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1. You feel protected by your partner. 2. You know your partner is faithful to you. 3. You know you partner will always be a very close friend. 4. Your partner shares the chores. 5. Your partner works hard to increase the financial security. 6. Your partner makes you feel sexually desirable. 7. You have influence in the relationship. 8. In arguments, you can trust that your partner will listen to you. 9. Your partner's words and actions align and reflects the values you agree on. 10. Your partner takes your feelings into account when making decisions.
Signs that make me feel I can trust him..... -he’s open & not secretive -tells me more than I need to know/ask for -does/says things that shows he thinks about me when we’re not together -doesn’t makes excuses for silly things -very protective of me -talks about me n introduced me to everyone he knows Etc
@@cesttmoii trust that I have the intellect to know when someone is faking these things to me. Each one is subject to the condition they occur under, the behaviour, tone etc. Thank you but I’m old enough to know the difference of sincerity vs manipulation in each of these areas👊🏾
That last comment about “you being the partner that you want to find” it’s just amazing. Do not try to find the best partner, but become yourself the best partner and that you will be attracting into your life. Thank you and be safe! 🙂
I trust him He said I can call him at anytime Text him at anytime We are in a long distance relationship I am happy and satisfied about him. We have our time at night that we pray together.
I love your videos ❤️ They're all so positive, for example, rather than saying "signs you CAN'T trust a man" they say "signs you CAN trust a man," or "signs a man IS into you," rather than "signs a man ISN'T into you." You are a wonderful breath of fresh air, always focussed on the positive aspects of relationships rather than the negative ones 😁
There are some videos that he has made that is kind of negative but not many like 7 red flags you should never ignore, how to deal with a negative relative, what to not do on the first date, and so on.
Yes he surely is. Well said. I love Mat's manner of expressing the POSITIVE aspects of relationships which is soo really needed because we know & mostly relate to the negatives. He's also humble enough to share precious moments in his own family life that he has learned from--and he has such a beautiful & amazing family. They are simply adorable & always bring a smile to my face. They are really a blessing to each other which is wonderful to see these days. The trust is there! Anyway, Mat is so expressive & easy to follow n watching his channel. Continual success to his work! 🌼❤️❤️🙂
The things I like to add along with the standards/ foundation (that where HIS/HER words are followed by actions); - CONSISTENCY - INTEGRITY - TRUST - TRANSPARENCY - LOYALTY - SHARE SAME/ SIMILAR VALUES (e.g. Monogamy, and communicate clearly what the values are) - BEING TOGETHER AS A TEAM - CONNECTION (NOT JUST LOVE AND SEXUALLY BUT A DEEP TRUSTING FRIENDSHIP) - NURTURING, TAKING CARE OF EACH OTHER - NOURISH ONE ANOTHER SPIRITUALLY WITH PEACE, LOVE, JOY, AFFECTION, APPRECIATION, CARE, GROWTH
Approaching 6 months in my first & long distance relationship & I can easily check off all these boxes (except the things that haven’t come up yet like an argument), I’m so excited about this relationship 😊❤️❤️
1, I feel protected in a multifaceted way 2, I know my partner is faithful to me (It is felt) 3, I know my partner will always be my close friend 4, my partner shares chores 5, my partner works hard to increase financial security 6, my partner makes me feel sexually desired 7, I have equal influence in the relationship 8, I trust my partner to listen to me in an argument 9, my partner’s words & actions align -congruence 10, my partner is considerate of my feelings
Lois Lane Thank you for the affirmation! I also believe some of these are mutual where I will also be there for him equally for his happiness or our combined happiness ☺️
I adore You 😍 I look how He treat others too, because if He treat bad others, I don't trust him. I look if He is honest in his work also. It He is cheating, not paying taxes, might not be the right men for me. Lately I look also if He is growing spiritually, because I am doing it, but if He is not, in short time we'll be on too different level...
This video really helped me a lot! I believe my boyfriend has all of these signs. He’s the best. I used to struggle with trust and jealousy, but he really does do his best to make sure I never feel that way. Thank you for spreading love and positivity!
zumzy u - I agree it’s extremely important to be smart with who you choose to be in a relationship with. I’ve found that there’s complete trust and then there’s co-dependency which is extremely unhealthy for any type of relationship. It’s really difficult for me to trust someone who has WhatsApp on their phone. It just tells me they’re up to no good. What really is the purpose for WhatsApp?? It’s to hide messages. If someone is trying to hide messages then they’re not being truthful, which is cause to distrust. I truly believe that it’s really important to make smart decisions and smart choices in life generally speaking. Hope this helps. 😌
Well I don’t necessarily believe anyone is the “best.” Your boyfriend is the best for you which I’m very happy for you. You’re checking out the video to see if your boyfriend fits all the criteria? 🤨
did you listen to what matt said at the end of the vid? do you also do those things for him? if you don't, then he might not feel good enough to do those for you.
5 months into a Long Distance Relationship with my boyfriend all we fulfill all these categories. We might be going through a hard time right now (me with college exams being mentally and physically exhausted, and him with family problems) but we have our backs, and know that we will grow stronger from it. We haven’t had an argument yet but we always listen to each other. We trust and love each other. We are also fighting to be together after we have finished college to build up our future.
11. You can trust each other to let go if necessary to become more trust worthy and possibly reunite for a better foundation. It can mean separating temporarily and trusting they will meet you on the other side.
Will you please make a video or more about long-distance relationships - discussing them from different angles, and showiing how to take them to the next level?! ☺
Me too sister. It's hard to have a relationship with someone you can't trust... And I was dumb enough to ignore not just red flags but flashing red lights with sirens blowing in my ear.
It is such a blessing to be married to an amazing man who checks off all of the boxes. I honestly felt that I could trust him very early in our relationship. What a breath of fresh air! (This was part of not my past experiences.)❤ Thanks for yet more great content, Mat! ❤
He actually hears things I have shared and treats me accordingly without me having to remind him. He respects my opinion. He communicates his feelings effectively good or bad to allow me to find understanding in the moment.
When I share something I know is really silly but am still experiencing, he doesn't belittle me or make me feel stupid. Instead, he shows me he understands.
I really enjoyed this. Thanks, Matt. I've been with a wonderful guy that's been going through a divorce. It hasn't been easy but I'm doing my best to be patient. We care for each other but at times he needs time on his own. Sometimes I feel neglected. Out of the 10 signs, I believe we account for 7.
Be wary as he may do this to you once he remarries. Ask him if he feels trapped with his wife as hell feel that with you too without counseling to work they it
We haven’t met yet but have been talking over a year everyday, this man has my heart and I have his when he gets back here to Tennessee we’ll be together forever...
@@arturo165, Since we’re both Christians and him being still married but legally separated over five years he’s getting the divorce handled...Thx for caring.😊
@@suzieburnette1677 I hope you both can make things work. Divorce is a tough thing to go through but I am sure your nurturing will heal him. God bless you
This is very good information. I agree with everything mentioned. Some of it I learned the hard way during a 46 year marriage. I am starting a new relationship now but I really don’t think I will ever find the true love I had in my marriage. However I think your guidance is spot on for all you young people in new relationships. Just thought you might want to hear from an older person who had a good long marriage and agrees with your good advice.
Uh, never worked for me. .. It usually ended up with both of us wanting to kill each other at three in the morning. Going to sleep and seeing things with fresh eyes and a cool head works better for me
The man that I am involved with is already talking about marriage and I had to ask him to slow down because he was moving to fast. He agreed to slow down but I felt like he was a little disappointed.
More of these kinds of videos, please! I'm no longer dating because (after a failed 20-year marriage and relationship) I finally found the man that checks all of the boxes even some I didn't even know existed. So... would you consider doing videos on relationship advice once in a while?!? Thanks for being so enthusiastic in sharing your passion, advice, and valuable research!! Ciao from Italy, L
Hi Matt, you made such an impact in helping me understand how love works . It means a lot that you explain how a man acts and thinks when he’s in love. More power and blessings to you as you bless many! I am grateful to you.🙌 And this video on trust is for the longer term. Kudos!
Open out and talk...instead of shedding tears alone under showers....i didn't know he was that soft sensitive and told me he is always egoistic....i will melt once i see him in tears...but he kept on to himself the feelings
One that stood out to me is listening to each other. We do. Even if it’s not in the moment and he’s all hot headed. He will come back and apologize and even in the heated moments he may not act like he’s listening but he is
Matt you are awesome, I love all of your videos. My husband has everything you have said and we been married for 28 years 🥰 I love him more each day he is a gift from heaven in my life
I really appreciated this! Ive struggled with trust issues in a lot of my relationships due to bad past experience. But what about when trust is broken? My husband is a good man in general but recently he broke my trust in a big way. I called him out on it and now he thinks I should get over it and things should go back to normal. How can I communicate to him that I need time to trust him again? That he needs to earn it back?
I need a man that won’t try to take my money and not be jealous rather secure our funds. My trust when it comes to money is so hyper vigilant. Protection is so huge. People can say it’s just money but if you’ve been around people that are financially abusive you’d understand
Great video! (Ignore the suggestion below to take out the stock videos. They are a nice addition & must take a lot of time & effort to include.) I TRUST your skill for making great videos!
Man I learned a lot. I am not in a relationship yet, but I thought about my old pastor telling me that I need to be mate my man needs me to be. And I met someone recently who challenges me on this, so now I realize I can't be excellent after I say "I do" or he gets on one knee, it starts now while I take care of myself. I also realize I don't always communicate when things change and that is quite often. And that I don't have to volunteer my time for every cause or drama. I need me time and time for great. Thank you Mat!
You are my fav advice channel! You always cut it down to real points! Covering most important topics and love how the advice is so practical real and so on point! Where It all rings so true! Especially love when you confide on your own personal stuff too! Thank you so much for sharing all your advice! :) you’re like a big brother breaking it all down so I really get it lol only wish I saw some of these videos earlier..oh well live and learn! :)
I liked this video very much. It's good to see that most of trust and connection comes from simple but still very firm points. Usually, we overthink for silly things instead of focusing in the relationship as a whole. I like that you highlighted the positive points. And I like the final part - I recognized I had all of the points as a partner. It's very important to see both sides instead of complaining only about what the other doesn't do or isn't. As per my opinion, my boyfriend has all except the number 2 (partially), but don't know if it's something most made out of my head, although he already gave me reasons to doubt him but in overall, he is an amazing partner and our values align very much.
Oh that explains it. He wanted to have a party when I did not, not on the day I was leaving for my studies. He still pushed through with it. He later on told me that I wanted him to be alone instead of with his friends while I was leaving. I really did not think that way. But now, it all makes sense. He wanted to be with his friends, instead of me, all these time. I am glad I got out of that relationship.
I am a fan of your videos. This one particularly, for the fact that I have been good friends with my now boyfriend of 9 months for about 10 years. The trust was there before we got romantic so this is an amazing fulfilling experience that we are enjoying together. At 48 me and him at 46 I feel like all of the points on trust really make me that much more sure of this relationship. Lots of people said dating a friend wasn't a good idea, but I love that they were wrong. We have also decided to100% love like our hearts have never been broken, because our pasts are not eachothers baggage! Thank you for helping love one heart at a time♡♡
Simple stuff. Eye contact is a huge one for me. Eye contact is very intimate. I feel if you can simply look your partner in the eye to me creates a connection that they are paying attention and being present with you. The other is communication. If you can express what you want or need or how you can help them with their wants and needs. Ask them don't tell them, it creates a better environment to negotiate. Makes them less defensive.
I'm writing a book about my relationship with my late husband, Tim, and I really liked this person as my best friend as well as loved him, but my traumatic childhood dealing with narcissistic abuse and subsequent narcissistic abuse has made it difficult for me to trust my perception of reality. I was taught I was unworthy of love from a man, so it has been hard at times to see if my late husband actually loved me. So these videos help confirm that Tim, although he wasn't perfect, he was a good partner, whether my inner child thought I deserved that or not.
You're advice is always encouraging, so helpful (even to us married ppl), I'm thankful my hubby checks all 10 from list & altho last 2 yrs were lil bumpy I believe our trust in each other is what got us back to great relationship 😀 He's even watched some of your vids w/me!! Thank you sooo much! esp for how-to communicate TO a man vids which are priceless 💖
I'm glad that you summed up the video asking the same questions about whether a man can trust a woman because I was going to point out that us women must fill the same obligations we expect of our man. Now, you asked how do I know if my man loves me and can be trusted....I go from my instincts and secondly, his behavior. With the gift that I have, he doesn't have to say sh*t...I just know. I know how he feels, his motives for doing what he has, how he thinks, and why he is the way he is. It's nice to get confirmation but when I am emotionally bonded to a man..,.my instincts tell me everything I need to know and they have yet to be wrong.
Just to elaborate on behavior...I'll know if he is stepping out on me (cheating) and no one will have to tell me a thing. In the past, I not only knew who my man was cheating with but with whom....and no one said sh*t to me. It's all a part of this gift that I have and it has only grown stronger and more sensitive as I've aged. So, if he decides to step out on me he better make sure she's worth it because I'm gonna pack my kids up and our stuff and roll out. FAIR WARNING.
Thank you, this one has been enlightening, especially to know that you have a marriage mentor/ counsellor, you go to talk to. Great insight, thanks Matt!
Im a HUGE FAN of your Matt, i been watching your videos for a long time, this one Is Great ! I enjoyed the Message of this video, i am Going to Ask myself these Questions. Thanks Matt !! Showing Love From CANADA🇨🇦🇨🇦
Are you present when you listen to your partner. If you listen and care then you can validate this by listening and showing initiative with support on a matter that is important to them. For example being aware they are having a tough week at work, so stepping up to make the home front simple and less task oriented by picking up the slack- little surprise notes of encouragement throughout the day to show you are thinking of them that they are not by alone. The smallest gesture of kindness relevant to their needs shows you are paying attention that to me instills a deep trust.
Awesome! I watched your six videos you shared but I didn't left some comments but this time I cannot leave these video without leaving some comment. You're really an expert Coach that's why I don't want to miss all your videos Thank you Matt . This is really helpful to make a relationship stronger.
I was married for 9 years and with him for 11 years. He had none of these qualities. I can’t believe I put up with him for so long. Never listened to me, cared about what I thought about anything. Wanted sex on tap and when I said no he referred to me as a Ferrari “ what’s the point in having a Ferrari when you can’t drive it” ... I left him two years ago and now I’m with a man who has all those attributes you listed.... the reason I have a man with them now is because after 11 long years I know now exactly what I don’t want. The man I’m with now is absolutely perfect and I can see us spending the rest of our lives together.
Omg, i love mat boggs. I subscribed his channel because i learned a lot from here!! It really helps .. not for couple but also relationship lead to marriage.
Thank you for bringing this peace of mind. I suffered in my past relationships, but my current seems promising. i will keep in mind each one of these, makes me question if I’m also that kind of woman, I know I’m many of these but I will work hard to better myself.
Trust and communication are huge. I can understand and listen to anything he has to say, find a solution and a way to get past it until I feel like I’m being played over and over. Once you have that agreement, stop the games.
THIS is by far your BEST ADVICE video yet because we must get COMPLETELY honest and clear on BOTH sides, HIS and OURS! Thank You soooooo much as always! 💖🙏💙
Very well said. I agree...and I am the type of woman who is trustworthy. I don't place any expectation on anyone else, especially my man, that I don't place on myself first. So if I expect these things of him, of course I'm going to be doing the same.
The trust that i had seen to my BF is when his family invite him to have a get together party he always tell me ahead of time.. And if he said i'll be coming back at the time he said, he's there already.. I like the way he use trust on me bcoz he's very faithful and very respectful to me..
Very insightful, Matt, really enjoyed the video. I want to be that type of woman that a man trusts no matter how old he is. A man that is faithful to Jesus and take my feelings into account as well.
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1. You feel protected by your partner.
2. You know your partner is faithful to you.
3. You know you partner will always be a very close friend.
4. Your partner shares the chores.
5. Your partner works hard to increase the financial security.
6. Your partner makes you feel sexually desirable.
7. You have influence in the relationship.
8. In arguments, you can trust that your partner will listen to you.
9. Your partner's words and actions align and reflects the values you agree on.
10. Your partner takes your feelings into account when making decisions.
Sounds like you need a house boy, not a real man . Good luck with this !
Sheny Lyn Salarda thanks for the summary
@@javar888 A real man would possess all of these qualities. A boy would be a selfish idiot.
Yes
Thanks so much for these important points! ❤️❤️
Signs that make me feel I can trust him.....
-he’s open & not secretive
-tells me more than I need to know/ask for
-does/says things that shows he thinks about me when we’re not together
-doesn’t makes excuses for silly things
-very protective of me
-talks about me n introduced me to everyone he knows
Etc
Dragon Zodiac you are so right, nailed every item 👍🏼
Where you messed up is these things actually are not good because anyone can manipulate these things compared to the signs that Matt just stated
@@cesttmoii trust that I have the intellect to know when someone is faking these things to me. Each one is subject to the condition they occur under, the behaviour, tone etc. Thank you but I’m old enough to know the difference of sincerity vs manipulation in each of these areas👊🏾
Agreed! And tells you things before hand...
That last comment about “you being the partner that you want to find” it’s just amazing. Do not try to find the best partner, but become yourself the best partner and that you will be attracting into your life. Thank you and be safe! 🙂
How ?
I trust him
He said I can call him at anytime
Text him at anytime
We are in a long distance relationship I am happy and satisfied about him. We have our time at night that we pray together.
So sweet! Mine said I can always confide in him.
That is so beautiful.
SORRY, long distance NEVER WORKS. UNLESS IT CHANGES. He may have secrets. You don't know what he is doing.
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I love your videos ❤️ They're all so positive, for example, rather than saying "signs you CAN'T trust a man" they say "signs you CAN trust a man," or "signs a man IS into you," rather than "signs a man ISN'T into you."
You are a wonderful breath of fresh air, always focussed on the positive aspects of relationships rather than the negative ones 😁
AMEn!! 🤔👏 I ♥️it so true!
There are some videos that he has made that is kind of negative but not many like 7 red flags you should never ignore, how to deal with a negative relative, what to not do on the first date, and so on.
💯💯👍🏻🙏🏻
Yes he surely is. Well said. I love Mat's manner of expressing the POSITIVE aspects of relationships which is soo really needed because we know & mostly relate to the negatives. He's also humble enough to share precious moments in his own family life that he has learned from--and he has such a beautiful &
amazing family. They are simply adorable & always bring a smile to my face. They are really a blessing to each other which is wonderful to see these days. The trust is there!
Anyway, Mat is so expressive & easy
to follow n watching his channel.
Continual success to his work!
🌼❤️❤️🙂
I appreciate when my man consults me before making a decision. It makes me feel important to him and ultimately more secure in the relationship.
I look if his actions lines up with his words. Empty promises and endless sorries makes me turn away.
Thats true
Agree💯
The things I like to add along with the standards/ foundation (that where HIS/HER words are followed by actions);
- CONSISTENCY
- INTEGRITY
- TRUST
- TRANSPARENCY
- LOYALTY
- SHARE SAME/ SIMILAR VALUES (e.g. Monogamy, and communicate clearly what the values are)
- BEING TOGETHER AS A TEAM
- CONNECTION (NOT JUST LOVE AND SEXUALLY BUT A DEEP TRUSTING FRIENDSHIP)
- NURTURING, TAKING CARE OF EACH OTHER
- NOURISH ONE ANOTHER SPIRITUALLY WITH PEACE, LOVE, JOY, AFFECTION, APPRECIATION, CARE, GROWTH
Approaching 6 months in my first & long distance relationship & I can easily check off all these boxes (except the things that haven’t come up yet like an argument), I’m so excited about this relationship 😊❤️❤️
1, I feel protected in a multifaceted way
2, I know my partner is faithful to me (It is felt)
3, I know my partner will always be my close friend
4, my partner shares chores
5, my partner works hard to increase financial security
6, my partner makes me feel sexually desired
7, I have equal influence in the relationship
8, I trust my partner to listen to me in an argument
9, my partner’s words & actions align -congruence
10, my partner is considerate of my feelings
Lois Lane Thank you for the affirmation! I also believe some of these are mutual where I will also be there for him equally for his happiness or our combined happiness ☺️
Thanks!
If he shares his personal problems how small or big it is, it feels my trust increases coz I know that he trusts me
Well there’s lots of game players that do that to suck you in for a season. Time will reveal all
@@4ulynda ya u r true my friend, though it happened a few months back.....now I have become stronger.....🙂
I adore You 😍 I look how He treat others too, because if He treat bad others, I don't trust him. I look if He is honest in his work also. It He is cheating, not paying taxes, might not be the right men for me. Lately I look also if He is growing spiritually, because I am doing it, but if He is not, in short time we'll be on too different level...
Yes. Agreed. I learned this too. A man who avoids/evades his financial responsibilities is not trustworthy. I will never be in alignment with him.
Trust is definitely something you have to earn. You know when you find a person you can trust, it's something special.
This video really helped me a lot! I believe my boyfriend has all of these signs. He’s the best. I used to struggle with trust and jealousy, but he really does do his best to make sure I never feel that way. Thank you for spreading love and positivity!
Your lucky lady too have found someone like this hard to come by bless you
zumzy u - I agree it’s extremely important to be smart with who you choose to be in a relationship with. I’ve found that there’s complete trust and then there’s co-dependency which is extremely unhealthy for any type of relationship. It’s really difficult for me to trust someone who has WhatsApp on their phone. It just tells me they’re up to no good. What really is the purpose for WhatsApp?? It’s to hide messages. If someone is trying to hide messages then they’re not being truthful, which is cause to distrust. I truly believe that it’s really important to make smart decisions and smart choices in life generally speaking. Hope this helps. 😌
Well I don’t necessarily believe anyone is the “best.” Your boyfriend is the best for you which I’m very happy for you. You’re checking out the video to see if your boyfriend fits all the criteria? 🤨
Its so nice to have a good man and see other good men.
i had a dream that made me think...
i don,t want to be with a guy that wants to hide me.
Been there..no more!!
My bf has none of these things😭time for a breakup
Same lol. Literally all of these things we don’t have 🤣 fml I knew it was a train wreck
It is hard at first but gets easier.a relationship that does not make you feel good is better to be finished
did you listen to what matt said at the end of the vid? do you also do those things for him? if you don't, then he might not feel good enough to do those for you.
You next one will be likely the same .... You probably bring very little to the table yourself .
Get out! HE WONT CHANGE!
5 months into a Long Distance Relationship with my boyfriend all we fulfill all these categories. We might be going through a hard time right now (me with college exams being mentally and physically exhausted, and him with family problems) but we have our backs, and know that we will grow stronger from it. We haven’t had an argument yet but we always listen to each other. We trust and love each other. We are also fighting to be together after we have finished college to build up our future.
I love it when my partner consides me as his number one priority and shows it.
11. You can trust each other to let go if necessary to become more trust worthy and possibly reunite for a better foundation. It can mean separating temporarily and trusting they will meet you on the other side.
Will you please make a video or more about long-distance relationships - discussing them from different angles, and showiing how to take them to the next level?! ☺
Jannat Noor yes please!!!! My boyfriend and I will be doing long distancs
Yes 🙏🏼 that would be amazing, I’m wondering how too take it to the next level without putting a lot of pressure in us !
Yesss
Yes pls... that will be very helpful.
I would also love a video on this. Pleeeeeease Matt! !!
I should have considered these aspects 20 years ago, when I was getting married...now on the verge of divorce...
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Grażyna you’ll find someone better now you’re wiser ❤️ onwards and upwards
Congratz. New beginnings .
Me too sister. It's hard to have a relationship with someone you can't trust... And I was dumb enough to ignore not just red flags but flashing red lights with sirens blowing in my ear.
❤️ "better late(r?) than never" they say. ❤️ I wish you all the best, you're gonna be okay ❤️
It is such a blessing to be married to an amazing man who checks off all of the boxes. I honestly felt that I could trust him very early in our relationship. What a breath of fresh air! (This was part of not my past experiences.)❤ Thanks for yet more great content, Mat! ❤
He actually hears things I have shared and treats me accordingly without me having to remind him. He respects my opinion. He communicates his feelings effectively good or bad to allow me to find understanding in the moment.
When I share something I know is really silly but am still experiencing, he doesn't belittle me or make me feel stupid. Instead, he shows me he understands.
I really enjoyed this. Thanks, Matt. I've been with a wonderful guy that's been going through a divorce. It hasn't been easy but I'm doing my best to be patient. We care for each other but at times he needs time on his own. Sometimes I feel neglected. Out of the 10 signs, I believe we account for 7.
Be wary as he may do this to you once he remarries. Ask him if he feels trapped with his wife as hell feel that with you too without counseling to work they it
Yes you are definitely right about all this Trust stuff, me and my husband have grown over the years and are in a really good place.
Great list Matthew! You are a big inspiration to us as a relationship channel as well!
Adorable that couples that have been together for a long time still have that passion💕
We haven’t met yet but have been talking over a year everyday, this man has my heart and I have his when he gets back here to Tennessee we’ll be together forever...
Any updates?
@@arturo165, Since we’re both Christians and him being still married but legally separated over five years he’s getting the divorce handled...Thx for caring.😊
@@suzieburnette1677 I hope you both can make things work. Divorce is a tough thing to go through but I am sure your nurturing will heal him. God bless you
@@arturo165, I’m supporting him every step of the way...I appreciate everything you’ve said Thank you!!😊
So I am not crazy ,trust is above everything, glaaaaad
This is very good information. I agree with everything mentioned. Some of it I learned the hard way during a 46 year marriage. I am starting a new relationship now but I really don’t think I will ever find the true love I had in my marriage. However I think your guidance is spot on for all you young people in new relationships. Just thought you might want to hear from an older person who had a good long marriage and agrees with your good advice.
Thanks Matt! So much of what you share is needed so badly in this world.
Never let each other go to sleep when their mad my husband & I learned that.
Uh, never worked for me. .. It usually ended up with both of us wanting to kill each other at three in the morning. Going to sleep and seeing things with fresh eyes and a cool head works better for me
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Wow this was one of your top best videos ever! All of your videos are great but this one is high quality.
So true.
This has been one of the best advices I’ve listened to. Thank you! You’re wonderful!
Thank You So Much, Mat.. 🙏🏻👍🏻
This is PRECIOUS!.💯❤️🙏🏻
The man that I am involved with is already talking about marriage and I had to ask him to slow down because he was moving to fast. He agreed to slow down but I felt like he was a little disappointed.
So much wisdom in those 15 minutes! Thank you 🙏🏻
Another stunning video! Thank you so much💓. You have helped me so much in my love life.
More of these kinds of videos, please! I'm no longer dating because (after a failed 20-year marriage and relationship) I finally found the man that checks all of the boxes even some I didn't even know existed. So... would you consider doing videos on relationship advice once in a while?!? Thanks for being so enthusiastic in sharing your passion, advice, and valuable research!! Ciao from Italy, L
Hi Matt, you made such an impact in helping me understand how love works . It means a lot that you explain how a man acts and thinks when he’s in love. More power and blessings to you as you bless many! I am grateful to you.🙌
And this video on trust is for the longer term. Kudos!
Caring leads to trust. I think caring is the key for a successful relationship. A trustable man and a caring man aren’t the same
I know it when he never gives up on me no matter what. He listen to me and try to make my life better.
Open out and talk...instead of shedding tears alone under showers....i didn't know he was that soft sensitive and told me he is always egoistic....i will melt once i see him in tears...but he kept on to himself the feelings
Great video, Matt and this is wonderful for all persons in any relationship! Love your style and energy - you're so down to earth and comforting. :D
One that stood out to me is listening to each other. We do. Even if it’s not in the moment and he’s all hot headed. He will come back and apologize and even in the heated moments he may not act like he’s listening but he is
Matt you are awesome, I love all of your videos. My husband has everything you have said and we been married for 28 years 🥰
I love him more each day he is a gift from heaven in my life
I really appreciated this! Ive struggled with trust issues in a lot of my relationships due to bad past experience. But what about when trust is broken? My husband is a good man in general but recently he broke my trust in a big way. I called him out on it and now he thinks I should get over it and things should go back to normal. How can I communicate to him that I need time to trust him again? That he needs to earn it back?
The more I learn about relationships between men and women, the more I want to have nothing to do with them.
Yes
Agreed. Never cohabitate. Never marry. Pump and dump only
He tells his schedules in advance to me so i wont be worried and thinking where he was and what he does.
I need a man that won’t try to take my money and not be jealous rather secure our funds. My trust when it comes to money is so hyper vigilant. Protection is so huge. People can say it’s just money but if you’ve been around people that are financially abusive you’d understand
Your advices are totally to the point! Thank you for giving us food for thought and opening our horizons through your constant learning and hard work.
I absolutely love listening to you, it's very calming to hear you talk, I feel you are very knowledgeable, thank you
Great video! (Ignore the suggestion below to take out the stock videos. They are a nice addition & must take a lot of time & effort to include.) I TRUST your skill for making great videos!
Man I learned a lot. I am not in a relationship yet, but I thought about my old pastor telling me that I need to be mate my man needs me to be. And I met someone recently who challenges me on this, so now I realize I can't be excellent after I say "I do" or he gets on one knee, it starts now while I take care of myself.
I also realize I don't always communicate when things change and that is quite often. And that I don't have to volunteer my time for every cause or drama. I need me time and time for great. Thank you Mat!
You are my fav advice channel! You always cut it down to real points! Covering most important topics and love how the advice is so practical real and so on point! Where It all rings so true! Especially love when you confide on your own personal stuff too! Thank you so much for sharing all your advice! :) you’re like a big brother breaking it all down so I really get it lol only wish I saw some of these videos earlier..oh well live and learn! :)
I liked this video very much. It's good to see that most of trust and connection comes from simple but still very firm points. Usually, we overthink for silly things instead of focusing in the relationship as a whole. I like that you highlighted the positive points. And I like the final part - I recognized I had all of the points as a partner. It's very important to see both sides instead of complaining only about what the other doesn't do or isn't. As per my opinion, my boyfriend has all except the number 2 (partially), but don't know if it's something most made out of my head, although he already gave me reasons to doubt him but in overall, he is an amazing partner and our values align very much.
Oh that explains it. He wanted to have a party when I did not, not on the day I was leaving for my studies. He still pushed through with it. He later on told me that I wanted him to be alone instead of with his friends while I was leaving. I really did not think that way. But now, it all makes sense. He wanted to be with his friends, instead of me, all these time. I am glad I got out of that relationship.
Thank you for beautiful, motivated msg.
I am a fan of your videos. This one particularly, for the fact that I have been good friends with my now boyfriend of 9 months for about 10 years. The trust was there before we got romantic so this is an amazing fulfilling experience that we are enjoying together. At 48 me and him at 46 I feel like all of the points on trust really make me that much more sure of this relationship. Lots of people said dating a friend wasn't a good idea, but I love that they were wrong. We have also decided to100% love like our hearts have never been broken, because our pasts are not eachothers baggage! Thank you for helping love one heart at a time♡♡
Now, how do I get him to take the next step and marry me!?
I love ur videos ❤️❤️❤️
U have really helped me a lot
trust is earned.
I like to build trust in our marriage where actions speak louder then words. Communication
Is really important too.
If trust is number one, clear, open, good communication is the only what to achieve it I think.
Simple stuff. Eye contact is a huge one for me. Eye contact is very intimate. I feel if you can simply look your partner in the eye to me creates a connection that they are paying attention and being present with you.
The other is communication. If you can express what you want or need or how you can help them with their wants and needs.
Ask them don't tell them, it creates a better environment to negotiate. Makes them less defensive.
I'm writing a book about my relationship with my late husband, Tim, and I really liked this person as my best friend as well as loved him, but my traumatic childhood dealing with narcissistic abuse and subsequent narcissistic abuse has made it difficult for me to trust my perception of reality. I was taught I was unworthy of love from a man, so it has been hard at times to see if my late husband actually loved me. So these videos help confirm that Tim, although he wasn't perfect, he was a good partner, whether my inner child thought I deserved that or not.
Financial, mental, and emotional stability. ♥️
When u find that SOUL EVERYTHING aligns x x x And there are alot souls on this planet. X
You're advice is always encouraging, so helpful (even to us married ppl), I'm thankful my hubby checks all 10 from list & altho last 2 yrs were lil bumpy I believe our trust in each other is what got us back to great relationship 😀 He's even watched some of your vids w/me!! Thank you sooo much! esp for how-to communicate TO a man vids which are priceless 💖
I'm glad that you summed up the video asking the same questions about whether a man can trust a woman because I was going to point out that us women must fill the same obligations we expect of our man. Now, you asked how do I know if my man loves me and can be trusted....I go from my instincts and secondly, his behavior. With the gift that I have, he doesn't have to say sh*t...I just know. I know how he feels, his motives for doing what he has, how he thinks, and why he is the way he is. It's nice to get confirmation but when I am emotionally bonded to a man..,.my instincts tell me everything I need to know and they have yet to be wrong.
Just to elaborate on behavior...I'll know if he is stepping out on me (cheating) and no one will have to tell me a thing. In the past, I not only knew who my man was cheating with but with whom....and no one said sh*t to me. It's all a part of this gift that I have and it has only grown stronger and more sensitive as I've aged. So, if he decides to step out on me he better make sure she's worth it because I'm gonna pack my kids up and our stuff and roll out. FAIR WARNING.
I can tell a cheater from a mile away, I can tell if any guy is cheating on his girlfriend without even knowing them.
Threesomes have become so common and love for me is one Other. Friendships are different and sharing makes more time.
Have a love that's greater than the argument
Thanks so much for the video, I have really learned today
Hi good morning I'm always watching your video, I love your video
Thank you, this one has been enlightening, especially to know that you have a marriage mentor/ counsellor, you go to talk to. Great insight, thanks Matt!
This is one of the best videos you have done so far. Thank you so much!!!
Great video. Right on as well. Getting to know each other really well is important. Being able to talk about anything and Having same values too.
Im a HUGE FAN of your Matt, i been watching your videos for a long time, this one Is Great ! I enjoyed the Message of this video, i am Going to Ask myself these Questions. Thanks Matt !! Showing Love From CANADA🇨🇦🇨🇦
Are you present when you listen to your partner.
If you listen and care then you can validate this by listening and showing initiative with support on a matter that is important to them. For example being aware they are having a tough week at work, so stepping up to make the home front simple and less task oriented by picking up the slack- little surprise notes of encouragement throughout the day to show you are thinking of them that they are not by alone. The smallest gesture of kindness relevant to their needs shows you are paying attention that to me instills a deep trust.
Awesome! I watched your six videos you shared but I didn't left some comments but this time I cannot leave these video without leaving some comment. You're really an expert Coach that's why I don't want to miss all your videos Thank you Matt . This is really helpful to make a relationship stronger.
I was married for 9 years and with him for 11 years. He had none of these qualities. I can’t believe I put up with him for so long. Never listened to me, cared about what I thought about anything. Wanted sex on tap and when I said no he referred to me as a Ferrari “ what’s the point in having a Ferrari when you can’t drive it” ... I left him two years ago and now I’m with a man who has all those attributes you listed.... the reason I have a man with them now is because after 11 long years I know now exactly what I don’t want. The man I’m with now is absolutely perfect and I can see us spending the rest of our lives together.
Omg, i love mat boggs. I subscribed his channel because i learned a lot from here!! It really helps .. not for couple but also relationship lead to marriage.
Thank you for bringing this peace of mind. I suffered in my past relationships, but my current seems promising. i will keep in mind each one of these, makes me question if I’m also that kind of woman, I know I’m many of these but I will work hard to better myself.
From day 1 he has said he knows I'm 2 hours away and he's accepted that he's gonna travel to see me until we decide to live together..
Trust and communication are huge. I can understand and listen to anything he has to say, find a solution and a way to get past it until I feel like I’m being played over and over. Once you have that agreement, stop the games.
Such a dearth of empathy n ‘understand’ these days. People are breaking up like nobody’s business!
It made me understand why I have distrusted in the past and how I too do things that can make a person distrust me. Thank you for the advice.
I love your videos so much. Thank you for sharing and doing what you do for all of us!
THIS is by far your BEST ADVICE video yet because we must get COMPLETELY honest and clear on BOTH sides, HIS and OURS! Thank You soooooo much as always! 💖🙏💙
Thank you Matthew. Personally, I value your advice. Applying these principles or to looking for these signs are a great guideline for us to consider
Trust when am healed..now learning..
Thank you Mat!!!! I love your videos! They’ve really helped me grow! ❤️
Very well said. I agree...and I am the type of woman who is trustworthy. I don't place any expectation on anyone else, especially my man, that I don't place on myself first. So if I expect these things of him, of course I'm going to be doing the same.
I do all those things and want my Werner to do the same. Communication is key
I hope you and Werner are still doing great.
I've always loved ur videos. Keep spreading positive, hopeful relationship building videos! ❤
The trust that i had seen to my BF is when his family invite him to have a get together party he always tell me ahead of time.. And if he said i'll be coming back at the time he said, he's there already.. I like the way he use trust on me bcoz he's very faithful and very respectful to me..
Very insightful, Matt, really enjoyed the video. I want to be that type of woman that a man trusts no matter how old he is. A man that is faithful to Jesus and take my feelings into account as well.