I have been healing last couple of years and am becoming a super empath. I’ve lost friends because they ended up being narcissistic. I would rather be by myself than have lots of friends. I’m content being by myself . I now know to absolutely trust my instincts, if I get a queasy bad vibe from a new acquaintance, they do not make it to the friend level and I no longer hang out with them. Same goes for narcissistic family members. No longer over explaining myself, no longer caring about their smear campaigns. Set my boundaries, when they break one I go no contact for life. No longer afraid to do so!
I'm super empath, we were dating for 5 years and got married this year ,but he had shattered me pretty much only in 7 months of marriage I got to know how lazy he is, how he pretends infront of others, I was stupid even after seeing red flags I ignored and tolerated him, he use to say my way or high way, his spiritual abuses ,emotional abuses, cursing, reviling me and my family, asking me to abandon my parents and sister he controlled me so much. I was money dispenser for him, social trophy who use to talk about me infront of others to get money. However, Im taking divorce.please pray for me.
I’ve gone through tremendous trauma (narcissistic mother, molested, abused emotionally & physically, homeless) and come out the other side. I’m very introspective and continuously evaluate myself for improvement. My journey allowed me to examine my weaknesses and understand fully the psychological impacts of my trauma. I’ve dug deep through the generational trauma that seemed to plague my family line on both sides. With that being said, I don’t feel emotions but can read them well. I know when a high pitchy voice is not normal or when someone is masking an emotion with jokes, rude comments, or overly nice. People at the job that are negative; spend time gossiping about me without knowing me. It is funny yet sad to me because it just sounds like high school and these people are older and should have life accomplishments to contend with than worrying about someone who doesn’t live for their approval. I’m called “uppity”. I’m a straight shooter and will address the elephant in the room. It’s not an easy journey for me because a lot of times it was spent alone without proper resources or support. It is hard to trust because of witnessing so much of the awfulness of human nature (your own family- no less). Luckily future generations have other professionals who are diving into these topics to help them heal.
It did. It made you aware of what you are. An empath and an awoken empath are the only differences. The abuse wouldnt have taken place as a super empath, because your awake to it. You start seeing it everywhere, you stop giving the benefit of the doubt if you suspect something is off. But just like a spiritual awakening, you will continue waking up more and more. Some think that once you awaken, your awake, and its all done. But as you develop more life experience you become more and more aware of different things. Another word for super, or awakened is an aware empath.
Empathy can really take a toll emotionally. You see things in people that others don’t see but you can’t explain it in a way they can understand. Maybe we all need to trust that uneasy feeling we get when in the presence of a narcissist.
@Billie you have it exact. For me, it’s a matter of watching a family member or loved one fall for a narcissist. They’re always extremely charming and so very helpful in the beginning. Then they take over their life. You can’t interfere. Just be there when they’re broken to help put the pieces back together.
@Billie I agree, if you see me sending multiple messages to people is because I just found out all this stuff. And I've been rocked to the core growing up like this. But it definitely helps you in the long run. We empaths have a way to work things out with narcissist and somehow coexist to a degree. But I agree with what you said about wanting to say something about it and you have a feeling like nobody will understand. You always feel your the only person going through this. It feels like they should be arrested for that treatment towards you. Nobody clearly sees the trauma but us. It feels so bad it makes you wonder what he'll is actually like because dealing with a house full of them growing up will do something damaging to you. I still feel like there should be consequences for that kinda abuse
@Billie yes I'm actually researching up on all my newly found traits. I'm a super empath for sure. I been studying on them and it's all my characteristics. I thought I was psychic my whole life. I knew it was a blessing. I'm learning everyday who I am and who's in my life. Wish I found this channels long time ago. But are there any legal actions to take even after all these years thinking they're normal. I never gave in to them but they kept up with the attacks. It's very sad and disgusting. It's worse then murder.
@Billie it’s natural to want justice for people who exploit others. For sure a lot of narcissists eventually cross the line and end up in court. Maybe the best justice is knowing they are miserable people who can’t love or enjoy life normally. For me, I would rather do what I can for the victim. That’s hard enough.
I do not label myself an empath, but a spiritually growing individual. Experiences with narcissists have been very unpleasant, however these experiences caused me do do a lot of inner reflection. These same experiences, in the end, taught me a great deal about myself and inturn I became both a better person and a stronger person. Many of my best lessons came through a narcissist. Two sides to every coin.
2 Corinthians 1:6 [6] If we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; and if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which you experience when you patiently endure the same sufferings that we suffer.
@@lovelifexx726 I used to be a people pleaser and give everyone the benefit of the doubt, now when I know I’m dealing with a narc I ‘match’ their energy. Narcs give nothing so I give nothing in return- no interest, no questions, no calls, no texts, no visits, no compliments etc etc Good luck!
More than one narcissistic psychologist and narcissistic psychiatrist around has already started making their dishonest fortune by convincing naive family court judges that they can administer that kind of test to discern which parent is more stable. Some children have died in murder suicides at the hands of domestic violence perpetrators because of it. That is why now sometimes police advice a parent to not file for divorce at all while they help that parent leave to a safe place while the children are being hidden from the perpetrator somewhere else until the children are adults and can then fend for themselves without them.
I was raised by a narcissist. After a few relationships with narcissists as an adult, I have set strong boundaries. I can now quickly cut a narcissist off after realizing I am dealing with a narcissist early on. It does still bother me that I am conned by the love bombing in the beginning. It has been a painful road to get to where I am now. It is sad to me that these wolves in sheeps clothing even exist.
I got love bombed by a narcissist that gave me a car load of gifts. And then a few days later we had a fallout. I made him mad and he ran me off! I appreciated the gifts though! LOL maybe I'm on to something here? 🤔
I feel that lately I am extremely close to being a Super Empath. When we begin to laugh about the ridiculous crazy making nonsense of the Narcissist, and never take it personally and never defend ourselves, block them and don't care what they are doing. Enjoy our peace...then we have figured it out. We have passed the course requirements for what to do with Arrogance, Narcissist, Sociopaths and Psychopaths. Having a sense of freedom and peace, no one can take from us.
So far, so good here. Becoming even more like Dad, life wrongfully cut short almost about seven years ago. They couldn’t bear to be in the same room with him.
As a SE, you hit the nail on the head, well done. I've shattered countless narcs just by speaking direct truth and allowing no one to cross my boundaries. If you don't need external validation, you can live free and be a powerful force for goodness.
@@debbievoss3496 Fear is the #1 tactic used to control people, and the most powerful weapon a narcissist has is YOUR mind. The narcissist's biggest weakness is underestimating your intelligence, use that to your advantage.
Your heart is HOME.I moved upstairs as My Free Will is Packing, Stacking and taking my life away from this destructive person. After 25 years of Shame, Blame, Poor Victim. Nows He"s sexing people, but fails in person. The Truth will be revealed, as we awaken to their lies, lies, and lies. Forgiveness of Self from being deceived is the ONLY need for Self. All of his promises were just false props to his fake life. Golden Trails in the ASH, may those times be RIPOLI, as Erin loves a good drama drag queen or buff jester
I am super empath now after 40 years of an abuse from covert narc We are divorced and the weasel is hiding after telling him the truth about himself I got the smear campaign alright but I don't care and walk with my head high No BS from any of them anymore Thank you for your videos and your colleagues who are constantly educating those of us who got entangled with these weasels To kind people out there who are recovering from these weasels please don't give up keep at it you will recover and be strong mentally physically and spiritually
The biggest part to this is finding out. I knew what was going on just knowing what to do was my problem. Kinda hard to completely forgive someone who purposely ruined or attempted to destroy you. I don't know everything about this being fairly new to information about these things. Despite being in my 40s now. It hurts more because I was the type walking blindly thinking they knew it all and they'd support my well-being. Turns out I have been living with a malignant narcissist who I've shared all my space with. I don't know what you call someone who gave me the impression that Satan was in the house. But he tortured everyone. But I'm the only one who knew it was something extra remorseless about this one. But now I found out not only was he a narcissist so was the others. It's like you can't talk to them because they're just going to go tell him anyway to start more conflict. It's like you try to be the best you can be and there fighting against you. And now I know why. And it's never enough. They want you defeated
@@alleny6754 Hi Allen how are you you find most of us who were in these toxic relationships always knew something was not right but didn't know what it was so we stay and make excuses for these weasels I am an African so I had the added bonus of society conditioning of giving respect to my husband and also to make him happy An undeserving entitlement and a road to abuse Anyway I did all that also looked after him for 12years while he went through chemo and liver transplant while I was working to sustain us he was with the neighbours his church my children smearing my good name and I didn't have a clue It also turns out the pain he was complaining about that made him stay home doing nothing for 12 years to support is all part of narc disorder Maunchansen syndrome a fictitious disorder of illness What comfort I can give you is knowing and awareness are the first steps for your recovery Please read read about them Drs Ramani, Dr D Fox,Carter,Sam Vaknin Quora digest Book by A B Jamieson Prepare to be Tortured by a Narc That will help you a lot I was very obsessed to find out about them so I didn't repeat my mistakes I am stronger and I can even forgive him for his forever sickness while I enjoy my healing freedom It has taken me nearly 5 years but worth every second So please give yrself time to grieve to feel sorry for yrself to get angry of wasted time finance alienation smearing etc Later you will rise like the Phoenix indestructible mentally Physically spiritually I thank him for discarding me it opened my eyes You will heal take yr time make sure you eat well try and sleep and also some form of exercise or meditation or prayers It is a lonely journey but you need that to find yrself so you can recover but also reach out when you need help there are still good people around us on these platforms etc Please try and forgive yrself the weasels will be popping in yr head from time to time like spiritual devils Please try and replace with a song a poem etc If you don't mind let me know how you are getting on or wants to chat it is a lonely journey but worth it Your Worthy your are loved always remember that and you are here for a Purpose Please don't waste your pain use it to rise up so you can help others We need to bring Love to the world I leave you with many blessings from God Have a lovely day and same to all people on this platform We all will be just fine xx
Becoming a super empath after twenty plus years struggling in a narc marriage. As things crawl to their end , Feeling the depth of my power more and more every day! Stay focused on your own healing❣️
Their rage is a blessing. Perspective is everything. Because of their narcissistic rage, my employers unfairly fired me. That's why they are forced into settlement with me now according to the laws of my country. I get money because they've got rage ...😂😂😂😂
I was raised by narcissistic parents and suffered the whole complex trauma dynamic. I'm a recovering codependent and each day I feel stronger as I heal and walk the path of growth. I used to be a magnet for narcissists without knowing why until I did the work and figured out the part I played in the dance. I can now spot a narcissist a mile away so to speak. Within minutes into a conversation narcissists tend to give themselves away if you know what to look for. They are great at mirroring and it's easy to miss the signs but I've learnt to trust my intuition. The anxiety that I feel after an interaction with a narcissist alerts me to my state of confusion due to the cognitive dissonance created by the narcissist.
While it's great you've started the journey, please remember that thought that comes from fear and anxiety isn't always logical. I'm just saying this because when I first learned all this my anxiety stopped me from forming connections with people who could have been great friends. Wish you the best in your journey!
Hmmm ...why am I the only person who does not seem to think "just leaving them" is the answer? I fought them at my workplace. Now I have all the evidence to take to court against them if I don't get a settlement out of court for an unfair dismissal. As a result of legitimately fighting them along the way, I have all the ammo in my fight against them before the legal system and they have nothing. You've got to fight. We were born to fight. Survival everyday is a struggle. What you must not do is fight them on your own. Make sure God is on your side 🙌🙏😇
Some of the worst things you can do to shut the narcissist down is to have no contact, be happy without them, become more successful in your life with out them and move on to find love ❤️ or friendships with positive people 💕 My ex narc fears my presence because I am None of the things he projected on his smear campaign. 😊
Been there done that. I'm a strong stubborn empath. I won't allow a narcs ways to alter my judgement and will be calm, honest and straightforward in a situation. This video is spot on 👏 it explains why they just can't 'deal' with me😂
I am a super empath and just saw through my ex. Cancelled my wedding 3 months before the date and broke up. This much power i got after surviving narcissistic abuse.
I been healing all of this year after finally getting away from an on/off relationship with a narcissist for 8yrs, I'd lost myself so much that I kept going back and forth because I was confused, and thought there was love in the relationship, that toxic cycle was so hard to leave, and Id always considered myself to be a strong person, yet i somehow became stripped of that inner strength. I consider myself an empath, so it saddened me a lot to see him so angry all the time and just wanted to help him see the destruction he causes to himself and others around him, yet the defensive nature of the narc was pretty scary. I kept hoping things would be different each time I returned, because I cared too much, and enjoyed the exciting lifestyle we had, although it came at a price frequently. What really woke me up in the end was him telling me that he's is an Ahole, and that he actually enjoys it. He admitted to liking who he is and that he will never change, I guess it was the reality of the narcissist confession that really hit home in the end. I ended it immediately and for the first time, I've spent this entire year finding myself again, doing yoga, meditation, journalling, hiking in nature, met a couple of new decent friends, and have even started my own business, my boundaries are rock solid, and I now have the old confident me back that I once knew. I am more awake now than I've ever been, finally at the age of 46. It's been a dark time in my life, but I believe you definitely come back stronger, even if that doesn't seem possible at first. Therapy helped me along on my journey too. Stay strong good people, you can survive, your more resilient than you think ✨😊
After losing my husband to Cancer finally after 8 years I felt ready for love and compassion ship. I fell in love with someone. He would pick fights with me about anything. If we had plan's he would leave me packed and waiting. This has gone back and forth several times. Each time I forgive and the same scenario repeats. Like getting stuck in a web. Why does this seem to happen to good women that have experienced trauma?
Same. Widowed for 10 years now and have fallen for two narcissists right in a row. I think it's because our defenses are down after having a loss. Take your time, be picky. Realize your worth. Therapy is helping me.
I have been that super empath since I was a child. I turned a child molester in at age 5 . It is my core nature to protect those who cannot protect themselves. Even if I am small myself my voice is powerful.
I saw right away when he said “he’s a hard catch” lol… I dismissed it like a fool. Didn’t see him all the time so it took me months to catch on to put it all together. He played me for attention and admiration. Now I am stronger than ever💪🏽 I was able to share Jesus with him🙌🏽🙏🏽… I have moved on, however I put him and his ego in place before I went no contact… he knew I was too strong and he could never manipulate me, he got someone young and naive who doesn’t know any better. (Praying for her)… he keeps rubbing in about me being heavy, you know he can’t have a heavy gal ruining his image. Lol….so of course I had to let him know how nasty brown teeth are and recommended a dentist for whitening 🦷lol…burst his ego! 😂So thankful it’s over! I saw the signs, but was in denial… I am much stronger now!
I had 3 years of intense trauma therapy. My sister thought I was the same person I was growing up. I called her out on her bs, and she acted like she was hit by a freight train. She's a pathological liar. She actually believed she'd turn me against my children, parents, and husband. She was so transparent 😅 She's out of my life forever!
I recently ended a relationship with a narcissist. I recognized the emptiness, the grandiosity, the arrogance, the mirroring, the need to control, the manipulation, lack of empathy, victimhood, etc. but i did not realize these traits and behaviors amounted narcissism. I had never heard of it until I began to research what all these red flags could be. Fortunately, I had been calling out these behaviors along the way so by the time she reached the discard phase I knew it was high time to move on. Have gone no-contact and have never looked back while she's continued to try to return for more supply. very parasitic and creepy. - ty for your channel and dedication to this topic
Narcissists are some of the unluckiest people I've ever seen don't ever share anything good with them or let them in on anything good I swear those people could look at a bird in the sky and the birds neck would snap and fall out of the sky.
Before my knowledge about narcissistic behavior one day there was a limit to my tolerance when he started verbally abusing and gaslighting me. That was the moment of freedom and light for me. Since then my response has totally changed.
One more thing to mention about Super Empaths…we not only see beyond the narcissistic mask - we truly empathize that they need to wear a mask to begin with. Being a narcissist is a sad story. We don’t see the need to add to it…but we will also not choose to be apart of it! Walking away is easy because we would hate to retaliate in any way to such a fragile person.
I am a empath and I use to tell my narcissist special friend that his behaviors was better than TV he Provided entertainment for me soooo much. I am a crafter and one year for a gift I decorated a mirror and wrapped it beautifully and gave it to him. He finally asked why a mirror? I said he needed some type of tool to use to try harder to see himself. He always felt like a boy in a man’s body to me. I used to just stare at him a lot. He never felt real to me. I Literally felt he got to earth by mistake. He hung around me for 12 years I wouldn’t marry him and I chased him off my property a lot. I used a long arm approach with him. He used to try very hard to rattle my feathers as he used to say. He was a vulture always looking for dark energy. Each 7 days in a week he usually had 4 problems to solve. Lots of times he looked wore out from fatigue. His bad behaviors kept him problem solving. When he would come around me I would look at him and say What now? He would tell me and I would give him his problem back to him and say I am sure you will work it out you always do. No one ruins my day on a regular. My joy is rarely taken away from me. He disposed the calm in me he needed a lot of aggressive conversations and debates. I am not the one.
I am grateful for my toxic marriage and the lessons learned. I am almost bulletproof against narcs now. Never say never but can spot them from a mile away now.
Calling myself a naive person needed a tough experience to know the truth. Life is hard , people are bad, no matter how good you are , no one likes good people , people like to respect those whom they fear. Marrying an evil narcissist was an eye opener. I am not weak but I prefer peace to conflict, narcissist thrives on silence, he attacks violently, mocks, belittles his victim shamelessly so in order to gain peace in your life you need to fight back with words and action, by neglecting him by setting boundaries that accept no forgiveness. Living with a narcissist is a hellish experience so better to break the cycle and leave or it will go on and on for ever. I am not alone in my fight against the evil narcissist, Allah is always with us for protection and guidance, thank God for Your Blessings.
As an Empath it has been a hard road learning boundaries, saying no, and realizing my husband is a covert narcissistic. As I grow in consciousness,and other levels I can see right through his BS, and also the very hurt little boy who had a narcissistic mother. Non reacting and not investing in making this relationship work has helped. I know at a deeper level he feels so lost., no sense of self. I asked him to go to therapy.
As having been with a narcist for many painful rollercoaster years they may go but then it's another tool to say"but you told me to!" They never change RUN.
Please don’t pick me up wrong but I think it’s great to see a man discuss this I presume you’re from the MEA region and I think it’s fantastic - please don’t pick me up wrong. You’ve helped me a lot - thank you from Ireland 🇮🇪 yes I called a narcissist out and got stonewalled and rage
I have been always an Empath but I have become a Super Empath after all the tests the Universe has putting me on. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger! Definitely!!!
I have had many narcissists in my life. I have thought about those relationships, and in retrospect, one of the first signs was the insults and the put-downs. It might be in a joke, it might be subtle, but they start letting you know that they are better than you, and you should listen to them. They think it's safe (for them) to put you down. They think this will make you start trying to kiss up to them and get you on a string. But now, for me, and soon as the little jabs come out, or anything that says, "you know, I am a little smarter than you in this area and you should listen to me", I am done with them. And this sounds crazy, because they are usually still in the stage of being fun, nice, charming, grandiose, special, etc. and anyone else would say, "Why are you being so picky or petty to get upset over something so little?" The truth is: they have tipped their hand and I am not sticking around to see what else is coming. It's like if someone playfully slugs you in the shoulder, and rubs it off and laughingly says, "I was just kidding". No: the day is coming that they will hit you and mean it. Likewise, the playful insults in the beginning, or the "I am just a little smarter than you, and you need to listen to me", is just a set up for when the real insults come and you really DO need to "listen to me". Leave now before the noose tightens.
I never fell for gaslighting or allowing him to define my feelings. I always pushed back. I know my own mind. But I still fall for the false promises and future faking as they're happening. I always realize after he leaves that I was lied to again. And many times I've called him out on it.
It's hard for empaths who sense a narcissist is going to explode if they don't get their way. I've been getting better with blocking people who I sense have a yucky and low vibration. It doesn't take long before I see an insecure look in their face, hear a forced- fake compliment, and get that feeling that a narcissist is up to no good. . I remember meeting two narcissists in one week. I immediately had a dream that I pet a wet dog and maggots from the dog stuck to me and I literally couldn't get them off no matter what I did. Some may say that's just coincidence. I say it's a major warning. Needless to say, both of those individuals will not be able to call me ever. All Praises to the Heavenly Father! 😹😹😹
Living with one, he follows the same blame shfiting when confronted. Hero, to denial, to victim shifting, to triangulation and finally to the argument itself. I calmy said each time "you're trying to change the subject" over and over. Haven't seen him in a month since he rage quit. I see right through the emptyness, as deep as a puddle.
I have noticed a gradual increase in my intuition about other people lies, flaws and insecurities. Before I used to block those observations, it felt like I was being judgemental, and it almost always caused me harm. Now as soon as I feel something wrong I run! It is a peaceful life now.
Danish Bashir is almost all correct.... I do know my self- worth because it's no longer I that live, but Jesus Christ who lives in me❤️ You will know these people by their fruits... either good or bad. They can " talk" all they want but if their actions are bad then their fruit (them) are bad. Run!!!!!
I don't know if I'm a super empath or not, but I will share a fairly traumatic event that happened due to my collision with a possible narcissist. My best friend when I was 19 was a man I'll call Tom. I remember thinking that I was the worst friend ever because he was constantly pointing out my flaws, but he liked me despite these various social gaffs. We parted ways on a fairly sour note (in which, you guessed it, I was at fault). Flash forward to me at about 27 with all the maturity and life experience that entails (and also a healthy dose of social doubt due to me being "bad at friendship."). We patch things up, and I invite him to come visit with me in my new city to catch up. He paid for his plane ticket, but I paid for everything else: meals at nice restaurants, a ballet performance, a museum tour, the works. I was giving him the special treatment. One of the first things he does is touch me inappropriately. We had messed around a little back in the day, but nothing about our conversations said that was okay. I confronted him about it, and he acted really weird. Nothing about the trip was good enough, and he complained about everything. He actually even hurt me at some point demonstrating martial arts holds and then blamed me for being weak. Finally I confronted him on the last night, called him pissy and passive aggressive. We fought, I stormed off, and I felt such dangerous vibes from him that I moved my guns and cat to my room and locked my door. I took him to the airport in complete silence the next day, but when I got back, I found out he had peed in my laptop and left it closed so I wouldn't see, peed in my silverware drawer, burned a bunch of my video games before putting them back in the case, and then left without a word. $2000 worth of damage. So moral of that story: stand up for yourself to a narcissist but never turn your back on them.
Somatic Psychopath, uses body to insult inflict harm on target. Planned revenge for your honesty, not taking it. No remorse, therefore, psychopath. Very damn dangerous. Consider yourself lucky. 🤝
You probably got lucky it stopped there if he must had been stewing all night thinking about what happened and how was he going to exact his revenge or " settle the score" u did think correctly bringing you're firearm with you to bed a person like that the only thing that stops narcissist from acting on their tyrannical plans is getting caught or proven wrong & the possibilities of being confronted with truth or having to answer for their actions otherwise nothing is sacred or off limits their only limit is what they think they can get away with without getting caught but heres the kicker it's all in their head and they just convince themselves of their own grandiosity totally disillusioned individuals . Thanks for the story
I know for sure that I’m an empath, becoming a super empath. After 20 plus years with this imposter. After all of the pain,, I became awakened and not only to him. I do find them disgusting. In addition to being enlightened,,, I find them amusing that these things believe that they have a right to gaslight,,, blame shift,,,future fake,,, and use word salad. I really see them as nonhuman . They are evil parasites waiting to devour us empaths. I didn’t understand,, I mean who does this??? I revel when my ex narc even tries !!! We have children together which he feels he can connect with me because of them. Now awakened,,, I revel dissecting anything he tries. You see them for the monsters they are, and treat them accordingly. Thank you Danish and all of you for sharing 🙏💕☺️
@@zazagabora2 Unfortunately, I also have a malignant narcissistic sister and had to go no contact in 2016. It’s sad, but there was so much damage that she had done. I no longer could give her any more chances.
I am a sigma empath. The mother of my twins has been in a abusive relationship with a narcissist for 11 years. I have been involved for seven right now my twins are 4 years old. Due to unfortunate circumstances he ended up with legal custody and I've been fighting like hell to make sure those kids are okay. If you picture the worst situation imaginable that's what it is. The narcissist has tried to attack me personally and applied the mother of my twins and I and pit each other against one another. I see his moves clearly every time I know exactly what he's doing when he's doing. But he is very persistent. Due to these videos I have finally been able to expose his character type to the mother of the twins. Now she watches you regularly and other narcissistic videos to understand what she's dealing with.
Record. Document. Keep a Chrono diary. WHEN divorce comes, she will need it proves PSYCHOLOGICAL HARM, TOXIC ENVIRONMENT to children NO SHARED CUSTODY. See Rebecca Zung div attorney specialist against that type. 💪🖖
It took 11 years to become super empath from victim to this level.This process was for my children never to be a victim and for them to live life to the fullest... The trauma I had to go through but seeing children rising unto leaders is all worth it
I don't know that I'm "super" just yet, but I'm def working on it! I resonate SO much with this video! I've still got work to do, and will always need to continue to be mindful so as not to fall prey. Thank you Danish for your videos!
When my narcissist ex tried to come back to me, i told him are you coming back to me because I am the easiest target for you? He responded quickly that he is not a predator, I guess he is searching for a new supply now because her relationship is slowly falling apart.. when he was in honeymoon stage of his relationship he barely remember me, after 3 years he started getting into me again.. apparently i will never be his victim for the second time around.
I was in a narcissistic relationship for one year ...when i was 20 years old. .i got shattered ,its so painfull...to move on..but i thankgod that i came to know about it...early ..
I'm a super empath! Every step you outlined in this video I'm doing it now towards my narcissist. He is learning the hardway... he has NO power over here.
I am not a super empath. I've been through some of the awful things described by some of you guys here. Since my mum passed away earlier this year, I realised that she was spot on & I felt immediately, this sense of calm. I know who I am, though the narcissist thinks they know me better, & portrays their version to their other suppliers, but it's like looking in a mirror & it's sad what I see. Through all the layers of put downs, disrespect & childlike behaviour, the narcissist is aging before my very eyes. All that hard work they have to put in portraying a self which is not really them. Instead of stripping me down, it's stripping them away slowly revealing the very self they are scared to show. If they could only let themselves be themselves, they wouldn't have to do what they do. I am calm, & they don't like it. I'm not a supply for them. I've seen them do it to others but the others don't see & I cannot convince them. The well has run dry. I realise now they are scared of themselves; scared of their mortality, scared to be alone (though they say they want to be). I can wake up every day knowing they are still trying as hard as they might but they will not win. My poetry is all that I have as my weapon. They tried to strip me of that too by giving me writer's block, but i still have my creativity. I've only just discovered your videos. Thank you for sharing your advice & giving us sufferers a safe space to share our thoughts. Silence is my weapon but I am not lonely!
I really love this video, thank you. I knew I was an “Empath” but now I know that I’m really a “Super Empath”. My son is a narcissist, as was my mother, my father, and my sons father. Since I was young I was always wondering why I always felt so emotionally drained and being pulled in many directions. Then I realized I was always feeding someone’s supply. My half brother was also an Empath but he moved out as soon as he turned 18. I finally learn I was an Empath when I was about 15 years old, but I never realized I was surrounded by a family full of narcissists until I was 25. I trained myself to be more self aware and to set boundaries, but no one respected those boundaries. I met a fellow Empath, got married, and moved out. I was happy and at peace until my husband died of cancer. I moved back home with my mother, had my son and now I’m having to deal with my narcissistic son. I set boundaries but he doesn’t listen. My problem now is he’s my son and needs my help and I need his. Any advice? 🤷🏼♀️
Thank you for sharing these great facts! I'm glad as an empath being sensitive isn't a bad thing or a weakness and I'm also grateful I finally had the courage to say " No" it's the worst word for the Narc's fragile ego, even if you're doing it for your own well being!!
I spent several months with Native American Elders on an Indian Reservation in Oklahoma. Two elders told me that I am a super empath AKA Hayoka empath. I am that, much to my detriment. But I am happy that I am not a narcissist. I remember when I cried in sad movies, or cried when I saw a homeless person sick, hungry and cold in the streets of NYC. Narc ex would get so angry with me, he could barely control his rage towards me. He showed ZERO empathy towards others, including me. It's difficult to understand how can a human be so empty inside.
Yes I did tall that and filed for divorce. Things went from unhappy but manageable to ugly once I started telling her no and making clear boundaries. Now my narc is trying to make my life as difficult as possible because of course it was all my fault.
As I partipated in trauma therapy, I noticed the agitation ramp up as I put up boundaries. I continued the work, and systematically went No Contact with each person that gave me an ultimateum.
Yes! Truly a super empath. Once I realized what my ex narc was up to, I quickly called him out on all his lies and would tell him over and over I’m not falling for it. At first I felt I needed to not push too much about how fake I knew he was, but quickly realized that I didn’t need to live his lie to be in a relationship. He discarded me right away. I am so relieved I don’t have to live in that world anymore. Since then, I have been educating myself everyday about narcissistic abuse. Thank you Danish for all of your videos!
Great insight. I was love bombed, but not knowing what it was at the time. My intuition was screaming at me but I thought I was just being paranoid. Once I did my research and realized I was dealing with a narc, I quietly pulled back, set boundaries, went gray rock, and ignored all hooover attempts. He is so mad that I’m not reacting to his antics. Now I can see all the red flags much faster
I've evolved into a Super Empath. I have my Narcissistic father to thank. I had plenty of practice. It was hard back then still. I didn't really know what I was doing until quite recently. After I was raped my father said I deserved it. I had a break down and quit my job for 9 months. I was 22 and would drink the whole day to distract my issues. My mother didn't say anything but my dad said I'm a failure and tearing this family apart. A few more months passed and I realized that I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. So I dumped all the bottles of alcohol down the sink and went outside. We have a swing and a lot of trees. I made friends with the squirrels, chipmunks, and rabbits. I know they're just animals, but they taught me patience. Eventually they had to come out and they grew to love me. I thought to myself that if a wild animal can trust and feel safe around me, I can't be a bad person. I can't be a failure. That everything those nobody's said about me wasn't true. I got myself a job all on my own, rejecting my dads need to "help me" get one. I had a narcissistic manager who did not like me at all. He would always try to embarrass me in front of customers. I always put him in check, respectfully of course. A lot of my coworkers were surprised. I was apparently the only one who ever stood up against him. I eventually left that job because the guy who raped me found me. He was stalking me. I worked from home. I actually got 2 jobs within 9 months from home, but it was tearing me apart. I missed being around people and I was out of my element. When I got back into the office (new job), everyone loved me, but there was another covert Narc who disguised herself as my friend, but there was an empty hollowness in her. She'd lie to my face and tell the truth to my other friends, which would tell me. Later she started talking, dressing, and even walking like me. She stole a position from me, knowing I needed it to go back to college. I completely destroyed her ego after that. I also took responsibility that I made a mistake. I told her what my plans were. I will never make that mistake again. I left that job and to my surprise, they ALL threw me a going away party. That girl was envious and fuming. She was staring at me the whole time as I went around and told everyone goodbye. A few years later I found Spirituality. I never believed in Spirituality until recently. I've been through some tough situations but I have never felt stronger. My hair is even growing back. I used to think I was cursed because I could notice these things about people, but not anymore. I AM a Warrior of Light!
I did do this with my covert narcissist mother but only after years of living with her again in middle age (where she was now in her 70s). I was very slow to give up on her because I know what it feels like to be on the other side of that. My sister gave up on me when she should not have. I was diagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder at a young age. Then went on to be very successful living a life away from both my mother and older sister. Ultimately, my past caught up with me, and relationships fell apart. It took years of living with my mother (in my middle age) to finally completely give up on her. It goes against every fiber of my being. But finally got there. And I'm now ready to have healthy relationships, friendships, romantic, whatever. I feel brand new.
Danish...you are the absolute Best with your independent. Very inspiring and very insightful information. I very listen to most counselors on TH-cam...about narcissist. You are the Best. I am more than impressed. Thank you for helping all of us, that lived through a Narcissist abuse.
im going through it right now, man. thanks for validating my thoughts that no one wants to listen to. im in the process of living and working with narcissists who keep digging a bigger and bigger hole for themselves; all the while I get to live in truth. no one can fuck with the truth 💙
Yes!!! Figured this out right away. He tried to explain how we are different schedules after 17 years. I said he lost control after the first year once I realized he was always on his own schedule . I gave up and took care of the kids. He hates it when I ignore him.
I'd like to believe I can become a healed empath, as I've been working on self reflection and setting boundaries...telling my truth feels liberating but kinda gross because I don't like putting others down normally, even if I feel some type of way towards them...I've dealt with alot of projection, and even though I still struggle mentally, I know who I was and how I'm trying to evolve to attain peace...good luck to anyone else out there trying thier best to find thier better selves
They change opinions like a chameleon which can shock us really badly and they can change very soon after saying they love someone they can say the next day I hate them which can make us feel they r confused deep inside 👍
I don't think I'm a super empath. But I'll get there. I have always been empathic .But a marriage to a narc husband and after facing the tyranny of a covert narc mil,I can definitely say that I have become more empathic and kinder than before.
I really dont like to be an empath,,but i am,,and i just hope i would just always mind my own business,,but i always find myself getting myself into pples tragedies and try to help them out but am always always left stuck....and the the feeling i get afterwards is terrible but i always blame myself and it feels so bad...i wish i could just never give a fuck about nothing,,coz,,it feels like am always loosing..and i hate that feeling
I totally resonate with all the wonderful qualities of the super empath and have on many occasions ruthlessly put down the narcissists who are basically very weak and cowardly. All the bombast shrivels up and collapses in the face of their total exposure by the super empath who is usually a very strong person, has to be completely independent of the narcissist and makes no bones of their utter contempt for them so much so that it leaves them hungry for the empaths approval because they secretly admire those wonderful qualities which they know they do not possess and never will. My advice ,don’t stay to watch what they will do turn your back and walk away. The super empath is loved by many good people, they have the capacity to give to others and help them in a positive way. And the feel good feelings of being a compassionate person has no equal. They’re also brilliant judges of character, they can spot a phoney a mile away.But I have to say all this knowledge doesn’t happen overnight. The younger you are the more susceptible you are to the wiles of the narcissist, even if you are a total empath, and you could get very badly hurt. Time and EXPERIENCE are the key to developing your sense of self worth, independent thinking, getting objective about others, not seeking anyone’s approval and most important,loving yourself and being good to the numero uno person in your life YOU. No one can make you feel inferior or inadequate unless you give them permission to do so! Be positive , be strong everything will fall into place.
Thank you danish. I am not an empath but my sister is. She sniffed him out on first meeting. She thought he was garbage I thought it was treasure. It split us sisters for 10 years. Guess who was there when I needed help, my sister...now I'm not putting her on a pedestal as I've taken care of my lil one enough times but I can see that I have a lot to learn and the young ones deserve an ear too.
I always prayed to God for discernment. He answered that prayer and now can see right through a narcissist. I can even feel what they are feeling.. So I choose to stay away from those people that give me bad vibes.
I never heard about this. I thought empaths were science fiction stuff but after growing up with my mom I clued into her brand of craziness and I can spot them pretty easily. They’re despicable people and there are so many of them. I wonder about the flying monkeys-how can they be so blind or are they flattered by the love bombing? Is there something in them that finds a use for a narcissist?
After years, when I finally understood that he wasn't the angel I thought. That I, who was super balanced, started to believe that I was going crazy and on the day that I was determined to k**l myself, I finally understood what was going on. I became like you explained in the video (because I had no other option). Now I know him more than himself. I even make him laugh when I say things like :"No! what you're doing is something else and it's because of that, that and that and not because of what you're telling me.I know you kid, it's been many years, it doesn't work anymore". He is not a malignant narcissist (hi is a cover), so it is possible to make this kind of "joke" now. Making these jokes has already made him "lash out" several times, but now he accepts that he can't affect me anymore and it really bothers him, but deep down he feels a little pleasure (his smile gets a little sadistic) when I show him that I know what he is doing.
I am currently doing all of these things - a client of mine shared this video with me after I admitted I had never heard the term... I am however still in the midst of the drama, cycle and triangulation - I simply am not letting it all cloud my judgement and decision making. He still blindsided me. He still has a (temporary) hold on my outward reality, and is fighting to keep his image in tact while painting me as unstable and incorrigible... I remain steadfast and calm - but not unaffected. Thank you for this!
Yes ! I'm a Super Empath as I can smell 👃 foul Intentions even before they tell me anything, even when someone is talking ill about me I can feel it inside
These comments are spot on. How I dealt with my mother was years of therapy. I do not feed her accusations and deliberate put downs and controlling behavior. I still get triggered at times. So I also put a mirror up when i find her behavior too much. Like mother do you realise you have been complaining all day (for attention when everyone else has serious issues but she believes we all need to adorn her with her elitist expectations). She did stop complaining that day. She is loosing her audience of complaining so she can’t blame everything on me since less and less people are listening. Thank you for your insight on this subject it is very very helpful!
Are you a super empath or are you becoming one?
I have been healing last couple of years and am becoming a super empath. I’ve lost friends because they ended up being narcissistic. I would rather be by myself than have lots of friends. I’m content being by myself . I now know to absolutely trust my instincts, if I get a queasy bad vibe from a new acquaintance, they do not make it to the friend level and I no longer hang out with them. Same goes for narcissistic family members. No longer over explaining myself, no longer caring about their smear campaigns. Set my boundaries, when they break one I go no contact for life. No longer afraid to do so!
I'm super empath, we were dating for 5 years and got married this year ,but he had shattered me pretty much only in 7 months of marriage I got to know how lazy he is, how he pretends infront of others, I was stupid even after seeing red flags I ignored and tolerated him, he use to say my way or high way, his spiritual abuses ,emotional abuses, cursing, reviling me and my family, asking me to abandon my parents and sister he controlled me so much. I was money dispenser for him, social trophy who use to talk about me infront of others to get money. However, Im taking divorce.please pray for me.
How would they deflect the Word Salad thing?
I’ve gone through tremendous trauma (narcissistic mother, molested, abused emotionally & physically, homeless) and come out the other side. I’m very introspective and continuously evaluate myself for improvement. My journey allowed me to examine my weaknesses and understand fully the psychological impacts of my trauma. I’ve dug deep through the generational trauma that seemed to plague my family line on both sides. With that being said, I don’t feel emotions but can read them well. I know when a high pitchy voice is not normal or when someone is masking an emotion with jokes, rude comments, or overly nice.
People at the job that are negative; spend time gossiping about me without knowing me. It is funny yet sad to me because it just sounds like high school and these people are older and should have life accomplishments to contend with than worrying about someone who doesn’t live for their approval. I’m called “uppity”. I’m a straight shooter and will address the elephant in the room.
It’s not an easy journey for me because a lot of times it was spent alone without proper resources or support. It is hard to trust because of witnessing so much of the awfulness of human nature (your own family- no less). Luckily future generations have other professionals who are diving into these topics to help them heal.
Yep! I think I am. Empath and HSP. But I don't like the name "Super empath". Ridiilous 😂.
I believe being a survivor of narcissistic abuse transformed me from an empath to a super empath
It did. It made you aware of what you are. An empath and an awoken empath are the only differences. The abuse wouldnt have taken place as a super empath, because your awake to it. You start seeing it everywhere, you stop giving the benefit of the doubt if you suspect something is off. But just like a spiritual awakening, you will continue waking up more and more. Some think that once you awaken, your awake, and its all done. But as you develop more life experience you become more and more aware of different things. Another word for super, or awakened is an aware empath.
@@CHSN-1 well said brother🤝 thanks for your input
Yes!!
I had zero experience with narcissist, but living with one has opened my eyes. I think I am becoming a super empath.
Narcissist Stone evolves “Empath”to “Super Empath”
Empathy can really take a toll emotionally. You see things in people that others don’t see but you can’t explain it in a way they can understand. Maybe we all need to trust that uneasy feeling we get when in the presence of a narcissist.
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@Billie you have it exact. For me, it’s a matter of watching a family member or loved one fall for a narcissist. They’re always extremely charming and so very helpful in the beginning. Then they take over their life. You can’t interfere. Just be there when they’re broken to help put the pieces back together.
@Billie I agree, if you see me sending multiple messages to people is because I just found out all this stuff. And I've been rocked to the core growing up like this. But it definitely helps you in the long run. We empaths have a way to work things out with narcissist and somehow coexist to a degree. But I agree with what you said about wanting to say something about it and you have a feeling like nobody will understand. You always feel your the only person going through this. It feels like they should be arrested for that treatment towards you. Nobody clearly sees the trauma but us. It feels so bad it makes you wonder what he'll is actually like because dealing with a house full of them growing up will do something damaging to you. I still feel like there should be consequences for that kinda abuse
@Billie yes I'm actually researching up on all my newly found traits. I'm a super empath for sure. I been studying on them and it's all my characteristics. I thought I was psychic my whole life. I knew it was a blessing. I'm learning everyday who I am and who's in my life. Wish I found this channels long time ago. But are there any legal actions to take even after all these years thinking they're normal. I never gave in to them but they kept up with the attacks. It's very sad and disgusting. It's worse then murder.
@Billie it’s natural to want justice for people who exploit others. For sure a lot of narcissists eventually cross the line and end up in court. Maybe the best justice is knowing they are miserable people who can’t love or enjoy life normally. For me, I would rather do what I can for the victim. That’s hard enough.
I do not label myself an empath, but a spiritually growing individual. Experiences with narcissists have been very unpleasant, however these experiences caused me do do a lot of inner reflection. These same experiences, in the end, taught me a great deal about myself and inturn I became both a better person and a stronger person. Many of my best lessons came through a narcissist. Two sides to every coin.
2 Corinthians 1:6
[6] If we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; and if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which you experience when you patiently endure the same sufferings that we suffer.
@@cvenegas7982 amen to both comments.
Me also, 28 years with a religious covert narcissist sociopath wife , still praying for my freedom
I agree it’s all about what you do with the past experiences: recognize, learn, love self and others regardless, move on and grow 💜
You Go girl!
I am repulsed by narcissists if I have to deal with them- I can’t hide my disdain; the narcs pick up on that and avoid me now.
How do you do this like way they avoid you? I keep attracting them and in need of advice
@@lovelifexx726 I used to be a people pleaser and give everyone the benefit of the doubt, now when I know I’m dealing with a narc I ‘match’ their energy. Narcs give nothing so I give nothing in return- no interest, no questions, no calls, no texts, no visits, no compliments etc etc
Good luck!
Look straight past them,
Seek nothing from them & be the happiest you can be around them.
Also share NONE of your personal info
Oh so THAT is what is working for me Now… good to know! ThankYou for sharing❣️
Thankyou ❤️
I hope the legal system would integrate a compulsory narcissism test in custody and divorce battles.
Wouldn't that be wonderful.
More than one narcissistic psychologist and narcissistic psychiatrist around has already started making their dishonest fortune by convincing naive family court judges that they can administer that kind of test to discern which parent is more stable. Some children have died in murder suicides at the hands of domestic violence perpetrators because of it. That is why now sometimes police advice a parent to not file for divorce at all while they help that parent leave to a safe place while the children are being hidden from the perpetrator somewhere else until the children are adults and can then fend for themselves without them.
Good thinking
The legal system favors their own; narcs
I was raised by a narcissist. After a few relationships with narcissists as an adult, I have set strong boundaries. I can now quickly cut a narcissist off after realizing I am dealing with a narcissist early on. It does still bother me that I am conned by the love bombing in the beginning. It has been a painful road to get to where I am now. It is sad to me that these wolves in sheeps clothing even exist.
I got love bombed by a narcissist that gave me a car load of gifts. And then a few days later we had a fallout. I made him mad and he ran me off! I appreciated the gifts though! LOL maybe I'm on to something here? 🤔
Can relate to everything you say. 🙏
Evil in sheep clothing is such a powerful expression 😂 to define the narcissist
Outwitting a Narc is much easy if you know all Narc traits.
What part of the love bombing got your attention the most?
Yes, I've recently withdrawn from a narcissist, been feeling a lot more calm and nothing has felt better than saying "no".
Yes! They are just terrible. They think they are too smart for us! We have learned so much and easily can see their falseness!!!!
I feel that lately I am extremely close to being a Super Empath. When we begin to laugh about the ridiculous crazy making nonsense of the Narcissist, and never take it personally and never defend ourselves, block them and don't care what they are doing. Enjoy our peace...then we have figured it out. We have passed the course requirements for what to do with Arrogance, Narcissist, Sociopaths and Psychopaths. Having a sense of freedom and peace, no one can take from us.
So true 👍
I think I'm on that path too praying for guidance and protection 🙏
WORD!!!!
So far, so good here. Becoming even more like Dad, life wrongfully cut short almost about seven years ago. They couldn’t bear to be in the same room with him.
BRAVO!!!! Very well-said!!!!
As a SE, you hit the nail on the head, well done. I've shattered countless narcs just by speaking direct truth and allowing no one to cross my boundaries. If you don't need external validation, you can live free and be a powerful force for goodness.
Yeah, but then when I get home, the fear hits.
@@debbievoss3496 Fear is the #1 tactic used to control people, and the most powerful weapon a narcissist has is YOUR mind. The narcissist's biggest weakness is underestimating your intelligence, use that to your advantage.
Your heart is HOME.I moved upstairs as My Free Will is Packing, Stacking and taking my life away from this destructive person. After 25 years of Shame, Blame, Poor Victim. Nows He"s sexing people, but fails in person. The Truth will be revealed, as we awaken to their lies, lies, and lies. Forgiveness of Self from being deceived is the ONLY need for Self. All of his promises were just false props to his fake life. Golden Trails in the ASH, may those times be RIPOLI, as Erin loves a good drama drag queen or buff jester
GOD says Don t try for people s approval, just the Lord's no .. approbation of man priority.
Just asking, what is an example of direct truth u said?
at age 70, have begun confronting my dysfunctional perspectives with the truth. Neither easy, nor gentle, however, totally worth the effort.
Same here @ 66yrs.
HOW DID HE RESPOND?
Keep it up!
Great news. 😅❤
59 & just now getting there. It's never too late in fact I mostly see awakenings mid life or later❤
I am super empath now after 40 years of an abuse from covert narc
We are divorced and the weasel is hiding after telling him the truth about himself
I got the smear campaign alright but I don't care and walk with my head high
No BS from any of them anymore
Thank you for your videos and your colleagues who are constantly educating those of us who got entangled with these weasels
To kind people out there who are recovering from these weasels please don't give up keep at it you will recover and be strong mentally physically and spiritually
Thankyou I’m nearly there x you too x
Covert Narc exactly thanks Nancy
❤️🙏 Thank you for sharing and wish you the best of recovery! 💕☘️
The biggest part to this is finding out. I knew what was going on just knowing what to do was my problem. Kinda hard to completely forgive someone who purposely ruined or attempted to destroy you. I don't know everything about this being fairly new to information about these things. Despite being in my 40s now. It hurts more because I was the type walking blindly thinking they knew it all and they'd support my well-being. Turns out I have been living with a malignant narcissist who I've shared all my space with. I don't know what you call someone who gave me the impression that Satan was in the house. But he tortured everyone. But I'm the only one who knew it was something extra remorseless about this one. But now I found out not only was he a narcissist so was the others. It's like you can't talk to them because they're just going to go tell him anyway to start more conflict. It's like you try to be the best you can be and there fighting against you. And now I know why. And it's never enough. They want you defeated
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Hi Allen how are you you find most of us who were in these toxic relationships always knew something was not right but didn't know what it was so we stay and make excuses for these weasels
I am an African so I had the added bonus of society conditioning of giving respect to my husband and also to make him happy
An undeserving entitlement and a road to abuse
Anyway I did all that also looked after him for 12years while he went through chemo and liver transplant while I was working to sustain us he was with the neighbours his church my children smearing my good name and I didn't have a clue
It also turns out the pain he was complaining about that made him stay home doing nothing for 12 years to support is all part of narc disorder Maunchansen syndrome a fictitious disorder of illness
What comfort I can give you is knowing and awareness are the first steps for your recovery
Please read read about them Drs Ramani, Dr D Fox,Carter,Sam Vaknin
Quora digest
Book by A B Jamieson Prepare to be Tortured by a Narc
That will help you a lot
I was very obsessed to find out about them so I didn't repeat my mistakes
I am stronger and I can even forgive him for his forever sickness while I enjoy my healing freedom
It has taken me nearly 5 years but worth every second
So please give yrself time to grieve to feel sorry for yrself to get angry of wasted time finance alienation smearing etc
Later you will rise like the Phoenix indestructible mentally
Physically spiritually
I thank him for discarding me it opened my eyes
You will heal take yr time make sure you eat well try and sleep and also some form of exercise or meditation or prayers
It is a lonely journey but you need that to find yrself so you can recover but also reach out when you need help there are still good people around us on these platforms etc
Please try and forgive yrself
the weasels will be popping in yr head from time to time like spiritual devils
Please try and replace with a song a poem etc
If you don't mind let me know how you are getting on or wants to chat it is a lonely journey but worth it
Your Worthy your are loved always remember that and you are here for a Purpose
Please don't waste your pain use it to rise up so you can help others
We need to bring Love to the world
I leave you with many blessings from God
Have a lovely day and same to all people on this platform
We all will be just fine xx
Becoming a super empath after twenty plus years struggling in a narc marriage. As things crawl to their end , Feeling the depth of my power more and more every day! Stay focused on your own healing❣️
Same exact story. Been 20 years
Why does it take 20 years ?
I am a super empath. I can see through them, but they keep trying. Beware of their rage!!!
Their rage is a blessing. Perspective is everything. Because of their narcissistic rage, my employers unfairly fired me. That's why they are forced into settlement with me now according to the laws of my country. I get money because they've got rage ...😂😂😂😂
Absolutely correct
I can discern a narcissist by only looking at a photograph!
I thought it was just me🤞🏽
Oooh, what do you see? I’d like this skill
I'm fast becoming a super empath after surviving a 31 years of narcissist husband abuse
🙏🙏
So true, I told the narcissist the "You do not get to define me because I know who I am."
I was raised by narcissistic parents and suffered the whole complex trauma dynamic. I'm a recovering codependent and each day I feel stronger as I heal and walk the path of growth. I used to be a magnet for narcissists without knowing why until I did the work and figured out the part I played in the dance. I can now spot a narcissist a mile away so to speak. Within minutes into a conversation narcissists tend to give themselves away if you know what to look for. They are great at mirroring and it's easy to miss the signs but I've learnt to trust my intuition. The anxiety that I feel after an interaction with a narcissist alerts me to my state of confusion due to the cognitive dissonance created by the narcissist.
While it's great you've started the journey, please remember that thought that comes from fear and anxiety isn't always logical. I'm just saying this because when I first learned all this my anxiety stopped me from forming connections with people who could have been great friends. Wish you the best in your journey!
When I was younger I would describe myself as a A$$ Hole 🧲. I now know exactly what I was attracting.🥴🤦🏻♀️😂
As a healed empath, I think this is spot on.
They best way to destroy them is to ignore them and leave them out of your life for good.
Hmmm ...why am I the only person who does not seem to think "just leaving them" is the answer? I fought them at my workplace. Now I have all the evidence to take to court against them if I don't get a settlement out of court for an unfair dismissal. As a result of legitimately fighting them along the way, I have all the ammo in my fight against them before the legal system and they have nothing. You've got to fight. We were born to fight. Survival everyday is a struggle. What you must not do is fight them on your own. Make sure God is on your side 🙌🙏😇
Some of the worst things you can do to shut the narcissist down is to have no contact, be happy without them, become more successful in your life with out them and move on to find love ❤️ or friendships with positive people 💕 My ex narc fears my presence because I am None of the things he projected on his smear campaign. 😊
Been there done that. I'm a strong stubborn empath. I won't allow a narcs ways to alter my judgement and will be calm, honest and straightforward in a situation. This video is spot on 👏 it explains why they just can't 'deal' with me😂
He took me down a deep dark hole, Toxic, affected my health, nerves, constant crazy making.
I live for your videos "They don't have the power to define your reality" 😍 I wish I'd heard these words sooner ✌🏻
Yes I totally resonate. I recently told someone I feel like that kid in The Sixth Sense, where he can see ghosts, but I see toxic people that way.
How?!
I am a super empath and just saw through my ex. Cancelled my wedding 3 months before the date and broke up. This much power i got after surviving narcissistic abuse.
I been healing all of this year after finally getting away from an on/off relationship with a narcissist for 8yrs, I'd lost myself so much that I kept going back and forth because I was confused, and thought there was love in the relationship, that toxic cycle was so hard to leave, and Id always considered myself to be a strong person, yet i somehow became stripped of that inner strength. I consider myself an empath, so it saddened me a lot to see him so angry all the time and just wanted to help him see the destruction he causes to himself and others around him, yet the defensive nature of the narc was pretty scary. I kept hoping things would be different each time I returned, because I cared too much, and enjoyed the exciting lifestyle we had, although it came at a price frequently.
What really woke me up in the end was him telling me that he's is an Ahole, and that he actually enjoys it. He admitted to liking who he is and that he will never change, I guess it was the reality of the narcissist confession that really hit home in the end. I ended it immediately and for the first time, I've spent this entire year finding myself again, doing yoga, meditation, journalling, hiking in nature, met a couple of new decent friends, and have even started my own business, my boundaries are rock solid, and I now have the old confident me back that I once knew. I am more awake now than I've ever been, finally at the age of 46. It's been a dark time in my life, but I believe you definitely come back stronger, even if that doesn't seem possible at first. Therapy helped me along on my journey too. Stay strong good people, you can survive, your more resilient than you think ✨😊
After losing my husband to Cancer finally after 8 years I felt ready for love and compassion ship. I fell in love with someone. He would pick fights with me about anything. If we had plan's he would leave me packed and waiting. This has gone back and forth several times. Each time I forgive and the same scenario repeats. Like getting stuck in a
web. Why does this seem to happen to good women that have experienced trauma?
Same. Widowed for 10 years now and have fallen for two narcissists right in a row. I think it's because our defenses are down after having a loss. Take your time, be picky. Realize your worth. Therapy is helping me.
I have been that super empath since I was a child. I turned a child molester in at age 5 . It is my core nature to protect those who cannot protect themselves. Even if I am small myself my voice is powerful.
You are my hero!. I see you. I see your going forward, sword unsheathed, protecting a strange new world. Excellent, excellent.
You are great. I hope you are happy.
I saw right away when he said “he’s a hard catch” lol… I dismissed it like a fool. Didn’t see him all the time so it took me months to catch on to put it all together. He played me for attention and admiration. Now I am stronger than ever💪🏽 I was able to share Jesus with him🙌🏽🙏🏽… I have moved on, however I put him and his ego in place before I went no contact… he knew I was too strong and he could never manipulate me, he got someone young and naive who doesn’t know any better. (Praying for her)… he keeps rubbing in about me being heavy, you know he can’t have a heavy gal ruining his image. Lol….so of course I had to let him know how nasty brown teeth are and recommended a dentist for whitening 🦷lol…burst his ego! 😂So thankful it’s over! I saw the signs, but was in denial… I am much stronger now!
Judge not,
lest ye be judged
at its FINEST !!!!!!!
I had 3 years of intense trauma therapy. My sister thought I was the same person I was growing up. I called her out on her bs, and she acted like she was hit by a freight train. She's a pathological liar. She actually believed she'd turn me against my children, parents, and husband. She was so transparent 😅 She's out of my life forever!
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I recently ended a relationship with a narcissist. I recognized the emptiness, the grandiosity, the arrogance, the mirroring, the need to control, the manipulation, lack of empathy, victimhood, etc. but i did not realize these traits and behaviors amounted narcissism. I had never heard of it until I began to research what all these red flags could be. Fortunately, I had been calling out these behaviors along the way so by the time she reached the discard phase I knew it was high time to move on. Have gone no-contact and have never looked back while she's continued to try to return for more supply. very parasitic and creepy. - ty for your channel and dedication to this topic
Narcissists are some of the unluckiest people I've ever seen don't ever share anything good with them or let them in on anything good I swear those people could look at a bird in the sky and the birds neck would snap and fall out of the sky.
With God overcome them 🙏🙏
Before my knowledge about narcissistic behavior one day there was a limit to my tolerance when he started verbally abusing and gaslighting me. That was the moment of freedom and light for me. Since then my response has totally changed.
One more thing to mention about Super Empaths…we not only see beyond the narcissistic mask - we truly empathize that they need to wear a mask to begin with. Being a narcissist is a sad story. We don’t see the need to add to it…but we will also not choose to be apart of it! Walking away is easy because we would hate to retaliate in any way to such a fragile person.
So true
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She needs that mask. My heart breaks for the prison she insists on never escaping.😢😢😢😢😢❤❤❤
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This is so true because we have the ability to destroy whatever facade they are hanging on to for dear life. And it's a sad way to live life.
I am a empath and I use to tell my narcissist special friend that his behaviors was better than TV he
Provided entertainment for me soooo much. I am a crafter and one year for a gift I decorated a mirror and wrapped it beautifully and gave it to him. He finally asked why a mirror? I said he needed some type of tool to use to try harder to see himself. He always felt like a boy in a man’s body to me. I used to just stare at him a lot. He never felt real to me. I
Literally felt he got to earth by mistake. He hung around me for 12 years I wouldn’t marry him and I chased him off my property a lot. I used a long arm approach with him. He used to try very hard to rattle my feathers as he used to say. He was a vulture always looking for dark energy. Each 7 days in a week he usually had 4 problems to solve. Lots of times he looked wore out from fatigue. His bad behaviors kept him problem solving. When he would come around me I would look at him and say What now? He would tell me and I would give him his problem back to him and say I am sure you will work it out you always do. No one ruins my day on a regular. My joy is rarely taken away from me. He disposed the calm in me he needed a lot of aggressive conversations and debates. I am not the one.
I am grateful for my toxic marriage and the lessons learned. I am almost bulletproof against narcs now. Never say never but can spot them from a mile away now.
Calling myself a naive person needed a tough experience to know the truth. Life is hard , people are bad, no matter how good you are , no one likes good people , people like to respect those whom they fear. Marrying an evil narcissist was an eye opener. I am not weak but I prefer peace to conflict, narcissist thrives on silence, he attacks violently, mocks, belittles his victim shamelessly so in order to gain peace in your life you need to fight back with words and action, by neglecting him by setting boundaries that accept no forgiveness. Living with a narcissist is a hellish experience so better to break the cycle and leave or it will go on and on for ever. I am not alone in my fight against the evil narcissist, Allah is always with us for protection and guidance, thank God for Your Blessings.
As an Empath it has been a hard road learning boundaries, saying no, and realizing my husband is a covert narcissistic. As I grow in consciousness,and other levels I can see right through his BS, and also the very hurt little boy who had a narcissistic mother. Non reacting and not investing in making this relationship work has helped. I know at a deeper level he feels so lost., no sense of self. I asked him to go to therapy.
Same.
As having been with a narcist for many painful rollercoaster years they may go but then it's another tool to say"but you told me to!" They never change RUN.
I knew everything but did not have the courage to say no...
Please don’t pick me up wrong but I think it’s great to see a man discuss this I presume you’re from the MEA region and I think it’s fantastic - please don’t pick me up wrong. You’ve helped me a lot - thank you from Ireland 🇮🇪 yes I called a narcissist out and got stonewalled and rage
Good for you, and you proudly repelled it all with your Irish Wonder Woman gold cuffs! 💥💥💥💪 🤝🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲
un-gaslighting the shared fantasy I lived in. Coming back to Planet Earth.
I can smell a narcissist a mile away.
I have been always an Empath but I have become a Super Empath after all the tests the Universe has putting me on. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger! Definitely!!!
Absolutely Fantastic! 😊
I have had many narcissists in my life. I have thought about those relationships, and in retrospect, one of the first signs was the insults and the put-downs. It might be in a joke, it might be subtle, but they start letting you know that they are better than you, and you should listen to them. They think it's safe (for them) to put you down. They think this will make you start trying to kiss up to them and get you on a string. But now, for me, and soon as the little jabs come out, or anything that says, "you know, I am a little smarter than you in this area and you should listen to me", I am done with them. And this sounds crazy, because they are usually still in the stage of being fun, nice, charming, grandiose, special, etc. and anyone else would say, "Why are you being so picky or petty to get upset over something so little?" The truth is: they have tipped their hand and I am not sticking around to see what else is coming. It's like if someone playfully slugs you in the shoulder, and rubs it off and laughingly says, "I was just kidding". No: the day is coming that they will hit you and mean it. Likewise, the playful insults in the beginning, or the "I am just a little smarter than you, and you need to listen to me", is just a set up for when the real insults come and you really DO need to "listen to me". Leave now before the noose tightens.
I never fell for gaslighting or allowing him to define my feelings. I always pushed back. I know my own mind. But I still fall for the false promises and future faking as they're happening. I always realize after he leaves that I was lied to again. And many times I've called him out on it.
It's hard for empaths who sense a narcissist is going to explode if they don't get their way. I've been getting better with blocking people who I sense have a yucky and low vibration. It doesn't take long before I see an insecure look in their face, hear a forced- fake compliment, and get that feeling that a narcissist is up to no good. . I remember meeting two narcissists in one week. I immediately had a dream that I pet a wet dog and maggots from the dog stuck to me and I literally couldn't get them off no matter what I did. Some may say that's just coincidence. I say it's a major warning. Needless to say, both of those individuals will not be able to call me ever. All Praises to the Heavenly Father! 😹😹😹
Living with one, he follows the same blame shfiting when confronted.
Hero, to denial, to victim shifting, to triangulation and finally to the argument itself. I calmy said each time "you're trying to change the subject" over and over. Haven't seen him in a month since he rage quit. I see right through the emptyness, as deep as a puddle.
I have noticed a gradual increase in my intuition about other people lies, flaws and insecurities.
Before I used to block those observations, it felt like I was being judgemental, and it almost always caused me harm.
Now as soon as I feel something wrong I run! It is a peaceful life now.
Danish Bashir is almost all correct.... I do know my self- worth because it's no longer I that live, but Jesus Christ who lives in me❤️ You will know these people by their fruits... either good or bad. They can " talk" all they want but if their actions are bad then their fruit (them) are bad. Run!!!!!
Thank you for being here for people like me
I don't know if I'm a super empath or not, but I will share a fairly traumatic event that happened due to my collision with a possible narcissist. My best friend when I was 19 was a man I'll call Tom. I remember thinking that I was the worst friend ever because he was constantly pointing out my flaws, but he liked me despite these various social gaffs. We parted ways on a fairly sour note (in which, you guessed it, I was at fault). Flash forward to me at about 27 with all the maturity and life experience that entails (and also a healthy dose of social doubt due to me being "bad at friendship."). We patch things up, and I invite him to come visit with me in my new city to catch up. He paid for his plane ticket, but I paid for everything else: meals at nice restaurants, a ballet performance, a museum tour, the works. I was giving him the special treatment. One of the first things he does is touch me inappropriately. We had messed around a little back in the day, but nothing about our conversations said that was okay. I confronted him about it, and he acted really weird. Nothing about the trip was good enough, and he complained about everything. He actually even hurt me at some point demonstrating martial arts holds and then blamed me for being weak. Finally I confronted him on the last night, called him pissy and passive aggressive. We fought, I stormed off, and I felt such dangerous vibes from him that I moved my guns and cat to my room and locked my door. I took him to the airport in complete silence the next day, but when I got back, I found out he had peed in my laptop and left it closed so I wouldn't see, peed in my silverware drawer, burned a bunch of my video games before putting them back in the case, and then left without a word. $2000 worth of damage. So moral of that story: stand up for yourself to a narcissist but never turn your back on them.
What a child he is, dirty scum. Great you shared this , it's great example of why we should never ever have contact. Repulsive 🤮
Oh my god. This is very creepy. This 'friend' of yours is dangerous. It's very important to look for signs and put your foot down, when needed.
Somatic Psychopath, uses body to insult inflict harm on target. Planned revenge for your honesty, not taking it. No remorse, therefore, psychopath. Very damn dangerous. Consider yourself lucky. 🤝
What the hell
You probably got lucky it stopped there if he must had been stewing all night thinking about what happened and how was he going to exact his revenge or " settle the score" u did think correctly bringing you're firearm with you to bed a person like that the only thing that stops narcissist from acting on their tyrannical plans is getting caught or proven wrong & the possibilities of being confronted with truth or having to answer for their actions otherwise nothing is sacred or off limits their only limit is what they think they can get away with without getting caught but heres the kicker it's all in their head and they just convince themselves of their own grandiosity totally disillusioned individuals . Thanks for the story
I know for sure that I’m an empath, becoming a super empath. After 20 plus years with this imposter. After all of the pain,, I became awakened and not only to him. I do find them disgusting. In addition to being enlightened,,, I find them amusing that these things believe that they have a right to gaslight,,, blame shift,,,future fake,,, and use word salad. I really see them as nonhuman . They are evil parasites waiting to devour us empaths. I didn’t understand,, I mean who does this??? I revel when my ex narc even tries !!! We have children together which he feels he can connect with me because of them. Now awakened,,, I revel dissecting anything he tries. You see them for the monsters they are, and treat them accordingly. Thank you Danish and all of you for sharing 🙏💕☺️
I have a toxic sibling; my only real sister; I need help to handle her; I am following your episodes !
What a lovely episode! Let the healing begin;
I have a malignant sister and she would actually kill me if she could. Just go no contact for the rest of your life. That's what I intend to do.
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Unfortunately, I also have a malignant narcissistic sister and had to go no contact in 2016. It’s sad, but there was so much damage that she had done. I no longer could give her any more chances.
Me too.
Genuine empathy is warm.
I am a sigma empath. The mother of my twins has been in a abusive relationship with a narcissist for 11 years. I have been involved for seven right now my twins are 4 years old. Due to unfortunate circumstances he ended up with legal custody and I've been fighting like hell to make sure those kids are okay. If you picture the worst situation imaginable that's what it is. The narcissist has tried to attack me personally and applied the mother of my twins and I and pit each other against one another. I see his moves clearly every time I know exactly what he's doing when he's doing. But he is very persistent. Due to these videos I have finally been able to expose his character type to the mother of the twins. Now she watches you regularly and other narcissistic videos to understand what she's dealing with.
Record. Document. Keep a Chrono diary. WHEN divorce comes, she will need it proves PSYCHOLOGICAL HARM, TOXIC ENVIRONMENT to children NO SHARED CUSTODY. See Rebecca Zung div attorney specialist against that type. 💪🖖
Yess I have transformed from an empath to super empath after surviving the narcissist
Yes very true i feel amused when they lashout abusive behaviour.. 😊
It took 11 years to become super empath from victim to this level.This process was for my children never to be a victim and for them to live life to the fullest... The trauma I had to go through but seeing children rising unto leaders is all worth it
According to this.. I'm a Super Empath!!! Hallelujah!!!🙌❤️
I don't know that I'm "super" just yet, but I'm def working on it! I resonate SO much with this video! I've still got work to do, and will always need to continue to be mindful so as not to fall prey. Thank you Danish for your videos!
When my narcissist ex tried to come back to me, i told him are you coming back to me because I am the easiest target for you? He responded quickly that he is not a predator, I guess he is searching for a new supply now because her relationship is slowly falling apart.. when he was in honeymoon stage of his relationship he barely remember me, after 3 years he started getting into me again.. apparently i will never be his victim for the second time around.
I was in a narcissistic relationship for one year ...when i was 20 years old.
.i got shattered ,its so painfull...to move on..but i thankgod that i came to know about it...early ..
This is the truth! Your explanation is spot on!
I'm a super empath! Every step you outlined in this video I'm doing it now towards my narcissist. He is learning the hardway... he has NO power over here.
I am not a super empath. I've been through some of the awful things described by some of you guys here. Since my mum passed away earlier this year, I realised that she was spot on & I felt immediately, this sense of calm. I know who I am, though the narcissist thinks they know me better, & portrays their version to their other suppliers, but it's like looking in a mirror & it's sad what I see. Through all the layers of put downs, disrespect & childlike behaviour, the narcissist is aging before my very eyes. All that hard work they have to put in portraying a self which is not really them. Instead of stripping me down, it's stripping them away slowly revealing the very self they are scared to show. If they could only let themselves be themselves, they wouldn't have to do what they do. I am calm, & they don't like it. I'm not a supply for them. I've seen them do it to others but the others don't see & I cannot convince them. The well has run dry. I realise now they are scared of themselves; scared of their mortality, scared to be alone (though they say they want to be). I can wake up every day knowing they are still trying as hard as they might but they will not win. My poetry is all that I have as my weapon. They tried to strip me of that too by giving me writer's block, but i still have my creativity. I've only just discovered your videos. Thank you for sharing your advice & giving us sufferers a safe space to share our thoughts. Silence is my weapon but I am not lonely!
I really love this video, thank you. I knew I was an “Empath” but now I know that I’m really a “Super Empath”. My son is a narcissist, as was my mother, my father, and my sons father. Since I was young I was always wondering why I always felt so emotionally drained and being pulled in many directions. Then I realized I was always feeding someone’s supply. My half brother was also an Empath but he moved out as soon as he turned 18. I finally learn I was an Empath when I was about 15 years old, but I never realized I was surrounded by a family full of narcissists until I was 25. I trained myself to be more self aware and to set boundaries, but no one respected those boundaries. I met a fellow Empath, got married, and moved out. I was happy and at peace until my husband died of cancer. I moved back home with my mother, had my son and now I’m having to deal with my narcissistic son. I set boundaries but he doesn’t listen. My problem now is he’s my son and needs my help and I need his. Any advice? 🤷🏼♀️
Thank you for sharing these great facts! I'm glad as an empath being sensitive isn't a bad thing or a weakness and I'm also grateful I finally had the courage to say " No" it's the worst word for the Narc's fragile ego, even if you're doing it for your own well being!!
I am a super empath married to a narcissist. You explain my relationship quite well.
I spent several months with Native American Elders on an Indian Reservation in Oklahoma. Two elders told me that I am a super empath AKA Hayoka empath. I am that, much to my detriment. But I am happy that I am not a narcissist. I remember when I cried in sad movies, or cried when I saw a homeless person sick, hungry and cold in the streets of NYC. Narc ex would get so angry with me, he could barely control his rage towards me. He showed ZERO empathy towards others, including me. It's difficult to understand how can a human be so empty inside.
Yes I did tall that and filed for divorce. Things went from unhappy but manageable to ugly once I started telling her no and making clear boundaries. Now my narc is trying to make my life as difficult as possible because of course it was all my fault.
As I partipated in trauma therapy, I noticed the agitation ramp up as I put up boundaries.
I continued the work, and systematically went No Contact with each person that gave me an ultimateum.
Yes! Truly a super empath. Once I realized what my ex narc was up to, I quickly called him out on all his lies and would tell him over and over I’m not falling for it. At first I felt I needed to not push too much about how fake I knew he was, but quickly realized that I didn’t need to live his lie to be in a relationship. He discarded me right away. I am so relieved I don’t have to live in that world anymore. Since then, I have been educating myself everyday about narcissistic abuse. Thank you Danish for all of your videos!
Great insight. I was love bombed, but not knowing what it was at the time. My intuition was screaming at me but I thought I was just being paranoid. Once I did my research and realized I was dealing with a narc, I quietly pulled back, set boundaries, went gray rock, and ignored all hooover attempts. He is so mad that I’m not reacting to his antics. Now I can see all the red flags much faster
Beautiful, I hope to become a super empath one day.
I've evolved into a Super Empath. I have my Narcissistic father to thank. I had plenty of practice. It was hard back then still. I didn't really know what I was doing until quite recently. After I was raped my father said I deserved it. I had a break down and quit my job for 9 months. I was 22 and would drink the whole day to distract my issues. My mother didn't say anything but my dad said I'm a failure and tearing this family apart. A few more months passed and I realized that I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. So I dumped all the bottles of alcohol down the sink and went outside. We have a swing and a lot of trees. I made friends with the squirrels, chipmunks, and rabbits. I know they're just animals, but they taught me patience. Eventually they had to come out and they grew to love me. I thought to myself that if a wild animal can trust and feel safe around me, I can't be a bad person. I can't be a failure. That everything those nobody's said about me wasn't true. I got myself a job all on my own, rejecting my dads need to "help me" get one. I had a narcissistic manager who did not like me at all. He would always try to embarrass me in front of customers. I always put him in check, respectfully of course. A lot of my coworkers were surprised. I was apparently the only one who ever stood up against him. I eventually left that job because the guy who raped me found me. He was stalking me. I worked from home. I actually got 2 jobs within 9 months from home, but it was tearing me apart. I missed being around people and I was out of my element. When I got back into the office (new job), everyone loved me, but there was another covert Narc who disguised herself as my friend, but there was an empty hollowness in her. She'd lie to my face and tell the truth to my other friends, which would tell me. Later she started talking, dressing, and even walking like me. She stole a position from me, knowing I needed it to go back to college. I completely destroyed her ego after that. I also took responsibility that I made a mistake. I told her what my plans were. I will never make that mistake again. I left that job and to my surprise, they ALL threw me a going away party. That girl was envious and fuming. She was staring at me the whole time as I went around and told everyone goodbye. A few years later I found Spirituality. I never believed in Spirituality until recently. I've been through some tough situations but I have never felt stronger. My hair is even growing back. I used to think I was cursed because I could notice these things about people, but not anymore. I AM a Warrior of Light!
I did do this with my covert narcissist mother but only after years of living with her again in middle age (where she was now in her 70s). I was very slow to give up on her because I know what it feels like to be on the other side of that. My sister gave up on me when she should not have. I was diagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder at a young age. Then went on to be very successful living a life away from both my mother and older sister. Ultimately, my past caught up with me, and relationships fell apart. It took years of living with my mother (in my middle age) to finally completely give up on her. It goes against every fiber of my being. But finally got there. And I'm now ready to have healthy relationships, friendships, romantic, whatever. I feel brand new.
Danish...you are the absolute Best with your independent. Very inspiring and very insightful information. I very listen to most counselors on TH-cam...about narcissist. You are the Best. I am more than impressed. Thank you for helping all of us, that lived through a Narcissist abuse.
im going through it right now, man. thanks for validating my thoughts that no one wants to listen to. im in the process of living and working with narcissists who keep digging a bigger and bigger hole for themselves; all the while I get to live in truth. no one can fuck with the truth 💙
Yes!!! Figured this out right away. He tried to explain how we are different schedules after 17 years. I said he lost control after the first year once I realized he was always on his own schedule . I gave up and took care of the kids. He hates it when I ignore him.
I have now set my boundaries well.
I'd like to believe I can become a healed empath, as I've been working on self reflection and setting boundaries...telling my truth feels liberating but kinda gross because I don't like putting others down normally, even if I feel some type of way towards them...I've dealt with alot of projection, and even though I still struggle mentally, I know who I was and how I'm trying to evolve to attain peace...good luck to anyone else out there trying thier best to find thier better selves
This man is my new hero. I mean, I can’t get enough. 😎
They change opinions like a chameleon which can shock us really badly and they can change very soon after saying they love someone they can say the next day I hate them which can make us feel they r confused deep inside 👍
I'm the super empath ...the scapegoat. Hated by the Narcs in our toxic family system. I left that system when I was 17. Now 46.
Yes, I do that. Now I am alert and don't get affected by their dramas
I don't think I'm a super empath. But I'll get there. I have always been empathic .But a marriage to a narc husband and after facing the tyranny of a covert narc mil,I can definitely say that I have become more empathic and kinder than before.
I really dont like to be an empath,,but i am,,and i just hope i would just always mind my own business,,but i always find myself getting myself into pples tragedies and try to help them out but am always always left stuck....and the the feeling i get afterwards is terrible but i always blame myself and it feels so bad...i wish i could just never give a fuck about nothing,,coz,,it feels like am always loosing..and i hate that feeling
I totally resonate with all the wonderful qualities of the super empath and have on many occasions ruthlessly put down the narcissists who are basically very weak and cowardly. All the bombast shrivels up and collapses in the face of their total exposure by the super empath who is usually a very strong person, has to be completely independent of the narcissist and makes no bones of their utter contempt for them so much so that it leaves them hungry for the empaths approval because they secretly admire those wonderful qualities which they know they do not possess and never will. My advice ,don’t stay to watch what they will do turn your back and walk away. The super empath is loved by many good people, they have the capacity to give to others and help them in a positive way. And the feel good feelings of being a compassionate person has no equal. They’re also brilliant judges of character, they can spot a phoney a mile away.But I have to say all this knowledge doesn’t happen overnight. The younger you are the more susceptible you are to the wiles of the narcissist, even if you are a total empath, and you could get very badly hurt. Time and EXPERIENCE are the key to developing your sense of self worth, independent thinking, getting objective about others, not seeking anyone’s approval and most important,loving yourself and being good to the numero uno person in your life YOU. No one can make you feel inferior or inadequate unless you give them permission to do so! Be positive , be strong everything will fall into place.
Being now completely alone, I've risen above all their bs.
Safety and peace reigns.
Does it make me super?
I think so!
Thank you danish. I am not an empath but my sister is. She sniffed him out on first meeting. She thought he was garbage I thought it was treasure. It split us sisters for 10 years. Guess who was there when I needed help, my sister...now I'm not putting her on a pedestal as I've taken care of my lil one enough times but I can see that I have a lot to learn and the young ones deserve an ear too.
I always prayed to God for discernment. He answered that prayer and now can see right through a narcissist. I can even feel what they are feeling.. So I choose to stay away from those people that give me bad vibes.
I LOVE your last statement that when a narc is projecting, the narc is confessing its true nature.
I never heard about this. I thought empaths were science fiction stuff but after growing up with my mom I clued into her brand of craziness and I can spot them pretty easily. They’re despicable people and there are so many of them. I wonder about the flying monkeys-how can they be so blind or are they flattered by the love bombing? Is there something in them that finds a use for a narcissist?
After years, when I finally understood that he wasn't the angel I thought. That I, who was super balanced, started to believe that I was going crazy and on the day that I was determined to k**l myself, I finally understood what was going on. I became like you explained in the video (because I had no other option). Now I know him more than himself. I even make him laugh when I say things like :"No! what you're doing is something else and it's because of that, that and that and not because of what you're telling me.I know you kid, it's been many years, it doesn't work anymore". He is not a malignant narcissist (hi is a cover), so it is possible to make this kind of "joke" now. Making these jokes has already made him "lash out" several times, but now he accepts that he can't affect me anymore and it really bothers him, but deep down he feels a little pleasure (his smile gets a little sadistic) when I show him that I know what he is doing.
This guy gets it
I am currently doing all of these things - a client of mine shared this video with me after I admitted I had never heard the term... I am however still in the midst of the drama, cycle and triangulation - I simply am not letting it all cloud my judgement and decision making.
He still blindsided me. He still has a (temporary) hold on my outward reality, and is fighting to keep his image in tact while painting me as unstable and incorrigible...
I remain steadfast and calm - but not unaffected.
Thank you for this!
Yes ! I'm a Super Empath as I can smell 👃 foul Intentions even before they tell me anything, even when someone is talking ill about me I can feel it inside
These comments are spot on. How I dealt with my mother was years of therapy. I do not feed her accusations and deliberate put downs and controlling behavior. I still get triggered at times. So I also put a mirror up when i find her behavior too much. Like mother do you realise you have been complaining all day (for attention when everyone else has serious issues but she believes we all need to adorn her with her elitist expectations). She did stop complaining that day. She is loosing her audience of complaining so she can’t blame everything on me since less and less people are listening. Thank you for your insight on this subject it is very very helpful!