Natural Birth Gone Horribly Wrong | Emergency C Section + A Big Announcement!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 29 ก.ค. 2020
- Originally this video was going to be titled something like Second Child: What I’ll Do Differently This Time And What I Won’t Change. I actually had no plans to ever share my first birth story, but I realized that sharing what I’ll do differently this time wouldn’t mean nearly as much unless you know the back story of why I’ll do things differently and what I’m trying to avoid this go ‘round. This is going to be a very long story so consider yourself warned.
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I'll be sharing the physically and emotionally traumatic story of how my dream natural birth turned into an emergency c section with general anesthesia. It's definitely still hard to relive. Even though you physically heal from a traumatic birth experience, emotional healing takes much longer, if you even ever fully "get over it".
I know to some our story may not really seem "traumatic", but until you've experienced your hopes and dreams and everything you've worked so hard for ripped out from under you right as you're at the finished line, it's hard to truly understand.
Giving birth is a very emotional experience for most women and when a birth doesn't go the way you hoped and worked for, it can be a very difficult thing emotionally.
I’m so thankful for my sweet, healthy little girl but the way she entered the world couldn’t have been much farther from what I worked so hard for. It was a very traumatic experience for both my husband and I, as well as my mom. Poor Eric didn’t know what was going on. No one had stopped long enough to inform him and he didn’t even get directed to the right place to find us.
In hindsight, the birth of my first would have most likely turned out very differently had she actually been head down and in the proper position. As fast as my labor went even with her being breech, she most probably would’ve been born at my parent’s house or speeding down the interstate in a white Honda van.
Be sure and check out the next video of the things I'm doing differently this time around in hopes of achieving a natural vbac for our second child!
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This story is long and gets emotional but I'm sharing in hopes that it'll resonate with other moms and help them not go through the horrible experience that we got put in. Be sure and catch the next upload which is what I'm doing differently this time in the hope of achieving a natural vbac for our second child!
I'm sorry for what those people put you through! Everyone involved dropped the ball. Babies can most definitely be moved. My first two babies were both breech two weeks before birth and my sixtyish doctor moved them with his hands. I had my first six babies naturally but then I had to have an emergency section with my twin daughters at eight months because of the placenta becoming detached. My daughter gave birth to her son feet first because they didn't get her to the hospital in time. She was laboring in our small town hospital all night and they suspected that the baby was breech but the ultrasound lab was closed until 8 am. That made me angry that they made her suffer all night long as she was only 17 years old and giving her baby up for adoption. The adoptive mom and I were with her all night long then when the ultrasound confirmed he was breech they put her in an ambulance with the adoptive mom riding along with her and me following behind with my six month old son. She was only there ten minutes before she gave birth. I felt so sorry for her as they gave her a nasty episiotomy that she had to deal with after she came home. He's 22 years old now and a handsome young man. We're very blessed to have chosen such wonderful parents for him. Now I'm going to go look for how the birth of your next baby went!
My VBAC was a disaster due to scar tissue. My baby got stuck twice. Head and then shoulder dystocia. It turned out to be an emergency manouvre and suction cup delivery. They would not let me have an epidural as it can mask uterine rupture. It was a dreadful experience and my baby looked really bashed around, poor little guy.
For those criticizing your home birth...horrible things happen anywhere. My granddaughter almost died in hosp. Baby did die.😢
I don't know why but the thought of a VBac literally makes me lightheaded & gaggy! Both of my daughters are currently pregnant BOTH WITH 2nd baby& due within 10 days of each other & both having a Boy ❤❤ My oldest daughter had her 1st vaginal & my youngest had a C section they have offered her the choice for a VBac & she lives a hour from the hospital . I myself had all 3 of my babies via C & no option for a VBac & I support her choice to do a repeat C. No point in the risk of being stuck a hour out of help. She did make it to pushing & baby was literally about to exit & the doc called it & put her under... No time to do a spinal ...Daddy could not attend so there was a true Emergency & NO not comfortable with that risk! She said for her going to full labor & basically went thru all the labor to the point of delivery She said by far the C section was a breeze for her...NOT FOR ME !! But then again I have nothing to compare it to but she really handled it like a Boss but then again when she arrived at the hospital not knowing she was in real labor & yes she sure was she was 7.5 cm dilated & was at 9 cm within a hour of arriving to L&D.
Thank you for sharing your story. As a pediatric doctor and a woman, I'm so sorry for how you were treated (or rather, WEREN'T TREATED) to assure a safe labor and delivery experience. It's true that birth plans do have to change sometimes for the best of mother and baby health, but there are so many red flags throughout your interaction with the midwife starting when you first called when your water broke that could have helped you have a safe breach vaginal delivery or less traumatic c section experience. Better yet, they should have identified that she was not engaged and prepared for breach options. I promise that most of us doctors and healthcare workers DO care about our patients.
💕Brandi
The most important thing is that your baby is alive. You never know what can happen. I almost died at 23yrs old after giving birth to my twin daughters. I was worried about the babies and I spent 9 days in the hospital because I lost too much blood had to get emergency blood transfusion from 2 different donors. It was even more complicated too long to explain here . I am a Christian with enormous faith in God. When everyone thought I might not make it including myself I asked God to pls let me live because my daughters needed me. My twins are 36yr old now. I never forget what the Lord did for me.
I almost bleed to death too. I had preeclampsia? Did you by chance? Hemorrhaging is a risk in preeclampsia.
I know this is 3 yrs later but your video popped up in my reccomendeds and SWEETIE!...You just told my Birth Story with my 1st baby. Hearing you express your emotions surrounding your story have quite literally opened the flood gates as well as the many memories that have all of a sudden started filling my mind. The crazy part is some of these memories I have been told since, have all of a sudden become things that I not only remember now, but I feel like they happened yesterday😢 All of this to say, My son made it and will be 25 yrs old come July 27th❤ I realized that I have never truly worked through the trauma that I suffered. Im not to the point of even being able to voice my experience and tell my story but I am in therapy now as a result of watching your video. So, I just want to say Thank You and hopefully I can tell my story soon❤
Just want to mention why the obgyns are not keen on aversion. As cautious as they may be, there is always a risk of the placenta being ripped from the uterus in the process. This was how my best friend lost her perfectly full term baby in utero.
I was on research for a stillbirth experience on TH-cam bc I had one 2 days ago and I bumped into your story. Exactly the same happened to me. My midwife said it's all ok, you have all the time in the world but I don't felt like that. So I decided to go to birthcenter. I live 2hrs from the next hospital.... Long story short: after 36hrs of labour and tremendous pain, I ended up in a C-section, completely knocked out and the first thing I heard when I opened up my eyes was that my little baby girl Layla didn't made it. The doctor in the hospital says that loud and clear that this 3 midwives had murdered my baby. They've should known what's going on. With him as witness, I decided to go to the court and best the hell out of this murders! I know that it didn't bring my baby back to life, but I will prevent other pregnet lady's from this institution. Right know it's closed and all the ladys have sent to other midwives. I can't got pregnant again, they destroyed my hole life with their decisions. This was my first child and my last. I send you lots of love and all the best wishes for you and your family 💓
my deepest sympathy to you! God wants to use you, big time! That's the beauty of knowing God, thru Jesus; he uses all of our painful experiences to help someone else. May God somehow heal your broken heart! YES! You can see Layla in Heaven some day! I am going to hold you in prayer to receive Jesus as your personal Saviour, so you really WILL join Layla some day. BTW all babies go to Heaven.
I'm sorry this happened. Losing a child is the worst thing that can happen to you. There is no word that describes a mother who looses a baby. May God comfort you day by day and hold you in His loving arms.
Sending my condolences 🙏 🕊
Don’t give up…. You can do it❤
This is why I'll only have a hospital birth! There's so much that can go wrong that you can't plan for!
I work at a hospital in L&D. I have done this for 35 years. Trust me, many things go wrong with hospital births too. No birth is easy or guaranteed safe. I have had planned c-sections end in hemorrhage - funny enough, one was because the mom had hemorrhaged with her 1st vag delivery, so the doc wanted to “control” things this time. Hospital personnel are often unprepared and uneducated. They are eager to hire young new grad nurses with no experience, completely unfamiliar with birth or even any of its terminology. Doctors are usually not around, as hospitals are run by nurses. We only call the doctor when something goes wrong, and sometimes they take awhile after they are paged.
@@TubnQT you are completely correct in saying things can and so still go wrong in a hospital setting however every medical study and data Analysis shows home births to have both a higher mortality rate for mum and babies as well as more complications! In fact on average the data shows Babies born outside or a medical environment are THREE times more likely to die.
It's really concerning to hear about the poor care and lack of trained staff the facility you work at has ! In every country some hospitals are better than others however at least were I live the mortality rates and cases of malpractice are HEAVILY monitored and if they are found to be putting patients in danger they are closed ! Of course some smaller hospitals do not have the most advanced equipment and the top specialists tend to be based in larger cities but if a mother or baby is likely to need this higher level or support they will transfer them to the more appropriate facility. Of course things DO go wrong in hospitals however Drs use a combination of past experience and case studies to decide what approach to take like in the case you need mentioned a dr suggested a planned cesarean to have a better controlled delivery even though they tried to minimise risky there will ALWAYS be risks and the woman Haemorrhaging is one such risk! However you don't know what would have happened if she delivered naturally she could have still bleed only in that case she would have to be rushed to emergency surgery risking her and baby rather than her being in a sterile controlled operations room with Drs and anaesthetists already in the room to control the bleeding ! You talk about having young Drs who don't even know basic medical terminology delivering babies perhaps you should be reporting this hospital you work at because that's not how it happens in other facilities! Yes there are Jr Drs on the wards doing plenty of firsts that's how they learn and become the top registrars of tomorrow but they are never left alone to deliver babies with zero knowledge or experience and off that is happening where you work please report it! Can I ask why as a medical professional with so much L&D experience you choose to work it what you describe to be a dangerous and lawless facility? You sound fairly anti hospital birth so why are you working in a hospital facility opposed to community birthing ?
@@chloet182 good comment!
I’m the UL births are midwife-led. They are highly qualified and of course I’m not saying mistakes can’t happen but there are high standards generally I’m the UK ( I’m sure we could all find an exception , but generally great outcomes
@@india1422 the Uk is a different story. I'm in America and it's nothing like the personal home care you get there. I feel like women in the states take a big risk doing home births. That's just my opinion though
Oh, sister... This sounds so much like my own experience, I am having flashbacks. Including the part about waking up all drugged up, and seeing somebody showing me a baby. I literally was thinking "Is this my baby? Have I given birth? It must be my baby, they wouldn't be showing me just a sample baby..." Then I fell back to sleep.
I had eclamptic seizures during second stage labor at home. The midwife kept downplaying all the warning signs, hoping for a swift delivery, so she could avoid a hospital transfer. I am alive only because my doula stepped in and said "we have to go now". My hospital vbac (w/epidural) with the next baby was a deeply healing experience.
May God bless you with complete healing from your trauma.
Ugh...it's so hard when something that should be a beautiful experience turns out to be such a nightmare. I'm so sorry you had to go through that! So glad to hear that your vbac was such a good experience! I'm hoping and praying for a good, successful vbac for this one 💕
I will say that babies absolutely can flip full term and that it can happen without you feeling anything at all. My son was head down the entire pregnancy until 37 weeks and then was breech. By my next appointment he was head down again. I know several people with breech babies who flipped last minute and they had no idea either. Sometimes babies really do flip and where you never felt a lot of movement and had no late term ultrasounds, theres no way to know for sure what her position was.
She explained that if a baby is frank breach from the beginning, wedged in, they are not going to turn head down. Not the same as breach at some point during the pregnancy, it is very easy to tell whether they have been breach the whole time because they are literally bent over for some time after, as she also explained.
@@cindycreateforlife they can and do, but its less common. Just happened to another youtuber and she didn't feel her daughter flip
@@cindycreateforlife true - my firstborn was a frank birth & delivered vaginally. I was 19 and knew nothing. It was 1971. I was never told my baby was breech but back then there were no ultrasound machines. I never missed an OB visit and wasn't told my baby was breech. Thankfully, he was only 6 1/2 lbs and I'm nordi & tall, otherwise I doubt he would have survived. At some point during the final stages, I was knocked out. I woke up to no baby and being told I'd see him in the am (he was born at 9:30 pm. And they also lied to me when I was taken to the prep room (back then you got totally shaved "down there" and given an enema. All I wanted was my husband by my side & was promised I would see him again before giving birth, but that never happened. So I was left in a tiny room to labor, I don't know for how long (my labor was only 5 1/2 hours though) I saw both my hubby and my baby the next day but I still can't recall any details which I believe was due to some type of memory-loss drug. (my records show scopolamine was given so that explains that I guess) But my son, for weeks, was in a "frog" position due to being in my womb for a very long time in the frank breech position. Same as what's described here, his little lets would be up in the air when on his back, and when on his stomach, they were bent up high along his hips. And the dr said I might notice a huge bruise on one of his hips, which I assume was from his being stuck inside me. I assume I was knocked out and forceps likely used. I was never told as they didn't tell you anything much in those days. But I learned a few things when I wrote for our medical records when he was 12 had some learning disabilities. At that point I learned he had an 8/10 apgar at birth but was later found "complaining" (code word for distress back then) and they suctioned out a ton so stuff from his lungs and put hin on oxygern. I was never told any of this until I read the recores 12 yrs later. I doubt they would ever allow a vaginal frank breech birth today. And to think the OB who delivered him had the gall to tell my mother that I gave birth easily! LIke hell I did! I'm sorry for all who live with a traumatic birth event. I never thought of mine as traumatic until I really thought about it and listened to this story as the memory part really rings a bell as I have so many missing pieces. My next delivery was 12 yrs later, with no complications, 2 1/2 hr labor and only took 2 or 3 pushes. She was also breech but flipped the day prior to her brith. And I felt it!
Re: your Mom. My daughter’s labor was harder on me than my own labor! Mamas fight for their daughters!
All women who birth at home are definitely troopers. If my daughter want s to do this I will convince her not to hopefully. She knows how lucky she is we are both here. I had preeclampsia, so a home birth would never be an option for me. My second was the same and I hemorrhaged 8 hours after his birth. The OR was being made ready but my nurses saved me. No doctors were at the hospital when this happened. They did it all. They applied so much pressure to my uterus I was literally crying for my mom at 31 years old. It was worse than labor and delivery. I’m thrilled and blessed I made it to viability with both . I think in 2000 and 2001 it was 26 weeks. Can’t remember. Both came a month early and were low birth weight. My 1st was only 4 lbs so we didn’t go home for 10 days. She had to latch to a bottle and gain weight to 5 lbs. she slept in an easy bake oven as I call it.
I’m so glad you survived this. Glad baby lived too.
Can midwives help you in a hospital setting? Just curious.
My 39 year old daughter is having her third at home with JUST her husband, NO midwife, no doula……(?!?)
No doptone, to keep track of baby heart rate…..
Be medication if bleeding afterwards…..
Unbelievable.
We used to be emotionally very close, but not anymore.
I live in Texas, and she lives in South America….
Advice?!
I just want to validate how hard that experience must have been for you. I’m a NICU nurse and a doula and I’m so incredibly sorry for how you were treated. You have to trust the patients you’re taking care of and this culture of dismissing women needs to stop. There’s no reason that your birth experience had to be like that. If your medical team had been listening to you and properly taking care of you you would have had access to a much less traumatic birth experience for everyone involved. Thank you for sharing your story, you are incredibly strong ❤
I hope that it helps other expectant mothers to have the nerve to trust their instincts even if it means "going against" the "expert".
You do know you have post traumatic stress syndrome, right? My 3 kids were born before ultrasound and pain meds. It took me 4 years to get pregnant so I was closely watched. Dilated to 3 by my due date they put me in the hospital and on petocin. They did not have much experience with induction at that time and ran it full bore. My first daughter was born within. 3 hours. Braxton Hicks had gotten me to 3, I was not in labor at the start. So all that you had prolonged for so long I had crammed into 3 hours of vicious pain. My second daughter was also born in 3 hours, naturally. So don’t let anxiety game you, each time is all it’s own story! Second child was easy and a joy!
Wow .. I'm just speechless ! What you (and your husband and mom ) went through is absolutely unreal ! I'm so sorry you had to go through all that ! The way you told your story had me totally thinking to myself about what else was going to go wrong. All I could think about was how much pain you were going through ! I can't even begin to imagine!!! I feel so bad for you! The total incompetence of these so called medical professionals is unimaginable !!!! You're right. You went through a real life TV drama !!! I hope and pray that you're doing great now. You deserve a metal for what you've been through mama !!!!! I'm so happy that your mom was there when you needed her. Thank you for sharing your story. I watched every minute of it. You had me on the edge of my seat the whole time !
Oh Rachel, your mom told me this story a while back, but hearing it from you makes me cry. And poor Eric-I cannot imagine how he was feeling! Bless you all, and also, sweet Dr. D. He was with me during a difficult birth too, and was an angel. I can still see him passing me tissues as I cried and cried. It turned out to be wonderful birth in the end. I have so much faith that this little one’s birth will be a healing one for you. ❤️
It was hard to replay back through it detail by detail even more than 2 years later. I'm hoping and praying for a successful vbac with this one!
This brought me to tears… but also brought healing to my soul. I had the same experience as you did… my baby girl was born 7 months ago via emergency c section, after dilating to a 10 at home… also Frank breech, also history of breech births in the family. Thank you so much for sharing this- I don’t feel alone anymore ❤️
I'm so sorry that you had to experience that as well...you're not alone ❤️
YOU are a hero. I’ve been where you are and your closing remarks are SO true and an example for all of us in all situations … unless you have walked in that person’s shoes, don’t assume or “judge”. YOU don’t know. If you do (or don’t), the caring you provide can be the difference in a person healing. Support that person for what they tell you - the emotional and psychological damage that has been done can be more horrendous than the experience itself.
oh! don't I know that! ( see my comment above)
Love, love, love and prayers to your whole family! 💛💛💛💛💛💛💛🕯🙏 I was glued to the screen. Congratulations on coming through this, Sweet mama. I’m an old lady, by the way. 👵🏼🧶🧶🧶🧶🧶🧶🧶🧶 hahaha
I usually don’t comment on videos but I thought I’d share with you my experience because it’s similar to yours about not remembering holding your baby for the first time. When my son was born they had given me Stadol which is a medication that blocks sensation in your brain as a pain relieving method. You still feel the pain but you are so out of it that you don’t care. I remember them handing me my son and seeing him for the first time and not caring at all. The medication had inhibited my ability to “bond” with him at all. Nursing him for the first time, seeing him, holding him, I remember those moments but I have no feeling associated with them at all. No overwhelming love. It’s devastating. I actually went on to develop postpartum depression because of it, I will never get that chance back to feel those feelings. I’m so sorry you experienced losing those moments.
I’m so so sorry this happened! I also received Stadol and it made me so sick I couldn’t even hold my baby girl I couldn’t even sit up they had to give me so many different drugs to counteract the other it’s not even funny when I said I didn’t want any pain medication all!!! I just had a nurse come in and she was giving me a couple different meds through my IV and when she got to the last one I asked what they were because she had only stated that one was for nausea but I tasted something as she administered one and I felt this instant feeling like my head felt like it weighed fifty pounds…and I was just so HIGH from it and when she told me what it was I went OFF and said “why would you administer a pain med I didn’t ask for or need or ask my permission to do so!!!??” And then the room started to spin and I had a horrible reaction to it so they had to give me different meds to fix the affects it was giving me! I literally couldn’t hold my neck up for hours! My dad came it and I said “dad I am so f$*@ed up!” And I never cursed in front of my father! I was mortified but reading your comment I now know why….because it makes you so out of it that you simply don’t care! He still doesn’t let me live that one down lol! I always saw it as a respect thing…I was 22 years old at the time I am now 37 and still don’t say those words in front of my father! Lol but back to topic…I didn’t get the experience I should have because they didn’t follow proper protocol and procedures and clearly didn’t care what I had for my birth plan!
I’m so so sorry you had to go through that and missed the first binding moments with your baby! And then endured postpartum on top of it!
And I also was giving stadol..I went into anaphylactic shock . They gave me a huge dose of Benadrylabd did an emergency CSection. 4 yrs later my son was diagnosed with Aspergers
@@angelreedfabry288😢
I'm a retired neonatal nurse of 48yrs...I would have thought that midwife would have shown up the next day "with her tail between her legs"...so to say..I've done those fast deliveries/+or what we call "crash C/S"..after I'd set up for the baby I try to go to moms head, introduce myself...when u 1st mentioned not being dilated @your moms, I thought that baby's still breech+she was feeling that cute little tush!!!!! Keep us updated, insist on an ultrasound to verify that the baby has indeed turned..My sisters baby turned from breech to head down when mom was 37weeks, she actually had to pull off the road, it hurt so bad!!!! My prayers are with u guys for a head down baby. Or a version @usually 36weeks....Linda from Surprise,z
Thank you, Linda! It still makes me upset how she came waltzing in there talking about how good they did. The baby I was pregnant with at the time of this video was indeed head down...we verified with a late ultrasound...as well as the sweet girl we just had 7 weeks ago! I was finally able to birth as it was intended and wow, the difference was astounding! We were headed home from the birth center about 5 hours after I had her and other than being tired, I felt almost completely normal. For that first horrible c section birth, I didn't feel normal for probably at least 4 months! Thank you for the prayers and sweet comment ❤️
My prayers for a safe and POSITIVE birthing experience this time!
My son was breach when arriving at the hospital. They started induction in hopes that he would flip. They did a second ultrasound about 5 hours later even though I swore up and down he hadn't turned.....but to much to my surprise he did flip. He was 9.5lbs so you would think I would have noticed it, but no. Nothing!!! I can't imagine being told not to push for that long. Hope the next baby is much less traumatic.
My last baby flipped himself 3 times on the day he was born. I was in fetal assessment and they determined I had preeclampsia and took me upstairs to deliver that day. He was breech during my sonogram down in FA that morning. I was getting my fluids so I could go in for a csection that afternoon and the nurse and doctor felt and said he was head down. When he was born 2 hours later via cesarean section he was transverse. The doctors were talking about it and afterwards and said it’s extremely rare for babies to do that. None of my other 3 kids switched from their head down positions after 34 weeks.
Oh my! That's insane! Mine had definitely been head up for the whole time.
Uuuggghh, I had preeclampsia too. Diagnosis was at 22 weeks. I needed to get to 26. Made it to 34 with first and 35 with second. I hemorrhaged after my second about 5 hours after delivery. No docs in the hospital when it started. I had like 8 nurses in my room and it was utter chaos. I was begging for my mom because of how they were trying to stop the bleeding. I was 31 and begging for my mom, especially when I heard the call to prep the operating room. They stood on something, above me, and pressed on my uterus, with all their body weight. I swear I would of rather given birth again. I was crying, begging them to stop. I could feel the blood clots coming out. Baseball size. Thankfully after 10 mins they had me under control. No operation. I’m thankful to god for my life and my babies lives. They are 23 and 20 now.
Thank you for sharing your story. You are truely blessed
Thank you for telling your story. I have a somewhat similar one.
When I woke up from my c section and they were bringing me my baby all I remember is instantly worrying that he hadn’t been fed, I kept asking “did you guys feed him???” Because I had no idea how much time had passed
I just came across this video and my heart goes out to this woman. I'm so sorry she had such a bad experience. I'm glad everything worked out. May God bless her and her family.
Thank you so much for sharing. It’s an amazing story and will help me to be a better person if I come across someone who has had a dramatic birth. It also allows me to be kinder to myself in dealing with some of the memories that I have of my own 5 births. Please be gentle with yourself and know that although you may not remember, your little girl was being loved on by your beautiful family. Sometimes even after the best laid plans, life is out of our control and that’s a very hard pill to swallow. But God is always there and in control. Bless you! ❤️
Happy you and baby are well. Having a healthy baby is what it's all about! Sorry your experience didn't go as planned.
Wow..... you went through a horrific situation. My 1st baby was an emergency cesarean. My epidural was very ineffective and I was awake. I felt it all... they did knock me out as soon as Adam was born. I woke up in recovery with my husband standing over me bawling and sobbing. I thought we'd lost the baby! Adam was fine. He weighed 9lbs 10oz and was 23" long! He was huge! My husband was just overwhelmed. I gave birth to boy/girl twins 3 years later by cection. 5.15 and 6.15! I was so proud of myself for carrying them to 38 weeks! I have a friend... Ruth. Her 1st was an emergency cection in her labor room because all the Operating rooms were full. They lost the babies heart rate and just tied her legs and arms and grabbed her child fast. No medication at all.... this time will be better! Prayers for your family! Thanks for sharing your incredible story!
How horrible, I can't imagine. I'm so sorry you had to go through that! Thank you for sharing ❤️
Listening to that story was Iike watching an action packed 90's movie! If it wasn't real life with real lives on the line, it would have been hilarious! I can't even believe how much went wrong, but I am so relieved you both got the care you needed in time...I'm praying this next delivery is the absolute opposite and that you find it very peaceful and enjoyable 💗
Your story touches my ❤️. I truly hope your next birth is so memorable. When I had my first child, I couldn’t sleep at all. All I could think about was what an incredible experience it was
Thank you for sharing! My 2nd birth was much better and the 3rd (2 months ago) was so wonderful and peaceful 💖The way birth should be!
Wow! So sorry for your experience! When I was pregnant with my first child,she also was breach,she stayed like that the whole time. I went 2 weeks past my due date,and my dr was on vacation. I labored for 48 hrs,they kept telling me that she had flipped and was coming head first,A mother knows best! Imagine a 42 week baby turning upside down and you not feeling it! Come on dr! Long story short,water broke,was green,she’s was in distress,had emergency c-section and just like you,don’t remember much,didn’t get to hold her first, and I was upset about other people seeing her before I had a chance to get see her! Wishing you a better birth for your next one!🥰
I had a similar birth for my son as well. I feel like I was robbed of all the things I waited so long for. Thank you for sharing your story
I hated to hear how awful your 1st birth went, but some part of me now knows that”misery does love company”, you told my birth story of my 1st child (a girl), EXACTLY as it happened!!! I was right there with you, just older than you, but still NO excuse!!! I my daughter positively never turned, the spinal they did for emergency , they had to have my husband leave, and they figured the anesthesiologist had paralyzed me, as I still was not able to feel from the waist down even 3 days later. I couldn’t even lift my head or nurse, because of how badly they botched everything. I went on to have 2 boys after, but still only my one daughter. We named her Hanalee. It will get better with time, I feel your trauma through the screen as you are telling this, I wished my mom could have been with me. I felt so alone, they could not let my husband in yet as the baby had gone into distress waiting to be born and the room was completely covered in blood. They got her out just in time, i thank God daily for this. I know her legs were over her head the majority of the pregnancy, her thigh muscles were under developed, so they had to measure her 1/2 & 1/2 (head to waist, waist to toes) you can’t just rip her legs down after being stuck like a taco for so long. I am 6’ tall, my daughter is fully grown, she is a mother herself, she is just 5’1. Both my boys are 6’4”. And I know why!!!! You can see how damaged the mother is going through all of this. One thing I found out recently, that I did not know, is Hana has been told that since she was a breech birth, she was far more likely to have breech babies, and she should schedule c-sections to be safest!!!! The pain of it all!!! Best to you & family
It’s so hard i empathise fully with you. Had same tv experience 12 minutes for us and you definitely feel like the experience is stolen. Just wanted to hold my baby.
Same thing ladies checked me and said head down at every appointment. I don’t think they ever know these modern midwife’s just have no clue.
Bless your mother I’m so glad you had family with you!
Me too! I don't know what I'd do without her ❤️
You are so very trusting, just remember you must be your own medical advocate. I’m glad all worked well in the end
Strong, beautiful mama. Quite a story 🖤
God bless you…the Med wife should have known…the baby doesn’t always turn !!! Thank you for sharing your story…and sorry to hear you missed those special moments…she is here now, and focus on many years of love you have for her now🙏🏻 something like this happened to me, with my first, he is now 53 years old, and went on to have a baby girl, in a different way… bless you for going forward with another baby ❣️
I'm so sorry that you had to experience all of this! I'm sorry that your midwives didn't validate your fears or concerns. Just a comment as someone who's had a baby flip breech at 39 weeks and a different baby flip from breach to vertex at 38 weeks, I did not feel either of them. I would certainly think it would be that much harder to feel a baby flip at 20 weeks.
I realize this was 2yrs ago dnt even know if u read these, but im just watching now. I feel so bad for you this was a horrific experience if ud ask me. Thank God u delivered a healthy baby! I understand that women want different birthing experience's but all in all my opinion it's just all around safer to be in a hospital to begin with.
I'm so sorry you had to deal with someone like that. I've never been a big fan of midwives because, as both a nurse and a mother, I've heard and seen far too many horror stories. I just don't trust any of them, even though I'm certain some are ok. Far too many things can go wrong. I'm glad that all came out ok for you
And as a mother of 7 and grandmother of 21 and a former Texas State Certified EMT-Intermediate and the mother of two daughters who had midwives and home births…one after an emergency C-section for her 33 week twins when a physician was in charge and then had two more babies at home when MIDWIVES were in charge, I will gladly tell you that there are good and bad OBs and there are good and bad midwives just like there are good and bad in every aspect of medicine. You have to know AND understand everything that is going on in your pregnancy…only YOU can be your own best advocate for you…and your baby. Write down what you want and expect and make sure your doctor, your baby’s pediatrician…..everyone along the line has a WRITTEN copy of what you want, need and expect AND make sure you discuss all aspects of this written document with each medical professional before you ever set foot in any hospital or birthing center. Wishing every mother a happy birth to remember, a healthy baby and a bountiful supply of the healthiest milk for your baby…that’s why “ they” are there. I bottle fed my first two and breastfed 5 and breastfeeding was 100% easier! Good luck!
My midwife delivered close to 8,000 babies, and had more experience than my dr.
She delivered my 9.8 oz acynclitic posterior baby boy after a C-section without even a tear.
@@Valentina-Steinway Glad you had a very experienced and caring midwife. But yes, I too am hearing more and more stories of incompetent midwives. You would think in the natural delivery profession there would be more due diligence but as you stated there are good and bad in any profession.
Wow! This is the first time ever hearing another woman having that type of breach. My mom had my sister pushed & turned by a doctor's hands, inside her, (he said she was coming butt first), an emergency vaginal birth, 1 hospital town, another country, no ambulance or personal vehicles, just "taxis", 61 yrs ago, @18, 4'11" tall & weighed 100lbs. (Married through the church @ 15+1/2) doc told my dad only 1 would make it! Thank God they both did, my mom would tell us how my sister's legs wouldn't go down, her feet would spring in close to her armpits & she didn't walk until almost 2 yrs old!!! Thanks to this vid. we know what happened. Funny thing is dad took her to all her checkups, the word breach was never used!!! P.S. mom & dad just had their 63 anniversary!!
Thank you for sharing your story! And the 63rd anniversary...what a wonderfully testimony of love and commitment!
I am so sorry for the horrible care you received. As a career nurse, it just breaks my heart. I cry right along with you. I'm technically crying right now trying to write this. God bless you sweet lady. I pray from the deepest recesses of my soul, that never happens to you again. There's no excuse for what happened to you none. Much love from Michigan 🙏🙏🙏🙏💛🙏💛🙏.. I also I wasn't going to add this, but I'm compelled to say this. This is medical malpractice 101. Those midwives should lose their license to practice. I'm not even skilled at reading ultrasounds and I can tell if a baby is head down, a footling breech, a frank breach, transverse etc.. again medical malpractice all three should lose their license. 🤨🙌💯
My 1st birth was at a hospital and the medical equipment showed I was in labor. After being there for several hours the doctor came in to see me and I heard him in the hall chastising the nurses because I never dilated beyond a 2 and he should have been called when I made no progress. After medication to speed things up and little progress he ordered an x-ray and came to tell my husband and I that I had bone spurs that projected into the birth canal and I would never be able to deliver a baby vaginally. So I needed to have a c-section. Remember what you said about how hard it was to think about changes in your plan. Well, I told him I would have to think about it (as if I had any choice). He respectfully said certainly and left the room. My husband and I talked about it for a couple of minutes and I could see the doctor waiting out in the hall. I then called to him and when he came back in told him to go ahead. That couple of minutes of transition time made all the difference and still gave me a "sense " that I was in control. Bless you and your family for your success in a major trial of life.
Baby CAN flip right up to birth. My 2nd son was head down at my appointment but when I went into labor 7 hours later he was breach.
I don't understand why the midwife couldn't have delivered the baby at the birth center. I don't know what your particular emergency was but I've seen two Frank Breech births take place at home so a C-Section isn't always necessary. A midwife and a doctor were present at each birth and both outcomes were good. I'm so sorry you and your family went through all this. It seems that things could have been handled in a much less stressful way. Sounds like your midwife should think about making a career change because she doesn't seem to be a competent midwife. I'm glad you had a compassionate doctor and that your baby was healthy.
Hi Melodie! Yeah, I'm not sure and by that point I wasn't in much condition to ask questions. I'm thinking maybe they had a policy again breech births but I'm not sure. Because we were told the baby was head down, I didn't do much research into breech births and the little bit of info I got (from the doctors) was pretty scary. If I had known more and been confident in my doctor, I definitely would've pushed for a vaginal birth.
I think there were other problems with the same midwife after my birth and was told that she was actually fired!
For all women watching, you can have a natural birth in a hospital. It’s still a natural birth if you have an IV placed for safety. The last thing you want is a nurse trying to place an IV while you are hemorrhaging to death. There are numerous things that can go wrong and you are where you need to be when things go wrong.
I'm confused as I think it's always necessary to examine a woman after her waters break in case of cord prolapse but the midwife just suggested she goes back to bed !
4 kids and never could time my pains ! had them fast and spontaneously ! my cervix never really open slowly. and I also had a horror story breach baby with my first child (butt first ) !!
God blessed you so much. There's no other Way your sweet baby would have lived through that. Truly a precious gift from God. When a health care provider gets frantic you have to know it is seriously life or death. I'm glad it was fuzzy and you don't have those fears or thinking your baby is dying. It's a terrible thing to have.
External versions are not a guarantee to work. Plus there are lots of risks with external versions.
I don't know what state you are in, but that's why it's super important to make sure that when you're dealing with midwives they're certified nurse midwives. Some states you just need to study for a few months with no medical background to become a midwife. There is no standard regulation. A real Midwife would have wanted you to come into the birth center to get checked after your water broke because you could have prolapsed your cord when your water broke. It sounds like this is a state where the standards for midwives aren't very high. If anybody's watching this for self-education Mama Dr Jones has a great video on her Channel. I'm glad you've worked through the trauma so far and you seem to have come a long way from to beginning. I hope you're able to keep working through the trauma to heal completely. Hopefully this current pregnancy does that for you.
So glad the baby was born alive & healthy. I was afraid of what the end of this story was going to be like.
Yes, I'm so thankful that she was healthy and well! I'd never wish that experience on anyone but so thankful for her not having any complications ❤️
Amazing! I have had 7 babies. I had 2 babies in the 1960’s, 2 babies in the 1970’s, 2 babies in the 1980’s and one baby in 1990….2 sons and then 5 daughters. I had babies at barely 18, then at 20, 26, 29, 36, 40 and 42. My first pregnancy went fine…as far as I knew. Back in 1965 there was no such thing a “birth plan”… there were no sonograms, there was breathing techniques, the Bradley method was just getting started, there was no such thing as getting an “epidural”…. there was just you go into labor…go to the hospital and you either had your baby or you had a Caesarean…and then you were in the hospital for between 3 or 4 days and 7 to 10 days and your baby stayed in the nursery except for feeding times…no such thing as “rooming in” yet. At about 7 1/2 months, at a doctors’s appointment, my doctor found protein (albumin) in my urine, my blood pressure was very high and you could I was retaining fluid. My doctor sent me home with strick orders to stay in bed…which I did but not like I should have. He came over to our apartment to check me…he became very concerned because my blood pressure was even higher. He immediately put me in the hospital. He informed us that I had preeclampsia toxemia and he needed to induce me. My son was about 5 weeks early. This was Saturday evening…they inserted an IV and started a “pit” drip. Contractions started…hard and pretty fast. The nurses gave me a pain shot about every 4 hours…I think it was Demerol but am not sure. After that except for taking me into the OR to break my water, I was in hard labor for 56 hours…I was having contractions every minute and a half that lasted a minute and a half. During that 56 hours, I only dilated a whole 3 cm….so since the contractions were constant and not doing anything…my doctor who was my family doctor, called in one of the only OBs in Irving, a Dr. May, to consult. They decided an immediate emergency Caesarean was needed…which they did. I was given a general anesthesia. I woke up in the recovery room…a nurse was kneading my uterus through my skin and it was extremely PAINFUL but they were trying to make my uterus contract. I only saw my baby for a flash on the other side of the nursery glass…this was on the way to my room from the recovery room. I was in the hospital for 6 days. When they didn’t bring Rick one time…on maybe the third day to be circumcised, nobody told me why they did not bring him…I thought he had died and was scared. On the day after my son was born I had horrible, horrible gas that was so painful…and the put a tube up my anus to try to get rid of the gas…it did not work. And they put a huge bandage on my tummy…it was awful. Finally got home and life continued. My second son was 2 1/2 years younger…his birth was totally different and not traumatic at all. I had my wonderful Dr. Luis Leib at St. Paul Hospital for the rest of my planned six births, including my second. Dr. Leib delivered all of my subsequent babies, all daughters. Saw a lot of changes in both obstetrical prenatal care from 1965 to 1990…a LOT. Had some major complications after my last birth but they were not Dr. Leib’s fault…a very long story so I will just say I accidentally put myself into congestive heart failure by “overdosing” on beef broth and I had three specialists trying to figure out what was going on but when my wonderful cardiologist prescribed Lasix, potassium, and Procardia…a blood pressure drug…I literally lost 20 and 1/4 lbs. overnight and that basically saved my life…my blood pressure reached 210/200 which is plenty high enough to kill you. Dr. Bryan Baldwin told me he had not seen the blood on the discs behind my eyes since seeing his last 70 year old stroke patient and that, holding up his thumb and his index finger about a quarter of an inch apart, that I had come “this far from having a major stroke…the kind that blows your brains out and kills you.” …so I was extremely lucky with my first pregnancy and my last pregnancy which were, I think 24 years apart. I can sincerely tell you…if you have a C-section……just stick with the amounts and kinds of liquids they bring you on your food trays. It is very wise to read up on everything that COULD possibly happen but…definitely make a birth plan and make sure that you write it down and that every doctor every other medical professional knows exactly what you want and what you expect during your birth. It does not always go as planned but as long as you, you baby…and your husband come out on the other side healthy…and get home that way…..it is all good in the long run. Trust me a birth experience in 2022 is a FAR cry from what it was when I had my first baby 57 years ago and even very different from what mine was like when I had my last baby 32 years ago. Some things are close to the same and some are way different but as long as you get the best prenatal care, eat very healthy, make the right decisions and advocate fore yourself and your baby…and have someone with you that you trust to have your back…because if you don’t think that the medical professionals know that they have you in the MOST vulnerable spot that you will ever be in in your entire life…you need to sit down and think again. Don’t let anyone buffalo you…YOU should be in charge! Happy BIRTH day and Happy Baby!
My mother in 1962 demanded to be put to sleep and had me delivered with forceps…
(?!?!?)
I’m a miracle baby.
I hope that you have chosen a totally different team to give you prenatal and delivery care .
When you woke up after the ceasar you were in shock and should have been kept warm from the get go, I am shocked at how you were neglected and everything that happened from the start, the wrong information to were given, to stay home while your body was telling you differently.......i feel for you. I hope the trauma has lessened with time and that you are all doing well.
Her baby was breech. My son was breech and I had an emergency c section, the umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck. A natural vaginal delivery would have put his life in danger. So,the hospital did the right thing to deliver the baby c section immediately. I'm sorry that she didn't have a nice delivery, but her baby is healthy. I was bruised but not because I was fighting with doctors and nurses, like this lady. I was anemic. It's not the hospital's fault @ all. This is ridiculous.
I know you watched at least part of the video since you knew I was fighting the nurses coming out of the anesthesia. So I'm not really sure where you thought I said it was the hospitals fault. I'm very thankful for the doctor that got there in record time and I know I stated more than once that I was super thankful for having a healthy baby. I never blamed the hospital. I said it was the 3 midwives fault who not only told me my baby was in the correct position the entire second half of my pregnancy but also completely brushed off my concerns about a possible breech. They should have confirmed instead of brushing it off. And then to only boast about how good they did instead of even a simple "I'm so sorry this happened". It IS ridiculous, but not in the way that you meant.
With my last child (38 years ago) I wanted a home birth. My husband was completely opposed. We went with the hospital route. She was 6 weeks early, it was -26° below zero. Talkk about a crazy time. I had a natural childbirth even after having pitocin. No pain meds and i was in labor for 34 hours. Plan or no plan you have a baby.
If this is of any help, I had my first baby vaginally with epidural and I berely remember holding him the first time. My second I had emergency c section cause he was breached, with epidural, I remember when they rolled him into the room, but can't remember holding him or his face. Both times those first hours were total haze, and I think it has more to do with the intensity of labour and birth and crazy hormone and emotional high, than anything else.
Ioved your story and my first was the same . First time in a hospital & s baby at the same time. The only difference was I was awake when my baby boy was born.
Yep my 3rd baby was like this and it never let up I was in labor with him for 1 hour was going to stay home it was back to back.
I’ve had four csections and NEVER been put to sleep! Never! They may give you something to calm you while you get stitched up! They usually just numb you with a epidural. You feel pressure and baby’s here!
Yeah emergency is way different than planned. I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy!
turning the baby isn't something to do unless absolutely necessary. I worked for an OB GYN who refused to do them any more because he did one (he used to do them) and during the turning, the cord wrapped around the baby's neck, and the outcome was not good. He was a highly regarded doctor, he was very knowledgeable and loved his work...but he wouldn't take the chance after the bad one, and refused to turn another baby. There is definite risk in having the baby turned. Also she would have had your leg up in the car because she was preparing to deliver the baby, and she could see if/when the baby was crowning. At that point I would have thought the least of your problems was others seeing you, considering if she was sitting there, she would be blocking any view anyone could see, As far as the doctor and nurses and no one telling your husband, their first priority would be you, not anyone else. They were putting your health and safety first!
Mama bless your heart thank the Lord you made it through all this, the pain of giving birth is tough enough but what you went through must have been pure horror, when the Father said we would bring forth children in pain he wasn't playing...
I totally understand where your coming from with the trauma. It sounds like your a Christian so I’ll encourage you to read Philippians 3:13,14. It has helped me with my trauma. I’m thankful you and the baby are healthy! All the BEST!
Thank you so much! I am and I appreciate the thoughtful verses, they can bring so much comfort ❤️
I had a very similar experience but my midwives were great! You just had the wrong midwife. My baby flipped really late in pregnancy unbeknownst to me or my midwife. Felt the urge to push after 8 hours despite my doula and midwife saying I'd have more time minutes earlier. Midwife arrived to find my breech baby and I went to the hospital for an emergency C-section. The nurses at the hospital were horrible. Now planning a home vbac with my midwives and I'm fully confident in myself and their experience.
I was not put to sleep during my C-section. I would have been devastated if they did that. I got an epidural and spinal block.
Ugh you did everything you could think of :-( I'm sorry this happened
It is actually 100% possible for your baby to turn without you knowing. Mine turned at 39 weeks and I didn't know.
While I'm very thankful everyone made it through safely, I am angry for you. How could you not have gotten any other ultrasounds before 39 weeks? My daughter was breech at 20 weeks all the way until 36 weeks. I had at least one ultrasound in between that to check positioning. She turned head down at 36 weeks and then flipped breech again at 39 weeks (which was confirmed by ultrasound). Thankfully my midwife caught that and I had a surprise but not emergency c-section. So much was dropped in your situation. I am so so sorry you had to go through that. I hope this second birth was healing in ways for you.
Thank you so much for your kind words! Yes, it really was neglectful all the way around. And I was too naive to know better.
The birth of our second really was healing in so many ways and I'm so thankful for a successful VBAC experience!
@@thislovelylittlefarmhouse Yay! So happy to hear about the VBAC 🥰
My second baby was an undiagnosed breech and was delivered bum first, no anesthesia. I’m convinced she was delivered by a maintenance man-not really-but some unknown doc(?) who was wandering the hall. My fourth baby was also a breech and I had an external version. He was induced the following week and had an uneventful delivery.
Thank you for sharing your experience! I would have definitely tried the version. Thankfully my 2nd and 3rd were both head down, which I attribute to an amazing chiropractor getting everything lined up straight ❤️
Never heard of getting checked standing up
My mom had 7 of us. We were all breech her entire pregnancy with us. When labor started we all turned the right way & out we came. Dr's here don't worry about a baby being breech until 32 weeks.
Sounds like the midwife needed to learn proper patient/midwife interaction!!! For her to be freaking out like she was and then telling your mother to go through red lights etc!! Wow! I’m so sorry you had to go through this! They sound so unprofessional! And what a horrific experience for you! God bless you! How lovely of the maintenance man too!!
My baby turned from breech to head down and I didn’t feel anything I was just about to go for a c-section and they said they’re inducing me as my waters had been broken for a few days and I wasn’t dilating, after 4 more days I ended up with a c-section anyway at 37 weeks
So sorry to hear about your experience ❤️ laboring that long and then still having a c section had to have been difficult.
@@thislovelylittlefarmhouse thank you, I never went into labour after my waters broke, they tried potocin to soften my cervix for 4 days but nothing happened so went for the section
Sometimes really scary unexpected things happen during birth but this would've been preventable. I'm so sorry you had to go through this and they didn't just miss that the baby was breech but also ignored you when you knew something wasn't right and that you already had the need to push. Why wasn't there an ambulance? How dangerous to let a civilian drive in that situation? And have a civilian rush through traffic without a blue light or sirene??? Is that normal in the US?
I don't understand her telling you to stay home. I'm on my 2nd pregnancy and doctors have always told me for both pregnancies to go to the hospital straight away when your water breaks. 🤔
You and me both! Especially since we live an hour away. Needless to say, I go when I feel the need now regardless of what they are saying.
That was really horrible. It would have been nice if you could have sued the midwives. They were totally incompetent, & yes, betrayed you. You shouldn't have had to have a C section. I'm so sorry that you had to experience that. So much for trusting people! Thank you for sharing.
The midwives don't seem to want to get working. For a first pregnancy this is not right. I would sue most likely.
Not even an ambulance transfer
I'm so sorry you felt betrayed by the nurses and Dr's. I've been a labor and delivery nurse for 17 yrs and I can attest all the nurses and Dr's want the same delivery as you wanted. I truly believe they were fighting for you and your baby by the time you got to the hospital in their care. You were betrayed by your Midwife who didn't believe your symptoms and didn't already know you were breech.
I have seen so much. I have had to get women to C-section in 5 minutes because of fetal distress. I have had to get someone to OR because they bled too much after vaginal delivery, they went for a D and C and then had to have a hysterectomy because of major hemhorrage, they had a seizure and needed 19 pints of blood and plasma etc and barely made it.
NURSES AND DOCTORS HAVE MAJOR SKIN IN THE GAME..that's why we love our profession.
Oh I feel for you! That had to be a nightmare
Thank you ❤️ it was a very traumatic experience but thankfully I've had 2 good births now which have given us all lots of healing.
Sounds like you had such an amazing team at the hospital … so scary tho.
Several of my grandchildren would not be alive if their mothers had tried to do a home birth. I haven’t yet watched this video so I don’t know what happened but I’m glad my kids went to the hospital. My son’s first wife’s sister is a midwife and very experienced and they still had to make an emergency run to the hospital.
I was supposed to have a home delivery for my first child but there was a bad snowstorm and the Doctor couldn't risk the 2 hour travel. I went to the hospital an hour away. My son had hypoglycemia and ended up in the neonatal intensive care. Thank God the doctor couldn't make it! I might have lost my son.
SAME HERE ONE DAY I'LL TELL YA MY BIRTH STORY 💜🤟💜
Where was the ultrasound (the ones AFTER the one at 20 weeks) to confirm the diagnosis of the midwives? When the mother is in doubt a ultrasound should have offered to her!
And maybe that doctor praying with her was like that because being the owner of the birthcenter could face liability for the mistakes!!
All 3 of my baby’s wer born naturally biting a hospital, in my day there asap as no choice it was natural child birth for everyone that could,c section was used for other births that needed for emergency s, my 10 lb 7 oz son was breech , he turned in the last couple weeks of my pregnancy and I could not tell he turned… I am shocked that a ambulance was not called to take you to the hospital, what a horrific situation it was for you
With my first child, my water started to leak out so we went to the hospital
They broke my water at 8am and she was born at 12:15 just 4 hours later.
As soon as my water breaks, I’m heading in. No waiting for me lol
I'm with you on that! Especially living an hour from the hospital. I wouldn't even wait for the water to break because sometimes it doesn't until your pushing. If I had waited until then, we'd have had a car baby for this last one! Things were pretty mild and manageable then my water broke and those contractions were like getting hit by a Mack truck! And she was born about 40 minutes later.
I'm so sorry they did that to you! It didn't have to be an emergency at all. If only they were trained to support a breech vaginal birth, they would have been able to prevent your trauma. All midwives should be trained in breech birth. It should not have been an emergency, breech birth is birth. How frustrating. The midwife made it into such a dramatic awful experience. If you ever have another breech baby, find a provider who will truly serve you.
you would have been better off birthing your baby breech in the car. This is so frustrating that you were treated this way. You are beautiful and you did not deserve this abuse. This is flat out abuse and pure fear. The midwife and the doctors and nurses did not treat you like a human. Much love. Find a better midwife next time. And they told you that you didn't have a choice. That is completely untrue. You always have a choice. A breech baby is not a reason for a cesarean. And for it to be so fast and your husband wasn't there. I feel so sad to hear this story. You deserve better!
It wasn't anyone's fault that they were wrong about the position of your baby. That happens frequently when a provider has a hard time determining the position. What the fault was if when they denied you a vaginal breech birth because they are fearful and not skilled. I bet you could easily press charges against these people.
Yup she was just like my Hana breech the entire time, but they swore to me also that was Hana’s butt, not her head, and by the time to push her out, it was too late!!! and even her health and mine were in serious jeopardy. It was only by the grace of God we were not permanently derailed. Be kind to yourself, it will get better as you raise your little ones, they don’t remember any of it, which is another God gift. Hana has scheduled her c-sections, even if it was just an “old wives tale” that she was told, that she would be more likely to have breech babies because she was, I am the only one living the nightmare, and at least know that because she schedules them, she has done really great with them because hers are scheduled, and not fire emergencies, and she is so small framed, but she can nurse her babies, and do all the things I was robbed of because of like you, “slipped through the cracks” it should never happen to anyone, EVER!!!!!
I’m sitting here thinking watching this why didn’t the midwives ring for an ambulance that would’ve been more of a comfort going through that they would’ve helped as well 🙏this story really shows how your brain tries to protect you when you’ve gone through a traumatic thing like that it’s why there’s parts you can’t remember 🙏
I know she called the hospital so I'm not sure why they sent the firetruck instead. We were way beyond the help of firefighters!
my god 🙏 bless you..I cried with you..may you have a double Blessings with your 2nd baby..
Thank you! We're praying hard for a much different experience this time!
Ok, i had to laugh a bit about the midwife saying you could wait to go in even with contractions that close togethee because i can somewhst relate. Well, actually my midwife kinda had the opposite attitude with my second one. I had to be induced with my oldest dauvhter, but actually didnt even need pitocin. They used some suppository that i forget the name of, and only once. It took, i wanna say about fourteen hours for anything to happen, but when it did, it went like crazy fast. As in even shocked the midwife lol!
Fast forward to tmy younger daughter. Considering how short my first labor was, especially considering i had such little intervention even for an induction, i had a paranoi of not making it in time. I lived 45 mins from the birthing center. I asked one of the midwives what i should do if i was afraid i couldnt make it. She told me at what point i should call. I forget ehat the timing whas but it was eell before five minutes apart like would be typical. She literally followed that with "when you call, tell whoever you talk to that you are coming. If they dont like it, tell them Robin said so! Also, if you dont think you are going to make it, have your husband pull over. Call here, we will talk you through delivering the babh, and then kome the rest of the way."
Um.... ok lol!
On that note, i ended up having the same midwife who delivered my first one, so that was coll. It wasnt the one who told us we could deliver on the side of the road. I fell like they were a perfect pair for that practice. The one that delivered my firls was just so quiet and just.... chill. Like.... neither of my girls cried immediately after birth. Nothing was wrong with either of them, so it wasnt like they were in distress or anything. Of course my first reaction, especially the first time around, was...why isnt she is crying? Her answer....why shoulf she?
The other midwife is one i would want if i had an emergency at the birthing center or a home virth. She was nice and all, but she def has a stronger personality, like comes off rude and abrasive at times, but i almost feel like that could work in her favor if you have panicking parents, possibly panicking siblings and other family members, an emergency, and potentially being in an area you arent entirely familiar wife.
There was a third one there with my second pregnancy. I only saw her for my first appt. I hated her. I made it quite clear that there was gonna be a problem if she were to be doing any of my other appointments.
Pitocin is not the only type of induction agent that can be used to induce labour or ripen the cervix. Each body is different and some bodies react quicker whereas some bodies may take more induction agents. Some people might just need cervidil/misoprostol to be induced. Some bodies may not be quite yet "favorable" for pitocin to be started and therefore, the other induction methods are used
I'm so glad it all went well for you! I'm definitely a lot more assertive now and not nearly as naive. I really don't know what she could have possibly been thinking but it wasn't very long and she was fired from the birth center so mine definitely wasn't the only bad experience.
When you find a good midwife, you better hold onto her as long as you can!
@@aprillibiano4557 I had isopropyl. Since I used midwives, seems like they like to try to intervene as little an gently as possible, which was fine by me. She was even surprised though how quick things went using only that, being my first baby, I wasn't showing any signs whatsoever of being close to labor starting before I went in, and she didn't even break my water.
I’ve had 5 kids. I can’t believe your midwife didn’t send you to the hospital when your water broke! Especially being your first baby. You and they could not have known what was “normal” for you. I don’t believe you were not dilated at the first check. I’m so sorry this happened to you!!
You had many people fail you that should not have. I’m pretty sure that even people without a medical background would have provided you with better care. So sorry that you had to experience such drama that could have been avoided.
Birth plans are not guaranteed.. in fact I didn't even bother having one with either of my kids and just let nature take over and listened to my drs.. second child ended up ER c section because she was breach.
I had five children and I learned the same thing. The first birth I had a birth plan but nothing went as planned. For the next four babies, I told them my birth plan was for them to do whatever they had to in order to deliver a live baby. All five of my babies had their cord around their neck several times so I was glad I had experienced midwives and and OB monitoring the baby and guiding me through pushing the baby out quickly and safely. My birth experiences were all about the baby being as safe as possible, not about me. My second baby turned out to have William’s Syndrome. His lungs weren’t working properly and he would have died if I hadn’t been in the hospital. He is now 20 and doing great! He actually works in the mailroom at the hospital he was born and saved in! ❤
I hope doing this video was therapeutic for you. Sometimes just talking about your experience can help. I also hope it helps others considering a birth center or home birth. Everything that could happen should be talked about prior to the event. I think you should be proud of listening to your instincts. Things could have been deadly had you not.
And this is why I advocate heavily for hospital births with a DOCTOR. You can still deliver naturally while in the hospital, but you are already in the right place in the event something goes wrong. Midwives are great, but they are NOT doctors. They don't have the same intensive medical training and education that an OBGYN does, and they can't help you in the event of a last minute emergency. I think because of our wonderful medical advances, women today forget about how high the mortality rate for women and their babies were during childbirth throughout history. Those fatal complications didn't disappear in the modern era....our medical advances are what saves women in childbirth today. There is too much of a trend on home births, and not enough stories like this being pushed through the algorithm because they get buried for being "triggering".
@brit besos OH. Lol...I HAVE seen that documentary, full of propaganda. I'm an L+D nurse in the US. The main cause of maternal death in the US is improper prenatal care (midwifery or no doctor) OR laboring at home too long before going to the hospital to be checked. Our parents generation did NOT do this as a general rule of thumb, and home birthing was RARE back then because most women understood that their chance of survival in the event of an emergency is FAR greater if you aren't already at the hospital. The reason aftershocks claims there are higher numbers, is because they do something very deceptive....they take actual numbers without accounting for the massive population increases we have today, nor do they mention that most births from the early 2000s and back were in medical settings unless you lived in a third world country, which their death rates for mothers and babies are STILL the highest because they have little to no access to health care while pregnant or during birth. The accurate representations of the numbers include all of these factors in LEGITIMATE studies, and the percentage of pregnancy related death for mom or baby is DRASTICALLY lower today once those massive factors are correctly added in. Please don't believe every documentary you see online or on your TV. Go and verify the information from an accredited source instead....and especially DON'T take medical advice from people online who are NOT medical professionals able to give accurate advice. Popping a baby out your kitty Kat does NOT make anyone an expert in obstetrics....so please don't take advice from mothers on this topic who they themselves have had smooth births, because MANY births are not smooth.
@@mysticmama_3692 Speak for yourself. I'm a former L&D nurse and I've seen an equal amount of mistakes from home and hospital births. Take your judgmental comment elsewhere. Thank you, Karen, have a great day! 😁
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This is what I try to tell people.. nobody wants to listen..bc everything or Just bc in your head you think this is how You Planned it go..doesn't necessarily means it's going to happen that way. I was at the hospital 🏥 and both my children who were born 3 yrs and 6 mos apart..They both still ended up having to go to to the NICU 😩
@@modestinemungo4661 You're 100% correct. It's good to have a general birth plan, but there needs to be a bit of reality thrown in there. I see so many women get their hopes absolutely destroyed because their birth didn't go the way THEY planned because they don't seem to realize that it isn't up to THEM. It's out of their control and depends on their body and the baby itself. Sure, there are PLENTY of aspects that you CAN control In your birthing experience...no matter what kind of birth you are having, but it doesn't mean that you can control what your body does or what your baby does. You may be determined to have an unmedicated birth because you are afraid of what the drugs will do to your baby....and then end up In emergency C-section under general anesthesia (which is much heavier drugs than any pain killer you would've been given during labor). Women need to go into delivery with an open mind and the understanding that if something goes wrong that it isn't their fault and that getting baby delivered safely is the #1 priority no matter what. Women these days consume way too much content online telling them all sorts of things and when the birth doesn't go the way they want, or if there is an emergency...they carry that trauma for life. It's never ok to coddle someone's feelings instead of telling them the truth....especially with something like this, but there has been an uptick in this exact problem. Women being coddled into thinking everything is safe and they have control over everything, and then ridiculing and silencing those that try to give them the facts of everything and make them aware that it may not work out the way they planned. It's a shame that in today's world, people's feelings are more important than telling them the truth for their physical and mental safety.
Was the baby ever in distress?
Like and commenting for the algorithm 🥰 lmao. Haven’t watched the video yet! 😂
Wow 😔 what a story.. that doctor that prayed with you was an angel! That’s absolutely rare to find these days and I’m so glad you had him ♥️ shame on all the other staff that treated you and your family that way.. I’ve always dreamed of a natural birth 🥺 sorry you experienced that and I hope you’ve healed. I wish the birth center could be held accountable for this!