I am suffering from no working memory. 😂 Sometimes I don't know why I am in the kitchen or in the backyard. I have to go back to the home office room and suddenly I remember why I left the room.
That happens to me too often!. I get so mad!. I go to one part of the room to remember something and then I go to the new room and I completely don't remember why I'm there.!. 😂
What you said resonates with me. It's so frustrating. Oftentimes I find retracing my steps to where I came from will jog my memory. As in, what was I thinking about over there before I came walking over here with intent. Doing this usually works 😁
1. Use your senses 3:14 2. Visualizing 3:45 3. Smell and taste 4:08 4. Sense of touch 4:58 5. Cognitive offloading 5:19 6. Routines and structures 5:45
This is exactly what I've been going through, and couldn't explain to anyone. I could be doing something and stop to walk into another room and forget what I was doing and start doing something else. It's frustrating to both myself and my partner, so this video is coming out right on time. Maybe I need to get tested for ADHD? But being an adult, I wouldn't even know where to start.
I’ve been watching Dr. Tracy’s videos for a while now. So many topics resonate with me, as a person working on recovering from cPTSD with ADD and anxiety. She helps me understand myself, explains why I am the way I am and how I can overcome. I can’t express my gratitude enough!
Very ironically, people with genuine ADHD are heavily drawn to the stimulation of the internet, videos, social media... whilst at the same time the Information Overload of the always-online modern day is giving normies ADHD-like symptoms and possibly even 'Digital Dementia'. It's going to take professionals quite some time to get used to this reality and diagnose people accordingly. Me? Through to final stage of Autism evaluation, final assessment due in about 6 months. Several friends with diagnosed ADHD say I need to get that checked out. I find many parallels with them, and Jessica McCabe of the How to ADHD channel, and also better ways of thinking combined with practical solutions to deal with associated problems on her channel. PTSD, possibly cPTSD. A lot has happened. On bad days, I feel like I don't belong anywhere and never will fit in anywhere. On better days, I realise, well if I don't fit in anywhere, that means I'm free to flit wherever I like and do what I like within reason! If people don't like me, I have a trusted few I check: AITA? If not, they're not worth even remembering, let alone experiencing any negative emotion over whatsoever. My mental health has already dramatically improved thanks to others I'll recommend. Recently came across this channel and feel like I'm getting the final pieces I need to be my best self! General recommendations: Carol Dweck's Growth 'Mindset' book, latest editions. Learning about Cognitive Biases and Logical Fallacies. Writer Mark Manson is great but often too harsh for the very sensitive. His video on the Attention Diet is very relevant for this video though. Else for Anxiety / Panic or feeling inferior, Mark Tyrrell of Uncommon Knowledge UK has some great vids regarding those.
This is exactly what I needed today. My working memory is terrible and my job is switching a bit so I need to learn a bunch of new things. Off I go to purchase some rosemary.
I was thinking about that, I'd like to remember what I'm reading much better, I've been on the internet waaay too much the last two years. I've got rosemary in the garden, I'm going to try playing with a cutting of it while I read and see what effect that has. I'm an older, now retired ADHDer and I'd like to read all those books I've piled up and learn those hobbies I set back for "when I have time" over the years. We'll see.
I haven't even gotten ADHD diagnosed but this is my lived experience. I feel seen in this video. It feels amazing to finally understand what might be happening inside my head a bit better. I have been using checklists for almost 20 years!
Two yrs ago I quit working full time to be a caregiver for my 93 yr old father. This stress has caused an unbelievable amount of memory loss. I'm not hearing my friends conversations for what they are truly saying. They ask me if I'm really listening, which I'm trying to. I can't remember people's names after being immediately introduced. It's awful 😢
Imagine what this was doing to families before there was social security and medicare ... and there still is no real elder care in much of the country.
@@justgivemethetruth And Medicare doesn't cover nursing home or caregiver costs, so you're on your own until you're bankrupt, at which point (and only then) you can get on Medicaid. 😕
Switching from working full time to being a family carer 6 years ago had a massive immediate impact on my working memory, so I totally relate. It is still the biggest challenge I face day to day.
I have ADHD and this is all so true! 1. We can forget even VERY important things if they are not on our minds when they need to be, like birthdays, a loved one having surgery, and appointments. It doesn't mean we don't love you, and we feel like crap/an idiot when it happens. 2. I have sticky notes everywhere, reminding me of this and that. I've tried using my phone, but now I understand I have to have that tactile sensation of writing to help me remember. Technology works for some people with ADHD, but not me...it's too "out there" for lack of a better word I can't remember right now... 3. To do lists are emensely helpful! I've learned that writing too much stuff to do can be overwhelming and shut me down, however. Better to write 2 or 3 things down and feel good when you accomplish them. 4. Many times I leave objects out or even lights on to remind me to do something. For example, I leave the utility room light on to remind me I have the dryer running and I'll need to fold the clothes later when it stops. Or leave mail out to remind me to pay a bill. On my phone, I'll leave my email open to remind me I have to write someone back... God forbid I close it, because I will forget! Out of sight, out of mind is my mantra, lol! This leads to many organizational challenges! 5. Edit: I thought of something else... I have to buy a purse that has at least two pockets in the front, one for my phone, and one for my keys, and that is where they always go back to, or I will forget them! Ok, that's all I can remember for now... and I'm late for my dentist appointment... Edit: Hey, I made it by 5 minutes after... not too bad!
love everything you touched on here!! can’t tell you how validating it is to know that others unknowingly forget significant dates/events of those that are important to us & deal with the guilt that ensues. I’ve struggled with feeling like it’s a lack of care.. like I would remember it if I thought about it more, this reinforcing it my memory. think that’s something I’ll work through!
@@littlovepocket Thank you! Yes, forgetting important dates is a horrible feeling, and I'm sure it makes our loved ones wonder if we really care. =( Part of my problem is just bad organization. I have some birthdays written down here, and some anniversaries written down there... I write down appointments in my calendar in my purse, but if I don't transfer them to the big calendar I look at most days, they are forgotten. I have this paper (somewhere!) that has all the months on it, and each month has several blank lines beneath it to write down important yearly occasions like birthdays for that month. It would be merely a glance at it to know any special occasions coming up for the month, but I just haven't written them down! If I could only get myself organized enough to find the dates and the paper and get them together! Once I do that, I could get in the habit of checking it often, as it's something I can leave displayed out on my desktop... er, after I get that cleared off... =/
Yeah, I have the same problem, and it's frustrating. I will conscientiously and diligently remember an important date that's coming up... right up until the actual date, and THEN I'll forget it at the last moment! Like running the ball all the way down the field and dropping it on the one yard line! Arrrgh! 😠
@@Milesco Oh, I hear that! For over a week, I'll keep telling myself my sister's birthday is next tuesday...this tuesday....in 3 days....thursday......then, someone will say it's Friday. I'll think it's Weds or Thursday! Then, I remember my sister's birthday WAS yesterday! It's terrible. But, I can't help it. 😬
I've had low working memory my whole life. This is me 100%. (except I'm congenitaly anosmic.) But I've never had someone that could explain it so clearly. Thank you!
This is very relatable, as an ADHD adult. As I watched the video, 2 other things came to mind. One of them is to use a silly learning/remembering trick if you can come up with one. Also, I find that writing out reminders in question form helps. I'm inclined to think that's because the question prompts me to think about it.
I use the silly remembering things (called mnenomic devices) to give otherwise fairly random things better context, to more easily prompt me to remember.
Obviously, I can't speak for all people, only for myself. The more I use my mind, the less forgetful I am. I'm always asking myself questions inside my mind, always thinking, finding new things to learn. Keeping it fresh, changing things up. Even rearranging my home furniture regularly, keeps me thinking, keeps life fresh.
My memory is horrible when I’m under stress. Recently, I got a job at a restaurant and on my first day I kept forgetting literally anything. But everything in this video applies to me.
I can relate to this video so much. I have told ppl that I have poor working memory for years but never looked into it. In my early 20’s, I tried to be a waitress at a restaurant that required us to take orders w/o writing them down and had to quit by day 3. I suspect that I have ADHD (inattentive). I’ve been using so many strategies that are suggested for ppl with these issues and never knew it.
A month ago I ended up with painful tendonitis, which limited my mobility, sleep, activities and socialization with others. In an effort to remain positive, focused and motivated I turned to TH-cam and discovered your videos. They are so interesting, informative and helpful in addition to being entertaining and have given me a lot of food for thought! Thank you so much, Dr. Marks!
I was struggling a lot with "being lazy" or "disorganized", tried to fight with it on better days, but then i just forget... It is/was source of shame and angry toward myself and i feel "defected".... Later i circled around ADHD and other problems in connection with other symptoms, better i even read about forgetfullness but i connected it mostly with social interactions or birthdays etc., just now i listening to you i finally looked at that angle... maybe beacuse some years ago i stopped trying to fight and even strated to fully (ab)use of labels wich i was given by people. PDD officaly diagnosed some years ago (but i suppose it is inborn condition) surely "helped" to keep this viscous cycle.
I have a lot of difficulty with knowing if the memory i have is an actual memory, a dream, or something i was thinking about doing or thought about happening. This happens especially with repeated daily tasks like brushing teeth, eating, and drinking water. I used to have a lot of difficulty with taking medication properly and was always scared about over medicating without meaning to. I would have my specific time for taking them, but if i got distracted or even if i didnt get distracted, i would forget if i actually did take them when i was supposed to and be worried if i should take them again or not because i had to take it every day.
Dealing with perimenopause at age 35 has given tons of brainfog that make me feel like I have mild alzheimer's so this video lets me know that I can still thrive and not feel like a complete idiot for however long I have to deal with this condition. Thank you so much Tracey Marks! This video was very helpful ^_^
I just am so appreciative to the people like Dr Tracy who study these things , I’m constantly feeling like a moron for forgetting or asking someone the same thing several times , or feeling anxiety when someone says “remember when I told you xyz” but knowing there’s a reason for it makes me feel better and gives me hope .
Useful tips to use our 5 senses! Gonna practice them to improve my adhd working memory. I always look forward to your weekly amazing videos - Thanks heaps, Dr Marks
I can’t recall yesterday, last week or even most of last year…🤦🏼♀️ I can recall my grammar school teacher’s names and most every thing else before the last 40 or so years. Things done repetitively have stayed with me, like driving a vehicle, sewing clothes, feeding my house pumas…💁🏼♀️
I find that i naturally associate my thoughts with what is going on around me subconsciously, such that i have adapted to retracing my steps on a walk or rewinding a video a few seconds to see if what i was hearing or seeing at the time can remind me of the thought i was thinking in that moment.
I was recently diagnosed ADHD, and helpful things for me have been using to-do lists on my phone with daily alarms that go off 3x a day reminding me to look at my list and/or add stuff to it. Combined with putting literally every event in the calendar, this has helped me to have some semblance of productivity. Another big help was just realizing and coming to grips with how frail and fickle my memory was. I have to use notes as a prosthesis for my memory in the same way an amputee relies on a prosthetic limb. Medication is starting to help with the motivation and reluctance to start the stuff on my list in addition to getting my wife educated and trying to create a lot of structure and routine in my life.
This is my experience from head injuries. One thing I do is when I go to a store I always park in a certain part of the parking lot. Especially if it’s a big store. I’ve lost my car so many times you wouldn’t even believe it. So this really helps.
My Achilles heel with working from home is being surrounded by environmental cues that wipe my brain like an Etchasketch. I can make all the to do lists in the world, but I'm constantly getting reminded of other things that need doing. I find that I can't focus on anything else until they're no longer sending signals, but that can take all day. The other day I came out of the bathroom and couldn't remember if I had peed or just brushed my teeth. I'm only 30 and am concerned by how fried my working memory has gotten in the last year alone.
That’s why I immediately know that visualizing things I need to remember wouldn’t be good for me. It’d totally be my type to forget that it’s not a real memory and think I’ve already done it.
@@paul1993willy bingo! Same with multi tasking. If I read an email while eating a sandwich, I imagine I replied but my hands are busy, so I go on to read the next one and never reply to the first. I feel less crazy seeing you have the same experience.
I couldn’t work from home… it was torture. Then I moved in with my boyfriend and thought it would be better at his quiet house but the dogs made me crazy. I scrapped my own business, I’m happier recognizing my limits.
My biggest issue, socially, is having to remind people that I care. The second biggest is staying on track toward my goals when every distraction can derail me over and over until I'm on paths I don't value at all. As an adult with adhd I've learned that I can't rely on my memory at all. And it's worse now because of covid! I'd be lost if I didn't have my phone with all the assistive tech in it.
I’ve been professionally screened for NDs, my working memory is in the borderline. This video is my life lol. I have about 50 alarms on my phone for random reminders 😂 I remember visual and audio better. I tend to repeat something in my mind, then write it down. Then say it to myself then set an alarm. I forget everything it’s a nightmare.
Another great video, Dr. Marks. Personally I've found great relief from this problem by keeping things in the same place every time, developing routines, and using to-do lists. I also label drawers and boxes. It takes some practice to get in the habit of doing these things but it's achievable. I think it's also important to stay flexible with your routine (open to changes and surprises) and especially to be patient with yourself. In the past I would have a strong influx of negative thinking about myself when I would make mistakes or lose things. That only compounds the problem. So having healthy routines, keeping things in the same place, and staying patient with yourself have been the right combination for me. Thank you again for the great advice.
I have found the same. I still get pretty thrown off if my routine has to change though... that's when I make mistakes. I'm not a big fan of plastic either, so I try to use seagrass or wicker baskets (and use labels like you said) where I can.
@@SweetStuffOnMonarchLane Yes, that's one downside to having a dependable routine. I liken it to walking through the house at night during a power outage. It's fine if everything is where it belongs but you can stumble if one thing is out of place. For that reason I will slow things down a bit until I can adjust. For example, I got my 2 dogs fixed a couple weeks ago and they had to wear those cones for a couple weeks. That really threw us off our daily routine. It was difficult but I had to stay patient with them and myself. We made adjustments while minimizing how much we did every day since I had to figure out our new routine. Now they have their cones off and we're trying to get back to the old routine which is also taking time but those small adjustments are healthy for the brain plasticity, I think. At least that's my bright-side view of it. Good luck and thanks for sharing.
I'm almost 54, diagnosed with ADHD Inattentive type at 48. I've always had a terrible memory, but the last couple years of stress has really done a number on me. I think it would help us to work on the inputting part of memory making... like really taking information in with all of our senses, like she said. Get out and be around people again, take walks in nature. We're all too stressed out over things we have no control over.
I can't believe what doc says about using senses makes me realize that I've been using it in my entire life. I can't keep up in school using my memory without visualizing or hearing my teachers voice or my classmates saying it to me. But in terms of problem solving my memory is very low at all. I can comprehend but it seems like my brain just eject it later. I mean we all probably experienced this HAHAHAH
you know you've got major problems with your working memory when its barely a 7 minute video (on working memory) and you're already zoned out halfway through
I just want to say that multitasking whether at work or at home makes it even worst. I’m the queen of daily journal and list on pads of paper. 😁 I’m called the queen of sticky notes but I need it to remind me. And yes I’m still old school and write things down in my work journal it helps me remember.
Great video... This affects me all day everyday. I try to make lists all the time Things to do Things to get Monthly bills to pay At workI type what customers twll me and I make a joke that I talk to myself because i seriously do. I've gotten better about putting keys, purse, phone, glasses ALWAYS un the same spot. Same with my credit cards and cash
I have major executive function issues. So I hope I remember go come back and watch this and take notes. But I have to go fix my car skylight before I forget for another 5 months. I always forget to fix the leak.
That was a great video. As a student I used to have a hard time to focus at school or at home when I was doing my homework. I was a great student though by putting so much effort. I was studying till 1 am.. and I was only 12. Things got better as I grew older but still facing attention issues.
@elektra_7 this is literally me too! I used to study a lot and scored good grades all throughout my academic years. Like you mentioned, I wouldn't be able to pay attention in class as well especially if the subject is boring. All subjects were boring to me except maths. Now as life is getting more and more difficult as I'm getting older, my inattentiveness and poor working memory is making me incompetent. I will be seeing a psychiatrist soon. Let's see how it goes.
I read somewhere a researcher discovered that going through doors has a mental map effect on memory, leading to forgetting. Keep this in mind, unless you go through a door and forget it.
This is so me, and wow I’ve already been doing some of these helpful tips before seeing them here. This video has helped me learn more about myself and what additional tips to implement. Thank you !
This was a really insightful video. One of your tips were to visualize a task to bring it to life more. What about people with aphantasia, the inability to visualize at all. I also was born without the sense of smell, so I am looking for creative ways to increase my working memory. Thank you for your videos and your time!
Oh my goodness, this sounds like me on every level! It was milder when I was growing up, but as I got older and started dealing with the stress of emotional abuse in my marriage, hormonal imbalances, a mild traumatic brain injury from an auto accident, then the death of my husband and finding out I'd be living on significantly less money to where I'd have to give up most of the things that had always been important to me, it became much worse. I knew I needed (and am getting) therapy for the stress/abuse issues. Looks like I'll want to look into help for possible ADD as well. (I'm definitely not hyperactive!)
Beautiful and truly remarkable person. A smart and inteligent lady with a huge sense of respect and confidence. Thanks for it (first video). I have subscribed straight away. On the other hand, I did have had ADHD in my childhood and now at 37 I recognise that I have a very narrow or limited working memory, but a huge capacity to the permanent memory. When something gets important I cannot forget it for life, but small tasks or what I did yesterday or half an hour ago, I always forget.
I found my working memory got really bad in my late teens/early 20s. It has gotten better over the years as basic adult tasks become more second nature, and I can use my brain power for things that aren'tjust necessary for survival. I attribute the spotty memory of that time to being very stressed about entering young adulthood, and having more on my plate than ever before (and probably drinking too much 😅)
this is a huge problem for me! my boyfriend and his brother have AMAZING memories and they'll make references to tv shows, movies, etc. in 99% of our conversations and i never understand what they're talking about even when i've seen the shows and movies they're referencing. having to ask for clarification over and over again makes me feel so incompetent :// i've expressed this to my boyfriend because i don't want him to think that i don't care about his interests, because i do! it's just that i can barely remember what i did five minutes ago, let alone a movie i watched late at night three months ago. luckily, he's very understanding and doesn't mind having to clarify things for me.
I used to have a great memory, but I've also had immense anxiety for years. Since I had a breakdown and started taking meds 2 years ago, my memory has gotten worse and now it's really hard for me to function. I act like a different person: I'm constantly late, forget about deadlines, lose stuff all the time etc. Watching a 7 minute video was too much for me due to the poor concentration and forgetfulness. I've been diagnosed with GAD and depression, and I take duloxetine and bupropion. Bupropion actually changed my life, I'm no loger apathetic and numb, but it didn't affect my executive functions. My doctor says that my memory should be getting better on stimulants and blaims it on anxiety but... I don't have any symptoms and I feel overall relaxed. I have some residual symptoms of depression, but I feel confident about managing them. I started to suspect that I may have ADHD, but I used to be very well organized and I was a perfect student. I heard about the inattentive type and I see a lot of similiarities to my situation, but it doesn't make sense why those symptoms would be hidden for such a long time (I'm 22F)!
Using the other senses to help working memory reminds me how whenever I take my meds, I'll say "I am taking my meds on [weekday]" so I remember that I just took them. It's such a quick thing that my memory will just immediately dump it after I do it, so I'll forget if I took them or not. But if I say it out loud, I'll remember hearing myself say it. This probably works for other things too, and I suspect one of the reasons ADHD and autistic kids will often talk to themselves and self-narrate. (Speaking as someone who also has ADHD and on the spectrum.)
Dear Dr. Marks, I love your outfit and hairstyle 😍🥰 ... This is interesting and timely at same time. There are studys that prove Ceylon cinnamon as well as rosemary herb are excellent for restoring memory.
My youngest daughter is 12 and she has a slow processing speed and issues with her working memory. She has done so much better since we homeschooled but it can still be hard and I constantly worry about her.
I grew up like your daughter with slow processing speed and memory issues (was diagnosed with ADHD since childhood and unmedicated). I learned to do what others did in a way that works for me. Made it through university and got accepted into grad school. People around me even call me smart, although I really don't feel that way most of the time! It's a constant fight to feel present with the rest of the world and i dont think thats ever fully going away for me but hopefully she will one day develop the skills to set herself up in a good spot. Best of luck.
I don't forget what the other person was saying, as much as I can't remember what I was going to say!! I get diverted on the way there and forget my main point :(
I'm afraid someday I will forget all my passwords, not sure if they're in my working memory or my long term memory, or who knows where. Thanks for the explanation! I'll make sure to remember watching recommended videos...
Despite what many think, writing passwords down on a piece of paper isn't a terrible idea sometimes. The key is to not make it easy for any wrongdoers and so, not leave it obvious which account they are for. Or if you must, leave them written in a very secure strongbox / safe. Else, if someone has successfully managed to get access to your devices whilst you aren't home, it doesn't really matter if you've bits of paper with passwords on or not. Once someone physically has your computer, if they have skills, they can break in regardless. Therefore in the event of a burglary, immediately secure your financial and personal identity details, social medias etc by contacting those relevant, and primary email account, too.
When I first started my job, I was constantly checking my e-mails because the idea of having unread messages in my Outlook inbox was making me nervous. So... I could forget what I was doing and remembering only when my manager was reminding me of it. Now before checking my e-mails I usually finish my task. I know I'll have a sh*itload of emails in a day so I need to focus on my tasks and check my e-mails twice or three times a day... usually when I start at 8:30, at noon and before leaving at the end of the day to make sure that I didn't forget to answer any urgent time sensitive e-mail. But I will always finish the task that I started before checking something else. It helps me avoid to leave some tasks unfinished. I can also sometimes add an event in my Outlook calender just as a reminder to do something and it will trigger a pop-up that I can't miss on my screen.
Just recently went to speak to my doctor about this and we're checking for all kind of stuff that could be the cause, in the meantime I'll try using your tips, thanks doctor Tracey!
@@DrTraceyMarks I hope so, thanks! It's a bit exhausting to live that way so I finally went to do something about it. Could you let us know if you'll have more videos on improving working memory or if there are more resources on what to do do to improve it?
@@DrTraceyMarks it is something that is in perpetual work. Luckily I found a career that is logic based (code writing) and I am able to thrive. Love your videos! Keep it up!
my father at his age of 56 always misplace the things like his key and cellphone, one example is he asking me where his phone and then i notice he was holding his cellphone he asking where is his phone while he already holding the phone.
Dr Marks I have been following you on TH-cam for so long now I can’t remember how long it’s been 😂 thank you again for another great video. Your videos have been so helpful for me over the years so thanks again!!
My working memory is worse when I’m fatigued or stressed. I can forget I’ve called someone on the phone as the phone is ringing in my hand. And it’s gotten worse since catching COVID (twice).
When i visualise something like the call example, my brain consider that i've dine it already. Sometime i respond to a text in my mind and forget to actually send the reply and when i get back to it my brain is convinced that i replied! I wanted to do something in my phone now and i totally forgot what is it, instead i saw your notification and watched your video 😄 Thank you
I am thoroughly grateful for your videos, so I hope these requests don't make it seem like I'm not! You just have a wonderful way of delivering information and I appreciate hearing your take on various topics. Would you make videos discussing why it can be difficult to get your thoughts in order and take a while to express yourself during conversations? Also, why you can't force yourself to get things done (like homework), no matter how much you force yourself, and what can actually help push you to get things done?
Can working memory be improved? My working memory is extremely poor and it's taking a massive toll on my quality of life! I'm only 28 and this is no way too live!
For me the first option doesn’t work. Maybe it’s the “why “ I have memory issues, fibromyalgia,arthritis (pain), depression, PTSD, etc. But if I tried the process of doing something, I forgot I was just thinking about it and I didn’t really do it. I do that a lot! Like I said, maybe it’s the why I forget?? Love your videos!
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Hello Dr Tracy! I saw you this morning on "Good Morning Washington". Wow! Thanks for your good advice on managing anxiety.🌺 I'm diagnosed with Complex Partial seizures with memory loss from auto accidents. John's Hopkins did research on me. The Mystery...I don't know what a seizure feels like. It's on both sides of my Brain...It takes my short term memory away. I've been journaling awhile.
Doctor my memory is horrible. I have a pseudo tumor amoung other things and I figured the spinal fluid was accumulating in my skull causing the loss. This explains so much. No one believes me either
Thank you for this, the timing of this video is amazing as I have terrible working memory and have been given some tools to cope with it. This video has added to my tool box and the tips given are better than what my counsellor has suggested.
This is very interesting as are all of your videos. Your last point to create routines... I feel like this has been the problem the last couple of years. It seems like our normal routines aren't available anymore. Like when I show up to work I'm not sure if I'll be the only one there or what the day is going to look like. Even driving to work which should be routine hasn't been because of road closures. So many small little things that used to be part of our normal routine life is no longer routine. I definitely have noticed a reduction in my working memory since the pandemic
Great tips, but I find that imagining/visualizing myself doing a task can backfire spectacularly because later when I'm reviewing what I've done/need to do, or come across a reminder note I made myself, I think I've ALREADY done the task because I'm remembering thinking about/visualizing it so much that it seems like a memory more than a plan/mental note. I imagine starting my laundry so well for example that I'm shocked hours later when I go to the washing machine and find it empty and the dirty laundry still in the hamper. "But I REMEMBER doing it!"
Overall my memory is great! But I noticed when I have had a lot of stress previously and overly anxious I tend to forget things, not focus on a show and have blurred thoughts.. if that makes sense.:: how I can I help this & I struggle with anxiety
Take a look at my anxiety playlist. I have some videos that give strategies to help depression th-cam.com/play/PLazcP3-djRZ1WUZSR_MZeNMdrYMVde2_D.html Oh and how can I forget, my anxiety book has a ton of suggestions www.amazon.com/Why-Am-Anxious-Recognizing-Restoring/dp/0744057043/
@@DrTraceyMarks thank you so much for your reply! I really appreciate it and the fact that you take us serious and respond with such great feedback!💕 I will check it out!
Been fired from a lot of jobs because of this. Turns out I had fibromyalgia as a result of lupus. The subsequent four TIAs really sealed the deal. Gonna go out and get some rosemary this morning...if I don't forget.
I have never had a good memory. Even as a child. Now it’s getting worse as I age. I am now a team leader of five staff and it’s so difficult at work. Always trying to hide my real self. They would not understand, may even hold it against me. I am in a dark place and my memory makes matters worse.
Oh man, that sense of touch memory. I have to use that so often because I'll have forgotten if I already took my medication yet that day. I'll think to myself "Did my hand feel the bottles today?" It's like.. you can remember the sensation or amount of pressure and how long ago it was. But even then, I may not remember...
I am suffering from no working memory. 😂 Sometimes I don't know why I am in the kitchen or in the backyard. I have to go back to the home office room and suddenly I remember why I left the room.
I've done that too when I've got too much on my mind. Very frustrating!
Same!
i do that once a day at least.
That happens to me too often!. I get so mad!. I go to one part of the room to remember something and then I go to the new room and I completely don't remember why I'm there.!. 😂
What you said resonates with me.
It's so frustrating. Oftentimes I find retracing my steps to where I came from will jog my memory. As in, what was I thinking about over there before I came walking over here with intent.
Doing this usually works 😁
1. Use your senses 3:14
2. Visualizing 3:45
3. Smell and taste 4:08
4. Sense of touch 4:58
5. Cognitive offloading 5:19
6. Routines and structures 5:45
Forgetting is a good thing for life to go on.
This is exactly what I've been going through, and couldn't explain to anyone. I could be doing something and stop to walk into another room and forget what I was doing and start doing something else. It's frustrating to both myself and my partner, so this video is coming out right on time.
Maybe I need to get tested for ADHD? But being an adult, I wouldn't even know where to start.
A good place to start would be to talk to your primary care physician about it. You can also talk to a therapist who can assess you for ADHD.
My life got so bad I ended up in counseling... I was shocked to find out at age 48 that I had Inattentive ADHD.
Me too! I'm constantly telling people "of all the things I've lost, I miss my mind the most!"
Check your genes and see a functional medicine doctor. You might have a mutation that you cannot process B-vitamins.
If genes are not the issue, then could need supplements or diet changes.
Just as you said “you may have even forgot what I was just saying”, you pulled my attention back to you
I’ve been watching Dr. Tracy’s videos for a while now. So many topics resonate with me, as a person working on recovering from cPTSD with ADD and anxiety. She helps me understand myself, explains why I am the way I am and how I can overcome. I can’t express my gratitude enough!
Very ironically, people with genuine ADHD are heavily drawn to the stimulation of the internet, videos, social media... whilst at the same time the Information Overload of the always-online modern day is giving normies ADHD-like symptoms and possibly even 'Digital Dementia'.
It's going to take professionals quite some time to get used to this reality and diagnose people accordingly.
Me? Through to final stage of Autism evaluation, final assessment due in about 6 months. Several friends with diagnosed ADHD say I need to get that checked out. I find many parallels with them, and Jessica McCabe of the How to ADHD channel, and also better ways of thinking combined with practical solutions to deal with associated problems on her channel.
PTSD, possibly cPTSD. A lot has happened. On bad days, I feel like I don't belong anywhere and never will fit in anywhere. On better days, I realise, well if I don't fit in anywhere, that means I'm free to flit wherever I like and do what I like within reason!
If people don't like me, I have a trusted few I check: AITA? If not, they're not worth even remembering, let alone experiencing any negative emotion over whatsoever.
My mental health has already dramatically improved thanks to others I'll recommend. Recently came across this channel and feel like I'm getting the final pieces I need to be my best self!
General recommendations: Carol Dweck's Growth 'Mindset' book, latest editions. Learning about Cognitive Biases and Logical Fallacies. Writer Mark Manson is great but often too harsh for the very sensitive. His video on the Attention Diet is very relevant for this video though. Else for Anxiety / Panic or feeling inferior, Mark Tyrrell of Uncommon Knowledge UK has some great vids regarding those.
Well said. My sentiments as well
me too
Yeppers 💕
This is exactly what I needed today. My working memory is terrible and my job is switching a bit so I need to learn a bunch of new things. Off I go to purchase some rosemary.
Best of luck! Will you let us know how it works for you after giving it some time? :)
@@littlovepocket I’ll try. If I forget to tell you, you’ll have your answer😀
I was thinking about that, I'd like to remember what I'm reading much better, I've been on the internet waaay too much the last two years. I've got rosemary in the garden, I'm going to try playing with a cutting of it while I read and see what effect that has. I'm an older, now retired ADHDer and I'd like to read all those books I've piled up and learn those hobbies I set back for "when I have time" over the years. We'll see.
@Jacqueline Kjono haha. touché!
I haven't even gotten ADHD diagnosed but this is my lived experience. I feel seen in this video. It feels amazing to finally understand what might be happening inside my head a bit better. I have been using checklists for almost 20 years!
Same! Not ADHD diagnosed either but claiming it anyway cuz every ADD video out there resonates with me so much.
@@MusicMAAD same
Same
Two yrs ago I quit working full time to be a caregiver for my 93 yr old father. This stress has caused an unbelievable amount of memory loss. I'm not hearing my friends conversations for what they are truly saying. They ask me if I'm really listening, which I'm trying to. I can't remember people's names after being immediately introduced. It's awful 😢
Imagine what this was doing to families before there was social security and medicare ... and there still is no real elder care in much of the country.
@@justgivemethetruth And Medicare doesn't cover nursing home or caregiver costs, so you're on your own until you're bankrupt, at which point (and only then) you can get on Medicaid. 😕
I take care of my 90 year old mother so I can relate - take time to pray or meditate
Switching from working full time to being a family carer 6 years ago had a massive immediate impact on my working memory, so I totally relate. It is still the biggest challenge I face day to day.
Yes! When my dad had a massive stroke, overnight I became a full-time caregiver. I became a totally different person. 😢😢😢
I have ADHD and this is all so true!
1. We can forget even VERY important things if they are not on our minds when they need to be, like birthdays, a loved one having surgery, and appointments. It doesn't mean we don't love you, and we feel like crap/an idiot when it happens.
2. I have sticky notes everywhere, reminding me of this and that. I've tried using my phone, but now I understand I have to have that tactile sensation of writing to help me remember. Technology works for some people with ADHD, but not me...it's too "out there" for lack of a better word I can't remember right now...
3. To do lists are emensely helpful! I've learned that writing too much stuff to do can be overwhelming and shut me down, however. Better to write 2 or 3 things down and feel good when you accomplish them.
4. Many times I leave objects out or even lights on to remind me to do something. For example, I leave the utility room light on to remind me I have the dryer running and I'll need to fold the clothes later when it stops. Or leave mail out to remind me to pay a bill. On my phone, I'll leave my email open to remind me I have to write someone back... God forbid I close it, because I will forget! Out of sight, out of mind is my mantra, lol! This leads to many organizational challenges!
5. Edit: I thought of something else... I have to buy a purse that has at least two pockets in the front, one for my phone, and one for my keys, and that is where they always go back to, or I will forget them!
Ok, that's all I can remember for now... and I'm late for my dentist appointment...
Edit: Hey, I made it by 5 minutes after... not too bad!
love everything you touched on here!! can’t tell you how validating it is to know that others unknowingly forget significant dates/events of those that are important to us & deal with the guilt that ensues. I’ve struggled with feeling like it’s a lack of care.. like I would remember it if I thought about it more, this reinforcing it my memory. think that’s something I’ll work through!
@@littlovepocket Thank you! Yes, forgetting important dates is a horrible feeling, and I'm sure it makes our loved ones wonder if we really care. =( Part of my problem is just bad organization. I have some birthdays written down here, and some anniversaries written down there... I write down appointments in my calendar in my purse, but if I don't transfer them to the big calendar I look at most days, they are forgotten. I have this paper (somewhere!) that has all the months on it, and each month has several blank lines beneath it to write down important yearly occasions like birthdays for that month. It would be merely a glance at it to know any special occasions coming up for the month, but I just haven't written them down! If I could only get myself organized enough to find the dates and the paper and get them together! Once I do that, I could get in the habit of checking it often, as it's something I can leave displayed out on my desktop...
er, after I get that cleared off... =/
Yeah, I have the same problem, and it's frustrating. I will conscientiously and diligently remember an important date that's coming up... right up until the actual date, and THEN I'll forget it at the last moment! Like running the ball all the way down the field and dropping it on the one yard line! Arrrgh! 😠
@@Milesco Oh, I hear that! For over a week, I'll keep telling myself my sister's birthday is next tuesday...this tuesday....in 3 days....thursday......then, someone will say it's Friday. I'll think it's Weds or Thursday! Then, I remember my sister's birthday WAS yesterday! It's terrible. But, I can't help it. 😬
@@LDiamondz *Yes, exactly!*
I'm glad to hear I'm not the only person this happens to!
I've had low working memory my whole life. This is me 100%. (except I'm congenitaly anosmic.) But I've never had someone that could explain it so clearly. Thank you!
This is very relatable, as an ADHD adult. As I watched the video, 2 other things came to mind. One of them is to use a silly learning/remembering trick if you can come up with one. Also, I find that writing out reminders in question form helps. I'm inclined to think that's because the question prompts me to think about it.
I use the silly remembering things (called mnenomic devices) to give otherwise fairly random things better context, to more easily prompt me to remember.
Obviously, I can't speak for all people, only for myself. The more I use my mind, the less forgetful I am. I'm always asking myself questions inside my mind, always thinking, finding new things to learn. Keeping it fresh, changing things up. Even rearranging my home furniture regularly, keeps me thinking, keeps life fresh.
My memory is horrible when I’m under stress. Recently, I got a job at a restaurant and on my first day I kept forgetting literally anything. But everything in this video applies to me.
I can relate to this video so much. I have told ppl that I have poor working memory for years but never looked into it. In my early 20’s, I tried to be a waitress at a restaurant that required us to take orders w/o writing them down and had to quit by day 3. I suspect that I have ADHD (inattentive). I’ve been using so many strategies that are suggested for ppl with these issues and never knew it.
I like to write everything down.... but I often forget to write it down...on to the next task. Long term memory is great though...
A month ago I ended up with painful tendonitis, which limited my mobility, sleep, activities and socialization with others. In an effort to remain positive, focused and motivated I turned to TH-cam and discovered your videos. They are so interesting, informative and helpful in addition to being entertaining and have given me a lot of food for thought! Thank you so much, Dr. Marks!
I was struggling a lot with "being lazy" or "disorganized", tried to fight with it on better days, but then i just forget...
It is/was source of shame and angry toward myself and i feel "defected"....
Later i circled around ADHD and other problems in connection with other symptoms, better i even read about forgetfullness but i connected it mostly with social interactions or birthdays etc.,
just now i listening to you i finally looked at that angle... maybe beacuse some years ago i stopped trying to fight and even strated to fully (ab)use of labels wich i was given by people.
PDD officaly diagnosed some years ago (but i suppose it is inborn condition) surely "helped" to keep this viscous cycle.
I have a lot of difficulty with knowing if the memory i have is an actual memory, a dream, or something i was thinking about doing or thought about happening. This happens especially with repeated daily tasks like brushing teeth, eating, and drinking water.
I used to have a lot of difficulty with taking medication properly and was always scared about over medicating without meaning to. I would have my specific time for taking them, but if i got distracted or even if i didnt get distracted, i would forget if i actually did take them when i was supposed to and be worried if i should take them again or not because i had to take it every day.
Very serious and committed to helping and assist others. Your husband is lucky to have you.
Thank you Hamzah!
She condenses information wonderfully. Love watching her!
Dealing with perimenopause at age 35 has given tons of brainfog that make me feel like I have mild alzheimer's so this video lets me know that I can still thrive and not feel like a complete idiot for however long I have to deal with this condition. Thank you so much Tracey Marks! This video was very helpful ^_^
I just am so appreciative to the people like Dr Tracy who study these things , I’m constantly feeling like a moron for forgetting or asking someone the same thing several times , or feeling anxiety when someone says “remember when I told you xyz” but knowing there’s a reason for it makes me feel better and gives me hope .
I have ADHD and also I'm an interpreter, since my training days I've been applying the visualization technique and it works very well :D
You can not be any better. Respect your high academic progress from my heart.
Useful tips to use our 5 senses! Gonna practice them to improve my adhd working memory. I always look forward to your weekly amazing videos - Thanks heaps, Dr Marks
Awesome Helene! So glad to have you here 😊
I can’t recall yesterday, last week or even most of last year…🤦🏼♀️
I can recall my grammar school teacher’s names and most every thing else before the last 40 or so years.
Things done repetitively have stayed with me, like driving a vehicle, sewing clothes, feeding my house pumas…💁🏼♀️
I just experienced this earlier today, listening to my doctors.
I have always related this to a lack of RAM and it was especially true today.
I find that i naturally associate my thoughts with what is going on around me subconsciously, such that i have adapted to retracing my steps on a walk or rewinding a video a few seconds to see if what i was hearing or seeing at the time can remind me of the thought i was thinking in that moment.
I was recently diagnosed ADHD, and helpful things for me have been using to-do lists on my phone with daily alarms that go off 3x a day reminding me to look at my list and/or add stuff to it. Combined with putting literally every event in the calendar, this has helped me to have some semblance of productivity. Another big help was just realizing and coming to grips with how frail and fickle my memory was. I have to use notes as a prosthesis for my memory in the same way an amputee relies on a prosthetic limb.
Medication is starting to help with the motivation and reluctance to start the stuff on my list in addition to getting my wife educated and trying to create a lot of structure and routine in my life.
This is my experience from head injuries. One thing I do is when I go to a store I always park in a certain part of the parking lot. Especially if it’s a big store. I’ve lost my car so many times you wouldn’t even believe it. So this really helps.
My Achilles heel with working from home is being surrounded by environmental cues that wipe my brain like an Etchasketch. I can make all the to do lists in the world, but I'm constantly getting reminded of other things that need doing. I find that I can't focus on anything else until they're no longer sending signals, but that can take all day. The other day I came out of the bathroom and couldn't remember if I had peed or just brushed my teeth. I'm only 30 and am concerned by how fried my working memory has gotten in the last year alone.
That’s why I immediately know that visualizing things I need to remember wouldn’t be good for me. It’d totally be my type to forget that it’s not a real memory and think I’ve already done it.
@@paul1993willy bingo! Same with multi tasking. If I read an email while eating a sandwich, I imagine I replied but my hands are busy, so I go on to read the next one and never reply to the first. I feel less crazy seeing you have the same experience.
I couldn’t work from home… it was torture. Then I moved in with my boyfriend and thought it would be better at his quiet house but the dogs made me crazy. I scrapped my own business, I’m happier recognizing my limits.
I messed up yesterday and seeing this and having adhd this makes sense. Wish I was your pacient
My biggest issue, socially, is having to remind people that I care. The second biggest is staying on track toward my goals when every distraction can derail me over and over until I'm on paths I don't value at all. As an adult with adhd I've learned that I can't rely on my memory at all. And it's worse now because of covid! I'd be lost if I didn't have my phone with all the assistive tech in it.
I’ve been professionally screened for NDs, my working memory is in the borderline. This video is my life lol.
I have about 50 alarms on my phone for random reminders 😂
I remember visual and audio better. I tend to repeat something in my mind, then write it down. Then say it to myself then set an alarm. I forget everything it’s a nightmare.
Another great video, Dr. Marks. Personally I've found great relief from this problem by keeping things in the same place every time, developing routines, and using to-do lists. I also label drawers and boxes. It takes some practice to get in the habit of doing these things but it's achievable. I think it's also important to stay flexible with your routine (open to changes and surprises) and especially to be patient with yourself. In the past I would have a strong influx of negative thinking about myself when I would make mistakes or lose things. That only compounds the problem. So having healthy routines, keeping things in the same place, and staying patient with yourself have been the right combination for me. Thank you again for the great advice.
Clear plastic storage boxes!
I have found the same. I still get pretty thrown off if my routine has to change though... that's when I make mistakes. I'm not a big fan of plastic either, so I try to use seagrass or wicker baskets (and use labels like you said) where I can.
@@SweetStuffOnMonarchLane Yeah, a change in the routine is a surefire way to forget something. It gets me every time! 😠
@@SweetStuffOnMonarchLane Yes, that's one downside to having a dependable routine. I liken it to walking through the house at night during a power outage. It's fine if everything is where it belongs but you can stumble if one thing is out of place. For that reason I will slow things down a bit until I can adjust. For example, I got my 2 dogs fixed a couple weeks ago and they had to wear those cones for a couple weeks. That really threw us off our daily routine. It was difficult but I had to stay patient with them and myself. We made adjustments while minimizing how much we did every day since I had to figure out our new routine. Now they have their cones off and we're trying to get back to the old routine which is also taking time but those small adjustments are healthy for the brain plasticity, I think. At least that's my bright-side view of it. Good luck and thanks for sharing.
@@Milesco Lol, yep, me too!
BTW, love your user name (or whatever they're called...!) 😆
I have inattentive ADD in the last few years I can't remember most things, including pleasant things. Im 59, and worry about early onset dementia
Everyone does or should worry about that.
I am 52 and I have ADD depression anxiety and PTSD. I can’t remember anything. I really can’t take it anymore.
I'm almost 54, diagnosed with ADHD Inattentive type at 48. I've always had a terrible memory, but the last couple years of stress has really done a number on me. I think it would help us to work on the inputting part of memory making... like really taking information in with all of our senses, like she said. Get out and be around people again, take walks in nature. We're all too stressed out over things we have no control over.
I can't believe what doc says about using senses makes me realize that I've been using it in my entire life. I can't keep up in school using my memory without visualizing or hearing my teachers voice or my classmates saying it to me. But in terms of problem solving my memory is very low at all. I can comprehend but it seems like my brain just eject it later. I mean we all probably experienced this HAHAHAH
❤❤❤ i will forever clap for others until it's my turn 🎉🎉
you know you've got major problems with your working memory when its barely a 7 minute video (on working memory) and you're already zoned out halfway through
All your hard work is really appreciated... again, thank for laying out this useful information in a way that is easy to understand.
Oh brother... really🙄🙄🙄
You're so welcome Anthony. Thanks so much for your support! ❤️🙏🏽
I just want to say that multitasking whether at work or at home makes it even worst. I’m the queen of daily journal and list on pads of paper. 😁 I’m called the queen of sticky notes but I need it to remind me. And yes I’m still old school and write things down in my work journal it helps me remember.
I thought *I* was the queen of sticky notes! 😆 🤣 😂 Glad to know I'm not alone!
I use my phone’s calendar for “cognitive offloading,” and it has been a lifesaver!
Great video... This affects me all day everyday. I try to make lists all the time
Things to do
Things to get
Monthly bills to pay
At workI type what customers twll me and I make a joke that I talk to myself because i seriously do.
I've gotten better about putting keys, purse, phone, glasses ALWAYS un the same spot.
Same with my credit cards and cash
I have major executive function issues. So I hope I remember go come back and watch this and take notes. But I have to go fix my car skylight before I forget for another 5 months. I always forget to fix the leak.
Giving you a thumbs up so hopefully you get a notification to remind you! 😀
That was a great video. As a student I used to have a hard time to focus at school or at home when I was doing my homework. I was a great student though by putting so much effort. I was studying till 1 am.. and I was only 12. Things got better as I grew older but still facing attention issues.
1am? Wow. I’m glad things have gotten better.
@elektra_7 this is literally me too! I used to study a lot and scored good grades all throughout my academic years. Like you mentioned, I wouldn't be able to pay attention in class as well especially if the subject is boring. All subjects were boring to me except maths.
Now as life is getting more and more difficult as I'm getting older, my inattentiveness and poor working memory is making me incompetent. I will be seeing a psychiatrist soon. Let's see how it goes.
@@adityamenon2968keep us updated please about your doctor evaluation.
I deal with this from time to time thank you so much for explaining everything I really enjoy your videos have a blessed day.
I read somewhere a researcher discovered that going through doors has a mental map effect on memory, leading to forgetting. Keep this in mind, unless you go through a door and forget it.
This is so me, and wow I’ve already been doing some of these helpful tips before seeing them here. This video has helped me learn more about myself and what additional tips to implement. Thank you !
Good morning Dr Tracy, thank you for this insightful video!
Good morning Kagoma. You're welcome! 👍🏽😊
Wow, this was my personal“cheat sheet” to remembering stuff.
Makes sense that I started to lose it when my senses were off.
This was a really insightful video. One of your tips were to visualize a task to bring it to life more.
What about people with aphantasia, the inability to visualize at all. I also was born without the sense of smell, so I am looking for creative ways to increase my working memory.
Thank you for your videos and your time!
I’m good at remembering random events from 2003, but I’ll forget the name of the person I just met in a heartbeat.
Oh my goodness, this sounds like me on every level! It was milder when I was growing up, but as I got older and started dealing with the stress of emotional abuse in my marriage, hormonal imbalances, a mild traumatic brain injury from an auto accident, then the death of my husband and finding out I'd be living on significantly less money to where I'd have to give up most of the things that had always been important to me, it became much worse. I knew I needed (and am getting) therapy for the stress/abuse issues. Looks like I'll want to look into help for possible ADD as well. (I'm definitely not hyperactive!)
Beautiful and truly remarkable person. A smart and inteligent lady with a huge sense of respect and confidence. Thanks for it (first video). I have subscribed straight away.
On the other hand, I did have had ADHD in my childhood and now at 37 I recognise that I have a very narrow or limited working memory, but a huge capacity to the permanent memory.
When something gets important I cannot forget it for life, but small tasks or what I did yesterday or half an hour ago, I always forget.
This video came right on time thank you 💫
So glad! 😊
This is the story of my life! It's very frustrating.
Thanks!
Oh thank YOU! I really appreciate it.!
Simply the best explanation & remedies. Wow you are amazing Dr Tracey.
Thanks a million Shivom! 🙏🏽
I found my working memory got really bad in my late teens/early 20s. It has gotten better over the years as basic adult tasks become more second nature, and I can use my brain power for things that aren'tjust necessary for survival. I attribute the spotty memory of that time to being very stressed about entering young adulthood, and having more on my plate than ever before (and probably drinking too much 😅)
Love the computer analogy. You are a very bright person, Dr Marks.
Dr. Tracey Marks: this video is SOO IMPORTANT for me!
this is a huge problem for me! my boyfriend and his brother have AMAZING memories and they'll make references to tv shows, movies, etc. in 99% of our conversations and i never understand what they're talking about even when i've seen the shows and movies they're referencing. having to ask for clarification over and over again makes me feel so incompetent :// i've expressed this to my boyfriend because i don't want him to think that i don't care about his interests, because i do! it's just that i can barely remember what i did five minutes ago, let alone a movie i watched late at night three months ago. luckily, he's very understanding and doesn't mind having to clarify things for me.
I have dyspraxia and have awful memory, it annoys myself and most people I work with. This video is super helpful, thanks so much for posting it😀
I love love this lady, God sent her to help us.
I used to have a great memory, but I've also had immense anxiety for years. Since I had a breakdown and started taking meds 2 years ago, my memory has gotten worse and now it's really hard for me to function. I act like a different person: I'm constantly late, forget about deadlines, lose stuff all the time etc. Watching a 7 minute video was too much for me due to the poor concentration and forgetfulness. I've been diagnosed with GAD and depression, and I take duloxetine and bupropion. Bupropion actually changed my life, I'm no loger apathetic and numb, but it didn't affect my executive functions. My doctor says that my memory should be getting better on stimulants and blaims it on anxiety but... I don't have any symptoms and I feel overall relaxed. I have some residual symptoms of depression, but I feel confident about managing them. I started to suspect that I may have ADHD, but I used to be very well organized and I was a perfect student. I heard about the inattentive type and I see a lot of similiarities to my situation, but it doesn't make sense why those symptoms would be hidden for such a long time (I'm 22F)!
Hi Kasia, how are you doing now?
This is the best video I have ever watched.
Thanks so much!! I'm glad you enjoyed it. 😊
Using the other senses to help working memory reminds me how whenever I take my meds, I'll say "I am taking my meds on [weekday]" so I remember that I just took them. It's such a quick thing that my memory will just immediately dump it after I do it, so I'll forget if I took them or not. But if I say it out loud, I'll remember hearing myself say it. This probably works for other things too, and I suspect one of the reasons ADHD and autistic kids will often talk to themselves and self-narrate. (Speaking as someone who also has ADHD and on the spectrum.)
Dear Dr. Marks, I love your outfit and hairstyle 😍🥰 ... This is interesting and timely at same time. There are studys that prove Ceylon cinnamon as well as rosemary herb are excellent for restoring memory.
Thank you Ismail. That’s good to know about the cinnamon. It’s a yummy smell to have in the house.
@@DrTraceyMarks For sure my lady
My youngest daughter is 12 and she has a slow processing speed and issues with her working memory. She has done so much better since we homeschooled but it can still be hard and I constantly worry about her.
I grew up like your daughter with slow processing speed and memory issues (was diagnosed with ADHD since childhood and unmedicated). I learned to do what others did in a way that works for me. Made it through university and got accepted into grad school. People around me even call me smart, although I really don't feel that way most of the time! It's a constant fight to feel present with the rest of the world and i dont think thats ever fully going away for me but hopefully she will one day develop the skills to set herself up in a good spot. Best of luck.
@@hellohello-mi4ek thank you so much for sharing that! I don't know you but I am extremely proud of you. I am going to show my daughter this 💙💙💙
I don't forget what the other person was saying, as much as I can't remember what I was going to say!! I get diverted on the way there and forget my main point :(
I'm afraid someday I will forget all my passwords, not sure if they're in my working memory or my long term memory, or who knows where.
Thanks for the explanation!
I'll make sure to remember watching recommended videos...
Despite what many think, writing passwords down on a piece of paper isn't a terrible idea sometimes. The key is to not make it easy for any wrongdoers and so, not leave it obvious which account they are for. Or if you must, leave them written in a very secure strongbox / safe.
Else, if someone has successfully managed to get access to your devices whilst you aren't home, it doesn't really matter if you've bits of paper with passwords on or not. Once someone physically has your computer, if they have skills, they can break in regardless.
Therefore in the event of a burglary, immediately secure your financial and personal identity details, social medias etc by contacting those relevant, and primary email account, too.
When I first started my job, I was constantly checking my e-mails because the idea of having unread messages in my Outlook inbox was making me nervous. So... I could forget what I was doing and remembering only when my manager was reminding me of it. Now before checking my e-mails I usually finish my task. I know I'll have a sh*itload of emails in a day so I need to focus on my tasks and check my e-mails twice or three times a day... usually when I start at 8:30, at noon and before leaving at the end of the day to make sure that I didn't forget to answer any urgent time sensitive e-mail. But I will always finish the task that I started before checking something else. It helps me avoid to leave some tasks unfinished. I can also sometimes add an event in my Outlook calender just as a reminder to do something and it will trigger a pop-up that I can't miss on my screen.
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This is my struggle to retaining information in college. It's so frustrating especially everything revolves your memory and compression for a test.
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Just recently went to speak to my doctor about this and we're checking for all kind of stuff that could be the cause, in the meantime I'll try using your tips, thanks doctor Tracey!
You’re welcome Kasia! I hope you get some answers with your work up.
@@DrTraceyMarks I hope so, thanks! It's a bit exhausting to live that way so I finally went to do something about it. Could you let us know if you'll have more videos on improving working memory or if there are more resources on what to do do to improve it?
I have always said my brain works like it doesn't have enough RAM. When I got DNA testing done, it said I was likely to have low working memory.
You knew! I hope you're able to do some of the exercises to expand it.
@@DrTraceyMarks it is something that is in perpetual work. Luckily I found a career that is logic based (code writing) and I am able to thrive.
Love your videos! Keep it up!
What kind of genetic testing was that?
my father at his age of 56 always misplace the things like his key and cellphone, one example is he asking me where his phone and then i notice he was holding his cellphone he asking where is his phone while he already holding the phone.
My anti depressant messes with my memory and affected my last job. I had to ask the same questions again
Dr Marks I have been following you on TH-cam for so long now I can’t remember how long it’s been 😂 thank you again for another great video. Your videos have been so helpful for me over the years so thanks again!!
My working memory is worse when I’m fatigued or stressed. I can forget I’ve called someone on the phone as the phone is ringing in my hand. And it’s gotten worse since catching COVID (twice).
My memory problem with memory started after stress and depression
When i visualise something like the call example, my brain consider that i've dine it already. Sometime i respond to a text in my mind and forget to actually send the reply and when i get back to it my brain is convinced that i replied!
I wanted to do something in my phone now and i totally forgot what is it, instead i saw your notification and watched your video 😄 Thank you
I do that all the time to! So frustrating!
Thank you for making these videos! I always learn something new from watching them.
I am thoroughly grateful for your videos, so I hope these requests don't make it seem like I'm not! You just have a wonderful way of delivering information and I appreciate hearing your take on various topics. Would you make videos discussing why it can be difficult to get your thoughts in order and take a while to express yourself during conversations? Also, why you can't force yourself to get things done (like homework), no matter how much you force yourself, and what can actually help push you to get things done?
Can working memory be improved? My working memory is extremely poor and it's taking a massive toll on my quality of life! I'm only 28 and this is no way too live!
Excellent ideas! Can’t wait to implement them…now, what was I doing again?
For me the first option doesn’t work. Maybe it’s the “why “ I have memory issues, fibromyalgia,arthritis (pain), depression, PTSD, etc. But if I tried the process of doing something, I forgot I was just thinking about it and I didn’t really do it. I do that a lot! Like I said, maybe it’s the why I forget?? Love your videos!
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Hello Dr Tracy! I saw you this morning on "Good Morning Washington". Wow! Thanks for your good advice on managing anxiety.🌺 I'm diagnosed with Complex Partial seizures with memory loss from auto accidents. John's Hopkins did research on me. The Mystery...I don't know what a seizure feels like. It's on both sides of my Brain...It takes my short term memory away. I've been journaling awhile.
Doctor my memory is horrible. I have a pseudo tumor amoung other things and I figured the spinal fluid was accumulating in my skull causing the loss. This explains so much. No one believes me either
Right on time! Thank you for this thorough description...AND the hope at the end of the tunnel!
Thank you for this, the timing of this video is amazing as I have terrible working memory and have been given some tools to cope with it. This video has added to my tool box and the tips given are better than what my counsellor has suggested.
This is very interesting as are all of your videos. Your last point to create routines... I feel like this has been the problem the last couple of years. It seems like our normal routines aren't available anymore. Like when I show up to work I'm not sure if I'll be the only one there or what the day is going to look like. Even driving to work which should be routine hasn't been because of road closures. So many small little things that used to be part of our normal routine life is no longer routine. I definitely have noticed a reduction in my working memory since the pandemic
Great tips, but I find that imagining/visualizing myself doing a task can backfire spectacularly because later when I'm reviewing what I've done/need to do, or come across a reminder note I made myself, I think I've ALREADY done the task because I'm remembering thinking about/visualizing it so much that it seems like a memory more than a plan/mental note. I imagine starting my laundry so well for example that I'm shocked hours later when I go to the washing machine and find it empty and the dirty laundry still in the hamper. "But I REMEMBER doing it!"
Lady, you are doing a great job.
Your videos are always helpful and insightful.
Overall my memory is great! But I noticed when I have had a lot of stress previously and overly anxious I tend to forget things, not focus on a show and have blurred thoughts.. if that makes sense.:: how I can I help this & I struggle with anxiety
Take a look at my anxiety playlist. I have some videos that give strategies to help depression th-cam.com/play/PLazcP3-djRZ1WUZSR_MZeNMdrYMVde2_D.html
Oh and how can I forget, my anxiety book has a ton of suggestions www.amazon.com/Why-Am-Anxious-Recognizing-Restoring/dp/0744057043/
@@DrTraceyMarks thank you so much for your reply! I really appreciate it and the fact that you take us serious and respond with such great feedback!💕 I will check it out!
Been fired from a lot of jobs because of this. Turns out I had fibromyalgia as a result of lupus. The subsequent four TIAs really sealed the deal. Gonna go out and get some rosemary this morning...if I don't forget.
I have never had a good memory. Even as a child. Now it’s getting worse as I age. I am now a team leader of five staff and it’s so difficult at work. Always trying to hide my real self. They would not understand, may even hold it against me. I am in a dark place and my memory makes matters worse.
Oh man, that sense of touch memory. I have to use that so often because I'll have forgotten if I already took my medication yet that day. I'll think to myself "Did my hand feel the bottles today?" It's like.. you can remember the sensation or amount of pressure and how long ago it was. But even then, I may not remember...