I was pregnant at 14. She’s now 40. It is scary. I went on to graduate HS. Had more children. Became an Esthetician. Got my Undergraduate degree then my PostBac then my Masters and I’m a yoga teacher! Anything is possible.
8th grade is unbelievable. I really hope kids start seeing all these recent teen pregnancies and realize that protection or just not having sex is the best answer. Accidents happen and it can change your entire life
i had a friend in eighth grade who got pregnant. i initially thought she got rped but she told me it was consensual (she was 14). i saw her at a store and she was crying and asked where menstrual products were and then ended up asking where the pregnancy tests were bc they weren't in that area. i bought them for her along with condoms so she could be safe next time. she ended up getting an abortion
@@roselyngomez3271 Which is weird because stats show that teen pregnancy has gone down dramatically since the late 90s when they started pumping the “don’t get pregnant” thing into schools
i’ve been there. hang in there girl! i was r@pEd by my bsf’s brother at the age of 16 and now i have a 1 year old daughter. i love my daughter very much. as for my r@p!st, he is in jail. there are so many of us teen moms and we have to look out for eachother. i couldn’t imagine a life without my daughter now. god bless you.❤ update: i want to thank everyone for their support. god bless everyone!
Your situation is way different than this girl situation. You got raped the girl that’s talking volunteer to have unprotected sex now I am so sorry that you had got raped that was so messed up and I’m glad that you know you taken a negative and turn it into a positive but this little girl right here was hot in the tail.
I know! It's different if it's sa or just being sexually active. You chose the possibility you might end up pregnant with maybe no support or baby daddy. It takes two to tango. So I don't feel bad for the exception (people who have sex just for the pleasure without thinking about consequences) because it's not my fault they made a bad decision. That was something they had to figure out themselves. Hopefully the child can grow up well and not make the same mistake as their parents. I know I'm being blunt but it's true.
@@lucaccap1043It's because of people like you it's now normalized. It's. Not. Normal. You should not try to say it is. Especially for a 14 YEARS OLD, she doesn't pass the age of consent yet
it’s crazy how many people in the comments have been r@ped and had children young it’s so sad and i’m so sorry for all of you to have to go through that but i’m also glad you are happy with your kids and love and support them and i also support you guys i hope the best for everyone!
@@Thaylovekotaaa I wonder where were their parents. Was their mom also a single mom. These are things women don’t think about when they are gone to work all the time or having others raise their children. Hopefully they care raise their children better
My mom got pregnant at 14 and had me at 15 and luckily she had my grandmother as a support system, but she worked her butt off to take care of me even though she was still a kid herself. She was and still is a great mom and I pray we get to grow old together.
Same here, but my mom had me at 16. My grandma was my guardian but I also had my dad, paternal grandma, aunts, uncles, God mom and great grandparents. I really had a tribe to support me. I couldn't be more appreciative. I am now 37 and my mom passed almost 2 years ago, of stage 4 breast cancer. She was only 52. I miss her something terrible. RIP mommy 🙏🏾💕
Aww that is such a sweet thing to say. I bet you are such a blessing to your mom ❤ I too hope to grow old with my son who I had at a young age and essentially grew up side by side (I wouldn't have admitted it at the time. I thought I knew everything). ❤
Same here I had my son a day bf I turned 17 quit school to support him and keep him off welfare...I worked McDonald's and burger King and my mother watched him while I was at work...
My sister was raped in 6th grade & gave birth in 7th grade and lemme tell ya… it was not easy. Everyone (when I say everyone I mean our family, teachers, school staff, and just random ppl out 'n' about) was judging her and accusing her of having sex, sneaking boys in through our bedroom window, watching porn, ect. No one in the family (besides me and my sister) accepts the baby our treats her like a member of the family. Idk first-hand how it is, but I have witnessed first-hand what its like and it's hard. I feel so bad for other teen moms going through this and just in general. Hang in there. You've got this. It may not seem like it now… but it will get better. Sending lots of hugs & love to other teen moms. You're doing great!🤰🩷🤍💙
That sounds incredibly traumatic to carry a child under these circumstances. I hope your niece is able to feel loved as accepted and that your sister is holding her head high and enjoying the blessing that she was so brave to bring into this world, an innocent child. I hope having the baby brings healing to the whole situation the rape the suspicion etc.
And situations like what happened to your sister ate why we need to support people with uteruses! We need the ability to ab⁰rt children forced upon someone through ræp. Your sister should not have had to suffer so much. I feel for her and I hope you continue to support her in any way you can
@@dawnchesbro4189 Abortions aren't banned here but it's not believed in by our "family," therefore it will not happen to anyone in this house. So technically, she could have.
@@myreallife6386 The boy that did it was the 19 year old boy in our bus " middle school & highschool ride together) that's or at least was obsessed with her. Btw, Thank you. I'll tell her……& Kinley.🩷💖
I was 17 & thought that was young! My parents were thankfully supportive. I had my life together. Married his dad. After 2 more kids, their dad turned into a drug addicted alcoholic with a bad temper. I struggled after leaving him working at a daycare. Finally got a great paying job, few years diagnosed with a brain tumor! I've struggled, but was able to raise 3 boys, that are now great men. All with great families, homes & jobs.
Yeah duh.. At that age guys only liked you for your looks.. People change alot…Only a very few are committed to staying with the first girl they got pregnant by. Girls are just a number to a guy lol because they need credit to practice until they actually are ready to settle down with someone they actually love. How do i know this? Ok this guy he got a girl pregnant at 16 and i found out through him talking and showing pictures of his son. We work together as that girl he met in school…Anyways, it funny because when we first met he was 18 and although he grew he didn’t seem mature at the time.. He was love bombing me, he was flirting and touching all women etc and he wasn’t serious at the time even though he liked me. The thing though is as our bond grew so much so did his heart.. How? Well once his friend ask him “ Why isn’t he helping me?” When i offered to help him because i liked him lol. His response was.. “ She said she will help?” And than a few minutes later he thank me. Fast forward now.. He seems so scared to lose me. He more caring, he steps in to help me even when i say i got it we fight who will do it lol and his friend dont even have to tell him to help me now..he go do it on his own. He alot more protective and he opening up to me rather than putting on a face.. The best of all he forgot his baby momma. Like yeah. Of course he going to see his son but it more of her responsibility compare to him. He has full freedom. As all he does is pay child support and he can be with someone he truly love. Now i never said he didn’t like his baby momma because there was obvious attraction,but base on how he’s treating me and really scared of losing me it like he found out what TRUE LOVE IS…Now he does love his son and he is responsible to still be in his child life but he have no feelings for his baby momma. Also how do i know? Because i gave him plenty of time to leave he always come back to me and if we avoid each other for so long.. he withdraws as his family get worry so much. Also i saw how he changed into A Mature Adult that wants to wait. It sucks because i want him soooo badly, but he wants to wait until he finish his career which isnt long lol and provide for me the right way and give me all his love and support rather then knowing its just lust and selfish sex just to please himself. What i am saying is…People change especially guys. They aren’t mature at age 25 and younger. Also girls don’t understand… even if they made mistakes so young why would a guy waste all his youth on one women that he accidentally got pregnant by so young when he missed out screwing it out until he got tired of that life and knowing when to give that life all up. He became an alcoholic because he’s depressed. He screwed up his youth and although he love his kids it just he wasn’t really ready for it.. It was forced by accident and now he have to live by it for years… When you drink the same milk for years it get boring..
my bsf was raped at the age of 15 by our other bsf brother. her family hated her and said she should’ve have done that even though it wasn’t her fault, she was tricked. my family understood her situation though and now she is my adopted sister and we help take care of her child, who is a happy and healthy 5 year old girl and her name is Hope because she is always a ray of hope.
what about people being less shameful of these topics and actually TEACHING children and teenagers the dangers of it, or the precautions they should take? NO teenager is going to stop themselves from doing that, their hormones are in blast. I'm not supporting that kind of stuff, but prohibiting it won't make it ANY difference, it's already prohibited by everyone, but do you see teen pregnancies decreasing? No.
@Vkeiaddiction what? No. They meant that you should provide the support for teenagers who happened to get pregnant, as in provide them with mental health care and child support. Just because you care for a child who got pregnant doesn't mean you supported the act of them getting pregnant.
I agree. But sometimes I wonder where you draw the line with that statement? Because in most cases I’ve seen, when teen moms get supported, they feel comfortable enough to get pregnant again because they felt like they had enough lenience to. So WHAT would be the correct approach to the situation, other than just saying “don’t get pregnant”?
Condom or not aswell as birth control doesn’t even live up to its meaning I’m an adult now but when I was 15 and being experimental we used a condom yes but it broke no he wasn’t big for it to break it just happened so it’s not the kids at fault for this it’s the company and the factory making this and with now project 2025 they will most likely sabotage prevention for it more
I was molested and impregnated at 12 and had my daughter at 13. I'm now 44 amd she is 31 this year. It was very difficult. I do not regret keeping and raising her. She is a beautiful human being. I do wish I had not had to make such grown decisions as a child myself, but it helped make me who I am today and the world is a better place with my daughter in it. ❤ I'm a grandma now too❤
I’m so sorry that happened to you, and am proud of your perseverance. I’m 17 and it’s so disheartening to see r@pe victims, especially really young ones, have to decide whether or not to keep their babies, especially since some parents may be reminded they were assaulted every time they look at their child. I wish you nothing but the best ❤️
Greetings, beloved sister. My heart goes out to everyone, especially you. Whatever you're going through, know that you are not alone and that you are strong, brave, and a confident warrior. Everything's going to be alright and okay in the end, all worth it. Jesus loves you❤may God bless your kind words 🙏 ✨️ 💖 ❤️You didn't deserve to endure all of this... awful. 😢I hope to God you find the help that you deserve...! That is awful to hear that.😢may God help you 🙏 😢 😞 💔 ❤
My parents would have sliced my head. Even after Uni at 23, I told my dad I wanted to get married, he jumped through the roof! “ You can’t be thinking of getting married- you are still a baby” He finally agreed!
Yeah but pretty unrealistic. Take steps and be responsible that’s the problem though. I 100% knew at 16 how to BOT get pregnant….but when those hormones hit I just didn’t care. I was lazy so I went for the depot shot: once every 3 months ruined my body! Severe depression major mood changes I wasn’t ready to handle the emotions sex carried with it to my boyfriend. Breaking up destroyed me I was so unstable. Never got pregnant but eventually put my self in harms way for disease because I lost it
My mom really went through it. She left home at 14, met a much older guy who got her pregnant at 15, and had me at 16. She had to drop out of high school because she was dealing with pregnancy and mono at the same time. Yet now, after everything, she's the strongest woman I know. I've made sure to stay far far away from sex in my teenage years to make sure no girls in my life have to go through what she did.
Bro said I don’t recommend getting pregnant as a teen. Y’all need to stop acting like you don’t know how babies are made. If you’re gonna act grown, you’re gonna face the grown up responsibilities.
yesss thats the biggest thing, taking responsibility for ur actions, especially when you knew what could happen. When you decide to do grown up things there are going to be grown up consequences.
@@Arffff03 i agree. not knowing about contreception and safe sex is literally how people get pregnant by accident. in my own experience, we have only had 1 girl get pregnant at 14 (she's 22 now) and it hasnt happened since. why? because they improved our sex ed classes!
With all this damn social media, I’m sure these teenagers KNOW exactly what birth control is! Let’s not sit here and act like they’re innocent to sex ed or what’s going on when they have the entire internet at their fingertips!
I started having sex at 17 wound up pregnant with my oldest has become my best friend I wouldn’t change anything for the world she and my husband are the only good thing that came out of the relationship
That's so contradictory. You cannot support a pregnant teen without supporting teen pregnancy. If you support the pregnant teen more teens are gonna see that. There's no consequences for their actions if yall help every teen. The teen chose it now they should live with it.
Stay strong. I am yet another person who got drugged. I was already six months along by the time I found out that not only was I pregnant, but I had been r@p3d at 13. I was a virgin and didn’t have a boyfriend. I’m really really glad that you have the love and support from your family to be able to keep your baby. I did not. I was kicked out for getting pregnant called a whore and gave my baby up for adoption because I did not want to live on the street with my baby at 13. Sometimes you can do everything right and it still ends up wrong. I am grateful to the family that I got to pick for my child and they are awesome.
Oh I am so very sorry for what you were made to endure 😔 it was wrong! I know there is a special place on hell for that sick freak .It was NEVER your fault and you should have NEVER been blamed! But I also would like commend you for being strong and making the right decision in the end.Not even one has the courage to do so and you were a child nonetheless. May God bless you and keep you ❤
I’m sorry you had to go through that But you definitely made the right choice to give your baby up for adoption, you thought of your child’s future over your own and that says a lot about who you are, I hope you have grown up to be the best version of yourself and know that your child was Wanted and Loved by the couple who adopted your baby..🥰🥰
You are a strong soul and I thank God that although you were alone with hard decisions to make, you made the best ones. You should be a an aware speaker in junior high schools
The scariest part is the female body physically isnt ready at 14 for safe birth. A big factor in maternal mortality rates is the age of mothers. Less developed can mean very young mothers. I'm so glad she went to a dr right away instead of hiding it. 🎉 responsible action right there
I'm not saying this is okay but scientifically once you have a period your body is ready for conception. Ages ago (again not saying this is ok) girls as young as age 12/13 were being married off to men to have children and make families this is so when the men die the women would still be young enough to care for the children Also you're right about maternal death rates dealing with woman's age but it is mainly older woman (geriatrics pregnancies) starting from the early age of 38
14 isn’t that young . Most girls have had their periods for a few years by then and their bodies are developing /developed already. Only in most recent days has teen pregnancy been taboo. Historically woman have been having babies much earlier than we are now . Im not saying girls should be popping out babies in their teens though.
Im not talking mentally, I mean physically. Do you realize how long you need to be exposed to certain hormones to finish the biological maturity process. Unlike men who have access to their hormones all month on 24 hour cycle it take a woman a month for the same hormone cycle, which only starts being produced after menstruation starts😅 Biologically female bodies take longer to mature from start of puberty to physical maturity due to limited access to hormones. Just because it can do something doesn't mean it should. Kids these days are getting periods in 1st grade (7yo) should they have kids because of a period? @sallypanda1014
Not to mention once pregnant new hormones are added to the mix to finish prepping. An example is we can't produce milk until body is exposed to pregnancy to finish physical development of mammary glands
I got pregnant at 16 and my doctor said that our body’s are made for it at that age idk about 14 but people were way more mature and ready in ancient days than now
Honey if you don’t want kids at the age of 14 either don’t have sex that young and if you do it’s called protection such as a condom or birth control or both
This is why it’s important to have real conversations with your kids about what could happen if they do the thing with a boy. My mom had me at 18 and I’m glad she was always honest about the struggles of being a young mom and how my grandma had to raise both of us. She spoke to me like an adult as soon as I started my 🩸 and gave me a detailed run down of what that meant. She didn’t glamorize it, and I also lived it. Young girls, this isn’t cute. Don’t do it you don’t have Kylie Jenner money.
@@kelsilulu Do the thing with a boy? What are you talking about? I think the word you are looking for is 'intercourse ' or having sex. You can do lots of things with boys eg. go shopping, go to the pictures, have lunch. You need to be more explicit.
She is already pregnant and shaming her won't help . The only thing society can do to prevent future teen pregnancy is to give them healthy access to ACCURAGE sources at school and communicate with their caregivers how influential the " talk " can be. I'm not saying support 13 year Olds and buy them rubbers . I'm saying make sure that they UNDERSTAND what puberty is , what healthy / intimacy is as well us the emotional and mental factors that comes with it.
maybe american culture needs to stop making sex and sexual temptation soooo normalized no reason for mfs to normalize hookup culture when in reality… we shouldn’t even be sleeping with someone till we are married because stuff like this.
Erm, as an 8th grader myself, not seeing myself doing any act whatsoever until im married, I will simply say: dont have sex. If your boyfriend was doing it with consent, and you both knew the consequences, I believe if you want that responsibility or not, you have to raise it. Because that was your decision. But if you were r@ped or uneducated, I understand. And as for your parents, I believe they should care more about their CHILD having a baby. As they only had you 13-14 years ago themselves.
Very intellectual response, I can see you going far in life with this mentality love. Sometimes it's easier said than done and children believe the consequences for their actions are substantially lower than what they're told, with trends and ways to stay afloat I can understand how alot of teens have fallen down the rabbit hole of following the crowd. I'm 35 and one of very few who don't have children from my yr at school, and all that I spoke to who had them young have all compared their lives to me wishing they done it differently, funny I wouldn't have minded having children by now but to see so many regretting their youth descions I'm glad I listened somewhat to my parents and didn't grow up too soon. Enjoy your youth as much as you can 😊
You can do it!! 💕 I’ve been in your shoes. 14 years old 8th grade pregnant! Had my baby did another year of 8th grade, but I kept going! Well, 10th grade my son was born. Now 17 with 2 gifts from above. I kept going!! Graduated at 19 yrs old. Joined the military 6 month out of high school. I retired at 40 yrs old 2015 from US Navy. My daughter 35 now college grad (BA-psychology) married 3 children, teaches Japanese at her children’s private school, son 32 (business owner) no children Thank God for family support. God has been good to us!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@dyshae, Honestly you need to tell BOTH the GOOD and BAD side of walking in your shoes in that area esp since many teens don’t have family support like you did. Thank God you didn’t have my Mom because she already told me and my Sis that we would be going straight to the abortion clinic and she meant every word.
@sherrisolomon8673 well your mom can't force you to have an abortion, but I definitely don't advise you get pregnant. I had my first at 21 and I'm 44 now, I still say I was wayyy too young even at 21! My mom had a baby at 14, my sis had one at 16..
@@alinamuzafarsometimes it’s not a choice (rape), sometimes protection doesn’t work (condom breaks or other forms of birth control), sometimes a lack of sex ed at a young age.
@@AlphaHills condoms are 100% I mean or birth control and it’s fine if it safe and the teens I mean TEENAGERS(16-17) are both consenting and the parents are aware it’s fine. Abstinence doesn’t work for everyone.
I was 17 when I had my first born, it was a lil bit of a struggle but my mom was all the support I needed. Recently my 14yo niece just had a baby & a birthday she’s 15 now & we all are her support system. Ik how scary it is to have them young but I can just imagine at 14! Sex is overrated & this is coming from a pregnant mom of 2. My godfather used to tell me the 3 B’s (Boys Bring Babies) I should’ve believed him back then. But I love my children I’ll just make sure they’ll know how much their mom has struggled to get to where she is now. It’s no joke. I’ve been in the shelter with my kids, we’re literally growing up together. I wish I would’ve waited so badly but I don’t regret em ❤️.
i love how you told your mom and didn’t hide it from her i’m in 8th grade rn and i couldn’t imagine having to go through that very happy you kept your baby girl 🤍🩷
My mother who is now very old and not apart of my life anymore lost her virginity when she was 7 no she was not r@ped. She did it with her crush. In second grade! My entire childhood she encouraged me and my siblings to do the nasty and sleep around and I stayed strong and waited until marriage. I lasted the longest in my family with her bad influence.
@@Faye_Bakkerthat’s really good of you even if you don’t wait till marriage doing it 2nd grade is unbelievable and after 11th or 12 th it’s fine but still
@@Canadiangrammarpoliceit has nothing to do with kicking their kid out and everything to do with teaching your children about protecting themselves if they decide to have sex. You’d be surprised how many teenagers (and sometimes early 20s) have no clue what birth control is or how to obtain it. In the US, you don’t need parental consent to obtain birth control, even for someone as young as 13 or 14. There are states that are obligated to contact the parents to inform them but consent isn’t needed to get it. They do offer sex ed class at school but a parent has to sign off on it. Those who refuse to allow their kids to attend are usually those who think young teenagers aren’t sexually active or that the school is overstepping by teaching it (yet they also refuse to teach them at home). Outside of non consensual/forced sex, ignorance is the only reason teenagers get pregnant so young. It’s not something you celebrate or get happy about because it shouldn’t happen to begin with. It’s totally a reflection on the parents.
this is the same girl who bullied me in middle school for no reason lol, she moved but i still go to highschool w the babys father and him and his friends are still the same assholes they were in middle school. im also not the only one her and her friends bullied/made fun of. they were assholes. it got so bad i moved during the start of 8th grade year and went back to school for 9th grade but they still do the same thing just not as bad, they stare and whisper, they gag at me, all the usual bully stuff. again not sure abt her cuz she moved and goes to my schools rival school now so i havent seen or talked to her in forever. Edit: im not sure how to prove to yall this is true without like completely doxxing her, the babys father, and myself so idk what to tell yall all i can say is the babys dads name is jensen, again rlly not sure how to prove this also if ur gonna say im lying dont even bother to reply
14 year old out here acting like a 25 year old is high key so sad. She's a KID, why is she applying makeup, why is she out there leaving her legs open... shouldn't kid be playing outside, having sleepovers and whatever else kids do? This lowkey so disappointing to see our new generation turning into this
@OreoForLife.ehehe123 bruh no one said that makeup is the "enemy" here, it's about the overall concept. Kids should be out enjoying nature, riding their bikes around, having sleepovers etc etc. What KIDS shouldn't be doing is taking care of their own children. This is a 14 year old that can't embrace her natural beauty, one that seems attached to technology and social media, heck she hasn't even fully "matured", her brain isn't finished developing, her body is still going through puberty (well depends it's different for everyone) but my point is, she's a child. She shouldn't be sexually active (that should be the very last thing on her mind at this age) I will say this, since I'm not fully aware of her child was conceived so I can't be to critical but my point still stands.
@@EdithMoore-wj5ilher boyfriend is the one that got her pregnant she said ex because she found out she was pregnant with his child after they broke up but I think they got back together after they found out she was pregnant
how? her just wanting to hang out with her bf makes it a “recipe for teen pregnancy”? “hey wanna come over and hang out for a bit?” “no that’s a recipe for teen pregnancy” “tf i just wanted to talk with you and play video games??”
i thank the universe everyday that i’m 25 & childless. i was raised with a realistic idea of what childbearing was like & i made the decision to not spawn my own. i can’t imagine being 13 & worried about a baby.
Same! 25 and childless. I’m getting married in 2 months and we’re going to start trying after. But I’m so glad I’m not a teenager that’s immature or unmarried trying to care for a kid when I could barely care for myself
Being manipulated by a boy is not easy for her. Even women get forced and manipulated into sex. He clearly took advantage of her. Need to blame a boy more but not her. Everyone is blaming her but need to blame him. What do people expect when most women are not heard since birth. Of course she couldn't say NO because nobody wanted to hear NO from her in her life. Parents wanted obedient child, school wanted obedient child, that's how they produced her. Women's voice is not heard since birth. That's why she couldn't say NO and he probably wouldn't even listen even if she tried to speak up. Everyone expects women to be obedient. Need to blame a boy and her parents and society but NOT her.
Ok an opinion is an opinion, yall triggered or what? 😂 If it was a boy yall would be saying his lil ass needs to be worried about kid stuff and not tryna clap cheeks
Yep, I was watching cartoons and paying video games and maybe reading some spicy fanfiction but not applying makeup or fucking left and right. 😂 This generation is doomed LOL
“The Virgin Mary was pregnant at 14 and look at how great her baby turned out”. A very sweet nun said this to me when I was 14 and pregnant. She spoke life and hope into me and my baby when nobody else would. My daughter is a fantastic, well adjusted, mentally healthy 27 year old woman today. Thank you sister Dorthea 🙏
Oh you poor thing, "omg that's abuse!! I'd never hit my child!!" Your one of the people in this generation who are soooo sensitive. Whipping your child's ass isn't abuse honey. If you kid is way out of line, whipping them will rangle them back in. So, if you want to let your child roam free, and let your kids do whatever they want without discipline. You do that. And when of the teens comes to you and tells you, "ma I'm pregnant" or "ma I got a girl pregnant" I hope your look at yourself and smile at your "wonderful" parenting 😁
I am so sorry, for everyone in the comments, to you, and to anyone who has had an experience close to this. I wish i could go up to every single one of you and hug you guys and be there you support you.
She was groomed and raped and abandoned and brainwashed by her boyfriend. Need to blame boys more for forcing girls. Girls don't even want sex unless to please a boyfriend.
All of You women who kept your babies even if they were conceived w out your consent i give You all of my respect, i was freshly 18 but since i have been homeless my whole life i couldn’t keep my baby. I bow down to all of You strong women ❤ all my respect and to your precious babies
It takes an insane amount of courage to give up your baby. You acted exactly as majority of most mothers would in the way that you put your child’s needs before your own. You knew what your limitations were in your current life and made a decision in your child’s best interests ❤
For me, a 29 yo virgin, this is crazy. But I’m not blaming her, I’m blaming the non existence of sexual education. My family has several doctors in it, that’s why I was always aware of the risks from such a young age.
@@MarlinangH look, we totally agree. For me sex should be something adults do because it could be dangerous. But, we can’t stop minors. I stopped and refrained myself from sex actually very well. But some People can’t do that. Instead we can try to educate…
I think you are a virgin because you are a POC. It's way harder to be celibate when you are white, aka the desired and the most attractive race. I've had my struggles.
Proud of you for telling your mum and taking responsibility and having the courage to tell your story and the realities of teen pregnancy. You are doing awesome.
I had my son when I was 15 got pregnant at 14 my mom was very supportive but he's father was not he put me through a lot but now my son is 33 and I have two grandchildren don't take anything for granted it goes really fast before you know it you'll be a grandmo too
Yeah duh.. At that age guys only liked you for your looks.. Only a very few are committed to staying with the first girl they got pregnant by. Girls are just a number to a guy lol because they need credit to practice until they actually are ready to settle down with someone they actually love. How do i know this? Ok this guy he got a girl pregnant at 16 and i found out through him talking and showing pictures of his son. We work together. As for that girl..he met her in school…Anyways, its funny because when we first met he was 18 and although he grew up he didn’t seem yet mature at the time.. He was love bombing me, he was flirting and touching all women etc and he wasn’t serious at the time even though he liked me. The thing though is as our bond grew so much, so did his heart.. How? Well once his friend ask him “ Why isn’t he helping me?” When i offered to help him because i liked him lol. His response was.. “ She said she will help?” And than a few minutes later he thank me. Fast forward now.. He seems so scared to lose me. He more caring, he steps in to help me even when i say i got it we fight who will do it lol and his friend dont even have to tell him to help me now..he go do it on his own. He alot more protective and he opening up to me rather than putting on a face.. The best of all he forgot his baby momma. Like yeah. Of course he going to see his son but it more of her responsibility compare to him. He has full freedom. As all he does is pay child support and he can be with someone he truly love. Now i never said he didn’t like his baby momma because there was obvious attraction,but base on how he’s treating me and really scared of losing me it like he found out what TRUE LOVE IS…Now he does love his son and he is responsible to still be in his child life but he have no feelings for his baby momma. Also how do i know? Because i gave him plenty of time to leave he always come back to me and if we avoid each other for so long.. he withdraws as his family get worry so much. Also i saw how he changed into A Mature Adult that wants to wait. It sucks because i want him soooo badly, but he wants to wait until he finish his career. Which isnt that long lol. He just want to provide for me the right way and give me all his love and support rather then him knowing its just lust and just selfish sex just to please himself.
I can't understand 13/14 years old having sex... Like that actually disgusting. Like forget the pregnant thing, its just repulsive no matter the gender. Wtf is happening.
literally i cant even imagine or comprehend how they are doing this shit that young. i met two people in 7th grade who had s3x for a total of like 30 seconds ig. still fucking gross at the VERY least wait until youre 16.
@melthefallen4558 No, these kids know how babies are made, don't say "oh well they're horny kids", bro, everyone is at their age, but that does not mean to be having sex nor cheating on your bf
@@grxcie_0.o Do they? Maybe, but they may not fully understand how much of a risk it is and how serious it is. Some people can’t handle their emotions and hormones as well as that age. It sucks, and shouldn’t happen, but it does. I don’t think it’s right, don’t get me wrong, it just makes sense for it to be an (uncommon, hopefully) occurrence.
Indeed it does. She has an amazing supportive mother that believes in always supporting her children. When it's the scariest for them is when you become stronger for them.
@georgette7588 you missed the point. Her mother "taking it well" means she isn't suprised about her children's EXTREMELY early sexual activity and clearly hasn't bothered teaching them anything about dignity of body and status. Let's be so fr rn. It's not "supportiveness". It's lazy parenting and a huge lack of discipline.
Agreed, BUT using protection isn't 100% effective, only abstinence is, and technically pregnancy is possible without insertion so... Doesn't mean they weren't using protection- broken condom, taking antibiotics while on the pill, missed pill, not taking it perfectly...
Keep your legs closed until you’re prepared to raise a child. We need to stop giving these kids a platform for being teen moms because it’s like saying it’s okay they screwed up now they can just get famous and never work and get paid by TH-cam
@@ViewAppalachia there's a few things wrong with this. saying "keep your legs closed" on a video about a 14 y/o girl is absolutely wild. at 14, there aren't a ton of job opportunities, and she also has a baby to take care of, so most jobs won't be feasible. she's working a job. you make videos? only they're that masculinity shit. i really don't care about what people do with their lives personally. she mentioned in this video that she doesn't recommend getting pregnant at that age. none of us know what really happened. she IS raising a child, and she is fully aware she screwed up. think about keeping your mouth shut rather than telling 14 year old girls to keep their legs shut.
@@zxcmd the problem with your logic is that the worst that can happen if I don’t keep my mouth closed is someone might listen and not end up a teen mom, and the worst that can happen if they don’t keep their legs closed is become a teen mom. I don’t care how it makes you feel. The age bothers you? Good even more reason to be as stern as possible to get the point across. Take your tone policing self on somewhere. I don’t care how you feel
@ViewAppalachia Honestly! I agree with you. A lot of people make it as though it is normal to have sex at a young age. I broke my virginity at 19, and I am now pregnant with my first child at 27. I still regret having my virginity broke that early! I am going to tell any of my girl children to wait for as long as they can and will tell them all the consequences of starting out early.
@@Tshepiso18what will you tell your boy children? See the issue is yall want to hold girls to a purity standard but say nothing to boys. So that when children of both genders makes mistakes the blame is ultimately put on girls and boys aren’t responsible for the consequences… just the girls to be told keep their legs shut and it’s their fault.
As another teen mom, my kids are older now, but you will see all your friends "living their best life" and feel like your missing out. I PROMISE YOU stick by your baby and yourself, and when your little baby is graduating or just being an amazing human, you realize that your sacrifice was beyond worthit.
But that's the point you lost your childhood..... Your friends kids will also graduate after a while and every parent sacrifice for their children.... I don't want to make you feel bad or less, I'm just saying everything has to be done at the right time or else price is way too high.....And not every teenager can handle such huge responsibility like an adult, even adults have a difficult time, so if this backfires it can cause baby harm.....
Yeah duh.. At that age guys only liked you for your looks.. Only a very few are committed to staying with the first girl they got pregnant by. Girls are just a number to a guy lol because they need credit to practice until they actually are ready to settle down with someone they actually love. How do i know this? Ok this guy he got a girl pregnant at 16 and i found out through him talking and showing pictures of his son. We work together as that girl he met in school…Anyways, it funny because when we first met he was 18 and although he grew he didn’t seem mature at the time.. He was love bombing me, he was flirting and touching all women etc and he wasn’t serious at the time even though he liked me. The thing though is as our bond grew so much so did his heart.. How? Well once his friend ask him “ Why isn’t he helping me?” When i offered to help him because i liked him lol. His response was.. “ She said she will help?” And than a few minutes later he thank me. Fast forward now.. He seems so scared to lose me. He more caring, he steps in to help me even when i say i got it we fight who will do it lol and his friend dont even have to tell him to help me now..he go do it on his own. He alot more protective and he opening up to me rather than putting on a face.. The best of all he forgot his baby momma. Like yeah. Of course he going to see his son but it more of her responsibility compare to him. He has full freedom. As all he does is pay child support and he can be with someone he truly love. Now i never said he didn’t like his baby momma because there was obvious attraction,but base on how he’s treating me and really scared of losing me it like he found out what TRUE LOVE IS…Now he does love his son and he is responsible to still be in his child life but he have no feelings for his baby momma. Also how do i know? Because i gave him plenty of time to leave he always come back to me and if we avoid each other for so long.. he withdraws as his family get worry so much. Also i saw how he changed into A Mature Adult that wants to wait. It sucks because i want him soooo badly, but he wants to wait until he finish his career which isnt long lol and provide for me the right way and give me all his love and support rather then knowing its just lust and selfish sex just to please himself.
@@Itstartsinyou you were a kid when you got involved in adult activities and got pregnant you didn't have any other choice..... You were too naive to "CHOOSE"..... it's good it worked out for you but teens should just focus on studies or life becomes harder way before that it should be
I got my pregnant at 14 first guy I was ever with and I told my mom I wanted to be out on birth control she told me I was to young! Everyone wanted me to have an abortion but I didn’t and he is now grown with two kids is a wonderful father! Has went so far in life! I’m proud of him! I really think us as parents should listen to ur kids more
Why would you want to be on birth control at that age Don’t blame your mum It was your decision Whyyyyyy would you be sexually active at that young age
I blame the parents for not educating their boys at all. I told my sons everything I knew, about sex and relationships. Bought the condoms and told them it wasn’t a license for sex but when those urges hit , I wanted them protected against disease and fatherhood, while mentioning that a condom was not 100% reliable. I’m finally a grandmother to a child that was planned
Well I think its in the Bible or in God's mind like to have sex after marriage. At that point, two people are established to take of one another and the baby. As of this young girl....I have no right to judge her because of her story. I pray love, joy and peace for her and her baby 👶
To everyone judging: a friend of mine is pregnant with her first baby at 12. She was peer pressured into something. Abortion was an option for her as it should be but she didn’t want to. She’s 9 months pregnant and I’m gonna be supportive. Support pregnant teens not teen pregnancy
Beyond pregnancy why are you putting all the cosmetics and creams on your face. You’re A Child !!!! Obtain from sex ! You’re going to be an adult for a long Time DON’T RUSH !!! Back it up little girl ❣️
I was pregnant at 19, knew I wasn’t going to get an abortion……..immediately chose to find a couple who couldn’t have children, to give them my baby. I knew I couldn’t give my baby what it would ever need or want. This was the HARDEST event in my life, BUT the BEST decision for my baby and me. Selflessness…….just because you find out you’re pregnant, doesn’t mean you HAVE to keep the baby. Think about the baby FIRST.
I did the same thing 22 years ago. I salute you because there is nothing in my eyes More painful than signing your baby over, even when it's the right thing to do.
True, but I believe that when a girl or woman gets pregnant unexpectedly, you have to put that child first, before all………..can you give that child what it needs and wants, are you capable of being a parent.
I was pregnant at 14, had my daughter at 15. Her dad left when she was 2. I graduated high school a year early making honor roll my last year (I’ve ALWAYS struggled in school, and even got left back in the 3rd grade) I’m now 31, and she’s 16 years old, high honor roll student and has held the same job for the last year. It’s wasn’t/isnt east but make a conscious decision to be better, and love yourself unconditionally in the process. Your lil girl is watching and picking it all up, which is why making sure you have time for yourself is crucial and extremely important. You can do it love. Stay strong and don’t make the same mistake twice. Our children are not a mistake, but the timing is. Ima need a ring on this finger before I have another, and that’s in period lol. Sending love 🫶🏽
Girl just hang in there and it sounds like you have a really good mom you got this and when you get stressed out just to remember to breath and just keep telling yourself that you can do this you got this.❤
LMAO, my mom gets mad at me for yelling a tiny bit too loud and I’m thinking to myself “kids are doing ten times worse than talking back to their mothers”
to all the people talking about how getting pregnant from sexual assault and choosing to have unprotected sex as a teenager is different: kindly stfu. yes, they're different! the pressure that young women deal with from men and their peers to be sexually active is a real thing though and i wish people wouldn't take that for granted
That's different. She agreed to have sex in 8th grade without a condom with her boyfriend. That was her decision, then she chose not to give the baby up. I get peer pressure but you're in middle school? Your 12-14 year old peers are telling you to have sex and get pregnant? 💀 She's irresponsible and needs discipline, because having a boy put his penis inside you in the 8th grade is NOT ok. As bad as it sounds, thats the blatant truth. She had the choice to use a condom, unlike most teen moms. Shes a strong young woman for carrying and caring for that baby. Hopefully the baby lives a good happy life
Everyone is being so supportive in the comments section and me I'm just like who tf sent you to be pregnant at 14? When you're supposed to be focused on school.
She didn't choose to be pregnant. She made a mistake, and received consequences from it. If she has a good support system then she'll be fine. Support pregnant teens, not teen pregnancy. There's a difference
I’ve seen a bunch of these videos online of “teenage mothers” raising their kids, talking about experiences blah blah.. this is one of the craziest I’ve seen. I’m not hating but no matter how all of these are portrayed, IT IS NEVER OKAY. Y’all don’t need kids y’all need Sex ed and proper education
My cousin was 14 when she had her first baby❤️ at 27 she had her third baby and six days after giving birth she passed away. Congratulations on your baby. You reminded me of my cousin. I miss her. Wish you the best❤️
God bless you and your baby. I pray that you will both get support and give in your life, and that you won’t have to miss out too much on being a teen because of a mistake you made in middle school that God used to give you a suprise blessing. it is hard now but i will pray it gets better. GOD BLESS YOU.
@@alwaysrootingfortheantihero123 what about the kid she made🤦🏾♀️. What will the kid miss out on? A father? A mom to make good choices in their best interest? Just like the abortion argument, getting pregnant is not only the mom’s life. The child’s life matters more. Idc whatever tf she misses out on. She just will have to miss tf out. Although she still not missing out on having a bf 🤦🏾♀️. The fact u said that, I know how u get down. That’s 304 talk. Loose as a goose.
I still do not understand sex at 14 because there are so many better things for teens, especially young females, to be doing. That few minutes, let’s face it are not so good as a teen. I’d rather be skating, playing cards, riding my bike, taking a hike, shooting a basket ball, kayaking, swimming, practicing gymnastics, reading a book, writing a poem, doing my nails, sewing something, learning to cook, practicing a new language on an app. Playing a board game, organizing my room, practicing a new hair style, playing with my dog, doing an experiment, making a craft God this list could go on forever. Now you got a baby from a few seconds of nothingness with a boy who ditched out in two weeks and your time to do all the fun stuff is over, but he can go do whatever he wants. That really is sad. It is just so sad. 😢
I was pregnant at 14. She’s now 40. It is scary. I went on to graduate HS. Had more children. Became an Esthetician. Got my Undergraduate degree then my PostBac then my Masters and I’m a yoga teacher! Anything is possible.
That's wonderful! That must have been very scary, but you have so much to be proud of. Good for you! ❤❤
Congratulations ur my hero ur my inspiration mom
You need a masters degree to be a yoga teacher?
That's an exception not the rule ..oh you were 14 who housed and feed the child?.
Nobody gives a flying fck what you accomplished, that doesn't make you less of a mcthotty, like who goes around opening their legs at that age 🤢
8th grade is unbelievable. I really hope kids start seeing all these recent teen pregnancies and realize that protection or just not having sex is the best answer. Accidents happen and it can change your entire life
i had a friend in eighth grade who got pregnant. i initially thought she got rped but she told me it was consensual (she was 14). i saw her at a store and she was crying and asked where menstrual products were and then ended up asking where the pregnancy tests were bc they weren't in that area. i bought them for her along with condoms so she could be safe next time. she ended up getting an abortion
Teens having sex and getting pregnant is actually starting to become more of a issue. Kids in grades 6 and 7 are starting to do it now.
@@roselyngomez3271 Which is weird because stats show that teen pregnancy has gone down dramatically since the late 90s when they started pumping the “don’t get pregnant” thing into schools
@@shimmershine6902 True, but its happening.
Or parents can start talking to their kids at a younger age about pregnancy and std prevention.
i’ve been there. hang in there girl! i was r@pEd by my bsf’s brother at the age of 16 and now i have a 1 year old daughter. i love my daughter very much. as for my r@p!st, he is in jail. there are so many of us teen moms and we have to look out for eachother. i couldn’t imagine a life without my daughter now. god bless you.❤
update: i want to thank everyone for their support. god bless everyone!
sorry but that's completely different.....being forced isn't a choice...laying up with someone is
you’re a victim of something you didn’t want.. she wanted sex..
I’m so sorry. I have no idea what you’ve gone through but I bet it was horrible
Your situation is way different than this girl situation. You got raped the girl that’s talking volunteer to have unprotected sex now I am so sorry that you had got raped that was so messed up and I’m glad that you know you taken a negative and turn it into a positive but this little girl right here was hot in the tail.
I knew some 13-14 year olds who had gotten pregnant by there rapists but they were forced to kill the preborn baby. I’m glad both of you are safe now
If you don't want kids and you don't want that responsibility don't run around doing that stuff with your boyfriend at 14.
I know! It's different if it's sa or just being sexually active. You chose the possibility you might end up pregnant with maybe no support or baby daddy. It takes two to tango. So I don't feel bad for the exception (people who have sex just for the pleasure without thinking about consequences) because it's not my fault they made a bad decision. That was something they had to figure out themselves. Hopefully the child can grow up well and not make the same mistake as their parents. I know I'm being blunt but it's true.
she was not a baby, is normal to do things like that for a adolescent with a boyfriend.
@@lucaccap1043It's because of people like you it's now normalized. It's. Not. Normal. You should not try to say it is. Especially for a 14 YEARS OLD, she doesn't pass the age of consent yet
@@lucaccap1043 this us why I won't let my kids have a bf or gf if they are younger than 18
@@lucaccap1043 14 it's still a child
it’s crazy how many people in the comments have been r@ped and had children young it’s so sad and i’m so sorry for all of you to have to go through that but i’m also glad you are happy with your kids and love and support them and i also support you guys i hope the best for everyone!
I know!!
@@That_Afroqueen frrr
Fr
@@Thaylovekotaaa I wonder where were their parents. Was their mom also a single mom. These are things women don’t think about when they are gone to work all the time or having others raise their children. Hopefully they care raise their children better
@@4you2C yesss
girl im 14 and i could not IMAGINE 😭😭 you are so brave fr
Same fr
And pleaseeeee!!! No sex no kid okkk? Stay safee.
Fr bro. She is so strong
Not even brave, just kinda irresponsible (no hate) but why the heck was a 14 year old having sec
@@koii_xai things happen, all you can do is move forward and learn from your mistakes. I dont think the reason why is any of our business
My mom got pregnant at 14 and had me at 15 and luckily she had my grandmother as a support system, but she worked her butt off to take care of me even though she was still a kid herself. She was and still is a great mom and I pray we get to grow old together.
Same here, but my mom had me at 16. My grandma was my guardian but I also had my dad, paternal grandma, aunts, uncles, God mom and great grandparents. I really had a tribe to support me. I couldn't be more appreciative. I am now 37 and my mom passed almost 2 years ago, of stage 4 breast cancer. She was only 52. I miss her something terrible. RIP mommy 🙏🏾💕
Aww that is such a sweet thing to say. I bet you are such a blessing to your mom ❤ I too hope to grow old with my son who I had at a young age and essentially grew up side by side (I wouldn't have admitted it at the time. I thought I knew everything). ❤
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Same here I had my son a day bf I turned 17 quit school to support him and keep him off welfare...I worked McDonald's and burger King and my mother watched him while I was at work...
I pray you get to grow old with her too hun❤❤ I bet you're very close to your grandma too❤@@alanamonique84
My sister was raped in 6th grade & gave birth in 7th grade and lemme tell ya… it was not easy. Everyone (when I say everyone I mean our family, teachers, school staff, and just random ppl out 'n' about) was judging her and accusing her of having sex, sneaking boys in through our bedroom window, watching porn, ect. No one in the family (besides me and my sister) accepts the baby our treats her like a member of the family. Idk first-hand how it is, but I have witnessed first-hand what its like and it's hard. I feel so bad for other teen moms going through this and just in general. Hang in there. You've got this. It may not seem like it now… but it will get better. Sending lots of hugs & love to other teen moms. You're doing great!🤰🩷🤍💙
That sounds incredibly traumatic to carry a child under these circumstances. I hope your niece is able to feel loved as accepted and that your sister is holding her head high and enjoying the blessing that she was so brave to bring into this world, an innocent child. I hope having the baby brings healing to the whole situation the rape the suspicion etc.
And situations like what happened to your sister ate why we need to support people with uteruses! We need the ability to ab⁰rt children forced upon someone through ræp. Your sister should not have had to suffer so much. I feel for her and I hope you continue to support her in any way you can
@@dawnchesbro4189 Abortions aren't banned here but it's not believed in by our "family," therefore it will not happen to anyone in this house. So technically, she could have.
@@myreallife6386 The boy that did it was the 19 year old boy in our bus " middle school & highschool ride together) that's or at least was obsessed with her. Btw, Thank you. I'll tell her……& Kinley.🩷💖
@TheimpostorAmongus01Wait, so did she have that choice or not?
I was 17 & thought that was young! My parents were thankfully supportive. I had my life together. Married his dad. After 2 more kids, their dad turned into a drug addicted alcoholic with a bad temper. I struggled after leaving him working at a daycare. Finally got a great paying job, few years diagnosed with a brain tumor! I've struggled, but was able to raise 3 boys, that are now great men. All with great families, homes & jobs.
I hope n pray that they are there for you now! You have struggled so much n need a break!!!
Yeah duh.. At that age guys only liked you for your looks.. People change alot…Only a very few are committed to staying with the first girl they got pregnant by. Girls are just a number to a guy lol because they need credit to practice until they actually are ready to settle down with someone they actually love. How do i know this? Ok this guy he got a girl pregnant at 16 and i found out through him talking and showing pictures of his son. We work together as that girl he met in school…Anyways, it funny because when we first met he was 18 and although he grew he didn’t seem mature at the time.. He was love bombing me, he was flirting and touching all women etc and he wasn’t serious at the time even though he liked me. The thing though is as our bond grew so much so did his heart.. How? Well once his friend ask him “ Why isn’t he helping me?” When i offered to help him because i liked him lol. His response was.. “ She said she will help?” And than a few minutes later he thank me. Fast forward now.. He seems so scared to lose me.
He more caring, he steps in to help me even when i say i got it we fight who will do it lol and his friend dont even have to tell him to help me now..he go do it on his own. He alot more protective and he opening up to me rather than putting on a face.. The best of all he forgot his baby momma. Like yeah. Of course he going to see his son but it more of her responsibility compare to him. He has full freedom. As all he does is pay child support and he can be with someone he truly love. Now i never said he didn’t like his baby momma because there was obvious attraction,but base on how he’s treating me and really scared of losing me it like he found out what TRUE LOVE IS…Now he does love his son and he is responsible to still be in his child life but he have no feelings for his baby momma. Also how do i know? Because i gave him plenty of time to leave he always come back to me and if we avoid each other for so long.. he withdraws as his family get worry so much. Also i saw how he changed into A Mature Adult that wants to wait. It sucks because i want him soooo badly, but he wants to wait until he finish his career which isnt long lol and provide for me the right way and give me all his love and support rather then knowing its just lust and selfish sex just to please himself. What i am saying is…People change especially guys. They aren’t mature at age 25 and younger. Also girls don’t understand… even if they made mistakes so young why would a guy waste all his youth on one women that he accidentally got pregnant by so young when he missed out screwing it out until he got tired of that life and knowing when to give that life all up. He became an alcoholic because he’s depressed. He screwed up his youth and although he love his kids it just he wasn’t really ready for it.. It was forced by accident and now he have to live by it for years… When you drink the same milk for years it get boring..
you're so strong!
praying u get better!
🙏🏻💖
The man who got her pregnant she said?? A 14 year old kid or a grown ass adult??
right?
Pretty sure Mom knew after the Dr appointment.
The dad isn’t an adult
nah he’s the same age i think but not an adult
Idk
No he’s not a grown man you can go to her yt and see it’s Juliette Ackerman
my bsf was raped at the age of 15 by our other bsf brother. her family hated her and said she should’ve have done that even though it wasn’t her fault, she was tricked. my family understood her situation though and now she is my adopted sister and we help take care of her child, who is a happy and healthy 5 year old girl and her name is Hope because she is always a ray of hope.
Sorry but what's bsf?
@@lindsayshockledge579it means best friend 👍
@ava_9116 sounds kinda obvious now I know the answer lol but thank you so much for your reply 😊
Bf..best friend. Whats the S in bsf?😅
@@girleyreds11-11 bf if boyfriend.. bsf is best friend
Ok but we need to stop being casual about it, STOP HAVING SEX AT A YOUNG AGE. YOU NEED TO WAIT, ITS NOT AN OPTION.
If she wants s€x nobody can tell her to stop
It is her body after all
I agree but it's her body
It could also be sa, cocsa so ..
what about people being less shameful of these topics and actually TEACHING children and teenagers the dangers of it, or the precautions they should take? NO teenager is going to stop themselves from doing that, their hormones are in blast. I'm not supporting that kind of stuff, but prohibiting it won't make it ANY difference, it's already prohibited by everyone, but do you see teen pregnancies decreasing? No.
@@luc9108 THANK YOU. This person needs to be educated on why it happens.
“Support teen moms, not teen pregnancy”
-A wise person
Edit: Ty for all the likes!
That's contradictory. You can't support pregnant teens without supporting the act of teen pregnancy.
@Vkeiaddiction what? No. They meant that you should provide the support for teenagers who happened to get pregnant, as in provide them with mental health care and child support. Just because you care for a child who got pregnant doesn't mean you supported the act of them getting pregnant.
I agree. But sometimes I wonder where you draw the line with that statement? Because in most cases I’ve seen, when teen moms get supported, they feel comfortable enough to get pregnant again because they felt like they had enough lenience to. So WHAT would be the correct approach to the situation, other than just saying “don’t get pregnant”?
@@neatricebennett4265 I AGREE!! perfectly said
No, your a contradictory. People have opinions and the girl who u commented on was true, sorry that you have a false opinion.
bro ain’t no man got u pregnant that’s a little boy. stay strong fr
Instead of making fun of her and making her life worse go find a life and find a better profile pic instead of being a cat
Considering they were 14 he was a boy when she got pregnant so yes you are right about that he was not a man😂😂
Who’s having to grow up real fast now.
Well he shouldve thought about that before having unprotective sexual activity 🤷♀️ @@Prissi162
I mean both are literally kids. Both of them willingly decided to have sex.
Kids have no problem with iphones, computers etc but they have problem with condoms
Condom or not aswell as birth control doesn’t even live up to its meaning I’m an adult now but when I was 15 and being experimental we used a condom yes but it broke no he wasn’t big for it to break it just happened so it’s not the kids at fault for this it’s the company and the factory making this and with now project 2025 they will most likely sabotage prevention for it more
No but the fact that she literally 14 years old
It's not about the fu***** condoms it's about she's 14
Like when i was 14-15 i didn't even know what sex is 😭
@@haman_san2032 exactly
You can't blame children for what they were taught
I think your mum just appreciated your honesty and was happy you felt like you could come to her about it.
I was molested and impregnated at 12 and had my daughter at 13. I'm now 44 amd she is 31 this year. It was very difficult. I do not regret keeping and raising her. She is a beautiful human being. I do wish I had not had to make such grown decisions as a child myself, but it helped make me who I am today and the world is a better place with my daughter in it. ❤ I'm a grandma now too❤
I’m so sorry that happened to you, and am proud of your perseverance. I’m 17 and it’s so disheartening to see r@pe victims, especially really young ones, have to decide whether or not to keep their babies, especially since some parents may be reminded they were assaulted every time they look at their child. I wish you nothing but the best ❤️
God bless you
God twelve bless you and your daughter 🙏
😂
Greetings, beloved sister. My heart goes out to everyone, especially you. Whatever you're going through, know that you are not alone and that you are strong, brave, and a confident warrior. Everything's going to be alright and okay in the end, all worth it. Jesus loves you❤may God bless your kind words 🙏 ✨️ 💖 ❤️You didn't deserve to endure all of this... awful. 😢I hope to God you find the help that you deserve...! That is awful to hear that.😢may God help you 🙏 😢 😞 💔 ❤
My mama would have killed me😂
Yeah same here 😂
Ye💀
She could have been raped? Never assume someone’s position.
Yes
My parents would have sliced my head.
Even after Uni at 23, I told my dad I wanted to get married, he jumped through the roof!
“ You can’t be thinking of getting married- you are still a baby”
He finally agreed!
Don't want to be a teen mom! Don't have sex...period!
Say it louder. !!!
Or use protection! It's amazingly easy and safe 😊
ok but what if she was 🍇
Yeah but pretty unrealistic. Take steps and be responsible that’s the problem though. I 100% knew at 16 how to BOT get pregnant….but when those hormones hit I just didn’t care. I was lazy so I went for the depot shot: once every 3 months ruined my body! Severe depression major mood changes I wasn’t ready to handle the emotions sex carried with it to my boyfriend. Breaking up destroyed me I was so unstable. Never got pregnant but eventually put my self in harms way for disease because I lost it
@@kuroe-chan5190It's actually very realistic. What isn't is being delusional about sex.
My mom really went through it. She left home at 14, met a much older guy who got her pregnant at 15, and had me at 16. She had to drop out of high school because she was dealing with pregnancy and mono at the same time. Yet now, after everything, she's the strongest woman I know. I've made sure to stay far far away from sex in my teenage years to make sure no girls in my life have to go through what she did.
Bro said I don’t recommend getting pregnant as a teen. Y’all need to stop acting like you don’t know how babies are made. If you’re gonna act grown, you’re gonna face the grown up responsibilities.
yesss thats the biggest thing, taking responsibility for ur actions, especially when you knew what could happen. When you decide to do grown up things there are going to be grown up consequences.
That’s the thing… they don’t know… this is why sex Ed is extremely important instead of just teaching abstinence
Yesss! It baffles me she is only 14
@@Arffff03 i agree. not knowing about contreception and safe sex is literally how people get pregnant by accident. in my own experience, we have only had 1 girl get pregnant at 14 (she's 22 now) and it hasnt happened since. why? because they improved our sex ed classes!
With all this damn social media, I’m sure these teenagers KNOW exactly what birth control is! Let’s not sit here and act like they’re innocent to sex ed or what’s going on when they have the entire internet at their fingertips!
Dont have sex that early😊
It's really that simple. Choices
and that’s why proper sex ed is needed. all abstinence does is increase the frequency of teen pregnancies.
I started having sex at 17 wound up pregnant with my oldest has become my best friend I wouldn’t change anything for the world she and my husband are the only good thing that came out of the relationship
Dumb kids these days make mistakes but it’s because of their so called friends and the internet
Or have better sex ed... telling teens not to have sex is like telling college kids not to drink. They're going to do it anyway.
I feel like we shouldn’t support teen pregnancy but we should support pregnant teens
Lmao no thank you
That's so contradictory. You cannot support a pregnant teen without supporting teen pregnancy. If you support the pregnant teen more teens are gonna see that. There's no consequences for their actions if yall help every teen. The teen chose it now they should live with it.
@@EJ-zd9ur I haven’t thought about it that way
yea no, none of that is right
This comment is ridiculous. Support teens going to damn school, this is disgraceful. Idc how or why it happened, it’s disgraceful.
Omg, baby girl is so beautiful and a blessing whether you wanted her or not. ❤️ 😘
Stay strong. I am yet another person who got drugged. I was already six months along by the time I found out that not only was I pregnant, but I had been r@p3d at 13. I was a virgin and didn’t have a boyfriend. I’m really really glad that you have the love and support from your family to be able to keep your baby. I did not. I was kicked out for getting pregnant called a whore and gave my baby up for adoption because I did not want to live on the street with my baby at 13. Sometimes you can do everything right and it still ends up wrong. I am grateful to the family that I got to pick for my child and they are awesome.
She wasn’t raped tho
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I hope you still get to see your child sometimes.
Oh I am so very sorry for what you were made to endure 😔 it was wrong! I know there is a special place on hell for that sick freak .It was NEVER your fault and you should have NEVER been blamed!
But I also would like commend you for being strong and making the right decision in the end.Not even one has the courage to do so and you were a child nonetheless. May God bless you and keep you ❤
I’m sorry you had to go through that But you definitely made the right choice to give your baby up for adoption, you thought of your child’s future over your own and that says a lot about who you are, I hope you have grown up to be the best version of yourself and know that your child was Wanted and Loved by the couple who adopted your baby..🥰🥰
You are a strong soul and I thank God that although you were alone with hard decisions to make, you made the best ones.
You should be a an aware speaker in junior high schools
The scariest part is the female body physically isnt ready at 14 for safe birth. A big factor in maternal mortality rates is the age of mothers. Less developed can mean very young mothers. I'm so glad she went to a dr right away instead of hiding it. 🎉 responsible action right there
I'm not saying this is okay but scientifically once you have a period your body is ready for conception. Ages ago (again not saying this is ok) girls as young as age 12/13 were being married off to men to have children and make families this is so when the men die the women would still be young enough to care for the children Also you're right about maternal death rates dealing with woman's age but it is mainly older woman (geriatrics pregnancies) starting from the early age of 38
14 isn’t that young . Most girls have had their periods for a few years by then and their bodies are developing /developed already. Only in most recent days has teen pregnancy been taboo. Historically woman have been having babies much earlier than we are now . Im not saying girls should be popping out babies in their teens though.
Im not talking mentally, I mean physically. Do you realize how long you need to be exposed to certain hormones to finish the biological maturity process. Unlike men who have access to their hormones all month on 24 hour cycle it take a woman a month for the same hormone cycle, which only starts being produced after menstruation starts😅 Biologically female bodies take longer to mature from start of puberty to physical maturity due to limited access to hormones. Just because it can do something doesn't mean it should. Kids these days are getting periods in 1st grade (7yo) should they have kids because of a period? @sallypanda1014
Not to mention once pregnant new hormones are added to the mix to finish prepping. An example is we can't produce milk until body is exposed to pregnancy to finish physical development of mammary glands
I got pregnant at 16 and my doctor said that our body’s are made for it at that age idk about 14 but people were way more mature and ready in ancient days than now
Honey if you don’t want kids at the age of 14 either don’t have sex that young and if you do it’s called protection such as a condom or birth control or both
yeah im sure she got the memo 💀
@@xxflameaminoxx she clearly didn’t get the memo if she is still coming online complaining.
@@AriannaMihailovich this isnt complaining its real life, you think she should be sent away to a nunnery or some shit? lol
@@AriannaMihailovichshe can rightfully complain lol
Naah, just don't have sex. Protection does is not 100% valid
This is why it’s important to have real conversations with your kids about what could happen if they do the thing with a boy. My mom had me at 18 and I’m glad she was always honest about the struggles of being a young mom and how my grandma had to raise both of us. She spoke to me like an adult as soon as I started my 🩸 and gave me a detailed run down of what that meant. She didn’t glamorize it, and I also lived it. Young girls, this isn’t cute. Don’t do it you don’t have Kylie Jenner money.
@@kelsilulu Do the thing with a boy? What are you talking about? I think the word you are looking for is 'intercourse ' or having sex. You can do lots of things with boys eg. go shopping, go to the pictures, have lunch. You need to be more explicit.
She is already pregnant and shaming her won't help . The only thing society can do to prevent future teen pregnancy is to give them healthy access to ACCURAGE sources at school and communicate with their caregivers how influential the " talk " can be.
I'm not saying support 13 year Olds and buy them rubbers .
I'm saying make sure that they UNDERSTAND what puberty is , what healthy / intimacy is as well us the emotional and mental factors that comes with it.
We need to normalize bullying and this is also a parent problem
THIS
maybe american culture needs to stop making sex and sexual temptation soooo normalized no reason for mfs to normalize hookup culture when in reality… we shouldn’t even be sleeping with someone till we are married because stuff like this.
They don’t find that on Tik Tok that’s the problem.
@@OfficialTeeLucerookay bring Shame back because this is not the world’s business
Erm, as an 8th grader myself, not seeing myself doing any act whatsoever until im married, I will simply say: dont have sex.
If your boyfriend was doing it with consent, and you both knew the consequences, I believe if you want that responsibility or not, you have to raise it. Because that was your decision. But if you were r@ped or uneducated, I understand. And as for your parents, I believe they should care more about their CHILD having a baby. As they only had you 13-14 years ago themselves.
Kudos to you darling! What an intelligent young woman you are! Get ur education first, enjoy your youth. 🎉👏👏👏👏🌹🌹
@belkyscolon7293 Thank you 😊
Very intellectual response, I can see you going far in life with this mentality love. Sometimes it's easier said than done and children believe the consequences for their actions are substantially lower than what they're told, with trends and ways to stay afloat I can understand how alot of teens have fallen down the rabbit hole of following the crowd. I'm 35 and one of very few who don't have children from my yr at school, and all that I spoke to who had them young have all compared their lives to me wishing they done it differently, funny I wouldn't have minded having children by now but to see so many regretting their youth descions I'm glad I listened somewhat to my parents and didn't grow up too soon. Enjoy your youth as much as you can 😊
Or you can just not have sex and everyone else can do what they want. 🤷♀️
erm, as an 11th grader, i say: shut up
You can do it!! 💕 I’ve been in your shoes. 14 years old 8th grade pregnant! Had my baby did another year of 8th grade, but I kept going! Well, 10th grade my son was born. Now 17 with 2 gifts from above. I kept going!! Graduated at 19 yrs old. Joined the military 6 month out of high school. I retired at 40 yrs old 2015 from US Navy. My daughter 35 now college grad (BA-psychology) married 3 children, teaches Japanese at her children’s private school, son 32 (business owner) no children Thank God for family support. God has been good to us!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@dyshae, Honestly you need to tell BOTH the GOOD and BAD side of walking in your shoes in that area esp since many teens don’t have family support like you did. Thank God you didn’t have my Mom because she already told me and my Sis that we would be going straight to the abortion clinic and she meant every word.
Amazing life story ❤️
@sherrisolomon8673 well your mom can't force you to have an abortion, but I definitely don't advise you get pregnant. I had my first at 21 and I'm 44 now, I still say I was wayyy too young even at 21! My mom had a baby at 14, my sis had one at 16..
@@Amazing_80 Thank you for the advise but my fertile days stopped a couple of yrs ago.
God bless you for giving your children the most precious gift of life! They ARE gifts! Thank you for your service to our country too ❤️
Your baby is so precious and adorable! You're a wonderful mama!
🤡🤡🤡
I was pregnant at 14. My son is 30 years old now. We made it! God bless this young lady and her beautiful baby!!!! Got nothing but love for you!!!!
@@calamityjane6677 why so early 🤨🤨
@@alinamuzafarsometimes it’s not a choice (rape), sometimes protection doesn’t work (condom breaks or other forms of birth control), sometimes a lack of sex ed at a young age.
My mom uses to call me Calamity Jane when I was a kid 😆
What the fuck
@alinamu zafar She did nothing wrong. How about men control themselves
As a 14 yo i can barely even cook an egg bruh
That's a weird comparison to raising a child 😭
You actually just suck eggs cook fast and are easy to cook
Well, make sure you figure out that egg before having children, lol
same 😂
I’m not even fully trusted to make brownies 😭😭
Absolutely! Spread that message, young lady! She said, "I don't recommend getting pregnant as a teen."
that’s a pretty generic message I mean condemns exist for a reason
@knockofftasty9693 they aren't 100% will you all stop making sex among kids normal as a teen
@@AlphaHills condoms are 100% I mean or birth control and it’s fine if it safe and the teens I mean TEENAGERS(16-17) are both consenting and the parents are aware it’s fine. Abstinence doesn’t work for everyone.
Yeah … if you don’t recommend not getting pregnant at 14, then don’t open your legs at 14. Sorry, but cmon
@@knockofftasty9693 condoms aren't 100% I agree with the rest of yr stuff but condoms ARE NOT 100%
I was 17 when I had my first born, it was a lil bit of a struggle but my mom was all the support I needed. Recently my 14yo niece just had a baby & a birthday she’s 15 now & we all are her support system. Ik how scary it is to have them young but I can just imagine at 14! Sex is overrated & this is coming from a pregnant mom of 2. My godfather used to tell me the 3 B’s (Boys Bring Babies) I should’ve believed him back then. But I love my children I’ll just make sure they’ll know how much their mom has struggled to get to where she is now. It’s no joke. I’ve been in the shelter with my kids, we’re literally growing up together. I wish I would’ve waited so badly but I don’t regret em ❤️.
i love how you told your mom and didn’t hide it from her
i’m in 8th grade rn and i couldn’t imagine having to go through that
very happy you kept your baby girl 🤍🩷
You shouldn’t be having sex in the first place. Children don’t do adult stuff, stay in school young ones.
bro thinks this comment is ending teen pregnancy
@@chrissyswifey are they wrong?? Middle schoolers don't need to be having sex. It makes sense for high schoolers, nobody younger though.
@@chrissyswifeyblud really spending all their time arguing on yt at 16😭😭 go work at McDonald’s or something
@@Enfjscrolling this comment still doesn’t do anything it’s just repetitive
@@aubreydrakegrahamthe1st “spending all my time arguing” i replied to a comment 💀
Say it like this doing the nasty in 8th grade💀💀
Fr how Duse no one get that they had to do that to get pregnant
when i was in 6th kids were literally caught doing it all the time 8 th grades not that shocking is it good no but it’s happening
My mother who is now very old and not apart of my life anymore lost her virginity when she was 7 no she was not r@ped. She did it with her crush. In second grade! My entire childhood she encouraged me and my siblings to do the nasty and sleep around and I stayed strong and waited until marriage. I lasted the longest in my family with her bad influence.
@@Faye_Bakkerthat’s really good of you even if you don’t wait till marriage doing it 2nd grade is unbelievable and after 11th or 12 th it’s fine but still
So say it like some people don’t get raped they don’t have a choice
The fact that some parents are supportive and dont seem dissapointed or upset at all explains everything
Yeah it explains that they won’t kick their kid out. I would be supportive as well.
@@Canadiangrammarpoliceit has nothing to do with kicking their kid out and everything to do with teaching your children about protecting themselves if they decide to have sex. You’d be surprised how many teenagers (and sometimes early 20s) have no clue what birth control is or how to obtain it. In the US, you don’t need parental consent to obtain birth control, even for someone as young as 13 or 14. There are states that are obligated to contact the parents to inform them but consent isn’t needed to get it. They do offer sex ed class at school but a parent has to sign off on it. Those who refuse to allow their kids to attend are usually those who think young teenagers aren’t sexually active or that the school is overstepping by teaching it (yet they also refuse to teach them at home). Outside of non consensual/forced sex, ignorance is the only reason teenagers get pregnant so young. It’s not something you celebrate or get happy about because it shouldn’t happen to begin with. It’s totally a reflection on the parents.
this is the same girl who bullied me in middle school for no reason lol, she moved but i still go to highschool w the babys father and him and his friends are still the same assholes they were in middle school. im also not the only one her and her friends bullied/made fun of. they were assholes. it got so bad i moved during the start of 8th grade year and went back to school for 9th grade but they still do the same thing just not as bad, they stare and whisper, they gag at me, all the usual bully stuff. again not sure abt her cuz she moved and goes to my schools rival school now so i havent seen or talked to her in forever.
Edit: im not sure how to prove to yall this is true without like completely doxxing her, the babys father, and myself so idk what to tell yall all i can say is the babys dads name is jensen, again rlly not sure how to prove this also if ur gonna say im lying dont even bother to reply
Really?
@@paytongilchrist3557 lol yup idrk how to prove it without doxxing her tho😭
@@paytongilchrist3557 yup lol
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Stop the cap
14 year old out here acting like a 25 year old is high key so sad. She's a KID, why is she applying makeup, why is she out there leaving her legs open... shouldn't kid be playing outside, having sleepovers and whatever else kids do? This lowkey so disappointing to see our new generation turning into this
Exactly!!!! It's so wrong!!!!
the whole “it’s been around” our gen was supposed to be the better parents but they are making the same exact “mistakes” as their parents ….
I agree with you, but there is nothing wrong with makeup, it's just art
@OreoForLife.ehehe123 bruh no one said that makeup is the "enemy" here, it's about the overall concept. Kids should be out enjoying nature, riding their bikes around, having sleepovers etc etc. What KIDS shouldn't be doing is taking care of their own children. This is a 14 year old that can't embrace her natural beauty, one that seems attached to technology and social media, heck she hasn't even fully "matured", her brain isn't finished developing, her body is still going through puberty (well depends it's different for everyone) but my point is, she's a child. She shouldn't be sexually active (that should be the very last thing on her mind at this age)
I will say this, since I'm not fully aware of her child was conceived so I can't be to critical but my point still stands.
@@firebunny2407 I said i agree with you, there's just nothing wrong with makeup
Having a bf at 14 and having him “come over” sounds like a recipe for teen pregnancy
She said her boyfriend was not the father of her child.
@@EdithMoore-wj5il either way, still sounds like a recipe for teen pregnancy.
@@EdithMoore-wj5ilshe said the boy that got her pregnant isn't her boyfriend 'ANYMORE'
@@EdithMoore-wj5ilher boyfriend is the one that got her pregnant she said ex because she found out she was pregnant with his child after they broke up but I think they got back together after they found out she was pregnant
how? her just wanting to hang out with her bf makes it a “recipe for teen pregnancy”?
“hey wanna come over and hang out for a bit?”
“no that’s a recipe for teen pregnancy”
“tf i just wanted to talk with you and play video games??”
I'm glad you kept your baby ❤
i thank the universe everyday that i’m 25 & childless. i was raised with a realistic idea of what childbearing was like & i made the decision to not spawn my own. i can’t imagine being 13 & worried about a baby.
Louder!!
God is the universe. Please educate yourself. The universe doesn’t just appear. I’m sooo thankful I have my beautiful children. Sry your missing out
so your old and have nothing lol
Same! 25 and childless. I’m getting married in 2 months and we’re going to start trying after. But I’m so glad I’m not a teenager that’s immature or unmarried trying to care for a kid when I could barely care for myself
this doesn’t “just happen” one day out of no where it’s not the universe protecting you girl please take accountability
If you don’t want kids as a teenager then learn self control and don’t do that stuff.
Being manipulated by a boy is not easy for her. Even women get forced and manipulated into sex. He clearly took advantage of her. Need to blame a boy more but not her. Everyone is blaming her but need to blame him.
What do people expect when most women are not heard since birth. Of course she couldn't say NO because nobody wanted to hear NO from her in her life. Parents wanted obedient child, school wanted obedient child, that's how they produced her. Women's voice is not heard since birth. That's why she couldn't say NO and he probably wouldn't even listen even if she tried to speak up. Everyone expects women to be obedient. Need to blame a boy and her parents and society but NOT her.
wow that’s so helpful to her rn
Preach
@@chrissyswifeyyou acting like we're living in the 70s.
That’s why you shouldn’t be having sex as a child
Well duh, but it already happened. She can't go back. Don't support teen pregnancy, but support pregnant teens.
Why support teen pregnancy? Maybe make sure your daughters don’t go for having sex with boys when they need to study and make a future
Sometimes it happens by accident/you can’t control it, if yk what I mean
yeah like you know it all
@Vanilla_beann girl we don't know what you mean 😂
This is why fathers are important 🤦♂️
This is why brains are important 😂 This girl don't have one
Some of yall need to learn that things like condoms exist for a reason.
Exactly, or as a 14 year old just don’t do that at all.
it wasnt her choice
@@txtlynxt_s0phia how do you know this?
@@txtlynxt_s0phia yes it was
That’s why a 14 year old kid shouldn’t have access to internet without parental supervision. They want to try things they see online.
That’s on you gang 😭
Frrr my response this whole thing
😂😂😂 omds
Pure stupidity, how are 14 year olds getting pregnant in this day and age idiots
Pff
Not helping
Yall lil kids be acting so grown it’s crazy , I was 14 and still watching little kid cartoons
Good for you this isn’t about you
good for you…? she’s sharing her story
Ok an opinion is an opinion, yall triggered or what? 😂 If it was a boy yall would be saying his lil ass needs to be worried about kid stuff and not tryna clap cheeks
Yep, I was watching cartoons and paying video games and maybe reading some spicy fanfiction but not applying makeup or fucking left and right. 😂
This generation is doomed LOL
@@winkmink7709 bro thinks reading $mut is less extreme than wearing makeup 💀
“The Virgin Mary was pregnant at 14 and look at how great her baby turned out”. A very sweet nun said this to me when I was 14 and pregnant. She spoke life and hope into me and my baby when nobody else would. My daughter is a fantastic, well adjusted, mentally healthy 27 year old woman today. Thank you sister Dorthea 🙏
You too had kids at 14? Did you also get r@!ed?
Idk if that nun was right but yeah im glad for you
@samiam2003 💀
@@samiam2003the nun was right, mary had jesus somewhere from 13-18, she was very young and yet an amazing mom
@@gracklewackle She was 14 but that doesn't mean every girl should have a baby at 14
Looked at my parents and smiled for giving me an ass whoopin when i got out of line.
for real
Same!!
@@Jesusaves.3235 frl
“Spare the rod, spoil the child”
“im so cool i got abused and brag about it online”
Oh you poor thing, "omg that's abuse!! I'd never hit my child!!" Your one of the people in this generation who are soooo sensitive. Whipping your child's ass isn't abuse honey. If you kid is way out of line, whipping them will rangle them back in. So, if you want to let your child roam free, and let your kids do whatever they want without discipline. You do that. And when of the teens comes to you and tells you, "ma I'm pregnant" or "ma I got a girl pregnant" I hope your look at yourself and smile at your "wonderful" parenting 😁
I am so sorry, for everyone in the comments, to you, and to anyone who has had an experience close to this. I wish i could go up to every single one of you and hug you guys and be there you support you.
Girl go hit the books instead of hitting up men
does rape not exist?
@@violetis2cool4u did you not hear what she said? her boyfriend got her pregnant
@@jazzyisabigbackmaybe she got r@ped by her bf??
You chose life kiddo. Thats 1 of the bravest things i could imagine at this age. I did not. It haunts me forever.
If you don't kids, why are you having sex? AT 14???
Best comment award 🏆
@@donnamichelle-n6c 👏🏼🙌🏼
She was groomed and raped and abandoned and brainwashed by her boyfriend. Need to blame boys more for forcing girls. Girls don't even want sex unless to please a boyfriend.
@@donnamichelle-n6cfrrr
Been there done that, he’s 28 now. I’m a nurse and we made it. Keep pushing keep and keep your head up.
What the hell are you even doing having sex at 14??? I guess sex education classes have to start at 5th grade now.
That's the problem is they do teach that and than kids get intrested and want to experiment
14 in eighth grade is the clue but, I didn't hear an age in the video.
@@breeburgstaler5042if a kid has a boyfriend they’re gonna experiment regardless, better they had protection than be pregnant 🤷
I didn’t have a sex Ed class (health class) until freshman year.
The way my school had us to learn about sex when I was just in 2nd Grade is crazy like wtf are schools doing these days?!
I had my eldest at 19 almost 20 and that was hard. Couldn’t imagine being 14. Bless her. ♥️
All of You women who kept your babies even if they were conceived w out your consent i give You all of my respect, i was freshly 18 but since i have been homeless my whole life i couldn’t keep my baby. I bow down to all of You strong women ❤ all my respect and to your precious babies
Adoption is another way to give your child the gift of life.
It was consensual. Listen carefully.
It takes an insane amount of courage to give up your baby. You acted exactly as majority of most mothers would in the way that you put your child’s needs before your own. You knew what your limitations were in your current life and made a decision in your child’s best interests ❤
You couldn't keep your baby. Is your baby still alive?
@@Renewed85 unfortunately no
For me, a 29 yo virgin, this is crazy.
But I’m not blaming her, I’m blaming the non existence of sexual education.
My family has several doctors in it, that’s why I was always aware of the risks from such a young age.
Do you think she really didnt know about protection or maybe she supposed dont have sex while you are still a kid and in school?
@@MarlinangH look, we totally agree. For me sex should be something adults do because it could be dangerous. But, we can’t stop minors. I stopped and refrained myself from sex actually very well. But some
People can’t do that. Instead we can try to educate…
Plus sex is called ADULT ACTIVITY for a reason!!! @@StrawberryPinkGirl
@@StrawberryPinkGirlalso it called ADULT ACTIVITY FOR A REASON
I think you are a virgin because you are a POC. It's way harder to be celibate when you are white, aka the desired and the most attractive race. I've had my struggles.
Proud of you for telling your mum and taking responsibility and having the courage to tell your story and the realities of teen pregnancy. You are doing awesome.
8 GRADE? Where’s your MOTHER?
Supporting her
What for the doing the wrong thing... Pls get a life not a label......
When you were 14 your mom was supervising you no but seriously
I had my son when I was 15 got pregnant at 14 my mom was very supportive but he's father was not he put me through a lot but now my son is 33 and I have two grandchildren don't take anything for granted it goes really fast before you know it you'll be a grandmo too
Yeah duh.. At that age guys only liked you for your looks.. Only a very few are committed to staying with the first girl they got pregnant by. Girls are just a number to a guy lol because they need credit to practice until they actually are ready to settle down with someone they actually love. How do i know this? Ok this guy he got a girl pregnant at 16 and i found out through him talking and showing pictures of his son. We work together. As for that girl..he met her in school…Anyways, its funny because when we first met he was 18 and although he grew up he didn’t seem yet mature at the time.. He was love bombing me, he was flirting and touching all women etc and he wasn’t serious at the time even though he liked me. The thing though is as our bond grew so much, so did his heart.. How? Well once his friend ask him “ Why isn’t he helping me?” When i offered to help him because i liked him lol. His response was.. “ She said she will help?” And than a few minutes later he thank me. Fast forward now.. He seems so scared to lose me.
He more caring, he steps in to help me even when i say i got it we fight who will do it lol and his friend dont even have to tell him to help me now..he go do it on his own. He alot more protective and he opening up to me rather than putting on a face.. The best of all he forgot his baby momma. Like yeah. Of course he going to see his son but it more of her responsibility compare to him. He has full freedom. As all he does is pay child support and he can be with someone he truly love. Now i never said he didn’t like his baby momma because there was obvious attraction,but base on how he’s treating me and really scared of losing me it like he found out what TRUE LOVE IS…Now he does love his son and he is responsible to still be in his child life but he have no feelings for his baby momma. Also how do i know? Because i gave him plenty of time to leave he always come back to me and if we avoid each other for so long.. he withdraws as his family get worry so much. Also i saw how he changed into A Mature Adult that wants to wait. It sucks because i want him soooo badly, but he wants to wait until he finish his career. Which isnt that long lol. He just want to provide for me the right way and give me all his love and support rather then him knowing its just lust and just selfish sex just to please himself.
33 and grandchildren? Like your teens are having kids too?
33 isn’t a teen 🤦🏾♀️
@@millenisrighthere I thought she meant she was 33
I can't understand 13/14 years old having sex... Like that actually disgusting. Like forget the pregnant thing, its just repulsive no matter the gender. Wtf is happening.
literally i cant even imagine or comprehend how they are doing this shit that young. i met two people in 7th grade who had s3x for a total of like 30 seconds ig. still fucking gross at the VERY least wait until youre 16.
Hormones are what’s happening. Combined with a lack of sex Ed maybe.
@melthefallen4558 No, these kids know how babies are made, don't say "oh well they're horny kids", bro, everyone is at their age, but that does not mean to be having sex nor cheating on your bf
@@grxcie_0.o Do they? Maybe, but they may not fully understand how much of a risk it is and how serious it is. Some people can’t handle their emotions and hormones as well as that age. It sucks, and shouldn’t happen, but it does. I don’t think it’s right, don’t get me wrong, it just makes sense for it to be an (uncommon, hopefully) occurrence.
its hormones lil bro 14 is average age to loose your virginity
Your mother 'taking that news well' speaks volumes about your family and their moral compass.
So her mother should’ve abandoned her?? Screaming at her wouldn’t of helped
Indeed it does. She has an amazing supportive mother that believes in always supporting her children. When it's the scariest for them is when you become stronger for them.
The fact that you think bad news automatically means a freakout speaks volumes about your disposition.
@georgette7588 you missed the point. Her mother "taking it well" means she isn't suprised about her children's EXTREMELY early sexual activity and clearly hasn't bothered teaching them anything about dignity of body and status. Let's be so fr rn.
It's not "supportiveness". It's lazy parenting and a huge lack of discipline.
@@backpain4516 Ewwww, purity culture! 🤮
Use PROTECTION IF YOU DIDNT WANT KIDS!
Agreed, BUT using protection isn't 100% effective, only abstinence is, and technically pregnancy is possible without insertion so... Doesn't mean they weren't using protection- broken condom, taking antibiotics while on the pill, missed pill, not taking it perfectly...
How rude.
She's was a 13 yo kid.
What is the dirt on the dad, raping a child!!!
Or just dont have sex at all until youre a fully developed adult out of school
@@brendabazykowski4369how do you know she got r@ped? Did she even clearly state how she got pregnant in the video?
@@assyathefoxghostmugmansgf500no lol
I hate that they glorify teen pregnancy
Who is glorifying it??💀
They don’t really.
They glorify ab$rtions.
Fr like this is so sad
no one is glorifying it ☠️
nobody did that
I respect your honesty and how brave you are ❤
year 8 IS WILDDDD..
Technically 8th grade is Year 9
@@lizzieg4535no. It starts after kinder. 8th grade is grade 8
“year 8” 🤓
@@chrissyswifey “grade 8” 🤓
Keep your legs closed until you’re prepared to raise a child. We need to stop giving these kids a platform for being teen moms because it’s like saying it’s okay they screwed up now they can just get famous and never work and get paid by TH-cam
@@ViewAppalachia there's a few things wrong with this. saying "keep your legs closed" on a video about a 14 y/o girl is absolutely wild. at 14, there aren't a ton of job opportunities, and she also has a baby to take care of, so most jobs won't be feasible. she's working a job. you make videos? only they're that masculinity shit. i really don't care about what people do with their lives personally. she mentioned in this video that she doesn't recommend getting pregnant at that age. none of us know what really happened. she IS raising a child, and she is fully aware she screwed up. think about keeping your mouth shut rather than telling 14 year old girls to keep their legs shut.
@@zxcmd the problem with your logic is that the worst that can happen if I don’t keep my mouth closed is someone might listen and not end up a teen mom, and the worst that can happen if they don’t keep their legs closed is become a teen mom. I don’t care how it makes you feel. The age bothers you? Good even more reason to be as stern as possible to get the point across. Take your tone policing self on somewhere. I don’t care how you feel
@ViewAppalachia Honestly! I agree with you. A lot of people make it as though it is normal to have sex at a young age. I broke my virginity at 19, and I am now pregnant with my first child at 27. I still regret having my virginity broke that early! I am going to tell any of my girl children to wait for as long as they can and will tell them all the consequences of starting out early.
@@Tshepiso18what will you tell your boy children? See the issue is yall want to hold girls to a purity standard but say nothing to boys. So that when children of both genders makes mistakes the blame is ultimately put on girls and boys aren’t responsible for the consequences… just the girls to be told keep their legs shut and it’s their fault.
@@zxcmdhow about teaching young men to stop sleeping around with 13 year old girls
It’s crazy the amount of ppl that are like “u go girl, you’ll be fine” what is wrong with u ppl!
Exactly. Insanity
no one says that
@@chrissyswifey except so many of the comments, I guess you could live your life pretending they don’t..whatever gets you through your day🙄
@@taylorinvancouver2017 blud literally none of the comments are saying that😭 schizophrenic ahh
@@chrissyswifeyover half the comments are supportive and that’s the problem. They aren’t talking about people hating on her.
I’m in eighth grade and I could not imagine what ur going through, stay strong ❤
As another teen mom, my kids are older now, but you will see all your friends "living their best life" and feel like your missing out. I PROMISE YOU stick by your baby and yourself, and when your little baby is graduating or just being an amazing human, you realize that your sacrifice was beyond worthit.
But that's the point you lost your childhood..... Your friends kids will also graduate after a while and every parent sacrifice for their children.... I don't want to make you feel bad or less, I'm just saying everything has to be done at the right time or else price is way too high.....And not every teenager can handle such huge responsibility like an adult, even adults have a difficult time, so if this backfires it can cause baby harm.....
Yeah duh.. At that age guys only liked you for your looks.. Only a very few are committed to staying with the first girl they got pregnant by. Girls are just a number to a guy lol because they need credit to practice until they actually are ready to settle down with someone they actually love. How do i know this? Ok this guy he got a girl pregnant at 16 and i found out through him talking and showing pictures of his son. We work together as that girl he met in school…Anyways, it funny because when we first met he was 18 and although he grew he didn’t seem mature at the time.. He was love bombing me, he was flirting and touching all women etc and he wasn’t serious at the time even though he liked me. The thing though is as our bond grew so much so did his heart.. How? Well once his friend ask him “ Why isn’t he helping me?” When i offered to help him because i liked him lol. His response was.. “ She said she will help?” And than a few minutes later he thank me. Fast forward now.. He seems so scared to lose me.
He more caring, he steps in to help me even when i say i got it we fight who will do it lol and his friend dont even have to tell him to help me now..he go do it on his own. He alot more protective and he opening up to me rather than putting on a face.. The best of all he forgot his baby momma. Like yeah. Of course he going to see his son but it more of her responsibility compare to him. He has full freedom. As all he does is pay child support and he can be with someone he truly love. Now i never said he didn’t like his baby momma because there was obvious attraction,but base on how he’s treating me and really scared of losing me it like he found out what TRUE LOVE IS…Now he does love his son and he is responsible to still be in his child life but he have no feelings for his baby momma. Also how do i know? Because i gave him plenty of time to leave he always come back to me and if we avoid each other for so long.. he withdraws as his family get worry so much. Also i saw how he changed into A Mature Adult that wants to wait. It sucks because i want him soooo badly, but he wants to wait until he finish his career which isnt long lol and provide for me the right way and give me all his love and support rather then knowing its just lust and selfish sex just to please himself.
@@madhushriparab1409 i CHOSE to lose my childhood for my kids. That didn't matter to me, my kids did.
@@ayuanabradford3206 my first BD, was way older than me, he still calls everyday trying to reminisce, and would come running if I called
@@Itstartsinyou you were a kid when you got involved in adult activities and got pregnant you didn't have any other choice..... You were too naive to "CHOOSE"..... it's good it worked out for you but teens should just focus on studies or life becomes harder way before that it should be
I got my pregnant at 14 first guy I was ever with and I told my mom I wanted to be out on birth control she told me I was to young! Everyone wanted me to have an abortion but I didn’t and he is now grown with two kids is a wonderful father! Has went so far in life! I’m proud of him! I really think us as parents should listen to ur kids more
Why would you want to be on birth control at that age
Don’t blame your mum
It was your decision
Whyyyyyy would you be sexually active at that young age
You were too young and you shouldn't have been having sex at 14 with your fast ass. That's not okay
I blame the parents for not educating their boys at all. I told my sons everything I knew, about sex and relationships. Bought the condoms and told them it wasn’t a license for sex but when those urges hit , I wanted them protected against disease and fatherhood, while mentioning that a condom was not 100% reliable. I’m finally a grandmother to a child that was planned
This sounds like a reddit comment
Well I think its in the Bible or in God's mind like to have sex after marriage. At that point, two people are established to take of one another and the baby.
As of this young girl....I have no right to judge her because of her story. I pray love, joy and peace for her and her baby 👶
To everyone judging: a friend of mine is pregnant with her first baby at 12. She was peer pressured into something. Abortion was an option for her as it should be but she didn’t want to. She’s 9 months pregnant and I’m gonna be supportive. Support pregnant teens not teen pregnancy
I was catching fireflies at that age 😂my parents watched us like a hawk 😅but, I wish u well!
ok?
She had the kid already and still saying she doesn't want it??
Exactly
I was confused about that as well 🤔.
she probably gave it up for adoption
It shows her with it in the beginning??@@chrissyswifey
Adorable baby! So glad your mother supported you! I imagine teen pregnancies are tough, you are so strong! Congrats
So she is strong for having sex with someone at a young age?
I’m in 7th and this is terrifying. I feel so bad for this girl. Glad her mom took it well. ❤
Beyond pregnancy why are you putting all the cosmetics and creams on your face. You’re A Child !!!! Obtain from sex ! You’re going to be an adult for a long Time
DON’T RUSH !!! Back it up little girl ❣️
She’s like 15/16
Yea but doing the dirty in 8th grade is crazy
@@Leah_Hillstrom In 6th a girl had sex
Don't rush it? She has a baby, she needs to grow up now. What you expect? For her mom to step in so her daughter can make more stupid choices?
@@MoonyStaarstill a child? What’s your point.
I was pregnant at 19, knew I wasn’t going to get an abortion……..immediately chose to find a couple who couldn’t have children, to give them my baby. I knew I couldn’t give my baby what it would ever need or want. This was the HARDEST event in my life, BUT the BEST decision for my baby and me. Selflessness…….just because you find out you’re pregnant, doesn’t mean you HAVE to keep the baby. Think about the baby FIRST.
I did the same thing 22 years ago. I salute you because there is nothing in my eyes More painful than signing your baby over, even when it's the right thing to do.
ur so brave for that. getting preg at 19 honestly isn't as bad at getting preg at 14
True, but I believe that when a girl or woman gets pregnant unexpectedly, you have to put that child first, before all………..can you give that child what it needs and wants, are you capable of being a parent.
I was pregnant at 14, had my daughter at 15. Her dad left when she was 2. I graduated high school a year early making honor roll my last year (I’ve ALWAYS struggled in school, and even got left back in the 3rd grade) I’m now 31, and she’s 16 years old, high honor roll student and has held the same job for the last year. It’s wasn’t/isnt east but make a conscious decision to be better, and love yourself unconditionally in the process. Your lil girl is watching and picking it all up, which is why making sure you have time for yourself is crucial and extremely important. You can do it love. Stay strong and don’t make the same mistake twice. Our children are not a mistake, but the timing is. Ima need a ring on this finger before I have another, and that’s in period lol. Sending love 🫶🏽
My daughter's going to be 16 in February.
Men just always wanna run from responsibility
You got banged without a ring before, so why not again? It's not like you have any morals anyways, rather go just all out.
Girl just hang in there and it sounds like you have a really good mom you got this and when you get stressed out just to remember to breath and just keep telling yourself that you can do this you got this.❤
next time my mom complains about my messy room imma show her this video and tell her kids my age are doing worse 💀
LMAO, my mom gets mad at me for yelling a tiny bit too loud and I’m thinking to myself “kids are doing ten times worse than talking back to their mothers”
to all the people talking about how getting pregnant from sexual assault and choosing to have unprotected sex as a teenager is different: kindly stfu. yes, they're different! the pressure that young women deal with from men and their peers to be sexually active is a real thing though and i wish people wouldn't take that for granted
how are they not different?
That's different. She agreed to have sex in 8th grade without a condom with her boyfriend. That was her decision, then she chose not to give the baby up. I get peer pressure but you're in middle school? Your 12-14 year old peers are telling you to have sex and get pregnant? 💀 She's irresponsible and needs discipline, because having a boy put his penis inside you in the 8th grade is NOT ok. As bad as it sounds, thats the blatant truth. She had the choice to use a condom, unlike most teen moms. Shes a strong young woman for carrying and caring for that baby. Hopefully the baby lives a good happy life
She literally said nothing about that specifically though?
@@michellechair help why did my comment get deleted
Eighth grade! I know eighth graders still play with their dolls and dream of being moms!
Everyone is being so supportive in the comments section and me I'm just like who tf sent you to be pregnant at 14? When you're supposed to be focused on school.
Im 14 and school is still easy for me tho
She didn't choose to be pregnant. She made a mistake, and received consequences from it. If she has a good support system then she'll be fine. Support pregnant teens, not teen pregnancy. There's a difference
She didn't choose to be pregnant 😭
@@idonated50jellybeanstothew56but you can’t cook an egg..
@@Annie-SupernovaSOTYno but she choose to have unprotected (I’m assuming) s3x and also have s3x to begin with?
I’ve seen a bunch of these videos online of “teenage mothers” raising their kids, talking about experiences blah blah.. this is one of the craziest I’ve seen. I’m not hating but no matter how all of these are portrayed, IT IS NEVER OKAY. Y’all don’t need kids y’all need Sex ed and proper education
Nah the craziest one was a little 12 year with a baby cursing smoking on video. She had another one at 14 and twins at 17.
You’ve got this young lady!! Just one moment at a time. Knowing your mother is there for you and your baby is great
God bless this teen mom and all the other teens who got pregnant
Nose pierced and pregnant at 13 is wilddd
she said 14, and what does a nose piercing have to do with this
@@chrissyswifey parent is too lenient.
Piercing? Seriously?
@@chrissyswifey News Flash! You don't get pregnant and have a baby immediately
@@winkmink7709 piercing isn't that serious..
My cousin was 14 when she had her first baby❤️ at 27 she had her third baby and six days after giving birth she passed away. Congratulations on your baby. You reminded me of my cousin. I miss her. Wish you the best❤️
Oh my god! I'm so sorry for you! I share your pain because i lost my best friend at that age. Know that I grieve with you.
Parents should kept a close eye
they dont care
that’s not gone stop teens from having sex lol
You're so brave and pretty! I'm really sorry but we get you! Keep strong 💕
God bless you and your baby. I pray that you will both get support and give in your life, and that you won’t have to miss out too much on being a teen because of a mistake you made in middle school that God used to give you a suprise blessing. it is hard now but i will pray it gets better. GOD BLESS YOU.
@@alwaysrootingfortheantihero123 what about the kid she made🤦🏾♀️. What will the kid miss out on? A father? A mom to make good choices in their best interest? Just like the abortion argument, getting pregnant is not only the mom’s life. The child’s life matters more. Idc whatever tf she misses out on. She just will have to miss tf out. Although she still not missing out on having a bf 🤦🏾♀️. The fact u said that, I know how u get down. That’s 304 talk. Loose as a goose.
I still do not understand sex at 14 because there are so many better things for teens, especially young females, to be doing. That few minutes, let’s face it are not so good as a teen. I’d rather be skating, playing cards, riding my bike, taking a hike, shooting a basket ball, kayaking, swimming, practicing gymnastics, reading a book, writing a poem, doing my nails, sewing something, learning to cook, practicing a new language on an app. Playing a board game, organizing my room, practicing a new hair style, playing with my dog, doing an experiment, making a craft God this list could go on forever. Now you got a baby from a few seconds of nothingness with a boy who ditched out in two weeks and your time to do all the fun stuff is over, but he can go do whatever he wants. That really is sad. It is just so sad. 😢
facts
young females”💀
has bro never heard of teenage hormones
@@chrissyswifey ur def pregnant at 16 with ur 4th child
Child: Mom, how old am I?
Mom: your 14 years younger then me.
Child:😱
Ok