"Performing for" omg that hit! 😅 I actually have been subconsciously jealous of my scapegoat sibs-for my mom, anyone that like lived their own life was gonna be a scapegoat- because they were rebellious/normal enough to get away
Omg PLEASE make a full review of the whole love is blind Habibi series! I love ur love is blind reviews and would really love your insight on Habibi cuz u have a good insight on the cultural nuances that us non Arabs might miss! 😅
Another beautiful, thoughtful video! Reminds me of a quote I saw that deeply resonated with me, a scapegoat: “You may think that the golden child has the cherished role, but in the long run the scapegoat is the one most likely to escape, heal, & lead a healthier life.” - Gail Myers
yes!!!!! beautiful quote. the golden childen vs scapegoat is like the Israeli vs. palestinian. both are manipulated by this power and the Israeli (like the golden child) believe they are loved when in fact, they are both used. at least the golden child can see the reality and make a run for it
I was both the golden child as well as the scapegoat; when I fulfilled my parent's expectations (bringing home good grades, being thin, dressing well, staying home instead of going out) and catered to their needs, I was showered with compliments and love and positive attention, but the moment I "failed" or didn't do as they wanted, aka the moment I not only expressed my own needs but also tried to get them met, I was berated and insulted and physically, mentally and emotionally abused. It was so mental, all this constant back and forth between "you're the smartest", "you're the most beautiful", "you're the kindest", "you're the apple of my eye" and "you are stupid", "I wish you were never born", "I can't believe YOU are my daughter", "I hate you", etc etc. It was such a mindfuck all the time. Needless to say I don't talk to my family anymore lol. I always thought I was the scapegoat, the black sheep, but this video just made me realise that I was actually both. As fucked up as it is, it's also pretty interesting. I've learned a lot about humanity. Thank you Indie for another brilliant video!
i think this is why dounia hasnt dated before, despite her being a beautiful bubbly girl, she said she finds it difficult to open up, im sure because shes scared of getting hurt
Indie, you have opened my eyes to everything that is really going on between Palestine and Israel, it brought me to be on the “right” side of humanity and I thank you for this. I do hope you go back to reviewing love is blind universe! You’re the best and most entertaining, wisdom spitting content creator out there for any content you make. It’s so interesting to learn about relationships through your lenses.
@@dragtherapy I found your channel through searching Palestine content, only to get hooked on this stuff! (I'm too elitist to watch reality TV, but I watch it through you so I can still feel sophisticated.)
I have a codependent mother as well but I think instinctively I was aware of the harm it caused to me and my constant rejections to enmeshment caused my mother to flip into more scared, insecure and controlling parenting..... now that I'm 36. Then again, I'm more of a Scapegoated Black Sheep in my family dynamic so it was understandable how I am able to see clearly the problematic things that was projected towards me that affected a lot of my life's decisions that I want to reverse and reclaim back. But it's really awful how damaging and sabotaging it was to have a parent like this.
i feel like i spent my childhood hopping back and forth between understanding that the enmeshment was hurting me but so desperately just wanting to be loved and accepted that i would eventually give in to it. but it’s been a back and forth battle within myself and my family ever since and it sucks. it sucks even more when you understand that codependent parents are that way because of trauma, and so you’re stuck feeling some kind of anger yet also understand that they’re hurting too and it makes you feel like you can’t be mad at anyone. it’s awful. if only people would understand their trauma and how to work through it before having a kid.
Growing up I had some friends who had this best friend type of mother. To be honest I sometimes thought that was cool and I wish my mom was like that more. But now when I am 37 I appreciate she never steped out of the parent zone and never pretended to be the cool mom who performs or looks like she is almost my age. I see a lot of friends like that did not have the support I had in my mum. They did not have that guidance, that parent of whom they thought to be like a mentor in life. I had that, I knew Mom was always more mature than me, more experienced, smarter because of so many years of learning about life. Now I absolutely love the fact that she never became this bff type of mom.
So true. My ex was an eternal infant in his mother's eyes. He had no identity or sense of self. The women in that family were so controlling and overbearing. It was a nightmare.
Yessss I have been waiting for your LIB Habibi analyses! Being Arab myself, and I know you're Arab as well, there's nuances that resonate differently with us about the show and I am so excited to hear your discussion.
Omg part of this video related to me, I mean us, Reminded me when you went to university Reminded me my relationship with you and your sister ❤ It's amazing focused video 🥰 always proud of you
It is far worse for the other children. I was the truth teller and black sheep for calling out their hypocrisy and narcissism. I was the one performing daily tasks and paying my own way as well as paying off their debts and bills because the golden child ( my brother) moved away and my parents constantly sent him money so he could party in Toronto. Many years later he returned a helpless drug addict and Theif who was made the executive over their health care and money . He spent over $40,000 my parents had in savings but needed special care because of age and senility . When our father died there was no money to pay for his funeral expenses and inheritance money was spent as well . I was the one calling the ambulance because my brother was not making sure that they took their meds for high blood pressure. I was the one picking my parents up off the floor and taking them to the emergency room because they fainted and or had a stroke or heart attack. My brother never left his room. Our parents needed to be placed in long term care home but he didn’t even get their names on a list . My sister and I were both abused and traumatized growing up and our brother the golden child was given everything he wanted and was never expected to do anything.
I cannot belive how great is the production and editing of your videos. I really dont know LoveIsBlind but you make me glued to the screen when you talk about it, also the drag is amazing. Free Palestine!
I could watch you for hours! I live in Portugal and believe me you made me put Amsterdam on my bucket list just to watch your show! Hope I can do it next year ✨
This video is everything. My ex is Muslim and from a North African country, I can see how enmeshment produces different reactions. I can also see the controlling and infantilizing aspect, but I enabled it as if I was enmeshed with my family myself, and I broke free almost 10 years ago, but there are still the ugly repercussions on my relationship life (romantic and platonic alike). Thank you so much for your amazing work.
OMG I wasn't even expecting this but I am so happy you did this video there is not much about it on yt. Thanks for mentioning Dr. Tsabary I found her video about pain and sent it to everyone. 🍉
When you come from an enmeshed family it’s so difficult to have healthy boundaries and to actually enforce them. Have been in therapy for 5 years and I’m only now understanding what a healthy, intimate relationship should look like.
Great video❤. I'm not Arabic and my mother is not exactly like that, but she has a tendency in that direction. I think, that was one of the reasons why I ended up emigrating to the other side of the ocean and to the other hemisphere. This is something that can happen to these parents, that their adult children end up far, far, far away from them.
@@dragtherapy True and it's crazy how these parents can attract to themselves the opposite of what they want. Keep up all your good and interesting work, Indie ❤
Again and again, I love your work and incredible talent. Your art is truly unique and pioneering! With just the right balance of pain and laughter, you masterfully handle deep and meaningful concepts with great lightheartedness and irony! Love you, love you, love you ❤❤❤
I appreciate your topic choice and the way you discussed it. Its so refreshing as well listening to commentary using quite specific arab experiences (acknowledging other cultures have this). This video made me reflect about our own family dynamics growing up in a Palestinian household. Specifically, a sentiment my baba once told me that felt like it really broke the spell lol. My baba said to me that a decision we make together will lessen the burden if things dont work out and that I would have the burden to share with him which would lessen heartbreak. Context being: *very* personal and signiciant life decision i.e. what I wanted to study, life paths, marriage etc. It took my dad's articulation of this sentiment so plainly and genuinely for me to realize where this excessively intertwined need to be in my life to protect me came from. And also acted as a wager, like if thats really the worst that can happen, me baring the consequence of my own decision [which is inevitable and cannot be so idealistically and lovingly shared], then khalas; I make my own decisions.
Just discovered your channel with this video. Very refreshing content 👍 I like the way you disguise yourself and embody the words of the therapist throughout the video.
Wow! Awesome and incredibly insightful. This whole video completely resonates with me and my family dynamics. Have to admit that it's not easy, but it's a work in progress. 😢 Thank you, Indie.
When you explain emeshment and how you feel its your responsibility, for how someones mood is - felt that😅 I really like your videos. In no other way would i be exposed to this show. Your perspective is on point!
I love all your video's. There is nobody like you. I love your intelligence and creativity. I hope they get to see your video's in Palestine, if not now, then one day.
oh my gosh i love love love love love you, i would definitley appreciate more habibi episodes. and best of luck for the show it looks brilliant i love the concept, youre going to smash it what a wonderful being you are, sorry for the gush, and thank you
I ADORE your content! Thank you! You are so talented my friend- with your comic wit, your political insight, your psychological insight, your acting and imitations… I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your work, Indie Nile! 🏆💐❤️🇵🇸🙏👏👏👏
My absolute favourite cast member is Mohamed the Palestinian who ended with the iraqi lady Safa❤ I swear he was the healthiest, funniest and most love capable person in the entire season 🎉
WOW!! Such solid and wise advice!! So many thoughts went through my mind whilst listening to this!! It is powerful and reassuring whilst being challenging and provocative. Couldn't recommend anything better especially because everything you do is authentic and quite honestly, I think you are marvellous!! I am always happier when I watch your videos because it reassures me that there are amazing, strong, deeply creative and caring souls in the world, despite all the horror that we are seeing and experiencing. FREE PALESTINE!!!!🎆🍉❤
I wasn't really keen on the cast of Love Is Blind Habibi. I only really liked Karma because she went and did her own thing for her love for dancing. You bring up so many important points about enmeshment and family dynamics. Kudos to you because this is so important to understand. Once I read about it and see where my role is I couldn't unsee it! Patrick Teahan therapist on youtube and the Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents book was so helpful and made me realize so much and set boundaries.
I found the class between their traditional expectations & modern lives interesting. Especially the man want these powerhouse, well educated, independent women who travel the world & expect her to after marriage become a stay at home traditional wife. They are the ones to call traditional women boring & chase after modern women & then complain abt the women being modern. 😢
My bestie is divorcing her husband of under a year because of his enmessed relationship with his mom, sister & her kids. His mom pushed out his sister's kids father so that they call their uncle dad & place parental responsibilities on him. His own kids do not get the same treatment. His mom told him to marry her. He did. Now his wife is divorcing him because of his mom.
11:43 “go get your own best friend “ 😂😂 hilarious 😂. I am the “third will” of a enmeshed relationship between a mother and her son. It’s not pleasant, you have to wait for your partner to grow up. I personally was on the route of enmeshement with my child 😂 but I had to snap out of it a year ago. It’s starts with the dramatic thoughts like “my child is the only person that I have”. Maybe it didn’t got away completely, the dramatic thoughts may come back, but I have to keep the balance between protecting and loving her and encouraging her personally developement. Its easier said then done. I Love your videos ❤️
the fact that you're aware is already a HUGE step. true enmeshment doesn't exist with awareness because it believes it's right. lots of love to you and your baby
I love your analysis on Love is Blind. It’s clear that you deeply understand the personal dynamics. Would you consider doing a video on why and how you were drawn to drag? I recall you mentioned it helped you with your relationship with your mom. However, I’d like to know more if you’re comfortable sharing. Like, how did you discover it? What made you want to try it? Is it an expressive art form and/or emotionally therapeutic? Things like that to help me better understand it. Thanks! 🙏🏼
Fantastic introduction to enmeshment. ❤ Looking forward to your further exploration. And thanks a lot for giving me w new reality season to binge on this lazy Sunday 😂.
@dragtherapy it's fascinating how much more authentic their conversations and connections seem than the US and French versions. Is it because they come from generally marriage focused cultured. I'm hooked. 😊
My mom wanted to be this with me. She was too abusive and neglectful for it to work in the long run. I’m still working through breaking free of a lot of the suffocation. Now that I don’t speak to her and I have my own kids, I have been very conscious of the ways that I start to fall into habits I learned. I am very much working on letting myself be okay existing with all of my child’s emotions -especially in public- and not trying to immediately make everything acceptable. I’d absolutely love a your review of LiB Habibi. 💕
Please make videos about all of the participants you feel compelled by, as time permits since your mission is to make videos about Palestine. You're the only creator whose opinions I value on this iteration of the show!
Glad you’re back to doing these! I missed your psychology analysis regarding shows! Can you do this for the upcoming the ultimatum it’s on Netflix in a few days!
Omg, PLEASE make as many videos as you want LIB Habibi was so misogynistic and over the top. I would love to understand the culture and the trauma better! Thank you!! 💕
Well Dounia's mother was not overprotective for no reason. She struggled to protect her daughter. She lived in fear of losing her every moment. They lived a difficult life. Donia's father is from an important family in saudi and in the end she had to leave france and live in Saudi Arabia so that they would not take her daughter away from her. In fact, it is a natural reaction from the mother . I mean with such a life they had .respect to the mom
of course there's a reason. everything in life has a reason. there's even a valid psychological reason why ppl become addicted to drugs. everything we do is about trying to cope. i respect her mom too. you can love and respect someone and still see there is room to improve
The problem is Dounia is no longer a child that is going to be ripped from her. She is a adult that needs to find herself & grow up to make her own decisions. Most psychological issues exist because we keep on using the cope that helped us in a certain situation/ time way past that situation/ time that it becomes maladaptive.
While I completely agree that there is a conversation to be had about Dounia’s relationship with her mom, it’s not strange given the context; her father abandoned her. However, the way Chafiq expressed himself about Dounia’s mother (on international tv!!) and their relationship to each other (dounia x mom) was in my opinion a lot more problematic. That is a man who does not respect her mother. I wouldn’t be surprised if his disrespect to her mother only makes her more attached to and defensive or her mother.
You're right,a man who wants to be with you should try and help you with all the dynamics of family.Because that family is what you got,not what you chose.
Oh I so love your content here on TH-cam Indie. I’m your biggest fan here in France. Please do a review on the entire cast of LIB Habibi, especially the reunion. Hope to catch you live soon in Amsterdam! Meanwhile warm hugs 🤗 ❤
Hey dear. That one coming at the end of year as a new years gift 🎁 tonight am dropping a short one about Syria then next week will do the video about Hind Rajab
Thank you for pointing out that being 'the golden child' is actually not great, it keeps children enmeshed and constantly performing for the parent
Absolutely
"Performing for" omg that hit! 😅
I actually have been subconsciously jealous of my scapegoat sibs-for my mom, anyone that like lived their own life was gonna be a scapegoat- because they were rebellious/normal enough to get away
Omg PLEASE make a full review of the whole love is blind Habibi series! I love ur love is blind reviews and would really love your insight on Habibi cuz u have a good insight on the cultural nuances that us non Arabs might miss! 😅
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Yes especially the reunion
Can you also analyze the Hekmat Wehbe podcast interviews they did too?
Yes please!!!!
Another beautiful, thoughtful video! Reminds me of a quote I saw that deeply resonated with me, a scapegoat: “You may think that the golden child has the cherished role, but in the long run the scapegoat is the one most likely to escape, heal, & lead a healthier life.” - Gail Myers
yes!!!!! beautiful quote. the golden childen vs scapegoat is like the Israeli vs. palestinian. both are manipulated by this power and the Israeli (like the golden child) believe they are loved when in fact, they are both used. at least the golden child can see the reality and make a run for it
@@dragtherapy i guess you meant the scapegoat is the one how can see the reality and the reality and make a run for it
i was the scapegoat. it is hard, but i am building a beautiful life that i don't think the rest of my family could imagine, unfortunately.
yesss make the video about the mens of habibi, they were acting up this season 😭
They sure were 👀
Seconding this! pleaseee make a vid about the men
I was both the golden child as well as the scapegoat; when I fulfilled my parent's expectations (bringing home good grades, being thin, dressing well, staying home instead of going out) and catered to their needs, I was showered with compliments and love and positive attention, but the moment I "failed" or didn't do as they wanted, aka the moment I not only expressed my own needs but also tried to get them met, I was berated and insulted and physically, mentally and emotionally abused. It was so mental, all this constant back and forth between "you're the smartest", "you're the most beautiful", "you're the kindest", "you're the apple of my eye" and "you are stupid", "I wish you were never born", "I can't believe YOU are my daughter", "I hate you", etc etc. It was such a mindfuck all the time. Needless to say I don't talk to my family anymore lol.
I always thought I was the scapegoat, the black sheep, but this video just made me realise that I was actually both. As fucked up as it is, it's also pretty interesting. I've learned a lot about humanity.
Thank you Indie for another brilliant video!
"nothing caises a child more pain than a parent who is not able to witness pain" 🙂↕️
i know that's one of those lines that goes deep inside
@@dragtherapybecause it only adds up to your own pain and you feel guilty on top for causing them pain 🙁
i think this is why dounia hasnt dated before, despite her being a beautiful bubbly girl, she said she finds it difficult to open up, im sure because shes scared of getting hurt
Gurrrllll. I don’t even know who you are, but I am in LOVE with this video.
Gurl ;) I'm Indie. welcome aboard the train ❤️
Indie, you have opened my eyes to everything that is really going on between Palestine and Israel, it brought me to be on the “right” side of humanity and I thank you for this. I do hope you go back to reviewing love is blind universe! You’re the best and most entertaining, wisdom spitting content creator out there for any content you make. It’s so interesting to learn about relationships through your lenses.
so happy to hear that i play a small role in highlighting Palestine. means a lot to hear that
@@dragtherapy I found your channel through searching Palestine content, only to get hooked on this stuff!
(I'm too elitist to watch reality TV, but I watch it through you so I can still feel sophisticated.)
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@@ChannelMath😂😂😂✨
Every video of yours that I watch is more impressive, educative and enlightening than the last! Thank you for being here. Greetings from Uruguay!
Thank you very much! sending you love from amsterdam
Always love a notification from you, Indie!
Yay! Thank you!
I have a codependent mother as well but I think instinctively I was aware of the harm it caused to me and my constant rejections to enmeshment caused my mother to flip into more scared, insecure and controlling parenting..... now that I'm 36. Then again, I'm more of a Scapegoated Black Sheep in my family dynamic so it was understandable how I am able to see clearly the problematic things that was projected towards me that affected a lot of my life's decisions that I want to reverse and reclaim back. But it's really awful how damaging and sabotaging it was to have a parent like this.
oh yes the scapegoat child sees the truth early on and that's why they become the punching bag 😥
Yup when I rejected the enmeshment, I became the scapegoat too.
i feel like i spent my childhood hopping back and forth between understanding that the enmeshment was hurting me but so desperately just wanting to be loved and accepted that i would eventually give in to it. but it’s been a back and forth battle within myself and my family ever since and it sucks. it sucks even more when you understand that codependent parents are that way because of trauma, and so you’re stuck feeling some kind of anger yet also understand that they’re hurting too and it makes you feel like you can’t be mad at anyone. it’s awful. if only people would understand their trauma and how to work through it before having a kid.
Growing up I had some friends who had this best friend type of mother. To be honest I sometimes thought that was cool and I wish my mom was like that more. But now when I am 37 I appreciate she never steped out of the parent zone and never pretended to be the cool mom who performs or looks like she is almost my age. I see a lot of friends like that did not have the support I had in my mum. They did not have that guidance, that parent of whom they thought to be like a mentor in life. I had that, I knew Mom was always more mature than me, more experienced, smarter because of so many years of learning about life. Now I absolutely love the fact that she never became this bff type of mom.
That’s beautiful
love your videos indie, so introspective and informational while still remaining funny and in your style 😂
Thank you!
So true. My ex was an eternal infant in his mother's eyes. He had no identity or sense of self. The women in that family were so controlling and overbearing. It was a nightmare.
Sounds like it was rough but a good lesson
Came for Palestine but stayed for the therapy with all the issues of a loving and devoted mother. Really moved and very grateful. Big hugs xxx
Palestine will always be there as the guide for everything even the fun stuff like this 👌❤️
You have to talk about Karma - what a queen!!!
Oh yes! She handled herself beautifully 👌
Yessss I have been waiting for your LIB Habibi analyses! Being Arab myself, and I know you're Arab as well, there's nuances that resonate differently with us about the show and I am so excited to hear your discussion.
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Omg part of this video related to me, I mean us,
Reminded me when you went to university
Reminded me my relationship with you and your sister ❤
It's amazing focused video 🥰 always proud of you
thank you mom. love you. yes i remembered the university days when i was making this
It is far worse for the other children. I was the truth teller and black sheep for calling out their hypocrisy and narcissism. I was the one performing daily tasks and paying my own way as well as paying off their debts and bills because the golden child ( my brother) moved away and my parents constantly sent him money so he could party in Toronto.
Many years later he returned a helpless drug addict and Theif who was made the executive over their health care and money .
He spent over $40,000 my parents had in savings but needed special care because of age and senility . When our father died there was no money to pay for his funeral expenses and inheritance money was spent as well . I was the one calling the ambulance because my brother was not making sure that they took their meds for high blood pressure. I was the one picking my parents up off the floor and taking them to the emergency room because they fainted and or had a stroke or heart attack. My brother never left his room.
Our parents needed to be placed in long term care home but he didn’t even get their names on a list .
My sister and I were both abused and traumatized growing up and our brother the golden child was given everything he wanted and was never expected to do anything.
thank you for sharing. indeed the blacksheep/scapegoat child has it the worst ❤️🩹
You need to make a whole video about mido and the other Moroccan guy. 😂😂yess we need more videos!!!
yep, i was getting gay vibes from both of them :)
I cannot belive how great is the production and editing of your videos. I really dont know LoveIsBlind but you make me glued to the screen when you talk about it, also the drag is amazing. Free Palestine!
thank you!
Love Dr Shafali. She’s where I started trying to learn how to parent
I could watch you for hours! I live in Portugal and believe me you made me put Amsterdam on my bucket list just to watch your show! Hope I can do it next year ✨
Awesome. Yes do it. Spring is a great time to be here and I have a show on April 23. Might also do one on March 7 but not confirmed yet
This video is everything. My ex is Muslim and from a North African country, I can see how enmeshment produces different reactions. I can also see the controlling and infantilizing aspect, but I enabled it as if I was enmeshed with my family myself, and I broke free almost 10 years ago, but there are still the ugly repercussions on my relationship life (romantic and platonic alike). Thank you so much for your amazing work.
my pleasure. and yes enmeshment takes years to unpack and even figure out
It doesn’t necessarily have to do with his “religion”, this is a cultural thing more than anything.
@ I know, I read some of the Quran myself, I know culture/tribalism defies religious beliefs more often than not.
Please make videos about all of them!!🎉 love is blind habibi was wild
inshallah
You are a genius in how you analyse this codependency between the girl and her mother! Thank you !
You are so welcome
OMG I wasn't even expecting this but I am so happy you did this video there is not much about it on yt.
Thanks for mentioning Dr. Tsabary I found her video about pain and sent it to everyone.
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yess please more on the whole love is blind habibi!! i love you so much, thank you for being your beautiful you❤❤❤❤
When you come from an enmeshed family it’s so difficult to have healthy boundaries and to actually enforce them. Have been in therapy for 5 years and I’m only now understanding what a healthy, intimate relationship should look like.
Brother your acting skills are A1. That intro had me thinking “who is this woman? How am I already subscribed to someone I’ve never seen before???” 😅
Haha thanks. I love shapeshifting. You just gave me the best compliment
Great video❤. I'm not Arabic and my mother is not exactly like that, but she has a tendency in that direction. I think, that was one of the reasons why I ended up emigrating to the other side of the ocean and to the other hemisphere. This is something that can happen to these parents, that their adult children end up far, far, far away from them.
Yes indeed enmeshment is universal
@@dragtherapy True and it's crazy how these parents can attract to themselves the opposite of what they want. Keep up all your good and interesting work, Indie ❤
Love the editing. I'm hooked from the start!!
@@nycpupwhisperer 😘
Lmao your commentary is hilarious. Subscribed!
Again and again, I love your work and incredible talent. Your art is truly unique and pioneering! With just the right balance of pain and laughter, you masterfully handle deep and meaningful concepts with great lightheartedness and irony! Love you, love you, love you ❤❤❤
Wow, thank you so much
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I appreciate your topic choice and the way you discussed it. Its so refreshing as well listening to commentary using quite specific arab experiences (acknowledging other cultures have this). This video made me reflect about our own family dynamics growing up in a Palestinian household. Specifically, a sentiment my baba once told me that felt like it really broke the spell lol. My baba said to me that a decision we make together will lessen the burden if things dont work out and that I would have the burden to share with him which would lessen heartbreak. Context being: *very* personal and signiciant life decision i.e. what I wanted to study, life paths, marriage etc. It took my dad's articulation of this sentiment so plainly and genuinely for me to realize where this excessively intertwined need to be in my life to protect me came from. And also acted as a wager, like if thats really the worst that can happen, me baring the consequence of my own decision [which is inevitable and cannot be so idealistically and lovingly shared], then khalas; I make my own decisions.
Just discovered your channel with this video. Very refreshing content 👍 I like the way you disguise yourself and embody the words of the therapist throughout the video.
Thank you so much ❤️
Wow! Awesome and incredibly insightful. This whole video completely resonates with me and my family dynamics. Have to admit that it's not easy, but it's a work in progress. 😢 Thank you, Indie.
Yes we are all a work in progress till the last minute we are alive
When you explain emeshment and how you feel its your responsibility, for how someones mood is - felt that😅
I really like your videos. In no other way would i be exposed to this show. Your perspective is on point!
Thank you! 😃
I love all your video's. There is nobody like you. I love your intelligence and creativity. I hope they get to see your video's in Palestine, if not now, then one day.
One day 😍
oh my gosh i love love love love love you, i would definitley appreciate more habibi episodes. and best of luck for the show it looks brilliant i love the concept, youre going to smash it what a wonderful being you are, sorry for the gush, and thank you
Thank you so much!!
I ADORE your content! Thank you! You are so talented my friend- with your comic wit, your political insight, your psychological insight, your acting and imitations…
I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your work, Indie Nile! 🏆💐❤️🇵🇸🙏👏👏👏
Thank you so much
A livestream, a video and a coffee invite, what a day! ❤
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Indie, love your content and your style. I hope I can catch a show one day. ✌🏼 ❤ 🇵🇸
Thank you! Yes hope you can catch one of my shows x
My absolute favourite cast member is Mohamed the Palestinian who ended with the iraqi lady Safa❤ I swear he was the healthiest, funniest and most love capable person in the entire season 🎉
oh yes! mohammed and safa were amazing!!!
WE WANT MORE VIDEOS on any LIB YOU WANT my king!! ❤😂
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This video was like really really good. I love your mindset and perspective on everything so far. New sub. You are incredible!
Welcome aboard!
You make my day, bud 😂❤
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You're such a gem, I always learn so much from you! 🥰
Oh thank you!
WOW!! Such solid and wise advice!! So many thoughts went through my mind whilst listening to this!! It is powerful and reassuring whilst being challenging and provocative. Couldn't recommend anything better especially because everything you do is authentic and quite honestly, I think you are marvellous!! I am always happier when I watch your videos because it reassures me that there are amazing, strong, deeply creative and caring souls in the world, despite all the horror that we are seeing and experiencing. FREE PALESTINE!!!!🎆🍉❤
Your message reminds me of Daniel Mackler's channel. Highly recommend!❤
I’m a fan of Daniel
Oooh your first drag is gorgeous!!! Can’t wait for the rest!
Thank you!!
something really interesting about your channel! Its hard to find originality in this day and age on youtube. im locked in till the end
Ah thank you. That’s nice to hear 🤗
I wasn't really keen on the cast of Love Is Blind Habibi. I only really liked Karma because she went and did her own thing for her love for dancing. You bring up so many important points about enmeshment and family dynamics. Kudos to you because this is so important to understand. Once I read about it and see where my role is I couldn't unsee it! Patrick Teahan therapist on youtube and the Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents book was so helpful and made me realize so much and set boundaries.
oh yes those are great resources. I'm a fan of Patrick
I found the class between their traditional expectations & modern lives interesting. Especially the man want these powerhouse, well educated, independent women who travel the world & expect her to after marriage become a stay at home traditional wife.
They are the ones to call traditional women boring & chase after modern women & then complain abt the women being modern. 😢
My bestie is divorcing her husband of under a year because of his enmessed relationship with his mom, sister & her kids. His mom pushed out his sister's kids father so that they call their uncle dad & place parental responsibilities on him. His own kids do not get the same treatment.
His mom told him to marry her. He did. Now his wife is divorcing him because of his mom.
Yikes that sounds like a messy situation
13:12 I am Mexican and my mom has said that when my brother was getting married, very enmeshed family too
11:43 “go get your own best friend “ 😂😂 hilarious 😂. I am the “third will” of a enmeshed relationship between a mother and her son. It’s not pleasant, you have to wait for your partner to grow up. I personally was on the route of enmeshement with my child 😂 but I had to snap out of it a year ago. It’s starts with the dramatic thoughts like “my child is the only person that I have”. Maybe it didn’t got away completely, the dramatic thoughts may come back, but I have to keep the balance between protecting and loving her and encouraging her personally developement. Its easier said then done. I Love your videos ❤️
the fact that you're aware is already a HUGE step. true enmeshment doesn't exist with awareness because it believes it's right. lots of love to you and your baby
YES! Please make a separate video about these narcissists 😅🙏🏽
They’re narcissists alright
You have very good eye, I loved it!
Thank you! Cheers!
This is so so good and many of us can relate!
Glad to hear it
I love your analysis on Love is Blind. It’s clear that you deeply understand the personal dynamics.
Would you consider doing a video on why and how you were drawn to drag? I recall you mentioned it helped you with your relationship with your mom. However, I’d like to know more if you’re comfortable sharing. Like, how did you discover it? What made you want to try it? Is it an expressive art form and/or emotionally therapeutic? Things like that to help me better understand it. Thanks! 🙏🏼
Well I’m putting the full theater show about that on my channel next month
Habibi , you rock! 🍉💗
thank you!
0:27 Chafics face is killing me looooooooool
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Yes, more love is blind Habibi videos ❤❤❤
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Please make more videos..about literally anything! You're amazing
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If you were a therapist I would love to have you as my therapist ❤️
my creative coaching is a form of therapy in case you are suck creatively and not sure why
Fantastic introduction to enmeshment. ❤ Looking forward to your further exploration.
And thanks a lot for giving me w new reality season to binge on this lazy Sunday 😂.
haha enjoy...there's tons of drama on this season. you'll gonna love it
@dragtherapy it's fascinating how much more authentic their conversations and connections seem than the US and French versions. Is it because they come from generally marriage focused cultured. I'm hooked. 😊
Thank you for making this! I hope you will do more LIB habibi.
Holy sheeet I'm so happy to find your channel! ❤
Glad you enjoy it!
This is incredibly enlightening.
great to hear
We need full dive into Love is Blind Habibi please!!
Yes please make more videos!! I love your breakdowns! Love from Oakland, CA ❤☀️🌊
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My mom wanted to be this with me. She was too abusive and neglectful for it to work in the long run. I’m still working through breaking free of a lot of the suffocation.
Now that I don’t speak to her and I have my own kids, I have been very conscious of the ways that I start to fall into habits I learned. I am very much working on letting myself be okay existing with all of my child’s emotions -especially in public- and not trying to immediately make everything acceptable.
I’d absolutely love a your review of LiB Habibi. 💕
Sorry to hear that. It always breaks my heart when I hear about fractured family relations ❤️🩹
Please make videos about all of the participants you feel compelled by, as time permits since your mission is to make videos about Palestine. You're the only creator whose opinions I value on this iteration of the show!
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we love all your work ❤ Greetings from Switzerland!!!
Thank you so much!
Glad you’re back to doing these! I missed your psychology analysis regarding shows! Can you do this for the upcoming the ultimatum it’s on Netflix in a few days!
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Ive seen your show in Amsterdam! If anyone is in Amsterdam go see this queens show. Shes serving
Thank you 😊 😘
Omg, PLEASE make as many videos as you want LIB Habibi was so misogynistic and over the top. I would love to understand the culture and the trauma better! Thank you!! 💕
Most welcome
You so funny i wish i could listen to you the whole day 😂
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I’ve never clicked so fast
Thanks 😘
I was born and raised in Dubai too, and so relate to you…
Fellow Dubaian 👌❤️
Pleaseeee more on LIB habibi! Make an analysis of that stuck up Syrian dude, there’s so much there to dig up 😂
oh yes he's a piece of work alright
“relying on your child for emotional support” ouch
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more love is blind habibi content please
sure
This should be a public service announcement 😂 let's include West Indian mothers too.
I actually did a video on the Indian Matchmaking show. You’ll find it on my channel. Wasn’t about mothers specifically but I touched on that
Well Dounia's mother was not overprotective for no reason. She struggled to protect her daughter. She lived in fear of losing her every moment. They lived a difficult life. Donia's father is from an important family in saudi and in the end she had to leave france and live in Saudi Arabia so that they would not take her daughter away from her. In fact, it is a natural reaction from the mother . I mean with such a life they had .respect to the mom
of course there's a reason. everything in life has a reason. there's even a valid psychological reason why ppl become addicted to drugs. everything we do is about trying to cope. i respect her mom too. you can love and respect someone and still see there is room to improve
The problem is Dounia is no longer a child that is going to be ripped from her. She is a adult that needs to find herself & grow up to make her own decisions.
Most psychological issues exist because we keep on using the cope that helped us in a certain situation/ time way past that situation/ time that it becomes maladaptive.
While I completely agree that there is a conversation to be had about Dounia’s relationship with her mom, it’s not strange given the context; her father abandoned her. However, the way Chafiq expressed himself about Dounia’s mother (on international tv!!) and their relationship to each other (dounia x mom) was in my opinion a lot more problematic. That is a man who does not respect her mother. I wouldn’t be surprised if his disrespect to her mother only makes her more attached to and defensive or her mother.
Yeah Chafic is messy as hell. In general I found the men on this season to be very immature
You're right,a man who wants to be with you should try and help you with all the dynamics of family.Because that family is what you got,not what you chose.
I feel that he chose Dounia because she is easy to be controlled. I do see him & her mom fighting each other for control of Dounia.
Honey this hairstyle and this colour on you ❤😍
Thank you so much 😀
I love you sm ❤ great video like always!
Thank you so much!!
Please make more videos about it.
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Pd: I think you should do a video on each of them 😊
Ooh, I'm going to be coming back to this video. Thank you 🫰🏿🍉
You’re welcome 😊
I already cant wait for the full review!!! 🎉❤😅
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I didn't know this even existed! I am so done with the American series but this looks like worth a watch !!♥️
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Indie Nile! ❤🎉 I missed watching your videos. 😊
Welcome back!
omggg tell me why i came for a fun video and i ended up realizing this is meeeee hahahahahaha i love you
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That’s me
I can’t live without my mother
Please, make more a review from the love is blind! Greetings from Germany ❤
Thank you! Will do! share it with other LIB fans 🙏
Love your analysis & style. And OMG please analyse these men yes… Ammar is a total misogynist!
Total misogynist. Hot one though 🙈
Oh I so love your content here on TH-cam Indie. I’m your biggest fan here in France. Please do a review on the entire cast of LIB Habibi, especially the reunion. Hope to catch you live soon in Amsterdam! Meanwhile warm hugs 🤗 ❤
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Please do a review of male casts , always loved your content and yourself ❤
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Can hardly wait for the episode about your juicy family history :)
Hey dear. That one coming at the end of year as a new years gift 🎁 tonight am dropping a short one about Syria then next week will do the video about Hind Rajab