BTT # 12 - Countering The Dark Triad Traits
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 24 มี.ค. 2019
- Today's broadcast will cover the counter to the dark triad traits, coined the bright triad, they are 1) clarity 2) stability 3) maturity. We examine why these traits matter when dating or marrying women, and how to identify them.
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I listened to it 3 times already via Audible, it's really mandatory. If I had a son he'd get it at age 18
Man this shows content was absolutely amazing! Shawn was definitely in his element with this one!
I like Dr. Shawn a lot, a voice of reason and science within the manosphere
He is the Best
He's real, it's why I have him on with me.
I agree, good dude with solid advice. Thanks guys
Not only is Shawn knowledgeable and very discerning, but he doesnt back down from his principals, or let his voice not be heard. He stands for what he believes is right, and I wholeheartedly commend him on that. Side note, I find it awesome, but also mildly scary that ladies are on this thread to know about men. Its admirable, and scary all at once. I cant decide whether these ladies are data mining, or using it as self introspection material, but its admirable nevertheless.
@@EntrepreneursInCars I agree you have him on because he is genuine, but also he is great at continuity, and knowing his role in conversation while providing wonderful insight.
I just turned 20......Western Europe.
I feel like i am cheating life,already knowing all this stuff because of you guys.
Ever since i learned about the red pill community, i just see everything happen now, its just so weird, all the red flags, my poor blue pilled friends all of them with the "happy ever after" marry mindset. I just see it now.
I seriously have to thank all of you.
@The Working Dead Trust me the EU is NOT a mess(atleast not the netherlands), atleast not here in the netherlands. We live 95% of the time in harmony. There are some extreme racists towards muslims and some extreme muslims not willing to accept and adapt to our country.
But MOSTLY, its just peaceful.
I am not afraid of muslims or any other religion on that matter. As i have researched and studied about 5 diffrent religions and not a single one of them asks people to be evil and kill innocent people.
Which is obvious.....there are for example over 1.5 billion muslims.....if even 1% of that number were extremists, we would be hearing bombs left right and center.
@@Elpenor you lucky s.o.b. you definitely are cheating the system! That being said dont discredit yourself it takes a special person to realize they dont know it all and actually want to learn and grow. Like you I have plenty of friends that dont get it, and no matter how kind you try to help them, they dont want to better themselves.
@@joec1212 Thanks bro.
@@ArashSoleymani_Art Oh wauw its been so many years since I posted that comment:)
Very good to hear that you had a backup plan and bless you for staying that strong after going through that. Have fun binging these video's.
They made me notice many things I didnt when I was younger.
For example as I grew up I noticed many of my friends had divorced parents yet my parents are still in love after 25+ years.
Because of these vids I started realising the diffrences I didnt notice when I was a boy.
My parents:
-Are both traditional and religious(I think that has atleast a small part to do with it)
-They have this unspeakable respect between them, they both know eachothers role and respect it, I have maybe seen them raise their voices against eachother 2 or 3 times in my enitre life growing up. Never call eachother names or slander/curse eachother, only make playful jokes.
-My mom is a housewife and treats my dad as the leader, the house was always clean, food was always cooked homemade by her.
The parents of my friends(all of them divorced ny now):
-Wifes constantly raising their voice against the husbands(even when I was in the room)
-Both parents work so homemade food, attention to kids, etc etc just not there.
-General lack of respect in terms of the roles in the marriage.
And way more details that I never noticed when I grew up.
I cannot stress this enough. You men are doing an amazing job. Seriously impressed especially with how you dealt with Zach. I wish I had you guys a decade ago. Keep doing what you are doing. You are strengthening us. Respect.
I got nervous and kept losing my train of thought - a lot I meant that talk about burn it went a little sideways
@@Grinningpicker00 Dude, do yourself a favour and move on, this is a train wreck waiting to happen.
Entrepreneurs in Cars you’re right, thanks Richard
Couldn't agree more, both Shawn and Rich handled Zach's situation as best as they could in my opinion
As clueless as some of the callers may be, if you're inviting them to ask you questions you can't just blindly bash on these guys like they killed your cat or some shit like that, because you might just push them further away from the red pill/ truth (and therefore you end up not really helping anyone, quite the opposite)
Anyway, have a great day men, keep up the great work
Also, good luck to you Zach
zach mcreynolds Zach, we should talk. I just got out of a relationship with a single mom who I believe has BPD. I believe we can help each other out.
I would just like to shout out too ;-
Steve from Accounting,
Kevin from Sales,
Mike from Security and Gary from Warehousing.
And the hot guy from the foam cannon party in Cancun.
And the guy she will crawl under barbed wire fence, after helping hide the dead body, for.
Don't forget Chad from the poolboy.
Also Tyrone from shipments.
The poolboy is Mexican though, his name is Jesus.
God damn. Shawn is solid gold.
At 47::00 that was going to be me. I was engaged to a bpd single mother. The love bombing, passive agressiveness, idealization then shaming, isolation from my own family, hyper sexuality, never met her friends, the loving words but with the dead eyes. Toxic
Been there. The love bombing is especially powerful.
TRUTH 💣 OF THE DAY:
“IT’S ALWAYS CHEAPER TO LEARN FROM OTHER’S MISTAKES”. -Richard
It's cheaper but not as solid. You can't learn to fight just by watching videos or listening to others.
People can be very good at hiding personality disorders like NPD during the “love bombing” stage. If you’re a young guy who came from a relatively healthy family, you probably have no idea that people can behave the way an NPD person does when the honeymoon phase is over. It’s easy to be in denial and think she’s just having her period or stressed out, but trust your instincts. They tend to have contentious relationships with way too many people. They may complain about way too many people trying to undermine them and any number of other perceived slights. The real stress begins when they turn their focus on you. I never thought I’d find myself in that sort of situation, but it was if I’d been slowly conditioned to walk on eggshells because her toxic behavior stressed me out so much. Take care of yourselves, guys. And don’t ever settle for being mistreated. Read up on personality disorders; there is a wealth of information out there.
Good advice. Until you experience it you just cannot fathom the poison of some people. Npd is a cousin of psychopathy and these people kill very slowly over the duration with them. I think you will never want to trust anyone completely again or even love 100% . Losing the ability to dump a woman is obviously a beta move . Npd taught me that some people enjoy hurting you while pretending to be with you and using amazing mind fuckery to make you out to be the bad one in the eyes of those around you. Watch the Cindy James documentary to see an extreme case as I blame the ex for getting a friend to help. Corvert narcissism is an incredible thing.
Do you want a cigarette? Robertson Yes, I can’t imagine trusting a woman 100% again. Even if I find myself in live love and feeling great about a relationship, I don’t think I’ll want to give up my home and move/buy a place with a woman.
Copy that. My stepmother was/is borderline. Pops was widowed, very wealthy, and she sank her teeth into him. I'm convinced it was she who drove him to a very early grave at 52. I discovered way later that he confided to his close friends that the sex was beyond incredible. She has been out of my life for 2 glorious decades. Pops was very blue pilled, but marrying her showed me women were not just sugar & spice. Myself- I vetted my wife very well before I married her in 1995. We are still together.
Again and again , Richard and Shawn show great compassion. they are firm but fair. Also, I appreciate that they can engage cats from all different ethnic backgrounds but in an authentic manner. This is not scripted garbage out there.
Can you do a video on how you are raising your daughter? Just curious on your expectations for her dating, marrying, career...etc.
Shawns got a daughter too, maybe we'll make that an episode.
Entrepreneurs in Cars I would be very interested in that too as I am uncertain how to guide my 25 yr old single daughter in this current climate
@@EntrepreneursInCars Are you going to read the Rational Male with your daughter and explain it to her? And do you suggest reading the Rational Male with a girlfriend or wife? With the hopes of countering her Hypergamy and female nature.
@@EntrepreneursInCars did the raising a daughter video happen yet?
I don’t think “tattoos” are a “red flag”, they can be but body marking/ art has been a part of almost every culture.
Well if it's traditional then whatever. If she has a decapitated baby between her titties, I'd let her touch my pee pee with a condom on and give her a fake name and track number.
The Mexican chick was 29, 2 months is still part of her act. Dude rationalized this by using the country difference. But her clock is ticking and he sounded like he had oneitis. The proper vetting time would put her into an age of questionable fertility. Time to let go bro.
Believe me, that has been going through my head. Proper vetting time puts her at 31 and, if you look at the charts, fertility has dropped slightly but is not as significant as 35-40. This girl has a lot of positive qualities which is why I asked about balancing the red flags with the green flags. Age was one of the red flags but she also lost her virginity late and has only been with 3 guys. I have scanned her social media and I don't see any reason not to believe her but I will continue looking for flaws in her story. Living at home with parents means the slut tenancies are hindered. She also doesn't post much of anything on social media so I don't think she's an attention whore. She pays her own way with meals and quite often pays for me too. I don't have Oneitis and I think I'll continue to enjoy her company for a while as I look for faults. I will also continue talking to other women.
Rich & Shawn, thanks for clarifying the women are interested in people and men are interested in things.... that makes perfect sense and alleviates my worries about her not having hobbies. I don't know why that didn't occur to me before.
great episode guys.. i truly mean that.. looking forward to the intuition talk..
Good talk. Glad this is being shared. Keep in mind that women very high on the spectrum, many of these aren't going to work. Time will work , although sometimes someone high on the spectrum can keep on the mask longer than you can wait . Also many narcissist have parents that are also narcissists, and will make you feel very well received, only to turn on you later to protect the family secrets. I realize I am talking about someone high on the spectrum, but still.
Ooo
Wow... this was a big one, important show. Awful to hear these carbon-copy stories and how frequent and more common these stories are but encouraging to hear guys talking about it and getting the word out there. We need to keep educating men. This one hit home... great show guys.
@19:30 "You need to be nicer" (You need to drop your boundary so I can win)
"You get out of life what you tolerate"
best advice
Outstanding show guy's!! Been there...... done that. NEVER AGAIN!😎👍👊
Mike is deluding himself. 2 months. Wow. He has oneitus already. After 2 months. In Mexican culture being single at 29 is super unusual. Especially a traditional Mexican girl. A female friend of mine who is Mexican told me that at 22 her mother ther told her she was getting old and needed to marry. So.... for a Mexican girl she is like 50. This guy is going to fall hard.
NPD Girlfriend is profound af. Followed him for over a yr. Life changing solid content on cluster B women. Do yourselves the favor & learn from this man
Zack's problem also was status, he wanted to look more valuable by having a good looking girlfriend by his side
Idealisation v Admiration - need to know more about the distinction and why one is more dangerous than the other?
Nice video - intelligent insight. Appreciate it 👍
K Khan Idealisation is the first phase that someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder/NPD will expose you to. They will put you up on a pedestal and “love bomb” you with affection, compliments and amazing sex. They’ll stroke your ego and have you thinking how the hell did you get so lucky and this girl will be for you everything you dreamed of. That’s how they suck you in. You’ve fallen for the trap and taken the bait- hook, line and sinker. Now you’re dependent on them and crave their affection and attention. When they know they have you hooked on them, that’s when they turn cold and get you running after them trying to fix whatever they will lead you to believe you’ve done wrong. Welcome to your worst nightmare. Now the game has begun. Then she’ll love bomb you again, you’ll have amazing make up sex and you’ll think things are back to what you wanted... and a week later she’s become a demon again... but you’re weak and are suffering a kind of tunnel vision. You’re together now so you just keep trying to please her and work out what you’ve done wrong. The only thing you did wrong was not do your homework and vet her properly before you started going out with a crazy bitch who knows how to conceal her insanity behind the nicest facade when in public. This all starts with the idealisation phase. When you know that you’re being idealised it’s time to bail. You’re too smart to be taken in by this deceitful ploy. Respect is what you’re after. Watching how she treated other people, friends and family are the safest ways to determine whether she’s genuine or a facade. If she doesn’t want you around her friends of family that’s a deal breaker. End it immediately. If her relationships with friends and family are chaotic or disrespectful beware. Is it her or is it them or both? If you’re being idealised you’re being baited and set up. Be aware of the signs. These kind of destructive relationships are more common than many people think and must be avoided if you want to succeed in life. All the best man.
Wow... Zach has no concept of abundance. He's like a battered wife.
Yeah, but Shawn and Rich handled his situation as best as they could in my opinion
As clueless as some of these callers may be, if you're inviting them to ask you questions you can't just blindly bash on these guys like they killed your cat when they call you, because you might just push them away from the red pill/ truth (and therefore you end up not really helping anyone, quite the opposite)
Anyway, have a great day man
Hey thanks for vid, who's this you're talking with? It doesn't say in the description. Thanks.
That 3rd world vs 1st world is also true to a certain extant within the U.S. with small lower income towns vs big higher income cities.
@27:25 Great advice!
First caller sounded like he was on speed
Definitely not average alertness lol
Oh my, Zach... “well, she doesn’t wear underwear” 😂🤣😂 sad but hilarious! I needed that laugh today.
Stoned people can be funny :))
K N thanks.. a positive comment
@@Grinningpicker00 I'm sorry, Zach...I didnt mean to bag on you! I do hope you learned something helpful from Rich Cooper & Dr. Shawn, and have gotten yourself out of your bad situation:) good luck to you!
K N thanks, no worries. God bless
Zack Run Run like hell is chasing you. She is looking for a new baby's daddy, and fit the bill. Run!
JOE MAMA thanks joe
Wow... that oblivious kid at 1:00:00 is exactly the same as me and my ex GF... she was literally a succubus for the sex and energy depletion. She was very chaotic and confusing.... never much clarity. Manipulative. Ive just learned another the Dark Triad thing and that seems to sum her up as well.... soooooo fucking weird. I got chills hearing his experience because it was so eerily similar to mine... I lived with mine too... now we don't communicate as she got police involved multiple times to get me in trouble with the law and I finally had to let go and move out and move on... im still trying to recover with some PTSD even... its crazy how much another "person" can fuck you up and fuck with you're mental space and clarity....
Hope you are doing well now. It can take some time to shake that shit off your psyche. Best advice: never contact her again and never look back unless to realize and review the red flags you missed.
Been there too. Succubus is real.
I dumped my narc and I miss her so much. It's been a year plus and I'm so broken. Always drinking depressed low motivation.
Hope you feeling better dude !
I’m curious, there is a list of qualities that make a women a good catch...what list would be for a man?
Women telling guys to be nicer came up, but how should we interpret a woman telling us to be less nice, that we are too kind.
It would seem counter Intuitive for them to try and encourage a guy behaving beta to act alpha so I'm a little puzzled by women who overtly told me to be more alpha back in my youth.
Don't women usually want men to just get it rather than needing to be told?
It means she is trying to help you be a man because she actually does like you. Respond and I will gladly tell you more.
I like how Rich tells the story about his BPD girlfriend with the made up motorcycle
@11:30 Study the question??? But that could undermine their conclusion and agenda, silly :D
Zach is gonna end up getting a pot of boiling water poured in his lap. Dude is super beta. His attitude and demeanor is exactly why that crazy chick is with him.
Rc legend
Why are these dudes in darkness?
That's how they roll
'If you had one thing you wanna tell people npd what would you tell them'...he should've said 'if it seems too good to be true IT IS!' The next thing which IS what he said "trust your gut!"
To that guy 1 hour in. Honestly I think that all spanish women just have a lot of crazeeeeee in them.
SuperFurious Roy1 yea you may be on to something
Red Pill ruined the Goo Goo Dolls for me. They are possibly the most blue pilled band ever.
Hahaha. That's hilarious. Accurate.
Or Staind
1:00:00
This guy is me lol
Just dump them fast. Don't get married. Don't have children. Simple.
and what as a man you are the dark triad ?
Mike is in a hurry!!! Mike is getting desperate! He should just enjoy himself with her and enjoy the moment. The thing that I see is that he’s acting like a beta. He should just not give a fuck and have fun. He needs to slow down like Rich said. If something happens with her or any other girl let it flow and don’t force it because you will pay the price if you don’t pay attention to the red flags. You’re the price dude, so choose wisely and take your time.
To the 28 year old dude at 1:10:00 . I say this as nicely as I can, ****DITCH HER AND RUN!!!**** ***CHANGE YOUR LOCKS & CHANGE YOUR PHONE NUMBER & BLOCK HER PERMANENTLY ON ALL SOCIAL MEDIA!!!*** Get the hell away from her for ever. Do not engage her in conversation ****EVER**** again for any reason. If she was on fire and being hit by a bus you have to keep walking as though she doesn’t exist ****AT ANY AND ALL COST!**** Grow a pair of balls and rid yourself of her for the final time and move on. Stop lying to yourself. There is no good or valid reason to stay with her. You should never have become involved with her to begin with. Now quit it little brother and make a whole new life for yourself and get comfortable on your own for a while- and heal from these vicious wounds she’s inflicted on you. She’s sadistic, be no persons masochist. Have some respect for yourself and get out of this relationship and fight with all you can muster to keep her out. Do not let her back in. Failure is not an option. Good luck and God speed my man.
Group hug 🤗
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Rich why so salty towards the Manosphere?
Histrionic, narcissistic and machiavellian