Good on you mate. Keeping a serious part of your identity secret is never healthy, and I'm really glad you feel in secure enough a place to talk about this openly. I really hope your example shows others that it's ok to be who you are, and to be confident in that fact. You should be proud :)
Respect for coming out to discuss this... Takes great courage! I'm happy that your honest with yourself and its good to see others being happy for you.
Being a long-time viewer, i couldn't be possibly prouder of this huge step you've taken, Jake. In case you're having second thoughts about it, know that that was tremendously brave of you publicly sharing this part of your identity with the world, and that it was with no doubt the right thing to do because not only do you no longer have to keep it bottled up, furthermore feeling the need to hide who you are in fear of judgment, but given your position and the number of viewers you have, this will definitely if not already helped at least someone having a hard time themselves out there, and that is also something to be extremely proud of. No one is garanteed how long they'll stick around for, so you might as well live a life on your own terms, fully accepting yourself and never feeling anything less for not fitting into the molds that, sadly, society has successfully established. Lastly, know that nothing has changed, you're still the same sweet person many others and I have come to love and enjoy seeing snippets of his life. Keep up the great work on your channel and once again, well done Jake ! Sending you lots of love and support all the way from Tunisia ❤️
"I tried to figure out if I was gay or straight but I couldn't because I'm bi" 100% me for 5 years going back and forth and FINALLY accepting I'm a bisexual male
You have just earned yourself even more respect from me, Jake; I'm actually really glad you're making people aware of your sexuality. I believe strongly that bisexuality and homosexuality are not choices, but the way in which one's personality leads them, and I wish more people would understand that rather than hating on people with a different sexuality for no reason. By you doing this video, you are (along with others) making it easier for other people to come out, and easing the tension around bisexuality, which now makes every one of your videos well worth my time watching (not that they weren't anyway!). Thank you for reading, and keep up the good videos!
Good job Jake! I am Asexual and it is really hard cause i don't know how to tell people or explain to people, have not told my parents yet. I am glad that you are brave enough to upload this video! We support you keep up the good work!
oh gosh I'm so happy for you! it's so nice to know you feel comfortable enough to share this part of yourself, and as a bi kid myself it's so lovely to see myself represented! thank you :)
I've always admired the way you allow viewers a raw and unbiased insight in to your personal life. It's been a pleasure to see your character develop and I wish you the best successes at every stage of your life. Given the diversity of your viewership, this was an extraordinarily brave step but a necessary one. I hope that one day, the stigma is removed such that those who do not fit the 'default sexuality' are able to make that decision and let others know with no qualms. Unfortunately, we've not reached that stage yet but I'm sure I speak for everyone when I say that this was an audacious and brave move - one that I hope will inspire similar bravery amongst viewers of yours who find the issue of sexuality close to home. Bravo again, Jake.
Hey. So I just found your channel. I'm bi too and I discovered this last november in my senior year of college (in the US). Parts of your story reminded me of mine. Somewhere between the ages of 10 and 12, I noticed that I liked guys, but I only knew about two sexualities, gay and straight. I managed to convince myself that I was straight because I liked girls, so I couldn't be gay. And if I wasn't gay, there's only one other possibility. So I convinced myself I was straight and believed that lie until I was about to turn 22 when I realized that I'm bisexual. I just want to say thank you for your video. Even though it sucks that either of us had to deal with this. It's always nice to be reminded that there are others like me. Thank you.
The only thing I can really say to this is thank you! Every account of coming out is the typical relief of acceptance from everyone, but I know exactly how you feel when you say it was more difficult. I'm out to most of my family and basically all of my friends, but with new friends I still get nervous to tell them, just because it's a constant process and there's no single wave of relief, and some of the time people just act much more natural before they know. It's good to know that someone else is in the same boat and didn't get that amazing relief everyone talks about, even if it's not in the same way exactly. Either way, I'm bloody proud, you keep a close audience and it must have been difficult to not broadcast this, I can only imagine the time spent editing little silly things that might have given you away haha! All the best in the future and I really do hope you continue to make vlogs as much as possible once you've completely left uni and stuff. Your studying vlogs help me focus when I'm distracted and it really helps me get along with studying! :)
This 6 minute video has pretty much summed up the last 6 years of my life. It is absolutely spot on. I have had the exact same process of confusion and self-denial that you had and the exact same thoughts about coming out. It took me a very long time to actually realise to myself that Im bi and another couple years to accept it and come out to people. Shame I didnt see this video a few years ago as it might have really helped me when I was still in that confused state
Stop saying that people like us are 'not okay' or that we're 'cancer', and stop threatening/commiting violence against us. Our sexuality affects 0% of your lives. Get over it.
Hey man I just wanted to thank you for making this video, it really really helped me. I watched many videos about bisexual men coming out and their struggles with it, but I couldn't relate to most of the struggles they guys described. You video is different for me because what you describe is almost exactly how I've felt and sort of the process of confusion and eventual understanding that I went through. Thank you dude!!
I'm kinda glad you made this because the majority of 'coming out' or videos with regards to sexuality only focus on 100% gay but never really talk about the whole bisexual thing because you're right it can be confusing for those who cannot decide what their 'label' is
Only subbed in the last few weeks and have been remarking how I prioritize your content over the bigger youtubers already. Fair play on coming out I respect that so much, such a cool dude. Keep up the vids
I have always believed that I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not. There came a point in my life when I had to "ride that horse", and live my conviction. I have survived, and am better for it. It's not always easy, but is life easy? It's my gift to live, and to live out. Doing so has given me better and more acceptable (to me) life. In the final analysis, the saying is true of me, but also for me. I love me more. That's the grand payoff. It's not a disease, or condition, Jake. It's who you were created to be. Be that. Solidarity!
I'm so glad you've come to accept yourself now, that's probably more important than anyone else accepting you. I don't understand why any girl wouldn't date someone because they're bisexual, surely the importance is that they are attracted to and are with you and everybody else, regardless of gender or sexuality, doesn't matter?? Homophobia is something that I don't understand; who's business is it to tell someone that their preferences are right or wrong? I don't understand why so many people actively campaign against something that is 100% none of their business who likes who. Some people are so frustrating! Great video though Jake :-)
The ones that you know... do believe in God! They're the ones that shall show these lost soul the way to life... All others ones like you are just ignorant and are ready to bless their perish just so the progressive wicked society shall praise them! You can't tell good from evil, light from darkness unless you follow God's path and Commandments! Get that Olivia?
Jake Wright I am sat at my desk almost in tears. Making and then uploading that video must have taken some huge courage. I am 33 and only accepted my own bisexuality 2 years ago. My family took it very badly. Ultimately though, your sexuality is part of you without defining you. You are clearly an amazing man with massive potential. I enjoy watching your videos and I look forward to seeing you fly in this world. Be you. Being anything else just brings mental distress.
A close friend of mine who I've known for 13 years recently came out. He was in the same situation you are jake really nervous and scared and he told me over a game of badminton. Though the anxiety followed him for a while after he came out i noticed a huge change in him, he was happy and smiled more. I cant really say that i know how you feel, but i think i can speak on everyones behalf by saying that we are all really proud of you jake!! As someone whos followed your vlogs from the beginning its been an honour to wach you grow and develop and I look forward to see what you get up to in the future. Keep up the vlogs man and i know you wont tell us yet but hopefully you got a 2:1, you deserve it!!!!
I remembered that I know this channel from HTML, CSS and JavaScript tutorials. Now he shifted it to a whole new level with vlog and flooding with cuteness. I'm a fan now and you get my sub because you're bi XD
Jake, I have always thought you were gay rather than bisexual. To me your just Jake an awesome person who is sharing parts of his life with the world! I have been watching your videos for a long time and when I saw this video about you coming out, I was like, about time!! We are on this planet for such a short time, and it amazes me how we all worry about what others will think of us if we are gay, or bi, or whatever? Who are you living your life for? I hope your living your life for you. When we are breathing our last breaths,having regrets for not being who we really are, is a fate worse than death itself in my opinion. CELEBRATE who you really are everyday, cause there are no do overs!!! Cheers Mark
About as proud as I could be of someone who I don't know personally. It was hard enough for me to come to terms with and come out to my limited circle of real life friends and family, can't even imagine the courage to come out to a much wider group of people. Creating a conversation is such a huge part of equality, so props to you man :)
You know, I think selective memory is a thing with coming-out stories… Coming out is very weird, I find. After the first time coming out to someone (my parents, that was) I thought every other time I would have to come out to someone was dead easy. It wasn’t. After I’d figured out I was gay and (quite some time later) told my parents, I thought I would be casually throwing the “Yeah, I’m gay” in every conversation. Well, no way, that didn’t happen. It continued to feel very weird to tell 'my secret' I was keeping for myself for the better part of eight years to anyone. I then wanted to tell it to some of my closest friends, but that too proved to be quite difficult. More than once it resulted in me, when I knew I was going to be with someone who I wanted to come out to, planning to say the “I-I’m gay” but then instantaneously freaking out the second I met up, resulting in me feeling awkward and nervous for no reason for the whole conversation. A big part of me not really wanting to tell it is because, well, you don’t have to come out that you’re straight, people don’t just randomly state their social security number because it changed; so why would you interrupt a random conversation to state the fact that you’re gay? For some reason (and because a few people I was planning to come out to kindly asked if I was gay, which I was really grateful about, something I wouldn’t have guessed beforehand), I managed to tell a fair amount people that I was gay. Though every time, during the pause between my question and their answer, it felt I and my pounding heart was falling in a black hole. And word got around to the rest of the people I knew. It certainly was awkward for a while - for instance when some female friends were talking boys and preceded to look expectantly at me to say something - but eventually, I discovered that being yourself is really awesome! Not long ago I was talking with a straight friend on Facebook and I ended up telling the whole coming-out-doodah; it resulted in being able to talk about my sexuality (and his, I learned that when straight guys can’t find any girls for a prolonged amount of time, one of the first diagnostics is apparently to check if you are really straight, a line of reasoning that was new to me) for more than two hours and I ended up feeling really good afterwards. I don’t know why, but it did comfort me quite a lot. Can I ask something though, out of curiosity, as someone who hasn’t got the experience in loving both genders, and as someone who shrank the datable population severely when he came out: Are you attracted to men and women in the same way; does it feel the same? And do you have a - though maybe slight - preference to one or the other? I can imagine, though, that that is only to be answered by the future, as cheesy as it sounds. And, how is being bi on the World Wide Web feel? Answer selectively if you want, but I am starting to gay curious now. Well, congratulations, you’ve made it to the end of the pocket version (it really is!) of my coming-out. I hope you’ve found it slightly comforting to read (as I did with yours; thanks for that, by the way); and, errrr, if you ever want to talk about all of it with a random person on the internet, absolutely be my quest! It feels good to (and in both directions, btw), that’s for sure. Anyways, take care! TL;DR: I came out, I didn’t saw the need to, it felt weird, I didn’t have a secret anymore, ended up talking openly about it with a friend which felt great!
Congratulations Jake for doing this! It is not very often that bisexual TH-camrs come out so it's great that you decided to do so. Maybe it's because bisexual people face this confusion you described or maybe just that they haven't come out yet but your video surely encourages one not to be afraid of their sexuality.
First Shane..and now you. I really ought to come out myself. I've told 3 of my friends, and 2/3 of them went badly. I think sometimes if your the one coming out you have to realise that people aren't going to lay out a red carpet and treat you as royalty. From my experience anyway that's the case. But I guess that's what we should be aiming for? The fact your not straight doesn't warrant an overreaction, and it's just something normal. So well done for publishing this, coming from Newcastle myself I know it's not the most open of places, but we're getting there. People like you will make a big difference back here, drag us into the 21st century.
Something I love about the internet is that I feel like it's giving people the opportunity to share things about themselves without having to feel ashamed of themselves because they think they're the only one or that they're weird or something. Well done for making this video and telling all your loved ones, the whole ordeal must've been pretty daunting. I myself am pansexual but I also identify as genderqueer which kind of adds on a few more 'difficulties' when it comes to coming out to people. I'm pretty much out as pansexual at school but I can't imagine telling my parents upfront that I'm not straight at this moment in my life. So far only my closest friends know I'm genderqueer and I probably won't bother to tell anyone for a while, but I strongly dislike being constantly labelled as a girl just because I look like one. Thank you for making this video. It's caused me to decide that when the time comes, I'll make my own coming out video for my family and the rest of my friends.
I know this is a bit late Jake, but i'm proud of you. It's a lot harder than people think to come out as bisexual, like myself. I found it really hard to decide who the fuck i was and i questioned it everyday "what's wrong with me??", "am i normal". Only this summer I started to tell a few people at a time. Now I've got the stage where i don't care what people think of me, I am who I am, and i'm proud.
I think I am very lucky since it does not take long to know your sexuality after becoming curious about it. It is a very huge and brave step that you have taken, and I support you coming out in any way, shape and form. If I was only enthralled by your previous videos being funny, this one certainly makes me start to admire an air of confidence and independent spirit that I saw in you. Bravo and well-said - support from Korean!
It's hard enough dealing with this to a small group of friends. Really congrats on sharing it with the internet!! Good luck with the comments, I'm sure they'll be (mostly) accepting. :)
I've literally gone through the exact same thoughts and experiences, with the acceptance of the fact that I am bi, but didn't share it with anyone yet. Thx for sharing this part of you
People often underestimate the difficulty of coming out. It can cost you everything, and in some cases it does. So props to you Jake. I'd be lying if I said I didn't expect it. Maybe you will feel liberated when you start to accept yourself a little more day-by-day. Cheers!
I'm so glad you made/posted this video, I'm so happy for you!! A while back I finally accepted the fact that I was asexual and do not experience any form of attraction, and I'm now so glad because I've spent way too many years of my life questioning who I am and feeling scared when the answer wasn't straight. I've been watching your videos for quite a while now and they're always great, so I hope your doing good and once again thank you for sharing!! :)
I wanna say something clever, philosophical and thought-provoking, but honestly... I'm jut smiling! I'm so happy for you to hear that over time you've grown to accept your sexuality, which is an incredibly difficult thing to do. I'm proud of you for having the courage to make this video and so glad to hear that people have generally been so accepting. And... this video has helped me immensely. Screw these people who claim this is a fad - I'll stand as someone whose life you've actually change with this video. Sexuality for me, just like for you, has been an incredibly hard thing to define. This weird spectrum that I started out as purely straight, then started to be interested in the same sex, to eventually thinking that it was purely the same sex that I was attracted to. Self loathing, self hatred, confusion, questions are things that anyone who has questioned their sexuality has experienced and opening up about it is the scariest thing. But today, this video actually made me realise something monumental. That my sexuality is weird. Straight? Gay? Bi? Queer? Pan? Are any of these labels fluid enough? Yeah I'm into the same-sex, but it was purely today that I realised I can imagine myself in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex as much as someone of the same sex. Indeed, with the opposite sex, it would be a rather asexual relationship, but you know what sexuality isn't just about sex. It's also about love. And I could freely love anyone. I'll just say that I'm bisexual... and for the first time in my life.... I'm proud to be! This is the first time of me even publicly accepting my attraction to the same sex, yet you're video has helped me accept myself. It's scary just typing this, so for you to make a video that will reach thousands... I'm beyond words at your courage. Thank you for making this video. You've helped me and I'm sure others. The past few years have been amazing with following your journey and you coming out us... well... I'm honoured to be your subscriber and for you trusting us with this. And to those of you who can't accept Jake for who he is - you didn't deserve to know him in the first place. He's made a difference; inspiring and helping those of us who are unsure and not as courageous. Your words spread hatred and do only bad. And finally we'll all be able to see a vlog of Jake's where the top comment isn't 'is he gay'. And that really is a huge change! Thanks again and Jake... you're awesome! :)
Congrats on another balanced, eloquent, insightful vid. Nice framing of your head with the grey pin boards too. If you come out to people who don't know any other gay (or bi etc) people, it's understandable that they might be awkward or guarded around you initially. It's partly the responsibility of the coming outer to help put them at ease. Judging by the comments left so far, uploading this vid was totally the right thing to do. It will help you and a section of your audience. Well done on being who you are - you seem to be really good at it. All the very best, B.
Mr Jake Wright. Well done. I thought you were cool and now, you are even cooler. Your honesty and sincerety is inspiring. I'm glad you are yourself and have revealed your sexuality with calm, dignity and sensibility. I totally agree with you with everything you said on this clip. I'm heterosexual and I'm glad to follow your videos. Keep up the great work ! All the way from Singapore.
Oberyn Martell from GOT gave me great self confidence about being bi. And he put it in words better than I could: “You like them equally, girls and boys?” “Does that surprise you?” “Everyone has a preference.” “Then everyone is missing half the worlds pleasure. The gods made that (naked girls kissing) and it delights me, the gods made this (slap the rent boys arse) and it delights me. When it comes to war I fight for dorne, when it comes to love…. I do not pick sides.
My friend came out to me when he was 14 and he said he was bi. After that the whole school new and some people insulted him but he didn't care about what other people thought about him so that didn't change his mind set Don't let other people change who you are. If a 14yr old can do it then you can to!!!!
Good on you Jake. Proud of you x I've seen at least three comments on here about how people are afraid to tell their families they are no longer Muslim. It amazes me how there are so many people who are afraid to tell their families they converted to Islam and others that they have left Islam; the same way homosexuals are afraid to tell about themselves. I've seen this myself with my English friends, I've seen a father that converted to Islam being chucked out of his home by his wife. After that he lived on his own in a rented flat practicing his religion. Eventually he ended up passing away, and his family were going to give him a Christian funeral. I know his revert friend kept in touch with his son who tried to convince his family to do a muslim funeral, as that's what his farther would have wanted. I'm not sure what happened in the end though. 😕 I just hope we reach a point in this world where everyone is truly accepted for who they are.
Annisa Ali Well, we're getting there, but have a long, long way to go. There are too many countries where this would constitute a head lopping or imprisonment for life.
Jake I have watched your videos for years now and I really enjoy them, especially because I would also love to go to Cambridge and seeing someone who worked as hard as you have inspires me to do so. I remember a random mention of your ex girlfriend in an early video and with all the stupid "is he or isn't he gay" commentary going on I stopped caring what people were saying about it. I don't think your sexuality is my business but I get why you decided this video was necessary and it will be helpful to others. Thank you Jake for making great content, I hope you continue to do so and find love and happiness with whoever you like :)
No one is going to be against you if you are bisexual, and if they are against you, they probably aren't meant for you from the start anyway and its good to know clear who accepts you and doesn't. Anyway you're in Cambridge, thats where many people dream to be at and can't make it there. You should be proud of yourself!
By looking at the comments, the positive outcome is really high. Your fanbase supports you since the Cambridge vlogs, so there was no doubt they wouldn't do it now. Really nice you let us know the truth.
I've been watching since the iMac unboxing, that's not going to change. I've literally watched you grow up. It's good that you're comfortable with yourself now. In the end, that's all that really matters.
I hate that anyone would dare comment hate on this. He is such a brave person for doing this and I'm happy for him for discovering himself so anyone who's being negative just hush.
Respect to you for coming out on here, I know what it's like to come out on here, It's difficult, But respect to you for doing it, I found it difficult coming out to people because I was unsure how they'd react but they reacted positively to me coming out to them, I'm bisexual as well by the way.
Regardless, you are such a wonderful person. You should know that there are so many people out there who admire you for countless reasons including the fact that you have the courage, self-esteem, and dignity to upload this sort of video in public.
Very proud of you Jake! Posting this to everyone out there takes a lot of courage, especially sharing your feelings at every stage in your life. In particular, the point you made about things not becoming immediately better after telling your family, because of the awkwardness of others trying to overly support and "normalise" the situation from their point of view. Have been watching your VLOGS from the very beginning years ago and I'm really glad you made this video. You really do seem like a great person!
I also felt awful after coming out to my family, despite them being supportive. I really didn't want it to be a big deal and felt that their support was fake and forced. After nearly a year, I feel much better about it now and am definitely glad I came out to them. Well done Jake, it must be very difficult to post a video about something so personal. We are all proud of you!
Great video - feels very authentic. These videos are important to make to show people that a wide range of sexuality is just normal! I was interested in your gradual feeling of relief rather than instant once you had told your family. For me it was instant: I'm gay rather than bi and I waited until I was 47 before coming out. I hope you really enjoy the liberation of just being you!
Feeling worse after coming out - because then everybody knows your "secret" as you described it - is quite common; I think most LGBT-people experience that...maybe one day the whole coming-out-concept won't matter anymore (or atleast not as much), because sexuality and gender will finally be accepted for what they basically are: fluid!
So proud of you having the courage to come out. Great job Jake, you do YOU :0) xx Never forget that there you will always have our support, despite the minority who are narrow-minded and homophobic.
I completely understand you! I've been having issues with the fact that we have to labeled ourselves in order to appear "normal" to other people. In my case, I've always felt both male and female at the same time, and have an issue having to tell or explain to people if I considere myself gay, trans etc. Why is it so hard for people to understand there's so much more than just gay-straight and why it's so hard for most people to understand that some of us just want to be and wear whatever makes us feel comfortable and that some or many times we feel uncomfortable being ourselves because of society not because of who or what we are.
I used to watch your videos in programming and was never interested in the other ones, but this was nice. Some people are saying that it's 2015 and no one cares but in country's like mine it's still a big issue so... I'm not sure where i'm going but good job coming out.
Thanks for sharing Jake. I didn't have a feeling of relief either, and I got confused whenever people told me how liberated they felt. Glad I'm not alone. :)
Courageous video.I agree with you; it is nobody's business except with whom you decide to share your life with as a sexual partner. I think people want to know more about your sexuality because they are dealing with the same issues.
So proud of you, Jake :) some people say it doesn't matter in today's society but they don't get how hard it still is in how some people may react and because its so personal. You've been a big role model to me recently, applying for Cambridge myself but now, you posting this has made me so so happy because it feels so good to see someone else who's bisexual come out and be honest about who they are and it may inspire me to be less guarded and just be who I am openly. So thank you, and you're awesome!!
I live in Brazil and my family is very religious, like most of the country, making my coming out be just more hard. I hope sometime be more independent and free myself of this thing, even being sad lose the trust with my family, but videos like your just make me be more hopeful, really appreciate you.
Good on you Jake, it's great to hear something that many people will be able to relate to (and isn't completely idealistic). Well done for plucking up the courage to share it.
Thank you very much for sharing this with us! While you may not have been, "publicly out", until now, you have been publicly very supportive of the LGBTIQ community for quite a while. That was brave, important, and appreciated. I have respected and admired you. I still do, and I fully support you with this announcement. You are one of the most remarkable people I've ever known, and I am very glad to have found you. You have enriched my life by inspiring me to become a more active participant in some areas of life. Thank you for coming out. While no one should feel that they have to come out publicly, visibility really does help with the movement toward equal rights. When people know real GLBTIQ people it is harder for them to justify discriminating against us. It also helps others who may be struggling with their own identity to feel less alone. I happen to be a mostly gay man whose first love was a bisexual man, here is some of my story: I'd always had crushes on girls in my youth. In high school there was this blue eyed blond girl who just made me weak in the knees with her wistful beauty. I was fond of some guys & somewhat curious about them, but I didn't have romantic feelings toward them. I never pursued any of my crushes as I never felt worthy of any of them. Dealing with parental mental illness possibly helped damaged my innate sense of self esteem. Then I fell for my first love when I was 16. He was handsome, athletic, popular and charismatic. To my eyes he was one of the most gorgeous guys in school. I felt happiest when I was close to him. His smell made me happy. Being gay seemed horrible to me. I was only aware of effeminate gay men, and that was not me. At the time I found it repulsive. Yet I was physically attracted to men. How could I have had so many serious crushes on women? I was so confused! When I was with this one guy nothing else mattered. I was drawn to him like a river to the ocean. There was no doubt in my mind. He and I had a bit of a Brokeback Mountain (like the movie or the short story) style thing. It was off and on for many years. We were both closeted. I came to realize that I was mostly gay. He eventually accepted that he was bisexual. It was a complicated and very messy, "relationship", for years, but I always loved him, and love him still. When he committed to a serious relationship with a women I nearly had a breakdown. I felt like I had lost my one true love. I was still closeted. The emptiness nearly killed me. In that state I resolved to try being gay. I felt not far from being dead, and what is fear to dead men? I attended a coming out support group. There I finally met other gay men. They were more real and nuanced than the shallow caricatures of gay men I had seen in mass media. We shared our stories and I came to admire them for their courage in facing a very challenging identity crisis. Our burdens made us stronger people. I valued that. I learned to be a more tolerant and accepting person. I made gay friends. One of whom was an openly gay rock star. We traveled to gigs at gay clubs and bars all over the world and had many crazy adventures along the way. It was a wild and fun time in my life. In time I came to serve on the board of directors of a GLBTIQ community center, eventually serving as president for two years. I have come a very long way from being the homophobic gay teen I had been. Yet, I am still growing and evolving as a person. Certainly being closeted for so long has somewhat delayed my development as a person. I am still very much finding my way in this world. But, really, aren't we all?
I like your videos even more now as I know that they are genuine. Its awesome that you don't try to be someone else behind the camera unlike many other youtubers.
Yay! I am so happy that you finally feel ready to share this, Jake! I've had the same experience although I haven't come out to my family yet, maybe someday I will!
Okay I'm gonna stop spamming this, my experience: I recently came out of a three year relationship with a lovely lovely girl, but whilst I was with her I told her that I was Bisexual. She absolutely freaked out, she freaked because she felt like she didn't know my true identity, and thought that if I was Bi then I must 'fancy' boys, and therefore not be truly committed to her. I think the downward spiral of trust issues started there, which is a shame, but it taught me lots of lessons which I am thankful for. Thanks for uploading this video mate, seriously, it's helped me a lot.
I stumbled upon your channel yesterday. Been binge-watching a lot of your videos since then. Loving it. After this video, I'm actually happy for myself because it changed nothing. So yeah I am gonna continue watching the rest of your videos.
That was a very thought provoking video - thanks for sharing it. "Coming out" is a process, not a one time event, although there are major milestones along the way like the first person that you ever tell, telling your parents, and making public statements like this. Ultimately, of course, it is all part of a life long process of learning about yourself and figuring out who you really are. You are very right that sexuality (and other aspects of one's personality) is a very fluid thing that really defies any simplistic kind of categorization and, as you have discovered, it is particularly difficult if you don't fit neatly into one of the "predefined" groups. I came out as gay while I was at Cambridge (40 years ago) but that was just a way of identifying with the group with which I seemed to have the most in common. The reality was actually much more complicated than that ...
I'm proud of you, Jake. I've been struggling with coming out recently, being that I am pansexual. It's been hard for me to do, but I've slowly opened up to people about it. And videos like this really help people feel better, including me. So thank you, and don't let anyone bring you down.
Wow that is very courageous of you Jake. I can understand how hard that would have been to come out. But thanks for letting us know! Probably most of us who watch your videos would have tried to guess. And now we know! That is a relief in itself! I hope you find the right girl or boy for you!!
Well done Jake for coming out, this clearly took a lot of balls to do and I respect you for that. I think what ever your sexuality is, you shouldn't be scared or worried about what other people think of you. Just do what you gotta do. 👍🏽😃
I know you have said that in coming out you are hoping to help others, but surely by simply living out your life dating women or men in confidence is symbol enough of how it's fine to be bisexual, gay etc in todays society. Although I of course support people of all sexualities (because quite frankly I feel sexuality is irrelevant to most situations) I struggle to support the idea of 'coming out'. In some ways I think the act of announcing your sexuality to the world is perpetuating the pre-existing division between the 'normality' of being straight and the 'abnormality' of being LGBTQ.
***** I mostly agree and this was the biggest reason I had against making a video like this and I hope one day "coming out" won't be a thing anymore. Unfortunately it's not as easy to be gay, bi, etc. as it is to be straight. LGBT people still suffer abuse, bullying and unfair treatment everyday in this country. Gay marriage is still illegal for millions of people and for lots its illegal to even be gay. It's ignorant, I think, to suggest that LGBT people are fine in today's society because that isn't the case... yet. One reason for making this video was to raise awareness of bisexuality. There are lots and lots of coming out as gay videos on TH-cam and everyone knows about homosexuality and most people have become very accepting of it. People who identify as bisexual, pansexual, asexual, etc. do not benefit from this publicity and can have a harder time coming to terms with their own sexuality and then explaining it to others. I spent a lot of years assuming I wasn't bisexual because I didn't know anybody who was bisexual, it almost wasn't a thing to me. It was like "I can't be bi because it's so rare, what are the chances of that". Increased awareness of sexualities that are often ignored I think is still a good thing. Of course the goal is for nobody to care and everybody can be attracted to and date whoever they want without problems, but while people are still committing suicide and being sentenced to death because they fancy someone of the same sex, I'm hoping videos like mine can help.
Jake Wright I so totally agree with the "one day coming out won't be a thing". I think one issue is that many LGBTQIA+ people feel as if they have a duty to come out rather than a choice (which is certainly how I felt when coming out as bi at 13) and I think that adds much more pressure to many's already confusing situations. In addition, for bisexual people in general, and others who don't fit in to the "LG" bracket can also find it hard because there are many people who don't believe you can be attracted to more than one gender, and this is present in not only the heterosexual community. As a consequence, bisexual people can end up feeling ousted from a community which is supposed to benefit them. So I think its important to have these discussions and videos like this in order to have a community where groups dont feel ousted un-represented in anyway. .....In retrospect, as a 17 year old, would I have came out when I had, probably not because I wasn't ready....and now I dont feel the need to.
Jake Wright Apologies, I did not wish to minimise the suffering of LGBT people - I am very aware of the abuse that gay people face worldwide and hope that I can actively fight against it. Perhaps I should have said how living confidently in your sexuality might contribute to a sense of normality that, in turn, will hopefully lead to a future in which being LGBT is fine. However, it being hard to be gay doesn't infer that marking a point at which you announce your sexuality will make it any easier - in the sense that those who exhibit homophobia do so regardless of how they have come to be aware that a person is LGBTQ. Or, at least, I struggle to see how it does. I do agree that increasing awareness of the fluidity of sexuality and rarer sexualities is a good thing. I think the grouping of this type of awareness under 'coming out' can make some people blind to these intricacies, but it is of course the duty of the individual to make themselves aware.
***** Don't get me wrong, I agree with what you're saying but I decided that this was the best way to (a) clear up any confusion about my sexuality-if you look at some of my vlogs from earlier this year there are huge arguments in the comment sections about whether I'm gay or straight with people getting unnecessarily and surprisingly angry about it. And (b) raise awareness in general and help people coming to terms with their sexuality, because "coming out videos" is what someone will most likely search for.
Jake Wright I can't agree with you more! I do wish that someday coming out wont need to be a thing, and being gay or bi or anything else won't be an issue. But coming out is not just announcing your sexuality to the world. It brings perspective to a cause in a way that people may have never thought about it. Also coming out helps people who have struggled with these feelings say that they this is a part of me, and no longer worry about what others think, and then move on and accept this part of them.
From what I have read and learned in University, sexual attraction is not just set as: you are are either 100% straight or 100% homosexual or 50/50. If you were to draw it out starting point (A)being straight and midpoint (B) being bisexual and end point (C) being homosexual most people do not land exactly on one of those points. The majority land somewhere in between. For example some one might be "bisexual" but fall somewhere in between point (B) and point (C) or between point (A) and point (B). However it is possible a different person who may fall at the same place between (A) and (B) to consider themselves straight. So I guess the point of all this is to tell you that your confusion and your sexual orientation is quite a normal thing and that there is no right or wrong. The only person who can define you is yourself. If somebody says they are straight then they are straight, and if they say the are Bisexual they are bisexual. Sexual attraction for the most part is not 100% of anything really, there for we can only define someone's sexual orientation as they choose because after all they are the only person who truly knows who they are attracted to.
Jake, you are a remarkable young man, whose honesty, decency and courage are an inspiration. Many people live unhappy lives because of their inability to come to terms with who they really are. I admire you for making this video. Well done and good luck!
I love the fact that you have the courage to come out as I have known I was bi for years and I still haven't come out. Now that I have seen this video, I think that I have a wee bit more courage and all these wee bits will lead to me eventually coming out. Thanks so much.
I know a few guys who have expressed the same feelings and it goes to show that there are different types of bisexuality. The Men I know who are bisexual are so only in a sexual way. They could never have an emotional connection with a Man. I've enjoyed watching your videos and even though I'm a good 4 years behind...I'm happy that you found the courage to be yourself!
Jake -- New to your channel, but I must comment after watching what you said about yourself and how it was hard to come out. Well, I had to "Come Out" a few years back, but mine was quite different. I grew up in a religious family, and we were very Bible-believing and raised to live our lives for God. But, one day, things didn't seem to fit, and my world splintered as I began to question things. Yeah, I always had NAGGING LITTLE QUESTIONS, but I just brushed them aside. Yet, in my mid 20s, I couldn't sweep them away any more. I had to spend next 5 to 10 years really thinking about them. It took 5 years to let myself open up and explore other options, then the next 5 years to admit to myself that religion is man-made. So, I finally (at 35 yoa, I guess about) just got tired of the BULLSHIT and came out to my family that I was AN ATHEIST. Honestly, in my former world, my parents would have loved you (being gay) more that day or they'd loved you more -- even if you were a child-molester. Yeah, that's how bad atheists are viewed in my family. Charles Manson or Ted Bundy could have been loved more as their child than me. So, it's hard being honest, but you have to do it for yourself. Yes, it was not an easy talk and life afterwards WITH EVERYONE in my family, but now, years later, they realize why I said it and why I had to BE HONEST with everyone. I couldn't be in THE CLOSET anymore. When they pray and ask Jesus for things, I acquiescence. Don't want to, but I don't make a scene. However, if they start talking about a 6,000 year old earth and Adam & Eve, then I open up and say that's not what evidence would lead us to believe. And, after that, the dialogue is open to talk more, but I've given up with my family on changing their views ... but, I will say -- they have become TOLERANT and more UNDERSTANDING of why. But, again, thank you for your video and this video especially. Helps me remember my years of FIGHTING MYSELF to try and decide ... Do I believe in something invisible? Imaginary? Etc. It was a hard process, but I am glad that I pushed through the questioning where I could obtain more self-growth.
You're one of the first people that I've known to have come out that didn't feel relieved. That's how I felt and I thought it was an issue that only I had experienced. Thank you so much for making this video and congratulations on not having to live with a secret, I'm sure I'm not the only one of your followers to say that I'm incredibly proud of you
It really upsets me the way society is these days. Just because you don't fit certain ideals, (being 'straight'), it means that you have to explain who you are, being gay or bisexual etc shouldn't be something you have to announce. It shouldn't be something you have to explain, it's a part of who you are, you should be able to just tell people, and not have to make an announcement. Others wouldn't announce that they're straight. But I'm happy for you Jake, for finding yourself, discovering who you are and not being ashamed of it, because you shouldn't be. Just because you have a different sexuality doesn't make you any different, you are you, your sexuality doesn't define you nor is it something that should scare people.
Ahh I'm so happy for you! When I saw the title I just assumed you'd be coming out as gay, but I'm so happy you've become the first TH-camr I'm subscribed to to come out as bi. Hearing you talk about your feelings has just validated my own experiences and emotions just a little bit, and makes me feel just a lil bit better as a bi person coming (hopefully) to Cambridge next year. Thank you!
So, when it comes to not knowing what your sexuality was when you were younger, what do you wish your parents or anyone in general would've done then so you didn't have to go through all the confusion? How do you think that situation could've been avoided so you knew more about the different nuances of sexuality?
Spanglish Hannah Better education about sexuality and gender (and sex in general for that matter) would have really helped. Knowing from a younger age that bisexuality existed would have avoided 11-year-old me trying to decide whether I was gay or straight. Knowing that sexuality is fluid would have also helped me understand my changing feelings-how sometimes I'd feel more straight and other times I'd feel more gay.
Jake Wright Fair enough. And lastly, would you have liked your parents to educate you on that issue/provide you information and resources, or do you think you'd prefer it if you had learnt that at school... or both?
I had an impression that you might be working in the LGBTI community (or maybe I'm wrong), so I wanted to contribute to the discussion, too. Ideally, I myself would like to learn about sexuality both from my parents and school. Maybe the details about the topic and resources can be found at school, but I think it's the parents' affirmation and acknowledgement of diverse sexual/gender identities and expressions that is needed by a child.
With all my respect Jake, I think it's great to see someone who's brave and confident enough to reveal the truth about their sexuality. And I love your videos, so it doesn't matter if you're bisexual or straight, the fact that your videos make me smile will never change! Keep up the good work you're doing Jake! Have fun and may health be with you! :)
I absolutely had no idea that you had made this video but I support you. I was looking on TH-cam for html and JavaScript video tutorials and for some reason clicked on yours and I absolutely immediately fell in love with the way you can explain html. I've researched so many tutorials and your explanation for it has been the only thing that makes any sense. Please keep making more html and CSS and JavaScript videos for us. We need more help like you. I enjoy your videos so so much I'm trying to find more videos made by you about these subjects, that's how I stumbled across this video and I felt moved to inform you that I'm happy you have moved on to a place where you can be more open about who you are and take that to it's next level which is better than where you were, hopefully! But really please do more code videos because you are the absolute best teacher on TH-cam so again thank you for teaching me in your style you should make it your career. Liked and subscribed
Long time viewer, first time commenting. I think it's great that you are able to feel comfortable with yourself and your identity to express it fully, even more so on a platform such as this where it is hugely public and where you don't owe any of your subscribers and viewer base anything. Certainly braver than I would be expressing my own sexual preferences. Hopefully coming out videos will cease one day, but it is great that you are raising awareness and giving an opportunity for people in a similar situation such as myself to eventually come out. You're an intelligent guy who can do programming at a fantastic level and way better than I could during my own college and university days (more of a computer artist than programmer). I wish you all the best of luck in life now and after your graduation.
Great video as always! I came out as gay to my friends and most of my family about 4-5 five years ago, when I was around 17-18. To some extent it was a relief to 'come out', but I, too, felt my friends acting weird and awkward around me, especially the guys at my school, and that really sucked. It's really made it difficult for me to become friends with guys, actually, but starting university it's become better although not much. Perhaps it just takes time.
madsfolk It does take time. Be yourself and that will make people more comfortable with you. Then, you're just you. One's sexuality is a facet of a person. Not their whole being.
Yay! Another cute guy on our team aha. So happy for you and wish you every best possible! I felt exactly the same as you did and it is hard but now my life is so much better and being myself is the best thing possible! Much love to you :) x
Good on you mate. Keeping a serious part of your identity secret is never healthy, and I'm really glad you feel in secure enough a place to talk about this openly.
I really hope your example shows others that it's ok to be who you are, and to be confident in that fact. You should be proud :)
+lgbtTV5 +lgbtTV5 Hey, could you please link Simon's self doubt video? It sounds very inspirational but I'm not quite sure what to search for
@Simon
No one wants to hear the blabbing of private information.
I LOVE how you guys support each other :) You are both my favorite youtubers 😚
make sense
maybe diplomatic relations between oxford and cambridge are possible after all
Respect for coming out to discuss this... Takes great courage! I'm happy that your honest with yourself and its good to see others being happy for you.
I can't imagine how hard it must be to come out to thousands of strangers on the internet, well done!
You're ridiculously cute though.
I agree!
he really is haha!
Ahh ikr!
Gail Validly He is
***** ??
Being a long-time viewer, i couldn't be possibly prouder of this huge step you've taken, Jake.
In case you're having second thoughts about it, know that that was tremendously brave of you publicly sharing this part of your identity with the world, and that it was with no doubt the right thing to do because not only do you no longer have to keep it bottled up, furthermore feeling the need to hide who you are in fear of judgment, but given your position and the number of viewers you have, this will definitely if not already helped at least someone having a hard time themselves out there, and that is also something to be extremely proud of.
No one is garanteed how long they'll stick around for, so you might as well live a life on your own terms, fully accepting yourself and never feeling anything less for not fitting into the molds that, sadly, society has successfully established.
Lastly, know that nothing has changed, you're still the same sweet person many others and I have come to love and enjoy seeing snippets of his life.
Keep up the great work on your channel and once again, well done Jake ! Sending you lots of love and support all the way from Tunisia ❤️
"I tried to figure out if I was gay or straight but I couldn't because I'm bi"
100% me for 5 years going back and forth and FINALLY accepting I'm a bisexual male
You have just earned yourself even more respect from me, Jake; I'm actually really glad you're making people aware of your sexuality. I believe strongly that bisexuality and homosexuality are not choices, but the way in which one's personality leads them, and I wish more people would understand that rather than hating on people with a different sexuality for no reason. By you doing this video, you are (along with others) making it easier for other people to come out, and easing the tension around bisexuality, which now makes every one of your videos well worth my time watching (not that they weren't anyway!). Thank you for reading, and keep up the good videos!
Good job Jake! I am Asexual and it is really hard cause i don't know how to tell people or explain to people, have not told my parents yet. I am glad that you are brave enough to upload this video! We support you keep up the good work!
They are attracted to people, but not in the same way straight people would feel. Michael kemp
non b7z someone who isn't interested in sex, period.
non b7z asexual is someone who doesn't feel sexual attraction towards anyone. They often still feel romantic attraction but don't desire to have sex.
sloan boyce In what way are you attracted to people?? Can you explain it??
I am attracted to them like you are, but, i don't feel sexual attraction to them.
oh gosh I'm so happy for you! it's so nice to know you feel comfortable enough to share this part of yourself, and as a bi kid myself it's so lovely to see myself represented! thank you :)
I've always admired the way you allow viewers a raw and unbiased insight in to your personal life. It's been a pleasure to see your character develop and I wish you the best successes at every stage of your life.
Given the diversity of your viewership, this was an extraordinarily brave step but a necessary one. I hope that one day, the stigma is removed such that those who do not fit the 'default sexuality' are able to make that decision and let others know with no qualms. Unfortunately, we've not reached that stage yet but I'm sure I speak for everyone when I say that this was an audacious and brave move - one that I hope will inspire similar bravery amongst viewers of yours who find the issue of sexuality close to home.
Bravo again, Jake.
Hey. So I just found your channel.
I'm bi too and I discovered this last november in my senior year of college (in the US).
Parts of your story reminded me of mine. Somewhere between the ages of 10 and 12, I noticed that I liked guys, but I only knew about two sexualities, gay and straight. I managed to convince myself that I was straight because I liked girls, so I couldn't be gay. And if I wasn't gay, there's only one other possibility. So I convinced myself I was straight and believed that lie until I was about to turn 22 when I realized that I'm bisexual.
I just want to say thank you for your video. Even though it sucks that either of us had to deal with this. It's always nice to be reminded that there are others like me.
Thank you.
The only thing I can really say to this is thank you! Every account of coming out is the typical relief of acceptance from everyone, but I know exactly how you feel when you say it was more difficult. I'm out to most of my family and basically all of my friends, but with new friends I still get nervous to tell them, just because it's a constant process and there's no single wave of relief, and some of the time people just act much more natural before they know. It's good to know that someone else is in the same boat and didn't get that amazing relief everyone talks about, even if it's not in the same way exactly.
Either way, I'm bloody proud, you keep a close audience and it must have been difficult to not broadcast this, I can only imagine the time spent editing little silly things that might have given you away haha!
All the best in the future and I really do hope you continue to make vlogs as much as possible once you've completely left uni and stuff. Your studying vlogs help me focus when I'm distracted and it really helps me get along with studying! :)
This 6 minute video has pretty much summed up the last 6 years of my life. It is absolutely spot on. I have had the exact same process of confusion and self-denial that you had and the exact same thoughts about coming out. It took me a very long time to actually realise to myself that Im bi and another couple years to accept it and come out to people. Shame I didnt see this video a few years ago as it might have really helped me when I was still in that confused state
I'm so glad you're comfortable enough to upload this, Jake. Well done :)
Stop saying that people like us are 'not okay' or that we're 'cancer', and stop threatening/commiting violence against us. Our sexuality affects 0% of your lives. Get over it.
Preach xD
who says that?
Hey man I just wanted to thank you for making this video, it really really helped me. I watched many videos about bisexual men coming out and their struggles with it, but I couldn't relate to most of the struggles they guys described. You video is different for me because what you describe is almost exactly how I've felt and sort of the process of confusion and eventual understanding that I went through. Thank you dude!!
I'm kinda glad you made this because the majority of 'coming out' or videos with regards to sexuality only focus on 100% gay but never really talk about the whole bisexual thing because you're right it can be confusing for those who cannot decide what their 'label' is
Only subbed in the last few weeks and have been remarking how I prioritize your content over the bigger youtubers already. Fair play on coming out I respect that so much, such a cool dude. Keep up the vids
I’m so proud of you dude. It takes a lot of courage to come out, and it’s super scary. My girlfriend and I are happy for you! 💖💜💙 🏳️🌈
I have always believed that I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not. There came a point in my life when I had to "ride that horse", and live my conviction. I have survived, and am better for it. It's not always easy, but is life easy? It's my gift to live, and to live out. Doing so has given me better and more acceptable (to me) life. In the final analysis, the saying is true of me, but also for me. I love me more. That's the grand payoff. It's not a disease, or condition, Jake. It's who you were created to be. Be that. Solidarity!
I'm so glad you've come to accept yourself now, that's probably more important than anyone else accepting you. I don't understand why any girl wouldn't date someone because they're bisexual, surely the importance is that they are attracted to and are with you and everybody else, regardless of gender or sexuality, doesn't matter?? Homophobia is something that I don't understand; who's business is it to tell someone that their preferences are right or wrong? I don't understand why so many people actively campaign against something that is 100% none of their business who likes who. Some people are so frustrating! Great video though Jake :-)
The ones that you know... do believe in God! They're the ones that shall show these lost soul the way to life... All others ones like you are just ignorant and are ready to bless their perish just so the progressive wicked society shall praise them! You can't tell good from evil, light from darkness unless you follow God's path and Commandments! Get that Olivia?
Wow that takes balls - hats off to you Jake.
Jake Wright I am sat at my desk almost in tears. Making and then uploading that video must have taken some huge courage. I am 33 and only accepted my own bisexuality 2 years ago. My family took it very badly. Ultimately though, your sexuality is part of you without defining you. You are clearly an amazing man with massive potential. I enjoy watching your videos and I look forward to seeing you fly in this world. Be you. Being anything else just brings mental distress.
I had the same feelings, Si.
A close friend of mine who I've known for 13 years recently came out. He was in the same situation you are jake really nervous and scared and he told me over a game of badminton. Though the anxiety followed him for a while after he came out i noticed a huge change in him, he was happy and smiled more. I cant really say that i know how you feel, but i think i can speak on everyones behalf by saying that we are all really proud of you jake!! As someone whos followed your vlogs from the beginning its been an honour to wach you grow and develop and I look forward to see what you get up to in the future. Keep up the vlogs man and i know you wont tell us yet but hopefully you got a 2:1, you deserve it!!!!
To be fair, this has just made me like you more, Jake!
I remembered that I know this channel from HTML, CSS and JavaScript tutorials. Now he shifted it to a whole new level with vlog and flooding with cuteness. I'm a fan now and you get my sub because you're bi XD
Jake, I have always thought you were gay rather than bisexual. To me your just Jake an awesome person who is sharing parts of his life with the world! I have been watching your videos for a long time and when I saw this video about you coming out, I was like, about time!! We are on this planet for such a short time, and it amazes me how we all worry about what others will think of us if we are gay, or bi, or whatever? Who are you living your life for? I hope your living your life for you. When we are breathing our last breaths,having regrets for not being who we really are, is a fate worse than death itself in my opinion. CELEBRATE who you really are everyday, cause there are no do overs!!!
Cheers
Mark
About as proud as I could be of someone who I don't know personally. It was hard enough for me to come to terms with and come out to my limited circle of real life friends and family, can't even imagine the courage to come out to a much wider group of people. Creating a conversation is such a huge part of equality, so props to you man :)
Thank you Jake. It is totally okay to be whoever you’d like to be and there’s nothing special to be bi or gay. Thank you for sharing your stories.❤
You know, I think selective memory is a thing with coming-out stories…
Coming out is very weird, I find. After the first time coming out to someone (my parents, that was) I thought every other time I would have to come out to someone was dead easy. It wasn’t. After I’d figured out I was gay and (quite some time later) told my parents, I thought I would be casually throwing the “Yeah, I’m gay” in every conversation. Well, no way, that didn’t happen. It continued to feel very weird to tell 'my secret' I was keeping for myself for the better part of eight years to anyone. I then wanted to tell it to some of my closest friends, but that too proved to be quite difficult.
More than once it resulted in me, when I knew I was going to be with someone who I wanted to come out to, planning to say the “I-I’m gay” but then instantaneously freaking out the second I met up, resulting in me feeling awkward and nervous for no reason for the whole conversation. A big part of me not really wanting to tell it is because, well, you don’t have to come out that you’re straight, people don’t just randomly state their social security number because it changed; so why would you interrupt a random conversation to state the fact that you’re gay?
For some reason (and because a few people I was planning to come out to kindly asked if I was gay, which I was really grateful about, something I wouldn’t have guessed beforehand), I managed to tell a fair amount people that I was gay. Though every time, during the pause between my question and their answer, it felt I and my pounding heart was falling in a black hole. And word got around to the rest of the people I knew. It certainly was awkward for a while - for instance when some female friends were talking boys and preceded to look expectantly at me to say something - but eventually, I discovered that being yourself is really awesome!
Not long ago I was talking with a straight friend on Facebook and I ended up telling the whole coming-out-doodah; it resulted in being able to talk about my sexuality (and his, I learned that when straight guys can’t find any girls for a prolonged amount of time, one of the first diagnostics is apparently to check if you are really straight, a line of reasoning that was new to me) for more than two hours and I ended up feeling really good afterwards. I don’t know why, but it did comfort me quite a lot.
Can I ask something though, out of curiosity, as someone who hasn’t got the experience in loving both genders, and as someone who shrank the datable population severely when he came out: Are you attracted to men and women in the same way; does it feel the same? And do you have a - though maybe slight - preference to one or the other? I can imagine, though, that that is only to be answered by the future, as cheesy as it sounds. And, how is being bi on the World Wide Web feel? Answer selectively if you want, but I am starting to gay curious now.
Well, congratulations, you’ve made it to the end of the pocket version (it really is!) of my coming-out. I hope you’ve found it slightly comforting to read (as I did with yours; thanks for that, by the way); and, errrr, if you ever want to talk about all of it with a random person on the internet, absolutely be my quest! It feels good to (and in both directions, btw), that’s for sure.
Anyways, take care!
TL;DR: I came out, I didn’t saw the need to, it felt weird, I didn’t have a secret anymore, ended up talking openly about it with a friend which felt great!
Congratulations Jake for doing this! It is not very often that bisexual TH-camrs come out so it's great that you decided to do so. Maybe it's because bisexual people face this confusion you described or maybe just that they haven't come out yet but your video surely encourages one not to be afraid of their sexuality.
First Shane..and now you. I really ought to come out myself. I've told 3 of my friends, and 2/3 of them went badly. I think sometimes if your the one coming out you have to realise that people aren't going to lay out a red carpet and treat you as royalty. From my experience anyway that's the case. But I guess that's what we should be aiming for? The fact your not straight doesn't warrant an overreaction, and it's just something normal. So well done for publishing this, coming from Newcastle myself I know it's not the most open of places, but we're getting there. People like you will make a big difference back here, drag us into the 21st century.
Something I love about the internet is that I feel like it's giving people the opportunity to share things about themselves without having to feel ashamed of themselves because they think they're the only one or that they're weird or something. Well done for making this video and telling all your loved ones, the whole ordeal must've been pretty daunting.
I myself am pansexual but I also identify as genderqueer which kind of adds on a few more 'difficulties' when it comes to coming out to people. I'm pretty much out as pansexual at school but I can't imagine telling my parents upfront that I'm not straight at this moment in my life. So far only my closest friends know I'm genderqueer and I probably won't bother to tell anyone for a while, but I strongly dislike being constantly labelled as a girl just because I look like one.
Thank you for making this video. It's caused me to decide that when the time comes, I'll make my own coming out video for my family and the rest of my friends.
I know this is a bit late Jake, but i'm proud of you. It's a lot harder than people think to come out as bisexual, like myself. I found it really hard to decide who the fuck i was and i questioned it everyday "what's wrong with me??", "am i normal". Only this summer I started to tell a few people at a time. Now I've got the stage where i don't care what people think of me, I am who I am, and i'm proud.
I think I am very lucky since it does not take long to know your sexuality after becoming curious about it. It is a very huge and brave step that you have taken, and I support you coming out in any way, shape and form. If I was only enthralled by your previous videos being funny, this one certainly makes me start to admire an air of confidence and independent spirit that I saw in you. Bravo and well-said - support from Korean!
It's hard enough dealing with this to a small group of friends. Really congrats on sharing it with the internet!! Good luck with the comments, I'm sure they'll be (mostly) accepting. :)
I've literally gone through the exact same thoughts and experiences, with the acceptance of the fact that I am bi, but didn't share it with anyone yet.
Thx for sharing this part of you
People often underestimate the difficulty of coming out. It can cost you everything, and in some cases it does. So props to you Jake.
I'd be lying if I said I didn't expect it.
Maybe you will feel liberated when you start to accept yourself a little more day-by-day. Cheers!
I'm so glad you made/posted this video, I'm so happy for you!! A while back I finally accepted the fact that I was asexual and do not experience any form of attraction, and I'm now so glad because I've spent way too many years of my life questioning who I am and feeling scared when the answer wasn't straight. I've been watching your videos for quite a while now and they're always great, so I hope your doing good and once again thank you for sharing!! :)
I wanna say something clever, philosophical and thought-provoking, but honestly... I'm jut smiling! I'm so happy for you to hear that over time you've grown to accept your sexuality, which is an incredibly difficult thing to do. I'm proud of you for having the courage to make this video and so glad to hear that people have generally been so accepting. And... this video has helped me immensely. Screw these people who claim this is a fad - I'll stand as someone whose life you've actually change with this video.
Sexuality for me, just like for you, has been an incredibly hard thing to define. This weird spectrum that I started out as purely straight, then started to be interested in the same sex, to eventually thinking that it was purely the same sex that I was attracted to. Self loathing, self hatred, confusion, questions are things that anyone who has questioned their sexuality has experienced and opening up about it is the scariest thing.
But today, this video actually made me realise something monumental. That my sexuality is weird. Straight? Gay? Bi? Queer? Pan? Are any of these labels fluid enough? Yeah I'm into the same-sex, but it was purely today that I realised I can imagine myself in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex as much as someone of the same sex. Indeed, with the opposite sex, it would be a rather asexual relationship, but you know what sexuality isn't just about sex. It's also about love. And I could freely love anyone. I'll just say that I'm bisexual... and for the first time in my life.... I'm proud to be!
This is the first time of me even publicly accepting my attraction to the same sex, yet you're video has helped me accept myself. It's scary just typing this, so for you to make a video that will reach thousands... I'm beyond words at your courage.
Thank you for making this video. You've helped me and I'm sure others. The past few years have been amazing with following your journey and you coming out us... well... I'm honoured to be your subscriber and for you trusting us with this.
And to those of you who can't accept Jake for who he is - you didn't deserve to know him in the first place. He's made a difference; inspiring and helping those of us who are unsure and not as courageous. Your words spread hatred and do only bad.
And finally we'll all be able to see a vlog of Jake's where the top comment isn't 'is he gay'. And that really is a huge change! Thanks again and Jake... you're awesome! :)
Congrats on another balanced, eloquent, insightful vid. Nice framing of your head with the grey pin boards too. If you come out to people who don't know any other gay (or bi etc) people, it's understandable that they might be awkward or guarded around you initially. It's partly the responsibility of the coming outer to help put them at ease. Judging by the comments left so far, uploading this vid was totally the right thing to do. It will help you and a section of your audience. Well done on being who you are - you seem to be really good at it. All the very best, B.
Mr Jake Wright. Well done. I thought you were cool and now, you are even cooler. Your honesty and sincerety is inspiring. I'm glad you are yourself and have revealed your sexuality with calm, dignity and sensibility. I totally agree with you with everything you said on this clip. I'm heterosexual and I'm glad to follow your videos. Keep up the great work ! All the way from Singapore.
Oberyn Martell from GOT gave me great self confidence about being bi. And he put it in words better than I could:
“You like them equally, girls and boys?”
“Does that surprise you?”
“Everyone has a preference.”
“Then everyone is missing half the worlds pleasure. The gods made that (naked girls kissing) and it delights me, the gods made this (slap the rent boys arse) and it delights me. When it comes to war I fight for dorne, when it comes to love…. I do not pick sides.
My friend came out to me when he was 14 and he said he was bi. After that the whole school new and some people insulted him but he didn't care about what other people thought about him so that didn't change his mind set
Don't let other people change who you are.
If a 14yr old can do it then you can to!!!!
Good on you Jake. Proud of you x
I've seen at least three comments on here about how people are afraid to tell their families they are no longer Muslim.
It amazes me how there are so many people who are afraid to tell their families they converted to Islam and others that they have left Islam; the same way homosexuals are afraid to tell about themselves.
I've seen this myself with my English friends, I've seen a father that converted to Islam being chucked out of his home by his wife. After that he lived on his own in a rented flat practicing his religion.
Eventually he ended up passing away, and his family were going to give him a Christian funeral. I know his revert friend kept in touch with his son who tried to convince his family to do a muslim funeral, as that's what his farther would have wanted. I'm not sure what happened in the end though. 😕
I just hope we reach a point in this world where everyone is truly accepted for who they are.
Annisa Ali Well, we're getting there, but have a long, long way to go. There are too many countries where this would constitute a head lopping or imprisonment for life.
I'm bisexual too! Good for you figuring yourself out
Jake I have watched your videos for years now and I really enjoy them, especially because I would also love to go to Cambridge and seeing someone who worked as hard as you have inspires me to do so. I remember a random mention of your ex girlfriend in an early video and with all the stupid "is he or isn't he gay" commentary going on I stopped caring what people were saying about it. I don't think your sexuality is my business but I get why you decided this video was necessary and it will be helpful to others. Thank you Jake for making great content, I hope you continue to do so and find love and happiness with whoever you like :)
No one is going to be against you if you are bisexual, and if they are against you, they probably aren't meant for you from the start anyway and its good to know clear who accepts you and doesn't.
Anyway you're in Cambridge, thats where many people dream to be at and can't make it there. You should be proud of yourself!
I know exactly how you feel. I am slowly accepting my bisexuality myself. The confusion is the worst part of it.
By looking at the comments, the positive outcome is really high. Your fanbase supports you since the Cambridge vlogs, so there was no doubt they wouldn't do it now. Really nice you let us know the truth.
I've been watching since the iMac unboxing, that's not going to change. I've literally watched you grow up. It's good that you're comfortable with yourself now. In the end, that's all that really matters.
I hate that anyone would dare comment hate on this. He is such a brave person for doing this and I'm happy for him for discovering himself so anyone who's being negative just hush.
Respect to you for coming out on here, I know what it's like to come out on here, It's difficult, But respect to you for doing it, I found it difficult coming out to people because I was unsure how they'd react but they reacted positively to me coming out to them, I'm bisexual as well by the way.
Regardless, you are such a wonderful person. You should know that there are so many people out there who admire you for countless reasons including the fact that you have the courage, self-esteem, and dignity to upload this sort of video in public.
Very proud of you Jake! Posting this to everyone out there takes a lot of courage, especially sharing your feelings at every stage in your life. In particular, the point you made about things not becoming immediately better after telling your family, because of the awkwardness of others trying to overly support and "normalise" the situation from their point of view.
Have been watching your VLOGS from the very beginning years ago and I'm really glad you made this video.
You really do seem like a great person!
Such a huge well done for doing this, I am so proud of you. Love from a fellow member of the LGBT community.
I also felt awful after coming out to my family, despite them being supportive. I really didn't want it to be a big deal and felt that their support was fake and forced. After nearly a year, I feel much better about it now and am definitely glad I came out to them. Well done Jake, it must be very difficult to post a video about something so personal. We are all proud of you!
Great video - feels very authentic. These videos are important to make to show people that a wide range of sexuality is just normal! I was interested in your gradual feeling of relief rather than instant once you had told your family. For me it was instant: I'm gay rather than bi and I waited until I was 47 before coming out. I hope you really enjoy the liberation of just being you!
❤ so much respect Jake. Don't even need to watch the video before commenting this.
Feeling worse after coming out - because then everybody knows your "secret" as you described it - is quite common; I think most LGBT-people experience that...maybe one day the whole coming-out-concept won't matter anymore (or atleast not as much), because sexuality and gender will finally be accepted for what they basically are: fluid!
It's nice to speak out, I have a lot of friends who are also bisexual and I think it's not a thing that should be shame about!! Be yourself !!!!
So proud of you having the courage to come out. Great job Jake, you do YOU :0) xx
Never forget that there you will always have our support, despite the minority who are narrow-minded and homophobic.
I completely understand you!
I've been having issues with the fact that we have to labeled ourselves in order to appear "normal" to other people.
In my case, I've always felt both male and female at the same time, and have an issue having to tell or explain to people if I considere myself gay, trans etc.
Why is it so hard for people to understand there's so much more than just gay-straight and why it's so hard for most people to understand that some of us just want to be and wear whatever makes us feel comfortable and that some or many times we feel uncomfortable being ourselves because of society not because of who or what we are.
I used to watch your videos in programming and was never interested in the other ones, but this was nice. Some people are saying that it's 2015 and no one cares but in country's like mine it's still a big issue so... I'm not sure where i'm going but good job coming out.
Thanks for your courage! As a bi/pan man it helps to hear others stories.
Thanks for sharing Jake. I didn't have a feeling of relief either, and I got confused whenever people told me how liberated they felt. Glad I'm not alone. :)
Same!
Courageous video.I agree with you; it is nobody's business except with whom you decide to share your life with as a sexual partner. I think people want to know more about your sexuality because they are dealing with the same issues.
So proud of you, Jake :) some people say it doesn't matter in today's society but they don't get how hard it still is in how some people may react and because its so personal. You've been a big role model to me recently, applying for Cambridge myself but now, you posting this has made me so so happy because it feels so good to see someone else who's bisexual come out and be honest about who they are and it may inspire me to be less guarded and just be who I am openly. So thank you, and you're awesome!!
I live in Brazil and my family is very religious, like most of the country, making my coming out be just more hard. I hope sometime be more independent and free myself of this thing, even being sad lose the trust with my family, but videos like your just make me be more hopeful, really appreciate you.
Good on you Jake, it's great to hear something that many people will be able to relate to (and isn't completely idealistic). Well done for plucking up the courage to share it.
Thank you very much for sharing this with us! While you may not have been, "publicly out", until now, you have been publicly very supportive of the LGBTIQ community for quite a while. That was brave, important, and appreciated.
I have respected and admired you. I still do, and I fully support you with this announcement. You are one of the most remarkable people I've ever known, and I am very glad to have found you. You have enriched my life by inspiring me to become a more active participant in some areas of life.
Thank you for coming out. While no one should feel that they have to come out publicly, visibility really does help with the movement toward equal rights. When people know real GLBTIQ people it is harder for them to justify discriminating against us. It also helps others who may be struggling with their own identity to feel less alone.
I happen to be a mostly gay man whose first love was a bisexual man, here is some of my story:
I'd always had crushes on girls in my youth. In high school there was this blue eyed blond girl who just made me weak in the knees with her wistful beauty. I was fond of some guys & somewhat curious about them, but I didn't have romantic feelings toward them. I never pursued any of my crushes as I never felt worthy of any of them. Dealing with parental mental illness possibly helped damaged my innate sense of self esteem.
Then I fell for my first love when I was 16. He was handsome, athletic, popular and charismatic. To my eyes he was one of the most gorgeous guys in school. I felt happiest when I was close to him. His smell made me happy.
Being gay seemed horrible to me. I was only aware of effeminate gay men, and that was not me. At the time I found it repulsive. Yet I was physically attracted to men. How could I have had so many serious crushes on women? I was so confused!
When I was with this one guy nothing else mattered. I was drawn to him like a river to the ocean. There was no doubt in my mind. He and I had a bit of a Brokeback Mountain (like the movie or the short story) style thing. It was off and on for many years. We were both closeted. I came to realize that I was mostly gay. He eventually accepted that he was bisexual. It was a complicated and very messy, "relationship", for years, but I always loved him, and love him still.
When he committed to a serious relationship with a women I nearly had a breakdown. I felt like I had lost my one true love. I was still closeted. The emptiness nearly killed me. In that state I resolved to try being gay. I felt not far from being dead, and what is fear to dead men?
I attended a coming out support group. There I finally met other gay men. They were more real and nuanced than the shallow caricatures of gay men I had seen in mass media. We shared our stories and I came to admire them for their courage in facing a very challenging identity crisis. Our burdens made us stronger people. I valued that. I learned to be a more tolerant and accepting person.
I made gay friends. One of whom was an openly gay rock star. We traveled to gigs at gay clubs and bars all over the world and had many crazy adventures along the way. It was a wild and fun time in my life.
In time I came to serve on the board of directors of a GLBTIQ community center, eventually serving as president for two years.
I have come a very long way from being the homophobic gay teen I had been. Yet, I am still growing and evolving as a person. Certainly being closeted for so long has somewhat delayed my development as a person. I am still very much finding my way in this world. But, really, aren't we all?
I like your videos even more now as I know that they are genuine. Its awesome that you don't try to be someone else behind the camera unlike many other youtubers.
Yay! I am so happy that you finally feel ready to share this, Jake! I've had the same experience although I haven't come out to my family yet, maybe someday I will!
Okay I'm gonna stop spamming this, my experience:
I recently came out of a three year relationship with a lovely lovely girl, but whilst I was with her I told her that I was Bisexual.
She absolutely freaked out, she freaked because she felt like she didn't know my true identity, and thought that if I was Bi then I must 'fancy' boys, and therefore not be truly committed to her.
I think the downward spiral of trust issues started there, which is a shame, but it taught me lots of lessons which I am thankful for.
Thanks for uploading this video mate, seriously, it's helped me a lot.
I stumbled upon your channel yesterday. Been binge-watching a lot of your videos since then. Loving it. After this video, I'm actually happy for myself because it changed nothing. So yeah I am gonna continue watching the rest of your videos.
That was a very thought provoking video - thanks for sharing it.
"Coming out" is a process, not a one time event, although there are major milestones along the way like the first person that you ever tell, telling your parents, and making public statements like this. Ultimately, of course, it is all part of a life long process of learning about yourself and figuring out who you really are. You are very right that sexuality (and other aspects of one's personality) is a very fluid thing that really defies any simplistic kind of categorization and, as you have discovered, it is particularly difficult if you don't fit neatly into one of the "predefined" groups.
I came out as gay while I was at Cambridge (40 years ago) but that was just a way of identifying with the group with which I seemed to have the most in common. The reality was actually much more complicated than that ...
I know your pain. I am bisexual. And my parents tell me it's not real.
I'm proud of you, Jake. I've been struggling with coming out recently, being that I am pansexual. It's been hard for me to do, but I've slowly opened up to people about it. And videos like this really help people feel better, including me. So thank you, and don't let anyone bring you down.
Wow that is very courageous of you Jake. I can understand how hard that would have been to come out. But thanks for letting us know! Probably most of us who watch your videos would have tried to guess. And now we know! That is a relief in itself! I hope you find the right girl or boy for you!!
Well done Jake for coming out, this clearly took a lot of balls to do and I respect you for that. I think what ever your sexuality is, you shouldn't be scared or worried about what other people think of you. Just do what you gotta do. 👍🏽😃
You did an amazing job telling your story. It takes a lot of courage. It took me a long time to come out as bisexual.
I know you have said that in coming out you are hoping to help others, but surely by simply living out your life dating women or men in confidence is symbol enough of how it's fine to be bisexual, gay etc in todays society.
Although I of course support people of all sexualities (because quite frankly I feel sexuality is irrelevant to most situations) I struggle to support the idea of 'coming out'. In some ways I think the act of announcing your sexuality to the world is perpetuating the pre-existing division between the 'normality' of being straight and the 'abnormality' of being LGBTQ.
***** I mostly agree and this was the biggest reason I had against making a video like this and I hope one day "coming out" won't be a thing anymore. Unfortunately it's not as easy to be gay, bi, etc. as it is to be straight. LGBT people still suffer abuse, bullying and unfair treatment everyday in this country. Gay marriage is still illegal for millions of people and for lots its illegal to even be gay. It's ignorant, I think, to suggest that LGBT people are fine in today's society because that isn't the case... yet.
One reason for making this video was to raise awareness of bisexuality. There are lots and lots of coming out as gay videos on TH-cam and everyone knows about homosexuality and most people have become very accepting of it. People who identify as bisexual, pansexual, asexual, etc. do not benefit from this publicity and can have a harder time coming to terms with their own sexuality and then explaining it to others. I spent a lot of years assuming I wasn't bisexual because I didn't know anybody who was bisexual, it almost wasn't a thing to me. It was like "I can't be bi because it's so rare, what are the chances of that". Increased awareness of sexualities that are often ignored I think is still a good thing. Of course the goal is for nobody to care and everybody can be attracted to and date whoever they want without problems, but while people are still committing suicide and being sentenced to death because they fancy someone of the same sex, I'm hoping videos like mine can help.
Jake Wright I so totally agree with the "one day coming out won't be a thing". I think one issue is that many LGBTQIA+ people feel as if they have a duty to come out rather than a choice (which is certainly how I felt when coming out as bi at 13) and I think that adds much more pressure to many's already confusing situations.
In addition, for bisexual people in general, and others who don't fit in to the "LG" bracket can also find it hard because there are many people who don't believe you can be attracted to more than one gender, and this is present in not only the heterosexual community. As a consequence, bisexual people can end up feeling ousted from a community which is supposed to benefit them. So I think its important to have these discussions and videos like this in order to have a community where groups dont feel ousted un-represented in anyway.
.....In retrospect, as a 17 year old, would I have came out when I had, probably not because I wasn't ready....and now I dont feel the need to.
Jake Wright Apologies, I did not wish to minimise the suffering of LGBT people - I am very aware of the abuse that gay people face worldwide and hope that I can actively fight against it. Perhaps I should have said how living confidently in your sexuality might contribute to a sense of normality that, in turn, will hopefully lead to a future in which being LGBT is fine.
However, it being hard to be gay doesn't infer that marking a point at which you announce your sexuality will make it any easier - in the sense that those who exhibit homophobia do so regardless of how they have come to be aware that a person is LGBTQ. Or, at least, I struggle to see how it does.
I do agree that increasing awareness of the fluidity of sexuality and rarer sexualities is a good thing. I think the grouping of this type of awareness under 'coming out' can make some people blind to these intricacies, but it is of course the duty of the individual to make themselves aware.
***** Don't get me wrong, I agree with what you're saying but I decided that this was the best way to (a) clear up any confusion about my sexuality-if you look at some of my vlogs from earlier this year there are huge arguments in the comment sections about whether I'm gay or straight with people getting unnecessarily and surprisingly angry about it. And (b) raise awareness in general and help people coming to terms with their sexuality, because "coming out videos" is what someone will most likely search for.
Jake Wright I can't agree with you more! I do wish that someday coming out wont need to be a thing, and being gay or bi or anything else won't be an issue. But coming out is not just announcing your sexuality to the world. It brings perspective to a cause in a way that people may have never thought about it. Also coming out helps people who have struggled with these feelings say that they this is a part of me, and no longer worry about what others think, and then move on and accept this part of them.
From what I have read and learned in University, sexual attraction is not just set as: you are are either 100% straight or 100% homosexual or 50/50. If you were to draw it out starting point (A)being straight and midpoint (B) being bisexual and end point (C) being homosexual most people do not land exactly on one of those points. The majority land somewhere in between. For example some one might be "bisexual" but fall somewhere in between point (B) and point (C) or between point (A) and point (B). However it is possible a different person who may fall at the same place between (A) and (B) to consider themselves straight. So I guess the point of all this is to tell you that your confusion and your sexual orientation is quite a normal thing and that there is no right or wrong. The only person who can define you is yourself. If somebody says they are straight then they are straight, and if they say the are Bisexual they are bisexual. Sexual attraction for the most part is not 100% of anything really, there for we can only define someone's sexual orientation as they choose because after all they are the only person who truly knows who they are attracted to.
Jake, you are a remarkable young man, whose honesty, decency and courage are an inspiration. Many people live unhappy lives because of their inability to come to terms with who they really are. I admire you for making this video. Well done and good luck!
I love the fact that you have the courage to come out as I have known I was bi for years and I still haven't come out. Now that I have seen this video, I think that I have a wee bit more courage and all these wee bits will lead to me eventually coming out. Thanks so much.
I know a few guys who have expressed the same feelings and it goes to show that there are different types of bisexuality. The Men I know who are bisexual are so only in a sexual way. They could never have an emotional connection with a Man.
I've enjoyed watching your videos and even though I'm a good 4 years behind...I'm happy that you found the courage to be yourself!
Jake -- New to your channel, but I must comment after watching what you said about yourself and how it was hard to come out. Well, I had to "Come Out" a few years back, but mine was quite different. I grew up in a religious family, and we were very Bible-believing and raised to live our lives for God. But, one day, things didn't seem to fit, and my world splintered as I began to question things. Yeah, I always had NAGGING LITTLE QUESTIONS, but I just brushed them aside. Yet, in my mid 20s, I couldn't sweep them away any more. I had to spend next 5 to 10 years really thinking about them. It took 5 years to let myself open up and explore other options, then the next 5 years to admit to myself that religion is man-made.
So, I finally (at 35 yoa, I guess about) just got tired of the BULLSHIT and came out to my family that I was AN ATHEIST. Honestly, in my former world, my parents would have loved you (being gay) more that day or they'd loved you more -- even if you were a child-molester. Yeah, that's how bad atheists are viewed in my family. Charles Manson or Ted Bundy could have been loved more as their child than me. So, it's hard being honest, but you have to do it for yourself. Yes, it was not an easy talk and life afterwards WITH EVERYONE in my family, but now, years later, they realize why I said it and why I had to BE HONEST with everyone.
I couldn't be in THE CLOSET anymore. When they pray and ask Jesus for things, I acquiescence. Don't want to, but I don't make a scene. However, if they start talking about a 6,000 year old earth and Adam & Eve, then I open up and say that's not what evidence would lead us to believe. And, after that, the dialogue is open to talk more, but I've given up with my family on changing their views ... but, I will say -- they have become TOLERANT and more UNDERSTANDING of why.
But, again, thank you for your video and this video especially. Helps me remember my years of FIGHTING MYSELF to try and decide ... Do I believe in something invisible? Imaginary? Etc. It was a hard process, but I am glad that I pushed through the questioning where I could obtain more self-growth.
You're one of the first people that I've known to have come out that didn't feel relieved. That's how I felt and I thought it was an issue that only I had experienced. Thank you so much for making this video and congratulations on not having to live with a secret, I'm sure I'm not the only one of your followers to say that I'm incredibly proud of you
It really upsets me the way society is these days. Just because you don't fit certain ideals, (being 'straight'), it means that you have to explain who you are, being gay or bisexual etc shouldn't be something you have to announce. It shouldn't be something you have to explain, it's a part of who you are, you should be able to just tell people, and not have to make an announcement. Others wouldn't announce that they're straight. But I'm happy for you Jake, for finding yourself, discovering who you are and not being ashamed of it, because you shouldn't be. Just because you have a different sexuality doesn't make you any different, you are you, your sexuality doesn't define you nor is it something that should scare people.
Ahh I'm so happy for you! When I saw the title I just assumed you'd be coming out as gay, but I'm so happy you've become the first TH-camr I'm subscribed to to come out as bi. Hearing you talk about your feelings has just validated my own experiences and emotions just a little bit, and makes me feel just a lil bit better as a bi person coming (hopefully) to Cambridge next year. Thank you!
So, when it comes to not knowing what your sexuality was when you were younger, what do you wish your parents or anyone in general would've done then so you didn't have to go through all the confusion? How do you think that situation could've been avoided so you knew more about the different nuances of sexuality?
Spanglish Hannah Better education about sexuality and gender (and sex in general for that matter) would have really helped. Knowing from a younger age that bisexuality existed would have avoided 11-year-old me trying to decide whether I was gay or straight. Knowing that sexuality is fluid would have also helped me understand my changing feelings-how sometimes I'd feel more straight and other times I'd feel more gay.
Jake Wright Fair enough. And lastly, would you have liked your parents to educate you on that issue/provide you information and resources, or do you think you'd prefer it if you had learnt that at school... or both?
I had an impression that you might be working in the LGBTI community (or maybe I'm wrong), so I wanted to contribute to the discussion, too.
Ideally, I myself would like to learn about sexuality both from my parents and school. Maybe the details about the topic and resources can be found at school, but I think it's the parents' affirmation and acknowledgement of diverse sexual/gender identities and expressions that is needed by a child.
Spanglish Hannah I guess both would be optimal
***** Jake Wright thanks guys :)
good on you jake for coming out, it is a struggle but always know that you still have my support :)
With all my respect Jake, I think it's great to see someone who's brave and confident enough to reveal the truth about their sexuality. And I love your videos, so it doesn't matter if you're bisexual or straight, the fact that your videos make me smile will never change! Keep up the good work you're doing Jake! Have fun and may health be with you! :)
I subscribed to you for more than a year now but I just found this video now.
Thanks for sharing this with us.
Fair play being so open about it on TH-cam mate, all the best
I absolutely had no idea that you had made this video but I support you. I was looking on TH-cam for html and JavaScript video tutorials and for some reason clicked on yours and I absolutely immediately fell in love with the way you can explain html. I've researched so many tutorials and your explanation for it has been the only thing that makes any sense. Please keep making more html and CSS and JavaScript videos for us. We need more help like you. I enjoy your videos so so much I'm trying to find more videos made by you about these subjects, that's how I stumbled across this video and I felt moved to inform you that I'm happy you have moved on to a place where you can be more open about who you are and take that to it's next level which is better than where you were, hopefully! But really please do more code videos because you are the absolute best teacher on TH-cam so again thank you for teaching me in your style you should make it your career. Liked and subscribed
Long time viewer, first time commenting. I think it's great that you are able to feel comfortable with yourself and your identity to express it fully, even more so on a platform such as this where it is hugely public and where you don't owe any of your subscribers and viewer base anything. Certainly braver than I would be expressing my own sexual preferences.
Hopefully coming out videos will cease one day, but it is great that you are raising awareness and giving an opportunity for people in a similar situation such as myself to eventually come out.
You're an intelligent guy who can do programming at a fantastic level and way better than I could during my own college and university days (more of a computer artist than programmer). I wish you all the best of luck in life now and after your graduation.
Congratulations Jake! #Proud This is a proper coming out video and the best video for those that don't believe bisexuality is a real thing.
Great video as always! I came out as gay to my friends and most of my family about 4-5 five years ago, when I was around 17-18. To some extent it was a relief to 'come out', but I, too, felt my friends acting weird and awkward around me, especially the guys at my school, and that really sucked. It's really made it difficult for me to become friends with guys, actually, but starting university it's become better although not much. Perhaps it just takes time.
madsfolk It does take time. Be yourself and that will make people more comfortable with you. Then, you're just you. One's sexuality is a facet of a person. Not their whole being.
Yay! Another cute guy on our team aha. So happy for you and wish you every best possible! I felt exactly the same as you did and it is hard but now my life is so much better and being myself is the best thing possible! Much love to you :) x