@@HipHopHoe707 fr 🥴 Melissa is smart, sweet and such a wonderful person so how did she, after this whole debacle, kept seeing him and even asked him to get back with her?? Like girl- please stand up 😭
Ladies, please don't EVER give a man the benefit of the doubt, ESPECIALLY if he hasn't proven his love and devotion with his real, concrete ACTIONS. Just cut him off and walk away. Women tend to be overly understanding and tie themselves in knots, trying to be accommodating to a man, and it never will serve you in the end. He will just take advantage of you and become more selfish. Please learn from the mistakes I made throughout my 20s and 30s. 😅
Yes, I completely agree with you and have found is not common. Everywhere, we keep giving men the benefit of the doubt even if (trump, musk, diddy, celebrities...), have shown who they truly are, over and over. I also learn that the hard way 😅 and it is now a rule of mine, especially in the context of work/dating/friendship: never give men the benefit of the doubt, ever. Always take what they say and how they act as face value and do not give them excuses.
What I think Ramses can teach all women tho, is: Men do know EXACTLY the right things to say. They do. It's not difficult. Women have told men, culturally, over and over again, what we want. So if a man starts saying things that make you insecure, or sounds off, or sounds passive aggressive.....THEY KNOW. Trust your gut. Men could say the perfect thing if they want to. If they are not, it's because they don't want to.
@@kahlernygard809I'm not saying you should date men but I'm also not allowed to tell you not to for your safety as I'm a man and that'd be mansplaining. I would maybe advise seeing his friends and how they act and also keeping distance. I'm no expert tho
As someone with "too much" "energy" I have learned when a man tells you that, it's because he would rather you behave more like a blow up doll than be an actual human being with thoughts, feelings, and opinions. Like he just wants you to stfu and "act right." AND/OR he wants you to dim yourself because he's jealous everyone likes you more. Lol
Lol I literally have ADHD (the hyperactive type too) and I've had some men tell me I'm "too much" and some tell me they love how "bubbly and bouncy and energetic" I am. As a neurospicy girly I promise you if he likes you, your energy isn't a negative thing.
I've noticed a lot of men saying they appreciate empathy lately. It's just code for "I expect empathy from YOU, I'm not gonna show any". They usually have no empathy to give, only take. Take your attention, time, love, etc.
Its just another word they’ve learned to parrot and use for virtue signalling eg “im the type of man who talks about empathy” they don’t practice what they preach at alllll
I think he was saying whatever he thought she wanted to hear in the pods to get picked, and kept it going to get a vacation, resort accommodations and sx from her, and had no real interest or intention of following through with anything he said! So once she set firm boundaries with her own body.... He was ready to hit the brakes 🙄
@@KarmaCame exactly She just needed some time to feel better when she was sick and he was still trying to push to get his needs met! and when she brought up him not holding up his end to the bargain, planning for their future their wedding etc, he didn't have any excuses... just apologized and said that he do better... because he was hoping to still get his "needs" met! When he didn't, he was ready to call it quits, because he didn't want to plan the wedding, didn't want to do the planning their future relationship or any of that, because he never wanted THAT! He wanted to get a free vacation, publicity for his Instagram page and sex from her... When the vacation ends, and she set boundaries with her body, he only cared about the one thing left ... Holding on to fame from the show without looking like he was just using her! Then he just comes up with a list of excuses literally OVERNIGHT!!! He was asking everyone to follow his Instagram and then turned off the comments!😁 Come on now!
I think everyone is too harsh on the people that change their minds. This show is set up in a very unnatural way where people are expected to fall deeply in love very quickly and it’s just not realistic. Some make it yes, but the majority of couples leave Mexico and then get the ick once they move in together.
Ramses talking about his ex is just another example of how divorce, for women, is tied to deep shame, both personally and culturally, a sign that SHE messed up, but for men has the opposite of stigma. It is now a part of their history they can use against all women going forward.
@@kahlernygard809 No, dude, divorced women face a lot of stigma, divorced men face little to no stigma, and male widowers have it even better. In the same way, we wouldn't say millionaires face 'stigma' because they don't get treated as well as billionaires.
@@kahlernygard809 Here, how about I turn this into numbers to make it easier for you. Baseline is zero. A 'stigma' is anything below zero. A 'positive' is anything above zero. Divorced woman: -8 Divorced man +1 Widower: +3 This is shown through actual pay, women who divorce make less than had they never married. Divorced men make MORE than never married men, same with widowers.
i think he is the type of man whose whole motive is to make YOU like HIM. so he'll mask himself as your ideal type, ideal love. he likes you liking him. he doesn't like you for you. it's very self serving. they prioritize themselves even in the relationship. and his needs matter more than your needs.
After talking with a few dudes who had ‘empathy’ in their bio on dating apps, this turned into a red flag, cause none of them had a clue what it meant, and took it as ‘you have to understand, agree with and like whatever I say or do’ 😅
You need to understand what men put on dating apps is not and about me bur what they are looking for. So when they put 'empathy, independence, honesty, chivalry, modesty' these are all attributes they want the other person to have, not what they have to offer.
Most chauvinistic dudes are incels who identify as INFP and think "the world doesn't understand them". When really, they're hurt little boys who never took time to get therapy.
He also didn’t get flowers or anything cute for her family when they first meet and I remember her feeling some type of way about that too! It’s the lack of effort across the board for me.
@@zucchinigreenis it OK to date people when you're broke or not? I just want to hear yalls opinions if you choose. I'm not attacking and sorry if it sounds like that
If a guy seems too charismatic and “perfect” in the beginning, it’s manipulation. Narcissistic abuse is a pure mind f***. Please prioritize yourself and peace. Having a partner will not “complete” you I promise.
The word narcissist is thrown around really easily. He might have been more of a love bomber but the show practically encourages very intense feelings in a short amount of time. Changing his mind about a person he’s known for a few weeks doesn’t automatically make him a narc.
I feel very complete with my fiance. perhaps it's rare but it does happen. There is a reason people keep trying at love even if they get burned multiple times over. Because when you find it , it makes life worth living again.
@andrimarbi I have a lot of experience with narcs and, as a result, have developed a very strong radar for them and trust me, this man is very likely a narcissist. They all use the same tactics and once you know, you know. It's as clear as water.
My ex husband cheated on me while I was pregnant and blamed it on our lack of intimacy.....I had Hyperemesis gravidarum and was basically dying for months straight. -__- and the most annoying part is HE wanted the pregnancy but couldnt handle it and blamed it on me
I feel you. My ex wife cheated with a friend of mine. So I lost two and our mutual friends group had to choose sides which is not the way I am. She love bombed me for the first few years then it turned off. When I brought it up? No talking about it. My fault and move on. But it wasn’t my fault all the time. And not being able to talk about anything and the rules of the relationship default to her opinion/feelings only. I went to the divorce counselling. She showed up once and when the therapist said she’s at fault because of her inability to be accountable? She’s the hypocrite. Now I know how to see narcissists and I don’t put up with their red flags. Women do it, too. And I notice others who tend towards never wanting to reciprocate. Catch 22 sometimes but I know I’m better off. Much. Good luck raising a heathy child!
Ramses was the king of ultimatums this season. Whenever he threw out his non-negotiables and immediately hit Marissa with “but I don’t want to make you do anything you don’t want to do” attitude and statements, I felt like I was about to lose my mind!! Watching the light leave her eyes was so hard. While I find it sad that she still has love for him, I get that there was a lot we didn’t see and her lived experience attests to that. I’m glad the interview gave some closure and is out there for the audience to see that she’s at least presenting as ok. You’re right - the break-up was a hard watch, but it’s best that she got out before she made it to the alter.
As someone who also suffers from pmdd, I found my symptoms lessened when I gave up dating. I now focus on making sure I take my supplements everyday, meditation, and working out. It’s gotten MUCH better, and I’m so grateful. I still have symptoms but they’re way better
I had terrible pelvic floor issues when I was dating my ex. Suddenly it stopped when i was single. Your body can reject the guy you’re dating, next time I’ll listen!
Being with a Narcissist is the most diabolical works ever placed on mankind like legit I wouldn’t wish that trauma on my worst enemy. But once you make it to the other side you are able to spot them a lot easier…. And for the love of all that is holy there are alooot of them in men
Their conversation was so triggering for me because my ex did the exact same thing. Talking around the bush wanting to come off as a nice guy😩 I was so angry for her watching this
You just explained my entire dating experience!! My break through moment was a quote from Oprah "No is a complete sentence". The amount of times I've told men no and they threw a temper tantrum was enough for me. The deflecting, jealousy, projection I was experiencing was all a form of manipulation. Thank you for this breakdown because it all makes sense now.
As soon as he walked in the room and greeted Marissa in Spanish and then brought up his "Cancer Leo Leo" bull crap, I knew right away that he was fake and just saying what she wanted to hear.
Women will be opting out of reality shows in which producers mash them together with random XYs and command them to "PLAY!" like toddlers mashing their Barbies together.
What I’ve noticed about all these reality shows is that it’s just throwing a bunch of mediocre men and beautiful Women together into an environment in which they’re encouraged to have lots of commitment-free xes then at the end of the show everyone goes their own way. It’s male fantasy on steroids.
@@xysarenottheprize yet women are the ones watching these shows, its always women watching romances shows and what not. Women need to stop investing time in this nonsense or else it won't stop
@xysarenottheprize you have an incredible ability to hamster. Like the other reply to you said woman make up the vast majority of the viewership. I only watch to appease my fiance. Male fantasy isn't lib it's pronhub
I was literally listening and really digging into that Beyonce song a few nights ago and it’s such a concise deconstruction of men’s attitude toward consent. Super underrated song. Love your analysis of this whole situation!
First of all, not you shouting out the Beyonce deep cuts from Dangerously In Love! I was engaged to someone like Ramses. Here's the thing and why it's so easy to catch these dudes BS: if you're so religious, why are you having premarital sex?! He gave covert narc vibes and I hope Marissa's mom handles him accordingly!
I be clockin’ that, too. Worked w/ a woman who told me about her daughter being tied up in knots by some youth pastor.🙄 They’re in a relationship, doing the things that people in relationships _do…_ but when the daughter brought up marriage, he all of a sudden claimed he didn’t feel she was “sPiriTuAL en0uGh.”🤨🤨🤨🙄
See i am so glad i watched the season of LIB. Before this season, i used to be attracted to the feminist presenting type of men. my saving grace is that i am not dating at the moment ( its been that way for 3yrs, i dated a covert narc). Watching LiB, sheeesh, there really isnt really a safe pace. I saw that marissa chose rameses because he presented as everything away from her exes. I believe he used her experiences to develop a cloak for himself to DECEIVE her. Another Great analysis YV. Women cannot take things at face value. Its all about the actions.
Imagine breaking up with your soon to be lawyer girlfriend as a 32 year old man a day before your wedding and the primary reasoning is determined “your energy is a little off”.. sorry, can you speak up for me?
Can we please have more content from you?! I follow several channels like this but for some reason watching several of your newest videos some things have clicked for me. The way you see it and explain it has made me have a few AhA * moments about men and things I’ve been through in the past. You really clock them and their shady behavior!!
Thank you for your content ❤ When they talked about condoms he said “I am as till now not responsible taking care of birth control” again telling her “it’s your responsibility as woman because all other women didn’t made me to take care of it” not taking responsibility and accountability to spread his genes or not.
Listening to you is a revelation. I’ve been around the sun quite a few times and haven’t heard this clear an articulation of women’s issues EVER. Please keep it up. Once the mainstream gets a chance to hear you, your impact will be astronomical. My deepest respect. 🙏🏼
Needing a person to have sex with you MULTIPLE times a day is simply delusional. He seems to have a childlike mentality. I’m sooo glad they did not end up together, she’s way too good for him but I don’t understand how she still “loves” him 😭
Girl, I wish you would have been watching and analysing my life this last year and a half. You could have told me way earlier I was losing my time with my ex. 😂
These two are deeply incompatible but they want off of the “good vibes” in the pods. When the curiosity and initial spark started to fizzle, they saw the gaps. Not massively surprising.
I would've dumped him for the rat tail alone lmao But more seriously....actions over words all the time! And trust your instincts. If he makes you feel bad about yourself, ESPECIALLY in the early stages, gtfo. No matter how good he looks on paper or how many feminist buzz words he knows.
I know Im def not career driven. I prefer working a job that I enjoy rather than have a career that makes me scream every morning when I have to go to work. the least I can do for my partner is to take away from their plate so they dont have to stress about absolutely everything all the time. these cishet men confuse me. they sure talk a lot but get all huffy and puffy when she wont touch his peepee. but then again narcissists can be never wrong so its obviously her fault.
I don't think any of it is that deep is this instance. He feels entitled to a woman's body, she didn't give it to him on demand. So he's done. He's a sexual predator.
He's certainly a sex addict. Before any woman marries I would advise that she susses this out of him even if it means premarital sex. You DO NOT want to marry a sex addict, it will ruin you.
I hate the fact that the trauma bond makes women pine for losers like him after they’ve dropped the mask. “My poor peepee!!” He should be spending some time in Hotel Dumpster. With him not working that’s probably what he can afford.
Can we get a breakdown of how Disney movies brain wash women? Or maybe it was just me 😅 I was obsessed with lady and the tramp growing up in the 90s and I think it highly influenced my relationship choices.
Ugh…and she’s still _talking_ to him. That’s him keeping her on the roster. And since _she_ has always been the one to float the idea of them getting back together or _her_ making concessions…he probably knows he can come back if he ever has a need to…😔
Actually you want to find out if he's good in bed, i.e. unselfish, before you marry him. Would you want to end up married to a sexually selfish man that'll leave you feeling used and unfulfilled? And be his bangmaid FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. At least she found this out about him before tying the knot.
The saddest part women fall in love with men faster once you sleep with them!!! You can’t play with your biology!!! We women give men more chance’s of winning 😂 while men once you mess up they’re done with you! The best thing to test a man’s love is money and consistent efforts without this ! You can be sure he is only interested in punani! I dated this time if I’ve seen he is not interested with consistent efforts to show off he is worthy of my trust I deleted them 😂and next 😂 no matter how good looking they are! I close my eyes and says im not the same good girl anymore I don’t live to please men! That helps me eliminate these jackals 😂! Once I’ve seen they are stingy ! Im out! These good man they trying to paint so hard is not true usually! Give them a problem to solve that will require them to be a good man they will run😂!!! I just laughed about it when they fail to deliver !!!’
I'm not really dating but if I would I wouldn't even consider s*x for the first months. If you want a serious relationship become my friend first, lets really get to know eachother and then we can move on to intimacy. It's also the best test to see if he is actually interested in me as a person.
@@ilikemaline That's what I want, COURTSHIP before sex. I'm not going to stress that he spends money on me like wildantics but to spend TIME. I do discourage men from spending too much money on me so that I'm not indebted to him, so that he'll have to spend time with me and be romantic. If he can't go for at least 3-4 months before sex and he hasn't spent much money on me than I take that as a red flag and leave him. Oh btw, I'm volcel and have been since 2012😀.
He felt like a narcissistic boy imo. Just the look itself was giving I believe in my own hype. He used her while she was complient, but when she started to see he was not all that he discarded her. I don't think she was so in pain because she loved him, she had that reaction because in one discussion he devalued the whole relationship to only showcase it was all false. It was just pretty discourses and she thought it was genuine discussions to build intimacy. Just disgusting.
why do women still waste energy trying to date men? they have proven countless times they cannot be trusted. they pose a threat to our lives. once i started putting my safety first, i completely gave up on dating. best thing i've done in my entire life.
Genuine question: How do you deal with the feeling of isolation? Or have you managed to surround yourself with like-minded people? Because I am disinterested in dating as well but it can be such a lonely experience when everyone around me is obsessed with finding someone, especially now that I'm 30.
I also don't date anymore but we are kinda wired to find a mate I think all people need to get past this primal instinct and reach a new level of human consciousness
Did he get paid to do the show? If so, he’s a paid actor. She’s so sophisticated she can see the nuance. It’s an education for her unfortunately painful. I wonder if he genuinely took anything away from the show about himself on how to improve himself? 10 days is only enough time to jump into the deep and have to fight your way to the top. People love to romanticize life until they have to live it or they are adventure junkies. Just my thoughts, still learning over here.
13:11 And this is how I know you're the real deal. This is one of my favorite OG Beyonce songs and the message was so profound. 'Yes' radicalized me too. 44:39 Yup! - This show is allowing intelligent women like you to use real time occurrences to teach other women. Women can't stick their heads in the sand now when the red flags are this obvious. 45:29 THIS! ☝🏾
this is such a good breakdown! i didn’t see the series but i feel like you highlighted so much of this dudes narcissism and cowardice in a way that helps me recognize these patterns in my life!
The way you break things down. Marvelous!!! It’s what women miss because they are not being mindful!! I’m speaking from experience as well. Thank you for doing this because I know it takes TIME!!! It’s so important to look past the words and consider the actions. Yes, you are a soooooo gooooood!
There are a lot of reasons why women should not propose. Also women should not be the one to ask a man on a date, drop your handkerchief instead. Many years ago I told a young woman this and she claimed that today's "modern woman" do go right up to guys and ask them out. Fast forward to today and we can see that has paved the road to intensified hypergamy, 50-50, etc., but that's a whole other discussion.
I’ve met this type of man before. I was fooled by his cloak too. I’m lucky I figured it out eventually. Back then I would complain about how his words were so devoted but each time he could have done something tiny that would show the same devotion, he never did. It was tiny things too so I seemed crazy when I complained. I’m glad I left him. Back then it was just because I didn’t trust him and I didn’t believe his words. But the more distance you have, the more you see. Everything that man did was just to sleep with me. It was the cause of our first issue. I wasn’t ready and he pushed. It really spooked me. I tried to convince myself that he was just a man and I couldn’t fault him for wanting. But I never gave in and he only got angrier. I just left him rather than figure it out and I’m so glad I did. My mother is still upset that I didn’t marry him. Today, he goes around as a philanthropist but I will never forget the day I told him about my dreams of helping people and he made me feel foolish. It was enough to sow seeds of doubt in me but it wasn’t enough to stop me. Now all my work is for my goal to help people. His envy and selfishness did not break me but they so easily could have. Ladies, please be wary of these type of man. They will give you a reason to be loyal to them and then they will take as much as they can before you notice enough to leave. Some of them may even be bold enough to come after you. Some will entice you back to them, some will force you. It is better to avoid them from the start. They are truly the most shameless type of parasite.
Wow I feel that this show has run its course but then again the level of awakening we are getting is astonishing unfortunately the contestants and sadly the women are primarily the sacrificial lamb the cameras and mirrors no longer smoke and mirrors coupled with social media is we get to dissect and see how it’s really going. I appreciate the analysis yet so thirsty for resolution. 💗
I have joint problems and IBS my husband doesn’t pester me for bonking time. He asks me if want to if I say no (for any reason) I get a cuddle and told thats fine. Then usually if I’m not well he makes me a drink or runs me a bath. That’s how it should be for EVERYONE! Not just me! I keep saying this to women at work when they said I have a perfect relationship. I say that’s how it SHOULD be!
This exact thing happened to me. I got long Covid and also made more money and also he wasn't over his bum ex. 3 years and up until the day before he left me he was telling me things like "we will get through this together" "I love you" "you're my everything"..
No. I'm from the UK and have watched LIB UK, Sweden, Mexico, Japan and Brazil, but I've never watched the US version. And judging by what I've read, I don't intend to. Having said that men are men everywhere and there are plenty of sh---y examples in the other versions.
From what little that I've seen of this show, it looks like it stacks the deck with crappy guys. The women should be able to for intentional emotional stress, lol.
the last guy I dated was the worst guy I've dated, he was "the feminist social justice leftist guy" in a way I'm grateful to him because he ended my attraction to men. Changed me forever. I let my guard down and he was a violent narcissist, and when I finally got him to accept the breakup he went and lied all over town about me. Literally just told stories about things he did to me and said I did them. 4b forever after that. Watching Ramses was so triggering they even look alike :/ (minus that clip in braid thing)
Hi Lisa, I'm shadowbanned because of my rebuttals to the manosphere right here on YT. A couple of my replies to the comments here was deleted by YT despite them meeting YT guidelines. Those were insightful replies that were not offensive to anyone. I'm a Gen X woman who values the work you're doing here and want to add to the discussion. Unfortunately YT makes it impossible for me to post replies, though I can post comments. If there's anything you can do about that it will be a benefit to the community. ty❤
She has dodged one hell of a bullet with that clown. He needs an Oscar for his performance. His award: Best Narcissist
How does she still not get that he was manipulating her and it was all lies? I'm so worried for her.
@@HipHopHoe707 fr 🥴 Melissa is smart, sweet and such a wonderful person so how did she, after this whole debacle, kept seeing him and even asked him to get back with her?? Like girl- please stand up 😭
@@tella6630intelligence doesn't protect you from absue
@@tella6630 Trauma makes you do stupid things.
Someone is going to date him though 😂 I feel bad for his next victim
Ladies, please don't EVER give a man the benefit of the doubt, ESPECIALLY if he hasn't proven his love and devotion with his real, concrete ACTIONS. Just cut him off and walk away. Women tend to be overly understanding and tie themselves in knots, trying to be accommodating to a man, and it never will serve you in the end. He will just take advantage of you and become more selfish. Please learn from the mistakes I made throughout my 20s and 30s. 😅
Yes, I completely agree with you and have found is not common. Everywhere, we keep giving men the benefit of the doubt even if (trump, musk, diddy, celebrities...), have shown who they truly are, over and over. I also learn that the hard way 😅 and it is now a rule of mine, especially in the context of work/dating/friendship: never give men the benefit of the doubt, ever. Always take what they say and how they act as face value and do not give them excuses.
@@pipermcpickles5283 seriously 💯!
Don't waste your time giving grace to guys who would NEVER do the same for you.
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@i_m_ryn even still, you judge us by our actions and not as a monolith. You are a kind soul.
What I think Ramses can teach all women tho, is: Men do know EXACTLY the right things to say. They do. It's not difficult. Women have told men, culturally, over and over again, what we want. So if a man starts saying things that make you insecure, or sounds off, or sounds passive aggressive.....THEY KNOW. Trust your gut. Men could say the perfect thing if they want to. If they are not, it's because they don't want to.
However, it's even more worrying when they DO, because they're not sincere and are just deceiving the woman.
Watch woman of the hour. The man says the right thing. He gets picked on the dating show. Yet he's a serial killer/rapist.
@@kahlernygard809😮
Thank you
@@kahlernygard809I'm not saying you should date men but I'm also not allowed to tell you not to for your safety as I'm a man and that'd be mansplaining. I would maybe advise seeing his friends and how they act and also keeping distance. I'm no expert tho
As someone with "too much" "energy" I have learned when a man tells you that, it's because he would rather you behave more like a blow up doll than be an actual human being with thoughts, feelings, and opinions. Like he just wants you to stfu and "act right." AND/OR he wants you to dim yourself because he's jealous everyone likes you more. Lol
Yep, it also means he doesn't like women to be confident in themselves.
Yup they claim to like feisty women until you call them out on their shit
@@z0z111 BINGO
Like TH-camr Elyse Myers says, "you think I'm too much? Look for less." That's your mantra. Look for less if you think I'm too much.
Lol I literally have ADHD (the hyperactive type too) and I've had some men tell me I'm "too much" and some tell me they love how "bubbly and bouncy and energetic" I am. As a neurospicy girly I promise you if he likes you, your energy isn't a negative thing.
I've noticed a lot of men saying they appreciate empathy lately. It's just code for "I expect empathy from YOU, I'm not gonna show any". They usually have no empathy to give, only take. Take your attention, time, love, etc.
Its just another word they’ve learned to parrot and use for virtue signalling eg “im the type of man who talks about empathy” they don’t practice what they preach at alllll
I think he was saying whatever he thought she wanted to hear in the pods to get picked, and kept it going to get a vacation, resort accommodations and sx from her, and had no real interest or intention of following through with anything he said!
So once she set firm boundaries with her own body....
He was ready to hit the brakes 🙄
Every man 😂
Yup as soon as that happened there was a problem
@@KarmaCame exactly She just needed some time to feel better when she was sick and he was still trying to push to get his needs met!
and when she brought up him not holding up his end to the bargain, planning for their future their wedding etc, he didn't have any excuses... just apologized and said that he do better...
because he was hoping to still get his "needs" met!
When he didn't, he was ready to call it quits, because he didn't want to plan the wedding, didn't want to do the planning their future relationship or any of that, because he never wanted THAT!
He wanted to get a free vacation, publicity for his Instagram page and sex from her...
When the vacation ends, and she set boundaries with her body, he only cared about the one thing left ...
Holding on to fame from the show without looking like he was just using her!
Then he just comes up with a list of excuses literally OVERNIGHT!!!
He was asking everyone to follow his Instagram and then turned off the comments!😁
Come on now!
I think everyone is too harsh on the people that change their minds. This show is set up in a very unnatural way where people are expected to fall deeply in love very quickly and it’s just not realistic. Some make it yes, but the majority of couples leave Mexico and then get the ick once they move in together.
Ramses talking about his ex is just another example of how divorce, for women, is tied to deep shame, both personally and culturally, a sign that SHE messed up, but for men has the opposite of stigma. It is now a part of their history they can use against all women going forward.
There is stigma for divorced men. A widower gets treated waaaay better than a divorced man in the dating world.
@@kahlernygard809 Uh, duh. Same for widows vs. divorced women. Don't think you have a point here, bud
@FishareFriendsNotFood972 you claimed divorced men has the opposite of stigma and I showed you in fact they do have stigma.
@@kahlernygard809 No, dude, divorced women face a lot of stigma, divorced men face little to no stigma, and male widowers have it even better. In the same way, we wouldn't say millionaires face 'stigma' because they don't get treated as well as billionaires.
@@kahlernygard809 Here, how about I turn this into numbers to make it easier for you. Baseline is zero.
A 'stigma' is anything below zero.
A 'positive' is anything above zero.
Divorced woman: -8
Divorced man +1
Widower: +3
This is shown through actual pay, women who divorce make less than had they never married. Divorced men make MORE than never married men, same with widowers.
i think he is the type of man whose whole motive is to make YOU like HIM. so he'll mask himself as your ideal type, ideal love. he likes you liking him. he doesn't like you for you. it's very self serving. they prioritize themselves even in the relationship. and his needs matter more than your needs.
BINGO
Isn't that most men? 😆
After talking with a few dudes who had ‘empathy’ in their bio on dating apps, this turned into a red flag, cause none of them had a clue what it meant, and took it as ‘you have to understand, agree with and like whatever I say or do’ 😅
You need to understand what men put on dating apps is not and about me bur what they are looking for.
So when they put 'empathy, independence, honesty, chivalry, modesty' these are all attributes they want the other person to have, not what they have to offer.
@redleeks6253 oh god...modesty is a huge red flag. Like they are gonna get pissed if you dress too cute or post pretty selfies on IG.
Most chauvinistic dudes are incels who identify as INFP and think "the world doesn't understand them".
When really, they're hurt little boys who never took time to get therapy.
@@redleeks6253wild, yet sobering! 😮
"what do you mean you don't have time for my peepee" 💀😂
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He also didn’t get flowers or anything cute for her family when they first meet and I remember her feeling some type of way about that too! It’s the lack of effort across the board for me.
Probably sold that as being "unconventional".
I've definitely dated guys like that who were just broke boys lol
I never got flowers for my fiances parents.
@@kahlernygard809Cheap
@@zucchinigreenis it OK to date people when you're broke or not? I just want to hear yalls opinions if you choose. I'm not attacking and sorry if it sounds like that
His hairstyle alone told me everything I needed to know about him.
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Facts. I'm a man and I didn't get it either. Men need to stop acting like they're liberal feminists. It just looks like an act and kind of weird.
And those stockings ( pants?) 😂😂😂😂😂
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If a guy seems too charismatic and “perfect” in the beginning, it’s manipulation. Narcissistic abuse is a pure mind f***. Please prioritize yourself and peace. Having a partner will not “complete” you I promise.
The word narcissist is thrown around really easily. He might have been more of a love bomber but the show practically encourages very intense feelings in a short amount of time. Changing his mind about a person he’s known for a few weeks doesn’t automatically make him a narc.
I feel very complete with my fiance. perhaps it's rare but it does happen. There is a reason people keep trying at love even if they get burned multiple times over. Because when you find it , it makes life worth living again.
@ Not everyone wants to dig through the landfill to find the least moldy piece of bread 👌🏻
@andrimarbi I have a lot of experience with narcs and, as a result, have developed a very strong radar for them and trust me, this man is very likely a narcissist. They all use the same tactics and once you know, you know. It's as clear as water.
@ the majority of people have narcissistic traits. It’s a very loosely used term today and not every rejection or breakup is due to it.
My ex husband cheated on me while I was pregnant and blamed it on our lack of intimacy.....I had Hyperemesis gravidarum and was basically dying for months straight. -__- and the most annoying part is HE wanted the pregnancy but couldnt handle it and blamed it on me
It wasn't you, he didn't want to put your needs first. 😢
I hope you know you deserve better.
I feel you. My ex wife cheated with a friend of mine. So I lost two and our mutual friends group had to choose sides which is not the way I am. She love bombed me for the first few years then it turned off. When I brought it up? No talking about it. My fault and move on. But it wasn’t my fault all the time. And not being able to talk about anything and the rules of the relationship default to her opinion/feelings only. I went to the divorce counselling. She showed up once and when the therapist said she’s at fault because of her inability to be accountable? She’s the hypocrite. Now I know how to see narcissists and I don’t put up with their red flags. Women do it, too. And I notice others who tend towards never wanting to reciprocate. Catch 22 sometimes but I know I’m better off. Much. Good luck raising a heathy child!
Pregnancy brings out the absolute worst in men, I will never stop saying this.
@@cocktailonion696 Some men. Some women, too
Ramses: I’m looking for a partner that practices empathy…[for ME].
Ramses was the king of ultimatums this season. Whenever he threw out his non-negotiables and immediately hit Marissa with “but I don’t want to make you do anything you don’t want to do” attitude and statements, I felt like I was about to lose my mind!! Watching the light leave her eyes was so hard. While I find it sad that she still has love for him, I get that there was a lot we didn’t see and her lived experience attests to that. I’m glad the interview gave some closure and is out there for the audience to see that she’s at least presenting as ok. You’re right - the break-up was a hard watch, but it’s best that she got out before she made it to the alter.
I shudder to imagine what he will do to a woman's life when it is not on camera
As someone who also suffers from pmdd, I found my symptoms lessened when I gave up dating. I now focus on making sure I take my supplements everyday, meditation, and working out. It’s gotten MUCH better, and I’m so grateful. I still have symptoms but they’re way better
What are you taking?
I had terrible pelvic floor issues when I was dating my ex. Suddenly it stopped when i was single. Your body can reject the guy you’re dating, next time I’ll listen!
Being with a Narcissist is the most diabolical works ever placed on mankind like legit I wouldn’t wish that trauma on my worst enemy.
But once you make it to the other side you are able to spot them a lot easier…. And for the love of all that is holy there are alooot of them in men
One in four people are narcissists now and most are male. Join 4b, try ladies.
Their conversation was so triggering for me because my ex did the exact same thing. Talking around the bush wanting to come off as a nice guy😩 I was so angry for her watching this
Him just yapping and talking nonsense made ma wanna get violent 🫠🫠 so sorry you had to deal with something similar
My ex wife too
You just explained my entire dating experience!! My break through moment was a quote from Oprah "No is a complete sentence". The amount of times I've told men no and they threw a temper tantrum was enough for me. The deflecting, jealousy, projection I was experiencing was all a form of manipulation.
Thank you for this breakdown because it all makes sense now.
I’m a lawyer and if you need assistance with any copyright issues I’ll help you for free because I love your channel so much!
not the creator, but this is so sweet!! I love seeing this type of solidarity! Hope you guys can connect :)
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As soon as he walked in the room and greeted Marissa in Spanish and then brought up his "Cancer Leo Leo" bull crap, I knew right away that he was fake and just saying what she wanted to hear.
he looks like a broken vacuum
He does suck though...like a working vacuum. 😅
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Women will be opting out of reality shows in which producers mash them together with random XYs and command them to "PLAY!" like toddlers mashing their Barbies together.
What I’ve noticed about all these reality shows is that it’s just throwing a bunch of mediocre men and beautiful Women together into an environment in which they’re encouraged to have lots of commitment-free xes then at the end of the show everyone goes their own way. It’s male fantasy on steroids.
@@xysarenottheprizeI don't watch them but I can tell you are 💯 correct.
@@xysarenottheprize yet women are the ones watching these shows, its always women watching romances shows and what not. Women need to stop investing time in this nonsense or else it won't stop
@xysarenottheprize you have an incredible ability to hamster. Like the other reply to you said woman make up the vast majority of the viewership. I only watch to appease my fiance.
Male fantasy isn't lib it's pronhub
I was literally listening and really digging into that Beyonce song a few nights ago and it’s such a concise deconstruction of men’s attitude toward consent. Super underrated song. Love your analysis of this whole situation!
I've never heard that song but it summarizes so much of what I've experienced.
First of all, not you shouting out the Beyonce deep cuts from Dangerously In Love! I was engaged to someone like Ramses. Here's the thing and why it's so easy to catch these dudes BS: if you're so religious, why are you having premarital sex?! He gave covert narc vibes and I hope Marissa's mom handles him accordingly!
sheis a full ass adult so hopefully she handled her own goddamn business accordingly
Bingo, he is nitpicking when to be religious and when not to be. S3x before marriage is a no-no if one is religious.
I be clockin’ that, too. Worked w/ a woman who told me about her daughter being tied up in knots by some youth pastor.🙄 They’re in a relationship, doing the things that people in relationships _do…_ but when the daughter brought up marriage, he all of a sudden claimed he didn’t feel she was “sPiriTuAL en0uGh.”🤨🤨🤨🙄
@@lNowHerel You sound aggressive and hostile, but ok!
See i am so glad i watched the season of LIB. Before this season, i used to be attracted to the feminist presenting type of men. my saving grace is that i am not dating at the moment ( its been that way for 3yrs, i dated a covert narc). Watching LiB, sheeesh, there really isnt really a safe pace. I saw that marissa chose rameses because he presented as everything away from her exes. I believe he used her experiences to develop a cloak for himself to DECEIVE her. Another Great analysis YV. Women cannot take things at face value. Its all about the actions.
lol that Beyoncé song went platinum in my house. 😂
What is the title please? If I may ask.
@@Redberylprincessit’s simply „yes” :) it’s on her first solo album
@@Upsikkk ok thanks.
Imagine breaking up with your soon to be lawyer girlfriend as a 32 year old man a day before your wedding and the primary reasoning is determined “your energy is a little off”.. sorry, can you speak up for me?
Can we please have more content from you?! I follow several channels like this but for some reason watching several of your newest videos some things have clicked for me. The way you see it and explain it has made me have a few AhA * moments about men and things I’ve been through in the past. You really clock them and their shady behavior!!
omg that’s the best compliment thank you so much!! I am definitely planning on posting here a lot more 🙂↕️🙂↕️🙂↕️
@@yv_edit thank you love for what you do!! You’re saving younger women!!
This is how I feel too!!
@@yv_edit yes please! I don't use tiktok so please repost that content here 🙏
Why does he have two shit locs hanging down from his hair?It would have been an immediate no for me 😒🙄
Yeah, once I see THAT kind of hairstyle, it's a "no" from me too. I call them "baby girl" hairstyles.
He’s gay.
He looks like a complete dick. Which is what he thinks with, so that’s appropriate.
gay
I laughed my fao reading this. Best comment of the thread.
Thank you for your content ❤
When they talked about condoms he said “I am as till now not responsible taking care of birth control” again telling her “it’s your responsibility as woman because all other women didn’t made me to take care of it” not taking responsibility and accountability to spread his genes or not.
Listening to you is a revelation. I’ve been around the sun quite a few times and haven’t heard this clear an articulation of women’s issues EVER. Please keep it up. Once the mainstream gets a chance to hear you, your impact will be astronomical. My deepest respect. 🙏🏼
Needing a person to have sex with you MULTIPLE times a day is simply delusional. He seems to have a childlike mentality. I’m sooo glad they did not end up together, she’s way too good for him but I don’t understand how she still “loves” him 😭
Right like how does he even have time for that? He must be doing absolutely nothing with his life.
Girl, I wish you would have been watching and analysing my life this last year and a half. You could have told me way earlier I was losing my time with my ex. 😂
I’ve never wanted to watch Love is Blind until now. I feel like watching this would hit so close to home that it will both re-traumatize and heal me.
Same.
He reminds me of my ex. He would punish me by not given a type of affection if I didn’t want sex and accuse me of things if I didn’t want to have sex…
These two are deeply incompatible but they want off of the “good vibes” in the pods. When the curiosity and initial spark started to fizzle, they saw the gaps. Not massively surprising.
I would've dumped him for the rat tail alone lmao
But more seriously....actions over words all the time! And trust your instincts. If he makes you feel bad about yourself, ESPECIALLY in the early stages, gtfo. No matter how good he looks on paper or how many feminist buzz words he knows.
I know Im def not career driven. I prefer working a job that I enjoy rather than have a career that makes me scream every morning when I have to go to work.
the least I can do for my partner is to take away from their plate so they dont have to stress about absolutely everything all the time.
these cishet men confuse me. they sure talk a lot but get all huffy and puffy when she wont touch his peepee.
but then again narcissists can be never wrong so its obviously her fault.
I don't think any of it is that deep is this instance. He feels entitled to a woman's body, she didn't give it to him on demand. So he's done. He's a sexual predator.
He's certainly a sex addict. Before any woman marries I would advise that she susses this out of him even if it means premarital sex. You DO NOT want to marry a sex addict, it will ruin you.
I hate the fact that the trauma bond makes women pine for losers like him after they’ve dropped the mask. “My poor peepee!!” He should be spending some time in Hotel Dumpster. With him not working that’s probably what he can afford.
i am doing my 10k steps and listening to this - thank you sister for the content that’s chefs kisses
She dodged a bullet!!! What a loser Rames is! He has nothing to offer!!
Can we get a breakdown of how Disney movies brain wash women? Or maybe it was just me 😅 I was obsessed with lady and the tramp growing up in the 90s and I think it highly influenced my relationship choices.
Ugh…and she’s still _talking_ to him. That’s him keeping her on the roster. And since _she_ has always been the one to float the idea of them getting back together or _her_ making concessions…he probably knows he can come back if he ever has a need to…😔
Nope he turned her down when she wanted to rekindle
After they screwed to the moon and back...he dropped that on her...Let this be a lesson to women to withhold the goodys.
Actually you want to find out if he's good in bed, i.e. unselfish, before you marry him. Would you want to end up married to a sexually selfish man that'll leave you feeling used and unfulfilled? And be his bangmaid FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
At least she found this out about him before tying the knot.
3:46 it’s giving “Pirates: On Ice! Live in a city near you.”
i am so grateful for your content
The saddest part women fall in love with men faster once you sleep with them!!! You can’t play with your biology!!! We women give men more chance’s of winning 😂 while men once you mess up they’re done with you! The best thing to test a man’s love is money and consistent efforts without this ! You can be sure he is only interested in punani! I dated this time if I’ve seen he is not interested with consistent efforts to show off he is worthy of my trust I deleted them 😂and next 😂 no matter how good looking they are! I close my eyes and says im not the same good girl anymore I don’t live to please men! That helps me eliminate these jackals 😂! Once I’ve seen they are stingy ! Im out! These good man they trying to paint so hard is not true usually! Give them a problem to solve that will require them to be a good man they will run😂!!! I just laughed about it when they fail to deliver !!!’
I'm not really dating but if I would I wouldn't even consider s*x for the first months. If you want a serious relationship become my friend first, lets really get to know eachother and then we can move on to intimacy. It's also the best test to see if he is actually interested in me as a person.
@@ilikemaline That's what I want, COURTSHIP before sex. I'm not going to stress that he spends money on me like wildantics but to spend TIME. I do discourage men from spending too much money on me so that I'm not indebted to him, so that he'll have to spend time with me and be romantic.
If he can't go for at least 3-4 months before sex and he hasn't spent much money on me than I take that as a red flag and leave him.
Oh btw, I'm volcel and have been since 2012😀.
Ramsey’s hair and outfit are ridiculous.
I wanna be him for Halloween. 😂
@@caseyw.6550 lol 😂 please do and show us pics lol 😂 you got a new subscriber now, don’t disappoint.
I never heard of this show until your previous video. But your analysis is so damn good, I feel like I know very well what a slimeball "Rattail" is 😂
Samee
He felt like a narcissistic boy imo. Just the look itself was giving I believe in my own hype. He used her while she was complient, but when she started to see he was not all that he discarded her. I don't think she was so in pain because she loved him, she had that reaction because in one discussion he devalued the whole relationship to only showcase it was all false. It was just pretty discourses and she thought it was genuine discussions to build intimacy. Just disgusting.
why do women still waste energy trying to date men? they have proven countless times they cannot be trusted. they pose a threat to our lives. once i started putting my safety first, i completely gave up on dating. best thing i've done in my entire life.
Genuine question: How do you deal with the feeling of isolation? Or have you managed to surround yourself with like-minded people? Because I am disinterested in dating as well but it can be such a lonely experience when everyone around me is obsessed with finding someone, especially now that I'm 30.
I also don't date anymore but we are kinda wired to find a mate
I think all people need to get past this primal instinct and reach a new level of human consciousness
I doubt these misandry posts are actual woman. Probably Russian disinformation bots trying to get us divided between each other.
Did he get paid to do the show? If so, he’s a paid actor. She’s so sophisticated she can see the nuance. It’s an education for her unfortunately painful. I wonder if he
genuinely took anything away from the show about himself on how to improve himself? 10 days is only enough time to jump into the deep and have to fight your way to the top.
People love to romanticize life until they have to live it or they are adventure junkies. Just my thoughts, still learning over here.
YESSS. You fcking safed me!!💕 thank you so much for your work!
SO glad you covered this one
13:11 And this is how I know you're the real deal. This is one of my favorite OG Beyonce songs and the message was so profound. 'Yes' radicalized me too.
44:39 Yup! - This show is allowing intelligent women like you to use real time occurrences to teach other women. Women can't stick their heads in the sand now when the red flags are this obvious.
45:29 THIS! ☝🏾
I love that you kept the vertical format ❤️ and thank yyou for a new video so soon ❤️ 💙 💜
Love you, Yv! 😘😘😘
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this is such a good breakdown! i didn’t see the series but i feel like you highlighted so much of this dudes narcissism and cowardice in a way that helps me recognize these patterns in my life!
The way you break things down. Marvelous!!! It’s what women miss because they are not being mindful!! I’m speaking from experience as well. Thank you for doing this because I know it takes TIME!!! It’s so important to look past the words and consider the actions. Yes, you are a soooooo gooooood!
He's a LOSER!!!!!
Excellent Intelligent Commentary
I can't watch this shows because of the cringe and feeling for women
Thank you for posting! 🎉🎉🎉
Yes was was one of my favorite songs on that album lol I was so obessesed with it at my young age haha
Yes, they're cowards!!!!!
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I literally trust you’re advices with my life thank you for making videos like this ❤❤❤
Great analysis and commentary. 👏🏾
This is ALL dead on!
Gianina proposed in season 1 but she was a mess so it’s better if Women don’t propose.
There are a lot of reasons why women should not propose.
Also women should not be the one to ask a man on a date, drop your handkerchief instead. Many years ago I told a young woman this and she claimed that today's "modern woman" do go right up to guys and ask them out. Fast forward to today and we can see that has paved the road to intensified hypergamy, 50-50, etc., but that's a whole other discussion.
I can't believe all this was about schmex......
I can’t stand these kinds of shows but your analyses are 🔥🔥🔥
I’ve met this type of man before. I was fooled by his cloak too. I’m lucky I figured it out eventually. Back then I would complain about how his words were so devoted but each time he could have done something tiny that would show the same devotion, he never did. It was tiny things too so I seemed crazy when I complained. I’m glad I left him. Back then it was just because I didn’t trust him and I didn’t believe his words. But the more distance you have, the more you see. Everything that man did was just to sleep with me. It was the cause of our first issue. I wasn’t ready and he pushed. It really spooked me. I tried to convince myself that he was just a man and I couldn’t fault him for wanting. But I never gave in and he only got angrier. I just left him rather than figure it out and I’m so glad I did. My mother is still upset that I didn’t marry him. Today, he goes around as a philanthropist but I will never forget the day I told him about my dreams of helping people and he made me feel foolish. It was enough to sow seeds of doubt in me but it wasn’t enough to stop me. Now all my work is for my goal to help people. His envy and selfishness did not break me but they so easily could have. Ladies, please be wary of these type of man. They will give you a reason to be loyal to them and then they will take as much as they can before you notice enough to leave. Some of them may even be bold enough to come after you. Some will entice you back to them, some will force you. It is better to avoid them from the start. They are truly the most shameless type of parasite.
There's no such thing as feminist men 😂
Wholeheartedly agree
You are so right
Wow I feel that this show has run its course but then again the level of awakening we are getting is astonishing unfortunately the contestants and sadly the women are primarily the sacrificial lamb the cameras and mirrors no longer smoke and mirrors coupled with social media is we get to dissect and see how it’s really going. I appreciate the analysis yet so thirsty for resolution. 💗
Oh yeah, don't concede nothing!!!
Most ppl don't know about Beyoncé's YES. I heard it fully for the first time two years ago. Definitely valid
I think I remember one of the 2 first seasons I watched had a woman propose first but I think rejected
I thought Ramses was the one who deconstructed
I have joint problems and IBS my husband doesn’t pester me for bonking time. He asks me if want to if I say no (for any reason) I get a cuddle and told thats fine. Then usually if I’m not well he makes me a drink or runs me a bath. That’s how it should be for EVERYONE! Not just me! I keep saying this to women at work when they said I have a perfect relationship. I say that’s how it SHOULD be!
Oh crap, gotta save this one for when I'm done with the season 💀
Great analysis! Spot on!!
This exact thing happened to me. I got long Covid and also made more money and also he wasn't over his bum ex. 3 years and up until the day before he left me he was telling me things like "we will get through this together" "I love you" "you're my everything"..
Am I the only person who hasn't watched this show or care to?
No. I'm from the UK and have watched LIB UK, Sweden, Mexico, Japan and Brazil, but I've never watched the US version.
And judging by what I've read, I don't intend to.
Having said that men are men everywhere and there are plenty of sh---y examples in the other versions.
The only kind of reality show I watch are baking shows
@@constancep7632 And those too.
From what little that I've seen of this show, it looks like it stacks the deck with crappy guys. The women should be able to for intentional emotional stress, lol.
It’s just how the majority of them are unfortunately shitty.
As Lizzo said “why men great till they gotta be great?” 🤣🤣 they literally say and do everything but the one thing you want/need smh 🙄
I watched the show and I legit felt this discard so hard. I was heartbroken for her. Ramses did her dirty.
Wow I’m really early! Hi!
the last guy I dated was the worst guy I've dated, he was "the feminist social justice leftist guy" in a way I'm grateful to him because he ended my attraction to men. Changed me forever. I let my guard down and he was a violent narcissist, and when I finally got him to accept the breakup he went and lied all over town about me. Literally just told stories about things he did to me and said I did them. 4b forever after that. Watching Ramses was so triggering they even look alike :/ (minus that clip in braid thing)
He’s a king baby if ever there was one! And these are the same men that will unalive you - the “nice guys”.
What is your vision of having a healthy mutual and equal relationship?
The truth hurts
That behavior is not uncommon. That's why being single feels really nice.
The men this season represented the actual male population- 1 out of the however many men was a cool dude-rest sucked.
Hi Lisa, I'm shadowbanned because of my rebuttals to the manosphere right here on YT. A couple of my replies to the comments here was deleted by YT despite them meeting YT guidelines. Those were insightful replies that were not offensive to anyone.
I'm a Gen X woman who values the work you're doing here and want to add to the discussion. Unfortunately YT makes it impossible for me to post replies, though I can post comments. If there's anything you can do about that it will be a benefit to the community. ty❤
I mean Ramses wore a twin tail clip on his head. He was suspect just because of that, he came off as very effeminate.
yup he’s a horrible person and yes the bar is in hell. she dogged a bullet though so there’s always that.