Gaining and Losing Weight, Sex with a Stoma & Harry Potter | Q&A | Hannah Witton
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When I was about 14 I became very ill and missed around 4/5 months of school. When I eventually went back the first things my P.E. teacher (and a few others) said were 'how good I looked' and 'wow, you've lost so much weight. That time off really did you some good'. I've always struggled with my body image and relationship with food and looking back (seven years on) it makes me so disappointed that I was made to believe that my health mattered less than my weight. It's such a dangerous message to pass on. I'm so glad that you're approaching your own weight change and recovery from illness in such a healthy way x
to me, it seems kind of rude to "judge" and make comments on your weight (even though they must have thought those were positive ones), especially if people don't know what happened in your life ^^
my weight changed a lot this past year (i acually have a very similar story to hannah's) and when it happens, you don't really know what to think about yourself bc the image of yourself that you had doesn't add up to how you really are anymore and what people say really matters bc you are kind of lost ^^
i don't know if that was clear but that's how i felt and fortunately, the people around me were great so i'm sorry you had to go through this
As a second year uni student (UoB woop woop), who has only just, this exam season, managed to get better at improving work/mental health balance, having more ideas would be really cool!
Katie Walden as someone who has taken strange ways through two different universities, I would suggest using a calendar obsessively. For me, anything that is not in the calendar is not planned at all. Try to give yourself a regular study schedule, with other plans outside that time.
Also, just like Hannah said, never underestimate the power of a good break, but try to do something that activates your brain in a different way. I usually switch to my guitar when I take my breaks.
My ADHD based schedule is "plan stuff with others, study when I don't have plans". I'm not sure I would recommend it to anyone else, but it works for me. It basically only works because I can have a 16 hour work day followed by a day off, without any real problems.
Yes, please 😊
UoB?
Zoe AM university of Birmingham
this is a maaaajor issue with me so I don't have a solution so much as things which helped me, but honestly finding a study buddy in a different department to me helped! I spend all my time revising in the electrical engineering building as a chemistry student because I find a) having someone to go to college with makes me go in, because lord knows I try and fail to work at home and b) I find it far more stress inducing being around people who do the same subject as me because they always seem to want to talk about things I haven't properly studied yet! Also working with someone else does make me take breaks, and I get really into daily exercise during revision periods as I'm so much more sedentary than I would be in a lab for example and I personally find it really really helps me to make a good use of the university gym and exercise classes, otherwise I have loads of nervous energy built up which makes it hard to focus. Also I totally cut out caffeine recently (I have severe insomnia so it was a management technique which so far hasn't really helped that much) which helps ease off the nervous energy and actually makes it easier to focus when working. Also, take at least one full day off per week. I find I need it to recharge, sleep in, and also maintain the not so sexy self care things like doing laundry and tidying my house.
I noticed you talk about your viewers being older, and a lot of them are, but I'm sixteen, (so pretty young) so I just wanted to let you know that you do have younger viewers and we are here and I'm sure I speak for all of us when I say, you're the best!
same, i'm 15 + love the content- this stuff is super taboo at school, it's great to have someone talking openly about it :) x
Same here! Her content is pretty much entertaining for anyone! :)
same, schools are quite terrible at educating us on topics that hannah deals with so articulately.
same here! I’m going into my gcse year next year so it would be amazing if you could do a video on how to cope with exam stress and any techniques you use :)) lots of love x
I love the idea of learning new skills in revision breaks!
You are amazing., I've had 60+ CVAs, strokes. I'm almost completely immobile as well. You both entertain. And amaze me. If You'd like to communicate, my email address is: scienceneversucks.msw@gmail.com. I used to draw, write, photograph, race sailboats and scuba five before my strokes. In my work. Time I was a researcher and scientist. Keep being You, it's awesome!!!!
I like how you say the word "soft". I just like hearing you say WORDS! Also I miss you and I'm coming to London again in Juneee
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she has the BEST voice, doesn’t she ;)
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I like the idea that some of the money I donated might have gone towards your new bras and bikinis
Aw, sweet! :)
The mental health with exams thing i agree with massively, I had 5hrs of aptitude tests for a new job as well as interviews so I had to speak to people and practise as well as other things, it took toll on my mental health so I just switched off and put headphones on or read a book just to get away
Ryan True something that helped me with school was picking up an instrument. I learned that taking 10 minutes breaks and playing the instrument for a 3-5 minutes helps me stay focused and have much less stress.
Andrew Behrend yeah, music helps me a lot, I was working myself into the ground doing 9-14.5hr work days but I'm getting there. Those 5hrs of aptitude tests I was allowed a 5 minute break every hour which killed me haha
On the second question; I am a guy and I am 5'3", and I have found it sometimes is very difficult to be taken seriously, both professionally and romantically. In addition to the points you made about people literally talking over you, I feel like height is correlated with age and maturity in a lot of people's minds
I'd totally love a video on balance between desire to succeed and mental health! I'm starting uni in the fall and it'd be hella helpful. Even for people working like you said
As someone who is also 5 foot, I totally agree with the conversations happening over me. What I've found really helps for me is keeping my posture super straight and shoulders back, especially if I'm uncomfortable in the situation (which is so hard because you're already uncomfortable) but this is another way to "compensate" without actually being louder. From my experience it's made me feel more confident purely because I seem more confident so people are more likely to approach me, but also people tend to genuinely just believe I'm taller than I am which, as someone who is still coming to terms with my height, is awesome for my confidence.
I don't know how this video ended up on my yt homescreen but I really like the way you talk so I subscribed! :)
I just want to say that I reeeeally reaaaally appreciate the way that you speak about weight and how you can be healthy at many different weights. I'm chronically ill and my weight fluctuates A LOT dependent on flares because I have a stomach disease so I can go for months where I'm barely able to eat. However, my family is so obsessed with weight and the damaging idea that thin = healthy, successful, happy, etc. I've spent my whole life trying to combat this and adjust my own thinking and language so that I'm not so self loathing and depressed. Once when I was hospitalised for a while and the sickest I'd ever been, my grandma told me that it was worth it and good that I got so sick because I lost so much weight. But I didn't look good, I looked emaciated and sick and horrible. It is wonderful to see how you talk about your body both when you lose and gain weight and it really helps me fight the awful thought patterns I was raised with.
I used to have a conversation with everyone not believing in feminism but a week ago after a guy became really agressive I’ve told to myself “there were people ignoring that the Earth isn’t flat and those who ignore feminism are the same kind of people so I won’t even waste my time on them “ :)
...what?
While that works on a personal level, ignoring haters is really dangerous on a societal level as it allows the haters to strike from the shadows.
I feel the same about veganism.
Hi Hannah
It's a pleasure to see you shine and tell about your changes in your life and the way you've tackled your problems. It's really nice done what you've overcome at such a young age. You are a strong woman and I only admire you :)
I'm 5'10 and feel massive sometimes, especially in photos. People don't take me seriously if I say I feel 'big' as I'm not overweight and have an alright figure but I feel like I'm a resized version of everyone else's frame and in some ways less feminine. People don't seem to take it seriously as something that I feel a bit uncomfortable about as most of my friends would rather be taller.
Oh my gosh I'm 5ft 11 and completely agree! But I've learned to kind of overcome the insecurity (doesn't help my best friend is petite and 5ft1)
Same here! I feel huge even when I'm super thin. And you can feel left out of a conversation in the same way that Hannah does when two short people are talking to eachother.
Izzy Sometimes I think I've overcome it and other times I notice it more. I'd never want to be super short, but sometimes still feel like an outsider.
6ft tall dude here. Tall is attractive in women. Viking masterclass in the making.
Lydia H yeah there are days where I really hate it and most days it's ok. Makes me feel like I cant wear masculine clothes which is what I love. haha sorry for the therapy session.
My mom has a new stoma and was worried about her quality of life after. I showed her some of your videos and how independent and positive you are and it made her feel so much better.
One thing that I've also found that helps with the first question (balancing school/work and mental health) is that I'm a big to-do lists person. So I'll actually include self care things in my to-do lists. For example, if I have a list that includes 4 steps towards getting an assignment done, the 5th item in the to-do list will be to go outside for a walk. That way the self care is still included in the to-do list, so I get to check it off and still feel productive. It works for me sometimes so just thought I'd share! :)
I used to get burned out studying in uni, but found studying in coffee shops and taking regular breaks really helped. I hated studying in crowded libraries or on my own in my flat. I had loyalty cards for every coffee shop in Dublin where I studied uni
Something to add to the first answer: It's really helpful to internalize the idea that your grades are in no way indicative of your worth as a human being. Obviously, it's important to take school seriously, but getting a bad grade does not make you a bad (or stupid) person. This is much easier said than done, but it did wonders for my mental health when I was in school.
I really related to the whole work/mental health well being thing. Last year was a crazy anxious mess for me but I think I’m finally learning how to deal with it now. Exercise is a great way to stay healthy physically and mentally.
I'm in grad school, so I would enjoy a video on mental health/ school studying tips :)
twasonlyadream me too! My mental health took a real hit last semester 🙈I’m about to begin my dissertation and won’t have classes/will be studying from home all summer. I’m worried that it will be lonely. My classes were my social life and I won’t have them and that worries me 🙈
When I'm studying, to take a break I practice my instruments. It's a welcome but productive break, and one which I enjoy. I think it really helps!
Tropical Els I think I might try it with ukulele. :) I also play violin and piano but I've never used them as a way to relax - I just used to try really hard to do loads of practice until I now kind of dislike learning anything new on them just cos it reminds me of so many stressful memories. :/
Me too :) I practised the piano even more than usual when studying for my exams last year.
I don't allow people in my life that would abuse me for wanting a better world. If I encounter a person "in the wild" or on the internet that feels the need to abuse me for this, I simply pay them no mind. I know it's definitely easier said than done, but I have found that it's the best way for my mental health going forward.
It’s so cool what you said about studying in groups and taking breaks because my friends and I started doing this last summer and it changed our lives. We call it “study group” and we do our summer assignments for advanced placement classes together. We spend a couple hours doing work and snacking and having lunch. Then, we swim for a couple hours either at someone’s house or at pool clubs. It’s awesome, and I love it. 15/10 recommend.
Am I the only one fascinated by her very English accent not sure why but I find it very appealing I could listen to her talk for hours.
my heart goes out to the person who asked about being abused for being a feminist. my parents were horrifically abusive towards me, and my being a feminist certainly didn't help. my advice would be to find friends who support you, even online, who you can vent to and who can remind you that it's not your fault. the biggest risk when you're being abused is internalizing guilt - starting to believe that it's your fault, and stuff like that. it makes recovery SO MUCH HARDER.
being able to go to a friend like "oh you wont believe what that asshole said to me," and having your friend say "omg what an asshole that was totally out of line" can literally save your life, and it definitely saved mine.
thank you again for sharing your smart thoughts and insight that id never imagine exploring myself! also loving the new (?) makeup xx
I could listen to you answer questions all day, I love hearing your ideas and perspective on different topics and also you have the worlds most soothing voice I love it
I know you say a lot of your viewers are older but I’m a weirdly long time viewer (a few years) and you’ve really helped me with self esteem and self love - seeing someone as confident as you having problems similar to mine really helps - and I’ve just finished my first year at uni, and any advice you have at all would be stupidly helpful. exam stress was hell
I imagine it’s amazing being freelance and your own boss- you can make an appointment with anyone anytime you want!
I just recently discovered you TH-cam page, I really like how open and honest you are with every subject matter you speak of. Great accent! Absolutely love how you use your hand when you are talking!
I started listening to audio books this year because I'm so busy and I miss books. I finished Order Of The Phoenix last night and it made me realize just how traumatic everything was for Harry. ESPECIALLY with the amount of trauma he experienced just in OOTP. He's 15 years old and sees people get attacked, die, is almost killed himself, and deals with so many more issues along the way.
I’ve graduated already, but feel like a video about mental health and university would help so many people! I always worked ahead so that if I needed a break I wouldn’t fall behind.
As a “taller” person I think it’s terrible that y’all feel left out of conversations. I will try and make it a point to pay more attention to my shorty friends. 💕 well done!
I would absolutley love a whole video around the first question of mental health and the strive for achievement Hannah! I’m actually a 2nd year uni student currently having CBT and on anti-depressants because the pressure to do well and excel ended up getting way too much for my mental health. I’m just thinking what a video like that may do for a lot of people who are still in secondary school/college and would benefit hearing this advice early on as I know it’s something that would have helped me back then ❤️
Yesss. Study parties are the best. Me and my friends have those and it’s great. I study law, another one is in politics, my best friends in biotechnology, other in engineering and architecture. So we are pretty busy. The way we found to keep hanging out is hosting study parties. Everyone studies their own subject but it keeps everyone motived, involved in each other’s lives and overall productive.
I'm always down for any of your mental health related videos! It's SUCH an important topic and I always learn something from the advice of others and in the world we live in today, and as a person growing up in this world I'm trying my best to get advice and learning from others like you:) Loving the videos!
That comment about feeling less worthy to be part of a conversation when youre short is something I relate to 110%. I'm also 4'11" and my height's always something I've been super insecure about. Nice to know I'm not alone
Why do I find myself watching this channel? I'm a 6ft'8 inch 32 yr old normally manly man male, usually watching , you know guy stuff, but I'm so in AW at how you speak, look, and act! Ba ha I find it so funny, cracks me up!!! We need more REAL good, honest,and loving people like you miss witton.
I love watching your videos! I had a stoma for about 7 months (it has since been reversed) it is so good to let people know that stomas are a thing because so many people had no idea what I was talking about! I appreciate this so much!
I would definitely love a whole video dedicated to the first question, especially since it seems that this is a topic you really care about and have a lot to say on!
Your subscribers could never forget about you Hannah, you're inspiring. Everything you've gone through you've been so brave and strong! The thing I really love about your content is that is very factual, friendly, inviting and I always feel like this is a safe space! Before moaner after moaner I find all of your videos interesting, funny and entertaining! Please never stop! Also I've had a few gins so feeling very full of love ❤️
In terms of taking breaks when studying, I found it helpful to have a 20 min long comedy e.g. modern family to watch an episode of at lunchtime. One episode gave me a break and a laugh but a clear end point where I had to get back to it
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I know you said that you have no intention in the near future to go back under the knife and have the reversing surgery but you did say you were worried about it potentially affecting your chance to have children. A work friend of mine had her stoma reversed and has a happy healthy 2 year old daughter who was conceived naturally and she has found out in the last few weeks that she is pregnant with baby number two. So while yes it can potentially affect your ability to have children it isn’t impossible
I love the idea of a uni video focusing on balancing school success with mental health! both have recently been a struggle for me and when one goes down, the other tends to be right there with it lol
would LOVE more vids on the mental health/school/work balance! (for context, currently finishing my undergrad and hoping to move on to grad school in the near future, i.e. probably within the next year). I have a really erratic work ethic and terrible self-discipline and have found your study/organization tips very helpful in the past :) :).
truly wish I had a decent recommendation for you all on how to handle the abuse thrown at self-identified feminists--it's something I struggle with myself, and an incredibly complex issue. my current (not overly creative) strategy is to gather as much information as possible on the topic so that I understand the nuances of each perspective (e.g. the distinctions between intersectional feminism, rad feminism, etc.; the distinctions between various conceptions of sex and gender; and so on) and so that I have a clear definition of what I take "feminism," in its most basic form, to denote. most anti-feminists seem have a pretty shallow understanding of what they are critiquing--they tend to merge various disparate, but admittedly "feminist," perspectives together and to target straw figures, which puts you in a position of power over them and helps to mitigate some of the abuse (e.g. with enough knowledge you can easily anticipate their moves, breakdown the structure of their argument in seconds, offer them alternative ways of conceptualizing feminism so as to bring it into harmony with their own views, etc., etc.). it also makes it far easier to judge whether a person is coming from a place of ignorance (which can be incredibly frustrating, but, under many circumstances, shouldn't really be interpreted as a personal slight) or has genuinely malicious intentions and/or holds views that conflict with principles you are not willing to compromise on--in which case, fuck them--they should go back to kindergarten and you should continue on your merry way in the knowledge that you are, as Hannah put it, on the right side of history! also (and I'm likely preaching to the choir here) the idea that someone is entitled to grill you on your views, regardless of context, etc. is fucked-up--it often seems to serve as a thinly veiled abuse tactic. you are entitled to mental breaks; and by no means are you obligated to interact with abusive people (or, in some cases, even their ideas). basically: pick your battles and invest most of your time and energy into improving yourself.
p.s. this made me realize it's been a decade since I've read a harry potter book! I think I'm due for a re-read.
I just want to say you have an amazing personality and positive attitude that is contagious! It's also really nice to find other ostomates that look at their health situation in a positive light. I have decided against the j pouch surgery myself, and I'm still getting used to my changed body as well. I wish the best of luck to you :)
To the person unsure about all the essay level subjects - I did English, Art History, History & Music (which was more musicology for me than performance) in 7th form and then went on to do an essay heavy degree (in Anthro and Crim) and wouldn't have changed it. If you like the subjects - the work is a lot easy to get through, and you find yourself becoming really good at essay planning and writing. For me, I would have spend more time trying to understand Chemistry or Calculus than writing essays in the end. Good luck!
i would LOVE a video on balancing studying and wellbeing. im a uni student doing a veryyyy long degree, im constantly struggling with trying to work really hard without stressing myself out and affecting my emotional wellbeing. :)
Can you talk about working full time and going to school as well? This is something that's been a challenge in terms of finding down time. Thanks!!
Yes, please make a video about mental health and educational pressures, I think it's so important and it sounds like you have some great ideas about it
Goblet of fire shall always be my favourite because it is the first HP book I completed and it completely got me hooked.
I loved this! the idea of learning new skills during study breaks is so cool! & I would say that I deal with abuse for being a feminist by supporting myself with factual arguments. if I can prove myself right, the abuser often sees where they went wrong. even if they don't, it comforts me to know that I'm standing up for what's right.
yess yes please do a whole video on healthy study/work habits these were genuinely good tips and you seem to have good experience i would love to learn more on this topic from you
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I’m in college rn I would love more videos from you on studying as well as organisation and planning and all those things that we know you love to talk about ;)
To your question but answering it very generally, I always find it interesting to listen to someone else's viewpoint, especially if it's wildly different from mine. There is a huge difference however between talking with someone who's informed whose views just simply differ from your own, and talking with someone who is hateful for the sake of it. In the latter case I always try and extract myself from the situation, and if it's someone who has to stay in my life, I try to avoid certain topics with that person to not drag my mood down regularly.
I love how intelligent, thoughtful and well written everyone's questions are for your videos!! such a great community. And I'm really glad youre making videos again too :)
I am a young avid feminist that deals with abuse so here are some of my tips!
1) ask yourself why you are getting abuse? maybe you’re not listening to other people’s (possible backwards) views. be open-minded and understand that is is not your job to make people think like you. also know that although being snarky is great, it comes with a cost.
2) join a feminist organisation! there should be one in your town, and they are generally made up of really passionate young people that want to make a change!
3) obviously if the abuse is putting you in danger, remove yourself from the situation and report it if necessary.
Haritha Olaganathan 1) is bullshit imo.
People who oppose or wish to restrict access to human rights for identity or generic or religious reasons have nothing to add and has through their actions rejected their own human rights by rejecting the universal terms of the treaty, thus having issued a declaration of war against everyone who supports those rights.
SonsOfLorgar I am hardly saying that they are right in their views (no pun intended) but sometimes not letting them explore their own opinions by pushing your opinions down their throat isn’t going to achieve anything! just some mutual respect is all i’m standing for.
Haritha Olaganathan - the only flaw I see in your point #1 is that you should also be prepared for the possibility that you are wrong. We all like to think we're right all of the time but then more than half of the population believe they are above average intelligence so clearly our judgement of selves and perceptions is a little biased.
As for #3 if someone reacts to words with violence they need to be locked up, society cannot function with such individuals loose.
I learned to knit, rubiks cube, and play guitar too as study breaks throughout Uni! The hardest things I can do have been learned in procrastination or study breaks :)
When people hate on me for being a feminist I try to educate them about what feminism means and represents. I usually find that people who dislike feminism don't really understand it. When they learn about it, even if they don't agree with me, it becomes much easier to make a connection with the person.
HW, I love your content. Your caliber of character is bigger than you are tall. The situation in society these days is sad when it comes to people focusing on differences (Gender, race, orientation...). It would be great for people to just see arms, legs, torso, head... Things that make us HUMAN. I still dislike when others are treated differently because of the traits that make us different, one from another. It is the little differences like tone of skin, the size of our shadow, the accent we have, the cuisine we are accustomed to because of where we live. All these things don't make us better or worse than anyone else. They make us different one from another. Those are the things we should celebrate, notice, compliment and appreciate. If we all had blue eyes, tan skin, brown hair (4-inches long, no bangs, and all business in the back), 5ft11in, tall, the same voice, the same accent... Goodness life would be boring.
As far as gender goes the only difference should be if we are innies or outies... The only difference is for us to enjoy intimacy and grow and expand our human species. If you want to love a person that has the same physical parts as you then good for your. If you are an inny and work as an accountant then it shouldn't matter. Wages and income should not be based on a dimple or a bump, inny or outy
We should not need permission to be equal. We should NEVER expect that because we are different we are not equal. We are living. We are breathing, We love. We dislike. What we eat is processed the same. Our brains are in the same place. Our eyes dry out if we don't blink and if we eat to many onions we won't be kissed the way we like.
As advanced as a species as we are there are a lot of people that haven't come up to speed with what are the real issues in life. And if you are one of those that have to fight to be heard. Cry because you've been cast out down or away. I have a hug for you.
Please never ask or feel like you have to prove you are more. Make others prove you are less. They always end up losing...
Blessings.
as a tall person i can relate to being left out because of height, a lot of my friends are much shorter than me. so they have conversations i can’t hear at all sometimes, and i’ve also struggled with minor hearing issues so that makes it worse. i feel like everyone i know is insecure about their height and it kinda sucks and i wish we could all simultaneously stop even though that’s not how it works.
Naomi Fitzgerald I’m right there with you. Background noise makes the problem so much worse. I’ve just started explaining to people that I can’t hear them. They’ve been pretty receptive.
If I’m being abused for being a feminist I usually... dig my heels in and stand my ground. I often end up in debates in that particular situation. I never instigate the situation so this doesn’t happen often. However, I let people know that I am up for a healthy discussion of the situation. If they cross a boundary or make me feel unsafe, I let them know that they have and shut things down. I suggest surrounding yourself with people that will respect your beliefs. It is harder when you are younger. But, you shed these people as you come into yourself. Trust yourself and keep yourself educated on the subject. If you are not feeling up to it because sometimes we just aren’t, shut it down. Let them know that what they are doing isn’t fair or ok and remove yourself. You don’t constantly have to defend yourself. It isn’t your job to prove yourself to them.
Thank you for uploading. I've been crying all night because of bad periods cramps, and this video distracted from the pain ♥♥♥
About the struggles of being a young feminist: Every time, I am trying to take some distance from the situation and think what I would recommend to someone else. When it comes to young people who are trying to judge my feminism or prove it wrong I am comfortable to fight back with facts and I usually use lots of examples and personal experiences. I've also read somewhere that it always works better if you say "this is sexist/misogynistic/racist" instead of "you are sexist/misogynist/racist" because people get less defensive. And it actually works. When it comes to older people (parents, relatives, co-workers etc) the things are getting more difficult for me. I feel like I have less power in front of them , of course because of the social constructs, and the idea that exprerience and answers come with age. But even in these situations I am trying hard to make it personal and add thing as they get more open to communication and stop manipulating the conversations. (Sorry for this, but even people 5 years older than me- I am 25- try so hard to patronize me.)
Omg I literally took a break from this video to check your insta to see if you had gone swimming, and honestly I'm pure happy for you and your milestone!
BUT, THE QUESTION: So, as someone who has been given shit for being a feminist, I feel like the best action is just to shut that conversation down. Like of course you want that cathartic 'you're on the wrong side of history' chat (who doesn't), but sometimes I feel that it's just not worth it. I know feminism is all about dialogue and informing people and branching out that conversation, but I feel like if someone is already looking down on you for being a feminist then they aren't worth your time. For example, a few months ago I'd just started talking to a guy on tinder, like we are talking minutes into a general chat, and he said something pretty derogatory about feminism. Obviously, I replied like 'lmao I'm a feminist m8' or something of that genre, and he was fully going off on me, explaining how my view point was 'wrong' and how I should change my thought process to match his his. I tried to reason with him, but after two more exchanges he was still talking down to me, so I unmatched him.
Long story short, I feel like it's all about picking your battles. Turning away from a conversation and not wanting to fight with someone isn't always the worst shout.
Ahhliikazam Absolutely, it's so important to protect your boundaries by not investing your energy into conversations you don't really want to be in and are unlikely to go anywhere.
whats wrong with having different view pionts
nothing, but also what's wrong in deciding to not interact with people who are actively giving you shit about a personal belif?
Unfortunately the perception of feminism has been hijacked by the extremist elements who have little interest in egalitarianism. This means that genuine feminists get lumped in with the crazies. The human brain tends to be lazy and use groupings and stereotypes the negative feelings transfer over to those who are seen as guilty by association (even if they want nothing to do with the crazies either).
As the squeeky wheel gets the most grease so too do extremist elements in all walks gain the most attention, leading people to mistakenly believe they are either spokespersons for the group or representitives of the normal membership. The more average members can speak out but the media reports the sensational, not mundane.
How to stop this misrepresentation of "Angry Red" as the average feminist? Afraid I don't know. 😯
A.J. Ello - simple: equality.
Now the difficulty starts with those who can't/refuse to understand the difference between equality of opportunity (fair) and equality of outcome (unfair). Or those who only seek equality in areas where they are at a disadvantage but fight tooth and nail against it where they have an advantage. Sadly "equality" doesn't seem to be a well defined construct for many people, or they simply don't want it but know if they were honest people wouldn't be fooled into supporting them.
I would like to watch a study video! I definitely understand how short people feel despite being 5'10" myself as I'm a wheelchair user. I find that I have to be louder and more confident than when I'm stood up on my crutches. Love your videos!
I would love love love a whole video about study skills!! I’ve always loved school but recently I’ve started to feel less motivated and overwhelmed I think because my study skills have deteriorated.
Doing A levels at the moment and would MASSIVELY appreciate a video on the work-health balance. Thank you so much!
I definitely want to get more ideas about studying from you! I'd also appreciate advice on how to stay passionate about the subject you're studying when you need to get through boring parts of studying, sitting down day after day to memorize details, waking up at 6am every day etc etc. I love my subject but some of the required classes are not what I want to focus on and it's hard to stay motivated.
Dealing with feminist abuse: I turn to feminist forums, listen to like-minded speakers, step away from the abusive parties while I feel sensitive. Had a hard time with this recently and it really affected me, so I had to turn inward and let myself feel hurt and dismissed and misunderstood. When I was ready, I set new boundaries with the abusive parties. Unfortunately I now know not to share certain parts of me with those people and I hate that I can’t share my whole self with them, but I am saner and healthier for it.
I would love a video on keeping the work/mental health balance. I had an exam today and I managed to have two panic attacks which resulted in me having 2 hours of sleep. I guess that means I'm not very good at keeping that balance and having some advice on it would be so appreciated!
I would love a video about maintaining mental health and studying, the idea of learning new skills is amazing, thank you so much!
Also Hannah love you ! Been watching you since 2013 and admire your attitude, personality and just the way you carry yourself!
As a stressed uni student I think that a video about balancing work and health would be really useful🙂
To the person who asked about studying history at uni - I am currently studying history at uni in South Africa and I'm loving it :D
I am always interested in learning how to learn, so the idea of a video on learning breaks at the University definitely appeals to me!
The thing that pisses me off being short in social situations is when you're out drinking and either A. you get hit in the head by someone drunk dancing and failing their arms about. or B. I ALWAYS get one guy who feels the need to physically pick me up when were dancing
Studying for my accountancy exams right now. Career exams are a thing - thanks for including them in your examples.
To Bumblinliss: Having packed everything I owned into 2 sea bags and a duffle bag several times, I say go for it. One, you will loose a lot of dead weight, stuff you 'think' you need, but don't. And two, you will find opportunities you would never have in the old place. Add in the fact that if you are out going, you will find new friends, and voila, life is good. There will be challenges, but succeeding at challenges also gives rewards. I would advise not burning your bridges to your old life ;) but whole hardily advise you take the plunge.
the idea of learning a new skill during breaks sounds wonderful! I wish I knew that back at school.
also find it hard to keep myself off social media during breaks but i suppose there's no fix for that other than exercising restraint and self-control :P
The weight question is so important to me. I’ve recently gotten ill too and lost a decent amount of weight and I feel guilty because I’m a little happy looking skinnier. However, I’m in no way happy that I was/am ill. Also I’ve been having to buy so many new clothes (jeans, shorts, shirts, everything...) because most of my clothes do not fit anymore. I might gain it back this summer so I’m keeping my old clothes for a little bit just in case!
Great questions and great answers!!
The extent of the 'abuse' I recieve as a young feminist is really just jokes or little comments here and there; The way I deal with that is by swiping back with an appropriate joke or by trying to match their logic with my own logic and explain to them what I mean in terms they can connect with/relate to
I think abuse towards feminism is ignorance and fear based so by explaining that we all want the same thing really combats that!
I've been away from TH-cam for a bit and I've missed learning from Hannah, so glad to see your face again!
You’re so full of great advice❣️100% agree about the mental health thing, I’m at UoB where mental health is an issue to say the least and still getting the hang of that work-life balance - getting out of the house/seeing people/going OUTSIDE is so important but I probably take too many breaks ... lots of love, keep doing what you’re doing and wish you a great continuing recovery xx
Whoops forgot mention, would LOVE more videos on revision and mental health !
I really enjoy your positive vibes since you've come back on here after your surgery. :)
I had my ileostomy surgery 8 years ago when I was 15 and I remember it being really really hard to deal with emotionally the first few months while in high school but now I hardly think twice about it, it seems as normal as my hand or anything else!
I'm listening to this while playing Hearthstone. Learning and having fun at the same time.
We will not forget you even if you take breaks on uploading content
Tanning is really bad though, so avoiding that in general is a good idea, no worries about skin cancer!
but it's so lovely to lie in the sun without a grease film on your body :(
Phoebe El yeah ok, a minimal unprotected sun exposure might not be super dangerous for some people (especially poc) every once in a while, but it's still very minimal. I'm just sad how uninformed people are about this and how it affects your skin/health and would risk it just for a tan.
This was an incredible Q&A, Hannah! You’re so clever and you word things so well. You keep on proving yourself to be more influential with each video! And especially with your book, Doing It!
Hi Hannah I just enjoyed just listening to you chatting n answering the questions! I would just enjoy sitting and listening to you all day...thank you for your wonderful personality n since of humour
I have a friend in Malaysia who has a friend in the Netherlands. She stands 5'2", he is just under 6'6". Whenever he manages to visit, and does something really dumb (he's massively intelligent, but doesn't always think things through), she stands on a chair and reads him the riot act face to face. He finds this both amusing, touching, and worthy of contrition on his part. So... standing on a stool/chair not a bad idea....
the Order of the Phoenix is my favourite too! So much happens in it and it turns so dark, I love it! Totally relate to you
I think your channel is my favourite at the moment! I love how open and excited and curious you are and I always learn new stuff! What more can I want!
About school and mental health: I recommend not pressuring yourself to get a certain result. Push yourself to write the best papers you can. Then the grades take care of themselves. Many of my peers in university (especially in classes where only a few As would be given, as a matter of policy) destroyed themselves trying to beat each other.
About essay subjects: Yes, it's hard to balance three writing heavy subjects at the same time, so be weary of that. But consider too that it's hard to be good in history or english or politics with no quantitative background. You have to support your points with data. That's hard to do if you don't sharpen your quantitative skills after high school or GCSE.
I've never heard anyone else say that OotP is their favourite Harry Potter book! Book 5 nerds unite!
Moog Florin it’s my fav too. 😊
thank you for understanding, about the anger. i feel it, perhaps too much. but i do. hugs to all who need them and want them.
Thank you for answering my question, Hannah! I hope you’re enjoying your trip! ⚡️
Was waiting eagerly for your new video to see and here it is...