Throughout my lifespan, I've not come across a video more sensible than this. If I was in Nigeria, I will visit you every month just to listen to you pour wisdom. I felt men with a faithful-husband mentality were extinct. May God prolong your life so you can keep on blessing us with wisdom.
Ladies must have their own financial interests at heart, build your own business and have backup plan to avoid “had I known” the world has changed & your strategy must change to suit current realities on ground. This is not time to foolishly close you eyes to depend on husband or children. Plan & include your wellbeing in case anyone misbehaves. Peace ✌️
Men should do the same then. He should also have a backup plan should there be any happenstance later in the marriage. My question then will be... What exactly do we call trust in marriage? May we not choose wrongly. My parents have been married for 57years, and they have no private backup plan. They've all worked together, and trained us all, and we all turned out well. Know your spouse, and function accordingly. Selah
@@Benfemo05 the truth is that times have changed & by the way you as a child can never know or be willing to put up with the sacrifices your mother/parent had to make for what you enjoyed. Pls do whatever suit you, experience is the best teacher for some people. In marriage the person most likely to loose their personal vision for the family is usually the woman. To each his own.
I really enjoyed this message and learnt alot too. I am a woman and want to tell u its not easy to grow while u have young kids. You need to take care of the house, the children, your husband etc. But i have learnt to take care of my myself too and grow both financially and academically.
Thank you Sir for taking your time to share this. But, in my view, is high time we started teaching our men on how to be husbands. How to be home Managers. Wife Managers.Things have changed Sir. Women or wives should not be blame for men reckless behaviors, what is wrong is wrong, period. Also, there is nothing feminist about this. Men, of this days really need to try. MIND-SET of our men need to changed, honestly.
Is there anything wrong with a man and woman planning properly how they will run affairs in their home? Why is it that a man cannot assist his wife when she is nursing their baby, in order to reduce her stress? If there is some understanding I think the issue of a woman neglecting her husband will not arise. It is easy to exonorate men's inappropriate actions. Rather than pointing out their role in the marriage.
@@oghenefejiromajoroh4487 He will not change. You change yourself or live a single life and thrive. You are drowning doing house chores. The lifeline is the door. It is wide open. You are not stuck in these marriages. Get a good lawyer and move on with life.
This is an excellent teaching Dr Apoki. Husband or wife should never be a martyr for each other or for the kids. Each spouse should develop themselves. I have a similar philosophy with you about becoming very valuable that other people will not want to severe relationship with you.
This is wisdom. Thank you for balancing this teaching. As women, we shouldn't forget ourselves, keep growing , take care of yourself, be peaceful, and above all be wisw. Don't set your husband up for temptation. Men should have integrity, be responsible, respect, and have value for themselves. More grace to you sir
Ose, I love this your "na you sabbbi "principle. It is so liberating. In fact these days, I just look at people misbehaving around me and I just say "na you (una) sabbbi!". God continue to bless Dr Apoki IJN, amen.
Poor wives.blamed for being good mothers.blamed for not having as much libido.blamed for gaining weight after childbirth.blamed for not running the home and blamed for being tired after working in the office and home😢
@@sheilaadefuye6694 a good husband should consider hiring helping hand to assist the wife. So she can have time for self care. Ladies make time to take care of yourself. Not all household duties are do or d!e affair. Love & pamper yourself.
@couragelyme Watch Colaz, Morris Time Cooking, etc o Chef Ricardo or Jay Progress. Jamaican men can cook and that's the majority of them. They clean, wash clothes and do housework.my brothers all of them can cook a do housework and my dad😊 Oh and my brother in law. We can take it for granted. Especially listening to this! Hence the white women running to Jamaica to grab them.😅. So if you are hard at work, and come home, dinner is cooked, even bath prepared and sometimes a glass of wine or a cup of tea or coffee. But the women should also do their part as well, at of them can cook.
@@omatreasure-media646 it would be great to discuss with her to actually discover what you helping means to her. Is it her way of feeling intimate with you. Was she neglected in her childhood or was help denied. Pls seek counselling and negotiate to join halfway at a point that meets her needs & yours. Wishing you the best.
Hmm, in my opinion, after listening to you, i think men are TUUUUUU Selfish. They are ALWAYS thinking about how things should favor them in Relationship or marriage. Tnx for sharing Sir. It's very educative.
Watching from MAKUENI county, lower Eastern, Kenya. I embraced sub-urban living and working last year. It was the beginning of my freedom to take big risks. I support it.
My brother this happened to me in Africa but karma came knocking to him until it took him early to his grave at a very young age as 38, i am now almost 55 that time I was only 32.
DEAR DR APOKI , FIRSTLY THANK YOU FOR THIS DEEPLY EDUCATIVE VIDEO . FROM THE BEGINNING OF THIS VIDEO TO THE END, YOU KEPT DROPPING WISDOM GEMS, EXTREMELY VALUABLE TO THE SOCIETY OF TODAY AND FOR THE FORSEEABLE FUTURE . YOUR WORDS ARE DEFINITELY OF INESTIMABLE WORTH , WORTH ITS WEIGHT IN GOLD. .ITS OBVIOUS HOW EVOLVED YOU ARE, WAY AHEAD OF THE TIMES. YOU ARE IMPACTING THE WORLD ONE VIDEO AT A TIME. KEEP THEM COMING.
Just learnt that Lewis Hamilton’s)the F1 driver) Parents divorced very early as the wife wanted a quiet life but his father was very ambitious and coached Lewis to be the number one driver in the world. What I am trying to say is that sometimes husband and wife could end up growing apart based on the intensity of their ambitions.
Dear Mentor, the small gal has no children to look after, no stress of managing a family; reason she told that married woman that she can change her husband within 2 weeks. Men should be God fearing and stop cheating on their wives, that is my take. Other wise, if this spirit of cheating continues among married men, women will start cheating and that family is finished, children will suffer in the end. Im still your friend🙏 Thanks Mentor
@@izaben married women have been cheating on their husbands for thousands of years, it’s not only husbands that cheat. You just have to be sure you are In sync with your own husband so you can cheat-proof your own marriage. Period.
Area Grandfather, Dr. Charles Apoki, God bless you for the Frank talk. May He continue to use you to sanitize our world. We shall get in touch sir as the Lord instructs. More Grace! Amen!
Sir I might nor be right, some men don't forget the way you present your help to them, if you do it with insultive manner they may collect it because they need it at that moment, but may not appreciate it and will never forget how you present your help to them.
I usually don’t comment on videos but I just want to say thank you sir for this video. Was well taught, entertained and learnt a lot. Your funny description using a cougar which is a mountain Lion 🦁 was really funny. Thank you for all you do Sir. Megwo 😅
i ask , how can a woman dress nicely & attractive to herself nd to her husband when she isnt getting job, no money & besides the man too doesnt take care of his wife! how can life be okay for the woman?
First time listening and I subscribed. Very intelligent, funny and educative person. Mostly respectful of your integrity and honesty. Thank you for your message ❤
Bonjour Mr Charles, c'était la première fois de tomber sur votre vidéo, un grand merci car c'est un vidéo très très instructif pour les hommes qui veulent suivre le bon chemin d'hommes responsables, respectueux des enfants de Dieu.
Well-done daddy, this is a well spoken words but l am here to explain that most men can't be satisfied, no matter how long you go in trying to satisfy them but God will help us all. It's only a thing of heart trouble to know that a man you give all still go out to cheat.
Thanks so much for sharing all these wisdom. May your day be long sir. Much respect. Human don’t learn to live, but just live without thinking or being purposeful often. A life without a map is a life that goes to any direction.
Women develop your self. Marriage is a scam and a trap. Value yourself. You job is not to support your husband. Kmow your worth and have a peaceful life.
Dr Apoki, many thanks ❤. Usually I simply watch, This is the first video, that I have not just watched but also read all comments. You are oozing with wisdom Dr Apoki. Many thanks
My lesson note. As woman upgrade yourself to meet the standard of your husband. No man wants to be controlled by his wife. Distance can cause barrier in your marriage, when not well managed. Don't be too emotional as a woman instead be strategic in your thinking. Thank you sir.
Well said, very informative and life changing, your sense of humor is top notch, but listening to you carefully about the Jerusalem part, that is not all what marriage is based on, like you said, in the beginning you have a lot of feelings then it disappears, so if men have fantasies, why can’t they introduce their wives rather than going to the next door woman.
Throughout my lifespan, I've not come across a video more sensible than this. If I was in Nigeria, I will visit you every month just to listen to you pour wisdom. I felt men with a faithful-husband mentality were extinct. May God prolong your life so you can keep on blessing us with wisdom.
“Think of the consequences .” “Think of what you will lose” !!!!
What a great sermon!!
Wow!!!
Ladies must have their own financial interests at heart, build your own business and have backup plan to avoid “had I known” the world has changed & your strategy must change to suit current realities on ground. This is not time to foolishly close you eyes to depend on husband or children. Plan & include your wellbeing in case anyone misbehaves. Peace ✌️
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Well said 👏👏
In addition,have a good relationships with God and good relationship with people.
Exactly!!
Men should do the same then. He should also have a backup plan should there be any happenstance later in the marriage. My question then will be... What exactly do we call trust in marriage?
May we not choose wrongly. My parents have been married for 57years, and they have no private backup plan. They've all worked together, and trained us all, and we all turned out well.
Know your spouse, and function accordingly. Selah
@@Benfemo05 the truth is that times have changed & by the way you as a child can never know or be willing to put up with the sacrifices your mother/parent had to make for what you enjoyed.
Pls do whatever suit you, experience is the best teacher for some people.
In marriage the person most likely to loose their personal vision for the family is usually the woman.
To each his own.
I really enjoyed this message and learnt alot too. I am a woman and want to tell u its not easy to grow while u have young kids. You need to take care of the house, the children, your husband etc. But i have learnt to take care of my myself too and grow both financially and academically.
After this video I have no reason to shy from the internet. Perfect timing and great content. Ready to build it big!
Wahala starts
Thank you Sir for taking your time to share this. But, in my view, is high time we started teaching our men on how to be husbands. How to be home Managers. Wife Managers.Things have changed Sir. Women or wives should not be blame for men reckless behaviors, what is wrong is wrong, period.
Also, there is nothing feminist about this. Men, of this days really need to try. MIND-SET of our men need to changed, honestly.
Is there anything wrong with a man and woman planning properly how they will run affairs in their home?
Why is it that a man cannot assist his wife when she is nursing their baby, in order to reduce her stress?
If there is some understanding I think the issue of a woman neglecting her husband will not arise.
It is easy to exonorate men's inappropriate actions. Rather than pointing out their role in the marriage.
@@oghenefejiromajoroh4487 He will not change. You change yourself or live a single life and thrive. You are drowning doing house chores. The lifeline is the door. It is wide open. You are not stuck in these marriages. Get a good lawyer and move on with life.
This is an excellent teaching Dr Apoki. Husband or wife should never be a martyr for each other or for the kids. Each spouse should develop themselves. I have a similar philosophy with you about becoming very valuable that other people will not want to severe relationship with you.
this man is enjoying his old age not even looking old. Good morning sir
Thanks!
That's a mindset of an EVOLVED Human Being. Well done father.
A free full package of teaching on relationship management within marriage. Thanks to doctor apoki
Amazing message.LADIES REMEMBER NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO,YOU CAN ONLY KEEP A MAN WHO WANTS TO BE KEPT..
Detoxify him 😂😂😂...Ose 1! Migwo Sir!
Great wisdom from your wisdom bank...
Your story about the personal assistant was so funny....you got the memo....
This is wisdom. Thank you for balancing this teaching. As women, we shouldn't forget ourselves, keep growing , take care of yourself, be peaceful, and above all be wisw. Don't set your husband up for temptation. Men should have integrity, be responsible, respect, and have value for themselves.
More grace to you sir
Watching from Moshi Tanzania. Thank you very at times your videos are more than a wisdom school.
Ose, I love this your "na you sabbbi "principle. It is so liberating. In fact these days, I just look at people misbehaving around me and I just say "na you (una) sabbbi!". God continue to bless Dr Apoki IJN, amen.
Women please have your own money ooo
A UK base university lecturer watching you always!! I have learnt lots of life lessons from you. Thank you sir!! You look really good in your dress.
This junior part is very funny 😂😂
Thank you dr apoki 🙏🏻
😮😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
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Dont stagnate, keep growingggggg!!!
Poor wives.blamed for being good mothers.blamed for not having as much libido.blamed for gaining weight after childbirth.blamed for not running the home and blamed for being tired after working in the office and home😢
@@sheilaadefuye6694 a good husband should consider hiring helping hand to assist the wife. So she can have time for self care. Ladies make time to take care of yourself. Not all household duties are do or d!e affair. Love & pamper yourself.
@couragelyme
Watch Colaz, Morris Time Cooking, etc o Chef Ricardo or Jay Progress. Jamaican men can cook and that's the majority of them. They clean, wash clothes and do housework.my brothers all of them can cook a do housework and my dad😊 Oh and my brother in law.
We can take it for granted. Especially listening to this!
Hence the white women running to Jamaica to grab them.😅.
So if you are hard at work, and come home, dinner is cooked, even bath prepared and sometimes a glass of wine or a cup of tea or coffee.
But the women should also do their part as well, at of them can cook.
Thank you!!!
@@couragelyme, What if the wife refuse having a maid but rather expect the husband to always do the helping ?
@@omatreasure-media646 it would be great to discuss with her to actually discover what you helping means to her. Is it her way of feeling intimate with you. Was she neglected in her childhood or was help denied.
Pls seek counselling and negotiate to join halfway at a point that meets her needs & yours.
Wishing you the best.
Hmm, in my opinion, after listening to you, i think men are TUUUUUU Selfish. They are ALWAYS thinking about how things should favor them in Relationship or marriage. Tnx for sharing Sir. It's very educative.
Watching from MAKUENI county, lower Eastern, Kenya. I embraced sub-urban living and working last year. It was the beginning of my freedom to take big risks. I support it.
Our values determine our worth in life
Kasee🙏
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This was so impactful, thank you Daddy
This was so worthwhile. Thank you Sir!
You are my internet father. Thank you for the wisdom 🙌🏿🙏
Wow... You touched it all for both side, this pure educational me especially. Thanks a lot Dr. Apoki
You are phenomenally making sense sir! You have lifted my spirit sir,well done! A bigl God bless you sir! Core truths!
My brother this happened to me in Africa but karma came knocking to him until it took him early to his grave at a very young age as 38, i am now almost 55 that time I was only 32.
Wow 😊. My first time listening to Your message Sir. I was so wrapped. So much fatherly advice. Thank You Sir.
The way he shouted “It is food” killed me… 😄
DEAR DR APOKI , FIRSTLY THANK YOU FOR THIS DEEPLY EDUCATIVE VIDEO . FROM THE BEGINNING OF THIS VIDEO TO THE END, YOU KEPT DROPPING WISDOM GEMS, EXTREMELY VALUABLE TO THE SOCIETY OF TODAY AND FOR THE FORSEEABLE FUTURE . YOUR WORDS ARE DEFINITELY OF INESTIMABLE WORTH , WORTH ITS WEIGHT IN GOLD. .ITS OBVIOUS HOW EVOLVED YOU ARE, WAY AHEAD OF THE TIMES. YOU ARE IMPACTING THE WORLD ONE VIDEO AT A TIME. KEEP THEM COMING.
Thanks so much.
Not many men who can say this. Empty your life into many. Flowers to you while you are alive
The best message for married couples in 2024 ❤❤❤
‘Detoxify him, don’t look at me like that’ 😂
What a confident and righteous man! Family is blessed, and the world can add another man's step toward advancement.
Area grandfather you have hit the nail on the head. 🎉❤
You are a gift to humanity. You have too much wisdom sir.
Thank you so much, Dr Charles Apoki
Am a silent follower,i watch evey video you produce because you are oozing wisdom,Bless you grandfather
Dr. Apoki, you make sense. You are also humorous. How many doors did you lock, to escape? 😂
Thanks Dr Apoki. What a gem.
Just learnt that Lewis Hamilton’s)the F1 driver) Parents divorced very early as the wife wanted a quiet life but his father was very ambitious and coached Lewis to be the number one driver in the world.
What I am trying to say is that sometimes husband and wife could end up growing apart based on the intensity of their ambitions.
This is a 'beautiful' way of putting it. Drill deep.
That's a stupid reason to divorce. You can have your career and not involve your spouse in it of they aren't interested.
@@JosephineEze79 “every man has got the right to decide their own destiny. In that judgement there’s no partality” - Bob Marley
Dear Mentor, the small gal has no children to look after, no stress of managing a family; reason she told that married woman that she can change her husband within 2 weeks. Men should be God fearing and stop cheating on their wives, that is my take. Other wise, if this spirit of cheating continues among married men, women will start cheating and that family is finished, children will suffer in the end.
Im still your friend🙏
Thanks Mentor
You are very correct ma'am.
You nailed it ma
The burden is not on the mistress to keep your marriage intact, the burden is on you and your husband.
@@izaben married women have been cheating on their husbands for thousands of years, it’s not only husbands that cheat. You just have to be sure you are In sync with your own husband so you can cheat-proof your own marriage. Period.
On point !!!!!
Wow this is good - the PA story is so funny omg lol
Thank you for counselling us, Dr Apoki.
You have spoken well. Thank you daddy.
Area Grandfather, Dr. Charles Apoki, God bless you for the Frank talk. May He continue to use you to sanitize our world. We shall get in touch sir as the Lord instructs. More Grace! Amen!
Thank you sir. First time listening to you i immediately clicked the subscribe button ✅✅✅✅🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Sir I might nor be right, some men don't forget the way you present your help to them, if you do it with insultive manner they may collect it because they need it at that moment, but may not appreciate it and will never forget how you present your help to them.
I usually don’t comment on videos but I just want to say thank you sir for this video. Was well taught, entertained and learnt a lot. Your funny description using a cougar which is a mountain Lion 🦁 was really funny. Thank you for all you do Sir. Megwo 😅
Vrendo oniovo
Olorogun! Abo vwrovwro😅
You are looking good sir
It hurts to know that your husband is distracted by another woman that has cost u ur right.
I loved listening to this teaching, and I hope I learn from it and hope others too.
i ask , how can a woman dress nicely & attractive to herself nd to her husband when she isnt getting job, no money & besides the man too doesnt take care of his wife! how can life be okay for the woman?
And she does ALL chores in the house, raise their children alone with man throwing some cash at her, now and then. They sre glorified single women!!!
First time listening and I subscribed. Very intelligent, funny and educative person. Mostly respectful of your integrity and honesty. Thank you for your message ❤
Thanks for the advice
This is very inspiring and motivating sir. God bless you sir.
Spot on, Doctor Apoki!!
Great message! Thank you Dr Apoki.
Thank you sir this video is a bomb I pray it goes viral couples need to hear your wisdom sir
Dr Apoko. Thank you for this message. What if the husband is the over religious, timid, naive one?
You have to accept him just like that & concentrate on his other good qualities.
Really- accept him but he is allowed to leave the wife when the shoe is on the other foot. Are you biased with this response?
The massage is for both parties every body is human
Bonjour Mr Charles, c'était la première fois de tomber sur votre vidéo, un grand merci car c'est un vidéo très très instructif pour les hommes qui veulent suivre le bon chemin d'hommes responsables, respectueux des enfants de Dieu.
Simply a masterpiece delivery ❤
Thanks for the teachings
Very instructive and balanced. Thank you sir
Very good advice Sir.Wisdom speaks.
Well-done daddy, this is a well spoken words but l am here to explain that most men can't be satisfied, no matter how long you go in trying to satisfy them but God will help us all. It's only a thing of heart trouble to know that a man you give all still go out to cheat.
I love you my Daddy words can not express GOD WILL ALWAYS BLESS YOU 🙏🙏🙏👍.
Thank you for this eye opener
I respect you so much sir,your wisdom is endless👍👍👍
I am waiting to hear your vision , then I will tell you how I think about this issue . You looking good 👍
Thanks much for sharing your knowledge with us.
"Detoxify him" great word great advice.
Thank you so much for speaking the truth.
Im listening our dear Mentor, Izaben from Kigali👏
Thanks I dedicate this video to you ma'am.
This was too good 😂
Man and woman, value yourself, be disciplined, respect yourself.
GOD BLESS YOU SIR. THANK YOU FOR YOUR WORDS OF WISDOM.
Dr thanks so much for opening our eyes.Remain blessed sir.
Profound Sir. Thank you 🙏
Thanks so much for sharing all these wisdom. May your day be long sir. Much respect. Human don’t learn to live, but just live without thinking or being purposeful often. A life without a map is a life that goes to any direction.
Oloriogun Dr Apoki, megwo Papa
God bless you sir 👏👏👏
What a powerful teaching
Women develop your self. Marriage is a scam and a trap. Value yourself. You job is not to support your husband. Kmow your worth and have a peaceful life.
You get it 10000000%!!!
In the West
@@susuilu there are no exemptions
I tell u
@@susuiluand now in Naija 😂
I wish all urhobo men can be disciplined like you sir .
I'm learning back to back from your videos Sir. Thank you.
I like your perspective sir an I look forward to WHY WOMEN CHEAT
That's another assignment. I will work on it.
This dress is beautiful on you sir since is made since 2015 that means you are keeping fit
Your key points, consequences the value for marriage integrity and honor till eternity, but many of them lack integrity
Thank you Sir 🎉🎉🎉
Dr Apoki, many thanks ❤. Usually I simply watch, This is the first video, that I have not just watched but also read all comments. You are oozing with wisdom Dr Apoki. Many thanks
My lesson note.
As woman upgrade yourself to meet the standard of your husband.
No man wants to be controlled by his wife.
Distance can cause barrier in your marriage, when not well managed.
Don't be too emotional as a woman instead be strategic in your thinking.
Thank you sir.
Excellently said sir. Thanks
Dear mentor thanking for your daily advice
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Dr. Aaaaapooookiiii ❤ much love from the uk
kigali Rwanda we are watching sir
Well said, very informative and life changing, your sense of humor is top notch, but listening to you carefully about the Jerusalem part, that is not all what marriage is based on, like you said, in the beginning you have a lot of feelings then it disappears, so if men have fantasies, why can’t they introduce their wives rather than going to the next door woman.