I am in the UK and my son went to private school at 10yo where his friends all called him spoiled. We were amazed. He had no phone, no tv in his room, no computer in his room, no designer clothes, etc. So he pointed this out to them. They said it was because we all spent time together with no tv until after 6pm. Most of them were sent to childcare or after school lessons. I sent him to a different private school at 16yo with a flip up phone ... no iphone until he could afford it himself at 20yo. We are very close and he is a credit to us with all A grades and 2 Master's Degrees.
@@nicholasanderson7316 exactly the parents want to be liked. Please grow up …parenting isn’t about being liked. We have a job to teach our children how to manage in a world when we aren’t around any longer.
I feel America is not a good country to raise children I have African friends who sent their children back to go to school. American society is all about money and excess I’m from the islands we did not have stress growing up food and family was the center of love and family.
@@tracybrown2638 the ruling class has truly destroyed a once beautiful nation. We had family values & I sat at the table every night w my parents for dinner. I wasn’t overrun w activities, I had a real childhood. I’m GenX, the last generation who wasn’t raised on the internet as a child, it came out to the pubic when I was 18. I did play w the neighbor kids until dark. I rode my bike all over town, and it was a pretty big town, & I was always safe. I have a 24 year old son & now a 6 year old son, their childhoods are a night & day difference w how far down into the toilet society has fallen. My older son didn’t have to deal w Covid in school or this absurd gender ideology. May god help us all.
My kids were limited to 3 things a year, usually baseball, dance and scouts. One child took piano. They were playing with cousins and friends at the ball park and on weekends. I am glad I raised them before social media and cell phones. They were the last generation to be kids. Progress is not always a good thing.
I saw an example of the most immature parents yet. Their nine month old wanted to crawl on the floor at the dirty, crowded retail store. The baby yelped her displeasure at being picked up by Daddy, so he put her right back on the floor. A nine month old ruling her parents. Unbelievable.
I saw a 7yo slap her dad in a restaurant the other night and he just laughed. Of course it escalated until she was on the floor kicking her legs etc. In the meantime, he ordered her an ice-cream ... which I would've immediately cancelled if it were me and NOT rewarded this bad behaviour.
I am a baby boomer. We always had dinner as a family at 6 PM. Always. My favorite dinner memory is we three kids asking our mother for things not on the table, like ketchup, mustard, etc. After watching our mother up and down for years, dad finally said, "Your mother has not eaten dinner in 10 years. Stop asking." We were shocked and ashamed. And we stopped asking,
Me too. We had activities such as scouts, sports, but we were NOT scheduled every day, every minute. We came home from school, went out to PLAY with the rest of the neighborhood kids, had dinner every night as a family, did our homework and went to bed. Summer vacations were visiting the grandparents and other extended family. No 9ne I knew was an anxious kid, or drugged up for ADHD. Ir for anything else. Our family moved a lot for my dad's work...13 times in 18 years, so I knew lots of kids from different places all over the country. We were all allowed to be kids.
@@LaPinturaBella great to hear your story here. i was an air force kid, so i knwo what you speak of, with all the moving. i hated it at the time of teen years, but so thankful now. summer vacations for me were alot like yours; visiting my grandparents, camping, on my aunt's and uncle's farms, doing chores, weeding the gardens, picking berries, fishing, water skiing, family bbq's, all so good.
@david_f l The moves during the teen years were tough. But, the result is I have absolutely no problem striking up a conversation with anyone, anywhere. My family wasn't military, dad was an executive in the entertainment industry. Just about every promotion included a move to the opposite coast. Glad to know someone relates to my childhood nomadic lifestyle. 😄
Excellent information. My kids were extremely busy with sports at a very high level BUT we had dinner every night all 4 of us. Dinner wasn’t at a consistent hour due to their schedules and my husbands call schedule. Sometimes dinner was between 6-8 pm but we ate together. I’m the proud mom of very successful adult 20 somethings children. Glad to know we did a good thing for our kids.
Unfortunately, many parents are wanting to have an egalitarian relationship with their children rather than being the parent. The absence of consistent and fair consequences are also not being used by many parents. It is like watching a slow motion train wreck and it's hard to watch.
Dr. Sax is right. I grow up eating with my family together. It was fun. And sure we had our misunderstandings yet I actually love the feeling of eating around my family (breakfast, lunch & dinner).
I am in the uk 🇬🇧. My kids didn't do after school or weekend activities, mostly as I didnt get time to take them working full-time and I couldn't afford it. My kids have done ok going to university and are both very all rounded individuals. Yes I tried to do evening meal every night were we would discuss our day. 😊 there was certainly not much stress in our house, unless I forgot to iron the school shirts or they forgot to do homework.🤣 x
I'm almost 73 and when I was growing up my mom had dinner ready between 5 and 5:30 every night and all of us had dinner together. When I had my two children we always set together at dinner time. The world has changed so much since then, and Dr. Sax was absolutely right in what he said. The person who wrote the comment about the 9 month old being allowed to crawl on the dirty floor at a retail store because the child cried when the father picked the child up so he put the child back on the floor is an example of bad parenting. I was in Walmart one day and a child who was around 2 pitched the biggest fit because he didn't get his way about something, and threw himself on the floor kicking and screaming at the top of his voice as the parents begged the child to please get up. This went on about 15 minutes, the parents got him whatever it was he wanted and the child hushed. It's a sad state of affairs when parents are intimidated by their children and can't control them and just give into them.
I see this all over. Very sad the kids ruling the parents because the parents don’t want to hear their child cry or scream. Disgusting! If you weren’t going to be a real parent then you should never have had children.
Selfish and lazy people can not rise children. To be a parent is hard work...and an act of love. How can people that don't even love themselfs love their children. Saddly, so spoiled parents.
From Spain (Madrid) ... Marvellous !!! So direct and clear !!! My 14 year old dauther only has her phone on school vacations and up to 10:00pm. Shearing time at table is a must !!! And we enjoy it. I'm shearing this 100% 💪🏻💪🏻👏🏻👏🏻
My brother’s son got into on line gambling at 15 years old.Despite being bright he did poorly in high school and went on to do poorly and drop out of college.He was lucky enough to get a good trade job which he also quit after a short time.This is due to his gambling addiction. It is terrible because he is ruining his life at twenty five years old.He is currently living with his girlfriend. She is paying the rent. I hope one day I she smartens up for her sake. He believes that he will earn his living by gambling on line and going to tournaments. All of this may well have been avoided if his parents controlled his access to the internet. He literally spent huge amounts of time in his room gaming for years.I am writing this as a warning to parents.
Thank you for this I didn't have my kids get a phone until the were in High school and didn't allow FB for them until they were much older and guess what they lived without it and I'm a glad I did that choice.
This needs to be talked about more. I have a soon to be 14 year old, and she has wanted a phone for a long time. I won't let her have a phone until she is 15 because there's way too much adult content in these phones. You're essentially giving them the free range of an adult if you're not careful about how you manage their screen time and what they're being exposed to. I've witnessed a probably 9-year-old child telling her dad at my local mall that she wanted a phone and a new one. This dad had no backbone. I watched as she pitched such a fit, and he inevitably caved and said he'd get her an iPhone. I can't even afford an iPhone! I watched this grown-ass man have no balls to tell the child "No." These phones are so expensive and so expansive in how much freedom you're given that it's scary how little these parents realize what these kids are exposed to. If any parent has even half a brain, don't let your kids have a phone until they can prove they're mature enough to handle one and are disciplined to manage chores and other tasks. It's a privilege, not a right. It's not about being liked, it's about doing what's right.
I spent the summer in the US with a family in 1990 and even then I couldn't believe how busy the kids were. Maybe one dinner around a table per week and the rest rushing off to softball/soccer/football practice, piano/sax/violin lessons, school band, orchestra practice, girl/boy scouts, art club, those are just some I remember. I was only 16 and started to yearn for a properly cooked meal around the table, to the point I figured out how to cook one because with that busy schedule we just ate pizza or subway in the car out a cardboard box.
All distractions, unfortunately my son was one of those, all the sports, excelled in all, went on to college & excelled went to live in Japan 2 yrs came back to be Washington state patrol. Turned out a wonderful officer, married 2 lovely kids both in college @ alma mater👍
I make homemade dinners and eat as a family at the table between 5-530pm every night. I remember my daughters friend stayed for dinner one night and she asked “do you guys do this every night?” Shocked she would even ask..but then she went on to say how lucky my daughter was cuz her and her brother usually just have instant noodles and eat alone in their bedrooms :( My kids also don’t have smart devices. They have an Xbox and TH-cam they can watch on the tv so i can also see what they are watching/playing. If my kids want a cellphone they will need to get a job and pay for it themselves, just like their father and I did at 16.
All these years I’ve felt guilty I didn’t push my kids or give more of my time to their sports. They played sports and danced but just rec level. All I wanted was home time with them.
Oooh no you should spend as much time with your children as you can, they need you as much as you need them and you never know how long we have together ❤
Oh I agree with him so much. American parents take cues from other parents - afraid of not fitting in or standing out as not progressive, etc. We grew up playing outside, riding bikes til dust --and eating together. My parents were not rich or highly educated but I can remember spending so much time with friends, playing jax and climbing trees - and making up imaginary stories that we acted out! Going to afternoon movies with other kids, that was so wonderful, a treat! I just think Kid's today have their eyes clued to those devices and parents allow little toddlers their cell phones to play with - those electronic waves are not good for kids - growing brains....why do we not speak about that to parents, don't use cell phones as appeasement and babysitters. Be present. And a women on the internet bought 12 kids of her Iphones (excluding her 4 and 6 year old, but 9 and up got both, up to 17) and Ipads----the money also is the issue. Why not use those thousands of dollars on meaningful things as family vacations or other things like saving it for their college - or them to travel abroad someday. Maddening how society is such in decline state on so many issues.
We had supper every single night in the 50s and 60s and all three kids were never allowed to speak and we struggled hard in a vicious violent household but we looked perfect on the outside. No high school graduates, one alcoholic, one baby factory and mentally ill chronic run away. Shared supper fixed nothing.
I've never understood parents who let thier kids play violent/misogynistic video games (which is most video games) all day every day in their rooms or just give their kid a computer or phone and let them do whatever they want with it in their rooms all day and night. These people either don't care or seriously don't understand what is out there. No wonder Gen Z is so hopelessly warped. Their minds have been brutilized and zombified.
When kids would be seven years old I was already able to control the steering wheel and was then informed about boys having to get married to someone who really cares about her everything, parents, body, people around her, natural siblings (animals), safety when the right time allows, when I was forced to have a child he was there watching and helped out because it was not the right time, I say that because he had warned me about it when kids would be nine years old, you can imagine how empowered I was,my head held high and not interested in anyone but myself and just trying to impress him, when kids would be ten he explained how he would notice if I had been fighting so it was strictly no fighting for me but said it as if that should stay between us (whispering into my ear), and when they would be thirteen he told me about the difference between mating, which is done by animals and making love, which is done by humans, the reason why people should not mate, which seems to be what the doctors don't know maybe, and the how love is made,why it should be made that way and told me no one has the right to advise me from then onwards, I mean if you miss what I have just said you have ruined your childs life, meaning I would have not gotten to where I am now without that foundation, I didn't mention phones ,oh, there were no cell phones then
I kept saying when kids were, so many things surprised him, I actually asked if I could hold the wheel, I would only look in his eyes only and he knew because I told him, I never felt young, and the way I would talk to him would be like brothers, there's more to that
I essentially have taken the phone away from my 13 year old. He just isn’t mature enough for it. He had an absolute fit but it’s been 3 months and accepts it. I now allow him supervised access and if he has to be dropped off somewhere in public, then I will let him have it for emergencies but that is it. Our house has been much more peaceful.
Finally! We are talking about the major and must significant problem in this country. Listen raising kids is extremely hard and in society today harder with the internet and social media. But I don’t understand how no one can make the distinction if you just look at multiple case studies and data. The steep decline in mental health for children started as more and more social media platforms and touch screen technology came into play. The technology isn’t the problem; it’s the parents just giving it to their kids. It’s the number one destroyer of children’s cognitive and emotional development. You don’t need a study to figure that out; you need a set of eyes and minimal brain power.
I have just read a lot of the comments and I have a address those who think a parent is a adult child. From my perspective, parenting is nothing like being a child. You make the responible choice to have a child and from before thet are born until the day you die, you are a parent 24/7. You have to have dedication, selflessness and under take an immense responsibility. Along with protecting, nurturing and teaching etc. It is hugely challenging and many sad times but in the end there's an unconditional love, and pride that make you realise how important a "parent" is. ❤
Parents aren’t just intimidated by teenagers but all children of all ages! Parents don’t want deal with teaching children how to handle disappointments sadly
Megyn, you and your guest have nailed it: Many parents are not "parenting" their children. It now appears that the standard mode of child-rearing involves small children sitting in a shopping cart looking at the back of a cell-phone while their parent yaps away. Same thing in the doctors' offices. The parent comes in for an appointment, positions the stroller / carrier in front of their seat, and the child has a clear view of the back of the parent's cell phone while the parent checks messages, surfs the web, and scans the latest gossip in the news. I want to say to the parent: "Hey - I know we all have very busy schedules, but you're in a waiting room right now and probably for the next 15 minutes. Spend this time engaging your baby. Out shopping? Have a conversation with your 2-year old. Involve the child in the shopping process. Engage your children!" Babies are not bonding with the eyes, voice, or smile of their parents. They're bonding with the back of a cell phone. And YES! - Having supper together should be the most important, #1 daily priority, and around the table with no TV or any other device. In the old days, we took the phone off the hook!
I watch a few young mothers on TH-cam and they all seem scared of their kids . One lady had only one child at that time and the child was about two years old . Her husband had to go away for the weekend and the mom acted scared to death of being alone with the child . She said she had to go get everything she needed before he left , because there was no way she would feel comfortable with taking the child out in public alone and this is a woman that ski dives , climbs huge steep mountain and jumps off of huge cliffs into water . Another TH-cam woman was patting herself on the back because she finally took her child shopping alone , zi think the child was about two .
I'd say that hardest years for parenting are from child's 13 to roughly 18 yrs old. Toughest-14.5-16.5 Horrible Kids are unbearable. They compare you to all other families And you are the worst. Of course. And u have several kids a few years apart, you end up going through a non-stop fight with everyone of your kids. Cuz they one by one mature and go through puberty. But Don't give up.
I love this, my kids are not allowed phones in their rooms, my two boys 17 and 14 do not have phones, I told them wait till they're 18 lol they game but on Fridays. I have 3 kids with phones due to type 1, cgm and pump connects to their phones but off bed time I literally go back and check their rooms lol...
I think that it’s just a different era. We barely get vacation time and are lucky if we can even afford one. 5 days sick time. Grandparents have to work to survive so they’re too tired to be part of a village. Work and colleges are so competitive that people need to behave on a constant schedule to get a leg in. We just created a society that’s constantly on a rat wheel. I’m not advocating for laziness but I feel like we could use just a little extra time off. something. Even new moms need to rush back to work. Yes, I know that people have been doing this for at least 30 years but it sucks. it wears down a society.
I take my 16 year old daughters phone every night before 10:00 p.m and 11:30 on weekends. Also, did this with with my 18 year old son till he left for college. It was NEVER EASY but I did it and still do.
I know an Actuary, who has the whole family life severely regimented.....can not take unrouted way home, it will add 5 min, and will be shorted 5 minutes on the next slotted time....OMG
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I don’t think it’s the phone per se, I think it’s the lack of EMOTIONAL investment in their child of time and attunement beginning in infancy and the low emotional intelligence of parents. Driving kids to and fro or paying for these travel teams and college showcases causes parents to work more and encourages the fracture of the family unit. With siblings of various ages you can’t be at all things in all places as a family. I think parents don’t see or know red flags of mental health issues in time or don’t think finding support is necessary. I think school mental health resources need to be stronger. Mental health starts in infancy. Raising secure children matters. Throw on top of that divorcing a narcissist where the safe and mentally stable parent acts like a parent and the toxic parent is alienating them by construing the healthier parent’s behavior as controlling and twisted. Schools need to educate and teach students on strategies of healthy coping like meditation, exercise, nutrition, tapping, journaling, and more. Parents need to get off the hamster wheel of expensive and time consuming travel teams and tournaments. The younger years in childhood are literally shaping the developing child’s vulnerable brain and psyche. Narcissism, anxiety, depression, addictions in our youth are on the rise. I don’t think it’s the phone. I think it’s the lack of emotional connection to the parent(s).
I agree but if you have any social media of the sort you'll see how bad it is even myself affected me so much so a very big part of the problem is the phone.
Mine has 2 Master's Degrees and has impeccable manners. Too many kids are told to sit down and shut up, using screens as babysitters. Parents need to be sure they want these babies who grow up into hormonal teenagers before they bring them into this world as parenthood can be boring and very trying.
@@joebaird5874 you people stop bragging masters masters.... Nothing to do with caring, compassion, being a good parent. Yes, you have to work for this (my daughter also has Masters 😁). To be a good parent is love, dedication....
Ya know when crap really started? When our dumbass government decided to put parents in jail for disciplining Thier children n as time went on parents were affraid to discipline the kids n found it's easier to be Thier friend rather than be a parent n ya know what, this is what happens, when my parents discipline us, sure we got whooped (that damn belt, when it came off daddy's waist, we knew) n it sucked but it was NOT abuse, n believe me it hurt but i never did that again. I was the receiver n still don't see it as abuse, big difference, i guarantee if today's kids were disciplined as i was they'd be much better ppl... If no consequences, what's to make a person stop n think before they do?
Years ago my almost adult cousin was trying to bust down a window because she was angry. A huge expensive picture window!!! Her step dad didn’t put a finger on her but sprayed her with a hose to finally get her to stop. Verbal Demands weren’t working. They were on the phone with the cops and when the cops finally got there they threatened to arrest him for assault for !! Spraying a damn garden hose!!” 1000% true story! So I guess he was supposed to allow her to just break a $1000 window? 😡
He is absolutely wrong...I live in Australia and all the kids here have phones in every room all the time. It is not, I repeat not only in America. Other countries as well.
It’s not good and fair to demand a kid not to use a phone or not to have it in your bedroom when you use/have it yourself. Set an example, otherwise you kid will learn hypocrisy :)
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Dr. Leonard Is correct, dinner time is extremely important to gather around the table and discuss all issues together.
I am in the UK and my son went to private school at 10yo where his friends all called him spoiled. We were amazed. He had no phone, no tv in his room, no computer in his room, no designer clothes, etc. So he pointed this out to them. They said it was because we all spent time together with no tv until after 6pm. Most of them were sent to childcare or after school lessons. I sent him to a different private school at 16yo with a flip up phone ... no iphone until he could afford it himself at 20yo. We are very close and he is a credit to us with all A grades and 2 Master's Degrees.
So well said. 😊
Beautiful! an actual parent. I think too many of the parents nowadays want to be their kid’s friend and not their mom or dad.
@@nicholasanderson7316 exactly the parents want to be liked. Please grow up …parenting isn’t about being liked. We have a job to teach our children how to manage in a world when we aren’t around any longer.
I feel America is not a good country to raise children I have African friends who sent their children back to go to school. American society is all about money and excess I’m from the islands we did not have stress growing up food and family was the center of love and family.
@@tracybrown2638 the ruling class has truly destroyed a once beautiful nation. We had family values & I sat at the table every night w my parents for dinner. I wasn’t overrun w activities, I had a real childhood. I’m GenX, the last generation who wasn’t raised on the internet as a child, it came out to the pubic when I was 18. I did play w the neighbor kids until dark. I rode my bike all over town, and it was a pretty big town, & I was always safe. I have a 24 year old son & now a 6 year old son, their childhoods are a night & day difference w how far down into the toilet society has fallen. My older son didn’t have to deal w Covid in school or this absurd gender ideology. May god help us all.
My kids were limited to 3 things a year, usually baseball, dance and scouts. One child took piano. They were playing with cousins and friends at the ball park and on weekends. I am glad I raised them before social media and cell phones. They were the last generation to be kids. Progress is not always a good thing.
I saw an example of the most immature parents yet. Their nine month old wanted to crawl on the floor at the dirty, crowded retail store. The baby yelped her displeasure at being picked up by Daddy, so he put her right back on the floor. A nine month old ruling her parents. Unbelievable.
I saw a 7yo slap her dad in a restaurant the other night and he just laughed. Of course it escalated until she was on the floor kicking her legs etc. In the meantime, he ordered her an ice-cream ... which I would've immediately cancelled if it were me and NOT rewarded this bad behaviour.
I have 4 grands who rule their stunningly stupid parents . No disabling or love just screamed at . And child services don't care , at all .
Older parents are failures
I am a baby boomer. We always had dinner as a family at 6 PM. Always. My favorite dinner memory is we three kids asking our mother for things not on the table, like ketchup, mustard, etc. After watching our mother up and down for years, dad finally said, "Your mother has not eaten dinner in 10 years. Stop asking." We were shocked and ashamed. And we stopped asking,
so glad i grew up in the 60's and 70's, sharing breakfast, lunch, and supper with my sisters and mom AND dad.
Me too. We had activities such as scouts, sports, but we were NOT scheduled every day, every minute. We came home from school, went out to PLAY with the rest of the neighborhood kids, had dinner every night as a family, did our homework and went to bed. Summer vacations were visiting the grandparents and other extended family. No 9ne I knew was an anxious kid, or drugged up for ADHD. Ir for anything else. Our family moved a lot for my dad's work...13 times in 18 years, so I knew lots of kids from different places all over the country. We were all allowed to be kids.
@@LaPinturaBella great to hear your story here. i was an air force kid, so i knwo what you speak of, with all the moving. i hated it at the time of teen years, but so thankful now. summer vacations for me were alot like yours; visiting my grandparents, camping, on my aunt's and uncle's farms, doing chores, weeding the gardens, picking berries, fishing, water skiing, family bbq's, all so good.
@david_f l The moves during the teen years were tough. But, the result is I have absolutely no problem striking up a conversation with anyone, anywhere. My family wasn't military, dad was an executive in the entertainment industry. Just about every promotion included a move to the opposite coast. Glad to know someone relates to my childhood nomadic lifestyle. 😄
Excellent information. My kids were extremely busy with sports at a very high level BUT we had dinner every night all 4 of us. Dinner wasn’t at a consistent hour due to their schedules and my husbands call schedule. Sometimes dinner was between 6-8 pm but we ate together. I’m the proud mom of very successful adult 20 somethings children. Glad to know we did a good thing for our kids.
Dr. Leonhard Sax is perfectly right.
Thank you .🙏🏻🇨🇭🙏🏻🇨🇦
Unfortunately, many parents are wanting to have an egalitarian relationship with their children rather than being the parent. The absence of consistent and fair consequences are also not being used by many parents. It is like watching a slow motion train wreck and it's hard to watch.
Indeed.
Be your kid's friend or be your kid's enemy
Dr. Sax is right.
I grow up eating with my family together. It was fun. And sure we had our misunderstandings yet I actually love the feeling of eating around my family (breakfast, lunch & dinner).
True facts. Abundance is good,
but things absolutely don’t replace LOVE.
Such a great segment and so accurate.
My kids had dinner at home every night with NO electronics. We always sat down as a family
I am in the uk 🇬🇧. My kids didn't do after school or weekend activities, mostly as I didnt get time to take them working full-time and I couldn't afford it. My kids have done ok going to university and are both very all rounded individuals. Yes I tried to do evening meal every night were we would discuss our day. 😊 there was certainly not much stress in our house, unless I forgot to iron the school shirts or they forgot to do homework.🤣 x
I'm almost 73 and when I was growing up my mom had dinner ready between 5 and 5:30 every night and all of us had dinner together. When I had my two children we always set together at dinner time. The world has changed so much since then, and Dr. Sax was absolutely right in what he said. The person who wrote the comment about the 9 month old being allowed to crawl on the dirty floor at a retail store because the child cried when the father picked the child up so he put the child back on the floor is an example of bad parenting. I was in Walmart one day and a child who was around 2 pitched the biggest fit because he didn't get his way about something, and threw himself on the floor kicking and screaming at the top of his voice as the parents begged the child to please get up. This went on about 15 minutes, the parents got him whatever it was he wanted and the child hushed. It's a sad state of affairs when parents are intimidated by their children and can't control them and just give into them.
I see this all over. Very sad the kids ruling the parents because the parents don’t want to hear their child cry or scream. Disgusting! If you weren’t going to be a real parent then you should never have had children.
Selfish and lazy people can not rise children. To be a parent is hard work...and an act of love. How can people that don't even love themselfs love their children. Saddly, so spoiled parents.
From Spain (Madrid) ... Marvellous !!! So direct and clear !!! My 14 year old dauther only has her phone on school vacations and up to 10:00pm.
Shearing time at table is a must !!! And we enjoy it.
I'm shearing this 100% 💪🏻💪🏻👏🏻👏🏻
My brother’s son got into on line gambling at 15 years old.Despite being bright he did poorly in high school and went on to do poorly and drop out of college.He was lucky enough to get a good trade job which he also quit after a short time.This is due to his gambling addiction.
It is terrible because he is ruining his life at twenty five years old.He is currently living with his girlfriend.
She is paying the rent.
I hope one day
I she smartens up for her sake.
He believes that he will earn his living by gambling on line and going to tournaments.
All of this may well have been avoided if his parents controlled his access to the internet.
He literally spent huge amounts of time in his room gaming for years.I am writing this as a warning to parents.
Thank you for this I didn't have my kids get a phone until the were in High school and didn't allow FB for them until they were much older and guess what they lived without it and I'm a glad I did that choice.
This needs to be talked about more. I have a soon to be 14 year old, and she has wanted a phone for a long time. I won't let her have a phone until she is 15 because there's way too much adult content in these phones. You're essentially giving them the free range of an adult if you're not careful about how you manage their screen time and what they're being exposed to. I've witnessed a probably 9-year-old child telling her dad at my local mall that she wanted a phone and a new one. This dad had no backbone. I watched as she pitched such a fit, and he inevitably caved and said he'd get her an iPhone. I can't even afford an iPhone! I watched this grown-ass man have no balls to tell the child "No."
These phones are so expensive and so expansive in how much freedom you're given that it's scary how little these parents realize what these kids are exposed to. If any parent has even half a brain, don't let your kids have a phone until they can prove they're mature enough to handle one and are disciplined to manage chores and other tasks. It's a privilege, not a right. It's not about being liked, it's about doing what's right.
I spent the summer in the US with a family in 1990 and even then I couldn't believe how busy the kids were. Maybe one dinner around a table per week and the rest rushing off to softball/soccer/football practice, piano/sax/violin lessons, school band, orchestra practice, girl/boy scouts, art club, those are just some I remember. I was only 16 and started to yearn for a properly cooked meal around the table, to the point I figured out how to cook one because with that busy schedule we just ate pizza or subway in the car out a cardboard box.
All distractions, unfortunately my son was one of those, all the sports, excelled in all, went on to college & excelled went to live in Japan 2 yrs came back to be Washington state patrol. Turned out a wonderful officer, married 2 lovely kids both in college @ alma mater👍
I make homemade dinners and eat as a family at the table between 5-530pm every night. I remember my daughters friend stayed for dinner one night and she asked “do you guys do this every night?” Shocked she would even ask..but then she went on to say how lucky my daughter was cuz her and her brother usually just have instant noodles and eat alone in their bedrooms :(
My kids also don’t have smart devices. They have an Xbox and TH-cam they can watch on the tv so i can also see what they are watching/playing. If my kids want a cellphone they will need to get a job and pay for it themselves, just like their father and I did at 16.
Kids who are never told "no" become narcissists like Harry Windsor.
I grew up in a big family. lots going on, but we ate dinner around the table together. Good memories. Felt like I belonged somewhere.
I was 35 when I got a smart phone. It was overwhelming to go from flip phone to smartphone, and I'm convinced that it has changed my brain.
No such thing as an adult. Only different aged children.
I love it!
That’s so true, great message!!!
Thank you Megan!!!❤️
All these years I’ve felt guilty I didn’t push my kids or give more of my time to their sports. They played sports and danced but just rec level. All I wanted was home time with them.
Oooh no you should spend as much time with your children as you can, they need you as much as you need them and you never know how long we have together ❤
Oh I agree with him so much. American parents take cues from other parents - afraid of not fitting in or standing out as not progressive, etc. We grew up playing outside, riding bikes til dust --and eating together. My parents were not rich or highly educated but I can remember spending so much time with friends, playing jax and climbing trees - and making up imaginary stories that we acted out! Going to afternoon movies with other kids, that was so wonderful, a treat! I just think Kid's today have their eyes clued to those devices and parents allow little toddlers their cell phones to play with - those electronic waves are not good for kids - growing brains....why do we not speak about that to parents, don't use cell phones as appeasement and babysitters. Be present. And a women on the internet bought 12 kids of her Iphones (excluding her 4 and 6 year old, but 9 and up got both, up to 17) and Ipads----the money also is the issue. Why not use those thousands of dollars on meaningful things as family vacations or other things like saving it for their college - or them to travel abroad someday. Maddening how society is such in decline state on so many issues.
We had supper every single night in the 50s and 60s and all three kids were never allowed to speak and we struggled hard in a vicious violent household but we looked perfect on the outside. No high school graduates, one alcoholic, one baby factory and mentally ill chronic run away. Shared supper fixed nothing.
I've never understood parents who let thier kids play violent/misogynistic video games (which is most video games) all day every day in their rooms or just give their kid a computer or phone and let them do whatever they want with it in their rooms all day and night. These people either don't care or seriously don't understand what is out there. No wonder Gen Z is so hopelessly warped. Their minds have been brutilized and zombified.
I totally agree
Buy a table and chairs folks and use it with your family! Its vital to your family and society!
When kids would be seven years old I was already able to control the steering wheel and was then informed about boys having to get married to someone who really cares about her everything, parents, body, people around her, natural siblings (animals), safety when the right time allows, when I was forced to have a child he was there watching and helped out because it was not the right time, I say that because he had warned me about it when kids would be nine years old, you can imagine how empowered I was,my head held high and not interested in anyone but myself and just trying to impress him, when kids would be ten he explained how he would notice if I had been fighting so it was strictly no fighting for me but said it as if that should stay between us (whispering into my ear), and when they would be thirteen he told me about the difference between mating, which is done by animals and making love, which is done by humans, the reason why people should not mate, which seems to be what the doctors don't know maybe, and the how love is made,why it should be made that way and told me no one has the right to advise me from then onwards, I mean if you miss what I have just said you have ruined your childs life, meaning I would have not gotten to where I am now without that foundation, I didn't mention phones ,oh, there were no cell phones then
I kept saying when kids were, so many things surprised him, I actually asked if I could hold the wheel, I would only look in his eyes only and he knew because I told him, I never felt young, and the way I would talk to him would be like brothers, there's more to that
I essentially have taken the phone away from my 13 year old. He just isn’t mature enough for it. He had an absolute fit but it’s been 3 months and accepts it. I now allow him supervised access and if he has to be dropped off somewhere in public, then I will let him have it for emergencies but that is it. Our house has been much more peaceful.
Finally! We are talking about the major and must significant problem in this country. Listen raising kids is extremely hard and in society today harder with the internet and social media. But I don’t understand how no one can make the distinction if you just look at multiple case studies and data. The steep decline in mental health for children started as more and more social media platforms and touch screen technology came into play. The technology isn’t the problem; it’s the parents just giving it to their kids. It’s the number one destroyer of children’s cognitive and emotional development. You don’t need a study to figure that out; you need a set of eyes and minimal brain power.
I have just read a lot of the comments and I have a address those who think a parent is a adult child. From my perspective, parenting is nothing like being a child. You make the responible choice to have a child and from before thet are born until the day you die, you are a parent 24/7. You have to have dedication, selflessness and under take an immense responsibility. Along with protecting, nurturing and teaching etc. It is hugely challenging and many sad times but in the end there's an unconditional love, and pride that make you realise how important a "parent" is. ❤
Parents aren’t just intimidated by teenagers but all children of all ages! Parents don’t want deal with teaching children how to handle disappointments sadly
These parents are so 'addicted to having everything on a schedule that they actually "schedule" free time.
Well said
Megyn, you and your guest have nailed it: Many parents are not "parenting" their children. It now appears that the standard mode of child-rearing involves small children sitting in a shopping cart looking at the back of a cell-phone while their parent yaps away. Same thing in the doctors' offices. The parent comes in for an appointment, positions the stroller / carrier in front of their seat, and the child has a clear view of the back of the parent's cell phone while the parent checks messages, surfs the web, and scans the latest gossip in the news.
I want to say to the parent: "Hey - I know we all have very busy schedules, but you're in a waiting room right now and probably for the next 15 minutes. Spend this time engaging your baby. Out shopping? Have a conversation with your 2-year old. Involve the child in the shopping process. Engage your children!"
Babies are not bonding with the eyes, voice, or smile of their parents. They're bonding with the back of a cell phone. And YES! - Having supper together should be the most important, #1 daily priority, and around the table with no TV or any other device. In the old days, we took the phone off the hook!
I watch a few young mothers on TH-cam and they all seem scared of their kids . One lady had only one child at that time and the child was about two years old . Her husband had to go away for the weekend and the mom acted scared to death of being alone with the child . She said she had to go get everything she needed before he left , because there was no way she would feel comfortable with taking the child out in public alone and this is a woman that ski dives , climbs huge steep mountain and jumps off of huge cliffs into water . Another TH-cam woman was patting herself on the back because she finally took her child shopping alone , zi think the child was about two .
There is a song called supper time. Find it and have a listen. Jim Reeves has one version.
Why have them at all if you can't take the responsibility,! They are HUMANS that YOU brought into this world! Don't do it if you can't handle it!
I'd say that hardest years for parenting are from child's 13 to roughly 18 yrs old. Toughest-14.5-16.5
Horrible
Kids are unbearable.
They compare you to all other families
And you are the worst. Of course.
And u have several kids a few years apart, you end up going through a non-stop fight with everyone of your kids. Cuz they one by one mature and go through puberty. But Don't give up.
I love this, my kids are not allowed phones in their rooms, my two boys 17 and 14 do not have phones, I told them wait till they're 18 lol they game but on Fridays. I have 3 kids with phones due to type 1, cgm and pump connects to their phones but off bed time I literally go back and check their rooms lol...
My mantra has always been having raised three adults is bad neglectful or overindulgence is the problem
I think that it’s just a different era. We barely get vacation time and are lucky if we can even afford one. 5 days sick time.
Grandparents have to work to survive so they’re too tired to be part of a village.
Work and colleges are so competitive that people need to behave on a constant schedule to get a leg in.
We just created a society that’s constantly on a rat wheel. I’m not advocating for laziness but I feel like we could use just a little extra time off. something. Even new moms need to rush back to work. Yes, I know that people have been doing this for at least 30 years but it sucks. it wears down a society.
I take my 16 year old daughters phone every night before 10:00 p.m and 11:30 on weekends. Also, did this with with my 18 year old son till he left for college. It was NEVER EASY but I did it and still do.
10 & 11:30 is still generous.
Some people...need not breed!!!
Lol your library background is waving.
I have that same background effect on Microsoft Teams lol
I know an Actuary, who has the whole family life severely regimented.....can not take unrouted way home, it will add 5 min, and will be shorted 5 minutes on the next slotted time....OMG
Ute Heggen channel for movement, countering unhealthy 'gender" from an ex-wife of dude who came home and said, "We're lesbians now." Ute said, "No, not."
Yea, the wrong ppl have been breeding for a loooong time now. My father had many faults, but he made sure we all sat down and had dinner at dinner time. Lookin' good, Megyn - ooh la la.
She's mighty fine!🔥
That sounds good. Who cooked, served and cleaned up the dinner?
For "Days of Dylan" from ex-wife of man who said he's "mom now" 30 years ago after 1 appt. "diagnosis" find this woman who is so far ahead here. Ute Heggen youtube channel.
This is why the movie MEGAN is so accurate, a busy ambition robotic scientist leaves her parenting skills to a robot.
I don’t think it’s the phone per se, I think it’s the lack of EMOTIONAL investment in their child of time and attunement beginning in infancy and the low emotional intelligence of parents. Driving kids to and fro or paying for these travel teams and college showcases causes parents to work more and encourages the fracture of the family unit. With siblings of various ages you can’t be at all things in all places as a family. I think parents don’t see or know red flags of mental health issues in time or don’t think finding support is necessary. I think school mental health resources need to be stronger. Mental health starts in infancy. Raising secure children matters. Throw on top of that divorcing a narcissist where the safe and mentally stable parent acts like a parent and the toxic parent is alienating them by construing the healthier parent’s behavior as controlling and twisted. Schools need to educate and teach students on strategies of healthy coping like meditation, exercise, nutrition, tapping, journaling, and more. Parents need to get off the hamster wheel of expensive and time consuming travel teams and tournaments. The younger years in childhood are literally shaping the developing child’s vulnerable brain and psyche. Narcissism, anxiety, depression, addictions in our youth are on the rise. I don’t think it’s the phone. I think it’s the lack of emotional connection to the parent(s).
I agree but if you have any social media of the sort you'll see how bad it is even myself affected me so much so a very big part of the problem is the phone.
Ever seen the movie “The Help” lol
Emergencies? Call 911!
7min a day, sure, Megyn.
He sounds like Oliver Stone.
Look at those European countries. Are their young people really better in any way? Phone is not the problem anymore.
Agree. Did you know that in Europe they don’t have a forced vaccination program for children? Big Pharma owns our children.
Mine has 2 Master's Degrees and has impeccable manners. Too many kids are told to sit down and shut up, using screens as babysitters. Parents need to be sure they want these babies who grow up into hormonal teenagers before they bring them into this world as parenthood can be boring and very trying.
@@joebaird5874 TU CONFESA QUE E PARENTS NA COCAINA E HEROINA E MARIA JUANA #
Actually they are America is a failed swamp
@@joebaird5874 you people stop bragging masters masters.... Nothing to do with caring, compassion, being a good parent. Yes, you have to work for this (my daughter also has Masters 😁). To be a good parent is love, dedication....
Ya know when crap really started? When our dumbass government decided to put parents in jail for disciplining Thier children n as time went on parents were affraid to discipline the kids n found it's easier to be Thier friend rather than be a parent n ya know what, this is what happens, when my parents discipline us, sure we got whooped (that damn belt, when it came off daddy's waist, we knew) n it sucked but it was NOT abuse, n believe me it hurt but i never did that again. I was the receiver n still don't see it as abuse, big difference, i guarantee if today's kids were disciplined as i was they'd be much better ppl... If no consequences, what's to make a person stop n think before they do?
Years ago my almost adult cousin was trying to bust down a window because she was angry. A huge expensive picture window!!! Her step dad didn’t put a finger on her but sprayed her with a hose to finally get her to stop. Verbal Demands weren’t working. They were on the phone with the cops and when the cops finally got there they threatened to arrest him for assault for !! Spraying a damn garden hose!!” 1000% true story! So I guess he was supposed to allow her to just break a $1000 window? 😡
He is absolutely wrong...I live in Australia and all the kids here have phones in every room all the time. It is not, I repeat not only in America. Other countries as well.
American kids also get waaaay more vaccines than kids in other countries. I think the shots are also making our kids sick in various ways.
It’s not good and fair to demand a kid not to use a phone or not to have it in your bedroom when you use/have it yourself. Set an example, otherwise you kid will learn hypocrisy :)