Today wasn't so good and everything seemed to be so hectic. Sometimes you feel stuck and don't getting nearer to your goals. On those days my breathing problems getting bigger. I struggled with breathing the whole day, but now after watching your video I'm finally calm. So much wisdom in these short video. Following you for a couple of months now and I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your wisdom. You are an awesome human being!
you touched my soul Peter.you just spoked into me.am into that path.all I want to do is to love and expect nothing so first am mastering loving myself completely enough that all I will do is to love and love and be strong positive thinker.thanks
I discovered your channel a few days ago and I can't stop watching your videos. And even though english is not my first language, that doesn't stop to me from trying to understand every word you say. Sometimes I play your videos a few times. It's amazing what I am learning from you at this moment of my life. I am so glad to find you. Thank you for sharing your knowledge on many topics.
+Peter Sage dear, Peter! One year past, and instead of learning unconditional love I've basically lost everything at first... Got into mental facility loosing my mind because of stress which came from "expectations of how everything and everyone around should look like". Got out of the hospital and spent one year in deep depression gaining wait and laying and sleeping on the couch. Finally, after spending 5 month in motherland 🇺🇦 Ukraine, getting new friends, support, starting to give more and not waiting of something in return, doing sports on a daily basis, eating healthy food every 3 hours and returning back to LA, I've felt ready to except people the way they are, learning to love all people around "no matter what", releasing anger and filling love and happiness all around me.☀️🤗☀️ I love my life now! Every single day of it is a joy no matter what, honestly. I see how good things are attracted to me as I'm a magnet - became super lucky & organized again. Religion also helped🙂
I have watched your London Real interview several times, as well as a few other podcasts and talks of yours. I believe this is my favorite content thus far. Good show. Good message. Cheers.
Really needed to watch this today......life has been strange over the last 6 months since my dad past & this opened up my thoughts.......watched most of your videos Peter and also met you when you where in SA......I am a Uk guy living in SA......your a God given gift & have amazing foresight......go well & be blessed :)
If clubbing all night is harmful to health and children then the role of unconditional love is to allow her to go but with gentle protest, if she goes then your posture toward her doesn't change. Otherwise you are enabling and moving toward the abyss of no moral absolutes. Gravity is a physical absolute, we fly at great speeds and go great distances by this absolute, or we can violate gravity and be injured or die. Unconditional love is an absolute to misunderstand it or misuse it will have consequences.
Minus the unnecessary profanity, this is sooo beautiful. it's amazing because I'm on this journey right now. I love someone who I believe doesn't love me in return. However, it is my job to love them unconditionally I believe. It's challenging but I believe that one day it will have been worth it.
FOOD FOR GOOD THOUGHTS. To appreciate true unconditional love we have to look at the love dogs have for life for their maser. It does not matter how master treats the dog but when ever dog sees master it shows love by getting friendly thus trying to make master happy too plus always has the tendency to protect master at any cost. Humans have conditional love and hence they get moody and arrogant thus harming rather than growing love. True love makes our life joyful and exciting. Does this make sense?
Certainy does. Here is what I wrote on my social channel after my last dog passed away... Today is one of the few days of my life and the first in a long, long time I’ve woken up without having a dog. My little man, Charlie, my best friend and loyal companion for over 15 years took his last breath yesterday. Damn it hurts. Really hurts. But while the grief, loss and sadness take their natural course, it’s times like this that offer the real and deeper lessons of life if we have the emotional strength to look up from our sorrow to see them. Dogs offer such a perfect yet simple example of unconditional giving. Always willing to offer love first, regardless of our mood or willingness to give back. Always happy to play a role in making us happy with zero expectations other than a desire to be part of the process. The ability to wake up each morning carrying no judgements from the day before, fresh and excited to part of whatever unfolds next. And so much more. Is it any wonder we miss them. The fact they live shorter lives maybe responsible for why they’re so keen to squeeze so much out of it without wasting time on the things we, less emotionally intelligent, humans often do. Fear, anxiety, ego, worrying about a future that hasn't happened yet, gossip and judgement to name a few. There’s no market for pet Prozac and, even if there was, all they ask for is the ability to let them love us and presto, the best of them shows up. I can think of no greater gift under the tree this Christmas than unwrapping that awareness and making it a deeper part of who we are. Why? Because the glaring realisation here, when all said and done, is a reminder that by the very nature of anything being physical, its destination is already set as non-physical. An elusive obvious but one we often ignore. At least until something we take for granted takes that path. Therefore the true essence and meaning of Life has to be found in the non-physical. Not in how much money we have, what it buys or what title we have on our business card. I don't see dogs being too impressed with those. But in the feelings and qualities which transcend all of that. Love, joy, compassion, forgiveness and a willingness to contribute beyond ourselves. Not for what we can get, but because it feels right. Lessons that big can only come from a heart of the same size. Thank you Charlie, for not only giving me the gift of unconditional giving, but for showing me a dogs way to be a better man. Goodbye my dear friend, today you get to play with Jackman. XXX
Great video =) I do not believe in an end goal, My current purpose in life is to enjoy the journey, pick up the good pebbles along the way, enjoying the little things that mean so much. Today, this little thing was an old man giving me a smile and a laugh. When something bad has come along, I have my bag of pebbles to wack it away with. ;-)
Peter, excellent video. Learning what Unconditional Love requires detachment. Not easy to practice. I am learning this every day! Recommendation: Loving What Is Book by Byron Katie
Hi Peter, Happy New Year! May 2016 bring more Blessings, Miracles, Connections, Abundance & Successes your way! Learning more every day about unconditional love...
Theres a difference between love and affection. The stimulus of touch and attention is that affection. Affection is typically withdrawn when the toddler pulls the boiling kettle from the kitchen top - because we love them and in the interest of survival make the experience unpleasant so they don’t do it again. The question must be raised that in such an example, for the toddler to have been able to do this, was the parent was negligent. [Wot, not enough love?] (i.e. had other time constraint or distracted attention - this is reality.) Unconditional love is all well and good, but let yourself of the hook. You don’t have to “love” someone all the time. For example, I really hate it when people ask me, “Do you love me” - it should be apparent, it is apparent, the fact that they are asking is a manipulation. So I say “When?” - cos sometimes, we are angry and frustrated. And you cant love and be angry at the same time. But, the full faith of your partner knowing that such conflicts and frustrations will be overcome is the UNCONDITIONAL part of it. Without the unconditional commitment, it just becomes a tool of leverage and manipulation. On the flip side, getting married at 16 or 18 with the ridiculous notion of life commitment is folly. At 18 you have no idea who you will be at 25, let alone how your chosen partner will change, thus the unconditional part in any other contract would be unenforceable and render such a contract worthless.
Unconditional love *cannot exist in a conditioned society. My partner and I been together in an unconditional relationship for 11years, No marriage; the agreement was that we are free to date other people. However, we did not do that. after 11 years, this had become a brother and sister relationship. He finally wanted to have another woman into the relationship. I am ok with that, i even invited her to his family. But what did they both tell me? This woman wanted a 1 to 1 relationship with him. I am devastated. Please do not preach unconditional relationships. I felt cheated and i felt terrible. We are breaking up this relationship because of this other woman. i felt i had given unconditionally and received nothing in the end. This is unconditional love. haha. ha.
But what if my husband doesn't love or respect me at all. Shall I still love him unconditionally. Or, shall I leave him peacefully with a heart filled with all good wishes for him to find a better match. Honestly speaking, I can't keep loving him if you stayed together as he tends to hurt me more and more. I really wish anyone can help me figuring this out.
Hey Peter Thanks for this video your words always add some new pieces to the puzzle that is my world view. Just one thing I didn't quite understand: Say a man always hits his wife and so the wife decides to end the relationship. Then it would have been conditional love because she can only love him under the condition that he doesn't hit her. Would you recommend her instead to love him anyway (unconditionally) or how would this principle apply here?
Didnt u say on london real that you let go if friends because they hold you back in life cos they dont think like you. Thats not unconditional love but I forgive you peter cos you cant help your emotions and those emotions dictate your behaviour still. Your close my friend but still a little off understanding unconditional love. I wonder how many of those friends would love you now to pick up the phone and tell them your sorry for putting your needs above theirs and deserting them.
+andrew murray On the way to the gym you meet your friend ,you love him he really loves you but he's on his way to McDonalds ,do you forgo your goals and desires and follow him to the there?Do you force him to go to the gym? No of course not even when you know McDonalds is going to kill him in the long run it's his choice ,it's his freedom ! You say to him 'hey man enjoy your day but I have have to go to the gym now catch you later. ' Who knows maybe one day you meet him at the gym and now you are in the same space and you spend more time together. It is not conditional it is purely directional. If you get cancer in your finger you'll cut it off ,not because you don't want your finger or don't love it . It's your finger but if you keep it will kill you. When cells grows in a different 'direction ' from the rest of the body it's cancer and left unchecked will take your life ...
+Nico Pendragon thanks for the education.we all have a destiny and all though you love people unconditionally,you love yourself first and can't allow them to distract or destroy your journey.they are people who won't help us achieve our goals,you let them go not because you dn't love them but because they do not have that understanding or will contribute to your destination as you will to them.those are toxic,you must let go.
In my humble opinion it wouldn't have been unconditional love that guided Mandela to forgive the officials who imprisoned him. I think Wisdom guided him. He would have destroyed his country for untold generations into the future if he had set out on a path of revenge.
U will never love in any way (agape) without a divine miracle transforming ur sinful selfish nature. Love seeks not its own, but it is natural 2seek one's own above all. Ye must be born again; stony heart changed to soft heart. Whosever believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life; but salvation starts with a transformation now in this life. Trust the Lord Jesus to change U from a sinner to a child of God who truly can love.
Unconditional love is all about not expecting from the person.. Bt still we take care of them.. Distances doesn't matters.. You enjoy being with them
Much love to everybody reading this!! :-D
The ending was just groundbreaking. Thanks you a lot.
Today wasn't so good and everything seemed to be so hectic. Sometimes you feel stuck and don't getting nearer to your goals. On those days my breathing problems getting bigger. I struggled with breathing the whole day, but now after watching your video I'm finally calm. So much wisdom in these short video.
Following you for a couple of months now and I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your wisdom.
You are an awesome human being!
true unconditional love transcends time and space witch we all need to find...
you touched my soul Peter.you just spoked into me.am into that path.all I want to do is to love and expect nothing so first am mastering loving myself completely enough that all I will do is to love and love and be strong positive thinker.thanks
I discovered your channel a few days ago and I can't stop watching your videos. And even though english is not my first language, that doesn't stop to me from trying to understand every word you say. Sometimes I play your videos a few times. It's amazing what I am learning from you at this moment of my life. I am so glad to find you. Thank you for sharing your knowledge on many topics.
Love it , so well explained. Thank you Peter
Simply - "Wow". it's about to change my life for better! Thank you.
+Peter Sage dear, Peter! One year past, and instead of learning unconditional love I've basically lost everything at first... Got into mental facility loosing my mind because of stress which came from "expectations of how everything and everyone around should look like". Got out of the hospital and spent one year in deep depression gaining wait and laying and sleeping on the couch. Finally, after spending 5 month in motherland 🇺🇦 Ukraine, getting new friends, support, starting to give more and not waiting of something in return, doing sports on a daily basis, eating healthy food every 3 hours and returning back to LA, I've felt ready to except people the way they are, learning to love all people around "no matter what", releasing anger and filling love and happiness all around me.☀️🤗☀️ I love my life now! Every single day of it is a joy no matter what, honestly. I see how good things are attracted to me as I'm a magnet - became super lucky & organized again. Religion also helped🙂
After watching the video, I first wanted to write love you Peter, but then I realized You is a condition, so instead I just love.
I have watched your London Real interview several times, as well as a few other podcasts and talks of yours.
I believe this is my favorite content thus far.
Good show. Good message. Cheers.
***** very nice video.. Thank you.. For sharing your knowledge and love..
Really needed to watch this today......life has been strange over the last 6 months since my dad past & this opened up my thoughts.......watched most of your videos Peter and also met you when you where in SA......I am a Uk guy living in SA......your a God given gift & have amazing foresight......go well & be blessed :)
If clubbing all night is harmful to health and children then the role of unconditional love is to allow her to go but with gentle protest, if she goes then your posture toward her doesn't change. Otherwise you are enabling and moving toward the abyss of no moral absolutes. Gravity is a physical absolute, we fly at great speeds and go great distances by this absolute, or we can violate gravity and be injured or die. Unconditional love is an absolute to misunderstand it or misuse it will have consequences.
Thanks Peter, very enlightening. You've just made my day. Thanks :)
Minus the unnecessary profanity, this is sooo beautiful. it's amazing because I'm on this journey right now. I love someone who I believe doesn't love me in return. However, it is my job to love them unconditionally I believe. It's challenging but I believe that one day it will have been worth it.
:) 👌
you are still waiting for a 'return', a 'worth', think deeply look closely is this really unconditional love??
This is wonderful. Thank you!
Great summary! Focus on what really matters. Thanks for the reminder
Thank you for your brief insight :) I am seeking
Thank you...This is great.
FOOD FOR GOOD THOUGHTS.
To appreciate true unconditional love we have to look at the love dogs have for life for their maser. It does not matter how master treats the dog but when ever dog sees master it shows love by getting friendly thus trying to make master happy too plus always has the tendency to protect master at any cost. Humans have conditional love and hence they get moody and arrogant thus harming rather than growing love. True love makes our life joyful and exciting. Does this make sense?
Certainy does. Here is what I wrote on my social channel after my last dog passed away... Today is one of the few days of my life and the first in a long, long time I’ve woken up without having a dog. My little man, Charlie, my best friend and loyal companion for over 15 years took his last breath yesterday. Damn it hurts. Really hurts. But while the grief, loss and sadness take their natural course, it’s times like this that offer the real and deeper lessons of life if we have the emotional strength to look up from our sorrow to see them. Dogs offer such a perfect yet simple example of unconditional giving. Always willing to offer love first, regardless of our mood or willingness to give back. Always happy to play a role in making us happy with zero expectations other than a desire to be part of the process. The ability to wake up each morning carrying no judgements from the day before, fresh and excited to part of whatever unfolds next. And so much more. Is it any wonder we miss them. The fact they live shorter lives maybe responsible for why they’re so keen to squeeze so much out of it without wasting time on the things we, less emotionally intelligent, humans often do. Fear, anxiety, ego, worrying about a future that hasn't happened yet, gossip and judgement to name a few. There’s no market for pet Prozac and, even if there was, all they ask for is the ability to let them love us and presto, the best of them shows up. I can think of no greater gift under the tree this Christmas than unwrapping that awareness and making it a deeper part of who we are. Why? Because the glaring realisation here, when all said and done, is a reminder that by the very nature of anything being physical, its destination is already set as non-physical. An elusive obvious but one we often ignore. At least until something we take for granted takes that path. Therefore the true essence and meaning of Life has to be found in the non-physical. Not in how much money we have, what it buys or what title we have on our business card. I don't see dogs being too impressed with those. But in the feelings and qualities which transcend all of that. Love, joy, compassion, forgiveness and a willingness to contribute beyond ourselves. Not for what we can get, but because it feels right. Lessons that big can only come from a heart of the same size.
Thank you Charlie, for not only giving me the gift of unconditional giving, but for showing me a dogs way to be a better man. Goodbye my dear friend, today you get to play with Jackman. XXX
SO true about getting moody, emotional and arrogant thus not growing love but hate.
Great video =)
I do not believe in an end goal, My current purpose in life is to enjoy the journey, pick up the good pebbles along the way, enjoying the little things that mean so much.
Today, this little thing was an old man giving me a smile and a laugh.
When something bad has come along, I have my bag of pebbles to wack it away with. ;-)
Peter, excellent video. Learning what Unconditional Love requires detachment. Not easy to practice. I am learning this every day! Recommendation: Loving What Is Book by Byron Katie
Hi Peter, Happy New Year! May 2016 bring more Blessings, Miracles, Connections, Abundance & Successes your way! Learning more every day about unconditional love...
Excellent !
Interesting
Theres a difference between love and affection. The stimulus of touch and attention is that affection. Affection is typically withdrawn when the toddler pulls the boiling kettle from the kitchen top - because we love them and in the interest of survival make the experience unpleasant so they don’t do it again. The question must be raised that in such an example, for the toddler to have been able to do this, was the parent was negligent. [Wot, not enough love?] (i.e. had other time constraint or distracted attention - this is reality.) Unconditional love is all well and good, but let yourself of the hook. You don’t have to “love” someone all the time. For example, I really hate it when people ask me, “Do you love me” - it should be apparent, it is apparent, the fact that they are asking is a manipulation. So I say “When?” - cos sometimes, we are angry and frustrated. And you cant love and be angry at the same time. But, the full faith of your partner knowing that such conflicts and frustrations will be overcome is the UNCONDITIONAL part of it. Without the unconditional commitment, it just becomes a tool of leverage and manipulation. On the flip side, getting married at 16 or 18 with the ridiculous notion of life commitment is folly. At 18 you have no idea who you will be at 25, let alone how your chosen partner will change, thus the unconditional part in any other contract would be unenforceable and render such a contract worthless.
Unconditional love *cannot exist in a conditioned society. My partner and I been together in an unconditional relationship for 11years, No marriage; the agreement was that we are free to date other people. However, we did not do that. after 11 years, this had become a brother and sister relationship. He finally wanted to have another woman into the relationship. I am ok with that, i even invited her to his family. But what did they both tell me? This woman wanted a 1 to 1 relationship with him. I am devastated. Please do not preach unconditional relationships. I felt cheated and i felt terrible. We are breaking up this relationship because of this other woman. i felt i had given unconditionally and received nothing in the end. This is unconditional love. haha. ha.
Fantastic. Loved it. Thank you!
Great video. Would you be able to do this video with Spanish subtitles?
But what if my husband doesn't love or respect me at all. Shall I still love him unconditionally. Or, shall I leave him peacefully with a heart filled with all good wishes for him to find a better match. Honestly speaking, I can't keep loving him if you stayed together as he tends to hurt me more and more. I really wish anyone can help me figuring this out.
Maysara Ali Leave and find a better match, cause life is too short.
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Going to bookmark this video. Wow, so awesome Peter, thank you so much! Do you ever come to Los Angeles and speak?
Hey Peter
Thanks for this video your words always add some new pieces to the puzzle that is my world view. Just one thing I didn't quite understand: Say a man always hits his wife and so the wife decides to end the relationship. Then it would have been conditional love because she can only love him under the condition that he doesn't hit her. Would you recommend her instead to love him anyway (unconditionally) or how would this principle apply here?
I guess then it depends always on the situation which is most of the time not black and white.
Thanks Peter for sharing your wisdom :)
Hi Peter, could you please post a link to Rory Clements, I can't find him and can't figure out how to spell his name. Many Thanks !
***** Unfortunately could not find any information on Rory Kilmartin. Any link/book/video? Anything?
Didnt u say on london real that you let go if friends because they hold you back in life cos they dont think like you. Thats not unconditional love but I forgive you peter cos you cant help your emotions and those emotions dictate your behaviour still. Your close my friend but still a little off understanding unconditional love. I wonder how many of those friends would love you now to pick up the phone and tell them your sorry for putting your needs above theirs and deserting them.
+andrew murray On the way to the gym you meet your friend ,you love him he really loves you but he's on his way to McDonalds ,do you forgo your goals and desires and follow him to the there?Do you force him to go to the gym? No of course not even when you know McDonalds is going to kill him in the long run it's his choice ,it's his freedom ! You say to him 'hey man enjoy your day but I have have to go to the gym now catch you later. ' Who knows maybe one day you meet him at the gym and now you are in the same space and you spend more time together. It is not conditional it is purely directional.
If you get cancer in your finger you'll cut it off ,not because you don't want your finger or don't love it . It's your finger but if you keep it will kill you. When cells grows in a different 'direction ' from the rest of the body it's cancer and left unchecked will take your life ...
+Nico Pendragon thanks for the education.we all have a destiny and all though you love people unconditionally,you love yourself first and can't allow them to distract or destroy your journey.they are people who won't help us achieve our goals,you let them go not because you dn't love them but because they do not have that understanding or will contribute to your destination as you will to them.those are toxic,you must let go.
Love is unconditional, any thing else that is conditional is not love. Still there are limits to what is acceptable.
Isn't what acceptable just another projection from our subjective perspective?
Of course, we are thinking feeling beings. Just because I love someone, doesn’t mean I have to stay in a close relationship with them does it?
In my humble opinion it wouldn't have been unconditional love that guided Mandela to forgive the officials who imprisoned him.
I think Wisdom guided him. He would have destroyed his country for untold generations into the future if he had set out on a path of revenge.
:)
U will never love in any way (agape) without a divine miracle transforming ur sinful selfish nature. Love seeks not its own, but it is natural 2seek one's own above all. Ye must be born again; stony heart changed to soft heart. Whosever believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life; but salvation starts with a transformation now in this life. Trust the Lord Jesus to change U from a sinner to a child of God who truly can love.
Raising your skillset says peter sage. A freudian slip there my friend.
We speak the same words Peters think alike. Sharing your video.