MedCircle thank you guys so much for all the videos you done with Dr.Ramani! She has been extremely helpful and helps me realized what my ex boyfriends were like and push me to find ways to avoid these types of people in the future!
I just paid $120 to med circle so I could watch the entire segment on this disorder which was nine separate videos. I was very disappointed by the constant repeating of the same information over and over. As a healthcare worker for over a decade, I expected a lot more detail and information than what was presented. antisocial personality disorder is one of the most complex and one of the most dangerous of all the personality disorders listed it certainly is not neat and tidy nor is it black and white. Perhaps I should have made my own TH-cam video. It certainly was not worth $120.
That's because this was a deceptive title designed to sell you something. Actions speak quite loudly don't they? The problem is with whomever mislabeled this video.
I love how she points out that our society is rewarding people with these conditions, rewarding people who hurt others to get ahead, to our own detrement. This is such a huge issue right now. We praise people who are rich and powerful and tend to overlook how they got there by exploiting others.
IMO - it has always been that way. It's just that we didn't have the technology or social media to connect the dots all at the same time, and rapidly. If you read back through history and study archaeological remains to see how routinely cruel humans were to each other.
Yes. Manipulators use others to get a benefit for themselves and since business is only about more currency, sociopaths and psychopaths and narcissists use other people to get benefits for themselves and climb the professional ladder where the rings are other people. Employee owned companies would likely be better run and not as likely to be managed and run by these dangerous and toxic people as they will be prevented from climbing over others and abusing them.
@@JamesTyreeII Yea no, they have to be family businesses and even those eventually fail. Saying that employee owned companies on a large scale would be better is like claiming that communism doesn't produce toxic leaders when it has every time. Or even on a small scale, communes, always failed. Fundamentally the skin in the game isn't there, employee doesn't lose their house if the company goes bankrupt in the same way a true owner stake holder would, so the bad incentives are there as they take profits but none of the real risk. And the people who think they have the answers tend to have reverence for academia and such institutions, which select for "strivers", credentialed psychopaths.
@@omgwtfbbqstfu First of all… Merry Christmas… Second of all, I don’t think you are accurate at all. Employees who own a company have skin in the game because there is the profit motive and incentive and it is not communism. It’s collectivism. And there’s nothing wrong with that. The idea of us being independent is a myth. We are actually quite interdependent and what happens in one place affects people in another place. For instance, the effects of bad traffic in one place can be felt as far away as 200 miles away because it is a system and the Network. That is why when I see the advisory signs advising a slower speed than the speed limit, I always obey that because they know something that I don’t know that the Network up the head is clogged and we need to slow down to avoid backing it up further. Nobody else seems to pay attention and then it gets backed up because of a bunch of idiots who refuse to acknowledge reality. Vulture capitalism is what we have right now far too often and besides criticizing employee owned companies, I don’t know what you think the solution is but the system we have now certainly does not work because it rewards predatory capitalism At the expense of smaller scale ethical business. Right wing authoritarians exist and are a threat to human life it’s self and they always get into positions of power because they want to dominate and control other people and impose their will upon them. This is what happens with communism which is not really communism even if it starts out that way. Peversion by right wing authoritarian
sociopaths are created from abuse. we do not know correct behavior from love. i was beaten for being raped, my mum left me with these monsters, drunk horrid humans who would be upset at their lives and hurt us because of it. force us to wear dirty clothes and be tortured at school. we just dont trust anyone.i wish i could know different.
Elaine Carpenter no it’s not, if you read what it says under the title, it explains what the video title is about and explains what the video is going to be about and summarizes everything this video is about. It’s just a summary title.
@@demetriusmiddleton1246 Same, my sister is in a really weird relationship. And since she met the guy im worried. He frightens me and does not understand "fun" "art" and he claims to be a "Human Encyclopedia".
Yes.. most people are looking for comfort, instead of clarity and truth. We like to put our responsibility in the hands of others, and exactly this is what a narcissist wants.
Andrea Brewer - Absolutely agree...definitely be mindful of their actions..as in consistent actions. SOME of them are very covert & we don't see their inconsistencies with their actions as fast because these predators study their prey and mimic what they see in THEIR mind.
Kathryn Johnson you & @Andrea are absolutely right. My ex was very covert. The girl he cheated on me with that he was friends with for seven years, didn’t know what kind of monster he was and I didn’t know what kind of monster he was until I went back to him after almost a year and dated him for three months and saw everything like I’ve never seen before. That was the last straw and that was it
@Nora Peace, I used to wonder WHY people RETURN to their abuser, HOWEVER, not anymore AFTER doing the very SAME thing I had questioned others of doing. I better understand the reasons (plural) NOW...1) financial security, 2) LOW self esteem, 3) children, 4) neediness, 5) strongly suffering cognitive dissonance...which is what I suffered and WHY I returned to my former fiance and became engaged to him a 2nd time...close call because I almost married him THAT time...phew! Instead, I was blessed to wake from the slumber and the veil fell from my spiritual eyes and ears so that I could see him for WHOSE child he was...meaning Satan's! I have absolutely NO communications with him to THIS day, BUT on a positive note: he taught me where my weaknesses were. I hope you're blessed from hereon and never have to endure another one of these predators that suck the life right out of their prey.
Kathryn Johnson I went back bc I didn’t know FOR SURE he had cheated on me. I talked to the girl after a YEAR went by and she confirmed that they were “fuck buddies” and honestly she told me to give him another chance, that he loved me & blah blah blah. But I did still love him. Even though it wasn’t real to him, it was to me. I think that’s why victims go back, they either don’t know what was really going on or 2. They really fell in love with the love bombing stage and want to return to it. It’s very sad. But thank you. I hope you never go back to that kind of abuse or or any kind of abuse ever again
Nora Peace - The love bombing...WOE! I totally understand the way some of them tend to go overboard with the "love" bombing as my former finance totally went all out and I think I felt like I was living a fairy tale love story...lol...BUT the problem with THAT is that it was NOT practical or honest on my end either AND I shouldn't have accepted ALL of the expensive gifts OR went on costly mini getaway trips and a cruise with him because ALL of THAT made me feel "obligated" and sent a NEGATIVE message across that I was for sale. I didn't see it THAT way when being so overwhelmingly love bombed because I was...honestly speaking, a bit shallow and superficial. I've grown past those ways though and have instead grown spiritually closer with Almighty Father while accepting responsibility on my end for...well, contributing towards the relationship that never should have been in the first place. Thank you for the kind regards. I hope the same for you. Nora, MANY of these hardcore narcs have diseases due to their extracurricular activity and infidelity. They seem to crave sex and usually are VERY sexually active BECAUSE WHEN they're having sex...get THIS!...they're making love to themselves in their mind! Eerie but true. I'd read THAT a few years ago and pondered thought on this& it seems to match what I recall about his extraordinary sexual cravings and somewhat explained WHY he always seemed to be EXTREMELY tentative and EVEN emotional. I regret that I allowed him to even touch me and will NEVER again have sexual relations with a man BEFORE marriage. THAT is just me though.
I love her as if she were family. She is honest and she explains everything she is asked in a plain way. No arrogance. No medical therms. Just plain and honest answers. She is accurate and I watch every videos she is in and I hope I can change my bad behaviors and hope to not be or become a narcissist. Al respect to you guys. Thanks for the videos.
@@dannydvp303 from what I understand from dr. Ramani is that sociopaths are made, narcissists are born, psychopaths are born. I hope it's not possible to become a narcissist. Everybody should have your attitude
@@GS-st9ns Both genetics and environment play a role. On the Internet we tend to use the label "psychopath" to talk about someone with ASPD that seems to have had a normal-ish childhood and "sociopath" for those who grew up in an abusive environement, but it's an oversimplification. If a person with ASPD has severe childhood trauma but doesn't trust their therapist enough to disclose it, does that make them a psychopath or a sociopath? What if a person with ASPD does have trauma but also started to show early signs of ASPD (conduct disorder without prosocial behaviour) before the traumatic event occured? The line between psychopaths and sociopaths is pretty blurry. Same for narcissism: it seems unlikely that someone with a perfect childhood and education would go on to develop those unhealthy patterns of behaviour, but sometimes the narcissist isn't aware of what went wrong. Research suggests that NPD traits are somewhat heritable. In any case, even if someone doesn't qualify for NPD, it's still a good idea to look inward to get rid of toxic traits.
“when we deal with REALITY, we can make better DECISIONS.” currently going through a pre trial of being assaulted from my sociopathic ex boyfriend, these videos are helping me very much. thank you
I watch MedCircle only because of Dr. Ramani but I couldn't tell why exactly. Thanks for explaining it for me... Dr. Ramani is brutally honest but humane. She chooses to remove all the warm and fuzzy useless stuff, in a way that is humane and not narcissistic.
As a Person diagnosed with ASPD, I "got it" through extensive trauma and I was deeply offended by the way we are ALWAYS described as Deceitful liars who do nothing but harming other people for our own sick amusement. I acknowledge that I have harmed a LOT of people with my most frequent behaviours but I cannot, in good conscience say that I enjoyed it or anything of the sorts, that's how I function, and even though I started going to therapy to try and ease my symptoms, they can still show up when I feel bored, angry or resentful. I do not feel as if I am a freak but more like a broken person sometimes, it's hard to connect and form non shallow relationships. And it gets even harder with this kind of "advertisment" on the disorder because everyone tends to think of me as potential abuser or "narcissistic pervert" or whatever the hell Freud called it. We're not monsters and even though we can sometimes be extremely difficult, most of the other people I know with this disorder (4 out 7, I'm in a support group online for people with ASPD and traumatic experiences) really try their best to manage their symptoms at least and supress them at most. So yeah (in my opinion at least) not that great of a title, it should be remade into "Why people with ASPD are evil pieces of shit in the eyes of psychotypical people". Gee, psychophobia from mental health care professionals always peeves me...And If you don't agree or want to prove me I'm wrong, feel free not to do it, I'll only block you. This is my own take on the issue and no one else's, so please don't try to argue
I don't hear any guilt in what you're saying. this is very classic for sociopaths. "I know I did a bad thing, but...." all the time. dr Ramani just wants to protect those people to stay out from people like you to not get hurt. if it's how you function it's not your fault but if it's not treatable you'll lose people eventually because nobody is obligated to get hurt to please you and pity you, even if it's an illness.
I was severely abused by a psychopath for 4 years and a narcissist for 2 years after that. I would love to share my story. I know how insanely dangerous it is and I’m lucky to be alive
My BPD ex was in so much pain, but his abuse and explosive nature left me with PTSD and so, also the people that are in pain, DO cause pain for those around them. Feeling sorry for them is a great hook that keeps us on the line, so to speak and they reel us in and push us out til we think we are the crazy ones.
My understanding: a psychopath can be either Michael Myers or a professional person in a suit. A sociopath could be the criminal down the street or the person you’re dating. It’s scary because they’re very intermixed. The key is empathy. Can they actually relate to you when you’re describing how you feel or to another person etc, if you feel like they’re just not “getting you” very often....that’s a red flag.
Its not that cut and dry though, and I don't think its a "red flag" for someone to be apathetic. I'm diagnosed with APD but like I have no criminal record and haven't ever thought of doing anything criminal. I can also still like people and build relationships, I just cant empathize with people (its hard to explain.).
@@Noidonteatbabiesstopasking yea it could be. Its normal to empathize/ feel the pain of others but sometimes I guess it’s not there. Not for sinister reasons either.
I love her professionalism and how straightforward but simple she is explaining every concept so it can be understandable for people who doesn’t know enough about mental health. I WISH YOU GUYS MAKE A PODCAST, I can listen to her all day honestly!
I’m a sociopath with adhd and anger problems...life isn’t fun for me due to the fact that I can’t feel anything inside (emotionally) other than anger and hate and my thoughts drive me crazy from my adhd. I constantly listen to music to block off my thoughts and need ambient noises in the background to fall asleep. I can never be alone in the quiet or else my thoughts will take over and they’re 90% negative. I lack empathy for everyone including family members when I know I should care but can’t. I’m literally dead inside. I have to plan everyday step by step so that I won’t lose my shit. Being emotionless and hyper active at the same time is torture.
The correct diagnostic term is Antisocial Personality Disorder. I am diagnosed with type 2 aspd. Aka type 2 psychopathy to the layman. (Clinical and forensic psychologists will only use that word linguistically for those to better understand 'psychopathy' IS NOT an official diagnosis under the DSM 5 It is an umbrella term for aspd. The same applies to word sociopathy.. ASPD is indeed under the DSM5 as a cluster B personality disorder.) I may be four years late in saying this but it stands then as it does now. What you write sounds like what a layman thinks a 'sociopath/psychopath' (someone with aspd diagnosis) thinks like based on what the general media would have you know. I do have emotional range and VERY fleeting moments of empathy but that often doesn't change the outcome of my behaviour. It's just dependant on wether it suits me to act empathetic or just say/do the right things to get what I want and or need. So on the outside I can appear to have a range of emotions I just don't... FEEL them. I noticed their absence and shrug. What complicates things is my ADHD but I've just been prescribed meds (I'm 32) that I notice put my mind into peaceful quiet mode. All the extra brain chatter has gone it's very eerie. I actually feel more clear headed and willing/able to do the nefarious things I enjoy. But I recognize that it won't serve me currently to do things so I control my impulse (the serious ones) by telling myself to wait. A 'sociopath' cannot do that. Aka someone with a more dysfunctional version of ASPD. Hope you enjoyed that brief insight. I have been under community mental health services since I was 14 to present day. Alongside that I've had multiple inpatient hospital admissions and even have to speak to a forensic psychologist soon. How joyful... My point being, for a layman I have extensive knowledge. I enjoy consuming knowledge. If anyone has any questions, I might answer them if you ask.
Neglect and Abuse as a child. In the most severe forms. It’s hard to survive in these conditions with a “guilty conscience”. To survive you must put aside these things.@@forzenfukuroanimations
Of all the videos on You Tube that i have watched, she is the best. I am a 67 year old clinical Psychologist and i am happy to be inspired from her! IVery human, down to earth, professional, eloquent . I enjoy the chemistry between you two, too !
Um. Yeah this video didnt illustrate anything. You arent a psychologist at all of you took something away from this. You are a liar and gullible people follow people like you online are obviously not too bright. Plenty of people in this world to beleive what they see online. Mostly young or just naive. Seriously. It's disgusting that you lie like that.
@@valaxius Agreed. I literally have ASPD and this so called Psychologist in the video was so absolutely shit and was incorrect on almost ALL bases. It's genuinely disgusting how people took things away from this and now have a complete misunderstanding of what ASPD is because it puts me in danger aswell as many others with this disorder.
You people are the most narcissistic - taking human beings and placing them in boxes and creating diagnosis and prognosis - playing "God". I grew up in the foster care system, and received so many diagnosis - and I blew through all of them. I am healthy and stable now that I stopped taking medications, stopped going to therapy, and stopped believing the jackets placed on me as an innocent child. Psychology is equivalent to witchcraft - it's manipulation. How ironic you sit in your puffed up armchair, with your puffed up ego, only validated by your piece of paper you acquired in a classroom in order to judge others. This type of work gives YOU, and others who idolize formal education, power at the detriment of the rest of society. I am living proof that psychology is a fake science. Your not human- empathy doesn't need rationalization because it's a natural reaction. You see with your mind, not with your heart.
She is so charismatic......I can hear her talk all the time......there is nothing more sexier than a person who knows everything about what they are talking......😍😁
@@albertoceccato7164 She's a therapist and she has life experience with these individuals outside her profession. Do you even watch the videos and listen or is this just personal?
I would really love to hear Dr Durvasula talk specifically about Codependency and about the Effects of Narcissistic or Psychopathic parenting. Abusive parenting creates lifelong emotional and behavioral problems in adult children of people with "Cluster B" personality disorders. Codependency, Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissism, Histrionic, and Antisocial Personality Disorders are maladaptive responses to the trauma of childhood abuse.
I was abused as a child by my narcissistic mother, and I didn't develop a personality disorder. I have empathy for days, and a well-developed conscience and properly calibrated moral compass. It's more than just nurture. There has to be some genetics to it. I say this because my oldest sister (our mother's golden child for the first 2.5 decades of her life) developed Borderline Personality Disorder and my brother (the 2nd oldest and family scapegoat) may have, as well, although it showed up more like AsPD in his youth. He is actually a very sensitive guy who was "miserable" to use his own words. In case you're not aware, miserable or misery is another word for BPD. My next oldest sister jumps from long-term relationship to long-term relationship...as in just days between them...which is also disordered. She may be more of a dependent personality, which has some similarities with BPD. I'm the youngest. I'm the black sheep (because I'm different from them, not because I'm bad). I don't drink, do drugs, have promiscuous sex, get married and divorced quickly, and I don't jump from relationship to relationship or have black and white thinking, etc. I'm logical, rational, and a little bit gullible (less so now that I've educated myself for years on these disorders). I like my own company and being alone (not BPD), don't seek the admiration from others (not NPD), enjoy helping others and especially those who are vulnerable (certainly not AsPD, sociopathy or psychopathy). Yet I also have boundaries and will tell others to promptly fuck off and get out of my life when they severely violate them (i.e. haven't spoken to my mother since 2004...or seen her...and I don't miss her at all, not even tiny bit...yet I also don't want to hurt her or have any harm come to her). I'm not special. I'm not unique. Yet I am rather different from my siblings, and we were all raised in the same home, by the same parents, but our genetics and temperament seemed to have caused us to turn out differently. I should be disordered if all that mattered is nurture. Yet, somehow I got lucky (even if I was unlucky to have to endure the abuse). I do agree that primary caregivers and early childhood family dynamics do come into play with these disorders, but there has to be some genetic components to it, as well, and then the dysfunctional environment "flips" the switch on those disordered genes. I had similar abuse that my siblings endured, and I endured much of it alone from age 8 on (all my siblings were out of the home before my 9th birthday...again because of my abusive mother). Yet somehow I didn't develop a personality disorder...or anxiety...no addictions. I have dated a couple of narcissists, though...maybe more than a couple. lol
@@le_th_ Yeah exactly. I have a very similar, almost identical upbringing and resulting scars that I am beginning to appreciate. Because I am starting to see that those scars made me emphatic, thoughtful, resilient and complex/deep person. I am curious. Have you noticed this about your group of friends and their group of friends (maybe earlier in your life, I am just turning 30): They are made of people raised by abusive parents. Some like you (some call HSP highly sensitive person) and the rest is people who became abusive themselves. I feel like we gravitate towards each other. Abusers like to fight and be competitive with other abusers and of course need to abuse the sensitive people. And the sensitive people gravitate towards them at first bc we are thought that love and affection is abuse and then stay because they can empathize and feel sorry for the abusers. Perhaps most importantly because they have been able to let go of their abusive parent(s) yet. Now that I can see these I do not know what to do in those groups because if I tell the truth I will be the bad guy and get attacked. Yet I can not let go of some of my friends (non abusive ones).
le th - I'm interested to hear of your experience. I actually would have described myself quite similarly although I did have NPD as a teen (got blown out of the water the first time I saw what real emotions actually looked like) and have spent my life dedicated to increasing self-awareness. What I did notice, however, despite being an empathy-drenched, boundary setting, clarity-seeking, objective and I feel fairly well-balanced human being, is that I was actually harbouring some MASSIVE codependent tendencies not in relationship, but in my relationship with business and money. In relationship, I'm my own woman, I'm kind and polite in the communication of my boundaries and standards, not only respect but support my partners to do what they need for themselves (my theory is if they're following their deepest truth, this benefits everyone) and pretty much zero fear of abandonment or rejection or speaking my truth. I take a look at what my relationship with business used to be, however, and I was TERRIFIED of rejection, couldn't ask for what I needed for myself, allowed myself to be guilted by my internal belief systems of "shoulds" around my business and shame for days around my being such a failure etc.. I was actually FASCINATED to see this and recognise that dysfunction doesn't have to come up in social relationships, it can manifest in other ways. Just wondered of perhaps this is something you may have noticed in yourself as well. Appreciate your sharing regardless. :)
@@jofriedman4528 People with self esteem issues resulting from abuse and/or neglect have a difficult time owning their humanity what Carl G. Jung (the famous psychologist) called the shadow. We become either too nice or too ruthless. We have unrealistic expectations of others and hold ourselves to impossible standards. We view the world as it should be instead of as it is. The best advice I can give you is a list of books I would recommend reading. Otherwise my reply would become a lengthy dissertation written out on a TH-cam post. This stuff is extremely heavy and goes to the core of what it means to be human. Most people are not ready for that kind of brutal honesty and self reflection.
My psychologist has a large suspicion of ASPD. I was physically and emotionally abused by my mother and father in childhood and got out when I was 16. I am capable of feeling my version of empathy. I can form bonds with some people. I care about a very small number of people, under 5, but even then, the feeling I have isn’t exactly empathy. It’s protective, but moreso because I value their presence to me than I value their own happiness to themselves. The better they feel, the better they behave and I receive the best version of themselves when they are happy. I am not a clinical narcissist, but I am more narcissistic than most are. My parents are both narcissists and Cluster B. I don’t believe I’m evil for lacking empathy, because the concepts of good and evil are lost on me. I believe in punishment, but not in the traditional form. I often fake empathy and caring for people because it gives me power. It moves me higher in the social chain, makes people trusting, and it gives me power to domineer over people. I don’t get pleasure out of abusing this power unnecessarily, but I still abuse it when it benefits me.
As a person who has struggled with self love my whole life, and been told so many times that I need to learn to love myself, I really appreciate that you say instead: find value in yourself, see the value in yourself, because it’s so much less off-putting to hear, and I can actually wrap my head around that! For a percent has grown up with negative mirroring and subjected to verbal abuse and brainwashing, the idea of valuing yourself seems a lot more attainable to me personally
There are monsters among us. Re-read fairytales. Stay alert, listen to instinct and employ healthy boundaries. Ultimately, be prepared to escape and to defend yourself. Thank you, Dr Ramani and Kyle!
Holly - Totally TRUE. These people are monsters because they do not have the natural ability to empathise and hold true compassion for others...they're Satan's children who do his bidding. These folks take advantage of the good people in this world and usually gravitate to us and the LIGHT that dwells within us because there is no light in them but only darkness HENCE WHY they anticipate us to be THEIR savior...and overly idealize us THEN when they realize we're simply human just like THEM, they devalue us and assign THEIR negative doings and traits to us to escape the responsibility for their actions. ~ Healthy boundaries are NECESSARY ESPECIALLY if a family member is infected with this disease...Gray rock is VERY effective if people have limited options and have to deal with them on occasions. Those who wisen up and come out of the cognitive dissonance (state of confusion) should avoid them like the plague and have no contact at all...zip!...zero!
@@kathrynjohnson8952 Although my response to your response on this post is extremely after the fact, I just wanted to say wow did you hit the jackpot on explaining the personality of this type of person. It resonated extremely well with me, and almost validates my experience with these types of individuals, as most other people in my life would not validate but blame shift or disengage. So, I thank you for that and marvelous articulation. 👏
"People internalize those mocking voices". I definitely did. I had OCD and could hear it inside putting me down for many years, fortunately I didn't take it seriously, but it was still deeply discomfortable.
This video helped a lot.. I have borderline personality disorder and watched every video on it by medcircle! And I also deal with a narcissistic mother and have two children with a schizophrenic man. I suffer so much everyday and I watch your videos every night to help me not feel absolutely alone.. so thank you both. ❤️
I paused 4 minutes in to say that I love Dr.Ramani. She is sincere in her words and actions without being brutally honest and not sugar coating anything either. I love that in a person, so a big thumbs up from me =)
Okay, so, I was promised an in depth look at psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcissists, and all I got was 11 minutes of self aggrandizement and woo woo talk. I usually enjoy the videos, but I can't in good conscience endorse this one.
This woman was extremely inaccurate with her so called facts too. I literally have ASPD with psychopathic tendencies and everything she talked of was so incredibly incorrect
@Polkadotty If you have ASPD you are by definition dysfunctional. A functional person wouldn't have a diagnosis. People like you are pathological liars.
because these „terms“ or „disorders“ aren’t real, they aren’t facts. it’s just a man or woman’s opinion. women’s opinion don’t matter anyways, as they view the world completely different
I like Dr Ramani’s idea of “getting ahead of heartache”. Unfortunately it takes some people years to have the time and energy to do the work necessary to educate themselves and start to work through the trauma that makes them vulnerable to damaging relationships. But it’s never too late. Thank you both for bringing these ideas to us ☺️
Thank you Dr. Ramani for stigmaticing and flatout lying about us. Not only are the terms ,,Psychopath"/ ,,Sociopath" outdated, you completely invalidate how we become the way we are. ,,Many people have a bad start.", but some have it worse. I went through hell and back in my childhood so I had two options: Adapt or die. You act as if all of us are puppy killing serial killers. We didn't ask to be like this but I honestly don't see the point in changing if everybody will imediatly demonize me.
I am presently in a counseling psychology program to become a licensed professional counselor, and I appreciate how clearly Dr. Ramani explains these disorders and other mental health issues. I would love to be a student in one of her classes! I am toward the end of my graduate counseling psychology program and will begin my internship later this year. These discussions have provided me with a better understanding and greater sense of empathy for individuals dealing with mental health issues/diagnoses, particularly those individuals with personality disorders . Thank you, MedCircle and than you, Dr. Ramani!
YES! Listening to Dr. Ramani is fascinating, informative, enriching. People who are her patients are truly fortunate to be able to have her as their counselor.
You can access that episode at bit.ly/2S6pwXA ! Once you sign in, click on "ASPD: Psychopaths, Sociopaths and How to Spot Them." Then click on the Playlist icon in the top-left corner of the video thumbnail. At the bottom of the playlist of episodes, you'll see the video "If Your Co-Worker Has Psychopathic or Sociopathic Tendencies, Here's What to Do."
You 2 have changed my recovery from defeat to accomplished, stronger than ever before and able to re-enter social environments (almost). This is not just life changing, but life saving. THANK YOU SO MUCH.
Hello! I've been dealing with OCD since I was 17 (aprox.). I'm 35 now and these videos help A LOT! I agree that Dr Ramani is amazing on these videos. I actually wish that she could be my therapist. Thank you for this channel!!!
Ps: reading her book and watching her videos are giving me courage to get out of a 12 year relationship with a narcissist. I could not thank her enough
At 57, 2 years ago, I realized my eldest sister is a pychopath. My eldest sister cared for us because mom had a disabled child. She fed us, changed us and by all accounts mothered us. I never understood why she could so easily disconnect from us. She always was a patholigal liar, yes she set a fire in the house at a young age, but she married a wonderful man and hid her dysfunction all these years. She would act loving and caring then do something unfathomable, leaving her loved ones feeling horrible not knowing what they did to warrant the pain. Recently dealing with her and my elderly mother sling with mindfulness training I realized she lacks empathy. She will fake it and try to fit it when needed but if you really pay attention you see she has a severe form of anti social disorder. Any past dealings with her where money or men were involved she has exploited for her own benefit. She totally lacks the capacity to care for anyone. It is missing in her brain. Wow my poor parents probably were exploited worse than I. My 91 year old mother realized it before she died as my sister exploited her for the last time. If you suspect a complete lack of empathy in a family or friend, stay away period. A good sign is a pathological liar. Lying when it makes no sense is a strong clue. It's devasting, abusive, and takes takes years to heal. She destroyed my family. I now know the reason behind the majority of dysfunction in my family. Because it was covert was the reason it went in for so long. Call them out asap, trust me they know they are not normal.
Exactly. This is with my aunt. It his awful. I wish they could've given the diagnosis in her teens. But, she would never want to accept or get real help. The hell of it all is unbelievable.
Prevention is definitely key. If you can avoid getting with a person with anti social personality disorder, you’ll save yourself a lot of stress, Heartache, and drama. If u see signs, run away fast! Sometimes there are very covert narcissists out there and you won’t be able to see it as easily. But watch what they DO and NOT what they say because their actions won’t be consistent with what they’re telling you. I mean I didn’t know he was a narcissist until I dated him for a second time & after 3 months into it I knew he was up to some more bullshit, but this time it was worse & he tried to gaslight me. Didn’t work. I had been down that road before but just didn’t recognize it. Not even the girl that he cheated on me with & was friends with him for 7 years, knew what kind of demon he was
It will save you a lot of money too to avoid them LMAO but the issue is, some of them are soooo good at pretending they’re just like everybody else it’s hard to know what their true intentions are. Took me a year to figure out why something didn’t add up about him.
That's the reason why I now no longer stick around to try to discern what's not feeling quite right in the relationship, I just acknowledge my gut and move on. Each time I've stuck around to discern why the weird vibe and discovered me some seriously well-disguised and unbelievably subtle covert narcs, that's experience enough to know if it doesn't feel open, inspired, transparent, respectful, trusting, healthy, I just walk. No questions, I just walk. I'd rather be single, empowered and in love with my life, doing what I came here to do and the right people for me will respect that and come to me with full transparency and integrity. If I live my life "alone" (we're never alone), I cannot put into words how utterly okay with that I am. If it's not a "fuck yes" for me now, it's a no.
Jo Friedman that’s good advice. But for most people, I would think it’s hard to walk away from something when you don’t have evidence. I guess experience is the best teacher. We all have that gut feeling, it’s women’s intuition. And we/I need to start trusting it more.
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You can access that episode at bit.ly/2S6pwXA ! Once you sign in, click on "ASPD: Psychopaths, Sociopaths and How to Spot Them." Then click on the Playlist icon in the top-left corner of the video thumbnail. At the bottom of the playlist of episodes, you'll see episode 7 "What to Do If Your Parent is a Sociopath."
amongtheH2O - THAT would be VERY insightful. Hoping she does a segment on the family dynamics...I have a mother whose infected with this mental disease (and siblings)...
They'd most likely have offspring with anti-social disorder considering I've been diagnosed and I dealt with drug addicted father and a mother that had violent and narcacist tendencies
B DOG that could be the case but my dad was antisocial PD and I’m on the complete opposite of the spectrum. I have anxiety and OCPD and I am way too empathetic if anything
I also LOVE Dr. Ramani. She’s the reason why I contemplate going to college for Psychology where she teaches, so I could have a shot at learning directly from her. It always breaks my heart when she mentions her students aren’t attentive enough a lot of the time. How could you do that when you’re training under THIS. WOMAN!!!! Lol! You’re also a great host, Kyle, we only get these amazing series with Dr Ramani because you know how to get her to shine. I guess you guys can tell I’m a Med Circle fan 💕💕 lol! But mostly because of you two
I think I'm dating a sociopath and she's ruining my life, what I do is never enough, and she knows what to do and what to say so that I'm thinking about her all day and can't concentrate on other things due to anxiety, and I feel that despite being aware of everything, I don't have the strength to walk away. Thank you for these videos, they are very helpful for me.
Perhaps you like the attention of being a victim. Sounds harsh, but some people are accustomed to getting attention from others due to their misfortunes. Ask yourself why you would allow this type of mistreatment. You have a choice, you are free to leave, are you not? Choose peace over confusion. In reality, you are ruining your own life. Take your power back. I wish you the best 🌺
@@amyrenee1361 trauma bond isn’t as simple as that sometimes you don’t know the full extent of the abuse until you leave never blame the victim for staying blame the abuser for their actions
@@demimarlenealexander3371 yeah I heard that my whole life and that is the mentality that kept me in abusive relationships. When I started owning my choices and seeing that I was CHOOSING it, I got out. Nobody in their right mind stays around someone who treats them badly. There is something wrong with them to stay with someone who treats them badly, and they need to know that so they can change their predicament. That is the point, right? People can sit there and say "it's wrong to treat others poorly". Okay, well isn't it wrong to treat yourself poorly? What's the difference? This person can complain that they aren't strong enough to treat themselves right, but the person treating them badly is only doing the same thing. How can you demand that someone else be better than you? "I'm incapable of treating myself right, but you have to to treat me right, or you're evil". In reality, both are guilty. And until you realize that, you will always be the poor helpless victim. Or , you can realize that you are contributing to the problem and change. It took me over 30 years to figure it out. This isn't judgement, this just truth. I want this person to be safe and happy. So rather than disempower them more with this false belief that they are simply victims, I'm telling them the truth. Most problems in life stem from people's inability to take responsibility for their own life choices. People are fully capable of leaving these types of relationships behind. You can want better for yourself. You can be single. You don't have to be a doormat. It's not easy, but it's doable. And they need to know that they aren't victims. This isn't happening against their will or better judgement. This is happening because of their poor will and bad judgement. Hurting yourself is wrong. You hurt yourself when you allow people to be in your life who don't have to be there. Maybe when you first meet someone, you don't know how they are. But once the abuse, lying, cheating, hitting, occur- you know it's wrong. Stand up for yourself. You can't blame anyone but yourself for staying.
I admire Dr. Durvasula so much! I'm studying psychology right now. I'm so curious about her background hehe. I will continue to study hard and listen to her. I want to help her help humanity!
I'm a masters trained therapist and just a bit of advice to you that I wish I recieved bc most masters and doctoral trained therapists don't make living wages commensurate for their training. But theres a way to help AND make $ . If you want to help people in this field and make a good living....First, do a dual focused bachelor's...a minor or even a dual major in psychology and enrolled an RN nursing program. When you graduate, you can get a great paying job pretty much anywhere as a RN nurse including mental health facilities to get on the job training and exposure. Then enroll in a local nurse practitioner's program part-time if you can go parttime (but some programs only offer fulltime course work and you can't work. This is ok bc once you are completed in two years you will be making 65 to 75k minimum to pay off those student loans really quickly). Most NP program have a mental health track. You will not have to get student loans if your job pays for continued education courses related to your work if you go part-time. Once you are done you will be extremely marketable in ANY medical setting including the mental health field. You literally will have your pick of jobs. You could even go private practice and you can do it all...assess, prescribe medications and offer therapy.. you would essentially be a psychiatrist without attending 12 plus years of schools. You would have an extremely bright future. If you go the counseling or psychology route, jobs will be much more scarce and lots of saturation in the field, much lower starting salary 30 to 35k for masters, 45 to 50k starting for doctorates. My niece didn't follow this suggestion and 5 years later is not making enough to pay off her student loans as a MSW. Good luck!!
I agree. The way she talks about people with aspd in this video is so dehumanizing and also she referres to them as sociopaths and psychopaths. Like girl you are a professional. You should know better.
These 2 are great at all the context and necessary details so people can truly understand what these predators typically present as and how to protect yourself from getting sucked into any sort of relationship with them, it’s a topic that requires a series of videos to take the time to listen and take notes in order to become familiar with it thanks Dr Ramonii and Kyle at medcircle 👏🏼👏🏼
Dr. Ramani is so wonderful and compassionate. Whenever she started talking about the loss of human potential, that resonated with me so much. And I like how she doesn’t sugarcoat anything, it’s blunt and to the point. She’s wonderful :0)
I love Dr. Romani, but I am a bit upset at the generalizing going on here. As someone who is ASPD, what people need to know is that it is a spectrum. So some individuals are totally lacking empathy and would hurt anyone to get up in the world, but more than half of us aren't close to that, we are more empathetic, but it's selective empathy. My therapist said my ASPD was a response to trauma and being raised by a drug addicted narcissist. When I was very young I didn't care who you were, if you needed help I was there even at my own detriment. But that got me hurt so many times that eventually I hardened and learned to only give myself completely to those I trust unequivacly. There are two people in my life I would die for, and they both earned rhat shit and never abandoned me because of my diagnosis. They understand that I do not want to be an asshole. All I've ever wanted is acceptance. Spreading the false narrative that all people with this diagnosis are assholes yhat may step on you at best and yurt you or kill you at worst. Stop spreading fear and false info please! She says that we have an advantage in today's society which is traight up garbage. Anyone other than my two closest people that I've opened up to, immediately were afraid of me as if I changed. Trust that society would rather us all stay in a cave somewhere to never come out and thatnisnt okay. We aren't all the douchebags. Some of us, I fact I'd argue at least half of us don't have it in us to hurt anyone. Just because I don't feel empathy for you doesn't mean I don't understand rules and laws and public decency.
Dr Ramani is incredible!! And you are a wonderful interviewer. It's a pleasure to watch and listen to you both. There's a ton of learning, reflexion and maturation.
This and the other series on narcissism, are absolutely fantastic. I would like a new series on the subject, but seen from the victims point of view, meaning an in-depth look at what you do to get out of and over a toxic relationship.
Bless... what Dr Ramani said about the tragic loss of human potential in those victimised by these disorders and wanting to help them realise what happened to them and help them regain their sense of self, self-esteem, self-love etc. (forgive me, I'm paraphrasing) really touched me. Having made my way to what feels like 99% of the way back to full self (which I'm sure is a journey without end), I feel the same way. Thank you both for this powerful and very necessary work. 🙏🏼❤️
This socialpath who is also high anxiety,ADHD,and complex PTSD loves Dr Rami. I have always been the same way with my daughter with what she says at the start of this clip.
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MedCircle thank you guys so much for all the videos you done with Dr.Ramani! She has been extremely helpful and helps me realized what my ex boyfriends were like and push me to find ways to avoid these types of people in the future!
Please change the host. He just keeps interrupting the doctor and it's annoying
How do you recover from being raised by a sociopath father? 100% separation was accomplished 3 years ago.
I just paid $120 to med circle so I could watch the entire segment on this disorder which was nine separate videos. I was very disappointed by the constant repeating of the same information over and over. As a healthcare worker for over a decade, I expected a lot more detail and information than what was presented. antisocial personality disorder is one of the most complex and one of the most dangerous of all the personality disorders listed it certainly is not neat and tidy nor is it black and white. Perhaps I should have made my own TH-cam video. It certainly was not worth $120.
Thanks for wasting my time. Never again will you get the chance to con me with a misleading title.
"The Psychopath, Sociopath, & How to Spot Them"..... i must have missed the part where they actually talk about spotting these individuals
I know they just talked about people's values
It's because they don't exist nor can we ever spot them...
That's because this was a deceptive title designed to sell you something. Actions speak quite loudly don't they? The problem is with whomever mislabeled this video.
They’re more focused on a clinical perspective and treatment.
@@TurKishsoulja Open your eyes. Seriously.
I love how she points out that our society is rewarding people with these conditions, rewarding people who hurt others to get ahead, to our own detrement. This is such a huge issue right now. We praise people who are rich and powerful and tend to overlook how they got there by exploiting others.
IMO - it has always been that way. It's just that we didn't have the technology or social media to connect the dots all at the same time, and rapidly. If you read back through history and study archaeological remains to see how routinely cruel humans were to each other.
Yes. Manipulators use others to get a benefit for themselves and since business is only about more currency, sociopaths and psychopaths and narcissists use other people to get benefits for themselves and climb the professional ladder where the rings are other people. Employee owned companies would likely be better run and not as likely to be managed and run by these dangerous and toxic people as they will be prevented from climbing over others and abusing them.
@@JamesTyreeII Yea no, they have to be family businesses and even those eventually fail. Saying that employee owned companies on a large scale would be better is like claiming that communism doesn't produce toxic leaders when it has every time. Or even on a small scale, communes, always failed. Fundamentally the skin in the game isn't there, employee doesn't lose their house if the company goes bankrupt in the same way a true owner stake holder would, so the bad incentives are there as they take profits but none of the real risk.
And the people who think they have the answers tend to have reverence for academia and such institutions, which select for "strivers", credentialed psychopaths.
@@omgwtfbbqstfu First of all… Merry Christmas… Second of all, I don’t think you are accurate at all. Employees who own a company have skin in the game because there is the profit motive and incentive and it is not communism. It’s collectivism. And there’s nothing wrong with that. The idea of us being independent is a myth. We are actually quite interdependent and what happens in one place affects people in another place. For instance, the effects of bad traffic in one place can be felt as far away as 200 miles away because it is a system and the Network. That is why when I see the advisory signs advising a slower speed than the speed limit, I always obey that because they know something that I don’t know that the Network up the head is clogged and we need to slow down to avoid backing it up further. Nobody else seems to pay attention and then it gets backed up because of a bunch of idiots who refuse to acknowledge reality. Vulture capitalism is what we have right now far too often and besides criticizing employee owned companies, I don’t know what you think the solution is but the system we have now certainly does not work because it rewards predatory capitalism At the expense of smaller scale ethical business. Right wing authoritarians exist and are a threat to human life it’s self and they always get into positions of power because they want to dominate and control other people and impose their will upon them. This is what happens with communism which is not really communism even if it starts out that way. Peversion by right wing authoritarian
sociopaths are created from abuse. we do not know correct behavior from love. i was beaten for being raped, my mum left me with these monsters, drunk horrid humans who would be upset at their lives and hurt us because of it. force us to wear dirty clothes and be tortured at school. we just dont trust anyone.i wish i could know different.
This video is inaccurately titled...
Elaine Carpenter no it’s not, if you read what it says under the title, it explains what the video title is about and explains what the video is going to be about and summarizes everything this video is about. It’s just a summary title.
I agree! It was still a good video, but the title is why i clicked... and the topic mentioned in the title - HOW to DIFFERENTIATE - wasn't addressed
The title is click bait.
@@singer07872007 It is inaccurate.
@@demetriusmiddleton1246 Same, my sister is in a really weird relationship. And since she met the guy im worried. He frightens me and does not understand "fun" "art" and he claims to be a "Human Encyclopedia".
“you’ve got to be your own gatekeeper” I needed this so much.
Yes, we do love Dr. Ramani. It’s no wonder she’s booked out three months in advance. It’s just so easy and comfortable with her. :)
I’m totally obsessed with her. She amazing.
Yes.. most people are looking for comfort, instead of clarity and truth.
We like to put our responsibility in the hands of others, and exactly this is what a narcissist wants.
Im not going to Lie.. I want you
@@tommelby9363 im not gonna lie. Youre gay.
@@tommelby9363 best way to get a woman into bed 👍 and not completely joking too.
I'm a simple guy, I see Dr.Ramani I hit like.
LOL, me too! :-)
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Ballad of a soy boy
Honestly she is something else. Its enjoyable to purely listen to her, such eloquence and signal to voice ratios :)
You are a single guy. 👍
Spotting a narc/gaslighter/abuser... observe their actions. Words are meaningless if their actions are not in alignment.
Andrea Brewer - Absolutely agree...definitely be mindful of their actions..as in consistent actions. SOME of them are very covert & we don't see their inconsistencies with their actions as fast because these predators study their prey and mimic what they see in THEIR mind.
Kathryn Johnson you & @Andrea are absolutely right. My ex was very covert. The girl he cheated on me with that he was friends with for seven years, didn’t know what kind of monster he was and I didn’t know what kind of monster he was until I went back to him after almost a year and dated him for three months and saw everything like I’ve never seen before. That was the last straw and that was it
@Nora Peace, I used to wonder WHY people RETURN to their abuser, HOWEVER, not anymore AFTER doing the very SAME thing I had questioned others of doing. I better understand the reasons (plural) NOW...1) financial security, 2) LOW self esteem, 3) children, 4) neediness, 5) strongly suffering cognitive dissonance...which is what I suffered and WHY I returned to my former fiance and became engaged to him a 2nd time...close call because I almost married him THAT time...phew! Instead, I was blessed to wake from the slumber and the veil fell from my spiritual eyes and ears so that I could see him for WHOSE child he was...meaning Satan's! I have absolutely NO communications with him to THIS day, BUT on a positive note: he taught me where my weaknesses were.
I hope you're blessed from hereon and never have to endure another one of these predators that suck the life right out of their prey.
Kathryn Johnson I went back bc I didn’t know FOR SURE he had cheated on me. I talked to the girl after a YEAR went by and she confirmed that they were “fuck buddies” and honestly she told me to give him another chance, that he loved me & blah blah blah. But I did still love him. Even though it wasn’t real to him, it was to me. I think that’s why victims go back, they either don’t know what was really going on or 2. They really fell in love with the love bombing stage and want to return to it. It’s very sad. But thank you. I hope you never go back to that kind of abuse or or any kind of abuse ever again
Nora Peace - The love bombing...WOE! I totally understand the way some of them tend to go overboard with the "love" bombing as my former finance totally went all out and I think I felt like I was living a fairy tale love story...lol...BUT the problem with THAT is that it was NOT practical or honest on my end either AND I shouldn't have accepted ALL of the expensive gifts OR went on costly mini getaway trips and a cruise with him because ALL of THAT made me feel "obligated" and sent a NEGATIVE message across that I was for sale. I didn't see it THAT way when being so overwhelmingly love bombed because I was...honestly speaking, a bit shallow and superficial. I've grown past those ways though and have instead grown spiritually closer with Almighty Father while accepting responsibility on my end for...well, contributing towards the relationship that never should have been in the first place.
Thank you for the kind regards. I hope the same for you.
Nora, MANY of these hardcore narcs have diseases due to their extracurricular activity and infidelity. They seem to crave sex and usually are VERY sexually active BECAUSE WHEN they're having sex...get THIS!...they're making love to themselves in their mind! Eerie but true. I'd read THAT a few years ago and pondered thought on this& it seems to match what I recall about his extraordinary sexual cravings and somewhat explained WHY he always seemed to be EXTREMELY tentative and EVEN emotional.
I regret that I allowed him to even touch me and will NEVER again have sexual relations with a man BEFORE marriage. THAT is just me though.
This woman is absolutely life changing . Her insight is incredible , she brings me to tears. She is so woke
What does woke means? Awake?
Andrew Vermeer ok boomer
I believe woke is the past tense of awake
Educated. "Woke" people mimic educated people, although they are far from it.
@@justanotheryoutubeaccount8011 spot on
I love her as if she were family. She is honest and she explains everything she is asked in a plain way. No arrogance. No medical therms. Just plain and honest answers. She is accurate and I watch every videos she is in and I hope I can change my bad behaviors and hope to not be or become a narcissist. Al respect to you guys. Thanks for the videos.
Klebber Bezerra she’s such an amazing role model. I strive to be just like her and try to rid myself of any narcissisticness too 😭
@@dannydvp303 from what I understand from dr. Ramani is that sociopaths are made, narcissists are born, psychopaths are born. I hope it's not possible to become a narcissist. Everybody should have your attitude
@@GS-st9ns Both genetics and environment play a role. On the Internet we tend to use the label "psychopath" to talk about someone with ASPD that seems to have had a normal-ish childhood and "sociopath" for those who grew up in an abusive environement, but it's an oversimplification. If a person with ASPD has severe childhood trauma but doesn't trust their therapist enough to disclose it, does that make them a psychopath or a sociopath? What if a person with ASPD does have trauma but also started to show early signs of ASPD (conduct disorder without prosocial behaviour) before the traumatic event occured? The line between psychopaths and sociopaths is pretty blurry.
Same for narcissism: it seems unlikely that someone with a perfect childhood and education would go on to develop those unhealthy patterns of behaviour, but sometimes the narcissist isn't aware of what went wrong. Research suggests that NPD traits are somewhat heritable.
In any case, even if someone doesn't qualify for NPD, it's still a good idea to look inward to get rid of toxic traits.
“when we deal with REALITY, we can make better DECISIONS.” currently going through a pre trial of being assaulted from my sociopathic ex boyfriend, these videos are helping me very much. thank you
Take care and good luck 💚
I watch MedCircle only because of Dr. Ramani but I couldn't tell why exactly. Thanks for explaining it for me... Dr. Ramani is brutally honest but humane. She chooses to remove all the warm and fuzzy useless stuff, in a way that is humane and not narcissistic.
BBB follow DoctorRamani in her own youtube channel
What you put out in the universe,It will surely come back to you,
Me too.
As a Person diagnosed with ASPD, I "got it" through extensive trauma and I was deeply offended by the way we are ALWAYS described as Deceitful liars who do nothing but harming other people for our own sick amusement. I acknowledge that I have harmed a LOT of people with my most frequent behaviours but I cannot, in good conscience say that I enjoyed it or anything of the sorts, that's how I function, and even though I started going to therapy to try and ease my symptoms, they can still show up when I feel bored, angry or resentful. I do not feel as if I am a freak but more like a broken person sometimes, it's hard to connect and form non shallow relationships. And it gets even harder with this kind of "advertisment" on the disorder because everyone tends to think of me as potential abuser or "narcissistic pervert" or whatever the hell Freud called it. We're not monsters and even though we can sometimes be extremely difficult, most of the other people I know with this disorder (4 out 7, I'm in a support group online for people with ASPD and traumatic experiences) really try their best to manage their symptoms at least and supress them at most. So yeah (in my opinion at least) not that great of a title, it should be remade into "Why people with ASPD are evil pieces of shit in the eyes of psychotypical people".
Gee, psychophobia from mental health care professionals always peeves me...And If you don't agree or want to prove me I'm wrong, feel free not to do it, I'll only block you. This is my own take on the issue and no one else's, so please don't try to argue
I don't hear any guilt in what you're saying. this is very classic for sociopaths. "I know I did a bad thing, but...." all the time.
dr Ramani just wants to protect those people to stay out from people like you to not get hurt. if it's how you function it's not your fault but if it's not treatable you'll lose people eventually because nobody is obligated to get hurt to please you and pity you, even if it's an illness.
I was severely abused by a psychopath for 4 years and a narcissist for 2 years after that. I would love to share my story. I know how insanely dangerous it is and I’m lucky to be alive
Same here , blessings to your 4 years of spying stalking hacking harassment even got poisoned couple of times
Once a victim; always a victim.
Doubt it. People throw these terms around like candy you have no clue how rare true psychopathy is
My BPD ex was in so much pain, but his abuse and explosive nature left me with PTSD and so, also the people that are in pain, DO cause pain for those around them. Feeling sorry for them is a great hook that keeps us on the line, so to speak and they reel us in and push us out til we think we are the crazy ones.
Love Dr. Ramani!💛😊👍🏼☀️
Same here!
So do i💕💝❣
‘What devastates me… is the loss of human potential’ - exactly this!
Dr Ramani makes it easy to understand the topics of pd. Largely because she is a realist & transparent. Thank you!
My understanding: a psychopath can be either Michael Myers or a professional person in a suit. A sociopath could be the criminal down the street or the person you’re dating. It’s scary because they’re very intermixed. The key is empathy. Can they actually relate to you when you’re describing how you feel or to another person etc, if you feel like they’re just not “getting you” very often....that’s a red flag.
That's an extreme generalization
Its not that cut and dry though, and I don't think its a "red flag" for someone to be apathetic. I'm diagnosed with APD but like I have no criminal record and haven't ever thought of doing anything criminal. I can also still like people and build relationships, I just cant empathize with people (its hard to explain.).
@@joebob756 Most don't have a criminal record nor even commit crimes. You can victimize someone without ever being in the criminal justice system.
Well that could just be autism. Or, you know, a normal socially awkward person. You’re generalising way too much
@@Noidonteatbabiesstopasking yea it could be. Its normal to empathize/ feel the pain of others but sometimes I guess it’s not there. Not for sinister reasons either.
DR RAMANI HAS INSPIRED ME TO GO INTO PSYCHOLOGY!!! Thank you!
Bri M ME TOO
Bri M - I've always been fascinated with psychology. Best regards should you pursue a career in this field.
Thank you!
@@brianna8506 Hope you like stats!:)
I wish you success
I love her professionalism and how straightforward but simple she is explaining every concept so it can be understandable for people who doesn’t know enough about mental health. I WISH YOU GUYS MAKE A PODCAST, I can listen to her all day honestly!
I’m a sociopath with adhd and anger problems...life isn’t fun for me due to the fact that I can’t feel anything inside (emotionally) other than anger and hate and my thoughts drive me crazy from my adhd. I constantly listen to music to block off my thoughts and need ambient noises in the background to fall asleep. I can never be alone in the quiet or else my thoughts will take over and they’re 90% negative. I lack empathy for everyone including family members when I know I should care but can’t. I’m literally dead inside. I have to plan everyday step by step so that I won’t lose my shit. Being emotionless and hyper active at the same time is torture.
Have you thought why you lack that?!? I'm curious in people like this...it's super interesting. But I wonder if any question it?
The correct diagnostic term is Antisocial Personality Disorder.
I am diagnosed with type 2 aspd. Aka type 2 psychopathy to the layman. (Clinical and forensic psychologists will only use that word linguistically for those to better understand 'psychopathy' IS NOT an official diagnosis under the DSM 5 It is an umbrella term for aspd.
The same applies to word sociopathy.. ASPD is indeed under the DSM5 as a cluster B personality disorder.)
I may be four years late in saying this but it stands then as it does now. What you write sounds like what a layman thinks a 'sociopath/psychopath' (someone with aspd diagnosis) thinks like based on what the general media would have you know.
I do have emotional range and VERY fleeting moments of empathy but that often doesn't change the outcome of my behaviour. It's just dependant on wether it suits me to act empathetic or just say/do the right things to get what I want and or need.
So on the outside I can appear to have a range of emotions I just don't...
FEEL them. I noticed their absence and shrug.
What complicates things is my ADHD but I've just been prescribed meds (I'm 32) that I notice put my mind into peaceful quiet mode. All the extra brain chatter has gone it's very eerie.
I actually feel more clear headed and willing/able to do the nefarious things I enjoy. But I recognize that it won't serve me currently to do things so I control my impulse (the serious ones) by telling myself to wait.
A 'sociopath' cannot do that. Aka someone with a more dysfunctional version of ASPD.
Hope you enjoyed that brief insight. I have been under community mental health services since I was 14 to present day. Alongside that I've had multiple inpatient hospital admissions and even have to speak to a forensic psychologist soon. How joyful...
My point being, for a layman I have extensive knowledge. I enjoy consuming knowledge.
If anyone has any questions, I might answer them if you ask.
@@Sinner1660 i think i am covert narcisist with adhd and hyperactivity disorder. i suspect that i am sociopath too but i can feel emotions
Neglect and Abuse as a child. In the most severe forms. It’s hard to survive in these conditions with a “guilty conscience”. To survive you must put aside these things.@@forzenfukuroanimations
Of all the videos on You Tube that i have watched, she is the best. I am a 67 year old clinical Psychologist and i am happy to be inspired from her! IVery human, down to earth, professional, eloquent . I enjoy the chemistry between you two, too !
I appreciate your comment greatly. Thank you so much for reassuring me, that I learn from a solid source.
Vicky Poulimenou - Tesdorpf so you won’t care that I’m an evolving sociopath
Um. Yeah this video didnt illustrate anything. You arent a psychologist at all of you took something away from this. You are a liar and gullible people follow people like you online are obviously not too bright. Plenty of people in this world to beleive what they see online. Mostly young or just naive. Seriously. It's disgusting that you lie like that.
@@valaxius Agreed. I literally have ASPD and this so called Psychologist in the video was so absolutely shit and was incorrect on almost ALL bases. It's genuinely disgusting how people took things away from this and now have a complete misunderstanding of what ASPD is because it puts me in danger aswell as many others with this disorder.
You people are the most narcissistic - taking human beings and placing them in boxes and creating diagnosis and prognosis - playing "God". I grew up in the foster care system, and received so many diagnosis - and I blew through all of them. I am healthy and stable now that I stopped taking medications, stopped going to therapy, and stopped believing the jackets placed on me as an innocent child. Psychology is equivalent to witchcraft - it's manipulation. How ironic you sit in your puffed up armchair, with your puffed up ego, only validated by your piece of paper you acquired in a classroom in order to judge others. This type of work gives YOU, and others who idolize formal education, power at the detriment of the rest of society. I am living proof that psychology is a fake science. Your not human- empathy doesn't need rationalization because it's a natural reaction. You see with your mind, not with your heart.
I love that she explains these disorders how they are. We need the real straight up facts, no sugar-coating! 👏
Oh my goodness-many clinicians are not like this. What an amazing clinician. I am so grateful to her and Kyle. This information does change lives.
She is so charismatic......I can hear her talk all the time......there is nothing more sexier than a person who knows everything about what they are talking......😍😁
Shubhra S : You know that. Shubhra .🙏🏻
She may be charismatic but she has no idea about what she’s talking about. She probably has never even talked with a person with ASPD
@@albertoceccato7164 She's a therapist and she has life experience with these individuals outside her profession. Do you even watch the videos and listen or is this just personal?
Why do u need to reduce everything to sex?
lol@Bob Loblaw
I would really love to hear Dr Durvasula talk specifically about Codependency and about the Effects of Narcissistic or Psychopathic parenting. Abusive parenting creates lifelong emotional and behavioral problems in adult children of people with "Cluster B" personality disorders. Codependency, Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissism, Histrionic, and Antisocial Personality Disorders are maladaptive responses to the trauma of childhood abuse.
I was abused as a child by my narcissistic mother, and I didn't develop a personality disorder. I have empathy for days, and a well-developed conscience and properly calibrated moral compass.
It's more than just nurture. There has to be some genetics to it. I say this because my oldest sister (our mother's golden child for the first 2.5 decades of her life) developed Borderline Personality Disorder and my brother (the 2nd oldest and family scapegoat) may have, as well, although it showed up more like AsPD in his youth. He is actually a very sensitive guy who was "miserable" to use his own words. In case you're not aware, miserable or misery is another word for BPD.
My next oldest sister jumps from long-term relationship to long-term relationship...as in just days between them...which is also disordered. She may be more of a dependent personality, which has some similarities with BPD.
I'm the youngest. I'm the black sheep (because I'm different from them, not because I'm bad). I don't drink, do drugs, have promiscuous sex, get married and divorced quickly, and I don't jump from relationship to relationship or have black and white thinking, etc. I'm logical, rational, and a little bit gullible (less so now that I've educated myself for years on these disorders). I like my own company and being alone (not BPD), don't seek the admiration from others (not NPD), enjoy helping others and especially those who are vulnerable (certainly not AsPD, sociopathy or psychopathy). Yet I also have boundaries and will tell others to promptly fuck off and get out of my life when they severely violate them (i.e. haven't spoken to my mother since 2004...or seen her...and I don't miss her at all, not even tiny bit...yet I also don't want to hurt her or have any harm come to her).
I'm not special. I'm not unique. Yet I am rather different from my siblings, and we were all raised in the same home, by the same parents, but our genetics and temperament seemed to have caused us to turn out differently. I should be disordered if all that mattered is nurture. Yet, somehow I got lucky (even if I was unlucky to have to endure the abuse).
I do agree that primary caregivers and early childhood family dynamics do come into play with these disorders, but there has to be some genetic components to it, as well, and then the dysfunctional environment "flips" the switch on those disordered genes.
I had similar abuse that my siblings endured, and I endured much of it alone from age 8 on (all my siblings were out of the home before my 9th birthday...again because of my abusive mother). Yet somehow I didn't develop a personality disorder...or anxiety...no addictions. I have dated a couple of narcissists, though...maybe more than a couple. lol
@@le_th_ Yeah exactly. I have a very similar, almost identical upbringing and resulting scars that I am beginning to appreciate. Because I am starting to see that those scars made me emphatic, thoughtful, resilient and complex/deep person.
I am curious. Have you noticed this about your group of friends and their group of friends (maybe earlier in your life, I am just turning 30): They are made of people raised by abusive parents. Some like you (some call HSP highly sensitive person) and the rest is people who became abusive themselves. I feel like we gravitate towards each other. Abusers like to fight and be competitive with other abusers and of course need to abuse the sensitive people. And the sensitive people gravitate towards them at first bc we are thought that love and affection is abuse and then stay because they can empathize and feel sorry for the abusers. Perhaps most importantly because they have been able to let go of their abusive parent(s) yet.
Now that I can see these I do not know what to do in those groups because if I tell the truth I will be the bad guy and get attacked. Yet I can not let go of some of my friends (non abusive ones).
le th - I'm interested to hear of your experience. I actually would have described myself quite similarly although I did have NPD as a teen (got blown out of the water the first time I saw what real emotions actually looked like) and have spent my life dedicated to increasing self-awareness.
What I did notice, however, despite being an empathy-drenched, boundary setting, clarity-seeking, objective and I feel fairly well-balanced human being, is that I was actually harbouring some MASSIVE codependent tendencies not in relationship, but in my relationship with business and money.
In relationship, I'm my own woman, I'm kind and polite in the communication of my boundaries and standards, not only respect but support my partners to do what they need for themselves (my theory is if they're following their deepest truth, this benefits everyone) and pretty much zero fear of abandonment or rejection or speaking my truth.
I take a look at what my relationship with business used to be, however, and I was TERRIFIED of rejection, couldn't ask for what I needed for myself, allowed myself to be guilted by my internal belief systems of "shoulds" around my business and shame for days around my being such a failure etc..
I was actually FASCINATED to see this and recognise that dysfunction doesn't have to come up in social relationships, it can manifest in other ways. Just wondered of perhaps this is something you may have noticed in yourself as well.
Appreciate your sharing regardless. :)
@@jofriedman4528 People with self esteem issues resulting from abuse and/or neglect have a difficult time owning their humanity what Carl G. Jung (the famous psychologist) called the shadow. We become either too nice or too ruthless. We have unrealistic expectations of others and hold ourselves to impossible standards. We view the world as it should be instead of as it is. The best advice I can give you is a list of books I would recommend reading. Otherwise my reply would become a lengthy dissertation written out on a TH-cam post. This stuff is extremely heavy and goes to the core of what it means to be human. Most people are not ready for that kind of brutal honesty and self reflection.
My psychologist has a large suspicion of ASPD. I was physically and emotionally abused by my mother and father in childhood and got out when I was 16. I am capable of feeling my version of empathy. I can form bonds with some people. I care about a very small number of people, under 5, but even then, the feeling I have isn’t exactly empathy. It’s protective, but moreso because I value their presence to me than I value their own happiness to themselves. The better they feel, the better they behave and I receive the best version of themselves when they are happy.
I am not a clinical narcissist, but I am more narcissistic than most are. My parents are both narcissists and Cluster B. I don’t believe I’m evil for lacking empathy, because the concepts of good and evil are lost on me. I believe in punishment, but not in the traditional form.
I often fake empathy and caring for people because it gives me power. It moves me higher in the social chain, makes people trusting, and it gives me power to domineer over people. I don’t get pleasure out of abusing this power unnecessarily, but I still abuse it when it benefits me.
As a person who has struggled with self love my whole life, and been told so many times that I need to learn to love myself, I really appreciate that you say instead: find value in yourself, see the value in yourself, because it’s so much less off-putting to hear, and I can actually wrap my head around that! For a percent has grown up with negative mirroring and subjected to verbal abuse and brainwashing, the idea of valuing yourself seems a lot more attainable to me personally
Agreed
Dr. Ramani is definitely one of my favorites on the topic of Cluster B Personalities, how they harm people, and how to heal from their abuse.
There are monsters among us. Re-read fairytales. Stay alert, listen to instinct and employ healthy boundaries. Ultimately, be prepared to escape and to defend yourself.
Thank you, Dr Ramani and Kyle!
Holly - Totally TRUE. These people are monsters because they do not have the natural ability to empathise and hold true compassion for others...they're Satan's children who do his bidding. These folks take advantage of the good people in this world and usually gravitate to us and the LIGHT that dwells within us because there is no light in them but only darkness HENCE WHY they anticipate us to be THEIR savior...and overly idealize us THEN when they realize we're simply human just like THEM, they devalue us and assign THEIR negative doings and traits to us to escape the responsibility for their actions.
~ Healthy boundaries are NECESSARY ESPECIALLY if a family member is infected with this disease...Gray rock is VERY effective if people have limited options and have to deal with them on occasions. Those who wisen up and come out of the cognitive dissonance (state of confusion) should avoid them like the plague and have no contact at all...zip!...zero!
yes alot of fairly tails are twisted
@@kathrynjohnson8952 Although my response to your response on this post is extremely after the fact, I just wanted to say wow did you hit the jackpot on explaining the personality of this type of person. It resonated extremely well with me, and almost validates my experience with these types of individuals, as most other people in my life would not validate but blame shift or disengage. So, I thank you for that and marvelous articulation. 👏
"People internalize those mocking voices".
I definitely did. I had OCD and could hear it inside putting me down for many years, fortunately I didn't take it seriously, but it was still deeply discomfortable.
This video helped a lot.. I have borderline personality disorder and watched every video on it by medcircle! And I also deal with a narcissistic mother and have two children with a schizophrenic man. I suffer so much everyday and I watch your videos every night to help me not feel absolutely alone.. so thank you both. ❤️
Take care and good luck 🧝♀️
I paused 4 minutes in to say that I love Dr.Ramani. She is sincere in her words and actions without being brutally honest and not sugar coating anything either. I love that in a person, so a big thumbs up from me =)
"You value yourself and you keep up the gate so that the people who do not value cannot enter..." Brilliant submission, Dr. Thank you so much.
I have been a psychologist in Australia for 41yrs. I always get a lot of value from Dr Durvasula’s teaching. Thank you very much.
Okay, so, I was promised an in depth look at psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcissists, and all I got was 11 minutes of self aggrandizement and woo woo talk. I usually enjoy the videos, but I can't in good conscience endorse this one.
Its a dismal "science", it really doesn't qualify at all as we have no real understanding of the brain.
This woman was extremely inaccurate with her so called facts too. I literally have ASPD with psychopathic tendencies and everything she talked of was so incredibly incorrect
@@oxpulat So if YOU have it you could be talking BS right now
@Polkadotty If you have ASPD you are by definition dysfunctional. A functional person wouldn't have a diagnosis. People like you are pathological liars.
because these „terms“ or „disorders“ aren’t real, they aren’t facts. it’s just a man or woman’s opinion. women’s opinion don’t matter anyways, as they view the world completely different
I like Dr Ramani’s idea of “getting ahead of heartache”. Unfortunately it takes some people years to have the time and energy to do the work necessary to educate themselves and start to work through the trauma that makes them vulnerable to damaging relationships. But it’s never too late. Thank you both for bringing these ideas to us ☺️
You describe us as “monsters”, but the truth is much more complicated than that.
Every ''psychopath'' and ''sociopath'' are unique, you can never be able to tell for sure.
Thank you Dr. Ramani for stigmaticing and flatout lying about us. Not only are the terms ,,Psychopath"/ ,,Sociopath" outdated, you completely invalidate how we become the way we are. ,,Many people have a bad start.", but some have it worse. I went through hell and back in my childhood so I had two options: Adapt or die. You act as if all of us are puppy killing serial killers. We didn't ask to be like this but I honestly don't see the point in changing if everybody will imediatly demonize me.
we love her !!! she nails it so brilliantly every time and she comes across as truly authentic ...
I am presently in a counseling psychology program to become a licensed professional counselor, and I appreciate how clearly Dr. Ramani explains these disorders and other mental health issues. I would love to be a student in one of her classes! I am toward the end of my graduate counseling psychology program and will begin my internship later this year. These discussions have provided me with a better understanding and greater sense of empathy for individuals dealing with mental health issues/diagnoses, particularly those individuals with personality disorders . Thank you, MedCircle and than you, Dr. Ramani!
I love Dr Ramani too. She comes over as being very empathic but also pragmatic/down to earth. Great info as usual. Ramani rocks!
YES! Listening to Dr. Ramani is fascinating, informative, enriching. People who are her patients are truly fortunate to be able to have her as their counselor.
I love her so much. Shes so real. I enjoy that. Very few psychologists will tell the truth about themselves. So happy to have found you.
I have aspd and I will be sueing for defamation of character against Dr. Romani and med circle itself
Where is the conversation about how to help people with ASPD be better people?
Please, talk about narcissist co-workers and bosses. 🙏🏽
There is already a series of vids that cover that.
You can access that episode at bit.ly/2S6pwXA ! Once you sign in, click on "ASPD: Psychopaths, Sociopaths and How to Spot Them." Then click on the Playlist icon in the top-left corner of the video thumbnail. At the bottom of the playlist of episodes, you'll see the video "If Your Co-Worker Has Psychopathic or Sociopathic Tendencies, Here's What to Do."
MedCircle thanks 🙏
yes, workplace narcs,
boss narcs
workplace cooperative
Self worth drives from status and how others see them. The end.
Some students had the golden opportunity to attend her lecture and were inattentive? Srsly...
You 2 have changed my recovery from defeat to accomplished, stronger than ever before and able to re-enter social environments (almost). This is not just life changing, but life saving. THANK YOU SO MUCH.
Dr. Ramani you rock! Thank you for all you do to bring awareness to this topic.
Brutally honest but extremely noble! Which is exactly what today needs! Great dr
I love how sweet you are to Dr. Ramani... you always complement her, and she deserve it. She is great!
Dr. Ramani is changing our lives and protecting some of us from future harm --- that is priceless!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Dr. Ramani is such an amazing gift…my very favorite!
I just found y’all yesterday and LOVE LOVE LOVE the content and clarity. I only wish I’d found it 20 years ago.
Thank you!!!! Keep it coming!!!! 💜💜💜💜
The best thing about dr ramani is her humanity, she is not fake, authentic and straightforward. She really want to help people
Medcircle is a GREAT INVENTION! Thank you for your guest here and the Interviews! Loved that one !
Hello! I've been dealing with OCD since I was 17 (aprox.). I'm 35 now and these videos help A LOT! I agree that Dr Ramani is amazing on these videos. I actually wish that she could be my therapist. Thank you for this channel!!!
Ps: reading her book and watching her videos are giving me courage to get out of a 12 year relationship with a narcissist. I could not thank her enough
At 57, 2 years ago, I realized my eldest sister is a pychopath. My eldest sister cared for us because mom had a disabled child. She fed us, changed us and by all accounts mothered us. I never understood why she could so easily disconnect from us. She always was a patholigal liar, yes she set a fire in the house at a young age, but she married a wonderful man and hid her dysfunction all these years. She would act loving and caring then do something unfathomable, leaving her loved ones feeling horrible not knowing what they did to warrant the pain. Recently dealing with her and my elderly mother sling with mindfulness training I realized she lacks empathy. She will fake it and try to fit it when needed but if you really pay attention you see she has a severe form of anti social disorder. Any past dealings with her where money or men were involved she has exploited for her own benefit. She totally lacks the capacity to care for anyone. It is missing in her brain. Wow my poor parents probably were exploited worse than I. My 91 year old mother realized it before she died as my sister exploited her for the last time. If you suspect a complete lack of empathy in a family or friend, stay away period. A good sign is a pathological liar. Lying when it makes no sense is a strong clue. It's devasting, abusive, and takes takes years to heal. She destroyed my family. I now know the reason behind the majority of dysfunction in my family. Because it was covert was the reason it went in for so long. Call them out asap, trust me they know they are not normal.
I have a question
Thank you, for the explanation, that makes perfect sense.
she definitely isn’t a psychopath
Exactly. This is with my aunt. It his awful. I wish they could've given the diagnosis in her teens. But, she would never want to accept or get real help. The hell of it all is unbelievable.
"Doesn't matter how you win the game as long as you win".. she said a lot when she said that. No lies was told.
WE LOVE DR.RAMANI! Knowledgeable, patient, No bullshit but not condescending.
Prevention is definitely key. If you can avoid getting with a person with anti social personality disorder, you’ll save yourself a lot of stress, Heartache, and drama. If u see signs, run away fast!
Sometimes there are very covert narcissists out there and you won’t be able to see it as easily. But watch what they DO and NOT what they say because their actions won’t be consistent with what they’re telling you. I mean I didn’t know he was a narcissist until I dated him for a second time & after 3 months into it I knew he was up to some more bullshit, but this time it was worse & he tried to gaslight me. Didn’t work. I had been down that road before but just didn’t recognize it. Not even the girl that he cheated on me with & was friends with him for 7 years, knew what kind of demon he was
It will save you a lot of money too to avoid them LMAO but the issue is, some of them are soooo good at pretending they’re just like everybody else it’s hard to know what their true intentions are. Took me a year to figure out why something didn’t add up about him.
That's the reason why I now no longer stick around to try to discern what's not feeling quite right in the relationship, I just acknowledge my gut and move on. Each time I've stuck around to discern why the weird vibe and discovered me some seriously well-disguised and unbelievably subtle covert narcs, that's experience enough to know if it doesn't feel open, inspired, transparent, respectful, trusting, healthy, I just walk. No questions, I just walk.
I'd rather be single, empowered and in love with my life, doing what I came here to do and the right people for me will respect that and come to me with full transparency and integrity. If I live my life "alone" (we're never alone), I cannot put into words how utterly okay with that I am.
If it's not a "fuck yes" for me now, it's a no.
Jo Friedman that’s good advice. But for most people, I would think it’s hard to walk away from something when you don’t have evidence. I guess experience is the best teacher. We all have that gut feeling, it’s women’s intuition. And we/I need to start trusting it more.
Its not like that why would he care about your friend thp
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Dr. Ramani is so real. I appreciate her so much. It'd be an honor to meet her.
Dr. Ramani is obviously seasoned and knowledgeable. Also kinda intense and sometimes seems a bit wired! I like it!
I love Dr. Durvasula's no nonsense, real approach.
Thank you!!! Please do a video on parents with ASPD and the effect on their children throughout a lifetime!
You can access that episode at bit.ly/2S6pwXA ! Once you sign in, click on "ASPD: Psychopaths, Sociopaths and How to Spot Them." Then click on the Playlist icon in the top-left corner of the video thumbnail. At the bottom of the playlist of episodes, you'll see episode 7 "What to Do If Your Parent is a Sociopath."
amongtheH2O - THAT would be VERY insightful. Hoping she does a segment on the family dynamics...I have a mother whose infected with this mental disease (and siblings)...
They'd most likely have offspring with anti-social disorder considering I've been diagnosed and I dealt with drug addicted father and a mother that had violent and narcacist tendencies
B DOG that could be the case but my dad was antisocial PD and I’m on the complete opposite of the spectrum. I have anxiety and OCPD and I am way too empathetic if anything
I also LOVE Dr. Ramani. She’s the reason why I contemplate going to college for Psychology where she teaches, so I could have a shot at learning directly from her. It always breaks my heart when she mentions her students aren’t attentive enough a lot of the time. How could you do that when you’re training under THIS. WOMAN!!!! Lol! You’re also a great host, Kyle, we only get these amazing series with Dr Ramani because you know how to get her to shine. I guess you guys can tell I’m a Med Circle fan 💕💕 lol! But mostly because of you two
I think I'm dating a sociopath and she's ruining my life, what I do is never enough, and she knows what to do and what to say so that I'm thinking about her all day and can't concentrate on other things due to anxiety, and I feel that despite being aware of everything, I don't have the strength to walk away. Thank you for these videos, they are very helpful for me.
Perhaps you like the attention of being a victim. Sounds harsh, but some people are accustomed to getting attention from others due to their misfortunes. Ask yourself why you would allow this type of mistreatment. You have a choice, you are free to leave, are you not? Choose peace over confusion. In reality, you are ruining your own life. Take your power back. I wish you the best 🌺
@@amyrenee1361 Ah, good ol' victim blaming...
@@amyrenee1361 trauma bond isn’t as simple as that sometimes you don’t know the full extent of the abuse until you leave never blame the victim for staying blame the abuser for their actions
@@brennuvargr4638 a victim is someone who has something happen to them against their will. Choosing poorly does not make you a victim
@@demimarlenealexander3371 yeah I heard that my whole life and that is the mentality that kept me in abusive relationships. When I started owning my choices and seeing that I was CHOOSING it, I got out. Nobody in their right mind stays around someone who treats them badly. There is something wrong with them to stay with someone who treats them badly, and they need to know that so they can change their predicament. That is the point, right? People can sit there and say "it's wrong to treat others poorly". Okay, well isn't it wrong to treat yourself poorly? What's the difference? This person can complain that they aren't strong enough to treat themselves right, but the person treating them badly is only doing the same thing. How can you demand that someone else be better than you? "I'm incapable of treating myself right, but you have to to treat me right, or you're evil". In reality, both are guilty. And until you realize that, you will always be the poor helpless victim. Or , you can realize that you are contributing to the problem and change. It took me over 30 years to figure it out. This isn't judgement, this just truth. I want this person to be safe and happy. So rather than disempower them more with this false belief that they are simply victims, I'm telling them the truth. Most problems in life stem from people's inability to take responsibility for their own life choices. People are fully capable of leaving these types of relationships behind. You can want better for yourself. You can be single. You don't have to be a doormat. It's not easy, but it's doable. And they need to know that they aren't victims. This isn't happening against their will or better judgement. This is happening because of their poor will and bad judgement. Hurting yourself is wrong. You hurt yourself when you allow people to be in your life who don't have to be there. Maybe when you first meet someone, you don't know how they are. But once the abuse, lying, cheating, hitting, occur- you know it's wrong. Stand up for yourself. You can't blame anyone but yourself for staying.
I love her ! I appreciate her very truthful feeling demeanor!
I love watching these videos, Kyle and Dr. Ramini are a great combo, thank you for taking the time to share these!
What grows out of all these MedCircle series is that self-esteem is at the root of so much of all of this behavioural science
I admire Dr. Durvasula so much! I'm studying psychology right now. I'm so curious about her background hehe. I will continue to study hard and listen to her. I want to help her help humanity!
I'm a masters trained therapist and just a bit of advice to you that I wish I recieved bc most masters and doctoral trained therapists don't make living wages commensurate for their training. But theres a way to help AND make $ . If you want to help people in this field and make a good living....First, do a dual focused bachelor's...a minor or even a dual major in psychology and enrolled an RN nursing program. When you graduate, you can get a great paying job pretty much anywhere as a RN nurse including mental health facilities to get on the job training and exposure. Then enroll in a local nurse practitioner's program part-time if you can go parttime (but some programs only offer fulltime course work and you can't work. This is ok bc once you are completed in two years you will be making 65 to 75k minimum to pay off those student loans really quickly). Most NP program have a mental health track. You will not have to get student loans if your job pays for continued education courses related to your work if you go part-time. Once you are done you will be extremely marketable in ANY medical setting including the mental health field. You literally will have your pick of jobs. You could even go private practice and you can do it all...assess, prescribe medications and offer therapy.. you would essentially be a psychiatrist without attending 12 plus years of schools. You would have an extremely bright future. If you go the counseling or psychology route, jobs will be much more scarce and lots of saturation in the field, much lower starting salary 30 to 35k for masters, 45 to 50k starting for doctorates. My niece didn't follow this suggestion and 5 years later is not making enough to pay off her student loans as a MSW. Good luck!!
Dr. Durvasula is the best thing that has ever happened to mental health. Thank you very much.
I love how being a social path is considered a mental illness yet they are treated so badly and unhuman.
I agree. The way she talks about people with aspd in this video is so dehumanizing and also she referres to them as sociopaths and psychopaths. Like girl you are a professional. You should know better.
These 2 are great at all the context and necessary details so people can truly understand what these predators typically present as and how to protect yourself from getting sucked into any sort of relationship with them, it’s a topic that requires a series of videos to take the time to listen and take notes in order to become familiar with it thanks Dr Ramonii and Kyle at medcircle 👏🏼👏🏼
Dr Ramani is my favourite Psych'! Value yourself yes. Important
I leaned so much from Dr. Ramani. Thank you❤️
Love the chemistry between you two, love watching your videos together,such great great imfo. And questions.
Dr. Ramani is so wonderful and compassionate. Whenever she started talking about the loss of human potential, that resonated with me so much. And I like how she doesn’t sugarcoat anything, it’s blunt and to the point. She’s wonderful :0)
I need an appointment with her. Like ASAP
I like the interaction between these two. Video wasn't the summary I expected, but it was a good introduction to what you're offering. Thank you.
I had five children with a sociopath and I’m seeing all his traits in one of my children. She is almost 18 and I’m putting it all together.
What is it like having a relationship with a sociopath?
I love her man, my favorite psychologist of all time
This doc. Is so captivating I’ve learned so much from watching the videos .
Thank you, Dr Ramani. You're an amazing wealth of very important information.
What is this ego stroking? Is the male interviewer demonstrating “love bombing” techniques?
I love Dr. Romani, but I am a bit upset at the generalizing going on here. As someone who is ASPD, what people need to know is that it is a spectrum. So some individuals are totally lacking empathy and would hurt anyone to get up in the world, but more than half of us aren't close to that, we are more empathetic, but it's selective empathy. My therapist said my ASPD was a response to trauma and being raised by a drug addicted narcissist. When I was very young I didn't care who you were, if you needed help I was there even at my own detriment. But that got me hurt so many times that eventually I hardened and learned to only give myself completely to those I trust unequivacly. There are two people in my life I would die for, and they both earned rhat shit and never abandoned me because of my diagnosis. They understand that I do not want to be an asshole. All I've ever wanted is acceptance. Spreading the false narrative that all people with this diagnosis are assholes yhat may step on you at best and yurt you or kill you at worst. Stop spreading fear and false info please! She says that we have an advantage in today's society which is traight up garbage. Anyone other than my two closest people that I've opened up to, immediately were afraid of me as if I changed. Trust that society would rather us all stay in a cave somewhere to never come out and thatnisnt okay. We aren't all the douchebags. Some of us, I fact I'd argue at least half of us don't have it in us to hurt anyone. Just because I don't feel empathy for you doesn't mean I don't understand rules and laws and public decency.
2:18 “I’m never gonna be you’re warm and fuzzy psychologist.” Ugh, I wish more therapists thought like her.
Dr Ramani is incredible!! And you are a wonderful interviewer. It's a pleasure to watch and listen to you both. There's a ton of learning, reflexion and maturation.
This and the other series on narcissism, are absolutely fantastic.
I would like a new series on the subject, but seen from the victims point of view, meaning an in-depth look at what you do to get out of and over a toxic relationship.
Bless... what Dr Ramani said about the tragic loss of human potential in those victimised by these disorders and wanting to help them realise what happened to them and help them regain their sense of self, self-esteem, self-love etc. (forgive me, I'm paraphrasing) really touched me. Having made my way to what feels like 99% of the way back to full self (which I'm sure is a journey without end), I feel the same way. Thank you both for this powerful and very necessary work. 🙏🏼❤️
I'm sorry but I thought this was a video about the title not 2 people brown nosing each other.
First 3 minutes and I really like what Dr. Ramani is saying.
Kyle asked if we like her,,,I LOVE her!
Dr. Ramani is an expert explainer. But Kyle is also an excellent interviewer. An outstanding combination.
This lady is great at what she does.i love how she explains it so well .its very good🌸🌼
This socialpath who is also high anxiety,ADHD,and complex PTSD loves Dr Rami.
I have always been the same way with my daughter with what she says at the start of this clip.
the best way to have a relationship with a narcissist is no relationship
Layla Layla ouch!