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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ม.ค. 2007
- www.ted.com Dan Gilbert, author of Stumbling on Happiness, challenges the idea that well be miserable if we dont get what we want. Our "psychological immune system" lets us feel truly happy even when things dont go as planned.
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My main take away is the key component that commitment serves in happiness. "Make your decision, you'll never see the other one ever again." When we have a way out or a way to reverse things (a way out of commitment), we give ourselves an unending dilemma. It makes sense how that can add to or even create cognitive dissonance. We'll question not only that decision but our decision making process in general. Cool talk.
yes thats what causes a lot of unhappiness these days in that we have decisions thrown at us all the time what to eat wear buy etc and many are small decisions which will not have a big impact on outr lives the choices are too much
Very well said Sr.
there's another ted talk touching this issue. It was an economist describing how more choice leads to less satisfaction
Lorenzo Bertola agree.... kiss method keeping it simple reigns supreme
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything" - Tyler Durden
I know this is technically ten years ago, but i needed this comment and i didn't even know it. Couldn't agree more with this. Thank you for passing this message.
nice quote!
We have to constantly appreciate what we currently have and be cautious of becoming too entitled!
Such a great talk. I had to re-watch it a few times not to miss anything!
One of the most important videos I will ever watch on TH-cam. Thank you.
Brilliant. I wake up everyday and spend an hour lying there contemplating and visualising everything I could or should do, then end up doing and achieving nothing. Is your next talk on how we can focus our minds on limiting our many choices?!
I need this
You just said what I am doing fornthe last few months
It's called mindfulness practice: experiencing 'now' instead of thinking about 'then' or 'when.'
@@lydiaderhake2532 mindfulness practice?? Elaborate please
Happiness = Reality - Expectations
This is the best thing I’ve seen in years!! And maybe just what I needed this hour!
''Grass is always Greener on the other side''
But if someone asks... actually you liked this side better all along
Kind of reminds me of the story of the fox with the sour grapes. He couldn't have something and so he decided that in the end he didn't like it after all. We're always taught that that's a bad way to look at things but this is a new perspective on it
Grass is greener where its watered
Has to be one of the great Ted talks I ever listened to. Message came across very well...
I must have show this to hundreds of people by now :D Had this been more widely known and appreciated, we would probably live in a completely different societ.
Most relevant TED ever!
This is one of the best presentation I've seen. And the information is really helpful
I love the way this dude is so amped about everything!
Brilliant. I find this quite an inspiring talk. This information is valuable stuff when in the pursuit of happiness. Go D. Gilbert! Thank you TED Talks!
i love this guy! best i've heard in TEDtalks so far
Great speech, insightful. With just a switch of perspective, we can automatically get what we want--happiness! To summarize the talk in one sentence: "We have within us the capacity to manufacture the very commodity we are constantly chasing when we choose experience."
"Happiness is just an illusion caused by the temporary absence of reality. "
Best and most informative talk I have EVER seen. It has actually in all seriousness changed my life in the most fundamental non-cliche sense of the word.
This explains a lot of my past dissatisfaction - and my satisfaction with things I have not believed I had much choice with.
that is one of the most valueable things a person can know.
Very intriguing, it's amazing how much this has changed the way I think about things
his message is as simples as this: be grateful for what you have in your life in every moment.
This is the best of the ted talks ive seen so far. Very interesting!
amazing delivery, oratory
Great video! I really respect and like what you are doing! Keep the videos coming!
My god, this guy describes everything that has happened in my life...
Every time I face a fear that is unavoidable, I perform much better than I thought I could. Every time I face a fear that is avoidable, I half-ass my way past it and I am never happy with the outcome.
I always wondered why that is, and this video illustrates that same psychological tendencies of humans... I guess I am only human!
Brilliant! Thank you Dr. Gilbert.
I've often contemplated the ideologies of "happiness" in two most extreem stressful situations, a parent whose child was abducted and not know if he will ever see her in one piece again - and a parent so poverty-stricken, cannot feed his child. Their realities are so narrow, anyone can relate to it. If happiness is trained, like positive thinking, we realize even in these situations, "we deserve to be happy" while the shadow of guilt would engulf us as we say it.
well done. enjoyed this one a lot, thanks.
I am in love with this man.
The difference is not in the quality or legitimacy of the happiness, but the process in which it is produced.
I really enjoyed this.
Amazing... another approach to observe your own mind other than meditation. A constant bservation to ideas, thoughts and the relation to feelings.
Excellent presentation.
VERY COMPELLING. Great video!
this is sooo interesting! amazing...
magnífica conferencia¡¡¡¡
A Felicidade não está no valor material das "coisas" mas sim no valor que cada um de nós lhe atribui.
gracias por poner los subtítulos dos diálogos después, gracias
What an amazing talk. Very interesting.
I like to watch into the mind of other people. Thanks for sharing yours.
Great lecture.
Happiness is a state of mind. Dan Gilbert is very smart
@slaughtz One of the most smartest comments I've seen! Happy new year!
@1337DrummerNate Bravo, you're truly a benevolent person. Thanks for teaching me and helping me see in a new light. No matter what's going on around me, your mind can work wonders. It's truly all in your head. I hope I sound sincere because I mean it. You have helped someone out.
Excellent!
Freakin' amazing! Good stuff!
wow, That is sooo mental ... gotta meditate ...
Thanks for sharing the insight on the human brain, the evolution and happiness. I was surprised to learn that the happiness level of a 300+ million lottery winner and that of a paraplegic would be almost the same after a year of its occurrence.
Thanks For sharing.
i guess this explains why i enjoy a song more when i hear it on the radio
Very interesting and inspiring!
I really appreciate your video
I will definitely look into his book. Really interesting :)
I love the fact that he mentioned zefrank.
Very interesting TED talk - I've made use of this video in a post on choice and happiness on my Nextstarfish blog
This is fascinating!
hes a genius!! i want to meet him so bad
Insightful. Humorous. Game-changing ideas.
Speaks in sophisticated, complicated language but makes some interesting points. Requires concentration and a desire to digest his words, but worth it. Interesting distinction between synthetic and natural happiness.
Ok.......i would love to get in on the intellectual dialogue but i gotta ask
DID ANYONE ELSE HEAR HIM FART AT 9:30?
DUDE DROPPED THE BOMB!!!
Ahaha. XD. He totally did
Marcus Davis hehehe!!!
+Marcus Davis 9:29
Marcus Davis yuuup
HAHAHAHAHAH Thank you for this comment. Yes! I heard it! lmao!
Great talk. Know thyself.
I live in Monterey, CA. ....why am I hearing about this now 😕
i look at it like this: happynes is something you can control. you can train your mind to be happy no matter what is going on in ur life or u can allow your mind to generate happyness or saddness depending on the good or bad things going on with your life. it honestly depends on what you prefer. some people actually like being sad and depressed subconciously simply cause their used to it. happiness and possitive living are alien to them cause they always look at their lives at a pessimistic view
Thanks for the recommendation; i saw Status Anxiety and it was great.
On another note - yes!
Awesome video!
Really good!!
I was always wondering how people thought of me, I was new at my school and I did everything for people to like me and wondered if they did, me and my friend were talking one day and she told me that everyone in my class hated me, ironically I didn't care, I was so happy because I was free from worrying about it because people weren't going to like me anyway so I should stop trying happiness really depends on your view on things
Can anybody tell me where can I get the music from the intro? I love it.
"We can overestimate/underestimate the level of happiness in events" - That's what he's talking about at the beginning, it's impact bias. But he also explains the reason for impact bias which is synthetic happiness. It's not so much about "creating your own happiness" (that would be real happiness) it's more about having your subconsciousness creating it for you. Our mind has certain defense mechanisms to protect itself against "feeling bad" (another example I think is effort justification).
My only question is, even though it makes you happy, is it satisfying enough? i'm sure i can still be happy if i never became a popular youtuber or celebrity but would i be satisfied knowing i didn't achieve what I could have? I'm not sure if happiness is the only factor, but i loved this tedtalk!
i like this topic, subscribing
Very interesting!
Being ignorantly happy is bliss is what I learnt
Maybe so, but if you're happy, does it matter? I'm not saying it does or doesn't, but it's worth thinking about
@insidmal If we choose not to be happy, we're not. The point is that it IS a choice. I think that you are right about the "layer on our flight to Dallas" statement. The expectation that life will always be just right robs many of us of happiness. Life is 10, 000 joys and 10,000 sorrows. Only by seeing the inevitability of this can we find happiness in more than half of life.
Moral - we grow from bad experiences, survival and endurance makes us stronger. Bad experiences make us sad but ultimately make us stronger
very good stuff
I'm so glad I listened to this. Although, I'm not sure how it would work for the non neurotypical
@majik2hanz
Thanks for all of your insightful responses. There may always be too many variables to really pin down causes of happiness. One problem, as you say, lies in how we define happiness. Then, how we quantify this elusive quality in a way that is valid is extremely difficult. If you finally have strong results, how can the knowledge be utilized to increase happiness. If so, how do you know it increased happiness, especially when the definition of happiness was hazy in the beginning?
So basically it's as the buddhist teach, to accept the situation
Yup and appreciate what you can and can't do 👍
Philippians 4:11 ....for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.
20:32 ..... so good
You have a very informative video
"Tis nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so" is true! we know all life has to eventually come to en end so we don't matter, if we all killed our selves or didn't it just doesn't matter! being happy just doesn't matter unless you have emotions and a mind to conclude it does but that is just thinking! someone dumb kids can be bullied and not realize it so they are happy, not because of what is happening but because of what they think about what is happening.
This is absolutely right. I struggled for years about what occupation I wanted to become. I begged career advisers just to 'tell' me what courses to take in uni.
Also world of warcraft, I could never stick with just one character because there was too many different choices, I kept paying for god damn race chances, and faction changes
AWESOME
great rhetorics
Uh, "wow." This is a pretty awesome thing...
Wow that was profound.
This is great. :D
Interesting, a bit slow for tedtalks, but grows on you and at the end its really good! :)
Synthetic happiness vs natural happiness. Fascinating.
I agree
@ICETEAPRODUCTIONS1 The level of denial that you present is truly breathtaking. Thank you for broadening my understanding of the strength of denial when apes don't want to admit the truth.
I really liked this lecture. The Adam Smith quote is great.
I feel that Aristotle... particularly Nichomachean Ethics(sp?) would help to deepen this discussion.
Einstein said, that when we detect disunion or paradox, we should look for a deeper understanding that will uncover the hidden links that make it all make sense.
Here, I believe an acute understanding of the nature of happiness(Aristotle) unifies the two types of happiness he talks about.
I spend way too much time considering pros and cons of future tech purchases (which often does lead to me being happy with the product, and I wouldn't do it otherwise), but sometimes I am happier just buying the item to stop the waiting, so i don't have to worry about making the wrong choice. not quite the same thing, but a bit related.
There are a lot of unconscious things that work even though you are aware of them, e.g. the anchoring effect: the initial price offered for a commodity sets the standard for the rest of the negotiations, so a smart salesperson will show you something expensive first, because you are than more likely to accept higher prices for the rest. That works even though you are aware of it. I could imagine that synthetic happiness is similar in that regard, i.e. it is not hindered by you being aware of it.
This is the programming part of NLP - cool!
Puzzled😵
@exactspace yes i must agree with the over sensationalizing
It's simple: gratefulness = happiness