Oh my goodness, you have helped me so much. I also lost my baby girl earlier this year and just found out today I'm now having a baby boy. I have always wanted a baby girl and it's so nice to hear that someone else feels like I do. I'm sorry for your loss and I hope you have a happy little boy.
WOW i have been guilty of telling others what your friend told you....I will NOT do that again....I feel bad for having done it in the past ...THANK you for opening my eyes to the hurt that can bring
So sorry for the loss of your daughter and congrats on your son! What an honest video! I had a girl and a boy and was pg with my third. I didn't find out what my baby was till birth but was sure it was a boy and really wanted a boy. When she came out a she I almost cried and was actually upset! I felt such guilt and felt I couldn't talk to anyone about it because what kind of mom is upset over the gender of her baby! It took a couple days but I got over it and now can't imagine life with out her. Funny thing is she is a total tom boy! Blessings!
Yeah I lost a girl a month ago and when we have another I want another girl. I'm praying and hoping I have another girl. I just really want a girl so trust me I understand.
I am now 39 weeks pregnant but around my 20 week scan I found out I was having a boy... I had wanted a girl n my boyfriend said he had wanted a girl for like our entire 5 year relationship... So he was immediately fine with it... N I remembered him getting annoyed Cuz at the next scan I asked is it still a boy.. Like maybe it descended... But no.. I was a little upset I mean I'm excited now but I remember going to target n seeing all the little dresses.. N like okay time to go to the other side.. I didn't think it was natural n it took me about a month to get over it so I was so worried about postpartum starting early but now I see it's just a reaction .. A realization .. I love my baby
AGAIN! THANK You for bringing up topics that so many people are so ashamed to bring up. I am just watching this (9/20/14) so I am happy to hear that you are again with child! I look forward to your other videos. I know I cried when I found out I was having a daughter (as my first)...for me it was 1. I ALWAYS wanted a boy first so that the rest of the kids could have a BIG brother to guide and protect them, as I did. 2. I always told myself that "there is no way that I could be the mom to my daughter that my mom was to me...she just KNEW how to raise me and I was not ready for a girl" 3. I KNEW the kind of hell I gave my parents as a girl and I in no way wanted to go thru that lol Thank you for your words of life and truth
Hi Sassy gal, I bet you're a WONDERFUL mum to a lovely girl! Thank you so much for your comment. How old is your daughter? How have you found it having a girl (despite your fears)?
I feel so bad saying this but I definitely know where you are coming from. I just found out I was pregnant with my 3rd. With my 1st I didn't care! from the start I knew I was having a girl but I didn't care either way. With my 2nd, I didn't care. I knew my daughter would love a sister and it would be easier to have another girl but I loved the idea of having 1 of each. I had a boy. I've recently found out I'm pregnant again and I'm hoping for another boy and I feel so guilty saying and I have no real reason I just would love another boy!
I can feel your strength! Great video, spectacular tackling of a difficult topic. Easy to understand for all viewers who might be starting out with a different view point. My gender scan is in 4 days and I would like a boy, seeing as we have a girl, but I feel that is it another girl. So I wanted to be prepared. Thank you.
That's what I immediately felt, disconnected from this baby, but I don't wanna pass these emotions to my child. But i felt immediately like who is this child? I don't even know you. A boy? I was for sure I could only have a girl. This is my first child and I wanted it to be my last. So I'll be stuck with only a boy for the rest of my life? I felt immediately like this could ii'm carrying is only his father's child, a very weird feeling. I feel horrible. I love him already. I really do. I just feel like I'll be able to do all of what I wanted to do with my daughter. The way I wanted to raise her
@@PamObasa I'm 7 months now and things have certainly changed. I was rereading my comment above and forgot I ever felt that way. I mean, i remember the disappointment, but forgot about feeling the complete disconnection and as though I was only having a child that would be his father's child and only the child I had to carry to make it possible. Now I realize with my lifestyle a boy may be best at this point in my life. Girls can be clingy and grown and get on your nerves sometimes lmbo. I mean, so can boys though lol. Im a private person who needs alone time and musician as well as author...I cannot have a girl underneath my wing with a trillion questions all at once.
I don't have any preference i just want a beautiful healthy baby when god blesses me ima love my baby regardless ima be a super good mother to my baby ima give him or her all my love and comfort and care.... and my all...
You are so good 😊 I could believe that they are people like me out there I’ve have 5 girls and know I’m pregnant again after 7 years but this time I’m tooo scared 😟 to ask if it’s a boy or girl ,but deep down I want a boy I truly love my daughter 🙂
Thank you for talking about this. Im as surprised as anyone that im going through gender disappointment. Yes i did IVF and yes i had had miscarriages. None of these are a factor in this. It comes from out of the blue
Colorsofsoulart this pregnancy for me, my second pregnancy, is nothing short of a miracle. I wasn't supposed to make it past ten weeks, if I ever did conceive again. We have almost everyone saying we better have a boy. For a number of reasons. Family pressure is heavy, and, even though I really don't care either way, if I have another girl, I'll probably be upset because I will feel like I've let them all down, even though, technically speaking, his stuff does that part.
The pressure from family. That's my thing. EVERYONE expects us to have a son this time. Me? Don't really care, it'll be a blessing to have another child. My husband wants a son, we have a cousin who has all boys, but one. (with five children total) She's already told me that if I have another daughter I will no longer have any connection with her children. (Her children are quite attached to me) we find out in four weeks, and I have the odd feeling I'm going to disappoint everyone. 😔
I agree with you. I really really wanted so much since I was a girl I wanted a girl or a sister. I never had a sister that's why I wanted so much a girl. Wend the doctor said I will have a boy i was shocked and I cry and cry I didn't wanted I can imagine to be a boy mather, because I didn't think I will have a boy, since I was little girl I sad to me wen I will grow up I will be married and I will have only a baby girl.... Wend they said to me I will have a boy I didn't acept it because I didn't have a special relationship with the other gender, I think boy's are the baddest thing.... Now I can't not imagine being a boy mather yet, I hope I accepted it... I want it to acept but it not easy all of my life I hated boys because they are the pure bad, they abuse the girls, they beat the girls, they are overbearing, they are hyperactive, not cuddly..... That's why I didn't want it a boy, I don't want to grow a monster to treat badly the girls, I could not supported to see my boy mistreat a sweet girl.... I appreciate you speak about the disappointment about baby gender, because nobody speaks about it... Why? I think every woman have she's story, it's normal to be shock or disappointment if you have a baby specially if you was abuse or mistreated when you were a baby
BOYS are BAD AZZ HELL.. I have a 15 month old.. N i soo wanted a girl.. I cried for 3 days once i found out.. Im still dissapointed til this day.. I love him to death but mannn he is sooo whiny and always up under me.. I just want a girl and i hope the next child god blesses me with is a healthy beautiful yella baby girl
I wanted a girl, and in my day they couldn't tell what it was until it was out. After 40 years, I am still bummed out about NOT having a daughter. I never tried again because I didn't want to have another boy. If I had it to do over again, I would have kept trying until I got my girl. Too late for me now, butt if I could , I would try for a girl. I feel cheated, as my son turned out to be a big disappointed. He never got married, but had a daughter out of wedlock who is now almost 19 years old. We have NO relationship, never talk. He DOES have a relationship with his father. Another unfortunate thing is, since he is an ONLY child, he will become a rich man when my husband and I die. We have over a million dollars in savings and my husband wants to KEEP saving and leave it all to HIS son. HOPEFULLY I will outlive my husband and I will leave his son ZERO!!!!!!!!!! I will leave it to charities and close friends.
thank you for sharing your story! so touching. new subbie :-) xx you've inspired me to talk about my gender disappointment too. I've just started on youtube, check out my channel :-)
I think you are brilliant for bringing this subject up and talking about it so openly. :) great video x
Thank you Rachel x
Disagree she is talking about African culture about boy bias I understand but in western culture baby boys are regarded as shit!
Thank you for this topic and your honesty. I too lost a baby at birth, my son. God bless you with a healthy baby.
Oh my goodness, you have helped me so much. I also lost my baby girl earlier this year and just found out today I'm now having a baby boy. I have always wanted a baby girl and it's so nice to hear that someone else feels like I do. I'm sorry for your loss and I hope you have a happy little boy.
WOW i have been guilty of telling others what your friend told you....I will NOT do that again....I feel bad for having done it in the past ...THANK you for opening my eyes to the hurt that can bring
Thank you so much for this video I am having a boy and I feel so heartbroken I really wanted a girl I feel so guilty but I can't help it
So sorry for the loss of your daughter and congrats on your son! What an honest video! I had a girl and a boy and was pg with my third. I didn't find out what my baby was till birth but was sure it was a boy and really wanted a boy. When she came out a she I almost cried and was actually upset! I felt such guilt and felt I couldn't talk to anyone about it because what kind of mom is upset over the gender of her baby! It took a couple days but I got over it and now can't imagine life with out her. Funny thing is she is a total tom boy! Blessings!
Yeah I lost a girl a month ago and when we have another I want another girl. I'm praying and hoping I have another girl. I just really want a girl so trust me I understand.
I am now 39 weeks pregnant but around my 20 week scan I found out I was having a boy... I had wanted a girl n my boyfriend said he had wanted a girl for like our entire 5 year relationship... So he was immediately fine with it... N I remembered him getting annoyed Cuz at the next scan I asked is it still a boy.. Like maybe it descended... But no.. I was a little upset I mean I'm excited now but I remember going to target n seeing all the little dresses.. N like okay time to go to the other side.. I didn't think it was natural n it took me about a month to get over it so I was so worried about postpartum starting early but now I see it's just a reaction .. A realization .. I love my baby
Why would a guy want a girl baby? Creepy :/
Im having a healthy baby boy. Im 23 weeks and I can relate. I really wanted a girl. But ill still love the baby regardless
AGAIN! THANK You for bringing up topics that so many people are so ashamed to bring up. I am just watching this (9/20/14) so I am happy to hear that you are again with child! I look forward to your other videos. I know I cried when I found out I was having a daughter (as my first)...for me it was
1. I ALWAYS wanted a boy first so that the rest of the kids could have a BIG brother to guide and protect them, as I did.
2. I always told myself that "there is no way that I could be the mom to my daughter that my mom was to me...she just KNEW how to raise me and I was not ready for a girl"
3. I KNEW the kind of hell I gave my parents as a girl and I in no way wanted to go thru that lol
Thank you for your words of life and truth
Hi Sassy gal, I bet you're a WONDERFUL mum to a lovely girl! Thank you so much for your comment. How old is your daughter? How have you found it having a girl (despite your fears)?
Sassy Gal to me, gender doesn't matter. AT ALL. I know a lot of people prefer a gender, I don't. I honestly don't care.
I wanted a boy, and we waited til our child was born to find out. We had a girl and it took me a little while to not feel a little disappointed.
I feel so bad saying this but I definitely know where you are coming from. I just found out I was pregnant with my 3rd. With my 1st I didn't care! from the start I knew I was having a girl but I didn't care either way. With my 2nd, I didn't care. I knew my daughter would love a sister and it would be easier to have another girl but I loved the idea of having 1 of each. I had a boy. I've recently found out I'm pregnant again and I'm hoping for another boy and I feel so guilty saying and I have no real reason I just would love another boy!
I can feel your strength! Great video, spectacular tackling of a difficult topic. Easy to understand for all viewers who might be starting out with a different view point. My gender scan is in 4 days and I would like a boy, seeing as we have a girl, but I feel that is it another girl. So I wanted to be prepared. Thank you.
I'm so very sorry for your loss x
That's what I immediately felt, disconnected from this baby, but I don't wanna pass these emotions to my child. But i felt immediately like who is this child? I don't even know you. A boy? I was for sure I could only have a girl. This is my first child and I wanted it to be my last. So I'll be stuck with only a boy for the rest of my life? I felt immediately like this could ii'm carrying is only his father's child, a very weird feeling. I feel horrible. I love him already. I really do. I just feel like I'll be able to do all of what I wanted to do with my daughter. The way I wanted to raise her
I totally get it, thank you for sharing x
@@PamObasa I'm 7 months now and things have certainly changed. I was rereading my comment above and forgot I ever felt that way. I mean, i remember the disappointment, but forgot about feeling the complete disconnection and as though I was only having a child that would be his father's child and only the child I had to carry to make it possible. Now I realize with my lifestyle a boy may be best at this point in my life. Girls can be clingy and grown and get on your nerves sometimes lmbo. I mean, so can boys though lol. Im a private person who needs alone time and musician as well as author...I cannot have a girl underneath my wing with a trillion questions all at once.
this is a great video and so honest. When I have a baby I hope to have a girl and if I end up having a boy I honestly don't know what I would do.
Yeah same here
Your so wrong I love my beautiful son and daughter the same they both bring joy and their own qualities that enrich my life!
Thank you so much for having the courage to share this :)
Thank you for sharing with us. You're so strong. ❤️
Yesssss!!!! What we prefer is always hard to accept!!! It's really hard to cope!!! Thank you for this vlog!!
I’m glad you enjoyed it. Thank you for stopping by ☺️
I love how real you are!!! ❤❤❤❤
I don't have any preference i just want a beautiful healthy baby when god blesses me ima love my baby regardless ima be a super good mother to my baby ima give him or her all my love and comfort and care.... and my all...
You are so good 😊 I could believe that they are people like me out there
I’ve have 5 girls and know I’m pregnant again after 7 years but this time I’m tooo scared 😟 to ask if it’s a boy or girl ,but deep down I want a boy
I truly love my daughter 🙂
Thank you for talking about this. Im as surprised as anyone that im going through gender disappointment. Yes i did IVF and yes i had had miscarriages. None of these are a factor in this. It comes from out of the blue
Good on you girl for putting this video out
I'm so sorry for your loss
I just want to be a mommy
Many women just want to be able to have babies, no matter the gender. But, I think you have a good point.
Colorsofsoulart this pregnancy for me, my second pregnancy, is nothing short of a miracle. I wasn't supposed to make it past ten weeks, if I ever did conceive again. We have almost everyone saying we better have a boy. For a number of reasons. Family pressure is heavy, and, even though I really don't care either way, if I have another girl, I'll probably be upset because I will feel like I've let them all down, even though, technically speaking, his stuff does that part.
The pressure from family. That's my thing. EVERYONE expects us to have a son this time. Me? Don't really care, it'll be a blessing to have another child. My husband wants a son, we have a cousin who has all boys, but one. (with five children total) She's already told me that if I have another daughter I will no longer have any connection with her children. (Her children are quite attached to me) we find out in four weeks, and I have the odd feeling I'm going to disappoint everyone. 😔
I am so grateful for this video, thank you soo very much God bless you. .
your story is so beautiful
I agree with you. I really really wanted so much since I was a girl I wanted a girl or a sister. I never had a sister that's why I wanted so much a girl. Wend the doctor said I will have a boy i was shocked and I cry and cry I didn't wanted I can imagine to be a boy mather, because I didn't think I will have a boy, since I was little girl I sad to me wen I will grow up I will be married and I will have only a baby girl.... Wend they said to me I will have a boy I didn't acept it because I didn't have a special relationship with the other gender, I think boy's are the baddest thing.... Now I can't not imagine being a boy mather yet, I hope I accepted it... I want it to acept but it not easy all of my life I hated boys because they are the pure bad, they abuse the girls, they beat the girls, they are overbearing, they are hyperactive, not cuddly..... That's why I didn't want it a boy, I don't want to grow a monster to treat badly the girls, I could not supported to see my boy mistreat a sweet girl.... I appreciate you speak about the disappointment about baby gender, because nobody speaks about it... Why? I think every woman have she's story, it's normal to be shock or disappointment if you have a baby specially if you was abuse or mistreated when you were a baby
Thank you for making this.
thank you for watching :)
Thank you so much for this video
BOYS are BAD AZZ HELL.. I have a 15 month old.. N i soo wanted a girl.. I cried for 3 days once i found out.. Im still dissapointed til this day.. I love him to death but mannn he is sooo whiny and always up under me.. I just want a girl and i hope the next child god blesses me with is a healthy beautiful yella baby girl
thank you
I wanted a girl, and in my day they couldn't tell what it was until it was out.
After 40 years, I am still bummed out about NOT having a daughter.
I never tried again because I didn't want to have another boy.
If I had it to do over again, I would have kept trying until I got my girl.
Too late for me now, butt if I could , I would try for a girl.
I feel cheated, as my son turned out to be a big disappointed.
He never got married, but had a daughter out of wedlock who is now
almost 19 years old.
We have NO relationship, never talk.
He DOES have a relationship with his father.
Another unfortunate thing is, since he is an ONLY child, he will become
a rich man when my husband and I die.
We have over a million dollars in savings and my husband wants to
KEEP saving and leave it all to HIS son.
HOPEFULLY I will outlive my husband and I will leave his son ZERO!!!!!!!!!!
I will leave it to charities and close friends.
wtf
+carole klane you're a sexist bitch
you shouldn't mourn the loss of your son who isn't gone yet... reconnect with him.
I'm so sorry to hear that!!! i truly hope all works out for you and your son!! 😢
carole klane This has to be a joke....
thank you for sharing your story! so touching. new subbie :-) xx you've inspired me to talk about my gender disappointment too. I've just started on youtube, check out my channel :-)
I love boys. They are leas drama as teens and don’t spend hours in the mirror.
strange, I would think after having a deceased baby you would only care if it was healthy...
Ew, a boy!!!!