Exploring Beliefs when Emotions are Intense

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  • @dontwantafnchannel
    @dontwantafnchannel 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +26

    This is so good. I’ve started doing exactly this in the last few months. A strong emotional trigger will hit (watching a TV show for example) evoking some past pain, and instead of going to the thoughts immediately so they can do their masking effect I go right to “what actually is this emotion?” - no thoughts. Just feeling the sensation of the overwhelming emotion. This is life changing shit. The sensation is what’s actually there, not the thoughts about it. Feels like all of experience is just buzzing with a powerful energy, even if it’s uncomfortable. Then it fades. I even have started asking my young kids when they’re freaking out “I’m angry!” I say, “what does that “I’m angry” feel like in your body? Feels like bubbles, right? Bubbles bubbles everywhere it’s all bubbles” 😂 They get a kick out of that. Awesome stuff! 🤘

  • @kazumawarren
    @kazumawarren 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    You're the best Angelo and one of the only teachers I've heard speak on it so clearly. Thank you 🙏

  • @HolisticHuman-di1jy
    @HolisticHuman-di1jy 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Thanks Angelo, this is exactly where I’m at right now, just sitting and getting really really familiar with emotion.
    Sometimes a belief will show itself, other times it’s just like being on fire.
    It’s really helpful to have the reminder to ask ‘what is being believed here?’
    I figured for a long time, that if I just sat in the fire for long enough, silently and still, that somehow it would resolve.
    Well, I’ve been doing this for months, in fact for perhaps a year or more and still there’s incredible intensity.
    I saw yesterday that there is a belief around being alone, abandoned, a tremendous fear. And often the belief arises that I can’t take much more of this..
    So I’ve been asking, who is alone, who is abandoned, what are you scared of? Who is scared?
    Ok, back to sitting in the fire 🔥 😅

    • @macaroon147
      @macaroon147 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Sounds like I've recently joined you in the fire haha. Feels like a hopeless spot to be in tbh but what can one do besides be with what is

  • @cindylmartinez
    @cindylmartinez 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Underlining is believed as danger constant low grade danger. I feel like at any moment I'm going to be jump scared. Yet in experience there isn't a lot of reactivity here, which there once was (diagnosed with cptsd long ago) I'm actually grateful to feel this anxiousness so directly (body shakes and twitches often) , so loving and at the same time flavors of shame and fear mixed in for sure. Blessings 🥰❤️🙏

    • @HolisticHuman-di1jy
      @HolisticHuman-di1jy 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Useful to know someone else is feeling the same thing, I get a lot of twitches and spasms. Doesn’t look cool when I am on the train. 😅

  • @racheleldred2524
    @racheleldred2524 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    This highly emotional space as part of awakening (or not part of awakening) is simply a state of consciousness. We pass through many states of consciousness each day. Each one comes with it's own thoughts, beliefs, emotions and actions. It's amazing when you realise this.
    Something you perceive as negative transpires and the mind begins to tell the stories, the emotions are stirred up, then the body begins to feel the emotion and pulls the whole cycle round and around.
    What you say here to feel in emotion in the visceral sensation is great....it was the practice that pulled me out of a deep long spiral.
    Thanks Angelo!

  • @StephenAndersonSACreate
    @StephenAndersonSACreate 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Oh yes, I needed to hear that. Thank you Angelo

  • @RiikkaVuorijarvi-ni4rp
    @RiikkaVuorijarvi-ni4rp 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I told my therapist about you! ☺ I haven‘t talked much about spirituality as he doesn‘t have a context for it. But he‘s puzzled what‘s going on with me and what approach should be taken. This video summarizes it beautifully. I posted the link to him.

    • @SimplyAlwaysAwake
      @SimplyAlwaysAwake  2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      You could also send him the vid of Chelsea who is both a therapist and very awake :)

  • @brianmartin7784
    @brianmartin7784 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

    Have you done anything on reactivity when it comes to interacting with others? I feel like I can be non reactive when alone, even when dealing with "negative" things, but as soon as I speak with other people, I get sucked into believing thoughts and start selfing. That is the hardest hurdle right now. It feels like to work with and collaborate with others, I have to "self". I know that's not ultimately true, but it's my biggest sticking point

    • @silverhandle
      @silverhandle 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      You’ve got to be vigilant while with “others”, just like always. Things might be more intense at times, because not only are you experiencing your ego stuff that arises, you are also witnessing ego stuff in them - but the same “rules” apply to this business of awakening :)

    • @mikeyfinn2
      @mikeyfinn2 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      The you that appears to get caught up in selfing, the one that's in control and can choose not to do selfing, **is** the selfing. Getting off a particular horse is not stepping off the merry go round.

    • @matherspolitico9526
      @matherspolitico9526 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      best way is to use a new story(self) to get through the barriers when talking and then see the reactions will dissolve and once you get better drop the stories completely and see what happens.

    • @matherspolitico9526
      @matherspolitico9526 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      like assume your best self and "be" that person and any reactivity comes up with others will have a diff story due to "being" a new person but once you have gone through the initial fear barriers , you end up dropping the "self" all together and it just becomes automatic. And whatever is meant to be will be. It weird and counter intuitive but once through the first reactivity fear barrier its gets easier to drop the "self" after that. But to get through the first barrier assume you are "being" your best self.

  • @EternalBeingOfficial
    @EternalBeingOfficial 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Very relevant for me, thank you

  • @Autumn_Way
    @Autumn_Way 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Angelo, this video is so helpful. Thank you. 🙏🏻♥️

  • @TheNondual
    @TheNondual 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you so much for this wonderful technique. I have been practicing just sitting with sensation, and it has been dissolving the resistance and contraction of the past many years! Thanks Angelo

  • @bryandraughn9830
    @bryandraughn9830 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Thank you.

  • @johnbates4326
    @johnbates4326 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    It just gives me more questions. Once you find a particular belief what do you do with it? What if you find that a particular belief is true? Especially one that you have feared might be true? How do you look at certain thoughts/beliefs as just thoughts when you don’t believe they are just thoughts? If I have a thought that says “My rent is due tomorrow and I don’t have any money in my checking account”, and your body responds with contraction/fear then is that just a thought or is that real? You can have a thought and tell yourself “it’s just a thought” until the sun burns out. But you don’t really believe it’s just a thought. You believe it holds weight. And when beliefs go deep enough you can’t just decide to not believe those thoughts. It goes deep in your body to the point where when you tell yourself “that’s just a thought”, you know you’re lying. Is any of this making sense?

    • @georgesonm1774
      @georgesonm1774 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Rel

    • @elevenman100
      @elevenman100 วันที่ผ่านมา

      When a particular belief seems to be more or less true in the relative, it’s probably useful to ask yourself “and what do I believe about that?” (Though the ego may 🙄)
      The object is to get to where this first belief makes contact with something much more fundamental-i.e. a belief that purports to make that first-level belief a problem. Like where does the suffering actually live for me here? We might see that thinking “I’m out of money,” alone, is 100% suffering-free. Ok, fine: so where does it finally make contact with “me”?
      A belief that the rent is due and you’re broke can be explored with: “And what do I believe about that?”
      And when you get an answer to this, if it feels like you could go deeper, go deeper. Keep asking that same question and see where it goes.
      When it gets deep enough it’s easier to see how the belief (1) might just be false or dubious (“I’ll die or never financially recover”), and/or (2) could be something we could choose to simply withdraw belief from (like Angelo’s example in this video about deserving or “My rent lateness or eviction will prove once and for all that I am a failure”).

  • @life13525
    @life13525 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Yes..not many talk about these things...they wake up without going through that at all it seems...here I am more than familiar with exactly what you describe - so thanks for naming it...

  • @andreasrylander
    @andreasrylander 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    VERY helpful! Thanks! ❤

  • @Cheese-is-its-own-food-group
    @Cheese-is-its-own-food-group 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    I’m familiar with that feeling. It’s a knot right over the belly button.

  • @kichakra
    @kichakra 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    It's bizzare how much we reject feeling on everyday basis. That, in turn, comes out as inner dialogue, rushing, learned unwholesome coping mechanisms and addictions. All from avoiding feelings in the body. I found this pattern that I always rush around, causing myself to get this distinct lump of anxiety in the chest, which is only dissolved by slowing down and feeling it. The underlying belief is that I have to be perfect, be always mindful during the day, to avoid this lump forming. However, that belief serves the function to escape that feeling, by escaping to self-blame, fantasy about being perfectly mindful all day. Thanks Angelo for showing a method to allow myself to see this! I also have a request: longer guided meditation that focuses just on being in the body and feel the feelings.

  • @AlastairGames
    @AlastairGames 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    thank you, love this

  • @Sashas-mom
    @Sashas-mom 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I found this helpful. Thank you Angelo

  • @AiRStrejf
    @AiRStrejf 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    It's hard to make sense of anything when there's a storm of thoughts and/or emotions. There's anger and discomfort, but any attempt to feel the sensation is met with more racing thoughts. I tried a few times to follow along with this video, but just kept getting lost in thought every time.
    In many situations, feeling into direct experience comes so easily, but once I get swept away I can get stuck for more than an hour. Interesting, frustrating, and confusing.

    • @elevenman100
      @elevenman100 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I totally get this. None of this was clear at first.
      The prime directive of you mind’s resistance programming around this is quite literally to just keep you from feeling these rather neutral (even kind of pleasant) sensations in your body. (For reasons of the way the brain flexes during past highly charged or traumatic events)
      It’s a rodeo clown. It’s trying to be helpful but it’s really keeping you from fully integrating.
      It helps to see the thought storm for what it is. Don’t worry about how much time you get sucked in to thought. Like Angelo says, any time spent in the body sensations is good. ESPECIALLY when the mind is on full tilt trying to get you away from feeling them. That’s when feeling the sensations starts to de-program the resistance feeling (which where all the crappy feeling around this comes from).
      Every second you’re feeling those sensations is the magic button which starts the process of getting you much more regulated. While your finger is on that button, the integration progress bar is moving. Maybe slowly, maybe quickly, but it’s moving.
      Don’t know about you, but once I could see that the thoughts were just the rodeo clown keeping me from just smashing that button down-parking my ass on that button-I was way more focused on it.
      Improvement and clarity were around the corner.

  • @pauladiaz7101
    @pauladiaz7101 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I wish i could talk to you because i do feel that either what i feel is going to kill me or i wish it would kill me because reality is tormenting me and the feelings of helplessness and desperation for it to end are too much to handle and i see no end to it

    • @TheJillianJiggss
      @TheJillianJiggss 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      I'm with ya. Its effin brutal.

  • @maryannscanlon8655
    @maryannscanlon8655 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I had a belief stemming from sometime in childhood that came up 2 days ago. I spent the day crying and isolating in my bedroom. Not only is this painful but it takes so much time to go through this. My family can’t understand what I’m going through when this happens. I can’t even begin to explain to them how something that seems so small can cause such a huge disruption in my current life. When I first met you I couldn’t even begin to tell you what my beliefs are. I was so unaware of these beliefs and how they have influenced me over my lifetime. How do I know when I’ve “dealt” with this belief enough?

    • @cps_Zen_Run
      @cps_Zen_Run 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      @maryann. The past is only a memory kept alive by you. It’s time to let go and allow. It’s over. Haven’t you suffered enough? In this Moment, are there really any problems? 😊

    • @maryannscanlon8655
      @maryannscanlon8655 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @ thank you. I notice this in one of my brothers. Thank you for your pointer

  • @cps_Zen_Run
    @cps_Zen_Run 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Beliefs are a poor substitute for evidence and Truth. Emotions are Real but not Correct. ✅

  • @brushstroke3733
    @brushstroke3733 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I just want to lay in a bathtub like Jim Morrison. I'm so tired.

  • @macaroon147
    @macaroon147 วันที่ผ่านมา

    8:50 when you see the belief, and you notice how sticky and fundamental it is to your identity, then how do you work with that? Lastnight while reading your chapter on beliefs, I realised a massive belief for me is that I need to close myself off in all social situations in order to protect myself from shame or humiliation. It's beautiful to see this, infact I felt so relieved lastnight when I saw this belief for what it is. But where does one take it from here and integrate this into life where I face social situations? Because just seeing this belief I now see how much it has held me back in life and has influenced almost every decision I make. I read the chapter on beliefs twice but for some reason I feel like I need a bit more further understanding on this topic

  • @introvertedfeeler2215
    @introvertedfeeler2215 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Scanning immediately brings body into contortions around the chest. Heartbeat feels like the center of a star. Thoughts say this is too intense to look at; too intense to look away. Thoughts fail and break and wither away against this sensation that feels more real than me.
    Spontaneous poetry releasing itself to return to the surrender:
    I cannot tell if The Red Hot Iron Ball is inside of me or if I Am within The Red Hot Iron Ball. The Red Hot Iron Ball is my Heartbeat, ephemeral yet alive -- here and gone, smaller than small -- but in the exact same 'space', The Red Hot Iron Ball is the entire Universe. The Red Hot Iron Ball is my god. The Red Hot Iron Ball is a fraud.
    The Red Hot Iron Ball transcends time and eternity;
    The Red Hot Iron Ball knows neither name nor identity.
    --Sincerely, I have no idea where that comes from.

    • @introvertedfeeler2215
      @introvertedfeeler2215 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Note -- I had to stop to post this at the very beginning when tuning in started. Literally walking the territory he continues to talk about

    • @introvertedfeeler2215
      @introvertedfeeler2215 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      such powerful pointing, *constantly* catching the sensation of separation. Almost like some cycle keeps playing out and popping, bubbles here and gone and never was. ugh. all thoughts are frustrating. love/hate/neither-both words.
      I got distracted *again* in the reactivity of writing this. letting it be.

  • @HasItEverNotBeenNow
    @HasItEverNotBeenNow วันที่ผ่านมา

    I’m able to drop into unbound consciousness almost every time I meditate, and even sometimes throughout daily life, yet somehow still can’t seem to feel my emotions in my body through my sense-gate? Any chance you could do a video one this that takes us through the process from A-Z?
    With as many uploads as you have, I wouldn’t be the least bit surprised if you’ve already done one. If so, would you please reply with its title?
    🙏❤️♾️

  • @mariaschonfeld2709
    @mariaschonfeld2709 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I’m having the experience of the thought holding the sensation being watertight - for example- “I don’t want to die” has been coming up with a huge surge of emotion and tears. To sit with either the thought or feeling individually feels difficult as they’re so glued together. I am aware that the thought + feeling stuck together perpetuates the story and then I can’t rest directly with the sensation and I go deeper into more thoughts as a result. Any tips would be gladly received!

  • @LiesaAnne-hv5ph
    @LiesaAnne-hv5ph 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Can someone explain what the feelings of just hopelessness and that things are never going to change. This is what I struggle with and it’s been this way for years, I can’t seem to tie it to an emotion. It’s just an overall feeling of doom and gloom. I am happy to sit with that, but I’ve been doing this for years and nothing seems to shift. Where am I going wrong?

    • @Godamole
      @Godamole 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Not sure this will be helpful but one way to approach it is to imagine yourself unstuck. Imagine you are unstuck in the ways you want to be and be very honest about how it makes you feel, to go out and act/do what you would if the stuckness wasn’t there. There might be something you’re afraid of there, and the stuckness is keeping you safe. Shame of joy is an example of less obvious repression

    • @Pam74055
      @Pam74055 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      First question would be, what is wrong with the way things are now? Without a thought of the past or future? Your comment indicates you’re living in the future which can only be thoughts and not reality. So what is truly wrong right now.

    • @georgesonm1774
      @georgesonm1774 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yess living in the future = in an expectation of something to come or dissolve, so "keeping distance", fueling resistance etc. The desire for it to go away keeps it stuck close. Can you be here and now in the body which feels hopeless and stuck

  • @demogadget
    @demogadget 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Angelo can you awaken while dreaming?

  • @monco1010
    @monco1010 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    It seems to me that I'm experiencing shadow work unwillingly without any deeper spiritual experience or insight into nature of consciousness or real I. Like I'm the only one who didn't get any "sugar cubes" but just pain and sorrow.

  • @vaibro780
    @vaibro780 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    How to not panic when everything is getting worse

  • @darbydelane4588
    @darbydelane4588 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your focus on the bubbling up - or 🌋 volcanos - of emotion.

  • @manso306
    @manso306 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You sometimes talk about "dying into every moment". Can you die into the relative aspect? Is that the same?

  • @Daniel-the_one
    @Daniel-the_one 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Is there any talk/video related to dullness ? I oscilate between tension and sleepiness. This talk gave me a good starting point for investigation, but when i Sit to investigate I get sleepy. I think it is an avoidance mechanism. Could you talk about it (@angelo)?

    • @mikeyfinn2
      @mikeyfinn2 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      the book The Mind Illuminated covers overcoming dullness in detail, highly recommended

  • @triplem2345
    @triplem2345 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I know it is thoughts, all I hear is farts 😂

    • @Natalie-cb5by
      @Natalie-cb5by 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Omg now I'm replacing 'thoughts' with farts as I listen 😅😅

    • @chrisdelaplante5515
      @chrisdelaplante5515 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Fart does not really exist or smell, this is just a thought !

    • @snakedogman
      @snakedogman 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Farts are pure consciousness too.

    • @shawnsummers4487
      @shawnsummers4487 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Thank ypu for the giggle! Now I can laugh at thoughts more 🎉🎉🎉

  • @swimmingbird238
    @swimmingbird238 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Angelo my crush