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Feli is from Germany but lives in the US. She talks a lot about cultural differences on her TH-cam channel “Feli from Germany”. There are things she prefers about the US, and some things, not so much, like “ghosting”, a term I had never heard of before this chat.
0:00 What is Feli's channel all about?
3:50 Americans are more positive than Germans.
6:20 There is less bureaucracy in the States.
10:50 When you're living in another country every day is an adventure.
13:40 Getting ghosted! 👻
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Have you lived abroad? If so, what cultural differences stood out the most?
americans and friendship is a difficult topic for us germans because most of it is so superficial. 'hey, we should have dinner sometime', heard that one before? I was married to an american for 5 years, once we split up our mutual american friends never spoke to me again, never reached out to me, all sided with him. it said when it comes to friendship americans are peaches while germans are coconuts, it's very easy to tear through the flesh of a peach but once you get to the core it's hard to maintain a real friendship while once you drill through the shell of a coconut and get into the soft tissue you usually made a friend for life!
Easy comes, easy goes.
Her American accent is so good. Linking words. Her stop T. Stress on words and within sentences. Props to her.
Dude her English is incredible. So few would get to her level honestly.
@@AuxxiliaryATCI’ve had over 650 students. Literally 1-2 on her level. A few tiny things on phonetics I can notice but the intonation and rhythm of her American accent is so amazing proof that it can be learned to a impressively high level.
Short story about German directness and their medical system: When I went to Germany for the second time, I took a class to improve my German, and discovered that I had a hearing problem. I hadn't realized this in the U.S., because the gaps in what my ears could hear in English my brain could fill in, and thus I experienced hearing perfectly. But I didn't know German well enough for my brain to fill in the gaps, even though the sounds in the German language are the same or quite similar. So I went to a store that sold hearing aids. They told me they could provide the hearing aids I needed, based on the hearing tests they performed, in 6 weeks. By then, the class I was in would be over. Someone at the school went with me to the store the next day and told them politely what I needed and why and what the school REQUIRED. As a result, I got the hearing aids in 2 days. That's the directness of Germans, especially with other Germans. The company didn't even charge me for the hearing aids, and told me when I returned to the U.S., I could then either pay for the hearing aids or return them. I returned them, and bought a pair (same top-of-the-line brand) at a discount store for half the price. This wasn't a big loss to the company. Almost all there customers in Germany are Germans, and the German health service pays for hearing aids.
Feli has a great channel. I watch it all the time. It's really fun and I love her enthusiastic personality.
True 👍👍👍
And don't forget her podcast "Understanding Train Station" where she, as a young German female living in the US compares experiences with a young American male now living in Germany. Often they'll interview other expats living in other countries.
@@kenhenderson1762and he speaks German at least as well as she speaks English!
Yeah. I've watched her channel since before it was called "Feli from Germany". I don't quite recall what it used to be called, but she is great! My only worry about her (and other expat Europeans) is that, speaking as an expat European myself, staying in the US long-term is a trap: health issues can only get worse as you get older, and the US healthcare system is built to bankrupt people. I hope Feli will have enough money to get back to Europe if health issues become serious enough that her insurance company drops her.
In the U.S. ghosting happens a lot thesse days with job hunting, too. You'll apply for a job, even have one or more interviews, and the company will ghost you. Most don't even send out an automated generic email saying you're no longer under consideration, let alone respond to phone calls, emails, etc. You'll just never hear from them again.
happened to me in Europe as well a few times. Not too often, but it does happen here as well.
When I would get ghosted by a business, I would call up their H.R. department and tell them point blank how LOUSY their company REALLY is and how I would send word of mouth to my friends about my experience with that firm.
One H.R. rep. said I would make a WONDERFUL addition to their firm and even offered me a weekly advance for being so straightforward. I told him to cram it. Shortly after, I was working for a competing company and literally taking clients AWAY from them just by mentioning MY bad past experience with the business.
Yes for sure. My mom is 56 and hasn't looked for a new job in probably 30 years now and she can't understand this concept. I had an interview the other day, wrote a thank you letter and they seemed like they really liked me and they had no objections when I asked if they had any hesitation with moving me forward. I told her they never replied to me again and she's so confused by it. I'm like, dude thats the way it is idk what to tell you
That is the rudest thing. I frankly would rather have a prospective employer just stop me in the interview and say "Excuse me, we hate you, I dont think we need to continue." Instead you get lead on with flaky companies.
You probably won’t believe this but I happened to be listening to this episode while I was shopping at the grocery store (Kroger, for those of you who know) near UC (University of Cincinnati)! I came to Cincinnati myself about 6 years ago for graduate school. I am originally an Arab but have moved and traveled a lot throughout my life and can relate to many of the things Feli talked about. I still find it hard to navigate relationships with Americans and walk this fine line between being friendly but also firm when I need to set boundaries or point out someone’s mistakes. It was really nice to listen to someone living in the same city as myself share experiences very similar to my own. Needless to say, I enjoyed this episode a lot!
@@escapedfromnewyork From east to west, the Midwest is the middle section of states. Even though Texas is considered a part of the South by most, I consider it part of the Midwest.
@@escapedfromnewyork The West that the Midwest is "mid" to isn't the Pacific coast, but rather the American frontier, i.e. the broad line after which there just weren't many settlements anymore. So there was a time where it made geographical sense to call it that. The name stuck and we kept on calling it that even long after the frontier had progressed much further West, all the way to the Pacific.
I was ghosted by 2 Japanese "friends". One was a college student in a nearby city. We hit it off as friends immediately through a language app. Then after about 3 months of hanging out at coffee shops and going to workout at the college, this person just stopped texting. Poof
The second person was living in Japan and we hit it off immediately as well. We started sending gifts to each other nearly every month. We zoomed called every week, met each others kids and began making plans for me to fly out to Japan in May. Eight months flew by so quickly and my preparation to fly out was coming together. Then the change came last February...POOF! Gone.
So, it makes me hesitant making friends from other countries when this happens. But, I do have a Japanese friend who we"ve known each other for a year now and zoom twice a month! A brighter side to my experience :)
Two of my favorite youtubers together! I don't know about Germany. But I know the term "ghost" is used in the Dutch language now and is conjugated in the same way as any Dutch verb.
Yes! We do use and konjugate ghosten, too, in Germany.
„Er hat mich geghostet“…😊
Of course I came here from Feli's link when she said she revealed more than she intended---plus I wanted to say how inspirational your chat was. I'm 60+ and that 'ghosting' was never an issue back in my day. That must be a new development.
I'm 31 and it seems like the ghosting thing started becoming more prevalent 10+ years ago but really kicked in hard in the last 5-6 years. It also drives me insane and it is something about our culture that I really hope switches back to a standard of respectful communication.
I"m always baffled when I see Europeans move to the US. It's quite shocking given how the country is run by corporations and money, has no social safety net, is swimming in guns and has absolutely no workers' rights. It boggles the mind why anyone, especially from Germany or a Scandinavian country, would ever want to come here.
I am German who spent several years in the US (also from Munich originally, like Feli), and I had exactly the same experiences with ghosting ... only in my case, I was a guy getting ghosted by women. It really soured me on the dating scene in the US. I ended up perceiving American women as extremely flaky and noncommittal. So I can totally relate to Feli's observations on this particular issue.
Gen X isn't like this. It's Millennials and Gen Z. They're all terrified of failing because they grew up getting congratulated for every single thing they did. When it comes to being honest with people, they're just not used to it, and they associate discomfort with "trauma," so they think it's better to avoid discomfort than to do the right thing, which is communicating openly and honestly with people.
American man here with an American daughter who is closing in on dating age. From my point of view, that type of behavior with men bailing on girls in romantic relationships is completely unacceptable, and may earn an angry father knocking at his door. I am flabbergasted that this actually is a problem in the dating world.
This ghosting thing is pure babyishness. Calling it 'immaturity' would be too kind.
Ghosting is just extreme passive- aggressive behavior.
AngloSaks Agreed. Getting ghosted pisses me off.
Thanks a lot! I'm everyday wait for your videos!
Oh wow he just fully did not listen at all when she told him her name. Her name is Felicia. FELI. Why did he keep saying Feely or Felia or Feliu ???
Wow!! I’m so fascinated with her English 😍👍
This German speaks English so well that she even has the American vocal fry in her pronunciation. As Germans would say „Integration erfolgreich“.
Vocal fry sucks, but whatever.
@@Storytime2023xvocal fry?
vocal fry is the worst
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This was a specially rich conversation among the ones I could find on the internet!
Amazing talk!!! Thanks a lot for this kind of videos Steve as always. I'm still learning English because I just wanna travel to the US someday regardless of many issues in my personal life just for the sake of it. I know almost nothing of German but I would like to learn the language. It's one of my target languages as well. Take care Steve 🥰.
you won the green card lottery??? Girl, that's effing awesome, I am sooo happy for you! congrats!
Nice interview Felié :)
Great teacher steve❤❤❤
Great talk!👍👏Regards from Poland💡
her accent is too perfect, I wouldn't guess she's German even if I lived my whole life with her
Everybody wants a video with Steve
Not suprising
And he only talks to attractive young women
It’s crazy!! These collabs are mind blowing 🤣 and unexpected
@@tripjj8662 Increases views and ad revenue
@@tripjj8662 That’s not true.
Ótimo vídeo mestre steve, seus podcasts tem me motivado a aprender um novo idioma, no caso o inglês, e com suas dicas consigo aprimorar mais e mais meus estudos.
I think the fear of confrontation is a learned behavior - if even 1 in 10 times you confront someone and they completely flip out on you, it trains you to avoid that behavior. This may in turn be a consequence of living in a culture where confrontation doesn't occur, and people don't know how to regulate their emotions during conflict (or outright refuse to.)
There's no easy solution to this, but expecting guys to be forthright when they don't completely know you might not be reasonable. Instead, both guys and gals can try to judge each other as individuals, and try to extend the olive branch when the situation calls for it. Conversely, we can try to demonstrate that we know how to deal with conflict and control our emotions during it - something I'd love to see more of from certain people in my life.
She was more personal that any German speaker I have ever met, including my dad! JK (mostly). She's a lovely young lady and her channel is refreshing. She does a great breakdown of German vs. American pay considering, in appropriate detail, cost of insurance, housing, and retirement. Both Steve and Feli are jewells.
Good video
My favourite 2 person😊😊😊
I like the advice to focus on what you like to better enjoy a culture. I think I focused on what I didn’t like about Japan more than I should have. That was before Covid. Waiting for them to stop wearing masks in public now that they changed the rules.
Interesting perspective on dating.
I think it really is a general aversion to directness.
But also, just ghosts of traditional values around dating.
Everyone carries around Puritan guilt.
Steve, when is the video with Language Simp coming out?
There is a video of him beeing himself talking to Brazilian poliglote
Her level of English is insanely good; Honestly would say she's a native if I didn't know.
I don't know, I could immediately tell.
ofc, she's been living in the states for many years and she is german and the german language is close to English. it would've been more impressive if she was from like China or Korea ,the languages of which are not related at all to english
Завжди круті відео у Стіва! Дякую
When two of my favorite worlds collide!
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Mr. Steve, I want to learn two languages at the same time, English and German. But there is a problem I face in learning these two languages, which is the problem of similarity in writing, which in turn leads to confusion between English and German vocabulary. Please advise me to solve this problem. Thank you very much.
Just learn one first, also your English is great.
They really are not similar. I am English, I speak French (B2) and I am learning German (A2). For me German is very hard because the vocabulary is so different.
@@StillAliveAndKicking_ thank you my friend. You may write a text in German and find in it some words in English that you think are German words because of the similarity. There are German words that differ with English words except in the order of the letters, or add or subtract a letter. I think it is better to study, for example, English alongside Japanese, because there is a wide difference between the two languages.
@@Chougi_Taleb I would not study French and Spanish together, or Dutch and German. I really do think English and German are quite different, I struggle with German for that reason. They say English is a Germanic language, but 60% of our words are from latin or french, not many are Anglo Saxon, about 1% in the largest dictionary, but they are commonly used. But perhaps you should ask someone who has studied both as a non native.
The language core between those languages are differents, just be achieve fluency in english and after start learning german.
Good
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Ghosting haha that was a new word for me as well. Poor American lads😄
For a so called language expert,the first 2 minutes of the video was kind of awkward.
It killed me that he couldn’t figure out the shortened version of Felicia. She also speaks very good English so the fact that he couldn’t get it even after multiple times of her saying it perfectly is baffling.
Ich habe keine Lust mich nicht zu hassen
Hab' keine Lust mich anzufassen
Steve, do you speak German? Love from the Bavarian province (Danube).
Why the American flag? Steve is Canadian not American.
Life in Germany surely isn't perfect either its in the US. I Think its just important to find a place where you want to live and feel comfortable. Germans definitly take life a bit to serious, its more easy going in North America. There are other Challenges in America and other in Europe.
He is becoming more like Biden each day. Oh, and I miss foreigners who speak English with an accent. Her English was not perfect, but pretty close; and it doesn’t need to be so perfect unless you’re working for the CIA or a similar organization.
Feli = FAY-LEE (approx.)
Top-loading washing machines are an atrocity.
Cultural differences should not separate us from each other, but rather cultural diversity brings a collective strength that can benefit all of humanity.
Its bothering me that he keeps pronouncing her name wrong. I guess don't try if you won't listen to the repeated corrections :/
It's bothering me that can't keep it quiet.
How much do you want to bet her American roommates also ghosted guys 😂 funny cause I dated a German girl and she ghosted me 😂
She’s cute
😂cute
Ja, nein rammstein! ❤❤❤❤
Her name sounded like Failure...😱.or at least that is how Steve Pronounced her name.!!🙁
Yes! But she didn’t want to be too nitpicky, I guess. It’s pronounced like feliz (navidad, you know?) but without the z and with the emphasis on the first syllable. Well, you heard her☺️
he pronounced it like failure 😅
Dr's hospitals and ambulances do actually cost more in Germany believe it or not.
The difference is that the taxes are so high that you pay far FAR more in places like Germany Sweden and Canada in taxes so you don't see the cost at the counter but you pay all year long and twice as much in many cases than if you'd had to foot the bill in the United States.
The other side of this is that in America you're going to have to save your money and use health savings accounts and insurances to pay for most of your issues if need be so it really just comes down to planning and budgeting vrs having the government take your money before you see it and then use some of it IF you need it
Nobody in Germany has to pay for an ambulance but the actual cost is 300-500 EUR while in the US it's usually around $2000. So it's definitely not more expensive in Germany.
Can you give some details on "far FAR more taxes" in Germany, Sweden and Canada than in the US. www.investopedia.com/financial-edge/0411/do-canadians-really-pay-more-taxes-than-americans.aspx. Difference varies from country to country and obviously not all of this goes to the health system. On the other hand the US is in 50th place for life expectancy but that is not all attributable to the US health system, even though the US spend almost twice as much on health care as most peer countries en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_total_health_expenditure_per_capita.
women are very good at ghosting too just saying
edit: from what you're saying feli it seems the roles are reversed in germany. ghosting seems way more popular in the female population here. at least in my experience
Oh I didn't mean to imply it's just men doing this!
I am studying german for almost three years but I don't spend many time because unfortunately I don't have but I am trying to.
Das ist gut! As they say:
Mühsam ernährt sich das Eichhörnchen 🐿️. Or:
Was lange währt, wird endlich gut!
…ich habe noch einen:
Es ist noch kein Meister vom Himmel gefallen.
😊 Your German practice for today- you’re welcome 🤗🌸
Maybe you can watch German films, series in German with subtitles, that also helps and you learn more about the culture. 🤞
@@winterlinde5395 Thanks
@@arnodobler1096 Thanks
Warum sie sprechen Englisch?
No hay que generalizar.
She bought a house? She must be rich, lol.
lol
lol i be gettin hella ghosted by German girl
I think that guys get ghosted 1000x more than women and probably learn it from women. Let’s be real.
She never stops talking.
It's an interview you dolt
Well, she is kinda being interviewed 🤷♀️
He fucking asked her questions..
Russians: hey Germans we have infinite amounts of the cheapest gas you can use for your industries and also distribute in Europe.
Germans: Why? Are you sure? we are suspicious
Americans: reject the Russian gas and depend on my expensive LPG... why not?
Germans: "why not" has a negative connotation. we like that! :)
Two weeks later...
Americans: Hey Germans, we are BFF, lets send our homemade tanks to Ukraine
Germans: ok, we sent our Leopards, when are you sending yours?
Americans:.... (ghosting)
Most people don't want to deal with a mafia state. Start getting used to it.
@@Thelinguist you mean like USA?
That's why Canada and EU trades with Israel, Saudi Arabia, Qatar, USA, etc
None of these countries come close to the pure evil represented by Russia.
@@Thelinguist Russia is an angel compared to any western country.
You are just brainwashed
I didn't mean to get into politics. I thought my comment was funny just that
Not brainwashed. Just look at what Russia is doing in Ukraine then listen to Putin, former Pres. Medvedev, other leading officials as well as leading commentators on Russia state TV. There is no coming back for Russia until the current regime is gone and people are deprogrammed. Sorry. That is reality.
so personal conversation lol @feliformGermany. Morden kids only have few topics to talk and one of these is dating a guy/girl.. Thanks, Steve for wrapping up early.
J ai installé l appli pour me perfectionner en Russe mais les traductions et explications sont en Anglais. J'ai désinstallé l appli aussitôt !
Il faut choisir la langue que vous voulez pour l'interface et pour le dictionnaire dans le paramètres.