Thank you Peter! Very interesting topic. Definitely I am playing my own music and it's awesome! I am 47 years old and mother of one girl. I love and enjoy my loneliness. I think loneliness is a wonderful platform to grow on many aspects of my life. I am loving and taking care of myself more than ever. And I know no one can love me the way I love myself. It's a very interesting time of my life. Is a moment of self improvement with many opportunities to discover a better version of myself. I don't know what is coming in my future, all I know is that the moment I am living now is amazing and I embrace it!
I understand and agree. And I want to add: I think that the reason for the relation ship can change while in and through the relationship. In other words: people can change and evolve inside a relationship and maybe the reason you started was a conditional one. But you worked on yourself with your (formerly conditional) partner by your side and now it has moved to unconditional. In other words: the basis can evolve and shift too. It can deepen. I also want to add that black and white thinking could be detrimental here. Feeling you have to 100% completely love yourself before you can even enter a relationship can put too much pressure and perfectionism on oneself. Also thinking the love HAS to be *completely* unconditional might be raising the bar too high. There has to be some space there. For some conditionality. For some imperfection
Oh gosh.. the video is over.. What were you talking about? I was just looking at your dogs:) They are so cute. And clean. And loving. They must be one of the best dogs in the whole world.
Very informative and helpful video. I don't know if you answer questions here in the comment section, but i'm just gonna try my luck :) , i would really appreciate the effort, if you could help me out. Is falling in love a prerequisite for actually starting/having a relationship? I could care less about it if I didn't have genuine feelings for it. I am 20 years old [Male], never been in a relationship, because to be honest, i was never interested. I was never in love or had feelings for a woman until now. Now that i actually have those feelings for this curtain person (for about 9 months now), i really want her to be around and start a relationship with her. I only want a relationship, if i have honest and genuine feelings for the other person. Obviously i cannot control, whether i fall in love or not. So if don't, i don't see a reason to be in a relationship or actually to show interest in another person. I don't NEED a relationship and i don't want a relationship either unless i can say , that i am genuinely in love with her. Maybe i am getting this all mixed up. I don't see a point to enter a relationship, if i want to feel valued and loved by someone else, feel completed, feel happy. I give all these things myself. I know what i want and i don't need another person to be happy, but i want to be in a relationship with this curtain woman, because i feel like i genuinely are in love with her ( not to be confused with actually loving her ), i have this feeling, that i want to share my strenght, independence and kind of completeness and contentedness ( as complete as you can be as a 20 year old ) with her. I realy don't care about relationships, if i am not feeling this way. I don't see any other reason to be in a relationship. I would like to hear your opinion on this :) btw you earned yourself a sub with that video
That alone thing is BS. I was perfectly happy alone before my last relationship. The relationship was an unhappy one and I found myself not liking being alone because my feelings weren’t returned and the relationship was a bad one
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Thank you Peter! Very interesting topic. Definitely I am playing my own music and it's awesome! I am 47 years old and mother of one girl. I love and enjoy my loneliness. I think loneliness is a wonderful platform to grow on many aspects of my life. I am loving and taking care of myself more than ever. And I know no one can love me the way I love myself. It's a very interesting time of my life. Is a moment of self improvement with many opportunities to discover a better version of myself. I don't know what is coming in my future, all I know is that the moment I am living now is amazing and I embrace it!
Came for the cute dogs, stayed for the wisdom. Good combo. :)
Such a great explanation Peter! Love listening to you and your thoughts! Definitely a big eye opener!
wow. this was divine timing. thank you so much for this!! ✌&💜
I understand and agree. And I want to add: I think that the reason for the relation ship can change while in and through the relationship. In other words: people can change and evolve inside a relationship and maybe the reason you started was a conditional one. But you worked on yourself with your (formerly conditional) partner by your side and now it has moved to unconditional. In other words: the basis can evolve and shift too. It can deepen. I also want to add that black and white thinking could be detrimental here. Feeling you have to 100% completely love yourself before you can even enter a relationship can put too much pressure and perfectionism on oneself. Also thinking the love HAS to be *completely* unconditional might be raising the bar too high. There has to be some space there. For some conditionality. For some imperfection
100% agree with every point. You have to be happy alone. Harmonics is the key to a great partnership. How can make her heart sing today?
Really appreciate you sharing wisdom on this subject. Based on your recommendation I have purchased The Eden Project book. Look forward to reading it.
Well it's like Phil Collins song "You Can't Hurry Love." Cheers
Oh gosh.. the video is over.. What were you talking about? I was just looking at your dogs:) They are so cute. And clean. And loving. They must be one of the best dogs in the whole world.
Very informative and helpful video. I don't know if you answer questions here in the comment section, but i'm just gonna try my luck :) , i would really appreciate the effort, if you could help me out.
Is falling in love a prerequisite for actually starting/having a relationship? I could care less about it if I didn't have genuine feelings for it.
I am 20 years old [Male], never been in a relationship, because to be honest, i was never interested. I was never in love or had feelings for a woman until now. Now that i actually have those feelings for this curtain person (for about 9 months now), i really want her to be around and start a relationship with her. I only want a relationship, if i have honest and genuine feelings for the other person. Obviously i cannot control, whether i fall in love or not. So if don't, i don't see a reason to be in a relationship or actually to show interest in another person. I don't NEED a relationship and i don't want a relationship either unless i can say , that i am genuinely in love with her. Maybe i am getting this all mixed up. I don't see a point to enter a relationship, if i want to feel valued and loved by someone else, feel completed, feel happy. I give all these things myself. I know what i want and i don't need another person to be happy, but i want to be in a relationship with this curtain woman, because i feel like i genuinely are in love with her ( not to be confused with actually loving her ), i have this feeling, that i want to share my strenght, independence and kind of completeness and contentedness ( as complete as you can be as a 20 year old ) with her. I realy don't care about relationships, if i am not feeling this way.
I don't see any other reason to be in a relationship.
I would like to hear your opinion on this :)
btw you earned yourself a sub with that video
This was mentioned in the video "Why can't she just tell me what she means". Was there ever a video discussing this:)?
That alone thing is BS. I was perfectly happy alone before my last relationship. The relationship was an unhappy one and I found myself not liking being alone because my feelings weren’t returned and the relationship was a bad one
What breed are the dogs??
*relationships