LADIES!!!! It’s best to ask all the questions early… better to know than later.. finding out after many years of being in a relationship, that the person is not compatible with you. That’s why some people “settle” because they feel that’s the only option they have, since they’ve stayed for long in the relationship. Ladies it’s okay to have the HARD TALK/QUESTIONS… Any potential suitor (boyfriend/courting Man) who is afraid of answering tough questions… is a HUGE RED FLAG 🚩 straight up. Also, it’s important for ladies to be honest about who they are and what they will (or not) compromise… e.g. giving up your career without your consent, finances, debt, number of kids (even spacing options) medical profile, vision and mission etc. Else you will be a very bitter soul 😝 Those who are afraid of communication in the beginning will meet (unhealthy) conflict in the future.. We really enjoyed ❤watching this commonsensical video 😊. Patiently Looking forward to next episode 😇
Too much sense my sister. You said it all. It's very important that we discover ourselves as women and embrace who we are. No starting what we can't finish. ❤🙌❤
My husband and i discussed everything from years of waiting before children, no of kids, church to attend, where to spend Christmas, work, to how we wanted our home to be. We asked each other over 50 questions in a space of 2 days 😂 it was like an exam. Women should stop leaving things to chance and communicate early when they meet a potential partner.
I believe a man who is serious about you would talk about it, most relationships these days is all about fun, so these conversations don't come to play.
After watching your video I got inspired to work but my husband refuse and understand his concerns for me because of health issues I have a heart issue so I decide to do business from home and he support that with all the funds and for years now I have been doing business from home he is very supportive I am so happy for that thank you so much ma for your encouragement ❤❤
Flo you are so right, women think way ahead and that's why I will insist on having two kids just in case something happens, i know i am financially capable of taking care of two kids.......
@@FloChinyere exactly, wouldn't wanna cage myself with a bad man once he turns out that way in the long run or cheat, another thing is death ofcourse ..women are always ready for these things except that some fail to plan hence are caught up in a huge mess
@@ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439 seriously, Once I give birth to the second kid, I get in with family planning or pills.......These are topics and things women should know, but some have decided to leave their fate to chance and that's pitiful
These are very important discussions to have before you enter marriage… and there is nothing in this world that can beat marrying a supportive husband because that can make or break you as a married woman
Hi, my sister FLO. I love it when you both are together discussing topics. Your intro reminded me of my husband and me. I LOVE IT. May God continue to bless you and your family.
Flo Chinyere, you said it all because it's not easy to have this kind of discussion with a man. It will look like you're too forward. I am married with two kids. I and my husband had this type of discussion during our dating period before marriage, his really supporting me well. It depends on your husband understanding and what you want as a lady.
All questions are valid, if your friend is someone you see as a potential spouse and you have been dating, pls ask all the questions. It may not be direct so the man doesnt think you are too forwrd, you can paint a scenario. Just as your husband said, both of you could be seeing a movie, a scene in the movie should spur a question . Dear women, dont be carried away with lovey-dovey and all the butterflies and forget the main thing ❤❤. Thank you aunty flo 🌹🌹
I didn’t have anything to ask when I got married but I knew and still know what I don’t want and what I want. My husband has been supportive and ezigbo di. Looking forward to part 2 😅
Nanya, Chi gi zọlụ gị that you married a good man. 😂 If you had jammed a tyrant you for know how far with that your hidden knowledge of what you like and don't like. 🤣 Kudos to you two. 👍
My take on this topic is this, have the necessary conversations and agree on these basic issues especially the ones that will impact more on you. Make your stand clear but I will also state here that it doesn’t guarantee a successful marriage. You can discuss and agree on all you want only for one party to start deviating along the line at which point you begin to weigh your options.
Sure, even the devil himself will come to an agreement with one just to get the "union" going and later renege. We can prepare all we want and life still happens. We will continue to have these conversations and when betrayed, we assess the level of betrayal and take decision on the way forward.
I work form home and my partner is very comfortable with it, we talked about cooking and how he doesn't like refrigerated food, and I was clear about not being the type to cook everyday, told him i cook in bulk and refridgerate to be microwaved as needed.. he adjusted to it... These things are necessary. We also discussed kids . Told him i wanted just a kid but could opt for two, he said three and I told him that i'm not really open for three... That's still up for discussion.......I'd really prefer staying single that' marrying into headache and problems
Na so you for dey cook fresh soup every day, abi? 😂 See the importance of having that convo. 🙌👍 Hopefully both of you will come to an agreement on the number of kids. Make I give you one secret: if you have only one, be ready to be entertaining him/her. They need at least one sibling ooo. 😅😉 The singlehood headache is far better than marrying a bad person abeg.
Things I wish I knew before hand.... I never discussed anything just like you said, not because i was desperate but I was naive. I sing it like a song to my daughters today.
We discussed all these and more even before we officially started dating. Like first few weeks of meeting. Then we did pre-marital counselling and they gave us a questionnaire the first day. Over 300 questions 😂. It was like writing exam. Then ofcourse a lot of assignments and discussions alone, as a couple and with the counsellor over the duration of a few months. Even down to "how to discipline your kids", "who will do what chores" etc. Finances, parental involvement, number of children, spiritual life. You name it
I really want to experience this your pre-marital counselling. Do they offer post-marital counselling for those who have been married for 20 years? 😂 It looks like it's all encompassing and it sounds like fun. 💃💃💃
We discussed everything possible😂😂 We discussed how many children, where to live, how long we may live there, when to have children etc and these formed a kind of unwritten agreement and long term plan for our marriage. We periodically review and update our unwritten agreement and some of the initial things we agreed upon like where to live have since changed.
I asked these questions when dating cos I wasn't in a rush to get married so I had nothing to lose. My husband is very open minded. We discussed kids, religion, etc when dating for 2 years.
This is modern times. My advice to young girls is to not get into a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with any man if you are ready to marry. At this point, if people approach you , tell them you are interested in people who are looking to settle down. You get to know these love interests without sleeping with them. You pray and ask God to make it happen. Men will respect you.
I am happy we talked about all these, we talked about the country we wishes to live in , how many children we wishes to have, sexual position that I don’t like and will never accept no matter what, in-law visitations. Everything that needs to be talked about. Some were uncomfortable but we did talked about them. I wanted 4kids my husband want 2kids 🤣we have only one now, I have agreed for 2kids.
Una went far ooo. That jigijigi position is very important ooo. 😂😂😂 A woman does not really know how many kids she wants till she has the first one. Reality of taking care of a child will set in. I love kids, I love kids, born one first make we check again. 🤣
True, a lot of girls do not have he confidence to bring up these conversations. Parents should be more intentional in raising confident children and stop pushing their daughters to get married.
I love this conversation, about contributing to the household, I think women have a problem with this because most men expecially African men don't believe in contributing labour to the household. They still think it is the woman's responsibility to cook, clean and handle childcare. They expect their wives to go to work, contribute to the household finances in equal measure sometimes and still take full responsibilty of the house and children ALONE. Wherether or not a woman contributes finanacially to the houshold, she is still useful as she is contibuting labour - unpaid labour (childbirth, child care, cooking, cleaning and managing the home) Any man that wants a contributing modern wife MUST be willing to take up responsibilties in the house. You cant want 50:50 only when it comes to your wife contributing finacially.
I think some ladies didn't ask these questions in the past because they are not aware of the challenges a woman faces. Especially in our culture where no one wants to admit difficulties... Thus doing a service to the society at large. With social media the younger generation now knows better.
For real, I am happy with the number of people that have so far commented that they had this convo. 👍 Times are really changing, thanks to the digital world we are in now.
Some still 'kupu' along the line after all these discussions or some circumstances will later make you change your stand and mind ....that is where having an open mind and communication with understanding come into play... Eg.i agreed to join hubby after marriage here but after the first visit,omo i disappeared back to Naija with my daughter. I just couldn't cope, especially with leaving my 12 year old job .we were coming and going until we finally relocated. Pikin nko? Planned to have 3 but 12 years later,we have 1. Marriage is deep but not so deep that we can't swim across happily and successfully
That swimming across happily and successfully is the real deal. We may have all these plans and agreements but life happens. We don't have control over a lot of things. Remember how I always say that we are marking time here? As long as the two people in the marriage are constantly reviewing, reassessing and coming to an agreement on the things they have control over, everything will be fine. There's a huge difference between the fact that you came and could not cope with the initial culture shock and blatantly refusing to join your hubby after reaching an agreement to join him, you get? When we try but genuinely struggle with something, good spouses will see it.
I hope they withhold their bodies too because you can't withhold your money and give full access to your body to someone that has been under every skirt. By the time one withholds these two, the marriage is kaput.
Yes, as much as women are ambitious and forward-thinking we still want the man to initiate discussions and lead the way, that’s partly why we don’t speak out first about these topics.
Please ooo, stop waiting for men to initiate discussions because MOST of them never will. For a lot of them it's not because they don't want to discuss it, it's because they don't even think about it. You can't discuss what did not come to your mind in the first place. If you don't discuss it before, you will be forced to discuss it during marriage and by then you will be tagged a nagging woman.
Most women shy away from discussing these topics before marriage because they are scared that the man will not continue with the relationship. However, I am of the opinion that career and finances should be discussed before marriage. From my experience, most men seem not to be comfortable with women that ask such questions but please women do ask these questions. Most often they think those women are way too smart for them to handle 😅
Well, I didn't but not because of fear. I married early and was trained in the university by my husband. The focus was to make sure I got education and he kept his own part of the bargain. Career life wasn't really captured in the prenup. By the time I got done, I already had 5 kids between 9 and 3 years. My husband didn't want me to work far from home because of the kids and I had to settle for the low pay jobs I could get around town. I didn't actually get satisfied because I read engineering and desired to explore. My kids are all grown now and I'm also older 50+ to get such jobs .
That he did not renege on the education agreement is something. 👍 The thing with life is we keep reviewing and keep taking the path that makes sense for the stage we are in, in life. Kudos to both of you. 👏
Age is just a number these days. Find a mentor and find your way into fulfillment. Even your kids would be proud of you and this would be an encouragement to them to " fall" and still get back up
Yea actually. Age is just a number if you find yourself in a developed society and not in Nigeria. I'm very intelligent and smart, willing to work and make some money for my retirement like Flo. @@ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439
I also think that those ladies that say that their money is for them alone and that of the husband is for everybody say so because just like aunty Ezinne said,the men only bring money, some of them don't support their women in the home at all,every home work is on the woman, and then she will do all that and all work in the office and be expected to contribute financially, hmmm,it won't be easy o Again, there's a senior colleague of mine that the wife is a nurse but when salary drops,she submitts the whole money to him, that's against the woman's choice o, she's obligated to do that because the man is the head of the home Long story short,the woman planned her escape and travelled to the UK without him knowing, now he's everywhere begging Pls use this ur medium to talk about it too Thank you
All these happen when we don't have these discussions. These discussions can expose characters that we did not even ask questions about. That woman that escaped, her marriage is nothing short of slavery.
Yes, you can indeed. Even the people that had these conversations prior continue to talk all through their marriages. Marriage is constant work and with time even the best spouses can start slacking because everyone is focused on making a living, taking care of children and other stressful things that come with life. In fact I have more to say on this so I may as well make a video about this before I start writing paragraphs upon paragraphs here. ❤❤❤
Umunwanyi ibem, gee nu nti; “ there is dignity in Labour “ don’t let any man’s inferiority complex subjugate you and make stagnant in the name of staying home. Truth is, u are stagnant while the family especially the kids are growing. Do not be left behind in the growth process and let’s be honest, there used to be this joy that comes from doing something and even contributing to the family. Like “Ezinne” commented, it is men who bring only money to the table that have that fear that once a woman starts earning, they will loose their respect. Even our grannies were busy working and controlling their companies (farm and its products) during their time. #hermoneyherpride
Yes oo, the women of old worked. My Mum went to Teacher's Training College after she got married to my Dad. My Dad was taking care of my brother and I (the first two children) when my Mum was in school. And this was common with most families around us then. Either the women were in school, working or doing business. So I don't get where this recent subjugation of wives comes from.
17:15 exactly. Young ppl should not be gullible to believe everything they see on internet. Personally, i see that as a slang , come into their homes, u will see that these women contribute 40:60
Sadly a lot of young people do not have the skill of discernment and this becomes what they aspire to. If their future spouses don't "meet up", wahala. My own is if someone is always saying it, the person is overcompensating because why do we need to know who foots which bill in your marriage?
Flo pls i commented on the last video, i really need your opinion on this,in the abroad were we are i work and put all my earnings with my spouse now its time to invest and he buys property in his brother's name who has his own family and sons I'm so worry
Most women will support their husbands when they are making money. When most decide to hoard as I have observed is because of ill treatment from the husband especially relating to finance when she didn't have. A (good) woman will give her all for a man that supports her.
Women have a choice, if you want a medical doctor, position yourself where there are medical doctors. You can't be in the midst of mechanics and want a medical doctor.
lol My brother not like that ooo. If after positioning yourself and none of them asks for your hand in marriage nko? 😂 If it's like that, all those nurses that "are dying" for doctors will all be married to doctors.
LADIES!!!! It’s best to ask all the questions early… better to know than later.. finding out after many years of being in a relationship, that the person is not compatible with you. That’s why some people “settle” because they feel that’s the only option they have, since they’ve stayed for long in the relationship.
Ladies it’s okay to have the HARD TALK/QUESTIONS… Any potential suitor (boyfriend/courting Man) who is afraid of answering tough questions… is a HUGE RED FLAG 🚩 straight up.
Also, it’s important for ladies to be honest about who they are and what they will (or not) compromise… e.g. giving up your career without your consent, finances, debt, number of kids (even spacing options) medical profile, vision and mission etc. Else you will be a very bitter soul 😝
Those who are afraid of communication in the beginning will meet (unhealthy) conflict in the future..
We really enjoyed ❤watching this commonsensical video 😊. Patiently Looking forward to next episode 😇
Too much sense my sister. You said it all.
It's very important that we discover ourselves as women and embrace who we are. No starting what we can't finish. ❤🙌❤
My husband and i discussed everything from years of waiting before children, no of kids, church to attend, where to spend Christmas, work, to how we wanted our home to be. We asked each other over 50 questions in a space of 2 days 😂 it was like an exam. Women should stop leaving things to chance and communicate early when they meet a potential partner.
hehehehe I'm here imagining that spit-fire questions session. i love it! Kudos.
"Stop leaving things to chance." Amen!
I believe a man who is serious about you would talk about it, most relationships these days is all about fun, so these conversations don't come to play.
Gbam, that's one of the signs of seriousness.
A real man is the one who is alive. Kudos👏👏
After watching your video I got inspired to work but my husband refuse and understand his concerns for me because of health issues I have a heart issue so I decide to do business from home and he support that with all the funds and for years now I have been doing business from home he is very supportive I am so happy for that thank you so much ma for your encouragement ❤❤
Flo you are so right, women think way ahead and that's why I will insist on having two kids just in case something happens, i know i am financially capable of taking care of two kids.......
It's a natural gift to women. Yes o, I dey born the number I can take care of on my own in all aspects. 🙌
@@FloChinyere exactly, wouldn't wanna cage myself with a bad man once he turns out that way in the long run or cheat, another thing is death ofcourse ..women are always ready for these things except that some fail to plan hence are caught up in a huge mess
We think alike
. When I see women "just born like that", I'm like ' wetin dey give you mind ?"
@@ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439 seriously, Once I give birth to the second kid, I get in with family planning or pills.......These are topics and things women should know, but some have decided to leave their fate to chance and that's pitiful
OMG!
Madam Flo I want & need this kind of man as a son & son~law.
🙏May God continue to bless you & your entire family in Jesus Name Amen.
Amen to your prayers. You will get your heart's desires over and over. ❤❤❤
These are very important discussions to have before you enter marriage… and there is nothing in this world that can beat marrying a supportive husband because that can make or break you as a married woman
One of the cheat codes of life is picking the best partner for you. You can endure or accomplish anything with the best team mate on your side.
This is the best ❤❤. And very real advice. I have been your followers from the beginning.
He who have ear, let him hear.
The introduction too sweet❤❤❤❤
This video is so enlightening... It's good to know the narratives are changing.
That is why everyone need to know who they marry. You must vet a person properly before getting married this is very important.
Hi, my sister FLO. I love it when you both are together discussing topics. Your intro reminded me of my husband and me. I LOVE IT. May God continue to bless you and your family.
Flo Chinyere, you said it all because it's not easy to have this kind of discussion with a man. It will look like you're too forward.
I am married with two kids. I and my husband had this type of discussion during our dating period before marriage, his really supporting me well.
It depends on your husband understanding and what you want as a lady.
That an intended spouse (man or woman) agreed to have this conversation is a big green flag. Make una carry go. 👍
Now I teach my daughters to discuss about children,work,money and bills with whom ever they are dating.
All questions are valid, if your friend is someone you see as a potential spouse and you have been dating, pls ask all the questions. It may not be direct so the man doesnt think you are too forwrd, you can paint a scenario. Just as your husband said, both of you could be seeing a movie, a scene in the movie should spur a question . Dear women, dont be carried away with lovey-dovey and all the butterflies and forget the main thing ❤❤.
Thank you aunty flo 🌹🌹
When we are head over heels in love, all conversations fly out of the window forgetting that after the wedding comes the marriage. 🙌
Love love love the Intro😊
Thank God my notifications is on 🥳🥳🥳
I didn’t have anything to ask when I got married but I knew and still know what I don’t want and what I want. My husband has been supportive and ezigbo di. Looking forward to part 2 😅
Nanya, Chi gi zọlụ gị that you married a good man. 😂 If you had jammed a tyrant you for know how far with that your hidden knowledge of what you like and don't like. 🤣 Kudos to you two. 👍
@@FloChinyere thank God oo, the marriage for don scatter since na 🤣🤣🤣
Thank you Ma 🥰
My take on this topic is this, have the necessary conversations and agree on these basic issues especially the ones that will impact more on you. Make your stand clear but I will also state here that it doesn’t guarantee a successful marriage. You can discuss and agree on all you want
only for one party to start deviating along the line at which point you begin to weigh your options.
Sure, even the devil himself will come to an agreement with one just to get the "union" going and later renege. We can prepare all we want and life still happens. We will continue to have these conversations and when betrayed, we assess the level of betrayal and take decision on the way forward.
This intro got me grinning 😍
Now, let’s dive into it
The thumbnail is giving. Cheioo i heard my name and my comment being read, that gave me goosebumps. Very informative video as always ❤❤
I work form home and my partner is very comfortable with it, we talked about cooking and how he doesn't like refrigerated food, and I was clear about not being the type to cook everyday, told him i cook in bulk and refridgerate to be microwaved as needed.. he adjusted to it... These things are necessary. We also discussed kids . Told him i wanted just a kid but could opt for two, he said three and I told him that i'm not really open for three... That's still up for discussion.......I'd really prefer staying single that' marrying into headache and problems
Na so you for dey cook fresh soup every day, abi? 😂 See the importance of having that convo. 🙌👍
Hopefully both of you will come to an agreement on the number of kids. Make I give you one secret: if you have only one, be ready to be entertaining him/her. They need at least one sibling ooo. 😅😉
The singlehood headache is far better than marrying a bad person abeg.
@FloChinyere yes o, thanks for this video, such an eye opener jare
A very important talk and it helps everyone respect their marriage.
Such a great video and advice!
If your wife is not happy, you are not happy, no matter how pretentious you are. Good job sir. God bless you
Things I wish I knew before hand.... I never discussed anything just like you said, not because i was desperate but I was naive. I sing it like a song to my daughters today.
Kudos. 🙌
I enjoyed the discussion from beginning to end my people.
❤❤❤ glad you did.
I am definitely discussing this topics and I have list of questions
We discussed all these and more even before we officially started dating. Like first few weeks of meeting. Then we did pre-marital counselling and they gave us a questionnaire the first day. Over 300 questions 😂. It was like writing exam. Then ofcourse a lot of assignments and discussions alone, as a couple and with the counsellor over the duration of a few months. Even down to "how to discipline your kids", "who will do what chores" etc. Finances, parental involvement, number of children, spiritual life. You name it
I really want to experience this your pre-marital counselling. Do they offer post-marital counselling for those who have been married for 20 years? 😂 It looks like it's all encompassing and it sounds like fun. 💃💃💃
❤😂🎉Congratulations, it's sweet, awesome couple
Please more of this ❤
We discussed everything possible😂😂 We discussed how many children, where to live, how long we may live there, when to have children etc and these formed a kind of unwritten agreement and long term plan for our marriage. We periodically review and update our unwritten agreement and some of the initial things we agreed upon like where to live have since changed.
That review is very important ooo. Kudos to both of you. A planned life is a happy life. 👍
I asked these questions when dating cos I wasn't in a rush to get married so I had nothing to lose. My husband is very open minded. We discussed kids, religion, etc when dating for 2 years.
When we remove desperation from the equation, we won't be afraid to talk about these things. 👍👍👍
You are an amazing woman…❤❤
This is modern times. My advice to young girls is to not get into a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with any man if you are ready to marry. At this point, if people approach you , tell them you are interested in people who are looking to settle down.
You get to know these love interests without sleeping with them. You pray and ask God to make it happen. Men will respect you.
I am happy we talked about all these, we talked about the country we wishes to live in , how many children we wishes to have, sexual position that I don’t like and will never accept no matter what, in-law visitations.
Everything that needs to be talked about.
Some were uncomfortable but we did talked about them. I wanted 4kids my husband want 2kids 🤣we have only one now, I have agreed for 2kids.
Una went far ooo. That jigijigi position is very important ooo. 😂😂😂
A woman does not really know how many kids she wants till she has the first one. Reality of taking care of a child will set in. I love kids, I love kids, born one first make we check again. 🤣
I love today's topic. Any man that doesn't want you to work and be a high flyer is an enemy of progress simple.😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Not in all cases
@@omalicha7388 But in most cases, it's should be the wife's decision if she wants to work or not.
True, a lot of girls do not have he confidence to bring up these conversations. Parents should be more intentional in raising confident children and stop pushing their daughters to get married.
Some mothers will not want their daughters asking to many questions!
That's true Auntie flo, once you bring it too early, it will look like you're too forward
What is your definition of too early? What’s your time frame?
I love this conversation, about contributing to the household, I think women have a problem with this because most men expecially African men don't believe in contributing labour to the household. They still think it is the woman's responsibility to cook, clean and handle childcare. They expect their wives to go to work, contribute to the household finances in equal measure sometimes and still take full responsibilty of the house and children ALONE. Wherether or not a woman contributes finanacially to the houshold, she is still useful as she is contibuting labour - unpaid labour (childbirth, child care, cooking, cleaning and managing the home) Any man that wants a contributing modern wife MUST be willing to take up responsibilties in the house. You cant want 50:50 only when it comes to your wife contributing finacially.
I think some ladies didn't ask these questions in the past because they are not aware of the challenges a woman faces.
Especially in our culture where no one wants to admit difficulties... Thus doing a service to the society at large.
With social media the younger generation now knows better.
For real, I am happy with the number of people that have so far commented that they had this convo. 👍 Times are really changing, thanks to the digital world we are in now.
Some still 'kupu' along the line after all these discussions or some circumstances will later make you change your stand and mind ....that is where having an open mind and communication with understanding come into play...
Eg.i agreed to join hubby after marriage here but after the first visit,omo i disappeared back to Naija with my daughter. I just couldn't cope, especially with leaving my 12 year old job .we were coming and going until we finally relocated. Pikin nko?
Planned to have 3 but 12 years later,we have 1.
Marriage is deep but not so deep that we can't swim across happily and successfully
That swimming across happily and successfully is the real deal. We may have all these plans and agreements but life happens. We don't have control over a lot of things. Remember how I always say that we are marking time here?
As long as the two people in the marriage are constantly reviewing, reassessing and coming to an agreement on the things they have control over, everything will be fine. There's a huge difference between the fact that you came and could not cope with the initial culture shock and blatantly refusing to join your hubby after reaching an agreement to join him, you get? When we try but genuinely struggle with something, good spouses will see it.
Most women that withhold their money do that when the husband go about spending money on side chicks
For every action there is a cause
I hope they withhold their bodies too because you can't withhold your money and give full access to your body to someone that has been under every skirt. By the time one withholds these two, the marriage is kaput.
I love when you both differentiated between 'feminists' and 'so called feminists'.
Big difference ooo. 😂
Thank you my sister 🙏
Yes, as much as women are ambitious and forward-thinking we still want the man to initiate discussions and lead the way, that’s partly why we don’t speak out first about these topics.
Please ooo, stop waiting for men to initiate discussions because MOST of them never will. For a lot of them it's not because they don't want to discuss it, it's because they don't even think about it. You can't discuss what did not come to your mind in the first place. If you don't discuss it before, you will be forced to discuss it during marriage and by then you will be tagged a nagging woman.
Namesake, take your flower 🎉🎉🎉
I love you guys......
Hope you guys are good.
Yes, thank you. ❤
Most women shy away from discussing these topics before marriage because they are scared that the man will not continue with the relationship. However, I am of the opinion that career and finances should be discussed before marriage. From my experience, most men seem not to be comfortable with women that ask such questions but please women do ask these questions. Most often they think those women are way too smart for them to handle 😅
You both look alike😄 keep it up.
Well, I didn't but not because of fear. I married early and was trained in the university by my husband. The focus was to make sure I got education and he kept his own part of the bargain. Career life wasn't really captured in the prenup. By the time I got done, I already had 5 kids between 9 and 3 years. My husband didn't want me to work far from home because of the kids and I had to settle for the low pay jobs I could get around town. I didn't actually get satisfied because I read engineering and desired to explore.
My kids are all grown now and I'm also older 50+ to get such jobs .
That he did not renege on the education agreement is something. 👍 The thing with life is we keep reviewing and keep taking the path that makes sense for the stage we are in, in life. Kudos to both of you. 👏
Age is just a number these days. Find a mentor and find your way into fulfillment.
Even your kids would be proud of you and this would be an encouragement to them to " fall" and still get back up
Yea actually. Age is just a number if you find yourself in a developed society and not in Nigeria. I'm very intelligent and smart, willing to work and make some money for my retirement like Flo. @@ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439
well spoken
I also think that those ladies that say that their money is for them alone and that of the husband is for everybody say so because just like aunty Ezinne said,the men only bring money, some of them don't support their women in the home at all,every home work is on the woman, and then she will do all that and all work in the office and be expected to contribute financially, hmmm,it won't be easy o
Again, there's a senior colleague of mine that the wife is a nurse but when salary drops,she submitts the whole money to him, that's against the woman's choice o, she's obligated to do that because the man is the head of the home
Long story short,the woman planned her escape and travelled to the UK without him knowing, now he's everywhere begging
Pls use this ur medium to talk about it too
Thank you
All these happen when we don't have these discussions. These discussions can expose characters that we did not even ask questions about. That woman that escaped, her marriage is nothing short of slavery.
What if the marriage has happened already? How do
You mend this things, can you talk about it ???
Yes, you can indeed. Even the people that had these conversations prior continue to talk all through their marriages. Marriage is constant work and with time even the best spouses can start slacking because everyone is focused on making a living, taking care of children and other stressful things that come with life. In fact I have more to say on this so I may as well make a video about this before I start writing paragraphs upon paragraphs here. ❤❤❤
I will discuss finances wotht him as well to avoid bottling up shit in his heart and bursting out one day🎉🎉🎉
Flo he's right, it can be chipped in at some point
Your husband's facial expression for the gidigbam😂😂😂😂
Cuteee ❤❤❤❤
Seeing that your wife is soneone who has so many family responsibilities didn't push you away as a man or make you have a cold feet?
She was earning her own cash so that should not be a problem for the man.
Umunwanyi ibem, gee nu nti; “ there is dignity in Labour “ don’t let any man’s inferiority complex subjugate you and make stagnant in the name of staying home. Truth is, u are stagnant while the family especially the kids are growing. Do not be left behind in the growth process and let’s be honest, there used to be this joy that comes from doing something and even contributing to the family.
Like “Ezinne” commented, it is men who bring only money to the table that have that fear that once a woman starts earning, they will loose their respect.
Even our grannies were busy working and controlling their companies (farm and its products) during their time.
#hermoneyherpride
Yes oo, the women of old worked. My Mum went to Teacher's Training College after she got married to my Dad. My Dad was taking care of my brother and I (the first two children) when my Mum was in school. And this was common with most families around us then. Either the women were in school, working or doing business. So I don't get where this recent subjugation of wives comes from.
Vi amo veramente .
17:15 exactly. Young ppl should not be gullible to believe everything they see on internet. Personally, i see that as a slang , come into their homes, u will see that these women contribute 40:60
Sadly a lot of young people do not have the skill of discernment and this becomes what they aspire to. If their future spouses don't "meet up", wahala. My own is if someone is always saying it, the person is overcompensating because why do we need to know who foots which bill in your marriage?
Flo pls i commented on the last video, i really need your opinion on this,in the abroad were we are i work and put all my earnings with my spouse now its time to invest and he buys property in his brother's name who has his own family and sons I'm so worry
Finally 🥳💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻
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No I didn’t discuss
Most women will support their husbands when they are making money. When most decide to hoard as I have observed is because of ill treatment from the husband especially relating to finance when she didn't have. A (good) woman will give her all for a man that supports her.
It’s not common oo
Perpetual unhappy 😭😭😭💔. God forbid
The resemblance is too much
If you are a man and your wife is not happy, SHAME ON YOU.
Women have a choice, if you want a medical doctor, position yourself where there are medical doctors. You can't be in the midst of mechanics and want a medical doctor.
lol My brother not like that ooo. If after positioning yourself and none of them asks for your hand in marriage nko? 😂 If it's like that, all those nurses that "are dying" for doctors will all be married to doctors.