I Figured Out My Biggest Problem!
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Today we're sharing our struggle with structure and creating consistent rhythms in our home that we are hopefully changing before 2024 rolls around!
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The only advice I have to say is change your mindset. Instead of saying "I have to do these dishes" think "I'm grateful to have these dishes to feed my family. That has helped me alot!
I have not ever been great at cleaning but one thing heard from a mom of Many is to figure out jobs your kids are good at and instead of them all just generally cleaning a room to have each do specific tasks each time. Like one kid always sweeps and cleans the floor. One kid always cleans tables and counters. One always puts toys and art stuff away . So they work as a more organized team
I have such a hard time w the dishes! We used to have a dishwasher.
Mindfulness, Routine & most of all, Discipline. New habits that seem like a drag at first after several weeks, months, years .. they become effortlessly a part of you. Discipline was the biggest thing for me along with mindset .. what i refer to as "romanticizing my life" .. the same idea as if youre cuddling up on a couch to read a nice book by a fire or something like that .. but the mundane things...and make them seem beautiful and appealing ... blessings xx Tina
Do room to room to get everything in order. Then set up the chore chart. For example, on Wednesday I wash the sheets and put them back on the bed. 😊
Going with the zoning idea mentioned above. An addition would be that if anyone leaves a mess in someone else’s zone then they have to take over that zone as well. It really encourages them not to leave the mess in the first place :)
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I have to set a time each week, the same time, same routine and just plan my week. I look at the calendar, the weather, plan my menu, plan out homeschool, chores, errands, all of it. I’m still working on making it all happen each week, but my adhd brain gets distracted easily and overwhelmed. I think like you said, consistency is key.
Exactly what I do too! Glad to see I'm not the only one. :)
Our family had a conversation about what it is to be a good steward and that helped tremendously! I'm not good with routines either so putting it to them with a new way of thinking did a lot for us. With meals I plan out a month at a time a list to pull from. That way I can see what's on the list and what I feel like making that day and 2 nights of the week are always the same for us too. That helps me with decision fatigue 😉
Honestly it is all about just setting a routine that works for you!!! It’s different for everyone. I work with a daily routine ( 4 kids single mum) and each day has an extra job like a bathroom or some sheets or shopping or floors etc. Kids chores were the same every day and swap jobs once a month. I think home schooling makes it even harder because you aren’t set to times for school either. I also agree that you aren’t set in concrete and days can change but not EVERY day 😊
I love structure. I think with 8 children you must have structure or it’s chaos. I know u can figure it out and can’t wait to see how it helps your family .
Oh, im so glad I'm not the only one. So we do family clean ups livingroom, kitchen, Homeschool area. As a family we turn on our Christian worship songs on set timer for 15 minutes and try and beat the clock. It takes usually only 20 minutes but I have kids that love a race. Kids are in charge of cleaning their rooms every Friday. If they have clean rooms all Homeschool work done for the week we take them out for ice cream. But it has to be the whole family.
Homeschooling Messianic mom of 12 come feb over here with 3 girls with celiacs and was wondering what do you guys do for school for your kiddos? I've tried many different things over the last 12 years of their school age years and I'm always curious what other large families like and what's working for them. Love your family and thanks for sharing its so nice watching a family similar to ours and how they do things.
I have syen other vloggers with lots of kids do that each one has a room and the one who messes the other's room has to do it too. When my now adult sons were kids, I used a system that not only helped the youngest realize the concept of time and use of time. I made my own different colored tickets and each color represented either 15 min, 30 min, or 60 min. They had to choose which chores to earn those minutes to play their games, watch tv, etc.,, But as a parent you can try different things to help you learn what works for you and each child. Every child is different and you could also choose one type of system for the older girls and what they are able to do, and maybe something a little easier for the younger girls and son even and eventually they will want to help each other in those areas.
I didn’t have a child with gluten issues, but did have one with many food intolerances on varied levels so we were on a rotation diet. I sat down every month and planned the dinner Menus. She could only have beef every five days for instance, so if I fixed a roast (one of our family favorites) I counted five days before spaghetti or burgers. Planning that way made grocery shopping easier too. Breakfast and lunches I just made sure that child had plenty of the “safe” foods to choose from. She was tested for 125 foods and had issues to over 85 of them!
Give each child a Zone that they are responsible for keeping neat and clean
I have 9 and this is life changing! We do a 10 minute zone pick up 2 times a day and my house stays neat. We homeschool as well and it adds a nice transition from morning time to table school.
We use zoning when we deep clean. Normal chores are an everyday thing when we’re done with school or in the morning when we wake up. We don’t call them chores tho because I don’t like the negative connotation, they are things we do to make out house/life less chaotic which also makes our brains feel less chaotic. I have started using out little digital timer for everything. Like literally everything lol we’re a house full of adhd and autism. We neeeeeed the structure but our brains are bouncing chaos. 😂
Oh I came back to add something because of course my thoughts can never just all come at once! I love having a planner but I also HAVE to have a wall calendar so it doesn’t get put away. Important things have to be out for me to see during the day! I also have a weekly schedule dry erase board with room to write schedules for each day!
It sort of picking a system and trying it and seeing how it works for you. Also depends on what you’re trying to accomplish exactly. Label everything. It seems silly but then everyone in your family can figure out where things go or where things have a home. Team work and team building skills. If one person is sick, others have to pick up the slack and complete those chores that person would have done. Chores may not always be even but you’re all working together as a team for a common goal. Motivation is what inspires you to do something and discipline is the action you take to get the task done. Depending on how you feel about it, sometimes treating adhd can make a world of difference even just for the short term to see what it’s like. For some people it’s like putting on a pair of glasses and finally being able to see. Everyone is different of course.
I am a huge believer in day by day chores to stay organized and not get behind or forget when things were done last….for example Monday I do bathroom vanities mirrors and floors….Tuesday toilets 🚽 Wednesday is my “free day” so anything extra I would like to do….Thursday is wash kids bedding day plus vacuum their rooms and Friday is wash my husband and my bedding plus vacuum our room. Every day I do a load of towels and load of clothes (I’m sure you would need to do more than thing since we have 4 and you have 8 😃) unload dishwasher and make my bed….every other day I vacuum and sweep the main living area and bathrooms. Stuff gets picked up all throughout the day and my husband and I make sure everything is Put away and clean before we sit done every night….we always turn on the dishwasher before bed and start a load of towels before bed that way as soon as I get up I can get them into the dryer! I know this sounds like a lot and maybe confusing but for me it’s soooo easy to stick to because it’s the exact same every single day….no thinking about when to do what or having to take the time to plan when to do things either!
And our home always stays neat and organized :)
We also do meal prep together Saturday mornings and plan for groceries then as well!! I hope this helps some! I adore your whole family 🥰
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Blessings to you all ❤.
We have 6 kids and the oldest is 12 and we’ve never had a monitor before either lol. Also we don’t have everything planned out and organized either. I get in these moods to get everything in order and try to have more of a routine but it usually only lasts a couple weeks. So I just want to let you know that it’s okay and I love your channel because it’s real and relatable. Maybe we don’t have it all together all the time like others may seem on TH-cam but you know what we’re all different and that’s okay. I love to see vans that get as messy as ours! Lol but man i try so hard to keep it clean and it’s sooo comfy when it’s nice and clean. All we can do is our best and God sees. He blessed our wombs and trusted us to raise them so we don’t have to prove we can handle it all because God already decided that we got this. 💪Most important thing of everyday is letting our children know about what Jesus did for them. ❤
I have celiac disease and 3 kids. Not organized 😂 I do meal plan & order grocery pickup once a week. I plan quick/easy things for busy days and recipes my kids can help 2x a week. Soup on weekend lunches for winter lol
My daughter has ADHD. She has a big broad she writes down everything they have do for the month, so she can see it. She also does a reset every night of her home. She says it easier starting there day. She homeschool one child the other two are public. Which works their family. She has two medical children. They are very much involved in gymnastics four days a week. Chores for the children and herself and husband they all have the same routine every day yes Sometimes more chaos and others times.
She’s a lot happier, having a routine and less stress as she says the calendar that she can see every day makes her life a lot easier so she knows what she’s doing when she hast to be between medical appointments and meetings, she runs her own designs fabrics./Wallpaper. The big calendar that you can see every day is the most helpful thing.
My daughter had adhd and I cannot relate with not being organized.
A routine is the best ..
Hahaha poor Jon thought he was going to get his eye poked out 😂
Daily chores I helped them build the daily habits.
For chores that need to be done weekly, I made bright colored index cards (one color for easier chores that the younger kids can do, another color for the older kids. The front of the card listed the chore and the back of the card listed what needed to be done to complete the chore (that way when they tell me they are done, and it isn't done correctly, I can point out which step they missed so they can fix that step). Each week, our family would gather together. I would lay all the chore cards out and all of us would take turns choosing a chore until they were all chosen (the kids thought of it as more of a game) We would usually do the chores in one day, but if that didn't happen I would have them break up the chores throughout the week.
An option to this was when I felt like the kids could start learning about money, I would assign a price to the chore, they could choose the cards that paid less or the cards that pay more (the chores that I didn't love to do usually paid a lot more 😂). Each week, I would pay them what they earned. I would then help them learn to save as well, (whatever they made I would split it 4 ways (1/4 to Education, 1/4 to a future car, 1/4 towards a future vacation and the remaining balance I let them spend on whatever they wanted (with no judgment).
Good luck with whatever you decide to do!
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