Yep, that's our world. Men live for women, women live for themselves. Find a guy a lifting weights in the gym and I can garuntee his primary if not only reason for doing so is to be more attractive to teh wimmenz.
As a man, I have one way to be more attractive to men: dress in a way that makes you feel confident. I have been told that confidence is attractive in men; it is also attractive to men (at least those who are looking for a human relationship, and not a roomba with tits). So, if you are confident in dresses, then wear dress; in a vest, then wear a vest. If smiling makes you feel more confident, then do that, but do not feel that it is necessary. Remember that pretending to be something you are not will only lead disappointment, whether you "win" or lose.
hey Abby! as a gay man, I’ve been having a bit of trouble finding a partner during my bachelor years. Tinder either left me with a one night stand and being ghosted the day after, or any man I’d even try to come up on wasn’t into guys and would have a 50% chance of calling me a fag. but after watching your video, abby, these 7 minutes and 35 seconds changed my life. I’m now married to a hot hunk who owns a 6700 square foot mansion, and we have a kid on the way. I followed your directions and wore a leotard to the park to reveal my natural glow, since men are only attracted to what we really look like. One day, I even wore a pink sundress while walking my dog. I smiled at everyone I passed on the sidewalk, and used a nice smelling flower vanilla perfume.
I don't want to dress attractive for men. I want to dress attractive for myself, and if a guy comes into my life for my style and for me I think that is tons more better than faking my style and myself in order to fit a man's taste.
I think it's ok to adapt your style. I feel the same way. My personality is very strong and I realized if I want to attract the right man I want or even help people feel comfortable around me I need to learn to chill a little bit. It's ok to adapt. Change is good and healthy especially if you want someone who is a good match for you and isn't going to hurt you long run. That's just my opinion. Have a great day 🤗
I don't think she is saying become a false person. The advice is about (using the modern phrase) 'being the best version of you', while taking into account the type of female presentation most men appreciate in a woman. If a woman wants to find a quality man, with a view to forming a family, it is really important for well-informed women, to risk getting yelled at by feminists, to tell her the truth. Light, classic make-up that does not conceal who you are, perfume, a happy disposition, dresses... There is nothing here that would compromise who you are. I am older, so I would add posture to the list. Women of my age were always sharply reprimanded for slouching! Years later, I realised that good posture made me look more confident, educated, showed off even a simple outfit at its best and even made us look slimmer. What I'm trying to say is the advice is sound, but you must adapt it to your own personality. Make it work for you. Blessings.
Being sexy and being attractive aren’t the same. Sexy would be like tight clothing too much skin showing, cleavage, dramatic and seductive looking makeup, excess perfume and how you carry yourself.... Being attractive would be basic beautiful makeup and a beautiful modest dress natural, and hair color...
@@maritzaperrault4836 i think you’re forgetting that most people have varying opinions on what is sexy and what is attractive. Some people might find anything sexy about a women, even if they’re dressed more modestly. And vice versa. And you’re acting like women can’t be sexy and attractive at the same time. Like wtf??🗿
@@justicethedoggo3648 my propaganda of liberation and not giving a fuck about what men think? That's unfathomable!!! A world where women don't care about what men need??? 😱
Ok, but you're actually talking about attracting a certain type of man. For example, with my 4 facial piercings, I probably wouldn't be attractive to a super conservative guy, and that's fine because I'M not attracted to dudes in khakis and sensible shoes. Btw, I've been happily married for 28 years, so I guess I did something right.
Ahh yes because we all know that every single man is attracted to the same thing 😌 it’s not like they are different human beings that have different preferences or anything 🤔
I think that she’s more saying that not all men are the same, they can find different things attractive and there isn’t/shouldn’t be a set beauty standard as to what ALL men find attractive
For the smiling tip, your results may vary depending on what kind of neighborhood you're in. Same with the dresses. Your outward femininity and softness should be reserved for safe places only.
Fun fact: my mom used to work for a bank, and the reason why one of her coworkers decided to set her up with my dad is because my dad was going through a kind of gloomy phase at the time, and the coworker noticed that my mom would greet all of the employees every morning with a huge smile. I'm fortunate to have inherited her smile :)
How you present yourself, physically, with clothes, hair style, makeup, jewelry, etc., is all part of communication. Humans don't just have ears to hear and mouths to speak, we also have eyes to see, skin to tough, and noses to smell. All of our senses are instinctively used for communication, choosing to ignore any of them is foolish, whether ignoring what you are communicating, or ignoring what others are communicating.
Listening to this 5 years ago I’d probably spiral further into my depression. Just be yourself and you’ll attract men regardless. Having fun friends and hobbies is great, but everyone has different preferences as to what you’re attracted too.
@PinkNeon Smiley maybe if you approached the guy things will be different. Or if you actively seek a relationship on POF or something. In Australia I found my partner online. And my father who is over 50 has finally found a great girl too after years of trying. Mind you, my dads very average looking and he HAS to be himself because he wants to attract the right kind of girl for his lifestyle. To him, and to me, looks do not matter at the end of the day as we all grow old and the looks fade away. I’m sorry that you’ve been unlucky in your endeavours but maybe it’s time for you to shake up what you’re doing then 😉
@PinkNeon Smiley Are you really so desperate forarelationship you'd give up being your authentic self? Dosen't seem worth it, that how you get those weird boomer "wife ad" relationships.
@PinkNeon Smiley I don't see how any of those make you a better person tho, it's all just kinda vapid. I also don't understand why you talk about being self sacrificing as a good thing.
@@queenofhorror29 Just saying what can grab our attention, it's not just on putting a bunch of make up on. So you never gave an opinion on a guy? i'll find that hard to believe
Why does it sound bad? If you want a ring + house + kids etc you gotta bring your potential wife (not whore) A-game to convince a man to be a husband not just a fuckboi. Everything she said is on the money.
@@devlinavocado6274 everything she said is just fine, but the title sounds questionable and she knows that people will click on it because it's sort of a hot button issue. Also, it says "There is nothing wrong with being attractive to the opposite sex" or something like that..as a Muslim, there is a lot wrong with being openly attractive to the opposite sex. So it's a bit controversial. You won't know what points he even made until watching the video, so that is irrelevant..I'm only talking about the title.
@@devlinavocado6274 given that it's pride month, the title seems a bit heteronormative. Knowing she's conservative, you'd click thinking she's going to make an anti-gay point.
Hypocrite Abby: I choose to make my self worth about who I am and what I achieve. Not how my body looks for someone else's pleasure Also hypocrite abby: how to look good for men
Also put words in peoples mouth. I dress how I feel whether that’s for me or to be more attractive to people I’m attracted too. Whatever I feel like, sometimes that’s to feel more sexy 🙊 and attractive (never to be picked up because I’m not into that) she totally generalises what anyone else thinks and says and it’s usually wrong, people are individuals.
This comment section proves why modern women are unbearable. Men spend every day thinking about what makes us more attractive to the opposite sex. That's the primary thought on my mind when I'm working out at the gym, stepping on the scale, choosing what to put on before I go out, or trying to get a better (ie more lucrative) job. It's the reason I moved of my parent's house even when they made it crystal clear I was welcome to stay as long as I wanted. It's why I slick back my hair in the morning. But God forbid you tell modern women to spend 1 second of their existence thinking about someone other than themselves.
Hey ladies 💜 Wear what you want to wear. If someone has to like me based on what I wear then I don’t want it. You shouldn’t have to change anything. Find you someone that will respect you no matter what.
Sounds great in theory. Reality is that attraction is important. Saying no one wants a sloppy mess is as controversial as saying no one wants someone who is broke. Or addicted to meth. People don't really have to change to improve their attractiveness but most will do so to some degree if they want a relationship.
I guess I have always dressed up and put make up on for me and not for anyone else, not caring about other peoples opinions 😂 The person making this video is always about being modest and how to dress to attract men and that is so toxic. If any of you young ladies are reading this please just be yourself, that is how you find the right person.
But... you do care about other peoples' opinions. You care about Shapiro's opinion. Giving advice isn't toxic. If people don't like "conservative" opinions, they certainly aren't required to listen to them. It's not like "liberal" opinions which are forced on students and broadcasted by megacorporations. Sometimes the alternative is alright.
I’m so confused by these hateful comments. If a woman wants to have a relationship with a man, why not dress in a way that will help make that a reality? Of course it’s not as important as personality but the way you dress can also be a reflection of your personality! 💕
so you accuse Megan Thee Stallion of telling women how to be all the same and that's wrong, but you wanna tell us how to all be the same and you're right?? My husband doesn't like perfumes hates the dress you wear, and thinks im cute in my high pony tail. Are you ok... stop taking sex advice from your brother
Wearing dresses as a woman not only is appealing to men, but you get treated differently by EVERYONE. I have to wear dresses to work all the time and it’s amazing how well you get treated. I actually had someone ask me if I was rich one time. I told them “nope”. Just a cheap dress from Walmart😂😂
Male fan here, weird I know :P Agree with all of this, and I too make a point to tell my fiancee how beautiful she is whenever she wears a dress. BECAUSE IT BE TRUE
I came from Vaush’s vid, I just want to say; as a man, I think it comes down to personal taste. There guys who have different tastes and styles, my gf wears weird cool sometimes trippy makeup, she wears hoodies and jeans sometimes. It looks cool I like her creative makeup, and I like the jeans and the hoodies bc the hoodie it’s mine and that style is just cool and illustrates her personality better. I’m not saying that guys won’t like what she says, I just think it’s a gross oversimplification to say that these things make you more attractive to men.
"Just be yourself" say women who do not want to move a finger to increase their chance to get high quality men. Then they get angry when only creeps are interested in them.
I find these videos so funny. On our first date, I wore jeans, t-shirt and hoodie, no makeup other than some mascara and lip balm and smelled…clean…. and I’ve been with my husband for 10 years hahahaha,
I don't think that she's trying to say that you're unattractive if you don't follow these tips! Rather, her point is that natural makeup, flowy hair, etc. can be used to help attract a man, since this is what men (especially high value ones) generally like.
@@TheKchar I perceive a high value man to have positive masculine qualities- being highly disciplined and virtuous, possessing leadership, and caring deeply about providing for and protecting his family. A high value man would cultivate hobbies, go to the gym, read to expand his knowledge, and spend relatively little of his time playing video games or watching TV. High value, highly masculine men tend to be attracted to femininity naturally- opposites attract, and the greater his masculine energy, the more he will desire femininity to complement him. Obviously there are exceptions to this, but as a rule, masculine men will tend to be more attracted to feminine characteristics.
@@kaylasanders4420 I can see where you’re coming from. By that definition, I found myself a high value man by being myself in the way that I act and dress and not following the guidelines set out by Abby necessarily. I think about my Girl Guides watching this video and I want to tell them that this is a completely valid way of presenting yourself to the world but that it’s not the only way to. And me dressing the way I did didn’t devalue my feminity (I definitely spelt that incorrectly) because I was very authentically me. And I cared and focussed on developing the relationship without stressing over the way I was dressed. I was looking to attract people - I was on the dating market for sure - and maybe I just want to reinforce that these aren’t the end all be all. My comment was more just “I broke every one of these /rules/“ and found it funny. If he preferred a more feminine and flowy human, we wouldn’t have meshed well. But I am a quality woman who found a quality man so it’s really not that big of a thing! Thanks for the conversation :)
The 1K dislikes are composed of three groups: lesbians, feminists and folks who hate Ben Shapiro. The first two have contributed squat to society, has damaged it greatly, hate men, don't understand men, and have damaged natural relations between men and women severely throughout the West. I'd dare any of you to even try to argue that any of these positions are incorrect within nature itself. Kevin Samuels, a black man, is pointing all of this out daily on his channel. The people disliking this video go on that show and try to argue with him, and it doesn't go well for them. Abby has it 100% correct here.
@Emily Silva I didn’t mean to make you or anyone else feel bad, but people in my bucket aren’t likely watch “how to attract a man” videos, because we aren’t interested in attracting men. But I did watch this video, and found it to be entertaining and accurate, so I hit the like button and left a comment.
I think the reason the natural look is so favored by men is that that's what men have been attracted to forever - it's instinctive! Also, before the time of widely available makeup and plastic surgery, good looks were an accurate sign of good health, and that's always attractive.
I love makeup. On a hot day, there is nothing like going into overly chilled Ulta. I enjoy the browsing, matching the cosmetics and short chat with sales staff. In the morning, putting on a bit of makeup is my gift to myself.
Lol my long term boyfriend teases me on how frilly and girly my outfits are. On date night I’ll do my best to wear practical outfits but on my personal days I’m wearing ALL the ruffles and lace :p
Women who say they dress for themselves, are telling half truths. They deliberately leave the other half out to cover up what they're doing. Like I've said, we dress how we want others to perceive us. We naturally like to make an impression on others or someone we're interested in with what we think looks cool. We are human after all.
Lmao this video is so indicative of how conservatives constantly strawman the left & even liberals in desperate attempts to score points or deceive people into thinking they have good takes that the left disagrees with. No one is suggesting that women should never look attractive for men if they want to do that or that it’s inherently bad. The point is that there shouldn’t be an expectation that women *have* to dress for the benefit of other people if that’s not what they want to do- which there historically has been a lot of pressure on them to have to do. Abby can present herself as this forward-thinking relatively moderate conservative, spinning her position with caveats like “Oh I’m not saying women should have to dress for men- I just don’t think they should be shamed for it!” (when nobody prominent in left discourse is disagreeing with that), but the reality is that she & the rest of the social paleocon right wing are trying to take our culture & society back in time to an era when women actually *didn’t* have the choices that they’re afforded today precisely because feminists & progressives (who these conservatives hated & resisted then against the interests of women & hate & resist now against the interests of women) organized & struggled to win them the equal civil freedoms that they rightly are able to enjoy today… Freedoms that Abby pays lip service to appreciating while she & Ben simultaneously spend their entire careers trying to undermine & eliminate in favor of the old patriarchal norms they want to re-impose on women (and/or brainwash as many women as they can into thinking actually benefit them through lies & the exact same blatant, shameless misinterpretation & misrepresentation of facts & figures that conservatives engage in on every other issue).
If someone doesn't want to date me because of my look/style that I really like, then we just don't date. I am dating a guy that doesn't care about what I wear. It feels so free to wear what I want without thinking about how my boyfriend looks at me. It also makes meeting someone more genuine when they like you even when you didn't dress up or had a fake smile all the time.
It is definitely not wrong to want to present yourself in a way that is attractive to whoever you want to attract (opposite sex or otherwise). And also, I will always be grateful that when my husband asked me out on our first date, I was sick, exhausted, rocking sweat pants and a messy bun, and had been told that I "looked like death" by not 1 but 2 male friends. Had he seen me previously looking healthier, more put together, and, yes, in a number of sundresses? Of course. But as we have built a life together and as my body has changed through pregnancy, through seasons of stress, and through just getting older, it has been a really sweet gift to have known from the beginning that his attraction to me has been about more than just how I looked or presented myself.
I’m an atheist, but for myself, I appreciate modest dress and no tattoos, ring piercing, etc. for women. Obviously, this has nothing to do with religion (I have none), but solely for sartorial and aesthetic reasons: modest dress for women generally looks tasteful. Perhaps this is why I like Orthodox Jewish women; many of them are beautiful and elegant, almost like queens.
The problem I have with this video is that it assumes all men like the same things. I've been complimented when my hair is wavy and when it's in a tight ponytail. I've been complimented on dresses and jeans. Different men like different things and each individual man can like a variety of looks on women
I’ve been complimented whether I’m wearing no makeup, natural makeup, or full glam. But in her opinion natural to no makeup is “attractive”. (Also I agree with the hair thing, I have naturally wavy/curly hair).
OMG abbey I am a gay man and this really helped me attract all those men well being modest. Though said men shouldn’t wear dresses and then told me to wear a dress. Make up your mind. Thanks for the advice bro!
I'm not really conservative and my style is romantic gothic but I do agree about the skirts and perfume. It is nice when men *respectfully* compliment me while I'm out in public. I also make it a point to compliment others when they are dressed nicely or have a unique sense of style. It is sad to see many people my age (41) looking like they just rolled out of bed to shop!
Abby: Women are not a monolith and my self-worth doesn't come from making my body attractive to others. Also Abby: Here's what ALL MEN like and what ALL WOMEN should do to attract them.
Then don't watch a gnikcuf video called "How to Be Attractive To Men." Christ alive, that's like going on a video titled 'How to get in shape in 5 easy steps" and then whining because you want to eat ice cream and sit on the couch all day.
It's weird looking at the comments because it is still socially ok to tell guys how they should look or act to attract a woman. But for some reason it is considdered outrageous to give women tips on how to attract a man. Not to mention the women not attracted to men who are in the comments...then...don't watch the video...?
I don't know why people waste their time watching a video they clearly don't like just to hate.. 🥱 I enjoy these videos, thanks Abby! Masculine men like feminine women, so they like when women were clothes and colours that men typically don't wear like skirts, dresses, floral prints, pink, frills, bows, flowy clothes, jewellery etc. And long hair and long, painted nails.
I don’t know about the ponytail thing. I think on many women, it can emphasize feminine traits such as a slender neck, high cheekbones and nice collarbones instead of obscuring them. Sometimes a few “harsh” things can further feminize one’s appearance through contrast😊
@@alexhalterman4214 you cared enough to reply and attempt an insult. I dare say three others cared enough to thumbs up. Given how few people who watch a video bother with the comment section, three ups plus you is pretty solid affirmation.
@@alaskahelo just cause your using fancy words and grammar, doesn't mean that it can cover up your toxic masculinity and the fact that your dad never loved you
Is that so... Btw you are helping her to stereotype men.. which is not good.. Because in the end it all comes to individuals.. One man is different from another.. they have different tastes.. different preferences..
@@victornikiforov2259 There's always exceptions to everything. Exceptions do not change the general rule though. Stereotypes exist for good reason: They're grounded in truth and observable reality. The vast majority of men find these things attractive, and just because there's a few outliers, it doesn't effect the overall trend that men, speaking GENERALLY, definitely do like these things.
@@VeryBadNews Ok now where should I start ? Let me first explain you what gender stereotyping is.. So gender roles in society means how we are expected to present ourselves based upon our assigned sex. For an example women are expected to be more feminine while men are expected to be more masculine.. Well now a one can think that this is great.. but actually this type of mentality is pretty problematic.. Because.. stereotypes about gender can cause unequal and unfair treatment regarding their gender.. now that's called sexism.. Well now you might be thinking how else can this be bad.. Lemme tell u.. These gender stereotyping can be harmful because they don't allow people to fully express themselves .. For an example masculine people aren't allowed to Express themselves as emotional, they can't cry.. because they are strong and if they do they are pus*ys.. (bullshit) For feminine people it's also harmful to them that they feel like they are not allowed to be independent or smart.. This is extremely harmful as the more people start believing in this bullshit the more they'll try to fulfill these.. because if they don't they feel like they won't fit in... Then automatically they'll start to feel useless and unwanted.. unworthy... This will eventually lead to more serious mental health issues such as anxiety and depression.. Also there's another part to this.. ' Relationships ' These gender roles can affect relationships drastically.. Like since women are supposed to be more softer, they are more likely to endure abuse from their partner.. As for men, since they are supposed to be more masculine, they are more likely to be physically and emotionally abusive to their partners.. So yeah.. this gender stereotyping shit is pretty harmful to all genders... Men can cry ( Express themselves emotionally ) And women can be independent.. periodt..
@@victornikiforov2259 You have it all backwards. Men and women don't act certain ways because of the stereotype, as if the stereotype existed first. The stereotype exists and is generally true because men and women already act a certain way. Men and women are fundamentally different. And there is nothing wrong with that, and there is nothing wrong with stereotypes and gender roles either.
i dont currently want to date (because i'm a minor) but i started putting mascara on and a slight lip tint. people started giving me more compliments 😁
@@rtruth7002 it just makes my lashes longer. its not heavy mascara anyways. plus most of the people i interact with are women or people i know. i know how to keep myself safe
@@cocoajames5 girl, do you. You're a girl, you're allowed to wear a little makeup and explore innocent things that make you feel confident. These dudes are creeps.
Are you the woman who critiqued Megan Thee Stallion and said that you wanted to be recognised for what's in your head not by how your body looks? Or am I hallucinating...?
Being healthy, happy, and confident, thats for sure! Those are the traits that are attractive, and if we accentuate those traits (such as by smiling and by appearing healthy as you said), it will be more attractive to others. To preface, I have long struggled with low self esteem, anxiety, and body dysmorphia; my now-husband was attracted to me to start with, but said I became more beautiful to him when I stopped dieting and complaining about myself for being “fat”, and started loving myself and the body God gave me. And instead of yo-yo dieting and intense HIIT workouts, I started exercising in ways that made me feel good mentally and physically (TONE IT UP is a great example of what I use) , which lead to just overall feeling better. And that radiated out of me and led to him being even more attractive to me. If we are in a good place with ourselves, others will see that too.
I'm a straight guy and all of these points she made were correct maybe except for the perfume because I'm more of a natural person I just prefer a human's natural odor
Yeah I ain’t dressing up for a man, Imma dress up for myself in a way I love myself- Unless your on a date or trying to “pick up” men, this is unnecessary. AND THE DISLIKE RATIO 😄
Anyone can say whatever they want, but you have to agree, that if you’re wearing feminine dresses or skirts, you are going to be treated differently, you can dress like a depressed goth, but don’t be surprised when you’ll get treated this way, I do NOT make the rules, by wearing a dress I feel people treat me differently, they treat me like a lady, not like a bag of clothes and that’s what I prefer
•The natural makeup is something I do most days. But when fall rolls around I tend to go for slightly gothic makeup. Think darker eye makeup or darker lips. •I love wearing dresses! I’ve been buying more of them and loving them. • The smiling. I have resting face. Yikes. I’ll have to work on it. •The perfume. I wear deodorant all the time and perfume on some days. • I never wear a high ponytail. My round face won’t let me pull it off. I can’t even wear a top bun because I have short layers.
another thing to remember is how afraid you would be if you saw a man looking one way and then he washes his face and he looks like a totally different person. putting aside the idea of a man wearing makeup the way that women do, of course.
But if you're trying to look nice for a specific man, how do you know the things listed are what he prefers? Also, not smiling doesn't mean you look angry - it just means you look neutral. Personally, I've been trying to wear my hair down more, since it seems a shame to let these curls go to waste. But though I used to love perfume and faithfully wore it everyday, I've become allergic to fragrance. :(
Thank you so much Abby! As a trans woman who’s mid transition, it’s really fantastic getting advice from my fellow women on how to be perceived in my gender in the way my mind wants. Hugs and kisses :)))
Being a lesbian is so freeing LOL imagine caring this much about what men think 😂😂😂 please this is so embarrassing. I’m not angry at you I’m just.. sad for you, Abby. The fact that the male gaze has this kind of a chokehold on people that they’re willing to police their own self expression in order to appease men is sad
I have to disagree with you. Personally, I love to dress in a feminine way as both a reflection of my personality and as a way to look nice for the man who holds my affection. If you want to attract a certain man’s eye because you too are attracted to him, what’s wrong with that? It’s also a confidence boost! If I want to interact with a man I find attractive, dressing attractively will boost my confidence during the interaction. You know? 😊 If a goal of yours is to have a relationship with a man, then why not dress in order to attract that?
@@Jasmine-ji2wy well I think that if you want to attract a partner who loves you for who you are authentically then you shouldn’t put in effort into dressing in a way that isn’t authentic to you. I love dresses and heels and flannels and sweats and button downs, and my wardrobe is a pretty even mixture of “masculine” and “feminine” items because that’s what makes ME happy and comfortable. I want to attract a partner who cares about the fact that I am confident and comfortable in what I’m wearing, not one who cares what those clothes are. If you love to dress feminine everyday, then good for you, do that. But nobody should feel they need to change who they are or what they wear in order to attract a partner. People are attracted to all types of styles of fashion, makeup looks, etc. I want people to be attracted to my spirit, my energy, my creativity, my kindness, my intellect, etc. I use my clothes to express myself. I don’t want to express that I’m just some feminine mannequin who looks like a million other people. It’s hard to describe the lesbian experience to a straight person but I can say that when I realized I didn’t care to have men in my life, I never felt so free. I realized how much energy I had been putting into maintaining an aesthetic I didn’t even like. Once I felt more liberated from that male gaze of what I should look like, I was free to experiment with different looks and just started choosing things that felt good to ME. and guess what? It is at that point that I began to attract partners and friends more authentic than I had ever encountered before. People were seeing ME. And that felt awesome. I am complimented and approached by all genders more than ever before, because I’m confident and I take ownership of my looks, not because I’m trying to attract them. Make sense?
@annieayuwoki ty 😌 cheers to not curating our whole personalities and aesthetic around what somebody else likes 😂 if you don’t like me the door is that way ➡️
Being a lesbian doesn’t make you any more free than being a heterosexual. There are plenty of overbearing women who can gaze at you in pretty much the same controlling manner.
Perfume is a must. I have three for specific occasions. Being able to cook a square meal (high protein) is ALWAYS attractive to men. Have a hobby; something you geek out over. If he’s truly interested he’ll asked you more about it and will learn it for himself.
I feel your videos evolved a lot since I looked the last time at your channel! I felt like at first your videos gave a „do it like this everything else is bad“ vibe and now it is more like a „it is okay if you see it different than other people, dress modestly if you want to!“ There are tons of women who would disagree and they are free to do that but you are making the video for the ones who like being classic! They are free to be classic!
You don't need to be attractive to men! Love yourself, feel confident in whatever you like! If you want to show skin, flaunt that beautiful body if yours! If you don't feel comfortable with that, that's absolutely ok! The most important thing is feeling comfortable with yourself and loving yourself. Other things can come after that 🌈
As a girl, it's more personality than looks in a potential girlfriend for me. As long as they like birdwatching and aren't overly political I wouldn't be put off at all :p
@@a.b.2405 Aw, awesome! That sounds pretty cool, I've always wanted to actually live with birds. Tbh I probably feed more birds than I have friends lol
@@tabithathecat Lmfaaoo!! Animals are better than humans so don’t feel bad jajaja! My family had these birds for more than a decade! They are loud and adorable!
@@a.b.2405 Exactly, haha! And that is really cool! My grandmother used to have an African Grey parrot and he was genuinely more intelligent than a toddler.
These things are true of a man who has a certain style and taste. I know a lot of men who aren't into dresses on women, and who prefer edgy makeup looks. I think it's important to clarify that this video is talking about what a certain group of men like, but not what all men like!
@@zoedarc783 I don't need stats to know men love feminine women and dresses and skirts. It has been like that for centuries, and will be till we have men by our sides. I used to wear pants like any young woman would do, I then switched to modest dresses and skirts only. The way men treat me now calling me Madame, being extra respectful, no cat calling, discreet smiles are definitely a good sign that men treasure women that know how to dress like women. Most men are manly, if not, the world wouldn't function as we speak. Men sacrificing their lives, building, serving their family and country are incredibly manly.
@@Damaris972. I don't need stats to know that not all men love feminine women and dresses and skirts. I get treated respectfully not wearing skirts, as well, being called the same thing. :)
@@Damaris972. I agree - men who sacrifice their lives and build for their families are respectable. I guarantee that not all of them love overly-feminine clothing ;)
Yes agreed! I love to look put together but as I read the Bible it seems clear to me, the most attractive thing to the right men is to be a God fearing woman. That’s just for me as a Christian. But these tips can be helpful at some point!
I have just discovered this channel. I have watched a number of videos and must say how refreshing it is to hear such a young woman speaking with such wisdom. She is telling the truth, too. A fact some seem to have a little trouble hearing.
Maybe different men have different preferences for how the people they are attracted to dress Maybe just maybe entertain the thought that a man who genuinely likes me would accept me no matter what i dress like.
1. Wear makeup like your mums 2. Dress like your mum 3. Smile like you did in your school book picture your mum likes 4. Smell like your mum 5. Do your hair like your mums
I’d rather be with a man who thinks I’m attractive for being myself
SAY IT FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK
nobody is telling you to change yourself
exactly
Yep, that's our world. Men live for women, women live for themselves. Find a guy a lifting weights in the gym and I can garuntee his primary if not only reason for doing so is to be more attractive to teh wimmenz.
As a man I can confirm many of us are attracted to masculine women
Abby should tell her brother to smile more. He looks like he's in constant pain.
Ben Shapiro does smile.
@Tintin Milou He's a thinker.
He probably is he has an IQ of like 140 being smarter than people is really annoying And mine is only 120
@Fax with Grizz Great. He can keep hurting
true
As a lesbian who gets mistaken for a straight girl all the time, I’ll use your tips and do the opposite to get them to leave me alone!
This!
Yah me too 😼🤚
hello fellow gay i see you have come for laughs as well
@annieayuwoki oh my god right thoughhh T-T
Wassup, ladies😎
it's also not wrong to look good for the same gender !!
edit: y'all stay mad in this comment section !!
She’s obviously not for any sexuality except heterosexual, but I guess anyone who watches this channel doesn’t care.
What channel do you think you're on right now?
Someone should tell her looking good for yourself isn't going to bring god's wrath down upon you as a woman {edit when I say her I mean Abby}
This!
Bisexual woman and proud here
As a man, I have one way to be more attractive to men: dress in a way that makes you feel confident. I have been told that confidence is attractive in men; it is also attractive to men (at least those who are looking for a human relationship, and not a roomba with tits). So, if you are confident in dresses, then wear dress; in a vest, then wear a vest. If smiling makes you feel more confident, then do that, but do not feel that it is necessary. Remember that pretending to be something you are not will only lead disappointment, whether you "win" or lose.
😁 Good message.
“A roomba with tits”😂
Thank you for saying this!
Thanks ! Great advice :)
WE STAN YOU
hey Abby! as a gay man, I’ve been having a bit of trouble finding a partner during my bachelor years. Tinder either left me with a one night stand and being ghosted the day after, or any man I’d even try to come up on wasn’t into guys and would have a 50% chance of calling me a fag. but after watching your video, abby, these 7 minutes and 35 seconds changed my life. I’m now married to a hot hunk who owns a 6700 square foot mansion, and we have a kid on the way. I followed your directions and wore a leotard to the park to reveal my natural glow, since men are only attracted to what we really look like. One day, I even wore a pink sundress while walking my dog. I smiled at everyone I passed on the sidewalk, and used a nice smelling flower vanilla perfume.
THIS IS SUCH UNDERRATED COMMENT LMAOOO
@elisabeth snyder yk he’s being sarcastic right 😀
Lmfao- comedic gold in a singular paragraph I respect you so much good Sir
Chile I'm embarrassed to think you were serious for a minute. 🤣
Omg i wanna be like you when i grow up 🥹
I don't want to dress attractive for men. I want to dress attractive for myself, and if a guy comes into my life for my style and for me I think that is tons more better than faking my style and myself in order to fit a man's taste.
🙌🏼right!
exactly! If a man doesn’t want you for you or wants you to change, he needs to change himself before you change.
^^^ THISSS
@@mikaedits2388 OK narcissist.
Yes!
tbh i prefer to have my own style and attract a man who likes me for who I am but dressing for a man is fine if you want
I think it's ok to adapt your style. I feel the same way. My personality is very strong and I realized if I want to attract the right man I want or even help people feel comfortable around me I need to learn to chill a little bit. It's ok to adapt. Change is good and healthy especially if you want someone who is a good match for you and isn't going to hurt you long run. That's just my opinion. Have a great day 🤗
@@hannahware3751I'm sure there is a man who will like your actual personality out there, not just the toned down version. Good luck!
@@nikakozar832 growing as a person is always good. Growth includes change. Sometimes it's ok to change.
@Fax with Grizz Probably Bc it attacked her page lol
I don't think she is saying become a false person. The advice is about (using the modern phrase) 'being the best version of you', while taking into account the type of female presentation most men appreciate in a woman. If a woman wants to find a quality man, with a view to forming a family, it is really important for well-informed women, to risk getting yelled at by feminists, to tell her the truth. Light, classic make-up that does not conceal who you are, perfume, a happy disposition, dresses... There is nothing here that would compromise who you are. I am older, so I would add posture to the list. Women of my age were always sharply reprimanded for slouching! Years later, I realised that good posture made me look more confident, educated, showed off even a simple outfit at its best and even made us look slimmer. What I'm trying to say is the advice is sound, but you must adapt it to your own personality. Make it work for you. Blessings.
Wait. I thought we weren’t supposed to be sexy? Didn’t you just rip apart Thee Stallion for trying to be attractive to men?
Being sexy and being attractive aren’t the same. Sexy would be like tight clothing too much skin showing, cleavage, dramatic and seductive looking makeup, excess perfume and how you carry yourself....
Being attractive would be basic beautiful makeup and a beautiful modest dress natural, and hair color...
Maybe watch the video before you comment
@@maritzaperrault4836 i think you’re forgetting that most people have varying opinions on what is sexy and what is attractive. Some people might find anything sexy about a women, even if they’re dressed more modestly. And vice versa.
And you’re acting like women can’t be sexy and attractive at the same time. Like wtf??🗿
Exactly
OOOO TOUCHÉ
Girl why do you think every man likes the same things
Real question is why does she think every woman needs to know what every man likes ☠️
Because she only dates homophobic, right-wing purest. They all seem to live in the 50's.
There are definitely general trends with what men like and dont like
@@julia9557 right, but why do we gotta know all that?
@@justicethedoggo3648 my propaganda of liberation and not giving a fuck about what men think? That's unfathomable!!! A world where women don't care about what men need??? 😱
What in the name of all that is holy is a “severe” ponytail? I’ve never once heard of hair being described as “severe.”💀
Probably just a really tight pony tail? Lol
Ok, but you're actually talking about attracting a certain type of man. For example, with my 4 facial piercings, I probably wouldn't be attractive to a super conservative guy, and that's fine because I'M not attracted to dudes in khakis and sensible shoes.
Btw, I've been happily married for 28 years, so I guess I did something right.
These hospital escapees are wild
i wanna be like u when i grow up
@@mankind8807 You have no idea.
@@soumiu.8264 You'll be far cooler than me, I'm sure. ;)
ik its unrelated, but good job with the marriage like literally period we love healthy relationships
Ahh yes because we all know that every single man is attracted to the same thing 😌 it’s not like they are different human beings that have different preferences or anything 🤔
you seriously don't think there are commonalities in what men are attracted to? you think its just pure randomness?
I think that she’s more saying that not all men are the same, they can find different things attractive and there isn’t/shouldn’t be a set beauty standard as to what ALL men find attractive
@@daysgoneby4592 the basic principles of attracting guys is don't be more than 20 pounds overweight and don't be a bitch it's really that simple
Anyone capable of uttering "you should smile more" to anyone has never seen hardship in their entire life.
For the smiling tip, your results may vary depending on what kind of neighborhood you're in. Same with the dresses. Your outward femininity and softness should be reserved for safe places only.
Wow heavy. Thanks for the qualifier 🙏
Personally I'm not necessarily doing these things all the time but more around people I am looking to become friends with or men I want to attrack
I am not going to smile too much at least not with my teeth showing until I get crowns… :) I was hoping that I look more mysterious than miserable LOL
Fun fact: my mom used to work for a bank, and the reason why one of her coworkers decided to set her up with my dad is because my dad was going through a kind of gloomy phase at the time, and the coworker noticed that my mom would greet all of the employees every morning with a huge smile. I'm fortunate to have inherited her smile :)
Vaush
That's such a sweet story, they could be a romance novel :0
Soooo instead of going to therapy, your dad thought it was a good idea to get into a relationship when he was all depressed.
@@tanie3543 🙃
@@tanie3543 maybe they go to therapy ? Or she’s the therapy to her partner ?? Who knows, this is not ur story
Hold up… i thought we was supposed to be modest
and ?
Lol and apparently men’s opinions on us are superior. She never teaches loving yourself, its always what your man or a man thinks about you.
exactly maam
@@danieileen1190 1- when did she say "men’s opinions on us are superior"
2- lol what ?
3- again lol what ?
You can do both 🤷♂️
I’ve never understood the whole “natural” makeup look. If you want to look natural- don’t wear makeup.
What about the people who don't like their skin or have acne scars? We want to cover it up only
How you present yourself, physically, with clothes, hair style, makeup, jewelry, etc., is all part of communication.
Humans don't just have ears to hear and mouths to speak, we also have eyes to see, skin to tough, and noses to smell. All of our senses are instinctively used for communication, choosing to ignore any of them is foolish, whether ignoring what you are communicating, or ignoring what others are communicating.
Listening to this 5 years ago I’d probably spiral further into my depression.
Just be yourself and you’ll attract men regardless. Having fun friends and hobbies is great, but everyone has different preferences as to what you’re attracted too.
@PinkNeon Smiley well then they’re not the right guy for you. The right one will come along if you’re confident in yourself and how you look :)
@PinkNeon Smiley maybe if you approached the guy things will be different. Or if you actively seek a relationship on POF or something. In Australia I found my partner online. And my father who is over 50 has finally found a great girl too after years of trying. Mind you, my dads very average looking and he HAS to be himself because he wants to attract the right kind of girl for his lifestyle. To him, and to me, looks do not matter at the end of the day as we all grow old and the looks fade away. I’m sorry that you’ve been unlucky in your endeavours but maybe it’s time for you to shake up what you’re doing then 😉
@PinkNeon Smiley Are you really so desperate forarelationship you'd give up being your authentic self? Dosen't seem worth it, that how you get those weird boomer "wife ad" relationships.
@PinkNeon Smiley I don't see how any of those make you a better person tho, it's all just kinda vapid. I also don't understand why you talk about being self sacrificing as a good thing.
@PinkNeon Smiley I'm not talking about weather or not someone sees it as an improvement but weather or not it actually IS one.
but i am a lesbian, ma'am
Just smile and wear dresses. It’s super easy! /s
@Tintin Milou excuse me, "we"? do you speak for all of us, buddy?
@Tintin Milou it's somewhat relevant, if people just say it randomly, ok, but kinda relevant to this.
@elisabeth snyder I agree with you WOMEN ARE HOT
@elisabeth snyder facts
As a guy i would say do not get breast implants and don't wear too much makeup. Smile and eye contact is great and can make an average girl hotter IMO
@@queenofhorror29 Just saying what can grab our attention, it's not just on putting a bunch of make up on. So you never gave an opinion on a guy? i'll find that hard to believe
@@queenofhorror29 so we agree that opinions are fine :D
@Banx each his own, my experience i haven't been a fan of them. the make up abby lists is fine. wouldn't surprise me if it damages the skin though
@Lady Joker I like how you think that all feminists hate men, while a lot of feminists are men...
The title is clickbait-y because it sounds bad, but the content is actually just fine.
Um.. What
Why does it sound bad? If you want a ring + house + kids etc you gotta bring your potential wife (not whore) A-game to convince a man to be a husband not just a fuckboi. Everything she said is on the money.
@@devlinavocado6274 everything she said is just fine, but the title sounds questionable and she knows that people will click on it because it's sort of a hot button issue. Also, it says "There is nothing wrong with being attractive to the opposite sex" or something like that..as a Muslim, there is a lot wrong with being openly attractive to the opposite sex. So it's a bit controversial. You won't know what points he even made until watching the video, so that is irrelevant..I'm only talking about the title.
@@devlinavocado6274 given that it's pride month, the title seems a bit heteronormative. Knowing she's conservative, you'd click thinking she's going to make an anti-gay point.
Hypocrite Abby: I choose to make my self worth about who I am and what I achieve. Not how my body looks for someone else's pleasure
Also hypocrite abby: how to look good for men
HONESTLY. Obviously there’s no way she’s for anyone being anything but heterosexual, always about pleasing the men. It’s so disturbing.
Can I like this 500 times, please?!
@@bkbff sure go ahead no ones stopping you
Also put words in peoples mouth. I dress how I feel whether that’s for me or to be more attractive to people I’m attracted too. Whatever I feel like, sometimes that’s to feel more sexy 🙊 and attractive (never to be picked up because I’m not into that) she totally generalises what anyone else thinks and says and it’s usually wrong, people are individuals.
Why would we want to do that? I'm gay asf
@Tintin Milou tuff luck keep scrolling
I literally look ready for the military in my severe ponytail
I look like a founding father 😂
same 😅
This was “how I think you should look pretty 101”
Considering she's married I think she knows what some men find attractive.
This comment section proves why modern women are unbearable. Men spend every day thinking about what makes us more attractive to the opposite sex. That's the primary thought on my mind when I'm working out at the gym, stepping on the scale, choosing what to put on before I go out, or trying to get a better (ie more lucrative) job. It's the reason I moved of my parent's house even when they made it crystal clear I was welcome to stay as long as I wanted. It's why I slick back my hair in the morning.
But God forbid you tell modern women to spend 1 second of their existence thinking about someone other than themselves.
Hey ladies 💜 Wear what you want to wear. If someone has to like me based on what I wear then I don’t want it. You shouldn’t have to change anything. Find you someone that will respect you no matter what.
Sounds great in theory. Reality is that attraction is important. Saying no one wants a sloppy mess is as controversial as saying no one wants someone who is broke. Or addicted to meth. People don't really have to change to improve their attractiveness but most will do so to some degree if they want a relationship.
@@LuridContent exactly like do whatever you want but don’t complain when people aren’t attracted to you then
There is nothing wrong with looking decent or putting more work into your looks.
I guess I have always dressed up and put make up on for me and not for anyone else, not caring about other peoples opinions 😂 The person making this video is always about being modest and how to dress to attract men and that is so toxic. If any of you young ladies are reading this please just be yourself, that is how you find the right person.
But... you do care about other peoples' opinions. You care about Shapiro's opinion. Giving advice isn't toxic. If people don't like "conservative" opinions, they certainly aren't required to listen to them. It's not like "liberal" opinions which are forced on students and broadcasted by megacorporations. Sometimes the alternative is alright.
I’m so confused by these hateful comments. If a woman wants to have a relationship with a man, why not dress in a way that will help make that a reality? Of course it’s not as important as personality but the way you dress can also be a reflection of your personality! 💕
because the RIGHT man would love you for YOU, not for the “you” you made up to please him.
so you accuse Megan Thee Stallion of telling women how to be all the same and that's wrong, but you wanna tell us how to all be the same and you're right??
My husband doesn't like perfumes hates the dress you wear, and thinks im cute in my high pony tail.
Are you ok... stop taking sex advice from your brother
Wearing dresses as a woman not only is appealing to men, but you get treated differently by EVERYONE. I have to wear dresses to work all the time and it’s amazing how well you get treated.
I actually had someone ask me if I was rich one time. I told them “nope”. Just a cheap dress from Walmart😂😂
who asked
So quirky 🤭🤭🤭
Where do you live that you're suddenly this bell of the ball from wearing dresses?! That's bizarre.
Male fan here, weird I know :P
Agree with all of this, and I too make a point to tell my fiancee how beautiful she is whenever she wears a dress.
BECAUSE IT BE TRUE
I came from Vaush’s vid, I just want to say; as a man, I think it comes down to personal taste. There guys who have different tastes and styles, my gf wears weird cool sometimes trippy makeup, she wears hoodies and jeans sometimes. It looks cool I like her creative makeup, and I like the jeans and the hoodies bc the hoodie it’s mine and that style is just cool and illustrates her personality better.
I’m not saying that guys won’t like what she says, I just think it’s a gross oversimplification to say that these things make you more attractive to men.
Vaush is a loser
@@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper no u!
"Just be yourself" say women who do not want to move a finger to increase their chance to get high quality men.
Then they get angry when only creeps are interested in them.
You sound like your a 30 yr old virgin man that lives with his parents and types angry comments in the dark basement
I find these videos so funny. On our first date, I wore jeans, t-shirt and hoodie, no makeup other than some mascara and lip balm and smelled…clean…. and I’ve been with my husband for 10 years hahahaha,
Oh I hadn’t made it to the ponytail part….whoops!
I don't think that she's trying to say that you're unattractive if you don't follow these tips! Rather, her point is that natural makeup, flowy hair, etc. can be used to help attract a man, since this is what men (especially high value ones) generally like.
@@kaylasanders4420 Can I ask what you mean by high value ones?
@@TheKchar I perceive a high value man to have positive masculine qualities- being highly disciplined and virtuous, possessing leadership, and caring deeply about providing for and protecting his family. A high value man would cultivate hobbies, go to the gym, read to expand his knowledge, and spend relatively little of his time playing video games or watching TV. High value, highly masculine men tend to be attracted to femininity naturally- opposites attract, and the greater his masculine energy, the more he will desire femininity to complement him. Obviously there are exceptions to this, but as a rule, masculine men will tend to be more attracted to feminine characteristics.
@@kaylasanders4420 I can see where you’re coming from. By that definition, I found myself a high value man by being myself in the way that I act and dress and not following the guidelines set out by Abby necessarily. I think about my Girl Guides watching this video and I want to tell them that this is a completely valid way of presenting yourself to the world but that it’s not the only way to. And me dressing the way I did didn’t devalue my feminity (I definitely spelt that incorrectly) because I was very authentically me. And I cared and focussed on developing the relationship without stressing over the way I was dressed. I was looking to attract people - I was on the dating market for sure - and maybe I just want to reinforce that these aren’t the end all be all.
My comment was more just “I broke every one of these /rules/“ and found it funny. If he preferred a more feminine and flowy human, we wouldn’t have meshed well. But I am a quality woman who found a quality man so it’s really not that big of a thing!
Thanks for the conversation :)
The 1K dislikes are composed of three groups: lesbians, feminists and folks who hate Ben Shapiro. The first two have contributed squat to society, has damaged it greatly, hate men, don't understand men, and have damaged natural relations between men and women severely throughout the West. I'd dare any of you to even try to argue that any of these positions are incorrect within nature itself.
Kevin Samuels, a black man, is pointing all of this out daily on his channel. The people disliking this video go on that show and try to argue with him, and it doesn't go well for them.
Abby has it 100% correct here.
Why does it matter that he is a black man 🤨
As a hetero male I’m not sure why I’m watching this but…. I loved it, and I regret nothing!!!
Because she's hot as fuck lmao
@Emily Silva I didn’t mean to make you or anyone else feel bad, but people in my bucket aren’t likely watch “how to attract a man” videos, because we aren’t interested in attracting men. But I did watch this video, and found it to be entertaining and accurate, so I hit the like button and left a comment.
@@jackjmaheriii she's just trolling. look at her comment history on abby's channel.
Wait, were you joking?
@williams I will have to look into figuring out how to check comment history. I didn’t know that was possible.
Step 1:
Don't be like Abby's haters.
You're already 90% of there.
I think the reason the natural look is so favored by men is that that's what men have been attracted to forever - it's instinctive! Also, before the time of widely available makeup and plastic surgery, good looks were an accurate sign of good health, and that's always attractive.
Natural glowing skin definitely looks attractive.
good looks are a sign of good genes. that's why both men and women go for healthy looking partners
I love makeup. On a hot day, there is nothing like going into overly chilled Ulta. I enjoy the browsing, matching the cosmetics and short chat with sales staff. In the morning, putting on a bit of makeup is my gift to myself.
Vaush
I personally think Abby would look fabulous with a bag over her head.
.kcid sih revo gab a tup dah dad ruoy fi suolubaf eb dluow tI
Be attractive but not too attractive, be natural but not yourself. Ok, I think I got this.. come at me boys!
Lol my long term boyfriend teases me on how frilly and girly my outfits are. On date night I’ll do my best to wear practical outfits but on my personal days I’m wearing ALL the ruffles and lace :p
I would disgaree w him. But hey, just sayin.
1 month ago?? how..
@@se1inq Oh wow. good qu
Vaush
@@se1inq Maybe the video premiered early?
Women who say they dress for themselves, are telling half truths. They deliberately leave the other half out to cover up what they're doing. Like I've said, we dress how we want others to perceive us. We naturally like to make an impression on others or someone we're interested in with what we think looks cool. We are human after all.
Lmao this video is so indicative of how conservatives constantly strawman the left & even liberals in desperate attempts to score points or deceive people into thinking they have good takes that the left disagrees with. No one is suggesting that women should never look attractive for men if they want to do that or that it’s inherently bad. The point is that there shouldn’t be an expectation that women *have* to dress for the benefit of other people if that’s not what they want to do- which there historically has been a lot of pressure on them to have to do. Abby can present herself as this forward-thinking relatively moderate conservative, spinning her position with caveats like “Oh I’m not saying women should have to dress for men- I just don’t think they should be shamed for it!” (when nobody prominent in left discourse is disagreeing with that), but the reality is that she & the rest of the social paleocon right wing are trying to take our culture & society back in time to an era when women actually *didn’t* have the choices that they’re afforded today precisely because feminists & progressives (who these conservatives hated & resisted then against the interests of women & hate & resist now against the interests of women) organized & struggled to win them the equal civil freedoms that they rightly are able to enjoy today… Freedoms that Abby pays lip service to appreciating while she & Ben simultaneously spend their entire careers trying to undermine & eliminate in favor of the old patriarchal norms they want to re-impose on women (and/or brainwash as many women as they can into thinking actually benefit them through lies & the exact same blatant, shameless misinterpretation & misrepresentation of facts & figures that conservatives engage in on every other issue).
this is such a great video! thanks abby
why do I feel like jacob dictated this video
Not too shabby Abby! It's OK to be attractive to men and it's ok to be attractive to yourself. It's that simple!!
If someone doesn't want to date me because of my look/style that I really like, then we just don't date. I am dating a guy that doesn't care about what I wear. It feels so free to wear what I want without thinking about how my boyfriend looks at me.
It also makes meeting someone more genuine when they like you even when you didn't dress up or had a fake smile all the time.
It is definitely not wrong to want to present yourself in a way that is attractive to whoever you want to attract (opposite sex or otherwise). And also, I will always be grateful that when my husband asked me out on our first date, I was sick, exhausted, rocking sweat pants and a messy bun, and had been told that I "looked like death" by not 1 but 2 male friends. Had he seen me previously looking healthier, more put together, and, yes, in a number of sundresses? Of course. But as we have built a life together and as my body has changed through pregnancy, through seasons of stress, and through just getting older, it has been a really sweet gift to have known from the beginning that his attraction to me has been about more than just how I looked or presented myself.
I love wearing dresses too! because it signals to other women that I, too, am a fellow cottagecore lesbian ,,,,,,,,
I’m an atheist, but for myself, I appreciate modest dress and no tattoos, ring piercing, etc. for women. Obviously, this has nothing to do with religion (I have none), but solely for sartorial and aesthetic reasons: modest dress for women generally looks tasteful. Perhaps this is why I like Orthodox Jewish women; many of them are beautiful and elegant, almost like queens.
I hope to Darwin this was satire...
The problem I have with this video is that it assumes all men like the same things. I've been complimented when my hair is wavy and when it's in a tight ponytail. I've been complimented on dresses and jeans. Different men like different things and each individual man can like a variety of looks on women
I’ve been complimented whether I’m wearing no makeup, natural makeup, or full glam. But in her opinion natural to no makeup is “attractive”. (Also I agree with the hair thing, I have naturally wavy/curly hair).
I am a man. THumbs up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! VERY TRUE ABBY!
As a person you likes that same sex this really helps to know what not to were so men stay away from me .
There are so many problematic things that’ve been said and I’m only a minute in 😳
OMG abbey I am a gay man and this really helped me attract all those men well being modest. Though said men shouldn’t wear dresses and then told me to wear a dress. Make up your mind. Thanks for the advice bro!
I'm not really conservative and my style is romantic gothic but I do agree about the skirts and perfume. It is nice when men *respectfully* compliment me while I'm out in public. I also make it a point to compliment others when they are dressed nicely or have a unique sense of style. It is sad to see many people my age (41) looking like they just rolled out of bed to shop!
Side note based on point #4: Can you do a video on your fav fragrances? I also LOVE perfume and am always open to suggestions!
I’ve been using Michael Kors Sexy Amber. It’s a little pricey but so worth it. It’s a great spring/summer fragrance!
Abby: Women are not a monolith and my self-worth doesn't come from making my body attractive to others. Also Abby: Here's what ALL MEN like and what ALL WOMEN should do to attract them.
Ok Sara
Then don't watch a gnikcuf video called "How to Be Attractive To Men." Christ alive, that's like going on a video titled 'How to get in shape in 5 easy steps" and then whining because you want to eat ice cream and sit on the couch all day.
It's weird looking at the comments because it is still socially ok to tell guys how they should look or act to attract a woman. But for some reason it is considdered outrageous to give women tips on how to attract a man.
Not to mention the women not attracted to men who are in the comments...then...don't watch the video...?
I actually dont get why there are so many hate comments under this?? why is everyone nowadays so bitter
I don't know why people waste their time watching a video they clearly don't like just to hate.. 🥱
I enjoy these videos, thanks Abby!
Masculine men like feminine women, so they like when women were clothes and colours that men typically don't wear like skirts, dresses, floral prints, pink, frills, bows, flowy clothes, jewellery etc. And long hair and long, painted nails.
Candace Owens looks stunning with her ponytail
I don’t know about the ponytail thing. I think on many women, it can emphasize feminine traits such as a slender neck, high cheekbones and nice collarbones instead of obscuring them. Sometimes a few “harsh” things can further feminize one’s appearance through contrast😊
As a man, I approve of this message.
no one cares about what you think brad
You did
@@alaskahelo what
@@alexhalterman4214 you cared enough to reply and attempt an insult. I dare say three others cared enough to thumbs up. Given how few people who watch a video bother with the comment section, three ups plus you is pretty solid affirmation.
@@alaskahelo just cause your using fancy words and grammar, doesn't mean that it can cover up your toxic masculinity and the fact that your dad never loved you
I am a man, and I agree with her advice. This is what we like. Women take notes.
Is that so...
Btw you are helping her to stereotype men.. which is not good..
Because in the end it all comes to individuals..
One man is different from another.. they have different tastes.. different preferences..
@@victornikiforov2259 There's always exceptions to everything. Exceptions do not change the general rule though. Stereotypes exist for good reason: They're grounded in truth and observable reality. The vast majority of men find these things attractive, and just because there's a few outliers, it doesn't effect the overall trend that men, speaking GENERALLY, definitely do like these things.
@@victornikiforov2259 No we really aren't, we're really simple.
Maybe gay Russian guys like yourself are different but straight guys are pretty simple
@@VeryBadNews
Ok now where should I start ?
Let me first explain you what gender stereotyping is..
So gender roles in society means how we are expected to present ourselves based upon our assigned sex.
For an example women are expected to be more feminine while men are expected to be more masculine..
Well now a one can think that this is great.. but actually this type of mentality is pretty problematic..
Because.. stereotypes about gender can cause unequal and unfair treatment regarding their gender.. now that's called sexism..
Well now you might be thinking how else can this be bad..
Lemme tell u..
These gender stereotyping can be harmful because they don't allow people to fully express themselves ..
For an example masculine people aren't allowed to Express themselves as emotional, they can't cry.. because they are strong and if they do they are pus*ys.. (bullshit)
For feminine people it's also harmful to them that they feel like they are not allowed to be independent or smart..
This is extremely harmful as the more people start believing in this bullshit the more they'll try to fulfill these.. because if they don't they feel like they won't fit in...
Then automatically they'll start to feel useless and unwanted.. unworthy...
This will eventually lead to more serious mental health issues such as anxiety and depression..
Also there's another part to this..
' Relationships '
These gender roles can affect relationships drastically..
Like since women are supposed to be more softer, they are more likely to endure abuse from their partner..
As for men, since they are supposed to be more masculine, they are more likely to be physically and emotionally abusive to their partners..
So yeah.. this gender stereotyping shit is pretty harmful to all genders...
Men can cry ( Express themselves emotionally )
And women can be independent..
periodt..
@@victornikiforov2259 You have it all backwards. Men and women don't act certain ways because of the stereotype, as if the stereotype existed first. The stereotype exists and is generally true because men and women already act a certain way. Men and women are fundamentally different. And there is nothing wrong with that, and there is nothing wrong with stereotypes and gender roles either.
i dont currently want to date (because i'm a minor) but i started putting mascara on and a slight lip tint. people started giving me more compliments 😁
Your a minor but you are wearing mascara? Your gonna get all the wrong attention.
@@rtruth7002 it just makes my lashes longer. its not heavy mascara anyways. plus most of the people i interact with are women or people i know. i know how to keep myself safe
@Banx watching Jordan Peterson doesn't count as research.
@@cocoajames5 girl, do you. You're a girl, you're allowed to wear a little makeup and explore innocent things that make you feel confident. These dudes are creeps.
@@Alex-hj1vk lmaooooo ❤️🔥🔥
Are you the woman who critiqued Megan Thee Stallion and said that you wanted to be recognised for what's in your head not by how your body looks? Or am I hallucinating...?
me, a gay:
wHat inCreDibly uSefuL inFormatIon
Being healthy, happy, and confident, thats for sure! Those are the traits that are attractive, and if we accentuate those traits (such as by smiling and by appearing healthy as you said), it will be more attractive to others. To preface, I have long struggled with low self esteem, anxiety, and body dysmorphia; my now-husband was attracted to me to start with, but said I became more beautiful to him when I stopped dieting and complaining about myself for being “fat”, and started loving myself and the body God gave me. And instead of yo-yo dieting and intense HIIT workouts, I started exercising in ways that made me feel good mentally and physically (TONE IT UP is a great example of what I use) , which lead to just overall feeling better. And that radiated out of me and led to him being even more attractive to me. If we are in a good place with ourselves, others will see that too.
I'm a straight guy and all of these points she made were correct maybe except for the perfume because I'm more of a natural person I just prefer a human's natural odor
Yeah I ain’t dressing up for a man, Imma dress up for myself in a way I love myself-
Unless your on a date or trying to “pick up” men, this is unnecessary.
AND THE DISLIKE RATIO 😄
Okaaaaay soooooo
1 natural makeup
2 wear dresses
3 smile more
4 wear perfume
5 no severe hair styles like severe ponytails
Anyone can say whatever they want, but you have to agree, that if you’re wearing feminine dresses or skirts, you are going to be treated differently, you can dress like a depressed goth, but don’t be surprised when you’ll get treated this way, I do NOT make the rules, by wearing a dress I feel people treat me differently, they treat me like a lady, not like a bag of clothes and that’s what I prefer
•The natural makeup is something I do most days. But when fall rolls around I tend to go for slightly gothic makeup. Think darker eye makeup or darker lips.
•I love wearing dresses! I’ve been buying more of them and loving them.
• The smiling. I have resting face. Yikes. I’ll have to work on it.
•The perfume. I wear deodorant all the time and perfume on some days.
• I never wear a high ponytail. My round face won’t let me pull it off. I can’t even wear a top bun because I have short layers.
Idk. Men are attracted to all types of styles on women.. there’s not really a blanket style that 100% of men like.
Wear what makes you feel confident.
Jacob just may be the luckiest man in history. No exaggeration.
He looks quite the opposite in every video they post.
Using this to impress the guys at my local gay bar, thanks abby!!!
another thing to remember is how afraid you would be if you saw a man looking one way and then he washes his face and he looks like a totally different person. putting aside the idea of a man wearing makeup the way that women do, of course.
Hey Girly super random who are you rooting for on this season of Rupaul’s Drag Race Alllstars?? :)
How is wearing NATURAL makeup different than NOT wearing makeup and ACTUALLY being NATURAL?
But if you're trying to look nice for a specific man, how do you know the things listed are what he prefers? Also, not smiling doesn't mean you look angry - it just means you look neutral.
Personally, I've been trying to wear my hair down more, since it seems a shame to let these curls go to waste. But though I used to love perfume and faithfully wore it everyday, I've become allergic to fragrance. :(
1. an unnatural but properly color schemed makeup look can be gorgeous.
2. I love a woman in pants because it shows of the leg curves.
Thank you so much Abby! As a trans woman who’s mid transition, it’s really fantastic getting advice from my fellow women on how to be perceived in my gender in the way my mind wants. Hugs and kisses :)))
Vaush
Being a lesbian is so freeing LOL imagine caring this much about what men think 😂😂😂 please this is so embarrassing. I’m not angry at you I’m just.. sad for you, Abby. The fact that the male gaze has this kind of a chokehold on people that they’re willing to police their own self expression in order to appease men is sad
I have to disagree with you. Personally, I love to dress in a feminine way as both a reflection of my personality and as a way to look nice for the man who holds my affection. If you want to attract a certain man’s eye because you too are attracted to him, what’s wrong with that? It’s also a confidence boost! If I want to interact with a man I find attractive, dressing attractively will boost my confidence during the interaction. You know? 😊 If a goal of yours is to have a relationship with a man, then why not dress in order to attract that?
@@Jasmine-ji2wy well I think that if you want to attract a partner who loves you for who you are authentically then you shouldn’t put in effort into dressing in a way that isn’t authentic to you. I love dresses and heels and flannels and sweats and button downs, and my wardrobe is a pretty even mixture of “masculine” and “feminine” items because that’s what makes ME happy and comfortable. I want to attract a partner who cares about the fact that I am confident and comfortable in what I’m wearing, not one who cares what those clothes are. If you love to dress feminine everyday, then good for you, do that. But nobody should feel they need to change who they are or what they wear in order to attract a partner. People are attracted to all types of styles of fashion, makeup looks, etc. I want people to be attracted to my spirit, my energy, my creativity, my kindness, my intellect, etc. I use my clothes to express myself. I don’t want to express that I’m just some feminine mannequin who looks like a million other people. It’s hard to describe the lesbian experience to a straight person but I can say that when I realized I didn’t care to have men in my life, I never felt so free. I realized how much energy I had been putting into maintaining an aesthetic I didn’t even like. Once I felt more liberated from that male gaze of what I should look like, I was free to experiment with different looks and just started choosing things that felt good to ME. and guess what? It is at that point that I began to attract partners and friends more authentic than I had ever encountered before. People were seeing ME. And that felt awesome. I am complimented and approached by all genders more than ever before, because I’m confident and I take ownership of my looks, not because I’m trying to attract them. Make sense?
@@nicolettelastname5794 yeah confidence & being urself is vv underrated. It's seen as cliche but it actually does work (:
@annieayuwoki ty 😌 cheers to not curating our whole personalities and aesthetic around what somebody else likes 😂 if you don’t like me the door is that way ➡️
Being a lesbian doesn’t make you any more free than being a heterosexual. There are plenty of overbearing women who can gaze at you in pretty much the same controlling manner.
Perfume is a must. I have three for specific occasions.
Being able to cook a square meal (high protein) is ALWAYS attractive to men.
Have a hobby; something you geek out over. If he’s truly interested he’ll asked you more about it and will learn it for himself.
I feel your videos evolved a lot since I looked the last time at your channel!
I felt like at first your videos gave a „do it like this everything else is bad“ vibe and now it is more like a „it is okay if you see it different than other people, dress modestly if you want to!“
There are tons of women who would disagree and they are free to do that but you are making the video for the ones who like being classic! They are free to be classic!
You don't need to be attractive to men! Love yourself, feel confident in whatever you like! If you want to show skin, flaunt that beautiful body if yours! If you don't feel comfortable with that, that's absolutely ok! The most important thing is feeling comfortable with yourself and loving yourself. Other things can come after that 🌈
As a girl, it's more personality than looks in a potential girlfriend for me. As long as they like birdwatching and aren't overly political I wouldn't be put off at all :p
Lmaoo so specific: “birdwatching”. 😂🤣 I love birds though, so I understand. I live with three evil birds.
@@a.b.2405 Aw, awesome! That sounds pretty cool, I've always wanted to actually live with birds. Tbh I probably feed more birds than I have friends lol
@@tabithathecat Lmfaaoo!! Animals are better than humans so don’t feel bad jajaja! My family had these birds for more than a decade! They are loud and adorable!
@@a.b.2405 Exactly, haha! And that is really cool! My grandmother used to have an African Grey parrot and he was genuinely more intelligent than a toddler.
@@tabithathecat ERMAGAWD I WANT ONE OF THOSE!! I NEED ONE IN MY LIFE! Lort! I’ve heard that they are super smart!
These things are true of a man who has a certain style and taste. I know a lot of men who aren't into dresses on women, and who prefer edgy makeup looks. I think it's important to clarify that this video is talking about what a certain group of men like, but not what all men like!
Most men enjoy women dressed with dresses and skirts. The rest is a minority. Manly men want feminine women and that okay ✨
@@Damaris972. You don't know that most enjoy skirts and dresses. As well, how do you know that the majority of men are "manly?"
@@zoedarc783 I don't need stats to know men love feminine women and dresses and skirts. It has been like that for centuries, and will be till we have men by our sides. I used to wear pants like any young woman would do, I then switched to modest dresses and skirts only. The way men treat me now calling me Madame, being extra respectful, no cat calling, discreet smiles are definitely a good sign that men treasure women that know how to dress like women. Most men are manly, if not, the world wouldn't function as we speak. Men sacrificing their lives, building, serving their family and country are incredibly manly.
@@Damaris972. I don't need stats to know that not all men love feminine women and dresses and skirts. I get treated respectfully not wearing skirts, as well, being called the same thing. :)
@@Damaris972. I agree - men who sacrifice their lives and build for their families are respectable. I guarantee that not all of them love overly-feminine clothing ;)
I personally don’t try to look good for anyone, as beauty fades and charm is deceptive. I prefer to focus on the Lord.
Yes agreed! I love to look put together but as I read the Bible it seems clear to me, the most attractive thing to the right men is to be a God fearing woman. That’s just for me as a Christian. But these tips can be helpful at some point!
me, a lesbian, sitting here in a purple lip and a suit
I have just discovered this channel. I have watched a number of videos and must say how refreshing it is to hear such a young woman speaking with such wisdom. She is telling the truth, too. A fact some seem to have a little trouble hearing.
I prefer dresses and skirts
My husband likes me in jeans and t shirt
I haven't worn makeup in a few decades
Ways to be attractive: a classically abby subscriber
I don't understand. Women are like "do what you want." Abby is doing what she wants.... so why do you hate her?
this video is literally about how to please men
Maybe different men have different preferences for how the people they are attracted to dress
Maybe just maybe entertain the thought that a man who genuinely likes me would accept me no matter what i dress like.
1. Wear makeup like your mums 2. Dress like your mum 3. Smile like you did in your school book picture your mum likes 4. Smell like your mum 5. Do your hair like your mums