After The Breakup | Therapy Thursday | Jerry Flowers
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- It’s hard to grieve over someone who’s still alive, like you eulogized the relationship, but the person is not in the cemetery!
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I did not want to let go and I begged and pleaded because I knew I loved him. Yet his dismissive behavior and the words “ It’s time to leave this alone” woke me up and God reminded me that I am more and I will have great. My burden is light and my yolk is easy. I love you all and I wish you an easy process I’m running with you
I’m struggling with this too… the begging and the pleading. It hurts. Let me know what you’re doing to cope with this.
Experiencing this now
@@diariesbycynI had to come to my senses and release him because that’s what he wanted. I asked God to walk me through this process because I was hurting bad. I turned my love I had for him back to myself. I’m still hurting but I’m no longer begging. He doesn’t value me, but I have to value myself. Love you sister it will get better. I also dealt with regret but I repented and laid it all out before God
@@CM-ye1bcwake up sis if they want to walk away we have to let them. Lean into God and cry out to him. Not to man. People failed me time and time again but God never has.
@@TheAnissaMonee thank you sister. Been filling my head and heart with the word of God to keep me going. About to use this time to work on myself.
"God will wreck your plans when He sees that your plans will wreck you".
That hit home!
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Yes grieving is hard but there is still more after this
Amen! Needed this today! 🙏🏼
That part!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
“You could be a whole package,but if you end up at the wrong address, the receiver could mishandle you”
This breakup has brought me closer to God, and I pray it will bring her closer as well. I pray we collide again.
I need this word so badly!! I'm struggling so badly w/ this breakup! Nothing has hurt be this badly in my entire life. I'm in therapy, been in no-contact since he dumped me, deleted every picture, voice-mail, text message, sent back every gift he gave me & threw away all the cards & notes. I feel so stuck with this & I'm still so hurt. I miss his friendship so much, it's excruciating. I'm fine 1 day & not the next. I cry so much it's crazy😢 I've never been through anything like this. It's been almost 2 months & Idk how or when I'll ever get past this. I don't want him back, I don't trust him anymore, I'm just hurt. There were no arguments, I was happy & thought he was too, but there were so much deception & lies on his part it hurts so much knowing he probably never really cared about me. I just pray God delivers me from this pain soon.
Same here ❤😢
God will. It does get better. ♥️ I’ve been there. God loves you and I pray he comforts you through it all.
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When your relationship grows closer to God you will forget him I'm going through the same thing but I know I'm worth so much more than sex and a late night blunt now I'm clean do drinks no weed and no sex praise god
How are you feeling now? ☺️
We just broke up this morning - 8/21/24 - and I came across this video. God knew i needed this.
To all who are hurting, suffering, mending, healing... I'm with you. God bless us all. 🙏 💔
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We broke up on 8/3/24, and the pain and hurt is unexplainable. I didn't see it coming, but God. Keep healing and moving forward!
Amen 🙏
Same date as you. I was stuck in a state of denial because I didn't see it coming, but as I listen to God's words, I know it had to have happened. Praise god for period of growth and restoration of my relationship with Him the savior.
8/22/24 And I’m still feeling all the hurt. It’s been HARD. But I have a God who loves me and while I may feel alone I know I’m not
“They twist their insecurities & project it as your flaw”
Thank you, I needed to hear that .
I think it was both: I was the problem and also divine intervention. I’m praying for all of us.
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of her. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
I can’t believe I begged and cried😅… no more of that! Better is coming and I needed that relationship to end so that my Faith could be made stronger in Christ. My faith NOW is so much more mature now that I am not connected to my ex. I pray for him and I wish him nothing but the BEST!! Thank you God!
“You’re healed when you see the person who cut you and you don’t want to cut them back” - this is soooooo good! 👍🏾
Dude, it was me all the time, I regret not changing while she was here and now that she is gone I miss her ☹️ Miss her so much, guys pray for me …
That’s my situation too! I miss him like crazy but I know he needs the space from me to move on and heal.
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Sometimes God is kind enough to let us learn these hard lessons before your spouse comes along. You may have wanted her to be the one, but hopefully the clarity you gained can be a blessing. I am sorry for your heartache and pray God gives you the answers you need 💗
Bro I feel you, we got a son together so I gotta see her almost everyday. It’s tough but I’m taking it day by day
It’s truly hard to think U had someone that was it for U.. Where U had all your hopes and dreams with this person only to find out he isn’t it… My situation is a bit unique I guess… I got married 20 years ago with my first bf to help him with his papers.. Long story short he ended up getting deported and I never got to getting a divorce… I met someone and we had been dating for roughly 4 months when I told him i was still married his perception changed of our relationship… I can’t really afford to get divorced at the moment soo after much discussion.. He basically said he couldn’t continue with the relationship because of the fact that I am still married on paper.. He said it bothers him and blocks him from moving forward with this relationship… I honestly dont understand that, I mean… If U really want to be with someone should that really matter?
I mean it’s not like we are getting married now and eventually I do plan on getting divorced just not rite now.. Unfortunately financial circumstances does not allow me too..: Anywho, I really thought he was the finally the one! He was everything I had been praying God in a man and so I thought God had finally answered my prayer… Needless to say Im pretty tore up rite now… Just been praying for God to give me clarity and help me heal…
💔🥀😔Dude left me on 09/04/24. I’m so hurt been crying ever since then. This sermon was meant for me 🙏🏽
📖 _If your always the teacher and never the student, then your probably the problem_ . 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Yes Lord I needed this!!!!! I receive this message in the name of JESUS! Amen Amen Amen
My ex, in every talk the teacher. Ignored my feelings, kept seeing his exwife.
That was spot on! The worst combination is when somebody is arrogant and ignorant 😂😂😂
Lol
Shake off the dust. Don’t allow heart to be calloused. Staying in a place where you’re not received is wasting time. If I’m at the wrong address, the receiver won’t receive us. Shake it off and enter my new season!! Go and take my peace with me…to the new village.
You can tell that Jerry genuinely loves the Lord and wants to help others
“I just don’t want to move on, I want to move on right and with health.” A powerful message! Thank you for allowing God to use you. 🥹
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it’s been 10 months for me & i never experienced pain this intense. I truly thought she was the love of my life, but i was wrong. 6 years of putting my heart & soul into someone only for it to be a lesson. She moved on a couple months after the breakup & seems happy. Meanwhile i’ve been dealing with excruciating pain every single day. I pray to God everyday to heal my heart & help me move forward with my life but it’s a long process. I have faith that it’ll get better eventually, God is just working on me a little longer.
Try fasting and praying it helps also delete everything that reminds you of her.
@@Bonafide0324 Thanks alot! Trying my best
That’s my situation right now
But God is the one healing me to make me ok and accept the breakup and not have excruciating pain
So you gotta get your spiritual life right
The death was my doing. I lied to him because I was afraid of telling him the truth and fearful of the reaction I would get from telling him the truth. He was my best friend and I betrayed his trust. He had the grace to still forgive me but we’re no longer together. I recognize that I have unhealed issues. I pray for him to this day. Currently in a phase of suffering and shame but grateful for this suffering otherwise I would not be changing for the better. I am striving to walk with God more and strengthening my relationship with Him. Thank you for this video. God Bless everyone who is in the same situation as I am, I pray you heal and learn from the word so you can stop hurting your loved ones.
I’m only 5 minutes through this video and Pastor Jerry is nailing my exact feelings. I always use to ask people how do you grieve someone that’s still alive, still breathing, walking around as if the hurt they caused means nothing. Oh but god, it truly blows my mind at how he works in the midst of it all. Cause in the end, it only brought me so much closer to him. And at one point I had to ask god “Did I hurt you the way he hurt me?” …because when god said no other idol above him, that’s truly what he meant. I’m so grateful for where my relationship is with him now, and if it took having to go through what I had to, to get here, then so be it. I definitely shared this with a few friends already ✨
“There is still more after this.” Amen 🙏🏾
Hi! I would like to start a women’s group that uplifts women and we all help each other strive to be kingdom women that God has called us to be would you like to be apart of it?
I said the same thing
Amen!
@@AshiaNecoleI’d love that!
This was well written and I had the SAME experience!
Thank you Lord for using Jerry for delivering this message
The way this man preaches is astounding ❤
This pain hurts. I married this man and thought it was forever. I was discarded and he and another lady have moved in together. He has tried to literally tried to destroy me and is now trying to take the home even though he has not paid one mortgage since 2023. The lies, abuse, smear complains, manipulation, and deceit was overwhelming but I never would have left him. Please keep me lifted in prayer
Grieving and they’re still alive! Definitely that part!
I just broke up
And seeing right away is just God😭
God provides, the love we can trust
@@jessieoakford6113 are you okay now?
THERES STILL MORE AFTER THE BREAKUP ❤️
5:32 the is still MORE after this. IJN Amen
I just want to grieve and get over him 🥺
I ended my 2yr relationship but regretfully kept in contact and allowed him in my space time and time again. He cheated and lied about A-LOT of unnecessary stuff. I finally found the courage to speak out against his actions but I was harsh I did apologize which almost led me to trying to make an attempt to fix us but I caught myself and listened to my intuition and finally let go it’s hard but I all of the sudden feel lighter and free. It’s a difficult process but my heart soul and mind are telling I made the right decision. During this healing journey, I pray that it only brings me closer to God and closer to my person who is meant for me. Praying for everyone who is trying to heal from their pain and suffering. Keep God close and you’ll be fine!
My mother always warned me about this: “You can’t be wrong AND strong….
❤❤I need this❤
9-1-24 i have finally decided to release an unhealthy situation that i wanted marriage so bad, i want commitment but expect it from someone that not meant to be in my life anymore, God has shown me time and time again that i needed to let go but I have been holding on to maybe it can still work! Its not ! I know this because our season is over! We both have sabotage the relationship that we wanted so badly but seasons change and so have we! So i just ask God to help us both to grow up and learn how to love the way we are meant and to heal from our traumas! God help me to be still long enough to heal!
i was planning on marrying my ex we haven't spoke in three weeks.. i'm really struggling. we were unevenly yoked & did alot of fighting but had amazing times as well. God has revealed he separated us to get me closer to him and if he didn't i was only going to stray away from him even more.. hallelujah.
Same here 😔
This is how I feel now and I’m still in the relationship 😢
Amen
My lord!!!!!! Thankyou for releasing me from liars
THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS !!!!
My heart is so broken right now I don’t love myself so I couldn’t love him neither. This man loved me unconditionally and I couldn’t give or receive it back. I promised God before I met him I would work on and heal myself before I entered a relationship I didn’t keep my promise and now Ive ran off a good man. I know God is working in my life but it’s hard not to feel anger with God! when does my happiness come when will the pain from my past not affect my present and future
There's still MORE after this ❤
YOU CAME FOR MY SCALP ON THIS ONE JERRY!! THANK YOU!!
We have to move on the right way .
THERE IS STILL SO MUCH MORE AFTER THIS!
Omgoodness I really needed this today because I’m in the middle of the healing process of healing from a six year relationship with two kids out of it 😢it’s really hard thank you lord for this
Hi girlie! How are you doing now?
Thankyou lord for exemption!!!!!
I was with a man who eventually said he didn’t want to pursue God yet, It’s been painful and I never stopped seeking God. The pain drew me closer than ever because I just didn’t understand. But I’m healing, God never chose this for me.. my actions led me here but I know better now. He’s helping me every step!
5:23 THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS!🙌🏾
That whole part...grieve someone who is physically still here
34:12 SIR YOU ARE PREACHINGGGGGGG
THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS, THE BREAKUP
This brought me closer to the word
I’m getting my peace back. 🙏🏽
AMEN
THERE’S STILL MORE AFTER THIS - AFTER THE BREAKUP
I needed to hear this today. I have held on to the dust of another village with dear life because it's what I want even when I heard a whispering in my spirit that God had to close that door.
I AM GETTING MY PEACE BACK ❤️
Amen 🙏🏾. I needed to hear this . Went thru a divorce and I still find myself missing her and thinking about our family . Healing is messy, but necessary. Amen 🙏🏾
I feel you, going thru the same😢
I'm getting my peace back, Lord🙌🙏
I am struggling so bad to let go. It’s very clear that it doesn’t matter if I stay or if I go to him. I begged, questioning my worth. Why not me, why not fight for me. I want it to be him…. It hurts so bad, my anxiety eats me up, I over think. The day I see him with someone else.
This is going to be good. This one is for me ❤
Wow....soaking myself in worship helped alot,It switches focus...I pray you focus on Jesus....I love this video...like this to remind me that can take it❤
Amen, thank you❤
Lord Jesus, help me to move on in my mind.
THERE’s STILL MORE AFTER THIS!!
THERE’S STILL MORE AFTER THIS.❤
THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS!
There is still more after this! Thank you Jesus!! 🙏🏼
Amen!
It’s me, I have gotten to a place where I almost hate myself. I see all that is within me and how I push away everyone I loved…and I hate it. I’m so sick of myself, I’m sick of the result of what I’ve inflicted on others.
This is going to be good 🙏
Thank You for covering emotional abuse. I am Blessed that God removed me from an abusive marriage, but at the right time He sent my Boaz
Thank you, truly
I was a walking red flag…technically I still am. I am in a season where I need to be alone so I can grow closer to God and follow his calling for me.
MY FATHERS LINEAGE IS SAVED !!!!!!!! JESUS yes i can get over!
God is always one time ! Not me seeing this video a day after a toxic break-up🤭. Thank you Lord for this message ❤❤❤
I’m getting my peace back 😊
Pastor Jerry Flowers ALWAYS delivers God's message in the most loving, gentle yet firm & simple way. God bless you Pastor. I totally needed this. Watching from Nairobi Kenya 🇰🇪
This is going to be good
I dont want to just move on but i want to move on right😢. Help me Lord🙏🙏
There's still more after this!
I needed thissss!!!! I will be okay! God will never crack a Red Sea to return only to depart!!!!!
Amen
So timely for me but hey that’s the power God! I needed today after a ending of a 9 year marriage and whatever the last 2 years were about. Grateful to the Lord for His strength, grace, and the healing of my heart… Time to shake that dust brother!!!
There is still more after this Lord You have a Plan for US❤️🔥
Thank you for this. ❤
My goodness Pastor Jerry, looks like your reading my notes!!! 🗣️🗣️🔥
I AM GETTING MY PEACE BACH IN JESUS NAME AMEN
This is for me... seriously for me. Thank you Pastor Jerry
Yes ! Thank you . Both parties play a role and some move in quicker than others to feel that loneliness, while the other , works on themselves to be healthy and to get closer into their faith . Stay prayer up brothers and sisters of Christ
This is more Self Reflective and Mirror moment in ourselves to take self inventory and awareness. This phase is so vital . Thank you Jesus
No, I don’t think I was perfect. Who is? Neither was he. But I tried so many methods. I tried being calm, matching his energy, silence, empathy, nurturing. Nothing was good enough. No effort was enough. I over-communicated. I loved him so much and I feel like he ripped my heart out my chest. He lied to my face, he cheated, he disrespected me and I was so lonely and afraid to be alone that I mistook that reluctance to love me as love. I used to be scared to give him space because I knew that as soon as I moved, he would replace me. And it happened. As soon as I stopped fighting it ended. I let him back in time and time again and he continued to hurt me. Mentally, physically, emotionally. He always said he didn’t feel he could trust me and never felt loved from me but I know it was him projecting his own feelings of himself. I stuck by him while he got locked up, when he lost his job, when he hurt me, when he pushed me away. I just feel so defeated knowing that someone I wanted so badly, someone who looked me in my eyes and told me they would protect me, that he loved me and that he wouldn’t let harm come
To me… yet the person that hurt me the most was you. I know I said I hated you…. I still love you so deeply. I hate tht I ignored the signs and continued down a road I knew I should’ve abandoned. I hope love is out there for me. Dad was never in my life, mom died 14 years ago. I just can’t imagine that my life was supposed to have this much loss and brokenness
I feel for you. Praying God heals you❤
Praying for you. Was he a Christian ?
I’m getting my peace back
Amen!!!
After 15 years of marriage I felt like I gave birth to a long awaited child (future) and it was dead. Its like this eye of the hurricane... everything feels surreal and like youre holding your breath, looking for the next step but there is no path illuminated.
This was a blessing for my soul.🤜🏽❤️🤛🏽😭
Thank you Jesus...🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 for showing me to move forward, not to keep ignoring the words and how the person I was with made me feel with them.
Thank you Jesus for letting me keep building myself for a better self for your kingdom, for not give up in loving and waiting for you to bless me with my future husband. 🙇🏽♀️❤️
Thank you Father God for letting me have peace and love in my life despite my circumstances.
Thank you for Your Holy Spirit who gives me discernment as I will NOT accept less than I know that You my Father God wants for me with the man you desire for me.
In the name of Jesus, I thank you Father God. Amen.🙇🏽♀️💞
God knows who we need in our lives and will always give us the best of what we expected because we do not take for granted Jesus' love for us and everything He has done for us.
I'm going through a breakup and this message even spoke to me as confirmation.🎯💯
Thank you so much for this message pastor Flowers that God put on your heart to share it with all of us. Blessings!!!
I needed this prayer as well
Just broke up today 9/18/2024. It hurts so much. But I can’t wait to heal. I’m ready.
amen
4:58 amennnnn❤
There’s still more after this!🥺
I needed this so bad
That was fire 🔥 and I needed this 🙌
This is going to be good..
“How can you grieve someone that’s still alive” that’s were I’m at 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾I’m listening god
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In Jesus name Amen 🙏🏼🙏🏼