First Lady Advises Single Christian Women: 'Get Outside to Find a Man!' | Complexities of Love Panel
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- Did The First Lady Advise Single Christian Women to 'Get Outside to Find a Man'?
Join our dynamic panel as they discuss the complexities of love, including dating struggles, overcoming drug addiction, the decision to freeze eggs, and an unexpected piece of advice from the First Lady! This episode is packed with heartfelt stories and surprising insights.
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Jessica Rich, Akilah S. Wallace, Curtis Corbins, Jordan McNair, Rodney & Toni Nalle, Bryan & Stephanie Carter
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It's funny when people say being single a long time is a red flag. Nah a bunch of relationships is a red flag. Quality over quantity.
so true..those are the people who bounce from relationships to relationships then can't figure it out why it doesn't work out😮
Agree
Listen! I’m like so exercising discernment is a red flag?
#facts :-)
😂😂so true
It's funny how in the Bible how Rachel, Rebecca, and Ruth were minding their own business doing whatever they were doing not purposefully trying to be found by a man. Favor was upon their lives and God Himself ordered their steps to the right place at the right time to be found.
This is how I date! By NOT dating lol I just live my life
That was my 1st thought, and I will say those very things to others. It's NOT biblical. GOD led Eve to Adam and then presented her to him. Adam recognized that part of himself that God removed now being in woman, then Adam chose her.
Abraham's servant led Rebekah to Isaac. He didn't even take her to Abraham. Where do we see that before in scripture. When God led woman to Adam. We are seeing this once again with the servant and Rebecca. We now have an example that has now happened twice in God's word. The leading of a woman to her spouse.
The situation with Ruth was the need for a kinsmen redeemer. It guaranteed the continuation of Naomi's family line. From that family line came David, more importantly Christ.
We eat up, take in, absorb non biblical doctrine. Now days, the body is full of it. We need to stop it with this foolishness and get back to the truth of God's word.
I heard a lady say just today... we now want God's word to conform to 'Us' verses coming into alignment and bowing our knees to God's word.
Thank you, Constance, for speaking truths of what the bible states. When people present foolishness to me, I will say give me book, chapter, verse (s) and biblical context.
Ruth definitely wasn't minding her own business😂 she made her presence none to Boaz through the guidance of her mother in-law.
@sylvia no ma'am, she was minding when he FIRST saw her! 😂
Mother-in-law just read his interest through the way he treated Ruth and told Sis to jump on it 😎
Ruth 2 Gleans in Boaz' Field
1 ¶ And Naomi had a kinsman of her husband's, a mighty man of wealth, of the family of Elimelech; and his name was Boaz.
2 And Ruth the Moabitess said unto Naomi, Let me now go to the field, and glean ears of corn after him in whose sight I shall find grace. And she said unto her, Go, my daughter.
I love the comment that the first lady said about "getting out in these streets." You can pray all you want for the man of your dreams but at some point you will have to take action outside of church, whether it's joining a gym or joining a dating app, etc. You're not gonna meet anybody without taking action towards it. Even the Bible says: "Faith without works is dead". So, have faith and pray to God that He'll send you a great godly man but after you pray: Get in those streets!
No dating apps for God's people.
She's right about going outside. Many aren't living the life in the church. The choices aren't as good as they used to be either.
Great panel. I appreciate the First Lady’s realistic remarks on dating.
Amen!!! My Cousin Met her New Husband on a Christian Dating Site❤️❤️❤️
I love to hear couple’s testimonies that have overcome with Christ. ❤
Thank you so much Laterras, for the opportunity to share my story and be a panelist!
I pray I will inspire women to learn more about their options to preserve their fertility and know that they are not alone🙏🏾
Are you still single?
So good!! I love how real each person was. Tell the truth & shame the devil!
Man, I went visit a church, they had a singles ministry, I avoided for 2 months, finally I went. Maaaaan it was 11 men to 89 women and this meeting. By Thursdays bible class and Sundays morning service 8am. I had 7 women claiming I was their husband. Never met them, never conversation with them. I had phone numbers pass to me by ushers and Deacons , Noted on my car, in my seat after getting up for offering call. The attention scared 😱 me because I didn’t know who they or where all this attention is coming from. I went ghost for 6 months. I finally came back but just for morning service 8am 😉.
That was a lot smh
Sounds overwhelming I felt the same way I went out to watch the game and was so overstimulated
@@brittneymarshall8951 Were they single mums in their 40s? I don't think 25 year old virgins go to singles meetings
I wish black women would stop being so desperate and go outside the race and get men of other races and then they would have a Equal dating pool. Black women act like they don't get it that some black men do not want to date black women and also that there is not enough good bm to go around due to various issues in our community.
Some of the biggest players is in the church ! Correct. I need to live,experience life,meet people. Thanks first Lady😊
This panel was amazing. Well done y'all we have something to take away from all of y'all life journey. Blessings to u all👏🏿
Thank you again for this podcast!! I'm so so happy for the first 💓 lady and pastor .I needed to hear all of this good information 👏. Thank you Laterras you are an awesome young handsome man.Glory to God I'm single an 63 and learning how to enjoy and love myself. ❤
Enjoy the season God has u in. I love that Pastor 👏🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
I totally agree with the pastor's wife! People have to look beyond churches.
Cmon get out in these streets! That took me out! 😂But yes ma’am!💗💗💗💗
Great Conversations. 💯💯💯
Relationship are important!!!!!
Blessed are the Peacemakers
Best healing comes from helping others!
This was an amazing and refreshingly transparent conversation! I thoroughly enjoyed it. 😊❤
This absolutely needed to be at the very least, 2hrs. Hope you helped make that possible love connection!!😂 Enjoyed the show!!!😊👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I L❤ved This!! Thanks for the realness!
Another great Podcast Laterras! It was awesome! I loved the mix of guest on this show because they bring a wealth of knowledge from different perspectives. I can really relate to Curtis, myself, being divorced twice and single for a long.....time because i had to heal from the pain of the past. It took me many years to finally embrace my singleness and enjoy the many blessings God has bestowed upon me as a single woman.
I like that, Divorce Care Ministry
Thank you for keeping it real First Lady! And I felt the Lord all up in your wisdom.
I really enjoy the dear future wifey podcast!❤
Ok, now Laterras when are you coming to Raleigh NC??Love your podcast,watch it faithfully every week.
"Get out of the church," they aren't there anyway!!!
Shole ain't in many churches
PRESENT!!! Liking before i even listen because from the title i know its going to be LIT!!❤
Really???
Thank you Sister for keeping it real that we need to get out if we want to be found. Most sisters are sitting in church wanting for a brother to come through those doors.
Thank you Laterras, blessings🎉
Liked how the single mum kept it real
Cautionary tale...have her best years to the streets and is now looking for a clean up man.
@@tri3pleagent hmmm even when u wait patiently in your best years, life can still mess u up
@@tri3pleagent men do it all the time.
😂😂😂😂😂😂 I love this podcast 😂😂 Laterras you are hilarious ❤
I believe her because Holy Spirit told me to “OPEN UP” because I’m not being seen.
Absolutely Awesome 👏🏾
I am with her 100% SOFT LOVE!!!!
This was amazing! I’m going to enjoy the single season that I am in! ❤
😂🤣 Yes she did say that!
Please let us know if the ‘connection’ was made 😉😁
I cold bet money that somebody met the love of their life or in the future will meet the love of their lives at a Dear Future Wifey on the road live recording.
Very very powerful podcasts it's nice to see a mix of real folks being real and no sugar coating nice one Mr Whitfield blessings always 😙
Akelah story is my story.. love the transparency
Lord God thank you for allowing me to see and hear my prayers so that I can continue to check myself and add or subtract from my specifics in regard to my husband so that my (our communication will still be spirit lead) Amen
Thank you First Lady!
Wow! I love this content! Thank you Laterria! Praise God💐🔥
I love my church🦋
First Lady was absolutely correct. Get in these streets! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Funny but very informative!!! Thanks for sharing!!
Yesss, protect your home/marriage... from the Church - Work Hard To Protect What God Has Given Us✨💃🏽🕺🏾✨
"Some of the biggest players are at Church!" {Wisdom 💯}
I Appreciate The "Authenticity On Dear Future Wifey!"✨ 💯
I went outside the church and met a guy who doesn't believe in Christ. Hurt me so bad bc im in ministry, I am a pastor's daughter. I stayed around thinking my lifestyle would change him. Nope. So embarrassing. Tired of wasting time
Lol no wonder why y'all get married and divorce in less than a year. As woman we don't go around looking for a man to marry us, we wait for a husband. If you do that...its a sign of desperation and lack of trust in God timing. The only match maker is God just focus on him and build yourself.
Amen
The only matchmaker is not God though, historically most cultures rely on family to help young people find spouses. This idea that it's only about you and God is actually an American cultural ideal, not biblical
@@utamu777No wonder why we have so many unhappy married women in the villages. Nothing was agreed! Women were forced in marriages, this is not American but biblical. A marriage was created by God for his purpose.
This was awesome. ❤😁🙏🏽
Blessed episode!
Although I am ,63..I am still learning
I'm 64 and still learning, still growing, still learning what love really is. It's on going my sister....on going! Yet we are not to old for love, for romance, for God to bring that to us, and He will!
I enjoyed every bit of this
Hey Curtis!!!!!
Hey Curtis Hey! ❤
We need to have a conversation about dating as a Leah, because there's more Leahs out here than Rachels 😢
Heres a free tip if you want a great professional black man go to a tech conference. You're welcome. You will be outnumbered probably 10-1. The same with a COMMERCIAL (keyword) gym but I don't know if they are professional unless you probably go after 5 pm.
Love this podcast. Great information. Just a little constructive criticism: Laterras' laughing was a great distraction. I Thought some comments were serious and did not warrant laughter. All in all I loved the discussion. Keep up the good work.
CJ
If that pastor say like one more time I’m going to pull out my Locs 😂
This was a good episode 🤣🙂❤
Me very lonely nights, for over 10 years 😢😢😢
This was good! Great panel!
Divorce care ministry? I heard of marriage ministry but divorce care? WOW! This church is forward thinking.
@dearfuturewifey is there a stop in Atlanta? I hope I didn't miss it, would love to see the show live.
Be led by the Spirit of the Lord!
That happens with a lot of people they have a bunch of baby daddies and mommas in their 20s and then in their 40s they are mad at God or blaming the other sex. God forgives and forgets but people rarely do. Most men don't want to deal with all that baggage that's why you have to make sure you always making wise decisions.
God forgives, but the consequences remain. A man can forgive a woman her past, but he has to think carefully about whether she is right to marry. A past in most cases would indicate not being marriage material.
@@markaurelius61 Yep!
🙋♀️ I'm interested in the soft life 😂
LIT ❤
Laterras, come to New Orleans!
Some of the biggest players are in the church… I learned that the hard way.
Good panel
Out in these streets!
My opinion: there is so much that is missing from the panel sessions. I wish you were able to dig a little more into the conversations with the panelists.
Like what?
Hallelujah
Love this brother the channel/podcast AND his guests. However, I will do no such thing 😊 no Señor I'll strap on these sandals to spread the good news of the gospel but not to scour out my GOD given husband ....NO SEÑOR! I DO have to watch THIS ONE in it's entirety. I NEVER comment prior to watching but the title had me like, SAY what? Smh.....I KNOW it's going to be great!
I'm with you sis. I've been alive long enough to see what people who went out 'hunting' caught as their spouse. Half of them are still together but those 'catches' are not for me. 😆
I believe what she meant is that you cannot stay in the house all day and night, not go to local or other events, etc. and expect that someone is going to come knock on your door and “find” you.
While you are out spreading the Gospel, you will be seen by the right one for you.
@@ShirleyLaTour AMEN... AAAmen! I agree with that I will not be found hiding out in my room...my apartment! Yes it has been prophesied to me on several occasions from folks not at all connected to one another or myself. That my Adam would find me in the fields lol so AAAMEN to that! Working the field's has been my safe place .....but I do hide in those fields lol #mysafeplace ☺
@BearingMySeoul LISTEN!! 🤭😂 Twas the "catches" for me. Iont wanna catch NOTHING, not even cold whew 😂
Wholeheartedly with you on this one 👏🏾👏🏾
Will you be coming to Montreal, Quebec?
No phones in 92 😂
🗣️🗣️🗣️they don’t know why we worship the way we do. Y’all don’t know my story.
Speak First Lady 😅
Yes… and I’m in these street… glad she said it
This is good
Yes First Lady ❤❤❤
This the Realest 🎉❤
1. Work hard to protect what God has given us. 2. Some of the biggest players are in the church- Facts.
I so love her ❤
Heeeeyyyyyy, Curtis. 😅
I love that these panelists applied to be there...shows how accessible this platform still is even with it being so worldwide. I want in next, coach! :)
I wonder if Jordan does stuff like this a lot, It'd be awesome to connect with like-minded YA in the area.
I'm always outside
🥳🥳🥳first one here
Watching from malawi,Africa!
Get out in these streets. Yessssd
I’m excited, Thank you.
@nicegram-me-DearFutureWifey
Thank you again . What do I do next?
Amen 🙏🏽
I love ❤️ her!!
In my opinion her best choice should have been trust God and lean not on your own understanding, but that's between her and God.... The church is still the bride of Christ ...so lets mindset how we reference the church, we build up not join with the unbeliever and knit pick the church....the church is a group of believers doing their best to serve God with the resources of the word of God...we should be *patient* with the church or the bride of Christ ....just my opinion...
*mindful
Akelah in my opinion isn’t ready for marriage.
Are you coming to Baltimore Dmv area New Psalmist Baptist Church Where the Bishop Thomas is the Head pastor could be a Location to consider that can hold you and your followers
@2:37 - I'm 56 years LOL just saying
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This is Goood!!!!
It's not funny when women choose to have children with men their family don't even know. It's become way too common and definitely shouldn't be spoken of in folly with "saved people" who should be a better example than worldly people. Not cool. A man and life with is now an afterthought in your 40s. I wish KS was still here. No your sons should not be responsible for you in your old age, they should have lives with wives to take care of.
Most people's families do not take responsibility for finding spouses for their children, if they did, this topic wouldn't even be relevant. In many cultures parents rely on their children to take care of them in old age - and it's primarily women that take care of the daily needs of elderly relatives. This is the same whether a woman is married or not.
KS was a menace to society.
He perpetuated the same misogynistic rhetoric that kept women in 50 year long, unhealthy marriages.
He advocated for women to put up with cheating, He said women shouldn't believe their child if a man SA them, he believed in husbands physically abusing their wife under the guise of "discipline", he never gave men the advice to live as MORALLY as he imposed on women. And he died being "serviced" by the same type of women he so-called dispised.
🙌🏽🙌🏽
Tough conversations nobody wants to have:
1. That it may not be Lord's will for you to get married aka Dear Future me and not wifey.
2. About finance and not starting your marriage in debt like 67% of Americans even though finances is the #1 cause of divorce.
Yes, and how much of that debt is from time-wasting college degrees?