought would be in our best interest.
I am in final year of graduation. And I have to explain each cent of my pocket money how I spent it all😂. So I kept a book and I will write everything at night that how I spent money. And then I will show them at the end of the month. Then I will get pocket money for next month 😂😂😂. And ofcourse I added some false value when it was needed 😌😌.
Yeah I think that's a great point that the group of Indians who come to USA have already been through a lot and they're the best from the country. For example, we need to get very high score on class 10th board exam to get science. After that for class 12th exam we need to have a very high score to get to a decent college (~900K students take the class 12th exam from West Bengal and there is only 300-400K seats in the college) and getting into a good Indian Institute is a whole different story. People who get into IIT,IISER,IISc,NIT they're THE BEST from India who eventually go to USA for jobs or higher studies.
The strength of Indian education is mainly in school education (upto 12th grade). College education at Bachelors level is fine in India but at post-graduate level is probably better in the US. Once you've been seasoned and trained in the Indian schooling system, you're prepared for life no matter where you go after that.
Indians go outside and work there contribute to their economy Where Chinese came back to their nation and contribute to their own country i.e it's china is now the top It's not good for india But what can i do , when i put myself in that situation i always choose to work in a foreign country and my 99.9% friends too 😭😭😭😭 But one day it will change
I am one like you (living away) but I see that India grew in spite of me not being there (I didn’t send money to India in any significant way either)! So the economic growth is all mostly due to people who live in India but with the caveat that opportunities to earn came also from outside India (at least at some crucial times like Y2K and I am told even at COVID times )! So to some small extent I believe I did help India.
11:05 Those rankings are heavily based on research papers published by universities, amenities in the campus and perception among scientists. Top universities in India are engineering colleges with main focus on technology. They don't have much research papers since research is not even their main focus, they don't have amenities nearly as good as heavily funded universities of US, and about perception among scientists? There are very few scientists who graduate out of IIT's and Phd is an afterthought. That's the reason why even though IISc isn't nearly as good as IIT's when it comes to monetary success of the students, it ranked higher since it is a research institute that published a lot of papers and University of Delhi ranked high due to it being a aggregate of gigantic campuses with more than 100,000 students. Check employability rankings of universities to get a better picture. Edit: International exposure is also a must. They also weigh in the percentage of international students in the university. The only way international students can enter IIT's is through student exchange programs since it is highly unlikely any foreign student gets selected through JEE with such a heavy competition.
This is my elder brother's mobile phone he just got it this year when he cleared NEET entrance exam tilll then he didn't had one...so definitely Indian parents are strict
Not every parents, many students are opting for online classes for that parents buy expensive phones knowing that smart phones are destructive. Parents in india are not strict .
Three generations are living harmoniously in our affluent neighborhood and it is very very common, unless you got to study or got a job in another town/city they don't move out Best to co exist with loved ones for financial and moral support 🙄😉😁
@Alec Alberti I can't give you the answer of your question in one line... I hope you have time to read. First it does not happen in Indian, only bcz of our parents and cultural structure. And second, if we have to marry, it necessary to be a successful and capable person first. And if you are successful you have no need to ask anyone. And third suppose for some reason you couldn't be a successful man then, your parents and society help, to find some one which is according to you. That's why Indian marriages is more successful. And this whole process is not a forceful decision of our parents. We just have a different culture, we involve our parents in this not only parents our whole relatives involve in our marriage. Just bcz we are not self centric..
Im an Indian parent aan i agree we are strict. I stayed on 2/3 different countries because of my husbands job. But once children entered primary education we have decided to stay in obe place so they can good education. My husbaf took job in uk as a design engineer in GE in uk. Uncertainty always lingered. One fine day it was golden shake hand and pink slip as GE closed its business in uk. Then Siemens. So we always ot indian text books specially math and science and made them learn at home(if in case we need to go back to india then its easier for kids to catch up with curiculam there)and to face any competitive exams. We wete pushy. Made them do uk maths and also indian text books. Same with science ICSE science quite demanding. At the same time along with two languages of uk syllubus we taught oir mother tongue(both read and write). They both took alm the pressure did pretty well. Entered good universities. Older in cambridge(theorotical chemistry later did computer science) younger in Glasgow(final medicine). Both were in uni badminton team and 1st cricket team. I think being strict paves way to better future. Dont you agree
You have not mentioned the value system Indian parents teach the kids right from wrong from the very young age Respect for teachers Respect for elders Respect from the heritage ,where we come from is What makes Indians different from others Thanks Regards
When i finally got a job, after trying hard and failing to be an entrepreneur, my father said, "so now your being paid as a labour", I understand his intention was that, i was being paid in cash at the end of the month and the company I worked for is a start-up 🤷🏻♂️, but never the less hurts, but also made me realise that i just had to reach higher standards which he set for me...
I think a very important point that you overlooked when comparing India to China and Indonesia is that India was colonised for so long, English has become more of a secondary and even primary language. Almost everyone understands it and most can speak and write in it fluently. That contributes to the employability of Indians over Japanese, Chinese and other Asians in general. That said, Philippines too has similar language stats but the population, competition based selection and generic mass mentality of putting additional effort is something that's missing.
There is a saying in South India... "Money says- You Save me today, I will Save you tomorrow".
😀😀,that's gud.
❤️ From Jammu and Kashmir.
That is beautiful and wise saying
That's really cool. Short and very true.
@@worshipthelordwithdance28 Typically, South Indian.
Great lines👍
Somebody stop him otherwise our secret will be out😂😂😂
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I know right!! Let's stop him D:
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True
Yes
Hardest working people in the world. I have nothing but admiration for Indian people.
"YOUR PARENT'S DECISION CAN BE WRONG BUT THEIR INTENTIONS ARE NEVER WRONG" my grandfather used to say that when I was a little kid and I now understand it
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Kota factory dialogue 😂
In dav
Sala Grandfather nahi Yeh Kota Factory dekh ke Aya 😂
Even if intentions are not wrong, a mistake is a mistake
It’s still a tradition in india that you hand over the first earning of your life to your mom. Moms don’t ask for it but the children still do it!
That's true, my son did exactly same
Ya that's absolutely true 👍
Grandma
Nope
So sweet
Most Indians come to study on bank loans, they have a commitment to repay back. They cant be in US flirting.
lol
many total their land or some other property
@@vkm9156 Yeah I did , biggest biggest mistake of my life and my family
@@priyagurav8424 what mistake?
Not most Indians. Stop spreading fake information
Indian parents are not really strict. They are strict but in a different way. They motivate you indirectly using your ego. If you get a bit less Marks they will ask for the other 5 percent from 100 percent only if you are capable. If they know that you are not good at studies even if you are striving for good marks, they won't let you feel broken. They will say otherwise positive things.
I always used to get 95 percent kinda marks and my mom sometimes used to ask me where the rest are. Cause she knew that am good at studies.
My sister is not good at studies and they force her to study only before the exams for betterment. They are super happy that she atleast passed and not just 75 percent and got 80 percent. There's no bias here, they just know how to behave with their each of the kids according to their capabilities.
You see, my mom is best.
Sounds like a very supportive and smart mom!
@@bjenks To be honest 70 percent indian parents behave in this way. Only few force their children too much beyond their capabilities. After all they're just doing this for our better future. We are proud of them an in debt too. We won't leave them forever ❤
I absolutely agree with you. Our son is very smart but prone to procrastination, so he needs a bit of push because his capabilities are around mid 90s, on the other hand our daughter is super hard-working but her capabilities are around 60%. We as a parents encourage her and never ask her to achieve results in 90s.
So idea is for your child to achieve their maximum potential.
@@bluebird1227 Yeah 😊
@@nadiyavemantalks Exactly.
My parents were never strict with my Marks ever. Every time I graduated a class my father would congratulate me and bought me sweets to celebrate my success. Even though I was always an average student they never really forced me to study. Indian Parents are strict only during the teen years of your life since that's the foundation of who you will become in the future. In later years they let you make your own decisions.
Generally Indian parents ..are “most trusted”personalities in their children’s life ..👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 than anyone else in the world 💐
Very true
I am 27 single as duck in USA doing my MS. 🤣🤣🤣 relatable.
Haha, one day though... 😊🤘🙏
True nerds
Why don't do this man
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Lol!!
Indian parents are the messengers of God or guardian angel for their children. Sacrificing parents! I owe them so much!
I think supportive parents is the main reason. I have never seen or heard any kid is being told to leave the house in India no matter what they did unlike other countries.
Dude! Which India do you live in by the way?
True .indian parents never abandon their kids ..even poor parents
@@gingergranttech 100 percent true 👍
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True...
I guess that is why even beggars in India who are unable to feed themselves produce children; because they care soooooo much for their kids, that they make the kids beg along with them.
@@yevodee4024
Do you know reason behind this??
The reason is that they don't have any other means of entertainment!
I read it once and was shocked... But it is very logical ... That they lack means of entertainment due to poverty and. Thus ... It is the only means of entertainment!!!!
When I completed my Engineering I got accepted in a German University but when it came to leave my hometown, I dropped it and even rejected Job offer, started developing family business and now I'm happy that I did that.
1. Middle class indians have everything to lose if they don't succeed. When you are put between the rock and hard place your drive for success is very high.
2. Supportive family - When I was in 12th grade mom and also my aunt would wake me up by 5 am so that I could prepare for my exams. My mom would prepare tea and sit with me just for company.
3. High importance on education
But I think the most important factor is that indians are very social and adjusting. They don't mind going the extra mile to help someone if they are in need.
Not everyone sis
True...ive seen my own parents go that extra mile for me while being strict at the same time ..
I try to do that for my kids ..
My brother lives with his family in US and i see them do the same..
While they may seem strict/restrictive ...family is there for them..its a big plus that you realise much later in life
Mom's 'flying chappal' towards you is still number 1, keeps you on place, grounded! 😀
Hahaha
Lol
People tend to overlook how important it is to have strong bonds with elders and you are never too old to discuss and understand their perspective. We Indians are unknowingly much receptive to and actively seek out advice from anyone older or even receptive sometimes to the ever present unsolicited advices. Asking parents' advice even in our own career situations is not so strange in Indian households.
Americans could learn from India about appreciating the wisdom of the elderly
Supportive family is the most important factor in anybody's success. The belief in having somebody to fall back in case of difficult situations make one to take risks and succeed.
So helpful, agreed
Indeed our family culture and money savings help us during tough time of covid-19 .
When I was in my 17 I liked a girl who was studying in my class (11th standard). I told my mom I love that girl and want to marry her. After few seconds of silence she answered: whenever you can take care of a family you are free to marry anyone. I kept quiet and studied to get a job.
Perfect response. My mom said the same thing to me.
Now where is she
@@vedantmishra5773 mom is no more. The girl got married when she was 19. She was the school topper, stopped studying after marriage.
@@krishnakumar_ka that's why it's said that never wait for right moment because it never comes
@@vedantmishra5773 I did the opposite of what Krishnakumar K A did. same scenario. I did not wait for the right moment. It did not turn out well for me.
I love your admiration for India. I am Indian living in US, I would say working hard is wired into us and Prioritize family, work before anything else.
Awesome, thanks for saying hello
Yes, my son graduated from northwestern university and I told him no dating because it’s waste of time and emotions 😂. My kids are USA born but they know that no one can think better than parents for their kids ❤️
@Alec Alberti yes Exactly it is ... INDIAN parents allows and even choose your partner i know it doesn't go with yours country but its just as goes as i quote ....
Its a fairly sucessful system ...
In the old days.... marriage was completely under the parents control ...today its more permissive ..but parents still have a say ..but i see more stability in the family system because of it ..and more stability means better environment for the next generation
Women should know their place.
@@shyamchabra5355 so should men, children and parents.
Impo
1) Hard Work
2)Extra Emphasis on STEM subjects
3)Good Surviving skills
4) Ability to adjust
5) persistence👍
Indians never spend money much except Marriage 😂.
Indian weddings are epic though
@@bjenks yeh
@@bjenks that's where our savings go ... Lol
Facts and education
Also I consider arranged marriages a boon. Because then you van solely focus on your career without distractions and heartbreaks. There's no burden on you to get married by yourself and find a partner or you'll be alone. Also if you believe in love marriages(more acceptable nowadays) there's always an option of arranged marriage if you couldn't find a partner.
You forgot AIIMS, whose acceptance rate is even lower than IIT
But in AIIMS you get a lot of chances while in IIT you can only try twice
@Rohan Roy Doctors don't make vaccines
@Rohan Roy Quite a good amount of doctors in the US are Indians
Those celebrities go to the US probably so that they can benefit from the latest facilities and treatments
Believe me my mom is a doctor in AIIMS but iit is more tough there are more chances of surviving after falling from the 25th floor than IIT.
@@user-hf7bb8uy4j I'm IITian
Lol
You've nailed all points correctly. Add one more: It doesn't start from when a child is of certain age, it starts from the day we are born. The Indian parents reject the notion of separate rooms. The most important, a baby sleeps with the parent and not in a separate room where he cries and eventually falls a sleep alone. This, being with the parents at night creates a bond from the very first day so even if parents are strict or whatever, kids don't want to leave them. The bond is so strong it seems a hydrogen bond love affairs hahaha. On a serious note, psychologically it develops in a child a sense of security, it strengthen the feeling of belongingness and confidence. May be that's why they succeed better in later life.
I am 28 and single. We live like a penguin because we have to make career and wealth for our family. The ingredients are love, emotions, passion, dream, culture, nationalism and last some drama.
That's very honest Nishant, Be Blest
My grandfather, who in c.1900 started the first school in our village, and insisted that every caste student study there together, used to say, "cheshtha" (efforts) are not enough for achieving anything, one needs to have "pracheshtha" (dedication) as well. In my family, it's an ethos that's been drilled into all of us, since childhood.
Thank you!
Sounds like Bangali.
It was always like that and based on deeds to reach brain not like during invasions and coIoniaIs that manipulated and enforced it into law and it’s in EngIish. Even Japan was but continuously and proudly incorporate native Shinto into modern anime…etc. A lot of compIex issues. Don’t spread such words. The greatest strength and weakness here is believing all are gurus.
Efforts like these have always existed..
Invaders and colonizers only keep stressing on the flaws ..never on the multiple good aspects
Indian parents are strict and supportive too ❤️...It was their dream to make me a doctor....I wasn't really interested at that time...But now I really love my profession... completed my undergraduate degree and now trying for PG entrance😂(24 year old and single)
Which premed college and med school you went?
You are the best broad minded TH-camr I have come across in my 14 years of watching YouTub.
Genuine content, take positive things, and wonderful analysis of everything. Good work keep up the good work buddy.
Just one suggestion your videos a long and it will reach far more people if they were short.
Cheers🤘🏻
Thanks Manjunath! Will try a shorter one sometime
Really true..
Most successful Indians who are grown-ups now have seen poverty in their early child hood and they understand value of money and hard work.
One more point, India doesn`t has a credit culture, unlike in US where credit cards are the way to go, people like spending what they already have. Taking debt is considered very risky and isn`t used unless very important! One of my close relatives(cousin brother) had to start his own agriculture business, he wanted to buy a combine harvester to harvest crops(Its a very profitable business here in agriculture rich states), so his own parents with other relatives raised money, my family also put significant share in it and rest he took some debt from agriculture bank(they provide cheap loans specially for agriculture activities). All this money will be returned as it is after first harvest season.
Good point, credit kills so many people's finances!
ironically in my country- Philippines, Indians are stereotyped as money lenders. It's known as 5-6 where it's 20% interest rate
@@eryalmario5299 it's not a big deal indians lend money to their relatives for 0 intrest but to others at 18 to 24 percent intrest
@@iaryansr that's very interesting
@@eryalmario5299 what about philipinos. How are they guys regarding money ??
Parents’ unconditional support in every way.
The cultural values also play a very important role. We have been taught to adjust, not have ego, not humiliate others, not harm anyone. This is why we thrive usually amidst anyone.
" No dating till 25 " believe me that's not a choice...😅😂
But it happens
Hah my mum says I can dye my hair until 23-25 years
Haha only for those who stay with parents . Well in my state most of college students who rent apartments stay in a living relationship and party a lot
In my class 70% are dating and I am Indian. But no one in their family know about it . I am in 8th
Mom with a cooking spatula is way more strict than a mom with slippers
Haha
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No flying chappal op 🔥
😂😂😂
@@madhurshinde4988 crct.. 🤣🤣🤣
The 1st generation expats to USA are mainly the ones who are very good in studies and are ambitious
Hence they are successful, in whatever field they choose.
Great insightful video👌
Thanks Luna, yeah it must take a lot to start a new life in a new country!
seen your comments in many video
yes i have noticed this....its usually the first generation that are successfully and earns the fortune while their kids usually just loaf spending all on American riches
Thanks to all of you for adding your feedback in the comments, and if you know someone who would enjoy this video, please SHARE 🙏🤘😊
My father forced me to choose commerce and I wanted arts though
I wish I would have went to school for art as well. What type of art do you enjoy?
hi Benjamin nice video
really glad to see your subscription going up and views increasing you deserve better
i insist you change your title from Benjamin Jenks to Benjamin Jenks - American in India
your subscription will soar
if you have good ideas save it when your subscription base touches hundred thousand
hope to see you hit hundred thousand by January 2021
God bless
@@kandasamy321 Okay thanks J! Good ideas, we will see :)
Hi Benjamin
happy to see your subscription and views increasing here is a list of topics your viewers will like
1. list of indophiles examples Annie Besant, Mark Twain, Sati kazanova , Martin Luther King,. etc you can add their quotes also
Annie Besant said " I love the Indian people like no other i consider myself an Indian but i did not have the privilege to be born in India'
Martin Luther King said " For other foreigners come to India as tourists but i come to India as a pilgrim to a sacred land,
Mark Twain said (please search the internet)
2. After the lockdown go to Tirupati and cover the temple and go to trivandrum and cover Anandapadmanabha temple the two richest temples in India
3 your views on Upanishads and Vedas
though it will need a lot of research
hope to see you as a Star on TH-cam
Good research Ben, Hope this video get viral too.
Thanks Rahul!
Indian culture has a significant role to play I think, over and above all the points that you mentioned. Our approach to success is a form of detached attachment (or attached detachment) that I have found lacking in other cultures. It lets us focus more on what needs to be done for success, rather than on brooding over the result (i.e the success itself). Also, we do not get disheartened if what we achieve is sub-optimal from what we expected. We simply persevere, because we have a latent belief that what's happened is karma, and that that is what was supposed to be in any event. We therefore think we just have to keep doing our job, and we do it, and do it. Usually it's a recipe through which success becomes inevitable after a point.
Good points!
I read the bhagwat gita very late in life ..
But realised its a part of our culture of detached attachment..so its how we were raised ...do your duty and karma will do its ......never euphoric with success and never depressed with failure ( but nowadays i feel that metro families are losing that in becoming western )
I am 29 and I was slapped by mother just because I talked to her in high voice 😬 That's Indian parenting. They will not allow to deviate from ur cultural aspects at any cost😊😬
100% true . Age is not important. We always child to our mom. Even my mom also never allow to raise a voice against any elders. But I am always love my mom.
Mee too
Yup we experience that a lot.chappal amd jadu in the air😂
😜😄😄😄😄😄😄
Just one slap 🤷♂️ me might have got some sandles, jhaadu😅,......
In India we can our parents won't ask us to move out of their house when we cross 18 years, instead they support us till we are financially stable. Even after that(after getting married also) most of us prefer staying with parents unless we have to move to other cities. This helps us to be more composed on our goals. This also helps kids as they learn a lot from their grandparents and their experience and not only on their parents.
Yo, Edward Norton! Just discovered your channel again. I had watched the other video from you last year (Why Indians are so successful in US) and gotta tell you, man; You're one of the few western people who genuinely love India. Not just for food but for the soul of the culture itself. I'm glad I discovered you again. I wish I could've met you but that is not possible because of the hell I'm going through these days. I wish you all the happiness, blessings and peace in the world, for you and your family and friends. You're a good man. Good luck on the journey of life, brother.
The financial facts are on point! I'm 16, I'm using an 8 year old laptop and am totally fine with it! I never demand anything from my parents and usually avoid things which are expensive. A normal teen in the US would be exactly opposite.
Interesting fact :-
From One side -> Indian parent are strict.
From Another side -> Indian parent are the most Emotional parent toward his children , didn't let her children alone anytime and anywhere ( except school and coaching institution)
In fact Indian parents sacrifice her whole life in forming her child's life making him a good person .
Awesome video thanks for sharing. Cool efforts, awesome channel
I am from IIT Kharagpur and the acceptance rate of IITs depends on the branch of engineering and the university. The top 4 IITs have acceptance rate of less than 0.2% in the top branches. At worst Computer Science at IIT Bombay and Delhi has acceptance rate less than of 0.01%. Now let that sink in.
Some people calculate it wrong because they consider all IITs as one institute, and the admission process is very different; you can't send application to one institute instead there's a joint entrance exam (IIT JEE Advanced) that you can take only if you qualify in another exam called JEE Mains.
The reason that IITs are ranked lower because these ranking parameters are biased towards Western Institutions. They give a lot of significance to international students and faculty that the IITs don't have enough because there's already so much competition and the foreigners find it extremely difficult to qualify the entrance exams.
Even after that QS world ranking has ranked IIT Bombay, Delhi and IISC Bangalore in the 170-200 range.
Yes you're right about Indian parents being strict... my parents were very strict when I was a little kid. I used to be so fearful to confess to my mom that I lost a pencil or an eraser at school. I was not allowed to hang out even with my friends till completing school education. I was not allowed to travel with friends till I got married 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Strictly No dating allowed. Had an arranged marriage but was allowed to choose the groom under "their arrangement" 🤣🤣🤣🤣 indian parents are more advanced than all dating apps put together because their background verification process is very robust 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
But I thank them for how they raised me. I have a great life 👍👍👍
Great video. Indians work hard. Kudos to Americans for giving us a fair chance and opportunities.
My kids used to tremble when they got less grades. I used to teach them, sit with them everyday for homework and ask question before exams. Education is a basic need even before food in our household . If you do well you treated royally if not God help you. Now my kids are doing very well. I chose my son’s wife and my daughter’s husband. All are very happy, including me😀 They are loving and caring and respectful towards us.
And I seriously thought, here we go again, another foreigner reviewing OMG colours and OMG flavours and OMG smells and whatnot. Glad that you're giving out some real content. Subscribed! :)
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Nice video sir !
You are right, family environment has big impact in stable life, regardless of how much money you make. Our parents and in laws are always there for us and they discipline our kids and support them emotionally. Because of which, we can go out and do good at our jobs and business not thinking much about home. You can trust your family with your kids than any daycare or nanny. You are sure that they will pass the same values to your kids that you grew up with. I also think culture plays biggest role. There is social pressure to do better in life as we grow older. If we are not constantly climbing up the ladder, (unless you are already at the top like Sundar Pichai) people assume that something is wrong with us.
Two more reasons I will mention here from my personal experience:
1. Fear of failing: More than drive to succeed, I personally feel many of us are much afraid of failing. This leads to push ourselves more and eventually succeed. I have so many friends who were not serious during 1st and 2nd year but worked so hard during placement years that they were top scorers. I was like that in some way also. Most of us are in good positions now.
2. Jugaad: I find this quality of us very intriguing. I believe that all of our country folks have atleast bits-n-pieces of this quality and make their way out. I have seen so many off-the-shelf ideas or solutions during my life in so many fields. Jugaad leads to curiosity, innovation and provides flexibility also. Many of us Indians are lazy and procrastinate a lot like me. But still somehow always able to finish before the deadline. I am not saying this is a good thing and I myself wants to improve myself as the pressure during deadlines is quite high. But I think this Jugaad helps in thriving in big companies in technical roles.
Bill Gates - 'I choose a lazy person to do a hard job. Because a lazy person will find an easy way to do it.'
English speaking skills gives india an edge.
I think Indians are really motivated to make their lifestyle better. That is the reason they work so hard, and in the end achieve it too!
Coal passes though Intense Heat and Pressure to become Diamond, similarly if you wanted to become Successful in life you also have to passes from intence challenge, problem and etc etc
That heat and pressure to become diamond (or successful) in life is provided by our Parents and society.
Cool analogy!
I agree with you...a family is like the basic ingredient a child needs to grow and be what he's been designed to be and hence strong values are hardwired and once you're on your own you know what to do...you don't need to look around
My mom allows me to date in college but I don't think I would be until I make a career for myself.
While our family values are great and all, there are some problems too. In our culture, we are taught to idolize our parents, and always respect our elders, even if they are wrong. Our opinions are sometimes not listened to or respected. Also parents sometimes mentally torment their kid and even if they know that, they are unwilling to change. Our family system is really nice but I feel that communication and mutual respect should be promoted more. Luckily times are changing, more parents are willing to listen to their kids and developing healthier relationships.
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I enjoyed the video...
I'm an Indian student currently living in India...and I can relate with the Competition and hardwork point very much...
Indians is huge diverse group and few things I think are:
1) best minds from India study in USA and later get jobs. (Access to money is also one factor here)
2) Others move directly via work visas and they may not be best minds but yes good ones.
3) Indians are bound by Hinduism not just as religion but as philosophy and so values from Hinduism are part of families. Values like respect towards everything on earth guide Indians, so you will see Indians praying to multiple life forms or non life forms like books, animals, humans etc as respect for others keeps them grounded. Another value is Karma that means action, so keep on doing action and for student action is studying and so on. Another value is family life and high importance to same. Spend wisely, dress wisely. And many other values like hygiene, cleaniless , home cooked fresh food, majorly vegetarian food. etc etc. Even most non vegetarian Indians may not eat all four meals and all 7 days non veg, that keeps anger and laziness little less. Exceptions are always there but majorly these are like guidelines for life and many follow it and one way or other they impact other areas of life.
Good points
Your editing man. 1:44 i started reading comments bootom to top thanks to your editing skill.
Indian Parents- always instilling ambitions since birth.😁
You have not seen the world yet.
@@phoenixj1299 true' even u can take me I have not seen own city properly
@@hansvonmeinstien3660 Sure. Before that I should take u to a hospital.
@@phoenixj1299 for that I don't need to go for hospital I do mediation
@@phoenixj1299 I don't take tension much
family always be the mojor factor influencing you and your perspective for things. One can say indian parents are strict, but they also give you mental and psychological support and most importantly they give you reality check from time to time about your limits.
Es bande ne to humri sare razz bata deye sucess k . 😂😂😂
@Zohran that's what I want to say. Sundar pichai ko google ka counterparts banane chahia the
Am from Trinidad🇹🇹💕🌹south America I LOVE INDIA🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳🙏🙏🙏🌺🌺
When we go to other countries we donot always have our families there.....most of times we go alone....so family influence is not major factor in successful Indians. It is ....no matter what.... we have to give our best....its attitude, ownership and dedication towards work.....it is teached to us that work is worship. So you see religious aspects in our work also.
Good point about the religious aspects!
I wonder if family would influence them before they went, getting their education and preparing to go and wouldn't family also influence your habits, even if you are alone? I am alone here but I know my family influenced me.
@@bjenks I second that.... It is the upbringing that influences a person and cumulative effect of family during childhood and formative rather than family 's presence during a particular point in time esp when u are working .... The effect stays on....
@@bjenks yes....agreed.....for indians family is the first support to shape our life....then our teachers and gurus....then friends and relatives including neighbors. Our social and religious fabric is very strong which shapes our life to success and happiness. Be patient and tolerate people and conditions, do hard and smart work. Have long term goals in mind as we live 70 ...80 yrs....and be successful is mantra.
Family has a huge influence in childhood which makes children living in larger families more likely to succeed
Nice video. Sound tech could be better. You are a gentle soul. No wonder you can appreciate the Indian point of view. Have to say the comments are exhaustive. So my two bits is...keep them coming (sorry, three bits😅😅).
"No dating until 25" Was that compliment or Sarcasm 😜
It was a quote from some of the commenters on the last video
That’s not true
Just because a couple is married and is in a joint family it does not mean that they are in a stable family. Some of these joint families are extremely toxic.
Thank you. Toxic, overbearing attitude and generational trauma - all repressed for whatever reason. This sort of parenting isn’t healthy. What is the point of having the tag of being successful when you are miserable.
Wow a different view.
I think you have some memories 😂
Totally agree 👍
It's just because of the ego
Learning about indian culture where everything is engineered to make sense like cleaning after themselves that most cultures don't do. Also india is one of the oldest countries in the world where they know how things work
For all your points the one that was missed is Sanatana Dharama, the one that is the fountain head for all the points you mentioned. Its a way of life that our forefathers thought would be in our best interest.
I am in final year of graduation.
And I have to explain each cent of my pocket money how I spent it all😂. So I kept a book and I will write everything at night that how I spent money. And then I will show them at the end of the month. Then I will get pocket money for next month 😂😂😂. And ofcourse I added some false value when it was needed 😌😌.
And that is how parents also inadvertantly teach us over invoicing, and under valuing 😜😂😂
Smart I try to do that as well. Also adding false value sometimes :)
This guy loves India and Indians love him
It is the Indian Hindus that excelled in the US
Friend, thank you very much, and Indians are best contributors for social services
I like your screen saver "chai" and very nice video
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Proud to be Indian 🙏🏻
Jai Hind 🇮🇳
Yeah I think that's a great point that the group of Indians who come to USA have already been through a lot and they're the best from the country.
For example, we need to get very high score on class 10th board exam to get science. After that for class 12th exam we need to have a very high score to get to a decent college (~900K students take the class 12th exam from West Bengal and there is only 300-400K seats in the college) and getting into a good Indian Institute is a whole different story. People who get into IIT,IISER,IISc,NIT they're THE BEST from India who eventually go to USA for jobs or higher studies.
Thanks for the details about the education!
The strength of Indian education is mainly in school education (upto 12th grade). College education at Bachelors level is fine in India but at post-graduate level is probably better in the US. Once you've been seasoned and trained in the Indian schooling system, you're prepared for life no matter where you go after that.
Even in india(not shifted to US)...there are many people who have gone from rags to riches with a very tough journey.
1) Parents are involved in their childrens study, higher education gives high social respect.
2.) hard working.
3.) good in english.
4.) humble
Indians go outside and work there contribute to their economy
Where Chinese came back to their nation and contribute to their own country i.e it's china is now the top
It's not good for india
But what can i do , when i put myself in that situation i always choose to work in a foreign country and my 99.9% friends too 😭😭😭😭
But one day it will change
India's economy is growing so we will see about future!
I am one like you (living away) but I see that India grew in spite of me not being there (I didn’t send money to India in any significant way either)! So the economic growth is all mostly due to people who live in India but with the caveat that opportunities to earn came also from outside India (at least at some crucial times like Y2K and I am told even at COVID times )! So to some small extent I believe I did help India.
11:05 Those rankings are heavily based on research papers published by universities, amenities in the campus and perception among scientists. Top universities in India are engineering colleges with main focus on technology. They don't have much research papers since research is not even their main focus, they don't have amenities nearly as good as heavily funded universities of US, and about perception among scientists? There are very few scientists who graduate out of IIT's and Phd is an afterthought.
That's the reason why even though IISc isn't nearly as good as IIT's when it comes to monetary success of the students, it ranked higher since it is a research institute that published a lot of papers and University of Delhi ranked high due to it being a aggregate of gigantic campuses with more than 100,000 students.
Check employability rankings of universities to get a better picture.
Edit: International exposure is also a must. They also weigh in the percentage of international students in the university. The only way international students can enter IIT's is through student exchange programs since it is highly unlikely any foreign student gets selected through JEE with such a heavy competition.
Thanks Ritwik, interesting good points
Please know that indians are smart not because of the education system but they are smart "despite" the education system in India 👆👆👆
Yeah it 100 true
Great work
This is my elder brother's mobile phone he just got it this year when he cleared NEET entrance exam tilll then he didn't had one...so definitely Indian parents are strict
Not every parents, many students are opting for online classes for that parents buy expensive phones knowing that smart phones are destructive. Parents in india are not strict .
He did not have one
Omg amazing, all things is correct , nice analysis brother 🤪👍👌👌👌
Three generations are living harmoniously in our affluent neighborhood and it is very very common, unless you got to study or got a job in another town/city they don't move out Best to co exist with loved ones for financial and moral support 🙄😉😁
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@Alec Alberti It appears to be working well. Love and relationships are tough so any help is good
You've really made unbiased good content! And God your book collection is brilliant.
Yes becz Indians know that work( karma) is the only thing ,why we are on earth, emotions necessary but when it imbalances it can finish you.
@Alec Alberti I can't give you the answer of your question in one line... I hope you have time to read.
First it does not happen in Indian, only bcz of our parents and cultural structure.
And second, if we have to marry, it necessary to be a successful and capable person first. And if you are successful you have no need to ask anyone.
And third suppose for some reason you couldn't be a successful man then, your parents and society help, to find some one which is according to you.
That's why Indian marriages is more successful.
And this whole process is not a forceful decision of our parents.
We just have a different culture, we involve our parents in this not only parents our whole relatives involve in our marriage. Just bcz we are not self centric..
Absolutely correct.
Im an Indian parent aan i agree we are strict. I stayed on 2/3 different countries because of my husbands job. But once children entered primary education we have decided to stay in obe place so they can good education. My husbaf took job in uk as a design engineer in GE in uk. Uncertainty always lingered. One fine day it was golden shake hand and pink slip as GE closed its business in uk. Then Siemens. So we always ot indian text books specially math and science and made them learn at home(if in case we need to go back to india then its easier for kids to catch up with curiculam there)and to face any competitive exams.
We wete pushy. Made them do uk maths and also indian text books. Same with science ICSE science quite demanding.
At the same time along with two languages of uk syllubus we taught oir mother tongue(both read and write).
They both took alm the pressure did pretty well. Entered good universities.
Older in cambridge(theorotical chemistry later did computer science) younger in Glasgow(final medicine). Both were in uni badminton team and 1st cricket team.
I think being strict paves way to better future. Dont you agree
You have not mentioned the value system
Indian parents teach the kids right from wrong from the very young age
Respect for teachers
Respect for elders
Respect from the heritage ,where we come from is
What makes Indians different from others
Thanks
Regards
Great watch
We Gujarati feel proud when someone call us cheap. Being smart with money is in our blood.
3:00 No matter what Family comes first 😍😍😍proud to be Indian
At the age of 26 I realised that all compatible girls were taken. None is waiting for me 😭
@THE ZOLDICS girls tell that they need a good boyfriend
Just focus on your goals. Forget that girl nuisance
Sir Benjamin h've a nice day I bow you with LOVE & RESPECT.
When i finally got a job, after trying hard and failing to be an entrepreneur, my father said, "so now your being paid as a labour", I understand his intention was that, i was being paid in cash at the end of the month and the company I worked for is a start-up 🤷🏻♂️, but never the less hurts, but also made me realise that i just had to reach higher standards which he set for me...
Damn that's huge amount of work..you need a sub..done..thanks to thinking Nash who introduced you
I think a very important point that you overlooked when comparing India to China and Indonesia is that India was colonised for so long, English has become more of a secondary and even primary language. Almost everyone understands it and most can speak and write in it fluently. That contributes to the employability of Indians over Japanese, Chinese and other Asians in general. That said, Philippines too has similar language stats but the population, competition based selection and generic mass mentality of putting additional effort is something that's missing.