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The Love Chat Do you think an emotionally unavailable man that doesn’t want a relationship would come back? We’ve been off and on not official since he broke up with me in Winter 2017. Thank you in advance.
People give up so easily on relationships because they tend to live by the phrase “If it's meant to be, it’ll come naturally.” It won’t. You need to fight for things. The honeymoon phase will end. Your partner will piss you off. Your relationship and time with the person won’t be as exciting as it was when you first entered the relationship. A lot of people these days think those things should never end and that’s why relationships never last. They keep searching for “the one” thinking this person is going to come into their life being everything they've ever wanted and they’ll never have issues with each other. People are no longer willing to work on and build relationships stronger in my opinion (i'm only 21)
My ex left me for the rebound, later on I found out that she broke up with him shortly. She tried talking to me but I didnt want her back. Good bye felicia!
Rebounders are just emotional cowards...they cannot handle being alone and working on themselves so they just jump into a new relationship to avoid doing the work and confronting their inner demons. They think the new relationship will help them skip over all the emotions necessary to get over their ex but they dont realize that its only prolonging their grief and they will drag their baggage into their rebound relationship.
@@alifakherddine785 my ex girlfriend lied all the way through our relationship always doing stuff behind my back,messaging other men and all that shite,so in the end she was not worth it in the first place,so when she dumped me it was the best thing ever,she tried the 'let's be friend's'thing 'which I didn't fall for lol.
“They are proving that they can do whatever they want to do.” BINGO! I noticed my ex always moved on so quickly with every one of his exes (including me) to simply escape his feelings... and yes, to prove a point to himself that can be independent and do whatever he wants. Remember: feeling your feelings is the mature, long-term helpful response. Escaping them just puts off the pain longer.
Patrik Nagy sounds like she’s the type of person who relies on others for validation and can’t stand to be alone. Probably thrives in limerence. Feel free to look up that term.
People who rebound are usually insecure and don’t like themselves enough to be alone me and my ex have been broken up for like 5 months and she’s gone through 5 guys since then the most recent guy is supposedly the love of her life and they’re moving in together after a month of dating so try not to obsess over what your ex is doing improve on yourself and live your life to the fullest
Excellent timing, as usual! Just found out this week that my ex is rebounding with a guy she already obviously had the hots for during our relationship. It hurt like hell, but now I'm starting to think it might actually help me get over her. It just makes the break-up seem more real, more final. And it makes me less afraid of taking steps towards a future with someone else myself.
Damn... That's what i'm afraid of: this final step, when you realize your ex have moved on with someone else. I cannot imagine how painful it must be. It has been 4 months since he left me and i'm terrified about this inevitable moment... You go buddy!
@@mlqtd For me, it's only been two months since the break-up. It is very painful indeed to imagine her with that guy (I've met him many times myself), especially since I knew as soon as we broke up that she would run to him (or one of her many other orbiters). But maybe it's a good thing. I feel like I needed this kick in the nuts to finally accept that it's really over and I need to move on - something I've been unable to do for the last two months.
I definitely know that feeling. My ex was flirting with his coworker and they were getting a little too close for comfort two months before the break up. He also admitted that he found her very attractive. It hurt to find out he was cheating on me and sleeping with her. Wasted three years with him and I’m terrified of people now.
People like them have no respect for themselves. I do understand the psychology behind their move and yet I despise this behavior. It only tells about their emotional weakness and cowardice. They are unable to feel whole alone and use people like objects to see their own "value" through them. Pathetic. My ex rebounded a week after the breakup, lol. I'm over it for a long while now, however my view on these people won't change.
Same situation with my ex too, and after 3 weeks of her 'pause' she called me to take her back. I said yes and then got rejected for the second time. She told me that she slept with a guy after the second week, we having a 2 years relationship. Now I'm done with her, she chase me everywhere but no, we finish.
My boyfriend of two years broke up with me. I was heartbroken. I gave him the break up and never contacted him since then. A month later he came back crying and regretted his decission. He told me he tried talking to other girl and they kissed. He thought it could make him get over me quicker but he was obvioualy wrong. He said it even made him miss me more and seemed like he later on, he got stuck greiving and regretting over our break up. We are back together now and our relationship is better. We realized a lot during no contact.
Hey Rory, i thought about my relationship today fully amd realized how wrong i was treates even when our relationship was at our peak, for some reason, it stung but immediately after, i realised every bit of my feelings, each and every bit of it. Disappeared. I unfollowed him today and felt a weight lift off my shoulder. I can breath now. I finally don't want him back at all. I'm finally free. Thankyou Rory. I'll pray for you.
I followed your advice and it f#&&6 worked you probably know this already but when she came back I was fully healed and didn't want her anymore you are a champion bro but she's so lonely she shattered her life but because of God bro Im here for here still
I dumped my ex-GF . She was crazy jealous and controlling. And we were always arguing. But she loved me for real. It was a relief for me and I ended it although I didn’t want to. I loved her, she was gorgeous and we are very similar. It was fine for some time but now after almost 2 years I don’t feel good. I miss her and I can’t seem to find someone who fulfills me. Also I have a ton of regret for what I did when the break up happened. And for the mistakes I made. Gosh it’s obliterating. Of course I tried talk to her but she has moved on apparently. Feels bad. This isn’t fair.
Carlos Ribeiro keep going, man. There’s no point going back, I’ve tried it numerous (6) times and it never stuck and there was eventually something waaaay better further down the road. I’m really coming to the view that if you really love you never leave, it doesn’t feel right to leave.
look up attachment styles. Sounds like you may be avoidant and your ex was anxious/preoccupied. Am going through a break-up with an avoidant right now of four years. Heart broken. I learned about attachment styles after the break-up and wish I had known years earlier as it may have helped to save the relationship. It has been 3.5 months since the split and 25 days NC. Wish I knew about this a long time ago. It has changed my life and perspective
Soo Appreciated this video... It's going over a year since my Ex (3 hlf yrs) broke up with me and a month and half later she had a rebound ( monkey branched) and posted all on social media knowing it would get back to me. That shit broke me at first . That betrayal still hits me in the Gut sometimes. Couple months later she tried to reconnect with me , I just applied the No Contact rule and keep it moving forward. Like the end of this video says. Go to Gym , travel, nature walks etc. Start refocusing and practice self love. Time heals all wounds.
My Ex hooked up with a work colleague almost immediately + has spent nearly two years globe trotting with her while not doing anything for our kids. I am very annoyed.
my guess..is that work colleague was already in the picture before you two were done if he hooked up with immediately and are still together globe trotting.
My Ex had this guy lined up before she dumped me. Her and I were together 8 years and engaged for 3. The new guy just got out of a long term relationship of at least 8 years or longer. They are both rebounding. It's going to fail. My ex, as we were splitting up and moving out, sat down with me on the couch and cried for hours in my arms. She said she felt bad for seeking out another person behind my back. She said she couldn't stand to see how hurt I was. The last text I sent her was that I hope she finds herself and what she is seeking for in life. Then I texted "Best Wishes" giving it a "finality" we haven't spoken for 3 to 4 weeks now. It's killing her I know. 8 years with her I know how she is feeling.
Hey Rory, great video. I was cheated on then left for the other person. Can you do a video on recovering from infidelity? It's been 6 months and even though I'm ready to date again casually, I'm not the same. It's like a part of me died and a good chunk of my soul is scar tissue. My worldview has also changed substantially for the worse. I'm no longer naive but cynicism has replaced it. Will I ever fully recover I know that there's a lot of other people feeling this way and doing an in depth or series of videos on this type of thing could be very helpful. Thanks if you read this
Yes you will recover. My first ever girlfriend cheated on me and lied about it. I thought I would never be the same again, and to be honest I wasn’t. I realized one day that cheating isn’t a reflection on you, it on them and their warped sense of what they think will make them happy
That type of shit makes me strong and shows me I am on the right path. Maybe not to win them back, but to live my life to the fullest, with or without them.
My ex of less than two weeks is already back with her ex (that dumped her before we started dating). The one she said she hated and never wanted to see again. I want to confront her and let her know that I know she used me as rebound therapy and that all of the things we had together were her effort to get over the pain of being dumped herself. Should I? I feel like, after 4 months of using me, she got over the pain, then monkey branched right back to him. And I believe at some point in our relationship, he reinserted himself into her life and asked for another chance. And she was just looking for an opportunity for me to mess up to swing right back to him. But she was so convincing and I believed that we were in love. I'm afraid this is a huge setback in my personal focus. Thanks for any comments you send this way.
I just found out my ex is 15w pregnant with a guy she only live with for a few months. After calculate the time, turn out either she cheated on me or she is pregnant after a week she dumped me. It hurts regardlessly, but it's also a final nail into the coffin for my hope to get back with her
ngoc long Nguyen I feel for you, ngoc. I had a similar thing and it wasn’t nice but I have a new job and there’s lots of potential women. And it will work out with someone else - when it works with someone it really works, doesn’t matter when or where, so don’t idealise the one who left, save yourself for someone new, just grieve and loosen up, be nice to everybody and see how it goes. I’m sure you’ll be fine in the end.
@@Calidore1 yeah, i know i'll be fine in the end. Right now i choose to focus on education and my job. But still, cant really believe that things turn out like that. Tks for the advices
My friend. I hope you're doing better four months later. I would ask if things have gotten better for you but I've learned most people in these comment sections usually dont reply. Hopefully cause you have reconciled with your ex or you moved on to somebody better than them to be too busy to answer we peasants in the comments.(lol jk) Good luck to you either way,
@@brettfire83 first of all you will have to forgive me for any grammar mistakes that i going to make (english is not my native tounge) Secondly, thank you for your concern. My ex is giving birth next month, she's currently living in another country with her husband. I'm pretty much over her rightnow even though sometime the memories still hit back I still casually dating and changing my self to be a better version. Looking back at the breakup, i think it's necessary for both her and me She is still following social media tho, i dont know why If you are going through a breakup then i have some advices for you -You can only count on your self -Always try to be better -Dont hope for your ex to come back -Embrace your feeling -Everything is going to be ok I hope you have a wonderful journey
My ex did the same thing during our break. Not necessarily fall into a relationship but started dating again. It hurt a lot at the time but I know that she didn’t grow as much or take time to reflect.
She already messing with some guy after 4weeks since we broke up, we're on the same boat man. It hurts but all we can do about that is nothing but to focus on ourselves. I want her to realize and regret what she dumped. :)
Rory, can you talk about the aftermath of NC? You rarely talk about meeting your ex after months of NC, what to expect in that meeting or after the meet up. What do you do after that happens or what not to do. I think we talk so much about the breakup and NC but not about what happens after it's all over. How do you get yourself back??
Perfectly put, and very wise words to take heed of to help you get over and forget your ex. However IF you really do want to get you ex BACK, you must be very careful that they aren't just a malicious and 'malignant narcissist', which is a WHOLE different ball game! Be warned...........
My ex wife ended a 17 year old marriage through Messenger. She is now in a rebound and it has completely destroyed our 13 year old daughter. To see the pain in her eyes and the cuts on her arm makes me so angry.
This came at such a great time. Going through this right now and honestly I can say this video just gives me more knowledge and power! Appreciate your videos a ton Rory!
I do all the things you suggested. Yes it's hard to get over someone you have known for a long time. Loved with him for7 yrs. And have been friends .dated off and on for 2. But when he asked me back like a fool I went back. After 1 month he dumped me for his ex. No I don't think he will leave her. She has money ,big car, lives in a big duplex. I have nothing he wants. Thank youfor this reading.
I’m Christian and so was he. He is doing all the wrong things and I was thinking about talking to a guy then I realized no I’m not subjecting to his levels I’m focusing on god. God will make anything possible, I am closing that door I had with him. He never was talking to this girl when we dated in fact it was three weeks after he was sad and became happy because of her. She is a complete downgrade, ever since I have moved on with my life I realized that more guys have noticed me since I’ve gained the confidence. You will find someone and no relationship is perfect. Live on your own and grow your relationship with god if you are Christian. That is what had made me happy through this dark path
Hi Rory, in your opinion, how often are rebounds actual rebounds as opposed to just us (dumpees) just hoping/thinking it is? As we have heard before, dumpers are often already mentally & emotionally checked out weeks/months before the actual breakup. So they have this 'extra' time to move on compared to us. Thanks for the amazing videos (as always!!)
Me and my ex were together for 14 years. She cheated on me and left me for him. They got married 4 months later. He is a known meth addict. And now has her on that poison. Its been 2 years. And not a single word from her. Its just crazy as hell to me. Like i never existed!
My ex posted a social media picture and looks so different. In his pictures he used to look goofy and happy, he’s such a sweet person. In this new picture, his hair is cut much shorter and he has new jewelry. He looks no longer goofy, but almost mean and “badass”. He also received a huge compliment from some girl saying “holy shit you are absolutely stunning”. He responded by saying “Thank you. Tazer ain’t got nothin on me”. I don’t know who Tazer is. Is it a code name for me? Is it this other girl’s ex? Are my ex and this commenter in a relationship? I’m trying to understand both the shift in appearance and this weird comment thread. I’m having so much trouble making sense of it
that phrase hit me hard cuz that is what she said to me when she broke up with me. "if we're meant together, we're truly are, only god knows". I was like, do you really thought it was just like that if we're meant for each other? damn i am already here with you by the time we've met, it's the reason and plan that we crossed our path and now you just dumping me? letting me go? and saying to me "if we're meant together, it'll be us"... girl you hurt me. you broke me so bad. :)
Hi Coach, Its almost 2 months ago my ex broke up with me. The reason was lost of (sexual) attraction she said, I think it was emotional attraction. After 3 weeks she kissed someone else. She said it to me on a party we were invited together. The next day I texted her that maybe we could have a talk. She ignored. I went in no-contact for 3.5 weeks and then texted her. I said that i was wondering how she was doing and I apologized for my behaviour. She responded cheerfully and kindly. After 2/3 days of texting (she responded very slowly but nice) i asked her for a call. She agreed and we called for about 30min. I asked her how she was doing the last past weeks, how her life was without me, how school goes etc. It was a good conversation but she reacted very cold to things about the relationship. The next day I sent her a text where I rais her cold behaviour and said it looks like the break-up didn’t hurt her so much. I also asked her to meet-up to see if there is still something between us. She said that she thinks she is maybe further than me in the healprocess and looks already further. She agreed for a meet-up if I like so but she also said that it isn’t necessary for her and that she know’s we won’t get back together. My family and friends said: don’t do it and try to get over her. But it’s difficult. I miss her but did never beg or plead. I agreed with the break-up and give her much space. The textes I send were not needy at all but more casual. I think that she gets a lot of attention from other boys and she goes partying many times so she didn t felt the lost. Well my question is: should I meet-up with her? Is there any hope? Or should I forget about her? We went together for 1.5 year. Hope to hear from you!
My wife didn't rebound for 3 years until she saw me with someone else and projected me onto him and even married him soon after and now it's failed,,,I really think seeing me move on pushed her over the edge.
hi i’ve been in a relationship with my ex for almost 8 years plus now. she broke up with me and got engaged and one day she told me do you believe in second chances. so we went back together. i was still jobless at that moment and she broke up with me. i just wrote a letter to her to told her i’m good now. but she told me she don’t already gave me a lot of chances and she don’t to waste her time anymore. do take note we had two abortion together. before she got engaged and after she got engaged. we wasn’t stable at that point . i want to make it right but she told me she don’t want it any longer and she just want us to end. in my end i do know i’m quite capable now . but i no longer know what should i do anymore . i’ve tried so hard but she’s just don’t want to give us another shot
Don’t listen to this other clown. Develop an abundance mindset and get a job to chase that check. It’s chase the dollar and as a result you up your worth. When you do that you can attract better quality women. You work on yourself and make yourself a catch. Through working, lifting, social skills, etc...
This is spot on Rory...! My ex has changed so much and his chasing a much younger girl when this really makes no sense to me as I was 16 years older than him... his not the type to go out drinking cause he just doesn’t drink or doesn’t go clubbing. The thing he loves is social media and tagging ppl in stuff and him being tagged in stuff. Social media is his thing to be validated.! Once he started being a CrossFit coach things so much for us. His confidence grew and began this different person and my insecurities blew up big time. Sucks loving someone that changed so much and couldn’t careless about me anymore. I was his everything until something else became his everything so clearly I wasn’t his everything at all. 😢
Love the video. Thanks! Going thru this as we speak. Ex just jumped into a rebound with a total loser with no job no car and doesn’t have avenue custody of her 3 kids..... ugh.
My ex that ended it wasted no time in meeting someone else, he told me he has met someone like 5 months after the breakup during Covid...I am not convinced it took them 5 months to date again. Eejit. I wouldn't be the amazing self-loved person if it wasn't for that idiot, so grateful!
Thank you for your continued work, I often find myself coming back to your channel for better understanding. I have grown so much much since my breakup but I always enjoy learning more and becoming a better version of myself
Maybe do a video when couples broke up over religious reasons - or when they break up with you but tell you a reason why they broke up with you to another person that wasn’t told to you.
He gave up so easily but I appreciate his way to settle it. He made me comfortable and assure me that I’m good, just he thinks we left scars on each other. In fact, I wasn’t left broken. Just two days after it I resume happy life though I will think of him from time to time, wondering what could have be lead on.
Rory, I dated a woman for 4 years. Her parents did everything they could to break us up because I was the one thing in her life she wanted and loved that her parents didn’t approve of. They were racist and hid their racism behind religion. She finally succumbed to their pressure and broke with me after asking me a week earlier to marry her. I proposed to her a year prior and she was scare of what her parents would say. I was so elated that she asked me, but I wanted her family to be whole. I knew it would make her happy so I said yes but give me time to get on her parents good side. She broke up with me a week later after going on vacation with her family. She essentially ghosted a 4 year relationship with no closure except for “it was never right”. She started dating a guy immediately that I was cool with, that I introduced her to a while back and they started their relationship extremely fast. It was like they picked up where we left off. Everything that we built slowing and organically over time she just gave to this other guy. Her family accepted him fast and did everything to make him part of the family. She ran into me a few times between then and now and she cried every time. I treated her like gold and our relationship was beautiful, natural and real. Two weeks ago, 6 months after asking me to marry her, she got engaged to the rebound. Please help me understand this?
Hello good night I have yet to experience anything you have talked about on your chat and I love all of them and I listen to them to get me by and they truly help. My wife and I have been broken up since almost 6months and i left after she told me she didn't want to be with me anymore so i went back to my sister's house she packed up my things and i cut her off. Stopped talking to her, her family and everything. She's very very stubborn so I don't see her doing any of this and I NEVER believes she every reaching out again. But as I said they are great videos.
My girlfriend of 1 year broke up with me mid December, got back with me a day later. Then after week of great times again, she cheated on me, with 2 separate guys, including her ex. I found out the hard way. I called her out on it and she broke up with me. Devastated and destroyed doesn't even being to cover it. I'm at day 35 of no contact. Ive been hitting the gym and seeing friends and family from day 1. Although it still hurts, today i realized....what a horrible fucking person, or maybe she is lost and still young. Her mum messaged me a couple of days after the second break up (probably not aware of what her daughter done) as follows "I feel terrible as much a love my daughter she can be heartless sometimes so i am really sorry about the way she has treated you......I know you were good for her and i know you loved her i could see that and i know she will not get anyone like you who will treat her like you did she is a fool to let you go. I am totally gutted. Your shoes will be very hard to fill". I happened to read this message back today and it was my eureka moment. When your own mother acknowledges how "heartless" you are....thats all i need to know. Still miss her but i know it can not be. Send me positive vibes guys. Its been a tough pill to swallow.
My girlfriend of 3 years (lived together for over 2 years) started an emotional affair behind my back and we broke up when I caught her meeting up with the guy. Within a day of me moving out she had him over our place. It’s truly disgusting what some people can do, but realize that the person you were in love with never existed. You were in love with an idea of who you thought she was, but her actions showed you that person isn’t real. Be grateful that you dodged a bullet and got out of that black hole early instead of later. Once a cheater always a cheater....
Keeping yourself occupied is only a temporary distraction but it works. You also have to learn not to react on your emotions and change your perception. I know that it's easier said than done.
She left me for my close friend who didn't know abt our relationship (she wanted to keep it so) Actually she was somewhat cheating emotionally and I caught her once and when it was time to confront about our relationship in front of him she denied any relationship at all Please make a video on topic about third person in relationship
My ex is number 2. Its been 2months after a 8yr relationship,didnt hear from her,she be partting,drinking,talking with other men,as rory said acting like she is young again. Honestly my brain wants her but my heart says no. Its been great for me though. Got a new job, brought a car, building my house...slaying the dragon!! I see it as her lost now because strangly when i started moving on, other women just started poping up in my life, not in for the relationship though but it feels good. My question is, do they ever feel the pain of the break up or can they continue putting it off?
They care, it's hard for them but they Care, I'm going through the same shit, my ex of six years is in a rebound relationship with a mutual friend who is also her roommate (it's must be hard for her that much that she did the most idiotic thing ever hahahah cause the thrid roommate doesn't know) anyway, it's hard, and if they don't slay the dragon the dragon will be bigger and bigger. The dragon could be you or some other shit, but they'll remember the time that you've been together and remember how small was the dragon back then
Rory, could you do a video on establishing boundaries after a reconciliation with an ex? I'm curious how to go about setting boundaries that haven't been addressed in the past without causing issue through the reconciliation.. Thanks!
Hey Rory. Can you make a video about working with an ex who is your boss in the same workplace. And what to do when they're dating a coworker who was your bestfriend. Struggling to do the no contact when working with her and she constantly wants to talk to me, but doesn't want me back and only cares for me as a friend. She was the one who broke up with me, because I was insecure and very needy. Love your channel and I've started watching all your videos. Thank you!
I asked my ex if shes in another relationship so i wouldnt hope for her to come back anymore although deep inside i want her back. She told me she does, and idk the chances of her coming back.
How about when your married to a DA and he's in a rebound relationship. Separated now 2yrs. Work on yourself n stay strong. If he ever returns I will be this bad ass women working n going to school to a degree in Psychology. ❤
My husband also dumped me.. LDR as well.. After 16 years he dumped me because he went out with his co-worker... Today is our wedding anniv thats why it hurts so much...
@@ravencris2644 since November last year but we had a chat Yesterday about our first born... he stated that he didnt do the things that a husband should do to his wife.. He said that he was abnormal..he then Thanked me for everything..and He blocked me after... I dont get him..we didnt even fight... I am so down today.
its been 5 months since my ldr breakup, we finally started talking on christmas. she said she missed me for months during nc and never reached out cause of her thinking i hated her. she has bad self esteem issues so that makes sense. but she thought about it and still didn't want a reconciliation when we got back talking, she said she just wanted to be friends but she still has feelings for me too. i told her i didn't want that and stuff but we kept talking and eventually i slowly cut it down and did not initiate anything. she then kept initiating for about a week saying she has a teddy bear i got her that still smells like me. showed me an ad she saw for cheap plane tickets to see me. then only a week later i found out she's with some scruffy homeless looking dude who doesn't look her type whatsoever. when i found out i angrily messaged her about leading me on and blocked her. he texted me trying to act the hard man saying she doesnt want me anymore and doesnt want to talk to me. would it count as a rebound since she still said she has feelings for me?
Thanks really needed to hear that today we were talking in November hooked up couple times was told that we are never getting back together I went right back into no contact it’s been two months I haven’t heard from her
Hi , I am a big fan of your content I read a quote from Paulo Cohelo i would love you to make a video about. “You can miss something, and not want it back “ ........, it really hit a nerve on me, ......
I was supposed to be her soulmate. We were supposed to finish our lives together. I was supposed to be THE one. She decided to leave for Western Canada. She wanted us to be an opened relationship. I didn't. We were still talking to each other for a while when she arrived there. After a moment, I understood that all this was too much. Decided to finish it. It took literally 2 weeks before she had already met her new soulmate.
we dated for a year and 5 months and we broke up and 2 weeks after she gets back into contact with an ex who she dated for 3 months and broke up with 3 times
My wife of 5 years left me and after a couple of days she had a new relationship who's in other country. 4 months past(this day) they're still in a relationship. As far as i know they're relationship is unstable they always fight. Btw they haven't seen each other yet because of lockdown in our country. She left me because i didn't treat her the way she deserves, i hurt her emotionally, i said things that hurts her feelings. That's the reason why she left me. I know some of you will say that i deserve it. I regret treating her bad, i want my family to be complete again. Do you think my wife's relationship with the other guy is a rebound? My wife seems happy
Do you think being alone (without sex) for 6 years is too much? I've recently met someone and we had a lot of sex but we're not seeing each other anymore. That's a story in itself. I was just wondering if going 6 years plus without sex is healthy and if not, what kind of effects will you find when someone has been alone for that long. I did have a lot of sex with many women before this six years but for some reason I just turned myself off . I actually was closer to years. When I finally had sex it was a relief. I definitely don't know how to handle relationships anymore but I'm so relieved that I was still able to have a bit of a relationship. That was a scary period of my life. There were some great things, like I'm able to hangout with myself. I used to have to go out or be hanging out with someone all the time but now I can be by myself contently.
the real question is, do we want them back after knowing that guy is on our girl's inside? 😅😂. should our love for her forgive her? or should our mind see how low value she is?
Story time: she got into a rebound her (male bestfriend) after no contact she reached out to give me my stuff back but sprayed them with her perfume once we met she was angry but then started to cry saying she still loves me and this guy wasn't the same, she also instructed me to meet her the next day where she said she wants to try again. She started teasing on video call whilst telling her rebound she was going to head to sleep after that she decided it was too risky so decided to cut contact and carry on with her rebound. Later the rebound contacted me asking what happened out of the blue which we had a chat and then he revealed they where close whilst we was in a relationship later on he blocked me instructed by her then no contact happened...she then contacted me out of the blue asking much things then she revealed a horrific thing the rebound did and said she wanted to try again with me which I agreed but then she met me and kissed and did the deed whilst she was still with this guy and later she dumped him blocked him and told me the life story of her rebound previously best friend also she kept all of our photos after 6 month's which then she told me she couldn't focus on him because i was on her mind then we had a relationship for a few months then out of the blue she said she couldn't cope with what he did so she said she would speak to him by unblocking him and reaching out but then they stayed friends she refused to remove him they had a very long phone call because she was supporting him through the break up but then i decided I couldn't trust her and ended the relationship but then she decided to twist things and said she was going to end things because she wasn't ready for one. Sometimes you have to watch how they treat others and this will reflect on you. Lie to friends, family and exes so why won't they do it to you😆(could i have been the rebound?)
I’m just seeing this video, I have a question my ex and I divorce finalized on January 20 and we were separated since august but we were still seeing each other, like going over each other’s house we did this till September then it stopped, after that de gave me the cold shoulder and started partying all the time then eventually I found out she seeing someone this month , is that considered a rebound or no?
What if she is rebounding with her best friend who has been liking her for the past 2-3years?We were only together for 5 months and they are now together for like 8-9.My ex has avoidant attachment style,she told me she can never see that guy as a boyfriend yet they are still together.Not to mention that guy broke up with her gf the same day my ex broke up with me.While we were together they used to talk frequently especially on snapchat where the conversations get deleted but she always lied to me that they dont even talk so i have no reasons to be jealous.At parties she danced with him but she didnt danced with me saying she is tired.:) She mentioned many times she misses her single life,she is independent and she doesnt need anyone because a boyfriend is just a stress for her.Is it still a rebound if she is with her best friend?Btw this was my biggest fear that she will leave me for him and she knew that.
Okay so rory is off that's fine I just recently discovered his channel. Whilst at hospital for 1 week. Long story short my girlfriend broke up with me after I broke her trust , she has been saying that she was feeling this way for a while and everything. And I was begging and pleading for her give a second chance but we still broke up .After we broke up we met up and she basically gave me the option to either strictly be friends or never chat as apparently my friends are making her feel guilty for not giving a 2nd chance again , as she said she has no romantic feelings for me. But when we met up as "just friends " she would act like more then friends and crap. Its important to know that she has twin sister that I am genuinely good friends with , I was making plans with just her to chill and she came along .during this time my friend called and as we was on the call he asked me " how my gf was" which I responded we are just friends. The rest of the evening she seemed bothered. The next day would call me 3 times which I blanked and aired and left me a voice mail. I ended up metting up with her the day after where she told me that she "subconsciously still likes as she realised from the phone call and wants try again ". We both left as we had plans during that day . 4 hours later after meeting her best friend she called me again that either we strictly be friends or dont talk. I said we shouldn't talk. I started focus on my training and self improvement but 2 days later lost my mma fight and got emitted to hospital for 1 week. I have been in NC for about 2 weeks and she hasn't reached out or anything the problem is I am gonna see her at an event on Wednesday. What should I do , as I cant avoid her as she will be with her twin . How do I approach this
does NC still work even though u only had a 2months relationship? my ex broke up with me last 3 weeks and im doing NC for more than a week now... she broke up with me for unknown reason. . maybe she is with another guy only speculations. when i left our country last december . planning to go home this march. my partner seems an avoidant person. just wanna ask ur opinion rory.
What if my ex bf chatted her for several mos. which turned me jealous and caused pur break up? I'm gay my bf was straight and we've been together for 3.4 years now he walk away because of a GIRL, a single mom, which is his coworker. Is that a REBOUND??
Hi Rory. I wonder if you would consider doing something on changing your attachment style to leave behind an unproductive relationship and in time find a more fulfilling one? Thanks, SuperFlyFrye
Will having private social media accounts help my ex get over me? He doesn’t follow me but watches my stories and I think being private is best for my healing right now, but I’m worried it’ll help him get better too. Any thoughts?
I have a question me and my ex play a phone game together we're in the same team but don't really need to communicate to each other. Should I still play it or just leave it? He said he really wants me to stay in the team but obviously just to help him on it. Should I leave so he can understand that he's lost me? Stupid question I know but everything's going through my mind atm
Dear Rory, I hope you can answer my question. Do you think it’s possible to get back with an emotionally unavailable man that doesn’t want a relationship, he just has “friends”? We have been back and forth since our breakup in 2017. He knows I want a relationship again. Second day of no contact today...
Hi Rory. Would it be possible to do a video on how no contact may work differently if you technically haven’t broken up officially yet but your significant other ghosts or breadcrumbs you. Thanks :)
Ive been with the girl for only 2 onths and we hadnt have sex , but she was really attached to me and then she said that there is no spark ... , we've broke up 1 month ago we still see each other for about 10 mins every weekend because we are working together , i started no contact now its 10th day is there a good chance to get her back ?
Rory, can you answer me one question please? When your ex is on and off with their rebound over a period of a year and miss that rebound relationship even months after it's quit, will this stop them from coming back? I feel like he's thinking about his few months relationship more than our engagement..
Hi Rory can you talk about working with an EX I know you’ve done a video in the past but I was wondering if you could go into further detail on it, thanks.
Hi Gang! I'm going to step away from the channel for a few days to have a much needed break. I'll be back in less than a week to bring you more videos! Talk real soon.
The Love Chat Do you think an emotionally unavailable man that doesn’t want a relationship would come back? We’ve been off and on not official since he broke up with me in Winter 2017. Thank you in advance.
People give up so easily on relationships because they tend to live by the phrase “If it's meant to be, it’ll come naturally.” It won’t. You need to fight for things. The honeymoon phase will end. Your partner will piss you off. Your relationship and time with the person won’t be as exciting as it was when you first entered the relationship. A lot of people these days think those things should never end and that’s why relationships never last. They keep searching for “the one” thinking this person is going to come into their life being everything they've ever wanted and they’ll never have issues with each other. People are no longer willing to work on and build relationships stronger in my opinion (i'm only 21)
Yeah I realised it was a choice
For a young person of 21, I admire your sensibility! You will do well in life.
Right on the nail.
Yup I wish people would realize that..
21 with that maturity? Good on you! I'm 32. It's taken me that much longer to get a grip on reality. Better late than never, right?
My ex left me for the rebound, later on I found out that she broke up with him shortly. She tried talking to me but I didnt want her back. Good bye felicia!
Real king shit right here! Good job on your part!
Updates?
Yeah go to hell Felicia! Lol
Good for you Gabriel!
How long did that rebound lasted?
Rebounders are just emotional cowards...they cannot handle being alone and working on themselves so they just jump into a new relationship to avoid doing the work and confronting their inner demons. They think the new relationship will help them skip over all the emotions necessary to get over their ex but they dont realize that its only prolonging their grief and they will drag their baggage into their rebound relationship.
I hear that they still have to deal with the rebound baggage after too.
God damn it it hurt it was all a lie
It did, it was
@@alifakherddine785 my ex girlfriend lied all the way through our relationship always doing stuff behind my back,messaging other men and all that shite,so in the end she was not worth it in the first place,so when she dumped me it was the best thing ever,she tried the 'let's be friend's'thing 'which I didn't fall for lol.
“They are proving that they can do whatever they want to do.” BINGO! I noticed my ex always moved on so quickly with every one of his exes (including me) to simply escape his feelings... and yes, to prove a point to himself that can be independent and do whatever he wants. Remember: feeling your feelings is the mature, long-term helpful response. Escaping them just puts off the pain longer.
Que. Linda. Esa. Bb. Es. Muy. Ermosa
Mega. Somer es muy. Linda goo mornig
Patrik Nagy sounds like she’s the type of person who relies on others for validation and can’t stand to be alone. Probably thrives in limerence. Feel free to look up that term.
Escaping prolongs the pain pretty much.
Insecurity. Revenge. Issues. Low self esteem. To 'win' the breakup
Fantasies are sometimes projected onto someone new and they feel this person will meet or satisfy their needs. Fantasy isn’t as kind as reality.
TomVangTV agreed
So true!
They actually project YOU onto the new person but the new person figures that out & gets angry.
People who rebound are usually insecure and don’t like themselves enough to be alone me and my ex have been broken up for like 5 months and she’s gone through 5 guys since then the most recent guy is supposedly the love of her life and they’re moving in together after a month of dating so try not to obsess over what your ex is doing improve on yourself and live your life to the fullest
Caleb Masseo WOOOW!!!!!
This video came at a great time. Just saw my ex with her new boyfriend yesterday. Made me feel kinda weird.
Excellent timing, as usual! Just found out this week that my ex is rebounding with a guy she already obviously had the hots for during our relationship. It hurt like hell, but now I'm starting to think it might actually help me get over her. It just makes the break-up seem more real, more final. And it makes me less afraid of taking steps towards a future with someone else myself.
Damn... That's what i'm afraid of: this final step, when you realize your ex have moved on with someone else. I cannot imagine how painful it must be. It has been 4 months since he left me and i'm terrified about this inevitable moment...
You go buddy!
@@mlqtd For me, it's only been two months since the break-up. It is very painful indeed to imagine her with that guy (I've met him many times myself), especially since I knew as soon as we broke up that she would run to him (or one of her many other orbiters). But maybe it's a good thing. I feel like I needed this kick in the nuts to finally accept that it's really over and I need to move on - something I've been unable to do for the last two months.
I definitely know that feeling. My ex was flirting with his coworker and they were getting a little too close for comfort two months before the break up. He also admitted that he found her very attractive. It hurt to find out he was cheating on me and sleeping with her. Wasted three years with him and I’m terrified of people now.
@@PieterFret any update?
Same here..Now I move on fast
People like them have no respect for themselves. I do understand the psychology behind their move and yet I despise this behavior. It only tells about their emotional weakness and cowardice. They are unable to feel whole alone and use people like objects to see their own "value" through them. Pathetic.
My ex rebounded a week after the breakup, lol. I'm over it for a long while now, however my view on these people won't change.
Same situation with my ex too, and after 3 weeks of her 'pause' she called me to take her back. I said yes and then got rejected for the second time. She told me that she slept with a guy after the second week, we having a 2 years relationship. Now I'm done with her, she chase me everywhere but no, we finish.
My boyfriend of two years broke up with me. I was heartbroken. I gave him the break up and never contacted him since then. A month later he came back crying and regretted his decission. He told me he tried talking to other girl and they kissed. He thought it could make him get over me quicker but he was obvioualy wrong. He said it even made him miss me more and seemed like he later on, he got stuck greiving and regretting over our break up. We are back together now and our relationship is better. We realized a lot during no contact.
Soooo true about not wanting to be alone, however I would rather be alone than be someone's rebound.
Hey Rory, i thought about my relationship today fully amd realized how wrong i was treates even when our relationship was at our peak, for some reason, it stung but immediately after, i realised every bit of my feelings, each and every bit of it. Disappeared. I unfollowed him today and felt a weight lift off my shoulder. I can breath now. I finally don't want him back at all. I'm finally free. Thankyou Rory. I'll pray for you.
I followed your advice and it f#&&6 worked you probably know this already but when she came back I was fully healed and didn't want her anymore you are a champion bro but she's so lonely she shattered her life but because of God bro Im here for here still
I dumped my ex-GF . She was crazy jealous and controlling. And we were always arguing. But she loved me for real.
It was a relief for me and I ended it although I didn’t want to. I loved her, she was gorgeous and we are very similar. It was fine for some time but now after almost 2 years I don’t feel good. I miss her and I can’t seem to find someone who fulfills me. Also I have a ton of regret for what I did when the break up happened. And for the mistakes I made. Gosh it’s obliterating.
Of course I tried talk to her but she has moved on apparently. Feels bad. This isn’t fair.
Carlos Ribeiro keep going, man. There’s no point going back, I’ve tried it numerous (6) times and it never stuck and there was eventually something waaaay better further down the road. I’m really coming to the view that if you really love you never leave, it doesn’t feel right to leave.
Maybe there’s an exception for young people but with experience love gets more understandable (but no less beautiful - or painful)
A LuKe yes, let’s kidnap, rape and beat someone . Just because everything is fair in love...
look up attachment styles. Sounds like you may be avoidant and your ex was anxious/preoccupied. Am going through a break-up with an avoidant right now of four years. Heart broken. I learned about attachment styles after the
break-up and wish I had known years earlier as it may have helped to save the relationship. It has been 3.5 months since the split and 25 days NC. Wish I knew about this a long time ago. It has changed my life and perspective
@carlos.. same as what is happening to me.. but its my ex who dumped on me.
I woke up feeling strong depression... And I was thinking in stayed in bed... But I feel better listening this video.
Soo Appreciated this video... It's going over a year since my Ex (3 hlf yrs) broke up with me and a month and half later she had a rebound ( monkey branched) and posted all on social media knowing it would get back to me. That shit broke me at first . That betrayal still hits me in the Gut sometimes. Couple months later she tried to reconnect with me , I just applied the No Contact rule and keep it moving forward. Like the end of this video says. Go to Gym , travel, nature walks etc. Start refocusing and practice self love. Time heals all wounds.
My Ex hooked up with a work colleague almost immediately + has spent nearly two years globe trotting with her while not doing anything for our kids. I am very annoyed.
my guess..is that work colleague was already in the picture before you two were done if he hooked up with immediately and are still together globe trotting.
Pure brilliance. Hits the truth every time. Doesn’t make the hurt less but explained well.
My Ex had this guy lined up before she dumped me. Her and I were together 8 years and engaged for 3. The new guy just got out of a long term relationship of at least 8 years or longer. They are both rebounding. It's going to fail. My ex, as we were splitting up and moving out, sat down with me on the couch and cried for hours in my arms. She said she felt bad for seeking out another person behind my back. She said she couldn't stand to see how hurt I was.
The last text I sent her was that I hope she finds herself and what she is seeking for in life. Then I texted "Best Wishes" giving it a "finality" we haven't spoken for 3 to 4 weeks now. It's killing her I know. 8 years with her I know how she is feeling.
You can talk about " SO keep cheating behind back but still be in relationship"
Something on that kind of mindset
Hey Rory, great video. I was cheated on then left for the other person. Can you do a video on recovering from infidelity? It's been 6 months and even though I'm ready to date again casually, I'm not the same. It's like a part of me died and a good chunk of my soul is scar tissue. My worldview has also changed substantially for the worse. I'm no longer naive but cynicism has replaced it. Will I ever fully recover
I know that there's a lot of other people feeling this way and doing an in depth or series of videos on this type of thing could be very helpful.
Thanks if you read this
Same here..
Yes you will recover. My first ever girlfriend cheated on me and lied about it. I thought I would never be the same again, and to be honest I wasn’t. I realized one day that cheating isn’t a reflection on you, it on them and their warped sense of what they think will make them happy
Same. Its been 10 mos and I still struggle. These videos have been such a help.
Same here
It has been 3 years and i feel like I will never fall in love again.
That type of shit makes me strong and shows me I am on the right path. Maybe not to win them back, but to live my life to the fullest, with or without them.
This is the most beautiful and wholesome ‘Hello’ I have ever heard!
My ex of less than two weeks is already back with her ex (that dumped her before we started dating). The one she said she hated and never wanted to see again. I want to confront her and let her know that I know she used me as rebound therapy and that all of the things we had together were her effort to get over the pain of being dumped herself. Should I? I feel like, after 4 months of using me, she got over the pain, then monkey branched right back to him. And I believe at some point in our relationship, he reinserted himself into her life and asked for another chance. And she was just looking for an opportunity for me to mess up to swing right back to him. But she was so convincing and I believed that we were in love. I'm afraid this is a huge setback in my personal focus. Thanks for any comments you send this way.
I just found out my ex is 15w pregnant with a guy she only live with for a few months. After calculate the time, turn out either she cheated on me or she is pregnant after a week she dumped me.
It hurts regardlessly, but it's also a final nail into the coffin for my hope to get back with her
ngoc long Nguyen I feel for you, ngoc. I had a similar thing and it wasn’t nice but I have a new job and there’s lots of potential women. And it will work out with someone else - when it works with someone it really works, doesn’t matter when or where, so don’t idealise the one who left, save yourself for someone new, just grieve and loosen up, be nice to everybody and see how it goes. I’m sure you’ll be fine in the end.
@@Calidore1 yeah, i know i'll be fine in the end. Right now i choose to focus on education and my job. But still, cant really believe that things turn out like that. Tks for the advices
ngoc long Nguyen that’s ok, I just felt like venting. I usually don’t talk about it any more.
My friend. I hope you're doing better four months later. I would ask if things have gotten better for you but I've learned most people in these comment sections usually dont reply. Hopefully cause you have reconciled with your ex or you moved on to somebody better than them to be too busy to answer we peasants in the comments.(lol jk) Good luck to you either way,
@@brettfire83 first of all you will have to forgive me for any grammar mistakes that i going to make (english is not my native tounge)
Secondly, thank you for your concern. My ex is giving birth next month, she's currently living in another country with her husband. I'm pretty much over her rightnow even though sometime the memories still hit back
I still casually dating and changing my self to be a better version. Looking back at the breakup, i think it's necessary for both her and me
She is still following social media tho, i dont know why
If you are going through a breakup then i have some advices for you
-You can only count on your self
-Always try to be better
-Dont hope for your ex to come back
-Embrace your feeling
-Everything is going to be ok
I hope you have a wonderful journey
My ex did the same thing during our break. Not necessarily fall into a relationship but started dating again. It hurt a lot at the time but I know that she didn’t grow as much or take time to reflect.
She already messing with some guy after 4weeks since we broke up, we're on the same boat man. It hurts but all we can do about that is nothing but to focus on ourselves.
I want her to realize and regret what she dumped. :)
Rory, can you talk about the aftermath of NC? You rarely talk about meeting your ex after months of NC, what to expect in that meeting or after the meet up. What do you do after that happens or what not to do. I think we talk so much about the breakup and NC but not about what happens after it's all over. How do you get yourself back??
Perfectly put, and very wise words to take heed of to help you get over and forget your ex. However IF you really do want to get you ex BACK, you must be very careful that they aren't just a malicious and 'malignant narcissist', which is a WHOLE different ball game! Be warned...........
I never thought I'd need to watch this one of your videos, but here I am.
Thank you, Rory. 🙏🏻
My ex wife ended a 17 year old marriage through Messenger. She is now in a rebound and it has completely destroyed our 13 year old daughter. To see the pain in her eyes and the cuts on her arm makes me so angry.
This came at such a great time. Going through this right now and honestly I can say this video just gives me more knowledge and power! Appreciate your videos a ton Rory!
I do all the things you suggested. Yes it's hard to get over someone you have known for a long time. Loved with him for7 yrs. And have been friends .dated off and on for 2. But when he asked me back like a fool I went back. After 1 month he dumped me for his ex. No I don't think he will leave her. She has money ,big car, lives in a big duplex. I have nothing he wants. Thank youfor this reading.
Life’s not fair :(
I’m Christian and so was he. He is doing all the wrong things and I was thinking about talking to a guy then I realized no I’m not subjecting to his levels I’m focusing on god. God will make anything possible, I am closing that door I had with him. He never was talking to this girl when we dated in fact it was three weeks after he was sad and became happy because of her. She is a complete downgrade, ever since I have moved on with my life I realized that more guys have noticed me since I’ve gained the confidence. You will find someone and no relationship is perfect. Live on your own and grow your relationship with god if you are Christian. That is what had made me happy through this dark path
Hi Rory, in your opinion, how often are rebounds actual rebounds as opposed to just us (dumpees) just hoping/thinking it is? As we have heard before, dumpers are often already mentally & emotionally checked out weeks/months before the actual breakup. So they have this 'extra' time to move on compared to us.
Thanks for the amazing videos (as always!!)
Spot on. Grateful for your honesty
Me and my ex were together for 14 years. She cheated on me and left me for him. They got married 4 months later. He is a known meth addict. And now has her on that poison. Its been 2 years. And not a single word from her. Its just crazy as hell to me. Like i never existed!
My ex posted a social media picture and looks so different. In his pictures he used to look goofy and happy, he’s such a sweet person. In this new picture, his hair is cut much shorter and he has new jewelry. He looks no longer goofy, but almost mean and “badass”. He also received a huge compliment from some girl saying “holy shit you are absolutely stunning”. He responded by saying “Thank you. Tazer ain’t got nothin on me”. I don’t know who Tazer is. Is it a code name for me? Is it this other girl’s ex? Are my ex and this commenter in a relationship? I’m trying to understand both the shift in appearance and this weird comment thread. I’m having so much trouble making sense of it
Sounds like he’s leveling up. #Growth
Pretty sure I was monkey branched. My ex broke up with me and literally that same weekend he was dating someone. It’s hurts💔
that phrase hit me hard cuz that is what she said to me when she broke up with me. "if we're meant together, we're truly are, only god knows".
I was like, do you really thought it was just like that if we're meant for each other? damn i am already here with you by the time we've met, it's the reason and plan that we crossed our path and now you just dumping me? letting me go? and saying to me "if we're meant together, it'll be us"... girl you hurt me. you broke me so bad. :)
Hi Coach,
Its almost 2 months ago my ex broke up with me. The reason was lost of (sexual) attraction she said, I think it was emotional attraction. After 3 weeks she kissed someone else. She said it to me on a party we were invited together. The next day I texted her that maybe we could have a talk. She ignored. I went in no-contact for 3.5 weeks and then texted her. I said that i was wondering how she was doing and I apologized for my behaviour. She responded cheerfully and kindly. After 2/3 days of texting (she responded very slowly but nice) i asked her for a call. She agreed and we called for about 30min. I asked her how she was doing the last past weeks, how her life was without me, how school goes etc. It was a good conversation but she reacted very cold to things about the relationship. The next day I sent her a text where I rais her cold behaviour and said it looks like the break-up didn’t hurt her so much. I also asked her to meet-up to see if there is still something between us. She said that she thinks she is maybe further than me in the healprocess and looks already further. She agreed for a meet-up if I like so but she also said that it isn’t necessary for her and that she know’s we won’t get back together. My family and friends said: don’t do it and try to get over her. But it’s difficult. I miss her but did never beg or plead. I agreed with the break-up and give her much space. The textes I send were not needy at all but more casual. I think that she gets a lot of attention from other boys and she goes partying many times so she didn t felt the lost. Well my question is: should I meet-up with her? Is there any hope? Or should I forget about her? We went together for 1.5 year.
Hope to hear from you!
My wife didn't rebound for 3 years until she saw me with someone else and projected me onto him and even married him soon after and now it's failed,,,I really think seeing me move on pushed her over the edge.
Was she the dumper or dumpee?
@@Boxing_Baig dumper,, I'm to big hearted to dump someone and hurt them,,
hi i’ve been in a relationship with my ex for almost 8 years plus now. she broke up with me and got engaged and one day she told me do you believe in second chances. so we went back together. i was still jobless at that moment and she broke up with me. i just wrote a letter to her to told her i’m good now. but she told me she don’t already gave me a lot of chances and she don’t to waste her time anymore. do take note we had two abortion together. before she got engaged and after she got engaged. we wasn’t stable at that point . i want to make it right but she told me she don’t want it any longer and she just want us to end. in my end i do know i’m quite capable now . but i no longer know what should i do anymore . i’ve tried so hard but she’s just don’t want to give us another shot
your a waste of time an space.good for her women these need to keep fools our they life
like you.
Don’t listen to this other clown. Develop an abundance mindset and get a job to chase that check. It’s chase the dollar and as a result you up your worth. When you do that you can attract better quality women. You work on yourself and make yourself a catch. Through working, lifting, social skills, etc...
This is spot on Rory...! My ex has changed so much and his chasing a much younger girl when this really makes no sense to me as I was 16 years older than him... his not the type to go out drinking cause he just doesn’t drink or doesn’t go clubbing. The thing he loves is social media and tagging ppl in stuff and him being tagged in stuff. Social media is his thing to be validated.! Once he started being a CrossFit coach things so much for us. His confidence grew and began this different person and my insecurities blew up big time. Sucks loving someone that changed so much and couldn’t careless about me anymore. I was his everything until something else became his everything so clearly I wasn’t his everything at all. 😢
Love the video. Thanks! Going thru this as we speak. Ex just jumped into a rebound with a total loser with no job no car and doesn’t have avenue custody of her 3 kids..... ugh.
My ex left me after 14 years together for a meth addict. Crazy as hell
My ex that ended it wasted no time in meeting someone else, he told me he has met someone like 5 months after the breakup during Covid...I am not convinced it took them 5 months to date again. Eejit. I wouldn't be the amazing self-loved person if it wasn't for that idiot, so grateful!
Thank you for your continued work, I often find myself coming back to your channel for better understanding. I have grown so much much since my breakup but I always enjoy learning more and becoming a better version of myself
update?
Maybe do a video when couples broke up over religious reasons - or when they break up with you but tell you a reason why they broke up with you to another person that wasn’t told to you.
He gave up so easily but I appreciate his way to settle it. He made me comfortable and assure me that I’m good, just he thinks we left scars on each other. In fact, I wasn’t left broken. Just two days after it I resume happy life though I will think of him from time to time, wondering what could have be lead on.
Rory, I dated a woman for 4 years. Her parents did everything they could to break us up because I was the one thing in her life she wanted and loved that her parents didn’t approve of. They were racist and hid their racism behind religion. She finally succumbed to their pressure and broke with me after asking me a week earlier to marry her. I proposed to her a year prior and she was scare of what her parents would say. I was so elated that she asked me, but I wanted her family to be whole. I knew it would make her happy so I said yes but give me time to get on her parents good side. She broke up with me a week later after going on vacation with her family. She essentially ghosted a 4 year relationship with no closure except for “it was never right”. She started dating a guy immediately that I was cool with, that I introduced her to a while back and they started their relationship extremely fast. It was like they picked up where we left off. Everything that we built slowing and organically over time she just gave to this other guy. Her family accepted him fast and did everything to make him part of the family. She ran into me a few times between then and now and she cried every time. I treated her like gold and our relationship was beautiful, natural and real. Two weeks ago, 6 months after asking me to marry her, she got engaged to the rebound. Please help me understand this?
Very similar to my story!
He didn't want to be alone through the Holidays
Hello good night I have yet to experience anything you have talked about on your chat and I love all of them and I listen to them to get me by and they truly help. My wife and I have been broken up since almost 6months and i left after she told me she didn't want to be with me anymore so i went back to my sister's house she packed up my things and i cut her off. Stopped talking to her, her family and everything. She's very very stubborn so I don't see her doing any of this and I NEVER believes she every reaching out again. But as I said they are great videos.
My girlfriend of 1 year broke up with me mid December, got back with me a day later. Then after week of great times again, she cheated on me, with 2 separate guys, including her ex. I found out the hard way. I called her out on it and she broke up with me. Devastated and destroyed doesn't even being to cover it. I'm at day 35 of no contact. Ive been hitting the gym and seeing friends and family from day 1. Although it still hurts, today i realized....what a horrible fucking person, or maybe she is lost and still young. Her mum messaged me a couple of days after the second break up (probably not aware of what her daughter done) as follows "I feel terrible as much a love my daughter she can be heartless sometimes so i am really sorry about the way she has treated you......I know you were good for her and i know you loved her i could see that and i know she will not get anyone like you who will treat her like you did she is a fool to let you go. I am totally gutted. Your shoes will be very hard to fill". I happened to read this message back today and it was my eureka moment. When your own mother acknowledges how "heartless" you are....thats all i need to know. Still miss her but i know it can not be. Send me positive vibes guys. Its been a tough pill to swallow.
My girlfriend of 3 years (lived together for over 2 years) started an emotional affair behind my back and we broke up when I caught her meeting up with the guy. Within a day of me moving out she had him over our place. It’s truly disgusting what some people can do, but realize that the person you were in love with never existed. You were in love with an idea of who you thought she was, but her actions showed you that person isn’t real. Be grateful that you dodged a bullet and got out of that black hole early instead of later. Once a cheater always a cheater....
my dumper is PISSED AT ME
Keeping yourself occupied is only a temporary distraction but it works. You also have to learn not to react on your emotions and change your perception. I know that it's easier said than done.
She left me for my close friend who didn't know abt our relationship (she wanted to keep it so)
Actually she was somewhat cheating emotionally and I caught her once and when it was time to confront about our relationship in front of him she denied any relationship at all
Please make a video on topic about third person in relationship
Something similar happened to me. It gets better ❤
भावा Move on कर ..Time लागेल पण हिम्मत ठेव..👍👍
My ex is number 2. Its been 2months after a 8yr relationship,didnt hear from her,she be partting,drinking,talking with other men,as rory said acting like she is young again. Honestly my brain wants her but my heart says no. Its been great for me though. Got a new job, brought a car, building my house...slaying the dragon!! I see it as her lost now because strangly when i started moving on, other women just started poping up in my life, not in for the relationship though but it feels good. My question is, do they ever feel the pain of the break up or can they continue putting it off?
They care, it's hard for them but they Care, I'm going through the same shit, my ex of six years is in a rebound relationship with a mutual friend who is also her roommate (it's must be hard for her that much that she did the most idiotic thing ever hahahah cause the thrid roommate doesn't know) anyway, it's hard, and if they don't slay the dragon the dragon will be bigger and bigger. The dragon could be you or some other shit, but they'll remember the time that you've been together and remember how small was the dragon back then
Rory, could you do a video on establishing boundaries after a reconciliation with an ex? I'm curious how to go about setting boundaries that haven't been addressed in the past without causing issue through the reconciliation.. Thanks!
Did he ever do 1?
Thank you for this video Rory. Revisiting this every time I feel down~~
Hey Rory. Can you make a video about working with an ex who is your boss in the same workplace. And what to do when they're dating a coworker who was your bestfriend. Struggling to do the no contact when working with her and she constantly wants to talk to me, but doesn't want me back and only cares for me as a friend. She was the one who broke up with me, because I was insecure and very needy. Love your channel and I've started watching all your videos. Thank you!
I asked my ex if shes in another relationship so i wouldnt hope for her to come back anymore although deep inside i want her back. She told me she does, and idk the chances of her coming back.
Here is our breakup support Discord if you wanted some support: discord.gg/KUCeXX3uzS
How about when your married to a DA and he's in a rebound relationship. Separated now 2yrs. Work on yourself n stay strong. If he ever returns I will be this bad ass women working n going to school to a degree in Psychology. ❤
My LDR ex for almost 8yrs after she dump, she rebound with her co worker now she telling me that she dont love me anymore,, its suck
My husband also dumped me.. LDR as well.. After 16 years he dumped me because he went out with his co-worker... Today is our wedding anniv thats why it hurts so much...
How many days past
@@ravencris2644 since November last year but we had a chat Yesterday about our first born... he stated that he didnt do the things that a husband should do to his wife.. He said that he was abnormal..he then Thanked me for everything..and
He blocked me after... I dont get him..we didnt even fight... I am so down today.
Sori to read that but,, do u have a kid
@@ravencris2644 yes, we have two kids...
You should do mindfulness videos with that soothing voice!
its been 5 months since my ldr breakup, we finally started talking on christmas. she said she missed me for months during nc and never reached out cause of her thinking i hated her. she has bad self esteem issues so that makes sense. but she thought about it and still didn't want a reconciliation when we got back talking, she said she just wanted to be friends but she still has feelings for me too. i told her i didn't want that and stuff but we kept talking and eventually i slowly cut it down and did not initiate anything. she then kept initiating for about a week saying she has a teddy bear i got her that still smells like me. showed me an ad she saw for cheap plane tickets to see me. then only a week later i found out she's with some scruffy homeless looking dude who doesn't look her type whatsoever. when i found out i angrily messaged her about leading me on and blocked her. he texted me trying to act the hard man saying she doesnt want me anymore and doesnt want to talk to me. would it count as a rebound since she still said she has feelings for me?
lalelz fuck yeah! How does it not sound like it. She emotionally invested in you while stuck with some loser cause she’s lonely.
Thanks really needed to hear that today we were talking in November hooked up couple times was told that we are never getting back together I went right back into no contact it’s been two months I haven’t heard from her
Hi , I am a big fan of your content I read a quote from Paulo Cohelo i would love you to make a video about. “You can miss something, and not want it back “ ........, it really hit a nerve on me, ......
I was supposed to be her soulmate. We were supposed to finish our lives together. I was supposed to be THE one.
She decided to leave for Western Canada. She wanted us to be an opened relationship. I didn't. We were still talking to each other for a while when she arrived there.
After a moment, I understood that all this was too much. Decided to finish it. It took literally 2 weeks before she had already met her new soulmate.
be strong dude. i understand your pain too well, but life always has a new day. Do the NC
Perfect message! ♥️
we dated for a year and 5 months and we broke up and 2 weeks after she gets back into contact with an ex who she dated for 3 months and broke up with 3 times
My wife of 5 years left me and after a couple of days she had a new relationship who's in other country. 4 months past(this day) they're still in a relationship. As far as i know they're relationship is unstable they always fight. Btw they haven't seen each other yet because of lockdown in our country. She left me because i didn't treat her the way she deserves, i hurt her emotionally, i said things that hurts her feelings. That's the reason why she left me. I know some of you will say that i deserve it. I regret treating her bad, i want my family to be complete again.
Do you think my wife's relationship with the other guy is a rebound? My wife seems happy
Do you think being alone (without sex) for 6 years is too much? I've recently met someone and we had a lot of sex but we're not seeing each other anymore. That's a story in itself. I was just wondering if going 6 years plus without sex is healthy and if not, what kind of effects will you find when someone has been alone for that long. I did have a lot of sex with many women before this six years but for some reason I just turned myself off . I actually was closer to years. When I finally had sex it was a relief. I definitely don't know how to handle relationships anymore but I'm so relieved that I was still able to have a bit of a relationship. That was a scary period of my life. There were some great things, like I'm able to hangout with myself. I used to have to go out or be hanging out with someone all the time but now I can be by myself contently.
the real question is, do we want them back after knowing that guy is on our girl's inside? 😅😂. should our love for her forgive her? or should our mind see how low value she is?
Story time: she got into a rebound her (male bestfriend) after no contact she reached out to give me my stuff back but sprayed them with her perfume once we met she was angry but then started to cry saying she still loves me and this guy wasn't the same, she also instructed me to meet her the next day where she said she wants to try again. She started teasing on video call whilst telling her rebound she was going to head to sleep after that she decided it was too risky so decided to cut contact and carry on with her rebound. Later the rebound contacted me asking what happened out of the blue which we had a chat and then he revealed they where close whilst we was in a relationship later on he blocked me instructed by her then no contact happened...she then contacted me out of the blue asking much things then she revealed a horrific thing the rebound did and said she wanted to try again with me which I agreed but then she met me and kissed and did the deed whilst she was still with this guy and later she dumped him blocked him and told me the life story of her rebound previously best friend also she kept all of our photos after 6 month's which then she told me she couldn't focus on him because i was on her mind then we had a relationship for a few months then out of the blue she said she couldn't cope with what he did so she said she would speak to him by unblocking him and reaching out but then they stayed friends she refused to remove him they had a very long phone call because she was supporting him through the break up but then i decided I couldn't trust her and ended the relationship but then she decided to twist things and said she was going to end things because she wasn't ready for one. Sometimes you have to watch how they treat others and this will reflect on you. Lie to friends, family and exes so why won't they do it to you😆(could i have been the rebound?)
I’m just seeing this video, I have a question my ex and I divorce finalized on January 20 and we were separated since august but we were still seeing each other, like going over each other’s house we did this till September then it stopped, after that de gave me the cold shoulder and started partying all the time then eventually I found out she seeing someone this month , is that considered a rebound or no?
Does no contact still effective multiple times? Same guy?
Brilliant again xxx
What if she is rebounding with her best friend who has been liking her for the past 2-3years?We were only together for 5 months and they are now together for like 8-9.My ex has avoidant attachment style,she told me she can never see that guy as a boyfriend yet they are still together.Not to mention that guy broke up with her gf the same day my ex broke up with me.While we were together they used to talk frequently especially on snapchat where the conversations get deleted but she always lied to me that they dont even talk so i have no reasons to be jealous.At parties she danced with him but she didnt danced with me saying she is tired.:) She mentioned many times she misses her single life,she is independent and she doesnt need anyone because a boyfriend is just a stress for her.Is it still a rebound if she is with her best friend?Btw this was my biggest fear that she will leave me for him and she knew that.
Mane fuck her and get a better life and gf that will love you for you and have your best interest. Work on yourself
Rory, Thank you.
Okay so rory is off that's fine I just recently discovered his channel. Whilst at hospital for 1 week. Long story short my girlfriend broke up with me after I broke her trust , she has been saying that she was feeling this way for a while and everything. And I was begging and pleading for her give a second chance but we still broke up .After we broke up we met up and she basically gave me the option to either strictly be friends or never chat as apparently my friends are making her feel guilty for not giving a 2nd chance again , as she said she has no romantic feelings for me. But when we met up as "just friends " she would act like more then friends and crap. Its important to know that she has twin sister that I am genuinely good friends with , I was making plans with just her to chill and she came along .during this time my friend called and as we was on the call he asked me " how my gf was" which I responded we are just friends. The rest of the evening she seemed bothered. The next day would call me 3 times which I blanked and aired and left me a voice mail. I ended up metting up with her the day after where she told me that she "subconsciously still likes as she realised from the phone call and wants try again ". We both left as we had plans during that day . 4 hours later after meeting her best friend she called me again that either we strictly be friends or dont talk. I said we shouldn't talk.
I started focus on my training and self improvement but 2 days later lost my mma fight and got emitted to hospital for 1 week. I have been in NC for about 2 weeks and she hasn't reached out or anything the problem is I am gonna see her at an event on Wednesday. What should I do , as I cant avoid her as she will be with her twin . How do I approach this
does NC still work even though u only had a 2months relationship? my ex broke up with me last 3 weeks and im doing NC for more than a week now... she broke up with me for unknown reason. . maybe she is with another guy only speculations. when i left our country last december . planning to go home this march. my partner seems an avoidant person. just wanna ask ur opinion rory.
Did she come back ?
What if they go back to an ex?
what about if you were the person they were in the rebound with and you had no idea of it? which they ended it
What if my ex bf chatted her for several mos. which turned me jealous and caused pur break up? I'm gay my bf was straight and we've been together for 3.4 years now he walk away because of a GIRL, a single mom, which is his coworker. Is that a REBOUND??
Hi Rory. I wonder if you would consider doing something on changing your attachment style to leave behind an unproductive relationship and in time find a more fulfilling one?
Thanks,
SuperFlyFrye
Okay I love it!!! Thank you!!😍😘😘😘
Rory, any chance you could update the spotify channel? Would love to listen to the new videos on there :) Thank you.
Thx for the video today, im literally dealing with this now
Will having private social media accounts help my ex get over me? He doesn’t follow me but watches my stories and I think being private is best for my healing right now, but I’m worried it’ll help him get better too. Any thoughts?
I have a question me and my ex play a phone game together we're in the same team but don't really need to communicate to each other. Should I still play it or just leave it? He said he really wants me to stay in the team but obviously just to help him on it. Should I leave so he can understand that he's lost me? Stupid question I know but everything's going through my mind atm
Dear Rory, I hope you can answer my question. Do you think it’s possible to get back with an emotionally unavailable man that doesn’t want a relationship, he just has “friends”? We have been back and forth since our breakup in 2017. He knows I want a relationship again. Second day of no contact today...
Hi Rory. Would it be possible to do a video on how no contact may work differently if you technically haven’t broken up officially yet but your significant other ghosts or breadcrumbs you. Thanks :)
Ive been with the girl for only 2 onths and we hadnt have sex , but she was really attached to me and then she said that there is no spark ... , we've broke up 1 month ago we still see each other for about 10 mins every weekend because we are working together , i started no contact now its 10th day is there a good chance to get her back ?
Rory, can you answer me one question please? When your ex is on and off with their rebound over a period of a year and miss that rebound relationship even months after it's quit, will this stop them from coming back? I feel like he's thinking about his few months relationship more than our engagement..
In a new relationship after 2.5months from the breakup. Does it count as a rebound or has he moved on?
Yep, move on and love yourself
Hi Rory can you talk about working with an EX I know you’ve done a video in the past but I was wondering if you could go into further detail on it, thanks.
I love your videos. God bless you :-)
Thank you so much!
You have no idea WHO YOU COULD BE
That's wat happen to me
So ur saying I can still get her back?