The only niceness a guy should be is to himself. When it comes to women, be direct to the point, assertive, and if she says no and desires friendship...Walk.
I agree with all of that. However, I wouldn't be so fast with walking away. In the past I've made really good friends with a woman because either she or I were upfront and said we just wanted to be friends and the other accepted it. The relationship helped with business, school, and even with her helping me with other women. No wingman better than a wingwoman. Trust me. Also, walking away seems kind of selfish. It's almost communicating "you have little value outside romantic pursuit". Of course, when let's just be friends is actually just a nice way to say I want nothing to do with you, then for sure move on.
Just be nice. Use Assertiveness with caution. If you mixed the two together, a WOMAN will know where you stand as a man. However, if you're "kind" you're not going to get too far with a potential, but if you're truly a nice person (Who she's attracted to), you in fact will go far with the potential. Females don't want to hear a man say no all the time (Major turnoff). Be available for her NO matter what, where, and who your with, be available for her. Remember, in the end The Nice Guy does win! Not the kind one (once in the blue when she's desperate). Trust me, I'm a true female.
If you are struggling here are few books to read: 1. No more mr. Nice guy by Robert Glover 2. The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi (all 3 books) 3. Gendernomics 1 and 2. Save thyself brethen.
The problem I see with some of the so called nice guys is insecurity ! The so called nice guy cares too much about what other people's opinion is of them ! Keep hitting them with the wisdom and knowledge jeff !
I'm a female and in the end fellas, Nice Guys Win if the female is attracted to you. If she's not, you're not going to win even if you were the Kind, Bad Guy. 🤷🏽♀️
I used to be the stereotypical "nice guy" in my teens-early twenties. I tried way too hard to be nice, I never said no. I actually believed, when girls said..."Oh, but you're a really nice guy!" they were complimenting me. Haha...how very very very wrong I was! Looking back, I was embarrassingly "nice!" When I think of some of the things I did to TRY to win a girl's heart...omg CRINGE! I've been through a lot in life, and it's totally hardened me up. I haven't been, nor will I ever be, that pathetic "nice guy" again. I'm kind, but the "nice guy" left the building long ago. Guys, trust me, you NEVER wanna hear a girl tell you what a "nice guy" you are, it's the kiss-of-death!
The "NO BEING THE MOST POWERFUL WORD" really struck home...this has been one of my personal battles. Make no mistake, it is hard to say no if you are a 'make-the-sacrifice' person like me. I am learning, and this video truly was meant for me. Thank you.
Mannnnn the fact that you are teaching me how to dress and be a better man says a lot. My dad was a no show so here I am in my mid 30s getting every bit of your knowledge. Thank you sir !
@@TheStyleOG I used to be nice but not firm enough and it took some bad experiences to change that in me because I was taken for granted a few times and that wasn't going to cut it.
I love an aggressive take control masculine man. Be direct! Say what you want! And lead!! Not control, LEAD!! Be kind. No women respects a push over. All 10 points on point! That nice, needy, always available guy is the biggest turn off in the world. Great video HQOG!
@@anonymousperson8301 Leading is a man's God given birth right. He leads by being the head of his household securing, covering, protecting providing for his family/household. Leading he respects his wife/partners input and say in a matter or decision, but he has the final say. Controlling is expecting things to be done simply because he says it with no if's, ands, or buts about it. No one has a voice but him because he is the man.
@@curtisstapleton7167 Every woman is different and I'm telling you, most women prefer nice men! I'm a female and I don't want a kind guy. I want a nice guy with an edge. 😉
These are all FACTS. Nice guys have to do a serious self-assessment about the energy they're putting out and they'll find that everything they think they hate about the guys women want are the things they should be aspiring to. Great stuff, OG!
That was me about 20 years ago. Being nice and getting taken advantage of all the time in the workplace. I swung to the grumpy side to counteract it and it paid off a little but eventually leaned the hard way how and when to say no, and how to say it the right way. Takes some skill and practice but anyone can learn it.
Salute OG . I could've used a good friend, someone like you when I was younger. I turn my "nice guy" on & off. Ur right, from my personal experience. I get ALOT more done, putting 'me' first. Concentrating on MY priorities . Attract positive attention as well. 🤔👊🏽
I asked a good female friend early in my first dating years why I keep getting hurt in relationship. I was too nice because I didn't want to be an asshole. She told me to be a nice asshole. Best advice I ever got. Been working ever since. You have to be a good combination.
Fellas, never worry about being liked. I learned that the hard way in college. I had a girl that I liked, we hit it off very well in the beginning. She kinda had a feeling I liked her and used that to her advantage. I made myself too too available to her - legitimately at her beck and call. One day, I decided to ask her out and she replied with “I’m sorry. I don’t look at you like that. You’re like a brother to me.” That hurt, I’m not even going to lie. I had a talk with a good friend and he told me the truth: I was acting like a pushover. So, I just took that & focused on myself for a bit - polishing myself. I took up some hobbies and actually became the Vice President of my university’s African Student Association, which took a lot of my time. One day, I run into this girl on my way to a student congress meeting. She stopped and gave me a warm, long hug and asked if I could drive her to the mall so she could buy a new outfit. I knew it was for her meeting a guy but, I didn’t really care. I replied to her, “No, I have somewhere important to be.” She asked me if I could drive her after I was done. I replied again, “Nah, I”ll be tired trying to prepare for a student event.” I’m saying this to her as I’m walking away. Y’all should’ve seen the look on her face, like I stole from her or something. Complete shock like “this guy really said no to ME?!?!?” Fast forward a couple of weeks later and I’m vibing with another female who actually liked me on a serious level. I ask her what it was she liked about me. She said, “I see you’re a guy who has things going for himself. I’ve been watching you as the VP of the African student club and I love the leadership and assertiveness you possess.” All in all, just be yourself. Take care of yourself. Have an upstanding aura about you....and learn to say no occasionally.
This video made me realize that people have been taking advantage of me for years, the way I alwaus have their back but when I ask them for help suddenly I'm a stranger
I am a nice guy. I agree with the points you've made. Slowly trying to change, but trust me, there are still tons of [nice] women who don't mind a nice guy. LOL!
I've gotten a few of those things wrong. Mostly being too available and giving too much of myself for people who wouldn't piss on me if I were on fire. Once I figured out how to get out of those ruts, I was much better off. They can see what I'm up to from instagram. Great video OG!
Great info for the Men out there. My Son in Law is a *_"Nice Guy,"_* A very kind caring loving gentleman he is. Few times My Daughter wants to be mean to him. I warn her not to treat him badly when he's the type of Brother who is treating her with love and respect. Due to when good men get tired of the bullshit they leave and may be ruined. He reminds Me so much of My Father, but My Pops had *_Testicular Fortitude_* when people *_"tried"_* to take his kindness for weakness. Many of these points women can take as well on the flip-side, I know I can. I hope You don't get offended being that Your channel info is directed to Men.
Part of being grown and sexy is knowing the definition of "NO" Saying what you mean and meaning what you say!! BTW that blazer is EVERYTHING!! SALUTE!!🤗🤗
Beautiful blazer💕. I've been forwarding your videos to a male friend. His mantra is " I'm a nice guy"; this video is going to be so informative. There is truly a difference between kind and nice. Thanks!!
I which people in general step up in the dressing department; we have become a sloppy nation. What happen to caring about how one looks. BTW, I love the look, especially the color and texture of that jacket.
I love this brother channel. He's ALWAYS on point. I'm guilty of at least 5 outta 10 of the nice guy characteristics. I find it, that the less I give a DAM. The better off or the results I get. Sometimes it depends on the maturity of the man/ woman. That you choose to deal with
I watched this video, to see if I was missing anything, or if I really had a "Nice guy" problem. BUT That was when I was in my Late teens early 20's. And I actually adapted alot of what you are saying now In the video. It has helped me avoid all the BS. Women trying to take advantage, or just people in general. When you learn to be assertive, you attract the RIGHT people. the People that like you for you and your purpose.
Boom! Say no to the kind guys. They don't mind saying no A lot which is a major turnoff. It's like they gotta prove to themselves that no one's going to use them or something. I stay away from those men. Lol
As a former "Nice Guy", I can attest to what the brother is throwing down. After becoming "woke", I discovered that I wasn't appreciated, I learned the power of the word "No", and from then on my life has never been the same. Fantastic life choice!
I love the honesty and tough love coming from you in this video. I don't personally fall into this category but these nice guys needed to hear the tough but helpful truth from someone.
I've literally laughed in the faces of women who've tried to "buddy" or "brother" me. LOL!! I've thanked them for letting me know early that this was going nowhere and kept it pushing. HAHAHA!! Rejection is part of the game and it's a guarantee when you're single. You're not going to float everyone's boat. What has worked for me is to be nice enough to endear yourself to them and mysterious enough to keep them interested. Before you know it they'll be calling you and texting you to see what you're doing and what you've got going on.
As always O.G. a great message. I had to learn this as a young Man only once on the road to adulthood and my Brother was it ugly. Lessons unlearned are lessons repeated.
Yes Sir! I would say I learned these lessons, but in my own time (I wish I knew these traits when I was going through my younger years). My motto was do things my way and let everyone else catch up (meaning I dressed how I liked too and wore the the fragrances I wanted too). I was the guy everyone would take style from and borrow fragrances along with some pointers. Great way to give advice all while wearing that fly jacket and shirt combo! Keep up the outstanding work Sir...
This is such a strong,powerful truth. "FACTS".. Not only do guys have this problem... women being too nice shares the same results. Good video bro. I dffinelty feel you. Great video and excellent advice❤💯 by the way love the outfit. That jacket is dope!!!
What’s up my bro Og. This is one of favorite video great advice my G . Don’t be to much of an nice guy fellas. My man Jeff I love that jacket. Salute my friend
The distinction between "nice" and "kind" is a very nuanced argument, but is an important one. Just this concept alone (#10 on this list) can be life altering.
You mention it here but at 58 the one thing I’ve learned is it’s better to attract than to chase. You’ll still have to chase, but the hunt is much easier when the prey is already predisposed to capture.
There is some big rewards for being the nice guy... Most people will always be there for you and protect you. Be it because they just deeply like you or they are protecting an asset to them or whatever the case you get a lot of protection. Also the the direct more assertive to the point guy might get more instant rewards and gratification however they are usually the first on the brutal chopping block of life so to speak. Also being the nice guy saved my life on more than one occasion while the other not so nice guy didnt survive. A story I cant talk about on here but take my word.
Alright now Uncle Jeff! This is clearly on point . 🙌🏽👀👑🔥👋 Did I mention how necessary you are? Every young man should tune in. I’m forwarding this for sure. So nice to have a brother sharing GEMS while looking Dapper. Salute
Hi Jeff, just wanted you to know this was a fantastic video, been binge watching your videos and they have been a fantastic help to me during a very horrible divorce, been finally starting to look out for myself after always putting others first! Bought myself 3 watches ( all very reasonably priced but nice!) and I’m looking forward to going shopping centres to buy a new wardrobe once most this coved-19 settled down. Peace to you brother. 👊🏻
Great video... I appreciate you taking the time to explain the difference between being kind and being nice.... You can't allow yourself to be taken advantage of in any situation...Salute ....
i was a nice guy, never again. the worst trait every nice guy have is fake kindness. they're only kind to ppl they want to get close with, not only women. the ladies seems to notice this from miles away so they just put them in friendzone all the time. it's dangerous trait i tell you.
Preach S.O.G. right on point bro, saved me a week of fees at the Therapist...lol... What you say....reciprocity! Chuuuurch Pass the offering plate y'all S.O.G. laying it down! What you say "43?" Holla 😎 at a disciple
This is an excellent, excellent video! I wish I had this information when I was in my 20's. I'm going to pass this on to a few friends who need it. Keep up the great work Jeff!
Nice list. Covers the basics. Another thing about nice guys is that they are too d@mn apologetic. I am not saying be a jerk, but you can't please everybody all the time; no matter what you say or what you do.
Some women are attracted to the wrong guys, however I know far more women married to very good guys than the few married to “bad guys.” Being a nice guy doesn’t mean being a doormat. Value your own dignity and if a women isn’t treating you well, then move on.
What's up Jeff Donald from Cincinnati checking in how are you doing just wanted to let you know that you are the truth and you give great advice keep up the great work and as always Salute
I also had 2 learn how 2 say no as well. As I learned in life, you're not gonna make everyone happy. Some women would try to put guys on a guilt trip when they say no. Once I got caught on to that game, I caused it to backfire on them.
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The only niceness a guy should be is to himself. When it comes to women, be direct to the point, assertive, and if she says no and desires friendship...Walk.
Indeed Larry !
@@TheStyleOG my reason for the statement brother O.G. I was one of those nice guys in my younger years, now as a mature man, I learned.
Word
I agree with all of that. However, I wouldn't be so fast with walking away. In the past I've made really good friends with a woman because either she or I were upfront and said we just wanted to be friends and the other accepted it. The relationship helped with business, school, and even with her helping me with other women. No wingman better than a wingwoman. Trust me. Also, walking away seems kind of selfish. It's almost communicating "you have little value outside romantic pursuit".
Of course, when let's just be friends is actually just a nice way to say I want nothing to do with you, then for sure move on.
Just be nice. Use Assertiveness with caution. If you mixed the two together, a WOMAN will know where you stand as a man. However, if you're "kind" you're not going to get too far with a potential, but if you're truly a nice person (Who she's attracted to), you in fact will go far with the potential. Females don't want to hear a man say no all the time (Major turnoff). Be available for her NO matter what, where, and who your with, be available for her. Remember, in the end The Nice Guy does win! Not the kind one (once in the blue when she's desperate). Trust me, I'm a true female.
*Mistake #1 - "Placing women on pedestals"*
I have to agree.
I had to advise my boy don't hold a woman in Angelic status just becasue of the shape of her face (good looking).
Treat her like a star she will treat you like a fan
If you put women on a pedestal, they will have no choice but to look down upon you.
Sad ..but tru
@@luisw3406 ..whoa !!!!!
Nice
If you are struggling here are few books to read:
1. No more mr. Nice guy by Robert Glover
2. The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi (all 3 books)
3. Gendernomics 1 and 2.
Save thyself brethen.
Dudes ain’t really nice that’s it
And HOW TO BEAT A WOMAN AT HER OWN GAMES
That's another good book
Another thing that nice guys should stop doing, if a chick isn't interested, stop saying "What's wrong with me? I'm a nice guy." 🤦🤦
Truth !
Absolutely! Why invite insult to injury? You’ve already been told there’s no interest. Don’t belabor the point!
So when hard times hit - the Nice Guy should not help her and tell her ask the pretty boy for help!
The problem I see with some of the so called nice guys is insecurity ! The so called nice guy cares too much about what other people's opinion is of them ! Keep hitting them with the wisdom and knowledge jeff !
Will do Mark!
I'm a female and in the end fellas, Nice Guys Win if the female is attracted to you. If she's not, you're not going to win even if you were the Kind, Bad Guy. 🤷🏽♀️
Nothing is wrong With being nice,it's just that women think it means stupid
I used to be the stereotypical "nice guy" in my teens-early twenties. I tried way too hard to be nice, I never said no. I actually believed, when girls said..."Oh, but you're a really nice guy!" they were complimenting me. Haha...how very very very wrong I was! Looking back, I was embarrassingly "nice!" When I think of some of the things I did to TRY to win a girl's heart...omg CRINGE! I've been through a lot in life, and it's totally hardened me up. I haven't been, nor will I ever be, that pathetic "nice guy" again. I'm kind, but the "nice guy" left the building long ago. Guys, trust me, you NEVER wanna hear a girl tell you what a "nice guy" you are, it's the kiss-of-death!
Appreciate the input!
The "NO BEING THE MOST POWERFUL WORD" really struck home...this has been one of my personal battles. Make no mistake, it is hard to say no if you are a 'make-the-sacrifice' person like me. I am learning, and this video truly was meant for me. Thank you.
No problem!
Mannnnn the fact that you are teaching me how to dress and be a better man says a lot. My dad was a no show so here I am in my mid 30s getting every bit of your knowledge. Thank you sir !
Salute Miguel !
and my dad zero don't even know the letter A
Thanks for saying that there a difference between Nice and Kind. Just like Al Capone said don't let my kindness, have you thinking that I am weak!
You got it Jonathan!
Nothing wrong with being nice but you have to be firm at the same time.
Yup
@@TheStyleOG I used to be nice but not firm enough and it took some bad experiences to change that in me because I was taken for granted a few times and that wasn't going to cut it.
That jacket is 🔥
Bob is the nicest guy in the world, but everyone is always angry with him.
Thanks Dana !
Frfr it is, I wanna see the rest of the outfit.
I love an aggressive take control masculine man. Be direct! Say what you want! And lead!! Not control, LEAD!! Be kind. No women respects a push over. All 10 points on point! That nice, needy, always available guy is the biggest turn off in the world. Great video HQOG!
Thanks Gail !
@@TheStyleOG You're welcome.
What's the difference between leading and controlling?
What's the difference between leading and controlling?
@@anonymousperson8301 Leading is a man's God given birth right. He leads by being the head of his household securing, covering, protecting providing for his family/household. Leading he respects his wife/partners input and say in a matter or decision, but he has the final say. Controlling is expecting things to be done simply because he says it with no if's, ands, or buts about it. No one has a voice but him because he is the man.
Absolutely! There’s a difference between a kind guy and a nice guy💯
Tell em Busayo !
👀👂
@@curtisstapleton7167 Every woman is different and I'm telling you, most women prefer nice men! I'm a female and I don't want a kind guy. I want a nice guy with an edge. 😉
@@JoiCarlaBodyBar..duly noted my sista
@@curtisstapleton7167 Salute ❤️
These are all FACTS. Nice guys have to do a serious self-assessment about the energy they're putting out and they'll find that everything they think they hate about the guys women want are the things they should be aspiring to. Great stuff, OG!
Thanks CJ!
Loving that jacket bro!
Thanks!
Yes very cool !
Mean jacket
Yeah it's tight
That was me about 20 years ago. Being nice and getting taken advantage of all the time in the workplace. I swung to the grumpy side to counteract it and it paid off a little but eventually leaned the hard way how and when to say no, and how to say it the right way. Takes some skill and practice but anyone can learn it.
Can be done !
100% brother ! "Be a kind person " and "know your value " ! 💯❤
Yes Sir !
Salute OG . I could've used a good friend, someone like you when I was younger. I turn my "nice guy" on & off. Ur right, from my personal experience. I get ALOT more done, putting 'me' first. Concentrating on MY priorities . Attract positive attention as well. 🤔👊🏽
Indeed !
I asked a good female friend early in my first dating years why I keep getting hurt in relationship. I was too nice because I didn't want to be an asshole. She told me to be a nice asshole. Best advice I ever got. Been working ever since. You have to be a good combination.
Grey areas my G! The key to life
You can be a decent human being without being a simp or a pushover.
Fellas, never worry about being liked. I learned that the hard way in college. I had a girl that I liked, we hit it off very well in the beginning. She kinda had a feeling I liked her and used that to her advantage. I made myself too too available to her - legitimately at her beck and call. One day, I decided to ask her out and she replied with “I’m sorry. I don’t look at you like that. You’re like a brother to me.” That hurt, I’m not even going to lie. I had a talk with a good friend and he told me the truth: I was acting like a pushover. So, I just took that & focused on myself for a bit - polishing myself. I took up some hobbies and actually became the Vice President of my university’s African Student Association, which took a lot of my time.
One day, I run into this girl on my way to a student congress meeting. She stopped and gave me a warm, long hug and asked if I could drive her to the mall so she could buy a new outfit. I knew it was for her meeting a guy but, I didn’t really care. I replied to her, “No, I have somewhere important to be.” She asked me if I could drive her after I was done. I replied again, “Nah, I”ll be tired trying to prepare for a student event.” I’m saying this to her as I’m walking away. Y’all should’ve seen the look on her face, like I stole from her or something. Complete shock like “this guy really said no to ME?!?!?”
Fast forward a couple of weeks later and I’m vibing with another female who actually liked me on a serious level. I ask her what it was she liked about me. She said, “I see you’re a guy who has things going for himself. I’ve been watching you as the VP of the African student club and I love the leadership and assertiveness you possess.”
All in all, just be yourself. Take care of yourself. Have an upstanding aura about you....and learn to say no occasionally.
Points well made O.G. Especially about being a introvert. That hit home. How about a vid on top things to do on a first date. Salute‼️
Salute!
This video made me realize that people have been taking advantage of me for years, the way I alwaus have their back but when I ask them for help suddenly I'm a stranger
Time for change!
Good one Style OG Jeff.
My dad used to say,
“Stay interesting.”
Glad you put it in the list.
Saaaaalute.
Salute!
Eleven minutes of valuable information..Listen to this man, fellas..I've been there and balance is the key.
Salute!
What did you experience?
Good info, Jeff. I’m pretty guilty when it comes to some of this. I’ve often felt cursed by being “the nice guy”.
Thanks John !
“Nice” = gross
Respectful = sexy
Great video Jeff it goes both ways I've had to learn how to say no and stand firm best lesson I've learned.
Thanks Tineshia!
👀
I’m nice by nature I can’t help it
It has helped more than hurt🤷🏿♂️
But to each is own 👍🏿
Jeff my guy you are so correct. Something I was always taught was be a good guy not a "nice" guy
I like it !
I like how Jeff is like, "i use to let my style talk for me" and now i gotta go watch that spring dress video lol
I SHOWED THIS TO MY DOG, HE WENT OUT AND BIT SOMEONE
🤣🤣🤣🤣👌🏽💯
🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Haha your dog’s a jerk!
Hilarious
I replied at the beginning but actually this was one of your best videos. Very practical and accurate. Great!
Thanks!
I am a nice guy. I agree with the points you've made. Slowly trying to change, but trust me, there are still tons of [nice] women who don't mind a nice guy. LOL!
Be kind, not nice..
I've gotten a few of those things wrong. Mostly being too available and giving too much of myself for people who wouldn't piss on me if I were on fire. Once I figured out how to get out of those ruts, I was much better off. They can see what I'm up to from instagram. Great video OG!
Thanks Ryan !
Move in silence ! Much safer..
Great info for the Men out there. My Son in Law is a *_"Nice Guy,"_* A very kind caring loving gentleman he is. Few times My Daughter wants to be mean to him. I warn her not to treat him badly when he's the type of Brother who is treating her with love and respect. Due to when good men get tired of the bullshit they leave and may be ruined. He reminds Me so much of My Father, but My Pops had *_Testicular Fortitude_* when people *_"tried"_* to take his kindness for weakness.
Many of these points women can take as well on the flip-side, I know I can. I hope You don't get offended being that Your channel info is directed to Men.
Appreciate your input !
Part of being grown and sexy is knowing the definition of "NO" Saying what you mean and meaning what you say!! BTW that blazer is EVERYTHING!! SALUTE!!🤗🤗
Salute Danna !
Beautiful blazer💕.
I've been forwarding your videos to a male friend. His mantra is " I'm a nice guy"; this video is going to be so informative. There is truly a difference between kind and nice. Thanks!!
Thanks F!
That blazer is the bees knees. I like it.
Thanks David!
Understanding no is huge! People will take advantage of you.
Indeed Kenneth !
Always looking dapper as usual!!! Saaaaalute
Salute Robbie !
Kind, compassionate, firm, and smells good. Sounds like an ideal guy 😍
Appreciate the input Marie !
Brother Jeff that jacket is dope 🔥
Thanks JT!
Yeah that jack is 🔥
Yea the OG swag stay on point 👌🏾.
Yes the jacket is Fly.. Blue shirt bring out the detail in the jacket.. Nice and suttle.. And this msg was definitely informal...
Jacket is on point!
Great information you’re sharing with us Brothers man!! I Salute back at you!!! Thx😊
No problem!
Hopefully the men will listen to this very important message & advice.
Tell em Michelle !
👀👂
Where did all of that animosity come from based on her saying it was good advice ?
I which people in general step up in the dressing department; we have become a sloppy nation. What happen to caring about how one looks. BTW, I love the look, especially the color and texture of that jacket.
Thanks Marsha !
I love this brother channel. He's ALWAYS on point. I'm guilty of at least 5 outta 10 of the nice guy characteristics. I find it, that the less I give a DAM. The better off or the results I get. Sometimes it depends on the maturity of the man/ woman. That you choose to deal with
Appreciate the input Anthony !
I watched this video, to see if I was missing anything, or if I really had a "Nice guy" problem. BUT That was when I was in my Late teens early 20's. And I actually adapted alot of what you are saying now In the video. It has helped me avoid all the BS. Women trying to take advantage, or just people in general. When you learn to be assertive, you attract the RIGHT people. the People that like you for you and your purpose.
Well said !
Your look is 🔥today. Love❤️that jacket.
In addition to your list, women want a guy that respects them.
Thanks D!
The Style O.G. You're welcome! Im stating the obvious but that shade of blue is perfect for your skin tone.
Respect on that video. I always said its better to be kind than nice because nice really is phony to me cuz there's a hidden agenda
Appreciate the feedback!
I don’t mind a “Nice guy” as long as he has an edge. 💋
There ya go !
Boom! Say no to the kind guys. They don't mind saying no A lot which is a major turnoff. It's like they gotta prove to themselves that no one's going to use them or something. I stay away from those men. Lol
That jacket is CRAAAAAZY !!!!!! Nice OG !
Thanks!
As a former "Nice Guy", I can attest to what the brother is throwing down. After becoming "woke", I discovered that I wasn't appreciated, I learned the power of the word "No", and from then on my life has never been the same. Fantastic life choice!
Appreciate the input William !
I love the honesty and tough love coming from you in this video. I don't personally fall into this category but these nice guys needed to hear the tough but helpful truth from someone.
Salute Michael!
That jacket is killing it!!! Thanks OG for the tip.
Appreciate that!
Nicely said Sir. Nice topic even for the jerks. We all have aunts, sisters, daughters or moms.... Grown man talk!
Salute Bobby !
O.G...that jacket was screaming while you were talking...oh good points!
Ha !
I've literally laughed in the faces of women who've tried to "buddy" or "brother" me. LOL!! I've thanked them for letting me know early that this was going nowhere and kept it pushing. HAHAHA!! Rejection is part of the game and it's a guarantee when you're single. You're not going to float everyone's boat. What has worked for me is to be nice enough to endear yourself to them and mysterious enough to keep them interested. Before you know it they'll be calling you and texting you to see what you're doing and what you've got going on.
Well said !
@@TheStyleOG thansk brotha Jeff. I enjoy the channel. Keep the good content coming.
As always O.G. a great message. I had to learn this as a young Man only once on the road to adulthood and my Brother was it ugly. Lessons unlearned are lessons repeated.
Yes Sir! I would say I learned these lessons, but in my own time (I wish I knew these traits when I was going through my younger years). My motto was do things my way and let everyone else catch up (meaning I dressed how I liked too and wore the the fragrances I wanted too). I was the guy everyone would take style from and borrow fragrances along with some pointers. Great way to give advice all while wearing that fly jacket and shirt combo! Keep up the outstanding work Sir...
Will do !
This is such a strong,powerful truth. "FACTS".. Not only do guys have this problem... women being too nice shares the same results. Good video bro. I dffinelty feel you. Great video and excellent advice❤💯 by the way love the outfit. That jacket is dope!!!
Appreciate you Sis!
I understand. I can't stop saying NO now. 😂
What’s up my bro Og. This is one of favorite video great advice my G . Don’t be to much of an nice guy fellas. My man Jeff I love that jacket. Salute my friend
Thanks as always Glenn !
Glenn what's up FAM ,long time brotha what's being going ...
Cashmere Funk am good my bro what about you. .
I'm good I'm good brother just doing what I'm supposed to be doing
Cashmere Funk That’s good stay safe my bro.
The distinction between "nice" and "kind" is a very nuanced argument, but is an important one. Just this concept alone (#10 on this list) can be life altering.
Indeed !
Just be yourself....treat women like you want to be treated. #RESPECTABLE
Indeed Queen !
Great video. The truth. Period.
Salute Lincoln !
You mention it here but at 58 the one thing I’ve learned is it’s better to attract than to chase. You’ll still have to chase, but the hunt is much easier when the prey is already predisposed to capture.
There is some big rewards for being the nice guy... Most people will always be there for you and protect you. Be it because they just deeply like you or they are protecting an asset to them or whatever the case you get a lot of protection. Also the the direct more assertive to the point guy might get more instant rewards and gratification however they are usually the first on the brutal chopping block of life so to speak. Also being the nice guy saved my life on more than one occasion while the other not so nice guy didnt survive. A story I cant talk about on here but take my word.
Well said things to always remember
Thanks Paul !
Now....that’s a “nice” blazer dear
Ha! Thanks
Love your vids Jeff, where is a good place to buy pocket squares that aren’t expensive but good quality?
That jacket and shirt combo is ROCKIN' my man!.....
Thanks Dennis !
Great subject and you nailed it
Thanks Leon !
Alright now Uncle Jeff! This is clearly on point . 🙌🏽👀👑🔥👋 Did I mention how necessary you are? Every young man should tune in. I’m forwarding this for sure. So nice to have a brother sharing GEMS while looking Dapper. Salute
Appreciate you Jae !
Great video OG, the jacket is on point.
Thanks Morris !
Love the jacket. Don’t think I could pull it off but it looks great on you.
Thanks Michael!
Can't wait to try out ths pickup line "I'm just going to be nice to you so that you are gonna owe me" :P
THANKS JEFF
Ha !
To all kind and kompassionate guys, Salute!
Hi Jeff, just wanted you to know this was a fantastic video, been binge watching your videos and they have been a fantastic help to me during a very horrible divorce, been finally starting to look out for myself after always putting others first! Bought myself 3 watches ( all very reasonably priced but nice!) and I’m looking forward to going shopping centres to buy a new wardrobe once most this coved-19 settled down. Peace to you brother. 👊🏻
Happy to have helped!
Another gem! Thanks for the great content and bringing clarification to Nice guy vs Kind guy.
Salute Lady !
Excellent advice for both nice guys and nice young ladies! Kindness is king (along with "fit").
Also, today's outfit = opposite of boring! 😏
Ha !
Great video... I appreciate you taking the time to explain the difference between being kind and being nice.... You can't allow yourself to be taken advantage of in any situation...Salute ....
Salute Donny !
Hi jeff you right on Target with one, i was that guy , but i mix it up a little Now things are much better, HooYah.
Salute Cuthbert !
i was a nice guy, never again. the worst trait every nice guy have is fake kindness. they're only kind to ppl they want to get close with, not only women. the ladies seems to notice this from miles away so they just put them in friendzone all the time. it's dangerous trait i tell you.
Agreed !
You got that right....dont simp!
Great video. Great advice. Thanks, man!
No problem Reed !
Great video! I definitely agree with the fact that some “nice guys” can be very boring. I’ve run in to this guy quite a few times.
Thanks Rhonda !
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blueprint101 yo momma
Same can be said for women. Especially vapid ones.
wade_county I’m sure that’s true.
Jeff is like the big brother I never had Salute OG
Salute David !
Preach S.O.G. right on point bro, saved me a week of fees at the Therapist...lol... What you say....reciprocity! Chuuuurch
Pass the offering plate y'all S.O.G. laying it down! What you say "43?" Holla 😎 at a disciple
Salute DJ!
Good morning OG just saw this video great tips. Love that jacket. As always wonderful content and depth of the “ Nice Guy”.
Thanks Al!
Great commentary O.G. and nice jacket too.!!!!!!!!!
Thanks Ivy !
This is an excellent, excellent video! I wish I had this information when I was in my 20's. I'm going to pass this on to a few friends who need it. Keep up the great work Jeff!
Will do !
Nice list. Covers the basics. Another thing about nice guys is that they are too d@mn apologetic. I am not saying be a jerk, but you can't please everybody all the time; no matter what you say or what you do.
Appreciate the input !
@@TheStyleOG As I approach 50, I am rocking more hats (less hair). Do you have a Fall hat video in the plans?
In the works
facts
Really just being direct about what you want while not being a jerk is how you end up in that grey area. Love your videos man!!
Thanks!
Thank you for this video!!! Brother I know I have some work to do!!!
You got it Jerry !
Great video bruh....on time!
Thanks Michael!
Some women are attracted to the wrong guys, however I know far more women married to very good guys than the few married to “bad guys.” Being a nice guy doesn’t mean being a doormat. Value your own dignity and if a women isn’t treating you well, then move on.
Appreciate the input Steve !
Blessed Rivers & Streams Thanks, and the same for women, right?:)
Exactly.
What's up Jeff Donald from Cincinnati checking in how are you doing just wanted to let you know that you are the truth and you give great advice keep up the great work and as always Salute
The video is on point!
Thanks!
Jeff....bro that jacket is to dope fam......
Good tips.....been sharing the vids man we need to get you to the 5 million sub spot bro
Appreciate you Jason !
Great video
Thanks Zachary!
At the end of the day a naturally kind person is the most attractive characteristic a man or woman can have.
Indeed!
I also had 2 learn how 2 say no as well. As I learned in life, you're not gonna make everyone happy. Some women would try to put guys on a guilt trip when they say no. Once I got caught on to that game, I caused it to backfire on them.