I mean, yeah... If you enjoying a woman enough one thing bound to lead to another... Life don't come with an instruction manual but we all need SOME type of skill for the journey ahead. I don't get why cooking and cleaning is such a sore subject for women & simps, it's like y'all assume anyone who asks for it or wants this isn't capable of doing it themselves. Maybe they are just attracted to someone who is creative, nurturing and supportive. Sorry to all the females out there that ain't making the cut lmao
That dude gave me a headache, my late husband was a wonderful provider and husband, I was a traditional wife that did all the cooking and cleaning. but if I was sick, hurt or exhausted, he brought Popeye's chicken and biscuits and cleaned up. There truly IS an in-between.
I do believe in in-between but you did not gave us an example of that. With you and your husband there’s no in-between, you are doing all the house chores (which is fine). The fact that he buys you things to eat and cleans the house when you are sick is the bare minimum, you are sick so you can’t cook or clean, he is just doing what is right in this situation.
I remember saying that when younger after all mom did 90% of the cooking, pop mainly stuck to mainly grilling. Pop lost it set me down and explained very seriously that a real man knows how to cook because a real man knows how to look after himself that includes feeding himself, that's also when My dad made my and my brothers job to cook dinner they both watched and explained everything when needed but after that point they didn't cook all that often. Granted it was nothing fancy mostly hamburger helper or cheap easy casseroles but it definitely laid the foundation that was needed when I moved out (I did get so much better in time and while I will never be a high ranking chef I was a chef for 10 years)
I never cook and I don’t usually clean, but used to before I was in a relationship. But I feed the animals, I prepare the wood for fire, I clean the yard, mown the lawn…we do different stuff in the house..
@@uceemeforeal8185 Exactly. If you have to tell everyone how "alpha " 😴you are , you're insecure. A true strong man doesn't care what other ppl think anyway!
You people are the corniest. Can’t tell which is more corny at this point, the alpha male culture stuff or those who goes against but at defined by it.
I remember when I posted this meme on Facebook in a nerd goup. I believe it still holds true today... All women need to learn how to cook, all men need to learn how to cook as well. Because neither sexism nor feminism are going to help you when you are hungry.
@@lukmanalghdamsi3189 i mean it can depend on a lot like where U go and how much money U got but yeah most of the time eating out is too extra. like if U earn 300k plus maybe U could afford almost anywhere all the time even fine dining type shit. but like average people... maybe they technically can afford it and break even but eating out definitely has a big impact on how much they can save and use for other shit in their life. the whole reason ppl somehow make it work with minimum wage salaries is cuz they cook and do other shit along with it to save money.
A grown man living with his parents is NOT a good look! 😆 He will never be respected by a women, because he’s not the man of the house! He gotta follow momma or daddy’s rules lmfao Men who live with their parents gotta DO better & Get their money up 🤷♀️
@@localpothead1286 You don't go around constantly announcing you're strong because it would just sound like the opposite as if you dont genuinely believe it yourself. So you have to keep saying it to make yourself believe it and make it true in your mind, when it's not. I understand that's not always the truth but you can understand where they are coming from right?
Preach is the example of not judging a book by its cover. You would never expect how much wisdom comes out of his rambling. Its a work of art sincerely. Abba you and this dude chemistry is something special.
I'm a professional cook, and I'm also a man. I don't let my girl make meals. I do all the cooking because she is not the best cook in the world. The kitchen is my domain in the house. Just my own personal situation. Everyone is different. My girl cleans more than I do, sometimes she even cleans up after me. Our relationship is balanced and we both like it that way.
@@steelheart9582 Everybody is not the same. There is literally nothing wrong as long as it’s a healthy relationship. Did he ask for your opinion on his relationship?🥴Maybe you should stay in your lane😊
I recently started dating a guy who is extremely kind, smart, generous, resourceful and doesn’t ever declare his “Alpha-ness”. He simply embodies manhood and carries himself as someone deserving of respect and deference. I have no problem letting him lead. He deserves leadership because I respect and value him.
He will, “blow the back.” Under his mother’s roof… That’s a lot of confidence coming from someone who could be homeless if he forgets to take the trash out one more time.
I dont ger american ways. In my country parents like having their children with them as long they can. Some guys get married when they are 40 and only then leave the parents house and also why basement?
Nah living in mom's basement isn't too bad. I could live there and own a rental property it all depends on why your living there 😭man dissing living with moms bro I ain't paying no rent and buying food
That just seems like common sense. I don’t know why it has to be complicated. Reciprocation is the bare minimum but there’s people who can’t even do that much. Yikes! 😳😬
Give up. Most level headed men really don't like people. The generation before us was the most racist homophobic impatient aggressive autocratic haters on the planet. The difference is our toxic masculinity is actually willing to both listen to your 'subsidized' bullshit and respond.
Bro I'll be honest with you I think all the level-headed people were just staying low and seeing which side is going to fight first because if I see some radical left people or radical right people I'm just going to stand there and watch and if I have time get a lawn chair and popcorn with a drink of my choice depends on the hour of the day and what day
@@Travie68 I feel like this is mostly in the first world but honestly irrational people are kind of a norm. People who have common sense were rare but apparently we're getting rare
Dating coaches is the weirdest hustle I’ve ever seen in my life. Everyone and their mother is a dating coach these days and it’s getting more and more pathetic.
I can’t knock the dating coach hustle but the people who follow them are cornballs. You suppose to get game from your father, uncles, brothers, friends, cousins, life experiences etc NOT the internet 😂😂😂
@@starsbarsnigga that hasn’t worked for about twenty years, mostly because the dating market has changed drastically. There’s good dudes in the space, just gotta sort out the cringe. Aba and Preach aren’t really helping.
I’m sick of people that want to act domineering and abusive and call it cute. Women can be just as bossy and obnoxious and most relationships don’t need all of that stupid nonsense. Stay single if you have to make a disclaimer to the masses about how much of a man/woman you are. Its shows lack of confidence and its just weird.
@@TrueJediLegend I always hated that stupid ass saying. It's like we dem boys for the cowboys football team. I hear that shit and already know you like cardi b lmao sit down
As a married woman: Observe his hand gestures, his mannerisms. It is all copied and self taught. Kind of like teenage boys walking with a limp because it looks cool. Men that turn into caricatures of themselves should at all times be avoided. I'm all for traditionalism. This is a caricature of traditionalism. Women within more traditional roles still wish to be met with common sensibility and intellectual balance. Don't go for the first guy with a know it all attitude. Find someone with some intellect and humility. There is room for growth there. People like this young man are mostly dead ends. Perhaps serving hard lessons in life to others as an unfortunate accidental side effect. That goes both ways. Value yourself, and your integrity, as you would in others.
Nbs I agree with everything you say except the walk some of us aren’t faking that…. This gone come off like a joke but it’s so our dicks don’t feel uncomfortable when we walk💯😭 some of us actually have a pretty decent size even while soft and when i walk wit straight legs instead of a limp sometimes my friend gets a little claustrophobic, every limp is actually me adjusting myself with no hands truth be told. I know it sounds like I’m a asshole trynna brag here but you can do with that information as you please, I’ve done my job to educate you 💯🤷🏽♂️
You don’t see anything wrong there because you’re exactly the caricature of a man that she describes. Unfortunately you won’t understand her (or my reply) because you lack the humility that she describes. BTW there’d be nothing wrong with those gestures and mannerisms if they were natural.
1:36 What Preach said is EXACTLY how my relationship is. We’ve been together for over a decade, and we get along really well. We both do things for each other. If you think having a relationship is about having someone to serve you and take care of you, that might be why you’re single, or miserable.
What’s sad is that kind of thinking won’t work for a man. That’s why people are clowning him for being in his basement. If he were a woman he can play that fluid gender role thing. He’s just pathetic.
Yeah there is an in between. And healthy relationships are fine, just don't get married. You don't want to get caught "in between" her and divorce court. But hey, if you're a man in 2021 and want to roll the dice, YOUR dice, knowing the odds and how the deck is stacked against you be my guest 😂
When you're a guy in your 20's, broke and living with mom (nothing wrong with that), don't be that guy. Keep your head down, focus, save your money, stay humble and grind. Your best years are ahead of you.
I did all that wifey stuff for my man, ironed his shirts, cooked his dinner, supported him when he was going through unemployment, said I'd live with him anywhere when he temporarily had no place to live, and he went off and slept with his ex girlfriend and got her pregnant. I'm saying, doing wifey things for a man doesn't guarantee anything. My dude still cheated and has a baby on the way with her and she is giving him nothing but grief now. Serves him right. I have since gone and he now has babymama drama. People, don't give your all to those who don't deserve it, they can still turn around and mess with your loyalty.
As an independent man, I think other men should also be capable of cooking, for themselves and their loved ones. Preach not wrong. Cooking is an art form that you should be able to do for yourself at the very least at some point. Whoever thinks it’s feminine is goofy af, we all gotta eat If you put such distinctive roles on gender, you set expectations, which fuck things up. Instead, telling your partner what you’re capable of and keeping in touch with them in the day-to-day will encourage communication regarding who can do what that day based on the circumstances. Encouraging communication, not expectation
It's not about being able to cook. It's about who should have to be doing it in relationship. If something happens with a tire of my car or toilet flush I know it's on me not my woman. Having said that I think women should cook not man unless he's single.
Cooking and cleaning is mandatory if you are independent unless you want to live in your own filth and eat microwave/fast food all day. In a relationship, whoever had the least to do that day, should cook for that day, a relationship is a teamwork, 100/100, albeit I prefer cooking together, even recommend it.
@@antrakt900 most chef's are men. My dad cooked most of the time and it did not change his head of the household title. As a matter of fact he was better at it than my mom and he loved feeding his family. When you expect someone to do something simply because of their gender you will not appreciate their role. Never eat food from an unhappy person or a person forced to cook for you.
It's not goofy. That is what a traditional woman or "domestic woman" is she is in charge of the home. The man provides a home, protection, security and is a leader. Preach has a 50/50 relationship, they share the responsibility. Some people prefer that, some men want that domestic(traditional) woman. I do my job meaning I work pay bills keep the ship moving you do ur job keep the foundation strong( meaning the home always looks presentable. She is ur second in command. Work as a unit.
Aba & Preach, I'm a 60+ year old white male, and I've found we give mostly the same advice. Thanks for your common sense approach, it's needed in today's crazy society.
I'm with Preach on the inbetween. I'm a Sri Lankan and my partner is Irish. Our cultures couldn't be more different; My culture teaches us that a woman's place is in the home, in the kitchen, looking after the kids and treating the husband like he owns you. But with my partner, there is non of this this role is yours, that role is mine. I take care of him he takes care of me. He's had a bad day, I cook him something nice he'll love to come home to. I've had a rough day, my man's will clean the whole house and have it looking sparkling when i walk in and know i don't got to do nothing. Its not diamonds and roses, but after a while those things don't mean shit. Love and thoughtfulness goes both ways and should be equal.
He states a women is not a prize or a queen but then he's asking to be treated like a prize or a king lol. I rather be single then have a man baby. A Relationship is a partnership, where two people are helping each other. If a woman wants to cook for her partner, great, if the man wants to cook great...The sad part is I still know plenty of women miserable trying to take care of their man babies and managing their career and children...
Lol not me. If he Pais for his mother's property plus worked 2 jobs, ➕ working on his credit while trying to get/earn his cdl and buying his own house ➕ forming his own llc. Then that's alpha shit. This is a delta male.
@@mr_imperfectiongamingchann1962 That is not Alpha Male shit that is a business man. There are plenty of wealthy \ rich Beta males who are businessmen. Regardless of what a mans personality is they still need to survive in society.
Because it's easier to create an extreme. Just like feminazis go full extreme, some guys do too. To teach someone life is not easy and can't be done on YT or TikTok :) Every situation is different and every solution is individual even tho the issue might seem "similar" sometimes.
Good on you for outgrowing them, it says great things about you and your maturity which will go towards a happy, healthy relationship. Best wishes mate.
Yeah, this black and white perspective isn't modern. Yeah, men are the protectors, women are the nurturers, but we both are capable of being adults. Cooking isn't nurture, it's straight up subsistence. Taking commandments isn't submissive, it's displaying an in ability to portray individuality. We're compliments to each other.
You're only speaking to part of the population considering there are many same sex relationships. Gender plays no role in relationships...y'all just make it that way.
@@Myaccount923 nah, he was probably a super nice dude that met a good looking girl that left him for someone else. After that, he lived in his moms basement watching red pill videos, just for him to surface on the internet, as the prophecy predicted.
That’s exactly my ex. 35yo, never had a real job, living in his dads house getting an allowance while being fed and having all bills paid… living in a man cave with all sorts of entertainment paid by daddy… while at the same time telling me to “learn my place” because he is the man in the relationship. Yup.
He dates girls not women. He purchases them trying to make them his property...then he takes off his shirt and throws a tantrum like a little boy on the floor. Beta male energy!
@@4inaftermath454 I used to be a beta male, I'm not going to hide it, I grew up, stopped being an emotionally out of control kid and "Cleaned up my room" . I can spot these dudes in a second, there is always an unbalanced power struggle between them. It's funny AF watching these gurus.
"I'm not submissive I'm dominant. " A real one doesn't have to say their one. And being a dominant doesnt mean we can't put in our fair share of the work as well.
@@angeleyes3386 exactly and we can never know if that is right or wrong. Atleast not right now maybe in the future we might know. When there are studies about relationships and stuff and also the current generations kids have grown old. The effect on children who's mom did onlyfans. How having multiple relationship affected my health and personality in a positive/negative way. And there will be a bunch of more studies just like this about relationship and dating. My hypothesis is it will probably have a negative impact. Since majority of the times in the past when people adhered to social norms it was mostly bad. Like slavery, world wars, eugenics, sexist behaviour towards women, cancer due to cigarettes and many more.
"I'm dominant!"... any male who says that... is a typical loser, talks big, pushes weaker people around, but is submissive and cowardly when confronted by a real man or woman. His ranting and raving, is his anger at himself for living in his mom's basement. The best dating advice comes from people who have been happily married for a long time. Not from perpetual singles.
@@YoungBlaze context really matters in this one. Jesus never have to claim he's a king to be recognized as one. However when you're a king, if you said you are king, you're not making a claim but a observation. Same as jesus being the king of kings, he's just saying how it is
@@wendigodeadpatterson2514 Um, not trying to be that guy, but you made 3 grammar mistakes yourself. - It's you're (you are), not your. - No punctuation at the end of a sentence. - Commas and periods go inside of quotation marks.
I’m so lucky to have the parents I had. Both my parents did both roles, my Mom and Dad were both amazing cooks and they both did housework. Now that I’m married, my husband and I share all the duties. We both live here we both cook and clean. Only one that does nothing is the dog lol.
Same, now me & my siblings are grow & in the dating world my mum is appreciating her husband (& past boyfriends) even more, she's shocked that just not being sexist or expecting the woman to do everything in the house is where the bar is. The level of disrespect & expectations on both sides is oddly high, I guess if people keep getting away with it thy won't get more realistic expectations.
I'm traditional and so is my husband, we didn't start like this but it's what works for us, him working full time and I'm homeschooling our daughter and clean/cook. Yes I take care of my husband but he takes care of us too, marriage is a lot of compromise and selflessness not demanding or control. My husband does not act like this guy and I wouldn't be with him if he was, it seems like the young man has an idea in his head of what a traditional relationship is and it's almost like an exaggerated version of the real thing. I've been married for 10 years and as someone on the outside looking in, these people are lost and need to live their lives the way God wants us to.
Traditional is frowned upon as backwards but it gets the job done. It works, makes things a lot easier for both. Classic case of if it ain't broken don't fix it.
I think it's alpha, she makes her subordinate pay her rent, it lame because it's his mom, but still alpha, why I gotta pay my rent? Why I gotta provide for you or my kids? That's your job girl
@@Chvyce 😂😂 That is funny, and cute. I might steal some version of that. Like I’m a feminist lol kidding. I mean old school feminism was worthy it so we can vote. But this new era of young women feminists are angry and feel like authoritarians- they’re not full of peace, love or happiness. I’m sure there are some fascinating exceptions out there with intriguing things to say. I’ve met a few older ones (over 50). Now feminism has a bit of an interesting place again because not fully transitioned trans people are coming into our dressing rooms and stuff. Some rapists. Not all of course. I know a trans chic that is old school from SF chill. I never would have guessed if she hadn’t told me.
My dad was the king and my mom was the slave. I tried that when I got married and it crashed and burned. I obviously would do it differently if I could go back. I still believe in the old fashioned gender roles to some degree. Whether she works or not, she is supposed to be the love of your life. Do the dishes, make a meal, watch your kids so she can go out with the girls(notice how I didn't say babysit. They are your kids). She needs a break just like you. Give her the same respect you want. The good ole golden rule applies as usual. Do to others as you want done to you.
Relationships are fine, just don't get married. You don't want to get caught "in between" her and divorce court. But hey, if you're a man in 2021 and want to roll the dice, your dice, be my guest 😂
It’s perfectly reasonable for a man to want you to do household chores if he’s the only one working. But at the same time, he can’t have an attitude about it like “yOU BETTER DO WHAT I TELL YOU!” Nah, the woman will help him out and take on those responsibilities on her own if she actually cares about him. We don’t need to be told what to do. We’re not children.
@@almighty7709 housework is a woman’s work…is from a time when women didn’t go off to work. If u both go off to work then I guess y’all both cleaning the house or hiring a maid.
I have a question… why are these people out here trying to bend the bad bitch into a house wife or the dominant guy into a yes man? Y’all looking for the wrong people and trying to make that wrong person fit into your life. It’s so weak. I’m with Preach on this 100%. This why they call him Preach! My wife and I have a similar relationship to him and his wife. I dig it bro!
It’s a good point but there’s bad bitches that pull they weight out there. I’ve dated both before. The problem is that we have a massive trend in our society where women want to be independent except when it’s inconvenient. They quick to point to a man and say “it’s your job” to get what they want, but whenever I ask one “ok what’s YOUR job?” They say something like “whatever I want it to be” with no other details lol. That or they think that a regular chance at they pussy is even exchange. I promise most every bad bitch got somebody that can bend them. Every guy just think it’s him lol
My relationship with my wife is exactly like how Preach describes and I love it. I'm so glad he described it, it's like no one knows what give and take is, it's not a competition.
Most of these "alpha" gurus just watched Kevin Samuels a couple times, and now they think they got the whole dating game figured out. 90% of them haven't even been in long-term relationships > 2 years.
The in between space is the only rational solution. But lonely men and women on the internet don't want the nuance of the real world, they want to be told they're perfect and anyone that rejects them is actually just damaged in some way.
In between is bargaining. You have to tailor your responsibilities to your income. If both parties are middle class, employed and want that upper class lifestyle, sure, split duties, but if one partner is making north of 400k and pulling 80hr weeks, the task of house upkeep and child rearing are given to the other spouse. It's division of labour. And if you think that task is "beneath" you then enlist a maid, or relatives, get a high paying job yourself or ask the provider to make more money. But that begs the question if you're both earners, who's raising the children? The Nanny? The why are we married? These are adult questions that every couple should have. It's not one size fits all because every family has different needs and expectations. In the subset of "alpha male" or high income earners there really is no middle. If earning a paycheck is more important than raising his kids, then make that known early. Those men are looking for family builders not splitting 50/50 on house chores.....his work IS his chore. And people don't get that. Again this example isn't applicable to 95% of men or clowns like this basement dweller because he hasn't earned that bargaining privilege
@@LaitoChen I work with kids, so the who's raising the kids argument always falls a little flat to me. But most dual income families don't use a nanny, at worst it's after school daycare for 3 hours till they get off work. It's true that when they're babies, kids do a lot better with one parent staying home, but in my experience that actually starts hurting them when they start going to school full time. As for childrearing labor, dad absolutely has to do a large share of the work to get a good relationship with his kid. Bottom line is men pulling 80hr weeks make terrible fathers, it doesn't matter how much money they make. It's not as if a kid is going to rationalize that daddy makes the money, so he shouldn't have to do bath time with him...he just knows dad isn't the one that takes care of him, only mommy does. And his relationship with dad will be more like 'guy who pays our bills'
@@LaitoChen being a dad doesn’t end with providing. Spending time with your children is an indispensable requirement for their development. People shame people with fatherless behavior but still continue to preach that a dad’s obligation is only to work. Just because a man reaches the status of a billionaire, should that mean hes allowed to forget hes also a father? Come on now
" Any man who must say " I am the King", is no king" . One of the biggest issues i have with so much of this red pill content. When you truly stand in your masculinity you dont have to announce it; its felt and people respond.
Preach is PREACHING & everybody needs to listen!!! The in-between is a healthy relationship. It’s RESPECT, love and empathy. Glad to see it exist somewhere!🙌🏾💃🏾
Don’t believe in the “in-between” I believe In reciprocity. I don’t look for a woman to do what I can do. I’m not looking for a twin. I’m looking for someone who can fill in where I can’t.
Exactly. We all do everything for ourselves when we're single, but wanna put it on other ppl when they're in a relationship. Jus do what you're already doin, and have the respect and courtesy to do it for the one u love every once in a while.
Yeah there is an in between and healthy relationships are fine, just don't get married. You don't want to get caught "in between" her and divorce court. But hey, if you're a man in 2021 and want to roll the dice, your dice, knowing the odds and how the deck is stacked against you be my guest 😂
@@pittrollmosh7572 I recently just got out of culinary class. I’m very well versed in culinary arts. You’ve actually just caught me while I’m cooking currently. I always do my own laundry, clean my own stuff. I’m not in a relationship currently. I was saying. It’s a partnership. If I can’t do something, then as my partner I would appreciate it if they would fill in for me. I do everything. Fix my motorcycle, clean the house, fix appliances, cook all my meals and meals for my family when they’re around. The point is, is that i am an adult, I can function on my own. I bring a partner in my life to make my life easy. If I come home from work and I have to cook for my self when you’ve been at home for the past four hours then you’re useless to me.
The "In-Between" is possible...only if both parties are mature enough. And that maturity typically comes from years and years of fucking up. My girl and I say it all the time: if we would've met years earlier it would've been toxic AF, because we weren't ready for a serious relationship.
Everything is about “Maturity” that’s all people talk about when it comes to making a relationship work. Yet it seems like nobody is being mature. It’s like they only TALK about it.
@@Kal-El207 because actually being mature means looking in the mirror and realizing that person is just as fucked up as everyone else in the world...and most people can't do that
I’ve been with my now husband for 22 years. There’s definitely a middle ground! We both have successful careers, both bring in the money for the household sometimes he cooks, some times i do. We both clean. It’s a 50/50 relationship in every sense of the word. It works well for us to not have stereotypical expectations and just working as a team.
That whole Alpha male and being dominant..... just shows how insecure most of these people really are. Just be loving, caring etc....and find that person you think is worth investing time in.
The irony of people like this giving advice - they don’t have healthy relationships themselves. He is screaming someone who hasn’t had a serious long-term relationship.
Me and my husband been married for 10 years. Its seriously all about equality. I am a stay at home mom with 3 boys and he will still help out. He makes the money but I know the finances. And I used to work and he took care of the kids. Even after he came back from deployment and did reserves we still did things equally.
And based on what he says in their videos, he actually has a long-standing relationship. None of these dating and relationship "gurus" can say the same. I think that speaks for itself.
If you have to make the statements like im dominant or im alpha, i assure you that you are not. These dating coaches will leave you even lonelier and more confused... essentially making you think that you need them.
@@loopymomy2532 depends. If you’re doing it to save the money to buy a house or getting a stem degree that’ll secure a high paying job, I have more respect for that than someone who lives in an overpriced apartment living paycheck to paycheck. Not everyone has nice parents, but I’ve known people who jumped into a better life precisely because they kept it low-key in their 20s while living with parents.
He’s a narcissist that can rationalize that he is a winner when in reality he is a giant loser lacking self-awareness. As an orphan with no parents or family to support me, I enjoy watching these ‘alpha’ males acting tough when they live sheltered lives under the protection of their mommy. I have no issue with men living with their parents passed 18, but they need to act more humble and realize they are soft and targets for people like me to mock and ridicule.
Girl, that’s his grandma’s house with that rose covered couch 🤣🤣🤣 He’s such a dominant man that he can’t even change the batteries on his grandma’s smoke detector 💀💀💀
It’s funny that guys like this are all about being on their purpose and smashing and dashing, but they constantly talk about women and how to get them and they they quote on quote love “alpha males”, yes no woman wants a weak man, but it’s like let things fall into place, don’t just go out searching for woman, if these guys were truly on their purpose they wouldn’t be spitting out cringe rants like this.
Most “red pill” guys follow this and it’s not from a place of hopefulness, most of the time it’s from a place of hopelessness and that women in general aren’t worth it. Anger and resentment can be a strong motivator but mind numbing in deference to the possibility of hope is far worse. They call it the “black pill” interesting group of people.
@@adio8824 if women in general aren't worth it in their eyes, they are doing a favor to us by staying away. I think we need to give them more credit for that.
It’s the byproduct of being a moron and thinking you’ve just learned something profound, and that you have the ability to preach it like some enlightened shaman to the unknowing masses
The in-between and the balance is what separates the relationships that are healthy for both people and which ones are toxic. I live helping and I love being cared for.
We have decades of housewife generations that did all that and their men still strayed. Often for women who couldn't do all those things. The depressed quaalude housewife era was a real thing. Not to say that it doesn't work, I'm no authority in that area. But what the hell is wrong with partnership?
But thats a trade off, things were more equal with dating in that era and its justified for men to cheat because that's how men are designed. A women cheating on the other hand is truly an act of evil
I’m with you preach , we raised different though . I do most of the cookin but we just do whatever needs to be done and if someone is having a rough week the other picks up the slack and doesn’t hold it over the others head . Salute
Lots of blue pill this side of youtube
Using the terms “blue pill” seriously?
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Pin of shame
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Dies of cringe
Lots of sad dudes rationalizing being losers by calling other dudes "blue-pill" hiding behind a faceless avatar this side of TH-cam
His not living in his mom's basement, he's residing in his Queen's royal residence. 🌹
"You deserve a dundie" Michal G Scott
Aba and Preach need to pin this
Comment of the year
Wording matters! 💯
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He's not looking for a girlfriend, he's looking for a mother.
I would understand that if one was looking for a future baby mama, but in this case he is looking for his own mother's substitute.
This man is clearly putting up an act. All his talking points are all generic cliches not to say they don't hold any weight or are wrong.
I mean, yeah... If you enjoying a woman enough one thing bound to lead to another... Life don't come with an instruction manual but we all need SOME type of skill for the journey ahead. I don't get why cooking and cleaning is such a sore subject for women & simps, it's like y'all assume anyone who asks for it or wants this isn't capable of doing it themselves. Maybe they are just attracted to someone who is creative, nurturing and supportive. Sorry to all the females out there that ain't making the cut lmao
Idk about you but I’m constantly looking for mommy milkers
Most weak men are..... he’s pathetic...
“MOM STOP VACCUMING IM TRYING TO TEACH THE WAYS OF A HIGH VALUE MALE”
“WHATT?”
That's when she readies the chancla 🤣
ctfu
😂🤣😂
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That dude gave me a headache, my late husband was a wonderful provider and husband, I was a traditional wife that did all the cooking and cleaning. but if I was sick, hurt or exhausted, he brought Popeye's chicken and biscuits and cleaned up. There truly IS an in-between.
Aww. That's nice.
So he tried to kill u with them dry ass buscuits? Tht don’t sound like love😭
@@amazinglyamara7850 hahaha
That's not an inbetween... that's just being considerate.
I do believe in in-between but you did not gave us an example of that. With you and your husband there’s no in-between, you are doing all the house chores (which is fine). The fact that he buys you things to eat and cleans the house when you are sick is the bare minimum, you are sick so you can’t cook or clean, he is just doing what is right in this situation.
"A real man doesn’t ever cook a meal"
He going to be a hungry mofu then 😂
I remember saying that when younger after all mom did 90% of the cooking, pop mainly stuck to mainly grilling. Pop lost it set me down and explained very seriously that a real man knows how to cook because a real man knows how to look after himself that includes feeding himself, that's also when My dad made my and my brothers job to cook dinner they both watched and explained everything when needed but after that point they didn't cook all that often. Granted it was nothing fancy mostly hamburger helper or cheap easy casseroles but it definitely laid the foundation that was needed when I moved out (I did get so much better in time and while I will never be a high ranking chef I was a chef for 10 years)
FRT
I never cook and I don’t usually clean, but used to before I was in a relationship. But I feed the animals, I prepare the wood for fire, I clean the yard, mown the lawn…we do different stuff in the house..
😅🤣😂
Most professional chefs are men 🤣
"Any man who must say 'I am the king' is no true king."
- Tywin Lannister
Okay geek
Because it should already be evident.
@@uceemeforeal8185 Exactly. If you have to tell everyone how "alpha " 😴you are , you're insecure. A true strong man doesn't care what other ppl think anyway!
Any man who depends on others opinion to judge himself ain't nothing either... Its better to become your own bitch than other people's bitch
@@Mr.Eminem weird way to put it, but ye🤣🤣
"Any man who must say ‘I am the king’ is no true king.” - Tywin Lannister
The same as queen
And same as when a guy calls himself a "real man"
Ya I'm not questioning this dude's honor, I'm denying its existence.
Bars🔥
You people are the corniest. Can’t tell which is more corny at this point, the alpha male culture stuff or those who goes against but at defined by it.
I remember when I posted this meme on Facebook in a nerd goup. I believe it still holds true today... All women need to learn how to cook, all men need to learn how to cook as well. Because neither sexism nor feminism are going to help you when you are hungry.
nobody can afford to be eating out all the time anyway if U are even middle class U need to learn how to cook
@@red2theelectricboogaloo961 tell that to the lazy ass narcissistic women who attack anyone that tells them to cook
@@red2theelectricboogaloo961nobody?
@@lukmanalghdamsi3189 i mean it can depend on a lot like where U go and how much money U got but yeah most of the time eating out is too extra. like if U earn 300k plus maybe U could afford almost anywhere all the time even fine dining type shit. but like average people... maybe they technically can afford it and break even but eating out definitely has a big impact on how much they can save and use for other shit in their life. the whole reason ppl somehow make it work with minimum wage salaries is cuz they cook and do other shit along with it to save money.
It's okay to live with your parents, but you can't be arrogant at the same time.
Drink or drive situation 🤣
@@ajshiro3957 maybe you missed to point and the context..?
A grown man living with his parents is NOT a good look! 😆 He will never be respected by a women, because he’s not the man of the house! He gotta follow momma or daddy’s rules lmfao Men who live with their parents gotta DO better & Get their money up 🤷♀️
No shit sherlock
It's only ok if your saving to get your own.. sadly most folks at their parents will be driving M5 bmws and Porsche and chasing pussy
He just sounds like he's trying to convince himself.
Desperately
It's an act.
He's so alpha he drinks bull milk for breakfast! 👀
@@Circee11 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Excellent point, well made.
Saying "I'm an alpha male" or "I'm a strong woman" are excellent indicators that the opposite is true.
Lmao so i cant say im strong cause that means the opposite?
An alpha man at least appears to be self reliant
A strong woman influencer has more than one video of "why can't I do this? Why can't I get anyone?"
Exactly! It's like when people would say "I'm such a nerd"....no you're not.
@@localpothead1286 You don't go around constantly announcing you're strong because it would just sound like the opposite as if you dont genuinely believe it yourself. So you have to keep saying it to make yourself believe it and make it true in your mind, when it's not. I understand that's not always the truth but you can understand where they are coming from right?
@@localpothead1286 nope, not in the context of dating
Preach is the example of not judging a book by its cover. You would never expect how much wisdom comes out of his rambling. Its a work of art sincerely. Abba you and this dude chemistry is something special.
I wonder if his mother ever walked in on him given one of his rants?? Imagine how awkward that conversation would be.
Imagine “boy if you don’t just shut it already..! 👋🏾 “ 😭😭😭
He will piss in his pants😭😭😭
@@zippo5294 🤣🤣🤣🤣
imagine she walks in when he calls himself an alpha and she starts laughing like "heres your Dino nuggies, mr. alpha!"
😂😂😂😂😂
I'm a professional cook, and I'm also a man. I don't let my girl make meals. I do all the cooking because she is not the best cook in the world.
The kitchen is my domain in the house.
Just my own personal situation. Everyone is different. My girl cleans more than I do, sometimes she even cleans up after me. Our relationship is balanced and we both like it that way.
Teach her how to cook so she can be of use to you, stop making excuses for her inadequacies,
@@steelheart9582 She is of use. He cooks, she cleans. Whatever one lacks the other picks up, sounds like a healthy dynamic to me.
@@aPeachWhoLovesYeshua she's supposed cook and clean and so are you, I never asked you to enter this conversation, stay in your place
@@steelheart9582 Everybody is not the same. There is literally nothing wrong as long as it’s a healthy relationship. Did he ask for your opinion on his relationship?🥴Maybe you should stay in your lane😊
@@aPeachWhoLovesYeshua he's trolling. Don't feed the trolls
This guy is the embodiment of “fake it til you make it”.
He ain’t making it though 😂
derrick jaxn 0.5. 0 lpl
More faking, less making at the moment it seems.
Same pf picture
Thats all dating/life coachs outhere.
I recently started dating a guy who is extremely kind, smart, generous, resourceful and doesn’t ever declare his “Alpha-ness”. He simply embodies manhood and carries himself as someone deserving of respect and deference. I have no problem letting him lead. He deserves leadership because I respect and value him.
He will, “blow the back.” Under his mother’s roof…
That’s a lot of confidence coming from someone who could be homeless if he forgets to take the trash out one more time.
Chillll
Lmfaoooooooooo
I dont ger american ways. In my country parents like having their children with them as long they can. Some guys get married when they are 40 and only then leave the parents house and also why basement?
😂😂😂 imagine falling for his BS and coming to his castle to his queen aka his mom is yelling at him for not taking the trash out 😂😂😂
Nah living in mom's basement isn't too bad. I could live there and own a rental property it all depends on why your living there 😭man dissing living with moms bro I ain't paying no rent and buying food
I love hearing preach's balance with his wife. He makes her coffee, she gets him a sandwich. I wish all relationships had a balance like his
Exactly.
It's the same with my husband and I, too. That in-between/make it balanced is so much better. We've been together for 15 years now.
Only quality ppl understand balance and reciprocation. That's the issue. Sounds simple but those ppl are hard to find.
I'm dead serious when I say that a lot of people especially women don't want a balance. However, that shit would be ideal for me.
That just seems like common sense. I don’t know why it has to be complicated. Reciprocation is the bare minimum but there’s people who can’t even do that much. Yikes! 😳😬
Aba and Preach give me hope that level headed people still exist.
Literally why I watch them. It's just reassuring at this point. 😂
Give up. Most level headed men really don't like people. The generation before us was the most racist homophobic impatient aggressive autocratic haters on the planet. The difference is our toxic masculinity is actually willing to both listen to your 'subsidized' bullshit and respond.
Bro I'll be honest with you I think all the level-headed people were just staying low and seeing which side is going to fight first because if I see some radical left people or radical right people I'm just going to stand there and watch and if I have time get a lawn chair and popcorn with a drink of my choice depends on the hour of the day and what day
@@grunt9950 same
@@Travie68 I feel like this is mostly in the first world but honestly irrational people are kind of a norm. People who have common sense were rare but apparently we're getting rare
This is that one friend who cries on your couch drunk because he’s lonely
Dating coaches is the weirdest hustle I’ve ever seen in my life. Everyone and their mother is a dating coach these days and it’s getting more and more pathetic.
I can’t knock the dating coach hustle but the people who follow them are cornballs. You suppose to get game from your father, uncles, brothers, friends, cousins, life experiences etc NOT the internet 😂😂😂
@@starsbarsnigga more and more men are struggling with dating. Calling those guys cornballs for trying to find a solution makes no sense
@@starsbarsnigga that hasn’t worked for about twenty years, mostly because the dating market has changed drastically. There’s good dudes in the space, just gotta sort out the cringe. Aba and Preach aren’t really helping.
Woman: let me tell you what men really want.
Men: we don't like any of that, none of it matters.
Women: anyways.... so I chopped his di.... off.
@@cmap1503 what’s the struggle? I’m genuinely curious.
I’m sick of people that want to act domineering and abusive and call it cute. Women can be just as bossy and obnoxious and most relationships don’t need all of that stupid nonsense. Stay single if you have to make a disclaimer to the masses about how much of a man/woman you are. Its shows lack of confidence and its just weird.
Real good selling points....🐗
Facts! Say it louder for the dickheads in the back.
@@TrueJediLegend I always hated that stupid ass saying. It's like we dem boys for the cowboys football team. I hear that shit and already know you like cardi b lmao sit down
Facts 👏🏽👏🏽 also your hair is beautiful ❤️
Facts
As a married woman: Observe his hand gestures, his mannerisms. It is all copied and self taught. Kind of like teenage boys walking with a limp because it looks cool. Men that turn into caricatures of themselves should at all times be avoided. I'm all for traditionalism. This is a caricature of traditionalism. Women within more traditional roles still wish to be met with common sensibility and intellectual balance. Don't go for the first guy with a know it all attitude. Find someone with some intellect and humility. There is room for growth there. People like this young man are mostly dead ends. Perhaps serving hard lessons in life to others as an unfortunate accidental side effect. That goes both ways. Value yourself, and your integrity, as you would in others.
It seems so obvious the narcissism that is oozing out of this man-child. It’s so unattractive.
Nbs I agree with everything you say except the walk some of us aren’t faking that…. This gone come off like a joke but it’s so our dicks don’t feel uncomfortable when we walk💯😭 some of us actually have a pretty decent size even while soft and when i walk wit straight legs instead of a limp sometimes my friend gets a little claustrophobic, every limp is actually me adjusting myself with no hands truth be told. I know it sounds like I’m a asshole trynna brag here but you can do with that information as you please, I’ve done my job to educate you 💯🤷🏽♂️
You don’t see anything wrong there because you’re exactly the caricature of a man that she describes. Unfortunately you won’t understand her (or my reply) because you lack the humility that she describes.
BTW there’d be nothing wrong with those gestures and mannerisms if they were natural.
@@randomlady6899 ummm idk if you were replying to me or not but….I was pretty sure I said I agreed with her comment just not the walk thing😐
That's some real stoic shit. Lemme know after you hit that 7 year point...
1:36 What Preach said is EXACTLY how my relationship is. We’ve been together for over a decade, and we get along really well. We both do things for each other. If you think having a relationship is about having someone to serve you and take care of you, that might be why you’re single, or miserable.
It seems to me that people expect their partners to have well-defined roles, but they don't want to have a well-defined role for themselves.
Well said
They in a relationship but they can’t help each other with simple shit like tidying up
People want to be catered to these days but they don't want to return the favor.
What’s sad is that kind of thinking won’t work for a man. That’s why people are clowning him for being in his basement. If he were a woman he can play that fluid gender role thing. He’s just pathetic.
Exactly.
“Can we have an in between?!” Preach is preaching. It’s not that difficult. And Aba “Clean your room!” 💨
Yeah there is an in between. And healthy relationships are fine, just don't get married. You don't want to get caught "in between" her and divorce court. But hey, if you're a man in 2021 and want to roll the dice, YOUR dice, knowing the odds and how the deck is stacked against you be my guest 😂
@@ShaferHart Preach is married
But is there something wrong with having defined roles
He sounds so tired of this bullsh**. I laughed the way how he said it 😂😂
@@berrymckockiner5883 No, but don't treat it like it's the only option.
When he says "I am the toxic asshole" he has no comprehension of how correct he is...
And that’s probably the reason why he’s still single 🤔😂🤣
He probably does tbh.
Right! 🤣🤣🤣
When you're a guy in your 20's, broke and living with mom (nothing wrong with that), don't be that guy.
Keep your head down, focus, save your money, stay humble and grind. Your best years are ahead of you.
I did all that wifey stuff for my man, ironed his shirts, cooked his dinner, supported him when he was going through unemployment, said I'd live with him anywhere when he temporarily had no place to live, and he went off and slept with his ex girlfriend and got her pregnant. I'm saying, doing wifey things for a man doesn't guarantee anything. My dude still cheated and has a baby on the way with her and she is giving him nothing but grief now. Serves him right. I have since gone and he now has babymama drama. People, don't give your all to those who don't deserve it, they can still turn around and mess with your loyalty.
Ouch...but that ex never fully gone away
If you do wifey stuff too soon he will have no respect for you.
Just like if a man gets husbandy too soon
@@somethingclever8916 nah, it’s more of if you picked the wrong person to do that with.
It’s not too soon just be carful who you marry.
@@myshiteu4934 but they don't marry the girlfriend that gets too wifey
key word girl friend
Not doing it is going to almost guarantee that result
As an independent man, I think other men should also be capable of cooking, for themselves and their loved ones. Preach not wrong. Cooking is an art form that you should be able to do for yourself at the very least at some point. Whoever thinks it’s feminine is goofy af, we all gotta eat
If you put such distinctive roles on gender, you set expectations, which fuck things up.
Instead, telling your partner what you’re capable of and keeping in touch with them in the day-to-day will encourage communication regarding who can do what that day based on the circumstances. Encouraging communication, not expectation
It's not about being able to cook. It's about who should have to be doing it in relationship. If something happens with a tire of my car or toilet flush I know it's on me not my woman. Having said that I think women should cook not man unless he's single.
Cooking and cleaning is mandatory if you are independent unless you want to live in your own filth and eat microwave/fast food all day.
In a relationship, whoever had the least to do that day, should cook for that day, a relationship is a teamwork, 100/100, albeit I prefer cooking together, even recommend it.
@@antrakt900 most chef's are men. My dad cooked most of the time and it did not change his head of the household title. As a matter of fact he was better at it than my mom and he loved feeding his family. When you expect someone to do something simply because of their gender you will not appreciate their role. Never eat food from an unhappy person or a person forced to cook for you.
It's not goofy. That is what a traditional woman or "domestic woman" is she is in charge of the home. The man provides a home, protection, security and is a leader. Preach has a 50/50 relationship, they share the responsibility. Some people prefer that, some men want that domestic(traditional) woman. I do my job meaning I work pay bills keep the ship moving you do ur job keep the foundation strong( meaning the home always looks presentable. She is ur second in command. Work as a unit.
@@antrakt900 do u change your tires everyday twice to thrice a day?
Aba & Preach, I'm a 60+ year old white male, and I've found we give mostly the same advice. Thanks for your common sense approach, it's needed in today's crazy society.
I'm with Preach on the inbetween. I'm a Sri Lankan and my partner is Irish. Our cultures couldn't be more different; My culture teaches us that a woman's place is in the home, in the kitchen, looking after the kids and treating the husband like he owns you. But with my partner, there is non of this this role is yours, that role is mine. I take care of him he takes care of me. He's had a bad day, I cook him something nice he'll love to come home to. I've had a rough day, my man's will clean the whole house and have it looking sparkling when i walk in and know i don't got to do nothing. Its not diamonds and roses, but after a while those things don't mean shit. Love and thoughtfulness goes both ways and should be equal.
I expected his mom to walk in on him asking: - are you hungry my prince?.
Hahahahhaa
Loool
Yelling out, "Put your dirty underpants in the hamper"!
lol true but then again thats standard mum and grandparents talk. Always the first thing they ask you when you visit.
I talk to my boyfriend like that.
He states a women is not a prize or a queen but then he's asking to be treated like a prize or a king lol. I rather be single then have a man baby. A Relationship is a partnership, where two people are helping each other. If a woman wants to cook for her partner, great, if the man wants to cook great...The sad part is I still know plenty of women miserable trying to take care of their man babies and managing their career and children...
I’d cook for you
Is there something wrong with having defined roles
@@berrymckockiner5883 relationships vary from person to person, most of the time it works out when one is fair to the other.
@@applesmarts why isn't it fair that people play in their roles
@THATS ROUGH BUDDY I don't know 🤷 these comments seen triggered by the idea
He doesn’t need a girlfriend, his mother is his girlfriend
Lol not me. If he Pais for his mother's property plus worked 2 jobs, ➕ working on his credit while trying to get/earn his cdl and buying his own house ➕ forming his own llc. Then that's alpha shit. This is a delta male.
No no his queen🤣🤣
Nah, that's his playdate crafter.
@@mr_imperfectiongamingchann1962 That is not Alpha Male shit that is a business man. There are plenty of wealthy \ rich Beta males who are businessmen. Regardless of what a mans personality is they still need to survive in society.
@@stokedradar So that now makes bezo's/musk beta male's too? I think your losing it.
I wouldn’t call a man back if I went to his home and it’s a mess. Where is your leadership in your own life that you can’t clean your own home. Wild
I'm ashamed to admit I used to follow these dating coaches. Until I realized that they're just narcissistic grifters that hate women.
Hey, character growth
Because it's easier to create an extreme. Just like feminazis go full extreme, some guys do too.
To teach someone life is not easy and can't be done on YT or TikTok :) Every situation is different and every solution is individual even tho the issue might seem "similar" sometimes.
It feels like nuace is gone 😓
I'm ashamed soo many men have zero self respect and so thirsty for punyitee.
Good on you for outgrowing them, it says great things about you and your maturity which will go towards a happy, healthy relationship. Best wishes mate.
I applaud preach for having middle ground with his wife. I don’t believe in “happy wife, happy life” but I do believe in “happy spouse, happy house”.
Yes
I don’t know why I teared up laughing at how non chalant Aba goes “hey king can I have my allowance?” 😂.
Same, oh my Lord I'm dying. 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣
"It's in the microwave".
Got me.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
People like this dude are one of many reasons why relationships and dating are so hard now.
I can't help but feel this is what his mom taught him. "You better get a girl that treats you like your mommy"
Nope it comes from fresh and fit. Mothers teach men to place women on a pedestal.
@@Landofjello probably, these fresh and fit dummies are so delusional, just saw one yesterday lmao.
That's WHY he's living in mommy's basement
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Or a poor father image
Yeah, this black and white perspective isn't modern. Yeah, men are the protectors, women are the
nurturers, but we both are capable of being adults. Cooking isn't nurture, it's straight up subsistence.
Taking commandments isn't submissive, it's displaying an in ability to portray individuality.
We're compliments to each other.
Great comment
very well put
@Ma Khi it’s both
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You're only speaking to part of the population considering there are many same sex relationships. Gender plays no role in relationships...y'all just make it that way.
I feel like he's had one toxic girlfriend and now he's trying to call his anger and resentment towards her a 'career'💀
😁😁😁😁😁😁
The male version of many feminists.
His Minecraft girlfriend probably cheated on him so now he must fulfil his destiny and become an Alpha Male 🙃
He’s definitely the toxic one lol
@@Myaccount923 nah, he was probably a super nice dude that met a good looking girl that left him for someone else. After that, he lived in his moms basement watching red pill videos, just for him to surface on the internet, as the prophecy predicted.
That’s exactly my ex. 35yo, never had a real job, living in his dads house getting an allowance while being fed and having all bills paid… living in a man cave with all sorts of entertainment paid by daddy… while at the same time telling me to “learn my place” because he is the man in the relationship. Yup.
Our girl that’s a lot I would left after hearing he stays with his mom at 35 😂😂 a lot of audacity of him
*dad
It sounds like he's never dated a woman, or listened to one..
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 deeeeeeeead
Lmao
He dates girls not women. He purchases them trying to make them his property...then he takes off his shirt and throws a tantrum like a little boy on the floor. Beta male energy!
@@GiggaVega I saw that and I thought the same thing, dude what happened to your shirt , lmmaooo
@@4inaftermath454 I used to be a beta male, I'm not going to hide it, I grew up, stopped being an emotionally out of control kid and "Cleaned up my room" . I can spot these dudes in a second, there is always an unbalanced power struggle between them. It's funny AF watching these gurus.
"I'm not submissive I'm dominant. "
A real one doesn't have to say their one. And being a dominant doesnt mean we can't put in our fair share of the work as well.
Strikes me as a guy who might have been bullied in school...lots of shaky anxiety and childhood shame pent up.
@@kal7rider780 This is going to sound mean, but I think its because he's so small.
For me being sexually liberated is me choosing to be abstinent. For me liberation is having the choice whether to do it or not.
I agree. The social norm is being sexually promiscuous so they are simply adhering to the social norm...
@@angeleyes3386 exactly and we can never know if that is right or wrong. Atleast not right now maybe in the future we might know. When there are studies about relationships and stuff and also the current generations kids have grown old. The effect on children who's mom did onlyfans. How having multiple relationship affected my health and personality in a positive/negative way. And there will be a bunch of more studies just like this about relationship and dating. My hypothesis is it will probably have a negative impact. Since majority of the times in the past when people adhered to social norms it was mostly bad. Like slavery, world wars, eugenics, sexist behaviour towards women, cancer due to cigarettes and many more.
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That makes sense i was an ugly girl in high school so i wouldve been with anyone, being choosy and picky is proof youre not desperate
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“Dating coach” without a partner weird and wild asf to me 😂😂😂
That person is NOT a dating coach. Whoever called him that is deluded.
He called himself that. I can't fathom anyone taking him seriously
"I'm dominant!"... any male who says that... is a typical loser, talks big, pushes weaker people around, but is submissive and cowardly when confronted by a real man or woman.
His ranting and raving, is his anger at himself for living in his mom's basement.
The best dating advice comes from people who have been happily married for a long time. Not from perpetual singles.
Calling yourself Alpha male is cringy. Its like that GOT quote "any man who must say "I am the king" is no true king".
Well, Jesus said he was king of kings, and I believe him
You’re suppose to use ‘ when putting a quote inside a quote.
For instance: “Any man who must say ‘I am the king’ is no true king.”.
That's exactly it
@@YoungBlaze context really matters in this one. Jesus never have to claim he's a king to be recognized as one. However when you're a king, if you said you are king, you're not making a claim but a observation. Same as jesus being the king of kings, he's just saying how it is
@@wendigodeadpatterson2514 Um, not trying to be that guy, but you made 3 grammar mistakes yourself.
- It's you're (you are), not your.
- No punctuation at the end of a sentence.
- Commas and periods go inside of quotation marks.
You ever notice people that have this mindset are always unmarried
When Preach said, "Can we have a in-between?" I felt that
I’m so lucky to have the parents I had. Both my parents did both roles, my Mom and Dad were both amazing cooks and they both did housework. Now that I’m married, my husband and I share all the duties. We both live here we both cook and clean. Only one that does nothing is the dog lol.
I agree. Both of my parents cooked and cleaned and there was no confusion. The same is for all of my aunts and uncles and I come from a big family.
Same, now me & my siblings are grow & in the dating world my mum is appreciating her husband (& past boyfriends) even more, she's shocked that just not being sexist or expecting the woman to do everything in the house is where the bar is. The level of disrespect & expectations on both sides is oddly high, I guess if people keep getting away with it thy won't get more realistic expectations.
Same for me
My parents did too.
Same
People are relationship experts yet a few are married and in consistent relationships..
Relationship experts don't have to be in relationships... 🤷
You don’t have to have cancer to treat cancer.
Yes! They can't hold down a long term relationship yet 'know all the answers'... I'd prefer a voice of experience not fantasy for advice.
that doesn’t necessarily make you an expert, half these people go through failed relationships and don’t actually understand why, that’s the issue
Do u see marriage as a prize for men in America. If billionaires can't successfully win how can the average man.
I'm traditional and so is my husband, we didn't start like this but it's what works for us, him working full time and I'm homeschooling our daughter and clean/cook. Yes I take care of my husband but he takes care of us too, marriage is a lot of compromise and selflessness not demanding or control. My husband does not act like this guy and I wouldn't be with him if he was, it seems like the young man has an idea in his head of what a traditional relationship is and it's almost like an exaggerated version of the real thing. I've been married for 10 years and as someone on the outside looking in, these people are lost and need to live their lives the way God wants us to.
Traditional is frowned upon as backwards but it gets the job done. It works, makes things a lot easier for both. Classic case of if it ain't broken don't fix it.
He is not paying his rent, he makes a female pay it for him. What’s more alpha than that?
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Nothing
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@@bhavya5692 *female lol, matches the satirical tone he is going for
I think it's alpha, she makes her subordinate pay her rent, it lame because it's his mom, but still alpha, why I gotta pay my rent? Why I gotta provide for you or my kids? That's your job girl
He sounds like the guy in middle school who would try to sell you his juice boxes.
Ay, it's all about the hustle.
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Why did this make me laugh so hard? 😂
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Hey those were clutch I hated the milk with food color
Any dude that needs to call himself alpha is insecure. Alpha is quiet and speaks for itself.
U believe in those .... childish low budget astrology
Rc BLAKE'S perspective on Alpha Male.
@@mryoung205 right, those are so cringey and childish.
Who knew people still role play?
I say I am that to make of fun the term sometimes 😂😂😂😂
@@Chvyce 😂😂 That is funny, and cute. I might steal some version of that. Like I’m a feminist lol kidding. I mean old school feminism was worthy it so we can vote. But this new era of young women feminists are angry and feel like authoritarians- they’re not full of peace, love or happiness. I’m sure there are some fascinating exceptions out there with intriguing things to say. I’ve met a few older ones (over 50). Now feminism has a bit of an interesting place again because not fully transitioned trans people are coming into our dressing rooms and stuff. Some rapists. Not all of course. I know a trans chic that is old school from SF chill. I never would have guessed if she hadn’t told me.
My dad was the king and my mom was the slave. I tried that when I got married and it crashed and burned. I obviously would do it differently if I could go back. I still believe in the old fashioned gender roles to some degree. Whether she works or not, she is supposed to be the love of your life. Do the dishes, make a meal, watch your kids so she can go out with the girls(notice how I didn't say babysit. They are your kids). She needs a break just like you. Give her the same respect you want. The good ole golden rule applies as usual. Do to others as you want done to you.
Preach is right - these people don’t live in the reality that the is the “in between”
A real healthy relationship lives in the in between.
They perceive reality through internet
Relationships are fine, just don't get married. You don't want to get caught "in between" her and divorce court. But hey, if you're a man in 2021 and want to roll the dice, your dice, be my guest 😂
They also don’t realise that our ”status” constantly is in flux and not fixed. They have an immensely immature mindset.
In between is what most people do today and the dating market never been so trash
@Beyond Tribalism when 63% of all marriages end in divorce, that's not "internet echo chambers", it's statistics and facts. 🙂
It’s perfectly reasonable for a man to want you to do household chores if he’s the only one working. But at the same time, he can’t have an attitude about it like “yOU BETTER DO WHAT I TELL YOU!” Nah, the woman will help him out and take on those responsibilities on her own if she actually cares about him. We don’t need to be told what to do. We’re not children.
It's the same way with men. Like they said it's a middle ground we can both work take care of the house and be happy
@Halbinoni I don't know what women you know but me and my friends always know exactly what we wanna eat 🤣
@@almighty7709 housework is a woman’s work…is from a time when women didn’t go off to work. If u both go off to work then I guess y’all both cleaning the house or hiring a maid.
@Halbinoni what women do you have in your life? All the girls I know always know what place to chow down
What about saying "please"?
Aba went full killmonger😂🤣 “is this your king?”
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"King, can i have my allowance??" 🤣🤣🤣
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You win for that one, I had a good laugh after reading this.
"I'm dURRRRminAnT" Lmaoooooo! Man on some clown ish 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 ROTFL!
I have a question… why are these people out here trying to bend the bad bitch into a house wife or the dominant guy into a yes man? Y’all looking for the wrong people and trying to make that wrong person fit into your life. It’s so weak.
I’m with Preach on this 100%. This why they call him Preach! My wife and I have a similar relationship to him and his wife. I dig it bro!
It’s a good point but there’s bad bitches that pull they weight out there. I’ve dated both before. The problem is that we have a massive trend in our society where women want to be independent except when it’s inconvenient. They quick to point to a man and say “it’s your job” to get what they want, but whenever I ask one “ok what’s YOUR job?” They say something like “whatever I want it to be” with no other details lol. That or they think that a regular chance at they pussy is even exchange. I promise most every bad bitch got somebody that can bend them. Every guy just think it’s him lol
@@tobygoodbar hahaha yeah that’s a fair point. Our ego makes us think that we’re gonna be the one that changes someone
Well said
My relationship with my wife is exactly like how Preach describes and I love it. I'm so glad he described it, it's like no one knows what give and take is, it's not a competition.
Wish my brother would find something similar
He is 9 and I always worry about his future
Same
Exactly why you’re with someone special & others aren’t 😂
Most of these "alpha" gurus just watched Kevin Samuels a couple times, and now they think they got the whole dating game figured out. 90% of them haven't even been in long-term relationships > 2 years.
You had me at "asking the king for an allowance!!!" You just got a new subscriber. I must have watched 10 videos in a row.
The in between space is the only rational solution. But lonely men and women on the internet don't want the nuance of the real world, they want to be told they're perfect and anyone that rejects them is actually just damaged in some way.
Straight facts 👏🏻
In between is bargaining. You have to tailor your responsibilities to your income. If both parties are middle class, employed and want that upper class lifestyle, sure, split duties, but if one partner is making north of 400k and pulling 80hr weeks, the task of house upkeep and child rearing are given to the other spouse. It's division of labour. And if you think that task is "beneath" you then enlist a maid, or relatives, get a high paying job yourself or ask the provider to make more money. But that begs the question if you're both earners, who's raising the children? The Nanny? The why are we married? These are adult questions that every couple should have. It's not one size fits all because every family has different needs and expectations.
In the subset of "alpha male" or high income earners there really is no middle. If earning a paycheck is more important than raising his kids, then make that known early. Those men are looking for family builders not splitting 50/50 on house chores.....his work IS his chore. And people don't get that. Again this example isn't applicable to 95% of men or clowns like this basement dweller because he hasn't earned that bargaining privilege
@@LaitoChen I work with kids, so the who's raising the kids argument always falls a little flat to me. But most dual income families don't use a nanny, at worst it's after school daycare for 3 hours till they get off work. It's true that when they're babies, kids do a lot better with one parent staying home, but in my experience that actually starts hurting them when they start going to school full time.
As for childrearing labor, dad absolutely has to do a large share of the work to get a good relationship with his kid. Bottom line is men pulling 80hr weeks make terrible fathers, it doesn't matter how much money they make. It's not as if a kid is going to rationalize that daddy makes the money, so he shouldn't have to do bath time with him...he just knows dad isn't the one that takes care of him, only mommy does. And his relationship with dad will be more like 'guy who pays our bills'
@@LaitoChen being a dad doesn’t end with providing. Spending time with your children is an indispensable requirement for their development. People shame people with fatherless behavior but still continue to preach that a dad’s obligation is only to work. Just because a man reaches the status of a billionaire, should that mean hes allowed to forget hes also a father? Come on now
" Any man who must say " I am the King", is no king" . One of the biggest issues i have with so much of this red pill content. When you truly stand in your masculinity you dont have to announce it; its felt and people respond.
Exactly. Point Blank Period
Thank you !!!!
same goes for any women calling herself a queen.
When you put a quote in a quote, you use ' instead of "
Lmaoo, masculinity that masculinity this. You people need to integrate and stop all this modern new age ill thought out conceptions.
Preach is PREACHING & everybody needs to listen!!!
The in-between is a healthy relationship. It’s RESPECT, love and empathy.
Glad to see it exist somewhere!🙌🏾💃🏾
Don’t believe in the “in-between” I believe In reciprocity. I don’t look for a woman to do what I can do. I’m not looking for a twin. I’m looking for someone who can fill in where I can’t.
@@jasontater Dude, you don’t cook, clean, do laundry etc? What about when you’re not in a relationship? Unless I’m misunderstanding you?
Exactly. We all do everything for ourselves when we're single, but wanna put it on other ppl when they're in a relationship. Jus do what you're already doin, and have the respect and courtesy to do it for the one u love every once in a while.
Yeah there is an in between and healthy relationships are fine, just don't get married. You don't want to get caught "in between" her and divorce court. But hey, if you're a man in 2021 and want to roll the dice, your dice, knowing the odds and how the deck is stacked against you be my guest 😂
@@pittrollmosh7572 I recently just got out of culinary class. I’m very well versed in culinary arts. You’ve actually just caught me while I’m cooking currently. I always do my own laundry, clean my own stuff. I’m not in a relationship currently. I was saying. It’s a partnership. If I can’t do something, then as my partner I would appreciate it if they would fill in for me. I do everything. Fix my motorcycle, clean the house, fix appliances, cook all my meals and meals for my family when they’re around. The point is, is that i am an adult, I can function on my own. I bring a partner in my life to make my life easy. If I come home from work and I have to cook for my self when you’ve been at home for the past four hours then you’re useless to me.
Aba : “Hey King, can I get my allowance ?”
Preach and I 😂😂😂😂😂
If your ‘dating coach’ is only pointing out flaws in women then they do hate women, cus the reality is a lot of the guys suck too and need to improve.
Criticism without compromise or solutions is the definition of hate.
He looks like the kind guy who loves to hear himself speak.
Exactly right!
Who doesn’t? You love being mute?
@@adio8824 😂
@@adio8824 Only those who have small hearts do.
Everyone i met under 30 wants this
The "In-Between" is possible...only if both parties are mature enough. And that maturity typically comes from years and years of fucking up. My girl and I say it all the time: if we would've met years earlier it would've been toxic AF, because we weren't ready for a serious relationship.
Everything is about “Maturity” that’s all people talk about when it comes to making a relationship work. Yet it seems like nobody is being mature. It’s like they only TALK about it.
@@Kal-El207 because actually being mature means looking in the mirror and realizing that person is just as fucked up as everyone else in the world...and most people can't do that
That guy is very obviously a typical toxic narcissist.
I’ve been with my now husband for 22 years. There’s definitely a middle ground! We both have successful careers, both bring in the money for the household sometimes he cooks, some times i do. We both clean. It’s a 50/50 relationship in every sense of the word. It works well for us to not have stereotypical expectations and just working as a team.
Same with my wife and I
Just a curious question.. if both of you work how do you take care of the kids
@@noufzailai1655 easy. We don’t have kids! Shock horror.
@@michellegracehunder5512 no it’s ok its just this system is cool but hard with kids
untill you take half his shit
That whole Alpha male and being dominant..... just shows how insecure most of these people really are.
Just be loving, caring etc....and find that person you think is worth investing time in.
True but finding a loyal girl rn is hard most of the baddies in my city are straight hoes
@@maxout683 That's because you're looking for 'baddies'- it's literally in the name lmaoo
@@maxout683 loyal and baddie shouldn't be in the same sentence sir
@@ruckusroke that's because Baddies don't have to be humble women that are not that attractive do
The irony of people like this giving advice - they don’t have healthy relationships themselves. He is screaming someone who hasn’t had a serious long-term relationship.
😂 “ alpha dog alpha dog alpha dog … mum: uh Steven’s the foods in the microwave “
I just love how all these so called “dating coaches” have advice for the next person but they don’t practice what they preach.
its the same for almost all of twitter/tik tok, people complaining about a problem and wanting someone else to fix it for them.
@@corberus3119 Facts.
They want you to be something they're not.
@@PanameraTurboSEHybrid Big Facts. Can’t take them seriously because the “coach” is already something they’re not. 😂
Yeah, I hope people don’t take his dating advices seriously. If so I feel bad for them and there soon to be lonely life.
Me and my husband been married for 10 years. Its seriously all about equality. I am a stay at home mom with 3 boys and he will still help out. He makes the money but I know the finances. And I used to work and he took care of the kids. Even after he came back from deployment and did reserves we still did things equally.
Perhaps a better word would be fairness? You take care of this, and he takes care of that. Its about balance.
@@chitownbob9714 yeah
But is it equal if you're not earning anything, it seems like he's carrying more of the load
@@berrymckockiner5883 raising 3 boys is work. Unlike a regular job, you don’t get breaks. It’s seriously a 24/7 job.
@@Beenana09 but the hubby also helps with that, ontop of all the chores he helps out with
"Can we have an inbetween" - Preach
Yes, it's what normal people do.
I like normal! hard to find
Preach is the man these so called alphas should be listening to.
And based on what he says in their videos, he actually has a long-standing relationship. None of these dating and relationship "gurus" can say the same. I think that speaks for itself.
If you have to make the statements like im dominant or im alpha, i assure you that you are not. These dating coaches will leave you even lonelier and more confused... essentially making you think that you need them.
He makes people who live in their mothers basement look bad.
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They all look bad tho 😂
@@loopymomy2532 depends. If you’re doing it to save the money to buy a house or getting a stem degree that’ll secure a high paying job, I have more respect for that than someone who lives in an overpriced apartment living paycheck to paycheck. Not everyone has nice parents, but I’ve known people who jumped into a better life precisely because they kept it low-key in their 20s while living with parents.
@@jcnot9712 exactly exactly exactly!!!!!!
@@jcnot9712 Definitely. Also depending on the location rent can be ridiculous and a waste of money. Best to live at home and save so you can own.
This is why I subscribe to you. Holding everyone accountable.
All I know is an Alfa NEVER has to announce his presence. When you start doing all that issa major 🚩
Nods…the man who calls himself Master, is not.
This! 🎯🎯🎯
LOL! Dude has the “single woman smoke detector alarm” going off in the background as he rants.
Why is he talking so confidently in his momma's basement like that?!?
Fake it till you make it mentality.
Because he’s a 🗣 DOMINANT ALPHA MALE and they talk with they chest out I guess lol.
He’s a narcissist that can rationalize that he is a winner when in reality he is a giant loser lacking self-awareness. As an orphan with no parents or family to support me, I enjoy watching these ‘alpha’ males acting tough when they live sheltered lives under the protection of their mommy. I have no issue with men living with their parents passed 18, but they need to act more humble and realize they are soft and targets for people like me to mock and ridicule.
Girl, that’s his grandma’s house with that rose covered couch 🤣🤣🤣 He’s such a dominant man that he can’t even change the batteries on his grandma’s smoke detector 💀💀💀
"Steeepheeen the microwave's ready!"
It’s funny that guys like this are all about being on their purpose and smashing and dashing, but they constantly talk about women and how to get them and they they quote on quote love “alpha males”, yes no woman wants a weak man, but it’s like let things fall into place, don’t just go out searching for woman, if these guys were truly on their purpose they wouldn’t be spitting out cringe rants like this.
What's cringe was this viewpoint
Most “red pill” guys follow this and it’s not from a place of hopefulness, most of the time it’s from a place of hopelessness and that women in general aren’t worth it. Anger and resentment can be a strong motivator but mind numbing in deference to the possibility of hope is far worse. They call it the “black pill” interesting group of people.
@@adio8824 if women in general aren't worth it in their eyes, they are doing a favor to us by staying away.
I think we need to give them more credit for that.
@@dithaingampanmei oh by worth it i mean worth investing in. They’ll be around them just to get wut they want. It becomes a business.
@@adio8824 well then we all need to equip ourselves with red flag detectors then. Lock and load.
This is by-product of watching Fresh and Fit and thinking everything you say is some how important and correct.
Lmao what they got to even do with this topic
It’s the byproduct of being a moron and thinking you’ve just learned something profound, and that you have the ability to preach it like some enlightened shaman to the unknowing masses
He ain't looking for a spouse, he's looking for a Mom who isn't his Moms.
I got boys in my school calling themselves high value men these alphas are causing damage 💀
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LMAO🤣🤣🤣
Lmao imagine this shit, little kyle at 17 "I am a high value alpha male"
oh no💀💀💀💀
Are you referring to the fact that most American women value only money therefore the term value can only be used for a description of wealth? :)
Dude is a clown gamma. His mom made him a stand in husband for her.
His father isn’t his king because I’m 99% sure he doesn’t know him.
What do you mean by that? 🤨
@@svsrp0712 he means that this is some fartherless activity.
@@svsrp0712 because he wasn't told to clean his room before.
😭😭😂😂
@@svsrp0712 He is saying that he thinks his dad went to get some milk and never came back
The in-between and the balance is what separates the relationships that are healthy for both people and which ones are toxic. I live helping and I love being cared for.
We have decades of housewife generations that did all that and their men still strayed. Often for women who couldn't do all those things. The depressed quaalude housewife era was a real thing. Not to say that it doesn't work, I'm no authority in that area. But what the hell is wrong with partnership?
Both people need to see it as partnership
Dating gurus tell their audience: you're the king/queen and they should Just be grateful
It’s not even possible today because the cost of living is so high that you need a two-income household to afford anything
But thats a trade off, things were more equal with dating in that era and its justified for men to cheat because that's how men are designed. A women cheating on the other hand is truly an act of evil
@@dragorn3212 cheating isn't justified either for men or women tf is you talking about weirdo
@@sixk8333 WDYM i just explained how women literally are asking to be cheated on, you have yet to make any logical argument
I’m with you preach , we raised different though . I do most of the cookin but we just do whatever needs to be done and if someone is having a rough week the other picks up the slack and doesn’t hold it over the others head . Salute
Dude had an entire William Shakespeare monologue in mom’s living room 😩
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Dead🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀
shakespeare's rolling in his grave rn lol