I dropped "lazy" back when I was studying and failing at it. I realized then that I was confusing laziness with the lack of motivation. Although the lack of motivation was only a part of the reason why I failed. The other part being exhausted all the time.
"I feel like I should be able to do it by myself"... this. All day, this. Like... I only just recently self-diagnosed, but this is me. I have used that "L-word" my whole life, beating myself up because I'm "smart enough to know better" and all the other things I've been told. I want desperately to do all the adulting, but adulting is hard and overwhelming, and let me tell you, constantly beating yourself up whilst trying to adult makes it SO much harder. Knowing what I know now, all the information I've gathered in just a few short months, I feel like the puzzle piece that I've been missing finally fell into place. Not that everything is perfect now, but I finally see me as just... me. Instead of seeing all the things that are "wrong" with me. Thanks for this video and I look forward to more. ❤️
I feel everything you wrote! I self-diagnosed (waiting to hear back for an appointment to get officially diagnosed) a few months ago but I still catch myself saying "I shouldn't have to do all this to be successful!" or "why can it I just do it like everyone else does?". But when I don't do it, my energy and motivation to do anything is so low, I hardly get anything done and as a doctoral student that also works a part-time job, it's not ideal. Thank you for sharing your experience. It really made me feel like I'm not alone.
You just descrived my whole experience. I came across something about bullet journal and its relation with ADHD and started to search more about it because I could relate a lot with the people in the comments. I have came to the conclusion that I most defenetively have ADHD and one of my new year goals is to get oficially diagnosed. In the meantime, I'm in the process of adapting my life to be easier now that I finally have an answer to why I cannot function as others expect me to do.
I think this was one of the most relatable productivity videos. I have grown so tired of seeing other productivity hack videos on youtube that just give the same old advice (and yet act like it is novel) and act like it is impossible to fail on such a system. Thanks for your honesty.
I have never heard anything more relatable than when you were talking about having to get used to not relying on your working memory. It took me so long to start writing down things like assignments (and honestly even now there's a lot of appointment-type things I don't write down until I formally decorate my planner sunday night...) because I grew up being so good at school and so good at remembering the sort of pointless rote facts that schools love, that it was a point of pride that I should be able to remember everything.... I genuinely don't know how I did it now, I can't function without some sort of planner Also I feel you so much on the hourly blocking. I see people in the planner community with perfect hourly schedules, fitting in a million things into a perfectly packed day, and I just... don't know how they hold themselves to it. Every single one of my to dos needs to just be a suggestion (along the lines of "hey, maybe you should take a walk and clean the bathroom some time this week? Maybe saturday night? maybe friday afternoon? Whenever you feel up to it, no pressure") because if it's not super loose and I miss the deadline, the guilt will overtake me and the entire system goes out the window
Someone said: never argue with your calendar. I guess that's how they stick to their plans. Or maybe try to imagine someone who would be glad if you failed and then prove them wrong :-)💕🍀
Thank you for the little speech about limits at the end. I struggle to accept that I have limits, especially with so many outside pressures to be "as good/productive" as "normal" people; it's really difficult some days.. Now to go look into these tools you spoke of! Keep being you, you're positively Wonderful❣
Your videos have snapped me out of this dreadful depression I've been dealing with. You have normalized my whole existence. I am so motivated. I feel validated. I had psych testing and was diagnosed with a memory impairment. After watching your videos, I realized that my issue is overstimulation and autistic burnout. I was extremely "highly functional " but the masking and overstimulation and lack of support in the workplace broke me and all of the autistic traits completely took over. I had no idea what was happening to me. Ur suggestions is exactly what I did my whole life until the burnout. I had panic attacks because these strategies no longer worked and I didn't know what to do and cope. I feel so hopeful thanks to your openess. I have never met anyone that I can relate to as much as I do with you. Thank you so much! P.S. Can you share what the Autism Coach helps you with? What type of suggestions have they made? What's their approach?
My favorite idiom is "Rome wasn't built in a day but it burned in one." I also appreciate a good malaphor, particularly, "We'll burn that bridge when we get to it."
Found you while going down a rabbit hole of my own self discovery and I have been using Tiimo for almost a week. My days are smoother and less stressful. Setting up Todoist to see if that helps me with larger projects and plans. Thank for making these videos. (Edit: Forgot to mention I use Toddy to organize my household tasks. I get overwhelmed with all the things that need doing around the house, now I don't over think it, the app tells me what needs doing)
Fellow autistic female here... It's funny that you described your system as "Bullet Journal + Getting Things Done + Kanban + Automation" because that is almost EXACTLY how I recently described my to a friend. It's an app called "Notion". I've literally, literally been dreaming of an app like this ever since "apps" were a thing. I cannot do it justice with a description. I'm in love. Please look it up. You won't be disappointed, but... you might also end up throwing your whole life into Notion.
I struggle with meals and cooking... it is the cause of my greatest meltdowns. I don't enjoy the things that go wrong in cooking, and I stress about the decision of what to eat, and the stress that follows in finding ingredients are missing. So we now have a set dinner menu for the entire week (magnets and strips of laminated paper) on the fridge, and shop for those specific items. We usually put one meal as a flexible one such as use up freezer dinner (leftovers we froze) or diner dinner (chips with something, and have a selection of items in freezer, and everyone has something different) in case something unexpected happens and we need to swap one around. The best part is the reduction in meltdowns and that we've increased the variety of meals (instead of having dinner dinner every day!), but its helped my ASD son because he can see in advance what we're eating and we rarely change the plan!
"Yes, we have five more months of it." That face says it all. Thank you for making this video! I have tried some parts of these separately, but I have a hard time mixing and matching without trying to do ALL of the parts of ALL of the systems I'm using. Seeing it simplified into its pieces is helpful.
Thank you so much for your videos. I have been binge-watching them for the past 2 days. I relate so much. I'm 53. I have suspected that I am on the spectrum for years but I didn't quite fit the criteria. But I do!! Such a relief in so many ways.
Nearly every point you made I found myself saying "SAME!" Also I really needed that reminder at the end about how you're not lazy if you're trying (I nearly started crying haha). I have depression and anxiety, though I feel like there may be a different problem (maybe autism and/or ADHD or just dysthymia and terrible habits? who knows?!) but regardless of whether there's an underlying issue or not, your videos really help me feel a bit better. So thank you. I hope you're having a lovely day! ❤️
Oh my gosh a 'how to organize yourself' video that actually addresses the issues I need help with. Even just for realising I'm not on my own with this stuff, thank you for making this video :D :D
This was so helpful and inspiring. I just started using Tiimo yesterday but it's not set up yet so I will watch your video on that next. The part about the well trained pigeons was very clever & brought a huge smile to my face. Thank you for sharing!
This video had loads of information, I just watched it and I already can't remember all the methods 😭 I would love a video about the Kanban method! I tried googling it, but it got me overloaded with information that I couldn't process very well. I wish there was a simple explaination for it :c I should watch this again and take notes.. edit: I just bought a whiteboard for the kanban method after watching this video 🙈
The Bullet Journal method has really helped me as i like to write by hand. As described in the book by Ryder Carrol (the guy is diagnosed with ADHD). The bare brain dump, structure and sort out priorities approach. No fancy drawn pages anywhere as i think its a distraction.
Before, everytime I created a system I ended up droping it after 1 day to 1 week. My current system is going for almost 2 months now (a big improvement for me). One of the main changes is that it includes "system maintenance". Which means, every week I have a moment where I think about what is good or bad in my system, and whether I should make some changes. And I realized I needed only small changes, and not a complete new system everytime. The second main change is that I try to create a strict habit one at a time, instead of whole day of strict obligations. I read it takes 20 to 60 days before a task really becomes a habit, so I waited until I almost never forget the 1st one before going with a new one. I can plan a whole day, but I won't keep track of whether I did every single thing I wrote on my planning.
I tried tiimo and while I appreciate it's made for us and it's visual, I encountered some deal breaking bugs. Also recurring things have very limited rules around them. For example, you can't set up monthly recurring tasks, you're kinda stuck to a limited set of time periods. Google calendar however is pretty much the whole package. You can set any number of days/weeks/months/years for recurring things. Also has a new feature on the app which lets it book things for you on a recurring basis. I find I have to move these around a bit, but knowing Google tries to learn the times I like to exercise for example makes me think eventually these tasks will be mostly automated for me. It might be worth a go if there's people who don't get on with tiimo.
I always start with writing down a task, then evolving to some other thought I want to remember and ideas I'll be having and stuff I want to do and BOOM I've been journaling for the last 3 hours 😂
I'm trying to develop a system of "different themes of writing" and use a separate paper for to-dos (with date), ideas (sorted after theme: art, crafts, house, garden etc.), thoughts & feelings, poetry & lyrics... After a month I pin them together and hopefully will know where to find what without looking through some weird overwhelming chaos that just inspires me to add to it
I needed to hear a lot of that stuff. I'm going back to distance teaching and it just takes me longer than people expect me to take to get things done. In so overwhelmed by all the things I have to do and keep track of that my brain keeps going into freeze mode and don't have the energy/motivation to do anything after I finish my work, even make dinner. I feel like I'm lazy but I suppose if I was lazy I wouldn't be working extra hours every day. I think I had finally recovered from burnout the week before I had to start working again and it's all falling apart again already.
These are some great suggestions. I use some of these survival tools myself. Between digital (Google) calendar, alarm clock app, and a recently added time-block app--all on my phone--I'm managing to remember recurring things (daily meds, weekly trash night, etc) and appointments. The chores and the to-do list... that's where I struggle. "Cap-Sync-Plan-oMate" I'd like to add another tool that you described: post-its on a Do/Doing/Done board.
Thanks for this video! It's really insightful and helpful to see what organizing your daily life looks like from someone who's also neuro divergent. The universe is definitely telling me to reevaluate my way of approaching to do lists because I don't think I'm supposed to feel stress and anxiety from trying to organize my life. 😅
I am the Same Exact Way when it comes to “if I can’t see it, I will forget about it”- but do you know what I was thinking about to resolve such a thing? The Wall of Shelves. That’s what I called it . Just fill a wall with a big, bookcase style structure (only it’s set up in squares) and that way when you walk into a room, all the things you’ll need to use are right there organized to taste I was thinking that to start I will try a sum of plastic, stackable white ones crates. They have them cheap online or in dollar stores. I felt that the try out version is more viable at first since all the purchases I have had to make over the years in the pursuit of self/home organization has been a hefty burden on my bank account. But the structure itself will look nice, even if it’s in plastic. Then if it works out and I want something more formidable/permanent, I’ll do the same exact thing in white with wooded materials. I noticed a lot of blonde wood in your home - it would look just as nice :-)
Everything after 14:00 - thank you. "But my point is, if you struggle with systems, maybe the systems do need tweaking... but maybe also you simply need more help, and that's okay." That and the tone of your voice in the following sentence actually made me tear up a little. I wasn't expecting to have that reaction, but hearing you talk about and basically mirror my experience made me realise I've definitely been too hard on myself for this recently and I need to be kinder... Your nice clear breakdown of the components (capture/sync/plan/automate) is mega helpful as well. It sounds so obvious now, but the idea of planning regular resets and prioritising making the system as easy possible to re-join are both things I never thought about doing, but which are probably actually key to getting something to work for me long term! Moreso that having the 'perfect' system in terms of functionality. I think somewhere along the line I internalised the idea that planning for failure is planning to fail... but that's absolutely not true, it's actually a super smart move, especially for peeps with executive dysfunction, because that's both in and out of our control. Thank you so so much for your openness, and for putting this video out there!
Thank you so much for this video. I'm really struggling to get my daily life somehow sorted out and working. I've used bullet journal before, but now I got a bunch of ideas what else to try too.
For the visual Kanban app I highly recommend Trello, have used it personally and professionally for years. Also the one key aspect of Kanban is to have limits on the To Do and most notably the Doing column so your not trying to do too much at any one time. My organisation system that I use for work and life comes across just as complicated to anyone else. 🤣 However it is also the reason I am good at job in Software Development Management, and my colleagues always call me the dyslexic, autistic, ADHD project manager. 😊 Thank you for sharing your system. I have also downloaded Tiimo to give it a go for personal organisation to see if it works with my current Keep, MS To Do, One Note, paper BuJo system! 😊
WOW -- I have the EXACT same planning and organization system, from Google Keep to the bullet journal to the master to-do list to the personal khan ban board! For a while I was keeping my daily to-dos in my bullet journal carrying the incomplete items over each day, but I have started using post-it's to track my daily list, which includes both daily tasks (yoga, water plants, clean cat box, shower) as well as a few bigger tag items that I pull from my master to-do list as I complete them. The only part where we differ is in tiimo and your fancy smartwatch. I have been using alarms on my phone for that. Maybe someday I'll invest in that upgrade! :) Thanks for sharing your system! I feel validated and happy to have an organizing doppelgänger! (Also you sound like the Swedish Chef at the end.) ;)
Apart from forgetting, horrible time management, needing extra time for everything, but my biggest problem is procrastination from avoidance. Still struggling with it I’m afraid but some days are better than others.
Watching this twice to get all the ideas. I was listening to it the first round while preparing my breakfast. Now I’m going to watch while eating breakfast. Because Adult ADD. Thank you for sharing your experience. Neurodivergent 🧠🗓
Thinking back, I don't think I've ever actually been called lazy, it's a label I've attatched to myself for some reason. I have some kind of fear deep down that I'm "making excuses" when I tell myself I probably have ADHD and Autism (because I'm not yet diagnosed) especially for the last 2 years when sometimes I actually *haven't* given a crap. Turns out my particular brand of "not-giving-a-crap" is called depression, and coming out of that rut somewhat (or at least becoming more self-aware) has helped me figure out that it definitely isn't laziness that causes me to forget literally any task you tell me to do, or stare at my watch blankly and vaguely wonder why I didn't go to the bus stop 30 minutes ago to get to class, or why I got a big fat 0% on a module I loved because I never handed in any of the coursework on time, or why I missed 2 separate wedding livestreams of people I know in the last month....
I'm totally visual, too. So despite being a complete digital geek, my planner has to be a pen and paper bullet journal. On every pair of pages I set aside a small section with 3 half-lines for each day of the week and there I make a note of things that are coming up or that I intend to do on a specific day that week. Every day I make a fresh list for the day, adding things from the weekly list, things I didn't do or didn't complete the day before, and anything else I would like to do that day. BUT I'm *very* careful about how much I put on that list - I know my limits, and they're limited! If there's too much, I defer some things back to the weekly list for later. I brain dump into an app called Tasks, which also serves as my "daily" reminder system of repeating tasks or things I need to do at certain times (although I HATE it when it goes off to remind me of something, LOL!). I use Google Calendar to record calendar-y things, but its reminders are no good to me because they assume once I've seen a reminder I'll remember it and do something about it, and that's simply not the case. So date specific reminders go in Tasks so that I can keep being reminded until I actually do the thing (which is why I hate it). I sync Tasks with my journal each morning when I set up my day.
Ohh yes I also don't think of something if I don't see it. I have a really pretty bullet journal that I don't open, but when I started tearing out pages and pinning them to a bulletin board, all of a sudden I notice them!
Hi, I have ADHD, and I am seeking an ASD diagnosis soon. Firstly, wanted to say, thank you! Thank you for making these videos and sharing your life. And secondly, I am very interested in your thoughts on having comorbid ADHD. Masking was the revelation for me, and then all the learning has come after that. I am learning so much from your videos - I honestly feel like I have this really funky flavour version of executive function and working memory deficit, so I am open to trying a new system. I appreciated the way you articulated this because I realize I need something that accommodates my ASD too. Keep up the great work
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Many thanks! I have a simpler system maybe because I tend to hyperfocus and no do many things at a time. When I tried years ago it was a real mess. I also use Google Calendar as my main plan and reminder. However, what do you use for your life plan? I mean, sometimes in life you need to stop and think what you want to do with your life. Do you have any system/hepl for that? Thanks and keep going!
Nameless It best to watch Tony Attwood talk on aspergers in women. To see a clinicion study on autism representation in women to see if you have autism or not. I don't know if you are female. Because you are called name less.
I've started using a digital personal kanban just a few days ago! I like the flexibility of it. I also started Habitory for daily habits. The way I make it work for me is "I would like to do at least one of the habit, and if possible more", no pressure. I don't think Tiimo is for me though, I don't like being told what to do :p (even if I'm the one who sets the alerts..)
Hii, thanks for all the videos!!! They are incredible! Do you have ideas to organise flexible study planners? I'm having some difficulties at college with this.
Thank you for this. Especially the last part about the L word. I have tried so many systems over the years and I just can’t get them to work. I get so overwhelmed. I’m so happy to have found your channel. I’m working my way through. Do you have any tips about meal planning or the like (or ways of not meal planning but not getting overwhelmed)? It’s the bane of my existence. Well, not really, but it feels that way.
Omg I had no idea there was a name for my post it method!!! I use the Trello app and print off my post it notes and hang them up on the wall. Sometimes I use physical, color coded notes when I need to step up my life-organization (aka everything is falling apart and I need to get back on track
I've been watching your videos and I've thought that maybe you could talk about the difference between being a higly sensitive person and an autistic person. Specially for women this can be pretty confusing. I don't know where I fit and I think that for many adult women this could be extremely helpful. Thanks :)
planning is so hard for me! one week i'll be working and the next week im not (im a babysitter), so its hard to plan concretely what I should be doing at what time each day. I tried tiimo, but i had a hard time with it and gave up. the whiteboard method sounds really good, though! I may need to watch your other video on tiimo to learn how to use it better.
I’m really curious what support you’ve been able to access in the Netherlands. I’m a 27 year old woman and have just been diagnosed, I’m in the UK and don’t know where to start, what’s available, or what would even be helpful. Would love to see a video on this topic.
do you think aspies just have a greater need for organisation to feel 'safe' and like everything is under control? before i was aspie, i always used to write down what i would wear every day, what i would eat every day, what i was doing every day, literally every minute detail down to the finest things. i do this as an adult but more like the big stuff rather than what i wear! but i still keep everything colour coordinated in my wardrobe and like to organise literally everything to make my life less stressful. i wonder if aspies just do this naturally? x
Thanks for the organizing ideas! Thoughts on an episode topic: do an episode on how bad 'love on the spectrum' reality show is. Most of my issues with the show is NT interference is just screwing them all up.
Two-for-one Swedish idioms I love. The cow is on the ice (the shit is about to hit the fan). There's no cow on the ice (don't even worry about it, it's fine) ....
Used an English idiom to describe a Swedish one. Thankfully this one actually makes sense. A cow on the ice would be terrible but the second phrase would have confused me if I didn’t understand the first two idioms. 😂
thanks for tiimo intro! find it great! I use it in combination with notion (for base organisation) using calendar sync works well. Also diagnosed with ADHD, now wondering if maybe autism too? I really relate with the way you talk and issues you have. Did you get autism diagnosis? are there any benefits of getting it?
*"Never, never, never give in. Success is falling down and getting back up one more time -- without end."* ~ Winston Churchill & Jim Collins From the book How the Mighty Fall: *www.jimcollins.com/books/how-the-mighty-fall.html*
Will do a watch when I can fully focus 💕 but just wondering if anyone else finds organisation itself sometimes becomes just another thing on the to-do pile? Like I saw someone had mentioned bullet journals, and I have tried to keep health/diet/mood diaries at various points of my life with varying success. But whenever anyone suggests those things to me now I feel like "you want me to do ANOTHER thing!?" Please tell me I'm not alone 😅💕
Oscar Wilde quote. I remembered loads. The best quote by him for unmasking. "Me yourself because everyone else is already taken". On aspergers intelligence. I like this quote also by Wilde. "I'm so clever I can't only stand a single word that I'm saying". Sam you probably know Google Oscar Wilde quote now. His quote make me laugh and mean more to my life that Shakespeare lines.
Lot nice tips. I got take it one day at time. I have fallen into an unorganized chaos state the last 2 years. I lost my job, then lot my close relationships from isolating, got depressed, and have lost all structure. Similar to how I was from age 19-23 again. Had 6 years where felt stable and structures. Where I was working with relationships. So relapse is a possibility sadly
I am having difficulty figuring out which things are rocks, pebbles and sand... Almost everything seems important and urgent but the things that don't probably should.
Thanks for the great video, I will apply some of these to my life! I had to watch it twice because the first time I got so hyperfocused on how the blouse makes your eyes pop, which led me to a mental rabbit hole thinking about color theory 😀 lol #adhd
4 minutes and 24 seconds into the video I realised I loved you. I find her funny because I can relate. If you do not experience any of the problems she is describing, this channel will not be a very good source of advice for you. Nevertheless, it is always good to learn and gain a better grasp on matters like this, as a lot of people in my life for example (an ADHD student) have told me that I am "lazy" and need to "just get on with it". DEFINITELY will be subscribing:) #bekind
Sort of off-topic, but guys, can you advise. I've had my suspicions about myself for many years (I'm 33). I've JUST reached the stage where I've compiled all my experiences and I'd really like to pursue a diagnosis. BUT... Is now a bad time? Is the pesky pandemic gonna put a spanner in the works? I'm in the UK and currently my GP will only speak to me over the phone. Should I wait until things are "normal" to pursue this? I feel like it would make sense to wait, but I've got energy for this NOW and the bit's between my teeth and I don't wanna drop it (almost sounds a little autistic dunnit). What should I do?
Definitely going to try some of these things even though I am not diagnosed with anything. But if these strategies will help me with my lack of consistent organizational life skills I will do them. I recently started dumping things in keep that are swirling but I’ve already stopped checking it consistently. >.
How do you make a daily prioritisation? Somehow on low days things like eating and showering sneak into my list…and I don’t know if this actually belongs there but it feels like a “task” on bad days to be proud to have completed 🎉 but I generally have problems formulating my points to do because I can’t decide to what level of detail I should get, and then I realise I can’t write properly anyway, my feet get cold and I go look for some chocolate…. Greetings from burn-bore-out audhd lost in space …😅
You're so funny, I love it! I hadn't seen the thing your catchy method name was referencing, but it made me laugh anyway just because it sounded funny :)
I came here hoping for tips to get organized. BUT turns out i'm already doing all the same things you do. I just don't have a Tiimo. I just use Google Calendar and add notifications for all the entries.
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@@TheShadowStar03 So..I ask the same !? why don't you have speech problems !?
Haluatteko kuulla minua!?
I write fluent autism language !!
Minulla ei ole keinoja autismia vastaan. Ei niin !!
It may be that I don’t want to live anymore. I was just wondering ... does it bother anyone !?
I dropped "lazy" back when I was studying and failing at it. I realized then that I was confusing laziness with the lack of motivation. Although the lack of motivation was only a part of the reason why I failed. The other part being exhausted all the time.
"I feel like I should be able to do it by myself"... this. All day, this. Like... I only just recently self-diagnosed, but this is me. I have used that "L-word" my whole life, beating myself up because I'm "smart enough to know better" and all the other things I've been told. I want desperately to do all the adulting, but adulting is hard and overwhelming, and let me tell you, constantly beating yourself up whilst trying to adult makes it SO much harder. Knowing what I know now, all the information I've gathered in just a few short months, I feel like the puzzle piece that I've been missing finally fell into place. Not that everything is perfect now, but I finally see me as just... me. Instead of seeing all the things that are "wrong" with me. Thanks for this video and I look forward to more. ❤️
I feel everything you wrote! I self-diagnosed (waiting to hear back for an appointment to get officially diagnosed) a few months ago but I still catch myself saying "I shouldn't have to do all this to be successful!" or "why can it I just do it like everyone else does?". But when I don't do it, my energy and motivation to do anything is so low, I hardly get anything done and as a doctoral student that also works a part-time job, it's not ideal. Thank you for sharing your experience. It really made me feel like I'm not alone.
You just descrived my whole experience. I came across something about bullet journal and its relation with ADHD and started to search more about it because I could relate a lot with the people in the comments.
I have came to the conclusion that I most defenetively have ADHD and one of my new year goals is to get oficially diagnosed.
In the meantime, I'm in the process of adapting my life to be easier now that I finally have an answer to why I cannot function as others expect me to do.
Omg that sounds just like me. :/
"I'll greatest triumph is not in never falling but rising everytime we fall. "
That's the one!
Yo Samdy Sam I think it might been ancient China confusion philosophy said that line.
There's a super similar one by Winston Churchill and Jim Collins. Just posted a comment with it.
I think this was one of the most relatable productivity videos. I have grown so tired of seeing other productivity hack videos on youtube that just give the same old advice (and yet act like it is novel) and act like it is impossible to fail on such a system. Thanks for your honesty.
Unexpected Change = Red Alert 🚨
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I have never heard anything more relatable than when you were talking about having to get used to not relying on your working memory. It took me so long to start writing down things like assignments (and honestly even now there's a lot of appointment-type things I don't write down until I formally decorate my planner sunday night...) because I grew up being so good at school and so good at remembering the sort of pointless rote facts that schools love, that it was a point of pride that I should be able to remember everything.... I genuinely don't know how I did it now, I can't function without some sort of planner
Also I feel you so much on the hourly blocking. I see people in the planner community with perfect hourly schedules, fitting in a million things into a perfectly packed day, and I just... don't know how they hold themselves to it. Every single one of my to dos needs to just be a suggestion (along the lines of "hey, maybe you should take a walk and clean the bathroom some time this week? Maybe saturday night? maybe friday afternoon? Whenever you feel up to it, no pressure") because if it's not super loose and I miss the deadline, the guilt will overtake me and the entire system goes out the window
Someone said: never argue with your calendar. I guess that's how they stick to their plans. Or maybe try to imagine someone who would be glad if you failed and then prove them wrong :-)💕🍀
@@reginagrobosz8807 nice try. I know you meant well, but that's not really helpful here.
I'm glad you mentioned the Kanban Method because I use something similar to that, and had no idea it had a name!
Thank you for the little speech about limits at the end. I struggle to accept that I have limits, especially with so many outside pressures to be "as good/productive" as "normal" people; it's really difficult some days.. Now to go look into these tools you spoke of! Keep being you, you're positively Wonderful❣
Your videos have snapped me out of this dreadful depression I've been dealing with. You have normalized my whole existence. I am so motivated. I feel validated. I had psych testing and was diagnosed with a memory impairment. After watching your videos, I realized that my issue is overstimulation and autistic burnout. I was extremely "highly functional " but the masking and overstimulation and lack of support in the workplace broke me and all of the autistic traits completely took over. I had no idea what was happening to me. Ur suggestions is exactly what I did my whole life until the burnout. I had panic attacks because these strategies no longer worked and I didn't know what to do and cope. I feel so hopeful thanks to your openess. I have never met anyone that I can relate to as much as I do with you. Thank you so much!
P.S. Can you share what the Autism Coach helps you with? What type of suggestions have they made? What's their approach?
My favorite idiom is "Rome wasn't built in a day but it burned in one." I also appreciate a good malaphor, particularly, "We'll burn that bridge when we get to it."
Found you while going down a rabbit hole of my own self discovery and I have been using Tiimo for almost a week. My days are smoother and less stressful. Setting up Todoist to see if that helps me with larger projects and plans. Thank for making these videos. (Edit: Forgot to mention I use Toddy to organize my household tasks. I get overwhelmed with all the things that need doing around the house, now I don't over think it, the app tells me what needs doing)
Fellow autistic female here... It's funny that you described your system as "Bullet Journal + Getting Things Done + Kanban + Automation" because that is almost EXACTLY how I recently described my to a friend. It's an app called "Notion".
I've literally, literally been dreaming of an app like this ever since "apps" were a thing. I cannot do it justice with a description. I'm in love. Please look it up. You won't be disappointed, but... you might also end up throwing your whole life into Notion.
I'll also note that it is not particularly awesome at making recurring routines, so there's still a place for your sponsored Tiimo application.
I struggle with meals and cooking... it is the cause of my greatest meltdowns. I don't enjoy the things that go wrong in cooking, and I stress about the decision of what to eat, and the stress that follows in finding ingredients are missing. So we now have a set dinner menu for the entire week (magnets and strips of laminated paper) on the fridge, and shop for those specific items. We usually put one meal as a flexible one such as use up freezer dinner (leftovers we froze) or diner dinner (chips with something, and have a selection of items in freezer, and everyone has something different) in case something unexpected happens and we need to swap one around. The best part is the reduction in meltdowns and that we've increased the variety of meals (instead of having dinner dinner every day!), but its helped my ASD son because he can see in advance what we're eating and we rarely change the plan!
All of today’s colors look really good on you!😊
"Yes, we have five more months of it." That face says it all. Thank you for making this video! I have tried some parts of these separately, but I have a hard time mixing and matching without trying to do ALL of the parts of ALL of the systems I'm using. Seeing it simplified into its pieces is helpful.
It sounds like a word that a Sims would say in a conversation and I love it.
Just watching your presentation of yourself by 4 minutes, I really appreciate your authenticity and fun spirit.
Thank you so much for your videos. I have been binge-watching them for the past 2 days. I relate so much. I'm 53. I have suspected that I am on the spectrum for years but I didn't quite fit the criteria. But I do!! Such a relief in so many ways.
“Forget its position in the space-time continuum” 🤣 That’s a mood.
Nearly every point you made I found myself saying "SAME!" Also I really needed that reminder at the end about how you're not lazy if you're trying (I nearly started crying haha). I have depression and anxiety, though I feel like there may be a different problem (maybe autism and/or ADHD or just dysthymia and terrible habits? who knows?!) but regardless of whether there's an underlying issue or not, your videos really help me feel a bit better. So thank you. I hope you're having a lovely day! ❤️
Oh my gosh a 'how to organize yourself' video that actually addresses the issues I need help with. Even just for realising I'm not on my own with this stuff, thank you for making this video :D :D
This was so helpful and inspiring. I just started using Tiimo yesterday but it's not set up yet so I will watch your video on that next. The part about the well trained pigeons was very clever & brought a huge smile to my face. Thank you for sharing!
This video had loads of information, I just watched it and I already can't remember all the methods 😭
I would love a video about the Kanban method! I tried googling it, but it got me overloaded with information that I couldn't process very well. I wish there was a simple explaination for it :c
I should watch this again and take notes..
edit: I just bought a whiteboard for the kanban method after watching this video 🙈
I’m a visual person too, so it would be really helpful to SEE what you’re describing as you’re talking about each thing.
The Bullet Journal method has really helped me as i like to write by hand. As described in the book by Ryder Carrol (the guy is diagnosed with ADHD). The bare brain dump, structure and sort out priorities approach. No fancy drawn pages anywhere as i think its a distraction.
Before, everytime I created a system I ended up droping it after 1 day to 1 week.
My current system is going for almost 2 months now (a big improvement for me). One of the main changes is that it includes "system maintenance". Which means, every week I have a moment where I think about what is good or bad in my system, and whether I should make some changes. And I realized I needed only small changes, and not a complete new system everytime.
The second main change is that I try to create a strict habit one at a time, instead of whole day of strict obligations. I read it takes 20 to 60 days before a task really becomes a habit, so I waited until I almost never forget the 1st one before going with a new one. I can plan a whole day, but I won't keep track of whether I did every single thing I wrote on my planning.
I tried tiimo and while I appreciate it's made for us and it's visual, I encountered some deal breaking bugs. Also recurring things have very limited rules around them. For example, you can't set up monthly recurring tasks, you're kinda stuck to a limited set of time periods.
Google calendar however is pretty much the whole package. You can set any number of days/weeks/months/years for recurring things. Also has a new feature on the app which lets it book things for you on a recurring basis. I find I have to move these around a bit, but knowing Google tries to learn the times I like to exercise for example makes me think eventually these tasks will be mostly automated for me. It might be worth a go if there's people who don't get on with tiimo.
I always start with writing down a task, then evolving to some other thought I want to remember and ideas I'll be having and stuff I want to do and BOOM I've been journaling for the last 3 hours 😂
And its gonna take a lifetime to just read my notes 🙄😅
I'm trying to develop a system of "different themes of writing" and use a separate paper for to-dos (with date), ideas (sorted after theme: art, crafts, house, garden etc.), thoughts & feelings, poetry & lyrics... After a month I pin them together and hopefully will know where to find what without looking through some weird overwhelming chaos that just inspires me to add to it
I needed to hear a lot of that stuff. I'm going back to distance teaching and it just takes me longer than people expect me to take to get things done. In so overwhelmed by all the things I have to do and keep track of that my brain keeps going into freeze mode and don't have the energy/motivation to do anything after I finish my work, even make dinner. I feel like I'm lazy but I suppose if I was lazy I wouldn't be working extra hours every day. I think I had finally recovered from burnout the week before I had to start working again and it's all falling apart again already.
These are some great suggestions. I use some of these survival tools myself. Between digital (Google) calendar, alarm clock app, and a recently added time-block app--all on my phone--I'm managing to remember recurring things (daily meds, weekly trash night, etc) and appointments. The chores and the to-do list... that's where I struggle.
"Cap-Sync-Plan-oMate"
I'd like to add another tool that you described: post-its on a Do/Doing/Done board.
Thanks for this video! It's really insightful and helpful to see what organizing your daily life looks like from someone who's also neuro divergent.
The universe is definitely telling me to reevaluate my way of approaching to do lists because I don't think I'm supposed to feel stress and anxiety from trying to organize my life. 😅
I am the Same Exact Way when it comes to “if I can’t see it, I will forget about it”- but do you know what I was thinking about to resolve such a thing? The Wall of Shelves. That’s what I called it . Just fill a wall with a big, bookcase style structure (only it’s set up in squares) and that way when you walk into a room, all the things you’ll need to use are right there organized to taste
I was thinking that to start I will try a sum of plastic, stackable white ones crates. They have them cheap online or in dollar stores. I felt that the try out version is more viable at first since all the purchases I have had to make over the years in the pursuit of self/home organization has been a hefty burden on my bank account. But the structure itself will look nice, even if it’s in plastic. Then if it works out and I want something more formidable/permanent, I’ll do the same exact thing in white with wooded materials. I noticed a lot of blonde wood in your home - it would look just as nice :-)
Everything after 14:00 - thank you. "But my point is, if you struggle with systems, maybe the systems do need tweaking... but maybe also you simply need more help, and that's okay." That and the tone of your voice in the following sentence actually made me tear up a little. I wasn't expecting to have that reaction, but hearing you talk about and basically mirror my experience made me realise I've definitely been too hard on myself for this recently and I need to be kinder...
Your nice clear breakdown of the components (capture/sync/plan/automate) is mega helpful as well. It sounds so obvious now, but the idea of planning regular resets and prioritising making the system as easy possible to re-join are both things I never thought about doing, but which are probably actually key to getting something to work for me long term! Moreso that having the 'perfect' system in terms of functionality.
I think somewhere along the line I internalised the idea that planning for failure is planning to fail... but that's absolutely not true, it's actually a super smart move, especially for peeps with executive dysfunction, because that's both in and out of our control. Thank you so so much for your openness, and for putting this video out there!
Thank you so much for this video. I'm really struggling to get my daily life somehow sorted out and working. I've used bullet journal before, but now I got a bunch of ideas what else to try too.
Honestly I'm here for the catchy name! ;)
...and the reference to Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs!
For the visual Kanban app I highly recommend Trello, have used it personally and professionally for years. Also the one key aspect of Kanban is to have limits on the To Do and most notably the Doing column so your not trying to do too much at any one time.
My organisation system that I use for work and life comes across just as complicated to anyone else. 🤣 However it is also the reason I am good at job in Software Development Management, and my colleagues always call me the dyslexic, autistic, ADHD project manager. 😊
Thank you for sharing your system. I have also downloaded Tiimo to give it a go for personal organisation to see if it works with my current Keep, MS To Do, One Note, paper BuJo system! 😊
You tube is strange you get 600 new subs.
During a month off.
That is the alga rhymnns.
I'm so pleased your back on your channel.
My mate see your video and says your voice sounds so intelligent.
Why thank you, Gary's mate
I’ve been looking forward to this one! Now, off to watch!
The last 30 seconds of this video reminded me of film's Bridget Jones practicing sentence "So what do you think of the situation in Chechnya?".
My boyfriend has adhd and this helped so much thank u!!
WOW -- I have the EXACT same planning and organization system, from Google Keep to the bullet journal to the master to-do list to the personal khan ban board! For a while I was keeping my daily to-dos in my bullet journal carrying the incomplete items over each day, but I have started using post-it's to track my daily list, which includes both daily tasks (yoga, water plants, clean cat box, shower) as well as a few bigger tag items that I pull from my master to-do list as I complete them.
The only part where we differ is in tiimo and your fancy smartwatch. I have been using alarms on my phone for that. Maybe someday I'll invest in that upgrade! :)
Thanks for sharing your system! I feel validated and happy to have an organizing doppelgänger!
(Also you sound like the Swedish Chef at the end.) ;)
Thank you! I needed this, I'm in college and my executive dysfunction is really hurting me.
THE post it om a Whiteboard bra seems like THE system i need a home at work that also seems feasible and sustainable. Thank you for THE video.
Apart from forgetting, horrible time management, needing extra time for everything, but my biggest problem is procrastination from avoidance. Still struggling with it I’m afraid but some days are better than others.
Sooooo many wonderful ideas! Thank you for sharing! That post it note thing sounds awesome
Watching this twice to get all the ideas. I was listening to it the first round while preparing my breakfast. Now I’m going to watch while eating breakfast. Because Adult ADD. Thank you for sharing your experience. Neurodivergent 🧠🗓
Thinking back, I don't think I've ever actually been called lazy, it's a label I've attatched to myself for some reason. I have some kind of fear deep down that I'm "making excuses" when I tell myself I probably have ADHD and Autism (because I'm not yet diagnosed) especially for the last 2 years when sometimes I actually *haven't* given a crap. Turns out my particular brand of "not-giving-a-crap" is called depression, and coming out of that rut somewhat (or at least becoming more self-aware) has helped me figure out that it definitely isn't laziness that causes me to forget literally any task you tell me to do, or stare at my watch blankly and vaguely wonder why I didn't go to the bus stop 30 minutes ago to get to class, or why I got a big fat 0% on a module I loved because I never handed in any of the coursework on time, or why I missed 2 separate wedding livestreams of people I know in the last month....
I'm totally visual, too. So despite being a complete digital geek, my planner has to be a pen and paper bullet journal. On every pair of pages I set aside a small section with 3 half-lines for each day of the week and there I make a note of things that are coming up or that I intend to do on a specific day that week. Every day I make a fresh list for the day, adding things from the weekly list, things I didn't do or didn't complete the day before, and anything else I would like to do that day. BUT I'm *very* careful about how much I put on that list - I know my limits, and they're limited! If there's too much, I defer some things back to the weekly list for later.
I brain dump into an app called Tasks, which also serves as my "daily" reminder system of repeating tasks or things I need to do at certain times (although I HATE it when it goes off to remind me of something, LOL!).
I use Google Calendar to record calendar-y things, but its reminders are no good to me because they assume once I've seen a reminder I'll remember it and do something about it, and that's simply not the case. So date specific reminders go in Tasks so that I can keep being reminded until I actually do the thing (which is why I hate it).
I sync Tasks with my journal each morning when I set up my day.
Ohh yes I also don't think of something if I don't see it. I have a really pretty bullet journal that I don't open, but when I started tearing out pages and pinning them to a bulletin board, all of a sudden I notice them!
My favorite idiom is butter my back and call me a biscuit. I have no clue what it means but it sounds hilarious
Never heard that but it’s hilarious
I've always heard it as, "Butter my buns..."
Brilliant thanks Sam keep us posted as to how your methods develop!
Hi, I have ADHD, and I am seeking an ASD diagnosis soon. Firstly, wanted to say, thank you! Thank you for making these videos and sharing your life. And secondly, I am very interested in your thoughts on having comorbid ADHD. Masking was the revelation for me, and then all the learning has come after that. I am learning so much from your videos - I honestly feel like I have this really funky flavour version of executive function and working memory deficit, so I am open to trying a new system. I appreciated the way you articulated this because I realize I need something that accommodates my ASD too. Keep up the great work
Many thanks! I have a simpler system maybe because I tend to hyperfocus and no do many things at a time. When I tried years ago it was a real mess.
I also use Google Calendar as my main plan and reminder. However, what do you use for your life plan? I mean, sometimes in life you need to stop and think what you want to do with your life. Do you have any system/hepl for that? Thanks and keep going!
Lol I love bujotokndan or whatever it was. That was awesome.
u r a blessing... not diagnosed but I think I must be somewhere on the spectrum... between that and BD my executive function is quite deficient...
Nameless It best to watch Tony Attwood talk on aspergers in women.
To see a clinicion study on autism representation in women to see if you have autism or not.
I don't know if you are female.
Because you are called name less.
Super helpful video, i like the idea of post it notes i will try that system thanks 🙏😍
Your logical approach is breezy, fluent even. You're doing ok Samdy ;)
I've started using a digital personal kanban just a few days ago! I like the flexibility of it. I also started Habitory for daily habits. The way I make it work for me is "I would like to do at least one of the habit, and if possible more", no pressure. I don't think Tiimo is for me though, I don't like being told what to do :p (even if I'm the one who sets the alerts..)
Hii, thanks for all the videos!!! They are incredible!
Do you have ideas to organise flexible study planners? I'm having some difficulties at college with this.
Thank you for this. Especially the last part about the L word. I have tried so many systems over the years and I just can’t get them to work. I get so overwhelmed.
I’m so happy to have found your channel. I’m working my way through. Do you have any tips about meal planning or the like (or ways of not meal planning but not getting overwhelmed)? It’s the bane of my existence. Well, not really, but it feels that way.
Omg I had no idea there was a name for my post it method!!! I use the Trello app and print off my post it notes and hang them up on the wall. Sometimes I use physical, color coded notes when I need to step up my life-organization (aka everything is falling apart and I need to get back on track
What type of smartwatch are you using and do you recommend it?
I've been watching your videos and I've thought that maybe you could talk about the difference between being a higly sensitive person and an autistic person. Specially for women this can be pretty confusing. I don't know where I fit and I think that for many adult women this could be extremely helpful. Thanks :)
Yes, this! I am haunted by this question!
planning is so hard for me! one week i'll be working and the next week im not (im a babysitter), so its hard to plan concretely what I should be doing at what time each day. I tried tiimo, but i had a hard time with it and gave up. the whiteboard method sounds really good, though! I may need to watch your other video on tiimo to learn how to use it better.
I coined my own idiom: To play with wolf cubs. (Doing something dangerous).
I’m really curious what support you’ve been able to access in the Netherlands. I’m a 27 year old woman and have just been diagnosed, I’m in the UK and don’t know where to start, what’s available, or what would even be helpful. Would love to see a video on this topic.
do you think aspies just have a greater need for organisation to feel 'safe' and like everything is under control? before i was aspie, i always used to write down what i would wear every day, what i would eat every day, what i was doing every day, literally every minute detail down to the finest things. i do this as an adult but more like the big stuff rather than what i wear! but i still keep everything colour coordinated in my wardrobe and like to organise literally everything to make my life less stressful. i wonder if aspies just do this naturally? x
Thanks for the organizing ideas! Thoughts on an episode topic: do an episode on how bad 'love on the spectrum' reality show is. Most of my issues with the show is NT interference is just screwing them all up.
Two-for-one Swedish idioms I love. The cow is on the ice (the shit is about to hit the fan). There's no cow on the ice (don't even worry about it, it's fine) ....
Used an English idiom to describe a Swedish one. Thankfully this one actually makes sense. A cow on the ice would be terrible but the second phrase would have confused me if I didn’t understand the first two idioms. 😂
thanks for tiimo intro! find it great! I use it in combination with notion (for base organisation) using calendar sync works well. Also diagnosed with ADHD, now wondering if maybe autism too? I really relate with the way you talk and issues you have. Did you get autism diagnosis? are there any benefits of getting it?
I have not seen cloudy with a chance of meatballs but the joke was still adorably hilarious to me
*"Never, never, never give in. Success is falling down and getting back up one more time -- without end."*
~ Winston Churchill & Jim Collins
From the book How the Mighty Fall: *www.jimcollins.com/books/how-the-mighty-fall.html*
Late to this. Thanks so much. Hope you're well.
Will do a watch when I can fully focus 💕 but just wondering if anyone else finds organisation itself sometimes becomes just another thing on the to-do pile? Like I saw someone had mentioned bullet journals, and I have tried to keep health/diet/mood diaries at various points of my life with varying success. But whenever anyone suggests those things to me now I feel like "you want me to do ANOTHER thing!?" Please tell me I'm not alone 😅💕
Oh I have a long line of tried and discarded methods (including "proper" bullet journalling!)
Oh this! You're not alone
40k subs congratulations we all did it together.
Getting from only 1k to 40k.
Oscar Wilde quote.
I remembered loads.
The best quote by him for unmasking.
"Me yourself because everyone else is already taken".
On aspergers intelligence.
I like this quote also by Wilde.
"I'm so clever I can't only stand a single word that I'm saying".
Sam you probably know Google Oscar Wilde quote now.
His quote make me laugh and mean more to my life that Shakespeare lines.
I don’t get what sort of things we are supposed to note down in the capture step 😫
Lot nice tips. I got take it one day at time. I have fallen into an unorganized chaos state the last 2 years. I lost my job, then lot my close relationships from isolating, got depressed, and have lost all structure. Similar to how I was from age 19-23 again. Had 6 years where felt stable and structures. Where I was working with relationships. So relapse is a possibility sadly
I am having difficulty figuring out which things are rocks, pebbles and sand... Almost everything seems important and urgent but the things that don't probably should.
Thanks for the great video, I will apply some of these to my life! I had to watch it twice because the first time I got so hyperfocused on how the blouse makes your eyes pop, which led me to a mental rabbit hole thinking about color theory 😀 lol #adhd
Favorite idiom - "I'll burn that bridge when I get to it"
4 minutes and 24 seconds into the video I realised I loved you.
I find her funny because I can relate. If you do not experience any of the problems she is describing, this channel will not be a very good source of advice for you. Nevertheless, it is always good to learn and gain a better grasp on matters like this, as a lot of people in my life for example (an ADHD student) have told me that I am "lazy" and need to "just get on with it". DEFINITELY will be subscribing:) #bekind
The 'BuJourGeThDKantion' bit made me laugh sooo much 😂😂😂
Sort of off-topic, but guys, can you advise. I've had my suspicions about myself for many years (I'm 33). I've JUST reached the stage where I've compiled all my experiences and I'd really like to pursue a diagnosis. BUT...
Is now a bad time? Is the pesky pandemic gonna put a spanner in the works? I'm in the UK and currently my GP will only speak to me over the phone. Should I wait until things are "normal" to pursue this?
I feel like it would make sense to wait, but I've got energy for this NOW and the bit's between my teeth and I don't wanna drop it (almost sounds a little autistic dunnit). What should I do?
Definitely going to try some of these things even though I am not diagnosed with anything. But if these strategies will help me with my lack of consistent organizational life skills I will do them. I recently started dumping things in keep that are swirling but I’ve already stopped checking it consistently. >.
Disclaimers are incredibly important for those that do not understand their accountability for themselves.
is getting overwhelmed by simple tasks and dropping the task because its overwhelming an autistic thing? curious cause that's very much something I do
Is the third video of the series out yet?
How do you make a daily prioritisation? Somehow on low days things like eating and showering sneak into my list…and I don’t know if this actually belongs there but it feels like a “task” on bad days to be proud to have completed 🎉 but I generally have problems formulating my points to do because I can’t decide to what level of detail I should get, and then I realise I can’t write properly anyway, my feet get cold and I go look for some chocolate…. Greetings from burn-bore-out audhd lost in space …😅
You're so funny, I love it! I hadn't seen the thing your catchy method name was referencing, but it made me laugh anyway just because it sounded funny :)
I came here hoping for tips to get organized. BUT turns out i'm already doing all the same things you do. I just don't have a Tiimo. I just use Google Calendar and add notifications for all the entries.
When you talked about having co morbid adhd I just nodded cause I thought thats what you had and were referring to when you were saying neurodivergent
I use a bullet journal, google cal, Todoist, OneNote, and I’m trying out tiimo. Oh yeah, forgot my Kanban board...
Thank you 🙏✨✨✨
Fabulous app is also good!
Can you do a video on autism and stimuli headaches/migraines?
So much my own experience.
thanks for this video very helpful