Uk Social Services Targeting African Families?/ A Must Watch For All Parents
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- Uk Social Services Targeting African Families? / A Must Watch For All Parents
Some helpful tips to avoid social services issues in the UK
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Thanks for sharing. May our children knowingly or unknowingly NOT put us into trouble in Jesus name, Amen 🙏. May God help us all 🙏
Amen o
Amen . I pray this too.
It's not the children that put parents in trouble. It's parents who bring with them their child rearing skills that don't pass muster in the West. Unlike in Nigeria, children in the West are protected from abusive parents and schools and health services are the first line defence in this
Amen
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Awww, thank you so much
You can say that again
You can’t blame them. Our behaviour and culture is different from them. These are things that will never change regardless of all the protests and complaints that we make. These are things we sign up for when we move to a different country.
Yeah but they shouldn't be surprised when we answer smack to them.We are also tax payers.Speak for yourself hun.
They ask everyone, is a routine for them, abuse happens in both black and white family. Don't stereotype that is how the system works🌺🙂
Thanks for sharing this Tochi, very well put together. There are many types of jobs that can be done from home, we are in the gig economy, I will encourage parents to make the sacrifices and retrain, especially if both parents are having to work long hours. Tochi had an episode with Kingsley from Codehance a few months ago, I join his training program after watching it and my training is going very well. My goal is to work fewer hours and make more money in the future. This country can be tough, let's not overdo things and Child Protection is an industry of its own here, you don't want your name or the name of your family in their record.
Wow, good to know about your training with Kingsley, well done 👍. Please where are you based?
@@TochiEsther please can you share the link to the interview video
Good morning thank you so much
This is serious oo Tochi....
What about sending the children back home to grow up and be cultured in Africa...... Won't it stop most of these nonsense??? Atleast bring them over when they must have grown and known where they are coming from....
Because the way kids are trained here makes them end up to be reckless, every street in UK is filled with mannerless kids smoking and partying here and there. They don't have regard for their parents or elders. Even our African people that bring their kids over, under 1year or 2years of being in the UK, they talk back to their parents, they keep acting mannerlessly and do anyhow because you are prohibited from disciplining them.
I have a friend who has 2 daughters 8yrs and 5yrs, but they are just ill mannered, they have only been here for 1yr and 6months now, they can't do anything, their mom does everything including to carry their plates and wash them after every meal.
A child of 8yrs in Africa is already responsible to some extent and atleast can wash plates, can respect mum and dad and even have respect and regard for visitors when they visit their parents.
But over here everything is Zero and the kids ends up rotten, at the end of the day and when they grow old it becomes very clear to them that the have children but same time lack children because they didn't train them in a way they should grow.
Kids aren't animals to be "trained", in your words, and typically in the words of a lot of African parents. You've just proved the point of why there may be heightened concern
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I think they ask all kids questions regardless of the race. I used to work in a nursery and I heard a teacher asking a girl about her mom and his new bf. Apparently her parents just divorced and they are concerned about the child’s welfare. Also the questions they ask pregnant women and new moms are routine because they are vulnerable and prone to depression
Don't be easily decived....
What's our sexlife got to do with them? Can they not just come directly and ask us instead of involving our kidd? That's disgusting behaviour.
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Thanks for this video Tochi
This video is so timely. Thank you Tochi
Thank you madam Tochi I am really grateful for this information as coming from Ukraine to uk I really needed this thank you
Always on point Tochi. Thanks for the enlightenment
Thanks tochi,for this video
Thanks so much Tochi for this video and information... more grace ma'am Amen 🙏🙏🙏
I am a social worker and to be honest child proceedings is the very last result. There are hardly any foster carers so I would not assume that social workers are looking to take children in to care. However even I have changed the way I raised my children which is different from my own cultural upbringing. Those newly moving to the UK must also adapt.
How is it working for you please? I have 3, 5 and 8 year olds and I am worried about them going astray/getting lost in the enabling systems in UK.
What nonsense, UK is the only country in the world that has more social workers than doctors. Government obviously wants to steal more and more kids . They reduce the legal threshold to steal children more and more, "future emotional harm" is the latest harvesting method for them. Social workers must have an incentive scheme to steal children.
There is a whole secret legal system behind it all , social workers seem to be encouraged to ignore the laws. Childrens' Act laws were changed in the Tony Blair era that encouraged adoption , child stealing. Council's receive £33,000 for each child they take for adoption (increased in April) and every children's service directors has a limited company with huge contracts. Care home stays cost more than the most expensive private school. Foster agencies now change hands for billion pounds and more !
You must wonder about the intentions if you study all this, not only financial.
@@mrafam626don't bring kids to the UK, they're big money to social services. Adverts for social worker jobs even state they must have a passion for adoption. That'll be because of the adoption bonus. These animals will lie and tell you that they don't make money from adoption, but a major newspaper shamed a local authority, and that was just one. I don't know how these evil parasites sleep at night. I've more respect for drug dealers and sex workers, and that's saying something, but they don't steal children.
Thank you so much ma’am Tochi for sharing this important and useful tips to us.
I must drop all this African style of training a child ooo here at home,not even in the airport. I pray that our children will not put us in trouble, Amen
I pray I will not make any mistake that will lead to any social workers coming to my home,Amen. Thanks so much tochi. I appreciate your efforts
Like seriously, since I made up my mind to travel to UK, I have implemented a no spank policy in my house, if I can do it for 6 months b4 we travel, it would be easier to continue, and the kids will have forgotten it and will be used to new forms of discipline.... it's not been easy so far...but it's getting better everyday.... being intentional is key
Thanj you for giving anaccurate and balanced information about why social workers get involved.
Tochi thank you for this video
Honestly
This has been my thoughts
Child care is difficult here
I think it applies to immigrants and non immigrants
But like you said we prayerfully strike a balance
Thank you for this
It’s timely and practical
Hello Femia how are you doing hope you’re having a great time with your family may God bless you and your family
Very informative thank you so much
Thank you Tochi! You are on point...May God help my hubby and I. My kids can talk hmm
May God help us all o
@@TochiEsther Amenoooooo 🤣🤣🤣
Thanks for all these videos because this will really guide us and it’s helpful too🙏🙏🙏.
Thank you for watching
It's very normal to ask pregnant women such questions because they are vulnerable.
Okay
Did she tell them that she felt vulnerable?
Hmmm..awesome insights
Its not directed to Africans only..it’s just how the system works. I have lived over 12 years here and mum of 3. I also worked in the system.
Thanks for this.
Poor and low income families, sick single mothers, etc... Africans come under that category and blacks are quite aggressive.
Worked? That says it all.🙄
Thanks for 100% useful content. You are doing well.
You said it @3:36; "Here in the UK, children are very important...". The implication is that in a lot of African countries, societies and communitirs, children are not viewed as important. This is so true. Children are almost the property of their parents. Children's agency is not respected. And, this sometimes boarders on abuse, coersion and neglect, couched as discipline or to use the words of many parents, "training"! Or, that old chestnut "... it's our culture and tradition..", as if relating in a toxic way to children is something to be proud of. It's a lame and lazy excuse! Of course, there will be instances of stereotyping, profiling and even racism, when it comes to the lens of social services, but 'the culture' also has a lot to answer. As for the idea that Africans are loud v Europeans are quiet, have you heard how, for instance, white working class northerners (that's my observed experience) speak with each other?
Cases of abuse occur often with 'imported' wives where the African husband brings in a wife and proceeds to abuse and control her. There are so many such cases so the midwives are trained to look out for such cases and will take the opportunity to converse with the wife when they have access to her without her husband. Some imported wives are scared to talk because their African husband's threaten to have them deported.
Truth. There is a TH-camr who has many videos of imported wives true stories- Auntie B on Obodo Oyinbo tv, very eye opening.
Thanks for this Tochi,
Lol I got asked at A and E when taking my child there if 'I' am a British Citizen. I was not the one ill my child was.I told the lady at the reception that I am from Mars. 🙄😒
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Thanks tochi for this video 🙏🏽 I’m a new mom,am always scared of this social worker Walaha but like you said bring them up in the Christian way .
Exactly. God will help us
They came to check my daughter and they kept asking if my husband helps me at home. They even asked if my husband beats me, I was like seriously? She even said I can confide in her to protect me. Lol
Thank you Tochi for this video. Can you make a video about mission schools for kids in the UK.
I am interested.
God bless you for this Tochi
This reminds me of when a nurse asked me to leave the room after my mother-in-law passed away because it was a family time. I was there holding my mixed race child and she thought I was a nanny. I was so heartbroken by my mother-in-law's death to fully understand why I left the room wondering what is going on. 💔
So sad 😞
Thank you for sharing
Thank you for this
I think those questions they ask are general questions they ask all mothers here coz my LO is just 3 months and when the midwife was coming she asked all those questions the health visitor also does the same too.
Alright, thank you
@@TochiEsther uwc
No everyone is asked these questions I have been midwife for over 20 years
Funny how I never got asked that when pregnant with my biracial child. Her father is white by the so this does sound strange to me.
Tochi thanks for this. I am in the middle of this. I am still in shock. My advice, spell dos and donts to kids early.
And yes don't throw things at your children.....unbelievable video
Na wa oh,me and my own child again. God abeg oh
Great job Tochi! Be deliberate with your kids and spouse. Self control is key! Like my father's saying " A moment of thoughtlessness causes costly pains" May God help us all.
Amen o
I just want to ask, how do you discipline a child when he/she does something wrong?
There are a lot of discipline that works without yelling or hitting...
We simply discuss the consequences for each action and for any misbehaviour, there is a consequence. However do well to give consequences that match the offence. For instance a child gets 3 extra days of washing when he fails to wash the dishes...another one is withdrawal of privileges...Also you can ignore and revisit the matter when you are calm. There are many things you can do and cant type all
Take there phone/tv/books/game system’s ECT off them.
Boredom is the best punishment.
A child will rather be shouted at than have nothing to do.
Thanks tochi for this video, it is Educative
Thank you so much Tochi...
The turning garri part was really funny 😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣
That's true fact, the turning garri and slippers made us turn out the way we did today.... We learnt Good Values today and became who we are today because of these disciplinary actions.
But check the kids abroad where discipline and values are lacking and see for yourself.
In my opinion It depend on the the area you are living in . it depend on your circumstances and the place you like in Uk.
I tell you of a facts taking children from African is a big business in some parts of UK whereby lies are fabricated.
Well said. Thank you
Na wa ooo. Which kind of over sabi is this? This questions they ask, are invasive. Parenting is for parents not for teachers. You people staying in these countries are really trying. I just can't.
Very important points
I was a children social worker and I don’t believe A midwife would refer you to social services if you told them your husband wasn’t helping you out. Midwives and Health Visitors have a duty to ask these questions because a lot happens behind closed doors. I was asked the same when I had my 1st and 2nd born. They ask questions about your mental health so I don’t particularly feel that black families are being targeted however, it is well known that majority of parents from BAME has a very unhelpful imposing boundaries and discipline and I have dealt with Nigerian families who just think beating a child is the right and only way to get a child to behave. Trust me the amount of work that goes into removing a child(ren) from their family and a good social worker would do everything to ensure that they support the family to prevent a child being place in care.
Thank you for this
A lot of people do not understand this, they always see social workers as if we out to get them
What naive nonsense, foreign children do seem to be targeted from what I read. There have been high level government complaints to UK government about stealing of kids, especially from Eastern Europe. It's just NOT NORMAL, that families leave the country to get away from these tyrants. Social workers always deceive themselves that they are doing good things, by breaking laws, they are truly despicable people.
YOU ARE THE MOST HATED PEOPLE IN THE UK
Tochi you are indeed a beautiful soul
Thanks for sharing
Thank you so much for things
My friend raised his voice on
Thank you for taking the time to explain to us
They are just doing their Job. It’s not about the culture. We are all trained to ask this question at some point and we know when. It’s not because of the culture. I have asked this same question to whites as well. It’s not really what you think. It’s called safeguarding and they are trained to do so.
Really?why would they ask my then 5 year old child if me and my then Ghanaian boyfriend if we take 'white powder?' Where on earth did that come from? Also that he was verbally abusive towards me because he speaks loudly, he is just naturally loud. YOU think we are dumb and don't know what's going on? I will sue the next person whosoever comes at me with that crap ever again.I broke up with a very good man because of people like you because I was afraid to lose my child.Shame on you.Job my foot.😒🙄
My sister had a baby in New York City they ask they same question
Okay
Children observe and speak when you allow your pastor friend to tell you HOW to bring up your child.
There have been so many high-profile cases of abuse, particularly of children, in this country that we would not feel these people were doing their job if they did not ask these questions. They are trying to identify problems before they escalate, and if they do have concerns their role is to help, not to scare you. It happens to everyone with children and has nothing to do with race, colour, cultural background, but everything to do with trying to ensure the safety of mother and child. Years ago, it didn’t happen and concerns would be ignored, resulting in the deaths of small, helpless children. The public and the authorities would never forgive a professional who allowed such things to happen today.
Any country that allows newborn babies to be stolen from mothers for ANY reason is not doing that to help babies. The threshold for stealing children was lowered to including "future emotional harm" which can be construed as anything really. The social workers are nearly all women, mostly nasty ones. Often lesbians, often left wing, sonetimes ugly childless women who know nothing about children . They nearly always leave their own children in daycare centres, but that's all normal "emotional harm" to these crazy people.
Thanks Tochi
You are a beautiful lady and you speak beautiful English
It's part of their job to ask if you are ok.about the kids,they do target really😌
Thanks for the video. However, do social workers also ask these same questions to the Britons? Remember Children and women are overprotected over there
Yes they do, a lot of the times particularly if there are multiple partners involved and especially if they have had previous social work involvement. Social Workers will also ask questions relating to drinking and drugs, any history of domestic abuse, your own history of being parented etc. there aren’t set questions for black families only or British families only as an holistic assessment has to be done however, I do believe things like Female Genital mutilation (FGM), Breast Flattening and Forced Marriages and Honour base killing maybe asked of people of Black and Ethnic Minorities and British may not be asked the same because it isn’t an issue that is common within their culture. Issues of Radicalisation and Extremism are also asked of both BAME and British ❤
Same problem in all western Europe countries. All talk about human right and democracy...its all gone
when my first son was four he banged his head while playing football and had a concussion with a big bump on his head so I called an ambulance.when they arrived I told them what had taken place .my son had also told the lady how he banged his head.At the time I was seven months pregnant. I went to use the toilet,while I was gone this lady who is the ambulance worker asked my son did your mummy bang your head? my son said I banged my head while playing.she then asks my son how often does your mummy smack you?I dont beat nor have I ever smacked my children. I only always talk to them, so my four year old son was very offended by her statement.She then said said to him how many times does your mummy smack you? and where does she smack you?does she smack you like this?that was the final straw for my four year old son.He told her straight I dont know what your talking about.He then asks her are you deaf or just plain stupid? you've asked me and I have told you. Are you trying to get me to lie??? ahh so my son looks at this women confused.her work colleague asks what's going on.My son then complains,saying she keeps on repeatedly telling me how my mum hits and smacks me but that's not true.I come back from the toilets and my friend burst out laughing telling that your son just told her off, she was trying to put words in his mouth.
You said it all 👍🏾
Social services should be practicing cultural competence regarding those of different ethnicities. They ask the majority of those questions to everyone as safeguarding is important however some questions they will ask specifically to those from certain cultures for example they may ask about fgm
That is classed as racial profiling not all Africans practice that.I find being asked that to be very disgusting,considering my Country doesn't do that.
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All social workers are always doing their job by asking if you have family support network.
Hummmm! Na wa ooo. It is well.
My wife was on the fone with her friend discussing about this issue few minutes ago
Hmmm
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On the institution. If a psykic deny the crime then they question the neglect. Its the same principle....if they take a child based on that a father wait in car outside kindergarten while mother go inside and bring child...and when father question how they think. They question why father dont understand...and that itself is proof this man is a bad father
Good evening Tochi, please how can I get a health care job in UK without health care experience
Help me how to come UK please, am Peter from Kenya currently working in Qatar
Wow...
First
Tochi
Tochi like what age will someone live at home cause I have 8years And 15years. Am almost close to the UK
We Africans sound aggressuve? Not all Africans just Nigerians.
What about using social services to get papers.
I took my son to short stay emergency after he had a fall in school with an injury. The nurse asked me to provide all the names of the children below 18 years old and this was the first time that I have been asked this question, she also asked if we are under a social worker, I answered no, I gave her the details of my other children I just couldn't be bothered to ask why she needed this details bearing in mind it was a fall in school.
Maybe it is something new whereby they have to ask about other children when one takes their child to a hospital.
Hi tochi pls what is the age limit for child care cos I have a 12yr old
Some of the questions might sound intrusive , and biased but in my experience even white clients get annoyed with the questions during assessments, but in most cases this is part of the process.Maybe in isolated cases it could be racial profiling
Nope social workers are just doing their job as child protection workers. Your children tell teachers how you are yelling and shouting at that CHILD for making a mistake.
So men are actually the victims here. No one get to ask men this questions
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Wow, please get the facts right before making biased comments and misinforming others.
I think it’s not directed at blacks, I remember when I was pregnant and went for antenatal care with my husband, the midwife told my husband to excuse us and asked a lot of questions on abuse and help, thought it was weird but when I looked through their booklet and things to expect during pregnancy I realised those questions were part.
Please stop spreading lies. I am a social worker and work for social services, There are some Africans parents that put work before their children and refuse to adapt to the UK culture. My children are now 27,23 and 21. As a family we have never had any involvement with social services. I have been in the UK all my adult life. The questions asked when you are pregnant are routine. There are parents who leave their children home alone to go for night duty or travel to Africa. Please you should have checked the statistics before making this video. You seem to be generalising without having first hand information. Please take your time and learn before misleading people. There is a family whose children burnt to death after being left unattended over night, according to you social services should be parenting African children. Please sis you are biased
No she is not, I stand here to defend this lady because her video is balanced in all senses.
@@bonniesalima1478 I stated facts as someone who works in the system. In your opinion is social services targeting African families? You can put the evidence here to back up her claims. The abuse that goes on African families both towards children and women is out of this world and as professionals we will not turn a blind eye. The culture here is different. Leaving your child over night without an adult in the home is neglect according to the law. You either have to change the law or adapt otherwise social services will be on your case.
What lie is she spreading? It was a fantastic advice to all parents especially African parents.
@@moniladephilips7439 the advice is good however, social services is no targeting African families
@@namagembe67 ma, you obviously read this post biased. Tochi gave real life examples of the happenings in the UK and even encouraged parents on how to balance work and home.
She NEVER expressly stated that the Social workers were targeting black and just so you know, I was also born in UK and same questions were asked my mum, and when they visited us, they kept asking/probing mum to know if dad was offering support and help.
Tochi kind of gave a heads up for those who this is their first time aboard and what to expect.
Tochi dear, keep up with the good works.
i want you to help me with the process. then we will talk about the benefits aswell.. bless u.