Ghosting is so bizarre (Outside of dangerous relationships), there isn't any (or very little) investment, so the fact that someone can't just drop a small message to say "Sorry, I'm not really feeling this, but I'd love to pursue a friendship.", that a person can't show such a simple level of respect is a red flag to me anyway. I think as Christians it's a problematic secular behaviour that needs to be addressed. But that's just my take, love others as you love yourself, God bless x
A red flag to me is when someone gets focussed on being ghosted instead of trusting God that there’s a reason it’s fizzled out... maybe they don’t want a friendship...maybe they are just moving on and it can be awkward explaining that to someone without hurting their feelings sometimes...God bless x
@@butterflyyy8639 It didn't "fizzle out" though. Lauren was invited on a date and he didn't show up, with no warning. I just can't see how that's acceptable to do to another person in a loving way
This was very entertaining and insightful 🤣💡...Thanks for the vulnerability ladies! Personally, I don't think it would be a bad idea to ask the guy why he didn't turn up. If he doesn't respond to that message - that's cool. Pray for him, move on and add it to your list of dating experiences. You've tried your best! 😁
if someone ghosts you it means they are not interested. Yes its very immature to do that but some people dont have the decency o let someone know they are no longer interested. Sucks but happens alot to both men and women
That was really insightful and you two are so sweet. Since so many people are also new to online-dating, what are your suggestions on how to let someone know you are no longer interested, especially after casually chatting for some time?
I hope he didn’t get hit by a bus!! I have to say though, imo if he stood you up then it was his loss because you’re gorgeous and a lovely person... maybe God was protecting you 🥰
I think we expect better behaviour from Christians. I've had worst behaviour from "Christian" men than with guys on Match or Salt. It's really demoralising. Refreshing to hear I'm not the only person this happens to. 🙏❤️
@@jo355 Yes, we do expect more. But people are people and Christians are not perfect. Its not just men, women do this too of course. I'm in my late fifties and it appears some people dont improve with age!
Haha, glad to hear you weren't being ghosted loads on SALT! But I'm sure it happens on every app, unfortunately. Sorry to hear you've been hurt by it. Let's have grace for each other as we navigate through this - online dating is so vulnerable isn't it?!
Thank you for being so real. The single dating scene does come with its challenges and it’s so good that you are addressing them and also helping people deal with some of these issues. Ps I hope you sent him the link
@@be_salt It's not even hard, I mean I don't do chat-up lines or boring one liners, why? It's about the *conversation* getting to know someone on an app is the starter, getting to know them in real life. Come on, that's not hard! Driving the conversation empowers both people in experience, well you both didn't go to - carting / meal out / movie / etc just to go quiet, right?
Ghosting is just God telling you: Is not for you... So be actually grateful😊 you don't know what you're getting rid of... ( YOU Don't try to be God's voice by ghosting🤣) PD: Do not send the link my Dear; time waisting...
My experience with dating is no one replys to my messages on dating sites and I find it rude that girls don't respond when you take the time to read someone's profile and take a intrest. I'm starting to think there are a lot of fake Christians. At least give someone the chance if they took the time to message you.
That is just part of online dating brother. There can be many reasons why it happens, for example, initial attraction isn’t there, spiritual differences are too great, the recipient receives too many messages to reply to them all, they’re very busy... I know it’s not easy but try not to take it personally... I have tried to date quite a few Christian men and each relationship has not worked out; it has taught me to get more thick-skinned. If it isn’t meant to be then it isn’t. I accept that. I trust God with that. 🙂
We need to toughen up and trust God with it...my 2 cents... if you get stood up, still go out and enjoy yourself; God is great company, and so are you!! 🥰🦋
I had a similar experience. We wanted to meeet at a trainstation and have a walk but she didnˋt sho up. From some things she told me before there was a weird guy who stalked her sometimes. So I got really anxious that something might have happend to her on her way. I tried to call her and text her but I got no replies. I thought about calling the police. And some days later she finally texted me back, saying that when she arrived at the train station she was so scarred and didnˋt know what to do and after a while she turned back and left. I undeerstand that you can get in this sort of fear before a date and thats ok. But you have to tell the other person that they donˋt get worried. I donˋt know if she was just ashamed after this but she broke up the contact after this
I hate that. It's so annoying. All they have to say is "it's been nice chatting to you, but I've met someone that I'm now going to pursue. All the best in your search". Ok, it's still rejection...but surely it's more decent than just stopping talking to someone.
I would definitely advise to not try to be but just being For example one can try to behave like they don't want out But sincerely and truly they do So simply we need to learn to do what God puts in our heart to do Where this matters is Judah Iscariot tried to be good but later failed so don't try to be just be I think when you feel like ending end in the right way Why Online dating hits away at the most rarest pursuits of trying to find love It's not a joke there's like one in twenty chances of finding the right match after chatting and getting to know someone So good luck yall That's the short note Thanks for the awesome app
I find it hard to believe Lauren was stood up. I was so expecting a twist to the story! How hard is it to send a respectful message saying you don't want to pursue a relationship and hope they find someone else?
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Ghosting is so bizarre (Outside of dangerous relationships), there isn't any (or very little) investment, so the fact that someone can't just drop a small message to say "Sorry, I'm not really feeling this, but I'd love to pursue a friendship.", that a person can't show such a simple level of respect is a red flag to me anyway. I think as Christians it's a problematic secular behaviour that needs to be addressed. But that's just my take, love others as you love yourself, God bless x
All about loving your neighbour
👏💯 Yes, same goes for non-dating ghosting i.e. any type of (non-dangerous) relationship ❤️
A red flag to me is when someone gets focussed on being ghosted instead of trusting God that there’s a reason it’s fizzled out... maybe they don’t want a friendship...maybe they are just moving on and it can be awkward explaining that to someone without hurting their feelings sometimes...God bless x
@@butterflyyy8639 It didn't "fizzle out" though. Lauren was invited on a date and he didn't show up, with no warning. I just can't see how that's acceptable to do to another person in a loving way
Please send him this video 🤣
Loved this ladies, you are both delightful 🧡 x
How immature a man can be to be ghosting a woman, clearly indicates he’s not ready for a serious relationship...!
God's working on us all for sure
I‘ve loved this chat!!!!! Please continue
Plenty more where that came from!
This was very entertaining and insightful 🤣💡...Thanks for the vulnerability ladies! Personally, I don't think it would be a bad idea to ask the guy why he didn't turn up. If he doesn't respond to that message - that's cool. Pray for him, move on and add it to your list of dating experiences. You've tried your best! 😁
Great idea to pray for him
if someone ghosts you it means they are not interested. Yes its very immature to do that but some people dont have the decency o let someone know they are no longer interested. Sucks but happens alot to both men and women
True, hopefully it will happens less if we have more conversation about it. We can always be growing in love as a Church
Cosplay??!! Are you a Christian??!! 😦
@@butterflyyy8639 what on earth are you on about, what is wrong with cosplay?
That was really insightful and you two are so sweet.
Since so many people are also new to online-dating, what are your suggestions on how to let someone know you are no longer interested, especially after casually chatting for some time?
We think they're great too!
Yeah I'd love to hear some suggestions for how to end a conversation well without any ambiguity!
I hope he didn’t get hit by a bus!!
I have to say though, imo if he stood you up then it was his loss because you’re gorgeous and a lovely person... maybe God was protecting you 🥰
Totally agree!
I think we expect better behaviour from Christians. I've had worst behaviour from "Christian" men than with guys on Match or Salt. It's really demoralising. Refreshing to hear I'm not the only person this happens to. 🙏❤️
Or Bumble I meant! Not Salt. ❤️
Some people are still baby Christians…
Thank you so much. It hurts when more because you expect so much better 😪
@@jo355 Yes, we do expect more. But people are people and Christians are not perfect. Its not just men, women do this too of course. I'm in my late fifties and it appears some people dont improve with age!
Haha, glad to hear you weren't being ghosted loads on SALT! But I'm sure it happens on every app, unfortunately. Sorry to hear you've been hurt by it.
Let's have grace for each other as we navigate through this - online dating is so vulnerable isn't it?!
The guy obviously has commitment issues 😅, probably saved you from a lot of issues
True
Very entertaining and informative. Thanks ladies!
You're welcome - more to come every Friday
This was so relatable! 😂 Thanks for sharing xxx
Glad you enjoyed
The answer to being ghosted is to focus on you. The more you focus on you, the less it'll bother you, and allow you to wait for the right connection
And God will always get you through
“ Dating is only for you when you’re in a place where you feel resilient”...
What a great comment!! 😊
So true!
Send him the link 😂👏🏼
Absolutely love this...talking in truth.❤
Thanks!
SEND THE LINK!!
That’s mean, I’ve not stood anyone up because I know from rare experience how bad it is!!! Don’t be tight, don’t stand her up!
Agreed!
Send him the link indeed!!!😂
We think so too!
Thank you for being so real. The single dating scene does come with its challenges and it’s so good that you are addressing them and also helping people deal with some of these issues.
Ps I hope you sent him the link
Glad you enjoyed
I got ghosted 👻 it’s just poor! Come on if you’re not interested just say so.
I mean if the convo goes stale just add in a new conversation piece!
Good point!
@@be_salt It's not even hard, I mean I don't do chat-up lines or boring one liners, why? It's about the *conversation* getting to know someone on an app is the starter, getting to know them in real life. Come on, that's not hard!
Driving the conversation empowers both people in experience, well you both didn't go to - carting / meal out / movie / etc just to go quiet, right?
Ghosting is just God telling you: Is not for you... So be actually grateful😊 you don't know what you're getting rid of... ( YOU Don't try to be God's voice by ghosting🤣)
PD: Do not send the link my Dear; time waisting...
Too true
My experience with dating is no one replys to my messages on dating sites and I find it rude that girls don't respond when you take the time to read someone's profile and take a intrest. I'm starting to think there are a lot of fake Christians. At least give someone the chance if they took the time to message you.
Agree 100%
Hopefully having more conversation and community about online dating as a Christian we can all grow in this
That is just part of online dating brother. There can be many reasons why it happens, for example, initial attraction isn’t there, spiritual differences are too great, the recipient receives too many messages to reply to them all, they’re very busy... I know it’s not easy but try not to take it personally... I have tried to date quite a few Christian men and each relationship has not worked out; it has taught me to get more thick-skinned. If it isn’t meant to be then it isn’t. I accept that. I trust God with that. 🙂
We need to toughen up and trust God with it...my 2 cents... if you get stood up, still go out and enjoy yourself; God is great company, and so are you!! 🥰🦋
He's the best company!
So it's not just us guys who get ghosted...
Nope, unfortunately it's happened to us all
Those types of demonic treatment is of the devil with egos and suggests some don't want to get to know others.. More forced and rushed.
We can do better and love each other well
1000% send him the link!
Haha
I had a similar experience. We wanted to meeet at a trainstation and have a walk but she didnˋt sho up. From some things she told me before there was a weird guy who stalked her sometimes. So I got really anxious that something might have happend to her on her way. I tried to call her and text her but I got no replies. I thought about calling the police. And some days later she finally texted me back, saying that when she arrived at the train station she was so scarred and didnˋt know what to do and after a while she turned back and left. I undeerstand that you can get in this sort of fear before a date and thats ok. But you have to tell the other person that they donˋt get worried.
I donˋt know if she was just ashamed after this but she broke up the contact after this
That sounds really hard - thanks for sharing. Dating is pretty vulnerable
Damn. Was just chatting with a nice girl for a while there, and suddenly she's gone. Pretty upsetting.
We're sorry, lean into God whenever you face any hurt or rejection
I hate that. It's so annoying. All they have to say is "it's been nice chatting to you, but I've met someone that I'm now going to pursue. All the best in your search". Ok, it's still rejection...but surely it's more decent than just stopping talking to someone.
Lol... it is annoying though... but keep trusting... God may be protecting you from the wrong one 🙂
I would definitely advise to not try to be but just being
For example one can try to behave like they don't want out
But sincerely and truly they do
So simply we need to learn to do what God puts in our heart to do
Where this matters is Judah Iscariot tried to be good but later failed so don't try to be just be
I think when you feel like ending end in the right way
Why
Online dating hits away at the most rarest pursuits of trying to find love
It's not a joke there's like one in twenty chances of finding the right match after chatting and getting to know someone
So good luck yall
That's the short note
Thanks for the awesome app
It's a hard journey to navigate - thanks for your input and it's great we can do this in community
@@be_salt good luck 😊
Great help ,thank you lovely ladies!
Glad it was helpful!
Share the video with the dude.
Haha
Omg! I loved this lauren . Especially the comments . Not cool buddy , not cool lol
Ha, glad you liked it!!
I find it hard to believe Lauren was stood up. I was so expecting a twist to the story!
How hard is it to send a respectful message saying you don't want to pursue a relationship and hope they find someone else?
Sending a respectful message isn't difficult for sure!
Send him the link💃
You think so!?
Send him the video let him know that his behaviour wasn't cool
Yess!
The best response to ghosting is simply to send the ghost the 👻 emoji.
Got to love an emoji
I feel bad now 😲 in my defense I felt it was going nowhere!!
Same here😱
Haha! There's grace - dating online is pretty tricky to navigate!
Hola es interesante ese grupo felicitaciones pero muy jóvenes los muchachos pongan unos de 54 asía vamos y también asía rivales es un comentario grande
Asía riva
That was fun
So fun