As a person who lost their brother unexpectedly last year, I can honestly say I got reeeeeeeaaaaaally tired of people “giving condolences”. It got really old, really fast. I am autistic so I deal with social communication and interaction differently than neurotypical people, but I preferred people to not bring it up and instead, ask if I needed anything, or just be present with me. Like this woman says: we know we’ve experienced loss. Exactly. I don’t feel like I need to start every interaction with someone bringing up my loss. Personally I prefer not to be given condolences (often very empty feeling). I’d rather feel supported by someone’s words and actions. “Is there anything you need?” “How are you doing?” (Followed by active listening) Or doing a few chores around the home or bringing food. I’ll never forget when my two best friends (siblings) lost their mother when we were in early high school. At the funeral people kept coming up to us and they were mistaking me and the sister’s boyfriend for the kids that had lost their mom and giving us condolences instead of them, and it just seemed so empty and inconsiderate. This is just my opinion, but I thought I’d add this in case others thought like me.
I know right? And it’s EVERYTHING, I remember when they got rid of that, it was on a night I really needed it and I was able to get to sleep at 5am just an hour before school that morning.
Thank you for the video. I was struggling what to say to my friend who lost his father. I truly care about him but I was like "Is it okay to say ...?" "Is it okay if I act the same way as the loss happened? Or should I be showing him my sadnesses? But isn't it better if I don't be in a sad place while he's already in a sad place?"...and so on. I didn't know much about grief care. I want to support him but I was afraid to make any mistakes. I was so scared to talk with him. So this video helped me a lot. I will try to be with him as much as I can! I will try to show him that I care. I've heard the story that some people avoid their friends because they just don't know how to act to friends' grief. We need more education.
I lost everyone I loved and everyone who loved me this past year due to the pandemic either directly or indirectly. Perhaps you can post m editions to help the grieving. Especially how to deal with the immense pain and the sudden aloneness. Not loneliness but aloneness. Thank you.
That's really hard. Plus, not everyone around us recognizes the gravity of such loss, which can feel invalidating. Know this, our animal companions are family, and their loss is real and significant. So, we must give ourselves permission to fully grieve them. 🙏
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As a person who lost their brother unexpectedly last year, I can honestly say I got reeeeeeeaaaaaally tired of people “giving condolences”. It got really old, really fast. I am autistic so I deal with social communication and interaction differently than neurotypical people, but I preferred people to not bring it up and instead, ask if I needed anything, or just be present with me. Like this woman says: we know we’ve experienced loss. Exactly. I don’t feel like I need to start every interaction with someone bringing up my loss. Personally I prefer not to be given condolences (often very empty feeling). I’d rather feel supported by someone’s words and actions. “Is there anything you need?” “How are you doing?” (Followed by active listening) Or doing a few chores around the home or bringing food.
I’ll never forget when my two best friends (siblings) lost their mother when we were in early high school. At the funeral people kept coming up to us and they were mistaking me and the sister’s boyfriend for the kids that had lost their mom and giving us condolences instead of them, and it just seemed so empty and inconsiderate. This is just my opinion, but I thought I’d add this in case others thought like me.
I don't usually like to write this kind of comment, but one of the losses recently is making almost everything paid in headspace !
Lmao... I love headspace but unfortunately can't pay for it.
I know right? And it’s EVERYTHING, I remember when they got rid of that, it was on a night I really needed it and I was able to get to sleep at 5am just an hour before school that morning.
yeah, it's really sad not to be able to get even to the basics
Thank you for this. I’ve lost a close friend and an uncle this year. It’s been so hard.
I want more Headspace Expert videos
Thank you for the video. I was struggling what to say to my friend who lost his father. I truly care about him but I was like "Is it okay to say ...?" "Is it okay if I act the same way as the loss happened? Or should I be showing him my sadnesses? But isn't it better if I don't be in a sad place while he's already in a sad place?"...and so on. I didn't know much about grief care. I want to support him but I was afraid to make any mistakes. I was so scared to talk with him. So this video helped me a lot. I will try to be with him as much as I can! I will try to show him that I care. I've heard the story that some people avoid their friends because they just don't know how to act to friends' grief. We need more education.
"...how important it can be to the Griever to bear witness to their loss and extend compassion to them in even the smallest of gestures..."
Thanks Andy for your app and all videos you changed my life
I lost everyone I loved and everyone who loved me this past year due to the pandemic either directly or indirectly. Perhaps you can post m editions to help the grieving. Especially how to deal with the immense pain and the sudden aloneness. Not loneliness but aloneness. Thank you.
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Wow, awesome. Thanks a lot!
Thank you 😊
Thanks.
Thank you a lot!! 😊
Thank you…. I just lost my toy poodle of 14 years.
😭😭 losing animals is so hard, especially one that you’ve had that long. I’m sorry for your loss 💜💚
I’m so sorry for you loss! Pets are more than just pets, they are unconditional love. They are family. 💕
That's really hard. Plus, not everyone around us recognizes the gravity of such loss, which can feel invalidating.
Know this, our animal companions are family, and their loss is real and significant. So, we must give ourselves permission to fully grieve them. 🙏
🙏 Thanks