I've struggled with insecurity my whole life. Here's how I'm finally fighting back...

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  • @CurtisMoe
    @CurtisMoe 3 ปีที่แล้ว +202

    Make no mistake people. Vulnerability, like Tim is displaying, is strength. It isn't easy exposing one's self like that to the public.

  • @emmaoneill4420
    @emmaoneill4420 3 ปีที่แล้ว +186

    Childhood trauma can definitely impact how people view themselves in adulthood and i'm a victim to this but i'm working on my insecurities and starting to believe in myself i also think social media platforms can be very toxic to someones self esteem.

    • @OluwaShagoon
      @OluwaShagoon 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      the school system played a big apart of low self esteem , when we got a f or d we were consider a failure because we fail a test so what that does to kids when they get older it fucks with their self esteem , this is one of the reasons why most ppl are afraid to start their own business because they carry a fear of failing ... the way ppl are in this world u have to blame alot of the negative programming on the school

    • @beaulieuonnp593
      @beaulieuonnp593 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@OluwaShagoon very true

    • @andrefecteau
      @andrefecteau 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@OluwaShagoon yeah, have you heard Elon has a school? No more grades...you just go learn...

    • @OluwaShagoon
      @OluwaShagoon 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@andrefecteau no i did not that is great

    • @andrefecteau
      @andrefecteau 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jaysonb.6669 people just won’t change, job security

  • @Tearsofasilentheart
    @Tearsofasilentheart 3 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    Im a female and i thought every woman was better than me. Im 49 now and still suffer depression and Anxiety but im more confident in my skin. That feels amazing. I was doing ok all along! Xxx

  • @LC-yo3bj
    @LC-yo3bj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +125

    My insecurities quickly turned into self hatred and suicidal ideation and thoughts. It's a slippery slope and the truth is that positive mindset is natural because the love is the only truth. It's the highest calling and you need to love yourself to love others.

    • @aegisreflector1239
      @aegisreflector1239 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Mine turn the same

    • @sincerelysandi
      @sincerelysandi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This is good teaching, thank you for posting this. I hope you are doing well and striving ☮️💟

    • @FoodTrucksForDummies
      @FoodTrucksForDummies 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      😁

  • @codis5722
    @codis5722 3 ปีที่แล้ว +110

    Not saying your case but parenting has a lot to do with that embedded mentality of not feeling good enough

    • @reinasvibez8950
      @reinasvibez8950 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Facts

    • @wolfling2039
      @wolfling2039 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      True. A hypercritical parent or a parent that obviously doesn’t care are both equally devastating.

    • @ronmills6244
      @ronmills6244 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      My insecurities started at home at a young age with parents that never promoted my self worth or esteem, then those insecurities went to elementary school with me and intensified, then kept snowballing into adulthood. I will never understand how you can be a parent and not make your child seem worthy or deserving.

    • @zackerythomas3675
      @zackerythomas3675 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very, very true 👍.
      I know about that .

    • @rebeccagrace1509
      @rebeccagrace1509 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      💯💯💯 Remove yourself from whoever necessary... you don't owe neglegent/abusing adults ANYTHIIIING. YOUR SPIRIT BELONGS TO GOD. THEY DIDN'T MAKE THAT. THEY ONLY MADE YOUR FLESH. ONE NIGHT OF SEX IS ALL IT TOOK. (I have a 💩 father... I have to force myself to think this way sometimes. Ahhhh😇) #GOD'S PLAN. NOT MAN'S.💪🏾💖💪🏾

  • @jciampa103
    @jciampa103 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You’re amazing, I love this channel. I suffer from the same insecurities believe me, I think we all do, some just hide it better. Keep doing what you’re doing man I love your videos.

  • @sparkleighann7282
    @sparkleighann7282 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    You're speaking directly to me! I'm 58 and just got mad a couple weeks ago that I've spent my entire life making everyone else happy, (husband, kids, mother, sister, etc). I've always wanted to go to the beach often but husband won't go.... So I don't go.
    Guess where I'm going next week without my husband? To the f###ing BEACH!!! I don't even feel bad about it either! I would rather go with a partner,, but he can't be what he isn't . Same as me.

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Enjoy the beach!!!

    • @sparkleighann7282
      @sparkleighann7282 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you Timothy Ward, I intend to! ,,❤️

    • @ltiya75islearning82
      @ltiya75islearning82 ปีที่แล้ว

      I can so relate this. I just haven’t gotten up the nerve yet to go to the beach.

    • @RedEyeification
      @RedEyeification 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is the husband you choose.Where was your brain when you pick him ? Maybe you married him cause he's earning big bucks ? Now you're paying for your option...majority of women are like you.

  • @WrongWorld23
    @WrongWorld23 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Today I went for a nature walk to a nearby small lake. I sat down and started watching, it was warm and a lot of people came with their dogs and threw sticks in the water for the dogs to hunt after them into the water and cool off a bit.
    I myself am a bit unsure when there dogs without a leash around, but I always try to overcome my fears and face the situation head on. I also feel uncomfortable when people come towards me, but I've learned to deal with it and to face my insecurities.
    If you give in to those fears and hole yourself up inside the confines of your room, where you then create a pseudo safe bubble to feel save, you begin to trade in your freedom and a real experience of how it is to live life fully for that fake feeling of safety and security.
    In any case, at some point a dog came along and it quickly became apparent that he was probably more afraid of me than I was of him. When his owner started chatting with another dog owner, I was able to watch and listen to their conversation from the place where I was sitting. So I found out that this dog was probably a big scaredy cat and had previously lived on the streets where he probably had some bad traumatic experiences.
    It was a strong eye opener for me to observe this dog and how he behaved fearfully and timidly to the other dogs that approached him. When a dog got too close to him, he immediately swept back a little and when the other dog got even more energetic, he even ran away a little too.
    Later, both dogs went into the water, the timid one only about knee-high into the water, the other more boisterous dog then chased the sticks that his owner threw again and again and barked directly after at his owner to immediately throw another one.
    But what I also noticed was how much more attentive and sensitive this shy dog was, he seemed to perceive a lot more than the other dog, who was totally lost in the game.
    Those were all characteristics and behaviors of this timid and insecure dog that reminded me of myself. I'm now in my 30s and in recent years I've finally bit by bit startet to overcome more and more of my fears and insecurities that slowed me down a lot expecially in my younger years.
    But similar to this dog, I seem to have developed more empathy and a certain sensitivity and observational skills trough my inner struggles and the countless fights with myself, which turnt out to be a positive thing in the end.
    If I hadn't been so introverted and lonely in my childhood years and in my youth, I might have lived more intensively and I might had more fun experiences that way, but if I had that than maybe I wouldn't have developed that deep perceptional skills and I might have had less inner growth and deep insights that came through my frequent self reflections and struggles. And if I wouldn't have struggled so much I wouldn't had gone through the ultimately inevitable stage of overcoming my inner blockages and barriers, which let to more maturity and inner strength.
    Everything is somehow exactly as it should be. We are all on our paths, we are who we are and we can only change the way we are, if we first accept us completely, our true self is what we should direct our focus to. Not by comparing us and our life's to those of other people, but instead by discovering our true self's in and out. That way we find out what our real strengths and weaknesses are and how we can use them and work with them to our advantage instead of being a slave to them.
    The owner of this timid dog then said to the other dog owner that she hoped that her dog would also bravely jump into the water some day and that he maybe at some point also would approach other dogs with more self confidence. But at that moment I already knew deep down that this dog would one day outgrow the version of himself that he for now is stock in at this point in time and that he will have great growth in the future. And I myself had also decided at that moment that I will continue working with my weaknesses from know on even more.

  • @urwrstntmre
    @urwrstntmre 3 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    "Comparison is the thief of joy...unless you're better than everyone else!" Nah but in all seriousness, good stuff here

  • @AllahIsTheOneAndOnlyUnity
    @AllahIsTheOneAndOnlyUnity 3 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    I love the way the video is so straight up, no fancy filters or cheesy music, just crystal clear images of someone going about their day and enjoying the moment to moment living, just like we all like to do.

  • @mikelomax1588
    @mikelomax1588 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I really needed to hear this message. I'm 38 and still feeling insecurities from my childhood experiences. I'm glad I'm not alone in this

  • @j_cortez5226
    @j_cortez5226 3 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    This is referred to as the Imposter Syndrome. The feeling like we dont belong; like we are not good enough. Taking action like you mention is one way to beat this self-belief. Society does us no favor either - it agrees with our belief. We have to keep saying that we are good enough, until we are. Thank you for sharing.

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I am good enough.

    • @johnd.2803
      @johnd.2803 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I think most of us experience imposter syndrome, and I think to a certain degree it can be healthy (Keeps us in check and humble, not believing our own bs, or our own shtick so to speak.) In a sense, we are all imposters (no one is really who they are portraying themselves to be). And I think that’s a good thing because it removes labels and leaves things open. No one is just one thing. We are all trying to work this thing called life out. No one has anything figured out, we are all just doing the best we can regardless of where we are or what field we are in. To a certain degree.

    • @healthieryou7206
      @healthieryou7206 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The imposter syndrome is a terrible thing and I believe that the majority of people in the entertainment arts suffers from it, according to a female comedian (from years back) that was also a psychologist.

  • @geraldrhodes4864
    @geraldrhodes4864 3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Great content, Tim! I know for me as a black man, I have always had my own insecurities. I grew up in a predominantly white town. Went to private school, liberal arts college, and live in Boulder. When I was very young, I got the idea that I was going to be the best little black boy that there ever was. And I took that well into my adulthood. Always comparing yourself to that impossible standard is not only ridiculous, but I held myself back from talking to that person or going for that job. It took a lot of inner work and a lot of self love to change my mindset and realize I have the same worries and fears as everyone else. We can all use an honest dose of perspective from time to time. Comparison is the thief of dreams...

  • @CardisPerspective
    @CardisPerspective 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I overstood the all to well. I live my life like this. I don’t know what I want to do in life. And I don’t have a support system of friends, family, etc. so I just push through the pain. I never felt accepted. It’s a endless trap but it could be worse right🤷🏾

  • @OPTAFTP
    @OPTAFTP 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me!" - Stuart Smalley. It may have been said as a joke on SNL, but it really is the most important thing you can remind yourself.

  • @designerguy6257
    @designerguy6257 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    We’re gonna look back in 10 years and know that this man is the embodiment of the true American Dream.

  • @rubes8065
    @rubes8065 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Wouldn’t change a thing about you Tim. You are absolutely perfect and wonderful just the way you are. Your channel is helping change my life!

  • @andrewtrotter9023
    @andrewtrotter9023 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Man this is so true. I recently discovered imposter syndrome. It’s the feeling you’re not good enough for the crowd you run with and live in constant fear of being found out.

  • @AB1B1
    @AB1B1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Man I'm dealing with this now. I'm 40 and has been dealing with this my whole life. I go spurts where I'm good but for the most part this is me. I'm still trying to figure out who I am and my life.

  • @blakewentley
    @blakewentley 3 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    You're really good at motivational speaking, Tim. Thanks for posting this!

    • @MichaelMarko
      @MichaelMarko 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Exactly what I was about to write.

  • @Ruby-t2f
    @Ruby-t2f 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I know what you mean, I felt that way also😟 wish I heard this talk 40 yrs ago. You’re a beautiful person 👍🏽❤️✌🏽🙏🏽

  • @TeknoMediumsParanormal1111
    @TeknoMediumsParanormal1111 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yup yup...I never had much confidence in youth.
    Got over it, finally.

  • @jjholl00
    @jjholl00 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I always say, "It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re -- not.. "

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That quote is so TRUE!

  • @GRINDETHIKSMIXTAPESHOW
    @GRINDETHIKSMIXTAPESHOW 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I realize that success is just a word and ppl have a tendacy to over value the word that is why most ppl dont see themseleves as successful , we tring to live up to words im begining think that words are not real only the things that words represent is real

  • @healthieryou7206
    @healthieryou7206 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Comparing yourself to other people is a shortcut to unhappiness. Most of us know this and yet we still do it. Having said that, the people that we tend to compare ourselves to, we don't really know that well. We do not really know what goes on in their lives. We don't compare ourselves to people that we are well acquainted with since we know that behind the well tended veneer there are some issues . It is really stupidity times ten but we still do it. It oftentimes take a life-threatening situation to literally shake us out of it and to start appreciating our lives.

  • @GodofWarChuka
    @GodofWarChuka ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Another Great video! A lot of your videos help me out with my problems. I’ve always had insecurities and Anxiety. Also, love Seattle! Back in the Navy days, my ship the USS Sacramento was stationed in Bremerton, WA. Me and my friends would take the Ferry across everyday into Seattle and back. Walked all over Seattle back in 91, after the ship returned from the Persian Gulf. Great times and memories. 👍

  • @se78836
    @se78836 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Realising that everyone is insecure on some level was a huge mindset shift for me. Whenever I feel insecure now I remember this and smile about it. Keeping this in mind takes away the fear and pressure in so many situations in life.

  • @TinyMaths
    @TinyMaths 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Definitely identify with this. Then woke up one day and realized that essentially, a lot of people are doing the done thing, that thing that somebody decided a long time ago was the right, cool, correct thing to do, Someone long dead. And most of us never really question those things. They may or may not be good, but once I started to ask myself whether I really liked some of the things people believed are the cool things to do, I was stunned to realize that I was running after things that I don't even necessarily enjoy. What a relief when I was able to let go of those things. Does that make me uncool? Yes, but only in terms of someone else's value system; which isn't necessarily valued by me.

  • @KamalTiwari82
    @KamalTiwari82 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am constantly told that I am as thick as crap, however I know that I don’t think that.

  • @jessedevlin4169
    @jessedevlin4169 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The worst is when you start a new job and out of fear, out perform and then the rest of the workers either a. Push all their work on you, b. The boss expects it every day. Or c both get jealous and then teach you their ways so you have to do it their way yet you did a better job.

  • @shadyvista
    @shadyvista 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    The nice thing about pessimism is that you're constantly being proven right or pleasantly surprised. But I try to moderate this attitude although it seems more realistic to me.

  • @MultiOlive22
    @MultiOlive22 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Currently binge watching all of these videos!

  • @garrettcal1812
    @garrettcal1812 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It takes a brave man to admit his shortcomings. Sometimes the armour does crack but iron sharpens iron. I'm in good company. Thanks Tim.

  • @daoyang223
    @daoyang223 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    When I was younger, in high school particularly, I used to think everyone was better than me.
    I picked up the guitar at age 13, and I used to practice it everyday but because of the limited knowledge and being from a poor family who didn't always have the internet. My practice routines were worthless and without value. I would go to school and see other kids playing guitar better than I and it always made me feel inferior.
    I saw a kid shredding on the electric guitar; he was leagues beyond me. I was so insecure about my skills and the saddest part was how obsessed I was about music. I decided to make friends with them because I wanted to know how they got so good. A lot of them taught me bits and pieces of their own routines and they even taught me some songs.
    It took me a year before I saw a difference in my playing. I learned to think differently too. It's crazy how effective it is to just be friends who have a different approach to certain things. But what really helped me overcome my insecurity was the fact that my practice routines weren't all worthless.
    During that time, I was really into finger picking and I liked to utilize my fingers more than a guitar pick. Though I mostly just play heavy metal guitar and jazz nowadays, I was always into classical style guitars playing a melody and a backing harmony at the same time. I was playing a random song on an acoustic, and the guy who was helping me play electric guitar saw what I was playing and was like "Dude how are you finger picking that fast? You have to teach me that!" and it made me feel so good, knowing that what I knew wasn't exactly worthless.
    Sometimes, all it takes is a different perspective to understand just how equal we all are.

  • @thegreatestbassist
    @thegreatestbassist 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I have had to battle the same mindset. Partially because of verbal abuse that I sometimes experienced while young and still developing. Under those circumstances, it can take decades to recover from, if at all. This Video by Brother Timothy Ward is still very therapeutic for me. Thank you and Peace from PHILLY!!

  • @hoanpham2757
    @hoanpham2757 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    And most of us living a lie. I am so happy that you are living your own happy life!

  • @markmayhew7893
    @markmayhew7893 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "I was surprised when things worked out". Love that, it's me totally

  • @roadkillvp4life
    @roadkillvp4life 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    10:25 This is a lesson we can all take something from. To build oneself up should never come from pushing others down. In fact, I feel when I bring others up...I always feel better about myself!

  • @7Supernova7
    @7Supernova7 3 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    These videos are topnotch Tim, great points and some legit editing make for some great videos

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you!!!

    • @7Supernova7
      @7Supernova7 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@TimothyWard of course

  • @angelagoodwin5758
    @angelagoodwin5758 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm in my 60s. I've always suffered from extreme insecurity. I have quit jobs because of it and may be quitting yet again because of this. Quite frankly, I believe my personal struggle to lead a quality life is due to this. I know it's been said that it's never too late, but I can't seem to "get it together". I have difficulty trusting my own choices/decisions. They seem to do nothing but get me into trouble. I find it hard to live with myself sometimes.

  • @spiritualnomadlife
    @spiritualnomadlife 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Once again you gave me the message I needed when I’m at another low point. I really needed to hear this. This video gave me a major aha moment. I hope you had fun in Seattle it looks amazing! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @ltiya75islearning82
    @ltiya75islearning82 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    A few years ago, I had those same thought patterns. I was comparing my life to my friends…Then almost immediately it was revealed to me that things are not always as it appears. It was at that point where I was more focused on myself, and making decisions that was more appropriate for me and standing ten toes deep into those decisions.

  • @jenniferbuynitzky412
    @jenniferbuynitzky412 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I can't tell you how long I have also struggled with some of those same feelings. It has taken a lot to get over it, and I still have a ways to go. But hey, I finally thought myself worthy enough to take flying lessons and will be testing for my private pilot license in a helicopter next month! Truly, every last one of us is worthy of overcoming our insecurities, making our dreams happen and enjoying life. Thank you for this great message, I think I really needed to hear it today. :-)

    • @naturepositive7707
      @naturepositive7707 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      👏👏👏

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Good luck with you pilot license test Jennifer!!!

    • @markwhittaker6866
      @markwhittaker6866 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      That's fantastic.
      Wishing you all the best for your pilot test.
      Go get it.

    • @tracioceanfire7773
      @tracioceanfire7773 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      That is great, I love helicopters. I thought about flying them in high school. Good for you for following your dream!

    • @dalaov5258
      @dalaov5258 ปีที่แล้ว

      give us an update...did you get it?

  • @Keviekev115
    @Keviekev115 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Only difference between unpopular and popular people is feeding into fear. Most people shy away from difficult situations. The “ cool” people aren’t afraid of people, places or things

  • @wesleyp3024
    @wesleyp3024 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i think i was blessed because while i did fall into all the traps of living in todays world, i was always a loner. i never felt the need to fit in. i realized at a very young age that i didnt like all the things everyone else was doing. i have always been the kind of guy that walks into a room and sees a bunch of busy people that have nothing to do with me and when i did fall in to the trap of comparing myself to them and measuring myself in the ways they measured success, it always made me depressed, but when i said F everyone and everything and did my own thing, i was always so much happier. the only big thing for me is that i have never found consistent love. and while some people think that is ok, i actually would like to have some kids some day. you once talked about that if god intended the american dream to be a part of your life he would have programmed that into your DNA well, kids "are" programmed into our DNA and so is love. no matter what version of life you choose, the fact is that you are meant to have a family. god intended us all to have one. in fact he gave each one of us half of a puzzle piece that when put together, create them for free.

  • @zackerythomas3675
    @zackerythomas3675 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Yep. I couldn't have put any better myself. Very well said.
    I am 51 years old. Most of life my insecurities which then kicks in my anxiety has controlled my life.
    I kept putting myself down and basically sabotage myself.
    I know it is a mindset that I carry around. I am working on changing that mindset because I am really tired of it.
    Thanks for the encouragement Timothy. You keep at it.

  • @idontlikeyall6345
    @idontlikeyall6345 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I felt like this every since I was a little kid I’m 21 and still struggle with this but I’m working hard to find the root cause so I can overcome it

  • @aknightofgreatrenown1968
    @aknightofgreatrenown1968 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Great video Tim. There are two books that cover this topic really well, The Myth of Self-Esteem and How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable, both by Albert Ellis. They really break down all the nonsense we tell ourselves to make ourselves feel inadequate. Hope this helps someone out there!

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you for the book recommendations!

  • @andypeterson2126
    @andypeterson2126 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thanks for opening up

  • @travellingcats1047
    @travellingcats1047 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I relate to this! I grew up with narcissistic parents who never acknowledged any of my accomplishments. (Regardless of what I did.) Eventually I've gotta stop looking outside myself for approval and give it to myself! You're a really cool person!

  • @Ojdahprnce
    @Ojdahprnce ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This resonates with me a lot. I’m outgrowing this mindset. Preciate your knowledge and relatability it’s refreshing to know others feel the same way.

  • @jamesgoh3719
    @jamesgoh3719 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    confidence is having certainty on who you are, who you choose to spend your time with and how well you spend your time with them

  • @debbiesmith5513
    @debbiesmith5513 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    One of your best Tim.

  • @williamkilduff6998
    @williamkilduff6998 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    The gift of Gab that is what he has some people have it some people don't the gift of Gab. Because all he is really doing is talking but he has the unique ability to hold your attention which is hard to do in this day & age 🤔 as a matter of fact this is the longest comment I Have ever commented on TH-cam I dont like to write a book on a comment section, he is very well spoken and is good at what people want to hear 👂.

  • @LePatron475
    @LePatron475 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Thank you man, I really needed this video. I'm really prone to negative thinking, it's a vicious circle. I've hated myself most of my life. I have to stop this, it is taking me nowhere. God bless you.

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You can break the cycle Matti! Trust me on this one, its all in your head!

  • @Slingersbullseye
    @Slingersbullseye 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I know old vid but new sub and yes Tim same but with me my younger brother pointed this said
    "you seem like your life is on pause" which take that as you will but I know what he meant, he's good at observation.

  • @eh4074
    @eh4074 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    While every country has different issues, when I was teaching online children in China, the one thing I found interesting is that in the lessons, it was taught that each person was of value from the janitor to the doctor, and each person has a valuable role in society. It was interesting how suddenly our values changed when we honored front line workers, an how quickly we forgot them. I am not saying China is better than America, but this might be one lesson that everyone can benefit from. It was a beautiful idea, and would have been so powerful to hear at a younger age. It would be so empowering if we encouraged young people to go after their own path and form a healthy mindset. I hope everyone who has listened to this video feels more empowered to take charge of their self worth and knows that you have nothing to prove to world. It isn’t always easy because there is so much negative input, but you are worthy and valuable no matter who has said differently.

  • @chriya0712
    @chriya0712 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You chose the right restaurant brother. That looks like some bad ass fried rice!

  • @shanelaing3464
    @shanelaing3464 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wish l had a friend like you Tim.

  • @Loogie-rt2un
    @Loogie-rt2un 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I have no idea who you are, a friend of mine just randomly showed me this video, but yet this is the only video I felt the need to actually like and comment. Thank you for your kind and wise words, I go through alot of the same myself and its a welcome change to hear someone put it into words. I really needed to hear this video, and I plan on listening to it again and again. Thank you

  • @lilyms5440
    @lilyms5440 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Tim for your video this time. I had lived in 'I am not good enough for things around me. ' I sabotaged myself. I was living in imposter life. I have started to let this toxic thought go since Apr 2022. I have read books watched videos and meet counselors or mentors to leap of my life 🧬. Thank you Tim

  • @jasminemariedarling
    @jasminemariedarling 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I always feel so connected to everything you say in your videos. Maybe you're a Myers- briggs INFJ personality type too ..

  • @lisaclark494
    @lisaclark494 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    You are a beautiful person! I appreciate that you are willing to share your experiences and be vulnerable. Everyone can feel inadequate at times and just knowing that makes it easier. Blessings!

  • @vintagemoth
    @vintagemoth 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    It felt like you were speaking to me. Thank you

  • @Jimbob9315
    @Jimbob9315 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yet another marvellous video Tim! I admire you, for taking the time to share these experiences of yours, in order to offer your wisdom and support to so many around the world. I think someone else said about how what you do is a big thing, being vulnerable and telling your stories and experiences... Hats off to you, as it's not an easy thing to do. When you mentioned the thoughts we hold in our minds being a self-fulfilling prophecy, when we keep telling ourselves that we aren't good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, rich enough and more... That hit home a lot. I realise that I've been telling myself a lot of negative things, which has ended up in me missing out on potential opportunities that could have been something. If I'd have told myself more such things as "I am good enough and I am successful, maybe I wouldn't have developed quite the negative script I have done. I'm trying to change that, but it's a tough one when you've been telling yourself over and over and over all the negative things. Often I've looked at other people and believed they were better than me, smarter than me, more successful than me, richer than me. I became so caught up in the need to be like other people in society, to do as they do that it brought nothing but dissatisfaction and a great unhappiness. You hit the nail on the head when you said the word "sabotage." It's a self-sabotaging prophecy and it is, as you say, setting one's own self up to failure. I never really thought about it before but, as you say, whilst we might be thinking about how successful someone is and feeling a sense of jealousy and insecurity, they may well be thinking the exact same with regards to us! Having that positive mindset is so very important, telling ourselves that things will be alright and that they'll work out. Reminding ourselves that we are worthy and successful because we're on our own path. We must let people be who they are and accept that fact, so that we can focus on our own mindset and journey. We can do this, we can do the things we want to do regardless of what others may think or say or believe. I think if we can somehow let go of this need to be like others, that others are better than ourselves and that we'll never succeed, we can accomplish great things. Keep shining your light on us all Tim, you're the man! ✊🏻

  • @IAmAishaHamyaara
    @IAmAishaHamyaara 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I just turned 30 and The Lord has truly opened my eyes to these things you are saying that I do belong to his family and in the world and that I have a purpose. Kids and all we have a purpose and will from the Lord. I kept feeling that I was wasting time not doing what I desired to do more so because of low self esteem, no support, and feeling it will be too hard for me. I felt like a tiny person in a huge world too big for me. Now I have decided to get a liscense at 30 years old. Lol I was afraid to drive because of accidents where I wasnt even the driver 😩 Took me some years to get past the fear of the wide open roads. Also the financial responsiblity of a car and insurance payments monthly. I had to grow a bit for that type of responsibilty on top of home rent, electric and water bill. I do have a partner but we are not a couple but help eachother with living expenses because we have kids. It makes it easier to do other things like going out of town and buying clothes and shoes. We have a van that his grandmother helped us pay off. In my early 20's I didnt have all this help and favor. Like you said everything was a surprise when now its a regular thing in our life. We can find support somewhere. Our city recieved some govt funding and we applied and they sent our landlord a 3800 dollar check so our rent was paid for about 3 months and covered our water bill and a maintence fee. Jesus is life. Truly and sincerely. I had a hard life and was in foster care. God spoke to me and told me He is my father. Jesus IS that tree of life. He IS the Universe. So glad I found your video. Im glad Im not alone in this big world. 🙏 God bless you and keep you safe at all times. Amen.

  • @AngeliqueTraveler
    @AngeliqueTraveler 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You’re a big man sharing sharing experiences most people don’t want to talk about… this world is harsh and I also identify.

  • @beaulieuonnp593
    @beaulieuonnp593 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love doing volunteer work and carry on doing so, even though lots of people say 'it's not a proper job, just because you aren't earning money. LIfe is 'Oh what to do you do? And they don't expect you do volunteer work as your main purpose... it is not good enough in capitalist society. Recruitment companies are always badgering you to get a proper paid job, even if you hate it and it is bad for mental wellbeing 'uk

    • @Truth-of-the-matter
      @Truth-of-the-matter 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      More people value status and ownership of "things" as the most important things in their lives. So they constantly strive at work to get promotions so they can then buy more stuff which further traps them in a never ending cycle. They took their childhood mind and took it with them to their adult stage: comparison, competition and other old mindsets. I applaud people who are willing to step outside of the "norm" and see life as much more then working and buying.

  • @PraveenSrJ01
    @PraveenSrJ01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Watching this video outside my house 🏡 on my patio on May 14th, 2022 on my younger brothers 30th birthday 🎂

  • @bertonspat129
    @bertonspat129 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love your videos man. You’re genuine. You pop back up in my feed every six months or so and I gotta click

  • @aaronhoggan1984
    @aaronhoggan1984 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I speak for myself, and I think I speak for a great amount of others too, we would love a published book on your philosophies of life.
    Keep thriving! Peace and love

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I appreciate you saying that Aaron! I'm in the beginning stages of deciding what I want to write about and getting back into writing on a daily basis!

  • @babyzorilla
    @babyzorilla 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Tim I hope you know how good your videos are. I know a lot of people are dealing with a feeling of inadequacy. It's important to not give up on yourself. Give yourself a hug every now and again. No it's not weird maybe a little. But it works

  • @briannamorrison380
    @briannamorrison380 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It makes it even harder to get out of that mindset when you feel like your family looks down on you. It's like I'm always trying to win their approval. I haven't even talked to my dad in years because I feel like there's no point unless I can impress him. He sees my step sister as the superior daughter, it's like I was the defective daughter and she's the one he really wanted. It's so extremely hurtful when the people who should be lifting you up make you feel unworthy.
    I have been trying to pull myself up out of the pit of insecurity. One thing I've found that helps me is preparedness. If I'm about to do anything that I haven't done before and I'm insecure about it, I'll research it and learn about it. There are things that I never thought I could do before, until I opened up a book or watched a tutorial and educated myself. I learned that you don't really need to go to school to be educated. There's a whole world of knowledge out there that's readily available to you. You just have to go get it.

  • @Jamilthehedgehog
    @Jamilthehedgehog 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Man this video really helped me out. Definitely look up to you for being able to put yourself out there

  • @SimplyNaturalBlack
    @SimplyNaturalBlack 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hello Mr Timothy POSITIVITY Livestream King. Wow great words of wisdom 💃🏿💃🏿✌🏿💞

  • @3moreroses
    @3moreroses 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you! Gang!

  • @liamkucht
    @liamkucht 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    2:35 this shot was beautifully inserted. symbolic of setting your sights & building your vision, while beautifully abstract

  • @cwats2115
    @cwats2115 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Hi Tim, great message. I'm sure a lot of people can benefit from this video. I remember in my twenties feeling insecure low self-esteem low self-worth but it all changed when I moved away from my hometown with my two small children alone I started a journey of self-discovery and self-love and when I look back to my twenty-year-old self I don't recognize that person. What I've discovered is true confidence comes from the inside.

  • @themarkethustle3090
    @themarkethustle3090 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is a great message, Tim! I recently moved to Seattle and needed to hear this message. Looks like the Universe sent it my way.

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much for the support! It’s really appreciated! 👍🏾

  • @Japhet_driver
    @Japhet_driver หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is probably why I get anxious around certain people

  • @drellz9361
    @drellz9361 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i respect a man like you

  • @hansonel
    @hansonel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Very good points on overcoming insecurity and how it is basically a self fufilling propechy in your head, despite past traumas (some of which require therapy to work through). Have also heard other life coaches say this as well. "I got myself into this situation and I can get myself out of it."
    I also like lifting yourself up into a positvity spiral. A lot of neurologists back this up by turning our default negativity bias into a posivity bias by having gratitude and acceuntating on the positives of life.

  • @heywait1124
    @heywait1124 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    What a badass!! Good man.. before I hit play.. it comes through in your face bro… whatever you have done to light it up you exude greatness…

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wow! Powerful comment! I appreciate that!

  • @albertkirtlandjr6735
    @albertkirtlandjr6735 ปีที่แล้ว

    “I am loved and worthy of more love” yes!

  • @zodglubby
    @zodglubby 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I've actually had people tell me I'm not manly enough, big enough etc. After my wife left me, which was the ultimate you're nit good enough, it's been rough(12 yrs) I git 3 kids I don't wanna hurt though

  • @iStorm-my5fp
    @iStorm-my5fp 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have had my peers sabotage my efforts on many occassions

  • @tym5583
    @tym5583 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your content is fucking quality man!
    Struggling with drinking to much with my gf. She is a giant trigger and very bad influance on me
    Hard to get out
    You make things very clear when u talk about them

  • @DJTEE357
    @DJTEE357 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Positive message my brother. I can relate to most of what you speak about.
    Thank you for creating this platform to express things that we all are going through.
    Keep up the good work 👍🏾

  • @MikeIppolitogroove35
    @MikeIppolitogroove35 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    The universe trumps society. Absolutely! Just as being human trumps classification.

  • @emmabrown6807
    @emmabrown6807 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your words have lifted me out of depression, thank you, and by the way you are very cute! Much love from Wales, UK.

  • @simpleuser0001
    @simpleuser0001 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Every time I watch Tim's videos, I'm blown away by how similar my thoughts and beliefs are with Tim's.

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      'Great minds think alike, and fools seldom differ' hahaha!

  • @dianeorr8937
    @dianeorr8937 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great videoography (is that even a word) Great topic and Pep talk! So blessed of your Wisdom and the scenery is gorgeous! Im having a good day now that I got a TimTalk from the Livestream King himself.... Kuddos!❤🙏😇

  • @TheFreedPerspective
    @TheFreedPerspective 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I’m BLOWN AWAY. This was incredible- I felt it in my HEART!!! The advice was so great💜 And I loved the editing. Seriously great video hOMie!

  • @buzzwig
    @buzzwig 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Great to see you sharing this way! I've struggled all of my life with insecurity and I'm just learning to do what I truly want at age 51. You're inspiring!

    • @javi7602
      @javi7602 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      It's crazy to see how relatable everyone is to this topic. I suppose we all have insecurities and seeing all the messages in the comment section only validates that. We all have our own struggles

  • @ACB2K
    @ACB2K 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Brother, everyone got a gift, but some hid there's under a bushel, others let their gift grow, so it's all a CHOICE.!

  • @davidparnell1903
    @davidparnell1903 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Awesome

  • @kirkmo1666
    @kirkmo1666 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your preaching to the choir!!! Thank you so much for the encouraging words. God bless

  • @allzen0
    @allzen0 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you for talking the truth ❤️

  • @laraoneal7284
    @laraoneal7284 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’ve been binging on all ur vids to catch up with you. You are making my day 2 days in a row. I’m obviously a newbie to ur channel Tim. Pls have patience. I’m getting to know you the best I can. I am hugely impressed. Subbed yesterday and watching you nonstop. Lara from So California.

  • @abro9598
    @abro9598 ปีที่แล้ว

    After reading "Unteathered Soul" I finally woke up. I relate Tim. Thanks!