I was so surprised to find HG over here. It's great when HG comes into other corners of the internet that I frequent. It's a bit like finding out that two ppl you know, also came across each other. And it makes the world feel like a slightly more cosy and navigable place!
33:54 what people get wrong about semen retention Edit: basically what he's saying is that you only get the benefits of semen retention if you don't even wanna masturbate and don't feel any lust or sexual desires in the first place. So forcing yourself to stop masturbating won't work. Developing your way into a non-lustful existence in which masturbating doesn't even sound like something you'd ever wanna do is what he's talking about.
@@The92Wafflescorrect. We should try to be busy. But at some point boredon will happen anyway, and thats the moment we need to have the discipline to be bored instead of picking the phone
@@bat1579 u guys managed to multiply 2 positive numbers and end up with a negative, boredom is a mini-rest where the brain takes a break from the most large motor functions/internal dialogue and sort of consolidates the most recent stimulating/challenging thing. Maybe I'm being dumb here but if you work a 9-5 you'll know if you sincerely work nonstop on your daily tasks you can finish everything by like 12-2 pm and that a lot of productivity comes in waves like REM sleep (circadian) and the much shorter ultraradian window for your focus. ultimately ive sort of lost my point but I mean that being bored is a result of exhausting your brain like lactic acid when you do high intensity workouts and by resting and breathing your physiological functions will get you topped up
@@The92Waffles the best way to understand is to stare at a wall for 20 minutes without moving. One of the worst might be a yt comment section, generally. Very powerful to not be *forced* into an action by boredom, as an external force
I really loved this podcast. I've heard from Dr.K on his channel that he's been on a round of interviews and now I'm stumbling across them. And there are many things he explains from scratch cause the audience on other channels is not used to him. And I benefit from this, as he's telling things slightly different each time and each round I seem to "click" in another detail that I did not touch before. On the other hand, because it's not his channel and the channel owners are asking him the questions, he also gets to talk about things that are a first, for me. It's really fun. I found this podcast a while ago and it was very delightful. I really enjoy to learn about men specific health concerns, for example. But it's very balanced. There's also things for me as a woman AND approaches on how to work better together, especially when it comes to intimacy. There are so many ways in which educators and simply "fellow people" saved me over the years. I'm really grateful and I see impact in my real life, thanks to it. So, thank you for sharing your insights and also collaborating to bring out new aspects and combinations.
Thanks for sharing this informative discussion. Many golden nuggets to take into consideration and ponder on. I will be saving sharing this video for others. The scope the the discussion was outstanding.
It’s called “vairagya” or the practice of dispassion. It just means putting less and less importance on the various pleasures (desires) and pains (aversions) experienced through the sense organs, until you are unaffected by either. Through this practice one attains an inner resiliency.
but why do u want to do that ? from all the erotic temples in india and the long tantric lineage, it's crystal clear 'passion' or raga is the key to enlightenment. the master key is the wisdom/method to transmute what is apparently 'bad' to 'good'. the entire deal has always about union of shiva shakti, brahma maya, nirvana-samsara, male-female principle. why else we have all the tantric deities in sexual pose with their consorts.
@@of8ightandse7en16 tantra is certainly one potential path. Fortunately, enlightenment is a destination with many paths. What I described is merely a single limb of ashtanga yoga, not the full path. So to answer your question, one would practice vairagya if they believe the yogic path is correct for them.
@@jhester23 there are many paths sure. but the way u put it is like vairagya is "the" path. in fact, nofap became a somewhat anti-woman or women = devil kind of propaganda. this is in total contrary to the highest yoga in which the feminine is to be worshipped, the shakti. and by the way, people practice vairagya because celibacy is the standard precept for any so called 'spiritual' pursuit, from buddhist monk, catholic priest, and brahmacharya. this is a later development and certain gurus concealed the 'actual yoga' of the old. that's exactly the problem. all the ancients worship and practice 2 things. Sex and astrology. from dionysus cult, elesunian msyteries, eucharist, tantra, maithuna, daoist sexual practice, sexual magick. The entire key has always been transmutation, to turn poison to nectar via skillful means. The so called yoga these days are already degenerated. All these limbs are latter development, given to the average person to follow. Alot of people misunderstood napoleon hill and think it's about nofap. but in his other books, he clearly mentioned how a businessman gain a business idea when he climax to his wife. That's a sexual magick, not simply semen retention.
You know something, I see ya’ll on TH-cam quite often and am impressed with the caliber of information and so on. You both will be legends on here soon. Everyone will know your all’s name. Great work you two, great job!
I do too, I am still suffering from it after 3 years. Took some SSRI for 3 months and only and I am still suffering. I dont know how we can reach our message / request to Dr.K
I am actually convinced that not pornography but masturbation caused my severe depression. My body got so used to the hormonal releases that it needed a high dose to keep my stress in check and once the body got overwhelmed depression wasn't far. Stress in my life caused me to seek relief through masturbation but that same habit caused me more and more uncontrolled stress and all that lead to me almost dying. Thank God for my psychiatrist and the strong medicines he gave I was able to get out of my depression within a few weeks after having suffered severe depression for more than 3 years.
That is a fantastic interview and addresses so many issues there are happening just now. Thanks Dr. Malik and your guest is just fantastic, nice to see how casually he talks about complex topics. Definitely will follow up.
😁😁 *A male whale and a female whale were swimming off the coast of Japan when they noticed a whaling ship.* The male whale recognized it as the same ship that had harpooned his father many years earlier. He said to the female whale, "Lets both swim under the ship and blow out of our air holes at the same time and it should cause the ship to turn over and sink." They tried it and sure enough, the ship turned over and quickly sank. Soon however, the whales realized the sailors had jumped overboard and were swimming to the safety of shore. The male was enraged that they were going to get away and told the female, "Let's swim after them and gobble them up before they reach the shore." At this point, he realized the female was becoming reluctant to follow him. "Look," she said, "I went along with the blow job, but I absolutely refuse to swallow the sea men.
"Is this other person's life is better alone, or with me ?" is so spot on. That's exactly what goes through my mind when I meet a girl I find interesting, and usually my first thought is that the answer is without me. And I think many guys feel this way, that they're not worthy enough for a woman and that they'll be more of a burden that a bringer of upsides. Even though we might have the feeling we can bring her something, help her out with what she seems to be lacking, it often doesn't match what we feel like she deserve and that we won't be able to provide. Anyway, great video and really interesting thoughts and facts. Dr. K is truly a blessing, thanks for bringing him in and asking him much more interesting questions than many interviewers do (even though he still manage to be passionate about any subjects despite sometimes meeting bad interviewers hehe) :)
As someone who struggles with this mentality, I think this sort of self-defeating attitude holds us back. When we decide that we have nothing to offer someone, we’re assuming that we know their mind. But what if you’re wrong? What if what you have to offer is enough? Who are you to decide what someone else deserves/wants from a relationship? You’ll never know if you don’t try. For me at least, I think this sort of thinking is a form of protection against rejection and disappointment. It disguises itself as selflessness, but really its just allowing the fear of negative experiences to control your life. All of the best things that have happened to me happened because I took a risk on something I wasn’t sure would succeed.
@@Uhshawdude I definitely agree that it holds us back and that we're missing on good experiences in life, even if they end up "failing" or not going the way we hoped it would. I thought about this recently, that regrets of not doing something are much worse than regrets about doing something and it not ending up succeeding the way we hoped for. To me it's more of a protection against the fear or disappointing someone else, hurting her or keeping her away from moving forward in her life. Probably because I had an experience that I feel was this case, even though I guess I did help her with some other stuff. Rejection I learned to not be so afraid about it anymore, but still yeah your words resonate for sure. Taking risk and stepping outside our comfort zone and doing things that feels hard at first are definitely the true only way to enjoy worthy experiences and rewards indeed. Appreciate you sharing your mind and personal experience man, wish you the best for the future :)
@@FrenchieSenseiyou hit it right on the head, my motto in life is "risk takers get rewarded" and you will never know what exactly you're missing out on if you never even put yourself in the position to succeed.. you have a defeated mindset before you even take an L which is what I believe one of the greatest ways we can hold ourselves back.. i love the idea of having to be a little delusional in order to make your dreams come true bc it takes like you said getting our of that comfort zone and doing things you only dreamed of to make your dreams a reality... even if your dreams are as mundane as getting a girlfriend/wife. Jus keep taking it one day at a time brother Im rooting for you
It's curious to observe the sudden surge of interest among Westerners in Tantra. Coming from India and following the denomination associated with the Tantric lifestyle, we don't romanticize it or obsess over it as a path to moksha. In fact, it's known as Vamacharya, the Left-Hand Path, which requires profound detachment and dissociation from Grihastya. It's concerning to see some people perceive it as exotic hippie bullcrap that can be casually pursued in places like Rishikesh
@@okayaresd Spot on ! True words indeed, however the West’s interest in such practices isn’t recent, given all the academic work pursued since at least the 19th century, romanticising it is indeed noticeable from certain subcultures or personalities. I think the best book I’ve read about it in all seriousness was Julius Evola’s book on the subject, definitely recommending it
@@cameronvallejo4157 I think because of all our sages and swamis visiting the US during the 70s and 80s lead to this spark. People must've been curious to see folks dressed in Saffron preaching Krishna, but what they don't understand is that the best way to learn about a culture or lifestyle is to live it. In no way do I suggest the Tantric lifestyle 😂 but yes, feel free to research on your own. It's fascinating but not meant for all, and thanks for the book recco. Jai Mata Di ❤
When he mentioned about game addiction during childhood,he was right.When i was a kid,my parents would hide my gaming console in their bedroom cos i was spending too much time on game.Eventually when they are out for work,i would go into their bedroom and search the whole room.When i found where they hide my console,i would played the game but before they get back home i would put back the console in their room.😅 I was not addict.After a while i stop playing console when i reached puberty and my parents did not purchase any new games for us so we played the same game repeatedly which eventually make us stop.These were days with no internet which now i think about it my parents did the right thing for not providing us with Internet Subscription.
@xxtimeisthefireinwhichweburnxx I grew up poor too.I had no toys.Only when i was 16, i bought the stuff i want with my part time jobs music cds mostly and bands merchandise.
I've been watching Rena's videos because I'm getting closer to 50... Recently I started Transcendental Meditation and having issues with the over ambitious PR (eg "TM is not spiritual or religious" "other forms of meditation..." "studies show that TM..."), contradictory pseudo-scientific bullshit and cultish scripted method of teaching. anyway this has put some context on practices and the interplay with real life issues that my teacher is failing to address
One thing that doesn't get discussed much is the pyramid so to speak of sexual addiction, where you have porn at the bottom, once you stop being addicted to porn you go higher up and might get addicted to things like voyeurism and edging which have roots in porn but technically aren't porn. These things are slightly less common but still become addictions, and have less outlets than regular porn usage does to have discussions with peers about. If you get past that addiction then you get to the state where you can think about regular sexual relationships, at that point you need to realize how damaging all these lower energy addictions are and how your most vital energy is used for intimate relationships. Its not that doing one of these things once makes you a bad person, its that making your entire life based around these low energy addictions SURELY turns you into a terrible person over time. You get a natural instinct to avoid these things and you have to key into that on purpose.
Czech actor Jaroslav Dušek is such a good comentator, saying his opinions in Czech language for czech-slovak audience: He studies books about the mindulness and meets people, who teach techniques. They asked him about "current trends in the world". He said: "It is the same as "the plastic dolls with the plastic boobs" they make you believe " how we enjoyed it today again...." "they think they have to provide us with some "magnifying glass" to understand something better, or enjoy something better.... but in the reality, it is the exact opposite. You don´t need any "dolls with the plastic boobs" or "magnifying glass" to enjoy life. He says it in poetic way with a poetic calm voice, but also in the most funny way.
Usually my phone is in my pocket when I'm in the bathroom. Even if I was already watching something the bathroom is time to take a break and relax. Same with taking the train. I don't do it often but it's an hour when I do. I usually just enjoy looking out the window.
retention is so much more challenging than people make it seem, theres literally no shame in falling off the wagon into your practice but some people are out here lying about how to do it and the benefits of it. the most important thing is to learn where you are making mistakes and stop making them, the act of retention is just the vehicle to get there. The number of days does not matter, semen quality will be maxed after about a month, the real benefits is identifying where you make mistakes and stopping them. Superpowers are likely a huge ego trap.
Haven't come across your channel before, but I will say I've enjoyed the video so far. One thing of note is that the audio is kinda horrible tbh, part of it is restricting the video to 720p also cuts down on the audio bandwidth, but I'll say even beyond that the audio mix itself needs to be adjusted. Lots of peaking and buzzing.
I really wonder how many of DR Ks followers are actually accomplishing goals and conquering their traumas , or if there just learning to “accept nothings good and nothing is bad”
I had no idea it was even a thing when I took this path half a century ago. Just liked feeling more energetic. Little did I know what awaited me, nor would I have believed some of the benefits would be possible had I not experienced them firsthand. Here for questions if anyone is interested, assuming I'll be allowed to respond.
It seems like we need to look at porn addiction like any other for example, like smoking, alcohol, drugs etc. The “cold turkey” + substitution approach works well with alcohol for example, where every time you feel the need for booze you substitute with water and stop it right there. For porn, I think exercise may be a great antidote - pull out the yoga mat and strap and dive into a stretching routine for example. Offices that have a separate yoga room may have the right idea.
Listening to both of you talk about NO FAP, I realised you both don't understand it or the motivations. I went from masterbating to porn 12 times a day, having no energy, motivation or even the capacity to do my job. Not masterbating for just 1 week, cleared my mind, gave me focus, gave me motivation, boosted my testosterone, made me cold tolerant, made me driven allowed me to have agency. Allowed me to break free of the shackles of addiction so I could then do the things I wanted to do. So really, guys, you need to have serious addiction yourself and then try it to understand and if you're going to saying something like "well ppl have noctornal emission anyway". You don't when you have ED from porn addiction. The reality is for some people, who I suspect have issues either with the dopamine receptors or the degrading of dopamine in the brain. This is the only thing that works. Yes, mediation can help even more. But for many, the addiction is so powerful, the lack of focus and lack of agency it puts you in is so powerful that you are no longer a conscious human anymore. You are a dog, being led around by anything that catches your attention and when you do just one week of NO FAP, you suddenly become a human again and can control yourself.
I agree, this podcast took it to lightly and almost poked fun at the topic. I was in your same shoes and trying to break free now. I am also addicted to nicotene, and caffeine. They are all connected and breaking through one can help with the rest. Right now I am on my best retention,, 26 days but boy has it been tough at times. Best of luck to you. I also do a lot of meditation, Nei Dan, Ji Jin Jing and Qi Gong. Qi Gong has been great for balancing my energies and keeping me on task.
Im about a month in of no porn or self gratification an i notice already my eyes getting clearer (whiter), i am sleeping better, unfortunately wake up pitchin a tent that lasts more than 30 minutes but also i see a change in my skin in just a short amount of time.
Doctors the younger adults dilemma in our develop countries has majority to do with insecurity of lack of social services, housing, advantageous career opportunities, work life balance and compensation for it. If we had a law pass for a 4 day work week, 6 hour shifts, pay raised and adjusted to the new differential that would help many people entirety. We're wasting valuable time at jobs staying busy or on our devices at work instead of spending timer ourselves, with the people or the communities that are important to us.
I'm Just Tired of Life .. 😔 Im Too Shy to Find a Partner, and there's Issues in making a living as well I can't go on much now .. At most a Few Months 😮💨
The feeling that I don't need what others need to be happy makes mee feel like God. I feel sorry for other men and women who are stuck in this animalistic life and missing out one much higher pleasures life has to offer! Thank God for saving me!
34:57 I disagree with him on this meditation killing desire theory because meditation is unique to the individual. Everyone has their own unique experience with meditation therefore there’s no such thing as doing it wrong. For some people, meditation may do the opposite thing of what you’re saying and how it’s perceived is subjective too.
Meditation does not have fundamentally unique effects from person to person. If that's the case, there's a reason behind it irrelevant to the practice itself that you have to figure out. Either you're just doing it wrong or you have mental blocks to figure out. Meditation has been practiced for thousands of years with consistency. Some random person picking up the practice for a couple months should preach less and learn more.
Mine was my right frontal lobe meningeoma brain tumour, now it's been removed, my filters and cognitive abilities are returning. Oddly enough my prolactin levels have dropped, my testosterone levels are up and I'm loosing weight, so on another one of your discussions re sex hormones it appears pressure on the pituatry gland as a result of intercranial pressure build up/ increase can affect in many ways
Honestly I'll stay using my phone when I'm bored and not doing my daily activities and hobbys.. 😅 don't think I'll lay on my death bed and say to myself I'm glad I sat in boredom all those times instead of watching funny videos or learning somthinf new on the internet/social media. 😅
41:56 What if it is self-brought internal turmoil? PTSD? Childhood Trauma? That is the toxic energy you are receiving and trying to relieve? What then?
Thank you for having us and for this absolutely unique discussion! 💚
Thanks for being on! Great interview
I was so surprised to find HG over here. It's great when HG comes into other corners of the internet that I frequent. It's a bit like finding out that two ppl you know, also came across each other. And it makes the world feel like a slightly more cosy and navigable place!
❤🎉Hey, Girl 🎉❤😊@RenaMalikMD
I needed this episode thank you
@@VSM101 are you really taking those 5'2 indian janitor advices?
33:54 what people get wrong about semen retention
Edit: basically what he's saying is that you only get the benefits of semen retention if you don't even wanna masturbate and don't feel any lust or sexual desires in the first place. So forcing yourself to stop masturbating won't work. Developing your way into a non-lustful existence in which masturbating doesn't even sound like something you'd ever wanna do is what he's talking about.
Thanks
You're the best.
i specifically looked in the comment section for this, thank you so much
thanks for mentioning it was not there in description.
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”we lost our ability to be bored”~ dr. K
Reading this on the toilet
alternative thought: boredom leads to the mindless internet scrolling or excessive porn use. boredom is a crime and this is how you pay
@@The92Wafflescorrect. We should try to be busy. But at some point boredon will happen anyway, and thats the moment we need to have the discipline to be bored instead of picking the phone
@@bat1579 u guys managed to multiply 2 positive numbers and end up with a negative, boredom is a mini-rest where the brain takes a break from the most large motor functions/internal dialogue and sort of consolidates the most recent stimulating/challenging thing. Maybe I'm being dumb here but if you work a 9-5 you'll know if you sincerely work nonstop on your daily tasks you can finish everything by like 12-2 pm and that a lot of productivity comes in waves like REM sleep (circadian) and the much shorter ultraradian window for your focus. ultimately ive sort of lost my point but I mean that being bored is a result of exhausting your brain like lactic acid when you do high intensity workouts and by resting and breathing your physiological functions will get you topped up
@@The92Waffles the best way to understand is to stare at a wall for 20 minutes without moving. One of the worst might be a yt comment section, generally. Very powerful to not be *forced* into an action by boredom, as an external force
"don't take your phone to the bathroom" literally in the bathroom when I heard that
Just leave it outside the door while you listen to the podcast
Avoid sweets, sugar, chocolate, watermelon etc to avoid lust feelings.😊😊😊
Bramhacharya since last 6 months. Try it and be hawas free. ❤💪👍❤
I see comedy while pooping 🤗
Hahahahah 😂
Exactly, same thing
I haven't listened to them all, but this was the best I've heard. I could listen to you guys discuss subjects all day.
I really loved this podcast. I've heard from Dr.K on his channel that he's been on a round of interviews and now I'm stumbling across them. And there are many things he explains from scratch cause the audience on other channels is not used to him. And I benefit from this, as he's telling things slightly different each time and each round I seem to "click" in another detail that I did not touch before.
On the other hand, because it's not his channel and the channel owners are asking him the questions, he also gets to talk about things that are a first, for me. It's really fun. I found this podcast a while ago and it was very delightful. I really enjoy to learn about men specific health concerns, for example. But it's very balanced. There's also things for me as a woman AND approaches on how to work better together, especially when it comes to intimacy.
There are so many ways in which educators and simply "fellow people" saved me over the years. I'm really grateful and I see impact in my real life, thanks to it. So, thank you for sharing your insights and also collaborating to bring out new aspects and combinations.
Thanks for sharing this informative discussion. Many golden nuggets to take into consideration and ponder on. I will be saving sharing this video for others. The scope the the discussion was outstanding.
Just a production note, your microphones need the gain turned down. Great interview!
Was going to say the same, it was still a really great interview!
Turn down the volume?
Yup. Microphones are clipping.
@@Carlos.Riveranope. It's a sound quality issue. Bad recording. If you can't hear it, lucky you.
came here to say this, the distortion is a tad grating
Omg this is everything…TWO of my favorite TH-cam docs on the same video in discussion…many thanks for this one!!!
As a osteopathic and integrative internal medicine physician, physicians need to hear this just as much as patients and the public
Fire episode! I wish EVERYONE was required to watch this video. It's INSANE how much value is in this.
I can honestly say that it felt like 20 minutes long. great interview.
“It’s important to get involved in your children’s lives”. Such a simple, yet very profound quote.
It’s called “vairagya” or the practice of dispassion.
It just means putting less and less importance on the various pleasures (desires) and pains (aversions) experienced through the sense organs, until you are unaffected by either.
Through this practice one attains an inner resiliency.
but why do u want to do that ?
from all the erotic temples in india and the long tantric lineage, it's crystal clear 'passion' or raga is the key to enlightenment.
the master key is the wisdom/method to transmute what is apparently 'bad' to 'good'.
the entire deal has always about union of shiva shakti, brahma maya, nirvana-samsara, male-female principle. why else we have all the tantric deities in sexual pose with their consorts.
@@of8ightandse7en16 tantra is certainly one potential path.
Fortunately, enlightenment is a destination with many paths.
What I described is merely a single limb of ashtanga yoga, not the full path.
So to answer your question, one would practice vairagya if they believe the yogic path is correct for them.
@@jhester23 there are many paths sure. but the way u put it is like vairagya is "the" path.
in fact, nofap became a somewhat anti-woman or women = devil kind of propaganda.
this is in total contrary to the highest yoga in which the feminine is to be worshipped, the shakti.
and by the way, people practice vairagya because celibacy is the standard precept for any so called 'spiritual' pursuit, from buddhist monk, catholic priest, and brahmacharya. this is a later development and certain gurus concealed the 'actual yoga' of the old.
that's exactly the problem. all the ancients worship and practice 2 things. Sex and astrology. from dionysus cult, elesunian msyteries, eucharist, tantra, maithuna, daoist sexual practice, sexual magick.
The entire key has always been transmutation, to turn poison to nectar via skillful means.
The so called yoga these days are already degenerated. All these limbs are latter development, given to the average person to follow.
Alot of people misunderstood napoleon hill and think it's about nofap. but in his other books, he clearly mentioned how a businessman gain a business idea when he climax to his wife. That's a sexual magick, not simply semen retention.
You know something, I see ya’ll on TH-cam quite often and am impressed with the caliber of information and so on. You both will be legends on here soon. Everyone will know your all’s name. Great work you two, great job!
I wish you both talked about PSSD (Post SSRI Sexual Dysfunction)
I do too, I am still suffering from it after 3 years.
Took some SSRI for 3 months and only and I am still suffering.
I dont know how we can reach our message / request to Dr.K
@@ashvinnox7156pray n fast watch gene Kim get saved by Jesus
guys are your doctors not helping you with that wtf?
@@cc1drt no. Try asking a doctor about it
I am actually convinced that not pornography but masturbation caused my severe depression. My body got so used to the hormonal releases that it needed a high dose to keep my stress in check and once the body got overwhelmed depression wasn't far. Stress in my life caused me to seek relief through masturbation but that same habit caused me more and more uncontrolled stress and all that lead to me almost dying. Thank God for my psychiatrist and the strong medicines he gave I was able to get out of my depression within a few weeks after having suffered severe depression for more than 3 years.
This was perfectly timed for me. Great listen.
01:18:30 - "What can you do today that will set yourself up for a good day tomorrow?"
(Delayed gratification)
We didn't have the phone, so we took Playboy into the bathroom. 😂
joined the club
This was easily one of the most interesting podcasts I've ever listened to on TH-cam! Very informative and fun.
"Why are we so addicted to our phones" Hmm I wonder? I ask myself while watching on my phone 😂
That is a fantastic interview and addresses so many issues there are happening just now. Thanks Dr. Malik and your guest is just fantastic, nice to see how casually he talks about complex topics. Definitely will follow up.
😁😁 *A male whale and a female whale were swimming off the coast of Japan when they noticed a whaling ship.* The male whale recognized it as the same ship that had harpooned his father many years earlier. He said to the female whale, "Lets both swim under the ship and blow out of our air holes at the same time and it should cause the ship to turn over and sink." They tried it and sure enough, the ship turned over and quickly sank.
Soon however, the whales realized the sailors had jumped overboard and were swimming to the safety of shore. The male was enraged that they were going to get away and told the female, "Let's swim after them and gobble them up before they reach the shore." At this point, he realized the female was becoming reluctant to follow him. "Look," she said, "I went along with the blow job, but I absolutely refuse to swallow the sea men.
Yeaux!!!!
Lol good one
😂 haha, I always look in the comment section for gems like this 🤣
wtf
Joke took a flight to Japan to land
I commend you on the Marajuana comment. We as a society are clearly in denial in regards to just how many folks are addicted to this substance.
First time I saw porn was probably about age 12 and I'm 47 now so this was back in the 80s, finding magazines hidden in my dad's room.
"Is this other person's life is better alone, or with me ?" is so spot on. That's exactly what goes through my mind when I meet a girl I find interesting, and usually my first thought is that the answer is without me. And I think many guys feel this way, that they're not worthy enough for a woman and that they'll be more of a burden that a bringer of upsides. Even though we might have the feeling we can bring her something, help her out with what she seems to be lacking, it often doesn't match what we feel like she deserve and that we won't be able to provide.
Anyway, great video and really interesting thoughts and facts. Dr. K is truly a blessing, thanks for bringing him in and asking him much more interesting questions than many interviewers do (even though he still manage to be passionate about any subjects despite sometimes meeting bad interviewers hehe) :)
As someone who struggles with this mentality, I think this sort of self-defeating attitude holds us back. When we decide that we have nothing to offer someone, we’re assuming that we know their mind. But what if you’re wrong? What if what you have to offer is enough? Who are you to decide what someone else deserves/wants from a relationship? You’ll never know if you don’t try.
For me at least, I think this sort of thinking is a form of protection against rejection and disappointment. It disguises itself as selflessness, but really its just allowing the fear of negative experiences to control your life. All of the best things that have happened to me happened because I took a risk on something I wasn’t sure would succeed.
@@Uhshawdude I definitely agree that it holds us back and that we're missing on good experiences in life, even if they end up "failing" or not going the way we hoped it would.
I thought about this recently, that regrets of not doing something are much worse than regrets about doing something and it not ending up succeeding the way we hoped for.
To me it's more of a protection against the fear or disappointing someone else, hurting her or keeping her away from moving forward in her life. Probably because I had an experience that I feel was this case, even though I guess I did help her with some other stuff. Rejection I learned to not be so afraid about it anymore, but still yeah your words resonate for sure.
Taking risk and stepping outside our comfort zone and doing things that feels hard at first are definitely the true only way to enjoy worthy experiences and rewards indeed.
Appreciate you sharing your mind and personal experience man, wish you the best for the future :)
@@FrenchieSenseiyou hit it right on the head, my motto in life is "risk takers get rewarded" and you will never know what exactly you're missing out on if you never even put yourself in the position to succeed.. you have a defeated mindset before you even take an L which is what I believe one of the greatest ways we can hold ourselves back.. i love the idea of having to be a little delusional in order to make your dreams come true bc it takes like you said getting our of that comfort zone and doing things you only dreamed of to make your dreams a reality... even if your dreams are as mundane as getting a girlfriend/wife. Jus keep taking it one day at a time brother Im rooting for you
clicked for the title, stayed for advices in productivity, meditation, addiction, etc
You're both such amazing public health advocates, it's great to see you collaborating like this!
Please have more discussions together ! Definitely one of my favourite podcasts on the channel, I hope Dr K gets even more in depth about tantra !
It's curious to observe the sudden surge of interest among Westerners in Tantra. Coming from India and following the denomination associated with the Tantric lifestyle, we don't romanticize it or obsess over it as a path to moksha. In fact, it's known as Vamacharya, the Left-Hand Path, which requires profound detachment and dissociation from Grihastya. It's concerning to see some people perceive it as exotic hippie bullcrap that can be casually pursued in places like Rishikesh
@@okayaresd Spot on ! True words indeed, however the West’s interest in such practices isn’t recent, given all the academic work pursued since at least the 19th century, romanticising it is indeed noticeable from certain subcultures or personalities. I think the best book I’ve read about it in all seriousness was Julius Evola’s book on the subject, definitely recommending it
@@cameronvallejo4157 I think because of all our sages and swamis visiting the US during the 70s and 80s lead to this spark. People must've been curious to see folks dressed in Saffron preaching Krishna, but what they don't understand is that the best way to learn about a culture or lifestyle is to live it. In no way do I suggest the Tantric lifestyle 😂 but yes, feel free to research on your own. It's fascinating but not meant for all, and thanks for the book recco. Jai Mata Di ❤
Wow I didn't ask for this but it is definitely top collab.
Excellent topic Docs!!!! Have a wonderful weekend Doctor Malik!!!!❤
When he mentioned about game addiction during childhood,he was right.When i was a kid,my parents would hide my gaming console in their bedroom cos i was spending too much time on game.Eventually when they are out for work,i would go into their bedroom and search the whole room.When i found where they hide my console,i would played the game but before they get back home i would put back the console in their room.😅 I was not addict.After a while i stop playing console when i reached puberty and my parents did not purchase any new games for us so we played the same game repeatedly which eventually make us stop.These were days with no internet which now i think about it my parents did the right thing for not providing us with Internet Subscription.
@xxtimeisthefireinwhichweburnxx I grew up poor too.I had no toys.Only when i was 16, i bought the stuff i want with my part time jobs music cds mostly and bands merchandise.
What a doctor man! What a knowledge! Never seen ...
What an amazing podcast, I learnt a lot from both of you. Thank you!
Whaat, so surprised about this collab.
Same!
I've been watching Rena's videos because I'm getting closer to 50...
Recently I started Transcendental Meditation and having issues with the over ambitious PR (eg "TM is not spiritual or religious" "other forms of meditation..." "studies show that TM..."), contradictory pseudo-scientific bullshit and cultish scripted method of teaching. anyway this has put some context on practices and the interplay with real life issues that my teacher is failing to address
I am so happy that doctors are being open about this.
Masturbation is major reason for weakness and tiredness
One thing that doesn't get discussed much is the pyramid so to speak of sexual addiction, where you have porn at the bottom, once you stop being addicted to porn you go higher up and might get addicted to things like voyeurism and edging which have roots in porn but technically aren't porn. These things are slightly less common but still become addictions, and have less outlets than regular porn usage does to have discussions with peers about. If you get past that addiction then you get to the state where you can think about regular sexual relationships, at that point you need to realize how damaging all these lower energy addictions are and how your most vital energy is used for intimate relationships. Its not that doing one of these things once makes you a bad person, its that making your entire life based around these low energy addictions SURELY turns you into a terrible person over time. You get a natural instinct to avoid these things and you have to key into that on purpose.
I wasn't expecting this collaboration but I'm interested.
whoever dating or married to RENA is a damn lucky guy.
Brilliant, absolutely brilliant! Thank you
"What's your daily non-negotiable?"
"Being choked into unconsciousness."
amazing wise conversation Thanks for sharing the wisdom !
This is an awesome conversation ❤ I will say, y’all gotta work on your audio, your mics are distorting pretty bad.
Haha nothing can stop the knowledge. Semen retention makes you immortal
Czech actor Jaroslav Dušek is such a good comentator, saying his opinions in Czech language for czech-slovak audience:
He studies books about the mindulness and meets people, who teach techniques.
They asked him about "current trends in the world".
He said: "It is the same as "the plastic dolls with the plastic boobs" they make you believe " how we enjoyed it today again...."
"they think they have to provide us with some "magnifying glass" to understand something better, or enjoy something better....
but in the reality, it is the exact opposite.
You don´t need any "dolls with the plastic boobs" or "magnifying glass" to enjoy life.
He says it in poetic way with a poetic calm voice, but also in the most funny way.
Usually my phone is in my pocket when I'm in the bathroom. Even if I was already watching something the bathroom is time to take a break and relax.
Same with taking the train. I don't do it often but it's an hour when I do. I usually just enjoy looking out the window.
Great invaluable info builds on what Terence McKenna and Jordan Peterson have said about the topic!
This was very informative. I appreciate the knowledge
Just got into retention and tantric and this pops up.
The algorithm got you.
@@Photik That's true but I caught it 8 minutes after she posted it.
retention is so much more challenging than people make it seem, theres literally no shame in falling off the wagon into your practice but some people are out here lying about how to do it and the benefits of it. the most important thing is to learn where you are making mistakes and stop making them, the act of retention is just the vehicle to get there. The number of days does not matter, semen quality will be maxed after about a month, the real benefits is identifying where you make mistakes and stopping them. Superpowers are likely a huge ego trap.
@@Ryan-xq3kl I like that philosophy. I kinda agree w/ you too because when I let loose a few days ago I swear I felt like I was levitating 😂
Great conversation, enjoyed it
Haven't come across your channel before, but I will say I've enjoyed the video so far. One thing of note is that the audio is kinda horrible tbh, part of it is restricting the video to 720p also cuts down on the audio bandwidth, but I'll say even beyond that the audio mix itself needs to be adjusted. Lots of peaking and buzzing.
It's not about how you control or supervise him but rather about how you show him. 🚀🚀❤
I love this guy ❤
His content has helped our family open our minds and understanding of modern social issues and meaning to our lives 🎉
My two favorite medical content creators together, yay!
I really wonder how many of DR Ks followers are actually accomplishing goals and conquering their traumas , or if there just learning to “accept nothings good and nothing is bad”
I had no idea it was even a thing when I took this path half a century ago. Just liked feeling more energetic. Little did I know what awaited me, nor would I have believed some of the benefits would be possible had I not experienced them firsthand. Here for questions if anyone is interested, assuming I'll be allowed to respond.
It seems like we need to look at porn addiction like any other for example, like smoking, alcohol, drugs etc. The “cold turkey” + substitution approach works well with alcohol for example, where every time you feel the need for booze you substitute with water and stop it right there. For porn, I think exercise may be a great antidote - pull out the yoga mat and strap and dive into a stretching routine for example. Offices that have a separate yoga room may have the right idea.
Listening to both of you talk about NO FAP, I realised you both don't understand it or the motivations. I went from masterbating to porn 12 times a day, having no energy, motivation or even the capacity to do my job. Not masterbating for just 1 week, cleared my mind, gave me focus, gave me motivation, boosted my testosterone, made me cold tolerant, made me driven allowed me to have agency. Allowed me to break free of the shackles of addiction so I could then do the things I wanted to do. So really, guys, you need to have serious addiction yourself and then try it to understand and if you're going to saying something like "well ppl have noctornal emission anyway". You don't when you have ED from porn addiction. The reality is for some people, who I suspect have issues either with the dopamine receptors or the degrading of dopamine in the brain. This is the only thing that works. Yes, mediation can help even more. But for many, the addiction is so powerful, the lack of focus and lack of agency it puts you in is so powerful that you are no longer a conscious human anymore. You are a dog, being led around by anything that catches your attention and when you do just one week of NO FAP, you suddenly become a human again and can control yourself.
I agree, this podcast took it to lightly and almost poked fun at the topic. I was in your same shoes and trying to break free now. I am also addicted to nicotene, and caffeine. They are all connected and breaking through one can help with the rest. Right now I am on my best retention,, 26 days but boy has it been tough at times. Best of luck to you. I also do a lot of meditation, Nei Dan, Ji Jin Jing and Qi Gong. Qi Gong has been great for balancing my energies and keeping me on task.
Im about a month in of no porn or self gratification an i notice already my eyes getting clearer (whiter), i am sleeping better, unfortunately wake up pitchin a tent that lasts more than 30 minutes but also i see a change in my skin in just a short amount of time.
Great insights, thanks for this episode.
I appreciate your content, however, your mic audio needs some fine tuning. Perhaps some filters, sounds a but blown out.
Doctors the younger adults dilemma in our develop countries has majority to do with insecurity of lack of social services, housing, advantageous career opportunities, work life balance and compensation for it. If we had a law pass for a 4 day work week, 6 hour shifts, pay raised and adjusted to the new differential that would help many people entirety. We're wasting valuable time at jobs staying busy or on our devices at work instead of spending timer ourselves, with the people or the communities that are important to us.
Outstanding, thank you.
Semen retention is about creating tension and energy in your body which you then redirect towards productive actions
I'm Just Tired of Life .. 😔
Im Too Shy to Find a Partner, and there's Issues in making a living as well
I can't go on much now .. At most a Few Months 😮💨
Don’t quit!
You’re awesome ❤
This content is great I just wish the sound quality was better, it sounds like there’s a lot of clipping. 😢
"You are doing SR wrong" :))
He describes what Brahmacharya is, one cannot wrongly retain from something.
”we lost our ability to be bored”~ dr. K
The feeling that I don't need what others need to be happy makes mee feel like God. I feel sorry for other men and women who are stuck in this animalistic life and missing out one much higher pleasures life has to offer! Thank God for saving me!
34:57 I disagree with him on this meditation killing desire theory because meditation is unique to the individual. Everyone has their own unique experience with meditation therefore there’s no such thing as doing it wrong. For some people, meditation may do the opposite thing of what you’re saying and how it’s perceived is subjective too.
Meditation does not have fundamentally unique effects from person to person. If that's the case, there's a reason behind it irrelevant to the practice itself that you have to figure out. Either you're just doing it wrong or you have mental blocks to figure out. Meditation has been practiced for thousands of years with consistency. Some random person picking up the practice for a couple months should preach less and learn more.
Awesome Episode!
I take my phone to the bathroom to watch HealthyGamerGG
I take my phone to the bathroom because I can be productive at a time when my productivity is limited to taking sht not accomplishing something.
Thanks Doctors👍
Wow Unexpected but greatly appreciated !!!
Great episode. I do think the guest is a bit disconnected from the realities of the dating world though
Such a good podcast!
Thank you Dr. Malik! You look nice and very professional like a medical school professor!
The best episode of your podcast ❤ excellent information
listened to this whole thing, was awesome.
There are different ways besides meditation to reduce desires. Contemplation and reading scripture can also change the state of mind
Mine was my right frontal lobe meningeoma brain tumour, now it's been removed, my filters and cognitive abilities are returning.
Oddly enough my prolactin levels have dropped, my testosterone levels are up and I'm loosing weight, so on another one of your discussions re sex hormones it appears pressure on the pituatry gland as a result of intercranial pressure build up/ increase can affect in many ways
I am really happy where i am now !
So Dr. K is goona appear everywhere on my feed 😅
I am going to mark this as watch later.
Watched from 33:54. Important point : 36:34 , 1:09:00
Oh my god! I follow you both! Greetings from Brazil! What a crossover!
You forgot to edit the audio on the first "sponsored" section.
52:00 does this apply to people who watch a lot of TH-cam? Surely listening to speech slows the atrophy of communicative skills?
great stuff but i didnt see most of it becuase you have too many adverts its annoying
THIS VIDEO IS WHAT I ALWAYS LONGED FOR ❤
5:50 watching in 2x speed to save time XD
Thanks!
A lot of abrupt cuts, it means that either a lot of info wasn't shared in the video or your editor sucks big time.
The only place I take my is with me when I go out- shopping, work, etc. What is "Bored", I have too much to do.
What are you saying? Please work on your writing skills.
@@pocopico7409 the topic= my phone
Too many add! Makes it unwatchable.
Honestly I'll stay using my phone when I'm bored and not doing my daily activities and hobbys.. 😅 don't think I'll lay on my death bed and say to myself I'm glad I sat in boredom all those times instead of watching funny videos or learning somthinf new on the internet/social media. 😅
why?
41:56 What if it is self-brought internal turmoil? PTSD? Childhood Trauma? That is the toxic energy you are receiving and trying to relieve? What then?