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Telling a friend that married the wrong person I wouldn’t say anything trust your friend don’t get involved that’s on the friend and her choice . Dad who didn’t attend that wedding he missed out on the one night that was a great missed opportunity that missed he’s never going that opportunity once in a lifetime if the bride and or groom’s father that’s hurtful and it sucks that father should’ve grown a pair and go to that wedding missed opportunity
The one that was talking about a cheap man... the guys all said she was a total gold digger for looking for him to pay everything for her. If they went and watched her again, that's not what she said. She said if he OFFERED to pay for parking, etc. She just doesn't want to go for lunch at Costco on sample Sundays.
As a female... I only can agree with a few, 100% agree with Keith on the ones who were almost right, but then flip it or word it poorly... and that girl who doesn't want another woman in her man's life is an absolute sociopath. How's he gonna learn about treating a woman right without any women in his life?
I mean in some cases it’s mainly because of dudes with moms that act like they’re practically in love with their own son and whatnot likely. She likely has experienced something like that which is why she said that
@@xDarkTrinityx By watching stupid videos on the internet where everyone thinks they are experts on women, but have had 12 girlfriends or 3 failed marriages. Real "experts".
Okay, the woman who didn’t want her male partner to have female family members is seriously disturbing. Someone get her therapy for life, and maybe put her in a watch list or something. That needs to be both unpacked, and contained.
We all have insecurities. I think the point here is being with someone that allows insecurities to drive behaviors; like getting jealous or becoming controlling, etc…
Agreed! I actually think the opposite applies for me- I think everyone is better than me, and focus all of my energy on making the people I love shine! Sounds more like what she was referring to was someone who is insecure about their relationship, not themself.
Some of these ladies are making us all look bad. My husband and I dated for two years before we got married. In that time we went out on dates a few handful of times. I didn’t care he wasn’t spending his hard earned money on me. I cared about the time he spent with me and how he treated me. We just celebrated our 20th anniversary last month. Love and money are not equal and doesn’t show how someone feels about you 🤦🏻♀️ Also, Jackson getting angry had me laughing. He looks so innocent and then he’s like “no 🤬 that” 😂
9:20 Woman feels threatened by family members or as Keith said, she's experienced something with family members of an ex. The "emotional men" part is also incredibly ridiculous. Like, why shouldn't a guy be able to express himself?
I have an ex whose sister treated me like I was the mistress and SHE was the true girlfriend, plus he had a mother who groomed him and made him basically helpless without someone making decisions for him, so, to an extent I get it
@@angelapplepie I have to start off by saying I'm terribly sorry that happened to you. Also, with situations like that, it IS understandable you'd rather your partner had no other women in his life. Though, you never really know what goes on in another person's family until you've witnessed it yourself. Judging someone's family before you've met them is wrong. If you DO meet them and they turn out to be toxic, THEN I get it.
Regarding the still talking to his ex one... What if he has kids with said ex? Most seperated parents need to stay in touch at least to some degree if they have split custody...
Probably Not. They ALL sounded like "HIGH MAINTENANCE and DONT want to be Tied Down with Someone Else's Kids." In other words " It's ALL About ME NOT YOU" Attitude!
One of my biggest red flags is a girl who will actively get angry with you if you hold a door open for her. I've had that happen on a couple first dates and there's never been a second. I understand that you are strong independent woman. I love strong independent women! But let's not try to bunch common courtesy and misogyny in the same group. If she gets to the door first and holds the door for me, I will say thank you very much and trot my little a$$ thru! 😂😂😂😂
It's called manners. I always thank a guy who holds a door open for me. Even I, a women, was taught to hold doors open for people I'm walking ahead of. Glad you're polite.
@@stephanies.114 Who would have thought that a reply to a comment I made almost half a year ago, and had completely forgotten about, would bring a smile to my face. Thanks and have an awesome day! 😊
That one girl who doesn’t want her partner to have a mom, sister, or any female family members ABSOLUTELY is the kind of person where she wants to be the most important woman in her man’s life no matter what
It's so dumb though because of you're married you can still be (and SHOULD be) the most important person in his life whether he has female family member or not.
I kind of agree with the cheap one, but how she said it was way off. Relationships need to be 50/50, so if I pick up the tab sometimes, I expect the same from you. Certain people are cheap and will avoid it at all costs. But I’m not expecting you to buy a bunch of stuff for me. It should be appreciated, not expected.
I've dated seemingly confident men that slowly reveal over time that theyre actually really insecure, and they started to treat me like a therapist instead of girlfriend. I've had a lot of first dates that never turn into second dates because they start oversharing and trauma dumping right off the bat. There's a big difference between finding comfort in expressing deeper emotions with a significant other, and treating your significant other like a therapist to help "heal" you. Two completely different things!
The ex thing is only for young people with no kids. If a person has children with an ex partner, they BETTER still be in contact with their children’s other parent. That’s ridiculous.
Absolutely! That was my first though when I heard that. If I'm in the talking phase with a woman and they have a problem with me being around my daughter's mother, they've just indicated that they have a whole lotta baggage they haven't dealt with, lol.
@@ORLYWTF I don't think that's what they were talking about. i think it was if they have no other reason than just because they want to hang out with them. I'm hoping they also don't just mean saying hi if they happen to run into them at the store or something.
imagine finding a perfect guy, that treats you nicely, is respectful, has good manners, is well raised, is kind and caring... and dumping him because he types in lower case letters 🙃 my fellow women, help me help you!
They probably will, but they also address women and men red flags in this vid too. Like the girl talking about "cheap" guys was not even being accurate about "cheap" she was being toxic. An actual "cheap" guy would be like the reddit story where the guy tipped a waitress $100 bucks, then took his date to the car, and ran back inside to drop the tip down to $20 and threatened the waitress to sue her if she didn't change it. THAT'S "cheap" and "a-hole" behavior because he's putting on a show of great character and then behind closed doors he's shady and nasty AF.
@@HouseMDaddictyes he is an asshole but 100 dollars tips is crazy, as a French we didn’t even need to tips, we did it sometimes but it will be under 5 dollars, it’s pretty normal to not tips in France
Look, I'm a woman and some of these women are really generalising or stereotyping certain things. I don't fully subscribe to that one about a guy having a parent ...like...or family members like....where do you think babies come from girl? Some are understandable....
It's about no female in his life that will call out her BS when it happens. She doesn't want anyone that can recognise when she is manipulating the boyfriend.
6:30 i disagree. as a self aware insecure guy, i can say that while i'd agree that i'm not enough, it's not like I'd drag people down, but i'd be confused why the hell someone so above me would like me. oh, you're worried i'm going to cheat? i'm not sure how I got you, how would I cheat?
I don't use social media that much. I don't want to see people bragging about how good their lives are. I only care about the news. That's why i only use TH-cam.
The posting on social media thing is really strange. I’m quite active on social media, my husband has never posted about us on social media. It’s just not his thing. He’s very private and saves his thoughts and feelings for his friends and close family.
I think that one really depends. I am semi-active on social media, but I wouldn't post about my partner. I don't even post my own pictures, or anything about my life, really, unless it has something to do with my art. I post art and that's it! Though I guess a partner would eventually inspire me to make art for them or about them, but it's a different story:D
In the no titles section Chris Rock’s line from No Sex popped in my head- “If you’ve been dating a man for four months and you haven’t met any of his friends, you are not his girlfriend.”
For the cheap one- she should’ve only said someone who is intentionally cheap is one who does not tip servers appropriately or similarly poor treatment of others. Nothing more than that. You can be frugal, you can use coupons, 100% love that. Half of these are ridiculous though.
Okay...the one where the girl is like "If he has a mom, or a sister, or aunts."....I'm thinking it's more something along the lines of the guy being a Mamma's boy where anything the Mom says takes precedence even if it's something important to the girlfriend/SO, or if he's comparing her to his mom/sister and such like having a sister complex or a mommy complex, that kind of thing. THOSE are red flags. but just having a decent relationship with your family members isn't a bad thing, I'd honestly rather see my SO getting along well with his family, including his mom and sister and aunts exc. Unless of course there's some kind of issue between them, but just don't put your SO in a situation where they are stuck between you and your family, or they feel like they are having to "measure up" to your family, they are their own person.
You absolutely do have to measure up to the family. Stop with the individualistic nonsense. You get involved with somebody you get involved with the family too
@@Alapaloozalover2000 I started following him on Instagram a couple months back and he occasionally posts clips of his work. Super funny dude! (No surprise there.)
Not being able to control your emotions is very different from having emotions and expressing them. Anyone, male or female, who can't control their emotions is dangerous. But knowing how to express them is healthy. There's a difference.
I can't control mine (diagnosed borderline personality disorder), but I am not dangerous to other people. I am more dangerous to myself. I aim it at myself so that I don't become a danger to anyone else. I hate hurting people, and yes, I am getting help. But it takes a long time to get BPD into remission, some say years. So, am I just not supposed to have a relationship for that long? I am in a relationship now, and I couldn't be happier. Yes, we have our arguments here and there. Mostly when I split, tho.
It's possible to have low self-esteem but hold others in high esteem. I don't think highly of myself, but if someone I know is experiencing self-doubt, I instinctively show them their worth. It makes me feel happy when other people are happy.
I don't know about anyone else. But if I have to choose between some random girl I just met, and my mom and sister... I don't care how beautiful and perfect the girl is, I'm choosing my family over you.
I'm 40, and I'm starting to feel really old fashioned when it comes to this whole paying for dates thing. I've ALWAYS split the bill, unless he insists on paying. Paying is a sweet gesture, like giving flowers. When it becomes expected of men, it becomes an obligation. Then it's no longer a sweet gesture he decided to do for me, it's something he feels forced into. I don't think that's fair, and in these financial times, it sucks.
I've been with my man for 15 years in may this year. He has social media, but the only thing he ever use it for is to post his podcast. He talks about me a lot on the podcast and he has the relationship status as in a relationship with me, but other than that he doesnt mention or post about me more than reacting to shit I post. We dont live on social media. We have a strong relationship in real life and that's all I need.
Glad to hear you don't live through your social media. Unfortunately most women are absolutely addicted to it, because of the attention and validation they seek, and the social media feeds that addiction. They don't want to give it up, not even for building and maintaining a healthy relationship with their partner. Social media has actually destroyed dating and relationships, in the modern world. Same applies to dating apps.
@@jreyman yeah Im actually so thankful I dont have to deal with dating today. It seems beyond awful. I do agree that social media has gone too far for many, but I also know a lot of people, women, who dont live through social media either. Mind you, we're in our 30s. The younger generations might be different.
As a woman who doesn’t like having myself known on social media, totally disagree with that lady. There’s nothing really good that comes out of social media anyways, better he also stay away from it
"Jack Sparrow"s name does not start with a 'J'... actually it starts with a 'C', because it's "Captain Jack Sparrow", as he corrects people on a regular basis
She probably got burned a couple of times in regards to being with a guy whose mother and/or sister was being way to involved in the relationship. The kinda guy that's a mama's boy to the point of letting the mom call a lot of the shots. Her better bet of course is to blame the individual guys for being mama's boys and judge future men on how independent they are, mom in their life or not...but I'd be willing to bet money that a negative experience or two like that is what "traumatized" her
I’m best friends with my ex 😂😂we broke up in 2016. She was engaged to my brother with my blessing a few yrs after we broke up but he was killed by a drunk driver. She is basically my Sister in law at this point. Life is a journey, take the journey
Two of my friends became girlfriend and boyfriend once, and they were both happy with each other, and we all were happy together as a group, but then she broke up with him (basically) because of how he was, even after he said he was happy to still be friends, she wouldn't even stay friends with any of us just because we were still friends with him; that to me is ridiculous because why should one friend get downgraded just cos they're friends with an ex?!
@@icecreamman2687 Fair, but she tried to get all of us to forget about him as well. The point I'm trying to make is that you can't choose other people's friends for them.
If a girl is sitting in a situationship and they are just waiting for him to make it official that they are in a relationship together.. Girl is a pushover and is getting played. If you're not being honest, confrontational and communicating respectfully what you want, it's not good for you and it is especially not being good to those you are with.
As someone who is insecure, I will NEVER treat someone badly. Just, no. I’m going to love them more because they take the time to like me, and it’s all that matter.
That's true, but it's a difference between feeling insecure and belitering themselves. Or playing the victim card. People don't feel good around people like these, it's slowly sucking your energy to bring them up. Most will feel better with jerk.
Knew my husband for 6 years before he asked me on a date. We went on our first date and ended up staying out just talking until 2am. Decided to be exclusive the next day and were married in 6 months. Going on 13 years happily married, not that weve never had problems but we communicate and work through them.
I'm a very private person, so if I'm dating someone I don't like posting on social media. Now, if we got engaged? That'd be different. But as long as we're simply dating, I'd never show them.
The "lovebombers" are awful because usually they are just addicted to the honeymoon period. They get all excited and are "in love" until it loses that new car smell and then they ditch you in search of the next "the one". The other options are seriously overcompensating for something bad, or are some flavor of predator.
LISTEN when they were listening and overall agreeing about men who lash out and then the girl in the video took a left turn said "because it's a feminine trait" and they all were like HUH... i lost it 😂😂😂😂😂
Emotions are not a feminine trait... that's absurd. Reacting to feelings inappropriately is a problem for both men and women. Having feelings is human.
@@susucoklatmanis A lot of abusers will love bomb as a way to gain control and eventually it can turn into "nobody will love you like I do" and isolation from friends and family thus furthering control.
10:41 Wait... she basically said that aggression is a feminine trait? Like, is it okay if women are like that? Just like I would stay away from men and women who can't control their emotions and become aggressive easily.
Social media depends on the people individually and the couple. My girlfriend and I have posted to and about each other on Facebook, our status is visible for everyone to see, but she uses social media much less than I do. She doesn't always post big events because she's also fairly private. She prefers her circles small and doesn't care to impress people that don't matter to her. I tend to post a lot more liberally, but when it comes to my personal life and our relationship, I've noticed that as I get older, I'm less willing to share details. Sometimes, it's nice when things are just for the two of us and not the rest of the world.
Girl here and wow I don‘t agree with many red flags of these women. Just be nice, trust eachother and be responsible and that goes for Both parts in the relationship. 🙏🏻
I don't either but from my understanding that was just about people who do use social media, and it's usually just to show that this person is taken, since people may dm you and stuff on social media and they may hesitate starting something if the fact you're in a relationship is made obvious.
The movie one is stupid… they said people will see themselves in their favourite movies… mine is The Green Mile… I can’t relate to a single character in that movie 😂
This is why many men walk away from dating and relationships. Many time expectations are clear as mud at best and unrealistic at worst. They avoid drama because they prefer to be at peace.
Are you serious? We are in the era where men are the most desperate. Woman have finally recognized their worth and the boys in men suits are pressed that they don’t meet their standards anymore. You should look into the 4B mouvement 😏
Red flags 🚩: -Doesn’t respect when you say no. (Tries to badger, threaten or guilt you) -Uses emotional blackmail regularly -Doesn’t hold/demonstrate the same values you do. -Lies
Not all lies are equal. Some are more excusable than others. I think it’s important to think about intent If your partner asks you about a clothing item they think makes them attractive, and they’re really excited and happy about it, but you don’t think it flatters them, are you going to tell them you dislike it?
It just dawned on me that my sister is insecure & that's why she took every chance she had to tear me down. I was academically successful in my youth, oh so long ago, but she had the more prolific social life. I was extremely social as well, but the majority of that revolved around academics too.
The type of relationship a man has with his mom, sisters, aunts, grandma, whatever the case may be, is the first and one of the best indicators on how he treats women. You wanna know if he treats women right, look at how he treats his mom or sisters. My boyfriend LOVES his mom (grandma, he was adopted and raised by her and his grandad) and he adores his little sister. He treats women so well, I couldn't ask for a better man. He treats me like a queen and I only ever want to treat him like a king. I do my best, at least!
Never seeing his place. Like, NEVER. My friend dated a guy for 2 years and NEVER saw his place. I still think she was the side chick, or he’s a serial killer.
Ditto! As an introverted, camera-shy person, I also hate being forced to participate in Insta reels by extroverted people who then make me feel guilty for "spoiling everyone else fun" 🙄
@indianjanesmith me 100%. Especially when people know I'm like that yet they still try and force it. Don't get mad at me when you already know I don't like to participate in your nonsense
My friend doesn't use social media because she doesn't want to get stressed by all the hate and bs on there. So, like if she was to date again, her partner would have to respect her choice not to use social media or just move one.
My ex has been with her current boyfriend for like 7 years. All three of us went to a Paramore concert together and had a blast, hes a decent dude. I can understand people being sketchy about talking to their ex, but the context needs to be read first.
My ex literally listed “you just really want pets and I don’t” when we were breaking up XD but my partner matches my pet freak so well. I’ve got three pythons, and she’s got a tarantula. The cat is shared haha
Also in my experience with love bombers it's not even too much too fast because it's wonderful to feel special, it's more like once the newness wears off things get stale quick. They're not as invested, got you wondering what's going that they went from texting all day and being adorable to kind of stand offish.
I think there are different levels of insecurity. It can definitely be a problem, but it doesn’t mean they want to bring others down. Sometimes it just means they go for toxic perfectionism because they don’t feel that anything they do measures up.
My spouse grew up with lots of women and I'm glad about that because understands menstruation and other personal female issues and is extremely okay with discussing those things with me.
This video is interesting to me because of how different straight dating seems in comparison to being a lesbian. Obviously at the end of the day love is love, but I find the differences interesting. I'm used to the idea of moving in together instantly, having an intense clingy/gift giving phase at the beggining, and dating after either 8 years or 2 months. No in between😭😭 I guess girls are just clingier in general so you put two of us together and... yeah lol. No joke, in my last relationship she said we would "take it slow" and starting talking about marriage and wedding rings not even 6 months in.
The way Nick and I said WHY at the same time when the girl was talking about a man paying her parking had me rolling. I'm sorry but I'm with Nick on this one😂😂😂 2:55
There's so many reasons to why someone would be insecure. Take this video with a grain of salt. Theres often an explanation to why some behave the way they do and everyone can change.
Oh, I still talk to my ex all the time. We were together for five years. Are we going to pretend the other person don’t exist now? He’s a good guy, and I’m lucky to know him. I want him to find a good lady and be happy. We’re all grown-ups.
1. As someone who is insecure & is surprised when people turn out to genuinely like me I have never looked at someone as "oh you think your better" it's more "wow I know it's happening but if i wasn't seeing it with my own eyes I'd never believe it" 2. If you get jealous because I have female relatives & a relationship with them then we can't b3 together cuz you're the kind of person who would get jealous over their own children, God forbidden they're girls 3. "If he lashes out" i can handle my emotions however there are times where everything does bubble up where it's "I've had all i can stands and i can't stands no more"
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for the dad, you will never have that chance again most likely , and prove you are a better man by just going, even if you dont stay
Telling a friend that married the wrong person I wouldn’t say anything trust your friend don’t get involved that’s on the friend and her choice . Dad who didn’t attend that wedding he missed out on the one night that was a great missed opportunity that missed he’s never going that opportunity once in a lifetime if the bride and or groom’s father that’s hurtful and it sucks that father should’ve grown a pair and go to that wedding missed opportunity
Ok, I'm a woman and I'm questioning half these women's mindsets
SAME !!!!
As a guy I’m just curious on which ones you agree on because some of them made sense to me and the others were kind of weird and/ or stupid.
@@noahgoldsmith7384 Exactly, they just seem the most bothered by the least impactful things.
right.. 😂😂😅
Most of these seem like bad boyfriend experiences. The main one I agree with is, don't get string along on a non committed relationship for months.
I really don’t think toxic femininity is talked about enough. Good for them for bringing it up.
Yeah!
The one that was talking about a cheap man... the guys all said she was a total gold digger for looking for him to pay everything for her. If they went and watched her again, that's not what she said. She said if he OFFERED to pay for parking, etc. She just doesn't want to go for lunch at Costco on sample Sundays.
So many of those girls are getting red flags and pet peeves confused
oh man yes yes!
Exactly 💯
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Thank you! That's so it!
As a female... I only can agree with a few, 100% agree with Keith on the ones who were almost right, but then flip it or word it poorly... and that girl who doesn't want another woman in her man's life is an absolute sociopath. How's he gonna learn about treating a woman right without any women in his life?
I mean in some cases it’s mainly because of dudes with moms that act like they’re practically in love with their own son and whatnot likely. She likely has experienced something like that which is why she said that
@@xDarkTrinityx By watching stupid videos on the internet where everyone thinks they are experts on women, but have had 12 girlfriends or 3 failed marriages. Real "experts".
Okay, the woman who didn’t want her male partner to have female family members is seriously disturbing. Someone get her therapy for life, and maybe put her in a watch list or something. That needs to be both unpacked, and contained.
That's the kind of woman who would be jealous of her own daughters
Not everyone who's insecure will treat people badly! It's not fair to lump all of us in one boat like that
We all have insecurities. I think the point here is being with someone that allows insecurities to drive behaviors; like getting jealous or becoming controlling, etc…
@@hatleyhoward7193 That's a better way of explaining that! They said it in a way that just puts insecure people down
Agreed! I actually think the opposite applies for me- I think everyone is better than me, and focus all of my energy on making the people I love shine! Sounds more like what she was referring to was someone who is insecure about their relationship, not themself.
If you’re Blair waldorf insecure yes run lol
Hmm, Im not generally insecure, but when whnever something I am insecure about is brought up, I do tend react pretty badly
Women in the family is crazy. That just seems like insecurity 😬
Yeah, that's a girl that wants the whole world to revolve around her.
@@timisme8360 that girl is a narcissist
Seemed like she escape a mental facility to me.
It just REEEKS insecure
Jaxon's impression at the end had me dying of laughter LOL
Some of these ladies are making us all look bad. My husband and I dated for two years before we got married. In that time we went out on dates a few handful of times. I didn’t care he wasn’t spending his hard earned money on me. I cared about the time he spent with me and how he treated me. We just celebrated our 20th anniversary last month. Love and money are not equal and doesn’t show how someone feels about you 🤦🏻♀️
Also, Jackson getting angry had me laughing. He looks so innocent and then he’s like “no 🤬 that” 😂
Jaxon is mature beyond his years and he’s got a good sense of humor
Most definitely
I fw jaxon heavy id be homies with him
i think he's like thirty-two and suffers from Mulaney Rudd's disease.
9:20 Woman feels threatened by family members or as Keith said, she's experienced something with family members of an ex. The "emotional men" part is also incredibly ridiculous. Like, why shouldn't a guy be able to express himself?
I mean if I had a brother or a son who was dating her, I’d tell them to run away as fast as they could too 😂
I have an ex whose sister treated me like I was the mistress and SHE was the true girlfriend, plus he had a mother who groomed him and made him basically helpless without someone making decisions for him, so, to an extent I get it
@@angelapplepie I have to start off by saying I'm terribly sorry that happened to you. Also, with situations like that, it IS understandable you'd rather your partner had no other women in his life. Though, you never really know what goes on in another person's family until you've witnessed it yourself. Judging someone's family before you've met them is wrong.
If you DO meet them and they turn out to be toxic, THEN I get it.
@@CheyenneEntertainmentYT that I will agree with
@@angelapplepieyeah i agree with that but i think it should have been phrased properly. Like have a toxic boy mom or mamas boy?
Best video in a long time!!!!
Love Jaxon and Brian’s take on these red flags. 🚩
Some of the women in those clips are GIANT red flags 🚩 themselves!!!!
The problem with love bombers is they do it until they got you, then they stop and you find out they're a completely different person.
Or like joe from you and ted from how I met your mother
yes. exactly 😅
Of rapists
Story of my life
10:22 I love how they are nodding along until she drops the “then that is a feminine trait” and then it’s just immediate “OH NOPE” LOL
Regarding the still talking to his ex one... What if he has kids with said ex? Most seperated parents need to stay in touch at least to some degree if they have split custody...
I hope that they didn't consider that factor in their head and would make an exception in those cases
Probably Not. They ALL sounded like "HIGH MAINTENANCE and DONT want to be Tied Down with Someone Else's Kids."
In other words " It's ALL About ME NOT YOU" Attitude!
@@Felyx702that might’ve been the FIRST thing they thought of
One of my biggest red flags is a girl who will actively get angry with you if you hold a door open for her. I've had that happen on a couple first dates and there's never been a second. I understand that you are strong independent woman. I love strong independent women! But let's not try to bunch common courtesy and misogyny in the same group. If she gets to the door first and holds the door for me, I will say thank you very much and trot my little a$$ thru! 😂😂😂😂
It's called manners. I always thank a guy who holds a door open for me. Even I, a women, was taught to hold doors open for people I'm walking ahead of. Glad you're polite.
@@stephanies.114 Who would have thought that a reply to a comment I made almost half a year ago, and had completely forgotten about, would bring a smile to my face. Thanks and have an awesome day! 😊
Communication really is key. If you think a specific action means something, then ask them directly if it means what you think.
Jaxon is really logical and so mature. I really appreciate his mind
That one girl who doesn’t want her partner to have a mom, sister, or any female family members ABSOLUTELY is the kind of person where she wants to be the most important woman in her man’s life no matter what
If she ever has a daughter with some guy, she will pull a Casey Anthony.
@@FGLKyouma Oh absolutely, I legit fear for any potential future daughters this psycho woman has
@@FGLKyouma yeah, I absolutely fear for any potential future daughters this woman might have
Those are the type of women who shouldn't have children. They see their daughters as competition and are weirdly obsessed with their sons
It's so dumb though because of you're married you can still be (and SHOULD be) the most important person in his life whether he has female family member or not.
I kind of agree with the cheap one, but how she said it was way off. Relationships need to be 50/50, so if I pick up the tab sometimes, I expect the same from you. Certain people are cheap and will avoid it at all costs. But I’m not expecting you to buy a bunch of stuff for me. It should be appreciated, not expected.
I've dated seemingly confident men that slowly reveal over time that theyre actually really insecure, and they started to treat me like a therapist instead of girlfriend. I've had a lot of first dates that never turn into second dates because they start oversharing and trauma dumping right off the bat. There's a big difference between finding comfort in expressing deeper emotions with a significant other, and treating your significant other like a therapist to help "heal" you. Two completely different things!
7:47 Having insecurities is different than being an insecure person. Every HAS insecurities but not everyone hates themselves
I think these so-called red flags are just assumptions based on previous experience, and I am not responsible for your assumptions
The ex thing is only for young people with no kids. If a person has children with an ex partner, they BETTER still be in contact with their children’s other parent. That’s ridiculous.
Absolutely! That was my first though when I heard that. If I'm in the talking phase with a woman and they have a problem with me being around my daughter's mother, they've just indicated that they have a whole lotta baggage they haven't dealt with, lol.
@@ORLYWTF I don't think that's what they were talking about. i think it was if they have no other reason than just because they want to hang out with them. I'm hoping they also don't just mean saying hi if they happen to run into them at the store or something.
Same. My husband has to talk to his ex bc of their son. Their convo is ex wife hey can you pay child support and husband yep.thats it haha
imagine finding a perfect guy, that treats you nicely, is respectful, has good manners, is well raised, is kind and caring... and dumping him because he types in lower case letters 🙃 my fellow women, help me help you!
They don’t want help they’re that egotistical
@risevision1080 it's just an expression
as a woman....some of these women are making me sad lol
Only some ? You mean like 90% of them ?😂
I personally just see 2 réal red flags here
I wish I was a man
I agree, especially with those who stereotypically think that one thing is ok for a specific gender.
Time to flip it and do men's red flags about women
And most will be justified unlike most of these.
They probably will, but they also address women and men red flags in this vid too. Like the girl talking about "cheap" guys was not even being accurate about "cheap" she was being toxic. An actual "cheap" guy would be like the reddit story where the guy tipped a waitress $100 bucks, then took his date to the car, and ran back inside to drop the tip down to $20 and threatened the waitress to sue her if she didn't change it. THAT'S "cheap" and "a-hole" behavior because he's putting on a show of great character and then behind closed doors he's shady and nasty AF.
Yes definitely
@@HouseMDaddictyes he is an asshole but 100 dollars tips is crazy, as a French we didn’t even need to tips, we did it sometimes but it will be under 5 dollars, it’s pretty normal to not tips in France
Look, I'm a woman and some of these women are really generalising or stereotyping certain things. I don't fully subscribe to that one about a guy having a parent ...like...or family members like....where do you think babies come from girl? Some are understandable....
It's about no female in his life that will call out her BS when it happens. She doesn't want anyone that can recognise when she is manipulating the boyfriend.
@@blinkybill2198 Dare I say she wants her prey isolated.
Jesus Christ, dating in the US seems so incredibly toxic.
its not just the us, im from germany and i can tell you i have seen similar shit. i believe its just the western culture dating that is bonkers
100% it's western women
@@db1872 completely agree
@@nikcube8196 I married a Turkish woman and have never been happier
@@db1872 happy to hear buddy
6:30 i disagree. as a self aware insecure guy, i can say that while i'd agree that i'm not enough, it's not like I'd drag people down, but i'd be confused why the hell someone so above me would like me.
oh, you're worried i'm going to cheat? i'm not sure how I got you, how would I cheat?
I don't use social media that much. I don't want to see people bragging about how good their lives are. I only care about the news. That's why i only use TH-cam.
The posting on social media thing is really strange. I’m quite active on social media, my husband has never posted about us on social media. It’s just not his thing. He’s very private and saves his thoughts and feelings for his friends and close family.
I think that one really depends. I am semi-active on social media, but I wouldn't post about my partner.
I don't even post my own pictures, or anything about my life, really, unless it has something to do with my art. I post art and that's it!
Though I guess a partner would eventually inspire me to make art for them or about them, but it's a different story:D
In the no titles section Chris Rock’s line from No Sex popped in my head- “If you’ve been dating a man for four months and you haven’t met any of his friends, you are not his girlfriend.”
For the cheap one- she should’ve only said someone who is intentionally cheap is one who does not tip servers appropriately or similarly poor treatment of others. Nothing more than that. You can be frugal, you can use coupons, 100% love that.
Half of these are ridiculous though.
Okay...the one where the girl is like "If he has a mom, or a sister, or aunts."....I'm thinking it's more something along the lines of the guy being a Mamma's boy where anything the Mom says takes precedence even if it's something important to the girlfriend/SO, or if he's comparing her to his mom/sister and such like having a sister complex or a mommy complex, that kind of thing. THOSE are red flags. but just having a decent relationship with your family members isn't a bad thing, I'd honestly rather see my SO getting along well with his family, including his mom and sister and aunts exc. Unless of course there's some kind of issue between them, but just don't put your SO in a situation where they are stuck between you and your family, or they feel like they are having to "measure up" to your family, they are their own person.
You absolutely do have to measure up to the family. Stop with the individualistic nonsense. You get involved with somebody you get involved with the family too
Wrong. She’s one of those women who gets jealous of their own daughters when their men show the lil ones more attention
That means most women are daddies girls? Expecting dad treatment protection and provision?
Gina: Are you funny?
Nick: No!
...says the guy who does standup comedy 😂
Wait, Nick does stand up comedy?!
@@Alapaloozalover2000 I started following him on Instagram a couple months back and he occasionally posts clips of his work. Super funny dude! (No surprise there.)
wait.. 😮 seriously
Not being able to control your emotions is very different from having emotions and expressing them. Anyone, male or female, who can't control their emotions is dangerous. But knowing how to express them is healthy. There's a difference.
I can't control mine (diagnosed borderline personality disorder), but I am not dangerous to other people. I am more dangerous to myself. I aim it at myself so that I don't become a danger to anyone else. I hate hurting people, and yes, I am getting help. But it takes a long time to get BPD into remission, some say years. So, am I just not supposed to have a relationship for that long? I am in a relationship now, and I couldn't be happier. Yes, we have our arguments here and there. Mostly when I split, tho.
Some of those women have a problem. Insecurity and immaturity is sad. The social media one killed me.
It's possible to have low self-esteem but hold others in high esteem. I don't think highly of myself, but if someone I know is experiencing self-doubt, I instinctively show them their worth. It makes me feel happy when other people are happy.
I don't know about anyone else. But if I have to choose between some random girl I just met, and my mom and sister... I don't care how beautiful and perfect the girl is, I'm choosing my family over you.
I like it when the Smosh cast stays at REACT's house for the weekend.
I'm 40, and I'm starting to feel really old fashioned when it comes to this whole paying for dates thing. I've ALWAYS split the bill, unless he insists on paying. Paying is a sweet gesture, like giving flowers. When it becomes expected of men, it becomes an obligation. Then it's no longer a sweet gesture he decided to do for me, it's something he feels forced into. I don't think that's fair, and in these financial times, it sucks.
I've been with my man for 15 years in may this year. He has social media, but the only thing he ever use it for is to post his podcast. He talks about me a lot on the podcast and he has the relationship status as in a relationship with me, but other than that he doesnt mention or post about me more than reacting to shit I post. We dont live on social media. We have a strong relationship in real life and that's all I need.
Glad to hear you don't live through your social media. Unfortunately most women are absolutely addicted to it, because of the attention and validation they seek, and the social media feeds that addiction. They don't want to give it up, not even for building and maintaining a healthy relationship with their partner. Social media has actually destroyed dating and relationships, in the modern world. Same applies to dating apps.
@@jreyman yeah Im actually so thankful I dont have to deal with dating today. It seems beyond awful. I do agree that social media has gone too far for many, but I also know a lot of people, women, who dont live through social media either. Mind you, we're in our 30s. The younger generations might be different.
As a woman who doesn’t like having myself known on social media, totally disagree with that lady. There’s nothing really good that comes out of social media anyways, better he also stay away from it
These younger fellas know exactly what the game is like out here. I agree with them. The dating game is crazy out here.
Keith sounds like he would be the biggest pain in the ass to date and be the most fun you ever had at the same time. :)
Abusers tend to lovebomb. My wife's ex was like that. I cant give her flowers ever because she no longer sees them like most women.
My husband still talks to his ex girlfriend. I met her and I like her. We've been married 23 years.
"Jack Sparrow"s name does not start with a 'J'... actually it starts with a 'C', because it's "Captain Jack Sparrow", as he corrects people on a regular basis
I mean technically it's a J because it's Johnny Depp
People in a perfect relationship don't feel the need to advertise their relationship on social media, because they are too busy enjoying each other
Don’t understand the one about the girl not liking the guy to have mum sister or aunts that’s ridiculous
Right, like.... it's normal for man to have a mom, or a sister, or an aunt.
She probably got burned a couple of times in regards to being with a guy whose mother and/or sister was being way to involved in the relationship. The kinda guy that's a mama's boy to the point of letting the mom call a lot of the shots.
Her better bet of course is to blame the individual guys for being mama's boys and judge future men on how independent they are, mom in their life or not...but I'd be willing to bet money that a negative experience or two like that is what "traumatized" her
I’m best friends with my ex 😂😂we broke up in 2016. She was engaged to my brother with my blessing a few yrs after we broke up but he was killed by a drunk driver. She is basically my Sister in law at this point. Life is a journey, take the journey
How long were you with your ex? And how did you react when he told you he wanted to date your ex/they were already dating
I applaud this kind of relationship maturity. Good for you! We need more of this.
Two of my friends became girlfriend and boyfriend once, and they were both happy with each other, and we all were happy together as a group, but then she broke up with him (basically) because of how he was, even after he said he was happy to still be friends, she wouldn't even stay friends with any of us just because we were still friends with him; that to me is ridiculous because why should one friend get downgraded just cos they're friends with an ex?!
@@icecreamman2687 Fair, but she tried to get all of us to forget about him as well.
The point I'm trying to make is that you can't choose other people's friends for them.
@@henrymanley4116yeah she was being a tad bit controlling, expecting u guys to "break up" with him aswell
My ex is my daughter's mother. We have been co-parenting our child since she was 1yr old. Why wouldn't I talk to her?
As a woman... a lot of these women are the red flags
I don't take relationship advice from TIk Tok. Its all full of fools who think they are the love doctor.
If a girl is sitting in a situationship and they are just waiting for him to make it official that they are in a relationship together.. Girl is a pushover and is getting played. If you're not being honest, confrontational and communicating respectfully what you want, it's not good for you and it is especially not being good to those you are with.
As someone who is insecure, I will NEVER treat someone badly. Just, no.
I’m going to love them more because they take the time to like me, and it’s all that matter.
That's true, but it's a difference between feeling insecure and belitering themselves. Or playing the victim card. People don't feel good around people like these, it's slowly sucking your energy to bring them up. Most will feel better with jerk.
Knew my husband for 6 years before he asked me on a date. We went on our first date and ended up staying out just talking until 2am. Decided to be exclusive the next day and were married in 6 months. Going on 13 years happily married, not that weve never had problems but we communicate and work through them.
I'm a very private person, so if I'm dating someone I don't like posting on social media. Now, if we got engaged? That'd be different. But as long as we're simply dating, I'd never show them.
The "lovebombers" are awful because usually they are just addicted to the honeymoon period. They get all excited and are "in love" until it loses that new car smell and then they ditch you in search of the next "the one". The other options are seriously overcompensating for something bad, or are some flavor of predator.
LISTEN when they were listening and overall agreeing about men who lash out and then the girl in the video took a left turn said "because it's a feminine trait" and they all were like HUH... i lost it 😂😂😂😂😂
As a guy, that came totally out of left field and made my head spin.
What the fuuuq?!🤦
You know that she's the kind of person who will lash out and then her excuse will be that's it's ok because she's a woman
Somehow she managed to be both misogynistic and misandristic in one comment.
The Internet gives random ppl the ability to create weird red flags 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I think allot of these tik Tok ppl need to touch grass
Emotions are not a feminine trait... that's absurd. Reacting to feelings inappropriately is a problem for both men and women. Having feelings is human.
Virtually every mammalian species : *_*AHEM*_* So sorry to intrude, but.... WHAT???
@@InservioLetum This. Thank you very much.
5:52 Love bombing can be a sign of an abusive person
how does that correlate?? would you explain it to me
@@susucoklatmanis emotional manipulation
@@susucoklatmanis A lot of abusers will love bomb as a way to gain control and eventually it can turn into "nobody will love you like I do" and isolation from friends and family thus furthering control.
@@susucoklatmanismaking mistakes and overcompensating
OMG Some of these were so bad, but the Mom and Sister 1 blew me away
10:41 Wait... she basically said that aggression is a feminine trait? Like, is it okay if women are like that? Just like I would stay away from men and women who can't control their emotions and become aggressive easily.
there is a reason every person of every gender should pick a hungry bear over any stranger of any gender in the woods.
Social media depends on the people individually and the couple. My girlfriend and I have posted to and about each other on Facebook, our status is visible for everyone to see, but she uses social media much less than I do. She doesn't always post big events because she's also fairly private. She prefers her circles small and doesn't care to impress people that don't matter to her. I tend to post a lot more liberally, but when it comes to my personal life and our relationship, I've noticed that as I get older, I'm less willing to share details. Sometimes, it's nice when things are just for the two of us and not the rest of the world.
Girl here and wow I don‘t agree with many red flags of these women. Just be nice, trust eachother and be responsible and that goes for Both parts in the relationship. 🙏🏻
People coming back to this video after the women's video is interesting. Seeing the comparison.
Yea this one was much worse!
I don't use social media other than TH-cam so I don't post about my relationship because I don't post anything 🤷♂️😂😂
Same I don’t see the utility of having social media .
People have it for validation and ego.
I don't either but from my understanding that was just about people who do use social media, and it's usually just to show that this person is taken, since people may dm you and stuff on social media and they may hesitate starting something if the fact you're in a relationship is made obvious.
The movie one is stupid… they said people will see themselves in their favourite movies… mine is The Green Mile… I can’t relate to a single character in that movie 😂
Same. My favourite film is Robocop... I am neither a robot or a cop.
That’s strange. I see myself as Coffee cause I can heal and infect people.
That one just made me think about "Red Flags" by Tom Cardy:D
This video just convinces me further that you shouldn't take dating advice from tiktok
This is why many men walk away from dating and relationships. Many time expectations are clear as mud at best and unrealistic at worst. They avoid drama because they prefer to be at peace.
Men and women should stop seeing each other for a while, we both need rest lmao
Are you serious? We are in the era where men are the most desperate. Woman have finally recognized their worth and the boys in men suits are pressed that they don’t meet their standards anymore. You should look into the 4B mouvement 😏
I love Keith. He is like a younger Chris Rock with the fashion sense of Prince and I love it.
Red flags 🚩:
-Doesn’t respect when you say no. (Tries to badger, threaten or guilt you)
-Uses emotional blackmail regularly
-Doesn’t hold/demonstrate the same values you do.
-Lies
Those are all red flags I've personally seen more women exhibit than men but yeah, those are definitive red flags, no matter who exhibits them.
All red flags for pretty much all women since women are so protected and they think they are untouchable
Not all lies are equal. Some are more excusable than others. I think it’s important to think about intent
If your partner asks you about a clothing item they think makes them attractive, and they’re really excited and happy about it, but you don’t think it flatters them, are you going to tell them you dislike it?
It just dawned on me that my sister is insecure & that's why she took every chance she had to tear me down. I was academically successful in my youth, oh so long ago, but she had the more prolific social life. I was extremely social as well, but the majority of that revolved around academics too.
My dad’s like this with me too. Every a chance I had to make him proud, he always tore me down instead.
The type of relationship a man has with his mom, sisters, aunts, grandma, whatever the case may be, is the first and one of the best indicators on how he treats women. You wanna know if he treats women right, look at how he treats his mom or sisters. My boyfriend LOVES his mom (grandma, he was adopted and raised by her and his grandad) and he adores his little sister. He treats women so well, I couldn't ask for a better man. He treats me like a queen and I only ever want to treat him like a king. I do my best, at least!
Never seeing his place. Like, NEVER. My friend dated a guy for 2 years and NEVER saw his place. I still think she was the side chick, or he’s a serial killer.
hahaha "Having a mom" makes me crack up EVERY TIME I see that clip
I prefer to not be put on social media. I hate being forced into photos just so they can be posted.
Ditto! As an introverted, camera-shy person, I also hate being forced to participate in Insta reels by extroverted people who then make me feel guilty for "spoiling everyone else fun" 🙄
@indianjanesmith me 100%. Especially when people know I'm like that yet they still try and force it. Don't get mad at me when you already know I don't like to participate in your nonsense
My friend doesn't use social media because she doesn't want to get stressed by all the hate and bs on there. So, like if she was to date again, her partner would have to respect her choice not to use social media or just move one.
My ex has been with her current boyfriend for like 7 years. All three of us went to a Paramore concert together and had a blast, hes a decent dude. I can understand people being sketchy about talking to their ex, but the context needs to be read first.
A lot of these need context, like the title thing
I think the ex's situation really depend of people, how the relationship ended...
Whenever I feel like being validated over my decision to stay single, I just watch a video like this. Too much drama, too much headache, too much BS.
Just read the comments too.
7:11 I can be insecure, but how I handle it is by bringing everyone up and bringing myself down
Same
Not necessarily a red flag but definitely a turn off: Going on a rant about not liking dogs, cats, or any house pet.
Yup! This would be a problem for me. I have Service Animals. Sorry, not sorry.
My ex literally listed “you just really want pets and I don’t” when we were breaking up XD but my partner matches my pet freak so well. I’ve got three pythons, and she’s got a tarantula. The cat is shared haha
Now do the women reacting to guy's red flags
I want to see that.
Oh you know its coming.
Yes
It's a commin'.
They better pick some goofy and non sensical ones like the cherry picked some of these crazy TikTok ppl here 😭
"I shot a werewolf once. But by the time that I caught up to it, it had turned back into my neighbours dog."
-Dwight Shrute
as a woman some of these red flags are totally not it.
Also in my experience with love bombers it's not even too much too fast because it's wonderful to feel special, it's more like once the newness wears off things get stale quick. They're not as invested, got you wondering what's going that they went from texting all day and being adorable to kind of stand offish.
"If his name starts with a J...run"
Jesus would like a word.
i'm pretty sure the original spelling starts with a y not a J. the english version is a J thou.
Um, his mom thinks he can do no wrong and he’s always busy with his 12 friends.
I think there are different levels of insecurity. It can definitely be a problem, but it doesn’t mean they want to bring others down. Sometimes it just means they go for toxic perfectionism because they don’t feel that anything they do measures up.
My spouse grew up with lots of women and I'm glad about that because understands menstruation and other personal female issues and is extremely okay with discussing those things with me.
12:25 That is very true. "I am busy." means "I got better/more important things to do.".
This video is interesting to me because of how different straight dating seems in comparison to being a lesbian. Obviously at the end of the day love is love, but I find the differences interesting. I'm used to the idea of moving in together instantly, having an intense clingy/gift giving phase at the beggining, and dating after either 8 years or 2 months. No in between😭😭 I guess girls are just clingier in general so you put two of us together and... yeah lol.
No joke, in my last relationship she said we would "take it slow" and starting talking about marriage and wedding rings not even 6 months in.
The way Nick and I said WHY at the same time when the girl was talking about a man paying her parking had me rolling. I'm sorry but I'm with Nick on this one😂😂😂 2:55
There's so many reasons to why someone would be insecure. Take this video with a grain of salt. Theres often an explanation to why some behave the way they do and everyone can change.
Oh, I still talk to my ex all the time. We were together for five years. Are we going to pretend the other person don’t exist now? He’s a good guy, and I’m lucky to know him. I want him to find a good lady and be happy. We’re all grown-ups.
1. As someone who is insecure & is surprised when people turn out to genuinely like me I have never looked at someone as "oh you think your better" it's more "wow I know it's happening but if i wasn't seeing it with my own eyes I'd never believe it"
2. If you get jealous because I have female relatives & a relationship with them then we can't b3 together cuz you're the kind of person who would get jealous over their own children, God forbidden they're girls
3. "If he lashes out" i can handle my emotions however there are times where everything does bubble up where it's "I've had all i can stands and i can't stands no more"