WHEN THE EMPATH IS PUSHED TOO FAR
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Thanks Andrew for your videos they've been extremely helpful!!
This is exactly how my adoptive childhood went and how things have been going at work at age 38. These toxic people are all around us, definitely wolves in sheep's clothing. I now can understand the road map of life and I now i have the correct definitions or perspectives of what I see in and on my map (like a map key) and now I can better navigate around these toxic areas on the map. I've gone total no contact with all the toxic people in my life and also with their present like minions they've all been blocked as well. I took back the paint brush and have started painting my own masterpiece with the people that I love and trust and who genuinely care about me In the same way. Thanks again you really helped me understand how to use grey rock and no contact, God bless you and your family, keep being a voice for the hurting and the healing. FORWARD ONLY!!!!
Welcome..💯🙏💜🙌
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"Givers, know your boundaries, because the Takers have none."
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EXCELLENT statement! Thank you! Happy Mother's day!
I love your comment and this is so true
Wise words ❤️
Excellent! TY❤️🙏
The moment I realized I don't have to explain myself to anyone was liberating.
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Thank you.. I needed to here this ..
Then it's time to collect heads!
I'm free to be me amen
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“When you were in the narcissistic relationship - let’s be real - you were working for the narcissist, and you put your life in hold.”
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Yep. What a waste
Straight facts.
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FACTS!
So accurate!
Never leave the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket.
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I just found a new quote that is something I say to myself every day. “Don’t set yourself on fire to warm someone else”.
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Wow! Okay.
Yep. Its golden.
AMEN!
Ooooo. That's a great way to lool at it.
Empathy is a sign of high intelligence - the ability to examine life from different perspectives than their own, the ability to accept and adapt to changing conditions, the ability to etc etc etc
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Empathy isn't a weakness, but lack of boundaries is. Too bad there is such a high correlation.
Being an Empath is such a blessing...
They don't grab and
They don't take and
They don't stab and
They don't fake....
NO, they Love and will continue to love...
because their Father IS Love..
and He has assured them that His rewards are out of this World! 💕
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AMEN, AMEN
My 2 sons are the reason I breath and Gods promis that I'll be with loved ones again keep me from rushing His will as well. ❤️
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I have always said please don't mistake my kindness for weakness 💜💕
So right x
I know, Angie , I've done it myself . Waaaaaaay too often .
But , knowing what I've recently learnt on this channel , if you are in a relationship where you find yourself saying that, I think the line of acceptability has already been crossed . Time for a very hasty exit .
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@@a.c.4732 thank you 😊
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One of the hardest thing about being an empath is realizing it's not what everyone around you is also experiencing.
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I agree !
Amen to that! As child didnt know others didn't know 🤷🏻♀️...tough learning!
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Yeah...l'm just now realizing that..
I never knew why or how I was always the way I was but I knew I felt thankfulness in my heart that I was created the way that I am. I have gone most of my life without any knowledge of what being an Empath even was or meant until about 2 years ago when a girl came upto me and said, "You don't know what you are do you?" And no I did not and I'm trying to find out more so that I can find out if this is true with me.
Ty for your comments, they are helpful when trying to understand.
Empaths are the glue in this world. When protected and used correctly, it is your superpower!
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This is so true; as an older empath who tolerated far too much fakeness over decades, I'm now quick to discern toxic people and shut them down; it is far better to have fewer relationships with genuine people. Thank you for great insight and help for many others
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Well said
You are so right.
Agreed
"Weak people revenge, strong people forgive. Intelligent people ignore."
-Albert Einstein
I was just in Costa Rica!
love that so much
I think more like intelligent people forgive. Weak people revenge. Strong people ignore
Wasn’t Einstein abusive to his wife?
@Random V Chick May I suggest that forgiving is not accepting. I think it's about letting go, for your own sake. Relieving yourself of that huge emotional load. Freeing yourself of that burden. Lift your soul. You can't lift others who don't want to be lifted. Letting them go, emotionally and physically, is about freeing yourself. I think we all deserve that freedom. Just a thought. Hope it helps.
"Knowing when to walk away, is wisdom. Being able to, is courage, walking away with grace and your head held high is DIGNITY." -unknown
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Beautiful explaination … yes 💕
YES!!
Brilliantly said 👍
Absolutely!!
It’s so true. I learned to block and stay away from negativity. I’m not mad at the narcissist. What I feel is: Pity. I can go forward with my life. He will always be stuck in that cold, dark place. Thank You Andrew 🙏😇
Welcome 😌💯🙌
Just left an 8 yr marriage July 2022. Tired of him belittling me and silent treatment. Left him house, barn, property and everything that went with it. I am starting over with more wisdom, self respect & my dignity. Just want to live a spiritual, fulfilling, awakened & joyful life.💕🙏
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May God bless you abundantly 🙏🏻 💌
Thanks Andrew for sharing your wisdom
You’re loved and appreciated out here you’re making and freeing people we love it❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@CareBear Hope you are doing well. I too left a narcissist, over 19 years ago, and never regretted leaving. I, like you, left most things there...people don't realize how quickly and easily material things can be replaced. Freedom feels so good, hope you are enjoying your freedom too.
Same...22 yr. Left, kids, dog, house 😢
We are ‘slow boilers’ and watch out when we have had enough!
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Exactly this. There is absolutely no turning back once we have had enough. It takes us time to get there but once we do then that is it. The journey is painful and walking away is painful but we are then in the process of setting ourselves free. My friend told me recently run and don't look back. Life is too short don't waste another second on this absolute rubbish.
@@AJ-kb9hf Yup. Current situation.
Yes I’m like this, once I have had it, that’s it!
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I was pushed too far and I exploded!!! And I’m proud of it because I stood up for myself!!! No regrets!!!
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WHOOP I just did that tonite. Liberating, eh?
I had a situation, where I really, really wanted to blow up and beat the blah blah out of a guy who actually had been just using me for my $. It started fair and with the appearance of friendship. I was in between housing and on the street. Unfortunately, I had shattered my ankle and needed a place to heal up. I paid his rent and bought groceries for the both of us. And, paid his bank NSF fees for mistakes he had made before my arrival. (We had been "friends" for a while from a different apt bldg.). Anyway even after I was able to get back on the street, he was still asking for money. Eventually, instead of making myself a criminal, I just cut him completely out of my life. I wish I would have known then what I know now.
I was pushed too far and exploded, too.
Yeah, I scared the daylights out of the narc and ended the ‘situationship’ the next day 🙏🙏🙏🙏🥹 Thank you Lord for saving me. Amen
It’s easy to spot a narcissist you watch the way they treat others compared to you!
EMPATHS ARE FULL OF LIGHT AND LOVE!!!!✝️
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"When you say no to something you say yes to yourself" AMEN!
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Don't know what that's like.
True
WoW!
"saying no to others, is saying yes to yourself" Golden nugget right there, cheers Andrew!
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@@MusiciansWithVision sorry you were triggered enough to leave a negative comment, with a little introspection you could take something positive from recognising your triggers :)
@@MusiciansWithVision Because attacking random people on the internet is soooo altruistic 😂
@@MusiciansWithVision Whatever 😂
As Ramani said... disengaging from toxic people and toxic situations IS empathy!
Saying no is the best way to find out who the narcissists are, too. They can't stand it, won't apologize, and will usually start to leave you alone.
I'm a narc abuse survivor and every word this man has told you is TRUTH!!!
Thank you and bless you!! ❤🙏
I'm 68, in therapy again dealing with creating stronger boundaries. Since I was a child I was told that I am too sensitive, and emotional lunatic, I needed a thicker skin and tried so hard to be the person they all wanted me to be. All it did was make me fearful and anxious of myself. I believed there was something wrong with me. Today I love who I am. Just wish I could find someone that appreciates what I offer as a person.
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the greatest gift is to love yourself and to be so comfortable being you .. its hard finding genuine authentic heart full people me too .its a powerful ability to feel and be empathic .natures a great soother but i get lonely also .the masses are sadly sick with programs and agendas that don't allow humane to be humans or honest good people but your not alone we are here .i so love you blessings
It can be difficult to meet new ppl but we are most attractive when we are at peace and feel confident
@@gayleshipp2918 thank you for those heart felt words. I needed to hear them today. Many blessings to you and yours.
I felt your pain ( mimosamk 19-54 ) I am 74 ,born in 19-48 , It is my 51 st wedding anniversary , 10th June . I have endured a half century of being married to this man . I gave up everything I was ,and all my possession’s to come to America , and be with what I thought was a wonderful man .. We meet in London in 19-69 .. Married a few years latter. No matter how much I did for him … it was never enough.
He is 81yrs old now, and I just found out he has been in a relationship with a woman for 17 Yrs, I found letters , then looked at his phone for the first time ever . The disgusting texts made me sick to my stomach , beyond revolting . He has had lots of affairs , and one time in counters in the past, Where I have just had to except that he’s not right in his head , as I am to weak and worn down to get away from him . He has recently been diagnosed with third stage cancer, gets his first kemo treatment in 2 days time. Our two daughters are rallying around to take care of him .I just can’t , I am so so broken, shattered, spent . I keep thinking ,This is ( KARMA ) … on steroids . I was touched by your story , it made me cry , for myself , you and every person suffering like we are . My name is Fiona , God Bless you my dear lady . I was just like you as a child , I felt like a servant to my family, trying to please everyone . I don’t know how my story will end . I just long for Peace ,and calm .
Yep, there was that moment when I said to myself I’m done . No anger, no hatred , but more an emotional death and indifference.
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I hope to get there…
Exactly! Same!!
Exactly what happened to me! I was so done!
and feeling of sadness knowing in your heart that this road is not youre future, but after a while, the door to the new future begins to open its door and now and then you catch a glimpse of the beautiful light spraying its glare , hopefully that distracted you for a minute and you forgot the future 🥰 do your best and believe in your self now, and the future will take care of itself
This is exactly what happened to me. It sure took a lot before I woke up. I found out when I make little boundaries for healthy people, they respect me. But when I do for toxic people, they reject me. Which is a GOOD THING!😊
Yes, if u had any doubts as to what they were...they soon prove it to you when u ask for some space, or try to leave.
Sometimes, the trash takes itself out.
I was married to a Narcisse 28 years Sucked me dry Divorced now I'm way better off .Forgiveness goes along way in your healing Thanks for sharing 👍
We get to a point in our lives when we know all this, but it's so comforting to hear confirmation from someone else's mouth.
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You stated everything I wanted to say, from my heart!! 💛❤️💌🌅💌☀️🥰💝
I know it is healing.
Yes it is awesome. To relate. It actually is immense therapy and does wonders.....the ''crazy'' tag goes back to Narcs, and not us.
1 Hail Mary & 1 Guardian Angel prayer for 7 days straight.
Great video. I'm an empath, grew up in a highly dysfunctional home dominated by narcissists. I worked for narcissists. I was/am married to a narcissist. I was taught NOT to have boundaries - if I did, I'd suffer the consequences, both physically and mentally. I was a driven Type A personality; I lived to be the best at my job, to work harder, longer, faster. To please my bosses. Intuitively I knew when those around me were failing, so I'd jump in to lend a hand. People would tell me I was doing too much, that others were taking advantage of me, that I needed to "just say no". As an empath, I simply couldn't. Until I had a nervous breakdown.
Thank you for sharing this 🙌💯🙏☀️
Exactly. Ever catch any episodes of Little House on the Prairie? Michael Landon played Charles Ingalls. Even though he was a fictionalized version of this man, I like the way he handled his business, because he was absolutely an empath, but he had boundaries and would even fight hand-to-hand if the situation called for it. That's how it is when we free ourselves and narcissists can't guilt us into inaction any longer.
Did this just happen? Cause I put in my 2 weeks. But changed my mind because changes are coming. But scared them. Lmao
Not everyone that treats people badly is a Narcissist on that basis.
That word gets thrown around all to often, and frequently used to describe anybody that was in a previous commitment or some sort of relationship, but that doesn't mean the inability to sort things out, means the other person is a Narcissist.
The other person could well be thinking the person they were involved with, was the Narcissist.
I'm not being mean either.
Just keeping it real.
until you had a nervous breakdown Yes.
Amen ❤ Powerful Profounding truth .
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It’s funny because some people just don’t understand boundaries … they’re like a virus running in your system. Something’s got to give.
This hit the nail on the head. I used to be that beautiful light. 14 years of nonsense and pain and I feel completely burnt out, betrayed, abandoned, flat.
Sending positive energy and strength ☀️🙌🙏💯
I hope you recover. Remember, you are worthy of real love!
Same
I’m TIRED of being used…. Sick of it… learning to have boundaries has been hard but so necessary
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The rate they'd usually go through people, they must be so prone to being dumped themselves.
They entangle others with read tape, seeking just a touch of 'mutual' compliance.
Often just a windup for the discard, impending the used by date.
@@chickenbiscuit4525 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 sooooo true!
You can do it. If they’re not willing to do the same for you don’t do it for them. Saying No really does empower you
@@sheliawashington2725 but that still is similar to narcissists baiting. It can be why the discard is so sudden and extreme.
Good boundaries, and willingness to say goodbye 👋 😅 🔑 to happiness
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I’m an empath and the narcissist knows it. This is so good. When thinking about blocking the narc i feel sick. I was raised my narc parents as well. So it’s a huge hill I’m climbing. Working on Boundaries, control and saying No. ❤😊 🙏
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Keep up the good work! It's so liberating! Freedom at last! All the best outcome in becoming a Super Empath! ♡
I feel you! Took me a long time to finally say," Enough!" It's really tough when you realize that the very ones you should be able to trust are many times the ones who do you in. I'm free at last! Blessings to you. You can do it!
I had to leave my narc family. It will be best for you! Be strong. It gets easier once you actually do it and notice the freedom, less stress and peace but most of all no one to rain on your sunny day or to put you down
Being an empath is a curse !!!! “No good deed goes unpunished” ! That statement is so true and consistent in my life I actually fear the consequences of my kindness 😏
its probably more a product of your environment and surroundings
There were times when I imagined 'cutting' my 'heart' out and throwing it in the trash.
There is a price for doing kindness, it is the price that no one else is willing to pay.
Ignoring your heart is a very bad idea, I recommend more of a deprivation, a place of solitude where you cannot witness any suffering.
There is a rule that I have been following called "Rule .303", IF you have the means at hand, you also have the responsibility to act.
If you see something wrong that you know you can easily fix, fix it.
If you know you do not have the means, find help. If you cannot find help, realize it is what it is and throwing yourself on the pyre will not change it.
My family and friends tell me. Stop giving everything away....I can't help it. If I have something. ..and someone else doesn't. . you know the rest. 2 of my daughters andy son Kevin.....SAME WAY
I agree. At work, I am isolated from the other employees because I actually CARE about our patients. Coworkers become jealous or believe I think I'm better than they are, or I make them feel bad for their lack of truly wanting to help others. The retaliate in some way eventually. Thats when I quit, find a new job, and it repeats. 22 years in a profession where 98 % of those in the field pretend to care so they can maximize their profits. I DO care and pay for it dearly every time! I dont even bother with relationships anymore. Since i attract the wrong people, meeting "the one" is better left in my dreams. At the core of my existence, I cannot change. Life sometimes seems like a waste but i just keep going and will until I dont.
@@aboomalacani5829 Find comfort in the fact that you are contributing to ease suffering, and not contributing to the causes of that suffering.
You are still in the phase of being jealous they get rewards for causing more suffering. It will cost them everything in the long run, because it is not sustainable. I see their aging regret every single day.
Helping to ease suffering is what eases your suffering, realize that and do you. Own who you are and ignore them.
The narcissist kills the goose that is laying the golden eggs. Empaths can have a fuse a mile long, but when finally pushed too far the bomb will still make a loud explosion.
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20 years
.......Empaths are the best super power person to have as a friend....... Thank you Andrew.......
I am an empath and have been used and abused, but through my life have learned that I am the strong one and I can say no and walk away. People around me are drawn to me because if the light that I believe comes from The Most High Yah. I see how the people around me crumble so easy under pressure and freak out for things that don’t even matter. I always stay positive and smile and keep my head up and keep going. Never give up! Being this way is a gift from Yah! Peace and blessings to you all ❤
This is for all the beloved empaths out there. When you have been pushed past what you will
tolerate, and it takes a lot, let it go. Be a hurricane and destroy what triggered your fury. I did
it and it was wonderful. You will be amazed at your power. Always remember, you are special
and deserved to be treated kindly. Stand tall, you are awesome. Love to all.
I would be ravaged by guilt in the aftermath
I’ve definitely been pushed too far!
@@thedrugthatkilled and THAT'S what hinders.......guilt. It's what they manipulate you with. They know it bothers you but it doesn't really bother them for they have no guilt.
You toooooo and stay strong 💪🏼 ❤️
@@tmo.48 Very true get strength from watching them crumble...
We have the Right Not to be abused, triangulated, manipulated, lied to, exploited, or taken advantage of. We have the Right to Lawfully Protect ourselves from abuse and manipulation
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Not in Canada anymore! The manipulation is above the law somehow!☺️
Spot on. This has been my life. With a concerning situation i ended up writing 4 foolscap pages of thoughts last night to try a find perspective. We have a backbone few will ever know
That’s so right!!! Took me forever to realize my role is not to be a human punching bag.
After 71 years, I'm FINALLY learning to set boundaries. Once I realize what's going on, I set boundaries. If they just walk all over them, I learned how to BLOCK them. At one time, I felt guilty for the block, but for my own health, it got a bit easier. There are plenty of others that appreciate honest help or just plain good friendship that is give and take. I have many of those! They are valuable and cherished!!
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Good on ya, so exciting - enjoy the freedom and happiness that comes :-) internally
I am like you and now I'm finally learning. It's hard because some of them are family members and I still love them. The hurt they cause including friends and those at work is still painful.
Remain blessed, friend♥️🙏
@@nishurao7932 THE most painful relationships involve family members.
I'm definitely an empath and years ago I took the Meyers Briggs personally assessment and my acronym was INFJ, it's all coming together, I can finally breath
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"You were hoping that any little breadcrumb from the narcissist would spring into a whole loaf of bread." So many of the things you say make me laugh out loud! God Bless you, Andrew!!
@savedsoul Time to bake your own bread. Go to school, join a gym or a walking club, go to Church. You do you. It feels so great! God Bless you! 🙏
I thought he was gonna say 5he empathy explodes and loses it on the narc cause that's what I do. I'm too polite to just communicate my issue and let shit build and build until I'm so angry I explode and tell them off.
@@ellaova thats what I did, then he discarded me. Couldn't take the truth and it damaged their ego. I'm in no contact now. 💪🏼👍🏼❤️
Im in therapy now to address my attachment style.
It’s true
I love the fact that when the narc is rejected by an empath they will usually make out that the empath was crazy and had issues ,..oh the arrogance ,...and oh the IRONY ?!!! 🤔🤨😂😂
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My sister in law is like this. It's been 12 years and I just cannot connect with her. At times we have managed but she is often blunt and rude. There is a flip from one interaction to the next, always having something negative to say. Always picking on things I do. I am a massive believer in kindness, people don't need to hear their flaws unless it's someone who respects you is telling you a way to improve. It's got to the point I get anxiety when I visit my parents as they chose to live opposite. My brother and I have a strained relationship because he feels I'm unstable and sensitive. I have tried to explain that I struggle with people who have nothing better to do than judge what I am doing in my life negatively. I would agree I am sensitive but more to bs and unkind people. I do back off and he sees this as me lacking social skills. Apparently we should all accept it was how she was raised.
Yes as this is the narcissistic way regardless who they are. They flip everything to the other person.
You are awesome and strong. Blessings
@@cloudbusting5968 well, you could just ask her if she hears you being critical to Her. If indeed you have not been criticizing her then you can tell her your belief that criticism ought to come only from someone who respects that person getting the criticism. That ought to shut her up for a day.
@@cloudbusting5968 are all her siblings like her? Are they all just product of how they were raised? Gee, perhaps they could step up to do better if someone points out that growing up means stepping out of failures of their parents parenting style. No parent actually patents properly, I suspect. But mostly figure how to be "better" as we take on families of pur own, but then there are those who Were actually just "crushed" by their parents' errors. But perhaps more encouragement would help you g patents continue to seek better; I found my encouragement from older women in church when I was a young mother. (I was new to church when I had my first child)
Empathy must balance kindness with shrewdness. Be aware that we are in the minority and that everyone else is out for their own selves. So be present, try not to act emotionally to any given situation, but act for the greater good of all. Sometimes, the kindest thing you can do for someone is to walk away. Much love xxx
An educated empath post narcasistic abuse is unstopable in what they can accomplish because of what they have endured.
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If you deeply empathize with a psychopath you can lose yourself. There was so little left of me after 5 years being married to a malignant narcissist he tried to send me away to an institution for my "Depression", which he created. At that moment I sensed a "flame" in the area of my heart and I knew I was alive. After that I suddenly had boundaries. I think this was a spiritual experience.I felt strong ever since this.
youre lucky im glad for you - after 30+ years I have FULLBOWN panic attack every time I get my car packed and start to drive away, i keep turning right around and going back before he gets home and realizes what i was trying to do
Does your soul ever come back
@@marshasnitzer9223 please get help. Watch Crappy Childhood Fairy Videos, educate yourself. Personally, I dive into my relationship with God, and feel stronger and more confident. His word says, "NO weapon formed against me shall prosper."
I get it. The sudden feeling pf boundaries and confidence is inexplicable. You suddenly have clarity on what's real and what isn't and completely ignore everything that isn't real.
@@marshasnitzer9223 FULLBLOWN panic attacks are seriously unpleasant.
I hope you can work out a way to minimise those peak panic attack symptoms on your escape day soon so that you can get to comfort & safety.
I just realized that I spent 63 years being baffled by how thoughtless some people could be when all I was doing was give from the heart. My own children and my father would even get on me for be way too nice and I was always getting taken advantage of. I even coworkers STEAL from me! I suppose they thought I would’ve helped them out if they had asked. Anyway, when I finally read up on Empaths it was like a huge “AHA”!!! moment for me! I was actually thrilled that I had an answer, a name that explained my life. The reason why I got along with most everyone so easily but there was always someone in the bunch that absolutely hated me! I mean from the moment they looked at me ! No reason at all! They would make my life a living hell! But now I knew why and it all made since.
In the last few years I’ve had breast cancer 2 times and for some freak reason my spine has failed me and I am now disabled, but I couldn’t be happier. I have seen the silver lining by removing all of the toxic people and focusing on my artwork. I am finally writing and illustrating my first Children’s book.
Thanks for your video. It really hit home.
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Thank you for what you do…reminding us that we are strong and filled with light. I’m starting to remember and believe in who I am and what I stand for again. Your videos are truly a blessing.
Welcome 🙏😌❤️🙌
I finally woke up in my 50s, yep, it took that long. I was learning the whole time though, putting pieces together, sacrificing myself for others and developing a lot of hatred and resentment towards the people who were using me. Finally the burden of hate became too much, I realized it was harming me and that was about the time I was set free. I'm content within myself now, I can live the rest of my time doing my best to stay above the realm of negative heavy emotion.
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Thanks for sharing I'm right there with you.
Amen to that. I have had a similar
epiphany. We are better to put our own needs first. And allow others to do the same.
@Joanna Bentley I believe the highest level of spirit is where it is unmanifested as form or as positive and negative, it just is. Most people are unaware of this and only see duality, especially as most religions remain in the realm of duality - good and evil. Since most people cannot rise above duality because of what they are taught, they cannot understand why God "lets them down" and allows evil and suffering in the world. They get mad at God and live in the negative spiritual stream where things a reversed. Life loses its value, people become commodities and materialism takes over. Ego is a protective shell we have in these lower realms to guard us against spiritual abrasion and, like anything, it can get out of control. Someone who feels they've been betrayed by God will start amplifying their own importance to compensate for the rage they feel, narcissism is an aspect of this, so in that sense I believe it's evil since is born of the negative path. Negative spiritual energy is what we see as evil, it's necessary for creation because creation is duality. If people were taught that good and bad are not the ultimate states and that one can go higher, they could get some perspective in these lower worlds and begin to let go of their resentment towards God and climb the ladder. My beliefs anyhow.
@Joanna Bentley That spiritual component....... The way I see it... we all have 'our demons'. The narcissist has given in to his or hers.
(I cut myself off from my whole family a few months back. I've never ever sensed an ounce of empathy coming from any of them EVER.)
I only realised that I'm an empath recently... about a year ago and when that happened, my life made a whole lot more sense.... as to why I never felt like I fit in.
Listening to this vid and what Narcdaily said about how rare empaths are, well, that makes sense too.... because now that I'm switched on to how people behave... I'm looking for that spark of empathy, when I meet someone and in the past year, I've only come across two people.
I was once that empath who was pushed too far by a narcissist, and when I finally stood up for myself and asserted my boundaries with this individual, I was called - yes, you guessed it - a narcissist! So glad I got out of that 💩 while I could. To anyone out there going through this, just know that there is definitely light on the other side. Never compromise your boundaries for another person's benefit ... no matter how much empathy you may have!
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hi michael...same happened to me...when I called him out, he said the same...they are all so sick
Are you okay now Michael? Some people can be so mean. I experienced disrespect by someone yesterday.
Do tell, 'Empath' do tell... th-cam.com/video/Ht5m19P-cFQ/w-d-xo.html
I am an empath and he did indeed push me too far! I am so done! The pain and torture was so hard on me. He wore a mask so well , he was so undercover! He made me feel like I was drowning.! He put his hands on me and drove reckless with me fearing for my life. That was game over! He constantly belittled me and took advantage of my huge heart . Thank you for this video and confirmation on what I am feeling and going through
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I wish every empath out there could see this video. You summed up the empath/narc dynamic very well. And we all need to hear that we are not wrong for protecting our beautiful inner light from being harmed or dimmed by anyone.
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"NO is a complete sentence", I am going to remember that, and live by that ❣️ Thank You, ANDREW!!! 💖
Welcome 😊☀️😉🙌
Agreed!! “What part of No don’t you understand!?” That little word! 👏💪 like magic!
SUPER BOUNDARIES!!!!!!!
Bless your wonderful heart. Having been a victim of narcissists all my life, at 66 I am free and well awake and aware of their tricks and characteristics. I will never let another person put me down or dominate me ever again. I found my power and I'm living it. Namaste' 💚🙏
Namaste 🙏
The sad thing is most of us are so much older before we find the truth of what we suffered 50+ years!!! Oh if we would have known. But we did find out and now it's time to take our emotions, money and life back! Cheer ourselves on! Wake up and say 'I'm amazing and I'm going to have a great day!' Don't seek revenge God will take care of evil doers in due time. They will not get away with anything they have done unless the get saved and are truly sorry which might be 1 in a million.. so don't count on it just MOVE ON AND MARK THEM AND AVOID THEM!!
Happy for you
Best thing I learned was boundaries. I learned it’s not evil to say no. I use my giving to places I view as charitable. I don’t make myself available anymore. I’m not going to put up with users manipulators. Long story short You are worthy of love
This hit home for me…I would never call myself an empath but I know I am one. As an RN for nearly 30 years and coming out of a narcissistic relationship (not even sure I can call it that because my lemon turned out to be married), I’ve learned over the last month or so that I HAVE to put me first. I literally hit a wall with my career post covid and caregiver burnout or whatever you want to call it, that I can no longer give everything to everyone, I have to fill my own well. Thank you for producing these videos, they really do help people.
Hope you are doing well.
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SAME!!!! RN...25 years....blamed covid...blamed my job...I was miserable....blamed everything but him...he played illness and injury so I was more than willing to give all of me to make (my soul mate, best friend, love of my life) all the care and tenderness to make him happy....until it completely drained my life force....moved out Thanksgiving when him and his adults kids went out for the day....wish I was a fly on the wall...took the internet boxes fire sticks shut off everything except water and electricity....the minute you drive away you start to feel better. He litteraly turned into a stranger for the last few months when i called him out...not even realizing i did....then googling his behaviors ...then woke up. My favorite of all during the final days was when a gigantic black bear snuck up on me in the backyard and I made alot of noise to scare it away...he lost in on me for frightening an apex predator who could have litteraly ripped me to shreds...that I didn't wait 5 more minutes for him to get home from work to see it....when he never came home at the same time everyday regardless....when you think about it logically and not in defense mode...it's sad, pathetic but almost laughable....evil creatures.
When my boundaries were pushed too far it was an absolute explosion of yelling and throwing anything within my reach. I was extremely guilty after for a while, but the anger got me to finally pack up my car and move out that day. It was the explosion that needed to happen and I'm now in my own home surrounded by peace and love. It took me months to heal, I slept 12+ hours almost daily as I was in what I called "recuperation phase". My mood fluctuated a lot from gleefulness down to depression, self-loathing, regret, and anger. I feel I'm in a much better place now in my healing and started to pick up old hobbies I loved. With time, it does get better once you're away from the narcissist. Give yourself room and time to heal.
Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone You're welcome. Thank you for posting such a wonderful and insightful video. You're helping SO many people heal.
I wish I could do this but I’m in a foreign country all alone with the Narcissistic husband.
No family and isolated enough to not have friends but when I made some , I got PUNISHED later via emotional neglect ( patterns) you can do whatever you want but you will be punished .
Leaving isn’t the issue, it’s where to go . So I’m looking for work to leave this place soon.
If i had family, I would just drive to their place .
Yes I am alone … literally . Mum died etc.
But he will not win , now I just mirror him, today is day 7 of silent treatment and I am playing along as I spend time recouping my energy .
I cook, he eats and says nothing lol..
It’s so childish and boring.
Don’t believe I married this guy, there was a moment of doubt.. I had so much life in me , miss sunshine he called me. Until he sucked it out lol
Ladies please if there’s doubt before the wedding even if venue is paid,
You are better off paying some money back than entering this darkness .
What a waste of life and time .
Such weak People nacs. Once you see it you pity them but one must look after one’s self.
When I get rich. I must help victims have a place to go , even temporarily until we sort them out…
@@sparkle1949 I didn't have anywhere to go other than motels/hotels. I did have my sister with me during that time. We bounced around hotels for a month until we got an apartment set up for us. We had some savings to ride on and went to work every day while living in the hotels. We got lucky breaks too with tax returns and Covid pay-outs to help us along too. If there is a will, there is a way. Give yourself some time to plan, maybe your approach will be different, but a way out exists.
hope your doing okay☝️❤️
I can’t count how many times I’ve been told I’m too sensitive and treated as weak. I love your visualization of the empath as having a super power; and recovering from a narcissistic relationship changes it to a super power on steroids. That’s exactly how I feel. Knowledge is strength, and the stronger we become the more people we can help and share our gift with in a safe manner.
I Will thank you for your support ⭐️
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My personal motto, "scapegoat for the majority, jackass for the few." To my fellow people pleasers remember when the projections get bad and there is little hope, call that "option 3" in...
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When I was in talk therapy I was told that I'm an empath. Yes I'm in a relationship with a narcissist (37 yrs). I finally got to the breaking point with him and others who have been taking advantage of me. I have been standing my ground and they are just freaking out! I love it! I was always told I have a tender heart but, I was an empath all along. Thanks
Throwing you the “breadcrumbs of hope” and “future faking”. That hit the nail on the head! My experience exactly. Forever in waiting mode. Lying about the future.
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I had the same thing, "you don't know what the future holds...."
Bread crumbs yes perfect term for what I got. But, no more!
@@jaygauld85 well, what a crock!
@@littleiodine9480 I cannot believe I didn’t see this sooner.
"You have worked for the narcissist and put your life on hold". Wow...so true!
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Very true, unfortunately !
Sooo true!!! But we woke up and we are not dead!
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Boy you sure opened up my eyes more! Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m one of those empathic folks that finally stands my ground. Only took 65 years but I’m there! ❤
Hey 👋, how are you doing today; how's everything going hope it was a bless and fun day for you ?
Oh my G! This is me! This is me! I'm bawling!!!! Wth did these people come from? 3 years conned! 3 months ghosted on 8.6.23. Never in my life have I crossed paths with a narc. Covert passive agressive. My mind is BLOWN!!
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PHENOMENAL MESSAGE!
I'M WORN OUT...BUT I WILL NOT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Me too!! WE GOT THIS!!!
I have had enough I am ready to take my life back and I am happy about it... Nothing compares to you Lord 🙏 thank you
You deserve to have peace and joy in life.
Yes!! Amen!! 🙌❤️ It’s a daily struggle at times but we are worth it!!!
"No" is a complete sentence... I love that! Probably the best advice ever. The funny thing is, as an empath, I'm always accepting of someone else's "No" but finding myself continually having to explain mine! 😑
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I know that feeling.
@@foliageinfall8387 Me too. :>(
When I was having a difficult time, my Grandfather told me "One of the greatest things about being an adult is not having to explain why you say 'No'." Best advice I've ever remembered.
OMG I thought I was the only one ! I am at the point now where I mostly just avoid people just in case They ask something of me that I don’t want to give just so I don’t have to explain my “No” …. That blocks a lot of opportunities tho as well , I haven’t watched this video yet but I definitely feel that I really need to.
Empaths will burn themselves to keep others warm. A malignant narc will become more angry because you are not burning fast enough.
I found out last night im an empath!
I'm also coming out of a relationship with a narc!
Thankyou so much!
I saw the narc last weekend. I felt drained and have had diarrhea since.
Oh yeah after my money ran out, my sciatic nerve went.
I called this narc out!
I'm learning about flying monkeys and other stuff.
You know when I visited they said to me " I turned "!
I certainly did ,the other way!
This has happened to me my entire life.
I felt the evil in the air when covid came out.
I walk through a shopping center and look at people and feel their stuff!
I didn't know I was an empath and I didn't know about narcs!
Yes we are very STRONG individuals! This is motivational and therapeutic 🙌🏽
It definitely is!
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Yes indeed, we are strong people. I always thought I was weak but I now see ive been strong. Who else could live through the things we have and still be alive, and doing pretty good I might add. Only a strong individual 💪 💯 ❤️ 😍 💖 ❣️ 💕 💘
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for me not reslly.. as i think i lost my pour feelings to people and no longer have trust.. sad
"When you (are) in a narcissistic relationship, you (are) working for the narcissist and you put your life on hold". This is a fundamental truth. For those of us with narcissistic parents, only estrangement or death (of the parent) can break the chain that binds us. After living through a repeat of history with a succession of life partners, I am finally wise and free at the age of 65. After spending my entire existence subservient to the needs of others and neglecting my inner voice, "No is a complete sentence" feels so refreshing. I look forward to being heard - and respected - at long last. Thanks for the words of inspiration!
That's my story in a nutshell! I doubt I will ever heal in my lifetime.
Wow 🤯 thank you
@@tinydancer36 keep your eyes focused on the future and don't look back. Every breath you take is another chance at a new beginning. You can do this. Accept what was, bear no grudges, allow time for healing and it will come.
You' re giving me hope. I'm 64. For the most part I'm free of it but there are bouts. Thanks
@@tinydancer36 love your name. Elton John song?
You absolutely have thee god given right to: set boundaries, don't explain boundaries, change your mind, and say NO
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LOVE all your videos everything you say is well said❤❤❤
Being an empath doesn’t equate to one that is unaware. My daughter has a wonderful relationship with a Marine who doesn’t take advantage of her. I am very happy the two found each other.
I reached a point 20 years ago where I couldn't tolerate narcissists and sociopaths anymore, not at work and not at home. I've pretty much left the World including my entire Family. The World is a dark sick place, so insane that real sanity looks crazy to most people. I don't believe Humanity can ever recover from the mess it's made of itself. ... really glad I found your channel Brother.
Thank you for sharing this 🙌💯🙏
Well, pandemic was a period for facilitating that change for the humanity but most narcs couldn't break their false shells even during the pandemic conditions, seems they're the recruited ones for the hell. They are like descendants of Cain, the first murderer man. I always told narcissism is the most important virus that we need to collectively fight against and some empaths even told me that I was suggesting being negative and destructive just like them ffs. I don't buy anyone who calls themselves empaths either anymore, toxicity is just everywhere. Discernment is the key.
Mark, I am of the same opinion and if you look too closely then it is very frightening. I am 66 and I am still in disbelief how some people treat others especially if that person is showing kindness to them. We can only shine our own light in this darkness while being aware of who we have around us. I wish you all the very best.
I feel the same way and I'm ok being alone. I love myself and my peace
Hey brother
Wonderful share. You're not alone
NAILED IT on the "can we at least be friends" after a serious relationship and the empath is pushed too far. Narcs want to leave the door open for another opportunity!
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uh huh...and I was fool enough to let her leave that door open...but only once
Yup. Other opportunities to use your position, help with helping their other more important friends find jobs. To use you up and put away on the shelf for the next time you are useful. They have a way of making u feel like a useful idiot. I no longer allow myself To be useful to these people. Got a better way of investing my time and energy.
Not in my experience.. they leave and twist the knife.
I lost count of how many times I was lured back. He used my love for my stepdaughter as access to me. When she was 13 she started abusing me right along with her dad. That tagteaming me after 8 years of devotion to them was the final straw!
Yes I am an empath HSP woman and human angel helping others like myself who have been emotionally abused by a narcissist. I appreciate your work too.
this gave me a lot to consider. thank you. it’s difficult when someone you love expects you to keep their boundaries while ignoring yours.
I'm an empath. I had to say no. I had to work on myself even though I felt sad because I loved him. I hope you found peace, @sister cali. God bless 🙂
My piano teacher told me the most important thing I have ever learned: "It's one thing to be nice, it's another thing to be taken advantage of. Never confuse the two ". She was a great and good lady. Consertised at age 12, fled a program in Russia with her parents, and more. I still miss her.
She's watching you write your comments. I saw her.
My telekinesys teacher said the same thing! Creeeepy..
@@djordjemiljenovic9387 yeah right.
Telekinesis teacher? 🤣🤣👀
@@rogerramjet6429 Yeah, in our country, when toddlers finish their musical education (for some reason it's usually piano, we have so many piano players) they get to learn social studies, mind reading, pyro and telekinsis, time rewind lvl.1, and woodwork. Sooo many carpenters here..with exeptional piano skills...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Jade, how wonderful for you to have a role model as a child and an excellent one. I am going to write your quote in my journal. Thank you for sharing. 🙏
I've heard a lot of those things about myself all my life: kind, sensitive, a good listener, a "blessing" to others. One person even said he thought of me as a saint. But now, those comments make little impression on me. Because I am simply worn down from a lifetime of empathy.
Sending strength and positive energy 🙏💯🙌
I really wish my folks would've taught me how to not to become a people pleaser but my mom had am abusive drunk as her dad and my dad had an overbearing mom who never thought any woman would ever be good enough for her son to marry.
almost to a point "they" make you believe " i'm the narcissists."
This message felt good to hear. I am an empath. I am good & caring person. I nearly died from the slow discard. I was ignorant, 66 and clueless. Thank you Andrew for your messages & fellow empathic followers.
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It was 20 years after my marriage that I had a name for the narcissist. I knew he was sick and mean but didn't know what it was. In learning what he was I also realized my mother and sister were one too. I am able to say No now. It's amazing how many of these creatures are out there!! I run into them all the time and have learned to spot them in a 10 minute conversation! Waking up has been a blessing!
Great videos! I like the line, "Saying no to them is saying yes to yourself."
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SAY NO TO NARCS!!!
That sank in for me too.
My new mantra is "My happiness is their karma."
It's a fact 💌
"I will devalue them...and then look for more supply". Couldn't have said it better. They do this over and over. No one is special. They use their own children as chess pieces. It's absolutely 💔
Thank-you for your comments about how abusive narcissistic people can be and unfortunately evolve into. Your sentence of how they will even use their own children ad chess pieces really hit me hard and deep. I just ended a 2 1/2 year dating relationship with what appeared to be a great guy. Over time, things just did not keep adding up, especially his so called relationships with his grown adult kids, who unfortunately don't really want anything to do with their dad. And it's been that way for most of their lives. (Their mom had passed away when the kids were in elementary & middle school. And apparently the step mom gave them a rough time of it as well. So thank-you for speaking up on the behave of other victims as well. I wish you the best in your continued healing. Have a blessed day. M
What happens though when it is your own kid who is the narcissistic and because they are your child everyone around you expects you to put your life on hold and be pushed around by them for, well, forever?
I just found your channel in the past week. It is disturbing yet freeing to understand I have been surrounded by narcissists my entire life in key relationships, father, husband, closest “friend”, co-workers. Being a very strong, compassionate and eternal optimist, I enabled these behaviors. The energy vampires is spot on; life is sucked out of your soul and you can physically and psychologically feel the energy shift. It makes one wonder if the narcissist can actually see or feel your energy and they are drawn to it like a moth to a flame. Reflecting on my life--I see a bright flame swarmed by moths. Thank you for sharing your insights and helping others regain their light. Be well.
Welcome to the community 🙌😌☀️😊
Wow 42K on this video. Total empath...taking me 6 years of giving and giving and giving in a total 11 year relationship, trying to make it work....the contempt he showed for me...I don't deserve. We are older I'm 59...I have to live now & I thank God that I have been "pushed" to the gym.....to start...Thank you Andrew.
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I have been an empath my entire life. I allowed others to define my boundaries. I sacrificed my basic principles and self respect. It has destroyed my life. She destroyed me emotionally, financially. But no more. Thank you, Andrew! I will recover. I know now that kindness and empathy are my super power. I just need to manage it with boundaries. Thank you!
@@MusiciansWithVision You don't know me. Therefore your opinion will receive all the attention it deserves in the fullness of time...
@@MusiciansWithVision I never said I was better than you. You need to find something more constructive to do.
@@MusiciansWithVision So you have nothing better to do than personally attack people you don't know? Why? To make you feel better about yourself? You're a waste of time. And oxygen.
@@MusiciansWithVision You seem desperate for attention.
@@MusiciansWithVision how so?
Yes Andrew, I am an empathetic person. I was the kid that the stray dogs followed home. I was the one who befriended the poor kid at school. And I was the one who tried to fix my husband. What a waste of of my time and my self respect. Thankyou for keeping me focused. 🤗🇦🇺
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I'm new..what is A U..and A U C R ?? Also, God bless you for being so kind. As far as trying to "fix" ppl, Jesus warned: do not cast your pearls to swine.
Like swine, narcs cannot appreciate the value of pearls. Like swine, they instead trample on our pearls of kindness, goodness, helpfulness, etc. That is, if we let them.
So let's not let them.❤
Know exactly what you mean.
Exactly as you say, Andrew 👍☀️The first, foremost blessing of the www/ internet is that we get to realise we are not! alone, we are many, we have a tribe and this contributes tremendously to healing wounds and strength!
I love your first sentence! So sweet! I didn't know what an empath was til I had morning sickness before our daughter told us she was pregnant. I felt every single emotion she was having, eventually discovering how very angry she was at me for invading her privacy. Eventually she walked away from me, refuses contact. I was so unaware what an empath could feel and how strongly. Had I been aware she was trying to conceive, i would never have spoken those words to her about the morning sickness.
I may have put 2+2 together after that call. She did tell us a few weeks later. You can't tell someone about their private life without them feeling as if you invaded their space. Learning who you are while unaware a narcissist is beating you down, his problems have spread like a cancer through our entire family. So sad, my dream as a 6 year old was to grow up and be a mommy who loved her kids. I was crying for help way back then! No one cared. 2nd fiddle after the star dancer and the prodigal son were born. I was just another notch on the family tree. I wasn't raised by my grandparents, but spent several weeks with them in the summer months working on Gramps's hobby farm. Raised differently by our parents, my 2 older siblings, then me and a younger brother, raised by same parents yet separately from the older pair. Def the tail end of my parents parenting pleasure, they had had enough. And I felt it.... Or lack of IT. Never any one on one time with either parent, it just didn't happen.
Damn, me as an empath that was discarded, I have tears in my eyes listening to this, all so true. Thank you!
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I'm an empath, & was surrounded by toxicity until about 40-ish. I used to give people the benefit of doubt, & assumed that everybody has the best intentions of others. I used to be an open book, but now realize that not everybody has the best intentions. I was never allowed boundaries growing up, so it's refreshing to finally fully step into my power. Great content Andrew, thank u!
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All empaths need to remember
A narcissist is always in a hurry in a hurry because he can only be good for so long
My husband moved up our wedding twice and I realized our wedding night why he turned into Jekyll and Hyde
Well actually this should be a message for everyone please please have your eyes open there's a reason for the saying "love is blind" Don't be blind
So absolutely TRUE. Thanks.
So absolutely TRUE. Thanks.
Thank you...as long as you are blind, the Narcissist can play their game, without you realizing that you even in a game. You still think, you are in a save places with that person, so are your children.
Until it Hits you, and you See.
Moment I realized, that the Monster is not under my bed,
Its right beside me ....in my bed and its feasting of me and my Kids, was the Moment where EVERYTHING changed.
Coming to a Point of accepting, that Humans really can be that monstrous , yes its really happening to me ...I am Not crazy, I am in fucking danger !....is the first step into a better Life.
I was born and raised by Monsters, not knowing I am an Empath...I thought and learned , that I am the crazy one in this Family, the one who is different in a bad way, wiredly twisted and better be silent, functional and unseen until needed.
I was perfectly blind and free to kill.
But you cant unsee, what you have seen....and I survived, and I heal....and thats awesome ❤️
It’s amazing the number of times you hear “he/she changed on our wedding day/night”. Happened to me too. Was in complete denial about this and many other incidents for years. Was so confused as I didn’t know about narcs. Now I do. Desperately trying to leave.
Oh Mona, I wish you were closer. Your story sounds just like mine, from children. 33 years ago yesterday I married a narcissist. I had no idea what he was until now. He has totally isolated me on 40 acres of forest way in the boonies. When I was younger and tried to leave, he promised he would change and I believed him. Everything was all lies! Now I'm old and my health is gone and I have NO ONE! I cry all of the time and have lost all hope. It's just nice to know someone out there can relate. I'm so happy you were strong enough to save yourself.😘
I was raised by a narcissist and found myself in a relationship with one in my mid twenties... After leaving both him and my mother I spent almost 2 years alone. It was probably the best 2 years of my life, terrifying because I was completely on my own, but so rewarding and I learned so much about myself.
Beautiful message 💯🙏🙌💪
Thanks for sharing this Stephanie, as I understand this all too well.
I’m so happy you’ve come through the pain and you have discovered yourself.
Take care 🙏🏽🌻
I too am a daughter of a narcissist but I always knew that behavior wasn't normal and I could spot them from a mile away. I've never married one nor had any of them around me.
@@danajacobs9097 All of my earliest core memories are of instances where I knew this was wrong and I knew my parents were not acting in a way that was safe or good. On top of my mother my father was a drunk and the drug addict so there was no stability in the household. My earliest memory is literally just being alone in a cold room. I am so tired of these types of people that just being in the same room with them makes my skin crawl. My husband's ex and the mother of his daughter has always made my skin crawl no matter what she said or what she's done something in the back of my mind and deep in my soul says I don't want to be close to you... She and her daughter both revealed that they had been manipulating pretty much my husband's entire family for the entire 8 years of our relationship simply because baby mama don't want new wife around at all. All I could say to my husband is see I knew that woman wasn't right I knew something wasn't right there. I f****** told you so.
@@stephanieallison7647 i wish they would all go in the middle of Ocean and stay there and disappear from Society
I’m sorry that you were a victim too. You’re helping us understand what happened to our life. I hope you’re completely healed, if possible.
This is a powerful message Andrew. Thank you for sharing. I was lucky that even before I heard about the word narcissism, I was not giving in when my narc ex, a fireman was trying to belittle me privately or especially in front of his fellow firefighters. I could sense his defeat and weakness. However I didn’t know until later that my resistance motivated him to keep me around longer and won me over just to weaken me and eventually discarded me. He still hoovered me back after learning that I exposed him. A sick human being.
Maybe just because of my toughness that he “admired”, by his own statement, gave me the power of negotiation that I was able to collect my stuff from him at the end. He knows that I am fearless and am not shy exposing him again if he doesn’t behave. In his mind, he is a hero being a fireman
All hell broke loose when I called him out for being a narcissist 😂 I initiated no contact and started working on my mental health thru therapy. A year later, I was healed. I’ll never forget that experience and will forever be aware of narcissist traits. To anyone who has not initiated no contact yet, please believe me - it is worth it to love yourself and go no contact. Choose YOU; not the narcissist. You deserve to be happy and loved by good people in the world. No contact is the only route to take that works bc it immediately removed the narcs ability to slither back into your heart the exact same ways they’ve been doing it since day one. You immediately take control when you go no contact. Love yourself!
Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌
"Never do for another what they can and should do for themselves." This one sentence, found in the book *Co-Dependent No More*, helped me overcome co-dependency and overcome unwarranted expressions of, and overuse of, my own empathy. I now write it on an index card, laminate it, and give it to others I meet who are struggling with relationships that are . . . unhealthy and unequal.
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Thank you, I will repeat it until I be able to say No to the family member now ,I have not be able to brake free , knowing just the Co- Dependent ways of being! “Used and Abused , people pleaser “
Men want mommy..cooking cleaning working money business ..they can do it! Adults..no children!
so much love to you with respects
It took me FOREVER to figure out when people are taking advantage and establish my boundaries. 20 years married to a narcissist, 5 years working for a narcissist. They only care about themselves and are so weak they need their empath to carry all the weight. And we’re such people pleasers, so optimistic that we think they will change. 99.9% chance they will NEVER change. Get free and live a happy life. You are intelligent, resourceful & a wonderful human being who cares about people, animals, the planet. Go live your best life, learn to say no and mean it.
Thank you for sharing 😌🙏💯💯
Thank God for all the narcissists in my life! They've made me so strong as I have gained the wisdom, set boundaries, and heal myself