I got a first class in my dissertation on the correlation between social media consumption and anxiety and depression. It was (obviously) a positive correlation. Correlation is not causation but those who spent more time on social media scored higher in experiencing both anxiety and depression. We are living in a weird time. There is way too much access to knowledge and content that I don't think is healthy for the human brain. We weren't designed to be stimulated this much on a daily basis. It's imperative to protect your eyes and ears and really be intentional about what you consume. Just like "you are what you eat", you can become what you consume because man is transformed by the renewing of their minds. If your mind is constantly renewed by content (be it titk tok, insta, twitter etc) it will shape your perspective of yourself, the world, others and even God. Be careful!
Yeah I remember the mid 00’s. I was a teen who used the internet to imagine what I can be and just look for things out of curiosity. Was actually more social or interactive on it than I am now. I miss those times. Nowadays I feel like the internet is less of a learning tool as it’s too full of opinions that sound like facts which leads to misinformation. It had just as many opinions then but they weren’t as hardly ingrained to the point of sounding like fact. I feel like the infrastructure is websites is an issue. The internet is more monopolised imo than in 2007. I think this and social media makes it easier for opinions to become facts as online groups/ cultures are more closely knitted together and there isn’t enough space for independent thinking if you are embedded into a certain group too much.
@@CharisMaggieTV And where are they now? Exactly, still poor and striving for greater like the rest of us! lmao Honestly, it took me until adulthood to realize this phenomenon was a thing, and it's the main reason why people feel so lonely now. They want perfect people, perfect emotions, perfect content, perfect credentials before you get hired for the job, like the fairytale you want doesn't exist! I just be wanting to scream at some of these ppl who think like this, like, *GET REAL!!!* These ppl can literally be friends with anyone, they're just lookist, own it! They're so scared of not being associated with because they know it makes no sense to be like that. They think they're some upper echelon type of person, like you're tryna transcend like the rest of us, but being critical of your friends' looks ain't gonna get you there. That ain't it, chief!
Now you go to the internet, n everything goes... One is saying fasting is good, another fasting is bad.. One says 8 Hr leep is key, another it doesn't really matter.. One says loneliness reduces lifespan, another says being alone is good... Both with research! Everything has a counter argument! Information overload is what the internet is causing us to suffer!!!
Honestly, scrolling instagram feels like everyone is staging everything, everywhere at anytime. Especially and it looks so polished all of the time. This: "They know exactly what their content is, and they know what it isn't" !!! You look 😍
Yeah there is a lot of that on IG just based off the nature of content - unless we have cameras following us 24/7 there will be an element of staging lol and thank you 🥰
I’ve been off social media (fb and Insta, never used tik tok) for almost three weeks now, and I can safely say I don’t miss it, it’s a plague. Don’t think I’ll go back. The people in my life that I want/need, I can text, call or even see! I don’t need to see your lunch, or your pantry tidy up.
Haha not the pantry tidy up!! You mean when they take their food out of its packaging to put in inside another packaging lol I'm embarrassed to say I love those videos 😂
Lately, the influencer Breny lee announced she was going to take a long break just to live life and not always plan content and to keep up with every trend. So this topic resonates with me even more!
I was just thinking about this the other day: I love watching vlogs especially cafe hopping and shopping videos in South Korea and I thought to myself how interesting it is that some people plan out their whole week to do fun things and go to cute places solely to create content out of it instead of “this is my actual life and what I do and I just happen to be filming it”. Of course there are some TH-camrs that may do that, but I feel like it’s largely planned and curated. It’s like you are designing and curating your life for the video content and become almost like a character. Of course I still love to watch them, but it was just a thought that came up in my head recently.
Yeah it is a really interesting thought. Most things we see are curated to some extent - even if they'd do the same with the cameras off, it's still an interesting concept. I'll still watch though haha!
It’s a recession right now in the United States. People are looking for streams of higher income and one of them is filming your every day life to make a buck! Once I get a newer iPhone I’m going to start recording alone at restaurants & such to earn extra money
I think in this age of content it’s just putting on display the ways humans especially those in the privileged and upper class have always been performing life instead of living it. They didn’t have cameras back then but royals and nobility would parade through the streets just to wear fancy clothes and be seen and gawked at. High society members have always thrown huge social events just so people can say how great they are. I do think social media has a great influence on how we perform on the worlds stage but I think the influence is more or less the medium we’re using to perform. Social media gives us access to millions of people at once. It seems like life becomes a stage when other people and societal rules come together.
11:00 so true, everyone has these beautiful stone bathrooms, super nice furniture and decorated apartments and I’m just like “how can they afford this?” “Why are our realities SO different?” And I don’t even consider myself overly obsessed with social media.
As a guy. Instagram has also affected our dating lives. Girls nowadays have all these unrealistic Instagram standards where as a guy you are expected to basically fund her instagram lifestyle. I don’t have a problem being chivalrous but when you’re expected to keep up with every single influencer from all over the world, just for social media validation is just unrealistic, and money wasting. No wander why depression rates have gone up amongst the youth, it’s because we’re chasing the unrealistic standards set by social media
I clicked so fast, cause YES!!! Even as a creative, I am tired. Really rethinking how I can be more present and enjoy moments instead of trying to capture it 🙃 It takes a lot of intentionality!
Not me pausing mid video to type this. I remember reading a novel once and the author wrote about the notion of life being a performance. We are the actors on stage and our friends and family are the audience members. As such, people will often live their lives as though its a play, both to the amusement and the dismay of the audience members. It then gets you thinking about whether we do things because we are inherently interested in the said activity or to appease those around us. Throw social media into the mix, you can then create this caricature of yourself, that is far removed from who you truly are. Like, how much of your life is a performance?
this was very insightful and definitely helped out my anxiety! sometimes thinking that everything is content will literally have my brain spinning 24/7 trying to figure out what to post lol
I completely agree that it creates unnecessary pressure. Even though I never had any intentions of being an influencer or content creator, I felt the need to post consistently and make the posts "high quality" and track the engagement. It became exhausting. I decided to delete my Tiktok account with 23k followers and only use my backup which has 90 and I rarely post anything. I also only post on Instagram maybe 4-6 times a year. My mental health and ability to be PRESENT in my daily life have dramatically improved. Now, I'm learning digital marketing and only plan on using social media as a marketing tool for an actual business, that offers products or services. I cannot go back to spending 6+ hours scrolling OR creating content for a "personal brand" anymore. I think even the idea of a "personal brand" is weird and us just trying to make ourselves celebrities. Not worth it.
I am part of the generation that witnessed youtube turn into what it is now. I would get on youtube to watch the beauty gurus, back to school videos, and specific “how to” type of videos. Then it turned into watching college vloggers from schools i was interested in when it was time to prepare to go to college. The people I watched were known for doing something rather than the aesthetics of it all. I am tired of watching different youtube videos now. Its all the same, just a different person. Ive been on and off youtube as a creator & struggle with getting back on because i wanna make sure im actually bringing something to the table. I wanna have fun with it instead of trying too hard.
I kind of disagree, TH-cam has been constantly aesthetic integrated especially in the mylifeaseva girls who ran the internet; they’ve even said they were stressed orchestrating everything as perfect. Then it stopped becoming detail oriented and being quirky became cool and that got overused me boring and now it’s coming back but in a different aesthetics that everyone keeps copying as well…
@@mickeycattt mylifeiseva kinda had a particular audience that was associated with that kind of aesthetic. Now, its every audience kinda doing the same thing or some type of variation of the same.
Omg yes 😭 I used to post sososo much on social media, meals, outfits, activities I was doing realizing I was not enjoying the moments enough. I have gotten myself off of Fb, snap and Twitter and now I’m working on IG because it’s soul sucking. I even get annoyed now when my friends want to constantly record everything because I’m trying to be more intentional about moments in my life. But I can’t be too mad because that used to be me. Slowly but surely I’ll be free from the grasp of social media
Honestly! I was having a headache over this, people preach about consistency all the time when it comes to posting, certain people post so much without thought that the content is not even worthy, I’m not gaining anything from your same routine everyday!
This is a good point. Also because they make it look as easy as just posting life but I think there's a lot that goes into making it look 'effortless' which we don't talk about.
This is so good! I remember being called out by my friends for filming anything and everything and since then my perspective on this has shifted- it’s so good to evaluate if you’re in the moment or just filming the moment
Hmmm! Adella you is preaching. During the pandemic I started influencing and was getting a moderate following, it was so SO heavy and depressing trying to be relevant and viral. I’d dread logging in and looking at/analysing my impressions. So, in the end, I deleted everything but whatsapp and youtube its been that way for 2 years now and I am at PURE PEACE!! Its crazy because I am literally living in a different universe, my whatsapp status be where the vibe is at, and I only post that to share with intimate friends and family not to showcase😂
Love this for you!! many people would not have been able to give up the potential of becoming an influencer but so glad you chose what was best for you!
I love that you put everything everywhere all the time on the thumbnail because I recently watched the movie everything everywhere all at once and read about the intention in making it and it really connects to this topic! there`s a character in the movie who travels through so many dimensions that it "fries her brain“ because she`s seen too much. The brothers who created the film said that they made it to make sense of the internet and the whiplash you get from seeing so many different things at once. So essentially the dimensions can be seen as a metaphor for different social media niches/content and seeing too much of that kind of "fries your brain“ and makes you lose your sense of self.
I thought this was an interesting topic. I just made in IG after being off of it for a few years and when someone ask for my handle they are always surprised how low it is. I use it as a photo diary for myself. I recently just ran into someone who had stated the "aesthetic" they wanted in a friend or friendship group and I immediately ran away because that is BEYOND insane. Reminds me of Erica Banks said how she wanted her friends to "look" a certain way. I have the best time of life when I am not on my phone. A guy friend of mine asked did I have videos of me dancing one time and I was like no, why would I ask someone to film that? I enjoy living in the moment and it feels forced and fake if I have to stop, take out my phone to ask someone to record, stop see if they got the right angles, and then show it off. It's a weird time in society
This reminds me of a quote from the Netflix show 'Wednesday'. Her roommate asks her if she's on Instagram to which Wednesday replies: "I find social media to be a soul sucking void of meaningless affirmation". I feel like Daria would echo the same sentiment (I really wish a Daria reboot was in the works!) Anyway, it's all a curated performance. It's crazy how heavily it could impact self-esteem. Life becomes less about living, and more about documenting everything. That 'Nosedive' episode of Black Mirror feels less and less like hyperbole every day.
I think based on the type of content people consume they sometimes feel as though they have to mimic what they consume. Our lives are different, we are all different people and it's okay if your life isn't a fraction of what is represented in your favourite content creators. People should feel free to share their lives in a way where they were already doing the stuff they had planned or it was just a natural thing in their life. And they decided to bring people along
I like how you explained and verbalized what my brain couldn’t explain because I’m burnt out on content. I knew I was. Where I save a million posts and feel like I need to go through them. New subscriber! I need to take it more seriously
Your ability to introspect on the things that unnecessarily erode our quality of life is just 💯. Every moment in life is starting to feel like it needs a background song to be enjoyable.
I went to a concert recently and I had a fairly good time but I was absolutely not present because the entire time I was also trying to capture the moment in my phone or at least how it would look on Instagram. You explained this perfectly, I was trying to add to my virtual life then take in a real experience. I almost feel like I have more memories trying to capture the moment than experiencing the moment and I regret it immensely
I agree to the max, I think the whole idea of content creating has changed tremendously over the years. When I was growing up content creating was making skits , pranks, tutorial, and how -to vides (at least what I watched ) now I feel like there is definitely a fine line between what is and isn't content, shoot p*rn is now considered a form of content creating lol!
Life has now been turned into "The Truman Show" from someone who's a very private person I've never understood it, although there is content like organizing and cleaning that I personally enjoy watching, but it definitely has gotten out of hand... I've seen a couple having a baby filming the entire process... and I thought that was a bit weird, I personally couldn't do it.
This video is on point, I’m a content creator and creating w/ intention is so key for me. I’ve learned that providing value is important but also subjective lol. I also completely agree with having boundaries w/ creating content & even consuming it.
Thank you for this video first off all 💓. This has been on my mind for a minute. You literally read my mind! Loved every second of this video & I loved how you identified your points.
I really resonated with this because as a new TH-camr, I was getting sucked into the ideology of posting as much as I can because I don’t want to loose my audience… by the middle of May I hit a huge burnout! I couldn’t think of what to create and I was feeling pressure to create and I wasn’t happy with what I was creating anymore . When I started taking TH-cam seriously, I tried to create a vision for why I want to do what I do on but because of the desire to just post every week to grow my channel I started posting just about anything so from mid May to mid June I said enough is enough. This is not me and I took a break. For one whole month, i didn’t post anything. I took time out to restructure myself, get back to the drawing board and figure out my why again. I understand youtube pays well and that’s an allure for a lot of people as it is for me too but my biggest draw has to be the message I spread on here so I’m glad I did that and my faithful 422 subscribers remained intact even without any bier content… Thank you for this, burnout is real and to be honest everything is NOT content, life is for the living and I decided to live my life for myself, enjoy my life and enjoy every moment not just to play to the choir at every point in time! Thank you for this lovely video as always and I have to say that you look absolutely stunning! Very very stunning! Cheers to 100k in advance!
4:52 I think I know what you mean! My personal example is recently I’ve been telling myself I should do Pilates. This moment right here made me wonder if I actually desire the experience of going to a Pilates class or if I’ve gravitated towards the idea to post it on my Instagram and have people go, “wow she’s the type of girl that goes to Pilates” When I think about it I’m thinking about the outfit I’d wear, where to get lunch before, things easily photographed and shared. I’m not thinking about how I’d feel
I recently joined the vlogging/content creation game, and it's honestly stressful having to juggle TH-cam, TikTok and Instagram b/c of the notion that you HAVE to promote yourself cross-platform. With short-form content being a go-to, my brain feels "fried" whenever I try to make or consume those videos. I think having a small portfolio of long-form videos would age better than a million short-form ones. This makes me consider deleting my TikTok videos and IG Reels to go all in on YT. 🤔
The word « content » sounds so vain to me, it’s like creating substance out of nothing only for people’s consumption. But then they invest time as they’re consuming it and then what ? Idk, this is how I feel whenever I want to post anything on ig or yt… and Adella girl, I love this look on you !
Yeah I feel you and tbh a lot of content is deeper/richer than that but the word 'content' kind of devalues it because of what most content is (if that makes sense lol) and thank you 🤎
This is why I'm quitting IG and FB by the end of the year. I'm an artist and I was burnt out from 5 years of trying to keep up. I wanted to quit since 2020, but I finally got the courage to do so this year. I've decided to keep YT and start a newsletter and I will be posting once a month to them. I finally have more time to just make and enjoy art. I also got back into writing!
Lovely video! Just found your channel and subscribed. I loved when you were listing the types of TikTok content, and you said "crushing stuff with a machine....tok" lol
I just thought about this, like I’m sure my followings on here and TikTok would grow if I shared more but I’m a private person and like to live in the moment 😅
I remeber how fascinating it was to see Casey Neistat vlog everyday for like a year straight. Idk, that always stuck out to me as like wow, he was right there but he still missed out on so much because it was all about capturing it. In a similar vein, I'm watching the Duggar documentary andsomething that sticks out (amongts the mess) is one, the impact on the unwilling participnts and two, you NEVER know what;s happening behind the camera.
Oh my God I’m so glad you made this video and the video about Internet haters I wanted to be a travel vlogger because my boyfriend and I travel a lot But I quickly realized that my relationship, and the memories we create are sacred and not to be shared with the Internet 🛜 If you post a trip and it only gets 100 views, it does change how you feel about the trip as well as all the time you took to edit the content I still have two podcast so I produce a lot of content, but my personal life is off-limits , I’m not putting it online for everyone to judge
I got a first class in my dissertation on the correlation between social media consumption and anxiety and depression. It was (obviously) a positive correlation. Correlation is not causation but those who spent more time on social media scored higher in experiencing both anxiety and depression. We are living in a weird time. There is way too much access to knowledge and content that I don't think is healthy for the human brain. We weren't designed to be stimulated this much on a daily basis. It's imperative to protect your eyes and ears and really be intentional about what you consume. Just like "you are what you eat", you can become what you consume because man is transformed by the renewing of their minds. If your mind is constantly renewed by content (be it titk tok, insta, twitter etc) it will shape your perspective of yourself, the world, others and even God. Be careful!
Just based off of this I would literally love to read your full dissertation
Please let us know if you’re publishing. I’d love to read it!
This comment was really good.
Very well expressed and insightful. I too would love to read your dissertation.
AMEN! Congrats on your first class!!
we used to go to the internet to escape the problems of reality. now we go to reality to escape the problems of the internet
mmmhmmmmmm deep
Trueeee!!!
Yeah I remember the mid 00’s. I was a teen who used the internet to imagine what I can be and just look for things out of curiosity. Was actually more social or interactive on it than I am now.
I miss those times. Nowadays I feel like the internet is less of a learning tool as it’s too full of opinions that sound like facts which leads to misinformation. It had just as many opinions then but they weren’t as hardly ingrained to the point of sounding like fact. I feel like the infrastructure is websites is an issue. The internet is more monopolised imo than in 2007. I think this and social media makes it easier for opinions to become facts as online groups/ cultures are more closely knitted together and there isn’t enough space for independent thinking if you are embedded into a certain group too much.
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Now both are just growing problems and there's little escape
to think there are people choosing friends based on aesthetics is insane
i had never thought of that and i’m sure that’s a thing
craaaazy
Yeah it's wild I reckon some people are doing it subconsciously without even realising :/
Yup they look cute online but are fighting constantly offline due to being superficial
omg yessss
Lol oh yah totally. Remember that’s a whole thing now where ppl stress that u must only surround yourself with ppl who are where u wanna be
@@CharisMaggieTV And where are they now? Exactly, still poor and striving for greater like the rest of us! lmao
Honestly, it took me until adulthood to realize this phenomenon was a thing, and it's the main reason why people feel so lonely now. They want perfect people, perfect emotions, perfect content, perfect credentials before you get hired for the job, like the fairytale you want doesn't exist! I just be wanting to scream at some of these ppl who think like this, like, *GET REAL!!!* These ppl can literally be friends with anyone, they're just lookist, own it! They're so scared of not being associated with because they know it makes no sense to be like that. They think they're some upper echelon type of person, like you're tryna transcend like the rest of us, but being critical of your friends' looks ain't gonna get you there. That ain't it, chief!
Sidenote: The braids, these frames & the dark lip is a LOOK on you😍😍😁
Thank youuuu 🥰
Yep a whole vibe😍
Totally!
yeah its seriously giving. gorgeous
we’re in an era of overconsumption
Oh 100000%
1920s-core.
Now you go to the internet, n everything goes... One is saying fasting is good, another fasting is bad.. One says 8 Hr leep is key, another it doesn't really matter.. One says loneliness reduces lifespan, another says being alone is good... Both with research! Everything has a counter argument! Information overload is what the internet is causing us to suffer!!!
Rightttt…like it’s hard to choose what to believe but the internet/social media makes people see or believe things different
Wow this got existential. I got rid of all my social media 8 months ago and still occasionally think "dang this would have been good content"
Honestly, scrolling instagram feels like everyone is staging everything, everywhere at anytime. Especially and it looks so polished all of the time.
This: "They know exactly what their content is, and they know what it isn't" !!!
You look 😍
Yeah there is a lot of that on IG just based off the nature of content - unless we have cameras following us 24/7 there will be an element of staging lol
and thank you 🥰
This why I don’t record ppl or weird stuff in public. It feels good to just see stuff and it feels more natural
I used to record at concerts but then I stopped ‘cause I want to just see it for what it really is instead of through a screen
I’ve been off social media (fb and Insta, never used tik tok) for almost three weeks now, and I can safely say I don’t miss it, it’s a plague. Don’t think I’ll go back.
The people in my life that I want/need, I can text, call or even see! I don’t need to see your lunch, or your pantry tidy up.
Haha not the pantry tidy up!! You mean when they take their food out of its packaging to put in inside another packaging lol I'm embarrassed to say I love those videos 😂
Lately, the influencer Breny lee announced she was going to take a long break just to live life and not always plan content and to keep up with every trend. So this topic resonates with me even more!
Yeah I saw that post!
I was just thinking about this the other day: I love watching vlogs especially cafe hopping and shopping videos in South Korea and I thought to myself how interesting it is that some people plan out their whole week to do fun things and go to cute places solely to create content out of it instead of “this is my actual life and what I do and I just happen to be filming it”. Of course there are some TH-camrs that may do that, but I feel like it’s largely planned and curated. It’s like you are designing and curating your life for the video content and become almost like a character. Of course I still love to watch them, but it was just a thought that came up in my head recently.
Yeah it is a really interesting thought. Most things we see are curated to some extent - even if they'd do the same with the cameras off, it's still an interesting concept. I'll still watch though haha!
It’s a recession right now in the United States. People are looking for streams of higher income and one of them is filming your every day life to make a buck! Once I get a newer iPhone I’m going to start recording alone at restaurants & such to earn extra money
OMG This comment!!
I think in this age of content it’s just putting on display the ways humans especially those in the privileged and upper class have always been performing life instead of living it. They didn’t have cameras back then but royals and nobility would parade through the streets just to wear fancy clothes and be seen and gawked at. High society members have always thrown huge social events just so people can say how great they are. I do think social media has a great influence on how we perform on the worlds stage but I think the influence is more or less the medium we’re using to perform. Social media gives us access to millions of people at once. It seems like life becomes a stage when other people and societal rules come together.
This is such a good point!! And you're right I think social media just amplifies what's already in us.
11:00 so true, everyone has these beautiful stone bathrooms, super nice furniture and decorated apartments and I’m just like “how can they afford this?” “Why are our realities SO different?” And I don’t even consider myself overly obsessed with social media.
So interesting isn't it!
As a guy. Instagram has also affected our dating lives. Girls nowadays have all these unrealistic Instagram standards where as a guy you are expected to basically fund her instagram lifestyle.
I don’t have a problem being chivalrous but when you’re expected to keep up with every single influencer from all over the world, just for social media validation is just unrealistic, and money wasting. No wander why depression rates have gone up amongst the youth, it’s because we’re chasing the unrealistic standards set by social media
Interesting POV thanks so much for sharing! social media, unrealistic expectations and poor mental health all seem to go hand in hand unfortunately
Wdym keep up with insta models?
I clicked so fast, cause YES!!! Even as a creative, I am tired. Really rethinking how I can be more present and enjoy moments instead of trying to capture it 🙃 It takes a lot of intentionality!
It really does take intentionality and boundaries but you got this!!!
Not me pausing mid video to type this. I remember reading a novel once and the author wrote about the notion of life being a performance. We are the actors on stage and our friends and family are the audience members. As such, people will often live their lives as though its a play, both to the amusement and the dismay of the audience members. It then gets you thinking about whether we do things because we are inherently interested in the said activity or to appease those around us. Throw social media into the mix, you can then create this caricature of yourself, that is far removed from who you truly are. Like, how much of your life is a performance?
Soooooo interesting! I always say social media just amplifies what's already in us - so if we're performing IRL then how much more online 🤭
this was very insightful and definitely helped out my anxiety! sometimes thinking that everything is content will literally have my brain spinning 24/7 trying to figure out what to post lol
I completely agree that it creates unnecessary pressure. Even though I never had any intentions of being an influencer or content creator, I felt the need to post consistently and make the posts "high quality" and track the engagement. It became exhausting. I decided to delete my Tiktok account with 23k followers and only use my backup which has 90 and I rarely post anything. I also only post on Instagram maybe 4-6 times a year. My mental health and ability to be PRESENT in my daily life have dramatically improved. Now, I'm learning digital marketing and only plan on using social media as a marketing tool for an actual business, that offers products or services. I cannot go back to spending 6+ hours scrolling OR creating content for a "personal brand" anymore. I think even the idea of a "personal brand" is weird and us just trying to make ourselves celebrities. Not worth it.
Well said
I am part of the generation that witnessed youtube turn into what it is now. I would get on youtube to watch the beauty gurus, back to school videos, and specific “how to” type of videos. Then it turned into watching college vloggers from schools i was interested in when it was time to prepare to go to college. The people I watched were known for doing something rather than the aesthetics of it all. I am tired of watching different youtube videos now. Its all the same, just a different person. Ive been on and off youtube as a creator & struggle with getting back on because i wanna make sure im actually bringing something to the table. I wanna have fun with it instead of trying too hard.
i felt thissss!!!
I kind of disagree, TH-cam has been constantly aesthetic integrated especially in the mylifeaseva girls who ran the internet; they’ve even said they were stressed orchestrating everything as perfect. Then it stopped becoming detail oriented and being quirky became cool and that got overused me boring and now it’s coming back but in a different aesthetics that everyone keeps copying as well…
@@mickeycattt mylifeiseva kinda had a particular audience that was associated with that kind of aesthetic. Now, its every audience kinda doing the same thing or some type of variation of the same.
Omg yes 😭 I used to post sososo much on social media, meals, outfits, activities I was doing realizing I was not enjoying the moments enough. I have gotten myself off of Fb, snap and Twitter and now I’m working on IG because it’s soul sucking. I even get annoyed now when my friends want to constantly record everything because I’m trying to be more intentional about moments in my life. But I can’t be too mad because that used to be me. Slowly but surely I’ll be free from the grasp of social media
Love that you're taking steps for yourself and being so self aware 🤎
Honestly! I was having a headache over this, people preach about consistency all the time when it comes to posting, certain people post so much without thought that the content is not even worthy, I’m not gaining anything from your same routine everyday!
Exactly!
I think part of it is that we see people becoming millionaires off just posting their daily lives, so we wonder, why can’t that be us?
This is a good point. Also because they make it look as easy as just posting life but I think there's a lot that goes into making it look 'effortless' which we don't talk about.
exactly... especially when all they do is dance or look pretty in front of a camera
yup
This is so good! I remember being called out by my friends for filming anything and everything and since then my perspective on this has shifted- it’s so good to evaluate if you’re in the moment or just filming the moment
Hmmm! Adella you is preaching. During the pandemic I started influencing and was getting a moderate following, it was so SO heavy and depressing trying to be relevant and viral. I’d dread logging in and looking at/analysing my impressions. So, in the end, I deleted everything but whatsapp and youtube its been that way for 2 years now and I am at PURE PEACE!! Its crazy because I am literally living in a different universe, my whatsapp status be where the vibe is at, and I only post that to share with intimate friends and family not to showcase😂
Love this for you!! many people would not have been able to give up the potential of becoming an influencer but so glad you chose what was best for you!
I love that you put everything everywhere all the time on the thumbnail because I recently watched the movie everything everywhere all at once and read about the intention in making it and it really connects to this topic! there`s a character in the movie who travels through so many dimensions that it "fries her brain“ because she`s seen too much. The brothers who created the film said that they made it to make sense of the internet and the whiplash you get from seeing so many different things at once. So essentially the dimensions can be seen as a metaphor for different social media niches/content and seeing too much of that kind of "fries your brain“ and makes you lose your sense of self.
Omg no way I had no idea this was the meaning behind the film I was just trying to be clever with my words LOL! Thanks for sharing that
Great breakdown and examples
I thought this was an interesting topic. I just made in IG after being off of it for a few years and when someone ask for my handle they are always surprised how low it is. I use it as a photo diary for myself. I recently just ran into someone who had stated the "aesthetic" they wanted in a friend or friendship group and I immediately ran away because that is BEYOND insane. Reminds me of Erica Banks said how she wanted her friends to "look" a certain way.
I have the best time of life when I am not on my phone. A guy friend of mine asked did I have videos of me dancing one time and I was like no, why would I ask someone to film that? I enjoy living in the moment and it feels forced and fake if I have to stop, take out my phone to ask someone to record, stop see if they got the right angles, and then show it off. It's a weird time in society
This!!
This reminds me of a quote from the Netflix show 'Wednesday'. Her roommate asks her if she's on Instagram to which Wednesday replies: "I find social media to be a soul sucking void of meaningless affirmation". I feel like Daria would echo the same sentiment (I really wish a Daria reboot was in the works!) Anyway, it's all a curated performance. It's crazy how heavily it could impact self-esteem. Life becomes less about living, and more about documenting everything. That 'Nosedive' episode of Black Mirror feels less and less like hyperbole every day.
I think based on the type of content people consume they sometimes feel as though they have to mimic what they consume. Our lives are different, we are all different people and it's okay if your life isn't a fraction of what is represented in your favourite content creators.
People should feel free to share their lives in a way where they were already doing the stuff they had planned or it was just a natural thing in their life. And they decided to bring people along
I like how you explained and verbalized what my brain couldn’t explain because I’m burnt out on content. I knew I was. Where I save a million posts and feel like I need to go through them. New subscriber! I need to take it more seriously
Your ability to introspect on the things that unnecessarily erode our quality of life is just 💯. Every moment in life is starting to feel like it needs a background song to be enjoyable.
Wow perfectly put!
I went to a concert recently and I had a fairly good time but I was absolutely not present because the entire time I was also trying to capture the moment in my phone or at least how it would look on Instagram. You explained this perfectly, I was trying to add to my virtual life then take in a real experience. I almost feel like I have more memories trying to capture the moment than experiencing the moment and I regret it immensely
I agree to the max, I think the whole idea of content creating has changed tremendously over the years. When I was growing up content creating was making skits , pranks, tutorial, and how -to vides (at least what I watched ) now I feel like there is definitely a fine line between what is and isn't content, shoot p*rn is now considered a form of content creating lol!
Life has now been turned into "The Truman Show" from someone who's a very private person I've never understood it, although there is content like organizing and cleaning that I personally enjoy watching, but it definitely has gotten out of hand... I've seen a couple having a baby filming the entire process... and I thought that was a bit weird, I personally couldn't do it.
LOVE this video. So so interesting
This video is on point, I’m a content creator and creating w/ intention is so key for me. I’ve learned that providing value is important but also subjective lol. I also completely agree with having boundaries w/ creating content & even consuming it.
Thank you for this video first off all 💓. This has been on my mind for a minute. You literally read my mind! Loved every second of this video & I loved how you identified your points.
Thank you so much!!
Loved this conversation, definitely spoke on multiple topics that I feel are on the top of a lot of people’s tongues . 👏🏽
I really resonated with this because as a new TH-camr, I was getting sucked into the ideology of posting as much as I can because I don’t want to loose my audience… by the middle of May I hit a huge burnout! I couldn’t think of what to create and I was feeling pressure to create and I wasn’t happy with what I was creating anymore . When I started taking TH-cam seriously, I tried to create a vision for why I want to do what I do on but because of the desire to just post every week to grow my channel I started posting just about anything so from mid May to mid June I said enough is enough. This is not me and I took a break. For one whole month, i didn’t post anything. I took time out to restructure myself, get back to the drawing board and figure out my why again. I understand youtube pays well and that’s an allure for a lot of people as it is for me too but my biggest draw has to be the message I spread on here so I’m glad I did that and my faithful 422 subscribers remained intact even without any bier content…
Thank you for this, burnout is real and to be honest everything is NOT content, life is for the living and I decided to live my life for myself, enjoy my life and enjoy every moment not just to play to the choir at every point in time!
Thank you for this lovely video as always and I have to say that you look absolutely stunning! Very very stunning! Cheers to 100k in advance!
How did you get paid on TH-cam with 422 subscribers?
Love the glasses 😍 side note
Thank you my love!! They're from Cubitts
Loved the whole video!!!! Adella your content is refreshing!
4:52 I think I know what you mean! My personal example is recently I’ve been telling myself I should do Pilates. This moment right here made me wonder if I actually desire the experience of going to a Pilates class or if I’ve gravitated towards the idea to post it on my Instagram and have people go, “wow she’s the type of girl that goes to Pilates” When I think about it I’m thinking about the outfit I’d wear, where to get lunch before, things easily photographed and shared. I’m not thinking about how I’d feel
let’s get her to 100k y’all!!!❤️❤️❤️
omg Adella , you look absolutely !!!! can i kindly ask where you got your bangles?
Thank you!! They're from H&M www2.hm.com/en_gb/productpage.1151717001.html
That quote you put on the screen at 2:44 made me never want to post anything ever again. Lmaooo
Link go the mic you’re using plz
I recently joined the vlogging/content creation game, and it's honestly stressful having to juggle TH-cam, TikTok and Instagram b/c of the notion that you HAVE to promote yourself cross-platform. With short-form content being a go-to, my brain feels "fried" whenever I try to make or consume those videos. I think having a small portfolio of long-form videos would age better than a million short-form ones. This makes me consider deleting my TikTok videos and IG Reels to go all in on YT. 🤔
This is well put. Thanks so much.
Girl, you’re gorgeous & I love your video style! 😍
love how you've styled yourself in this vid! veeeeryy nice
Thank you!!
Your voice and content style is really so palatable for podcasting. It draws me in really well.
Have you considered podcasting?
Wonderful video, topic, and music.
As a person born 2008, we need to all focus on life again. idk but social media ruined and ruins so much.
I thoroughly enjoyed this!
Thank you for this
The word « content » sounds so vain to me, it’s like creating substance out of nothing only for people’s consumption. But then they invest time as they’re consuming it and then what ? Idk, this is how I feel whenever I want to post anything on ig or yt… and Adella girl, I love this look on you !
Yeah I feel you and tbh a lot of content is deeper/richer than that but the word 'content' kind of devalues it because of what most content is (if that makes sense lol) and thank you 🤎
Absolutely love this
I love this discussion! So very true. I also wanted to say that your makeup looks amazing here!!
LooOVVVVVEE the look!!!
Thank you!!
I think a certain thing in your life that you enjoy doing can be content to share, but not everything
Adella is back… I’ve missed your content 😅
Thanks Feyi 🤎
So so good!
This is why I'm quitting IG and FB by the end of the year. I'm an artist and I was burnt out from 5 years of trying to keep up. I wanted to quit since 2020, but I finally got the courage to do so this year. I've decided to keep YT and start a newsletter and I will be posting once a month to them.
I finally have more time to just make and enjoy art. I also got back into writing!
Love this for you!!!
Lovely video! Just found your channel and subscribed. I loved when you were listing the types of TikTok content, and you said "crushing stuff with a machine....tok" lol
Thanks for subscribing. haha those crushing videos are oddly addictive 😂
I just thought about this, like I’m sure my followings on here and TikTok would grow if I shared more but I’m a private person and like to live in the moment 😅
Such an incredible video + insight 🌸
Love you babe ❤ happy early bday
You're so cute Adella, love your content❤
Thank you xx
Very good topic to address ❤
Glad you think so!
I liked that content 😊
Hehe thanks!
I love this convo but I couldn’t help but to think of playing the sims throughout this video because of the music 😭
I love your channel already
Even THIS is CONTENT 😂😂😂
Haha absolutely!
finally someone said it
I like your content because it's unique
Thank you so much 🤎
I remeber how fascinating it was to see Casey Neistat vlog everyday for like a year straight. Idk, that always stuck out to me as like wow, he was right there but he still missed out on so much because it was all about capturing it. In a similar vein, I'm watching the Duggar documentary andsomething that sticks out (amongts the mess) is one, the impact on the unwilling participnts and two, you NEVER know what;s happening behind the camera.
Love this content! However, the background music is a tad bit loud and slightly distracting. Your voice is nice!
Your thumbnail has me 😂😂😂😂😂💀
I love your microphone
Very insightful video 👏. I did find the music a bit too loud and distracting tho.
I love your outfit
we all. content creators now lol on the other side of the world no one cares about being on social media
Nice golden bracelets
What microphone is that please xx
rode :)
@@Swizzyinsg thanks!
Yeah what they said lols
viewer contenr burn out is sooo real
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Right!
WHAT you are 30?! Girl I thought you were 21 xx
Random, are you East African?
I am half. Tanzanian and Nigerian :)
interesting Rode mic
you calm me
girl who did your braids?!
Me! They're crochet x
Who here has seen black mirror 1st episode from season 5?
can you put time stamps in your videos please :)
Ok will do next time xx
i wanna hear what you're saying but the music is bare loud and distracting icl
If everything in your life is 'content', then everything in your life is 'commented' on. Ouch!
30? damn i thought u was early to mid 20s
Oh my God I’m so glad you made this video and the video about Internet haters
I wanted to be a travel vlogger because my boyfriend and I travel a lot
But I quickly realized that my relationship, and the memories we create are sacred and not to be shared with the Internet 🛜
If you post a trip and it only gets 100 views, it does change how you feel about the trip as well as all the time you took to edit the content
I still have two podcast so I produce a lot of content, but my personal life is off-limits , I’m not putting it online for everyone to judge
Go girl!!!