It has changed my 3 boys whole demeanor. From very passive to completely confident. But they are also humbled daily. They are balanced. They are completely addicted. They've been training for a 1 1/2 years. I just started. They choose to train 6 days week. Multiple classes a day. I never imagined this happening when we signed them up for a trial class. Lol
I was always a bjj fan since the 90s I put it off many times. At my 40s I just joined with my 3 kids 10 7 and 5 and we are loving it. And I am loving your podcast. Thank you !
Most kids when they are young enough will pick up on the cues of their parents and hopefully, it's healthy & stable, My dad would curl his dumbbells when we were 7-8 etc and of course, we wanted to try it. It becomes the norm in most cases. Thanks.
Ive been studying martial arts for over eight years. I see many parents getting the kids involved in training and balance. More teens are also getting involved. Of course, i am in adult classes three-four times a week a hour and half each training day. Jocko has great tips and guidance.
He said the opposite of this. Forcing your kids to "just do it twice a week" even though they don't like it, is you forcing your ego onto your children.
Great advice! But a little difficult to implement. (At least for me…The staying patient part). Still very practical pointers to change myself in order to nudge my kid to practice more. 😅 Thank you! ❤️ Edit: By the way Jocko (o great philosopher of our time) Years ago I have heard you say something along the lines of: - If you want someone be nice to you, be nice to them first. - If you want someone to respect you, respect them first. - And if you want to influence someone, let them influence you first. (You mentioned something similar in this clip) And for me this is one of the most important insights I ever heard in my life. This is maybe the easiest and most impactful guideline to improve your life, ever. (But of course there are finer points in this as well…as in every behavior. Still genius!) So obvious, when you think about it. But we rarely do. Thank you for that as well! 🔥🤩❤️
I used to live less than a mile from this guy in OB. When i heard he runs every morning at sunset cliffs, i went out and started running there instead of at dogs beach. I finally ran into him 1 morning (no pun intended). . . Hes the perfect "man's man"
This is how former military raises their children. I only have nieces and nephews and their parents are the opposite of this. It drives me nuts when I try to instill discipline into their lives and my sisters just baby them.
Kids and adults are better off in nearly every single way learning Judo first, jujitsu second. Judo will teach submission techniques suitable for effective street effectiveness if required but in most cases Judo will end the fight before needing to join them on the floor. Really wish this narrow focus of learning jujitsu before learning judo would piss off!
This is a really awesome and helpful clip thanks... I'm watching my 8 month old boy "shrimp", "post", "bridge" etc these days, he's just learning to crawl but I am seeing fundamental grappling movements!
Yes. I brought my girls to the dojo but they weren’t ready. Few years later I tried again, and it went well but it didn’t stick (other activities.) Now they are adults and they want to rejoin their “little mother” at karate and sword 😄 I hope they do. I would love to leave my swords to them, when the time comes.
hi, a local Christian group run free mma classes. 2 times a week for 1 and a half hours pure mma no exercise. they do jiu jutsu. as part of the mma training. is this training better than just jiu jutsu classes to be a better fighter? I can't afford jiu jutsu classes atm.
It's really not. It can be when you're traveling for tournaments and doing one on ones with the main professor but regular classes aren't crazy expensive. I go to a Ferreira gym and we pay $135 a month and an extra $15 to do strength and conditioning. $150 a month for 20+ classes a months and 20+ workout sessions. Not expensive.
Miss 12 says, “Oh this guy. I feel like I’m letting him down by not being ready to be a SEAL at the age of 6. Does he know a taekwondo is better?” Boom.
Exactly thisi is how are govt t=wants to be and take parents rights away and determone what is best for everyone...who do they think they are the nerve...I love the christian schools where they challenge them both physically and mentally using both mond body and spiritually growing them in holiness...
This is really about challenging your kids to live at the boundaries of their abilities. That's were real growth takes place, it's where things are the most difficult but it's were you expand your world. The real problem is the vast majority of parents don't start pushing this kind of mindset when it matters most, when your kids are very young. I started when my son was still just a baby, this is how I did it. th-cam.com/video/LmWg7GNjApE/w-d-xo.html
Yikes. You were doing alright until you said that if they don't like it then "only" make them do it twice a week. Jujitsu isn't a magic cure-all that is necessary to live. I know Jocko doesn't agree but his bias and hypocrisy is on full display in this video. It's a hobby. Forcing your kids to do a hobby that they don't enjoy, especially one that is expensive and isn't easy to access in most areas, is a recipe for disaster. If you do this, the chances of your kids hating you will increase exponentially. Give it up and find a hobby that your kid actually enjoys and encourage them to do that instead. I know this is hard for Jocko to hear but jujitsu isn't as important as he thinks it is and there isn't a jujitsu gym on every corner in most cities in the United States.
It doesn't have to be BJJ, it can be boxing, wrestling, or kickboxing. Combat sports aren't like basketball or football. Everyone should know how to defend themselves. Also, nothing wrong with kids learning to do stuff they don't like. Can't worry about kids hating you. They'll get over it.
@@x80five50 Trust me, they don't get over it. Forcing your kids to do something that the law requires, like school for example, is one thing. Forcing them to do a hobby that they don't enjoy instead of letting them figure out what they enjoy and encouraging them to do that, is a completely different thing. You might think you're parent of the year for doing so, but those kids will grow up hating you. Don't expect them to take care of you when you're elderly or go to your funeral. Even if you have good intentions, what you are doing is telling your kid that what they enjoy, they thing that makes them an individual, isn't good. That they aren't good and you want them to be someone else. It hurts on a deep level and it will likely ruin any future relationship you want to have with the child.
@@Jack_of_Hearts4 I disagree with this statement so much. Yes, I want my kid to want to see me as an old man, but I want them to be prepared for life. I couldn't image my son getting beat up and not knowing how to defend himself. He’ll just have to hate me. I think if you articulate your intentions it shouldn't be an issue. I don't have a desire for him to become the next UFC Champion or a pro athlete. I’ve seen the results of not forcing your kids to do stuff they don't like and I want no part of that mindset for my son.
@x80five50 I'd be willing to bet that if your kids aren't forced to do a combative sport hobby that they don't enjoy, that they would grow up just fine. If they enjoy it or have a genuine interest in it, then great. If not, it's not the end of the world. I'm 35 and have made it this far without it. I enjoy philosophy and diplomacy. People are different, and that's okay. Plus if everyone is forced to do jujitsu, everyone will be able to beat the shit out of each other 😆. It loses its power. Try to teach healthy mindsets and habits. Don't force hobbies.
@@Jack_of_Hearts4I'm not saying that jiu jitsu is the key. However, it is important for your kid to learn that there are things that they don't like in life that they have to do and they have to do them well. After all, only the fortunate of us love what they do for work but everybody has to do it to survive. It's about building DISCIPLINE to force yourself to do hard things. Motivating yourself to do something that you love to do, does not build discipline. Edit: and raising a future health care worker is not my goal as a parent. They may not like me some days but, if I do my job, they'll respect me. My dad was a former Marine drill instructor. He woke me up by banging on a can everyday at 6:00 a.m. so that I can feed the dog. Was I pissed? Yes. I had no idea why the dog needed breakfast on a Saturday. Do I still think he's a dick for doing that? Yep. I also respect the fact that he showed up for every single game or event that I had growing up despite working double shifts in a factory to support his family. He sacrificed his happiness for me and I love him for it. Compared to that, making me get up to feed the dog or if he had made me take Jiu-Jitsu classes, is irrelevant.
It has changed my 3 boys whole demeanor. From very passive to completely confident. But they are also humbled daily. They are balanced. They are completely addicted. They've been training for a 1 1/2 years. I just started. They choose to train 6 days week. Multiple classes a day. I never imagined this happening when we signed them up for a trial class. Lol
Hell yea, bro. If I ever have kids, they are gonna be disciplined as all hell.
@@treykearns4867 the fact you think that is good but all that depends on the kid not you
When should my kid start training jujitsu?
Jocko: " in the womb"
Ridiculous man😂
They need to pass the guard at conception...
I was always a bjj fan since the 90s I put it off many times. At my 40s I just joined with my 3 kids 10 7 and 5 and we are loving it. And I am loving your podcast. Thank you !
Most kids when they are young enough will pick up on the cues of their parents and hopefully, it's healthy & stable, My dad would curl his dumbbells when we were 7-8 etc and of course, we wanted to try it. It becomes the norm in most cases. Thanks.
Ive been studying martial arts for over eight years. I see many parents getting the kids involved in training and balance. More teens are also getting involved. Of course, i am in adult classes three-four times a week a hour and half each training day. Jocko has great tips and guidance.
Well said, it's hard as a parent to put their ego aside about what they want for their kids and just let them find their own passion for it
He said the opposite of this. Forcing your kids to "just do it twice a week" even though they don't like it, is you forcing your ego onto your children.
Great advice! But a little difficult to implement. (At least for me…The staying patient part).
Still very practical pointers to change myself in order to nudge my kid to practice more. 😅
Thank you! ❤️
Edit: By the way Jocko (o great philosopher of our time)
Years ago I have heard you say something along the lines of:
- If you want someone be nice to you, be nice to them first.
- If you want someone to respect you, respect them first.
- And if you want to influence someone, let them influence you first.
(You mentioned something similar in this clip)
And for me this is one of the most important insights I ever heard in my life. This is maybe the easiest and most impactful guideline to improve your life, ever. (But of course there are finer points in this as well…as in every behavior. Still genius!)
So obvious, when you think about it. But we rarely do. Thank you for that as well! 🔥🤩❤️
My fingers broke thru the toilet paper
Bidets are the solution. Stop smearing your arse with your own feces.
Worst feeling ever!!!!
GOOD
🪦
Only piece of ass you got all month, huh?
Some hard truths in this, speak the truth brother 🇬🇧 🇺🇸
I used to live less than a mile from this guy in OB. When i heard he runs every morning at sunset cliffs, i went out and started running there instead of at dogs beach. I finally ran into him 1 morning (no pun intended). . . Hes the perfect "man's man"
This is how former military raises their children. I only have nieces and nephews and their parents are the opposite of this. It drives me nuts when I try to instill discipline into their lives and my sisters just baby them.
Kids and adults are better off in nearly every single way learning Judo first, jujitsu second. Judo will teach submission techniques suitable for effective street effectiveness if required but in most cases Judo will end the fight before needing to join them on the floor. Really wish this narrow focus of learning jujitsu before learning judo would piss off!
This is a really awesome and helpful clip thanks... I'm watching my 8 month old boy "shrimp", "post", "bridge" etc these days, he's just learning to crawl but I am seeing fundamental grappling movements!
Great to know! Thank you, love from Nova Scotia and Finnegan's Gram
It is parents's responsibilites to upbring their children in proper way and don't let them alcoholic from their childhood
Thanks for the tips!
this video really clicks with some of the things I've been reading in 'Magnetic Aura' from Borlest
So true 👍
Yes. I brought my girls to the dojo but they weren’t ready. Few years later I tried again, and it went well but it didn’t stick (other activities.) Now they are adults and they want to rejoin their “little mother” at karate and sword 😄 I hope they do. I would love to leave my swords to them, when the time comes.
Risk versus reward. Reward wins
love this
hi, a local Christian group run free mma classes. 2 times a week for 1 and a half hours pure mma no exercise. they do jiu jutsu. as part of the mma training. is this training better than just jiu jutsu classes to be a better fighter? I can't afford jiu jutsu classes atm.
this format really suits me
Good video.
My kid started wrestling at 5. He is almost 11 and I want to start introducing him to BJJ.
The problem with jujutsu is just expensive.
It's really not. It can be when you're traveling for tournaments and doing one on ones with the main professor but regular classes aren't crazy expensive. I go to a Ferreira gym and we pay $135 a month and an extra $15 to do strength and conditioning. $150 a month for 20+ classes a months and 20+ workout sessions. Not expensive.
See if there’s a local kids wrestling program in your area. There’s a good chance it will be way cheaper than your typical bjj gym
after school activities are getting expensive it's probably going to be 200 300 $$ a month to put my kid into jitsu..
Anyone know how long these full podcasts are on the subscription?
This is when the Willink children, sans Rana, weigh in on THEIR own experiences growing up with a kookoo Navy SEAL jiu jitsu dad.
best!!!
Miss 12 says, “Oh this guy. I feel like I’m letting him down by not being ready to be a SEAL at the age of 6.
Does he know a taekwondo is better?”
Boom.
Speed boxing?
Exactly thisi is how are govt t=wants to be and take parents rights away and determone what is best for everyone...who do they think they are the nerve...I love the christian schools where they challenge them both physically and mentally using both mond body and spiritually growing them in holiness...
Discipline equals freedom.
This is really about challenging your kids to live at the boundaries of their abilities. That's were real growth takes place, it's where things are the most difficult but it's were you expand your world. The real problem is the vast majority of parents don't start pushing this kind of mindset when it matters most, when your kids are very young. I started when my son was still just a baby, this is how I did it. th-cam.com/video/LmWg7GNjApE/w-d-xo.html
Same with firearms... I think they are handled safer when they've been normalized.
Wasssupppp
The Sai in Karate, do you know it's usage in medival...MEDICINE? Are you a paratrooper?
Yikes. You were doing alright until you said that if they don't like it then "only" make them do it twice a week. Jujitsu isn't a magic cure-all that is necessary to live. I know Jocko doesn't agree but his bias and hypocrisy is on full display in this video. It's a hobby. Forcing your kids to do a hobby that they don't enjoy, especially one that is expensive and isn't easy to access in most areas, is a recipe for disaster. If you do this, the chances of your kids hating you will increase exponentially. Give it up and find a hobby that your kid actually enjoys and encourage them to do that instead. I know this is hard for Jocko to hear but jujitsu isn't as important as he thinks it is and there isn't a jujitsu gym on every corner in most cities in the United States.
It doesn't have to be BJJ, it can be boxing, wrestling, or kickboxing. Combat sports aren't like basketball or football. Everyone should know how to defend themselves.
Also, nothing wrong with kids learning to do stuff they don't like. Can't worry about kids hating you. They'll get over it.
@@x80five50 Trust me, they don't get over it. Forcing your kids to do something that the law requires, like school for example, is one thing. Forcing them to do a hobby that they don't enjoy instead of letting them figure out what they enjoy and encouraging them to do that, is a completely different thing. You might think you're parent of the year for doing so, but those kids will grow up hating you. Don't expect them to take care of you when you're elderly or go to your funeral. Even if you have good intentions, what you are doing is telling your kid that what they enjoy, they thing that makes them an individual, isn't good. That they aren't good and you want them to be someone else. It hurts on a deep level and it will likely ruin any future relationship you want to have with the child.
@@Jack_of_Hearts4 I disagree with this statement so much. Yes, I want my kid to want to see me as an old man, but I want them to be prepared for life. I couldn't image my son getting beat up and not knowing how to defend himself. He’ll just have to hate me.
I think if you articulate your intentions it shouldn't be an issue. I don't have a desire for him to become the next UFC Champion or a pro athlete. I’ve seen the results of not forcing your kids to do stuff they don't like and I want no part of that mindset for my son.
@x80five50 I'd be willing to bet that if your kids aren't forced to do a combative sport hobby that they don't enjoy, that they would grow up just fine. If they enjoy it or have a genuine interest in it, then great. If not, it's not the end of the world. I'm 35 and have made it this far without it. I enjoy philosophy and diplomacy. People are different, and that's okay. Plus if everyone is forced to do jujitsu, everyone will be able to beat the shit out of each other 😆. It loses its power. Try to teach healthy mindsets and habits. Don't force hobbies.
@@Jack_of_Hearts4I'm not saying that jiu jitsu is the key. However, it is important for your kid to learn that there are things that they don't like in life that they have to do and they have to do them well. After all, only the fortunate of us love what they do for work but everybody has to do it to survive. It's about building DISCIPLINE to force yourself to do hard things. Motivating yourself to do something that you love to do, does not build discipline.
Edit: and raising a future health care worker is not my goal as a parent. They may not like me some days but, if I do my job, they'll respect me.
My dad was a former Marine drill instructor. He woke me up by banging on a can everyday at 6:00 a.m. so that I can feed the dog. Was I pissed? Yes. I had no idea why the dog needed breakfast on a Saturday. Do I still think he's a dick for doing that? Yep.
I also respect the fact that he showed up for every single game or event that I had growing up despite working double shifts in a factory to support his family. He sacrificed his happiness for me and I love him for it. Compared to that, making me get up to feed the dog or if he had made me take Jiu-Jitsu classes, is irrelevant.