On the topic of forgiveness, many women do not forgive but slowly emotionally withdraw until they don't love you anymore. This happens while men think everything is ok, and that is why they get the shock of their lives when she leaves. That is how women can be so dangerous to your heart, coz you will not see it coming as a man.
forgiveness is to pardon someone’s offence, or letting go of the anger as the result of the offence. I agree with Talitha that me refusing to put myself in that position again shouldn’t be a measure of forgiveness.
Oko is the correct word. Okokoko sesiyagxininisa. Same as qho. Akhonto inguqhoqhoqho unless uthetha ngoqhoqhoqho olusemqaleni 😂😂😂. Just that isiXhosa simnandi wethu, siyasi freestyler
My issue with forgiving and forgetting the person that is asking for forgiveness moves on with their lives while that betrayal stays with me. Now with the slightest mistake the person makes I am filtering and looking at them through that initial act, I start thinking everything you do is malicious.
You can't hurt me and then dictate how my forgiveness towards you (offender) will look like. When trust is broken, change in your behavior is what will determine if we are going back to the relationship/friendship we once had.
Yhooo… yazi as I was laughing, I noticed today’s quote, and it hit home…” what ever triggers Me, is what I need to heal from…🥺 but then again, where do I start when I feel like everything is a trigger 😢.
perhaps a good place to start is by identifying one by one then zooming in individually instead of collectively... the best way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time
The nature of trust makes it difficult to forgive. In order to truly forgive you must regain trust. Regaining trust needs a second chance. So I would borrow you for a maximum of 2 times. If the behavior is the same, ngeke ngiphinde! MARA cheating! Haaai, once is enough! Especially if it happens more than once, Trust is -1000! No coming back😂
Hey, LOVE yalls pod❤! I don't agree with bhuti Zuko, forgiveness isn't the same as trust. So if someone borrows money and delays in returning it and they apologise, you can forgive (let go of the anger/hurt you have against them) but it doesnt mean you should trust them again.
😂😂 We just got to see why women forgive men of cheating. Did you see how Ta Mzu played with words? 33:57 no Thalitha besithi yes the whole time, even nami I’m agreeing😂😂
We forgive Tar Mzubhela, the fact that sisaqhubeka sivana nabantu abasi moshayo sixolile, qha xa sisithi asiphinde sizibeke kula position, we protecting our selves and the relationship we have with you as Ummoshi..😊😊
Hayi Zuko. Forgiveness does not always equal to reconciliation. One has to protect themselves from future hurt. I love that Thalitha says it’s protecting both of us.
very fair... glad and appreciative if perspectives ngoba nhyani sometime we think certain things which are not always necessarily true or the best way to approach situations. your comment is much appreciated
Cheating is a series of decisions, umntu could have stopped at texting but they decided no I want more. I think that's why it's hard to forgive cause you never considered how it would hurt me.
I agree with Talitha on the forgiveness part. I have forgiven you for what you have done to me but the situation have taught me to move differently with you should similar situations arise again. Or else if I keep placing myself kula situation nawe, ndi riska uphinde undi gqumze yhoooo nooo ways
Personally, I feel like ayikho kuwe as umntu ocela uxolo to tell/ask me to forgive you😭out of the goodness of my heart I can decide to do so and as umntu omoshileyo if you’re not forgiven okanye you’re never lent money again, that’s the reality and the consequences that come with your unreliability. Sharp awunayo but why ungathethi? Because I could have plans for that money too and I also needed it
Yho, yho, yho!!! UZuko uthunywe ziiDyans kule episode. These excuses? Hay’bo!! What do you mean ubungayazi at 40? Bethuna!! Sogqiba afune kuthiwe forgive and forget? Forget njani kodwa andingoYesu? Andinamnqamlezo kaloku mna for ucima izono zakho. If you break the trust, understand that it isn’t a walk in the park ukuphila through a broken trust, and the work of repairing it is actual work. Be willing to do the work. Kwa ezanto zoba “ingathi ndisejele” is evading accountability and shifting blame. Because ngoku you’re problematising your partner’s reaction to a broken trust. Trust leyo ekrwabazwe nguwe. Sogqiba wasonga izandla walindela uba makalibale. Yho hay’sana!!
But if you have the definition of forgiveness being 'completely erasing something as if it never happened', means that the next time you borrow money to that same person, you should lend to them without any conditions (as in you shouldnt even need to ask to keep something valuable e.g. an ID).
Lol I'm planning to "clean" my stomach for December and ive already made an appointment for braids for my December hairstyle lol I wanted a bold color but January heat is like im coming so slow down... My festive is going to festive ke😂
Hayi mhkhuluwa andivumi shame, ukuxola doesn't mean that ndizakuba sisbhanxa ngoku. I can forgive a loved one and accept their flaws but from now on I am aware of that flaw and must act accordingly, as usisi said I won't put myself in that position again. For example if I know you don't return money I either won't led you money or I will give it to you from now on with no expectation of return.
Would you still forgive your friend if they totalled your car? Or if you get a new car, would you still lend them your car after they totalled the last one?
When I think about the word inqentsu and think back on amahlelo, words that start with in, the plural should be izi. I'm not sure how strict amahlelo are and whether they should be followed to the T, but if we are to follow them, the plural should be izinqentsu 😂
not me ndixhesha usisi esenza shopping ndimmele ngo 12 obethileyo ne episode eUploadiweyo sisi akazi nezonto ze episode busy zizipeshali yena 🤣🤣🤣 bethuna nizosiphambanisa kuba sileqa uzohleka apha 😍🥰
My ex used to confess after cheating. Ekqaleni I appreciated the fact that he confessed but eventually I realised that uguy keeps cheating and keeps confessing... ndaqonda whats the point ke... Bayadika wethu abantu!
Budas, its December, nantsi yama choice associated.
Oh yini na. Sibamba ngazo sozbini🎉
Awww man this is so sweet
I lowkey wanna do this "How was your week" with my sister (and close friends). I feel like it's a nice bonding moment❤ could uncover some gems.
absolutely - it definitely would! give it a bash
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Thank you Madimerge 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
Thank you for making life less stressful, ngihleka ngikhale inyembezi with all episodes…oyiniii bethuna 😂😂😂
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as a serial ad skipper, sana isazela after this comment. Akuskipeki tuu 😄😄😄 thanks Amila
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On the topic of forgiveness, many women do not forgive but slowly emotionally withdraw until they don't love you anymore. This happens while men think everything is ok, and that is why they get the shock of their lives when she leaves.
That is how women can be so dangerous to your heart, coz you will not see it coming as a man.
So true
This is a comedic show for sure! I laugh every week.
Oh forgiveness is remembering without being hurt.
like this!
Its those voices that you guys make when you're explaining silliness 😂😂😂
forgiveness is to pardon someone’s offence, or letting go of the anger as the result of the offence. I agree with Talitha that me refusing to put myself in that position again shouldn’t be a measure of forgiveness.
can definitely hear this!
Arg this is one of the best podcasts ever
Your sense of humour is everything I need😅
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Been binge watching all the other episodes I’ve been missing out on and I’m excited
lets goo :)
Once more, loved this episode!😂❤❤
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The best thing to happen to me on a Friday 🎉❤
It's Zuko saying "Yho hayi umxabisile umbane"🤣
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“Yey ha.a uwuxabisile umbane lobhuthi”😂😂😂😂
Oko is the correct word. Okokoko sesiyagxininisa. Same as qho. Akhonto inguqhoqhoqho unless uthetha ngoqhoqhoqho olusemqaleni 😂😂😂. Just that isiXhosa simnandi wethu, siyasi freestyler
oohh! wonderful. makes perfect sense, thank you for it
Owam umzekelo, ungu treasurer womgalelo, utye imali yethu. We might forgive you but soze siphinde sikwenze utreasurer.
I saw the podcast on tick-tock and I was like I'm definitely subscribing❤.
Same🥰
Yaaay! And thank you for joining us on this wild ride ❤️❤️❤️
My issue with forgiving and forgetting the person that is asking for forgiveness moves on with their lives while that betrayal stays with me. Now with the slightest mistake the person makes I am filtering and looking at them through that initial act, I start thinking everything you do is malicious.
its so difficult
I love you guys so much 😂😂😂.
" The relationship is rocky" ikujikele iside chick
Kak'bi!
Implemented a turn around strategy 😂😂
You can't hurt me and then dictate how my forgiveness towards you (offender) will look like. When trust is broken, change in your behavior is what will determine if we are going back to the relationship/friendship we once had.
Yhooo… yazi as I was laughing, I noticed today’s quote, and it hit home…” what ever triggers Me, is what I need to heal from…🥺 but then again, where do I start when I feel like everything is a trigger 😢.
perhaps a good place to start is by identifying one by one then zooming in individually instead of collectively... the best way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time
great show guys it's all about authenticity
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The nature of trust makes it difficult to forgive. In order to truly forgive you must regain trust. Regaining trust needs a second chance. So I would borrow you for a maximum of 2 times. If the behavior is the same, ngeke ngiphinde! MARA cheating! Haaai, once is enough! Especially if it happens more than once, Trust is -1000! No coming back😂
the nature of trust! ooohhh ... we can definitely hear this, thank you
💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽🥰🥰🥰we’re here yuuuu I’ve been bingeing ohh and I’m so happy you guys are making me miss home ❤️❤️❤️
Welcome to it 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
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Hey, LOVE yalls pod❤! I don't agree with bhuti Zuko, forgiveness isn't the same as trust. So if someone borrows money and delays in returning it and they apologise, you can forgive (let go of the anger/hurt you have against them) but it doesnt mean you should trust them again.
THIS!!
You typed this comment so I wouldn't have to.
I had to pause there by “Your partner cheats on you den akucele I-forgiveness” (laugh/sigh/more laughs) ngoba I was FINISHED😅😅😅😅😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
My favourite ❤Xhosa fam, ndi ni thanda gqithi!!! Glad I came across you 😅🎉you laughter is contagious ❤❤
Okoko sounds right and would appreciate the old lady's coming to the podcast to share some memories and wisdoms of-course. 🙌
Mzubhere on this proves that he is really a Xhosa Dyan (cheating part)😅
hayi maaaan... hehe, i mean you see these things and he is only a representative of some of the thing that happen out there hehe
There's never a need to confess, ever😂
Uthini na dyan 😂😂😂
On the forgiveness conclusion, I totally agree with you Guys...👌🏽
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😂😂 We just got to see why women forgive men of cheating. Did you see how Ta Mzu played with words? 33:57 no Thalitha besithi yes the whole time, even nami I’m agreeing😂😂
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what a disaster ! lol lol
Yey!! Umntu ove abelusizi eAct’a 😭😭😭✋🏾bhut Zuks? Ngeke 😂
Haibo Congrats sis Talitha for Soft Life 🗣️🔥💓! The hair scene at the beginning reminded me of the episode when Zuko commented on your Afro 🤣
Thank you😂😂
Excess bantu bam not access! Love you guys.
🤣🤣🤣 yes, yona kanye!
Just because I forgive you doesn't mean you're off the hook for the consequences.
Absolutely… forgiveness shouldn’t mean one is absolved of the consequences for sure…
We forgive Tar Mzubhela, the fact that sisaqhubeka sivana nabantu abasi moshayo sixolile, qha xa sisithi asiphinde sizibeke kula position, we protecting our selves and the relationship we have with you as Ummoshi..😊😊
Hayi Zuko. Forgiveness does not always equal to reconciliation. One has to protect themselves from future hurt. I love that Thalitha says it’s protecting both of us.
very fair... glad and appreciative if perspectives ngoba nhyani sometime we think certain things which are not always necessarily true or the best way to approach situations. your comment is much appreciated
Cheating is a series of decisions, umntu could have stopped at texting but they decided no I want more. I think that's why it's hard to forgive cause you never considered how it would hurt me.
absolutely! thank you for this
I agree with Talitha on the forgiveness part. I have forgiven you for what you have done to me but the situation have taught me to move differently with you should similar situations arise again. Or else if I keep placing myself kula situation nawe, ndi riska uphinde undi gqumze yhoooo nooo ways
there's something special ngani mami
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You can’t convince me that khange nizi planne ezi collar 😂
Ezi Chinese collars??
Guys I know it's unbelievable but khange😂
Personally, I feel like ayikho kuwe as umntu ocela uxolo to tell/ask me to forgive you😭out of the goodness of my heart I can decide to do so and as umntu omoshileyo if you’re not forgiven okanye you’re never lent money again, that’s the reality and the consequences that come with your unreliability. Sharp awunayo but why ungathethi? Because I could have plans for that money too and I also needed it
"Undi forgive half?" 😂😂😂😂
Black Friday special I guess because what do you mean we have almost an hour to catch up with my siblings ❤❤😊😊
Yabona wena ke 😭😍😍😍
Please guys watch the ads ❤🙏🏼
Yho, yho, yho!!! UZuko uthunywe ziiDyans kule episode. These excuses? Hay’bo!! What do you mean ubungayazi at 40? Bethuna!! Sogqiba afune kuthiwe forgive and forget? Forget njani kodwa andingoYesu? Andinamnqamlezo kaloku mna for ucima izono zakho.
If you break the trust, understand that it isn’t a walk in the park ukuphila through a broken trust, and the work of repairing it is actual work. Be willing to do the work.
Kwa ezanto zoba “ingathi ndisejele” is evading accountability and shifting blame. Because ngoku you’re problematising your partner’s reaction to a broken trust. Trust leyo ekrwabazwe nguwe. Sogqiba wasonga izandla walindela uba makalibale. Yho hay’sana!!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣uta Mzubhela nge chweba, ingqabi💸🤣🤣, sisonke kodwa, yi draw🤭
clean ! hahha
“Ndikhaphu-khaphu”. 🤣🤣❤️❤️
Hi guys
Yhoo yaze ya deep iconversation yenu this time , love loads ❤❤
😂😂😂😂besi refresha sonke hayi yi addiction 😂😂❤
Yhuuuu Senaworry … hehehe 🤭 uxolweni
Ha a mfundis'uMzubhela, we forgive but also learn. Yes I forgive for now and the future because future you akazufumana sixhiba kum 😂😂
Mama womxhosa will have you apologizing ngathi she's in the room with kanti ha. A.... It's the fear my dear 😂
It's Friiiiiiiyay!!!!!🥳🥳🥳❤
But if you have the definition of forgiveness being 'completely erasing something as if it never happened', means that the next time you borrow money to that same person, you should lend to them without any conditions (as in you shouldnt even need to ask to keep something valuable e.g. an ID).
Been refreshing sana ndicinga you forgot that it is friday🤣
Hehehhe - we will never forget qha had a end user problem 😂 askiesini vha
You forgiven❤
Sis Thalita (i hope i wrote your name correctly) hai Omontle man, you are beautiful, that hair style looks Good on you 🥰🥰🥰
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Lol I'm planning to "clean" my stomach for December and ive already made an appointment for braids for my December hairstyle lol I wanted a bold color but January heat is like im coming so slow down...
My festive is going to festive ke😂
Nginithanda!
❤❤yes yes sesilapha😂❤
Dankie siyabonga 🫶🏾
Hayi mhkhuluwa andivumi shame, ukuxola doesn't mean that ndizakuba sisbhanxa ngoku. I can forgive a loved one and accept their flaws but from now on I am aware of that flaw and must act accordingly, as usisi said I won't put myself in that position again. For example if I know you don't return money I either won't led you money or I will give it to you from now on with no expectation of return.
Love yall sm😭😭😭
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🤣🤣🤣 nandicingisa la show kwakuthiwa ngu Forgive and Forget
Sana hairstyle ka December iyandi stress ngoku, I cannot decide😢😢😢
@29:17..Tar Mzubhela, so would you forgive her that easily if she did not pay the access? Avele athi sorry qha kuphele?
Undiphendule ke kula responsibility part (working on being forgiven...and explaining what you sorry for...danko).
"ndababetha ezinqentswini" 🤣🤣🤣 iwrongo iwrongo
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Ndiyanithanda maan guys. ❤😂
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When you thought you'd be the first to comment but someone beats you to it😂😢
Hehehe Sibling Rivalry 😅
Hehehe@@thandosithole1726
On the nqentsu subject, I'm siding with the there is no plural.
Mna ndiyani thanda shame. Andizenzisi😭❤️❤️😂😂
🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾thank you for the love
Lol its “Oko” eryt and also Nam i don't thing there's a plural for inqentsu😅😅 anywho thanx for the beautiful episode, oko ndihleka😂😂😂😂❤
Ndiyavumelana nalo ebesithi asikho isinintsi,linqentsu qha.😂😂
Simnandi IsiXhosa no cap😂
Mna I can forgive but I can't forget😭 Then umntu azothi ndimcuphile😮
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Not me thinking "Ndababetha emanqentswini bonke"😭😭😭🕊🕊🕊
Zange ndayingxamela kanje iFriday😂😂
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My first time having alcohol my twin sister told me I had to drink the whole bottle😭but keh ndine sisu sestina😂😂😂😂
sesfikileeee
Gabhu! 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
Would you still forgive your friend if they totalled your car? Or if you get a new car, would you still lend them your car after they totalled the last one?
Also I’ll be home in June khothi ndibooke 😂😂
Booka booka !!!
@ Gabhu!
When I think about the word inqentsu and think back on amahlelo, words that start with in, the plural should be izi. I'm not sure how strict amahlelo are and whether they should be followed to the T, but if we are to follow them, the plural should be izinqentsu 😂
😂😂😂 ndizokhe ndiyizame le
mna ndiku - forgiving vs trust. I can forgive you nah, but awungowothenjwa I therefor but a boundary yoba SOZE NDIPHINDE ndizifake. okokoko?
It's a Friiiiidddaaayyyy666🎉🎉🎉
Let’s goooo 🚀
not me ndixhesha usisi esenza shopping ndimmele ngo 12 obethileyo ne episode eUploadiweyo sisi akazi nezonto ze episode busy zizipeshali yena 🤣🤣🤣 bethuna nizosiphambanisa kuba sileqa uzohleka apha 😍🥰
Ngo january bazophinda bazi cleane kalok after inyama nemiqombothi yemigidi😂😂
😂😂😂 yho hayi siyawuthanda umsebenzi
“Safowunela wonk’umntu” kodwa they didn’t call their resident linguist. Bhod ke sana!
😭😭😭😭 hayi Bomi!!! Yintoni lentlungu uyeththayo….kufuneka silungise sana ngekhe
Notification gang 🥳
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puu puu puu puuuuuu!!!!!
Semhle uTali entloko 🤩
Thanks baby❤
Hayini ninani anisifundelanga i board 😂😂😂😂
Hayini siblings. I just got home from giving birth, andisayihleki kabhlungu but andifuni uyeka 😂😂😂
Congrats on the new bundle❤
OKO ndicinga ngawe. Uyenza OKOKOKO lento and ndidiniwe ngoku.
My ex used to confess after cheating. Ekqaleni I appreciated the fact that he confessed but eventually I realised that uguy keeps cheating and keeps confessing... ndaqonda whats the point ke... Bayadika wethu abantu!
Yhu hayi if “uyayibaxa” was a person! Hayi good riddens! 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
Yafana nam ke when it comes to apologising, ndifuna uthi I'm sorry for....,ungathi Im sorry if ....