Autism and Self Injurious Behavior | Autistic Aggression | Fathering Autism Vlog #19
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- Autism and Self Injurious Behavior | Autistic Aggression | Fathering Autism Vlog #19
This is a little different from my usual vlogs. I kind of just jumped through the day and got a few shots but I wanted to share a few things from our day to day life. Abbie had a rough start to her day. Sometimes she gets mad or frustrated and she simply can't communicate why. She gets herself worked up and bites herself hard enough to leave bruises. It's heartbreaking for us that we can't fix what's wrong so all we can do is help to keep her from hurting herself.
A few people have wanted the link to the red "Mad Matter" Abbie is playing with in the video. Here ya go: amzn.to/2n8ocBj
FatheringAutism a lot of people would take those actions as a tantrum but she is trying to communicate what she feels/want/needs but she can't help it
She is so pretty and full of life you guys are a heart warming family and her brother is amazing with his sister love you guys to the moon and back give me a shout out in one of your videos make me fill part of one of the best family’s I no.....my name is Kevin Dunn give me that shout out lol god bless you guys much love
I'm really impressed with they way her mom dealed with the meltdown. Great job guys.
Thank you, and thanks for watching!
Otaku 58 she is probably used to it
She did do a really good job. Have u guys thought about possibly getting her a weighted blanket for meltdowns.
Otaku 58 your profile says it all
That Abby kissed her showed too that doesn't mean anything bad or to be mean, at that moment she just can't handle the situation and communicate what she wants.
Thank you for showing this very real side of what real autism can sometimes look like. I appreciate you and your family so much for always showing all sides.
I don't like seeing Abbie upset♥️
I love seeing her laughing and smiling
I love how you guys handled her outburst
It's tough and always a little heartbreaking but we just try to keep her safe and calm her down.
FatheringAutism I understand were you are coming from. It can be differ cult and heart breaking. You guys handled it very well.
Dear mom, today I named a cat over the internet. The future is now here. Best regards, your son. ;)
+diggidan That made me laugh out loud.
REST IN PEACE 2-Stroke the kitty.
What happened
I had tears in my eyes watching Priscilla help Abby through her little meltdown. So much love..so much patience. So Much Love. So Much Patience. It, oddly to say, was a very beautiful moment. Hugs to you all!!
Priscilla, you’re my respect for being so patient. I’m thousand miles away and yet feel the inner I-cannot-name-it that forces to self harm and I know how how hard it is to see a beloved one, Abbie doing this. You’re both wonderful parents. Because the love each of you four share I keel on watching your vlogs.
She is such an amazing mother. So patient and caring. She is lucky to have parents like you both.
Recently subscribed to your channel. I myself have a beautiful autistic girl named Elizabeth. I have to say it's very hard to be a patient parent during outburst. I would like to tell Priscilla she did freaking awesome. She was calm and loving. In the perfect way. It truly is great to see such awesome parents. keep up the good work guys. Your channel really broadcasts more than you can imagine.
+Lily Palacios I will let her know. Thank you so much for the kind words and thank you for subscribing.
way to go Priscilla 👏😊 that was a short meltdown love the redirecting!! I try the same with my son!!
+Jamie Doheny She is so patient with Abbie even when she's violent. Good momma.
Wow. The four of you are an inspiration. I mean that. I've never sat and spent so many hours watching TH-cam until I found your channel. My family is in such a similar situation. And I honestly believe I was given my lil' prince because no other family would love him and raise him like mine. And I feel the same way about ur lil' princess. A higher power knew that only your family would be the only right one for her.
Love you all! Tough to watch. 😢I like the name 2-stroke for the cat. very clever.
Thanks mama. I know, very tough to watch.
Wow watching this in 2023 and she has progressed so much it’s really amazing. Unless you just don’t show the really hard times it seems like her communication I mean everything her quality of life she just seems so happy. You guys did an amazing job and bow down to Abby for putting in such hard work.
I adore ur wife! Ur whole familiy is so strong and amazing but I've gotta say, ur wife makes these vlogs. She's so sweet, always a smile and such a great mommy. Beautiful inside and out...she has a glow to her. Great vlog! Thanks for sharing!
Wow what an amazing mom and dad y'all are. This has to be so difficult.
The endings to his videos are my favorite part because of how real and raw it is which makes it completely hysterical
Priscilla, I loved the hug and relationship restoration/reassurance after she calmed. From one mom to another, you are doing an amazing job. ❤️
Holds up *pow* clock "best eight dollars I ever spent!" How Is Asa all of us?
+Cacti_in_my_ Eye Lol
SUPERHERO PARENTS! you guys deserve all the love and support in this world ❤❤❤❤ doing a Great job with your daughter Amazing job she is blessed and lucky to have you two! Thanks for sharing this ❤
Is it just me or does Abbie look like Cristine from the Simply Nailogical channel?
Al Funcoot I think it's just you...lol
i thought that too!
oml she does!
Al Funcoot lol yeah a younger version of her
I've been thinking that too!
I love your sweet Abby. I came across your Channel earlier this week, was involved in your live chat. You guys are amazing! I don't have autism, but I do suffer from mental illness. As a kid I had a hard time expressing my emotions and would last out, hit, bite, pull I didn't care. Being yelled at and poorly restrained, it just made things worse. You're so gentle and kind when Abby is having a meltdown. 💜
Both you and Priscilla are incredible people! I teared up watching Priscilla handle Abigail's SIB. I just found your channel and your family is absolutely amazing. I'm a college student majoring in autism behavior and education and your channel has taught me so much!
Hello! I am a behavioral Therapist. I truly enjoy your channel. I have worked with children and special needs children for over 17 years. Thank you for the example you are to so many.
This is the first time I've come across one of your blogs so I am unsure to how long you have been posting them. That being said, you are extremely courageous to be putting your family out there in the world to see the good, the bad, and.. the comments! Keep up the brave work, society can definitely benefit from seeing what having a child with autism is actually like.
Abbie and Nick would get along well...Nick loves gooey stuff too :) And I know how tough those mornings can be :(
+Autism: The Teenage Years Yep, she's my little queen of squishy gooey stuff.
I don’t know how I got this far back, but what a beautiful moment. Priscilla you rock! And look at your hair girl!🤍
You are amazing people for being so patient and understanding with her
As hard as it was to watch the beginning (you guys are amazing btw), the girls had me laughing out loud in those outtakes. The looks both gave you? Priceless! 😂😂😂
I love watching your channel I also love how supportive and calm you guys her!! You've gained a sub!! Also Abbie is so pretty!
Kenzie Brown Thank you so much and thank you for subscribing. We aren't always calm. Like any parent we have our not-so-glorious moments but times like these we have to keep it together for her sake.
FatheringAutism Oh yes definitely not every one can be perfect every one has their ups and downs
Priscilla is so patient wow, what an amazing mom :)
I am a new subscriber and your family is so kind and loving it's refreshing!! I have a question and I hope that it's not too intrusive. How do you and your wife and even your son have enough energy to keep up with life and the demands of an autistic child? I am exhausted just watching. You all seem to be 3 steps ahead of Abbie so that you can keep her safe and all the mental stimulation you also provide can be so taxing. I know this doesn't compare but I am my mom's full time caregiver, she is in a wheelchair and has limited movement. I dress her, bathe her, handle the housework, dr. Appts... (you know the drill, I probably don't need to explain) and I am drained. How do u not crash?? Is it a strict schedule?? Thanks again for sharing your lives very inspiring!!
When my ears first opened up, and all the loud noises were torturing me, I would end up banging my head on the desk. Teachers and peers knew I was sensitive to loud noise, but they got mad at me for it. This was about 5 years ago. If my test results say I'm autistic, that could be why was never able to "adjust". Also, it will explain a lot of traits I had. Actually, it'll explain everything. I think if I was born so closed up all the time, I would've had sensitive hearing from the start. I've always been sensitive to smell and would hold my breath in a bathroom or near any kind of garbage can or dumpster. I still do. My mother tells me I use too much air freshener. She told me that I couldn't touch certain things when I was little, so I was sensitive to touch. I kinda grew out of some things, but I still can't touch a spider web or anything slimy, sticky, or moldy. Just a few months ago, I learned about autism, and my mother told me she used to try to get me tested for it. She told me everything, and now I knew that I could've had autism. I also learned of sensory processing disorder which was common in autism, and it explained my sensitivity to sound, smell, touch, taste, and bright lights. My mother isn't as supportive of it as you, though.
Awww precious little girl and you are are so wonderful , shes blessed to have you two as parents , this is so beautiful, what patience and understanding and ur so invovled with her , God bless u all #TeamAbbie
hi i'm eric i have autism also i'm 30 and i'm high functioning i'm new to your video vlogs i watched a few they are cool
+Eric Levitt Thanks for subscribing!
your welcome
I feel so bad for these parents ,I wouldn't be able to deal with this .
Abbie emits quite a repertoire of unique sounds. Per chance some day she could verbalize them. We can only hope. Cheers!
Poor girl ❤️❤️ but she has some good parents that loves her very much and cares for her that is absolutely number1 🙏🏻🙏🏻
OMG, guys, thank you so much for this video! We've been struggling with our daughter's self-hitting for a while now and even though we have access to mental care and therapy, no one showed us these strategies. And our daughter also takes too big chunks of food into her mouth, so I guess we should also try tearing food into smaller pieces. You are our light in the dark:-* Thank you so much for being there for us! :-)
I love watching your videos, it's a beautiful insight into what a lot of our lives with children with autism are like so thank you 😊
+Melissa Arkell No, thank you for watching and for your kind words. It means a lot.
So fun to jump back to older vlogs that I've never seen😊
Awesome job mom👍🏽.i loved how gentle and calm you were helping her through her self injurious mode.as a special mom I know that it's easier said than done.love all your videos.Aby is a darling kid.she looks so pretty in all her videos.hehe.hope you guys are safe concerning the weather.
Love the “outtakes” at the end they always make me laugh.
I'm rewatching some of your videos and making sure I've liked them along the way. Love your content. 🌼
A still picture of Abbie would not shoe one sign of her condition. World listen most problems are on the inside. Thank your family so much for helping
Priscilla is this close to a saint as I’ve ever seen. She is literally the rock of this family
Bless you. My son works at a center for autism. Takes someone with patience and caring.
Thank u needed this today.. My 3rd old just started hair pilling and bitting and I was feeling helpless today
You seem like very loving parents. “Meltdowns are a Symptom NOT a behavior” it’s up to us to solve the medical mystery of what’s causing it.
Meltdowns are caused by overstimulation and/or frustration of things not going their way.
The meow mix clock that meowed every hour would really drive you crazy if you have heard it.
That was amazing. Priscilla was amazing. She was so calm.
Не сдавайтесь,лечите детя,у вас получиться всё будет хорошо
Awe you are such a wonderful mother. I learn so much from you.
Abbie, please don’t hurt yourself! Don’t bite yourself! Sometimes things are frustrating, better bite in your Chemie or run through the house or scream as loud as you can or try flipping a gum against your arm or press an accupressure ball. A long time ago I injured myself. Now I regret it, my arms are full of scars. I know you can find other ways to deal with frustration or inner pain. Your parents will help you because they love you. And it hurts to see a loved one injuring herself. 👋 - maybe your parents tell you what I’ve written to/for you.
That has got to be so frustrating. Poor Abbie. Looks like you're handling it really well though.
Gosh this brought tears to my eyes; frustration is one of the hardest things to manage :'( Well handle though; thank you for sharing something so difficult.
Lorraine Wilkinson Thank you. I struggle with sharing the hard to deal with stuff. I never want to appear to be exploiting the challenges of autism but I feel it's important to share that it's not all rainbows and unicorns. We stay positive on our videos for a reason but real life needs to be shared as well. Thanks for watching.
I think you document it really well; it is important, like you say, for people to understand the full extent of what autism can look like. We often get people say how happy our little boy is but he lashes out regularly, but people don't often see, so don't understand it. Thank you again 😊
I have always found that it works to deal with SIB to direct it to something else. Like if you feel like hitting your head hit it against something soft/something that won't hurt you if your head hits against it, I found the body shell of my X-MAXX car works quite well for this purpose
I helped my son reduce aggression and improve in speech and social skill with the help of Dr Oyalo herbal supplement I got from TH-cam here. His herbs work perfectly
I loved the redirection to making lunches, I have done the exact same thing with my residents.
I have so much respect for you both.
If the wrist is the place of choice to bit are there wrist protectors that she could bit instead that are made from the same material as the chewy? Or is it the texture of her skin that she prefers? I've tried chewies my son but he chews right threw them. We have an indoor swing in his room that helps him.
+Rebecca's Raw Vlogs She seems to want the feeling on her arm more so than the simple need to bite. I would love to give her something else to bite but the SIB is what she seeks when she's upset.
Ok I have found out that Autistic children hurt them selves or their loved once if they are in pain. It can be tooth pain or migraine. Please spread this concept, it might help parents deal with their children's problems better. PAIN CAUSES AGRESSION.
I helped my son reduce aggression and improve in speech and social skill with the help of Dr Oyalo herbal supplement I got from TH-cam here. His herbs work perfectly
Im a new subscriber and this is amazing. So much patience with her
Your girl is beautiful..I wish you and your family all the best..Take care😍
❤❤ I love how she waved on her own
Your doing an amazing job. i work at a developmental center in SO cal. and have seen this on a daily basis. I GIVE YOU KUDOS,
I'm so happy with how you handle this *happy stims*
+Ella Morgan Thanks.
I get meltdowns where I bite myself hit myself and run into things but I cannot help it I have low functing autism and as soon as it's over I break down or loose a lot of energy, my parents even though they know about the autism and have all the paperwork don't know how to deal with it and tell me off for it. I'm 16.
I am Autistic and i also self-injure myself i just don't know how to stop doing it its like when i am having a meltdown i can't control myself. My self-harm is just a way for me to cry for help
I usually bite my hand. But I'm pregnant now so my autistic behaviors kind dissolved. Would hate to have a kid that would suffer like I did
I really enjoy watching your vlogs and your family
I have a question. does Abby eat stuff she's not supposed
Constantly. She has a disorder known as PICA.
FatheringAutism PICA is a deficiency. usually in Iron or Zinc
Florida state Seminoles Google it
I had a cousin with PICA (iron deficiency-based) and he used to take bites out of couches & the sponge parts on the older style headphones! He was 3 at the time. I remember thinking it was so bizarre but also so amazing that at 3 years old, without the knowledge that sponge type stuff is made of iron, the body has you craving it! Biological science is so cool.
Esta es la primera vez que veo el video, me impresionaron como padres... Son los mejores, mi corazón se partió en 2 cuando la nena hermosa se quería lastimar, yo tengo un hijo con Asperger.. El es el mejor, mi mejor amigo, la mejor compañía. Gracias por compartir este HERMOSO video ( lo siento que escribí en español, pero no puedo concentrarme en inglés) xq en verdad estoy llorando 😢 de felicidad por Amar a mi hijo y porque Dios da los retos a sus guerreros. Bendiciones
Gracias por sus amables palabras. Significa mucho para nosotros.
FatheringAutism aww thank you very much 🙏🏻🦋
@@fatheringautism hablan español?
I like Abbey,s moms hair it looks really good
Familia, busca Deus fortemente e verá a transformação maravilhosa na vida dessa criança
Hey man my son is in the middle of 2-3 as far as diagnosis. When did the aggressive behavior start? I noticed Abby is older than my boy, did they rate kids 1-3 when she was diagnosed? This video is so scary man (my boy is 4) any advice on what seems to be the beginning of our aggression?
I cut up my son's pizza into pieces with scissors and also him sandwiches. If I don't, he does the same thing...tried to shove the whole thing in his mouth.
Ok I need a little help. I have autism and I love to swim. But I find it really hard in public swimming baths, especially when they're crowded as they are on weekends. Unfortunately the only time we can go is on the weekend. The other day I had a meltdown in the water and was hurting myself to try to stay in control of how I felt. Has this happened to you guys with Abbie and what do you do? Please help.
I just want to give you all a tight hug....
I’m going through this with my son and he only 5 I have no help and aba quit and idk wat to do anymore
Man. This is so much like my life. Joe doesnt self injure, but strikes and bites me. I have had to restrain him just like your wife did in the video until he calms.
You guys are wonderful parents!
First! And Im Happy because I love this channel!
Edit: this is my favourite channel
Thank you! And you get my first reply. :)
It's cool how you reply to most comments. Thanks for replying! 🙂
Abbie is beautiful. She is a sweet girl. She is an angel.
she is the best girl ever and adorable
Hi! I subbed. I have HFA, have you tried any techniques with the arm biting that produces stimuli somewhere else. Most of my stimming comes from where i have a bad feeling, smell, taste or just something on my mind. Does she use the chew thing all the time, or does she have a blanket or anything she uses to help calm down. i use my watch and blanket. I just noticed when you were holding her arms she looked scared. I dont mean this bad in anyway. I know you love her and know whats best, im just asking and sharing because we have similarities. She looks really happy. Thanks for sharing your days!
+Loving Life and the Ocean When she is like this she's angry. We don't know what about all the time but often it's because we are doing an activity or going somewhere she doesn't want to go. She bites herself out of frustration. It's a coping mechanism so we are trying to teach her ways to cope that aren't self injurious. Thanks for watching.
That's right, I'm watching on September 3rd, 2019.
Great job buddy, I know the feeling I have twin 5 year old boys and one is autistic. It can be a challenge.
You guys are the best people I ever
You have an amazing family, you do such a fantastic job with Abbie, I stumbled across your videos looking up autism, I have an 11 year old on the spectrum but very high functioning, I also work with special needs kids which I just love. Anyway I've subscribed and look forward to all your videos :)
+Zoe C That's awesome! Thanks for sharing and I really appreciate you watching. Glad you found us!
FatheringAutism hi thanks for sharing your experience with dealing with autism my 15 year old lower functioning autistic son. went into a care home on 1st may 2017 due to severe aggression it had become to dangerous for me to care for him hes doing well in the home and we see him each week my heart is broken as i love him so much but i just couldnt do it anymore. your doing a great job you have my respect keep up the good work x
Great video on a tough subject. Thanks for sharing how you handle those situations.
Have you considered getting Kevlar sleeves for the arm bitting?
that ticking is soothing to me! I enjoy the sound!
My son bite his wrist when he shout. His shouting with biting frequency is 1-2 in 1 minute. How to control the impulse of shouting which generates automatically.
I helped my son reduce aggression and improve in speech and social skill with the help of Dr Oyalo herbal supplement I got from TH-cam here. His herbs work perfectly
Hi guys. New viewers here. We'd love to learn more about Abbie ❤️💕💙. What are her interests? Is she going to a mainstream school? Does she like watching herself on TH-cam? Our kids think it's mildly amusing to see themselves on their iPads.
I love Abbie, she's beautiful ❤❤❤
My daughter I found gets worse when I say it's ok. To her it's not ok. Her aggression is much worse if I'm not close enough to absorb it she directs it at herself. My daughter is much more aggressive to herself and others. When I switched to saying It's not ok I'm sorry it's not ok right now but it will be ok once you calm down. I promise it will be ok soon. Once I started that the episodes would last 1/4 the time and once she calmed down enough to hear me she would show me what she needed once she was able to regulate herself. I know your kid doesn't have the aggression issues mine has but maybe by refraining from going immediately to it's ok you might be able to able to get her out of melt down faster and she'll feel more understood.
I helped my son reduce aggression and improve in speech and social skill with the help of Dr Oyalo herbal supplement I got from TH-cam here. His herbs work perfectly
Mom dad yall are angels from god❤
Hi, just love your vlogs so helpful!! just a quick question, does Abigail have a sign/gesture to ask for food if hungry (or does she not graze/snack during the day). if she does have a sign, how did you implement this!
such an amazing family you all make! x
Yes, she signs "eat" and also uses her iPad to communicate specifically what she wants. She does snack all day. She seems to never be full, lol. She gets a few scheduled snacks throughout the day in between meals but we often tell her "no, not right now" or that she has to wait until snack time or she would eat non-stop.
This tears my heart up
Priscilla handled this well! Very well good mom
Abbie is such a pretty Girl 😊 i am from Germany (Sorry for mistakes with my Englisch) and i am watching your videos a few Days now.... thumbs up 😊
May God Bless Your Family💓