How to Enjoy Marriage as a Self-Actualised Man in Old Age | Married But Single

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  • @stevegardener3552
    @stevegardener3552 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    My elder brother shared your video on accepting the reality of getting older I think that’s what it was called. I loved it so well I chose to follow you and shared to more of your videos with him and others . I am blessed and made wiser by the entry of your already experienced knowledge. You have stroked and teased my future desiring alerts as I approach my later years at the age of 56 feelings and aligning with what I am hearing from your extensive knowledge sir. I thank the Lord for you, this channel and the wisdom God has deposited in you. May he ever bless you sir.
    All I would state is you reference Africans home and abroad, I am from West Indian heritage and we are so similar and aligned in so many ways because we are also Africans. Please don’t forget us.
    God bless you Dr.

    • @LiliansGardens
      @LiliansGardens 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      We are the same people surely. God bless you

  • @doreenakello-dora
    @doreenakello-dora 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Dr. Apoki has become the second version of my bible. I literally make sure i never miss hearing from him everyday. God bless you 🎉❤

  • @drcharlesapoki
    @drcharlesapoki  ปีที่แล้ว +14

    48:26 Don't let romance reduce performance

  • @fencepost5369
    @fencepost5369 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    😅young men listen up Dr Charles Apoki is spot on lots of wisdom God Bless Dr Apoki

  • @SandraMartinez-ko5qx
    @SandraMartinez-ko5qx 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    “Married, but single.” Best way to live. It doesn’t get any better.

  • @Martins-h8o
    @Martins-h8o 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I found this channel by accident and I have since subscribed. Thanks for your wisdom on subjects many are afraid to touch but a reality of most Africa men especially here in Canada.

    • @drcharlesapoki
      @drcharlesapoki  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks please share with others.

  • @arlenethompson4795
    @arlenethompson4795 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    There's Nothing Like Solitude and Peace of Mind!

  • @glantedavid9728
    @glantedavid9728 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    This man is a wise man .

    • @cryptomanual2920
      @cryptomanual2920 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Very wise

    • @reggzofficial
      @reggzofficial 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Very Very Wise

    • @alleyesonme3
      @alleyesonme3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wise is understatement for someone of with this knowledge and blessed wisdom

  • @altheaseepaul4384
    @altheaseepaul4384 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Thank you for your messages.Churches need to have these discussions.

  • @ucheo9144
    @ucheo9144 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Men listen to some nuggets of wisdom from Dr...he is real

  • @Royaltreasure1967
    @Royaltreasure1967 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Listening to you awakens vigor, strength, and a sparkling sense of awareness. You speak from the heart, sharing your personal experiences and life without restrain or reservations. With great teachers like you, the world will not remain the same. Thank you for all you do for humanity. This is your friend, King-Richard Ekwegh

  • @glorysalami1792
    @glorysalami1792 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    A prophet is without honor in his own land you a appreciated by your family l believe this, you are a blessing indeed to your family and to many people you have well spoken sir

  • @johnekene4951
    @johnekene4951 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    May you live long sir, to continue to impact lives. God bless you sir.

  • @CalixteKamche-dl8mt
    @CalixteKamche-dl8mt 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm Just voiceless Doctor APOKi.
    I don't really remember how i jumped into one of your videos the first time but this was Just 03months ago! Since then, there is no single day i'll spend without hearing from you at least twice ! I dont really Know how this can be done but it's a must matter sharing all your videos and teachings until they reach all africans , old and younger ones! You are really a blessing! I'm a french speaking from cameroon but i'm really lucky to understand and master all your precious and wise ''intellectual meals'' 😊
    I also really thank GOD for your life! And for the next incoming lessons!
    STAY DEEPLY BLESSED🙏

  • @sandraigwe1319
    @sandraigwe1319 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I just listened to you last week for the first time via my uncle’s WhatsApp. I wish I knew you in the past . Nevertheless I am thankful for your wisdom! You are amazing 👍

  • @essienessien5032
    @essienessien5032 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    You are rich in knowledge and insight

  • @RuthKihara-m4h
    @RuthKihara-m4h 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Oh God ... Wish one day I meet a true love of life to call a hubby and take care of him.... God have mercy on us..

  • @coolmodeg4650
    @coolmodeg4650 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Shouts to you Dr. from Ghana, Teshie Nungua Estate. We love you here. Me and my friends.

  • @LawrenceUlebe-d1r
    @LawrenceUlebe-d1r 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    May God post pone your celebration of life because of your impact making ijn.❤

  • @stanleydivine1781
    @stanleydivine1781 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dr. Apoki is a huge blessing to this generation. Thank you so much sir. ❤❤

  • @chudilingo4438
    @chudilingo4438 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Dr Charles Akpoti, I never fail to listen to what you have to say, every time your video is flashed at me. There is always something new to learn even we are not far apart, age wise. I think you are making a different in your counseling sessions which is quite suitable to Africans.🙏

  • @TheoChi-y6q
    @TheoChi-y6q 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dr. Akpoki is an epitome of wisdom, a rare gem. We thank God for giving our generation this precious gift called Dr. Akpoki.

  • @oluremiotitoju3329
    @oluremiotitoju3329 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You are a great man full of wisdom and knowledge may God sustain you in Jesus mighty name

  • @andresngwenya1871
    @andresngwenya1871 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This gentleman is our encyclopedia to us men in this modern day society. Its tough out thete. We need wisdom tools from our friend Dr Apoki in order to confront challenges

  • @oluwaseunesan9986
    @oluwaseunesan9986 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Honestly, I wished I knew Dr Apoki earlier in my life. He is an epitome of honest truth.
    I disturb myself over the issues he raised in this video but after listening to him, my long time burden melted away. God must surely bless you Sir (Amen)

  • @Betty-Fem
    @Betty-Fem 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    God bless you sir.
    Wisdom is lacking in a lot of cases, some left their villages, but the village mindset has not left them. Wanting your immediate family to fear you, you can not take your kids to school even on your days off, to give your wife a respite, in nations where there is no house help or extended family support. They forget their children are watching, so by the time these children grow up they start seeing themselves as the defender of the oppressed. I personally will never understand why its so difficult for some to be nice to their wife and be friendly/close to their own children. Just my own little contribution...

  • @vamhani
    @vamhani 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I like your song, I like your story. Thank you, what a perspective.

  • @_chigold
    @_chigold 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    A rare kind of breed of a Man! May your life be to the fullness of 😊days on earth 🎉

  • @noraallman9194
    @noraallman9194 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wow! Dr Charles you speak with such wisdom and honesty. Thanks for such a meal. ❤🙏

  • @mariamjackson2994
    @mariamjackson2994 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am so blessed to have landed on your channel. Our generation needs to hear from men like you. The internet father that needed to speak to all of us regardless...

  • @TaiwoFolakemiAiyegbayo-qd3hd
    @TaiwoFolakemiAiyegbayo-qd3hd 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Don't let romance reduce performance

  • @MauvrineSawson-xs5pw
    @MauvrineSawson-xs5pw 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What a knowledgeable and wise gentleman. Thank you Sir! From Jamaica. Lots of ❤

  • @anthonyomoko6433
    @anthonyomoko6433 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experience

  • @QueenBoniface
    @QueenBoniface หลายเดือนก่อน

    A raw word ,more grace sir

  • @egobambi6763
    @egobambi6763 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you. You are wise. Love from Toronto, Canada.

  • @peterchelnor3247
    @peterchelnor3247 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you Dr Charles.
    Peter .
    London.

  • @susankasujja2973
    @susankasujja2973 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks Mr Apoki, am so happy to find u here on u tube....wow, you are so real, God bless you.

  • @ugoericRedeemed
    @ugoericRedeemed 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You are worth listening to, worth reading.

  • @FredrickAkpomuje
    @FredrickAkpomuje 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your advices are priceless, if I heard you before now, I couldn't have guffed in many areas. God bless you mightily.

  • @jasonstracham9394
    @jasonstracham9394 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you Dr. For your advice when a man hands his responsibility to a woman he loses value.and when you always hear go and ask your mother as a kid, you get tired.

  • @SBako.
    @SBako. ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you sir for using your life as an exampler for us to emulate.

  • @Synygy_
    @Synygy_ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Doc , it’s all love God blessed you ❤! For a child raise by a single parent , your video retained my force in life make not take what I have for granted. Thank you Lord for making me find this man on TH-cam !!! The best thing TH-cam ever did for 2024🎉🎉

  • @belemapatricia3490
    @belemapatricia3490 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    This is simply inspiring. Thank you very much Dr. Apoki. I have learned a lot. More of this please.

  • @antonyndungu5514
    @antonyndungu5514 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Simply as a man don't go simping around

    • @joyceuche634
      @joyceuche634 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Please Dr I need you to come to my aid.

  • @assuredfuture4909
    @assuredfuture4909 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This wisdom is above

  • @arrybababecool
    @arrybababecool ปีที่แล้ว +2

    An inspiring man for every one

  • @oraltraditions6127
    @oraltraditions6127 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Dr.Apoki, I like the way you talk. I am a woman and I believe in the traditional marriage arrangement. However, the bible says in Micah 7 that you cannot trust a friend or guide...your enemy will come from your own household. This is one of the sign of the time.
    There are women though who stoll remain humble with much wealth. Many times women change because of pride and some change because of how the men treated them in the begining. Perhaps the men treated them with hostility and decides it's pay back time.
    Wives should not connnive with their children to discredit their husbands. Dr. I know you know there are good women, but your decision to separate from your wife was a wise decision. I love the teachings of this man
    African men caused the women to act the way they do. Pastor Funke Adejumo praises her husband because he gives her independence, but he treats her well, so she has no plans to override him.

    • @omnipotentwiz5101
      @omnipotentwiz5101 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wise successful men never get legally married in the West. There’s no benefit for a successful man to get married legally. None.

  • @solomonoba2776
    @solomonoba2776 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great rhema from Dr. Apoki

  • @verokstore4699
    @verokstore4699 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Dr Apoki....

  • @heleniwunze6495
    @heleniwunze6495 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I believe it started from Debora, in the book of judges when the men failed in their assignment of leadership God used a woman Debora who was bold, the men actually supported her to go ahead of them. Make we leave Eve alone small, Samson also allowed a woman to belittle him.

  • @ParlonsDeNous-pg3cu
    @ParlonsDeNous-pg3cu 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    you are so inspiring. thank you for what you do.

  • @randomvideoshere6540
    @randomvideoshere6540 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    U are so wise sir.God bless you

  • @abedonwona8576
    @abedonwona8576 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Listen to Wisdom personified

  • @thomaskiprop2696
    @thomaskiprop2696 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you I thought I was alone the best advice thank you

  • @Mr.O.Cardenas
    @Mr.O.Cardenas 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Glory to The Most High
    Great video Dr.
    Much appreciated 🙏

  • @Stephen-79
    @Stephen-79 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    God bless you, Sir

  • @letters-ux2un
    @letters-ux2un หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sad. You no longer make such video. Really miss them.

  • @wc899
    @wc899 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Knowledge is power

  • @maximisewealth
    @maximisewealth 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Whoa! Doc, you’re indeed a rare kind of breed of a man. Please keep up the good work sir. May our good LORD, enable you to finish the Christian ✝️ race very well and strong sir. You’re greatly loved sir.🤓👊🏾

  • @mohamedwurie9644
    @mohamedwurie9644 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Very inspirational speech. I recently became a fan of your videos and subscribed. Thanks for your advice.

  • @godmanibhadon5466
    @godmanibhadon5466 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    God bless you richly sir

  • @shikammawusongha1444
    @shikammawusongha1444 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Am gaining a lot from you sir. God bless you sir .

  • @havilahmosheri4184
    @havilahmosheri4184 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Leaning a lot from you sir!

  • @honouroluyemiajepe4609
    @honouroluyemiajepe4609 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just d way of peace!
    God bless u sir

  • @chimakalu5195
    @chimakalu5195 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    God's rich blessings to your health brother Apoki.

  • @s.h.2546
    @s.h.2546 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you brother.

  • @donnabrown6367
    @donnabrown6367 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I wished i find a great man like you big up self you are appreciated beautiful an resembles you are bless

  • @onyekaandy-oghonim7350
    @onyekaandy-oghonim7350 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You indeed have joy sir!

  • @TRUTH240
    @TRUTH240 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    RESPECT

  • @UncleUrban
    @UncleUrban 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great information

    • @drcharlesapoki
      @drcharlesapoki  9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad it was helpful!

  • @brotherskeeper2253
    @brotherskeeper2253 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Well said by the elder..

  • @onyekaandy-oghonim7350
    @onyekaandy-oghonim7350 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Very kingly indeed

  • @joyajah6347
    @joyajah6347 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Don't let romance reduce productivity.

  • @xtonetware5493
    @xtonetware5493 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is very lovely

  • @albertemiebor2254
    @albertemiebor2254 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Salient truth indeed. More grace and anointing.

  • @media247tv3
    @media247tv3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Am getting value

  • @IBEN76
    @IBEN76 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Good evening Dr Charles APOKI
    Thank you for all the messages you give. I'm learning alot from you
    Following from Kigali, Rwanda

    • @drcharlesapoki
      @drcharlesapoki  ปีที่แล้ว

      God bless you. Please share with others.

  • @JustEnvytruestory
    @JustEnvytruestory 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This man giran gan I thought I was a mad person but I found one crazier than me I am so intrigued to acknowledge this amazing Man wisdom I will pay any money for it. Learn the art of emotionless 😶 control you will live free and fear God. Look out it this way or let me ask a question, are we limited or unlimited? Answer is limited because we depends on things to survive so as is the Earth limited or unlimited? Answer- limited because earth also depends on things to survive so therefore for something to be limited there has to be something that’s unlimited to create something limited.😳😳😳 question of thoughts 💭

  • @olaideanjorin3686
    @olaideanjorin3686 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    wisdom

  • @ritannaemeka-okoyeh8553
    @ritannaemeka-okoyeh8553 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Dr Apoki you no Dey old like that oooo!!!!

  • @josephatakulu1332
    @josephatakulu1332 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nice one sir

  • @winsomelawrence6083
    @winsomelawrence6083 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Good husband you is we can not find man like you these days so sad

  • @PolishingYourEnglish
    @PolishingYourEnglish 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Dr., if your wife was always committing adultery and you forgave her on the first occasion-but she continued-would you still be with her?

    • @msfubby9372
      @msfubby9372 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Absolutely not!. Jesus told the woman caught in Adulterry.. go and sin no more. If she was lucky to be forgiven once.. she shouldn't sin again. If she does then she doesn't respect you.
      Please respect yourself.

  • @WilliamShorter-x3y
    @WilliamShorter-x3y 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    though it has been less than week since I discovered your channel on youtube,I feel very drawn to your views. I must admit that I am not a christian/religionist I have always been skeptical of religion from an early age .I am more inclined to listen to men such as Bertrand Russell richard Dawkins chris hitchens and others,but I do find that the bible is also very instructive for living in these turbulent days and how to deal with the vagaries of human nature

  • @berthaphiri3503
    @berthaphiri3503 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Women have purpose too. You take a woman as an empty versel to fulfill a mans purpose. True love is supportive to both parties for the benefit of the two. No ill feeling's, submission from the wife and love 💕 from the husband

  • @angusabrahams2647
    @angusabrahams2647 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dr Apoki.

  • @edithozobia6989
    @edithozobia6989 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wao

  • @oriolowogideon5129
    @oriolowogideon5129 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow

  • @audryangus4795
    @audryangus4795 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @MarioTartaglia-dh6pi
    @MarioTartaglia-dh6pi 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It’s ironic how u say be careful of women how they do manipulate u
    Even the devil is afraid
    And u say u say find a trainable one how u want
    My friend life is a parodix
    No matter what u say u just a man that thinks u can get it right

  • @giantbeauty
    @giantbeauty 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    No one can be married and single at the same time. That’s unhealthy

    • @drcharlesapoki
      @drcharlesapoki  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Some things are too deep for you to understand.

    • @chijiokedaniel3859
      @chijiokedaniel3859 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is a classy insult 😅😅😂😂😂

  • @kizzykizzwankah4474
    @kizzykizzwankah4474 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Wisdom too much!!!

  • @raskult
    @raskult 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    7:24

  • @syntabelle
    @syntabelle 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    It is there because of the way men treat women when they initially had the authority. U hear things like i used my money to pay your brideprice. So it is all about money and power aka it is a man's world. After she learns this from you, she works hard, earns the money and gives u back what u taught her.

    • @ogwangjoshua695
      @ogwangjoshua695 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      its a Men's podcast. He is not saying anything bad. if you have found anything offensive then i have no idea. he is just teaching men to responsible but also not to be oppressed

  • @edithibisiki1084
    @edithibisiki1084 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Pride hmmmmm

    • @Michaelbrume9
      @Michaelbrume9 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's what you saw hmmmm

  • @violakabigabwa9240
    @violakabigabwa9240 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Chei, Im from Entebbe 😂😂😂😂

  • @idongesitinyang4807
    @idongesitinyang4807 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is so sexist: marry a woman you can mould/train ???

    • @drcharlesapoki
      @drcharlesapoki  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Nothing sexist about it. Marriage is about suitability. Go to the potter's house and learn that's what the Bible says. We all are like clay.
      When your wife is trained and molded to suit your vision, she inturn fashions you to be a better husband. That's the way it works.
      Feminism has only produced rebellious women who can't stay under a husband.
      If you can't be trained and molded by a husband remain single.
      Many women are not trained for suitability in marriage.

    • @yuta3699
      @yuta3699 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Remain single.

    • @berthaphiri3503
      @berthaphiri3503 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It depends the kind of man. Someone in God's version. My brother we live in an evil world where some men training are the worst if you want to please God. I know if you have a daughter and sister, you secure her future before this marriage issues. I'm I wrong?

  • @edithibisiki1084
    @edithibisiki1084 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I sense insecurity and unbalanced christianity from this video.

    • @favoursojem4305
      @favoursojem4305 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      No

    • @Emmchz.e
      @Emmchz.e 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      The things he talks about are real. Most men suffer from insecurity when dealing with a financially successful wife. The wife may not have any sinister motives, but the man on account of her status feels like 'he is looking up to her' Insecurity in men is such a demon!

    • @nananurse19
      @nananurse19 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I am a female and i live in the USA and i work in diverse fields and what he is saying is super true. Even independent women do it.

    • @omnipotentwiz5101
      @omnipotentwiz5101 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I sense wisdom.

    • @ogwangjoshua695
      @ogwangjoshua695 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Emmchz.e If he left everything, was that insecurity ? i think its finding a balance of peace. its women who feel insecure , and marriage is supposed to offer than ,a man must give his wife security and thats what he did, but the woman must also not oppress the man over issues that are clearly avoidable. A man with or without must be complete and not feel squeezed just because someone else is feeling insecure