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Beautiful, amazing story! And your "quick" Red Beans and Rice recipe sounds delicious. Didn't realize you are a Louisiana girl too! I'll be watching more because I want to support the work you do as a nurse with Hospice patients. It's a calling for sure!
My uncle decided he wanted to dance one day when the aides came to change his linens. He hadn't danced in a very long time. He was dancing with my aunt and said to her, "Marge - who would have thought dying could feel so good! I can dance and I can hear! " He left us shortly thereafter. It just a beautiful story.
I was in a very bad marriage for 6 years but had 4 amazing kids with him. He dropped out of the kids lives but I kept them in his families lives. I was very close to his grandparents and couldn't imagine them not being around to see my kids. Granny passed with dementia in 2006, they had been married since they she was 14 and he was 17, so 70 years of marriage. He was very lost without her and heartbroken that she forgotten all their memories due to the dementia. He never stopped talking about getting to see "his baby" again. 5 years later I was doing my daily stop after work to check on him and he whispered to come sit next to him. He told me that Granny had come to see him last week and that she was so beautiful and remembered their first date again. He sd that she wanted him to thank me for keeping the kids in the family and for loving him so much after she died, and that she loved me. Then he smiled so brightly and sd "I'm going to see my baby tonight and I'll never have to let her go again. Hun, I won't wake up tomorrow." It sounded ridiculous but I somehow completely believed him. He held my hand until I left. I bent over to give him his hug and kiss on the forehead. He sd one more kiss and I'll give it to Granny for you. So I kissed him on the head again. He told me he loved me and would miss me. 6 hours later he was gone.
He wasn't confused he just had one foot in heaven and one here on earth. He was merging in and out of two different realms. Thanks for the story, I felt like I got to meet him.
My father was so social. He knew so many people. His last full day we spent together on FaceTime talking to so many different people. By the evening I could tell he needed to rest. I told him I loved him and said Love. I knew what he meant. Then closed his eyes. The next day he passed. On the 22nd it will be year. I just wanted to tell someone about it.
After my mom passed away, her chemo nurse wrote my dad a note. She told him that Mom had shed some tears during her treatment, both from discomfort but also due concern about how my Dad and the rest of us (children & grandchildren) would do in her absence. She knew the Lord was taking her Home soon. And He did. Her funeral was on the day she would have had her next and final chemo session. She did not want to go back to the hospital. My dad was her caregiver at home. She called out to him to help her, when he tried to help her up, she slumped and passed away in his arms. That is exactly how she would have wanted to go....at home in Dad's arms. Thanks for sharing your stories.
@@Pammipooh62 my mom passed away in 1992 and my Dad passed away in 2008. All of us are doing well. My parents are still greatly missed but we are thankful that we will see them one day when it's our turn to go to Heaven.
I am a nurse, but not a hospice nurse. I have always admired hospices nurses. I had the honor of being with one of my patients when he passed just this past weekend. He served our country in the Vietnam war and he had no family. It was over the weekend that he (was in a skilled nursing facility and on hospice) began to actively pass. I visited him from Thurs - Sunday and would talk to him and play praise and worship music. Hearing is usually the last sense to go so I wanted to make certain that he knew he was not alone. Sunday, the day he passed I arrived to see him (not expecting him to be with us) and he was still laying in his bed. He ended up passing away within 30 minutes of my arrival. I believe he was waiting for me before he left this earth. He was in a coma-like state and his eyes were closed the entire time. I played one last song for him (How Great Thou Art). I noticed that his breathing significantly changed and at the end of that song, he opened his eyes and took one last breath. He was a very dear man and look forward to seeing him in Heaven one day.🙏
I find it amazing that women who are pregnant have a surge of energy in the last weeks to days prior to bringing life into the world and dying people have a surge of energy before leaving this world.
My mom passed away May 13th this year the day before Mother's Day. The 2 days before she died she was unresponsive so we took that time to just be with her, talk to her and tell some memories of our life with her. The night before she passed, when everyone had left, I sat next to her and told her what a wonderful mom she was and how proud I always was of her (she was a nurse too Hadley) I layed my head down next to her and all of the sudden I felt a pat, pat, pat, on my head. I know she heard me, and I was comforted by that. I miss her so. ❤
I love your videos. Before my brother passed away he woke up from a coma and had to have tapioca pudding. While I was feeding him the pudding he looked over at the window and said “not right now” when my dad asked who he was talking to he said “that angel has been trying to get me to go with him for the past 3 days and I’m not ready yet”. He passed away not long after that.
I used to go and stay with my grandma who just been admitted to a nursing home… about a wk before she passed she started telling me that my grandfather (who’d died yrs before I was born), was coming… that she could see him walking towards her out the window… Grandma had been completely blind for years…. Each day she’d say that he was getting closer. I got a phone call at 5:30am telling me that Grandma had died… I guess my Grandfather finally got there.❤
Something similar happened with my uncle (my dad’s brother). My dad passed away from cancer when I was five years old, I’m in my 40s now. My uncle died about twelve years ago from a rare and fast progressing form of Alzheimer’s. It was very fast from diagnosis to him loosing the ability to do anything. He forgot how to eat, drink, speak.. heartbreaking. Anyway the morning before he passed away he woke up, looked around the room, smiled then looked at his daughter and said “I’m going fishing with our Roy tomorrow”. After that he settled back in to his vegetative state. He hadn’t been able to speak for months. Roy was my dad, his brother who died back in the 80’s. No one could understand what had just happened. He passed away the following day. It brings me a lot of comfort now my mum is getting on in years.
You say early in the video that hospice nurses are sometimes seen similarly to the angel of death. That hit my heart. My grandfather was able to spend his final days in his home and he got to live those days on his terms. The difference in his treatment from the hospital to hospice was huge. Hospice freed him from procedures that he did not want. Hospice cared about his wants and what he didn't want. Hospice heard his voice and valued it. The hospice nurses gave support to my grandmother and myself at a very challenging time. Hospice nurses took a heartbreaking transition for our family and made it a beautiful experience that we did not have to navigate alone. My grandfather got to leave this life on his own terms, in his own home because of hospice. I cannot tell you how much this still means to me 10 years after his passing. I would say hospice nurses are angels present at a time of death, not angels bringing death. The nurses we had changed my mind about what hospice is and I know that I will choose hospice over hospital when I am nearing my time. Please know that you are a huge blessing to the families you work with. ❤
I remember when my Mom was dying. The last day she was up awake and we talked all day❤ Then around 6 pm she started to get quiet then she fell into a coma and she passed around 9 pm. That last day was one of the best days I had with her. We talked about everything and she was her old self funny and happy. I am so grateful I got to have that day and I am blessed to be able to watch her pass. It was so gentle and peaceful and made me not afraid of death. The same thing happened to my Dad. He was bright and alert and got to see his grandbabies which for him was the world and as soon as they left he slipped into a coma and he too passed so gently and peacefully. I will never fear death after watching them go so gently. I miss them but I know I will see them again ❤
I’ve worked with hospice twice so far (mother and father-in-law) and rather than think of the nurse as some sort of angel of death, I’ve always thought of them as an angel of mercy. Thank you for all you do.
my father was in respiratory distress before his passing from Lung Cancer and, a nurse on duty who knew him, sat with him as he waited for the family to get there and she made him comfortable with medications as they sat, he asked to place his hand on her pregnant belly and told her she would have a girl. My dad was NOT a demonstrative touchy feely man, this was not his personality, and we were so grateful to her that she shared this and it meant alot to her. She had a girl months later. Its been thirty years since he died and I never forgot this story. There just might be something to you having thiis new baby at this time. Love your stories nurse Hadley
I love that you shared this. I was 19 when my son passed @ 7mo, 6d. I for years i had the same dream about him but could never finish it. But one night I had the same dream again and I got to finish it. He came up to me and put his little arms around me and said. Mommy, I love you so much, you don't have to be sad anymore. I'm not in pain anymore, so please don't be sad. I love you Mommy😢 and I will see you again some day. That was 39 years ago and I still cry like it was yesterday. He came back to comfort me. Thank you for sharing your videos. You are so comforting and caring. Your patience and families are so blessed to have you as their nurse.
I love hearing your stories, I lost my daughter in 2014, 47 yrs old, cervical cancer. I took care of her for 5 months, most of that time she was bedridden, I had a hospice nurse come 3 times a week, Hospice was wonderful, supplied the bed and all supplies I needed, they stayed with me for 3 days training me how to change her debried wound from having a large bedsore, and showed me how to change sheets while she was in bed. I appreciated them so much. She was catherized so that made it easier for me. The last week of her life I put her in a hospice care house as I could not control her throwing up sporadically so the hospice nurse said she was in her decline and should go to hospice house because they could control it. The Friday before she went to Heaven, I had washed her hair because I had an inflated basin and knew it would make her feel good. I kissed her goodnight and said I would be back in the morning, she was asleep, it was close to 10pm. I was home a 1/2 hoot when the nurse called me and said she was crying and wanted me to come, my husband and I went back down and stayed the night, and held her hand and told her we loved her, she died Sat at 1;45pm, and had a smile on her face, she had accepted Jesus as her Savior when she was in 8th grade, I had told her to go to Jesus, and there was no struggle. These type of video’s help me deal with my loss.
I am so terribly sorry for the loss of your daughter. I have two young daughters and I can't fathom the depth of that loss. I hope that you have found some peace in knowing you will see her again.
We have a sanctuary for rescued pets and have seen this end of life burst of energy many times when animals are close to end of life. We have dubbed it “life spurt” ❤
I am a retired live in CNA care giver 4 days on about 3 days off. My patient was on hospice. One night I was passing her bedroom and she looked up and said mom!! ( she was 93) well, she slept a lot during the couple weeks that passed. One day she asked for her one son. He lived far was married had the money to make the visit. She had two adult sons and one daughter. Well, the son she asked about that lived far away I told her daughter her mom was asking about him to come. The daughter called him, he said he couldn’t make the trip but wanted certain jewelry of his moms. So, I told my patient her son was unable to come. She tightened up her lips in a angry disgusted way and that was that. A couple days later after kinda of comatose she rallied sat up ate. The next day she passed. I was there with the hospice nurse. We called the funeral home. Meanwhile we were cleaning the body up. And all of a sudden her son the one who would not come and his wife’s picture on the dresser slammed down face down. The nurse looked at me and I her. The nurse said WOW somebody is mad! My patient let us know how mad she was before she left the room at her son. I will never forget that. I will never forget that. So many stories when your a caregiver or hospice person. ❤
Having had a couple of relatives in hospice at this point, I have nothing but admiration and love for the people who help the dying. You and folks like you are angels on earth, as far as I'm concerned. There really is no higher calling. God bless you.
My Mom knew. She had a heart attack, drove herself to the hospital for care, had a small procedure to unblock an artery but she was doing fine. On Friday they said she could go home on Sunday but they just wanted to get all her meds straight and make sure everything was fine from the procedure, mostly because she lived alone. She insisted she was going to die before Sunday, even called her reverend to come do the Baptist equivalent of last rights. She told me not to come home, a 12 hour drive, because she said I wouldn’t get there in time anyway, so just sleep and get things together to drive up for the funeral… There was absolutely no medical reason that they could find that she was going to die imminently… but just a couple hours after her Pastor left she went to sleep and didn’t wake up. Other than the heart attack and the fact that she was 86, there was no real reason for her to die. She played piano at a wedding on Friday, thought she was having a heart attack so drove to the hospital, had the procedure and was seemingly doing well… but she was gone before Sunday. (Another reason she called her pastor was to make sure he found someone to play piano on Sunday, Mom was her church’s pianist.😊) She was also a home health aid and worked MANY hospice cases over the years, so I’m sure she knew a lot that even her doctors and nurses did not. Her mother had died when my mom was only 19 and my mom had just become a new mom. I always picture my grandmother coming to get her, and I REALLY hope that’s true. My mom spoke of her mother with adoration and longing… So I truly hope they are in a beautiful place, at peace and without pain, together.
Beautiful story! My mommy passed when I was 16 and can’t wait to see her again ❤️ was your mom scared when she had the heart attack and later when she knew she would be dying?
@@jessicabasurto9485 she never acted scared. My mom was a very devout Christian so she had complete faith that she was going to heaven to be with Jesus. Also, at 86, she had suffered some extremely devastating losses via death- a grandson, babies that didn’t make it to term (she miscarried, Ash’s several of her children and grandchildren miscarried/had still births) her first love, her parents and all her brothers… So she felt she was going to be with God and all of the people that went before her. I really hope that’s true. Not long after I lost my mom, I lost my brother. He got a terrible infection from cancer surgery… It was very hard on all of us. I hope that they are together, along with my nephews, in a real heaven.
@@jessicabasurto9485 16 is so young to lose a parent. I’m so very sorry for your loss. I hope that you have wonderful memories to sustain you and that someday when you’re very old that you are reunited.
Fellow New Orleanian here. Food is our love language. I can absolutely understand him wanting to cook during the surge. He was telling anyone that was able to eat that meal that he loves them and wants to make sure they are taken care of. ❤️
Hi Hadley , I’ve just found your channel and the wonderful work u do. I’m a Christian too and have sometimes had the odd doubt but when my dear grandad was near the end of his battle with cancer he suddenly opened his eyes after a long sleep and said” oh, the gardens are so beautiful up there, they are really lovely” He was an avid gardener and must have seen a glimpse of heaven before he left us. Thank you for sharing you special stories, you do an amazing job🥰, I live in south west U.K, and will now watch the rest.💕x x
I love these stories. My mom said my grandfather had that burst of energy. I know when my grandpa passed I dreamed about him just one time. 5 years later my grandma passed and I dreamed about her. Both times I only had one dream and haven’t since. I feel like they were letting me know that they were ok. I was terribly heartbroken. After the dreams I felt at peace.
Orh, that's lovely, you are a bit of an empath, that you dream about your loved ones after passing to see they are just fine and give them a closure as well ❣️🥰 I'm happy for you.
I had something similar happen when my brother passed away. He didn't speak in the dream, but when I asked if he was ok, he nodded yes to me. I haven't had another dream of him. 😭 I miss him so much.
I had a dream with my grandmother shortly after she passed. It was beautiful. I've never had another one and haven't experienced a dream that vivid with my other grandparents, although I wish I would.
That's a wonderful story. Before he passed, laying in his bed, my dad kept talking to someone above him. My aunt finally asked him, "Who are you talking to". He looked at her and said, "Dad".
My mom passed away on May of 2020. Two years later, the pain of her loss is still devastating and indescribable. I lapse into doubts of whether I will see her again. I hope the last visions I can grasp with my consciousness in this lifetime will be of her as well as my first visions when I arrive in the next.
My father passed October of 2020, and I totally feel your pain. Lately though, I've had a lot of strange things happen to me and my son, that we can only describe as it being HIM! I hope it is. ❤️
@@tinadraganides9958 What kinds of things? Are you able to share some of them? In my experience, if God is sending you messages or messengers from the other side, he'll make sure you know for certain that it's him doing it.
My mom was sent home to die. We did want her in a hospice. It took 2 1/2 week. I flew my children in from California to say their last goodbyes and sent them home. Then we were just me, my sister, her husband and daughter at her house. I could see my mom couldn’t hold on any longer, sher was no longer speaking in English but in her first language and to our father, grandmother, and many deceased relatives so I knew she was ready to go but my sister kept cry to her not to go until I told her to stop and to let her go. When her finally did that we all sat around her bed and had a drink and toast her. We laughed and talk about good memories of her. The next morning she was peacefully lying in bed and I call the doctor.
In December of last year my Dad wanted to buy a sleep number bed. We lived close to a store so my sister took him. At first the sales lady said it wouldn't be delivered till January. Dad expressed disappointment. My sister said asked why? What's the problem? He said he wasn't going to live through January. My sister told him to stop and just buy the bed. Eventually the sales lady said it can be delivered Dec 23. My sister said, see. You can get 2 weeks in it Dad. Bed arrived Dec 23. Dad died Jan 9. When they tell you they know death is coming, listen to them and acknowledge it. Keep enjoying life, but don't dismiss it.
@@jessicabasurto9485 I’m so sorry for your pain. I understand, I have chronic pain and some days I wonder if it’s worth it to keep enduring it constantly. I truly believe that we have a set number of days on earth and that is not meant to change. I don’t think it can be added to or subtracted from in any way. That means that while we are here we can endure as much as we are given. I know how hard it can be but I know that you are able to handle it. It’s hard and can be miserable but you are so strong and brave. Try to enjoy as much of every day as you are able. Wishing you the very best.
@jessicabasurto9485 I'm sorry you're going through so much. You're still here for a reason and it isn't just to cause you trouble and heartache. You still have a job to fulfill or something to do. Lord bless you
My Dad about two weeks before he passed away said he could see his Mom (Grandma passed in 1981) and Me on a ship. He was completely bed ridden at this point and was starting to refuse food. My Mom miscarried a baby girl about two years after I was born. I believe it was my Grandma and Sister that came to get him. It gives me hope that I will meet my sister and 3 angel babies when I start my next journey. Thank you for your stories and insights, it has helped me with my grieving journey. My Dad passed away 7 months ago, we also lost my Father In-law a year ago. It has been a hard journey for us that are left behind but in my heart I know that I will see them again. Blessings to you and your family ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your stories. I've only had one client have a real surge of energy. It was crazy to see. But I've had, I'd say, 75% of my clients say they see their loved ones that had already passed on, or they start talking about a trip they have to take. I had one lady keep packing her suitcase because her mom told her they would be taking a trip on the train soon. She packed that suitcase over and over again for 2 weeks before she passed.
Breaks my heart that she kept packing her suitcase 💕 sounds like she was ready for that trip. Also makes me wonder maybe she didn't know what to pack or how much to pack since she kept doing it over and over 💕 thank you for sharing that
I love these positive stories… Do you ever have patients that are dying and afraid because they have lived bad lives and feel that whatever’s next is going to be worse?
@CJxLuvly I think staff at the facility would unpack it when she was sleeping or in the Cafeteria. (She only had few things, living in a facility) Believe me, she was ready to go, she was always excited about it and just couldn't wait and she packed everything she owned in that facility right down to a potted plant.
@justilou1 to be honest I've only had one patient seem scared in the moment. She kept looking behind me and asking who that was in the corner and then cry and cry. I prayed over her before I left shift that afternoon and I got a call about 2 hours before I was to be in on shift the next day that she had passed. I went in early to help prep the body for the funeral home and be there for my staff. Her face looked much more peaceful than it had the day prior so I'm hoping she wasn't scared when she passed.
@@jennysmith2540 My mum was terrified. She’d had a lot of “fire and brimstone” brainwashing from her own upbringing and hadn’t been exactly the sweet & gentle type. She certainly didn’t mellow on her deathbed - pretty much became the worst version of herself (the one without a filter). It was heartbreaking to see her so terrified and angry and bitter.
Thanks so much for sharing. My grandmother passed this week on May 3rd at 86. She kept saying she wanted her momma. She was smiling and talking (mumbling) to someone in the room no one saw. It's comforting to know that she was at peace in the end. Congratulations on your pregnancy.
My Dad was a preacher all his life. Three weeks before he died he said Jesus came to visit him. Tears streamed down his face. He said I’ve known that Jesus loves us but I had no idea just how much. He also said Jesus just wants us to talk to Him. I said Dad you must people your story and he said no you write it down and tell it. I miss.
My great-grandmother began seeing all her family & friends as she was dying. At one point she got upset & said the room was too small for all the people in it. The only ones there that could be seen was my grandmother & two nuns. I firmly believe in the next life. ❤
This hits hard. I was with my Oma (grandma) when she went into the coma and then passed not long after holding my daughters hand (she was just about to turn 1). She told me that she would wait for me and my daughter to fly to see her before she passed. I'm so thankfully we got to spend a good 2 weeks together and she also got to meet her great grand daughter before she passed. She is now with my Opa (her husband). I see them all the time looking over my daughter at home. It's just so nice to know they are still always with us ❤
My mom is in the end stages of her life in long term care with dementia and your beautiful stories give such encouragement. We had and have a very broken relationship since I was a small child that I always hope can be repaired even in some small way. Thank you for sharing your touching stories and for being there for so many in such a positive way.
Hadley, thank you for sharing these amazing stories! I absolutely believe that my grandpa knew he was going to pass. I lived out of state and my mom called and said that if I wanted to see him, I needed to get there. I got ready very quickly and ran to the airport, and when I got there I found out that the flight had left early! I was devastated!! I just knew that I wasn’t going to get there in time, but my parents told him that I was trying to get there snd it’d be a couple hours later than what they thought. I got on the next flt and got to my hometown while he was still with us. My aunt made it just minutes after I did, and we all had such a great time talking and laughing. He was definitely in the rally part of dying. I thought that the dr’s just didn’t know what they were talking about bc he looked just like he always had and nothing seemed different. After a few hours he asked for everyone to step out so that he could use the restroom. I had to get back to the airport and told him bye and that i loved him. My Dad drove me to the airport and right as we wee pulling up, my mom called said that he was gone. He waited for all of us to get there and then was ready to leave. That’s my personal story about hospice. I always wanted to go into nursing and thought that I’d like hospice, bc just like you said you loved the bond you form with the family as well as the patient. Much love to you and keep the stories coming! We love them!! 💗💗💗
I am a cna and i can relate to your story on the soccer game. My hospice client was approaching 💯. He wanted to be present for his party. So i got help from EMTs to get him to his party. It was so awesome to see that smile when he watched the band play. He passed a month later.
When my dad passed my mom came down to check on him when she woke up, told him she was going to take a shower, and asked if he needed anything. my dad slurred his words by then and he said "our". so mom told him that ok she would take her shower get stuff together for a sponge bath and give him a bath before I woke up. she took her shower threw on a robe went downstairs to check on him it had been 20 min at that point. she asked him if he needed anything and he responded "of you" she told him love you too went up to get dressed took about 20 more min gathered his bath stuff another 5-8 min, walked downstairs, and to where my dad was at exactly an hour after she first asked him if he needed anything and he was gone. he asked for an hour, not a shower, and he wanted to make sure my mom was not in the room when he passed.
My mama had cancer (ALL) and her last hospital stay she said that my brother ( her oldest who died in a car wreck) and my little sister (her baby who died of cancer (ALL) came to see her and that she had to get out of there. I knew that it wouldn’t be long. I took her home and she passed away a few weeks later. I know that she saw my older brother and little sister. ♥️ I can’t thank you for these videos and all of your stories Nurse Hadley. ♥️ And thank you everyone who are leaving your experiences they are all just so lovely. ♥️
Your story rings so clear to me now about a family member. I am a retired nurse of 25 years, but I was always in OB/PP/WBN/AP/GYN areas. So, I had never dealt with the death of an adult patient. Sadly, it was always infants. So my aunt was diagnosed with brain cancer around Thanksgiving. I am not exactly sure the time frame. I know she was in a deer 🦌 stand on Thanksgiving day. And in just a couple of months, she was going down very fast. My mother was going almost daily, and I didn't want her to go thru this alone, so I was going with her. One day, she was sleeping most of the time but my mom was turning to go out of the room and my aunt lifted her arm and was waving as to call someone in, and she said Mama as she waved her hand. My mom knew what she was saying I thought she was trying to get my mom back in the room. So now I see she was talking to her mother. I was in tears when I listened to your story. Thank you for sharing. I hope this can reach nurses and patients and their families alike because both can learn from your experiences. You have such a wonderful way of telling your stories, and it can be seen in how much you poor your heart into your patients and their families, too.
We lived in New Orleans for a year when I was a kiddo, and oh my goodness I remember the Red Beans and Rice! What a sweet story, Mr. William putting in a good word with The Big Guy brings tears to my eyes 💕 Also, it’s so interesting how they seem to be so matter of fact about their deceased loved ones coming to talk to them.
I love y'all as a whole, my Dad had the best team for almost 6 YEARS! Hospice isn't always a "death call" it's absolutely about comfort care at that point. You are so courageous and honestly, an angel on earth to most people. Awh, I'ma get emotional. I love you and your profession. 🥲 Big hugs.
An angel of death is still an angel. Who’s “job” it is to help the transition of the living….not just the patient. The family. Hospice nurses are extremely special and have hearts bigger than they are.
Thank you for sharing this beautiful story. That surge of energy occurred with my mom as well. I didn't know what it was at the time, so I was hopeful for her recovery. But as you said, it was a matter of days and she was gone from this world. But a week or so before that, she saw my deceased brother with another two men. She was a bit confused as to why she saw them dressed in dark suits, as she put it at the time. Mom never spoke of faith or anything like that. All I (thankfully) learned was from watching my grandmother live her Christian faith, but even she didn't speak of it either. Her faithful life was enough to make me interested enough to learn more about it (without getting preachy). I believe you're doing one of the most important works now Hadley, in your career and in making the videos helping others to prepare for themselves and their loved ones. Hopefully inspiring other young people to look at this as something they may wish to do. God bless and keep you.
You are absolutely adorable. Both my parents went into a skilled nursing facility six months ago. My mom is 91 and has end stage dementia. My dad is 88 has a heart condition and some confusion, he struggles to do daily things. The last two years have been very hard but your stories are very comforting and I really appreciate you putting them out there.
I was an RN for 20 years and have many many stories just like yours.... I was not Hospice, but I looked after many at end of life, including my husband who passed away at home in 2015.
I hope you read this. Just happened on you today. I’ve watched 2 others vids so far. I am definitely subscribing right now. My mom’s getting a bit on in years and her health isn’t so good. The last incident happened several months ago and has had lasting effects and she hasn’t bounced back very much at all. She’s showing signs of memory loss and her physicality is disintegrating. I am her only caregiver and I am alone in this world. Being able to get info like this helps my stress level and also helps me help her better. I’m educating myself on tias, strokes, dementia and what her capabilities and capacities are. I’ve already had to take over a lot and knowing some of what to expect helps us both. I’ve moved in with her because it would take a fleet of tanks to make her move. Learning what hospice caregivers are responsible for and what will be expected of me is making the inevitable less terrifying. So, thank you. You are making a difference. At least for me anyways. I’m still amazed at what I’ll find answers to on TH-cam. huh.
Your Mom raised a Wonderful, Caring Child!! You are both Beautiful People. ❤ P.S. Remember You are Never Alone!!! P.S.S. How are You Doing??? Would Love for You to respond to this, because We Care!!!❤❤❤
I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a difficult time. I think what you're doing is admirable, and the other commenter speaks truth: your mother raised a lovely, caring, and compassionate human that she and the rest of the world are lucky to have. Good luck on your journey, and remember we're never truly alone. Sending love your way! ❤❤❤
@@evelynpretty2231 Dear Evelyn. Please forgive my delayed response. I did not receive a notification regarding your reply. Until just now when I got a notification regarding the other person’s comment. Thank you for your kind words. I’m doing better. Learning more about potential outcomes all the time. Just acquiring knowledge eases the fear/stress response when symptoms rear their ugly heads. After taking over and regulating medication and diet she has more good days than bad. Now getting her to exercise is a whole other story. 😏 Your kindness is much appreciated. I hope you are well also.
@@maggie.8888 wow. Such kind words. Thank you for taking the time to share them with me. I’m not ashamed to say that they made me tear up a little bit. It’s nice to be reminded that total strangers can take a moment out their day to spread hope. I wish more people would grasp that kindness is free and reciprocal. Many well wishes and blessings on you for a life that will hopefully have more joys than sorrows.❤
My 14 year-old daughter introduced me to your channel because she wants your book. She loves watching medical TH-cam channels. This was beautiful. Please share more stories like this.
Hadley you have such a beautiful energy. Thank you for sharing this special story of Mr Williams. It is very touching. Congratulations on your little baby - Mr Williams stay true to his promise 🌈🌈
Hadley, you are a beautiful person, and I believe you are helping many people who are dying, but also those of the family members. My husband passed Dec 2023, and he had two spiritual visitors on the day before he passed; which was also his surge day. Fortunately, all his children and best friends who lived 5 hours away got to see him on that surge day. The story of his spiritual visitors is a story in itself, I'm so glad he shared it with me, and I helped him through it.
my first year and a half as a nurse I worked in an adult oncology hospital, so hospice care was a big part of my world then. the day of my bridal shower at work (I had some great coworkers) one of my patients was an older gentleman who was preparing to go home on hospice. he was such a kind man, I could spend hours just quietly chatting with him. well that day, he was UP and ready to party lol! he was so excited for me and had his sister go buy me a small gift. he had me laughing, telling stories of his younger days. his sisters thankfully made it in that day. he spent most of the day more awake and interactive than we had ever seen him. he did eventually lay down for a nap. just before the end of my shift (why always just before the end of the shift?!), his sister came to me and said she thought he had passed. I grabbed my preceptor as this was my first death, and we went and checked. my eyes just welled with tears after listening to him. they knew without me saying a word. It was quite a day, the ups and downs of nursing can be so extreme. I commend you for your work in hospice. I quickly learned it wasn't something I could do for very long. each patient I had the honor of caring for in their final days has stayed with me through my now 22 year career. I moved to peds med/surg (trauma and renal focused) when I left oncology. I clearly found my place, been there 20 years now! thank you for sharing Hadley!!!
I took care of my husband as he was dying of liver disease....my sis-in-law😇 was an RN....I used to tease her that I was a URN....an unregistered nurse...it was extremely labor intensive....Nurses are Angels on Earth...RIP Zel 💕
Hey Terry, I just want you to know that you're an amazing wife. Not many women would be willing to take care of their husbands in their final days. I wish you all the best.
That had me in tears. So so beautiful! My dad was in hospice and 3 days before he died he packed his bag and was found waiting to go ‘ home ‘ at the door of hospice . My mum said that her dad and sister ( both deceased) knew that she was dying too and wondered if her ( estranged) mum knew (also deceased) . It gives me comfort to think that they are not ‘ alone ‘ and maybe going somewhere . Xx thank you for sharing this story x
I loved your book. Read it in a day. Passed it on to a Pasters wife, she loved it passed it on. Thank you. We both cried while reading it. I was a CNA for over 40 yrs. Yes have experienced all the things that was in your book
That kitchen aide mixer in the corner reminds me of my grandparents house. She used to make bread from scratch. She never once measured anything but she taught me how to make bread.
😮😮😮 OMG!!! He put in that request for you!!! That is so beautiful❤❤ Congratulations on the little one🎉🥳🍾🙌🏽👏🏽. This was a beautiful story. I always knew there was an afterlife but you have a lovely way of telling these stories. I’m almost not scared anymore. But hopefully I still have another 60 years left(I’m only 25). Your awesome Hadley!!!
Me and my grandmother were very close as I was growing up. And as you do when you get older, you know you go your own way. And my grandmother came to live with my mother at the end of her life. And she hadn't been coherent for a number of days and she called me on the phone and she sounded like she was in her 60s again. We talked for at least an hour. The next day or so she passed i'd always cherished that last time we talked
Thank you for sharing the story about Mr. Williams. It was so encouraging and inspirational. Please share more. Congratulations on your pregnancy. Sending you best wishes!
Just what you described happened with my dad who just passed a month ago. The last few days he was sleeping and not waking. Then about 3:00 am he was wide awake and those there with him talked, played his favorite singer, which made him smile. Then he was sleeping again and passed shortly after noon. He really couldn’t verbalize, so not sure if he saw anyone or not.
My stepfather father had throat cancer, we went down to visit him in hospital we returned home and I always felt close to him. I had only met him a few times over the years but one morning around 4am he passed away but he came to the end of my bed and he said to me look KimmieAnn I don’t have to wear a neck brace anymore. I was so happy, I wasn’t scared for a 8 year old. My mom came into my room and he was gone but I told my mom I seen grandpa Joy. That’s when she said he passed away.
My grandma was an alcoholic and started getting worse when my baby cousin died at a week old. He couldn’t stably breathe and my aunt decided she couldn’t keep him on that for the rest of his life. This obviously impacted our family a lot. My grandma started getting worse and threw chairs while being drunk at my grandpa so, he went to hotels. Soon the situation got worse and we were told she wouldn’t make it. We brought her home and my parents, my brother, and my family went to say our goodbyes. We got to talk with her and share all of our wonderful memories and stories about her. One of the things that we really felt was my grandpa felt her end coming and stayed up with her all night. She didn’t wanna die with her husband watching her and she felt like it was a terrible thing to do to him. When my grandpa got up to use the bathroom she passed. I was 11 at the time and never fully understood what was happening. I now look back and I am glad her family and friends gathered while she was still with us. One of the things that was odd was her last day she asked for a diet soda that she haven’t had in years. Is this normal? (Also, If you feel like sharing this story you may)
NH: You are providing such a loving and much needed service to families and loved ones. A professional, compassionate, and loving hospice nurse can make all the difference in the world. The knowledge you are imparting is invaluable. It makes such a hard and painful time so much easier when there is that special hospice nurse that has your back. I learned this firsthand by the excellent hospice care received by my mother. God has blessed you and given you a platform to share with the rest of the world. Many, many thanks from this outside observer. ❤
I love stories like this. I myself have had many conversations that were similar. I worked in long term care for 28 years. I carry a lot of beautiful memories from that time. Thank you for sharing ❤
My brother took 12 days to pass without liquids or food. My sister and I were in the room his daughter was out smoking. My sister dozed off and I just watched him breath in and out. His chest would rise quite high and when he exhaled it just dropped. I thought he would breathe shallower and shallower but it dropped and didn’t come back up. He was a viet nam veteran and only 70 yrs old. He had started out with slight stroke when they started thinning the blood a little of tiny blood clots went to the brain. When he was awake he just stared out into space. I didn’t know how he hung on for so long but the nurse said that veterans seemed to go in survival mode and take longer to pass. Thank you for sharing what you know about what happens in hospice.
My mom had Alzheimer’s, and she passed away from it while she was still awake. I was talking to her and within like maybe the end of that day she was not talking anymore or doing anything other than just sleeping I did ask we sang song store and stuff but When I was going to bed the next night, I asked her if she would not die in the morning and it wasn’t the next morning, but it was the morning after that that she passed it was sort of like she knew that I didn’t want her to die the night before, so I’d have a whole night of you know morning her but it was hard saying goodbye to her. I didn’t want them to take her way, but she died peacefully though.
I am a retired caregiver twenty plus years. I now am able to do hospice volunteer work and Spiritual Care Service at a hospital. I am extremely grateful for your support and love showing the world how wonderful hospice can be. Thank you so much! 💕
In tears I am . Just lost my partner of 24 years. So heartbreaking as she had MS and a doctor performed a procedure that sent her down the road to passing. Hospice was the best care when there was no hope of her recovering from this unnecessary and un-required debridement. She ended up loosing a toe and wounds set it that she could not fight. The nurses with Hospice treated her like family. They were gentle and spoke to her with dignity and respect. When she began her final journey to rest, they allowed me to bathe her and dress her before the funeral home came. I was able to spend all the time I needed to prepare her and just hold her. I adore the nurses who took care of her. Sharing these stories has given me connection and some comfort that I did right by her. She was a conductor and a author of 37 books. She was loved by so many that I had a hard time notifying the over 500 close friends. I hope when we have her celebration of life that the nurses will be able to join us. It would be a great honor to have them there. 😢❤
My Mother was in hospice in the hospital. Her nurses were amazing. I don't think people understand that hospice nurses are there for the patients and their families. They are the best of the best.
Thank you for your kindness and how open you are. Death is not what many people have the opportunity to observe, understand, and interact with their family or friends. I am sure similar experiences will be coming soon in my life. I understand better now. . . and I will be picking up your book at my local retailer tomorrow.
You seem to be the perfect type of person be a hospice nurse. You are very sincere and gentle. I imagine the families are very grateful to have someone like you
I just want to say you are such a sweet person at least that's what you seem idk you personally...lol but your channel is so comforting. My 33yo daughter passed in January and I'm just devastated but I must say you are so comforting. A lot of what you say I believed anyway but it's nice to hear. The part where your deceased loved ones visit is so nice. I'm hoping she'll be the first one to visit when I die. But thank you and keep the great stories. And IL look for your book.😍
I lost my mom in June of 2022. I’ve struggled but Hadley’s channel brings me comfort and hope. I’m sorry for your loss. We’ll just know that Mama and your daughter are so happy right now, waiting on us. ❤️
I was Scrolling and ran across you, and I have just Got to say, You are the Kindest most Beautiful Person on TH-cam By Far, I love your Videos, My Daddy passed away in December of 2020, He was the Same exact way.. He saw our loved ones who had passed on, and it would make his day... I was his caregiver for 10 days before Hospice came and got him.. That was the worst thing I have ever been through.. I couldn't go see him at the Hospice house because both of us had COVID.. I didn't get to say my goodbyes and it hurts me everyday... He was my HERO.. When I got that Dreadful phone call, I Lost It... He was the best Daddy anyone could ever ask for.. Thank you for your Beautiful Stories, and I'm so excited to watch more.. God Bless You.. 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
One of my best friends was living in hospice.palitive care she was saying that the food was so much better. She said of the food was like that in hospital she would have eaten her food and not gone for the junk. We had a living celebration of life for her and shortly after she passed away. It seemed in hospice there was much more kindness. One of the last events i got to do with her was go to a play
Hi Nurse Hadley. I'm Nurse Michelle. I've been an RN for 40 yrs., but retired now. I worked in several different areas of nursing, but I have to say that my favorite was terminal care. I wasn't a Hospice nurse, but I did a lot of terminal care on the SNF unit, at the hospital. I enjoyed it very much...getting to know the patients and their loved ones. Then, being able to give them comfort and care...to make sure they got the best I could give at the end of their lives was important, as it was the last thing I could possible do for them. I cared for them the way I'd want my loved ones cared for. Family members were always so thankful for that, and nearly always expressed this to me. It got pretty emotional at times, but it was still worth it. I'm happy that I was able to give that to patients & their loved ones during my career. I really enjoy watching your videos and hearing all about your Hospice experiences. My favorites are always when ppl see their loved ones who have passed. I find that to be so interesting and comforting. Thank you for the care that you give. I know how difficult and exhausting it can be, yet rewarding. Keep up the good work and positive attitude. You're very sweet.
So -I’m certainly no stranger to loss… My brother passed young, not quite 22, then many years later my Dad (@ 76). Just four years later, my baby sister passed from a brain aneurysm (only 52 and very unexpected). My Mom-in-law passed when she was just 63, and my father-in-law @88 (my husband was his caretaker to the end). Hospice support for all but my brother many years ago. I’ve learned a bunch from each experience, and each was so very different. I so admire your sweet nature and your stories of letting family go. Keep on doing what you are doing ❣️
❤ just beautiful ❤️ thank you for sharing 😊 I’m a registered nurse about to start at hospice, the wonder that can be part of the dying experience is why ❤ it shows in your eyes - amazing 🤩
I was taking care of a man with advanced dementia. It was the last day he got up out of bed and sat on the couch. He had not been talking for a few days. I was sitting with him, watching the Colorado Rockies Game while he largely dozed. He suddenly became alert, and looked like he was focusing on the tv and listening carefully for a minute. Then he started laughing, a huge belly laugh, and said "Well you tell Jesus that Mr Bayne (last name) says thank you very very much!". Followed by more laughter and him drifting back off to sleep. He passed peacefully in his apartment 2 days later. I have taken care of so many dying people, and I have never had the honor to witness something this magical!
My dad was on hospice after a fight with dementia and rapidly declining due to medical related issues that also caused the dementia to progress. The day before he was placed on hospice he had a lucid moment where he called me by his nickname for me and told me how much he loved me. In that instant I saw my dad in his eyes and heard him in his voice. Then he started talking about his will, I believe, but started slipping into the dementia again. He transferred to a hospice facility and I saw him 3x. The fourth time I was going to visit him, I was heading out to see him and got the call that he passed 5 minutes earlier. Previously, before he had even been placed on hospice he told me he'd been talking with his uncle June. I thought it was just the dementia, but maybe it wasn't. I've worked in healthcare for over 20 years (nursing home, hospital, doctor office) and have done private care for a couple families for hospice as well as caring for my own family members. Your videos and my current situation is making me think that I really should become an end-of-life doula. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
I finished your book in about a day. I am 30 years old with child, (12) we have the same birthday just a tidbit. Anywho, thanks for being you Hadley. You're more inspiration than any media could cover, any review could give. You're an angel on this earth as cliche as it sounds. I can only hope to be surrounded by many yous when i cross over. Thank you a million times over. Much love to you and yours. 🖤
What a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing. Hospice Care Staff are incredible human beings as it would definitely be one of the hardest healthcare jobs too have! Congratulations on your pregnancy and if it’s a boy will you be naming him, “William”. Since he obviously put in a good word for you with the big guy upstairs!
My grandmother was hospitalized. She was 82. Her speech was very hard to understand. A nurse told my mother that my grandmother spoke clearly and said "the angels are here. They've come to take me" the next day she was in a coma. I sat with her and prayed. I told her it was ok to go, that I would be there too. She opened her eyes and I saw that she looked right at me with recognition. She closed her eyes. My mom came to sit with her and she passed. I will forever be grateful that I had that moment with my grandmother. When my grandfather passed, my mom was with him and he was talking to Jesus. I know I will be with them in the presence of our Lord.
this is such a beautiful story. when you were able to get Mr William to watch his beautiful Granddaughter play football was the point tears hit me. Hadley you are certainly a very special person to do this kind of job may God bless you.
Truly this affirms for me the truth of the gospel and the goodness/kindness of God. This life is not the end, and relationships-not things-are everything.
Thank you for watching and let me know your thoughts in the comments below. If you’re interested in more of my stories and lessons I’ve learned working as a hospice nurse, check out my New York Times best selling book, "The In-Between: Unforgettable Encounters During Life's Final Moments"
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I just bought your book yesterday and I am almost done chapter 6
Beautiful, amazing story! And your "quick" Red Beans and Rice recipe sounds delicious. Didn't realize you are a Louisiana girl too! I'll be watching more because I want to support the work you do as a nurse with Hospice patients. It's a calling for sure!
I’ve ordered your book, and I can’t wait to read it!
Isn't it a breach of privacy to give out this sort of information?
@@sewathome how would it be? She gave no names or any info that could be used to intently anyone.
My uncle decided he wanted to dance one day when the aides came to change his linens. He hadn't danced in a very long time. He was dancing with my aunt and said to her, "Marge - who would have thought dying could feel so good! I can dance and I can hear! " He left us shortly thereafter. It just a beautiful story.
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Awww...So SWEET!!
Beautiful!
I’m not a nurse, but I know a last burst of energy is a common thing. I’m happy for them to have had that dance.
“I hope you dance”, I’m glad he got to dance again. 😊
I was in a very bad marriage for 6 years but had 4 amazing kids with him. He dropped out of the kids lives but I kept them in his families lives. I was very close to his grandparents and couldn't imagine them not being around to see my kids. Granny passed with dementia in 2006, they had been married since they she was 14 and he was 17, so 70 years of marriage. He was very lost without her and heartbroken that she forgotten all their memories due to the dementia. He never stopped talking about getting to see "his baby" again. 5 years later I was doing my daily stop after work to check on him and he whispered to come sit next to him. He told me that Granny had come to see him last week and that she was so beautiful and remembered their first date again. He sd that she wanted him to thank me for keeping the kids in the family and for loving him so much after she died, and that she loved me. Then he smiled so brightly and sd "I'm going to see my baby tonight and I'll never have to let her go again. Hun, I won't wake up tomorrow." It sounded ridiculous but I somehow completely believed him. He held my hand until I left. I bent over to give him his hug and kiss on the forehead. He sd one more kiss and I'll give it to Granny for you. So I kissed him on the head again. He told me he loved me and would miss me. 6 hours later he was gone.
That was so beautiful! I got a big smile and holding back the tears. I can see him dancing and holding his beautiful wife!
What a beautiful story. Thank you for taking the time to write it
😢 WHEW!! HUGS to you and your family!!💖🙏💖🙏
OMG! This is an amazzzing story!❤❤ Thank you for sharing 😊...just beautiful
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If you were my hospice nurse, I wouldn't see you as an angel of death, but an angel of kindness and compassion.
He wasn't confused he just had one foot in heaven and one here on earth. He was merging in and out of two different realms. Thanks for the story, I felt like I got to meet him.
My father was so social. He knew so many people. His last full day we spent together on FaceTime talking to so many different people. By the evening I could tell he needed to rest. I told him I loved him and said Love. I knew what he meant. Then closed his eyes. The next day he passed. On the 22nd it will be year. I just wanted to tell someone about it.
Thank you for sharing.
Very much appreciate you sharing your experience..I can relate so much ...
So sorry for your loss.
Sorry for your loss, thank you for sharing such a heartwarming experience.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful experience with your father at his passing. Such beautiful words spoken .
After my mom passed away, her chemo nurse wrote my dad a note. She told him that Mom had shed some tears during her treatment, both from discomfort but also due concern about how my Dad and the rest of us (children & grandchildren) would do in her absence. She knew the Lord was taking her Home soon. And He did. Her funeral was on the day she would have had her next and final chemo session. She did not want to go back to the hospital. My dad was her caregiver at home. She called out to him to help her, when he tried to help her up, she slumped and passed away in his arms. That is exactly how she would have wanted to go....at home in Dad's arms. Thanks for sharing your stories.
How is your dad? How about your family?
@@Pammipooh62 my mom passed away in 1992 and my Dad passed away in 2008. All of us are doing well. My parents are still greatly missed but we are thankful that we will see them one day when it's our turn to go to Heaven.
I am a nurse, but not a hospice nurse. I have always admired hospices nurses. I had the honor of being with one of my patients when he passed just this past weekend. He served our country in the Vietnam war and he had no family. It was over the weekend that he (was in a skilled nursing facility and on hospice) began to actively pass. I visited him from Thurs - Sunday and would talk to him and play praise and worship music. Hearing is usually the last sense to go so I wanted to make certain that he knew he was not alone. Sunday, the day he passed I arrived to see him (not expecting him to be with us) and he was still laying in his bed. He ended up passing away within 30 minutes of my arrival. I believe he was waiting for me before he left this earth. He was in a coma-like state and his eyes were closed the entire time. I played one last song for him (How Great Thou Art). I noticed that his breathing significantly changed and at the end of that song, he opened his eyes and took one last breath. He was a very dear man and look forward to seeing him in Heaven one day.🙏
I'm so glad that you had him in your life and that you were with him when he passed away! I think he waited for you too.
Thank you for being there for him. You are a beautiful soul. ✨💖✨
Bless you!!
I find it amazing that women who are pregnant have a surge of energy in the last weeks to days prior to bringing life into the world and dying people have a surge of energy before leaving this world.
This comment gave me goosebumps. It's absolutely true.🙏
I was thinking the exact same thing.
💯 % TRUTH!
WOW, great observation! You're absolutely right.
Its the first thought that came into my mind
My mom passed away May 13th this year the day before Mother's Day. The 2 days before she died she was unresponsive so we took that time to just be with her, talk to her and tell some memories of our life with her. The night before she passed, when everyone had left, I sat next to her and told her what a wonderful mom she was and how proud I always was of her (she was a nurse too Hadley) I layed my head down next to her and all of the sudden I felt a pat, pat, pat, on my head. I know she heard me, and I was comforted by that. I miss her so. ❤
This brought a tear to my eyes.
I love your videos. Before my brother passed away he woke up from a coma and had to have tapioca pudding. While I was feeding him the pudding he looked over at the window and said “not right now” when my dad asked who he was talking to he said “that angel has been trying to get me to go with him for the past 3 days and I’m not ready yet”. He passed away not long after that.
I used to go and stay with my grandma who just been admitted to a nursing home… about a wk before she passed she started telling me that my grandfather (who’d died yrs before I was born), was coming… that she could see him walking towards her out the window… Grandma had been completely blind for years…. Each day she’d say that he was getting closer. I got a phone call at 5:30am telling me that Grandma had died… I guess my Grandfather finally got there.❤
Something similar happened with my uncle (my dad’s brother). My dad passed away from cancer when I was five years old, I’m in my 40s now. My uncle died about twelve years ago from a rare and fast progressing form of Alzheimer’s. It was very fast from diagnosis to him loosing the ability to do anything. He forgot how to eat, drink, speak.. heartbreaking. Anyway the morning before he passed away he woke up, looked around the room, smiled then looked at his daughter and said “I’m going fishing with our Roy tomorrow”. After that he settled back in to his vegetative state. He hadn’t been able to speak for months. Roy was my dad, his brother who died back in the 80’s. No one could understand what had just happened. He passed away the following day. It brings me a lot of comfort now my mum is getting on in years.
You say early in the video that hospice nurses are sometimes seen similarly to the angel of death. That hit my heart. My grandfather was able to spend his final days in his home and he got to live those days on his terms. The difference in his treatment from the hospital to hospice was huge. Hospice freed him from procedures that he did not want. Hospice cared about his wants and what he didn't want. Hospice heard his voice and valued it. The hospice nurses gave support to my grandmother and myself at a very challenging time. Hospice nurses took a heartbreaking transition for our family and made it a beautiful experience that we did not have to navigate alone. My grandfather got to leave this life on his own terms, in his own home because of hospice. I cannot tell you how much this still means to me 10 years after his passing. I would say hospice nurses are angels present at a time of death, not angels bringing death. The nurses we had changed my mind about what hospice is and I know that I will choose hospice over hospital when I am nearing my time. Please know that you are a huge blessing to the families you work with. ❤
Well said. Amen!
I remember when my Mom was dying. The last day she was up awake and we talked all day❤ Then around 6 pm she started to get quiet then she fell into a coma and she passed around 9 pm. That last day was one of the best days I had with her. We talked about everything and she was her old self funny and happy. I am so grateful I got to have that day and I am blessed to be able to watch her pass. It was so gentle and peaceful and made me not afraid of death. The same thing happened to my Dad. He was bright and alert and got to see his grandbabies which for him was the world and as soon as they left he slipped into a coma and he too passed so gently and peacefully. I will never fear death after watching them go so gently. I miss them but I know I will see them again ❤
Oh that was SO beautiful! Thank you for sharing and please keep sharing your stories!!!
SO beautiful!💖
I’ve worked with hospice twice so far (mother and father-in-law) and rather than think of the nurse as some sort of angel of death, I’ve always thought of them as an angel of mercy. Thank you for all you do.
my father was in respiratory distress before his passing from Lung Cancer and, a nurse on duty who knew him, sat with him as he waited for the family to get there and she made him comfortable with medications as they sat, he asked to place his hand on her pregnant belly and told her she would have a girl. My dad was NOT a demonstrative touchy feely man, this was not his personality, and we were so grateful to her that she shared this and it meant alot to her. She had a girl months later. Its been thirty years since he died and I never forgot this story. There just might be something to you having thiis new baby at this time. Love your stories nurse Hadley
I love that you shared this. I was 19 when my son passed @ 7mo, 6d.
I for years i had the same dream about him but could never finish it. But one night I had the same dream again and I got to finish it. He came up to me and put his little arms around me and said. Mommy, I love you so much, you don't have to be sad anymore. I'm not in pain anymore, so please don't be sad. I love you Mommy😢 and I will see you again some day. That was 39 years ago and I still cry like it was yesterday. He came back to comfort me.
Thank you for sharing your videos. You are so comforting and caring. Your patience and families are so blessed to have you as their nurse.
I love hearing your stories, I lost my daughter in 2014, 47 yrs old, cervical cancer. I took care of her for 5 months, most of that time she was bedridden, I had a hospice nurse come 3 times a week, Hospice was wonderful, supplied the bed and all supplies I needed, they stayed with me for 3 days training me how to change her debried wound from having a large bedsore, and showed me how to change sheets while she was in bed. I appreciated them so much. She was catherized so that made it easier for me. The last week of her life I put her in a hospice care house as I could not control her throwing up sporadically so the hospice nurse said she was in her decline and should go to hospice house because they could control it. The Friday before she went to Heaven, I had washed her hair because I had an inflated basin and knew it would make her feel good. I kissed her goodnight and said I would be back in the morning, she was asleep, it was close to 10pm. I was home a 1/2 hoot when the nurse called me and said she was crying and wanted me to come, my husband and I went back down and stayed the night, and held her hand and told her we loved her, she died Sat at 1;45pm, and had a smile on her face, she had accepted Jesus as her Savior when she was in 8th grade, I had told her to go to Jesus, and there was no struggle. These type of video’s help me deal with my loss.
I am so very sorry for the loss of your daughter. Powerful experience.
I am so terribly sorry for the loss of your daughter. I have two young daughters and I can't fathom the depth of that loss. I hope that you have found some peace in knowing you will see her again.
We have a sanctuary for rescued pets and have seen this end of life burst of energy many times when animals are close to end of life. We have dubbed it “life spurt” ❤
Animals experience it, too! ❤
I am a retired live in CNA care giver 4 days on about 3 days off. My patient was on hospice. One night I was passing her bedroom and she looked up and said mom!! ( she was 93) well, she slept a lot during the couple weeks that passed. One day she asked for her one son. He lived far was married had the money to make the visit. She had two adult sons and one daughter. Well, the son she asked about that lived far away I told her daughter her mom was asking about him to come. The daughter called him, he said he couldn’t make the trip but wanted certain jewelry of his moms. So, I told my patient her son was unable to come. She tightened up her lips in a angry disgusted way and that was that. A couple days later after kinda of comatose she rallied sat up ate. The next day she passed. I was there with the hospice nurse. We called the funeral home. Meanwhile we were cleaning the body up. And all of a sudden her son the one who would not come and his wife’s picture on the dresser slammed down face down. The nurse looked at me and I her. The nurse said WOW somebody is mad! My patient let us know how mad she was before she left the room at her son. I will never forget that. I will never forget that. So many stories when your a caregiver or hospice person. ❤
WOAH....Chills!!!
I hope she was buried in the jewelry he wanted.
@@tbella5186 I think he got it. 😩
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Wow! She was pissed! 😡😅❤❤❤❤❤❤
Having had a couple of relatives in hospice at this point, I have nothing but admiration and love for the people who help the dying. You and folks like you are angels on earth, as far as I'm concerned. There really is no higher calling. God bless you.
I completely agree with you on your comment
I couldn’t have said it better!!! 100% Agree! ❤❤❤
My Mom knew. She had a heart attack, drove herself to the hospital for care, had a small procedure to unblock an artery but she was doing fine. On Friday they said she could go home on Sunday but they just wanted to get all her meds straight and make sure everything was fine from the procedure, mostly because she lived alone. She insisted she was going to die before Sunday, even called her reverend to come do the Baptist equivalent of last rights. She told me not to come home, a 12 hour drive, because she said I wouldn’t get there in time anyway, so just sleep and get things together to drive up for the funeral… There was absolutely no medical reason that they could find that she was going to die imminently… but just a couple hours after her Pastor left she went to sleep and didn’t wake up. Other than the heart attack and the fact that she was 86, there was no real reason for her to die. She played piano at a wedding on Friday, thought she was having a heart attack so drove to the hospital, had the procedure and was seemingly doing well… but she was gone before Sunday. (Another reason she called her pastor was to make sure he found someone to play piano on Sunday, Mom was her church’s pianist.😊)
She was also a home health aid and worked MANY hospice cases over the years, so I’m sure she knew a lot that even her doctors and nurses did not.
Her mother had died when my mom was only 19 and my mom had just become a new mom. I always picture my grandmother coming to get her, and I REALLY hope that’s true. My mom spoke of her mother with adoration and longing… So I truly hope they are in a beautiful place, at peace and without pain, together.
I am sorry that you lost your mom, but she sounds like she's amazing ❤
Beautiful story! My mommy passed when I was 16 and can’t wait to see her again ❤️ was your mom scared when she had the heart attack and later when she knew she would be dying?
@@jessicabasurto9485 she never acted scared. My mom was a very devout Christian so she had complete faith that she was going to heaven to be with Jesus. Also, at 86, she had suffered some extremely devastating losses via death- a grandson, babies that didn’t make it to term (she miscarried, Ash’s several of her children and grandchildren miscarried/had still births) her first love, her parents and all her brothers… So she felt she was going to be with God and all of the people that went before her.
I really hope that’s true. Not long after I lost my mom, I lost my brother. He got a terrible infection from cancer surgery… It was very hard on all of us. I hope that they are together, along with my nephews, in a real heaven.
@@jessicabasurto9485 16 is so young to lose a parent. I’m so very sorry for your loss. I hope that you have wonderful memories to sustain you and that someday when you’re very old that you are reunited.
Your story just makes me love your mother. What a cutie! ❤
Fellow New Orleanian here. Food is our love language. I can absolutely understand him wanting to cook during the surge. He was telling anyone that was able to eat that meal that he loves them and wants to make sure they are taken care of. ❤️
Hi Hadley , I’ve just found your channel and the wonderful work u do. I’m a Christian too and have sometimes had the odd doubt but when my dear grandad was near the end of his battle with cancer he suddenly opened his eyes after a long sleep and said” oh, the gardens are so beautiful up there, they are really lovely” He was an avid gardener and must have seen a glimpse of heaven before he left us. Thank you for sharing you special stories, you do an amazing job🥰, I live in south west U.K, and will now watch the rest.💕x x
I love these stories. My mom said my grandfather had that burst of energy. I know when my grandpa passed I dreamed about him just one time. 5 years later my grandma passed and I dreamed about her. Both times I only had one dream and haven’t since. I feel like they were letting me know that they were ok. I was terribly heartbroken. After the dreams I felt at peace.
Orh, that's lovely, you are a bit of an empath, that you dream about your loved ones after passing to see they are just fine and give them a closure as well ❣️🥰 I'm happy for you.
@@stellabogfeldt thank you ♥️
I had something similar happen when my brother passed away. He didn't speak in the dream, but when I asked if he was ok, he nodded yes to me. I haven't had another dream of him. 😭 I miss him so much.
@@Ashspill87 ♥️♥️ I think they happen so we can know. I believe they come to us in our dreams for this reason. Hugs
I had a dream with my grandmother shortly after she passed. It was beautiful. I've never had another one and haven't experienced a dream that vivid with my other grandparents, although I wish I would.
That's a wonderful story. Before he passed, laying in his bed, my dad kept talking to someone above him. My aunt finally asked him, "Who are you talking to". He looked at her and said, "Dad".
My mom passed away on May of 2020. Two years later, the pain of her loss is still devastating and indescribable. I lapse into doubts of whether I will see her again. I hope the last visions I can grasp with my consciousness in this lifetime will be of her as well as my first visions when I arrive in the next.
Watch Dr. Mary Neal's near death experience on youtube. You will come away without any doubt of seeing your mom again.
@@DefeatTheWokeEstablishment I have watched Dr. Neal's story before. And thank you for your lovely words. Truly. 🙏
My mom passed in May of 2019. The loss never seems to ease much but I look forward to being with her again. Bless you and huggs.
My father passed October of 2020, and I totally feel your pain. Lately though, I've had a lot of strange things happen to me and my son, that we can only describe as it being HIM! I hope it is. ❤️
@@tinadraganides9958 What kinds of things? Are you able to share some of them? In my experience, if God is sending you messages or messengers from the other side, he'll make sure you know for certain that it's him doing it.
My mom was sent home to die. We did want her in a hospice. It took 2 1/2 week. I flew my children in from California to say their last goodbyes and sent them home. Then we were just me, my sister, her husband and daughter at her house. I could see my mom couldn’t hold on any longer, sher was no longer speaking in English but in her first language and to our father, grandmother, and many deceased relatives so I knew she was ready to go but my sister kept cry to her not to go until I told her to stop and to let her go. When her finally did that we all sat around her bed and had a drink and toast her. We laughed and talk about good memories of her. The next morning she was peacefully lying in bed and I call the doctor.
In December of last year my Dad wanted to buy a sleep number bed. We lived close to a store so my sister took him. At first the sales lady said it wouldn't be delivered till January. Dad expressed disappointment. My sister said asked why? What's the problem? He said he wasn't going to live through January. My sister told him to stop and just buy the bed. Eventually the sales lady said it can be delivered Dec 23. My sister said, see. You can get 2 weeks in it Dad. Bed arrived Dec 23. Dad died Jan 9. When they tell you they know death is coming, listen to them and acknowledge it. Keep enjoying life, but don't dismiss it.
I’ve been thinking death was coming for me for 7 years cuz I’ve been through so much, but it still hasn’t 😢 I’ve been in so much pain
@@jessicabasurto9485 I’m so sorry for your pain. I understand, I have chronic pain and some days I wonder if it’s worth it to keep enduring it constantly.
I truly believe that we have a set number of days on earth and that is not meant to change. I don’t think it can be added to or subtracted from in any way. That means that while we are here we can endure as much as we are given. I know how hard it can be but I know that you are able to handle it. It’s hard and can be miserable but you are so strong and brave. Try to enjoy as much of every day as you are able. Wishing you the very best.
I agree with you 100%
@@victoriasmith8570 you still have work to do or things to fix or something to accomplish
@jessicabasurto9485 I'm sorry you're going through so much. You're still here for a reason and it isn't just to cause you trouble and heartache. You still have a job to fulfill or something to do. Lord bless you
My Dad about two weeks before he passed away said he could see his Mom (Grandma passed in 1981) and Me on a ship. He was completely bed ridden at this point and was starting to refuse food. My Mom miscarried a baby girl about two years after I was born. I believe it was my Grandma and Sister that came to get him. It gives me hope that I will meet my sister and 3 angel babies when I start my next journey. Thank you for your stories and insights, it has helped me with my grieving journey. My Dad passed away 7 months ago, we also lost my Father In-law a year ago. It has been a hard journey for us that are left behind but in my heart I know that I will see them again. Blessings to you and your family ❤
I've just lost my Dad 12 days ago, and my father in law, whom I called my 2nd Dad, 9 months ago. I feel so lost and broken right now.
@@TheMelly1976 Hang in there and let these stories people are sharing about their loved ones, bring you great comfort.
Thank you so much for sharing your stories. I've only had one client have a real surge of energy. It was crazy to see. But I've had, I'd say, 75% of my clients say they see their loved ones that had already passed on, or they start talking about a trip they have to take. I had one lady keep packing her suitcase because her mom told her they would be taking a trip on the train soon. She packed that suitcase over and over again for 2 weeks before she passed.
Breaks my heart that she kept packing her suitcase 💕 sounds like she was ready for that trip. Also makes me wonder maybe she didn't know what to pack or how much to pack since she kept doing it over and over 💕 thank you for sharing that
I love these positive stories… Do you ever have patients that are dying and afraid because they have lived bad lives and feel that whatever’s next is going to be worse?
@CJxLuvly I think staff at the facility would unpack it when she was sleeping or in the Cafeteria. (She only had few things, living in a facility) Believe me, she was ready to go, she was always excited about it and just couldn't wait and she packed everything she owned in that facility right down to a potted plant.
@justilou1 to be honest I've only had one patient seem scared in the moment. She kept looking behind me and asking who that was in the corner and then cry and cry. I prayed over her before I left shift that afternoon and I got a call about 2 hours before I was to be in on shift the next day that she had passed. I went in early to help prep the body for the funeral home and be there for my staff. Her face looked much more peaceful than it had the day prior so I'm hoping she wasn't scared when she passed.
@@jennysmith2540 My mum was terrified. She’d had a lot of “fire and brimstone” brainwashing from her own upbringing and hadn’t been exactly the sweet & gentle type. She certainly didn’t mellow on her deathbed - pretty much became the worst version of herself (the one without a filter). It was heartbreaking to see her so terrified and angry and bitter.
Thanks so much for sharing. My grandmother passed this week on May 3rd at 86. She kept saying she wanted her momma. She was smiling and talking (mumbling) to someone in the room no one saw. It's comforting to know that she was at peace in the end. Congratulations on your pregnancy.
My Dad was a preacher all his life. Three weeks before he died he said Jesus came to visit him. Tears streamed down his face. He said I’ve known that Jesus loves us but I had no idea just how much. He also said Jesus just wants us to talk to Him. I said Dad you must people your story and he said no you write it down and tell it. I miss.
That's beautiful! Thank you for sharing!
Your writing it down here just helped me turn a corner in my grieving. Thank you
That is so beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing what your Dad shared with you. ❤
My great-grandmother began seeing all her family & friends as she was dying. At one point she got upset & said the room was too small for all the people in it. The only ones there that could be seen was my grandmother & two nuns. I firmly believe in the next life. ❤
This hits hard. I was with my Oma (grandma) when she went into the coma and then passed not long after holding my daughters hand (she was just about to turn 1). She told me that she would wait for me and my daughter to fly to see her before she passed. I'm so thankfully we got to spend a good 2 weeks together and she also got to meet her great grand daughter before she passed. She is now with my Opa (her husband). I see them all the time looking over my daughter at home. It's just so nice to know they are still always with us ❤
Mein Beileid. Es ist schwer seine Großeltern zu verlieren.
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My mom is in the end stages of her life in long term care with dementia and your beautiful stories give such encouragement. We had and have a very broken relationship since I was a small child that I always hope can be repaired even in some small way. Thank you for sharing your touching stories and for being there for so many in such a positive way.
Hadley, thank you for sharing these amazing stories! I absolutely believe that my grandpa knew he was going to pass. I lived out of state and my mom called and said that if I wanted to see him, I needed to get there. I got ready very quickly and ran to the airport, and when I got there I found out that the flight had left early! I was devastated!! I just knew that I wasn’t going to get there in time, but my parents told him that I was trying to get there snd it’d be a couple hours later than what they thought. I got on the next flt and got to my hometown while he was still with us. My aunt made it just minutes after I did, and we all had such a great time talking and laughing. He was definitely in the rally part of dying. I thought that the dr’s just didn’t know what they were talking about bc he looked just like he always had and nothing seemed different. After a few hours he asked for everyone to step out so that he could use the restroom. I had to get back to the airport and told him bye and that i loved him. My Dad drove me to the airport and right as we wee pulling up, my mom called said that he was gone. He waited for all of us to get there and then was ready to leave. That’s my personal story about hospice. I always wanted to go into nursing and thought that I’d like hospice, bc just like you said you loved the bond you form with the family as well as the patient. Much love to you and keep the stories coming! We love them!! 💗💗💗
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I am a cna and i can relate to your story on the soccer game. My hospice client was approaching 💯. He wanted to be present for his party. So i got help from EMTs to get him to his party. It was so awesome to see that smile when he watched the band play. He passed a month later.
When my dad passed my mom came down to check on him when she woke up, told him she was going to take a shower, and asked if he needed anything. my dad slurred his words by then and he said "our". so mom told him that ok she would take her shower get stuff together for a sponge bath and give him a bath before I woke up. she took her shower threw on a robe went downstairs to check on him it had been 20 min at that point. she asked him if he needed anything and he responded "of you" she told him love you too went up to get dressed took about 20 more min gathered his bath stuff another 5-8 min, walked downstairs, and to where my dad was at exactly an hour after she first asked him if he needed anything and he was gone. he asked for an hour, not a shower, and he wanted to make sure my mom was not in the room when he passed.
My mama had cancer (ALL) and her last hospital stay she said that my brother ( her oldest who died in a car wreck) and my little sister (her baby who died of cancer (ALL) came to see her and that she had to get out of there.
I knew that it wouldn’t be long. I took her home and she passed away a few weeks later.
I know that she saw my older brother and little sister. ♥️
I can’t thank you for these videos and all of your stories Nurse Hadley. ♥️
And thank you everyone who are leaving your experiences they are all just so lovely. ♥️
Your story rings so clear to me now about a family member. I am a retired nurse of 25 years, but I was always in OB/PP/WBN/AP/GYN areas. So, I had never dealt with the death of an adult patient. Sadly, it was always infants.
So my aunt was diagnosed with brain cancer around Thanksgiving. I am not exactly sure the time frame. I know she was in a deer 🦌 stand on Thanksgiving day. And in just a couple of months, she was going down very fast. My mother was going almost daily, and I didn't want her to go thru this alone, so I was going with her. One day, she was sleeping most of the time but my mom was turning to go out of the room and my aunt lifted her arm and was waving as to call someone in, and she said Mama as she waved her hand. My mom knew what she was saying I thought she was trying to get my mom back in the room. So now I see she was talking to her mother. I was in tears when I listened to your story. Thank you for sharing. I hope this can reach nurses and patients and their families alike because both can learn from your experiences. You have such a wonderful way of telling your stories, and it can be seen in how much you poor your heart into your patients and their families, too.
We lived in New Orleans for a year when I was a kiddo, and oh my goodness I remember the Red Beans and Rice!
What a sweet story, Mr. William putting in a good word with The Big Guy brings tears to my eyes 💕
Also, it’s so interesting how they seem to be so matter of fact about their deceased loved ones coming to talk to them.
I love y'all as a whole, my Dad had the best team for almost 6 YEARS! Hospice isn't always a "death call" it's absolutely about comfort care at that point. You are so courageous and honestly, an angel on earth to most people. Awh, I'ma get emotional. I love you and your profession. 🥲 Big hugs.
You are not alone!! I feel EXACTLY the same as You!!❤❤❤
An angel of death is still an angel. Who’s “job” it is to help the transition of the living….not just the patient. The family. Hospice nurses are extremely special and have hearts bigger than they are.
Thank you for sharing this beautiful story. That surge of energy occurred with my mom as well. I didn't know what it was at the time, so I was hopeful for her recovery. But as you said, it was a matter of days and she was gone from this world. But a week or so before that, she saw my deceased brother with another two men. She was a bit confused as to why she saw them dressed in dark suits, as she put it at the time. Mom never spoke of faith or anything like that. All I (thankfully) learned was from watching my grandmother live her Christian faith, but even she didn't speak of it either. Her faithful life was enough to make me interested enough to learn more about it (without getting preachy). I believe you're doing one of the most important works now Hadley, in your career and in making the videos helping others to prepare for themselves and their loved ones. Hopefully inspiring other young people to look at this as something they may wish to do. God bless and keep you.
You are absolutely adorable. Both my parents went into a skilled nursing facility six months ago. My mom is 91 and has end stage dementia. My dad is 88 has a heart condition and some confusion, he struggles to do daily things. The last two years have been very hard but your stories are very comforting and I really appreciate you putting them out there.
I was an RN for 20 years and have many many stories just like yours.... I was not Hospice, but I looked after many at end of life, including my husband who passed away at home in 2015.
I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad he got to be home at the end.
I hope you read this.
Just happened on you today. I’ve watched 2 others vids so far. I am definitely subscribing right now.
My mom’s getting a bit on in years and her health isn’t so good. The last incident happened several months ago and has had lasting effects and she hasn’t bounced back very much at all. She’s showing signs of memory loss and her physicality is disintegrating. I am her only caregiver and I am alone in this world. Being able to get info like this helps my stress level and also helps me help her better. I’m educating myself on tias, strokes, dementia and what her capabilities and capacities are. I’ve already had to take over a lot and knowing some of what to expect helps us both. I’ve moved in with her because it would take a fleet of tanks to make her move. Learning what hospice caregivers are responsible for and what will be expected of me is making the inevitable less terrifying.
So, thank you. You are making a difference. At least for me anyways. I’m still amazed at what I’ll find answers to on TH-cam. huh.
Your Mom raised a Wonderful, Caring Child!! You are both Beautiful People. ❤
P.S. Remember You are Never Alone!!!
P.S.S. How are You Doing??? Would Love for You to respond to this, because We Care!!!❤❤❤
I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a difficult time. I think what you're doing is admirable, and the other commenter speaks truth: your mother raised a lovely, caring, and compassionate human that she and the rest of the world are lucky to have. Good luck on your journey, and remember we're never truly alone. Sending love your way! ❤❤❤
@@evelynpretty2231 Dear Evelyn.
Please forgive my delayed response. I did not receive a notification regarding your reply. Until just now when I got a notification regarding the other person’s comment.
Thank you for your kind words. I’m doing better. Learning more about potential outcomes all the time. Just acquiring knowledge eases the fear/stress response when symptoms rear their ugly heads.
After taking over and regulating medication and diet she has more good days than bad. Now getting her to exercise is a whole other story. 😏
Your kindness is much appreciated. I hope you are well also.
@@maggie.8888 wow.
Such kind words. Thank you for taking the time to share them with me. I’m not ashamed to say that they made me tear up a little bit. It’s nice to be reminded that total strangers can take a moment out their day to spread hope. I wish more people would grasp that kindness is free and reciprocal.
Many well wishes and blessings on you for a life that will hopefully have more joys than sorrows.❤
My 14 year-old daughter introduced me to your channel because she wants your book. She loves watching medical TH-cam channels. This was beautiful. Please share more stories like this.
The love you have for your patients while telling their beautiful stories, just radiates from you❤️
Hadley you have such a beautiful energy. Thank you for sharing this special story of Mr Williams. It is very touching. Congratulations on your little baby - Mr Williams stay true to his promise 🌈🌈
Hadley, you are a beautiful person, and I believe you are helping many people who are dying, but also those of the family members. My husband passed Dec 2023, and he had two spiritual visitors on the day before he passed; which was also his surge day. Fortunately, all his children and best friends who lived 5 hours away got to see him on that surge day. The story of his spiritual visitors is a story in itself, I'm so glad he shared it with me, and I helped him through it.
I'm so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.
my first year and a half as a nurse I worked in an adult oncology hospital, so hospice care was a big part of my world then. the day of my bridal shower at work (I had some great coworkers) one of my patients was an older gentleman who was preparing to go home on hospice. he was such a kind man, I could spend hours just quietly chatting with him. well that day, he was UP and ready to party lol! he was so excited for me and had his sister go buy me a small gift. he had me laughing, telling stories of his younger days. his sisters thankfully made it in that day. he spent most of the day more awake and interactive than we had ever seen him. he did eventually lay down for a nap. just before the end of my shift (why always just before the end of the shift?!), his sister came to me and said she thought he had passed. I grabbed my preceptor as this was my first death, and we went and checked. my eyes just welled with tears after listening to him. they knew without me saying a word. It was quite a day, the ups and downs of nursing can be so extreme. I commend you for your work in hospice. I quickly learned it wasn't something I could do for very long. each patient I had the honor of caring for in their final days has stayed with me through my now 22 year career. I moved to peds med/surg (trauma and renal focused) when I left oncology. I clearly found my place, been there 20 years now! thank you for sharing Hadley!!!
I took care of my husband as he was dying of liver disease....my sis-in-law😇 was an RN....I used to tease her that I was a URN....an unregistered nurse...it was extremely labor intensive....Nurses are Angels on Earth...RIP Zel 💕
Hey Terry, I just want you to know that you're an amazing wife. Not many women would be willing to take care of their husbands in their final days. I wish you all the best.
That had me in tears. So so beautiful! My dad was in hospice and 3 days before he died he packed his bag and was found waiting to go ‘ home ‘ at the door of hospice . My mum said that her dad and sister ( both deceased) knew that she was dying too and wondered if her ( estranged) mum knew (also deceased) . It gives me comfort to think that they are not ‘ alone ‘ and maybe going somewhere . Xx thank you for sharing this story x
I loved your book. Read it in a day. Passed it on to a Pasters wife, she loved it passed it on. Thank you. We both cried while reading it. I was a CNA for over 40 yrs. Yes have experienced all the things that was in your book
That kitchen aide mixer in the corner reminds me of my grandparents house. She used to make bread from scratch. She never once measured anything but she taught me how to make bread.
😮😮😮 OMG!!! He put in that request for you!!! That is so beautiful❤❤ Congratulations on the little one🎉🥳🍾🙌🏽👏🏽. This was a beautiful story. I always knew there was an afterlife but you have a lovely way of telling these stories. I’m almost not scared anymore. But hopefully I still have another 60 years left(I’m only 25). Your awesome Hadley!!!
We never know. I lost a 23 year old brother and a 25 year old sister.
Me and my grandmother were very close as I was growing up. And as you do when you get older, you know you go your own way.
And my grandmother came to live with my mother at the end of her life. And she hadn't been coherent for a number of days and she called me on the phone and she sounded like she was in her 60s again. We talked for at least an hour. The next day or so she passed i'd always cherished that last time we talked
Thank you for sharing the story about Mr. Williams. It was so encouraging and inspirational. Please share more. Congratulations on your pregnancy. Sending you best wishes!
Just what you described happened with my dad who just passed a month ago. The last few days he was sleeping and not waking. Then about 3:00 am he was wide awake and those there with him talked, played his favorite singer, which made him smile. Then he was sleeping again and passed shortly after noon. He really couldn’t verbalize, so not sure if he saw anyone or not.
My stepfather father had throat cancer, we went down to visit him in hospital we returned home and I always felt close to him. I had only met him a few times over the years but one morning around 4am he passed away but he came to the end of my bed and he said to me look KimmieAnn I don’t have to wear a neck brace anymore. I was so happy, I wasn’t scared for a 8 year old. My mom came into my room and he was gone but I told my mom I seen grandpa Joy. That’s when she said he passed away.
How very special! Thank you for sharing!
How precious that they shared his recipe with you and allowed you to share it with us.
My grandma was an alcoholic and started getting worse when my baby cousin died at a week old. He couldn’t stably breathe and my aunt decided she couldn’t keep him on that for the rest of his life. This obviously impacted our family a lot. My grandma started getting worse and threw chairs while being drunk at my grandpa so, he went to hotels. Soon the situation got worse and we were told she wouldn’t make it. We brought her home and my parents, my brother, and my family went to say our goodbyes. We got to talk with her and share all of our wonderful memories and stories about her. One of the things that we really felt was my grandpa felt her end coming and stayed up with her all night. She didn’t wanna die with her husband watching her and she felt like it was a terrible thing to do to him. When my grandpa got up to use the bathroom she passed. I was 11 at the time and never fully understood what was happening. I now look back and I am glad her family and friends gathered while she was still with us. One of the things that was odd was her last day she asked for a diet soda that she haven’t had in years. Is this normal? (Also, If you feel like sharing this story you may)
You have the face, voice and kindness of an angel. I think you are in the perfect job, for you must give so much comfort to your patients.❤
NH: You are providing such a loving and much needed service to families and loved ones. A professional, compassionate, and loving hospice nurse can make all the difference in the world. The knowledge you are imparting is invaluable. It makes such a hard and painful time so much easier when there is that special hospice nurse that has your back. I learned this firsthand by the excellent hospice care received by my mother. God has blessed you and given you a platform to share with the rest of the world. Many, many thanks from this outside observer. ❤
I love stories like this. I myself have had many conversations that were similar. I worked in long term care for 28 years. I carry a lot of beautiful memories from that time. Thank you for sharing ❤
My brother took 12 days to pass without liquids or food. My sister and I were in the room his daughter was out smoking. My sister dozed off and I just watched him breath in and out. His chest would rise quite high and when he exhaled it just dropped. I thought he would breathe shallower and shallower but it dropped and didn’t come back up. He was a viet nam veteran and only 70 yrs old. He had started out with slight stroke when they started thinning the blood a little of tiny blood clots went to the brain. When he was awake he just stared out into space. I didn’t know how he hung on for so long but the nurse said that veterans seemed to go in survival mode and take longer to pass. Thank you for sharing what you know about what happens in hospice.
My mom had Alzheimer’s, and she passed away from it while she was still awake. I was talking to her and within like maybe the end of that day she was not talking anymore or doing anything other than just sleeping I did ask we sang song store and stuff but When I was going to bed the next night, I asked her if she would not die in the morning and it wasn’t the next morning, but it was the morning after that that she passed it was sort of like she knew that I didn’t want her to die the night before, so I’d have a whole night of you know morning her but it was hard saying goodbye to her. I didn’t want them to take her way, but she died peacefully though.
I am a retired caregiver twenty plus years. I now am able to do hospice volunteer work and Spiritual Care Service at a hospital. I am extremely grateful for your support and love showing the world how wonderful hospice can be. Thank you so much! 💕
Hospice workers are some of the most amazing and compassionate people on the planet. What a powerfull calling to have in life.
In tears I am . Just lost my partner of 24 years. So heartbreaking as she had MS and a doctor performed a procedure that sent her down the road to passing. Hospice was the best care when there was no hope of her recovering from this unnecessary and un-required debridement. She ended up loosing a toe and wounds set it that she could not fight. The nurses with Hospice treated her like family. They were gentle and spoke to her with dignity and respect. When she began her final journey to rest, they allowed me to bathe her and dress her before the funeral home came. I was able to spend all the time I needed to prepare her and just hold her. I adore the nurses who took care of her.
Sharing these stories has given me connection and some comfort that I did right by her.
She was a conductor and a author of 37 books. She was loved by so many that I had a hard time notifying the over 500 close friends.
I hope when we have her celebration of life that the nurses will be able to join us. It would be a great honor to have them there. 😢❤
My Mother was in hospice in the hospital. Her nurses were amazing. I don't think people understand that hospice nurses are there for the patients and their families. They are the best of the best.
Thank you for your kindness and how open you are. Death is not what many people have the opportunity to observe, understand, and interact with their family or friends.
I am sure similar experiences will be coming soon in my life. I understand better now. . . and I will be picking up your book at my local retailer tomorrow.
You seem to be the perfect type of person be a hospice nurse. You are very sincere and gentle. I imagine the families are very grateful to have someone like you
So beautiful I’ve worked with elders not hospice but yes the surge is differently real and visits are 100% real you was right he wasn’t confused
I just want to say you are such a sweet person at least that's what you seem idk you personally...lol but your channel is so comforting. My 33yo daughter passed in January and I'm just devastated but I must say you are so comforting. A lot of what you say I believed anyway but it's nice to hear. The part where your deceased loved ones visit is so nice. I'm hoping she'll be the first one to visit when I die. But thank you and keep the great stories. And IL look for your book.😍
I lost my mom in June of 2022. I’ve struggled but Hadley’s channel brings me comfort and hope. I’m sorry for your loss. We’ll just know that Mama and your daughter are so happy right now, waiting on us. ❤️
I’m a nurse and my husband is on hospice . End stage Parkinson’s . Love your stories! Thank you.
I made Mr. William's red beans and rice recipe today ! It was wonderful. Thanks Mr. William from Scotland❤
That it Awesome!! I’m sure Mr. William was watching you, with a Big Ole Smile on His Face!!!❤
That it Awesome!! I’m sure Mr. William was watching you, with a Big Ole Smile on His Face!!!❤
You are Beautiful inside and out.
You are so easy to watch and listen to.
So Blessed to have found you.❤️🙏🏻✝️
I was Scrolling and ran across you, and I have just Got to say, You are the Kindest most Beautiful Person on TH-cam By Far, I love your Videos, My Daddy passed away in December of 2020, He was the Same exact way.. He saw our loved ones who had passed on, and it would make his day... I was his caregiver for 10 days before Hospice came and got him.. That was the worst thing I have ever been through.. I couldn't go see him at the Hospice house because both of us had COVID.. I didn't get to say my goodbyes and it hurts me everyday... He was my HERO.. When I got that Dreadful phone call, I Lost It... He was the best Daddy anyone could ever ask for.. Thank you for your Beautiful Stories, and I'm so excited to watch more.. God Bless You.. 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
What a beautiful story. You’re a beautiful soul Hadley ❤
One of my best friends was living in hospice.palitive care she was saying that the food was so much better. She said of the food was like that in hospital she would have eaten her food and not gone for the junk. We had a living celebration of life for her and shortly after she passed away. It seemed in hospice there was much more kindness. One of the last events i got to do with her was go to a play
I love these stories like these. Reminds me of my grandpa. I miss my granny and grandpa so much!
Hi Nurse Hadley. I'm Nurse Michelle. I've been an RN for 40 yrs., but retired now. I worked in several different areas of nursing, but I have to say that my favorite was terminal care. I wasn't a Hospice nurse, but I did a lot of terminal care on the SNF unit, at the hospital. I enjoyed it very much...getting to know the patients and their loved ones. Then, being able to give them comfort and care...to make sure they got the best I could give at the end of their lives was important, as it was the last thing I could possible do for them. I cared for them the way I'd want my loved ones cared for. Family members were always so thankful for that, and nearly always expressed this to me. It got pretty emotional at times, but it was still worth it. I'm happy that I was able to give that to patients & their loved ones during my career. I really enjoy watching your videos and hearing all about your Hospice experiences. My favorites are always when ppl see their loved ones who have passed. I find that to be so interesting and comforting. Thank you for the care that you give. I know how difficult and exhausting it can be, yet rewarding. Keep up the good work and positive attitude. You're very sweet.
So -I’m certainly no stranger to loss… My brother passed young, not quite 22, then many years later my Dad (@ 76). Just four years later, my baby sister passed from a brain aneurysm (only 52 and very unexpected). My Mom-in-law passed when she was just 63, and my father-in-law @88 (my husband was his caretaker to the end). Hospice support for all but my brother many years ago. I’ve learned a bunch from each experience, and each was so very different. I so admire your sweet nature and your stories of letting family go. Keep on doing what you are doing ❣️
❤ just beautiful ❤️ thank you for sharing 😊 I’m a registered nurse about to start at hospice, the wonder that can be part of the dying experience is why ❤ it shows in your eyes - amazing 🤩
i've been watching you forever... never commented... but when u described how u were looked at as the Angel of death... i felt your emotion...❤
I don’t know how you don’t cry your eyes out when you tell these stories. I cry just listening. 😭😭
I was taking care of a man with advanced dementia. It was the last day he got up out of bed and sat on the couch. He had not been talking for a few days. I was sitting with him, watching the Colorado Rockies Game while he largely dozed. He suddenly became alert, and looked like he was focusing on the tv and listening carefully for a minute. Then he started laughing, a huge belly laugh, and said "Well you tell Jesus that Mr Bayne (last name) says thank you very very much!". Followed by more laughter and him drifting back off to sleep. He passed peacefully in his apartment 2 days later. I have taken care of so many dying people, and I have never had the honor to witness something this magical!
my mom had the energy burst a couple of days before she passed. Im actually looking forward to my last day
My dad was on hospice after a fight with dementia and rapidly declining due to medical related issues that also caused the dementia to progress. The day before he was placed on hospice he had a lucid moment where he called me by his nickname for me and told me how much he loved me. In that instant I saw my dad in his eyes and heard him in his voice. Then he started talking about his will, I believe, but started slipping into the dementia again. He transferred to a hospice facility and I saw him 3x. The fourth time I was going to visit him, I was heading out to see him and got the call that he passed 5 minutes earlier.
Previously, before he had even been placed on hospice he told me he'd been talking with his uncle June. I thought it was just the dementia, but maybe it wasn't.
I've worked in healthcare for over 20 years (nursing home, hospital, doctor office) and have done private care for a couple families for hospice as well as caring for my own family members. Your videos and my current situation is making me think that I really should become an end-of-life doula.
Thank you for sharing your experiences.
I finished your book in about a day. I am 30 years old with child, (12) we have the same birthday just a tidbit.
Anywho, thanks for being you Hadley. You're more inspiration than any media could cover, any review could give. You're an angel on this earth as cliche as it sounds. I can only hope to be surrounded by many yous when i cross over. Thank you a million times over.
Much love to you and yours.
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What a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing. Hospice Care Staff are incredible human beings as it would definitely be one of the hardest healthcare jobs too have! Congratulations on your pregnancy and if it’s a boy will you be naming him, “William”. Since he obviously put in a good word for you with the big guy upstairs!
I was thinking maybe she would use William as a middle name!!❤
My grandmother was hospitalized. She was 82. Her speech was very hard to understand. A nurse told my mother that my grandmother spoke clearly and said "the angels are here. They've come to take me" the next day she was in a coma. I sat with her and prayed. I told her it was ok to go, that I would be there too. She opened her eyes and I saw that she looked right at me with recognition. She closed her eyes. My mom came to sit with her and she passed. I will forever be grateful that I had that moment with my grandmother. When my grandfather passed, my mom was with him and he was talking to Jesus. I know I will be with them in the presence of our Lord.
As sad as these passings are you are blessed to get to share these beautiful moments with your patients.
Congratulations on your new baby blessing 🎉 thank you for sharing your beautiful stories 😊
this is such a beautiful story. when you were able to get Mr William to watch his beautiful Granddaughter play football was the point tears hit me. Hadley you are certainly a very special person to do this kind of job may God bless you.
Truly this affirms for me the truth of the gospel and the goodness/kindness of God. This life is not the end, and relationships-not things-are everything.