The secret to make fi to open up is just open up first let them feel that they’re not going to be judged let them feel your feelings first so they don’t feel weird sharing theirs :]
PowerRedBull yeah that’s true i judge in my head when I listen to someone but it’s just to know if the thing is good or bad And then i put myself in and think what would i do if i was in their position but I’ll keep it to myself until that person proves me wrong :[
PowerRedBull I’m sorry because you have had bad experience with fi dom but again not all people the same i can totally understand the way you feel right now because i was thinking like this about extjs but then i think it depends on the person truly and every person has some kind of fear for me right now I’m fighting that fear to become the person i want to become + the “ acting nice “ thing i can understand that because as isfp I value harmony and I’ll keep my anger just to avoid conflict But trust me you won’t like my anger .. until this sec i feel like I can’t trust nobody .. they did a mistake but who doesn’t
@@PowerRedBullTypology Yeah but then again Fi dominants are not the only ones who keep their real thoughts secret. There are Ti-Fe users who will act nice to your face and then talk shit about you behind your back. How am I supposed to trust Ti-Fe users like that? It seems like Ti-Fe has their own rules of conduct in the social sphere and Te-Fi has their own laws.
I agree, introverted feeling paired with feeling perceiving can definitely make a person a little judgemental, the downside of having strong values, I think. But IXTPs are also quite judgemental :P
@@PowerRedBullTypology You clearly had some bad experiences with INFP's but a) not everyone in the same type acts the same and b) we get better (both stronger and more tolerant) with age.
"We assume often that the introverted feeling types lack emotions because they don't show emotions" - god, so true. My mother actually told me that I'm emotionally cold. If only she knew... It's just that my feelings were dismissed, ridiculed or used against me so many times that these days, I rarely show them to unworthy people.
For people who care so much introverts don’t actually value others bc you’re always talking about whose worthy as if everyone isn’t worthy. It’s pretty judgmental, don’t you think ?? Like hypocritical .. pretty unfair. You are enough to have your convictions just as they are.
I don't share emotions for a couple of reasons. One is because when I do I feel too vulnerable and exposed. But also for Fi doms feelings are a bottomless well, a Pandora's box if you will, and it doesn't seem ok to just pore all of that on others directly. And also words feels kinda inadequate to truly describe emotions. That's why art is such a useful outlet for Fi doms.
You possess a gift of identifying and framing very specific thoughts and emotions so clearly that it almost hurts, a result of being extraordinarily perceptive - something I find extremely rare and beautiful. Thank you :)
Absolutely 100% cannot express my emotions, but I understand and can feel what everyone else is feeling. Most people love having me around, but I never feel fully appreciated or seen :/ But like @The Black Fence Cat said, creative expression is my sanity
I'm INFP and super private. I will only share my feelings if I have a very special connection with someone which is so incredibly hard to find. I don't enjoy superficial relationships at all. I think constantly about what makes me who I am, how I fit into the world, and how I affect others. I care so much about other people's feelings. I don't think people can comprehend my emotional depths. It's so frustrating.
Guess which legendary historical figure was also an INFP. King Richard of England, AKA Richard the Lionheart. Extremely pragmatic and have no use for anything that does not produce results, yet he was tormented by solitude and refused to indulge in the limelight that his fame as a warrior brought.
Everything is so draining. Thoughts are tiring. I have so much talent and ideas inside but theirs this veil that always stops me from speaking it or actually doing things. I’ve wanted to start a channel on TH-cam for so long but every time I record it’s something telling me it’s not good enough and doubting the content. Pushing through it isn’t easy and many don’t understand.
"many don't understand"....*the* classic Fi-dominant line ("people do not understand me"). The problem is that INFP's do not express themself, so it's not the people's fault they od not understand you. The problem is that you do not tell them anything, so it's impossible to understand you.
PowerRedBull I say “many don’t understand” in the sense that people often say “just do it” not understanding that before I do most things there’s an extensive mental process that I go through. Even the act of paying bills is exhausting sometimes. Money is there but to go on my phone and push pay is exhausting at times.
I've felt like you a lot. Im an INFJ, but we tend to be existential sensitive types of people and so run of the mill sensory everyday stuff gets in the way, and keep us in our comfortable overthinking condition. But over my time in college caught in an ARCH program that has broken any sense of time management and peace to a confused mess up till this year (last year) where we only have one studio and a couple other simple electives left. Lifestyle was the big hope I realized. We have to apply that metaphysical thinking to our day-to-day > Holism. Yin and Yang has been my way of beginning to balance order and chaos Jordan Peterson style lol. The linchpin is waking up with, or before the sun maximizing daylight which in turn optimizes your psychology in regards to time perception which then allows greater productivity motivation control. Next is exercise. Devote time to my opposite function in one meaningful way at least. Intuitive Dominant? Work out, etc. And I try to do it as early as possible and for me there's a small private gym at my apartment that no one else ever uses (perfect!) Meditate early as well And for me I gotta do mentally stimulating activities as early as possible, for that downward energy slope towards nightfall You Feel epic for the rest of the day and sleepy at the end of it. And slowly overtime your body looks better and makes you more confident. You allow your Metaphysical to Meet A Physical in some way. You gotta careful handle on the abstractions and the concretizations. Anyway i realized after depressive episodes and crazy mind, which A lot of the anguish came from dealing with insomnia and not even understanding where to start in regards to time mamagement. Then I realize that I gotta break the meanings and symbols of the big picture down to the day by day. I think if you can better control the day, you can better by extension control your life, but it all starts with more minimal holistic healthier living I think. I also realizedmy biggest self critique monologues happen when we don't face our full selves in the mirror. We are not only mind we are also body. We are whole, and our mental realms must reflect that. We can only grow with that type of mind. Yin and yang is an ever fluctuating tension. And when it comes to your ideas, I realized you also can't keep it in. It's in our humanity to need to share our inner depths and recievr some sort of meaningful connection from that with others or else we die. You gotta fall in love with some artistic medium etc (for me rapping) it's honestly the best and only thing saving my confidence and my timid identity right now from submitting to all the convention around me. Attach your inner world musings to something you know you're awesome at and everyone else will think is awesome. You won't lose. For us types when we think something is not good enough especially if it's something we've always really wanted to do and have ruminated over it... it probably is really good. Certainly good enough for people to vibe with. And there are plenty of TH-camrs whose standards probably aren't as high as yours and they're getting views. You just gotta believe in "your" visions enough. So that the only hard part left is just putting in the time for the craft of it all.
I am an intp, who has learned about Fi, from my isfp wife. I learned after we separated and she told me allllll the stuff that she was holding inside(i had no idea, no idea of) that brought her to this point of separating from me. She is right about everything, and i was pretty much a robot asshole(i figured we have money thats all that matters lol wrong wrong wrong). I've now learnt about my own feelings and am in touch with them. As an intp I was searching for meaning in this life(science, philosophy) the meaning is love, human connections. All the things I frowned upon and disregarded.
As an INFJ with Fe. I realized after spiral through the Ni-Ti loop for way too long that I can't stay inside my introverted functions. It's become so comfortable to me that I realized in an effort to escape my Ni-Ti and stabilize I'm feeling and identity I would try to jump to my Fi. It's never directly healthy because it's gonna be my critical parent in the shadow if I try to surface it that way. I realized that in order to find my Fi I have to use Fe and Se through rap as a medium to express my Ni-Ti ideals and philosophical views (which is the closest conscious thing to my Fi). The more i can do that the more I can see my holistic reflection. Sometimes you can't see yourself without a mirror.
You help me understand myself better. It's nice to hear that you get infps. Because mostly it's hard to make someone understand, you just talk and wish that person will get it, when they don't it breaks me a little. I do have that feeling when you have those ideas and you want others to be as hyped as you are. But in the end you are looked at weird, and when you see a problem somewhere no one else sees it, also ensure me there are aren't any problems. I remember one time 3 years ago I asked my professor in my Fine Arts academy, why I need to learn about other artists, why do I need all that knowledge, just to get an answer that if I won't I'll be stupid. I remember it hit me really hard, and made matters worse, because I didn't believe him, I felt as if he was belittling me, as if I'm not good enough, through the years I stopped asking him about those things and mostly only did things my way with no other opinions attached to it. Finished my fine arts academy with a highest grade with a +. I understood that it's important sometimes to just do things your way, and not doubt yourself (of course I'm still doubting myself, when now going for masters degree). But it's okay to be misunderstood, to not know everything. When you become content by knowing that you know nothing(or not enough) it frees you :)
I do not feel content by knowing that I dont know enough. It makes me feel even more self doubt. That's why I quit my fine arts studies after my professor told me that my subject matter was questionable to him. He was literally trying to make me doubt myself. I dropped out of college bc of that self doubt.
Thank you! That last part; there is value to holding things as our own… I always get hurt when I share parts of myself with people and I’m met with judgement, which is something I don’t do when it comes to how I deal with people and it always catches me off guard and it hurts.
I'm an INFP. I've always felt really confused because people tell me that I don't open up yet I always saw myself as very open about myself. Like I'll have no problem telling anyone anything about myself, all they have to do is ask whatever they want to know. But I've realized that I think a lot of people expect me to just volunteer that information about myself. I've started to make that a habit, to just volunteer more of information during the course of normal conversations, and I've noticed a marked improvement in my connections with people as a result.
This video is amazing. Thank you so much. I am an ENTJ and I have been searching for some explanation of Fi that makes sense to me...even just a little. This makes a great deal of sense. I am a therapist and I believe doing my inner work is the work required to be a good therapist. Thank you again for this message, it was very helpful.
Infp artist here and I do tell people what I’m feeling but it seems very few actually hear me. I have thought there must be a disconnect between the emotion I’m speaking of and the emotion expressed in my intonation. I like to warn people about my emotions, like, I’m a little blue today or I’m emotionally distracted and not tracking well today. I think because I just state the feeling like a fact it isn’t communicated.
Spot on mate...FANTASTIC! ...and that's how i feel about that. 😉 Much gratitude for being out there sharing your insight. I've been studying personalities for 30 years and you come up with ideas and understandings that I've never read or thought of. From one INFJ to another thank you 😊💚
lol...I was just discussing with a friend the other night, the necessity of explaining "why" to children rather than just barking "because I said so!"...or..."just do it!"...or "get with the program!" Seeing this video, I'm wondering if it's just introverted feelers that have a problem with this. As an INFP child, none of these "barked orders" were acceptable to me. I need a reason for everything...and don't want to do anything at all for the sake of "going with the flow". It's too bad my parents didn't understand this....Their lives could have been so much easier! lol
I have Fe. I have the exact same problem. I'm more willing to be obedient because Fe, team player thing. However, I'm pretty sure my Ti makes me internally scream "BECAUSE IS NOT A REASON YOU CRAZY HDJKDJYAHDJJFJFHHDJJSKKSJHXBXBJZJGSHDJFIJDHSHHX!"
@@flutenanyidk1806 Since I posted the comment above, (It's been a year now) I have figured out that I am actually NOT an INFP but rather an INFJ. So I too have Fe and Ti....and I've always felt the same way!!! I don't even remember now what it is Eric was saying that I was commenting about...however I do feel there are so many things that are difficult to distinguish between INFPs and INFJ...at least via verbal description. There are many similarities. It wasn't until I started just observing INFJs vs. INFPs and especially learning about the individual functions that I realized I was actually an INFJ.
I agree with you about bottling up emotions until, in my case, they come bursting out incomprehensibly to others amazement and my embarrassment. I am a visual art major and love singing and dancing, in fact all the arts.
My prob as an Fi dom is that other people's emotions are so clear to me that I tend to expect others to have that same clarity about mine--bc ya know we tend to forget how radically different other people's cognition is.
Introverted feelers assume that not everyone is worthy of opening up to, and that trust must be earned first. But once trust is earned then the introverted feeler will share anything. In fact, we would much, much, much prefer a world where we could be safe to share everything.
It amazes me how you seem to be able to explain Fi with such a flow, without having Fi in your conscious stack. I feel this video is one of the few resources I found to be quite accurate on Fi.
I'm thinking of times when there were things I noticed (or dreamed of) that I didn't attach meaning to, apart from how I felt in whatever moment. But if I learned the reasons or truth about these things, I would truthfully say, "I didn't know, but I'm not surprised." And could explain why I wasn't surprised.
Thanks Erik, that was really helpful. I am so much this type, that it's unhealthy. Recently though I have been doing therapy and unblocking past emotions. I've noticed I have been able to take more action now. This video is very synchronious :D Just today I decided to go to the library, even though I knew there were no good books on the shelfs for me; I spotted a sign for the local arts council. Now I'm on a path to becoming an artist, alongside looking for regular work in construction. I think what my blocked emotions were telling me, was to integrate both masculine and feminine ^^ The answer to why, I had before found on youtube. Emotional Neglect The Lost Inner Child. Taking action by approaching the arts council, was my masculine self "being a man" and taking care of his feminine side(introverted feeling) to express through art. I think I get this whole loving ourselves business. I wonder can you tell me, what the feminine side can do for the masculine in return? If these things are not taken care of for one side, they may become resentful and act out in unhealthy ways ^^
My friend was an INFJ 8sx, and he would decide to do anything and get it done, no matter if he previously had the skills or not, no matter if he had to completely change his lifestyle or move across country, it didn't matter to him bc he knew he would succeed no matter what. He was able to use his abilities to go forward and change his life, over and over. He had no fear. I think that was the key. He didnt understand why I never knew what I wanted. Now I understand that he was a Hero NI which means, to know what one wants.
I don't usually share my introspection to anyone but my values are under pressure to confront this problem by sharing it to a person I trust and hopefully, the hostile pressure on another person from an individual/group would ease down and hopefully I can live with my conscience peacefully again
I experience this from time to time as an introverted ENFP, but I realized that the more I hide and bottle up my feelings, the more I'm bound to be taken advantaged or misunderstood. So, I try to open up regardless, even if it's really really hard. But I learned too that filtering out what I communicate is important as well. Not everyone is interested in hearing my thoughts. As for my INFJ ex, he was able to hide his emotions very well so I wasnt able to notice, unless if it was really really obvious. I guess it was mostly coz i didnt know him as much yet to know if something is really off. But looking back, i can see now that he was really bothered the morning of the breakup, because a good and careful driver doesnt get a speeding ticket unless if something is bothering them.
I sometimes feel as if I have to scream out my feelings for people to pickup on them. My theory is that I am better than most when it comes to picking up on emotions around me and therefore assume that I don't have to be as clear as I have to. I don't want to push my feelings and beliefs on others but that sometimes makes me to vague and cryptic.
yes me too, i think i am being clear with how i feel but other people dont notice it. Or they do, but choose to ignore it. If you are good at noticing others emotions that indicates that beyond having strong introverted feeling you may also have strong extroverted feeling development, and less ti than the average infj
So relatable. INFJ T here. My niece told me frequently i'd make a great president, cuz I dont give direct answers. Just too afraid to hurt other peoples feelings, meanwhile got trampled myself a bunch of times. Have faith, God helps us all and self love is key. It helps to practice saying what you want/need/feel out loud to the person ur talking with. Baby steps. You'll get there =) Peace
I was arguing with my Mom yesterday about the fact I don't like people and she doesn't understand because she loves people. I'm so different from her she is very extroverted always loved selling her crafts and getting all the praise. I prefer to let a store sell my jewelry, I used to be in a store where I worked on my jewelry and people love my work but I don't need the attention I just need to create and be in my own world. I don't want to be around people. Lol how can I be so completely different? I think INFJ has been my personality since I was a kid.
I resonate so much with you. I have an INTJ friend who often asks me “what does that mean?” “What do you mean by that?” on things that I meant for a joke, or just very straight forward to me. lol . I’m an INFJ
hi! such a good video.I really needed that! i was clear about introvert and intuition since childhood but was unclear what extra sensing was! Now i know and yes i have surprised some people as you say "ah yes she has feelings ah yes she has opinions!!"i have a hard time accepting me!!so many people treat us like weirds.Thank you you reminded me i am not weird
I hide all vulnerable emotions from anyone in real life, and i never feel sad or bad about hiding them. I feel better not telling people, i really am the odd one out. - INTJ
I really enjoyed this particular video!! Being very dominant on my introverted feeling characteristics mainly feeling overwhelmed by my inner feelings most days and then what you mentioned about feeling like you thought you could predict things for people and future outcomes.. I’ve thought I had this gift as well... I still feel like I can on a random kind of level... but yeah, I agree we can live too much in our inner worlds sometimes!🙃🧙♀️... I guess it’s our escape too sometimes! Anyways, thanks for all you’re doing on here! I do plan on supporting your patreon channel as well when I can! Have a good day🤗
Im an INTP who is best friends with an INFP. I usually get annoyed with how closed off they are with their emotions. I can tell something is wrong but I want to be there for them in one way or another. But from time to time they will feel comfortable enough with me and go into so much detail about how they felt in a certain situation and break everything down and I get even more annoyed.
It’s also terribly frustrating at times, because sometimes there is no answer to the why of something. Even then, on a deep level, I’m asking, Why? Some people’s behavior...
Took literally 10 minutes for me to extrapolate that you were talking about IxFx types and not Fi function and 12 min to recognize there were times you meant ExTx types and not Te Function. Lol
I don't know why, but I can almost feel what others are thinking. I told a lady one time that I had known a girl that got hit by a train, and she looked so shocked, and she said my son was killed by a train. Why I mentioned that to her, I don't know, but train came to mind, while I was talking to her. I think that scares people a little when I start talking about things that are in their minds.
can u make a video about the auxiliary Fi? I'm a very confused ENFP i always second guess my type but after this i feel im definitely not dominate Fi because im very bad with keeping secrets Also i never know what im truly feeling :\ poetry is my outlet but i think i enjoy the writing process more because it's beautiful and i hate going deep into my emotions
I can, what I can say first is, enfps are dominantly extroverted feeling types and auxiliary introverted feeling types. That means, you associate Fi with positive vulnerability, and Fe with ease and joy. The ENFP perceives introverted feeling type as something good but difficult. Your inclination is to share and communicate and express yourself. Fis is to introspect, listen to ones inner voice, and reflect on ones purpose. :)
dominate Fes? that sheds a lot of light! though I do not understand how that works, I thought Fe was more of a shadow function to the ENFPs, but it makes things clear as I find myself always putting everyone before me, or do u think that's just a value I possess as an Fi? but I do not understand how Fe is associated with ease and joy, I think it's draining for me :v and yes I am always running my mouth over all that I am feeling and experiencing and I get very depressed when no one wants to hear. But lately I've stopped doing that from a lot of disappointments that occurred in my life and I hardly share with people nowadays, I think I am mostly living with the shield on and not letting my true potential flourish or something
This makes so much sense. I am an ENFP with Fi as my secondary. I always have to know why I am doing something. However with the enneagram 8 I do force myself a lot and thats why my fi was ignored for long even though I felt it. Nowadays I evaluate when to force myself and when it is not necessary. I am an artist.
What i have learned about myself as infp i am already very deep introverted feeling but since young at first my mom could read me so when i knew as teenager i hide my emotions and by experience i think introverted feelers are the best feeling hiders
You described exactly how I feel and do things but I tested Enfp or Entp. And when I watch Infp videos I resonate more with Enfp. This is so confusing lol Any way you could help me figure this out. I'm definitely an introverted feeler but I also completely relate to Enfp. Thinking of all the possibilities and picking up on the atmosphere.
I think Fi is the second function for ENFPs. I certainly "know" (more like feel like it's true, and it often is but not always) things about people that they didn't tell me. This one guy, I really don't like him much, he clearly has daddy issues, ideas about what he has to achieve and how to act to be"successful". And I know all this, and because it's so inauthentic, I don't trust him at all. But at the same time, I don't want to use this knowledge to hurt him, I feel sympathetic. (Except when he hurts someone else, then I get pretty rageful and can say something fairly devastating.)
Comment on why introverted feeling types .... I do deal with this feeling with extreme anxiety especially when the truth in any situation gets pinned down but the thruthfullness of it, when dessiminated for social media consumption, gets obscured by manipulative words/twisted facts or simply hurtful innuendoes directed at an individual or group by some vindictive interested parties. To what purpose then did the intuitive gain or lost in striving for illumination/solving a problem in such sad situations? Instead of a gain, there is a loss of trust in the collective's morale values ultimately demoralising the intuitive in developing/sharpening its innate capabilities due to this doubt/distrust that no matter how you do something wether with success or not, a scapegoat will alwill be found to bear the brunt of a malicious character attack or ridicule, not outwardly expressed of course but in words where one can see /interprete the true meanings
I am always told I'm a enfp by intjs especially, while intps say no youre a entp.. But I think ntps think more about themselves when talking , so they might be seen as egotistical..yet I know nfps do the same, its difficult to tell apart some what.
Some people just don't share their feelings because they know that doing so is not going to get them results or benefit them in any way. Everybody might like to have a significant other, but most people realize that telling somebody "I wish I had somebody in my life right how" will not cause somebody to magically appear in their lives later that day, so why bother. You will just look weak voicing your thoughts and getting no results.
Im an INFJ and I always hear the same things you mentioned, about why I question things and a lot of times I get the "wow I never thought of that.. " or "you look too far into things", or the best of all "I could never think as much as you do".. But my reply 'I could never think as little as they do'. Anyways I can relate!
@@at0mix197 I'm an INFJ as well. I use to hear a lot " your reading to much into it". Exactly I'm always thinking it's like the battery that doesn't shut down even in my sleep sadly. Thank you, much appreciated!!
Honestly we should laugh when people say that. Haha really "I look to much into things?" "Tell that to the philosophers, teachers and scientists who have shaped our modern world 🤣"
Thank you brother. Yeah.... You see it😉🤟🙏♥️☯️ i love it. Its better. Feals more me. Powerful. In control of myself hence the situation. Im greatful. I was wrong because i didnt communicate. I did have something bottled up that i felt you did. Didnt think about it all the way, just felt hurt. Im sorry. Its all good. Small shit to a giant. Giants, key word. Plural.
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The secret to make fi to open up is just open up first let them feel that they’re not going to be judged let them feel your feelings first so they don’t feel weird sharing theirs :]
PowerRedBull yeah that’s true i judge in my head when I listen to someone but it’s just to know if the thing is good or bad And then i put myself in and think what would i do if i was in their position but I’ll keep it to myself until that person proves me wrong :[
PowerRedBull I’m sorry because you have had bad experience with fi dom but again not all people the same i can totally understand the way you feel right now because i was thinking like this about extjs but then i think it depends on the person truly and every person has some kind of fear for me right now I’m fighting that fear to become the person i want to become + the “ acting nice “ thing i can understand that because as isfp I value harmony and I’ll keep my anger just to avoid conflict But trust me you won’t like my anger .. until this sec i feel like I can’t trust nobody .. they did a mistake but who doesn’t
@@PowerRedBullTypology Yeah but then again Fi dominants are not the only ones who keep their real thoughts secret. There are Ti-Fe users who will act nice to your face and then talk shit about you behind your back. How am I supposed to trust Ti-Fe users like that? It seems like Ti-Fe has their own rules of conduct in the social sphere and Te-Fi has their own laws.
I agree, introverted feeling paired with feeling perceiving can definitely make a person a little judgemental, the downside of having strong values, I think. But IXTPs are also quite judgemental :P
@@PowerRedBullTypology You clearly had some bad experiences with INFP's but a) not everyone in the same type acts the same and b) we get better (both stronger and more tolerant) with age.
"We assume often that the introverted feeling types lack emotions because they don't show emotions" - god, so true. My mother actually told me that I'm emotionally cold. If only she knew... It's just that my feelings were dismissed, ridiculed or used against me so many times that these days, I rarely show them to unworthy people.
For people who care so much introverts don’t actually value others bc you’re always talking about whose worthy as if everyone isn’t worthy. It’s pretty judgmental, don’t you think ?? Like hypocritical .. pretty unfair. You are enough to have your convictions just as they are.
I don't share emotions for a couple of reasons. One is because when I do I feel too vulnerable and exposed. But also for Fi doms feelings are a bottomless well, a Pandora's box if you will, and it doesn't seem ok to just pore all of that on others directly. And also words feels kinda inadequate to truly describe emotions. That's why art is such a useful outlet for Fi doms.
This is so relatable, I feel like I'm not alone
beautifully said
beautifully said
You possess a gift of identifying and framing very specific thoughts and emotions so clearly that it almost hurts, a result of being extraordinarily perceptive - something I find extremely rare and beautiful. Thank you :)
Absolutely 100% cannot express my emotions, but I understand and can feel what everyone else is feeling. Most people love having me around, but I never feel fully appreciated or seen :/ But like @The Black Fence Cat said, creative expression is my sanity
Omg for real 💯 relate
I'm INFP and super private. I will only share my feelings if I have a very special connection with someone which is so incredibly hard to find. I don't enjoy superficial relationships at all. I think constantly about what makes me who I am, how I fit into the world, and how I affect others. I care so much about other people's feelings. I don't think people can comprehend my emotional depths. It's so frustrating.
Guess which legendary historical figure was also an INFP. King Richard of England, AKA Richard the Lionheart. Extremely pragmatic and have no use for anything that does not produce results, yet he was tormented by solitude and refused to indulge in the limelight that his fame as a warrior brought.
Fantastic video!!! you absolutely nailed it from start to end. Welldone! (INFP) No one has ever mentioned how much Fi types have to use Te.
no, i know right?! and nobody has really explored Fi in Te flow types either!
Everything is so draining. Thoughts are tiring. I have so much talent and ideas inside but theirs this veil that always stops me from speaking it or actually doing things. I’ve wanted to start a channel on TH-cam for so long but every time I record it’s something telling me it’s not good enough and doubting the content. Pushing through it isn’t easy and many don’t understand.
"many don't understand"....*the* classic Fi-dominant line ("people do not understand me"). The problem is that INFP's do not express themself, so it's not the people's fault they od not understand you. The problem is that you do not tell them anything, so it's impossible to understand you.
Queen, send me a message or a video and I'd be happy to help you in any way I can! :)
PowerRedBull I say “many don’t understand” in the sense that people often say “just do it” not understanding that before I do most things there’s an extensive mental process that I go through. Even the act of paying bills is exhausting sometimes. Money is there but to go on my phone and push pay is exhausting at times.
I've felt like you a lot. Im an INFJ, but we tend to be existential sensitive types of people and so run of the mill sensory everyday stuff gets in the way, and keep us in our comfortable overthinking condition. But over my time in college caught in an ARCH program that has broken any sense of time management and peace to a confused mess up till this year (last year) where we only have one studio and a couple other simple electives left. Lifestyle was the big hope I realized. We have to apply that metaphysical thinking to our day-to-day > Holism.
Yin and Yang has been my way of beginning to balance order and chaos Jordan Peterson style lol.
The linchpin is waking up with, or before the sun maximizing daylight which in turn optimizes your psychology in regards to time perception which then allows greater productivity motivation control.
Next is exercise.
Devote time to my opposite function in one meaningful way at least.
Intuitive Dominant?
Work out, etc.
And I try to do it as early as possible and for me there's a small private gym at my apartment that no one else ever uses (perfect!)
Meditate early as well
And for me I gotta do mentally stimulating activities as early as possible, for that downward energy slope towards nightfall
You Feel epic for the rest of the day and sleepy at the end of it.
And slowly overtime your body looks better and makes you more confident. You allow your Metaphysical to Meet A Physical in some way. You gotta careful handle on the abstractions and the concretizations.
Anyway i realized after depressive episodes and crazy mind, which A lot of the anguish came from dealing with insomnia and not even understanding where to start in regards to time mamagement.
Then I realize that I gotta break the meanings and symbols of the big picture down to the day by day.
I think if you can better control the day, you can better by extension control your life, but it all starts with more minimal holistic healthier living I think.
I also realizedmy biggest self critique monologues happen when we don't face our full selves in the mirror. We are not only mind we are also body. We are whole, and our mental realms must reflect that. We can only grow with that type of mind. Yin and yang is an ever fluctuating tension.
And when it comes to your ideas, I realized you also can't keep it in. It's in our humanity to need to share our inner depths and recievr some sort of meaningful connection from that with others or else we die. You gotta fall in love with some artistic medium etc (for me rapping) it's honestly the best and only thing saving my confidence and my timid identity right now from submitting to all the convention around me. Attach your inner world musings to something you know you're awesome at and everyone else will think is awesome. You won't lose.
For us types when we think something is not good enough especially if it's something we've always really wanted to do and have ruminated over it...
it probably is really good. Certainly good enough for people to vibe with. And there are plenty of TH-camrs whose standards probably aren't as high as yours and they're getting views. You just gotta believe in "your" visions enough. So that the only hard part left is just putting in the time for the craft of it all.
Yes. There is something that stops from inside. I think it is Si comfort as suggested by Geek Pyschology
Express my feelings through not talking
INFP here. Yes, exactly that. We express through other means.
I am an intp, who has learned about Fi, from my isfp wife. I learned after we separated and she told me allllll the stuff that she was holding inside(i had no idea, no idea of) that brought her to this point of separating from me. She is right about everything, and i was pretty much a robot asshole(i figured we have money thats all that matters lol wrong wrong wrong). I've now learnt about my own feelings and am in touch with them. As an intp I was searching for meaning in this life(science, philosophy) the meaning is love, human connections. All the things I frowned upon and disregarded.
As an INFJ with Fe. I realized after spiral through the Ni-Ti loop for way too long that I can't stay inside my introverted functions. It's become so comfortable to me that I realized in an effort to escape my Ni-Ti and stabilize I'm feeling and identity I would try to jump to my Fi. It's never directly healthy because it's gonna be my critical parent in the shadow if I try to surface it that way.
I realized that in order to find my Fi I have to use Fe and Se through rap as a medium to express my Ni-Ti ideals and philosophical views (which is the closest conscious thing to my Fi). The more i can do that the more I can see my holistic reflection. Sometimes you can't see yourself without a mirror.
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You help me understand myself better. It's nice to hear that you get infps. Because mostly it's hard to make someone understand, you just talk and wish that person will get it, when they don't it breaks me a little. I do have that feeling when you have those ideas and you want others to be as hyped as you are. But in the end you are looked at weird, and when you see a problem somewhere no one else sees it, also ensure me there are aren't any problems. I remember one time 3 years ago I asked my professor in my Fine Arts academy, why I need to learn about other artists, why do I need all that knowledge, just to get an answer that if I won't I'll be stupid. I remember it hit me really hard, and made matters worse, because I didn't believe him, I felt as if he was belittling me, as if I'm not good enough, through the years I stopped asking him about those things and mostly only did things my way with no other opinions attached to it. Finished my fine arts academy with a highest grade with a +. I understood that it's important sometimes to just do things your way, and not doubt yourself (of course I'm still doubting myself, when now going for masters degree). But it's okay to be misunderstood, to not know everything. When you become content by knowing that you know nothing(or not enough) it frees you :)
I do not feel content by knowing that I dont know enough. It makes me feel even more self doubt. That's why I quit my fine arts studies after my professor told me that my subject matter was questionable to him. He was literally trying to make me doubt myself. I dropped out of college bc of that self doubt.
Thank you! That last part; there is value to holding things as our own… I always get hurt when I share parts of myself with people and I’m met with judgement, which is something I don’t do when it comes to how I deal with people and it always catches me off guard and it hurts.
I'm an INFP. I've always felt really confused because people tell me that I don't open up yet I always saw myself as very open about myself. Like I'll have no problem telling anyone anything about myself, all they have to do is ask whatever they want to know. But I've realized that I think a lot of people expect me to just volunteer that information about myself. I've started to make that a habit, to just volunteer more of information during the course of normal conversations, and I've noticed a marked improvement in my connections with people as a result.
This video is amazing. Thank you so much. I am an ENTJ and I have been searching for some explanation of Fi that makes sense to me...even just a little. This makes a great deal of sense. I am a therapist and I believe doing my inner work is the work required to be a good therapist. Thank you again for this message, it was very helpful.
Infp artist here and I do tell people what I’m feeling but it seems very few actually hear me. I have thought there must be a disconnect between the emotion I’m speaking of and the emotion expressed in my intonation. I like to warn people about my emotions, like, I’m a little blue today or I’m emotionally distracted and not tracking well today. I think because I just state the feeling like a fact it isn’t communicated.
Spot on mate...FANTASTIC! ...and that's how i feel about that. 😉
Much gratitude for being out there sharing your insight. I've been studying personalities for 30 years and you come up with ideas and understandings that I've never read or thought of. From one INFJ to another thank you 😊💚
lol...I was just discussing with a friend the other night, the necessity of explaining "why" to children rather than just barking "because I said so!"...or..."just do it!"...or "get with the program!" Seeing this video, I'm wondering if it's just introverted feelers that have a problem with this. As an INFP child, none of these "barked orders" were acceptable to me. I need a reason for everything...and don't want to do anything at all for the sake of "going with the flow". It's too bad my parents didn't understand this....Their lives could have been so much easier! lol
I have Fe. I have the exact same problem.
I'm more willing to be obedient because Fe, team player thing. However, I'm pretty sure my Ti makes me internally scream "BECAUSE IS NOT A REASON YOU CRAZY HDJKDJYAHDJJFJFHHDJJSKKSJHXBXBJZJGSHDJFIJDHSHHX!"
@@flutenanyidk1806 Since I posted the comment above, (It's been a year now) I have figured out that I am actually NOT an INFP but rather an INFJ. So I too have Fe and Ti....and I've always felt the same way!!! I don't even remember now what it is Eric was saying that I was commenting about...however I do feel there are so many things that are difficult to distinguish between INFPs and INFJ...at least via verbal description. There are many similarities. It wasn't until I started just observing INFJs vs. INFPs and especially learning about the individual functions that I realized I was actually an INFJ.
I agree with you about bottling up emotions until, in my case, they come bursting out incomprehensibly to others amazement and my embarrassment. I am a visual art major and love singing and dancing, in fact all the arts.
This hit me in the INFP FEELS
Congrats on over 11 thousand subscribers! Great as always.
its 12000 since yesterday, so happy about that, really ready to take a next step in all of this :)
This was soooo well explained! Thank you
My prob as an Fi dom is that other people's emotions are so clear to me that I tend to expect others to have that same clarity about mine--bc ya know we tend to forget how radically different other people's cognition is.
Introverted feelers assume that not everyone is worthy of opening up to, and that trust must be earned first. But once trust is earned then the introverted feeler will share anything. In fact, we would much, much, much prefer a world where we could be safe to share everything.
It amazes me how you seem to be able to explain Fi with such a flow, without having Fi in your conscious stack. I feel this video is one of the few resources I found to be quite accurate on Fi.
I'm thinking of times when there were things I noticed (or dreamed of) that I didn't attach meaning to, apart from how I felt in whatever moment. But if I learned the reasons or truth about these things, I would truthfully say, "I didn't know, but I'm not surprised."
And could explain why I wasn't surprised.
Thanks Erik, that was really helpful.
I am so much this type, that it's unhealthy.
Recently though I have been doing therapy and unblocking past emotions. I've noticed I have been able to take more action now.
This video is very synchronious :D
Just today I decided to go to the library, even though I knew there were no good books on the shelfs for me; I spotted a sign for the local arts council.
Now I'm on a path to becoming an artist, alongside looking for regular work in construction.
I think what my blocked emotions were telling me, was to integrate both masculine and feminine ^^
The answer to why, I had before found on youtube. Emotional Neglect The Lost Inner Child.
Taking action by approaching the arts council, was my masculine self "being a man" and taking care of his feminine side(introverted feeling) to express through art.
I think I get this whole loving ourselves business.
I wonder can you tell me, what the feminine side can do for the masculine in return?
If these things are not taken care of for one side, they may become resentful and act out in unhealthy ways ^^
I need to work on this
My friend was an INFJ 8sx, and he would decide to do anything and get it done, no matter if he previously had the skills or not, no matter if he had to completely change his lifestyle or move across country, it didn't matter to him bc he knew he would succeed no matter what. He was able to use his abilities to go forward and change his life, over and over. He had no fear. I think that was the key. He didnt understand why I never knew what I wanted. Now I understand that he was a Hero NI which means, to know what one wants.
Damn, thats awesome.
I don't usually share my introspection to anyone but my values are under pressure to confront this problem by sharing it to a person I trust and hopefully, the hostile pressure on another person from an individual/group would ease down and hopefully I can live with my conscience peacefully again
I experience this from time to time as an introverted ENFP, but I realized that the more I hide and bottle up my feelings, the more I'm bound to be taken advantaged or misunderstood. So, I try to open up regardless, even if it's really really hard. But I learned too that filtering out what I communicate is important as well. Not everyone is interested in hearing my thoughts.
As for my INFJ ex, he was able to hide his emotions very well so I wasnt able to notice, unless if it was really really obvious. I guess it was mostly coz i didnt know him as much yet to know if something is really off. But looking back, i can see now that he was really bothered the morning of the breakup, because a good and careful driver doesnt get a speeding ticket unless if something is bothering them.
I sometimes feel as if I have to scream out my feelings for people to pickup on them. My theory is that I am better than most when it comes to picking up on emotions around me and therefore assume that I don't have to be as clear as I have to. I don't want to push my feelings and beliefs on others but that sometimes makes me to vague and cryptic.
yes me too, i think i am being clear with how i feel but other people dont notice it. Or they do, but choose to ignore it. If you are good at noticing others emotions that indicates that beyond having strong introverted feeling you may also have strong extroverted feeling development, and less ti than the average infj
So relatable. INFJ T here. My niece told me frequently i'd make a great president, cuz I dont give direct answers. Just too afraid to hurt other peoples feelings, meanwhile got trampled myself a bunch of times. Have faith, God helps us all and self love is key. It helps to practice saying what you want/need/feel out loud to the person ur talking with. Baby steps. You'll get there =) Peace
Erik I'm pretty sure l'm an INFP, so a bit of that feeling presiding mabey.
Thank you. I was looking for it. I never find it any where else. I always the master lol.
I was arguing with my Mom yesterday about the fact I don't like people and she doesn't understand because she loves people. I'm so different from her she is very extroverted always loved selling her crafts and getting all the praise. I prefer to let a store sell my jewelry, I used to be in a store where I worked on my jewelry and people love my work but I don't need the attention I just need to create and be in my own world. I don't want to be around people. Lol how can I be so completely different? I think INFJ has been my personality since I was a kid.
You're so sweet lol love your personality
I resonate so much with you. I have an INTJ friend who often asks me “what does that mean?” “What do you mean by that?” on things that I meant for a joke, or just very straight forward to me. lol . I’m an INFJ
hi! such a good video.I really needed that! i was clear about introvert and intuition since childhood but was unclear what extra sensing was! Now i know and yes i have surprised some people as you say "ah yes she has feelings ah yes she has opinions!!"i have a hard time accepting me!!so many people treat us like weirds.Thank you you reminded me i am not weird
I hide all vulnerable emotions from anyone in real life, and i never feel sad or bad about hiding them. I feel better not telling people, i really am the odd one out. - INTJ
I really enjoyed this particular video!! Being very dominant on my introverted feeling characteristics mainly feeling overwhelmed by my inner feelings most days and then what you mentioned about feeling like you thought you could predict things for people and future outcomes.. I’ve thought I had this gift as well... I still feel like I can on a random kind of level... but yeah, I agree we can live too much in our inner worlds sometimes!🙃🧙♀️... I guess it’s our escape too sometimes! Anyways, thanks for all you’re doing on here! I do plan on supporting your patreon channel as well when I can! Have a good day🤗
Fan va skönt när nån sätter ord på annars ogripbara abstrakta saker man känt hela livet. Du e bäst! /NIFJ councelor
Tack Karin! :)
Im an INTP who is best friends with an INFP. I usually get annoyed with how closed off they are with their emotions. I can tell something is wrong but I want to be there for them in one way or another. But from time to time they will feel comfortable enough with me and go into so much detail about how they felt in a certain situation and break everything down and I get even more annoyed.
So you’re annoyed with them for both not expressing and expressing their emotions. K.
Why? Why? Why? That is the question I always ask. Why this and why that. It’s frustrates people in my life a great deal!
But why? is the most fun question in the world!
Erik Thor Yes, because if I get an answer, I’ve learned something, I can understand something. Understanding the why of things is so important to me.
It’s also terribly frustrating at times, because sometimes there is no answer to the why of something. Even then, on a deep level, I’m asking, Why? Some people’s behavior...
Took literally 10 minutes for me to extrapolate that you were talking about IxFx types and not Fi function and 12 min to recognize there were times you meant ExTx types and not Te Function. Lol
9min in and just putting that together as i come across your comment for confirmation, was a pretty baffled little INFP til then so thanks
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I don't know why, but I can almost feel what others are thinking. I told a lady one time that I had known a girl that got hit by a train, and she looked so shocked, and she said my son was killed by a train. Why I mentioned that to her, I don't know, but train came to mind, while I was talking to her. I think that scares people a little when I start talking about things that are in their minds.
INFJ and ISFJ have extraverted feeling. INTJ & ISTJ has interoverted feeling. Is your video description correct?
can u make a video about the auxiliary Fi? I'm a very confused ENFP
i always second guess my type but after this i feel im definitely not dominate Fi because im very bad with keeping secrets
Also i never know what im truly feeling :\
poetry is my outlet but i think i enjoy the writing process more because it's beautiful and i hate going deep into my emotions
I can, what I can say first is, enfps are dominantly extroverted feeling types and auxiliary introverted feeling types. That means, you associate Fi with positive vulnerability, and Fe with ease and joy. The ENFP perceives introverted feeling type as something good but difficult. Your inclination is to share and communicate and express yourself. Fis is to introspect, listen to ones inner voice, and reflect on ones purpose. :)
dominate Fes? that sheds a lot of light! though I do not understand how that works, I thought Fe was more of a shadow function to the ENFPs, but it makes things clear as I find myself always putting everyone before me, or do u think that's just a value I possess as an Fi? but I do not understand how Fe is associated with ease and joy, I think it's draining for me :v and yes I am always running my mouth over all that I am feeling and experiencing and I get very depressed when no one wants to hear. But lately I've stopped doing that from a lot of disappointments that occurred in my life and I hardly share with people nowadays, I think I am mostly living with the shield on and not letting my true potential flourish or something
@@novemberssun9188 I think that was a typo. ENFPs are dominate Ne with auxiliary Fi. Its not possible to be bolth a dominate and auxiliary feeler.
Eriks system is different and in my experience mutch beter than the Mbti system. Take a look at his website and you will understand what he means.
So good
I loved this. This applies to a lot of Fi doms I know. Me, included.
also, clicked on this video obv because im a Fi using ENFP so i relate a lot :)
I think you got it right.!!!!
This makes so much sense. I am an ENFP with Fi as my secondary. I always have to know why I am doing something. However with the enneagram 8 I do force myself a lot and thats why my fi was ignored for long even though I felt it. Nowadays I evaluate when to force myself and when it is not necessary. I am an artist.
I'm glad it connects with you, that sounds like a cool combo, ENFP-8. Almost ENFj ish!
Nice to be the student. You get to learn.
What i have learned about myself as infp i am already very deep introverted feeling but since young at first my mom could read me so when i knew as teenager i hide my emotions and by experience i think introverted feelers are the best feeling hiders
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"get a degree, get a highschool diploma, go there, do that, PAY YOUR TAXES"
hehe, I won't pay my taxes now, heheheheheh
You described exactly how I feel and do things but I tested Enfp or Entp. And when I watch Infp videos I resonate more with Enfp. This is so confusing lol Any way you could help me figure this out. I'm definitely an introverted feeler but I also completely relate to Enfp. Thinking of all the possibilities and picking up on the atmosphere.
I think Fi is the second function for ENFPs.
I certainly "know" (more like feel like it's true, and it often is but not always) things about people that they didn't tell me. This one guy, I really don't like him much, he clearly has daddy issues, ideas about what he has to achieve and how to act to be"successful". And I know all this, and because it's so inauthentic, I don't trust him at all.
But at the same time, I don't want to use this knowledge to hurt him, I feel sympathetic. (Except when he hurts someone else, then I get pretty rageful and can say something fairly devastating.)
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I do deal with this feeling with extreme anxiety especially when the truth in any situation gets pinned down but the thruthfullness of it, when dessiminated for social media consumption, gets obscured by manipulative words/twisted facts or simply hurtful innuendoes directed at an individual or group by some vindictive interested parties. To what purpose then did the intuitive gain or lost in striving for illumination/solving a problem in such sad situations? Instead of a gain, there is a loss of trust in the collective's morale values ultimately demoralising the intuitive in developing/sharpening its innate capabilities due to this doubt/distrust that no matter how you do something wether with success or not, a scapegoat will alwill be found to bear the brunt of a malicious character attack or ridicule, not outwardly expressed of course but in words where one can see /interprete the true meanings
Spot on
Eric is sooooo sweet ✨
I am always told I'm a enfp by intjs especially, while intps say no youre a entp..
But I think ntps think more about themselves when talking , so they might be seen as egotistical..yet I know nfps do the same, its difficult to tell apart some what.
would you say Fi dominant users are more stoic and less likely to express their feelings than an auxiliary Fi user (say INFP vs ENFP).
Scandies using the word "shite" 🤣 Big approve👍❤️
This is my sisters first function and my second! (Guess what types we are) We both stuggle with this!
Some people just don't share their feelings because they know that doing so is not going to get them results or benefit them in any way. Everybody might like to have a significant other, but most people realize that telling somebody "I wish I had somebody in my life right how" will not cause somebody to magically appear in their lives later that day, so why bother. You will just look weak voicing your thoughts and getting no results.
As for the predicting the future i think its instinct
Just do it or why do you question everything or ask so many questions, what I use to hear a lot.
Im an INFJ and I always hear the same things you mentioned, about why I question things and a lot of times I get the "wow I never thought of that.. " or "you look too far into things", or the best of all "I could never think as much as you do".. But my reply 'I could never think as little as they do'. Anyways I can relate!
@@at0mix197 I'm an INFJ as well. I use to hear a lot " your reading to much into it". Exactly I'm always thinking it's like the battery that doesn't shut down even in my sleep sadly. Thank you, much appreciated!!
Honestly we should laugh when people say that. Haha really "I look to much into things?"
"Tell that to the philosophers, teachers and scientists who have shaped our modern world 🤣"
Right, very well said.
I try
Thank you brother. Yeah.... You see it😉🤟🙏♥️☯️ i love it. Its better. Feals more me. Powerful. In control of myself hence the situation. Im greatful. I was wrong because i didnt communicate. I did have something bottled up that i felt you did. Didnt think about it all the way, just felt hurt. Im sorry. Its all good. Small shit to a giant. Giants, key word. Plural.
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Story of my life
Yep
6 narcissists disliked this video. don't be angry on them, they are lost mostly.
This comment made my day :D
I once - accidentally - hit dislike on my phone...probably not that only one that’s done that.
I think your accent is really interesting.
ENFP here in 2023~
I have terrible bottle up anger
I WON'T SHARE MY FEEELINGS, EVEN WITH 1 MILLION DOLLARS!!!
-INFP
SOme people say, that rappers don't have feelings...
As an INFP, as a creative type, I am in the path of the artist. :)
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Where do you get your information from? Everything you say is wrong xD
I hate being an INFP :'((
Wait, Erik, I always thought you were INFJ??? You have Fe, not Fi. Are you INFP?
But im doing better now
I ask wrong
You're cute!
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