DON'T DO THIS | Passing without HRT
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 ส.ค. 2021
- Alice sits down and gives an overview of her approach to passing
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No trans girl is complete without a cat.
I'm screwed because I'm allergic to them felines ×w×
@@MetalBansheeX In such a case, acquiring an extra Blåhaj on top of the 1 required can be used as a replacement.
@@MetalBansheeX That's sad. :( -- Cats are great pets for all kinds of people. -- Don't know what your reaction/symptoms are like, but some people actually do okay if they're regulary exposed at a low level (desensitisation) and avoid extended direct contact. I.e. don't rub your face in cat and wash your hands regulary to limit the chance of rubbing it on your face. // Also, the primarily allergen is present in saliva (and other bodily secretions) and cats lick themselves a lot, so if they shed it can get all over the place. That can mean that short-hair cats are a little bit better, because they don't shed as much. Making sure to keep your pet out of some private spaces (like a bedroom or office for WFH people) can help too.
no thanks on a box of poop in my place :D
is a gecko and snek good enough?????
i shave in the shower, its much better for me imo. Also depending on how dark your hair is you may not need to do like half of the upper thigh. Always do legs though. In general you just need to shave up to wherever everyone will actually see. That also means if you are single right now, (given you arent tucking with adhesives), you do NOT need to shave your privates. You can if you want to but no one is seeing that. Same thing for body, if its winter, you do not need to shave your belly because no one will see that. Also if you can, get a cheap epilator first and see if you can handle the pain/can do it freely, if you can great, you cut your grooming time a lot. Also if you want to get around the lighting without doing a flashlight or anything, once youve shaved once, after you shave up the leg, feel for any hairs with your hands, and then reshave in that area. You do not need to reapply shaving cream if you put enough on as its main purpose is to soften your hairs. Id say the bare minimum is face, legs, armpits. Legs and Armpits should be every 2-4 days, depending on circumstance. The more consistently you shave, the faster you will get at it.
Some people get mad but i call my dog a freak of nature cause hes super SUPER weird. He dosent bark, he yodels. He sometimes screams like a person, and he has human eyes. Hes daddy's little abomination. Its affectionate. You calling your cat a terrorist made me think of this
That is the best comment i have seen
Wash face with warm water and soap first, then after, wash with cold water and soap. That way you close your pores back up that way you get less acne. Then moisturize 💫 i was raised female and had to shave my whole body to be "appropriate for church" lol but yeah ⭐️
Knowing what I do about how evangelical culture enables grooming this is a huge yikes from me
@seanrheams5261 yeah, it was NOT good lol. But im outta there now at least
EDIT: This is way too damn long. Read the reply for my actual process instead of everything you *can* do.
I'm late to the party but for anyone stumbling on this later than me here is how i do my makeup.
Makeup is basically painting, you have layers I'll break each section, although this is the order i do it in;
General Face;
- Cleanse and moisturize your skin, shave as well. Sometimes the foundation will sit on the dead skin cells and look flaky - gross and loos bad, fine hairs can do the same.
- Primer. Doesnt matter what kind, it makes a barrier between the skin and makeup so you dont get acne breakouts. Put all over the face.
- Concealer. Tap onto spots that are dark marks, eye bags, spots, scarring. Let it dry for around 20-30s and then dab in the same spot with a blender/finger.
- Foundation. This is your general coverage to hide redness/discoloration, it sits on top of concealer so it looks more natural. One squirt on back of hand and spread out, then dab onto face. Using less will look more natural and concealer is doing the bulk of the work on blemishes.
- Blush. Dont make a face when putting on blush because you'll naturally reset face position and it'll be off. Put on cheek bone with relaxed face and blend out.
- Highlighter. Above the cheek bone, it catches the light and looks pretty c:
Eyes;
- Eyeliner before eyelashes because we're gonna curl em, it'll be harder with them in the way. You want to follow your natural eyelash length and go to the corner of your outer eye you dont have to do a wing, but if you want to - go for it. The point is to make your eyelashes look darker at the roots.
- Curling lashes. It looks like a torture device, but my sister helped make it easier. Place it vertical in the eye socket, and once the lashes are in, rotate 90 degrees. You want to squeeze as you move your hand upwards to crimp the eyelashes into a curled position. Try not to catch the eyelid, very painful 0/10 dont recommend.
- Mascara. Hold it sideways like you're handing over a bill and rest it against the lashes. Blink into it, move, blink, repeat. You can encounter clumping if there's too much material on the wand, so you can wipe some of the material off in the container before you try to apply it on your eyes.
- Eyeshadow. Not something i have much experience with, a nice simple idea is to take two colors, maybe one that compliments your eye color and a neutral and place them either side of your top eyelid blending between them. For extra pizzas you can add glitter in the middle to brighten the eyelid and make a better blend finish.
- White pencil eyeliner? I dont know what it's called specifically so I described it. Draw a small amount on the inside of the eyes next to the nose. Then blend it out with a finger, will make the eyes look brighter.
- Eyelashes. They're a pain I never do them because they're too finicky. But really feminizing once you can do them. You'll need a set of eyelashes, eyelash glue and place them above your eyelashes really close to them. Most eyelashes wont be your size, so you'll have to cut them to shape to match your natural ones.
Eyebrows;
- Pluck. Yeah it sucks, but it's the best and easiest way to get a shape you want. Especially if you have a lot of eyebrow hairs.
- Pomade. It's good for most people who arent eyebrow deficient like me. Can also be useful for maintaining eyebrow shape for longer. You brush it on, it's like mascara for eyebrows.
- Eyebrow pencil. You can draw in additional hairs to make your eyebrows more full, outline the eyebrows to make them sharper, or fill in patchy spots. Match your eyebrow pencil color to your eyebrow color. If you dont have many eyebrows like me, match your hair color. In my case black/really dark brown.
Lips;
- Lipgloss. Can be used on your natural lips or on top of lipstick. If on top of lipstick use your finger rather than the wand, you dont want lipstick being dipped into your gloss.
- Lip Plumper. Causes a mild irritation of the lips to cause them to swell, tingles, bit annoying but they usually come as a 2 in 1 with lip gloss so maybe try it out see if it's for you.
- Lipstick. You can choose whatever color you want here. But if you dont know, go for the same color as your nipples. Weird, I know but this is what my sister recommended to me.
- Lip Liner. I never do this, but trace your lip line, if you want to exaggerate your lips size do so, but be careful as it can look like drag which may not be what you're going for.
The rest are going to be tips and things to avoid.
You want the middle of your upper lip to be an M shape, this can be done by making an ah mouth shape and starting at the point apex.
Avoid going to the corners of your mouth. You can follow the lines perfectly, but if you go to the corner of your mouth, the lipstick will look smudged and out of place there.
Dry lips = dry looking lipstick, so use a chapstick beforehand to keep things moist and remain hydrated. You could even moisturize your lips if you like.
Contour;
I will honestly say i know very little here but will share what i do know.
- For more fem look, round off your forehead at the hairline with a dark color - bronzer, or dark nude colours blended out will achieve this. If masc look, square it off, think crew cut.
- You can also round off your jawline in the same manner and thin the neck by doing the same. If trying to look masc, do under the jawline, this squares off your jaw looking more masc.
- The aim of contouring is to create the illusion of shadow, which our brains see as depth making things look more receded and the contrary is true - brighter = pulled foreward.
So more intricate work on the nose might pull aspects forward whilst pulling others back. I'm not experienced enough to guide to this extent. Contouring the cheeks, neck, forehead and jaw is easier.
Set;
- Setting spray. This is a good all rounder, spray yourself in a + action, then a X action to get full coverage. Works well with Dewy/glass skin makeup styles.
- Setting powder. This sets a matte finish, but creates a softer look. It's also referred to as baking. It's typically done after the base layer [Primer, concealer, foundation] has been done to set all of that before you layer on top. It's advised to set the eyes immediately after finishing the concealer/foundation on them to prevent creasing.
General tips;
- Wet your blender. You want to rinse it under the tap and squeeze so it slowly increases in size. Then squeeze so most of the water is out. The goal here is for the water to prevent picking up too much material with your other products and just soaking it into the sponge.
- Use the same primer/foundation type - oil vs water vs silicon based. If you get an oil based primer and a water based foundation, you'll end up in sadsville. It'll separate and look weird.
You can see if it's oil, silicone or water based by the product ingredients.
Silicone based will have ingredients like dimethicone at the top of the list.
Oil based foundations will have oil as their 2nd or 3rd ingredient. The higher the ingredients usage, the higher in the ingredients list it will be.
Water based will have neither oil nor silicone at the top of the ingredients list and will instead list water.
- Fixing mistakes;
For the sake of argument let's say you made a mistake with eyeliner. Wait until the eyeliner is dry. If you remove it before then it'll smudge and make things worse.
Use a Q tip wet with micellar water to remove the eyeliner.
If you're being lazy like me; Same as before, wait until dry, then blend it in with a beauty blender you've already used for foundation. The foundation will give coverage to hide the mistake.
Q tip is probably better but I'm lazy, sue me.
That's all I can think of.
So you read my small feature length novel about everything right?
Doubt it, it's a wall of text.
This will be my process with only a few supplemental tips. Just what i do, as i do it.
For more depth you can read the above to get at those sections at your leisure.
- Shave face.
- Cleanse + Moisturize.
- Wet blender for use. You'll know it's ready when it basically doubles in size, squeeze excess water out and it's ready.
- Primer all over face.
- Concealer on blemishes/eyebags.
- Foundation spread on back of hand first to reduce amount used and look more natural. Put all over face.
- Set here with either setting spray or setting powder.
- Blush just below cheek bone, blend out.
- Highlighter directly on the cheek bone, blend out.
- White eyeliner pencil in corner of eye near nose, blend out.
- Brush eyebrows into place and use eyebrow pomade to fill them out.
- Eyeliner, follow lash line to corner of eye, wing optional.
- Curl eyelashes.
- Mascara on eyelashes, lower optional. Remove excess mascara before applying so you dont get clumping.
- If feeling spicy, contour forehead, blending out
- Lip gloss on lips. I havent found a lipstick i like otherwise I'd do the lipstick before the gloss.
- Set again so everything stays in place.
- Stare at yourself smiling like an idiot in the mirror for an hour, somehow convince yourself you're not trans for 3 years because it's just make up, it's just a dress and it's just fake boobs even though it makes you inexplicably happy to look fem. That's me. I'm calling myself out.
thx
"I do it first thing in the morning at noon, when most people get up". Hmm...
For clothes, Etsy is your friend. And even more so if you're big (tall and/or wide).
The cat is very cute
This is pin-worthy
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ANOTHER FLUFFLER OMG
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with the right clothes and long hair it's mostly enough to pass visually as a girl. Voice is the main clocking things, that's for sure. if you want 100% pass there are so many niche things you can do to maximise the chance of passing, like how to walk, shrinking your body, smiling a lot. oversize hoddies and mask were my best friends before hrt, then i got into eyeliner, then foundation when i was already in HRT. never stuffed my boobs, i don't like having fakes things on me, natural hair, natural boobs uwu. tho they are quite small, bu noverthless they do not make me pass less. of course if they were bigger people would notice more which means people will mostly think i'm a girl based on them, but also old geezer staring at my boobs
Thanks for the advice on height to wear skirts, I was watching this on my lunch break, changed the height and it looks a lot better. Here's some advice I've heard for choosing clothes, try to go for tighter clothes on top or bottom and loose on the bottom. In general it looks better than tight and tight or loose and loose. For example, if you're wearing skinny jeans, don't tuck your shirt in, but do if you're wearing a skirt
The sock trick is brilliant
I'm surprised people don't work on their voices much, it seems one of the more important ones to me
suspect that's because it's nearly impossible to truly change your voice without surgery. Well, except for trans men who can achieve a somewhat deeper voice through HRT (testosterone). And vocal cord surgery can have rather poor results, just read about Julie Andrews. --- That said, people can and do learn how to speak/sing in a different register as well as vary the shape/stress on their vocal cords a little bit.
@@jnharton based on the videos I watched on TransVoiceLessons, it looks like voice feminisation for trans women is easier than masculination for trans men, and you can achieve a pretty convincing female voice without surgery
@@jnharton Not true. The voice we speak with is just a habit and can be changed. Voice training can make amab people sound fem-passing with enough effort and time. Also testosterone can make your voice really deep, it's definitely more than "somewhat deeper".
@@jnharton I am naturally a deep bass, but with a few months of voice training I did like a year and a half ago my voice is "undeniably cis"
Not everyone wants to. It’s also daunting. Hope that helps ☝🏼
Ok for anyone still watching this who has curly hair (maybe straight too idk) WEAR A BONNET TO SLEEP. Im telling you the difference is literally night and day, my hair used to look like a birds nest when i wake up and now its so much easier to maintain, looks alot nicer, needs less washing, and is probably alot healthier.
In terms of hairstyles unfortunately my hair is still too short to make a nice ponytail. A few styles Ive liked so far are pigtails (be warned, theyre harder than they look), headbands/head scarfs, or coils. I also like gathering the hair that would hang in front of my ears and tying it behind my head around forehead level while letting the hair on the back of my head hand loose, idk if this has a name but i think it looks really good and its very practical.
Also if anyone knows a good way of dealing with facial hair that isnt just shaving constantly i would very much like to know😢
Sugar scrub=> yes!! Also you can make your own sugar scrub with avocado, honey, and of course sugar. If avocados are too $$, olive oil works good!
of coarse sugar
Im going in for my first electrolysis appointment soon, one thing i hate about it is that i cant shave my face in the days leading up to my appointment
Gosh I miss you. I need so much advice, and I 100% vibe with you ❤ Please come baaaaack 😭😭
I've done Nair a few times. Did it on my leg once, went fine. Then I did it on the stupid little patch of hair just as my belly starts, that went fine. Then tried my front bottom and that worked. No sensitivity through all of this. One day I go for everything front to back down there and and found out the back wasn't happy for a few days. Stang quite a bit and yeah... no bueno. Sure was damn nice being so clean down there but I wouldn't say it's worth it xD
Nair never worked for me sadly so I am going to try getting waxed by my friend soon
@@falloutphantom4972 it wont do anything if it gets frothed
nair has def worked my with me, would def recommend to any transfems to get rid of hair. even tho its a meme rn with the nair video, its actually a great solution for body hair anywhere, and i mean ANYWHERE (you know what im talking about)
I use one razor for my entire body every 10 days and it works pretty well
get the bilateral orchiectomy done and you won't need to shave your anything except face/pits/nips/crotch unless you do electrolysis/laser etc. also, best disposables for shaving are Schick Hydro 5 blade if you have not tried them once you do you won't go back. :) spot on the shave gel great brand
I find it neat that we have the same razor. Been using it for a while and I can recommend it. It works 🌟 amazing 🌟
It's a complete rip-off, though. You don't need more than one blade. Get a safety razor and large packs of individual blades, and you'll save hundreds over years.
You looked around yourself in the closest, and realized you don't have to come out to start looking good
Girrrrrrllll!!! I love those hearts around your neck!!! 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
Just eyeliner on the bottom... For me that colours the lashes too. Mascara on the top :)
I wax my facial hair. It's hard work and takes over an hour, but no shadow afterwards.
I used to just shave but I eventually bit the epilator bullet and I regret nothing.
Except on the face. Don't do it on the face. I'm getting that lasered.
Also nether regions. Either stick to shaving or get a pro to epilate that for you.
I got super lucky and unlucky. My legs are super not sensitive and I can just nair them, but my other hair is way too course and demolishes razors.
i hope you do another video update soon!!!
What’s your big 3?
Alice, you should ditch the Fusion and switch to a safety razor. Multi-blade razors are a gigantic rip-off. You can get a safety razor and a 100 count pack of blades (3-4 uses each) for under $10. Compare that to $20 for a pack of 4 cartridges you can only use four times each.
How do you pass with HRT? ;-;7
you know I would attempt working on my voice but I want to confuse people as much as possible bc it's funny... that and also the majority of my family being christians that I'm assuming wouldn't be too accepting of me being trans
Religion is a b.s. Reason
I feel this. Raised evangelical Christian myself. Look into Yarhouse, he's located in Chicago. But his speeches and book (on audible) the saving grace that made my family accept me (they did try to send me to him to have him tell me I was wrong, but he just looked at them and was like "he paints his nails, but he's a guy. Don't know why you're here." Especially cause we live 16 hrs from Chicago lol)
@@elijahhaag6239I read up a little on him (will definitely have to read more) but so far I’m finding that he sounds like he’s against all of it?
I get no dysphoria from my voice, I'm not interested in "going stealth", and I'm perfectly happy being "a woman with a man's voice". As long as I pass visually, I can walk around safely- and if I'm making the choice to talk to someone- then I've already decided It's safe to do so and I don't care if they immediately know I'm transgender.
But holy shit I'm voice training anyway just so I can perfectly pass- only to then drop into the deepest, most belligerent, most manly tone possible- just to fuck with people.
You missed an "h" when copying one of the links to the description.
why are there so many things to worry about? :((
nice smelling things are top tier :D
No trans girl is complete without a cat and a keyboard. LOL!!!!
Literally me, also great video :)
As a trans questioning teen, Id would really like to try passing with the help of a friend who gave me one of her bras
Girl I straight love ya hair an mine Is naturally wavy when it's grown out fully Witch its is yass but um BTW I'm pre hrts atm an just fully came out who inam but ya just love ya vids somuch girl ya do awesome just like wish I gar girls/women friends who could relate that I could fully level with ya know girl.xd
Did you belong to a trans chat group or used to be?? I believe we have chatted before if so.
Joke that had me DYING the other day
"I'd come out of the closet, but it's too fabulous in here"
You should look at the camera when you talk
She likely has a script on her second monitor which she is looking at, So if she wasn't looking at it that might lower the quality of the video, or at least that's what I do when recording, though I don't use a webcam