Im going through one of the most painful breakups I have ever experienced. 8 years with the woman I was ready to marry and now she is gone and already trying to move on with the wrong people. I have watched so many videos with long lists of behaviors they recommend, but this video shows me the core of where those behaviors should come from. It brings clarity. That I am not following a list of things but rather when I put myself in the proper headspace those things will flow freely. This allows me to be more genuine in my interactions with my ex, as a friend and someone who deeply loves them. I wish I had seen this video when we were still together but that is just my attachment mindset creeping in. I want to be present in my interactions unencumbered by the weight of our past and my current fears. Whether this change brings us back together or not it is something I need for myself.
What about just wanting to interact with someone? Why is everyone so hung up over control? Maybe you just want to share ideas and engage with the other person.
How can they allow me to love them for who they are if they are invested in hiding the reality og who they are? Also... when are we allowed to say; hey, you treat me below my worth so I need to take a step back. This sounds like buddhism wants me to become a doormat.
Sounds like a lot of defensiveness on your end, friend. The entire point of this practice is to remove your expectations from these situations, causing less suffering on your part and making it less likely that your actions will read as inauthentic or demanding a specific outcome, causing an unwanted reaction from someone else. You cannot control anyone but yourself, you do not have to interact with people that treat you poorly but you can wish them well from afar. It is not up to you to decide the reality of another person, or to control their narrative. If you are trying to change or force them to be anything other than what they want to be, you are not loving them authentically. That is the point of this video.
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@wayfarerslaurel It might sound like that to you and thats okay. I appreciate the effort but your reply has not helped me gain more clarity on my questions.
Im going through one of the most painful breakups I have ever experienced. 8 years with the woman I was ready to marry and now she is gone and already trying to move on with the wrong people. I have watched so many videos with long lists of behaviors they recommend, but this video shows me the core of where those behaviors should come from. It brings clarity. That I am not following a list of things but rather when I put myself in the proper headspace those things will flow freely. This allows me to be more genuine in my interactions with my ex, as a friend and someone who deeply loves them. I wish I had seen this video when we were still together but that is just my attachment mindset creeping in. I want to be present in my interactions unencumbered by the weight of our past and my current fears. Whether this change brings us back together or not it is something I need for myself.
Am in the same situation except we are married with three kids. She has an addiction
@@Northstar2000 Sorry to hear. Your situation sounds even worse than mine.
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What about just wanting to interact with someone? Why is everyone so hung up over control? Maybe you just want to share ideas and engage with the other person.
How can they allow me to love them for who they are if they are invested in hiding the reality og who they are?
Also... when are we allowed to say; hey, you treat me below my worth so I need to take a step back.
This sounds like buddhism wants me to become a doormat.
Sounds like a lot of defensiveness on your end, friend. The entire point of this practice is to remove your expectations from these situations, causing less suffering on your part and making it less likely that your actions will read as inauthentic or demanding a specific outcome, causing an unwanted reaction from someone else. You cannot control anyone but yourself, you do not have to interact with people that treat you poorly but you can wish them well from afar. It is not up to you to decide the reality of another person, or to control their narrative. If you are trying to change or force them to be anything other than what they want to be, you are not loving them authentically. That is the point of this video.
@@wayfarerslaurel Hand by hand .Heart by heart.Honestly,awareness,Compassion,loyalty,trust, commitment, communication,caring,respect,forgiveness,romance and time with a healthy space ❤️
@wayfarerslaurel It might sound like that to you and thats okay. I appreciate the effort but your reply has not helped me gain more clarity on my questions.