Unscripted as always..... This channel has been sharing thailand stories that get emailed in to the channel, the majority of the stories that get sent in are about foreign men falling for Bar Girls, Freelancers, thai women in debt etc… and the majority of these women are with these guys for “money” most guys “know this” but choose to ignore it as they dont want to lose their thai girlfriend, and they try to make themselves believe that its not all about money and that there girlfriend is “different” maybe 👀. Now in regards to my situation i met my Thai Partner over 6 years ago in Buriram Thailand in Starbucks coffee shop, i was upfront and straight about my understanding of thai women, that i am not rich, i wont be paying a monthly salary to be your boyfriend 😅 etc etc…. and after seeing each other for 2 years we had a baby and then as time went by our relationship got toxic we broke up several times and tried to be single parents raising our son seperately but things were unfortunately still toxic between us even though we was apart from each other, but due to us having to communciate in regards to organising about our son it made it diffucult to move on….. Now last year in July 2024 we came back together due to my sons birthday party 🥳 where we had to see each other and i wont go into details but we ended up being together that evening and then chose to see each other afterwards, take things slowly and live seperately…. Now this christmas time Pim explained that williams school is asking for money to be paid for pre school which starts in April, its an international school and its expensive, a deposit needs to be paid immidiately and the rest needs paying by march this year…. Now i also have to pay his nursery fees which are 10,000 baht per month…. Anyway to cut this short i sat down with pim and we decided that the money we would save if we come back together as a family would make everything easier financially, so we spoke about our concerns and worries as we both dont want our relationship to become Toxic again, so we agreed about me having my own place within the house so i can work and have a private place to go to when its needed…, pim is now also working full time at a local school so we will not be with each other all the time like before…. As we both worked from home in the past…. the rest is all mentioned in this video 🙏 oh….. and in regards to the pregnancy 😬 this mistakenly happened on the evening of my sons birthday 👀 👉Share Your Comments Below & Share Your Own True Thailand Story via Email or tell Your Own Story on Camera 📸 Email: thaitalkwithdan@gmail.com 👉Join our FB Page facebook.com/thailandadventuresdan?mibextid=ZbWKwL 👉Support The Channel by Becoming a TH-cam Member & get access to different content & early content 👍 th-cam.com/channels/QpgPmQDRjasXFOuNXf9Q_w.htmljoin 👉Transfer Money to a Thai Bank Easily & Safely Using "Wise App" wise.com/invite/ath/danielh4335 (First transfer is FREE upto 20,000 Baht via the above Link) Dan 👍
@@thaitalkwithdan I'd recommend instead of the ridiculous priced international school, send him to the best local ordinary school & bring in private tutors for specialist topics. Far better value for money if you can find the right people.
@@thaitalkwithdan as long as by the time he's ready for senior high school he's able to keep up in an English or Australian equivalent year 11+12, it doesn't make any difference in the long run how. By then you could likely have funds to relocate for a year or two to get him on his feet in a Western country.
@@thaitalkwithdan I'm more familiar with Philippines where it's easy to find ex offshore professionals with good English, retirees who love the opportunity to teach. You can easily help him at home with English & STEM. My son got so fed up with the system in Thailand he moved my grandson to Australia at 7 years old. He's 10 now & sounds totally Australian, fluent in Thai still with Mum.
@@Secs-selzdidn't realise about your previous comment, gets confusing on here sometimes and yeah if we just stick to the same as previous then the same results will be achieved, me having my own space, pim working full time, William getting older.... And we are constantly busy so we don't have time to create drama and we are too tired by then if each day 😁
I've always loved how affectionate and loving William is when he appears on screen. He's a beautiful little boy. Best wishes to all of you for a new beginning and Happy New Year!❤
@thaitalkwithdan well good luck to all three of you and I hope it works out, but if your wife is the Narcissist you've repeatedly accused her of being, then it's going to be tough
My parents stayed together for the kids and as a result the only thing I remember from my childhood is being scared as my parents fought and screamed. They finally split up when I was 12.
Same here" I will never forget that feeling of dread my heart being destroyed forever, I'm 60y now and alone have never kept relationship for more than a few years including thai ones and with a kid, as I need to now the woman are genuine, but it has never been the case, so I have never married but when I have proposed only on 2 ocations they were not interested, it has always been about the money but the only one it wasent, was a serial cheat😮 and that was after buying two houses running a successful busines never had so much money, she had her own . After that catastrophe ended up skint and in thai and then it was all about the money, no money no honey, I think this is what's behind Dan's other half's out bursts, even if he doesn't realise herself 😅
Richard you sound like you have had a rough ride so I can understand why you comment the way you do, I get it now 🤝 if a couple come back together for the kid/s and they are fighting and making an unhappy home and they continue to stay with each other and keep making the family miserable….. Then they are not together for the kids at all 😕 for example if me and Pim start being like that and it’s affecting William then we have to stop with each other and will probably have to make a very hard decision in regard to one of us having William full time and the other disappearing as it just does not work when we are both separate and sharing responsibility of our son, I can’t go into specifics about what’s happened since we have been apart but I can say that “hand on heart” ❤️ 👋 that one of us would be a single parent and more than likely that would be Pim as I can’t see her giving up William for good….. Now this scenario is my worst nightmare in all honesty so I hope after me telling you this you have a better understanding of the predicament I am in, I never wanted to speak about this specifically but due to your comments and this latest comment I just wanted to be more transparent with you about my actions… I am not “green” I fully understand the situation I am in and what I am dealing with and if I really love my son then I will do my best to make it all work 🙏
Hey I had to live with this scenario my mother and father always argued and most of them time we stayed in our bedrooms listening to the craziness, mine slit up roughly around the same age and my mum moved a new guy in and married him, he was hard work and dint like kids but he took a shine to my youngest sister and they bonded but me and him didn’t get on, I remember he had me by the scruff of the neck pinned up against the wall 😂 mental he was a very big guy and due to the issues my mum chose the guy over her kid and I left home at the age of 13 or 14 years old…. I won’t go into the rest of it as it’s a long story after that but I never returned back home….. I don’t want my son to go through even a fraction of what I went through and how I felt, I suppose this makes me very protective when it comes to him and it will also make me make this work because if it doesn’t the outcome isn’t going to be great
Hey again Dan, when I made that comment last night I hadn’t watched the whole video yet. You may recall from earlier comments I’ve made that I have been to Hell and back with my Americanized Thai wife, but with whom I have, after years of struggling, reached a tolerable level of co-existence, even with the occasional moment of happiness together. In your video with Pim you touched upon the secret! You have found the magic formula to make it work!! It’s not easy but it is the only way to deal or argue with a Thai woman who can not and will not be wrong….. SILENCE…. DO NOT ARGUE BACK. No matter how reasonable or factual or how much common sense your argument contains it matters naught. You can not and will not win an argument or get the last word in. I learned this in speaking to Thai-American guys who work for me here and other Western guys who have are in long term and (apparently) happy marriages to Thai women. In fact my wife, in moments of post -blowout clarity has even told me “ if you just shut up and stop arguing back with me, it’ll go away” but as an opinionated and passionate guy I found it extremely difficult to walk away from a fight., especially when I know I’m right! But for the sake of the kids I’ve learned to tamp down my rage and just walk away the second I see her eyes get that crazy glint in them. So there Dan you now have the secret formula. Don’t fight, you can’t win, just walk away. Good luck to you both and cheers to your dedication to family! There may be happiness in your future but it takes work and the willingness to swallow your pride from time to time. But I have concluded that a happy household is worth the occasional forfeiture of dignity.
She should honestly be GRATEFUL that you want to remain in your son's life IF she cares about her sons well being. Just be very careful Dan..she now knows just how much you're willing to sacrifice to be a part of your son's life..with THAT being said, she could use that to her advantage.
Dan as a 'wake me up' let's hear one of your old comments from a past video: "I never knew who she really was, she lied to me from the very beginning making out she was fairly normal. She was very good at playing the very long game and hiding who she really was. I had a few dramas before William was born but just basic stuff, it wasn't until she knew she had me trapped that she unleashed her true self. This was still done over time but it's now come to a point where she is literally like satan reincarnated." Hmmm, back dancing with the devil...
Yeah it was as bad as this, I don’t hide the fact that my life has been hellish to say the least…. A lot has happened since then and like I have already said if we don’t have a child together I would be long gone but having a child has made things difficult even when we have been apart…. I have explained things fully in my latest video so if you have watched it I don’t understand why you would make this comment 👀 ?
@@thaitalkwithdan I commented to remind you how it was and chances are how it will be again. The Thai cultural way of gaining, saving, and not losing face creates many irrational things in a relationship. Thais are so obsessive about keeping up a socially correct facade/image that they forget how to truly express themselves and how to interpret their real feelings... so after a while of all this repression of emotions, they seem to automatically fly into a rage. All I can say is learn to be like the Thai males and get space when the rage erupts...come back when she has cooled down. All the best.
@@thaitalkwithdanDan, if you’re playing the long game (I won’t elaborate as I hope you have the smarts) then, I wish you luck in the play. A Thai leopard does not change its spots
@@thaitalkwithdan Dan says “…I don’t understand why you would write this comment” … And that sums up the sad, sad truth of the situation! You don’t understand what your situation actually is, you don’t understand contraception and when to use it, you don’t understand other people and how to get along with them, you don’t understand that leopards don’t change their spots, you don’t understand that pathological psychopaths don’t alter the outcomes of their intents, just because you allow a little more space within both the house and the toxic, abusive relationship. This has got to be worthy of a violent B grade thriller movie, after your postmortem @Dan😰. I get you love your son. I get that because of your previous choices, you have no good options… but that is entirely due to you and your inability to successfully think through any adult level relationship decisions. This video is the worst excuse festival imaginable! It’s like a hostage video, all you need is today’s Bangkok Post to use as a ‘proof of life’ mechanism. I do wish you good luck… so sleep with one eye open @CaptainDan!!!! 🫡
Great video, Dan & pim . Puts everything in perspective. Got a hand it to you dan for being there for your son ,and good to see you and pim having a go at it . That's the beauty of a child. It gives relationships a different reason to make it work, particularly as your son has given you guys a wake-up call with his response on strange things he has seen between you two as he is undertaking more and more . Wishing you luck and happiness. Happy New Year to all.
12:10. Pim is such a selfish person. Poor Dan, clearly committed to his family but with the wrong woman. The insanity that Pim has brought to Dan and William's lives has caused life-long trauma to both of them. She is toxic to the bone. Just listen to her respond here.
Pretty much everyone has the potential to be nasty. The capacity to grow into being better people is also in most people. It's all about choices. Life goes on, children deserve effort.
Dan and Pim, you’ve decided to make an attempt to be together again, from that I can see you both have good intentions here. My one wish is that you both love each other and maintain focus on helping each other. Maybe this sounds naive but it’s what it’s really about. Best of luck to you both.
Man, there’s no telling what she’s been doing since you broke up. It ain’t about leaving your son. You were doing fine without her and still involved in your son’s life. You don’t know who she’s been with or what she’s been doing. I understand what you’re thinking but bro, trust me, but she’s done things she can’t take back. If you were in your country I’d maybe understand but you’re on her turf. You’re nothing to them over there. Even though you have a child with her, they play by different rules. They don’t play by the same rules bro. This is a dangerous situation you’re in. I just don’t think you could trust her anymore at this point. Hope it works out.
You stated in your comment “you was doing fine without her and still involved in your son’s life” this is far from true… I couldn’t speak about what went on when we were separated as it would rock the boat more and give me issues, even now i have to be careful as I don’t need more issues here… 😕 I assumed that most long term followers of this channel would understand my predicament and why I am doing what I am doing…. all I will say is that if we continued to live separately and take care of our son seperately it would not have lasted much longer…. It wasn’t going well and sooner rather than later a decision would have had to be made that either I take care of William alone or she does, obviously I wouldn’t be able to choose, I would have just had to deal with the outcome and I believe that she would have felt like she had no other choice than to take William away from me, there is a lot more to this, of course but I really can’t say much more but thankfully some subscribers understand exactly why I am doing this
Dan you don't have to live with this woman to support your son. Shared custody can work very well. The worst thing thing you could do is start fighting with her infront of your son.
Tale as old as time. Trapped for the foreseeable future until the child is older and independent. Hopefully the clock doesn't reset with the addition of another child, and I wish you strength through the years to come. Hang in there Dan!
Take as old as time “agreed” I made my bed so it’s time to get in it and pull the cover over my head 👀 I’m joking 😅 but it’s nice to read a comment from someone that fully understands what is really going on 👍🤝
@@thaitalkwithdanMate, we only know you from here and see how you show us what you're all about and you seem pretty bloody special. A person wirh integrity, Credibility and much thougtfullness and care. If the oxygen mask drops, you know what to do. Cos if you don't put it on and stay healthy, you can't help anyone Take care, all the very best thoughts and energies sent your way Stay that way, yourself. Stay healthy and happy
I am glad you made this video because you are not unique. This is relationships the world over. I am so happy that you both have found a way forward because the truth is you are both to blame and you have both grown and learned and I am sure on a path to a better future.
As a father, I respect your decision. Here in the Philippines, I live close by to my Filipina ex and I share kids with her daily. (We get along well). Staying together would have been ideal, but the way things have worked out has been good. I would never leave my kids.
As one of those hinting to both of you to try see the best in each other & work on it- this is great. You've both a lot to gain if you can sort this out long term & trust each other. William will be stoked.
You’re making a good choice because of your child. I certainly hope it all works out for all of you. Best of luck, take it slowly and regroup every week, make sure you are making progress so you don’t slide into how it was before. ❤
Dan, I saw some signs in your previous videos that indicated that you were moving towards reconciliation. I told you before that I was a single parent for most of my daughters life. I applaud you for putting your son first. I hope you two can find some balance in your relationship. I ended up staying with my girlfriend and don't regret it. I now understand that a lot of our issues were purely communication problems and my baggage. Also having very low expectations regarding Thai women. Best wishes for all three of you.
So glad you are working things out! I wish you all the best ,but you must love each other aswell,not just stay together for the child!!! My Father would always say that it’s better to be from a broken home than in a broken home!!🥹
So happy for you Dan, your wife and specially for William, you guys look wonderful together, nice family. wishing you a great and happy future together. Greeting from the USA. God Bless.
Good on you for putting your kid first! Remember how you both behave in front of William as it could end up being worse for him, but if you both carry yourselves and think about William it will work. Good luck to all three of you. By the way, I love your work.
Man, almost brought me to a tear, but it didn't come out yet. man! I wish you both the best and do it for your sons. Glad you guys are working it or worked it out. not easy I guess. but this is amazing, you'll always have my support. God Bless 😎
Best wishes for both of you and for William. As a dad of 3, kids have to come first and I hope you all have a happy family life together in the future. Compromise is key as well as mutual respect and always listen to each other.
I give it 4 weeks and they will be apart again because deep down they can't stand each other living in the same space. It's ok not to be living together. sometimes you can get along better with each other when Ur living in separate buildings.
Maybe Pim, now working outside the home, has grown in maturity and has been able to become more stable as her routine life has become more stable. Has she had some inner capacity that she has discovered which has given her the ability to look within herself and gain enough perspective to transition into becoming more stable, less toxic and be a better communicator? Maybe Pim now accepts "where her bread gets buttered", so to speak. I found that Dan and Pim's ways of communicating in the past was like mixing oil and water, much of it coming from personal cultural differences. A healthy dose of patience on each part to really stop and listen to each other will help to give some stability to the relationship. Good luck moving forward. Having your own space is a wise move.
You don't have to explain anything to anyone. At the end of the day, you have to be able to sleep at sleep, and do what you think is best. Absolutely zero judgement here.
Thanks Steve and I would not say we are brave we are just trying to get over the issues we have for the sake of the family and just get on with life and sharing the stories on here will hopefully help others in some kind of way 👍
Nobody’s business but yours and Pims. I do wish you both happiness and success manouvering through this reunification of your family. I must admit I picked that you were back together again a couple of months ago.
Take it slowly , have your space apart from each other too is important. Honest & open communication is important, it’s vital really .. Don’t get back together solely for the child , but yes this is the main priority, his stability & well being .. I get that. But don’t just reunite also for financial reasons.. best of luck though ok 🙏
Shocking to say the least. After all the craziness..But, I wish you both the best of luck, health, love and good fortunes.. William so cute, smart boy; I hope for good things for you.. Good luck!
Look who's talking 😂😂😂😂. What Lynn said, remember Lynn is a woman and knows best, and I'm thinking the same as Lynn. For the stories, I've heard this woman won't change, but Dan, the best of luck in the future.
lovely to see you guys together , yes i follow both chanel’s . i’m sure a book is in here some where . i wish you guys the very best . Pim is a doll . love watching her talk . cha cha Dan . best wishes
I have been dying laughing this whole video! 😂 thanks so much dan! I have my own Thailand story I haven’t shared yet because I’m in the middle of it..I’m just using your advice and keeping my eyes open for the “red flags” while also still believing that things can work out if you “put in the work”. I I’m headed back to buriram in a couple of weeks. Cheers Dan
This should just teach everyone one thing. Live your life and don’t listen to other people especially around Thai women. If you fall in love with a bar girl it’s your life enjoy urself as your only human.
@ you are doing the right thing. You’ve all gone through a lot. I pray you can become a loving family. Maybe your channel should move off the bad (expat fails) but show us Thai life and how you guys turn this around. You have great things ahead. Thanks for all you’ve given us while you’ve struggled. It’s your time now.
Hi. Dan....thanks for reading my comment on your video! I was very surprised...as i stated in my comment, although i am not hopeful your relationship will work out in the long run, i have to say after watching and listening to you both, i do see that you are both united in your wish to be together for William...I found Pim to be very calm and not defensive with her responses , as i really expected her to be..i give her credit for that. I was really struck with the united and really genuine manner you guys put across...both of you concerned about your son...i can only hope that love and concern will be enough to allow you to stay together since that is what you both have decided to do...I alway wish the best for you and William, and continue to love your channel...Best of luck to you all!
Thanks Lynn much appreciated, I didn’t plan anything I just scrolled to the top on the comments and noticed your and read it out 👍 I never plan anything 😂 only the subject I’m going to talk about or the email I’m going to read…. Anyone who knows my story, seen the videos I have made and the videos Pim has made then just going off that information… I get it… it’s a shock and a OMG moment 😬 a lot went on last year when we was not together and then Williams birthday came and Pim made a party and invited me and she made it very clear that she missed me etc… since then we was seeing each other but living separately to take things slow and then I got sick 🤒 she did everything including wiping my 😬 I think that with her working full time now and me having my own space within the house, William being older and understanding a lot more it will help a lot but the main factor is me and Pim, I can’t control anything about her but I can control myself so I’m focusing on that and learning to read situations and not allowing things to escalate by staying calm, keeping quiet and choosing my words carefully in heated situations etc…. I’m not going into this blindly I’m being extremely careful 🙏
@@thaitalkwithdanthat’s it Dan! You’ve found the secret formula! I too have been to Hell and back with my Americanized Thai banshee. After a couple of rough years of staying and suffering for the sake of the kids, I decided to implement advice I’d gotten from 2 of my immigrant Thai employees, whom I also consider friends, and a few Western friends ( 1 Irish and 2 Americans) who have long term and apparently happy marriages with Thai women. The secret is simply SILENCE plain and simple. DON’T ARGUE BACK. You will never win. No matter how honest, reasonable or packed with common sense your argument is you will NEVER win. Even my wife, in moments of post-meltdown clarity has told me. “If you would just shut up everything will go away” Easier said than done for a strong willed passionate guy but for the past year or so I have learned to walk out the door and go for a walk or a drive the second I see the glint of crazy appear in her eyes. Reaching this level of peaceful existence is difficult but not impossible. Sometimes I need to swallow my pride but it’s worth it to me. Also, having separate areas within the house helps. I have a home office that doubles as a retreat, a place where I can step away and escape for an hour during the winter months when we’re all inside hiding from the weather. So you’ve found the formula Dan! Sticking to it is the hard part but you can pull it off! Takes patience and practice but it’s within reach. I’m happy to say my family life has improved %100. Earlier on I suggested therapy, counseling to work through out problems but she’s too proud and arrogant to ever admit to needing any sort of mental health assessment ( as you’ve alluded to in the past %90+ of mankind could use a little ( or ALOT) of help in this area, but not her, no way, she’s perfect, it’s everybody else in her life who’s f$&@d up haha, so with her refusal to get counseling I had to change my approach to avoid an expensive and child damaging divorce. But in the end I’m happy to report we’re OK. It’s no fairy tale existence but we understand each other better and do still love each other. And I attribute our current peace treaty to one thing and one thing only; my learned ability to stop talking and walk away from a fight before it even starts. Best of luck !
Thanks mate it’s certainly an impossible situation to be in…. I will make it work this time due to changes that I make myself but I have to hand it to Pim she is doing great so far…….. 👍
I understand Dan. You do it for your son. I had to do the same thing for my two boys. Now they are grown and gone. My ex wife and I are not together anymore but we are still friends. It was an adventure and it was worth it. It was one of greatest things in my life to be there with and for my boys. I feel proud. You will too when your son finally grows up.
She looks like a sweet girl 🙂When you talk about her, I was expecting a dark skin girl and full of tattoos. Better communication, no drinking, no smoking, no gambling and “hardworking”. And you are a better partner than a lot of Thai men.
Hi Dan.Hope all works out for you both.Im sure you both know what went wrong the first time and know how to handle little things that can escalate.I will be rooting for you both anyway.😊
Hey Dan, good for you mate. I really hope you both can make a good go of it escpecially for the son you both have. No point wondering what could have happened..
Thanks, I like to make my channel open and as honest as I possibly can which is not easy but I try to do it as I feel like it’s what is missing online nowadays 👍
Oh I have learned, it’s not going to be easy and this time there are a lot of healthy changes such as Pim working full time and not always being at home, William understand everything and doesn’t even allow us to talk loud, I have my own room and private space within the house etc…. I don’t want a repeat of the past….
Hope the best for both of you. I can't give advise, this seems complex, there are too many factors, but the kid can, somehow, get the situation not to be extremely dysfunctional , which seems is happening.
Good lck to ya mate..you trying again for your son and he deserves that for sure..hope you and the mrs can get along Nd keep the atmos a positive one for him..
I regret leaving my son’s dad I wish I’d stuck with it and got over the hurdle! Good on you Dan for not giving up with beautiful Pim as she clearly loves u! William needs both parents Xx
All of our lives are full of regrets…. I have had time to reflect on everything and it certainly wasn’t planned to get back together but on Williams birthday she made it very clear that she still loves/cares for me and since being in hospital she has “showed” it with her actions… since July things have been a lot better and with living together we are spending the same amount of time together when we was apart because she is working full time and I am always working 😅 it’s the weekend now so we are all together and will go out soon so William can play 😊 everything is calm and William is happier than ever which makes me extremely happy, so all positive on this end but there will be hurdles along the way but I am personally ready to react very differently when issues parent themselves 👍
All the best wishes for you and your family mate. Love this video with your family. Good on you mate. Dont listen to the negative comments. Cheers mate❤🙏🇹🇭😊
Sometimes couples need some time apart to figure things out. Thai women are not easy to deal with, and they don’t filter their words well. Best thing is to ignore them when they can’t behave because they’ll be fine 10 minutes later.
I guess it's all cool as long as neither one becomes the doormat. . Yes, adults compromise and loving adults make each other happy. Happiness is the normal state of the human mind. Love, peace, happiness, and truth for both of you this New Year...
Last time i saw you dan, you were posting when you were ill, im glad to see you back to normal, looking great mate, and i wish you all the best, all of you, and ill be back in pattaya soon causing me own trouble lol again i might add lol
Glad you guys managed to find a way to work things out. Me and my girlfriend have a couple of rules 1. Only argue when calm......otherwise remove ourselves from the situation for a few minutes. 2. If my girlfriend is peed, she will write a message to me.....that way she needs to think about what she's writing. 3. Try and live by the idea.....if it isn't going to matter in 5 weeks or 5 months time, then it's not worth dwelling over for more than 5 minutes... 4. If there's a communication break down, we must ask each other to clarify rather than just thinking about the negative meaning because it's usually just thoughts in our head. Also, another general principlle I follow Spend money on the woman you love....not to make the woman love you My girlfriend thinks I make a lot less money than I actually do (might need to ask for your advice about that if we get married)
As a long term follower of your channel Dan, I'm concerned. Because I know a few facts about narcissism / mental illness. It's mostly incurable. After hearing so many alarming tales from you about how your wife has acted toward you in the past, my only conclusion is she has psychiatric issues unfortunately. These can be masked however, covered in a veneer of normality but eventually, the mask wears thin and true nature becomes evident. I hope I'm wrong, mate. My best wishes to you and your adorable son.
It is incurable I have studied about mental disorders myself and that’s why you need to change yourself if you want to deal with anyone with a mental disorder…. I will also let you in on a little secret….: most people if they was to receive a diagnosis would have some kind of mental disorder
@@thaitalkwithdan True because one person's definition of normal is different from another's especially across cultures. If the magnitude of deviation from what is considered normal is large then we have problems.
Hi Dan, i believe you are doing the right thing. Don't worry about those stupid comments. Trust your gut feelings and do what's best for you and your family, that's the most important thing. I learnt a long time ago that if your partner is upset you should just listen, don't react or escalate the situation and likewise for them. Take time to think and try and understand each other's point of view. I know it can be difficult with the language barrier but definitely worthwhile. Cheers.
Thanks and in regard to the negative comments I understand them as most of them are from guys that have been severely hurt by Thai women and guys that have been hurt by women from their own home countries so they like to lash out, also guys that don’t like me making out the fact that if you pay a woman a monthly salary and this salary was agreed upon from the start in order to make the woman date you/be your gf or wife then essentially you are renting that GF or Wife….. a lot of men are doing this and they don’t like me saying that it’s a financial relationship 🤦♂️ and some of the comments are from guys that are just worried and know my story but they tend to be less harsh comments and not designed for “likes or laughs” this is the internet after all but when kids are involved in any relationship then it’s not as straight forward as a relationship without kids as it’s way easier to walk away from especially when it gets toxic
Unscripted as always..... This channel has been sharing thailand stories that get emailed in to the channel, the majority of the stories that get sent in are about foreign men falling for Bar Girls, Freelancers, thai women in debt etc… and the majority of these women are with these guys for “money” most guys “know this” but choose to ignore it as they dont want to lose their thai girlfriend, and they try to make themselves believe that its not all about money and that there girlfriend is “different” maybe 👀. Now in regards to my situation i met my Thai Partner over 6 years ago in Buriram Thailand in Starbucks coffee shop, i was upfront and straight about my understanding of thai women, that i am not rich, i wont be paying a monthly salary to be your boyfriend 😅 etc etc…. and after seeing each other for 2 years we had a baby and then as time went by our relationship got toxic we broke up several times and tried to be single parents raising our son seperately but things were unfortunately still toxic between us even though we was apart from each other, but due to us having to communciate in regards to organising about our son it made it diffucult to move on….. Now last year in July 2024 we came back together due to my sons birthday party 🥳 where we had to see each other and i wont go into details but we ended up being together that evening and then chose to see each other afterwards, take things slowly and live seperately…. Now this christmas time Pim explained that williams school is asking for money to be paid for pre school which starts in April, its an international school and its expensive, a deposit needs to be paid immidiately and the rest needs paying by march this year…. Now i also have to pay his nursery fees which are 10,000 baht per month…. Anyway to cut this short i sat down with pim and we decided that the money we would save if we come back together as a family would make everything easier financially, so we spoke about our concerns and worries as we both dont want our relationship to become Toxic again, so we agreed about me having my own place within the house so i can work and have a private place to go to when its needed…, pim is now also working full time at a local school so we will not be with each other all the time like before…. As we both worked from home in the past…. the rest is all mentioned in this video 🙏 oh….. and in regards to the pregnancy 😬 this mistakenly happened on the evening of my sons birthday 👀
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@@thaitalkwithdan I'd recommend instead of the ridiculous priced international school, send him to the best local ordinary school & bring in private tutors for specialist topics. Far better value for money if you can find the right people.
@@thaitalkwithdan as long as by the time he's ready for senior high school he's able to keep up in an English or Australian equivalent year 11+12, it doesn't make any difference in the long run how. By then you could likely have funds to relocate for a year or two to get him on his feet in a Western country.
@@Ghekko-kw3zz it’s very difficult here where I am, I have looked at other alternative options it’s just so hard
@@thaitalkwithdan I'm more familiar with Philippines where it's easy to find ex offshore professionals with good English, retirees who love the opportunity to teach. You can easily help him at home with English & STEM. My son got so fed up with the system in Thailand he moved my grandson to Australia at 7 years old. He's 10 now & sounds totally Australian, fluent in Thai still with Mum.
@@cyllananassan9159 is that true or we heard wrong?
Will be interesting to see how this video ages over the next year...
Dan has a massive heart
Dan is !$?!&! whipped. Damn…….
It’ll likely move to members only.
No this will stay just like the last video we did together
Indeed
Dan, blink twice if you need me to send a rescue team in.
Will do 😁👀🫡
😉😉 ....... 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I spilled my coffee laughing over this one!!!
He is beyond help.
:-) You beat me to it
Insanity is repeating the same thing and expecting different results
So dont repeat the same thing, make changes 👌
Yeah - That’s why both of them are committed to changing their ways. Mate, maybe watch the full video
@@Secs-selzdidn't realise about your previous comment, gets confusing on here sometimes and yeah if we just stick to the same as previous then the same results will be achieved, me having my own space, pim working full time, William getting older.... And we are constantly busy so we don't have time to create drama and we are too tired by then if each day 😁
I've always loved how affectionate and loving William is when he appears on screen. He's a beautiful little boy. Best wishes to all of you for a new beginning and Happy New Year!❤
@thaitalkwithdan well good luck to all three of you and I hope it works out, but if your wife is the Narcissist you've repeatedly accused her of being, then it's going to be tough
My parents stayed together for the kids and as a result the only thing I remember from my childhood is being scared as my parents fought and screamed. They finally split up when I was 12.
Same here" I will never forget that feeling of dread my heart being destroyed forever, I'm 60y now and alone have never kept relationship for more than a few years including thai ones and with a kid, as I need to now the woman are genuine, but it has never been the case, so I have never married but when I have proposed only on 2 ocations they were not interested, it has always been about the money but the only one it wasent, was a serial cheat😮 and that was after buying two houses running a successful busines never had so much money, she had her own . After that catastrophe ended up skint and in thai and then it was all about the money, no money no honey, I think this is what's behind Dan's other half's out bursts, even if he doesn't realise herself 😅
Richard you sound like you have had a rough ride so I can understand why you comment the way you do, I get it now 🤝 if a couple come back together for the kid/s and they are fighting and making an unhappy home and they continue to stay with each other and keep making the family miserable….. Then they are not together for the kids at all 😕 for example if me and Pim start being like that and it’s affecting William then we have to stop with each other and will probably have to make a very hard decision in regard to one of us having William full time and the other disappearing as it just does not work when we are both separate and sharing responsibility of our son, I can’t go into specifics about what’s happened since we have been apart but I can say that “hand on heart” ❤️ 👋 that one of us would be a single parent and more than likely that would be Pim as I can’t see her giving up William for good….. Now this scenario is my worst nightmare in all honesty so I hope after me telling you this you have a better understanding of the predicament I am in, I never wanted to speak about this specifically but due to your comments and this latest comment I just wanted to be more transparent with you about my actions… I am not “green” I fully understand the situation I am in and what I am dealing with and if I really love my son then I will do my best to make it all work 🙏
Hey I had to live with this scenario my mother and father always argued and most of them time we stayed in our bedrooms listening to the craziness, mine slit up roughly around the same age and my mum moved a new guy in and married him, he was hard work and dint like kids but he took a shine to my youngest sister and they bonded but me and him didn’t get on, I remember he had me by the scruff of the neck pinned up against the wall 😂 mental he was a very big guy and due to the issues my mum chose the guy over her kid and I left home at the age of 13 or 14 years old…. I won’t go into the rest of it as it’s a long story after that but I never returned back home….. I don’t want my son to go through even a fraction of what I went through and how I felt, I suppose this makes me very protective when it comes to him and it will also make me make this work because if it doesn’t the outcome isn’t going to be great
Hey again Dan, when I made that comment last night I hadn’t watched the whole video yet. You may recall from earlier comments I’ve made that I have been to Hell and back with my Americanized Thai wife, but with whom I have, after years of struggling, reached a tolerable level of co-existence, even with the occasional moment of happiness together. In your video with Pim you touched upon the secret! You have found the magic formula to make it work!! It’s not easy but it is the only way to deal or argue with a Thai woman who can not and will not be wrong….. SILENCE…. DO NOT ARGUE BACK. No matter how reasonable or factual or how much common sense your argument contains it matters naught. You can not and will not win an argument or get the last word in.
I learned this in speaking to Thai-American guys who work for me here and other Western guys who have are in long term and (apparently) happy marriages to Thai women. In fact my wife, in moments of post -blowout clarity has even told me “ if you just shut up and stop arguing back with me, it’ll go away” but as an opinionated and passionate guy I found it extremely difficult to walk away from a fight., especially when I know I’m right! But for the sake of the kids I’ve learned to tamp down my rage and just walk away the second I see her eyes get that crazy glint in them. So there Dan you now have the secret formula. Don’t fight, you can’t win, just walk away. Good luck to you both and cheers to your dedication to family!
There may be happiness in your future but it takes work and the willingness to swallow your pride from time to time. But I have concluded that a happy household is worth the occasional forfeiture of dignity.
@@thaitalkwithdan💜💪👍
She should honestly be GRATEFUL that you want to remain in your son's life IF she cares about her sons well being. Just be very careful Dan..she now knows just how much you're willing to sacrifice to be a part of your son's life..with THAT being said, she could use that to her advantage.
Dan is !$?!&! whipped. Damn…….
She “should be grateful ” and “if”she cares about her son?
😂😂😂 awful. Who says that? Bad.
@mckernanfionnuala18 Bye Karen. That's why many Dan's are going to Asia for women now
@@mckernanfionnuala18 how many asian women live with foreigners and have their kids with her family hundreds of miles away????
@@mckernanfionnuala18Gratitude is a basic fundamental of a healthy, functional life.
Maybe you don't understand the word
Dan as a 'wake me up' let's hear one of your old comments from a past video:
"I never knew who she really was, she lied to me from the very beginning making out she was fairly normal. She was very good at playing the very long game and hiding who she really was. I had a few dramas before William was born but just basic stuff, it wasn't until she knew she had me trapped that she unleashed her true self. This was still done over time but it's now come to a point where she is literally like satan reincarnated."
Hmmm, back dancing with the devil...
Yeah it was as bad as this, I don’t hide the fact that my life has been hellish to say the least…. A lot has happened since then and like I have already said if we don’t have a child together I would be long gone but having a child has made things difficult even when we have been apart…. I have explained things fully in my latest video so if you have watched it I don’t understand why you would make this comment 👀 ?
@@thaitalkwithdan I commented to remind you how it was and chances are how it will be again. The Thai cultural way of gaining, saving, and not losing face creates many irrational things in a relationship. Thais are so obsessive about keeping up a socially correct facade/image that they forget how to truly express themselves and how to interpret their real feelings... so after a while of all this repression of emotions, they seem to automatically fly into a rage. All I can say is learn to be like the Thai males and get space when the rage erupts...come back when she has cooled down. All the best.
@@thaitalkwithdanDan, if you’re playing the long game (I won’t elaborate as I hope you have the smarts) then, I wish you luck in the play. A Thai leopard does not change its spots
@@thaitalkwithdan
Dan says “…I don’t understand why you would write this comment” … And that sums up the sad, sad truth of the situation! You don’t understand what your situation actually is, you don’t understand contraception and when to use it, you don’t understand other people and how to get along with them, you don’t understand that leopards don’t change their spots, you don’t understand that pathological psychopaths don’t alter the outcomes of their intents, just because you allow a little more space within both the house and the toxic, abusive relationship.
This has got to be worthy of a violent B grade thriller movie, after your postmortem @Dan😰.
I get you love your son. I get that because of your previous choices, you have no good options… but that is entirely due to you and your inability to successfully think through any adult level relationship decisions. This video is the worst excuse festival imaginable! It’s like a hostage video, all you need is today’s Bangkok Post to use as a ‘proof of life’ mechanism.
I do wish you good luck… so sleep with one eye open @CaptainDan!!!! 🫡
If your ex is as unstable as you say, why Subject a child to her behaviour?
Great video, Dan & pim . Puts everything in perspective. Got a hand it to you dan for being there for your son ,and good to see you and pim having a go at it . That's the beauty of a child. It gives relationships a different reason to make it work, particularly as your son has given you guys a wake-up call with his response on strange things he has seen between you two as he is undertaking more and more . Wishing you luck and happiness. Happy New Year to all.
12:10. Pim is such a selfish person. Poor Dan, clearly committed to his family but with the wrong woman. The insanity that Pim has brought to Dan and William's lives has caused life-long trauma to both of them. She is toxic to the bone. Just listen to her respond here.
Forget her she like 90% of thai women...selfish..
Pretty much everyone has the potential to be nasty. The capacity to grow into being better people is also in most people. It's all about choices. Life goes on, children deserve effort.
@@Ghekko-kw3zzas long as she's not a NPD.
That never changes.
Dan and Pim, you’ve decided to make an attempt to be together again, from that I can see you both have good intentions here.
My one wish is that you both love each other and maintain focus on helping each other.
Maybe this sounds naive but it’s what it’s really about. Best of luck to you both.
Man, there’s no telling what she’s been doing since you broke up. It ain’t about leaving your son. You were doing fine without her and still involved in your son’s life. You don’t know who she’s been with or what she’s been doing. I understand what you’re thinking but bro, trust me, but she’s done things she can’t take back. If you were in your country I’d maybe understand but you’re on her turf. You’re nothing to them over there. Even though you have a child with her, they play by different rules. They don’t play by the same rules bro. This is a dangerous situation you’re in. I just don’t think you could trust her anymore at this point. Hope it works out.
More importantly, what she'll be doing in the future. Insanity doesn't heal by itself, I'm affraid.
You stated in your comment “you was doing fine without her and still involved in your son’s life” this is far from true… I couldn’t speak about what went on when we were separated as it would rock the boat more and give me issues, even now i have to be careful as I don’t need more issues here… 😕 I assumed that most long term followers of this channel would understand my predicament and why I am doing what I am doing…. all I will say is that if we continued to live separately and take care of our son seperately it would not have lasted much longer…. It wasn’t going well and sooner rather than later a decision would have had to be made that either I take care of William alone or she does, obviously I wouldn’t be able to choose, I would have just had to deal with the outcome and I believe that she would have felt like she had no other choice than to take William away from me, there is a lot more to this, of course but I really can’t say much more but thankfully some subscribers understand exactly why I am doing this
@@thaitalkwithdanDan, I think you guys are going to be just fine. You both seem very determined to grow and make it work.
@@bw5911😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Maybe you two can work it out and forgive each other. Maybe some couples therapy?
My dad left my mom and i dont blame him..
great video.Thank you Dan.
Dan you don't have to live with this woman to support your son. Shared custody can work very well. The worst thing thing you could do is start fighting with her infront of your son.
I took my kids off the mother, moved on with life and brought them up myself
You are a credit to the male species 🫡🤝🙏
Glad you Guys are making a go of it, maybe some marriage guidance counselling would be useful, if available in Thailand?
Respect. 🙏 I did relatively the same. Compromise for the child or children in my case. It is what it is.
Tale as old as time. Trapped for the foreseeable future until the child is older and independent. Hopefully the clock doesn't reset with the addition of another child, and I wish you strength through the years to come. Hang in there Dan!
Take as old as time “agreed” I made my bed so it’s time to get in it and pull the cover over my head 👀 I’m joking 😅 but it’s nice to read a comment from someone that fully understands what is really going on 👍🤝
Dan is !$?!&! whipped. Damn…….
@@thaitalkwithdanMate, we only know you from here and see how you show us what you're all about and you seem pretty bloody special.
A person wirh integrity, Credibility and much thougtfullness and care.
If the oxygen mask drops, you know what to do. Cos if you don't put it on and stay healthy, you can't help anyone
Take care, all the very best thoughts and energies sent your way
Stay that way, yourself.
Stay healthy and happy
Good luck to you both, I hope it all works out, it's lovely to see 2 parents try and do the right thing for there child 💕
When you were in hospital Pim was there for you what more can you ask for in someone.
I agree. I think she really does care about him.❤️
It’s a New Year. Hope things work out better as y’all grow.
Thank you 🤝
I agree!
I am glad you made this video because you are not unique. This is relationships the world over. I am so happy that you both have found a way forward because the truth is you are both to blame and you have both grown and learned and I am sure on a path to a better future.
Great video... good luck to you both 😎👍
As a father, I respect your decision. Here in the Philippines, I live close by to my Filipina ex and I share kids with her daily. (We get along well). Staying together would have been ideal, but the way things have worked out has been good. I would never leave my kids.
Good on you Dan!! Wishing you all the best and you can work through anything with love and communication
@@dorothyrubyredmunchkin and dosh 💰
As one of those hinting to both of you to try see the best in each other & work on it- this is great. You've both a lot to gain if you can sort this out long term & trust each other. William will be stoked.
Good on you Dan, im sure youre both capable of getting on with it.
You’re making a good choice because of your child. I certainly hope it all works out for all of you. Best of luck, take it slowly and regroup every week, make sure you are making progress so you don’t slide into how it was before. ❤
Dan, I saw some signs in your previous videos that indicated that you were moving towards reconciliation. I told you before that I was a single parent for most of my daughters life. I applaud you for putting your son first. I hope you two can find some balance in your relationship. I ended up staying with my girlfriend and don't regret it. I now understand that a lot of our issues were purely communication problems and my baggage. Also having very low expectations regarding Thai women. Best wishes for all three of you.
You guys have a cute kid! Congratulations and I'm super encouraged you are all together again.
It's about making sacrifices and compromises. But you must have mutual respect and let the love for each other grow again.
So glad you are working things out! I wish you all the best ,but you must love each other aswell,not just stay together for the child!!!
My Father would always say that it’s better to be from a broken home than in a broken home!!🥹
We do love each other it’s just that William is the driving force as we are both too stubborn on our own merit
@ …… really all the best !! Pim seems really lovely to me and your son is gorgeous!
I made a comment in you're last video, so that's history now, not alot to say about this video apart from a very genuine
Good luck to you both .
Thanks Ken 🤝
Big fan Dan from Sydney down under x
Hope the New Year is going well for you mate 👍
So happy for you Dan, your wife and specially for William, you guys look wonderful together, nice family. wishing you a great and happy future together. Greeting from the USA. God Bless.
Sending love to you and yours Dan!
Good on you for putting your kid first! Remember how you both behave in front of William as it could end up being worse for him, but if you both carry yourselves and think about William it will work. Good luck to all three of you. By the way, I love your work.
Thank You, William sees everything and even if we talk loud he tells us to be quiet 😊
I’m happy you’re working it out!!! Don’t listen to the haters telling you to leave!
Good luck Dan! I hope life is smooth and happy from here onwards
Very amazing and intriguing.
Wishing you the very best of luck brother Dan. ✊🏼
Man, almost brought me to a tear, but it didn't come out yet. man! I wish you both the best and do it for your sons. Glad you guys are working it or worked it out. not easy I guess. but this is amazing, you'll always have my support. God Bless 😎
Best wishes for both of you and for William. As a dad of 3, kids have to come first and I hope you all have a happy family life together in the future. Compromise is key as well as mutual respect and always listen to each other.
Thanks
I give it 4 weeks and they will be apart again because deep down they can't stand each other living in the same space. It's ok not to be living together. sometimes you can get along better with each other when Ur living in separate buildings.
This ^
Agreed !!!!
Maybe Pim, now working outside the home, has grown in maturity and has been able to become more stable as her routine life has become more stable. Has she had some inner capacity that she has discovered which has given her the ability to look within herself and gain enough perspective to transition into becoming more stable, less toxic and be a better communicator? Maybe Pim now accepts "where her bread gets buttered", so to speak. I found that Dan and Pim's ways of communicating in the past was like mixing oil and water, much of it coming from personal cultural differences. A healthy dose of patience on each part to really stop and listen to each other will help to give some stability to the relationship. Good luck moving forward. Having your own space is a wise move.
Dan. I think you understand this better now.
"Man in the Mirror" is a song by the American singer Michael Jackson.
Great lyrics for your situation.
Good job keeping the family together Dan. Wishing you and your family well.
Thanks, you too!
Best of luck Dan, youre going to need it !!
Good on you and your lovely family. What makes you warm and happy is all that matters.
Both of your channels are interesting to follow and give different perspectives on life. Wish you happiness.
Thank you 🤝
You don't have to explain anything to anyone. At the end of the day, you have to be able to sleep at sleep, and do what you think is best. Absolutely zero judgement here.
I feel happy for you and family. Hope it all works out. Good luck!
Thanks mate much appreciated 👍🤝
Interesting video, I was always keen to see Pim and her point of view. Dan you are a good man, a good Father. You are both very brave.
Thanks Steve and I would not say we are brave we are just trying to get over the issues we have for the sake of the family and just get on with life and sharing the stories on here will hopefully help others in some kind of way 👍
Nobody’s business but yours and Pims. I do wish you both happiness and success manouvering through this reunification of your family.
I must admit I picked that you were back together again a couple of months ago.
Yeah I think it was easy to see and would have been much easier to see now that we are living together again
Dan, I hope you and Pim make this work for your son. Good luck for the future.❤
Take it slowly , have your space apart from each other too is important. Honest & open communication is important, it’s vital really .. Don’t get back together solely for the child , but yes this is the main priority, his stability & well being .. I get that. But don’t just reunite also for financial reasons.. best of luck though ok 🙏
Shocking to say the least. After all the craziness..But, I wish you both the best of luck, health, love and good fortunes.. William so cute, smart boy; I hope for good things for you.. Good luck!
Being with a Thai woman myself, I understand very well Dan. Give it another try together and remember the lessons learned.
Good luck to you both...and Happy New Year. Its clear she must really love you despite you not being financially stable....that speaks volumes.
Look who's talking 😂😂😂😂.
What Lynn said, remember Lynn is a woman and knows best, and I'm thinking the same as Lynn.
For the stories, I've heard this woman won't change, but Dan, the best of luck in the future.
Hello, and thanks for agreeing with me!
@@lynnrusso-hawthorne3771 We all know that the Pit of Destiny awaits him..... :)
Happy New Year to you all 🙏🇬🇧👍
lovely to see you guys together , yes i follow both chanel’s . i’m sure a book is in here some where . i wish you guys the very best . Pim is a doll . love watching her talk . cha cha Dan . best wishes
This dude literally read my comment from the last video.
Thai talk with Dan…..and Pim …😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱
I have been dying laughing this whole video! 😂 thanks so much dan! I have my own Thailand story I haven’t shared yet because I’m in the middle of it..I’m just using your advice and keeping my eyes open for the “red flags” while also still believing that things can work out if you “put in the work”. I
I’m headed back to buriram in a couple of weeks. Cheers Dan
Hope it all works out one way or another 👍
I've seen this movie 🎥🍿
Called ground hog day 😮
This should just teach everyone one thing. Live your life and don’t listen to other people especially around Thai women. If you fall in love with a bar girl it’s your life enjoy urself as your only human.
Please give a good life to your son. Get along, give him a good family life. Live life and make memories. Make this work!
Thank you and I will always do my best, I have everything to fight for right now and seeing my son happier than ever is the greatest motivator
@ you are doing the right thing. You’ve all gone through a lot. I pray you can become a loving family. Maybe your channel should move off the bad (expat fails) but show us Thai life and how you guys turn this around. You have great things ahead. Thanks for all you’ve given us while you’ve struggled. It’s your time now.
Good luck to you and your family mate takes courage to explain your story
Thank you 👍
Hi. Dan....thanks for reading my comment on your video! I was very surprised...as i stated in my comment, although i am not hopeful your relationship will work out in the long run, i have to say after watching and listening to you both, i do see that you are both united in your wish to be together for William...I found Pim to be very calm and not defensive with her responses , as i really expected her to be..i give her credit for that. I was really struck with the united and really genuine manner you guys put across...both of you concerned about your son...i can only hope that love and concern will be enough to allow you to stay together since that is what you both have decided to do...I alway wish the best for you and William, and continue to love your channel...Best of luck to you all!
Thanks Lynn much appreciated, I didn’t plan anything I just scrolled to the top on the comments and noticed your and read it out 👍 I never plan anything 😂 only the subject I’m going to talk about or the email I’m going to read…. Anyone who knows my story, seen the videos I have made and the videos Pim has made then just going off that information… I get it… it’s a shock and a OMG moment 😬 a lot went on last year when we was not together and then Williams birthday came and Pim made a party and invited me and she made it very clear that she missed me etc… since then we was seeing each other but living separately to take things slow and then I got sick 🤒 she did everything including wiping my 😬 I think that with her working full time now and me having my own space within the house, William being older and understanding a lot more it will help a lot but the main factor is me and Pim, I can’t control anything about her but I can control myself so I’m focusing on that and learning to read situations and not allowing things to escalate by staying calm, keeping quiet and choosing my words carefully in heated situations etc…. I’m not going into this blindly I’m being extremely careful 🙏
Much, much respect to you, Dan!
@@thaitalkwithdanthat’s it Dan! You’ve found the secret formula! I too have been to Hell and back with my Americanized Thai banshee. After a couple of rough years of staying and suffering for the sake of the kids, I decided to implement advice I’d gotten from 2 of my immigrant Thai employees, whom I also consider friends, and a few Western friends ( 1 Irish and 2 Americans) who have long term and apparently happy marriages with Thai women. The secret is simply SILENCE plain and simple. DON’T ARGUE BACK. You will never win. No matter how honest, reasonable or packed with common sense your argument is you will NEVER win. Even my wife, in moments of post-meltdown clarity has told me. “If you would just shut up everything will go away” Easier said than done for a strong willed passionate guy but for the past year or so I have learned to walk out the door and go for a walk or a drive the second I see the glint of crazy appear in her eyes.
Reaching this level of peaceful existence is difficult but not impossible. Sometimes I need to swallow my pride but it’s worth it to me. Also, having separate areas within the house helps. I have a home office that doubles as a retreat, a place where I can step away and escape for an hour during the winter months when we’re all inside hiding from the weather.
So you’ve found the formula Dan! Sticking to it is the hard part but you can pull it off! Takes patience and practice but it’s within reach. I’m happy to say my family life has improved %100.
Earlier on I suggested therapy, counseling to work through out problems but she’s too proud and arrogant to ever admit to needing any sort of mental health assessment ( as you’ve alluded to in the past %90+ of mankind could use a little ( or ALOT) of help in this area, but not her, no way, she’s perfect, it’s everybody else in her life who’s f$&@d up haha, so with her refusal to get counseling I had to change my approach to avoid an expensive and child damaging divorce.
But in the end I’m happy to report we’re OK. It’s no fairy tale existence but we understand each other better and do still love each other. And I attribute our current peace treaty to one thing and one thing only; my learned ability to stop talking and walk away from a fight before it even starts.
Best of luck !
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FairPlay to u though Dan, I get why you’re doing what you’re doing coz you never gonna win out there otherwise…GoodLuck mate 🙏🏼
Thanks mate it’s certainly an impossible situation to be in…. I will make it work this time due to changes that I make myself but I have to hand it to Pim she is doing great so far…….. 👍
Well good luck mate , they’re absolute nutters!
And when mao, forget about it 🤦🏼♂️
Hey Dan this video makes me smile I’m glad things going better for u guys .. great video mate .. wish u all the best for 2025❤
Thanks much appreciated and all the best to you this year 👍🙏
I understand Dan. You do it for your son. I had to do the same thing for my two boys. Now they are grown and gone. My ex wife and I are not together anymore but we are still friends. It was an adventure and it was worth it. It was one of greatest things in my life to be there with and for my boys. I feel proud. You will too when your son finally grows up.
She looks like a sweet girl 🙂When you talk about her, I was expecting a dark skin girl and full of tattoos.
Better communication, no drinking, no smoking, no gambling and “hardworking”. And you are a better partner than a lot of Thai men.
Honestly i wish you the best.
Realistically i think this will go maybe 2 months...3 months max but please i hope you prove me wrong.
Dan from the bottom of my heart I hope it really works out this time for you and your family 😊….
Thank you very much 😊🤝
Hi Dan.Hope all works out for you both.Im sure you both know what went wrong the first time and know how to handle little things that can escalate.I will be rooting for you both anyway.😊
Hey Dan, good for you mate. I really hope you both can make a good go of it escpecially for the son you both have. No point wondering what could have happened..
Cheers for the support mate 🙏
Sometimes a man or a woman will forget that once they have a child, the life is not about themselves but rather now about the child.
Al the best Dan i hope you can stay happy with your family and everything works out.
Thanks Kevin 🙏🙏🙏
Great video Dan & very brave!
Thanks, I like to make my channel open and as honest as I possibly can which is not easy but I try to do it as I feel like it’s what is missing online nowadays 👍
hi great video all the best to you pim and your son...what's your wife's you tube chanel called
@@thaitalkwithdan hi dan what's pims you tube chanel called how can I look at her videos thanks ron from Manchester.
HAPPY NEW YEAR 🥳 AND GOODLUCK DAM N PIM
If a Thai woman tells you to cut back on your coffee, she cares about you. Drink it in secret 🤫 😅
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Mad controlling behaviour=caring
Sorry Dan but how many times you have to falling in same hole before you learn
Oh I have learned, it’s not going to be easy and this time there are a lot of healthy changes such as Pim working full time and not always being at home, William understand everything and doesn’t even allow us to talk loud, I have my own room and private space within the house etc…. I don’t want a repeat of the past….
@thaitalkwithdan wish you good luck my friend
Hope the best for both of you. I can't give advise, this seems complex, there are too many factors, but the kid can, somehow, get the situation not to be extremely dysfunctional , which seems is happening.
That’s the aim, William understands too much now and we care about how he thinks and feels so due to our son we will stay on the right path…
Good lck to ya mate..you trying again for your son and he deserves that for sure..hope you and the mrs can get along Nd keep the atmos a positive one for him..
We have no choice as William will tell us off !! 😁👍
REAL MEN raise the kids they produce ✊🏾
Good luck and enjoy. :) Family is great :) Pim, William and Dan :)
Wish you and family all the best and good wishes. Hard work being in a relationship with children.
Oh dear, you can't stay together for the child, it never works.
I regret leaving my son’s dad I wish I’d stuck with it and got over the hurdle! Good on you Dan for not giving up with beautiful Pim as she clearly loves u! William needs both parents Xx
All of our lives are full of regrets…. I have had time to reflect on everything and it certainly wasn’t planned to get back together but on Williams birthday she made it very clear that she still loves/cares for me and since being in hospital she has “showed” it with her actions… since July things have been a lot better and with living together we are spending the same amount of time together when we was apart because she is working full time and I am always working 😅 it’s the weekend now so we are all together and will go out soon so William can play 😊 everything is calm and William is happier than ever which makes me extremely happy, so all positive on this end but there will be hurdles along the way but I am personally ready to react very differently when issues parent themselves 👍
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All the best wishes for you and your family mate.
Love this video with your family.
Good on you mate.
Dont listen to the negative comments.
Cheers mate❤🙏🇹🇭😊
Thank you 🙏
Good luck Dan, you will need it. It's a 3 step process; 1. Reunited love 2. Devaluation 3. Discard. and then the process recycles again.
I like your username as it matches your thinking - as hard as concrete 👍
@@Secs-selzhe described a NPD cycle
Sometimes couples need some time apart to figure things out. Thai women are not easy to deal with, and they don’t filter their words well. Best thing is to ignore them when they can’t behave because they’ll be fine 10 minutes later.
Exactly; the cultural differences can be quite foreign and extreme. Takes a long time to learn and accept cultural differences
Good luck mate, wishing you all the best in 2025.
I guess it's all cool as long as neither one becomes the doormat.
. Yes, adults compromise and loving adults make each other happy. Happiness is the normal state of the human mind.
Love, peace, happiness, and truth for both of you this New Year...
Last time i saw you dan, you were posting when you were ill, im glad to see you back to normal, looking great mate, and i wish you all the best, all of you, and ill be back in pattaya soon causing me own trouble lol again i might add lol
Glad you guys managed to find a way to work things out.
Me and my girlfriend have a couple of rules
1. Only argue when calm......otherwise remove ourselves from the situation for a few minutes.
2. If my girlfriend is peed, she will write a message to me.....that way she needs to think about what she's writing.
3. Try and live by the idea.....if it isn't going to matter in 5 weeks or 5 months time, then it's not worth dwelling over for more than 5 minutes...
4. If there's a communication break down, we must ask each other to clarify rather than just thinking about the negative meaning because it's usually just thoughts in our head.
Also, another general principlle I follow
Spend money on the woman you love....not to make the woman love you
My girlfriend thinks I make a lot less money than I actually do (might need to ask for your advice about that if we get married)
Happy that you are getting your family back together, Dan. It was clear during your illness that she cares for you.
As a long term follower of your channel Dan, I'm concerned. Because I know a few facts about narcissism / mental illness. It's mostly incurable. After hearing so many alarming tales from you about how your wife has acted toward you in the past, my only conclusion is she has psychiatric issues unfortunately. These can be masked however, covered in a veneer of normality but eventually, the mask wears thin and true nature becomes evident. I hope I'm wrong, mate. My best wishes to you and your adorable son.
It is incurable I have studied about mental disorders myself and that’s why you need to change yourself if you want to deal with anyone with a mental disorder…. I will also let you in on a little secret….: most people if they was to receive a diagnosis would have some kind of mental disorder
@@thaitalkwithdan True because one person's definition of normal is different from another's especially across cultures. If the magnitude of deviation from what is considered normal is large then we have problems.
Hi Dan, i believe you are doing the right thing. Don't worry about those stupid comments. Trust your gut feelings and do what's best for you and your family, that's the most important thing. I learnt a long time ago that if your partner is upset you should just listen, don't react or escalate the situation and likewise for them. Take time to think and try and understand each other's point of view. I know it can be difficult with the language barrier but definitely worthwhile. Cheers.
Thanks and in regard to the negative comments I understand them as most of them are from guys that have been severely hurt by Thai women and guys that have been hurt by women from their own home countries so they like to lash out, also guys that don’t like me making out the fact that if you pay a woman a monthly salary and this salary was agreed upon from the start in order to make the woman date you/be your gf or wife then essentially you are renting that GF or Wife….. a lot of men are doing this and they don’t like me saying that it’s a financial relationship 🤦♂️ and some of the comments are from guys that are just worried and know my story but they tend to be less harsh comments and not designed for “likes or laughs” this is the internet after all but when kids are involved in any relationship then it’s not as straight forward as a relationship without kids as it’s way easier to walk away from especially when it gets toxic
Beautiful little family. Rooting for you both . Feel
Sorry for pim with all the nasty comments.